Iyanla Vanzant travels to the suburbs of Detroit to meet with Don and Felisha, a husband and wife in breakdown due to anger, lies and a secret affair.
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Watching people heal rather than getting entertained by dysfunction! Man, I miss these times😢
I feel the same way!!! I wish this show was still on TV. I miss shows with a positive purpose.
It takes me up and down as a man but we need this back soooooo bad. I . I hate that we are filled with the violence of Reality TV as a community this is really what we needed. Did i say this is really what we needed?
It was a lot of hard work for Iyanla i know. I think she was worn out from seeing all the dysfunction .
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@@sconiersclan right but in my own selfishness I wish she would've continued but I can definitely agree it was probably emotionally taxing for her.
Ms Iyanla sure knows how to layer a question : “was he giving another woman what you think he should’ve been giving you, or was he giving the other woman something you weren’t open to receiving ??” HELLOOOO ‼️
Period!
Yoh 😮
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She is on it, from all angles 🖤👍🏾
Iyanla is so good at what she does, that woman is gifted.
And anointed by God
If Iyanla considered him at all, she would've told him to leave. Instead, she pushed him to be a doormat. When she divorces him I hope she breaks him..
So so gifted
Yesss she is!!@@sconiersclan
@@CeeTeeUSAit’s easy to judge someone else’s marriage based on a tv show. He chose forgiveness and I pray she chose to treat him with respect and love . Kids need their parents to stay together. Infidelity can be forgiven if one is truly repentant.
One thing I always liked about Iyanla is the way she protected black men on this show. She often would turn the cameras off so they could have their breakdown in peace.
Needd more likes😊
He was shaking because he knew something big was about to come out with her. He felt that in his spirit.
He knew the whole time..what a man💪
Yeah I was thinking he has a hell of an intuition
I feel bad for him 😮
And he felt it in her spirit the whole time
Oh Mama Iya, she says cry with an agenda 😂😊
It's always the cheaters who project cheating onto their partners....
YESS smh
On point!! 💯 My ex put me through the trenches and I started questioning my own sanity. When the dust cleared; HE was cheating...SEVERAL different women....SEVERAL different times! 😢😢😢🤬🤬🤬
@@NannDeGoolwow! I am glad he is an ex
@@NannDeGool yes gurl. when they start blaming u. its cause their cheating
Whole time we be at home minding our business. Once he started accusing me... I started my investigation because when a woman wants something done... she does it herself. Cause WHAT!!!! I am not going to cheat. I'm going to leave you....
Iyanla: "I'm not taking the cameras." Cameraman: *peers through the window from inside* 😆
Lol
😂😂😂
Through the trees! Caught the audio and everything!
😂 I'm glad they did!
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These are the things that people really don’t talk about. Women go through real things with their body.
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Truth
Very
This!!!!
So true about Women issues. It is real. It makes me feel so sad for both of them..
Ms. Iyanla. We miss you so much. I’m still watching and listening March 28th 2024. ❤️
Same❤
Same
Same
Same 4/1/24
4/4/24
The way he stop and was like hold on…. He was having an anxiety attack. He’s a good man savanna A GOOD MAN!
Then mama if you like him so damn much, Then why don't you marry him!!! (In my Whitney Houston voice) As I slam down the phone!!! I know my quote isn't spot On but it went something like that. 😂🤣😆
He is and way too good for her
@@FitzySno he’s her husband & she’s his wife their needs to be forgiveness & healing not another broken home thank you.
his instincts were spot on
🤣🤣🤣🤣.... /Bklyn👑
This guy's gut is spot on!
I believe he already knew deep down what she had done, but hearing it made it real.
Seriously, right before she was about to confess, he knew!
This man loves this woman
I feel for them both. And that man is a fine sensitive soul
AGREED😍
It’s His Meek Humble Spirit! She Doesn’t Deserve
Iyanla said I'm not taking the cameras but didn't turn off the mics 🤣🤣🤣🤣 and they still followed on the low💀💀💀🤣
Welcome to TV
🤣@@MissKimT
😂😂😂
Right
Yeah but it allowed him to get it out far away then cameras being directly in front of him.. I’m sure they edited out a lot.. he started crying right then and she was trying to protect him.. so yes the cameras still rolled lol.. but she still respected him and like she said protected his dignity❤
That's a good man right there. Crazy she tried to push him away. Most women would die for that kind of love and for a man that runs his own business.
I agree and disagree. Most women who are “healed” would die for that kind of love and for a man that runs his owned business.
