"Everything happens for a reason" -- and other lies I've loved | Kate Bowler | TED

2024 ж. 9 Мам.
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In life's toughest moments, how do you go on living? Kate Bowler has been exploring this question ever since she was diagnosed with stage IV cancer at age 35. In a profound, heartbreaking and unexpectedly funny talk, she offers some answers -- challenging the idea that "everything happens for a reason" and sharing hard-won wisdom about how to make sense of the world after your life is suddenly, completely changed. "I believe that in the darkness, even there, there will be beauty and there will be love," she says.
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  • "Life is not about waiting for the storm to pass, It´s about learning to dance in the rain"

    @everlongwusic1267@everlongwusic12673 жыл бұрын
    • True

      @r-series8626@r-series86263 жыл бұрын
    • YES. YES. YES

      @susanllequis3832@susanllequis38323 жыл бұрын
    • Hahahah what a beautiful expression

      @leylamiller7924@leylamiller79243 жыл бұрын
    • Yuppp!! We should wait for the storm to pass and never lose hope ! Morning comes after night ! The brightest morning comes after the darkest stormful night!

      @lionking7360@lionking73602 жыл бұрын
    • Nice idea 😊💡

      @Angel-xm5ck@Angel-xm5ck2 жыл бұрын
  • “The greatest tragedy is not death, but life without a purpose” One of my favorite movie line.

    @ireneguan4010@ireneguan40104 жыл бұрын
    • Trying doing a deep research on purpose, youll be surprised

      @elijahgarcia5504@elijahgarcia55044 жыл бұрын
    • @@cleocanta OMG, thank you for reading in my mind

      @Mel-ue7sb@Mel-ue7sb4 жыл бұрын
    • The purpose of life is just to be lived

      @cherifatta2627@cherifatta26273 жыл бұрын
    • The purpose of life is to live and enjoy life and do good to other people.

      @maxatlasschneider8977@maxatlasschneider89773 жыл бұрын
    • One is inevitable. The other one isn't. Look up the definition of tragedy. Oh and having baby is not the answer to anyone's misery. It's offensive to even suggest it

      @zapkvr@zapkvr3 жыл бұрын
  • I listened to this after losing 5 relatives in 4 months 2 weeks including my mom and sister. Many people asked me why? Why would God do this? and my answer was I don't ask why, all I do is try to live and love and be thankful that I had them in my life.

    @daisiespence1160@daisiespence11603 жыл бұрын
    • i'm always praying for people who had lost their loved ones. i wish i could hug you :(

      @justinejaneabanto776@justinejaneabanto7763 жыл бұрын
    • May they all rest in peace. You're such a strong, loving and thankful person.

      @ORNINNA@ORNINNA3 жыл бұрын
    • it's been 3 weeks, how are you doing? are you good? I hope you are, stranger

      @patrizzia478@patrizzia4783 жыл бұрын
    • @daisie You are blessed one.... I'll let you know later

      @zaidi684@zaidi6843 жыл бұрын
    • That must be rough :( I'm sorry for your loss

      @bonithechubbypotato5100@bonithechubbypotato51003 жыл бұрын
  • “Life will break your heart. Life may take everything you have and everything you’ve hoped for. But there is one gratifying truth I believed in: I believe that in the darkness, even there, there will be beauty and there will be love. And every now and then, it will feel more than enough.” ~ Kate Bowler

    @lacruserrelativo5719@lacruserrelativo57193 жыл бұрын
    • Chills

      @AllieBFromTN@AllieBFromTN3 жыл бұрын
    • Exactly

      @maloususada1401@maloususada14013 жыл бұрын
    • And i cried😢

      @aadayav7598@aadayav75983 жыл бұрын
    • Contentment

      @sumitv90@sumitv903 жыл бұрын
    • These are the exact phrases that I need to read right now. I think it's kinda synonymous to 'fall seven times and stand up at eight!' 💪

      @aizamarieeyy4903@aizamarieeyy49032 жыл бұрын
  • Whenever she is talking about her son she got emotional and tears were rolling in her eyes..she is more worried about what would happen to her son if something happens to her than her health..this is how a mother loves her children 🙏

    @vashwini3102@vashwini31023 жыл бұрын
    • It's a shame, not all mothers love there children. If the mother was treated badly and unloved as a child she usually treats her own the same way.

      @doc2590@doc25903 жыл бұрын
    • i also feel this way sometimes.i have been ill for so long and the only thing keep hunting me that what would happen to my baby girl if something happened to me😔

      @ssshrestha3401@ssshrestha34013 жыл бұрын
    • @@doc2590 that's not true. Not every mother who went through an abusive or neglected childhood treats their kids in the same way too.

      @lolitazavala1879@lolitazavala18793 жыл бұрын
    • @@lolitazavala1879 Is it ok if I add on to what you said? Sometimes it makes them strive to be better, if they know that the behaviour is wrong, most likely. Even sometimes parenrs that didn't grow up in a abusive and/or neglected childhood, are abusive and/or neglectful. Some do repeat the behaviour, others don't, or create the behaviour, it just depends on the person.

      @hiii6450@hiii64503 жыл бұрын
    • @@hiii6450 this is exactly what I am talking about 💪🏻...... Some knowing how the toxic environment and parenthood "damaged" they embark on a better parenthood journey themselves.

      @lolitazavala1879@lolitazavala18793 жыл бұрын
  • I am reminded of marcus aurelius' quote: "Death and life, success and failure, pain and pleasure, wealth and poverty, all these happen to good and bad alike, and they are neither noble nor shameful - and hence neither good nor bad"

    @Ana-wx8jm@Ana-wx8jm4 жыл бұрын
    • Some are good

      @williamparker2922@williamparker29224 жыл бұрын
    • good or bad in a moral sense

      @HotelPapa100@HotelPapa1004 жыл бұрын
    • He was one of the greatest stoics - a philosophy for today as much as ancient Rome.

