Jordan Peterson: 3 Habits You Should Avoid At All Costs
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Jordan Peterson has hundreds of hours of interviews and lectures on KZhead but with so much volume it can be tough to distill the essence of his life philosophy. And to make things even more difficult, he sometimes uses abstract language like this. It's within the individual that redemption can be... manifested, let's say. And even in so far as the state is concerned because the state's proper functioning is dependent on the proper functioning of the individual rather than the reverse, most fundamentally.
That is actually the most concise explanation of his life philosophy that I've heard but what does it mean concretely? Well, today we're going to break down the three things that you should and should not in order to live an exceptional life according to Dr. Peterson. And I'm going to simplify as best as I can in order to keep this simple to understand; forgive me for that Dr. Peterson. Also, at the end, I'm going to get some concrete actions to you that you can take today in order to move forward on each point.
0:56 Fix yourself before you fix the world
2:14 Tell the truth
7:14 Refusing to acknowledge your "shadow"
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"Yesterday I was smart so I wanted to change the world, Today im wise so im changing myself." - Someone
Jaleddine Rumi I guess
Rumi
Shrek
Confucius
Me
I was pretty honest with my boss once, then i was fired. Still dont regret it.
Well thats very wise of you, I would do the same. Self respect comes first than anything.
Jay L are you ok
@Natasel hahahhahahhah
Same here :D
Jay L yo what?
Saw this quote on instagram a while a go and it stuck with me. "Before you go trying to change other people, remember how hard it is to change yourself."
Damn. That's a good one. And all about empathy, which is so vital to relationships of all kinds, especially intimate ones.
"Take out the beam in your own eye, before taking out the speck in another's eye."
That’s really good.
Brilliant.
The grass is only greener on the other side because you haven't watered your own side
*Rule no.1 "treat yourself like someone you're responsible for helping*
That's not the no. 1 rule
That's rule no. 2 I think lol
@Caroline W ...I know I was talking about rule 2...
rule no. 1 is : do not talk about rule 1
Love your neighbour as yourself
*Q:* Why did Jordan Peterson cross the road? *A:* The answer isn't obvious. It's bloody serious. It's no joke, man.
Sebastian Elytron totally read that in his voice
Sebastian Elytron it’s not a little grim.... it’s a lot grim..... as grim as it gets!!
I mean roughly speaking, depends what you mean by a road. Right ! (with a finger in the air) When you see a road, (putting both hands in parallel) you don't see a road, right, you see a crossing place.
LOL
well, it depends what you mean by cross! do you intend to betray the road? or merely to traverse it. that's why jesus slayed the dragon
Jordan Peterson: Clean up your whole room. Me: looks around with clothes everywhere and an unmade bed. Ah yes, society must change
I FELT THAT
Uh uh 😐 lol
My table: 💻📚📑💡📖📚 📚📑📖📄📚🗃️ 📚📖📙📘🗃️📄
How are you bro? I just finished with the cleaning..... i hope you succeeded also! ;)
In process of cleaning sir!
Last night I told a girl I'd been seeing off and on for three years that I was done. I was so used to her constant criticism and insults (disguised as "helpful advice", of course) that I was numb. It felt great!!!
@Channel34 Good question! It's hard to say because I don't think she was even aware of it, but I think it had something to do with our "on again, off again" status. If your friend is making a mistake, then tell him, but be sure the "help" is motivated by genuine concern and not just bullying. ;)
Proud of you man. Hope you're doing good!
@@fried2styles Proud of you. Was in the same position, but then she got pregnant.... So what you managed to do in a simple decision i'll never be able to, because we'll always need contact to some extent in order to care for our son. :)
Why does JP put out all the complex nuances to the general public? Because you know that it is important for people to learn “how” to think as opposed to “what” to think. There is a stark difference!!
Iv been telling that to people hut couldn't frame it probably but you did it
Thor Loki because we don’t know how to think as good as he can. i would be in a ditch if it weren’t for his teachings man
To confuse the population so that the lobster-man uprising can begin!
Yes! And, unfortunately, public schools, colleges, and universities have been teaching students "what" to think since the 1980s.
That's exactly why I love JP so insanely much. Absolutely beautiful how he teaches.
I think these breakdowns are really what set your channel apart from others, other creators have tried to copy you, but no one really pulls it off like you guys do. I'd like to do stuff like this in the future. Love this channel man, you improving the lives of young men and women everywhere. Keep it up!
Masculine Man Well said. Keep it up too, man.
Masculine Man I completely agree channels like this one really inspire me to do something like this
Charlie and his channel are AWESOME!!! He should do one on Jason Momoa.
