Ask Nick with Patti Stanger- My Husband Hates Me | The Viall Files w/ Nick Viall
Welcome back to another episode of The Viall Files: Ask Nick Edition! Today Patti Stanger joins us to talk about her history of matchmaking and her new show with Nick! Then we get to her callers…
Our first caller has been having issues with her husband since having their first child. She feels disconnected and unloved, while her husband sees nothing wrong. Our second caller is worried that the guy she’s seeing might be gay. After no physical touch or initiation on his part, she has a gut feeling. Our final caller is wondering whether she should give her on-and-off situationship a shot? Timing has always been off in the past, but now she’s freshly single and questioning the what/if.
“You got to pat yourself on the back, that you’re very strong.”
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My heart really aches for the first caller. If you are watching this-please know that you are truly so loved and deserving of a life that serves you and your child. Hang in there girl 🥺
I want to help her. I wish they could start a go fund me because I will donate.
I feel awful for her, it sounds like she’s trying so hard and he is in a battle with his own demons. No winners there. So sad.
@@tonibrooks9719I love that!
“You’re making it a rom com and it’s not. It’s a horror movie” iconic patti 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Ok this was obviously filmed awhile ago. SO WE NEED AN UPDATE ON FIRST CALLER
Ha! Nick is doing a show with Patti and didn’t k ow her last name? 😂 And…didn’t apologize lol
This is the duo we didn’t know we needed. They both give good advice and Nick ask good questions. I’m excited for the show.
wow this was filmed 9 months ago.We need an update on the 1st caller
That lady’s husband is a jerk! I don’t agree with Patty. She does not need to give him 6 months she needs to start to plan to leave NOW.
Planning takes time. She has money and is hundreds maybe thousands of miles away from her support system.
Nick, for the love of GOD, learn your guests names! You talk shit about so many people, and yet you can’t pronounce multiple guests names.
And he’s been doing a tv show with her 😂…
He has dyslexia and word finding (recalling names included) can definitely be impacted by this. He may remember details and stories but still, saying those names can be surprisingly tricky.
So true!!! Do your damn research Nick
Not when introducing a guest!! It was so rude!! t@@melissaloeffel3709
Nick is lazy on research, no excuse for not knowing her name , it wasn’t dyslexia.
OMG Patty and Nick joining forces I am pumped!
Idk she's kind but gives me Bethany Frankel vibes for some reason
Bring back Patti!!!! She’s amazing and ICONIC
First call…heartbreaking Her husband is an addict, unhappy, blaming her and is NOT in a place to be in a healthy relationship He’s trying to take her down with his sinking ship I hope she leaves
The caller who is being treated so badly by her disgusting husband. There’s no mention of his being a terrible father too. He’s jealous of his son. She sounds so lovely. I hope she makes a clean break. Great advice guys.
They gave her terrible advice. If she divorces him, she would be in her 30s and single mom. It will be very difficult and very unlikely that she will find another man who would be better than her husband. She doesn't qualify for a better man.
That's insane. It would be better to be alone than someone who disrespects you. Also, definitely not impossible to find anyone else. My Mom got remarried when she was 34 with 2 kids to a phenomenal step Dad. It happens all of the time. This sounds like a projection.
@seven I disagree that she should settle for a man who is cold and nasty and cruel. Her son will thrive without that toxicity. Also life isn’t all about being with a man. She’s lovely and will have the opportunity to meet a lovely partner who loves and respects her and her son but nothing is certain in this short lifetime. Life is difficult but being abused is vile and she deserves better for her and her son.
@@Joan-COYI She has already made her choices with that man and settled, had a kid with him. Marriage vows don't mean anything anymore? Plus you conclude he's all those terrible things just based on her one-sided story. Life is about man and woman being together, growing old, retiring, etc. We are not meant to die alone. Precisely because life is difficult. What makes her lovely exactly? She didn't say anything that points to that. Your statement about her meeting a lovely partner contradicts your previous statement about life not being with a man. It's a female delusion that a single mom will meet such a man. No good man should accept a single mom with baggage and damage, especially to take care of another man's child. A man doesn't put in the work to be good to be dealing with that sh*t.