      @stephenpowstinger733@stephenpowstinger7334 жыл бұрын
    • I had a friend who is spoiled entitled nasty evil manipulative adulterer who won lots of money, and I try everyday to be a good person and have nothing, being good honest gets you nothing!

      @mysticpizza02@mysticpizza024 жыл бұрын
    • @@mysticpizza02 unless you recognize being good and honest as valuable in and of themselves... which I, at least, believe they are. I believe it in part because of the pain I feel when I, or others, are NOT this way... the pain helps me know what truly does matter... I do hope though that things look up for you as time goes on. In the meantime, I hope you will be proud of your own good qualities, and compassionate with the part of you that suffers.

      @kathleenmorris7707@kathleenmorris77074 жыл бұрын
  • That she unashamedly cried whilst giving this speech, is absolutely beautiful, and so incredibly healthy.

    @evelenebray346@evelenebray3462 жыл бұрын
    • I think shes a smug, self indulgent narcissist that cant get over how great she think she is. Nothing inspiring about that.

      @RalphieMaysGhost@RalphieMaysGhost2 жыл бұрын
  • "I see that the world is jolted by events that are wonderful and terrible. Gorgeous and traggic. I can't reconcile the contradiction. Except that I am beginning to believe that these opposites do not cancel each other out. Life is so beautiful and life is so hard. I am learning to live and to love without counting the cost, without reasons and assurances that nothing will be lost. Life will break your heart, and life may take everything you have, and everything you hope for. But I believe that in the darkness, even there, there will be beauty and there will be love. And every now and then it will feel like more than enough".

    @paolovargas3989@paolovargas39893 жыл бұрын
    • I wrote these quotes on post it notes and hung them in my room. She had such amazing eloquence in way she speaks and the weight behind her words

      @BobBob-fy4kr@BobBob-fy4kr3 жыл бұрын
    • wow beautiful

      @heatherseelochan5393@heatherseelochan53933 жыл бұрын
    • Right? Or Life of the Hindi or listening to a Monk. Its living in the moment. Appreciating Nirvana

      @dejacavu6259@dejacavu62593 жыл бұрын
    • When it's dark enough, you will see the stars.

      @kekhaithue-tips@kekhaithue-tips2 жыл бұрын
  • "I believe that in the darkness, even there, there will be beauty and there will be love. And every now and then, it will feel like more than enough". Thank you, honey, for this beautiful words!

    @ellabl4184@ellabl41844 жыл бұрын
    • Nice comment regarding this talk

      @mahadevswamy6088@mahadevswamy60884 жыл бұрын
    • Yes if your love you see love everywhere

      @civilengineer2734@civilengineer27344 жыл бұрын
    • @@mahadevswamy6088bmo bpĺ

      @samarthatilwankar8605@samarthatilwankar86053 жыл бұрын
    • Hope everyone will.have a happy life❤❤❤

      @chinguyen4108@chinguyen41083 жыл бұрын
    • We will rise from those dark days, amen.(Ohm) Just praying to my god

      @anil4utube1@anil4utube13 жыл бұрын
  • "I'm learning to live and love without counting the cost Without reasons and assurances that nothing will be lost" ❤🎐

    @vinodhinikalidhasan7148@vinodhinikalidhasan71484 жыл бұрын
    • Wow!

      @nola8504@nola85044 жыл бұрын
    • Well said, I’ll strive for that!❤️

      @veganamyable@veganamyable4 жыл бұрын
    • Sundar Bharadwaj nd res zayye esck

      @merosudarshangiri@merosudarshangiri4 жыл бұрын
    • Vinodhini Kalidhasan so do I, I’m learning to love as well.

      @wenjing8481@wenjing84814 жыл бұрын
    • 😌❣️

      @rhalynona8399@rhalynona83994 жыл бұрын
  • I was in tears while/after watching her speech. It's beautifully written and honestly presented. She was worried, scared, and sad, but she was also strong, optimistic, and brave. Wish her full recovery!

    @MuxiangP@MuxiangP2 жыл бұрын
  • I lost my aunt 5 months ago to stage IV colon cancer. I myself am physically disabled. All my life, I’ve been fed platitudes and other theories to explain these things. Also told that my purpose is to “inspire” others. Thank you for not perpetuating any of that crap and for allowing me to feel simply human 💜

    @msg3tr1ght@msg3tr1ght3 жыл бұрын
    • @@lzyoungen8499 Who's the "us"? Stop trying to feel important. You're the one who fell on her comment and read it. No one forced you to.

      @patricktiamuh1147@patricktiamuh11472 жыл бұрын
    • God bless your heart 💜 🙏🏾

      @cedj3502@cedj35022 жыл бұрын
    • @@cedj3502 she’s An atheist

      @manuelbaut1044@manuelbaut10442 жыл бұрын
    • @@manuelbaut1044 ok as an atheist it doesn’t matter if someone blesses you in the name of their god because it means they still wish good intent on you.

      @zamiaramirez1390@zamiaramirez13902 жыл бұрын
    • @@zamiaramirez1390 it actually does

      @manuelbaut1044@manuelbaut10442 жыл бұрын
  • "The universe is under no obligation to make sense to you." - Neil deGrasse Tyson. Most people find that statement terrifying. The idea that the universe is truly random, that there is no plan, no reason, no logic. For me, that's the most beautiful part of this existence. There is no reason or guarantee for you to exist and yet, you do. You are a statistical improbability in orders of power beyond your own limited comprehension, all the power a deterministic universe could grant you pales in comparison to the obscene luck of your very existence. You are not special, but your fleeting cosmological moment to observe this universe that is both terrifying and beautiful is. Enjoy it, make memories and when your time inevitably ends remember one thing. Your life was undeniably your own, you are free.

    @AMorphicTool@AMorphicTool3 жыл бұрын
    • this is so well thought of!

      @aricaice6447@aricaice64473 жыл бұрын
    • This statement made me cry as I am going through a very testing time, which makes no sense to me, but I believe and trust the universe.