If he doesn't leave, he's a sucker. If he doesn't leave, everything he gets he deserves..
I would love to have him
@@CeeTeeUSAyou’re wrong on all type of levels 🙄
I have a cousin like this. She has so much baggage and trauma and pushes her husband away with verbal abuse.
I felt her burden fade away the moment he said "I forgive you" That was powerful
Literally 🥹. You can tell this is real love. But they still need to continue the work and go to counseling! I hope they last 💯.
That was the moment to shout 🙌🏾
He forgave her thats soo sweet l pray she doesnt do it again
Felicia has some beautiful skin. As much as she was crying and wiping , her face stayed beautiful and there was never any makeup on the tissues.
She was turning her back on him because she couldn’t face him knowing what she’d done . Wow !
Bro is solid asf
I didn't like the fact that she cheated on him first, and when she found out that he cheated, she scandal him in front of their children and kept what she did a secret. That was absurd.
My heart broke for him. But you can tell she was genuinely sorry.
This can cost you everything but it can gain you your freedom.
So powerful
She said a word then 🙌🏽
Sounds like something a police officer would say
Well a detective lol
They got me over here crying like I done cheated and I’m single 😂 what a powerful episode . I felt every emotion . I miss Iyanla on our tv screens . We need this .
The same. I feel like repenting to the Lord about cheating and I am single as well😭😭😭😭fix it Jesus
Lmaoooooo right I felt this 😭
@@tealadagoat4722 aaa
OMG. What a man! When he took his glasses off I just couldn't😭😭😭😭💔💔
Man!! I’ve been with my husband twenty years and I had tears running down my face the entire episode. He’s a good man. He reminds me of my husband. I hope she honors him. Beautiful family.
I’m glad the kids were apart of the conversation at the end…this was a great episode!
*Part of. Apart means separate from.
Nobody at all : Iyanla : “NOT ON MY WATCH” 😙
😂😂😂
I've noticed Iyanla always carry her bag wherever she goes very smart lady!
Please bring this show back !!!!
This man is her guardian angel, God bless him. He is a great man !
The most powerful episode ever. Thank you Ms Iyanla for the work you do
"Love is durable....Trust is Fragile" Iyanla Vanzant 💕
I feel the wife too. When we don’t feel attractive we pull back from intimacy, but it has nothing to do with them it’s us. I wish I could watch all of these again.
Wow this was emotional. I’m glad he chose to forgive because most men won’t! He’s a good man Savanna
I pray for a man like him .. he accepted her outside kids and married her.. didn’t leave when she belittled him showing he has patience .. stayed after the accident and took care of and provided for her. I hope she realize what she had. He’s a good black man. Rare ..
He seems like a decent man
Very! He deserves better. 💯
Looks are deceiving!
And she got off light! She had amazing iyanla to brake the ice, and smooth it over.
That's precisely what she's there for so the truth can be told.
*break
@@Poeticfloetic ?
I definitely understand her pain with the hysterectomy!! menopause is no joke. It definitely will cause a marriage to end.
I heard it can drive a woman insane if not treated properly
I was considering a hysterectomy and after this am so rethinking it
Failure to control your symptoms can cause failure of marriage. It does not cause you to be without control. You are well aware of your feelings, irritability, depression.
@@CoffeeCrazy it sounds like labour kk. You know before you experience it you think its one thing then when you are actually experiencing it you almost lose your mind. I hope there is a way of minimizing this
I don’t blame you
He knew he didn’t want to accept it! I hope they are still together
This man will have lots of questions! It’s not going to end here! Every small argument, he could bring it up. I don’t think he’s had time to process it yet. He might even still be in shock!
She's like that. He is not like that
He already knew, he just needed confirmation.
He Already Knew She Had An Affair. Confirmation Was What He Needed. He Made Peace With It Long Ago
I LOVE THIS FAMILY SO MUCH 😭😭😭😭
Damn this is tough. This man stood by her as a husband should and she gaslite him!!!! I think she wanted to make this man suffer because she was suffering. The lack of communication on her end is unforgettable.
Facts! Say it again.
Saw the other day it was a woman who was in a relationship with a man who oldest son ended his life. The boyfriend desperately wanted a son, but the mother gave it up for adoption out of spite (her own words) because of cheating but lied telling him his son passed by strangling from his umbilical cord. I believe the older son ended his life via strangulation is to why she made that up to hurt him. Most women sided with the woman but men get no pass for even the tiniest of spiteful things out of being cheated on, sad world we damn live.
