When Things are Going Bad and You Don't Have Control
2024 ж. 21 Нау.
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From Episode 95.
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From Episode 95.
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I didn’t have a great role model for mature male behavior growing up so at 34 I’m learning, from you sir, to be a better man. Thank you.
That is taking control.
Neither did I and that's why I'm grateful for dudes like Jocko, David Goggins, Joe Rogan and Jordan Peterson.
Same here brother. And damn have I learned a lot and grown 🙏! I'm hungry for that leader role. I want to show how it's done. There's so many bad "leaders" out there it's crazy.
Same here at 35 learning a whole lot
What a wonderful way of being a human 😅
I watch this when things are going well for me. It reminds me that what I'm doing is working and that I can do right so long as I practice good habits. It sets the goal post for the mind so I know what I need to aim for when things go bad. Trying to balance out salt with aggressive amounts of sugar doesn't work. Do what you know works, not what you may think might work when you're in a bad spot. Controlled action is king.
"Never worry about anything out of your control."
Sometimes it's isn't 100% clear what's in your control and what isn't. Is it in my control if I find an apartment? You would think, well, of course it is. Look around, make a few calls, boom, apartment. Or. Or. Or it doesn't work like that at all. It's a lot bloody harder. A lot. I can't control who just rented to someone else. But hearing that 5 times in a row, 10 times in a row you're denied for one stupid reason or another. You start to wonder...is this under my control or not? It seems like there is a huge element of luck, to this, and life in general. Timing is damn important and we just don't know when or where sometimes. I know for an almost certain fact that I will find a place. It's only a matter of when and where. Maybe the girl who's sitting across from me who keeps smiling wants me to move in with her...oh wait no that's her bf coming over, well no wonder she was smiling at me she needs a new bf... The wisdom to tell the difference. I don't know if I have control over this situation but I'll pretend I do because any other attitude is useless. We can all have what we need if we know where to look. Did you ever hide something temporarily in a public place? You know it won't be stolen because only you know about it. Theres stuff like that out there right now. Imagine how many other people have done that. How much money or drugs or guns or gold or ...whatever. is hidden right under our noses. It's more about knowing where to look and how to look, just looking, searching...it doesn't feel right.
@@TiberiusMachado Interesting reply. Perhaps you should be an Author? That had me gripped.
@@lightfree4619 I'll tell you what I'd like I would like a heated space about 300-400 ft square with a legally binding contract entitling me to reside at that address in exchange for a certain reasonable amount of legal tender. I would like a device that allows me and only me to enter and exit this space at will, some call this a "key". Let us also assume this space is like so many others and has gadgets for the storing, and preparation of food. Also hygienic facilities allowing me to wash as I desire and take a shit without being disturbed.
That’s a great way to get rekt
@@TiberiusMachado negative thinking can often be a downward spiral, a self fulfilling prophecy. So when you feel like that, try to recognize that those negative outcomes are out of your control, but staying positive and pushing forward is. Im sure you know theres no magic cure for most situations, but staying positive and not giving up does more good than harm.
“Freakin drawer”🤣
I do get road rage. It's never because I'm late, it's only because I'm witnessing stupidity from someone operating a potentially lethal machine. People who suck at driving so badly should never be allowed to drive.
I used to think like that but whenever I honk I usually then come to find out it’s an elderly driver and feel guilty. That being said, an elderly woman wiped out almost a whole family in SF the other day, so….
@@BetaBuxDelux The elderly are the absolute worst. It probably doesnt help that I live in an area with a higher-than-average senior population. They just shouldnt be allowed to drive, and I stand firmly on that. A senior man drove his car straight at me and my 4 year old daughter while we were walking at the crosswalk last month, and I ripped his car door open and screamed in his face. This crossing area has a stop sign, and he didnt stop at all. All the while he just smiled and acted like he was in a completely different universe. Absolutely nuts. Its only one of many many similar instances that I've encountered.
@@chrisjansen1943But they still need to get to where they are going.
@@_vofy so do intoxicated people but we don’t let them drive legally if they are impaired. The elderly could be even more impaired than a young person with a few beers in their system. At some point you just have to take the keys from Grandma.
@@_vofy That sounds like their problem. At least it should be, rather than the people that they run over.
Good timing. I am currently recovering from a psychotic episode i had in 2022. Started school and a bit of work, and muay thai this year. Had some setbacks this week and started falling in a victim mentality. Mainly due to reducing my meds a bit too fast. Jocko you are a great role model for men, stay hard!