      @2011ariesrules@2011ariesrules3 жыл бұрын
    • You are so right 🙌

      @Mdias8923@Mdias89233 жыл бұрын
    • Woah.... That's beautiful

      @ashikakishor6814@ashikakishor68143 жыл бұрын
    • "Enjoy the decline" -Aaron Clarey

      @bellsjingle8975@bellsjingle89753 жыл бұрын
  • i saw the title “everything happens for a reason” and immediately scrolled but then saw other lies i loved and immediately clicked lol

    @tiffanylam2510@tiffanylam25104 жыл бұрын
    • Same

      @chrisruiz6610@chrisruiz66103 жыл бұрын
    • Same.

      @GopalKrishna-yj2iw@GopalKrishna-yj2iw3 жыл бұрын
    • Same😂

      @jessicabarlow7412@jessicabarlow74123 жыл бұрын
    • Same lol

      @JasmineJ-SuDirector@JasmineJ-SuDirector3 жыл бұрын
    • Same here

      @anshul.singhs@anshul.singhs3 жыл бұрын
  • "Even in darkness there is beauty" its good to hear that you have family and friends that made you feel loved during those hard times, some people dont have.

    @_writerinthedark@_writerinthedark3 жыл бұрын
    • True, she was truly blessed :) Some people can't even experience love before they were born Some people can't even experience love because they were born to a wrong place or time

      @a.....6295@a.....62953 жыл бұрын
    • Truth

      @lorishu48103@lorishu481033 жыл бұрын
  • when she still manages to be funny while delivering such a profound talk. i was ironically crying sad tears while laughing. her words are definitely what I needed today.

    @terrabites5868@terrabites5868 Жыл бұрын
  • “We want to live in a world where nothing is lost.” Like an arrow through the heart.

    @luqcrusher@luqcrusher4 жыл бұрын
    • Too true ; _ ;

      @CodyOsborn1@CodyOsborn14 жыл бұрын
    • In such a world, nothing much would be gained.

      @willardchi2571@willardchi25714 жыл бұрын
    • Also in such a world overpopulation

      @lorishu48103@lorishu481033 жыл бұрын
    • Won't that make u lose life

      @masd308@masd3083 жыл бұрын
  • Six years ago, I got an accident and it burned me about 20% and cut my ankle seriously. I blamed the world because of it against me. Six years after now, I thank the world because it did not take my life away, and I am enjoying every beautiful place around this world.

    @nbk065@nbk0654 жыл бұрын
    • Hope ur better now my friend!

      @ylsflv@ylsflv4 жыл бұрын
    • happy for you

      @huynhaivinh2289@huynhaivinh22893 жыл бұрын
    • stay blessed 🙏😇 life has countless beauty ... explore all

      @navjeevannj286@navjeevannj2863 жыл бұрын
    • ❤️

      @jessicabarlow7412@jessicabarlow74123 жыл бұрын
    • Stay happy brother

      @snltv6408@snltv64083 жыл бұрын
  • I lost my mom and my sister tragically 18 years ago. Everything happens for a reason. I couldn’t think of how many times I heard that, and until now, those reasons are still hard to find. Maybe there is one and maybe there is none. Who knows? Eventually, I got tired of looking for the explanation and instead, I live a life with better understanding of its sweetness and bitterness. Thank you for sharing your story.

    @Janjoinfinite@Janjoinfinite2 жыл бұрын
    • this is very beautiful. I am sorry for your loss but yes you're correct. LIFE is just something no one can explain. the best thing to do is just enjoy the ride with those emotions.

      @keiralopi4629@keiralopi4629 Жыл бұрын
  • How does someone, in such horrible circumstances, still have such strength of character, to see the beauty in the world? How can you still find it in your heart to laugh? This talk touched me so deeply. I hope she is able to see her son grow up & her husband lose his beautiful hair, with all my heart.

    @effie5238@effie5238 Жыл бұрын
  • Reasons? Life. Anything can happen to us regardless of our previous actions. Some people do evil all their lives and live long and happy without any troubles coming their way. Should we do/be 'good' expecting a reward? Or feeling like we're a good person? No. Maybe we should do good because it feels good to us. She is very eloquent and managed her tears pretty well for such an emotional topic.

    @1ailAlia1@1ailAlia14 жыл бұрын
    • We should do good because it builds a better society for your kids.

      @frankt9156@frankt91564 жыл бұрын
    • @@frankt9156 - The trouble here is that people have varying ideas as to what it means to 'do good', and what feels good to one might cause harm to another. There has got to be something more to it.

      @michaelcook3168@michaelcook31684 жыл бұрын
    • Well, I was not able to manage my tears.......it hit too close to home....one of those messages you get on rare occasions.

      @poppyseed890@poppyseed8904 жыл бұрын
    • "Some people do evil all their lives and live long and happy without any troubles coming their way. " that's an interesting thought. If I was to try and test that idea, say swap "evil" in your theory with "selfish", for example - I would agree that it is possible to be selfish and make lots of money but not be selfish and happy. I say that from my experience and all sorts of psychological experiments which seem to link traditionally "good" acts to happiness e.g. kzhead.info/sun/g9eimM9-jnaqZpE/bejne.html (TED talk on "How to buy happiness"). I could be wrong. I would be intrigued by your thoughts. By the way, I like thought provoking and honest discussions but could we keep the discussion polite (not saying you wont be) but it is a sad internet thing that everyone needs to make their points aggressively. Thanks.

      @khalidsafir@khalidsafir4 жыл бұрын
    • If you doing good to feel good, you still doing it for a reward, that reward being the good feeling. So maybe it be better to put it internal reward vs external reward?

      @MindlessTube@MindlessTube4 жыл бұрын
  • A courageous woman, beautifully articulate, poetry in motion: “I am learning to live and to love without counting the cost, without reasons and assurances that nothing will be lost.”

    @tommyv8@tommyv84 жыл бұрын
    • tommy v check out her podcast “Everything Happens”!! She’s incredible.

