Live with Dr. Ettensohn (Heal NPD) - 4-26-24
2024 ж. 25 Сәу.
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Join Dr. Mark Ettensohn from Heal NPD for a live broadcast answering questions and responding to viewer comments.
The stream starts at 16 seconds.
Join Dr. Mark Ettensohn from Heal NPD for a live broadcast answering questions and responding to viewer comments.
The stream starts at 16 seconds.
It’s so validating to have your professional and compassionate descriptions and insights - the defenses, false self, and disorganized identity, as well as the means to progress from NPD. Thank you! Many of us have been fighting and suffering every day of our lives for decades with little to no help. Understanding makes all the difference.
Thanks for your feedback.
I understand that going live is not an easy exercise but please keep doing them as your insight is invaluable. Your compassion and knowledge is so helpful. Thank you so very much Dr Ettensohn
I appreciate that
Thanks again for these lives! They are so helpful.. A lot of people with NPD (that I've come come across online) only have online groups to console ourselves as a safe space. So you're doing SUCH good (you have no idea) by providing this safe space with your professional insights!
You are so welcome!
Thanks for this insight into this condition. My husband of 20 years left our family last year for another woman and left me and our teenage kids in shock. After doing some research I realised he ticks the boxes for NPD. Despite the pain and hurt he caused us, I still care for him, and having an understanding of this is condition is helping me to get over the break up.
I respect your insight, Doctor. We as codependents in recovery often fall into dehumanizing narcissists. We have been in the fight of our lives to salvage our own sanity, sense of value, and worth. Your image of the person outside the window in the cold looking in on the family warm and safe inside brings to mind something my mother shared. When I was 10 she suffered what they called a mental breakdown when my dad moved out. Looking back on how she described that experience leads me to believe she had a narcissistic collapse. Many years later in her 80’s she was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. She became very childlike. It was at this time that I got a glimpse of the person she may have truly been before all of the trauma in her life.
I haven't watched this one yet, but since it just popped up I'm saying here that I'm SO glad you make these videos on NPD!! You've filled in so many huge knowledge gaps I've had on understanding it in just the 4 videos I downloaded and watched.....and I've been trying like mad to understand NPD and really studying it hard for 3:years. So again, a huge thanks! Excellent work Dr.!
Glad you like them!
“They can’t take on the challenges of the world, so they hide away on their little islands of isolation, fantasizing about who they might be, while never becoming anything.” -Frank Yeomans, MD He describes people with NPD often being socially isolated, not having any friends or being unable to keep friends. Most of whom are still living with their parents, hiding away in the basement or in their bedroom. They’re alive, but they’re not living.. At least, not living in the real world. This hit me hard. It’s interesting, Dr. Mark. That description is so vastly different from the way NPD is portrayed on the internet. My question to you is.. What percentage of Narcissists do you think match that description? If you had to guess? I ask this because Narcissists are always described as these gregarious men who have a myriad of friends, they’re always socially active, they network, they can never spend a moment alone, they have a girlfriend, a wife, a maid and at least a hundred concubines. 😂 Meanwhile.. I’m isolated, no friends(I believe most are), living at home, not making any moves towards building a future because.. idk. I guess it seems like any move I make will trap me in a mediocre life? So I escape into comforting reveries, seeing the life I want, feeling it, and often times, falsely believing I’m on that path.. Only to realize later on that I haven’t gotten a single step closer to even remotely making that happen.. So it repeats. Again and again.. I’m 30 years old. I absolutely cannot believe my entire 20s is gone. It vanished. Poof 💨 Gone. I have no fucking idea where all the time went. I don’t know what I’ve been doing for the past 10 years… Just seeing that typed out was extremely distressing.. 10 years… Time seems so cruel. I know that sounds dramatic but I seriously freak out about this. I can’t imagine being 40 and looking back.. I see why NPD worsens with age. PS: I’d imagine empathic therapy makes Narcissists feel extremely uncomfortable at first. Lol.
Sounds very similar to my situation...
