COMING OUT... This was a really hard video for me to do but i'm doing this to help those that might also be struggling with their sexuality and finding it hard to be who they want to be.
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Troy Absin no need to be homophobic go back to your trailer and learn some manner
Troy Absin you are a vile excuse of a human being with your homophobic comments your a vile piece of bigotted shit.
Troy Absin really, wow you homophobic people are so bitchy. When you get some manners you may come out of you miserable hole and join the world.
Just another drone from the 90s cradle . in need of validation and affirmation worth from social media
this one is actually very pretty, toss me a marshellow and light my bonfire.
Coming out is probably the hardest thing I have done. I'm 23 and only 'came out' three years ago. I said to myself I would do it that year, it got to New Years Eve and I told my parents via text after much encouragement from my two friends! My biggest regret is not telling them earlier. Like you, once I told my parents I felt like I could tell anyone! I have such supportive family and friends. I am so happy where I am. This video will help so many people. Before I was ''out' I spent countless hours reading and watching coming out stories. It helped so much. Thank you x
I don't think sitting here and telling Carl that its no surprise that he is gay is very productive. He is opening up and has allowed himself to be vulnerable for us. Give him the respect that he deserves. Whether you "knew" he was gay or not is not the point of this video. Good job Carl!!! So proud of you!!! Go follow him on IG, great content!
If my 18 year old son moved in with a 36 year old chap and they lived together for a couple of years I personally would be inclined to wonder about that unusual relationship. Did your parents began to suspect because of this? My 19 year old son thought he was surprising me by telling me he was in love with his best friend and in a relationship with him. I saw the signs beforehand that gave me pause. I wasn't shocked but I did care because a parent should care when a child summons the courage to tell you he or she is gay. Ten years later they are still together and I have 2 grandsons from their union. My son told me he struggled for three years to tell me and even dated girls and slept with them to be what everyone thought he should be which broke my heart he thought he couldn't be honest with me. I felt like I failed him as a dad. We all deserve to be who and what we are and to love the ones God made us to love. I wish you all the best Carl. Thanks for sharing so perhaps others may have your freedom.
Donald McKinney. Nice words. I would say to you though ,you didnt fail your son .It can be incredibly difficult for a son/daughter to tell a parent who they really are (gay). It's all the thoughts that go through ones head, "will I be accepted" "what if ,,,, ect ect .. I am delighted your son and partner are still together and more importantly you have 2 grandsons , how wonderful. I wish you well
5 years late but you sound like an amazing person.
As a closeted divorced man with grown children, I really appreciate your video. You're wise beyond your years in your understanding of being closeted and the issues of coming out. I hope some day I can.
Holy mother, this is one beautiful man! That accent doesnt hurt either.... I love that you're sharing your story. I absolutely agree that sexual orientation doesnt have any bearing on ones worth as a person or is really of any significance in most relationships. Who you love doesnt change who you are as a person. On the other hand, when someone is in the public eye, especially when they are seen as a role model, it can be incredibly beneficial for people looking up to them if they are open about their sexuality. Openly gay, trans, bi etc. celebrities and youtubers can literally save lives. If your a young LGBTQ kid (or adult) living in the closet or are afraid they are the only person with the kind of feelings they have can cause horrible depression, anxiety or worse. Its especially helpful for people living in conservative areas or with very religious families. For them to see not only someone they look up to shares the same feelings but also an entire community that will accept them, can save that kid from suicide. Its important to live your life honestly but unfortunately there are still some circumstances where it can be dangerous to be openly gay/trans etc. So showing that there ARE places around the world where LGBTQ people live openly and are part of a huge community gives them hope. If they cant be honest with their family or neighbors they don't have to stay in that kind of environment. There are places that you won't be judged or prosecuted. And being on a global platform allows you to reach people that 20 years ago were completely shut off from the outside world. So while being gay or straight or bi etc doesnt define you, it can be absolutely life changing for others to see.
HaHa thank you :)
You should make more videos like this! I like the sit down and talk stuff :)
His sincerity is great. Love his accent too.
