Looks aren't everything. Believe me, I'm a model. | Cameron Russell | TED
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Cameron Russell admits she won "a genetic lottery": she's tall, pretty and an underwear model. But don't judge her by her looks. In this fearless talk, she takes a wry look at the industry that had her looking highly seductive at barely 16-years-old.
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Looks might not be everything but good looking people are generally treated better than ugly people in just about every situation.
MyFestivus that’s what she is trying to say the world is so caught up on appearance they don’t ever see you for who you are. She is trying to get people to be aware of that and fix the situation by saying looks aren’t everything there is in life
hallelu lee But looks play a HUGE factor. You can probably talk to a pretty girl and get her number but it is VERY difficult, that is why you are better off working on looks, plus since when do you see an ugly man walk with a pretty woman? Unless they were already friends before.
Of course attractive people have some issues in life cos of their looks (i think especially females), but the advantages weigh out the disadvantages by far in my opinion. Everybody in the range from "really ugly" to "incredibly beautiful" has reasons to complain somehow, but i think almost everybody knows where he/she wants to place himself if he/she could choose his/her looks. No where even near average ;)
True! I can tell that!
Jason Eisenhauer true so trheee
truth is looks will give your personality a chance..
giovanna Roma 👍🏻
Yeah, a chance to be seen as something unrelated to who you authentically are!
@@emotophobiccdd8006 But unattractive people don't get a chance at all ..
@@giovannaroma9527 unattractive people get every chance.... Too often they're just too caught up in the pretentious superficialities of a tacky consumerist society, looking in all the wrong places for all the wrong things to even entertain the idea.
That is such a myth and a lie. on the contrary good looks makes people believe you're just a doll. No one cares about your personality.
I love this talk but I feel like they gave it the complete wrong title, because her whole point is how important looks are in our society
Irony
I think the title conveys the message well. When someone says that something "isn't everything", the implication is "although it's big, it's not everything". And she went on to say that society places too much importance on something that is actually very superficial. Moreover, good looks don't shield you from insecurities.
meanwhile it's told to you by a model and not a subhuman
As if like, "Looks aren't _everything._ It's the _only_ thing." I think that's the idea they're trying to give away.
The title is not wrong, it's satire.
Only a rich person will tell you money doesn’t matter.. Respect to her for being honest about her life
Every single rich person on earth will literally tell you MONEY MATTERS. Its poor people who say money doesnt matter, money cant buy happiness etc.
@@thegameshows1 Freedom is the currency to buy happiness. Money can not provide freedom every time. It depends on which is the reason to be happy for an individual.
@@thegameshows1 this!
Money doesn't matter. Health matters way more. Love matters way more. How do I know? Look at what rich people spend their money on... staying heathy and buying friends...
@@Clickbait_Wisdom money is not freedom, lack of need of it is, you can still move to mountains and herd goats and live off their milk and meat.
I feel like her jokes were very unappreciated, she’s got a good sense of humor and you could tell she was nervous to be there
I felt the same
Same
who cares
But, she was still awesome.
Probably from the low carb diet.. man did you see how those poor models eat it's sad
Looks aren't everything but it makes everything easier.
+187onaPigeon You just freaking inspired me
+187onaPigeon You are very true Bro, Hahaha.
True...
+187onaPigeon TRUST ME, when you go from that Lizzy girl to this video you're just like :|
she is a boaster
I love that she is really open about the modeling industry. Lots of young girls look up to all the models they see in magazines; it's important to teach them that most of these pictures are altered and almost completely reconstructed.
Brave of her to speak the truth about her experience. She used her first outfit to great effect. Her talk was so powerful because it’s easy for a person blessed with good looks to think they are just better. Kudos to her.
I don’t think most people in the comments understand the point she is trying to make. She’s not saying that looks don’t matter. She says that no matter how beautiful other people perceive you at the end of the day you can still be very insecure and unhappy with your looks.
galaxyandromeda yeah I think a lot did that
Bullshit!!!!!!
Saman Hasani what do you mean? Do you not agree with the statement she made or do you think she meant something different?
Thank you finally someone got it!
ted ed should pin this comment
As someone said: "Looking good is like playing life on easy setting"
But I want an easy life :(
Bullshit.... life gives no short cuts or easy paths to ANYONE...Good looking or not..... life gives us different sets of problems/obstacles to overcome, that's it.
I come from a smallest village in eastern europe and poor abusive family that raised me into an unsociable introvert with issues. The main thing that made me break thru is my looks. People actually perceive cute ones as better in everything (including smarts) than they really are. Psycollogists agree with my experience on this.
@@ralphpinkins5619 Oh, but it does. Everyone has problems and hardships of course but good looking people always get more attention, support, people are biased towards them, etc. Even on KZhead i see it sometimes: there is a handsome guy or beautiful girl and their channel instantly gets many more subscribers than others with sometimes much better content. They just get more opportunities in life usually. How they use it it's another thing.
@@todanrg3 you're proving my point. God gave these individuals good looks. But that's their obstacle to overcome as well as their advantage. You may not be as good looking as them but smarter then them , let's say for example , if we were to compare the two. Would life be easier for you because compared to a good looking person you're smarter than them? No ofc not. Because your ugly and looks matter too. Get my point. You cant compare apples and oranges and then say life is easier. That's like comparing struggles.
First time I have seen something like this. A person who were a model talked about the outlook is not everything, my favorite topic! Can we just appreciate her honest and how professional she were in this talk… This channel needs more talking video like this!
I really relate to her experience , as someone who has been through looking "ugly" (at this time I got ignored a lot and feel invisible to others ) and then glowing up to somewhat good looking. the surprising thing is that I don't feel any less insecure . you just find new things to hate about yourself but now all your accomplishments and personalities become invisible instead. I don't think it's as huge of a benefit as people think it is.
You know what it feels like to be an average man. We are seen as invisible everyday.