      @bthomp6694@bthomp66944 жыл бұрын
  • I was diagnosed with cancer at the age of 63 I couldn’t imagine being diagnosed with this dreaded disease at 35 Life is full of surprises Some good Some not so good My love and prayers go out to her and her husband and little boy

    @dondressel452@dondressel4522 жыл бұрын
    • Hello, I am a stranger to you but I wish you health and happiness, I wish I can give you a big hug because I feel for you. I'm sending thoughts and prayers.

      @keiralopi4629@keiralopi4629 Жыл бұрын
  • Life will break your heart, but you'l find love at those moments. Words of wisdom. Thank you so much!

    @BingoBilingual@BingoBilingual8 ай бұрын
  • This is one of the most beautiful and honest speeches I've ever heard on TED! You are a brave, intelligent and very deep person! ❤

    @LesyaKali@LesyaKali4 жыл бұрын
    • hyy dear

      @PankajSharma-et1yr@PankajSharma-et1yr4 жыл бұрын
    • Omg ! So true ! We all love your Kate ! Such an amazing person !!

      @omrishalev@omrishalev4 жыл бұрын
    • I get you

      @soukaina4722@soukaina47224 жыл бұрын
    • Lesia Kali Well said

      @karenday9109@karenday91094 жыл бұрын
    • I agree. This should be listened to every day as soon as we wake up

      @shizzle1903@shizzle19034 жыл бұрын
  • "I am learning to live and love without counting the cost" such a nice and touching words.

    @MohammedHAhmed-jn7pe@MohammedHAhmed-jn7pe4 жыл бұрын
    • l

      @honggangwang5630@honggangwang56304 жыл бұрын
    • What awesome word it is 👍

      @lalisaareda3375@lalisaareda33753 жыл бұрын
  • “I hope I will live a long time” Gets me every time 🥺

    @rachelroman8541@rachelroman85413 жыл бұрын
  • I lost both my parents in 2021. It was a very dark time for me & still feel like it is. Our saying is that "The deads rest in peace, only the living remains in sadness" I'm sure they had felt the love & happiness throughout thier lives. Thank you for your healing speech. I wish you all well. Do good deeds will get good in return.

    @techmengtang1045@techmengtang10452 жыл бұрын
    • Lost my mum n m dying donno where to go to bring her back I. As m isolated now 💔

      @taaviofficial10@taaviofficial10 Жыл бұрын
    • Lost parents was sadness

      @renjieli-tk1ci@renjieli-tk1ci7 ай бұрын
  • "But I have a son." And he will see this video someday and KNOW how much he is loved and how strong and beautiful his mother is. Also, I needed these words today. Your words on how to start living and loving without reasons and assurance that nothing will be lost....so powerful. Thank you.

    @sonyaberkenpas5071@sonyaberkenpas50714 жыл бұрын
    • Yes... same here

      @theshootingstaractually4311@theshootingstaractually43112 жыл бұрын
    • Hi Sonya where do you live now?

      @justinlouis2890@justinlouis2890 Жыл бұрын
  • “people stumbling around in the debris of dreams they thought they were entitled to” 😳😮🤩🔥🙌 this is absolute poetry!

    @djvelocity@djvelocity4 жыл бұрын
    • 💯💯💯

      @bensiemon5954@bensiemon59542 жыл бұрын
  • I can’t even begin to imagine what she went through. She’s so brave it’s fascinating and inspiring. I loved your talk and I hope you live a very long life

    @marwamirgani999@marwamirgani9993 жыл бұрын
  • I listened to this when I was in depression about my surgery and got relief.

    @vinayagamoorthyvinayagamoo5220@vinayagamoorthyvinayagamoo52203 жыл бұрын
  • This video was, beautiful, touching and so incredibly terrifying.

    @angeloc8712@angeloc87124 жыл бұрын
    • thereleast argon so brave

      @wizzenberry@wizzenberry4 жыл бұрын
    • could not agree more

      @bridgethadley@bridgethadley4 жыл бұрын
    • " only LOVE remains "

      @thinkabout288@thinkabout2884 жыл бұрын
    • I know right!!! Someone finally said it

      @camillezhang3953@camillezhang39534 жыл бұрын
  • "I'd love to hear it." I'm so using that.

    @theresac9099@theresac90994 жыл бұрын
    • And what if you do? What if the reason for your (loved one's) premature death is nothing more than a recessive gene that shouldn't be passed on to future generations. Don't take life too seriously, don't plan and expect so much - you'll never get out alive.

      @whatsupbudbud@whatsupbudbud4 жыл бұрын
    • @@whatsupbudbud sorry but you're the one who sounds so serious. Nothing wrong with using that response. Of course we would like to know why. Will we know it? Of course everyone knows that most of the time, no

      @smrfi@smrfi4 жыл бұрын
    • Why do yo like to listen?

      @meanrameth2795@meanrameth27954 жыл бұрын
  • I've learnt the best lesson in my life from this speech.For last few days I was devastated,was an abject one.Listening to her stories cleared my sadness like the rain clean the earth.Life is too much uncertain,though sounds harsh keeping it in mind is healing in bad time.Thanks to my dear sister for this lesson and I pray for you,your son,your family.

    @salmanhyder3489@salmanhyder34893 жыл бұрын
  • As a woman who survived oral cancer I first got when I was only 26, I can relate to this young woman. She and I are part of the club nobody wants to join...but it profoundly changes your life. Every day is precious. Don't waste it.

    @LisaGemini@LisaGemini2 жыл бұрын
  • “Life will break your heart.” Radical acceptance has helped me immensely. It is so easy to observe others and make assumptions about how much someone has endured. The truth is that we will all experience trauma. The mistake we make is comparing it to someone else’s. Tread lightly and live compassionately. 🌹

    @bethanysaxton7351@bethanysaxton73514 жыл бұрын
    • I wish I could agree regarding 'everyone' experiencing trauma. Some have it SO much worse than others. Some people are lucky enough to breeze through life fairly smoothly, while other experience- too much to bear. With all due respect.