I've been following you on Instagram for several months now and while I have been curious about your sexuality, I would never define you by it. I enjoy your posts and YT videos and being gay or straight is irrelevant to who you are as a person. Congratulations on coming out.
i came out, i lost everything, my family my inheritance and they moved to cornwall without telling me or asking me if i wanted to go, that was 13 years ago and have nt seen them since, when i was a child from 3 to being 16 i was nothing but a punch bag to my dad, to say they adopted me at 9 days old im now orphaned again, i have no one cant even get a boyfriend, i had a mild stroke 5 years ago and had to get through everything on my own, you must have a family that really love you
That's horrible 😔😔😔😔. Everyone deserves too be loved.
Hey I just saw your comment and felt the need of replying---you know what life won't stop for anybody so you gotta keep going with it---Ik that's hard and obviously that is but keep going and your happiness is not too far darling---and that day when you saw light at the end of the tunnel you will be proud af of your journey...life is more beautiful with harder times cuz they gonna make your memories more realistic so keep going and you are not alone ;)))) good luck
I truly feel sorry for you and just know that everyone like Your Dad are not jerks like that. Try to get counseling or talk to a religious person to start to heal from the inside out!
I came out in Oct 2014, it was the most nerve racking thing I've ever had to do and I thought about it everyday for years. I'm so happy now that I'm open and living as who I really am. I like your channel, you just got a new subscriber 😊
Good for you !
Thank you Carl for sharing your story with us and having the courage to be vulnerable. I am one of those guys that waited late in life (50's) to come out last year. I refused to accept that I was gay, got married, had children, but the burden of my secret beccame unbearable. Anxiety, depression, suicide all resulted from internalized homophobia and self-hatred. The past year has not been easy but it is getting better. Your video affirms my choice to come out and to be myself. Thank you again and if you return to Orlando I would love to buy you a drink and toast authentic living.
Proud of you Carl . I love what you say about sexuality doesn't define who you are .
Thanks for sharing. You're great in explaining things. And I totally agree with the "expectation thing". I always say "give your family and friends at least the same amount of time to struggle like you struggled yourself!"
Powerful. Thanks for sharing your story. The truth is liberating. When I came out my parents did not want to accept it, but they still loved me. Over time they gained knowledge and understanding. At the end of the day we have to live life for ourselves and make it the best one possible. Love ya right back.
I know I always comment your videos ,but I just wanna say THANK YOU so much for share with us your story,your private life and for be so an example for all of this guys/girl who are confused and that don't know who that are and what thay want to be...sooo thanks for be honest with us and be an example for us 🙏🏽🙏🏽 #LOVEACHOTHER 🌈
Hi Carl, I love this video. So open and honest! I can relate to a significant amount of what you discussed. I’m going through a different stage now at 41 and life changes and challenges. However, it’s amazing how our lives are all connected and the same even though we live in two totally different parts of the world. Extraordinary! Thanks Will
Well done. Coming out is actually a two way process, and like any involving other people, you cannot expect to control it. You have to see it as a dialogue, not an announcement and its a dialogue that goes on for months if not years. Patience is the most important attribute here. Efforts to bridge the inevitable communication and expectations gaps will require a lot of stumbles, and forced silences and embarrassing moments. Sometimes tenacity is your ally, sometimes humor, and always forgiveness. DO NOT expect friends and families to be any more perfect when hearing the news and talking about the subject , than you were delivering it and explaining the subject.
Thank you Carl for sharing your courageous personal story. Thank you for being authentic and true. I have been out to my parents/family for eight years now and it has been incredible. Making friends has been easier than ever, there's no guessing games because it's not an issue, I have true friendships. You can definitely have children with a lovely husband. That's my dream as well. You're a stud and any guy would be lucky to be in a relationship with you. Much love xoxo
Am I shallow if I start by saying that you're amazingly handsome. Your story really touched me and I'm so glad that it had a happy ending. All the best for your fabulous life!