Dust yourself off and get back on track, bro. You got this 💪
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Great role model for men and women or just anyone!
Thank you I needed to hear this
Such good advice. deep breaths
Received and understood. I am going to use this and share it with others. Thank you
I really needed this. Thank you.
thank you for sharing
Thanks Jocko
Flawless life skill advice.
Thank you Jocko
This came at the perfect time for me. Thanks for the lesson mates. Also, road rage is usually a symptom of that person’s life being a complete shit show that has been accumulating in failure.
Printer rage is a real thing!😂
"When going through Hell, keep going"
By law, the left lane is to be used while actively passing. If you’re not actively passing, get the heck out of the left lane!
You’re one of those people yanking themselves into the right hand lane to go around me because I can’t pull into the right hand lane after passing because of people so impatient that they decide to pass on the right rather than give me 5 seconds to get out of your way, aren’t you? 😮 so then I’m still stuck in the passing lane until you get out of my way, and the cycle of driving sins continues. Be the change you want to see in the world and let me move over and I will. 😋
I agree, Its just amazing when people are doing there makeup or reading a book instead or driving your vehicle is where I have a little of of a disconnect.
The truth hurts and I'm chronically leaving with just enough time to get to my destination. I'm ALWAYS on time, but often with not much to spare. I've obviously know this forever but it helps to hear someone else call it out too. I think the fact that I am always on time has made it easier to put off fixing the issue but the sole metric of on time or not doesn't touch what always rushing and wondering if you're gonna make it does to your anxiety level, mood, etc... and what ripple effect that can have in the short and long term over the rest of that day.
Sometimes frustration finds its way out.
Ha ha ha, now I'm going to have Joko staring it that printer scene from Office Space in my head for the day.
Advice for life - 'add in a little fudge factor.' Damn🤙🏻
Very Stoic mindset to this one.💪
My road rage is the what you feel when the 60 mph hwy goes down to one lane, and the person in front is going 50.
I agree with what you're saying. I hate going to airports so my solution is to buy my own plane. I hate waiting for the bus so my solution is to buy my own car. If I cannot buy those things than I don't travel or I walk. So I just try to avoid things that I don't like and this avoidance capability is a reflection of the freedom I value more than anything else in this life. But when facing the big picture in life I always try to imagine the worst thing that can happen in any situation and then accept it. For instance, if the worst thing is losing my life than I accept that before I go in. So I live as if I have already died and by doing so my adversaries have no power over me because my desire is no longer to guarantee my own survival but rather to do as much damage to my adversaries as possible before I do. If I end up winning before I die than that's great but that is not the primary objective. Winning is not the objective. Destroying my enemies is my objective. My example is how Samson died. I want to die that way. I don't want to waste my death.
I was hoping for a harder topic. Like how to remove or take control of a group of individuals when your hair is grey and people don't respect me, due to a lack of power. I run a sports club, and lately people think they get away with doing whatever they want. (I am losing the edge) Road rage and printers I can handle
My units csm just dropped some new policy that has baked in micro management. Needed this
Good. 🤟
Joy to the world
I was a victim of Road Rage two years ago at the age of 29. The guy actually doing the road rage was easily twice my age. It started with him break checking me so I backed off gave some more distance, then he stopped in the center of the road, so I went around him, during my attempt to pass him he speeds up. So I go around him, and the dude proceeds to follow me 27 miles and over 3 highways. Followed me into a dead end row where he pinned my vehicle in, made 3 attempts to leave. Until I had to pull my firearm on him! 1600$ in Legal fees and my charges were dropped. Fool is still out there running the streets. I lost my job and car cause I was late for work and legal fees screwed me.
It seems somebody could use some extreme ownership
Super important things to be cognizant of -- especially if you happen to be an addict; especially if your mental health is already in a vulnerable state. Breathe. React don't engage. Adapt. Find your flow again. The line will move eventually. If you give in it can be ugly. It can go very, very bad and you may become the guy having a whopper freak-out over the most minuscule things that only you notice. This-of course-has never happened to me personally, but I've heard stories.
We want a Jocko action figure.
When a trained SEAL successfully terminated multiple enemy, yet DOESN'T experience road rage, that is one compartmentalized brain.