      @tanadamico8396@tanadamico83964 жыл бұрын
    • Yup, life can super suck. One step a time

      @b4b2getU@b4b2getU4 жыл бұрын
    • Agree. Not everything has a reason

      @GiGi-ky7ej@GiGi-ky7ej4 жыл бұрын
    • @@tanadamico8396 I agree, there is nothing democratic about life. It isn´t fair. I think the trauma is switching to a new normal, that you regard as less than what you had, so that is basically a matter of opinion. Happiness is going the other way and still a matter of opinion. There will be some of that going on in every life, but the point was not that you should not compare it, but that you cannot. Like the speaker said, in every calamity there is room for appreciation. But it´s the appreciation that makes you happy, not the calamity. There can be great tragedy in a smooth life without appreciation. I don´t know, but I don´t think it is a helping thought that somebody else has it worse OR that somebody else has it better, because both are distractions from appreciation.

      @Ludifant@Ludifant4 жыл бұрын
  • I can’t be the only one that start crying during the first 3 min

    @silvagomez8511@silvagomez85114 жыл бұрын
    • Can't hold it in the last 3

      @jemengullo@jemengullo4 жыл бұрын
    • Silva Gomez me too

      @nalinchheang7745@nalinchheang77454 жыл бұрын
    • The speaker cried too

      @sridash@sridash3 жыл бұрын
    • Silva Gomez same here..

      @ayesharashid03@ayesharashid033 жыл бұрын
    • My goodness.. before 3mins im already crying even after the talk im still crying for a minute or 2. whhhheeww so heartfelt.

      @ezekiel.manuel5459@ezekiel.manuel54593 жыл бұрын
  • I have so much gratitude for this woman. This was one of the best talks I’ve seen.

    @Stephmargeth@Stephmargeth2 жыл бұрын
  • This is one of the more powerful Ted talks I've seen and she's amazing for getting up on stage and sharing her story.

    @Katelyn3666@Katelyn36663 жыл бұрын
  • "Life is so beautiful and life is so hard." Yes that is so incredibly true. I am still waiting to experience the "even in the darkness, there will be beauty and there will be love" part.

    @c.j.9248@c.j.92484 жыл бұрын
    • Even in the darkness,there will b beauty ONLY if u are lucky cos thrs no form in darknes i knw.

      @contemplatinggod2791@contemplatinggod27914 жыл бұрын
  • It really is difficult when you're the one with cancer and people want you to reassure them there's a reason. I had a family member actually tell me that I was diagnosed with cancer because of the fact that I had done drugs in the past. I quit communicating with her because I felt like I had enough against me battling cancer. This talk was very real.

    @kristendawson5395@kristendawson53953 жыл бұрын
    • How tragic that someone would be so toxic saying something like that. Good that you don’t bother with them. Save your energy for the important stuff. Like getting well. God can use your circumstances for good. That is a promise in scripture. But in the book of Job we read that in this world man would have trouble as surely as sparks fly upwards. If you read the account of the apostle Paul you will see a man who knew what trouble was. And yet his heart remained steadfast!

      @user-vm5ud4xw6n@user-vm5ud4xw6n Жыл бұрын
    • @@user-vm5ud4xw6n I stay in The Word. I can’t imagine how my life would be if I rely on God. 🙏🏻

      @kristendawson5395@kristendawson5395 Жыл бұрын
    • @@kristendawson5395 thats an odd reply. You stay in the word but you can’t imagine what your life would be if you relied on God? Is that really what you meant to say or was it that you can’t imagine what your life would be like Without God?

      @user-vm5ud4xw6n@user-vm5ud4xw6n Жыл бұрын
    • @@user-vm5ud4xw6n Oh my goodness! I left out a word. It was supposed to say, “I can’t imagine what my life would be like if I DIDN’T rely on God. I guess I need to proofread comments before I post them. God is first in my life. My son was killed in a car accident last month and I am still trusting God.

      @kristendawson5395@kristendawson5395 Жыл бұрын
    • @@kristendawson5395 oh I am so sorry for your loss! My husband died 10 mos. ago and I was asking my friend about grief. Her daughter died, I think over 3 years ago. She said after she lost her she cried for 2 years. How heartbreaking!! I was just startled when I read your reply. I’m glad you are hanging onto Him. I am trying to do the same thing. I just switched churches where they have a woman’s group and I am looking forward to joining it. If I don’t get out and start participating in life I’m afraid of what will happen! Thankfully living with my son and his family have been a true blessing. They include me in some of their activities and my son is quick to give a hug when I need one. Ikwym about correcting my spelling in these replies. Looking over this one I found some seriously weird stuff. Good thing I rechecked. Take care and may the Lord bless you and keep you. The Lord make his face face shine on you and be gracious to you.; the Lord turn his face towards you , and give you peace!” Num. 6:24-26 (NIV)

      @user-vm5ud4xw6n@user-vm5ud4xw6n Жыл бұрын
  • This has to be one of the most beautiful speeches I've ever heard. The way she told her story and realizations made me feel so emotional. I was on the verge of tears. I suddenly remember Namjoon's lyrics in Trivia: Love: "I live so I love." I hope she's doing well and she's staying healthy.

    @975error@975error2 жыл бұрын
    • ❤️❤️

      @jania35@jania352 жыл бұрын
  • This speaker made me even more realize that my situation is nothing compared to other people's circumstances. Thank you for making me realize the in-depth meaning of gratitude and for giving me a little hope. I hope you will live a longer life that you and your doctors have expected. 🥰

    @laporekennetha.3147@laporekennetha.31473 жыл бұрын
    • may i know where r u from..?