I am new to find your Carl, this is one of the most genuine and honest coming out stories I've seen. Not that others aren't honest, I can't put my finger on it. I think it's important to keep sharing these stories for two reasons. I think it could help you, talking about that stuff is always good but also it's just invaluable to others out there struggling with themselves or telling their family/loved ones etc. Subscribed to you now
I watched the entire video!! I must say Love and Good things to your family for the support of both you and your brother. This is by far the best coming out video I have ever seen. Thank you and your family!! The explanation was what I have been waiting to hear. It’s a very healthy vision of the way you think of coming out and the way you have made the decision to embrace what you want for your life. Happiness and an love to you and your brother’s strength through his illness. Continue to always love yourself enough to make the right decisions. Thank you for being on You Tube. Love from Georgia❤
Not gonna lie. I clicked on this video because you're beautiful, plus the title. Great story, and thoughtfully told. You seem so grounded and independent for such a young man. You def have my respect. I also subscribed.
Thanks Paul very much appreciate it.
I don't know why, but this kind of made me tear up. I usually don't. Seems like I connected to you even though I haven't even come out yet to my parents or lived the path you have lived. I really like this video!
I love you Carl. So proud of you being able to come out, it's not easy I know. Well done on everything, coming out, your videos, your work etc etc. You're a truely nice guy and an inspiration. Keep up the good work. Be nice to meet you one day too! xx
Big love for this video, I am not sure it's ever easy for anyone. What amazes is me is that 20 years later and I still find myself having to come out all the time, sometimes it's just exhausting but hey. It gets easier.
So proud of you for this! It's such a difficult thing to do! Love you
No support means no coming out for me. I wish I had someone to tell in person. Thank you for the video. You inspire me
Sometimes the ones you think wont support you actually will
I'm proud of you for being so brave, I totally understand your point of view on accepting yourself without any need to announce that you are gay. I'm like that I accept my sexuality but I don't walk into a room screaming "I'm gay". By the way, I love your arm tattoo keep uploading videos I'm your fan already. Ozzy
Great job brother!! Each person that comes out is a help for someone else struggling with being honest about who they are. Coming out even saves lives for kids who may feel all alone. Congratulations! Happy Pride!
It used to piss me off. Many people at school think I’m gay. Not because I’m super feminine but because of how I’m social with everyone. Now it doesn’t bug me because I’ve come to terms with my sexuality and it makes my life easier that people already assume my sexuality. And it’s not like I’m getting bullied or smothered with homophobia so I really blessed to be in the situation I landed myself into.
So much respect and love man 💙 coming out is hard but there is so much more to life then who you like whether male or female the world is evolving let's just hope people's acceptance does as well.
I am absolutely mind blown at how confident you are, I'm new to your page and I subscribed immediately, you are amazing and you'll be able to live your life full and wholeheartedly more than ever. 👑 take your crown and wear it well.
I just found your channel, and I felt inspired to share my story after hearing yours. As you can probably tell, this is an anonymous account in order to protect my own identity from people and family that frequent my main channel. I knew I was gay from an early age, but growing up in a super conservative, baptist, European household there are certain things that were expected of me. I was the kid who was expected to be an architect, be successful, expected to get a girlfriend at an early age and then have children. I felt I had a problem, and if im still honest with myself, ill admit that I STILL have a problem, I still cannot admit who I am. I got a job at a local GNC and became this super athletic, girlfriend, health nut guy in order to "fix" my condition. I felt like if I boosted my testosterone, hung around masculinity, dated a woman, that somehow all of that would change me. It never did, after my girlfriend left me, after the feelings came and I started crushing on my best friend who was a straight guy, I found myself hunched in one of the isles in GNC crying and praying to God that all my pain, all my feelings would end, that I could be normal, things that never did. Fast forward a couple months, my curiosity got the better of me and I thought it would be a great idea to try Grindr, it was anonymous and I have heard that it was a great resource to get in touch with the LGBT community. I met a guy whom I quickly recognized I knew throughout middle school, and highschool and we started talking, he was helping me cope through my confusion; or at least I thought so, at first. He was the type of