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How To Get Respect Without Being A Bully - Jordan Peterson
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Jordan Peterson recently expertly handled a debate during an interview with BBC's Channel 4 news (The video was called: Jordan Peterson debate on the gender pay gap, campus protests and postmodernism). And JBP did it without being a bull or being aggressive. So how do we get respect without being a bully? Well, we often think that getting respect and being aggressive go hand in hand. Because unfortunately, it’s often the bully that gets the most respect in the schoolyard and even in the workplace. But Jordan Peterson is an exemplar of a different way to generate massive amount of respect. So in this video we’re going to explore 3 main things he does that force people to respect you WITHOUT being a bully.
Now, we focused a lot on respect in this video but that's actually just one out of four emotions that are going to create an amazing first impression on anyone cross-culturally. Now, if you're curious with the other three emotions that you want to create in that person are to make an amazing first impression, I made a video on that that breaks down what those four emotions are so that you can start using them today to consistently make killer first impressions.
0:30 Jordan Peterson calls it "pacing your reality"
4:50 Jordan Peterson tells stories effectively
6:54 Jordan Peterson uses archetypal stories
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Charisma on Command strange how your video just came up. Would love to see you do a dissection of his recent interview with Cathy Newman on channel 4. (Body language etc)
Why is it that Peterson's fans are only anti-feminist, anti-trans, anti-"SJW"?
Charisma on Command can you do a video on A$AP Rocky
Jordan Peperson...
I think JP, being a psychologist, would be impressed by your channel if he knew of it!
As my Leadership/History/Philosophy teacher once said: "Argue to learn, don't argue to fight".
I DO THAT! I've argued with my teachers, and I've argued with various professionals, knowing I was wrong. I find it an efficient way to learn. (It usually becomes apparent to them, especially the teachers, what I'm doing.
I was always taught by my parents to understand where the opposing side is coming from, even of you don't agree. That way it's a less hostile anf respectful debate
Amen
Peterson: "You should argue, but you should argue toward peace"
That's what I like to do!
You forgot one of the main reasons Peterson commands respect: his thorough knowledge of the topic, he knows his stuff.
lokanoda yea, people quickly sniff out ignorants (lots of words with 0 substance)
Yeah exactly, he is extremely intelligent and well read. This also raises another point, you probably shouldn't argue about things you know nothing about. People are too willing to do this nowadays and should probably just sit back and listen more rather then arguing and fighting.
Except his continued insistence that "Postmodern Neo Marxism" is a thing when both terms are in direct contradiction of each other.
@@katiest.vincent4283 It is a contradiction, but many of the socialists and Marxists he debates consider themselves postmodern, which is probably why he uses those terms together.
@@humantacos9800 No. He uses them because the term is the new boogeyman to western conservatives. If he truly cared about facts and intellectual integrity he wouldn't repeatedly use it in his writings or his debates. Peterson is the master at using "intellectual" sounding words to talk in circles.
My husband son & I went to one of his lectures. It was full of couples, whole families with their young teens girls & boys. Lots of older people both sexes and we were expecting it would be an audience full of young men. It was so diverse races, & genders. What a fantastic thinker for our times.
comma
Oh please. You have fallen into the ‘woke’ cesspool. It doesn’t matter who comprised the audience and you evaluated their value. A ‘woke’ tactic that you bought hook, line and sinker. Dr. Peterson would shake his head at your post as he would feel all his talks came to naught.
Peterson should run for Prime Minister....great thinker.
Yes yes!! All of us together, as we are, Humans!!!❤
These days he is a total right wing grifter and seems totally nutty. I don't know where he pivoted into insanity, maybe cuz he needed a paycheck? But a Canadian spouting off about American politics and preaching his new mssg on the Daily Wire isn't exactly a great source for critical thinking and societal improvement.
One guy parenting millions of adults. Congrats Peterson, love from Norway.
"Build your opponent a golden bridge to retreat across"
Manipulating people like this isn't always the best strategy. Usually it's something very clear like: I heard what you said (restate it), however, here's what I need, here's how you can benefit, you do a, b, c very well, it's been 5 minutes, hope [insert childs or spouse name] is doing well... oh... gotta run.
Opponent already dead 💣
@@Headcasehacker1080 i think he means it like in lay them a path where they can change their mind without losing their face
I was the 1000th like. Bet you didn't care
What about a wooden bridge? With nice carvings and stuff. Does that count? Or does it have to be golden?
People will argue that 2+2=5 if it means disagreeing with someone they dislike.
Ahaha! TRUE!
@@MrJmayes23 I see that you have heard the Brexit debate in the UK. A lot of it, currently.
WRONG - donald trump voice
Well said!
But the Big Brother says so.
He's a psychologist, and a good one because he thoroughly understands psychological principles in practice. He understands how people communicate and how to listen. Also his vocabulary is amazing, instilling respect for his mind, and it's all natural for him because he is in fact very intelligent.
He's also intuitively connected out of complete linear construct. His spiritual and physical reality is balanced.