@masculine man Dont kid yourself. Everyone copies everyone, including 'Charisma On command'. Its normal though, i wouldnt even use the word 'Copying' rather 're-packaging', such as C on C has just done with Petersons lectures and youtube material.
I think Ned Stark's head might take a bit of issue with the whole "telling the truth inevitably leads to good" axiom... Sometimes, especially in the face of great corruption or tyranny, clandestine operations are the only way to effect positive change.. that's why we have spies.
If everyone worked on these 3 problems, the world would change for the better. "Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one wants to change themselves." Tolstoy
Live Free everyone wants to save the world but no one wants to help mom do the dishes
thanks for the actual quote :)
wow that's a great quote. so simple but so true. thanks for sharing. is it from some of his books or is it just something that he said?
Everyone wants to Change the world but nobody wants to Change the toilet paper.
Good luck getting everyone in the word to do anything. Just not possible, sorry.
I told the truth, and all hell broke loose, then a better heaven emerged.
I get many peoples to hate me for telling the true
@@lonewolf-oc9vr I read this statistic once that said most people lie to avoid getting into trouble. Sounds about right lol
@@lonewolf-oc9vr telling the truth can also mean facing the truth.
The law of life 😘
"I'm starting with the man in the mirror..."
total egoism. broken people can help each other. look at the comment section here.
@@tartanhandbag You'll have to elaborate on that.
@@tyskbulle not to knock your MJ quote here, this is more for the "you can't help others until you've helped yourself" crowd, which i appreciate isn't directly implied by starting with the man in the mirror. my point is that this train of thought can lead people to total egoism; a selfishness that puts the focus on your own individuality rather than the way we interact and create a community. in a sentence what i mean is, *"dont feel like you have to stay in front of the mirror until you're perfect before you go out and try and help the world"*, because if we do that, we'll create a world of narcissists, staring at our own reflections waiting for perfection while the world burns. Even if we were to "perfect ourselves" first, it may have been so long since our initial struggle we may not be able to relate to it any more, making us worse at helping others. this is a common problem for professors teaching undergrad classes; it's been so long they don't understand how anyone could be struggling with such simple ABC level stuff, making them, in that scenario, poor educators. alternatively, it's often "broken" people who can help each other the best, because they relate the most, like the comments sections of self-help videos, or in other similar forums, such as support groups.
X4rrr You emphasize the importance of community and brotherhood more than most. Some have been put off from that idea because they try to help others but it backfires
This is a great quote.
"Figure out which ideas are possessing you." Whoa.
This is going to be a gargantuan task and one that may be painful.
Jordan Peterson may be possessing you.
I'm possessed by the idea that feminism is everywhere, attacking me for being male.
dude, try writing some poetry if you want to make shadows appear! my own ideas came in by the boatload, but because i started with being inspired by things perceived to be of the light, i came to see that, if i just write, about this darkness over here, within me, then i can get to know it, and it sounded scary at first but, art in this form, will show you what you really think of youeself., it will help you get past your perceptions of your supeficial self but, you have to be aware though, that art invites criticism by its very nature.... no more words on this, you figure it out!
@@introgauge hey, thats a helluvan idea!
This channels helps me become a top lobster
Don’t be a crawdad
Jordan Peterson is awesome. I love how he drew that comparison and then that was all that Cathy could pull from that line of thought XD. Made me crack up. Maybe Jordan should make a shirt that says, "Top Lobster" XD
So you're saying that we should be a strawman?
Oh yeah yeah
Todd Starbuck such a motivator. JP is a good parent you want to live up to his ideal of you.
11:53 "..the answer to the problem of humanity is the integrity of the individual" Dr Jordan Peterson. "The greatness of a man is not in how much wealth he acquires, but in his integrity and his ability to affect those around him positively" Bob Marley.
The 2 statements seem barely related except the fact that they are about integrity. It seems like you're attempting to raise Bob Marley to Jordan Petersons level when that's not the case.
That’s rich coming from Bob. He had one wife yet nine children by different women. Was his wife ‘positively affected’ by his philandering?
I feel like Marley would have been a much better example to use for this video ironically enough lmao
@@bryantav6843 what do you mean that's not the case? What are you trying to say? My intent was simply to put up two good quotes that are meaningful despite whoever said them or the qualities of the person that said them
@@DanBrown96 no one is perfect don't you know? Music by Bob Marley and the Wailers has enriched the lives of millions of people. Bob is a legend. What have you ever done with your life that's so great? You never made a mistake in your life huh?
"If you want to upset someone tell them a lie. If you want to infuriate someone tell them the truth."
1. Fix yourself before you fix the world 2. Telling the truth instead of lying to avoid reality 3. Integrating your shadow Do the thing that I am afraid to do - Live the consequences of telling and acting out the truth.
#3 is perhaps the most difficult one to achieve.