4:00 and the more frustrated you get the more things seem to go wrong.
incredibly insightful tactics my friend. keep your breathing open for your battles may waiting in silence
JOCKO IS GOING OFF!!!!!!
I understand why the Black Mamba trained with Seals.
I love you, Jocko...love , Nana❤
I control my anger and frustration exceptionally well while around the person who upset me, but I handle it terribly once I’m alone. I grew up playing football and boxing so my emotions outlet is always yelling and punching things when I’m alone. I needed this video. Thanks
That’s funny bc I’m the same. Became a paramedic and went military. So I’m great at being a rock during stressful or bad events. But somewhere down the line when I’m alone I have issues with anger and it all boiling out finally. So I started drinking and that worked until it became a problem and I had to deal with that.
@@alaskayoung3413 same for me and smoking. We’re still growing and have an opportunity everyday to make better decisions. 1 day at a time 👍
Road rage in my opinion: 1: bad drivers around you 2:slow drivers in front 3:been late
Great podcast Jacko Jesus loves you
Ahh, so PRINTERS are Jockos Kryptonite, his only weakness 😂
Fair tho
Printers are designed to break you.
Printers are pure evil.
Printers are ridiculous.
Printers are going to be added into hell week for buds/seal training!
It's fucking recon, assess the situation in time. For that to happen, you need the time. Thats why in job interviews, you arrive early to see your opponents, and see which one comes out heads down or which one walked out whistling.
🐐🐐🐐
1:50 assessment good buff podcast
This morning I rode with my mom and remarked on how the only time I ever hear her lose her mild mannered calm is when she drives. It’s like we become different people with different values when we get behind the wheel. Maybe the jungians should be viewing this as the major opportunity to examine the shadow side of individuals. 🧐
Needed this today ❤
I’m curious on your thoughts on this same subject for people with diagnosed mental health conditions.
I operate a larger vehicle, a death machine, 55 hours per week and I do get road rage when these buffoon mouth breathers catch up to me at well above the speed limit and then in all their brilliance decide to move in my blind spot and idle there. If I once, and only once, fail to catch this behavior I could end up being responsible for deaths on the road. And do you know how often this happens? Pretty much every 15 minutes. I don't know what is happening in their brains. We have 3 lane roads, I'm doing the speed limit on cruise control on the right lane. Here comes Katja, overtaking me FAST, passing me, but then... She switches to my lane, Slowing down, gradually, down to below my traveling speed. Now I have to over take her. But when I do that and I get beside her, she'll speed up like a girl possessed. I insert back into the right lane. But Katja is now on the middle lane, doing the same shit, slowing down, until I'm beside her again but this time I'm on the right side of her, (in my country you don't pass on the right), and in all her brilliance, she matches my speed, and sits directly in my blindspot. There is no rhyme or reason to any of these actions, but this happens ALL the time, I kid you not. This is a form of CIA torture that will break anyone.
There needs to be 'FUDGE FACTOR' T-shirts!!!💪🔥🤙
"Running late":Actually it is one of the significant reason of Road rage.
What to do; when things are going bad and I don't have controll. SIMPLY illustrated (w/ a printer)
Control the controllable. If someone makes you mad they become your master
Ever get your belt loop stuck in the door handle? Door rage?
Jocko should try scheduling stuff in Chicago if he wants to OD on road rage lol, the kamakazi drives and the “I don’t get a F” attitudes around here is insane (not to mention rush hr and night drives could literally take hrs)
Using a Marcus Aurelius quote for life. 👍
I like to plan for the worst and hope for the best.
You never have problems unless you let them have you.
some people are crazy...they sit at green lights when the light turns green after you have been sitting at a red light for a long time and they still sit at the green light hilding up the long line of cars waiting to go...its the most provoking thing they do...they are the ones who are in front and feellike they can control others this way...they do this in nashua....its mostly immigrants hispanic women who dothis i have experienced...a differnet culture they act zany.
In my opinion, roadrage is mostly caused by people feeling disrespected, they believe the road is thiers and dont like to share it, and people like to rush to their destination and they feel like someone is preventing them from achieving their goal. Practicing patients, brearhing and instead of going in to a fight or flight mode, use the freeze mode instead.
TSA Clear is pretty quick usually.
Usually “ is the key word
I forgot his name was Don!
"You can't control what you can't control, the only thing you can control is your response." this is definitely something I need to teach my daughter (12yr) she is very much a "freaking drawer" type of kid.