guy that coming out came easy for, super supportive parents and siblings, no sense of hardship at all, and he had a huge crush on me. Trying to convince me that my parents will most likely accept me, that there was no way they would ever hate me. Despite me constantly telling him that there was absolutely no way my parents would ever accept me and that I was not ready, Ill never forget what he did to me to this very day. I was sitting in my living room talking to my dad about his plans for my college and the paths I could go, and he gets a phone call, he listens intently at first, doesn't budge an inch, and then looks at me in the angriest face that made me cold to my spine. The person on the phone was the guy who was crushing on me, my dad owns a company and his business phone number is available to the public, this guy researched his number and had just outed me to my dad over the phone and told him he was there outside waiting for me in case he hurt me, and threatened to call the police if he hurt me. My dad immediately gets out of his chair and backs me up into the corner of the arm chair, gets into my face spitting as he yelled, it was a mixture of anger, hate, disgust, sadness and violence. Beyond being called a demon child who was not his son, that I was possessed, disgusting, I was still 18, I was scared, i had no direction, I didnt know what to do. So I did what came normally to me, I caved in and surrendered. Well, that was my dads queue to "cure" me, I was forced into years of correctional therapy, went to Christian groups to "heal" me, had numerous people praying over me to heal me of my demons. I was told that it was correctable, that they could help me if I was willing. I grew up a puppet, and im still a puppet, after years of therapy and re-education, I was finally able to convince my dad that I was over my "phase," to get out of my therapy. Im 27 now, and I still cannot come to terms with myself and my feelings. To be committed and forced to think you are a lie, to be damaged like that, has caused me years of problems looking forward. My advice to people who are in similar positions with parents who will not accept you, make sure you surround yourself with the right people, I beg you, from the bottom of my heart. Make sure they are people who have accepted you and make absolutely sure you are in a safe position to fall back on. If you read my story, im sorry it was so long, Thanks for taking the time to read it. Im always looking for friends also, so feel free to message me if youd like.
Danton, I feel your pain. I can't take it away, but I have experienced the struggle of trying to pray the gay away. Althought that didn't work, I never stopped trying. I just added extra layers to it. I tried to study the gay away in college and graduate school, work the gay away, and drink the gay away. None of it worked. So here I am today, relationship-less. Post a Messenger, Instagram or Facebook link, and I'll talk with you.
John P. McCartney sure, id actually appreciate it! Im trying to accept that part of me and Im desperately trying not to freak out and return to where I started, any kind of support would be nice.
John P. McCartney instagram.com/naturaljely/
Danton -- I sent you a short message on Instagram. Let's talk on that platform.
This video had me in tears of happiness, I'm so proud of you I can't even explain! This video is truly amazing and I've been in the same position as you in part of this video, it's not nice.... You are so inspiring and my friend is gay and I love spending every moment with him at school and I knew how hard it was for him to come out. You are one truly amazing man Carl❤️
Thank you mate. Gives me some strength.
Carl, telling your story your way helps many young people in your situation to draw courage and inspiration from it. This will make the issues around human sexuality easier to deal with, within the various cultures around the world. Well done and just be who you are. No one can tell you, who you are. Be strong.
My story definitely wasn't the same, but it's wonderful that your able to have this video. It's beautiful that you can explain so many sides within your video. Mad kudos to you and wish you the best! Your accent is adorable;)and much love from the U.S, Levi.
Wow you are such a strong person. The way you are talking is so powerful. You are amazing.
Thank you mate I appreciate that.
Omg ur story is so touching.... you have my full respect!!! Keep up the good work! ❤️🙏🏽 always be yourself!
Thank you for your story. I can't tell you how many of these stories it took for me to accept who I am and finally come out. You are a beautiful person who deserves happiness 😗
I'm really glad that you got new pillowcases.
LOL!!
I am beyond proud! I love you more now than I already did! I watch your Instagram stories all the time and enjoy following your journey! I love your style and outfits so much and you inspire me. This video was amazing and I am so excited that you made it. Good luck with the rest of your success! Ps: You're so handsome! Have a great day! :)
Thank you for doing this Carl. Sharing your story will have such an impact on so many young lives. You are a brave young man!