That’s why he’s a 1 in a million talent. Truly a legend in terms of charisma and speech
Except he's really not. Charisma is literally defined as a compelling attractiveness or charm that inspires devotion in others. When more than half of the people who are aware of your existence hate your guts, and the only people who seem to see that charm or attractiveness in you are the ones that already agreed with your obvious prejudices, clearly there's nothing "compelling" there. You wanna see real charisma? Look to guys like The Rock, Terry Crews, Keanu Reeves, Chris Hemsworth - the kind of guys that next to nobody has a bad word to say about, no matter what walk of life they come from. That's charisma. I guess I'd give you speech in that he has a good vocabularly and speaks with confidence and conviction.... but I mean, so do dictators. So do sociopaths. So do cult leaders (which frankly I'd argue he's verging on himself.) That's not only not always a good thing, but in the wrong person it's a very dangerous quality.
He also purposely appears weak, then proceeds to cut people down if they come for him. But, he lifts them back up with empathy. One of the most charismatic people of the new millennium.
Rope-a-dope, baby.
Meh. Like those are new ideas! This dude "Jesus" came up with all that years ago. Jordan is just copying him and passing it all off as his own material!
@@markboggs746 As a devote christian myself, that makes absolutely zero sense. I would love to know what kind of mentality it takes to think Dr.Peterson is copying Jesus, and somehow lying about it as well.
@@Mrhellslayerz It was a joke. I'm shocked you don't get it and took it seriously. LOL.
@@markboggs746 1: You'd be surprised how many "Christians" would be serious with that statement. 2: It may have been obvious and/or funny from your perspective, but from from me, an outsider, that joke was rather mediocre. (No offense.) While I apologize for not considering the possibility of it being a joke, you certainly could've written it better.
2:22 Regular person’s brain: “Jordan peppers in...” My brain: *Jordan Pepperson*
RobbieJelsomeno that's what I heard😂😂
Even the captions heard Pepperson. lmaoo.
that is one fat comment rant for some white kratom. This stuff is better than coffee and modafinil, on levels replicating some seriously powerful stimulant drugs. Has white kratom brought me a gift to actually have the energy to connect and talk with others? since this is fairly new to me, I need to learn the art of harnessing that power and making a more impactful comment than an essay.
Me too man, me too.
I’m so glad someone else caught that lmaooo
Yeah...I need to work on this. But its hard especially when people are being unreasonable...and in this day and age, RIDICULOUSLY unreasonable! Thank you for the advice! Love you guys!
Yes it is hard so much easier to box their ears and tell them to make sense or shut it😂
You shouldn’t have to use tricks to con people into respecting you. Respect is earned and Jordan Peters have earned his respect by putting a lot of effort into his craftsmanship.
these ‘tricks’ seem to me more likely to be proper ways to converse in a debate.
The key is: How to respond in dialogue!
When Jordan said “the nazis asked you to violate your morals a tiny bit at a time” That has affected my life so hard. I think about that quote all the time
Elisa Grace in what sense has it affected your life?
Mata Jadu it’s made me more aware of what I am comfortable with, and I no longer allow people to take me out of my comfort zone without my full knowledge of the consequences.
Elisa Grace thanks, I like that
Like intersectionalism
like a frog in a pot of water where the heat is being increased in small increments to the boiling point.
basically: to get respect, be respectful
thank you!
Too bad my mother doesn’t seemed to understand that.
Cops need to learn this
This means we need to shut down tumblr.
That’s not always true.
The objective isn't to win the argument, it's to help the other person become a better person
Nah you carry yourself respectfully, you get respect back
And learn to be better yourself
@@dumdum9367you may be confusing fear and loathing with respect
SHOULD be the objective, but it never is.
When meeting someone for the first time, I have found it very effective to build rapport and get to know them first and not address their political/religious views out of the gate. Because if you disagree and let them know right away, a wall is built up and there is limited opportunity to move ahead in the conversation.
....which immediately makes you a better person to use for a lesson like this than Peterson.
I love this. Regardless of whether or not you agree with Dr. Peterson's philosophical/political views, there is much to learn about his ability to deliver compelling arguments, a skill that every aspiring professional should learn to cultivate.
I very much agree. I don't agree with him on a fair amount of points, but he seems like he'd be a pleasure to speak with
This
MDJ love your basketball videos! And yeah, Peterson is a master level speaker.
I have yet to find something disagreeable in what he says or at least hear a convincing argument against any of his points from those who disagree with him.
CoC, out of interest, what are some points of his you disagree with?
To gain real respect from others, there's need to be equipped wit : 1.vast knowledge and experoences 2.mature personality 3.communicational skills 4.empathy
Also good grammar and spelling skills
@@aynaasif1766Probably. In your country😊
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@@barbarabukovssek7062 amazing answr to the guy who's talking about spelling. i almost falling in love with u
@@abdullahiahmedmohamed3925 Bat aare yu taalkng boute? I cn alo pheak ringhlish
So the idea is to not to want to make people respect you, but to learn to listen and engage with the ideas of others, even if they counter your perspectives, and allow the one with the more compelling ideas to influence the other. Behaving in this manner will foster respect from those around you because you will deserve it.