@@oaklandsoldier8520 if I'm being honest I can't really know how it heels like to be a guy and probably will never find out. but that doesn't prevent me from sympathizing.
@@oaklandsoldier8520 true man , iam 19 and I am invisible because of my looks
You are not good looking at all, so stop trying to flatter yourself.
you are so unaware it's insane. it's like when rich people complain and say money isn't everything when they get a disease. yes money isn't everything, but there's people that don't have health and don't have money and they are worst than you. the same goes to you. sure you may still have problems about your appearance in your own mind, but people treat you better, you are praised and encouraged to have confidence, you get better jobs and you are payed more just because you look better. stop whining for once and listen to the people that you acknowledged have less than you.
Why are people hating on her? She’s trying to be honest about why she is successful and that she isn’t perfect. What else do you want from her?
let's just say there's a lot of strange and perverse people in the world.
Money isn’t everything - Billionaires Looks aren’t everything - Model there is a connection here
People like to think that if they were more beautiful, skinnier etc they would not be insecure, they would be happy and basically all their problems would go away. They get mad and jealous when beautiful people talk about being insecure. They probably feel like beautiful people don’t have the right to be insecure. But being insecure in reality has nothing to do with how you look. You can always find someone more beautiful than yourself. And like she says the more you focus on the way you look, regardless of how you actually look, the more insecure you are. Cause the more you focus on it the more flaws you find. The best way to learn how to be confident in your looks is to find a way to accept that you don’t look perfect and that you might not even be especially beautiful at all and try your best to not put your worth in your appearance. I’m not saying this is easy. But it is easier and better than changing your looks only to find that you still feel insecure.
Sarah Marshall because most of these people people didn’t watch the video and just got triggered by the title.
It same like flexing with money. People dont want to hear that others are doing so much better than themselves. (especially when its not anyhow "deserved" or worked for)
That moment when you realize that all the negative comments are from people who didn’t watch the video and just got triggered by the title.
That moment when you realise people are just having a laugh learn to have a sense of humour snowflake
So if the title doesn't correspond the content of the speech totally the title itself is incorrect but not the impression of the readers.
intpop Their impression may be correct. I just thought everyone was criticizing the video until I watched it and found out it had nothing to do with what they were complaining about.
Well I took it as a joke why can't you? The tittle didn't even come from her.
Nope, ur just salty
This is an amazing talk and example of how we judge people instantly based on looks. Great job! It challenges our instant judgment. It's so true my prettiest friends are the MOST insecure!
Thanks for her honest and it let me know that everyone has their own difficulties in life. Looks does influence us in our daily life, how people treat you or if they respect you. That kind of people are superficial so we don't have to care about what others think of us. Just be yourself!!
Biggest paradox ever: Looks aren't important but they can give you a job.
Totally agree !!
Appearently it does like the handsome mugshot guy Jeremy meeks
So sad but that's today's world I guess...
U talkin about prostituting! Are you saying there should be more of them prostitutes
Icek N exactly. Let’s see her earn minimum wage cleaning toilets.
She isn’t saying “looks aren’t everything to say “looks don’t matter”. She’s saying “looks don’t define your character and they SHOULDN’T matter so much.”
YES YES YES
On point
Unfortunately, reality is not working such way🙃
Also there is so much abuse in modelling industry
I've met females who look great but have almost no character. It's a game changer.
I really like the idea she is trying to portray. She is trying to tell us that despite how we look our personality and character is what matters most and if we choose to define ourselves by our looks we aren't going to go as far. I love the open honesty she gives the audience about the benefit she has as a white woman who fits into the standards in a luxury industry such as modeling and how she uses that to her advantage. I'd rather have people acknowledge their privilege than hide behind it. Cameron Russell is a successful model who has walked for luxury fashion houses such as Chanel and Versace.
She was so candid about the whole. She has beauty, brains, and compassion.
She made a very important point: she won the genetic lottery. That’s not something you can strive for, and yet our society places so much importance on physical appearance. I wish her speech was longer, I can tell she has much more to say.
Genetic* (???)
@@Occult_Gibbet Of course. Thanks.
That whole genetic lottery thing is a myth any one can get skinny
Why are you guys so fucking stupid... It's cause human look for the better endowed people... It's in our DNA it's very simple biology.... Life isn't fair, stop trying to equalize everything.... Cause there is no equal in basic biology.
@@pericyerima2466 While anyone can get slimmer which is true, you simply cannot change your facial bone structure. Which is in fact a genetic lottery and not something that you can work hard to obtain. Just being real here.
I think I know where she's getting at. At first, I noticed she was really nervous from the way she laughs and breathes, and the look she's giving to everyone. She really showed that insecurity and for her to admit that even though she's a model is quite amazing. She may be a model but that doesn't mean she has the greatest life ever. She showed humility and care from people she doesn't even know. I'll give her 10/10 for that.
She doesnt even have to admit that its so obvious with everything she did and does
GTFO. you give her 10/10 because she s pretty. Halo effect.
God Bless her, she spoke so openly and genuinely, it was wonderful
Of course, she's nervous. She's not a public speaker. She does not even have to speak much/communicate a lot in her career if she chooses not to.
Because no one was going to take her seriously so i totally get it...im glad she was brave enough to speak on it. Because she could be blacklisted. Bravo to her
I came to this talk many times and reconsidered about the message that she wanted to transfer. It's true that being beautiful is the advantage that we could get to be treated better in life. However, it's just a factor and it's important that we should not be obsessed about how we look. Social standards of beauty affects the society at large, even with the people like models are still insecure about their appearance. I truly appreciate that she came up stage and discussed that images of models are the results of the entire beauty industry and the real person can be totally different than we've imagined.
🎉 *EEEEXACTLY!!* *YOU NAILED IT!* 🎯👍
I found this quite moving, and brilliant delivery of more than one learning opportunities with meaningful examples.