So proud of you Carl. Thanks for the advice :D
SO impressed that you don't feel the need to tell eveyone at every opportunity - its on a need to know basis and shouldnt be asked if not relavent or judged at all. Good for you x
The room looks amazing! Absolutely love colour!
carl, really great video! you are clearly very self aware. i am so glad your parents came thru for you. i have subscribed and look forward to learning more about you.
You’re amazing .. cute too lol but amazing. I’m new to the whole men makeup routine and you’ve made this journey easier lol I’ve watched like 3 or 4 vidz now.. thanks for all the support and love.
Everyone deserves to be happy ♥️ I'm proud of you !!
Carl is such a cutie
Wtf guy,You are everywhere!!!! With different languages too!
Alex Oby Wtf guy, you are everywhere too!!!!
First video of yours I watch and I loved every bit of it! Thanks for sharing your story :)
Thank you for sharing your amazing story Carl I really appreciate it. As a heterosexual young man myself born in 1998 from Lakemba, New South Wales, Australia with healthy positive masculinity I absolutely have no problem if boys and men around the world want to show their emotions because we are human beings with emotional feelings. Being bisexual and being homosexual does not make you less of a man & there are bisexual plus homosexual teenage boys & men who are masculine around the world. We males really need to show empathy for boys and men & listen to how they feel inside instead of mocking them & rejecting them by claiming that they are not manly or masculine enough because that is called bullying & it is a dangerous game. What is a man? He is a human male adult enough said men do not have to prove their manhood because that is a huge lie made up by old school gender activist bigots. As a mature young man myself plus other men around the world we do not have to prove our masculinity because that is just machismo not masculinity, so to all my fellow brothers out there just be a compassionate mature gentleman that is it end of story.
Every 'Coming Out' video is important by who it might 'strike a chord' with! Congrats!
good for you matey! I guess in the end what's important is to understand who you are and be comfortable with it. All the best ...
Congrats Carl, I'm happy you're in a better place now. I'm a big fan!
Wow! What a story Carl!! I’m watching you more and more!! So happy for your brother! That he’s well! I can really identify with your story!
Thank you mate. Glad you enjoyed and thanks for watching.
Thanks, Carl. I knew it from the day I started following you on Instagram. I didn't care you were gay, I followed you because you are an inspiration to everyone in terms of fashion. But like you said, our sexuality is not our identifier. I have the same situation with you. I feel happy there's someone like you brave enough to discuss these amazing experiences in life
That was well done man, Thanks for the encouragement because Im 43 years old and im just coming out too. I told my dad and brother just a few days ago.
Brent I think everyone is now seeing this trend in people who are more open with themselves. Our ancestors and our grandparents might have been gay, bi, lesbian, or transgender but they couldn't be themselves and had to fit in to society. But we now can be ourselves. Right now I'm not in a good place in my life I'm trying to come out and when I saw ur comment I thought of my current situation. Your story is truly inspiring thank you for sharing. I am very proud of you that u took this step and I hope you can live your life the way you were BORN to!!
Thank you Blake. Just remember to be who you want to be and also accept who you are and be happy with it. You are amazing just also remember that.
Carl Cunard u just made my day😊
Blake and Carl, We will support each. To the both of you I want to Thank You for your reply to my comment
wooow what a history man.... am straight but also could feel your past pains.
Coming out can be easy or it can be difficult. (Obvious!!) My Mother was fantastic. My father was different, however as time went by I knew that regardless of my sexuality he still loved me very much. I ended up being what I call a "professional gay man". I worked in HIV Promotion, I worked for a Council Youth Service to set up a group for young gay men and also worked in education with Men's Sexual Health. I discovered that there were many gay men who had for years been told they were useless so had low self-esteem and were putting their lives at risk of HIV because they said their lives did not matter. I still after 20 years have contact with some of my "boys" who have done things with their lives volunteering in different parts of the world because they became safe a secure in who they were.
You saved alot of lives. You are a hero for so many.
I had actually stopped following your instagram more than I year ago. I don't remember why. Then this vid popped up in my feed and wanted to see what things had changed. Well spoken Carl. I think I admire you even more so than the first time I followed. Maybe it's just me, but you seem happier.