@@GottfriedLeibnizYT ive done all these. Unfortunately i waited and now i have crippling anxiety
And clean your damn room
In other words, don't be like trump.
Isn't it hypocritical, that JP tells lies, while telling others to tell the truth? JP needs to do more research, before he debates about something.
1.Self discipline. 2.Truth and integrity. 3.Acknowledge and integrate "Shadow".
2. carefully telling the truth, you HAVE TO BE "Careful" about the truth or even how to tell it.
Thank you
@@Vertutame Yeah.... there is a danger of being possessed by the idea of truth... Of course, you can be a moron and crave having the truth or being right, but then you can be more sophisticated about it and while knowing that you can never "be right", you can still be identified and possessed by getting things right and center all your life around it, which is probably motivated by fear of being wrong (thats the shadow part here) and that can prevent you from acting and its also pretty tough on your relationships, especially if youre smart.
@@DarkHound9999 I struggle with the "telling the truth" idea, as you don't really know the truth... what you have is an understanding of what you percive as reallity, which is limited by your knowledge and experience and intelligence, and your truth may not be the real truth. I find relief in saying "from my point of view, what I see is" and then describe my truth. This way I start a discussion, share ideas about what I know, and become more receptive to feedback I may not know. We all live in our own perseption of the world, our own delusion
@@DarkHound9999 if I need to be honest, the truth can be good or bad, if we put in context, truths that are dangerous and would cause incredible danger to society as a whole, should be kept, there are some moments when truths may benefit everyone but there will be moments where the truth is best kept hidden like an information hazard.
"Do what is right let the consequence follow"
"everybody wants change. Don't nobody wanna change though." -NF
Didn’t expect to see an NF quote here... Not gonna complain tho
I stood up to a friend that bullied me and his mom told my moms friend that she is proud that someone finally stood up to him. Thank you so much. I been trying g my hardest to learn everything I can from yall i want to get ur DVDs but I'm broke as all shit but trying to change. Ur youtube has helped to much thank u again
Wow. That's crazy. Kind of sad - the relationship between him and his mother. Interesting. But good for you!
@Kurt E. Clothier That is, in my opinion, a disgusting perversion of the parent-child relationship. An extreme failure as a parent. Everyday I struggle to learn how to be a better mom and support my husband in becoming a better father. I will make a lot of mistakes on this journey. But what I won't do is sacrifice my children on the altar of convenience. But, I believe in God. I believe that children are the most amazing, wonderful gift any person could receive. I believe that God intended for parents to guide, protect and cultivate the hearts and souls of their children. And I believe we will have to answer for how we executed that mission.
Love it. We had a guy at work , 2 levels of management above me, strong arming a bunch of people around. JP inspired me to speak the truth with confidence. I escalated all the way up to the CEO. Once I did that , lots of people followed whom he had been bossing around. He ended up getting fired and the company is so much the better. And I'm on a first name basis with senior management now. He's so right that saying the truth - in the right way at the right time - eventually will have the best outcome.
Of the three I'd say telling the truth seems easiest in theory but is hardest in practice.
It requires acknowledgement that you are not living up who you know you can be.
You should try cleaning my room
Absolute honesty is like absolute pacifism - it's a beautiful ideal but impractical. Just as if the USA had unilaterally disarmed it would have been invaded by the USSR, telling the truth in all situations will make life hard for you.
Yeah Jordan seems to have trouble with that one.
@@oliverford5367 the best lies are the ones that are believeable not lies that are complete lies. So truth is still the best option also you don't have to say everything how much truth you tell is up to you just be silent instead of lying.
“Tell the truth to get the best possible outcome of the situation.” I like that you explore the scary what-ifs on this one. This is some really solid advice, thanks for sharing.
I always realize I have more and more to work on still whenever I watch a JP lecture. Your videos here have also caught me off guard and have so far consistently been very deep and insightful. Thank you for sharing your videos with the world.
Rule #1: Stand Up Straight With Your Shoulders Back
And what exactly does that achieve? Assuming you dont stand straight to begin with.
That's possibly the dumbest thinking to take away from Peterson.
Did you guys read the book??
A terrible advice from the martial arts point of view) Or any effecient body mechanics, for that matter. Of course that's exactly the reason why Jordan suggests it ;)
@@Orimthekeyacolite Yeah, it's known that keeping the back too straight is an unnatural position. Most of us are very slightly hunched as that takes pressure from the back.