      @sumenalima5431@sumenalima54312 жыл бұрын
  • This is what we are being taught in order to be good people and good citizens. The truth is, we just get what we get. Often with no reason behind it. Maybe, just maybe, to learn a very valuable lesson: we shouldn't think we are better than others simply because we are good people. We shouldn't judge others or compare ourselves to them. We should humbly accept our own happenings and fight our own battles. Peace.

    @MsJackieHoliday@MsJackieHoliday4 жыл бұрын
  • Everything she said, and all that she has experienced, should be in a book. One I would happily purchase for it's unfolding wisdom

    @Thekingofwords@Thekingofwords4 жыл бұрын
    • She does have a book. Called everything happens for a reason and other lies I've loved. It's fantastic.

      @user-rs1og7tn1h@user-rs1og7tn1h4 жыл бұрын
    • She has written 3 amazing books! 2 of which are wonderful memoirs and follow this theme.

      @michaelaf6580@michaelaf65802 жыл бұрын
  • "Life is so beautiful and life is so hard" this is absolutely true and there is beauty in the darkness. Kate Bowler is the very strongest womam and i am very thankful for such a incredible and beautiful speech.

    @sophialohani759@sophialohani7592 жыл бұрын
  • I've experienced the loss of my own twin brother. I absolutely loved your vulnerability and acceptance of reality of life the horror and the beauty together. It is all there for us we get both not one despite the other. Thank you ❤️

    @edu8400@edu84003 жыл бұрын
  • I’ve seen so many Ted talks. This is one of the best. How this talented, wonderful woman holds it together for the duration of this poignant talk is inspiring. I love her x

    @christinel.m5112@christinel.m51124 жыл бұрын
    • I totally agree. Can you recommend some other good ones too?

      @Charles-xs5zz@Charles-xs5zz3 жыл бұрын
    • ​@@Charles-xs5zz I suggest you to watch Eddie woo's tedx . It is what I call simply beautiful.

      @letoxenakis8726@letoxenakis8726 Жыл бұрын
  • The first video on TED when speaker washed face with own tears because her words are very closed to life and the other life.

    @dish_care@dish_care4 жыл бұрын
  • Love to you and your family & loved ones Kate. So sorry you are going through this. Strong brave talk, hugs x

    @melindamae7969@melindamae79692 жыл бұрын
  • Her words sound so re-assuring in these Corona pandemic times too. Lovely words!!

    @priyacool2500@priyacool25003 жыл бұрын
  • I think one of the things that we rarely truly accept is that we are always dying

    @muyou6589@muyou65894 жыл бұрын
    • If we are regening/creating life at a faster rate than it is diminishing wouldn't it be right to say at that time, that we're actually living?

      @aini9528@aini95284 жыл бұрын
    • @@aini9528 Firstly, could you please define what do you mean by saying "regening/creating life"? I ask you to do so, partly because I'm not a native English speaker so I'm not very sure about the meaning of "regening" in this context, and partly because my definition of "creating" is to make something from nothing, thus, something human beings can't achieve. Secondly, I think "dying" is aplicable to anything that has a life, and "living" is not because just as you've mentioned, we need to do something to be able to say we're "living". And this just reminds me of a quote by Oscar Wilde: "to live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people exist, that is all". In summary, I think "living", "dying" and "life" are all different things.

      @muyou6589@muyou65894 жыл бұрын
    • @@muyou6589 Sure, in a philosophical way 'to live' and just simply 'to exist' can be seen as different things. I thought ur initial post was about the physical quantities of living ie. cells reproducing etc. What I meant with regen is sort of like if u get a wound, and it heals, that's kind of regening, and also when u grow and do activities ur body changes to affect that changes. U do sports = u become more adapt at doing those sports... etc u calculate math, ur brain becomes more adept in that. And creating life, I mean with babies. Maybe nurturing things such as plants and other living things. And when we put these two together, I think if we are doing those things at a faster rate than what we are experiencing the dying part of the cycle I think it would be proper to call it Living. We can say 'things will die' since it's natural, but the 'Act of dying' I think is reserved to more later parts in the 'cycle' or life, or to ill individuals etc that have that conditioned unfortunately forced upon them.

      @aini9528@aini95284 жыл бұрын
    • But I'm just iterating that in your initial post you talked about "are always dying" = ie. the _continuous_ act of dying, which I think doesn't hold ground if we take in to account all the aforementioned and that life can in certain cases outpace death. ^

      @aini9528@aini95284 жыл бұрын
    • Unfortunately, some of us realize and come to accept that eventually we will die before before others. I did at the ripe age of 6 years old when my uncle died. It's hard not to get myself worked up thinking about it, TBH. I don't want to die. I'm really afraid of what's after this.

      @J__C__@J__C__4 жыл бұрын
  • May you live a long life, Kate, and if this talk should serve as your legacy...well done, my dear, well done.

    @byronwheeler4210@byronwheeler42104 жыл бұрын
  • Could you cry while watching this, at times pain is one of the best experience of life. If you cried you could feel you connect with her emotions.

    @sinharc@sinharc Жыл бұрын
  • You made me cry... Life should be big and should not be counted as long... you have thaught me that!!!. My prayers and blessings for you.

    @DrSajjadPathan@DrSajjadPathan Жыл бұрын
  • Of the billion videos I have seen on KZhead, I choose to ask this question on this one: "How can this video have any dislikes?"

    @gsentertainment8604@gsentertainment86044 жыл бұрын
    • The proof that no matter what you say, there will allways be someone to dislike it. Thats why trying to apleat to everyone is futile. Just the act of thinking by your self is ofensive.

      @boukman3668@boukman36684 жыл бұрын
    • Shiv Kumar I can think of one reason. While beautifully expressed, and rooted in the personal experience, the speech does not resonate with me substantively. It was all about one person’s personal journey. I have my own experience with a cancer diagnosis, while my children were still young, and all I could think about was how to prepare them for life without their father, and how I could prolong the life I would give them. All other soul-searching about the meaning of life and the reasons therefore were completely beside the point. So I can like this video for its impassioned presentation, but still not like it for its substantive content. It’s simply did not speak to me.

