Iyanla: Fix My Dysfunctional Sisterhood | Full Episode | OWN
Iyanla travels to San Antonio to work with two sisters who are in total breakdown, stemming from an incident years prior when one sister began a relationship with the other's boyfriend.
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Iyanla: Fix My Dysfunctional Sisterhood | Full Episode | OWN
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I love when people think they are going to over talk Iyanla. Not on my watch
Don't get to disrespect me beloved🗣🗣
Love when she slaps the table like she playin dominoes lol
CORRECT!!!! MY FAVORITE SAYING NOT ON MY WATCH
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My favorite part
The younger sister is mentally/emotionally stuck as a little girl, you can even see it in her mannerisms and how she speaks wow trauma is so deep😢😢
I can relate to the younger sister is exactly how my older sisters are like especially my middle sister. My middle sister is toxic. Very much manipulative my sister is.
It is interesting to me that the people who call for Iyanla to come are the ones with the most work to do on themselves.
I think sometimes those who cause most of the dysfunction in groups are perfect in their own eyes. It’s almost good that those who feel perfect expect others to be perfect. I believe Thats why they call the show. They do not think they are responsible for the dysfunction. The human brain is easily conditioned by outside voices, and mostly our own voices, telling us we are perfect. Once all cards are on the table, when everyone has the same experience with “perfect” you, is when the “pattern” can be interrupted. Watching Iyanla & hearing these stories has changed me forever!
lol they be up on they “high horse” not taking accountability in the situation 😂😂😂 but iyanla teaches them everytime😢
EXACTLY
No, the haggerdly sister needs the most work, that's why she's still blaming her sister for her failings... in becoming an exssss-ray technician..
Thank you! For the most part because it was her daughter who called. And that punk azzz before talking all that smack when he’s looking 35! Too grown to be living off of someone else.
3 abused women is so wild. My heart weeps for that.
Yes I even feel bad for Barbara. She was so lost and took on something she couldn't handle.
It's so sad. Something is seriously wrong for men to be okay with violating young girls, and no one is holding the men accountable.
Exactly
It is sad, but it happens more often than we know 🙁.
My family disowns me for trying to break our generational curse. I just removed myself completely
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I started to break those curses and they all called me crazy...so kudos to you for doing the work that others couldn't! I'm so proud of you❤
I'm commenting from my husbands page I'm 27 and also black and stopped talking to them trauma is real I have been depressed for 19 years this ain't normal and self hate isn't normal I been happier since I stopped stopped talking to them my own sister hit me in the back of the head with a statue and everything them people never loved me and I'm over it my mental health matters to me
Break it and don’t turn back! I’ve left my family behind as well. I was mistreated for calling out generational curses. My life is so much happier now!
Wow the way each of these women just passed the same pain down the line is so SAD. I hate these predatory men in these families causing chaos.
Yes. Also, the women who see it and just accept it as "just the way it is"
Geneva was already broken when Barbra took her in. It must have been extremely difficult to raise & guide her especially because Barbra was a child herself.
The way she folded into iyanla as if she’d never been held before 😕heartbreaking
I honestly love how passionately Iyanla brings out the emotions out of these people. So professional, inspiring and gutsy.
wow you're right. i never thought of the word gutsy but that's exactly what she embodies. and it's amazing to see someone walk people into this emotional territory with such high ethics and morals.
@@Samarastube You’re so wonderfully right 👏👏👏👏
This !!!!🎯🎯🎯
We meant to be friends!! Love this comment ❤
@@brizzyreti3256 😃😃😃Friends we are.
am very concerned that most people on the show are always violated as children. its sad, America needs healing
That is intentional on the producer’s part to highlight stories that deal with this family dynamic since it’s so taboo but frequent in the black community.
Why,do they watch dirty staff ,what is going on,
Everybody anywhere experiencing abuse as a child need healing
What a wicked pattern of generational curse ladies wake up and pray this away 🙏🏿God be merciful into this family of black women.
Broken little girls become wounded women.
Both of the sisters were under the age 18, you can't blame the older sister for not raising the younger sister correctly. where was the mother and father?