As far I can understand its: 1) Face your problems. 2) Take responsibility and do so in acceptable maner. 3) Take controll over your actions.
well that is just absurd, you must want to return to the 1950s where everything for blacks and women and gays and everyone not white male were a true hell on earth(sarcastically)
Jeffrey Smith Phew, at first I got worried thinking you were being serious.
iT DIDN'T WORK IN THE BEGINNING OF TIME. Ref to Bhagavad Gita. Only work the way the employer treats the employee.: (1) Never pay the employee up front. (2) Never pay what they deserve. (3) Never ever trust the employee. If you apply these rules any where any time you are a winner.
nate m That’s not accurate as far as I can tell. If you don’t pay your employees what they deserve they go on strike or leave to another company.
4) clean your room
Thanks man this was so good. Finally confronted my boss, he promoted me to a customer
Lmaoooo
If you’ve changed yourself, you’ve already changed the world. You present to the world what you hold inside.
Another video about Jordan Peterson, you are spoling us.
Muffin Guy what does spoling mean?
Muffin Guy nice digimon pic. Cute
he's playfully saying they're giving us too much of a good thing
and he's playfully saying they spelled something wrong
Greg Masterman You spoled his joke
This video helped me a lot to think about my mother. What could I do to help her around the house and I thought about three things. A, I can put away the clean dishes to help her for a start, B put the cans that were on the table put them in the recycle bag, C put the trash into the trash-bag. I did those three things and stopped myself, while I was watching this video. Thank you so much for this helpful information, that you need to help the people in your family and yourself, before helping the world and make it a better place.
I watched this video a couple months ago and impulsively hit the gym, Today I hit my fitness goals. Thanks for this vid bud
Siddharth congratulations man :) I just got done in the gym and am in he shower actually. That’s awesome though keep it up. I’m proud of you, whoever you are lol
@@jessejive117 :) Thanks man this comment made my day
Siddharth that’s good to hear dude because I’m usually talking about politics with people so I’m happy to hear I’ve said something to lift someone up!
everyone just wants a good pep talk from a strong male role model apparently
Siddharth I’m late to the reply, but thanks to JP, over the past year I’ve read more than I ever thought, organized my home, maintained a spotless interior of my car, reconciled my relationship with my father... geez I could go on and on! I love all the incredible ways Dr Peterson has influenced the world for the better forever 😊😊 Congrats on achieving your goals and taking care of yourself, man-take care of yourself like you are someone you’re responsible for helping. Keep it up 💪
When I listen to Jordan Peterson, I find that within nano-seconds I'm thinking "I can't stomach this guy" to the point that I'm resistant to what he has to say, no matter how valid it might be. Anyone else feel anything like this, or does everybody else in the world just love him?
Yeah to me he's very eloquent and sounds smart but also lacks humility and kind of sounds like an apathetic asshole. He's also quite right wing (believes in traditional gender roles and stuff like that), which can put off a lot of people even more.
Why can't you stomach it?
@@sevsthepokey Dude, I don't know. I honestly don't have any idea what this guy thinks about any subject because I just find him repellent. To me he's anti-charismatic. He's charm Kryptonite. I just instantly experience his countenance as smug and arrogant, which I always read as betraying some level of deep personal insecurity or at least social dysfunction. Just don't like him, though I guess plenty of others do. To each his/her own.
@@cwbrooks5329 I feel the same and I think it is linked to my deep dislike of narcissists. He has some good points but he acts like when he invented it when it is distilled from old philosophy.
@@Maculazy Ha. Yeah, he reeks of narcissism. Agreed, narcissists are a hot button for me as well. I know you're supposed to feel sorry for them, but the best I can manage is to walk away. Which I guess is what I'm doing when I pull the plug on this guy.
"Fix yourself before you fix the world." - extremely true. You need to be selfish first in order to become selfLESS
Wrong. You need to be humble to become selfless.
Fixing yourself before fixing world isn't selfish. If you wouldn't do it that way, you would just be hypocrite...
What he meant is that you should look out for yourself first, so you're in a position to look out for others, like trying to get on stable ground first before you pull someone else up. If you don't, you'll just pull yourself down.