Hi Ben, Its a shame you unfollowed me but I understand what ever your reasons were. Thank you for coming back on board with my journey. Im glad you enjoyed the video and I appreciate you taking the time to watch. I am happy and life is good. Enjoy your weekend buddy.
Carl Cunard It was probably more my issue and not yours. I was in the midst of my own struggle. And thought you would be someone to guide me or give me some support. But since you weren't really discussing it at that time, i felt alone again. All the while watching all these college kids and high school kids COMING OUT. I had/have no one.
Oh wow Carl! I just literally got to the final bit of your video! I found this very inspirational. It sounds like what I have gone through too! I did not know that you were gay even though I do fancy you in my honesty. But, I couldn't be much prouder of you to come out as well! I have my video to do as well! Especially that I come from a Chinese background and everything slowly changes for me too. It is very powerful of what you said in your video and I couldn't thank you enough for telling your story! Always be who you are and who you want to be! Thank you very much for your kind words and I will follow you on your journey too! #LOVEACHOTHER 🌈 xxxx
So much respect for you Carl, Be yourself and keep on creating dude
Your story was very very helpful to me in identifying some of the feelings I have for myself. I also have to remember how it helps others in their coming out process. Though my ex-wife outed me, I still have work to do.
It was heartwarming to hear from your coming out story.... Love from Iran 🇮🇷, hope that every single LGBTQ individual can be themselves all over the world 🏳️🌈
ای کاش ک همه ب روشن فکری تو باشن😅
So i would tweet you but wouldn't have enough letters to say that im sooooo proud of you Carl i really am im not shocked at all i kinda knew. What you just did in this video would of took some guts to do and i respect so you much for doing it (even tho i respected you before you even did this video). George is very proud of you as well. Im so made up for you Carl i really am. Now you make sure you that perfect guy that treats you well coz u deserve it and much more love you really do xxxx
I dont care what anyone says in the chat because I support you and that's all that matters ❤
Nice. I just subscribed. Your honesty is refreshing. Your good looks and, more importantly, your humble attitude are the perfect combination. I'm looking forward to more videos from you. Thanks!!!
Great coming out video, Carl!
I 've always wondered if you are gay and now I got my answer. It must have been very difficult to come out and it takes a lot of courage so I feel proud of you. It's a great feeling when you are true to yourself and to others. It's also very inspiring. Your video will help other people too. I hope everything will be just fine for you and that you find happiness in your life!
Great video, Carl! It takes courage to come out, and it also takes courage to make a video like this! Definitely subscribed.
you're so brave, i'm really proud of u
I could relate so much to that story, I moved to a big city to study in university and totally had the double life feeling, the little town old me and the big city new me, such a weird felling
First video I've watched all the way through, very empowering x
Great story, Carl. I have been out for quite a while but I went thru the "taboo" period where it wasn't accepted like it is now. In actuality, I never came out to my family. I believe my mom knew but her Christian life wouldn't have understood or accepted me but my parents are now deceased and I live a virtually quiet existence. I went thru my great wild years but in a more confined atmosphere. I'm so thrilled that the LGBT community are in a good place and I hope it will continue to get better. Carl, the best of luck in all your endeavors. You"re a very handsome young man so there shouldn't be any problem finding that soulmate. Thanks for sharing your coming out story. Love your British accent......
I absolutely applaud you Carl..and everything you said is so true..have a fantastic life ..your so honest..beautiful..go for it xxx
Hi Carl... You handled things very well with your mum and dad....just be you...and be proud of who you are.
Amazing seeing another person doing this, it's cool to see that doesn't matter who you're or who you wanna be, there will be people to support you and understand you, hope that someday everybody in this world don't care what gay, lesbian, bi, trans people do inside there their house, bed and the most important: life
hope you're feeling YOU, finally. hope you feel ever more confident and hope you embark on a ever more beautiful journey with the satisfaction of having revealed your true self. all the best. xo. :))
Glad you are proud and out. Have a great life!