Should I be offended that KZhead won't stop recommending me this video
Yah, cause it's click bait , the argument made in this video has nothing to do with the title
omg lol
On top of my recommendations is: 'Why thinking you are ugly is bad for you' -.-
X1 Z1 same
X1 Z1 same here friend
Why are people still ignoring the point of this talk? She's literally admitting her privilege and pointing out both the biases and superficiality of the fashion industry (which can severely affect the body and beauty image of young girls everywhere) and the way people judge others based solely on physical appearance (RACE, gender, weight, hair color etc). The first part to fixing a problem is letting it be known. But if you ignore her message because you're actually just jealous she was lucky enough to be born physically attractive, you're LITERALLY contributing to the problem. This is an important message.
I can not even agree more.
That was actual perfection
TheAlphadog I understand your points, it really all boils down to personal opinion and how the individual perceives these issues. The most significant part for me, though, is concerning young girls. I do disagree with you on that, only because girls in these newer generations (due to the accessibility of social media and the presence of advertisements everywhere) are almost always surrounded by what society considers the ideal body type/beauty. Usually the ideal is portrayed as a beautiful woman with lovely skin and a fit body, perfect hair teeth and nails, etc. If the girl doesn't have a strong enough body image of herself (you know, the low self esteem middle school years are super common) nor is she taught to realize that the people presented to her in ads/social media aren't necessarily 'attainable' (not sure how to word this part my apologies) she might become desperate to achieve these ideals and do something dangerous like starve herself or even become depressed. It's the same for boys too, I'm sure many have gone through periods of low self esteem and depression due to not being 'ideal' (ofc I don't know for sure, I wouldn't know what it's like to grow up as a boy in this age). Mostly I just support the fashion industry introducing images of health rather than unattainable beauty, ethnic diversity for poc representation (a young latina girl may not feel beautiful if the only beautiful women she knows about are all white, for example) that sort of thing. Education in general needs a lot of work, but we can't forget that children retain a lot of information from social media/advertising. It's like another educational outlet, so we gotta make sure they're not contributing anything potentially harmful. xx
Glory Knights "I do disagree with you on that, only because girls in these newer generations (due to the accessibility of social media and the presence of advertisements everywhere) are almost always surrounded by what society considers the ideal body type/beauty. Usually the ideal is portrayed as a beautiful woman with lovely skin and a fit body, perfect hair teeth and nails, etc." You're wrong. Society doesn't "tell" people what is beautiful, that's just ridiculous. Have you ever had a friend who thought someone was super attractive, but you didn't find them that way yourself? Attraction has everything to do with biology and you perception of healthy. All those things you listed are signals of a healthy person that our subconscious picks up on so we can attempt to reproduce with them. Has nothing to do with the media. I agree with you on body image though, but seeing as how the average weight has started to go up and obesity has increased, heart diseases also. There should be a limit to what we actually tell young girls and boys. There are more benefits for a person to being fit, eating healthy and exercising than there is to eat bad foods and being told to love yourself anyway. That is completely backwards. Everything else though I completely agree, but unfortunately, you live in a free market society. So magazines can publish what they want depending on the demand.
TheAlphadog It's not blatant, I just personally believe having a majority unattainable image is subtle enough to cause harm to any young person who may not know better. A shift towards healthy bodies is definitely the move. If ads only include vv beautiful and the vv skinny, kids won't know that not everybody can obtain that body healthily. But you're right, it depends on demand. Money over all :(
I love everything about this talk. Perfect mode of delivery and great sense of humour.
People mad in these comments missing the whole points. She was soooo honest, most people don't wanna admit they got where they are through lottery/legacy.
well said
Agreed
Yea I wasn’t expecting these comments to be so negative lowkey ruined the video
She says it doesn't matter. That's super dishonest
@@gufestus4106 i have changed my mind. Looks do matter and I understand her message but the fact that she was able to get in get jobs and also get on the cover of the most pretisuges magazines covers just because she was accactive. Her looks help her out a great deal
I can't believe some of the comments here!!? She is NOT saying "looks don't matter"....or anything of that nature! She is saying that as somebody who inherited good looks and made a career based on that, it doesn't mean that her life is always fabulous or that she is constantly happy and self contented. In fact she is MORE insecure than the average person because she knows she only has a career because of how she looks, not because she did anything to deserve it.
thank you
More : she's saying that the standards of beauty are socially and economically constructed. And that what we see is not the reality.
JohnTheBaptist Yes thats also true. The western standard of physical beauty is rather narrow and geared strongly toward white people, and thats no coincidence.
how can you say she didn't deserved it? she is a model bc she took care of her physical appearance more and that's an effort. I don't like the way you put the sentence. looks is very subjective it's a matter of being self confident and content with oneself. modelling industry is more than look having what you say "genetic lottery"
saniyauzumaki I didn't say she "didn't deserve it". I said being tall, white, with fair skin and a pretty face are not something a person "deserves" through having done anything to earn them. You either get lucky in the gene pool or you don't. It's not like you can go to college and learn how to be tall, slim and pretty like you can go there to earn a degree and get a career that way. Therefore it is not something that is "deserved" or not deserved it is mostly just luck of the draw. Yes I am sure she eats well and exercises....which are things everybody should do, not just models. That doesn't mean anything.
Thank you so much for sharing your heart and story - what a true blessing to many!!
She's so eloquent and down to earth I love this ❤️
She is everything but down to earth
Plus she's hot.
she got a really good sense of humour and how she spoke with sarcasm speaks much about her intellectuality. I'm impressed by her speech!!
Nd i'm impressed with your comment.
Its intellect, not intellectuality
Looks don’t define intelligence.