The problem with the way this claim is made, whether it is by Peterson or by other ultra-conservatives, is that it's always strongly tied to the subjective opinions of the person making it. "Tidy your room" might seem like an acceptable standard, ethically benign and good advice. Yet appearances are often deceiving. The way it is used to imply that a person's ability to impose order on his surroundings is directly tied to his worth and intelligence is a standard that is not only ethically bankrupt, but also divorced from reality. Even putting aside the numerous studies that suggest a correlation between a chaotic mind and intellectual potential, simply by looking at the examples of history anyone would realize that this standard would lead a society to dismiss Einstein (which the fascist Nazi regime that valued obedience and absolute order did, losing one of their most valuable assets), Isaac Newton (arguably the greatest mind in recorded history) and many more other great artists, scientists and even politicians. Again I have to stress that this is not really about whether we should judge someone by his willingness to tidy his personal space, but about the dangers of idealizing order and structure to the point that one places it above the ideals of liberty and justice, something that I have regularly observed Peterson doing. Behind his neo-conservative rhetoric there is a darker shade of the colors he sports. He often references freedom of speech and yet his rhetoric routinely strays to denunciation of attempts to change society be means of conversation and a great willingness to dismiss people rather than their opinions. Another point one will notice on closer inspection is that he overuses "arguments from authority", or arguments that do not mainly rely on logical consistency but rather the arbitration of a particular individual or institution. Not to say that he does not have a certain mastery of logical arguments, but rather, that he seems to, perhaps without full awareness, dispense with that critical pattern of thought when asserting certain values (e.g. every single damn time he uses the term "traditional"). All these points combine to the rather chilling suggestion, that beyond conservationism, the ideals he champions are deeply authoritarian. That is not to say that he is necessarily unintelligent, or incapable, or that all his suggestions are invalid. The real problem is that besides these qualities his dogmatic point of view and attachment to the ideas he has been raised with seem to undermine those values and drive him to a severely harmful political movement. [Based on his opinions on child rearing and his references to his family and early life; he probably had a strict childhood that effectively indoctrinated him into his core ideas, those being religious, political and even rational.]
At this point I would like to add that the idea of people not deserving to voice political concerns until they conform with a societal norm is founded on the base ideology of fascism, particularly that of the '30's and Hirohito Japan.
Love him or hate him, Jordan is one of the most important and influential public intellectuals of our time. He is providing an abundance of what I would deem to be useful and necessary social criticism.
blownspeakersss He gives simplistic life advice that we’ve all heard before. Honestly.
Sprax he’s an inspiration for conservatives and right wings that’s why they like him
Fabuleux Which is somewhat sad to be honest
How? Everything logical he says is common sense. When he tries to be specific and unique he talks bullshit.
Sprax Peterson explains the reasons why the things we've known for so long to be true is actually true.
I feel really grateful that people like this are still out there , it makes me happy even though I have always been hurt by today's idiocyncrocies
Thank you this video made me clean my room
mood
I just realized, I have the same traits as the person I hate the most. Thanks charisma on command, I will try to eliminate them.
Cereal Killer the traits, not the person... Right?
I believe the point of the video is, that you can not eliminate them, but you have to accept/integrate them
ElBosso However, my problem is lying. I can't integrate that into my life anymore.
Integrate the fact that it's your desire to lie and understand your shadow. Why do you lie? Tell the truth because it's not easy but then don't ignore that you are a liar. Knowing your shadow is important.
ArdentRage I like boasting about things that I don't have. I think it's about time for a reality check. I'm piss poor, but it isn't a crime. I will work hard to achieve success or I will die trying.
One of the people I resent and love at the same time, the most in this world is my mom. And as I grew up, I became completely like her in terms of temper and lack of emotional control. She was not accepted by my dad majority of the time and took out her frustrations on us, and I too did the same to my younger siblings. For a decade I hated my self for my existence, and all the pain I had caused my family but looking at this video made me truly realize this about myself
I love this here. "Embrace your own shadow." It's so true, I have some of the exact same personality traits that I abhor in others who are close to me. 😥
6:38 This is why your channel is so good and you provide so much value to us. You don't expect us to just take everything you say at face value, you want us to consider everything ourselves and through experience. You truly want us to be our best.
We need Dr House video.
Sheol_IK Yes!
oh boy
Omg
Charlie is a Dr. Peterson fan confirmed
Sharveya Parasnis Hey who wouldn't be he's amazing
Katharina Nieves People who misunderstand/misinterpret what he's saying, and then demonize him.
D L people? you mean media outlets paid off by some lefties who want to make propaganda
Pretty much anyone who isn't a fan of him is because of unfair bias, or misinformation. Or at least that's the case with all of those people that i've met/seen
Sharveya Parasnis why would one not be...
What a great KZhead channel! I randomly clicked on one video and I think I've continuously watched four now. I also love how you recap all your points at the end of the videos. Really helps cement things in. Keep up the great work!
I've been called confrontational several times and it confused me because I never tried to start one. My therapist told me to think of it as observational, I prefer this take on living truth no matter the consequences. I appreciate this channel so much!
People thought you were confrontational because you were speaking the truth?
Jordan Peterson is a blessing to humanity.
he is. he really is.
How? He has degrees and stuff and has never said anything smarter than a random guy in a bar. He is almost a stereotype of what stupid people think a smart person sounds like.