Sounds very similar to my situation... yet Ive been physically, mentally, and emotionally abused.... so I've decided to self-isolate myself. Can't sleep at night trying to figure out if I've truly done something so terrible that I deserve this situation. If you try to discuss things to to resolve them, well then, "you're just a narcissist trying to weasel your way back in." I would like to know more truth on the subject because I feel that the internet has caused no healing or resolve for NPD or victims.
@@electrifyingct4303 Abused by your partner and who says you’re a narcissist? 😂 Ironic huh? Same lol
@brandonmcalpin9228 Exactly. When listening to this man's videos, I can relate and understand, "yeah... I do feel those ways, and I have always given the cold shoulder, and I do feel miserable with myself all the time.... but does that make me the abusive one???" To me, and this may sound extremely "narcissistic" of me, it seems everyone else is the abusers if they are just beating up on a defenseless child which just proves the inner child's point. The reason I am here, and the reason I am intrigued by this... I don't want my child to grow up feeling the way I have felt all my life.
@@electrifyingct4303 I perceive everyone else as the abuser or the malevolent ones too. Lol. Pretty sure that’s a NPD and BPD thing. That’s why I laugh when I see so many posts about how “narcissists are everywhere”. No… they’re not… But if you see them everywhere YOU go… Hmm… what’s the common denominator in all those situations. 🤔 because it’s statistically impossible for so many people to know even ONE narcissist, let alone several. 1 in 200 people.
as someone who may have this (undiagnosed) 17 year old Male Can we survive long term relationship with Great communication and religiosity ?…. With our partner and can attachment and self awareness of shared fantasy be converted to love can it be relearned since our first experience sucked….. and we received a lack of it…. If their is a self there but he is very damaged can we help him build the tools…. To love ? I am asking because I entered a relationship
Hi Dr Ettensohn I've been doing lots of research and came across an interesting fellow named Daniel Mackler on KZhead. Have you ever heard of him?
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Can you make content on the definition “narcissist abuse”? Is everything being labeled that? Also, some research on the belief that “all abusers are narcissists”. To help with the stigma of everyone labeling their abusers narcissists? Also, current statistics of NPD % of adult population?
Roughly 3-5%
I have a video about this on my channel: kzhead.info/sun/mJSlqpuPepFvlXA/bejne.htmlsi=JTzKWwjm1U3-HpEo
"What is that they actually could love about me" Man this question is so spot on... I just need to perform in my eyes so bad, once I fail, I need to be reasured and then again and again. "am I a bad boy mommy?" thats pretty much the underlying question in these pathetic outings. I will get back to medititation, because I was able to break another relationship with me being so unsure of myself.
Interesting you used the term "drowning" to describe the NPD experience. The guy I once knew who was self-admitted BPD (quiet) but most likely also NPD as all the real things about NPD line up as an exact match with what I experienced/witnessed/was told by him....he often used "drowning" and "treading water" to describe his state of being, especially when trying to explain why he was taking and not giving when it came to empathy & effort. *Filed under "things I wish I knew then- for myself and for him*. ❤️🩹
I haven't watched the video yet, so excited, only just noticed it. Just wanted to comment that I really relate to the metaphor of drowning. It's a description I've used before to describe my experience and it's exactly what I see others with npd going through too. Hence the complete lack of care or consideration for anyone else,; it's like you're drowning and in that moment all you're trying to do is survive - often by pushing someone else under water so you can take a breath. It's horrible. It doesn't excuse it of course - I think for people trying to understand the disorder it goes someway to help describe the desperateness of it all and why some people can behave with such impunity.
@cupoftea2957 yes. That's something i realized almost a year after things fell through with the person I mentioned. I realize now that so much of his behavior was survival/threat/response conditioning which made him incapable at the time of showing up in any other way. I care deeply for him, from afar now, and truly wish him healing and love of self and others. I have him to thank for a lot of profound healing I ended up forced to do, and I mean that with grace and sincerity. I wish you luck as well, and hope you too can heal and find peace within yourself. We're all out here fighting internal battles, just doing our best to survive. ❤️🩹