      @richardjones9007@richardjones90074 жыл бұрын
    • @@richardjones9007 for me. the reason is, i just don't like the way she speak, i understand her feeling, but it sounds like she speak while she is crying all the time, i just feel pity her not inspired. i prefer to watch ted talk with regular voice even with such sad story.

      @virtualarmy4716@virtualarmy47163 жыл бұрын
    • @@virtualarmy4716 yeah, but you gotta understand that it's hard for her not to cry. She's trying her best to keep it together. She was still fighting cancer when she did this Ted Talk, so I'm sure they were tough times.

      @victorrus01@victorrus013 жыл бұрын
    • Maybe they're still rooted in the belief that everything happens for a reason and what she said just didnt resonate with them.. On one hand, this is just what i was looking for so i agree with it and found how she shared her presentation quite moving and sincere

      @araeaien1614@araeaien16143 жыл бұрын
  • Yes, when the lie of "positive thoughts" people keep pushing crash, it hurts. I know the feeling ... we have so comfortable lives that we forget how brutal and unfair life is. btw nice talk.

    @Apach3e3@Apach3e34 жыл бұрын
    • I love the recent book "F$&k Positivity".

      @stephenpowstinger733@stephenpowstinger7334 жыл бұрын
  • That is such a powerful note. Thank you!! You will live long as you are helping us!

    @seemabhandari8518@seemabhandari85188 ай бұрын
  • "That the good things happen to good people". After she said this it made me aware of being better to myself and the people around me.

    @violatahta4022@violatahta40223 жыл бұрын
  • Her honesty, courage, grief, and love are a gift to us. Thank you so much for sharing with and teaching us!

    @englishlanguagewithnina5965@englishlanguagewithnina59654 жыл бұрын
  • The fact is that life is random and we only have some minor control over our circumstances. Your starting point in time, the family you are part of, the country you live in, and the genetic heritage you are given is completely out of your control. Even the random things that will occur around you are not within your control - either to predict or avoid. All you can even hope to control is what happens here and now in this moment. There is no outside force micromanaging your existence. In 2012 my father died after 4 months fighting an infection due to a failed surgery. The surgery was supposed to be a routine polyp removal. I neither blame God nor the surgeons for what happened. It was merely the randomness of death that struck. I mourned his passing, but did not need to place blame on anyone. I think it is a childish conceit to think that we are special and that we are "blessed". The reality is we live on a speck of dust in a huge and vast universe. That may sound like a very lonely statement to make - but it makes me feel free. I will take responsibility for the moments I have and live them fully. That is all that anyone can do.

    @brianh9358@brianh93584 жыл бұрын
    • That was beautifully written.

      @elizabethwhite1068@elizabethwhite10684 жыл бұрын
    • Very, very well said.

      @brandimccormick4439@brandimccormick44394 жыл бұрын
    • Agree with you

      @anastassiyatsoy8282@anastassiyatsoy82824 жыл бұрын
    • Hi Brian. Just want to share with you my experience. Once I save a dying cat and nurse it back to life and I feel wonderful. Another time I bash up someone when I was drunk and I couldn't sleep for a few days. Therefore I concluded that good skillful intentions and actions bring good reactions. Cause and effect irregardless of religion or race. Have a nice day.

      @johnnytan1400@johnnytan14004 жыл бұрын
    • Thank you for this 💓

      @ryanlabana598@ryanlabana5984 жыл бұрын
  • Thank you so much! What a powerful message! Best of Health, Hope and Love to you and your family!

    @aliciabarboza6256@aliciabarboza62562 жыл бұрын
  • i want to show my huge respect towards this mother, i was getting goose bumps when she mentioned her son, wish you the best !!

    @ucminhle9906@ucminhle99062 жыл бұрын
  • I always instantly love TED Talks that have the speaker crying. It feels real, raw and pure

    @x__yoursonly@x__yoursonly3 жыл бұрын
  • This is by far my favourite Ted talk I've ever seen. It's full of emotions and ideas. I can't get enough with it. Thank you

    @ramiabuslayyeh4875@ramiabuslayyeh48754 жыл бұрын
  • I almost cried..I just wanted to hug her..She is beauty. And she is strong.

    @user-wq8qd7xv8i@user-wq8qd7xv8i3 жыл бұрын
  • I wish Kate to keep this Gospel, this blessed Message in her eyes, in her heart! Thank you, Kate! It is big support for all of us!💌

    @user-zp5fr7gb9t@user-zp5fr7gb9t3 жыл бұрын
  • This got me so emotional.. When she said life will break your heart.. Tuff crowd, she deserved a standing ovation

    @Varsha123Varsha@Varsha123Varsha4 жыл бұрын
  • Watching this talk was life-changing - truly the most beautiful and moving 14 minutes. Thank you, Ms. Bowler, for your candor and for opening your heart to all of us observers.

    @mid-zz6ct@mid-zz6ct4 жыл бұрын
  • Thank you for this talk. I needed this today. Couldn't stop my tears throughout the time you spoke.

    @pragyamittal3129@pragyamittal31293 жыл бұрын
  • How articulate she is.. nobody can truly relate to somebody else's suffering however hard we try to be in other's shoes. I hope she will have a long beautiful life she really deserves. Thank you darling for this sensational speech with your tearful, beautiful voice and eloquent eyes ❤

    @hanikj5757@hanikj57573 жыл бұрын
  • This is incredible.....I had tears in my eyes listening to her story

    @nairinghole6801@nairinghole68014 жыл бұрын
  • I felt that I was presented such truth under such heartbreaking circumstances. But I wish you healing and a long life filled with love and dreams.. you are a gift ❤️

    @divineangels7219@divineangels72194 жыл бұрын
  • I agree. It's not "Everything happens for a reason" but "We make a reason why everything happens" ... we need to give ourselves credit for the wonderful things that happen in our lives as well as the challenges we overcome

    @elenevans3505@elenevans3505 Жыл бұрын
  • Thank you Kate for this beautiful heartfelt talk. Simply beautiful. Thank you 💗

    @sinensoh2057@sinensoh20573 жыл бұрын
  • This was probably one of the best ted talks I've seen. Thank you.