Are you a Chinese using a vpn or what
@@sadhgurusfunniestandwittie3620 intellect is subjective while intellectuality is noun. and I was using the latter because I was concerned about the way she made opinions and stated her thoughts through speech, but thanks for trying to correcting me. :)
I find it amazing how so many people can watch the same thing and get two completely different messages out of it. She clearly stated that what we see on the magazine covers/pages, isn't her. It's a "Construction" of her. How much clearer can she be. That one sentence speaks volumes. Maybe if she pointed out how short term a model's career is or how her looks will fade with time and gravity, some of you wouldn't be so negative. Society pays far to much attention on the packaging instead of the contents. You can be beautiful on the outside but when gravity and age have taken their toll, all you are left with is who you truly are. And that can only be found on the inside. That is what we need to pay attention too. And I don't know about any of you, but I would much rather be beautiful on the inside because that's the person you live with 24 hours a day. And no amount of money would be worth a temporary superficial beauty and a hateful and miserable soul that you have to live with your entire life. And there are many people in this world that fit that description. They have my sympathy. Simply my humble opinion.
MissDistarr60 well said Miss Distarr60
MissDistarr60 i logged into my youtube account just to like that comment. They're such wise words which carried a great message. Thanksyou
Taylor Reyland I thank you so much for taking the time to share your kind words with me. It's so good to know there are others out there who have the same perception on certain things in life that I do. I sometimes wondered if it was just me who looked at things differently.
***** And she is absolutely right. Self image comes from within. The best looks in the world aren't going to change that.
Wonderful words of inspiration right there...I once wanted to be a model when I was 16 and now? Whats changed? I have learnt to be my own model, my own image, a self that the world would look at and say God bless you, I use my beauty meticulously using it to attract men and women so that they could see my words of wisdom, with every perfect picture I upload, I attach a life inspiring quote to it, so when people see me, all they would want to do is believe in themselves and be inspired. Am glad I did not become 'the' model because I could have lost myself to this self 'constructed' look. Plus I also think models should be appreciated more, since theh give away themselves to show off the art of others that are passionate of their work be it hair, clothes, makeup, campaign or shoes. Bless y'all
Wow! Superb speech! I am genuinely impressed with and enlightened by Cameron's psychological and societal comprehension of her professional industry.
R u a bot
Love this. Superficiality and the issues it brings is something that is not often discussed !
This girl needs an hour to give this topic the air it needs.
Darrin Nelson agreed
PREACH IT
no
I agree completely. I think her writing and editing for the timeslot reduced the potential of her sincere thoughts almost to quips. I think a great forum would be for her to chat, in comfortable clothes, about her experiences as a model, and what it does for you, and what it can never do for you. I'm sure she's got some great stories! It would be pretty damn interesting to hear from someone in the modeling trenches, and someone who also appears to be thoughtful about the parts of herself that are not a model. Hey Netflix, are you listening???
Yeah, 1 hour of tautologies. I can't wait
If you're good looking, people socialize with you. If you're bad looking, you socialize with people.
Trutg
True :(
Wow
Damn man no wonder why girls don’t talk to me
relatable
I love your sincerity Cameron. Thank you for this TED TALK. It was very brave of you to be so honest about the industry because it looks so glamorous. You've truly shown that you are a person at the end of the day.
Well said!❤
My favorite ted talk ever. Personally I want to become a male model and hearing this really reminds me that if or after I have a successful career I must apply myself in something that validates my person beyond my image.
It is like saying: "Money isn't everything. Believe me, I'm rich."
Money ISN´T everything, unless you don´t have any money, in that case, money is everything.
it isn't like that at all... you're still not getting the point of this. People that rely solely on their looks are bound to be extremely insecure. Looks fade, dumb is forever...
@@elastronaute1198 We get that... I'm pretty sure 99% of people know what her main points were ahead of time. The irony is you don't get to say, "Trust me, because I am [insert topic]" because the people who don't benefit from that know what it's like to be on the other side of the fence and can see the privilege received. A great example is in dating. A young beautiful female or male has a significant advantage of finding a partner, especially male, if they are scaled 8+. That's because 80% of the women tend to be attracted to 20% of the men. So the other 80% of the men are having to fight tooth and nail for female attention, while the 20% look down and say, "ayy don't worry, it's not all that great". The issue is people say and want to do something positive, but on the other hand their actions say otherwise.
@@CodHumors Ya, but she never said that. Lol
@@GroundbreakGames she didn't say it... she didn't have to because it was implied
She was absolutely terrified up there. Poor thing. I'm glad that she held it together. Those were super sensitive topics
Actually, it was pretty lame. She didn't address any of the counterargument. Anyone can pontificate. Unless you're completely PC, you recognize that people like her are the reason TEDex is doing so poorly.
Colton Yems wdym he?
+J Girl _"Poor thing. I'm glad that she held it together."_ She's not a a baby. Many people get nervous. You only feel for her because she's pretty, thus proving her point in the video.
Apple Bee dangggg
Apple Bee As a shy, insecure person, I feel for everyone who don't look at least 99% confident in their talk.
Love her personality and love her brutal honesty! Don’t believe the pictures you see in magazines 👏🏻💓
Absolutely! That was a real message of her talk. And, one more thing, don't think that any job is a piece of cake, because you may get into a trap you won't be able to get out.
Beautiful, honest, clever and fearless - smashingly attractive woman!❤
Wow...very insightful. This internal quality is what lasts because it's substance that must be earned (she has to read up and think about it). Respect!
I'm so tired of beautiful people saying that beauty isn't important, rich people saying that money isn't important, etc.
+Black Witch Moth She didn't say that.
+Black Witch Moth I bet u r not either beautiful or rich then
+Black Witch Moth It's true though. External things don't make people happy. You think they will but when you get them, turns out they don't. Therefore you think that something is important as long as you don't have it, but when you get it, you realize that it's not. I have gotten pretty much everything that I have wanted (materially) and none of it matters. It's empty stuff. It doesn't make you happy and therefore it's not really important.
+Black Witch Moth She didn't say that at all. In fact she made the complete opposite point and wanted us to acknowledge that is indeed important regardless of how much we would want it to be another way.
*****
She recognizes her privilege, multiple times throughout the speech so that we don't forget that she recognizes it. I don't think any of the negative comments are justified. If anything it proves her point that she cannot be anything more than a pretty face.