You give love u get love, you show respect you get respect. The way you carry yourself will take u a long way in life
Unless you are in love with a manipulating narcissist!!!!!
Unless the person you are speaking with has mental illness on some level
“It’s very difficult to understand Jung outside of a narrative context. And so I’m going to walk you through The Lion King today.”
That's a classical JBP... and one thing I like and respect about him 😂
One key point is the fact that Jordan Peterson is a highly educated doctor in academia. A lot of people who try to argue their point are not 'that' well educated. Their egos are not controlled by their intellect. Dr. Peterson is in control of his ego. That's power.
TheWinterShadow this.
To be fair, a lot of incredibly intelligent people are still incredibly egotistical. They see that intelligence as putting them far above anyone else, and thus no one elses point matters. I am glad that Doctor Peterson is not one of those people. I don't agree with a lot of the things he has to say, scientifically backed or not, but I will always respect the man for how he handles matters.
I believe what helps him is his genuine need to understand life and people.
TheWinterShadow ~really well said. Just because someone isn’t winning a debate doesn’t mean they don’t know what they are talking about. Emotion can control ones views to the point of them being crippled by the means of communication and confrontation.
LOLOL your response reminded me of my oldest brother, exmilitary, in charge now of a school districts computer system, well he and his wife were arguing, his wife only has a high school diploma, he was yelling at her say "I can't believe you don't know how a nuclear bomb is contructed" and she responded "can you tell me what ingridients a chile relleno requires?" that shut him up real quick!!!
"A mind changed against it's will is of the same opinion still" this motto changed my sales closing percentages for the better, avoiding the habit of winning every level of an argument or an objection from a customer does wonders and gives one much better outcomes!
Great clip that summarises most of his work. The bottom line is that he has mastered the art of communication - he moves comfortably around people of different ages, levels of education and level of consciousness / beingness. Thanks for sharing - from South Africa.
Jordan is such a gentleman, without being a pushover in any manner. He’s a complex, brilliant, strong and sensitive man. Absolutely love him as a father figure in psychology and philosophy. He’s constantly growing himself, even at his level. That’s true humility
When did you get to meet him?
@Lady Wintergreen - Written like a lady! ;)
he isn't a father figure at all lol, he is just known by the media that's all.
*_John 3.16 For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life. 17 For God did not send His Son into the world to condemn the world, but that the world through Him might be saved. 18 “He who believes in Him is not condemned; but he who does not believe is condemned already, because he has not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God. 19 And this is the condemnation, that the light has come into the world, and men loved darkness rather than light, because their deeds were evil. 20 For everyone practicing evil hates the light and does not come to the light, lest his deeds should be exposed. 21 But he who does the truth comes to the light, that his deeds may be clearly seen, that they have been done in God.”_* _Jesus Christ loves you. Only Jesus Christ saves. Repent and be saved. God bless you, and the grace of the Lord Jesus Christ, and the love of God, and the communion of the Holy Spirit be with you and your family._ -
@@fcos9704 not at all he just gives people advice to change and improve their lives or feel better about themselves. You know like a father does. Lol you have head in anus syndrome
Funny how everyone who dislikes Jordan Peterson just accuses him of being fake. Hardly seen a more real person in public discourse.
You don't get out much, do you?
@@radiojet1429 I knew it was you before i opened the comment. When will you clean your room?
he's a liar and a shill and also a fake
@@mephybooks7309 What exactly has he lied about substantially? I'm willing to open this dialogue. Please outline your accusation. In regards to being a shill, who is paying him. Lastly, how do you categorise a fake man? Then we can get somewhere.
thesalanian notice that his haters call him a liar and a nazi but can never provide a valid example.
You have to have respect for other people and you have to have respect for yourself. If you are missing either one, other people will not respect you. And believe it or not, those two can coexist.
My favourite tactic for heated arguments is to say " okay you're right" then say nothing... really stumps them. Because there is no reason left for the argument 😮😊
I met Jordan Peterson. It was brief, unexpected and unrehearsed. It was in the middle of the week in the middle of the day in a common area of TGH. I was in a very elevated state of anxiety at the time. My condition would be obvious to someone like him, but for me, from the moment we shook hands I felt the immediate change in my demeaner. An immediate calming down, foot off the gas, take a moment to breath type of change. The type of antidote a guy like Jordan Peterson is very good at administering. It felt real and it felt sincere. Like he took the weight from my shoulders and carried it away. Apparently it was noticeable 'cause when I went back upstairs to my son's room I had quite the glow on. I was asked "why so happy all of a sudden?". I met Jordan Peterson.
stereofect: You are an excellent communicator. Peterson would be impressed.
Love it
Where did you meet him? Im jealous!
Jordan Peterson is one of those rare human beings who actually thinks beyond a surface level and has the wisdom to see what is seen. Lucky you! I would love to speak to him.
@@deidrestadler8823 Toronto General Hospital (son was in the ICU). I don't know for sure where as there are so many hallways connecting so many buildings. But somehow I ended up rounding a corner going one way and he rounded a corner coming the other way.