Jordan Peterson is a car salesman, he's slick. He's repackaging and reselling a bunch of already proven concepts from other self help people. As for his "activism" for free speech and fighting bill c-16 he's acting as if this was the tipping point, that the next day people would be arrested for accidentally misgendering people. Even thought his Provence had this rule on the books for over 5 years. And this was it just being passed Federally in Canada. See, the law is just to add "intentional misgendering" into the language of hate speech, so if you employ someone who is trans, and they say "please refer to me as female" and they are seeing a therapist, and having to live for a few years as the gender before they can start talking about surgery. And you as their employer say "nope, I'm going to call you by your born name, and I'm going to call you butch and manly and mr big-cock" in an effort to bully the person out of their job, to make this as illegal as firing someone because you found out that they were gay. What JP paints is a situation where someone is working in a store and someone walks in looking androgynous, and because you didn't refer to them as Zim when you first introduced yourself to them, that you'd going to be taken in handcuffs to a Gulag. That is just not what the bill, or the existing legislation in his region dictated. It is specifically for situations where someone is being harassed using their old name and gender. The same thing happens with landlords that want to get rid of their trans-tenants, they start bombarding them with letters in their birth name. It's about expanding the existing protections that already exist to cover another group of people. The only people who should ever be worried about this law, are bigots who want to bully and harass trans folk. And while I can be intellectually honest enough to say that I actually believe that people who hate trans people, should still have the right to free speech. Mine is purely a consequential reasoning, because the bigots opening their mouths and being harassers and bullies put a target on themselves. The rest of the good people society won't have anything to do with them, they will boycott their businesses and refuse to rent from them. Society shouldn't need the intervention of the state. That the best disinfectant is daylight, and by making a law to force bigots underground you push them into quiet corners where they can pas as regular good people of society. But even that I doubt from time to time, as I'm reminded how powerful segregation was, that it certainly required intervention to bring in the civil rights act. Is the civil rights movement enough or does it need further legislation like bill c-16 to keep the tide moving towards a more inclusive society?
Dreadnaught1985 hey man this was a super interesting read. Do you have a blog or something?
Unfortunately you still need to achieve certain level of maturity to notice it. He cant fix people who never experienced any difficulties in their lifes (read social activists)
Peterson is the 🐐
🐐 for shortest
he is not the goat, he is kermit
You are wrong he is the lobster.
Also the Lord of Lobsters and Cleaner of Rooms
The Majestic Cheesehead Lolacor?
I'm a Jordan Peterson fan. He's really made a difference globally on so many people. And then on your channel you take so many complex and confusing aspects on an everyday's life for everyone, but you get to the very essence. Simple and concrete, as shown on this video. Dude. That's something. That's very difficult to do. Much Congrats. You've got something special going on
Dr. Jordan Peterson saved my life. For that, I am most grateful.
Jordan Peterson has honestly changed my life for the better!
Daisy how so?
In my early adulthood I made it a conscious point to practise this: _do not emulate the undesirable actions/behaviours of other people_ So, much of my accumulated wisdom today is not so much about what's the correct thing to do, but recognising the observed mistakes I should not be doing. To put it as another phrase, "Those who do not remember and learn from history are doomed to repeat it." The result is I've forged relationships and reputation that hardly makes me appear like an enemy to others. Based on the feedback people give me, I can sincerely believe this is a direction I can continue ahead.
Telling the truth to family that ignores their shadow is the worse.
This video opened my eyes to reality
This was such a exceptionally great video from you, great job!! The research, arguments, and emphases were so on point. There is a lot of life value in this video, I'll definitely be watching this again occasionally.
I love Jordan Peterson He can get confusing sometimes but he's a very interesting and wise person. Thanks for doing this
~ Our pleasure! Thanks for watching. :-)
Nyle Murad yeah he sometimes goes to a point where it's almost confusing but he gets on board again n jus love his advises
This is the kind of literary analysis that I love. 👏👏
'Integrate with the shadow' I'm following Dr. Peterson for a long time now and heard about how he tried to understand Nazi killings. He explained all the individuals are capable of hurting others as they realised that they can get hurt by the same things. It made me realise how vulnerable and dangerous we are at the same time. Applause to your explanation and the reference you gave. Keep up the good work mate.
Jordan Peterson is seriously awesome. He's gives such great advice
If you call pandering to incels of all people "inspiring."
It's advice you can find in any self help book written before 1950.
Nverdis, what do you mean by pandering to incels?
Fangs1978 yeah he's a professor in psychology and has experience as a clinical psychologist, but he's just copying old self help books right? It's not like this is his main expertise. It's not like he's a well cited academic. It's not like he's well respected in the psychological community, right? Oh wait...
I agree, but it doesn't have to be completely original advice to be applicable. It could be good, old advice communicated in a way that motivates... not that *everything* he says is good advice though. ;)
Love how "integrate your shadow" cuts to a scene of batman
That made me realize the hidden meaning behind that scene, very powerful.