@@bethanymontgomery3965 I didn't say impossible. I said very difficult and unlikely. Just because it happened to your mom, it doesn't mean it will happen to others. Learn the difference between possible and probable. Your stepdad perhaps didn't have better options so he settled. That doesn't make him good or better man. Projection? You're the one using some anecdotal personal example, not me.
Oh wow just realized how long ago this was filmed...Ali in studio and Genevieve is there!!
Before things really went to shit...
I don’t know Patti but I’m kinda shocked at the number of people who like her?? I’m sorry, but her comments were wild. “Engagement after 9 months” “men don’t need closure” “even in different states, you can tell when someone has someone else” “women don’t make the first move”??? The list goes on. Kinda wacky tbh and Nick seemed surprised at a lot of the stuff she said
Well…it’s certainly been my experience that men are not needing closure as much as women (& does anyone really get closure? Hmmm) Maybe it’s because I’m older but what she had to say made a lot of sense
Love the advice to the first caller BUT she may not be able to jist take that baby out of state or even get full custody. Its a complicated situation.
While they’re still married, she actually has more rights to take the baby out of state. She sees a storm on the horizon and he has a limited time to straighten up his act. Maybe he needs to feel the loss before he understands that gravity. She can take the baby and run beforehand and he can feel out his scene. Once separation and divorce papers are filed, then the terms change. She should do all she can while she can before other involvement with the court system. She needs to enact her plan B to see if he is willing to go the distance to save his family. He’s clearly taking her for granted now, so she needs to illustrate that isn’t true and he can lose her if he doesn’t straighten up.
Caller #1: please leave him. Give it another year hes going to start hitting you. Make an exit plan, get some money, pack your shit and leave while hes gone. Get an order of protection and only communicate to him through a lawyer and DOCUMENT EVERYTHING!
I want to give the first caller the biggest hug! I really related to how she felt about holding onto hope. If you ever read this and need a listening ear, please reach out!
Some of Patti’s takes are sooooo outdated… girl it’s 2024, women can make the first move. Stop perpetuating all these archaic gender roles!!
thought the same thing, seeing in the comments that she’s in her 60s (she looks great) it made more sense why she’s like that lol
THANK YOU. I came on here expecting so many comments talking about how outdated her views are and just plain wrong. She lost all credibility for me when she said if you’re not engaged after 9 months, leave.
Pattie is right ….men should make the first move ….I heard .the divorce rate is the highest …..where …..the women initiated..the first move
@@kathleen7522that true ..especially if you are over 35 yrs .9 months is maximum…coz 90% of the men know if they want to marry the women they are dating the first 3 months ….after 3 month his wasting your time
@@perisndirangu1280 Patti appears to be single so. I don’t think she’s right on a lot of things.
IVE MISSED PATTI!! So excited she’s doing a new show, and psyched to see her on here ❤️
The way I needed this show SO bad when I was dating in my early 20's. Would've saved me so much unnecessary heartache
I don’t like how Nick was being defensive so much of the husband of the first caller.
That's wild that people have kids and rely on someone else to take care of them. That is so insane and outdated in this economy. Ladies, use this as a cautionary tale.
Sometimes its much more expensive to pay for child care than for both parents to work.... and then you never see your kids and someone else is raising them. I don't have kids however I always hear friends complain about the cost of child care.
First caller needs to move home with her child. Anything to wake him up. If he doesn’t want to look at himself in the mirror I’m afraid this is just how it’s gonna be. can’t fix him or do anything to make things better with him. It’s up to him to want to change and appreciate what he has. I went too long in the same situation until i finally left.
Love the show, glad Patti is back and yes we need this
I can hardly believe this long conversation around this woman who's "dated" for 3 months without physical contact. That's not dating! No kiss or physical connection by date 3 means it's not a match.
My first ex-husband was on drugs and always getting in trouble with the law, and he went to prison for a while. I divorced him in prison, and my daughter was about 3 months old! Best thing I ever did..... he is deceased now from drugs passed away on my daughter's birthday 😢 She needs to move on first caller they never change! Drugs do fckd up things to people and alcohol. Go to marriage counseling try that?
Crazy good episode I have loved Patti since I was a child this is iconic
Not Nick saying "Patti StRanGer" Cringe!