@v b very true, ugly and beautiful people want to be more than just another pretty and/or ugly face.
@@blastedontape People in general tend to wish for too much and then wish even more after the wishes were granted.
Maybe she is no more than that but...she clearly showed us an point of models most uf us would never thinked about. An Model insecur about her looks? Would have never guessed that, for real .
There are so many things you can do to improve your image or appeareance. It's just a matter of doing it.
All she needs is a pretty face. Sucks for the majority without it and even more for men.
Wisely. Honestly. Courageously. Thank you so much. You told very important words for many people who live in the prisons of their illusions.
I did not appreciate this talk nearly as much when I first saw it (in my early 20s) then I do now in my 30s. She is very wise and I appreciate her sharing her experiences and insights.
Looks arent everything, said a beautiful person... Money isn't everything, said a rich person.... Fame isn't everything, said a famous person..... Our desires will never be satisfied said a guy who realized....
@Jeff Jedi, looks are not everything, nor required to be accepted. Confidence and treating others as respectable is sexy. Haven't you ever seen an average looking guy with a sexy woman? I have.
Ugly people just use their looks as an excuse not to better themselves. If you’re funny, kind and confident then so many doors open up. Looks are the first thing people notice, but who you are is what stays with people.
Well possibly yes but as a woman being confident doesn't matter. I'm confident about myself even tho I'm ugly (Im just being realistic). You can see average looking guys with pretty girls but you'll never see good looking guys with average looking woman.
me neither Oh no darling. thats not true at all. I know a bunch of handsome guys and whenever I met their women or girlfriends I often asked myself, why they were not more attractive compared to their partner. (In my subjektive opinion of course)
me neither That reminds me of that kid from Target. He is good looking, and I think he was or is with a girl who’s not very pretty.
And rich people: "Money isn't everything."
Homeless poor guy:"Nothing is not everything".
YES !
Mohammad Zahedy truth
I guess it means " money is important, but it isn't everything"
What means „and Rich People“ in this context with „beautiful white women“ for you Mohammad? This is fishing for applause.
Thank you for your honesty. This is how we can further change.
I thought I knew enough about myself, but after seeing your presentation, I realized it wasn't enough. Thank you for letting me know myself further.
That was brave. In my opinion, she didn't say looks are nothing; she said that looks are not the end of who you are and should not be the end of your identity.
That is what you understood. What me - an ugly cis male understood is: She was handed everything on a silver platter, yet still it is not enough. I have had to work extremely hard to get where I am, maybe this is why I appreciate what I have achieved unlike her who got it all because she's pretty? Here is a good response for her: "You can't always get what you want, but if you try sometimes, well, you might find you get what you need".
just like fashion and the clothes you wear is not your identity. she chose the wrong profession and is now bitching about it.
@@nutzlos5198 There is no separation between you and the body
@@Davide-xk4bg my point is that fashion is superficial from the very start no matter how you look at it. she paints a picture that fashion is racist and that this is bad. but fashion is SUPERFICIAL how can something that is so shallow and surface oriented be racist? is a person who is not attracted to certain people for example aborigines a racist?
If she thinks modeling restricts your identity, why doesn't she quit and get a different job? Maybe because she just wants to sound "noble" but still make money from her modeling.
It’s sad that a lot of people miss the points she is trying to make. Goes to show how bad the problem actually is.
@The Most Interesting Man On KZhead I'm pretty ugly and not even slightly insecure so you're wrong
Yeah..
Seyyid Kkt Exactly. Like she made it quite simple.
@Danji ASMR Český She not arrogant so much as self aware. She's attractive and she knows she is, because she'd have been told that her whole life and she makes a living out of it. She doesn't make it out that she's better than everyone else though and she says herself that she just got lucky.
Ok boomer
One of the most believable and genuine Ted talks that I have ever seen .
There are so much comments commenting on the negative comments, that the negative comments cant even be seen anymore
Yes lol
minus times minus makes plus. that‘s what you learn in elementary school
And that's a really good thing
Every video in KZhead
Lol
Just because something isn’t everything, it doesn’t mean that it is nothing.
Say whaaaaaaaaat???
@@CLASSICALFAN100 why is that confusing to you?
Excellent point
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Good point
I really appreciate such an honest and open discussion of beauty privilege.
I loved the honesty of this talk
She's actually saying looks are everything and she's ashamed that she's benefited so much from this truism
Lots of other comments seem to miss this
She said she still is insecure, probably more insecure than the average person
@@raycarden7941 I can understand being insecure but I don't know about being more insecure than the average person.
She said that, and with the point being that looks rule a lot of things that it shouldn't be able to. Looks are not what there is to a person, yet society is built to value looks above all else. That's the real point. You can look good and receive benefits but be miserable at the same time for entirely different reasons, or you can look a certain "bad" way and life will treat you poorly despite your personality having nothing to do with how society judges you. The key thing is, that it's always harder to speak up when you are in the segment that in the majority's eyes is benefitting from what you are talking about. A millionaire says money isn't everything? Nobody cares. A model saying looks aren't everything? People rarely care. I think she struck a good balance between highlighting the ups and downs not just for her, but for everyone, which is difficult when coming from a position where people are less likely to value your words.
@@Real_MisterSir I disagree. I know what she is trying to say but I disagree with her perspective. This entire viewpoint (intentionally in a larger/societal sense, unintentionally on the individual level) induces guilt in women for the crime of having good genes.
I used to be morbidly obese, I lost weight. The contrast to how im treated now compared to then is revealing about society. People can be really shallow and often don't even realize it.
Well, it's a reflection of character. Obesity looks like: irresponsible, doesn't care about self, no discipline. It's mean, but we want friends that are like us to some degree. If I'm successful, wealthy, good-looking and in relatively good health, I'm going to want similar people around me. Everyone else is just part of the hi-bye culture. It's how we navigate a population of 326 million people. It's human nature. At least we don't cannibalize opponent tribes anymore.