If not for the open drawer, the background would be almost perfectly symmetrical 😂
You are an amazing person and you’re so insightful 🙌😁
Thank you for your transparency; loved this video.
Absolutely love your story.
this is the most compelling coming out video I've ever seen in my life
proud of you buddy just be who you are. There's more to you than this and peope know that.
congrats man! we're proud of you!
Well done. Well presented. Everyone's story helps someone to come to terms with their sexuality.
Really related to your story. Thanks for sharing!
This is sweet video man. Props to you for a great vid on an important topic that should be addressed. I totally agree with you on a lot of things that you mention in this video. For instance, my first break up was also such a detrimental experience, which indeed make me who I am today. I was also in a very bad place, where I contemplated suicide as well, during the time that I was coming out. Always, Loved your video. Subscribed & gave it a like. Def look forward to seeing some more of you. P.S Nice tattoos :)
Carl. You are amazing and I could really relate to this and this is the only video I could relate to 💗💗💖
Very insightful and very real how you elaborate your story. 👍🏽
I clicked on this video because I'm struggling with my sexuality. I know I'm gay but sometimes it's just really hard, partly because I mainly have straigh friends. It would just be so much easier to be straight. This was really touching, especially because I also have been struggling with suicide. Lots of love.
Do you try and reach out to make gay friends? How would it be for you if you had both straight and gay friends?
I guess I kinda try and make gay friends. But it's probably not a big enough effort.. like I hadrly go to gay clubs or bars
Hi Benjamin, thank you for watching my video it inspires me that you have the bravery to comment to me with your own problems. Just remember you was born who you are and you should be happy and proud of that and let no one tell you different. Trust me when I say this most gay people have been through similar feelings and thoughts to yourself as you try and push it out of your head that your gay which can cause a massive stress and depression on your life and completely take over. Im going to repeat what I say to everyone and also what I told myself. BE yourself you are amazing who you are and you cant change it so embrace it. No matter what anybody says you are and if anyone does tell you different then they certainly are not worth the time of day in your life. Live life buddy and be happy.
Thank you Carl for answering me, I really appreciate it! Love from Switzerland
Hey dude! If you feel like your straight friends would treat you differently after they find out, they weren't your friends to begin with, saying that, they may be supportive and more of a friend after you tell them, I say go for it :)
Carl I like to think you for telling your story ...bey you telling your story it will help someone .... I'm happy that I subscribe to your channel
I came out after moving to England. I was born in Poland, so it wasn't an option before, but when I moved to England at the end of 2010 I realized how different and better this country is. I came out one year later and for me it was very easy. It was easy because I realized that no one really cares who you are in UK. Also, after coming out I noticed that people started having more respect for me. Maybe because I'm so confident with my sexuality and I don't hide it. I've never heard anything bad from British people (only from few Polish people in UK, but I don't care). For me life as gay man in UK is very easy. I feel that my husband and I are treated the same way as straight couples. And here is the thing I don't understand. There is still so many gay and bi people in UK in the closet. Why? Yes, some homophobic people are even in UK, but you will always find someone who doesn't like you for something. I really try to understand why even young people now don't want to come out? Maybe because I used to live in Poland for 23 years and I know what really bad homophobia is? I just wish people could see that life as gay or bi isn't hard in western Europe. It's sad. It shows me that no matter how good the future will be, people still choose to be in the closet. I'm happy that you came out. I wish more people could do it.
Hi Carl, I'm new to your channel, just wanted to say how much I enjoyed your coming out video. I've subscribed and will look at the rest of your stuff.
All the best for u!!! this happen to me 12 years ago and it was the most amazing feeling i ever had! But at my time only with friends and family, being muslim and living in malaysia is not easy, but i did it anyway and never turn back, and everytime people ask if im gay, no hesitation, yes im gay!!! Proud to be hahahhaha
omg im.so.proud of you so.happy that your being true to.yourself whoever you.end.up.with I hope they realise how lucky they are to.have such an.amazing guy like you xxx
Videos like this spread hope so thank you for sharing your experience!
This was so brave of you! Thanks for sharing
You display great honesty and courage. Thank you