I am obsessed with Patti, she is so intelligent and I love how blunt she is
I wish we could donate to caller 1. I would give her some money just to stash away in case she needs to leave. It is horrible to be in the position of having nothing. I hope all women learn the importance of having something. I stayed home for 10 years when my husband and I started having children, however, I had money in a separate account saved. I never had any reason to think my marriage wouldn’t last, but when I stopped working to raise our children, I needed to feel like I had a security blanket. It’s freeing when you have it. My husband also gave me money while I stayed home because he said it saved us money in daycare and he encouraged me to put it in a separate account because I earned it staying home. I can’t imagine what that feels like and I want to help that caller.
I feel the same. Hopefully we get an update on her situation.
NICK! Huge fan here!!! I bought your book and waited over a month to have it delivered, and then the order was cancelled! PLEASE ADVISE I NEEEEEED IT LOL
Caller 1: he's very clearly just NOT into you. He's not showing effort. Take his non verbal cues and move on.
I no longer keep a calendar. I tell the changing of the seasons by Nicks skin and hair. I can tell it's late spring by the fluff of blonde in the front and the fact that he's bronze but not too crispy yet 😂
Except this was filmed in July
@candy07831 God damn it. Everything I thought I knew is a lie.
WOW! Patti Stanger IS 62.
no way!!!! she looks amazing ❤
No way WHAT!!!
Not to be a bummer because she does look great just like Kris Jenner, but you *know they have amazing Docs in Beverly Hills* 😂 She admitted to having some work done and over done as well when lips were on swoll. Glad she pulled back on the fillers
Great surgeon, but needs less than she thinks...fillers look horrible if overdone!
She honestly looks younger than she did when I was watching her on Millionare Matchmaker in college 15 years ago. She’s lost a lot of weight
I can’t wait for this show I love Nick and was obsessed with Millionaire Matchmaker
What a great episode!
Love the tough love to caller 3!! She needed that reality check
First caller’s therapist isn’t helping her and dump the husband
Yup
When does the show air? I’m so excited about this collab!!!
There's already 2 episodes available!
Justin from the bachelor was on the first episode lol
I freaking LOVE Patty. I clicked so quick cause I also LOVE this podcast.
They look like they hate each other
Where do I sign up for the new matchmaker show? 😭😂
Love this! I give this advice all the time to my single friends. Ive been married 30 years!
I like the sweeter side of Patti❤
Love Nick and Patti, can’t wait for there new show!
Where do we watch the new show with Nick and Patti? Loved this episode
Cw app
You don't know her last name 😂 priceless.
I normally listen to the show while cleaning and doing chores around the house, and when I stop and watch the video, I can't keep myself from mentally adjusting the area rugs on set. Am I the only one?
ur the only one cuz I've been watching this twice a week for the last 2 3 years and NEVER noticed the rugs! LMAO
Get help for your OCD. 😂
I hate that rug
You are not the only one, I don't see a rug but a curtain or plain fabric bunched up...A rug would have some texture or weight to it, this flimsy fabric does not...Whoever chose this made a poor choice.
How about practising self-control in the in between phases of dating!
Alone and 40 ! what you said about that was really immature and ridiculous. There’s nothing wrong with being alone and being 40 love can come even when you’re 80 years old and maybe you wanna be alone when you’re 40 and you shouldn’t pressure our relationship on your life just because you’re running into the big 40 number, my point is being alone and being 40 is not punishment. It’s a decision and an outcome from something that didn’t work out and there’s nothing wrong with that.
Not Nick getting excited about a date with a professor and Patti saying something completely different. 💀
Jesus on skates she’s had amazing work done on her face! Some of the best I’ve ever seen I didn’t recognize her from the old days of her show.aging backwards!
I agree, she looks incredible
Heather Mcdonald had said this, so I've been waiting to see her 😂 does look great! $ & the best surgeons!
She looks amazing
I’ve never heard of the expression “Jesus on skates” but my God it’s superb.
@@Joan-COYI 😂
Whoa how old is this episode? Since Genevieve is sitting there?
“This is not the notebook” period
Patty is awesome! Shoots it straight with people!