@@manictiger thank you for this perspective, it makes sense.
Yea being overweight is rough , it's important not to dehumanise people based on their weight especially because some weight issues both being overweight and underweight are linked to mental health issues , the fact is you don't know if somebody is just lazy or is in fact severely depressed and being self-destructive. They could have been trough god knows what and use food to escape , they may lie in their beds all day because they have no self-worth are super depressed. Those who are overweight are people too and deserve to be treated as people. You don't have to encourage obesity to show kindness and tolerance towards these kinds of struggles , what we need is to be supportive to make people who are overweight feel that they aren't horrible people and that the importance of losing weight is for them ; for their health and mobility not for them to become passable as human beings just to become healthier and freezer ! Well done for losing the weight btw (= I'm sorry you felt people treated you as a lesser person because of your weight that's not right.
@@manictiger It is mean. Humans are above are primitive intuitions and able to intellectualise the true nature of a person no matter what their weight is Honestly I'd be friends with people of all sizes , somebody with self-harm scars , I'd be friends with somebody with depression or who struggles with addiction and the fact is sometimes our friends go through bad times , they are human beings and can't be perfect all the time. As long as they are good people I'll be their friend and I don't see fat people as bad people , fat people can be loving , caring , giving , funny and smart and that's what I care about. Don't get me wrong though I wouldn't encourage them to be fat , but I would love them despite it and if I could help them lose weight I would want to , but not because them being slim makes them a better friend but because I care for them I would want them to be in good health.
@@aprioriontoast704 The only goddamn reason you can "intellectualize" (not a real word) at all, is because we ate meat for millions of years. So yeah. You're delusional on every possible level. But hey, you do you.
Very direct, straight to the truth and key points.
"Everybody (else) is perfect" by Gabrielle Korn is a wonderful read on this very topic. Highlights how social media perpetuates this ongoing illusion. Thank again Al(gorithm).
Money isn’t everything - Billionaires Looks aren’t everything - Model
Omicron Force Truth is people need to accept the facts that looks matter and do their best with what the muma gave them.
@@ice-mm6em of course looks matter, but they are not everything. Being good looking will put your foot through the door, but if the content of the package is lacking, it will shut itself foot inside or out. On the other hand, with a good content, you can use an axe to force the door to open.
Knowledge isn't everything - Hermione Granger
Everyone has it better than me - Internet society
FWIW, she wasn't just born beautiful, she was also born to wealth. Her struggle is real, lol.
"Money ain't everything, trust me I'm a billionaire."
Danny Han - give me some $$
@@GvPro212 me too🤩✋
Danny Han -Kylie Jenner
Well said.
I'm a broke college student sir
I appreciate the honesty. I respect it actually
I think she presents a good points, as model herself just the brick of whole construction, and she doesn't have much to say over it. Appreciate the complete honesty
Fascinating talk. It's not surprising that looks can get someone ahead in life, but that's only part of the equation of success. I found it refreshing that she said that models are the most insecure about themselves physically.
Do you think she was being truthful, Hmm maybe she was. What surprised me was she could walk normal not the usual stepping over invisible things. when I see them walking like that I have an uncontrollable urge to sand off my finger prints. So I can prove I have no relation to the human race.... The only bright side to sanding off your finger prints, Your now the GI Joe action figure with the KungFu GRIP!!!
I love you
that's a HUGE part of the equation.
I worked for a short time in a strip club - not my proudest moment - and I noticed the same insecurity in the women there. And it makes sense - when your entire life, your entire sense of self-worth, is built strictly around your looks, it seems only natural to be insecure about it, attractive or not.
Ann Le {Anneorshine} but people will find methods of being insecure about themselves in every other way.
I love how she is opening talking about her race and her body type benefited. I love that she is honest about it. She was talking about this in 2013 and still in 2021 we are struggling with these issues. Atleast she made people become aware of the inequality.
The comment I was looking for! I absolutely agree
Black men prefer having white women
Someone here is trying hard to find a reason why she is not considered beautiful. Maybe it's because you are not. Racism is not the issue. Inequality is not the issue. You are just not attractive, get over it.
@@itsavibefr Of course. THere is no racism and equality here at all. Not in the Western world at least.
2012
Your counterparts in every interaction in life, almost always have much higher empathy for you when you are good looking, irrespective of their gender or orientation.
Thank you for your honesty!
I love what she says about those pictures being constructions. They are not real. Models like Cameron are the raw materials that beauty illusionists use to create a faux view of women and beauty. These are painful illusions.
Yes, it's a little bit like they pointed it out on unREAL, a tv show aired by Lifetime, that depicts the production of a show like the bachelor or the bachelorette. They call the lead and the contestants meat puppets. This would also apply to models and the beauty industry ...
Samantha Derrick I find some models, like this one, to be absolutely gorgeous. I don't like the gaunt variety however.
Dave Nesbitt true they try so hard to shape our perception of beauty
I'm sure that might mean something to you. To the rest of the world, not so much.
ya man.. you convince your ugly face by that.. she is beautiful even without any makeup.. what is wrong with a little bit of brushing in photos.. painful illusion.. dude you need to get laid..
Even hollywood actors admit to having insecurity, cause there's always someone who is younger, smarter, more talented or more gorgeous than you. You must realize your self-worth. There is no one like you.
They are not as insecure as someone who can't even get up and speak in front of a large audience because they get so nervous doing it.
Not everyone is worth something. Stupid virtue signalling
yes exactly! self worth know your worth
aspi rine That's bullshit. It's what stupid and broke people tell themselves to make themselves feel better. Almost every Hollywood celebrity is a self-made millionaire. You have to be pretty intelligent to go from nothing to millions.
no hate but just realise the truth behind it ...she is beautiful and is earning so much if money by her looks and getting paid for sayung looks dont matter ....how cheap is this ..even she is trying to earn money ..i bet she is of those students or girls bullying the beautiful soules ...she dosent have any personality but only looks and still earning ...