Peterson will be seen as one of the most influential people of the decade without a doubt.
that gave me a good laugh :,D I thank you.
wheelzwheela what are you talking about? He already is seen like that.
Nah it’s Kim Kardashian!
wheelzwheela make that century! It’s been 60 years of “group think” thanks to advertising
Peterson will be seen as the charlatan of the decade, without a doubt.
To express your differing opinion but leave listener feeling validated is my aim in any discussion where there may be conflict of idea or beliefs or learnings.. And for me to learn.. I do know it can be difficult.. I feel proud after constructive chats like that
2:31 "From those who have nothing everything will be taken." that is quite a vicious statement...
What a coincidence, I just got back from Peterson's London lecture. I couldn't recommend him more highly.
Make Jordan Peterson a liberalist! I'd love to hear you and him have a discussion!
Sargon of Akkad Woah it's actually Sargon XD!
Woke Sargon
Pinochet was evil
Didn't expect to see you here
Dr Peterson is a societal necessity.
One could say he's an antidote to chaos... roughly speaking
In 1843, slavery in America was considered a social necessity. Mr. Peterson's atavistic views belong to that era.
@@radiojet1429 please elaborate
Radio Jet I see you’re throwing out baby with the bath water, like communists always do
To me it sounds like the key is humility. Speak with humility is the best way to make a point. -Richard in U.S.
The first point is what I have learned from many good debate session and I have been using it ever since, it is easier to change people mind that way, by seeing things through others point of view, try to understand their points, looking for a common ground in an argument is very important
When I'm in an argument I always make sure the other person feels heard and understood. I validate their opinions but what usually happens is they think I'm agreeing with them and they start to act even more smug and be all "see, I'm right you're wrong." And that right there just makes me want to punch their face with a chair
most people just want to hear that their right but continue being you and hopefully little by little it rubs off to some ppl.
Punch away.
A good listener/debater concedes to the other argument. Also ask questions that demand evidence. The goal is not to make them feel stupid but remind them of their burden of proof if they’re debating something.
U have to explain ur own story the way they will believe you more.
Watch Jordan Peterson in these interviews and watch and imitate. Learn from the best
One of the best, and honestly hardest to implement, pieces of advice I've gotten is to talk to other people as if they have something important they could teach you.
Just to be clear, not everyone has something important to teach you. But act that way. People try to pin JP down on that one all the time. "Aren't you supposed to act as if someone has something to teach you?" Sure, but that doesn't mean you're obliged to automatically agree with them. You may never. It's just a concession that you don't know everything.
Well, everyone has something, positive, negative, as examples that one can learn from. Every person, no matter their intelligence or education or life's circumstances was made as an individual.... with no one on earth being 100% identical. Every person has value.... maybe some contribute to mankind more than others, but there is a takeaway, large or miniscule from everyone. Hard to remember that sometimes for me as I let other things become more important than people sometimes. I need to be cognizant of that always. Have a good one, friends.
I'm commenting before watching the video, which is wrong but here we go: If you don't respect yourself, like true respect from the bottom of your heart, then nobody will. Maybe some will pretend they do, but that's all, no true respect. Here is the thing: love yourself, then you will respect yourself and others as a consequence. Then, you won't need others to show love or respect to you anymore. Another key point: respectable individuals will respect you. Assholes will disrespect you, no matter what. Peace.
In a world where most people are trying to "one up" the other person, JP is trying to educate AND better the world around him; he's doing that by making each person to be responsible about their own lives and with time they will improve their families, friends, communities. That by itself could change the world but unfortunately the world is against that type of mentality
Jordan Peterson's ability to converse with hostile people is a great lesson- I have learned from him.
That is truly a gift and an art form, when many of the best of us would eventually give up (on someone perhaps simply to irrational and emotional to tolerate any further [after a while]).
It looks like a background picture.
Ah dear now where was I ??😴😴😴
*_John 3.16 For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life. 17 For God did not send His Son into the world to condemn the world, but that the world through Him might be saved. 18 “He who believes in Him is not condemned; but he who does not believe is condemned already, because he has not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God. 19 And this is the condemnation, that the light has come into the world, and men loved darkness rather than light, because their deeds were evil. 20 For everyone practicing evil hates the light and does not come to the light, lest his deeds should be exposed. 21 But he who does the truth comes to the light, that his deeds may be clearly seen, that they have been done in God.”_* _Jesus Christ loves you. Only Jesus Christ saves. Repent and be saved. God bless you, and the grace of the Lord Jesus Christ, and the love of God, and the communion of the Holy Spirit be with you and your family._ -
I always get the impression that he never enjoys it, finds it somewhat exhausting, but despite that, he holds fast to his value of seeing the conversation through as respectfully as possible
His 20 years of Clinical Psychology really paid off.
@@himanshunaidu389 He hasn't cleaned his room yet.
Peter Jordanson is everyone's daddy
Nami Erins. Really? How much money has he earned? Lifetime pension too? Marriage material!
