I Married a Psychopath - How to avoid marrying someone who is psychopathic
We all know someone with psychopathy.
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But few know the truth about it. We’re helping change that… by helping you know the signs. Know about treatment options and resources. And know you’re not alone.
Mary Turner Thomson
Author of two international best-selling memoirs about an experience with a psychopath
Speaker, writing coach & self-publishing consultant
Learn more: www.maryturnerthomson.com/
Mary is the author of two memoirs about her experience being married to a psychopath. The first is ‘The Bigamist - the true story of a husband’s ultimate betrayal’ is about her six year relationship with Will Jordan, a bigamist and con man who actively impregnates women to rip them off for money (published in 2008). The second is ‘The Psychopath: A True Story’ which details her recovery (physically, mentally, emotionally and financially) after being freed from his coercive control, the work she had done to try and protect future victims from the clutches of her ex and people like him, as well as what he did after being deported from UK jail back to the USA. It also covers some of the techniques that psychopaths use to manipulate people (from gaslighting/love bombing, to control dramas/language patters etc), as well as what makes people vulnerable to them in the first place.
Mary is a full-time author, speaker and writing coach from Edinburgh, Scotland (UK). She speaks on surviving adversity as well as advocating for better understanding of psychopathy. She says, “With better research and understanding into this condition - particularly in educating people to recognise the signs, and diagnosing it earlier to support parents raising a disordered child - we can ensure a safer society for everyone.”
The more you know about psychopaths the better chances you have to avoid them
Empathy is a superpower bc we're connected to our true Selves. Psychopaths, narcissists and such only experience the ego's perspective, which is shallow af and based on fear. It's hell. I'm glad your kids scaped the condition.
You sound goofy.
What a lovely and well-adjusted human being
What an inspiring lady
Thank you for sharing! I was in a similar situation and I definitely think he has psychopathic traits.
Wow! I had no idea psychopaths number 1 in 100! Thank you for your warnings. So sorry you had to go through all of that! Such a lovely lady.
4 in 100 in the US, by far the highest rate in the world.
@@vaska1999 US culture is designed to celebrate and promote psychopathic traits, so I'm not that surprised!
Wow.. well said!
i thought they were just serial killers. you have no language to deal with the situation when you meet one of these people because the culture doesn't provide you with the analytical tools. you try to describe their behavior to others and it doesn't come across well and it produces deep feelings of isolation. it makes you feel gaslit by reality.
A "Psychopath" or "Sociopath" is someone with antisocial personality disorder. One of the symptoms is in fact not serial killing. Especially since the diagnostic manuals say "lacking empathy" not "no empathy at all". Hope this helps 😌
@@hannahbridges1708No, psychopaths simply don't feel empathy.
@@nikobitan7294 That's literally NOT how it works. It's a spectrum, just like literally any illness out there. Yeah some may have symptoms that are that bad, but most don't and DO feel empathy even if it's only on very rare occasions. Having 100% zero empathy is not in the diagnostic criteria for ASPD. Instead it's a LACK of empathy, meaning lesser empathy than is normal for the brain.
Oh no. Only a small percentage of psychopaths kill people. Most are to be found in the police, the medical profession, and law.
It’s very suspicious not to know anything because it’s everywhere nowadays. Thanks to her honest approach to politics I believe she’s trustworthy and truthful.
We have evolved vocabulary finally
Thank you for sharing that empathy is what made you a target while recognizing that empathy is also your superpower. I admire your strength to at least eventually maintain and share your empathy even after your journey through what sounds to me like hell. You are stronger than you probably get or give yourself credit for.
I think it’s the gullibility that makes you a target of conmen rather than empathy
I live with one.
thank you ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ for the video
Oh they ARE evil
They are evil honey.
Oh, the last words in the last video disclose a person with a very high empathy and that’s what attracted a psychopath to you. People very high in empathy are psychopaths magnets. You are also very naive. How could you not think it was weird that he wanted to give the money to the people threatening your family? Usually one doesn’t give the money but goes to the police in such cases. There are many questions unanswered. I wish to know: - what is your relationship now with the other women? Your kids are half-siblings. - How did his other wife find out about you? - did no one of the other women had suspicions? - do you still love him? - Did you try to make him change? - what did you do right after finding out? - what was his reason for wanting to have that much money from the women? He might have a certain reason for that.
This woman was engaged to the psychopath for two years, enough time to get to know another person.
So do you think he disclosed himself to her? It’s easy to judge when you have not been in her shoes. And yes maybe she was not smart enough to see the red flags and was naive but it doesn’t justify what he did to her and others.
@@mariashchetynska4419 It doesn't take a genius to suss up a person you're intimate with over a two-year period (not counting the time she knew and dated him before they got engaged). There's such a thing as wilful blindness, you know.
These ppl aren't inherently evil. They just lack empathy. School should be educating on this
Finally I found someone here with actual knowledge. 😩✌️
Lacking empathy and concern for other beings and feeling joy in ruining their lives and causing suffering is the definition of evil.
Lacking empathy = evil.
Boaderlines aren't much better.
I don't think that's true.
Depends on if they've done Dialectical Behavioral Therapy
Bordelines are the opposite of psychopaths. They feel too much!!
Not true at all. BPD do have empathy. Psychopaths don't, big difference.
@@bigfatburn6229 It’s the accompanying abusive behavior, whatever the cause, that likely draws the comparison. Jmo.