An honest,powerful speech
wow. I love her authenticity... extremely admirable!
The title's kind of deceptive, because what she is trying to say is that looks shouldn't matter, not they don't matter. But that's kind of hard for us to humans to achieve, especially when i'm 99 percent sure i'm going to die alone just because i'm that ugly.
You're right... so what though we should all just give up, allow ourselves to beleive we are ugly because society says so... nope go out and define your own worth and challenge perceptions, that's what she is saying
everyone dies alone period. in the end, you are all you have
Because you're that ugly or because you're that shallow?
you didn't watch the video did you?
Vincent Wei Yeah I agree with you ugly and fat people don't get to be happy since no girl wants a fat guy
Looks unfortunately are everything... To get the job that you want, the boyfriend or girlfriend you want, even friends. Beauty counts... big time
Yep, that is the sad truth.
Su that statement couldn't be more wrong, look at the richest people and the most admired in the world. are they sexy? ur welcome
tom, I think Su is talking about most normal circumstances. The richest and most admired people in the world will always be loved regardless of their looks because they are self-made people, they either had a privileged upbringing, terrific luck or sheer tenacity that paid off in the end. However, for every millionaire and every visionary there are thousands who are not so fortunate that have to constantly struggle against a system that discriminates based upon looks every single day.
Amen. I couldn´t have explained it better myself
that only happens in high school. after that, beauty from the inside counts big time. yes pretty face could give u advantage, but that doesnt always last for a long time. being pretty dont always take u anywhere in life. i've met some pretty girls without character, they are only famous on the social media, and that wont always make u happy or success whatsoever. be pretty inside and outside (being pretty on the outside dont always mean pretty face. u could have average beauty but as long as u clean urself up, u're good to go), have character. thats what matters after u grow up. and what job are u talking about? entertainment, sales and model industry? yes, that kind of job requires u being pretty. but a lot of job prefer brain and skill than pretty face too.
"The photos are constructions" is a statement that really hit me. I had never made that obvious connection consciously.
Beauty is in the eyes and mouth, true smiles of love and kindness. "Beauty of the looks " will fade with age... but the smile oh the smile lasts forever.
Bill Gate: “money isn’t everything”. Me: 🤨
Let me steal his money
Facts, money isn’t everything. However, I must admit that I would rather prefer crying on a yatch than in canned tuna like public transport.
Tony Cole well yes , but being rich does give you access to the best medical tech . So Steve just got really unlucky .
LoserJ7 lol
That's why he and his wife are on a mission to give away half their wealth. If money was everything they'd hoard it, right?
You guys in the comment section are basically why she made this talk. Just because you were treated poorly because of how you look, you also believe that people should be treated based on their appearance too? She was brave okay? Doing this could cost her her only job but she did it anyway. And you keep on complaining. Just treat others the way you wanted to be treated, it'll pay off.
Amen.
You are right
Maybe for you.For me,I just got used,by both men and women
Then i feel sorry for those who treated you that way. Cause i've been there too, but that doesn't mean im gonna stop helping others or treating others poorly at all.
Bull... She is still gorgeous, that's what matters! She's a model, not politician... No risk here
5:52 this part of the video is a really brilliant way of presenting the ideology of the video.
She is such an inspiration, She's funny and honest.
Models : Looks doesn't matter. Rich people : Money doesn't matters. Toppers : Marks doesn't matters. Me : Everything matters.
It's so true.
It's bcoz they don't know the value of those things as they already achieved it...
Its not that since they have it they don't care....maybe their's too much imp put on this just like diamonds are valued so much but at the end of the day its just a stone when u look at it without prejudice it won't make u any happy to even if u have it.
@Elisson Dormezil First of all, my intent was like to write something like meme anyways(i hope i would get lol, haha or 🤣) but it also radiate the reality where they may say and show that those things aren't everything to them but they tend to forget or rather unsee the fact that they are and known mainly because of the things they said don't matter, as you said at first they are not born rich or beautiful and all, but initially they do crave or want to achieve it, once goal is reached they tend to show less interest consciously (though subconsciously they always want to retain and also increase it) , and this is also a psychological fact, they do talk about immaterial things of important and morals, but they tend to keep double standards between said and done (plz don't give exceptions cuz i know some) and as you talked of realistic you might know the REALITY or TRUTH of things that matter in every day world.[By the way, since in Asia(i am from india) parents are very strict about academic result and the one who do get extraordinary high score or marks are called toppers means to top in EVERYTHING, and they are very respected and looked by other]
GENETIC it's more important
I like how she is aware of her privilege, and also that she brought up racial injustice. Not just a pretty face. Thoughtful. What she said about models being very insecure is true.
@Fnord Fnordington So being oppressed means having more privileges? Interesting.
@My Subliminal Results Being White is great, I feel sorry for you
I can train a parrot to bring up privilege and race; it means nothing as far as intelligence, wisdom, or insight when all it is doing is squawking back at you what its heard from somewhere else.
@Fnord Fnordington white people are privelleged because you dont see white people being killed for being white and "fiting the image" and white people dont need to worry about their safety around police officers and they dont need to worry about their families and their wellbeing its unfair for black people because they always "fit the image" and they are always being killed have you ever seen the news about protest and have you ever been to one (ever been to a protest) black people dont get the privellege and freedom that white people do.