Why does that bother you?
it wasn't doing much, so he turned to pandering to fragile schoolboys, aka the nazis of new, with lobster diagrams of manliness to feel some sense of success
someone said: "love your neighbour as yourself" and added even "love your enemies." I think that Jordan Peterson made these statements a rule of life. That's why he's so successful and revered.
Jesus said , love your enemies!
Fantastic person to use as an example. Dr. Jordan Peterson deserves every bit of credit where its due. And then some. He's defended the rights of everyone tirelessly. He is the epitome of courage in the face of adversity. A true pit bull.
Big respect for JP. His book is out tomorrow, go get it!
Rhys Williams It comes out next Tuesday the 23rd..... one more week
Martin for me it's tomorrow. I'm in the UK and when I went on amazon US it said 23rd, different release dates maybe?
Rhys Williams Aww lucky! Yeah I guess in America it releases a week later!
What’s the title of the book? I’m interested!!!!
Alpha Notmale 12 rules for life, an antidote to chaos
"How to make people respect you?" Why on earth would you care what people think about you?..." I remember what an old guy once said... When I was 20 I was obsessed with what people thought of me... When I was 40 I stopped caring... But it was only when I was 70 that I realized people weren't thinking of me in the first place...
LOL 😂 SO Darn True, Love it!
The irony is not caring what other people think will earn you more respect than caring ever will. Many pioneers and great minds wouldn't have gotten where they did if they cared what others thought or let others opinions affect them.
We are herd animals and relationships are one of the basic "life blood" for humans. That's why we care. And.... that said, the comment about the ages 20, 40, then 70 of how we react to others caring about us is totally accurate! I am the oldest I've ever been (obviously, still alive.... grin) and caring about other's perception of me and respect they give me is down to this in my life..... "Sure I'd prefer people to respect and like me as opposed to not.... but .... if not.... some will, some won't.... and life goes on." Blessings everyone. Have a good one.
@@afterburned06 after many years trying to “spin plates”, in an attempt to keep others happy, I have learned my happiness needs to be more important and I spent years fighting the good fight, to keep myself happy! Your comment is helpful, also very true! I am no longer that girl. As my daughter used to say; “check yourself before you wreck yourself!” By George I Think I’ve Got It! 😎🙏
@@americanpatriot7247 Wise words... Now not too sure about "herd" though... definitely more "pack" man, me. But to be "your brother's keeper"and "caring"...now on that I stand with you 100%. Now standing together or standing alone...I know which I'd prefer. ...and I certainly know which makes me stronger... Like the name by the way us Irish love our American 'bigger brothers'...
Thank you for giving us this opportunity to get to know Jordan Peterson. Knowledge is Power. Now I understand & like him.
Dr Peterson has been studying peoples perspectives and the human condition for a long time. He has done so much research and he never goes out to fight or argue with anyone, but he has a lot of mad dogs that are out to get him. He's a very good honest man and we're lucky to have him around.
Being able to listen to others and not just react is a number one leadership skill 👑
Trudeau has none of the qualities mentioned here. Narcissists are not leadership material.
energyhealing one must react
I am an atheist but i watch Peterson's philosophical lectures to gain a better perspective of the world and human life
some would argue that peterson himself is atheist... at least towards the fundamentalist conception of god.
This is the 1st time I heard he is religious. Had no idea. Logic can still be gained by those who have an opinion or belief in religion or spirituality. Not everything is based on religion. Truth exist on.many.levels.
Tara Holt yes. Very true. I believe every word of Jesus. I don’t believe he actually existed.
@@wesbilly Jesus's teachings were basically about being a decent human being. Help others out. And just do good for the sake of doing good. One doesn't need religion to do just that.
Tara Holt exactly what I said.
Great video. We very often pick up an argument just to win, when actually it should be about helping each other grow, and society at large in the process.
Respect at the gal at 10:13. Whatever point she was trying to make, she was explaining calmly and methodically with ten or twelve guys who could start yelling at her (potentially). I'm sure that many of the gentlemen there were respectful and open-minded, but a better forum would be for everyone to be sitting in chairs and a moderator present. The fact that she and Mr Peterson could talk and that the gentlemen in the background were courteous is an example for all of us.
I had an English teacher who used to connect the contents he was teaching us to archetypes, using stories like Star Wars and Harry Potter to help us get into it and understand it better. Sadly, he was let go because my school apparently couldn't afford to pay some of the new teachers they hired and I was transferred to a different class. Mr. Lee was awesome.
I had a History teacher who used Jurassic Park and Star Wars to teach us about US History. He was an amazing person
@@colt2274 My gosh! How did he do it?? My history teachers never did that :D
"Seek to understand before being understood"
Respect breeds respect... actively listening and trying ti understand someone/ their point of view...a respectful action... will ultimately bring respect
You will be respected, as you respect yourself.
This is great. To earn respect you must first give respect.
Exactly :-)
i read a book about emotional cogntion and it made me realize that respect, just like happiness or sadness is an emotion that is influencial. So if you feel respect towards others or feel happiness towards others, they are very likely to feel that same emotion when they see and recognize it in you.