This! 👆
I was young, being impatient driving a VERY old lady home, waiting to cross Rt1, she said "I rembah the first time Mothah had to wait to cross this road with the cows ,the cars had gotten so common, she grumbled then too! " Old Minnie has been gone a long time , but that little lesson has calmed me many times over the years.
Needed this video, this morning for the issues I’ve had this week. Thank you Jocko
it's just that printer's-NOT-working...
What do i do if someone drives like an idiot and almost hits me? That's what gives me road rage.
Embrace your inner Marcus Aurelius.
Early is being on time. On time is late. Arriving late is unacceptable.
I'm not sure what machine they were raging against all those years ago, but I'm confident it was a printer.
“Adapt and overcome”
25 in a 50 is going to make me question others ability to drive. Oh it’s fine if there’s two lanes but if I’m stuck behind someone on their phone doing 25 in a 50 all the whoosaa in the world isn’t going to help.
Thanks Jocko 🙏
This advise is what I needed 😮
Very valuable podcast !
We all just don’t have the luxury of extra time, otherwise why would we do this to ourselves?
Jocko wasn't slamming the printer, he was strategically leveling and manipulating it.
road rage is not suffering...road rage is about anger issues...
Do you think people enjoy being angry?
@@grillbaked i think some may...because it is like swearing they enjoy cussing people out
@@grillbaked I feel ashamed when i get angry actually...I think it is a vice not a virtue...do not let the sun go down on your anger. be not angry and sin..we get angry yet must repent of it quickly..it quenches the Holy Spirit it is not the fruit of the spirit
He should’ve left twenty minutes earlier so the printer doesn’t break down.
BLAME THE DOUGHNUT!
1:49 😂 same
You guys SEE the border footage? ... its insane.....
I love Jocko, I love Origins, but tbh they won't even discuss stuff like that unless it directly benefits them. They have too many CIA & Federal Agents working for them, look into who funds Origins you'll be surprised. I still think the company and it's core value is a good thing, just wise to understand who is pulling the strings.
Not shocked thank you for the response.
If you're on time you're late
You hit your knee on a table and you kick back the f*ckin table. What it would be like? Stupid right? That's how most people react in everyday life situations they react to and hit back things that only make them more vulnerable You hit your knee and you kick the situation that you can't control and now you have broken toe 😂
my dad's mantra was "build a flat tire into your schedule".
Love that! 😊
the military taught me that 💯
Meaning?
@@adithya444It means when you are planning your work, allow for the possibility that it won't go as smooth as you want it to go. So it is better to include some time in that plan for handling unexpected obstacles.
My motto is: if everything is going smoothly, it must be a trap
I'd rather be 20 minutes early helping my boss before I clock in and getting a promotion from doing that.... than being weak hitting the snooze button. You'll be okay haha. It's just 20 minutes.
Fudge factor. I'm stealing that.
I would say putting up with people is just as frustrating as anything else. Everyone has their own little ways of expressing themselves and it is usually negative. I can sort of understand why people want it out against others but then again adding to it does speak on your maturity level. I also recognize people may be upset with me but I can bear such criticism or resentment as long as they do not attempt to cross any lines or display something I would greatly choose to prevent from going against myself. Great video by the way
Very timely.
Thanks Jocko I just was talking about this yesterday
I wonder if his printer doesnt work because he picks it up and slams it 😅
When you run late there is always 1 accident, 1 section of highway under construction, and all traffic signals turn red on approach. Those are the rules. Haha
😅 a lot of crazy accusations being said about Jocko and task unit bruiser recently
The type of human being you should be aspiring towards is Jocko Willink plain and simple
I admire Jocko alot but the only person I aspire to be is like Christ.
Terry Schrader. The company I was taking over when the Catholic Church and Robert Kennedy started being involved in the ongoing human trafficking operation against me
The free masons and veterans around Cedar Hill are in on it
Jocko is right. You almost have to approach life like a Zen master and emotionally detach from whatever you find is stressing you out. If you fight against reality you will always lose, and you will drive yourself insane in the process.
Great clip of an important subject. Yup, most people don't have a fudge factor. Then they get pinched like a T.
What makes me mad about bad drivers is simply the incompetence… It’s not even always how it directly affects me. It’s the fact that there are people that stupid and that incapable in the world, and that other people have to deal with the consequences of their actions.