    @luizsilva9991@luizsilva99913 жыл бұрын
  • I also have a child ..By becoming a mother, we think more about our child than ourselves. She is very honest .. her speech touched me :'( ;'( Such an amazing person !!

    @najouha11@najouha114 жыл бұрын
  • It is given that her speech is certainly profound and poetic. However, I also acknowledge how favorable and understandable her voice is - with those genuine emotions. I love this. I love you, Kate. I hope you know how wonderful your soul is.

    @xeinha375@xeinha375 Жыл бұрын
  • I literally clapped when she said 'thank you '. Only then I realized I was watching a KZhead video. It seemed so live

    @marrion25@marrion253 жыл бұрын
  • That was literally the best speech I have ever heard. And lord, it was touching and inspiring at the same time. Fell in love with her and her sense of himoir .

    @lekshmianilkumar6808@lekshmianilkumar68084 жыл бұрын
  • So emotional! Thank you for your meaningful speech.

    @YenNguyen-lq6yf@YenNguyen-lq6yf4 жыл бұрын
  • Tears rolling from eyes, while seeing her heart speak out.

    @shashantkhemka518@shashantkhemka5183 жыл бұрын
  • I watched this video more than 100 time, and every time i watched i felt the same feeling, nothing is impossible if you believe.

    @monaomar9199@monaomar91993 жыл бұрын
  • I know and i have to speak to myself "be positive, be positive, it will be ok". But it is so hard 😭. And really hard when it is only you Health is really the most important thing

    @hoainguyenthi4894@hoainguyenthi48944 жыл бұрын
    • We suffer only because we want things to be the way we want them to be. When we realize that there is literally nothing which is in our control, the suffering evaporates. The most important thing is to come out of the delusion that everything happens for a reason. Our life is just a joke a literally has no meaning. So try to enjoy the joke rather than being serious.

      @aabrakadaabra7058@aabrakadaabra70584 жыл бұрын
  • Incredible speech Kate! Thank you so much for sharing your experience and telling us how Love changes the rough experience into sweet one. Truly inspiring..

    @aarushchalise7023@aarushchalise70233 жыл бұрын
  • It broke my heart listening the words, but one thing I would always remember is the strength and hope she has ❤️

    @rinkeemishra@rinkeemishra2 жыл бұрын
  • I’ve never thought a Ted talk would make me cry :’) Hope she’s fine every now and then

    @urj2532@urj25323 жыл бұрын
  • People love to victim blame because they think it protects them as long as they don't do anything "wrong". A completely human reaction, but it causes so much pain to victims.

    @orangepulp392@orangepulp3924 жыл бұрын
    • orange pulp agree.

      @GiGi-ky7ej@GiGi-ky7ej4 жыл бұрын
    • Agree, but it is not love, it is fear. They do so, because they suppress their fear, because they have learned that fear and happiness cannot go together and that admitting fear makes you weak.

      @Ludifant@Ludifant4 жыл бұрын
  • Thanks for sharing your life story with us, Kate! Life is beautiful but hard. I could fully understand your feeling because I have a one year son now. All I want is to accompany with him day by day. I can feel your pain and sadness. I do not know what kind of help I can offer, and this makes me sad. I hope you will be fine gradually. Please take care

    @hulijuan0202@hulijuan02024 жыл бұрын
  • Thank you for your inspiring and touching words. I was in tears while watching your speech. I am sure that you will overcome this soon. I wish you a quick recovery and that you live a long and a happy life with your beloved ones.

    @najoualidrissi5514@najoualidrissi5514 Жыл бұрын
  • I really enjoyed listening this beautiful speech and listened again and again and cried 👏 wish her full recovery🙏🏻🌹

    @lidaniknezhad6802@lidaniknezhad6802 Жыл бұрын
  • I was an oncology nurse for over 30 years. The pain and suffering I saw was constant. I have asked God this same question for years and never came up with a “reason “. All I could do was pray cry and support my patients . I t broke my heart ❤️. I pray you live a very long life. 🙏🙏🙏🙏

    @lorilepore6435@lorilepore64354 жыл бұрын
    • that's beautiful. Love to you

      @horizon5677@horizon56774 жыл бұрын
  • Even as agnostic this was beautiful, very intelligent and deep. Hope you live for a long and your son to be proud of the beautiful strong lady you are. Thank you for this talk. It was truly touching!

    @mistermonsieur5162@mistermonsieur51624 жыл бұрын
  • I am very much impressed and grateful for your talk and pretty sure that it is going to comfort/console many people, who have been forced to loose their world of faith, gospels, reasons and explanations for their experiences of beauty and catastrophe. Thank you very much and I wish you sincerely many great moments with your son and your husband and your loved.

    @mathiashartel218@mathiashartel218 Жыл бұрын
  • I just want to hug her and cry. For both of us. Best TedTalk ever..

    @itsarpitatime@itsarpitatime3 жыл бұрын
  • Thank you for sharing this meaningful and tough experience! Wish you strong health and long life😊

    @Leksi489@Leksi4894 жыл бұрын
  • Hearing the pain makes me so sad. People who have lived through pain will truly appreciate what she said.

    @filyre4132@filyre41322 жыл бұрын
  • I loved this speech... Life is so beautiful and it also can break your heart....but there's always light in the darkness.

    @Dr.Fardi1@Dr.Fardi13 жыл бұрын
  • "life will break your heart... I believe that in the darkness, there will be beauty and there will be love. And every now and then, it will feel like more than enough" Oh my gosh no TED talk has ever made me ugly cry. This is just what i was looking for. Been having a difficult time lately and trying to make sense of it or justify it but no, everything here made sense.

    @araeaien1614@araeaien16143 жыл бұрын
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