It's taken me over two years of watching Jordan to not only understand, but to be able to start incorporating his genuine concern for others while effectively communicating. Genius.
*_John 3.16 For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life. 17 For God did not send His Son into the world to condemn the world, but that the world through Him might be saved. 18 “He who believes in Him is not condemned; but he who does not believe is condemned already, because he has not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God. 19 And this is the condemnation, that the light has come into the world, and men loved darkness rather than light, because their deeds were evil. 20 For everyone practicing evil hates the light and does not come to the light, lest his deeds should be exposed. 21 But he who does the truth comes to the light, that his deeds may be clearly seen, that they have been done in God.”_* _Jesus Christ loves you. Only Jesus Christ saves. Repent and be saved. God bless you, and the grace of the Lord Jesus Christ, and the love of God, and the communion of the Holy Spirit be with you and your family._ -
@@williammunny9916 Seriously you shouldn't drink and post. A character from a Clint Eastwood movie mindlessly proselytizing on KZhead has nothing to offer but their own delusions.
I know exactly what you mean, Stephen. I see that dear JP is constantly suffering and transforming. He teaches with such coherence because his life goes before his words - he walks to talk. Bless him
Jordan is a poisoned dwarf and near hopeless drug addict
Jordan is a poisoned dwarf and near hopeless drug addict
I always wondered 'how do these simple people become gurus to the masses?'. After watching Dr. Peterson for so long, I must admit he shows the answer again and again. He must've found the jewel in the heart, the source of all knowledge. If so, it wasn't easy, it took hard work to get to the top of his field, and then boom! Illumination. (I'm sure he doesn't have all the answers but the sensible truth flows right out of him).
These 3 points are valuable. I disagree with the bully being respected. They garner fear, not respect...
It looks like Jordan Peterson has a permanent furrowed brow. He's always concentrating fiercely.
Henry Peter that's his job lol
That’s because his mind is always running in overdrive.
No, he furrows his brow because even he can't believe you buy all his crap.
As a non-native English speaker, I have difficulty understanding JP sometimes but when I do understand him, he makes a lot of sense with what he's saying. I love the way he explains philosophical ideas from psychologist perspective.
You write English better than a lot of native English speakers I have encountered.
I think there is some prerequisite information needed for some of the things he says to understand him. He uses a lot of metaphors, too, but they are explained elsewhere, or in his books.
garrulousglandarius ... exuse me, but my englrsh iz pufect 😋😋😋
You are exactly right. Thus isn't a fight but a way of going into discussion together.
Dr. petersen is a good teacher on many varieties of subjects. It’s true on this too that we need to have the other person speak & have their opinions listened to & respected.
Jordan Pepperson is a really smart guy
Mark M. Peterson not pepperson.
PhatCrayonz It’s a joke 😂
I think he said peppers om
2:22
Hahahahahaha I just came down here to see if anyone else got it too
Such a good topic, thanks so much for adding the part about "..and not being a bully". You can lead with empathy and still command awesome respect!
Yeah it's truly remarkable how a non-aggressive college professor has captivated the attention of so many people - I love it :-)
My favorite and personal kind of leadership, empathetic leadership
Not lead with empathy but sympathy I think
non-aggression makes you look weak! it leads dishonest people to try and bully and slander you
I dare say he is the most claver man alive!!! God bless him and keep him safe
THANK YOU SO MUCH for not using that manipulative background music (tinkling piano or weird violins) to try and evoke certain emotions... and instead, just narrate your video! I'll be watching a lot more of your videos because of this!
JP about to drop the hottest book of all time....ALL TIME!
Ma boy Elisha
You need to read the Gulag and repent.
Eli Eli pls
My boi eli long here 👊
Got it preordered and cannot wait!
"he's extra careful to not make you feel stupid about it" Flashbacks to the "ha gotcha" moment.
everything has its exception, dude! hehe
She deserved that so much. That interview is historical.
Ahah good point, but even that I think was a gentle move. He couldn't help it, after that woman was agressively trying to turn him into a villain the whole interview. And after getting to know the dude a bit better, I am now absolutely sure that, if he wanted, he could have absolutely humiliated Cathy and end her career on that interview.
Well, she deserved it
The gotcha was an out for her. Because her job was to dislike him, and without the “gotcha” she would have gotten in trouble in the court of public opinion.
I was expecting this to be another silly video but it actually made so much sense! And made me realize that when I argue, I really work to explain why the other is wrong, which puts people off and they shut down!
Love the subtle change of scene to Steven Crowder while saying "it actually makes people more open to CHANGING THEIR MIND"
The best 3 things you can do to make people respect you is to 1) listen actively, 2) apologize when you’re wrong, and 3) lead by example, especially during difficult situations.
I ve seen pple command respect without doing any of those things. It’s not really what you do or say but HOW.