I really like the term: the shadow. Anger is a very healthy emotion in regard to protecting your positive energy (so to speak). The first few seconds of anger is alignment (satisfaction), beyond that anger is an expression of powerlessness.
Thank you, man. These are very well put together and I like how you "character study" most of the people I look up too.
I don’t think, that professor Peterson using abstract language makes him incomprehensible, even better, I think it makes him precise in speech, which I believe to be quite valuable and helpful, when you’re discussing something with a person who doesn’t agree with you.
Piotr Żwirowski How does spewing word salad make someone more precise in speech? This guy can give great lectures but when he's put in a debate setting he just becomes Christian Deepak Choprah.
That is being precise, not being easy to comprehend, but being professional and precise. Tell me what could be misinterpreted in this statement: “The state’s proper functioning is dependant on the proper functioning of the individual” And what could be misinterpreted in this statement: “A person is more important than the country”
They could mean the same, but they could mean two very different things, depending on the interpretation of the second
In that case yes, watch his talk with Dillahunty though and you'll have to admit that he is just spinning around questions by being vague instead of precise.
Ok will check it out
Jordan Peterson changed my life. I am so happy now.
Listening to Dr.Jordan Peterson's lectures really helped me get my life back into order. Also, reading his books doubled the effect he has had on me ever since I started following him. Sometimes it was really hard for me to understand the things he tries to tell us because of his abstract explainations. But this video I think really helps to understand the main points Dr.Peterson is always trying to tell us. Thank you for this amazing video.
Absolutely amazing video and definitely one of my favourite on KZhead. Sending love💛
This is the best explanation of the integration of the shadow self that I’ve ever heard.
*CLeaN YOUr roOM*
i've spent two hours cleaning my room today good job me
Apti Newim That means you're now ready to rule the world
it'll be clean only for like a day...
lol
sort yourself out
I was honest in a meeting with my boss at a pivotal time in my life. I admitted to a drug addiction, not only did I not get fired but I got the help I needed aswel as earning the respect and trust of my boss. Honesty is always the best way forward. Sometimes it helps Sometimes it hurts but it is always the right thing
Best rules for living with honour. However, I also believe that sometimes, by letting the truth unfold on its own you preserve your integrity & trustworthiness.
brooooooo this video made me realise that my worst enemy and i have so much in common I'm going to try and be better from now on.
Great, now the New York times is going to write a hit piece about Charisma on Command for supporting Jordan Peterson.
Haha, I WISH!
Haha we would all defend COC and most people would see the truth, so just like with Peterson's hit pieces it would only make COC stronger!!!
If they did, I wonder how many thousands of subs you'd get overnight- Peterson seems to get at least 10K every time....
I tell the truth about how I think and feel to people all the time. It's really hard, especially when it is telling the truth about your opinion on things to a friend that disagrees with you. I lost one friend and gained another. I realized how manipulative, vulnerable and how much of a big two faced liar the friend that I lost is. But the friend that stayed with me even after realizing that we don't always agree taught me how to look at the world more positively and how important being open to new ideas is. I am very grateful to JP for opening my eyes on the importance of truth and I really wish more people would learn from him to.
Easily the best video I have watched that you posted.
“People hate most about others what they subconsciously hate about themselves” The part about our shadow selves is really interesting. Definitely makes one much more self aware. The upcoming video game, Shadow of the Tomb Raider, is gonna be about Lara Croft struggling with her dark side and choices. I wonder if the devs and creators chose the title for that psychological reason? 🤔
Exactly.
biological waste If I’m not mistaken, he was quoting Hermann Hesse.
@Jay L You good, G?
Not cleaning your room is a mistake
Mine could get a quick cleanup right now. Thanks for reminding me!
you could say it's missing the mark
Susboii 007 not really. If you leave it for long enough you will drown in the disarray of your room. Once you are no more there is no further need of cleaning up, is there?
Totally agree
A_little_Me Yeah , my 74y/o mum is a hoarder and my sister and me will have our work cut out for us when she passes away .I'm talking different dump trucks , it's just insane .
An admirer of your work. Listening to the talks with Peterson & Harris on Pangburn have been rewarding, in terms of refining a method of communicating deeper ideas on the socio-psychological structure of belief. Looking forward to more coverage, thanks for sharing
Dude great breakdown. I follow Jordan pretty closely for a while now and came across this video now and it’s a really good breakdown of a lot of his context into specific and short video. Good stuff
Already watched this more than 5x, still and always REFRESHING.
"It's hard to have your own ideas, you have to derive them from your own experience.. People don't have ideas. Ideas have people .. You should figure out what ideas are possessing you and then you should decide if those are your ideas "6:14.