@@imanimorgan4235 Their mother had 18 children. She moved in with her sister when she was 14, her older sister was 17. The younger sister already had a baby when she moved in with her sister. Was the older sister misguided... Very! Do I think she's solely to blame for her younger sisters behavior.... No! I'm willing to bet all 18 of them had a horrible experience living with their mother, the dysfunction runs deeper then just a sibling rivalry. This is a case of the blind leading the blind 😩.
@@Dontarguewithme.I don’t think this session was about placing blame on the sister but them making her realize just as proudly as you are to have saved your younger sister, you also subjected her to repeated violations at the hands of your boyfriend in an environment you created and controlled. That unfortunately has nothing to do with their mother but the sister’s own selfish actions. Although I agree with you she still isn’t solely the blame.
@@msawmusic I understand what your saying, but I think they both are products of being raised in a very dysfunctional environment. What kind of mother would allow her 17-year-old to raise her 14-year-old? The mother is solely to blame for this one. It's easy to look at them at their big ages now and say the older sister is to blame but we got to remember the older sister was only 17 at the time. I expect a 17-year-old to make bad decisions regarding the safety of a 14-year-old. I'm more concerned of how a mother could think a child that was 3 years older than her 14-year-old could raise her😳
@@Dontarguewithme. yes I agree the mother (and father) are the most to blame. However the ask of Iyanla in this process was to amended the relationship between sisters. That requires them to address what they’ve specifically done to each other. That has nothing to do with their parents.
@@msawmusic if most of the tension between them occurred when they were both under 18 it has everything to do with their parents. I think that's the reason why nothing really got resolved. Iyanla just touched the surface but not root of the dysfunction. They're probably gonna need intensive long-term counseling 😩 God bless her but Iyanla can only do so much in so little time😁
3 beautiful women. Barbara tried but failed bc she was not equipped to take care of her sister. Barbara is eloquent, articulate, well educated who believes she is in control and they owe her gratitude. I hope they hear each other and love in the right way.
I don't cry in LIFE, until I watch Iyanla.... This woman is a gift from God!
They're some beautiful genes in that family. Many blessing's to them Queen's.
Every Lyanla episode touches my heart and even makes me tear up because she has a way of being a great motivation coach reaching into the souls of people and bring the best out of them to change their lives its truly a beautiful thing to see
Same here
*Iyanla....
You can still see the 14 year old little girl in Geneva every time she speaks the elder sister is in so much denial and a lier she's very bitter and broken I pray she can face the truth forgive herself and her sister 🙌🏾♥️
This was not just another tv show. This was the work of GOD folding right in front of our eyes through Iyanla.❤
My Lord😢😢😢😢 I’m learning So much generational trauma and pain 😢😢
Heartbreaking😔😥😥😥
I love this show and how healing it is for me
It amazes me that no one is speaking on the Mother who was responsible for the 18 children that she chose to birth.
Iyanla is notorious for not holding the bio parents, especially the mother responsible and accountable.
Iyanla only offers healing to those that want it. A woman who can’t read or write and had 18 children whether she could care for them or not has problems too big for Iyanla to solve anyway. Do you even know if she’s alive? Iyanla did help the sisters and daughters see the generational dysfunction and pathology that passed down from generation to generation in their own family, which is a huge awakening.
@@teresamarie7460 You're lying! When it comes to healing you can only heal the willing and sometimes when you know the beginning you just have to start in the middle.
How deep can she go if the breeding factory isn’t there? That’s ALL she was!!!
The woman who birthed the children was not present. What would you have wanted them to do, if she wasn’t there? She holds Mothers responsible all the time. Furthermore, a woman who had 18 children..unable to read and write…you can already deduce she’s gone through a lot and did a lot.
Pregnancy after pregnancy omg!!
In molestation
Iyanna is so good for helping people.
Lord please break every generation curses and heredity
Amen
They must surrender to His will. The problem is, the enemy has sown many foul seeds in the lives of humans. Demons truly hate humanity because were made in the image of the one they HATE! But there is power. I know because I had to call on Jesus for myself and use my weapons of true power.
ugh its soo deep . every episode shows me something i be ready to tear up
the ritual part is beautiful ❤ Iyanla is a healer indeed
I've Seen That Most People Who Were Sexually Abused and Have Not Dealt With Their Own Trauma are Not Equipped To Help Anyone Else Who is Dealing With a Similar Situation. 😔
Heartbreaking and I love how raw Iyanla is with it...aint no sugarcoating
Baby Barbara is something else!!! She is on defense mode 100%. I wonder how long she stayed with the boyfriend after he assaulted her sister? Because THAT’S what we need to talk about.