Or what you can do is repeat what you thought you heard back to them and say so what I hear is you are telling me this is what you see or what you feel if he say yes now you have a basis to respond in which they’ve agreed to your thoughts on what you heard and are more likely to understanding hear you out
@@thinktankcritic5267 Pt 1 depends on the other person. Some are silent ,others are talkative. The majority is inbetween. Within both these groups there are bullies, actors but also gentles. The majority is usually inbetween these. If someone is talkative one has to listen for a while. If the person when done talking suddenly wants to do something else, he or she is either a narcissist or has ADHD disorder. In that case you won't be able to talk rationally to them. If needing to teach them something you must use other approaches.
Trump gets respect from his cult tho & has zero of these traits.
You forgot the most important one. "Make your commentary about them, not about yourself."
Everyone is a hero in their story. Thats why its important to listen
Iury Cabeleira what?
Don't mistake respect with fear. Fear can only keep people in line as long as it persists. Respect does not need constant show of force if even at all. That is why those who fear you, will betray you the moment there is nothing more to deter them. Those who respect you, will stay loyal or at least neutral.
Fear and respect do go hand in hand, however it's not as simple as it sounds. Fear(itself) is not respect as it invokes pressure and an uncomfortable, defensive yet cautious mindset into people. When feared, people listen to you indefinitely to avoid confrontation and truthfully lack affection and *Respect* towards you. Respect is when someone projects your worth and has affection for you because they feel you are affectionate towards them yet they *Fear* the absence of your affection for them. I respect God so I hold fear towards him. Fear is the absence of respect. Respect is the absence of hatred.
@@AnAcousticCow oh yes I agree with ur statements. Love invokes respect and love what is love? I see that love is respect, he first loved us and respected us, now we love and respect (fear) him!!
When arguing don't assume that you are always right, always be open on the possibility that you might be wrong, and constantly criticize or question your own beliefs so that if you enter an argument or a discussion, you'll be more likely to answer any questions against your beliefs as you probably already asked those questions to yourself before.
_"I will teach you about Jung today - so let's talk about the Lion King"._ The Jordan Peterson we all know and love.
I DON'T KNOW WHY IT IS ..BUT, I GET THIS AWFUL BAD GUT FEELING, WHEN PEOPLE REFER TO MOVIES AS A EXAMPLE OF 'ANYTHING' ?! I ONLY FIND FEW " MOVIES " INTERESTING, OR EVEN ENTERTAINING ! RARELY, IF EVER, WOULD I RECALL SOME LINE FROM A MOVIE AS ANYTHING WORTH REMEMBERING , FOR ANY GOOD REASON !! MAYBE THAT'S JUST ME ..BUT I GUESS I DON'T SEE THEM AS IN ANYWAY 'REAL' ..OR HAVING ANYTHING TO DO WITH THE 'REAL' 'WORLD' !! MORE LIKE 'CHEWING GUM' FOR THE 'EYE BALLS', A WAY TO PASS SOME TIME ,WHILE YOUR WAITING FOR SOMETHING TO HAPPEN, OR YOUR BORED , HAVE ABSOLUTELY NOTHING AT ALL TO DO, NO READING MATERIAL WORTHWHILE AROUND , OR TRYING TO MAKE A LONG WAIT, NOT SEEM SO LONG !!? I GET ANNOYED WHEN PEOPLE WANT TO POINT TO SOMETHING THEY HEARD OR SAW IN A MOVIE AS A REFERENCE ..MAYBE I DIDN'T SEE THAT MOVIE ! OR IF I MIGHT HAVE, JUST NEVER GAVE IT ANY REAL THOUGHT OR ATTENTION !! I WOULD RATHER READ A GOOD BOOK WELL WRITTEN ..AND GET MY INFORMATION, INSPIRATION , IDEAS , THOUGHTS ON " THINGS " FROM THAT AS APPOSED TO A "MOVIE" !? I THINK OF MOVIES AS MORE OF , IT WAS ENTERTAINING ,FUNNY, SCARY , SAD , INTERESTING, STRANGE , DIFFERENT, BORING , BAD , POORLY MADE , ON VERY RARE OCCASIONS WOULD I REMEMBER ANYTHING FROM A MOVIE AS IMPORTANT , UNLESS IT WOULD BE A DOCUMENTARY ..A TEACHING MOVIE , HISTORICAL , "IF" AND ONLY "IF" IT WAS ACCURATE !! I JUST DO NOT HOLD MOVIES IN HIGH ESTEEM ! AND I HATE TO WATCH A MOVIE MORE THEN ONCE .. MY RECALL IS VERY GOOD ! SO I DON'T WANT TO SIT THROUGH IT AGAIN !!! THAT'S THE VERY "HEIGHT OF BOREDOM" TO ME !!
No mention of fishing for the fish that can’t be fished before fishing Jordan’s loves horses rideing every Thursday morning regardless of his daylight working schedule Jennifer please diocesan the fence 🌹🎲🌹
Omg Laurelindo, I'm so sorry this trainwreck of a reply thread happened to you. This is madness! I hope you heal well
I got a sudden urge to clean my room...
EXXTSON What to do when you share a room with a careless slob? Ooh wait, I will get a new room/mate? Nevermind let them all live in their filthy pens. My side is clean. Next lesson....
Do it! You'll feel better after
I got a sudden urge for lobster.
hah - good one !