Jordan does such a wonderful job of helping people. His knowledge of history and psychology etc.that he unselfishly shares with all who seek is the most amazing phenomenon i have witnessed in my lifetime ❤
This narration and video style is so perfect
This video was a god send for me when I was overwhelmed with negative emotion. Helped me calm down and become rational.
I want to thank you guys so much for the effort you put into those videos! It‘s a joy to see your content inspiring people to improve themselves.
~ Our pleasure! Glad you're liking the videos. :-)
I love him, AND you too! I was happy I learned you meditate!! Good for you! The tides are turning, I really believe that!
Telling the truth results in the best possible scenario even in the most difficult situation -- amazing truth!
That has not been my experience at all.
@@OfftoShambala not mine either... Sadly I learned you don't need to always tell the truth only after my 30's. If lies only hurt yourself and give you feeling of guilt, but the truth can hurt other people around you - you may think of accepting the sacrifice and hold your truth for yourself for the rest of your life...
Great video, I recommend reading the book, its absolutely tremendous and also great practise of english for the non natives
*It’s, practice, English, non-natives. Since you obviously want to improve your English.
*deep breath thank you
Cheers, mate!
Sycsa, “Since you obviously want to improve your English.” is not a grammatically correct sentence. Sword. Live. Die. (Also, “practise” is an acceptable verb form in British English.)
I find it funny how JP went into the public sphere of debate looking to be as impartial and brutally honest as possible....and now finds it extremely hard to not be brandished a "right wing bigot nazi!!!!!". He is the epitome of the notion "an uncomfortable truth is better than a comfortable lie". He speaks of holding yourself accountable for your actions, putting in a good work ethic, holding yourself to the same standards you preach at others online, and the value of freedom of expression and speech and will not yield to government mandated speak. Extremely tame views that most people would consider reasonable...yet still gets character assassinated as a "Nazi". It speaks volumes how scared of personal responsibility those people are more than Jordan Peterson could have ever put into words.
Floyd that’s facts. Failure to see your shadow results in projection of your own into others. Wise words.
He only became famous cause he saw this right wing wave and profited from it. Aligning his views with the Right Wing, and trying to make himself look like a huge intellectual, when theres just no content. I cringe every time im forced to listen to JP
Miguel Dias No content? That’s just flat out wrong.
@@mld962 Then don't listen to him if he bothers you. You have that right.
This was really informative. Thank you.
Amazing..! Awesome explainations and these 3 tips are really me. Thanks Charisma in command
Another amazing video, great breakdown and advice man, i hope you keep making those and enjoying the process!
~ We'll definitely keep going. :-)
My father told me when I was young. He said Adam, whatever you do son, just tell the truth. Best advice I ever got. I thought about that very deeply and the older I get, the deeper I understand what he was telling me.
Spot on Jordan and well explained by you. Cheers.
Thank you for this. Jordan can be hard to decipher, very helpful
Fixing yourself before you fix the world or in other words “if you wanna make the world a better place, take a look at yourself and make a change.” - Michael Jackson (1987)
-Batman (2017)
welp people don't have their own ideas, ideas have people.
@@ad84_71 yep...its wisdom that we seek. I guess people will only hear the truths from whoever said it recently.
and touch little boys and get strange plastic surgery while you do it!
"I know you desperate for a change let the pen glide, but the only real change comes from the inside" - J. Cole
Hey Charlie, do you consider putting some of the vidoes' audio to Spotify? I'd like to listen them on the road but KZhead isn't the best option sometimes :)
That or a podcast. I'll try to see what the simplest way to port would be :-)
If you opt to go to podcast you'll want to pay attention to how much of your content is 'audio' or 'audio/visual' based. I mention this as the main time I listen to my podcasts is either when I'm driving or cooking; both of which my eyes and hands are doing something other than looking at my phone. Not a deal breaker by any means; just something to keep in mind on how people will consume the content.
with the new KZhead Premium you'll be able to listen to audio I think
That would be very appreciated
Great explanation of EXACTLY what Jordan is referring to! Thank you
I really agree with all of that’s said in this video. Being authentic, testing things for yourself and developing a good criteria is the best way to do things, and have the best consequences in the long term
Thank you for posting!
~ Thanks for watching!
I have a summons I’ve been putting off for a long time. I am going to take care of that this weekend if the count allows. You inspired me to take care of this problem because it’s really been giving me great stress. It’s going to feel good taking on this challenge and getting it out of the way.
Good luck Alec. Hang in there. Taking responsibility for your self is a great thing. This could be an opportunity for change.
Alex Smith I sincerely appreciate that! I have a feeling it will be the start to something massive for me.
These are great stuff, very helpful.
You have a very good grasp of what Dr. Peterson has been trying to convey..