This show reminds me to be the mom i wanted growing up
Poor Geneva is a lost soul😢
Iyanla: Mother, teacher, guide, leader. Iyanla Vanzant: the best to ever do it!!!
Wow 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 every episode is a lesson ☕️ can’t thank you enough Beautiful soul Iyanla👏🏽
This made me so sad 😢
My heart goes out to them! Sending gratitude to God for their healing! 🙏🏾
The older sister probably should have left the younger sister to be raised by adults
BUT they both were being violated while they were being raised by adults.
I think the younger sister would have become pregnant multiple times before adulthood regardless of whom she was raised by.
But her mother had 16 other children so who knows if it was any better with her mother
@@aliciamoore963 You have so many likes because you deadbeat parents NEVER take accountability for not learning mothering. The world is messed up because y'all expect people to rear themselves.
So sad the cycle has to be broken. Praying for healing with these women.
Barbara: so this is my fault? Iyanla: why are making this about you? Barbara: I’m not Iyanla: so why you defending yourself for no reason? Barbara: I’m not Also Barbara: yelling at Iyanla that she’s not at fault
I do honestly think that neither of the three have forgiven themselves!
That breakthrough was powerful. Brought me to tears the way Iyanla pulled that out of her. She was really working in the spirit this episode!
That sister took her baby sister in to ruin her the same way she felt ruined to spite her mother
This is not true. The younger sister was violated and became pregnant when she lived with their bio mother. AND the younger sister wanted a baby daddy/man for herself and seduced Barbara's boyfriend because he took good care of her. AND don't forget Barbara is only eight years older so she was just as clueless about being a decent role model as their bio mother. You people and Iyanla have no business blaming Barbara for her damaged sister's behavior.
You kno what? That heffa sho did. What is s'posed to happen livin with a 17 y/o girl. The men comn n goin. Sheese!
@@specialkay4329 Barbara had one boyfriend living with them. Why do you people exaggerate so much. It's straight lying and stifles critical thinking and accountability.
@@teresamarie7460agreed at 17 she was still a baby herself
@@teresamarie7460are you really on the internet claiming an underage girl can seduce a grown man? Especially one who’s the boyfriend of her supposed guardian? It’s her older sisters responsibility because she lived in her house under her care, and left alone with her boyfriend. It’s not only irresponsible, it’s negligent. Nobody asked her to take care of her young sister! She did that for herself to prove a point that she can “save” someone. She’s very proud of that fact, but not that fact that her sister got pregnant 4 times in 4 years under her roof 😅 Make it make sense
I wonder how they choose which people to call back. They can only help so many, and each season can only film so many episodes. It would be interesting to know how they choose which ones need the help the most.
at a certain point “not being taught” isn’t an excuse. You are aware. Being aware from being in the situation makes you evil.
I think from what I’ve learned about people is that either, what you said, that their aware and don’t chose to change or sadly some people just aren’t emotionally intelligent to realize that they don’t have healthy coping skills to process emotions. Which in turn gets passed down to their children and so continues the cycle. It’s all about being heard and validated. Also about speaking with purpose and forgiveness and complete honesty
Just because you’re aware doesn’t mean you’ll make the right choice. You have to be taught.
And that HAS to be Addressed. 💯
Yes, baby, break the cycle!
It would had been great if we had more background about the Mother and the other 16 kids great episodes had me in a choke hold
Iyanla is One of My Favorite People. Genuine People Who Live To Help Others. Some More of My Favorite People Alive or Deceased, Malcolm X, Rizza Islam, Harriet Tubman .... ... Can't Think of anymore of The Top of My Head. 🤔
Sisters may God bless u with the world’s Happiness & Joy 🙏🏻💐
That was absolutely beautiful! I made mistakes as a mother to my daughters, I learned from my mom, she learned from her mom. I love my mom and grandma dearly!!! You have given me the hope to break the generational wounds that has been passed on for generations. Thank you Iyanla
Great job my sister Iyanna
She's being so defensive and shutting Geneva down because she knows she served her up to her bf.