EXXTSON thanx 4 reminding me that I need 2 do the same. 😊😅
I don't know whether it's conscious or not, but Peterson acts as a resonating beacon of empathy, so much to the point that he becomes overwhelmed with emotion while commentating on the human experience. This guy feels everything, probably to the point that he might carry it like a burden, and be a major depressive and little else. But no, turns out he is strong and smart and caring enough to wonder, in his own misery, 'How can I transform this tragedy into a lesson of resillience for my students?' F-ing incredible. People think he's a con artist or a carnival barker of some sort but they don't know what the hell they're talking about. JP - you either get it or you don''t.
He reminds me of my grade 10 social Studies Teacher. Speaks his mind and firsthand experience around the world.
He is very knowledgeable..so he has confidence which in of itself commands respect.
JORDAN IS THE HERO WE NEED
no he's not
Mugiwara no Link how messy is your room?
No, you're the hero you need, you just have to save your father from the belly of a dragon first!
Alespider thank you for asking the right questions.
But not the hero we deserve
Respect is earned not by trickery.
Perhaps people say they don't need people to respect them. they don't understand that respect also comes with lessons from the respected due to their wisdom and life lessons. Those people are our teachers who help us to learn about life.
I love how you break down Peterson's effectiveness. After losing my temper during a real estate deal, and feeling like a fool after, I googled for insight and found your channel thus discovering the badassness that is Jordan Peterson. Keep up the good work!
Wow. I'm also Googling "Jordan Peterson communication" after losing my temper in a real estate deal.
@@bryanwirthlin4444 Wow! Me too.
@@lawdogwales5921 me too!!
Me too 🤦♂️
Good for you, that was your reaction!
I actually almost though you called him "Jordan Pepperson" 2:20 in 😂😭😂😂
Edgar Allan Tone I legit heard Pepperson
Bro same
Haha peppers in pepperson... or suitably, Jordan Peppy-son...?
Lol jokes
Wait he didn’t say pepperson?
He is brilliant and a brilliant clinician- a part of that is the training one has to be a therapist or psychologist though. He's completed 10's of thousands of clinical hours and these "verbal tricks" are not tricks but essential pieces of rapport building and effectiveness in therapy and happy to be very effective in communicating with others as well.
not only preventing shame in paradigm shifts, but informing them that despite the reason against your own belief, you still have plenty of reason to believe.
Here's the untold secret to ensuring people respect you: be worthy of respect.
@Hello there, how are you doing this blessed day?
Haha now it's told
"Clean up your room" means also to start getting your live in order in little steps. It's the idea that if your life is a mess, surely there is always one little part that you can do to make your life a little better. This in the end spirals you upwards. You don't just go out fight the dragon, you first get your armour fixed and think about what exactly you will do, which ultimately raises your chances of killing the dragon.
Jordan is a poisoned dwarf and near hopeless drug addict
Jordan is a poisoned dwarf and near hopeless drug addict
This is good guidance when interacting with normal nonpsychotic people. These good generally applicable effective approaches are counterproductive and ineffective when one interacts with a Narcissist, a Sociopath or a Psychopath. This is important to understand considering 3 out of every 100 people are psychotic.
I noticed that the older I get, the more younger people want to tell me about themselves, and that makes listening-waters run-deep :)
About Damn time!
Charisma had to clean his room first, don't wanna end up like those bloody marxists who are resentful and bitter.
Preach
Takar 109 lol nice
Sean Henry Newman wtf? You clearly don't understand Marxism. Peterson is a wonderful speaker and sounds so smart and reasonable he appears to make sense, just think it over a bit, go a little deeper and you'll start to question his subtext. He's really very simple and not all that helpful for most people
sylvieis agreed. Peterson also often sounds very bitter and angry at colleges - he doesn't come across well at all imo. He has a very rabid cult though who seem to believe he's God and can do or say no wrong.
It is my great privilege to live in the time of two great thinkers, Jordan Peterson and Thomas Sowell.
Thomas Sowell is still the Master! I follow him on Twitter.
well, ok, no, Sowell is a mastermind but his peak was like 1980
What about some female gurus ? I am sure you can dig up some…there are tons. Just try a bit ok
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@@thinktankcritic5267 Louise Hay
This sort of content is exactly why I'm a subscriber and listen closely to people like yourself and Mr Peterson. Bravo.
Respect is earned not commanded, demanded.
I have the utmost respect and admiration for Dr. Peterson. I changed my entire life just watching his stuff on KZhead. Very few people have that kind of power. I hope he continues to inspire and do great work ❤️
Hazar Younis same. I have gone to church almost all my life and they have never inspired the same level of change.
Start thinking for yourself fool
Presiqn Qnkov....and may I ask where you get your ideas from, Mr. I’m-so-original?
Respect is earned. Deference or submission is commanded.
Jordan is such an amazingly, kind and intelligent person. I love to watch his videos and to the narrator for lack of better terms of this video, you too are a very intelligent interesting person as well. For you to be able to interpret, express and explain, wow just amazing! Thank you, 😇♥️