DAMMMMM CALLER 2 NICK WAS HARSH AF!!!!!!!!! DAMMMM MY JAW DROPPED!!!!! LMAO I MEAN THE TRUTH HURTS!!! BUT THAT WAS GREAT ADVICE FROM NICK TELLING THAT GIRL SHE NEEDS TO STAY SINGLE FOR AWHILE AND WORK ON HERSELF BC THATS FACTS!!!!!!!! 100% AND I hope she does the work and takes Nicks advice bc THATS WHY ppl in this world is SOO horrible in relationships now a days!!! PPK LIKE HER AND HER friend wit benefits!!!! THATS WHY PPL don't trust each other!!!!! 100%!!!! DO THE WORK GIRL AND GO TO THERAPHY BC TRUST ME THERAPHY IS AMAZING!! IT CHANGED MY LIFE AND ALL MY RELATIONSHIPS!!! AND BE SINGLE BC IM SINGLE AND have been for 4 years now AND I LOVE IT!!!!!!! lol I was wit someone since I've been 16, I was wit someone for 3 4 years from 17 to 19ish and then met the father of my kids and was wit him from 20ish til about 4 5 years ago so like 13 14 years I spent wit the father of my kids and he physically abused me, mentally abused me, he's a narcississt, and now I'm thinking he's manic and has MPD, he DEFF has NPD, SOO I've been single since me and him split and even after him I was having a friends wit benefits thing for a couple years, and I cut him off bc he got obsessed wit me and started acting really weird and paraniod about shit smh so I RAN!!!! lol and ever since being single and seeing all these relationships wit ppl breaking up and not working IM HAPPY TO BE SINGLE!!!!!!! I DO WHAT I WANT WHEN I WANT WIT WHO I WANT!!!!! LOL ITS THE BEST feeling EVER being single and learning who I am, and what I want outta anything, taking care of myself and my kids, I haven't had sex in 2 years AND IDC!!!!! I LOVE IT!! I HAVE A HAND FOR A REASON LOL!!!!!! IM THE HAPPIEST IVE BEEN IN A LONG TIME AND IM SETTING AN AMAZING EXAMPLE FOR BOTH MY GIRLS AS WELL!!! SO THEY SEE A STRONG, INDEPENDANT, SMART, BRAVE WOMEN DOING SH*T FOR MYSELF BY MYSELF!!!! AND YALL CAN DO IT TOO!!!!!!!!! I HIGHLY RECOMMEND IT!!!!!!! 100%
“Or see a doctor” 😂😂😂😂
She is with a narcissist and needs to RUN . ASAP
I'm appalled by the second caller. What is wrong with this girl? The man is TAKEN and she asking for advice to persue him?!
I wish to HELL I could have been listening to this episode 30yrs ago....that's all I'm going to say!!!
Love the new show!!!
PLEASE LISTEN TO PATTI! Plan your exit. Start saving up small amounts of money at a time.
Me listening to this in Des Moines, Iowa👁️👄👁️
I’m enjoying this podcast but I’ve got to be honest, the ads are a little too often. I find myself skipping forward every 5 minutes and it takes me out of it. It’s the first thing that comes to mind when I see a new episode I’m interested in watching, do I want to skip through these ads constantly? Just don’t want you to lose followers.
Patti!! my girl you don't age!
A match made!
It’s jus always funny to me , Patti is a matchmaker yet none of her relationships work 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂mmmkkyyyy
The domineering push over in women surprises me . The man asks a women out , a man proposes . How do you know if two people are deeply sexually attracted to each other . The hook up culture , one night stands , where is your soul ? A woman should be seen, & not heard.
Sorry what?
The last caller is certified delusional
Sorry, I love Patti but why did the gals on the left stay mute and not chime in on the discussions at all?
the beginning was so disrespectful... wrong surname - whateverrrr... Instead of apologizing - I feel seen now... omg... #cringe
GENEVIEVE IS BACK🥰
Lol no
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46:48 such a terrible take lol. If nothing is happening she should make a move to see what happens instead of complaining and calling into a show. Regardless of what you think of gender norms
Is 1st Caller’s Hubs being faithful?
Doubt it
She is super annoying