That ceremony was truly beautiful. I hope they are all doing so much better, that’s a lot of generational hurt & heartbreak. ♥️
How do you lay up and have 18 kids in poverty with no regard as to what these children you are birthing will have to go thru to grow up and be healthy functional adults
The pain in all their eyes is so evident. My heart weeps for these women and their tragic experiences with not only abusive men, but with those who were supposed to protect them. Lord please cover them all with peace and healing.
Iyanla!!!!! U did it again!!!!!😊 I’m crying 🤦🏾♀️
So sad I don't know one person that hasn't been abused sexualy!😢
Sadly, it is Ramos t in this society
This show is so healing…
Her sister is low down as all hell.
This reminded me of the movie Precious.
THAT Was hard to watch. Trauma handed down and no one is believed or listened to I hope they are all doing ok .now.
Yikes 😳 I can be a “Very Shady Lady” this episode is helping me. I need to really listen to others 👂
Not when my name is geneva lol
This show is a blessing and does so much good for the world. Thank you ❤️
Wow this is just sad Geneva need a sister to hear her pain she pouring her heart out to sister Barbara that won't hear her at all, this has to cease They need to make up and have a sisterly bound.
Wow, these people were emotionally torn apart. It’s a long time of pain
To the big sister don’t take full responsibility of your younger sister actions at some point we have to take accountability for our actions ..
Agreed
Not when the wounds happens when an individual is a child. The unhealed scars scab can be pulled off easily and start back bleeding quickly!! Learn to listen and not judge. Your statement is pure ignorance
@@queenroyaltyrules55we ALL have had trauma and DRAMA in our lives. But at some point e point you have to grow up!
@Trenton.D maybe not using grow up but learn that trauma can't hold you back from life and what it can bring
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Mom and daughter so pretty and nice heart. May they all find healing. The whole family.❤
Dang ! I pray and wish I can get my family on this show I promise you I always tease my mom and my sisters that we desperately need to get on this show ! How do I apply? Because my family is dysfunctional there’s no sisterhood no relationship with our mother.
This show is definitely needed for dysfunctional families, I hate that it ended. So many families cannot solve their own issues.
Ms Iyanla is here too break 💔💔 the generations of families members curses 😢😢😢
Ayeeee Izzy! Congrats man. IM SO PROUD OF YOU 💐
Whew Barbara 😥
Ms.barbara set her sister up so sad
My heart aches for these ladies 😢😢😢 I hope they are doing way better now !!🙏🏻
I mean big sis didn't have kids.. so she couldn't put her on birth control... clearly the curse was passed on but as a woman even if you birth a child. There is NO HANDBOOK. Grace. Give Grace.
Iyanla,what you do,I AFFIRM you. Keep up,you are doing God's work. Plz come to Kenya.
Beautiful ❤
I just love this ❤
Description of my near kin. I can relate to the younger sister.
This is heart breaking
Broken little girls become Wounded Women 😢😢😢😢
I teared up😢
I can’t believe she said, “Geneva was not vulnerable.”
I'm soooo confused 😢
Respect❤
This is horrible 🥺
You knew too,you weren't a baby,dear!
When the person “What I’m not going to do is…” you know they wrong.
Jesus, this is pitiful
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Honestly, I believe Barbara.
This is so sad😢
Broken little girls become wounded women! 😢
when she expressed what she wanted to be ... did she NOT express that she blamed her sister for it ? so i dont understand why iyanla didnt address that . first time she lost me
EXACTLY! She literally blamed her sister for not helping her become an exssssssssray technician and completely school, and then Iyanla gon ask the older sister why she's making exactly what she heard, about her... iyanla wrong af..
@@MagicUzerexsssray tech lol
I like.. matter fact, love Iyanala. But I definitely feel she was being manipulative towards Barbera & I don’t like it!!
Barbra should have left the sister in the hood. I can understand where she came from. This sister was a bad apple 🍎
Everything is Barbara's fault and it's like why isn't the younger sister taking any responsibility for what she wanted out of life
@@SuperLadysiren 🎯
Facts
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Iyanla get “black “ real quick 😂 don’t take her outa character! She will check u and then put back on her sweet voice 😊
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Who have to be careful when trying to care for other people, family or not,now she is being blamed for her sister downfall,a 17 year old that had the same trouble her sister have.make it make sense.