@@Alex-zi4ll this is false more white people get shot by police and white People do get racialy attacked by blacks although there is no outrage when white people get killed
The end was too rushed. I would love to hear more. Cameron is truly fascinating.
such a smart self aware and brave woman
Hot person "looks aren't everything" "Easy for you to say! You've never had to worry about your looks!l Ugly person:"looks aren't everything" "You're just trying to comfort yourself of your ugliness!" I guess nobody wins
Cynical Ash I am the person who wearing the spectacles is look ugly but if wearing contact lens I'm look good,my feeling is looks is fucking important
Ironically, looks Are everything for perfect looking people; people look them only by their looks, not by other characteristics of them, and fail to see them as fellow human, because they are so shiny and inhumanely well organized physically. But I guess that's the reason why they complain 'looks aren't everything'; they want to be look as a human.
ringoaikocascade Well,different ppl different mind,but I don't agree what she said
L CC she didn't say it's a problem. She pointed out that life isn't fair and society isn't fair. It favors the pretty ones and you have no control whether or not you will get that gene, so don't weight your happiness on your look because you will end up unhappy. Don't over look all the things you could be doing that don't require winning genetic lotteries. Even if you have the gene to look beautiful you might still be the most insecure woman and people won't take you seriously because you were once an underwear model.
L CC That was not her point, you relly missed out.
looks are like a first door to a person. if you’re beautiful then that door is opened and people will go to the second door which is personality, who you really are, etc. if you’re not attractive then the first door remains closed and people won’t even bother trying to get to know you. Beautiful people say looks don’t matter simply because it’s something they don’t struggle with (so eventually personality will become their main focus) You can be unhappy for various reasons, but it’s unfair to say something doesn’t matter because /you/ don’t struggle with it. Ideally we all should focus on what’s inside but the vast majority of people will never bother that much if they’re not impressed after a first, superficial glance towards someone.
helô oliveira beauty’s in the eye of the beholder
So damn right:(((( Just because that’s sth you don’t struggle with doesn’t mean that it isn’t a struggle for others
The problem is when you cannot go to the second door because you're Latino or dark-skinned... Those are things we must work on to change in modern societies. Less worse that how do you look physically is not the only component of the first door, but also, how are you dressed, how do you talk, how do you behave and even your body expressions.
Christy Ieong This topic is looks. Forcus on advantage by the difference. Do you understand?
well said
She certainly seems to have a very healthy mental attitude for her situation in life. It's nice to know that some professional models do not think that it's the All About Me Show as far as their career and life off the runway are concerned.
so well spoken
Looks are everything. Believe me, I am not a model.
if you are stupid, have no skill or will to work hard, yeah than all you can depend on is your looks, until you get old though!
Guys this person is being sarcastic,jokes still exist ya know
Looks can't win you a Nobel Prize.
I was just being sarcastic if anyone is confused. Looks of course don't mean everything.
You are stupid. Believe me, I am not an idiot
''Looks don't matter, it's personality'' - good looking people.
+Belletaina Lol, for fuck's sake. Looks only matter to superficial people to begin with and for superficial reasons at that. If you care about that, then that's sad in and of itself. True love isn't about looks at all, for one. Neither is friendship.
"Beauty is in the eye of the beholder"... Gorgeous people
Nicu Drosu IDK about you man but it effects me pretty much every day of my life and it really sucks. Some times I just sit and think why it had to happen to me haha you don't know the struggle if you haven't been in these shoes lol which is why when people with good looks say crap like this.
I say the same thing and I look like a turd on a stick.
but what she is saying is that looks matter a lot in our society and that that sucks a lot.
Wow she's so amazing and brave to talk openly about it👏👏👏
It's long way to say don't judge a book by it's cover. However after watching this I'm going to add that we never know the life experiences , or characters that help author the chapters of our lives. Good talk.
I don't think anyone actually listened to what she said. "looks DO matter!!! shes so wrong LOL" You didn't listen. She talked about how she's treated differently because she's physically attractive, and how it's unfair. She's arguing the same point you are.
I understand her point, but so what? Acknowledging that you are privileged is not going to change anything. She still benefited from her looks. It's unfair but that's life, we are all born with different abilities. Somebody who is naturally athletic has more chance of becoming a sports pro. Is she going to give back all the money she has made or give it away to less fortunate looking people? I don't think so.
Thats literally her point. You're arguing about agreeing with her. People like you are the reason we can't enjoy nice things... smh
Haha ok so looks don't matter just as much as money doesn't matter but I rather be rich and unhappy over poor and unhappy.
Is it Yuri on your profile picture? xD nice
John christopher i
Looks aren't everything. They're only 97% of everything.
I would comment and ask but r/woooosh
try 98
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I was going to say 99.9%, but I think you may have a great point at a lower 97%. So true in business or anything. Unfortunately, looks do make a difference.
@ldyson22 in reality, since you will have to experience wealth and poverty, health and illness, beauty and ugliness, being a woman and a man, being white and being black. The important thing is: how you behaved as poor, and how you behaved as rich. I think anyone can answer that question honestly.
Lady, you are a good human being!
“How you look and not who you ARE”💖✨ These topics are important.
How can you say looks aren't everything when everything you have is because of your looks ....
That's well said
Wow level sarcasm Bro and that one line is enough 🔥👌
There are lots of models, she obviously worked hard too to get here and looks aren't everything. Thinking like that fucks people up.
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@KZhead Player It's not a lie, why is everyone judging her so harshly. Looks aren't everything, there are other things that matter other than looks. It's unfair to disregard someone just because they are beautiful.
This is an old video BUT after I went through puberty and lost any extra weight I was carrying, I got treated COMPLETELY DIFFERENT! Before I became "pretty " I was treated just basic, kinda rudely, by people. Now, I get traded a lot better, guys help me at the drop of a pen, it may sound harsh, but that's the truth (in my personal experience) I'm just saying, skinny pretty woman get treated a lot better.
time to lose some of my weight ;D
you get "traded a lot better"?! Sorry, couldn't resist, lol
Allie Babydoll Beauty/Handsome Aging Bell Curve Teen: High sexual market value 20's: Prime sexual market value 30's: Lower sexual market value 40's: Far far lower sexual market value 50's: No sexual market value 60+: You're Done!
I'm skinny....and is called cute by a lot of people... but no guy notices me. (literally, I'm the skinniest girl in my class) Maybe cuz I was always skinny since I was in 1st grade...no one notices me and to be honest...I'm glad no one does. : )
Yeh, these fuckers even get more likes