This family will be stronger. I'm glad Iyanla was protective of Don.
Iyanla is magical. I’m so grateful for these videos.
When the sister hugged her little sister and cried that broke me down. That’s love ❤❤ I’m so glad she apologized to their kids.
I remember this episode.. of all the episodes of no good cheating and dl men on the show he seemed like a good one.
We need to see more healing to understand forgiveness
Self sabotage at it's best. Smh. Can we leave good men and women alone, for each other? please!
Wow! She was out of control arguing with him when he was driving, and he lost control of the vehicle . She said he should've had more control of the vehicle. I hope they worked it out because they seem to love each other so much.
Seems like a good guy. Hope they can both work it out.
It’s so crazy how he knew, I believe he knew exactly what she was gonna say. This made me emotional😩
I can't put into words how much I respect iyanla for stating that she didn't want her to confess tol her husband on national TV....Wise Wise elder❤❤❤
Secrets will kill and destroy a great thing. ❤ May others receive their freedom after years of trouble and trial. "Love is durable, but trust is fragile." May we all have our trust renewed, each and every day. Adults and children collectively ❤
Wonderful sentiment! I'm sending you love 💜💫💞
@Rebecca-hc5ju Thank you beloved, i'm sending you love too!! ✨️🌺
another great EP if they had DVDS i would of by all her seasons lol
Yup!
Right!!!
We still need this show . Especially in these sad times .
Don is a damn good man!!!!! I'm also glad that Felisha owned up to the way she acted and apologized to her children, publicly. Many times, the parents go on their healing journey and never address the damage that they have done to other members of the family.
That was so tough to watch. But, I love how these two decided to begin the healing. 🙏🏾
Not making excuses for her but that kind of menopause plus the car accident is enough to make a woman go completely crazy. No one can understand how insane sudden menopause can make a person unless you have gone through it
Living Witness!!!
@@jasminebowman1983 True Story. I bet most of her issues stem from that.
Even with all she was going through; cheating is always a conscience choice.. not a mistake. If her husband forgives her for doing that to him; the ULTIMATE betrayal....she is a blessed woman! He was wrong as well for the on line affair but; flesh was not involved at least.
Thankyou OWN watching from Kenya 🇰🇪🙏we appreciate you
Loving you right back, sister ❤❤❤❤
😊❤❤❤❤@@CassiesCattopia
Hi Jackie, I am a Kenyan too living in Switzerland. I have seen your comments before. Tuko Pamoja ❤
@@CupcakeMami wow 😅 amazing thankyou mummy, let's keep learning I always love iyanla shows sana..pokea salamu😊❤️
Hi family. Representing Nairobi city❤🎉😊
Beautiful black family.... I wish them well💪🏾❤
This was so lovely. This man loves his wife! Powerful episode! Where there is love there is Hope! ❤❤❤
This man is very intuitive!
MY EYES COULDNT STOP WATERING. I TRULY HOPE THEY MADE IT AND GOT THROUGH THIS ROUGH PERIOD IN THEIR MARRIAGE. THEIR KIDS ARE STUNNING.
My husband did this and then died now all i feel is guilt because i behaved very much like her but no cheating just badgering him daily about small things because i was so self centered
Girl, he wanted to cheat because he wanted to.
This has got to be my favorite episode. I see how Iyanla was conflicted about a lot of things but she saw that a lot of people will learn from this. These are good people . He’s a great father and you can see the fruits of his labour.
This is one of the few episodes where I really liked the couple and wanted them to make it/stay together. Yes, there was bad behaviour on both sides but there seemed to be genuine love and commitment there. Beautiful family.
Where was his bad behavior. Lol
@@CoffeeCrazyWell he did emotionally cheat. It may not be as bad a physical cheating but it's still cheating
I agree. She just seems like someone who isn't use to being treated right and self sabotaging to save herself from more hurt and he's just trying to love her but not understanding why she won't let him. I believe her healing will better their relationship
@@helpkelp3595 regardless she used that to punish him . While both are wrong, physical cheating is wayyyyy worse. Can you get pregnant off of emotional cheating? Catch a std? Also you are joining your body with another that have wayyyy more emotionally ramifications than talking.. Again, he was wrong but she was wrong PLUS abusive..
@@CoffeeCrazy- Why don’t guys think like this when they’re cheating? They make it seem like it’s just physical for them, but when a woman cheats it’s emotional so it’s worse…. Make it make sense!!!
I wonder if they're still together
I think they are still together. They both see what's out here.
Its been about 10 years since this came on the tv and wow!! This was always one of my favorite episodes! Iyanla is truly gifted at helping folks do their work.
Im so proud of these people who reach out to Iyanla because they want to fight for love. Love conquers a multitude of sins❤❤
When are we going to have Iyanla back, we need her and more shows like this, instead of all the new toxic dysfunctional reality shows that are out presently,
On the breakfast club she said she's done. It was too stressful
I was waiting for the brother to channel his inner DMX😂
This is why they say if you get cheated on, it was likely more about who they are and not about who you are. As soon as they felt like the relationship lacked what they needed, they went somewhere else instead of communicating.
Really lady, you cheated first 🤦🏾♀️
He looks like Warren G
And DMX 😊
Now I can't unsee this 😂😂😂😂
I was trying to pinpoint who he looks like and Warren G is it lol
I couldn’t put my finger on but he sure does
yeah he does
It is so beautiful to see a man deal with this realization and continue to Love his wife beautiful 🎉😂❤😅😢🥰😇🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Keep the episodes coming ❤
This gives me chills and i love the way they did this together ... good job and praise god for healing
THATS A GOOD MAN SAVANNAH
He’s just in a bad situation 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 Somebody else finish the quote…
@@yrandyc11 right now and he is trying to get out of it 😂😂😂
@@truthhurts7045 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 That scene will always be hilarious!
27:33 Iyanla nailed it 🎯🤷🏾♂️💯
Gives me so much joy to see Iyanla doing the work that she does ✨♥️♥️♥️✨
ok this one had me my soul in pain. he could feel the truth and his soul was hurt !! omg
"I'm glad that this thing hurts you more than you are afraid of it." Truth!!!
May God richly bless you Iyanla. You have brought me to my knees to build and nurture my family in a Godly manner. Regards!
Those kids are so blessed to have a father figure like him ❤
This was beautiful..and has herself quite the man..she better hold on to him😊❤
Showed my coworker this episode and said the same thing ok ! 🤣🤣🤣
@@here2laff397 🤣🤣🤣 im tellin u..none left🤗
I remember when this episode first aired and I thought her husband was so fine 😍 i wonder what he looks like now lol
This show gave me so much direction for my own life! So grateful for your guidance! Many greetings from Germany 🇩🇪👏🏽❤️ keep it up 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
This sounds like story from that movie “Not easily Broken “ lol
Honestly, This is BS... She actually cheated, and he "emotionally" cheated.. She Gaslight him, to shadow what she did. I don't wanna hear it. He stood by her, and stayed by her. He deserves better.
Happiness isn’t for everyone sweetheart. Just be glad they’ve found their own.
Hopefully he left her
It's always the women like her that get the good men.
This is not a high school relationship. This is a marriage with children. A covenant. A commitment. If THEY BOTH choose to love each other and raise their children together, while working on healing their marriage, I wish that for them both.
Gurl. Grow up!
Watching April 16th 2024 and have the worst headache from crying watching these all day. 😢❣️
her repeating the BAN so quickly 😂. she looked like she meant it!!
10 minutes in and im already tired of her playing the victim card.
3:28 seconds for me, still during the introduction before Iyanla even meets them. 😂😂
I do hear you but he did crash the car and as someone that had to relearn how to walk before, it's very difficult. Not excusing her, just explaining.
She was going crazy on him while he was driving. She caused that crash.
The fact that he was there helping her through all of her problems and she cheated, tore him down in front of his children is insane. She's not the only woman who has had a hysterectomy. She makes a lot of excuses and accepts very lil responsibility. She is the cause of a lot of their problems. He's a glutton for punishment bc the average man would have left.
WHEW. This was so good. She got a GOOD man. 👏🏽 They have a beautiful family & their kids are a true reflection of the people that they are. I hope they are a happy, strong family again! ♥️
Iyanla show is so relevant right now ❤
😢what goes around comes around u reap what u sow god bless your family 🙏
Yes it does! And ppl still don't understand that.
Is the brother single? Asking for a friend. Lol
Am the friend i guess,from Kenya,Lol
My eyes got a little teary, and my heart leaped when Don forgave Felisha. They are truly remorseful for what they did, and I’m glad they love each other enough to want to work things out. I pray they continue healing, loving and growing together as a couple and as a family.
Great family lady love your husband husband love your wife you all will make it true just pray together lovely family
Idk if that lady understands a lot of women are praying for a husband like hers! I myself, I would LOVE a man like him. She gotta get it together.
I really wish that the network would do a Where Are They Now with all of the past guest.