How To Deal With Depression - Tactics That Work Immediately
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Have you been dealing with depression? Do you want to know how to deal with depression? Do you want to know about depression, and how to cope with your condition? If so, you’re in the right place. This video is meant to help you to deal with depression by giving you tactics that can help you get relief right now.
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Noah Elkrief
This video is about how to deal with depression. In order to deal with depression and cope with your condition effectively, you first have to understand what causes depression. It may seem as if your depression is created by their being something factually wrong with you or your life, but that’s actually not true. If it was, then you would be forced to be dealing with depression in every moment that the facts were the same.
But, that’s not the case. While your job, house, appearance, personality remain the same, you stop feeling depressed in any moment that you are distracted from your thoughts. That means that depression is created by thoughts not by facts. That means your feelings aren’t created by anything being wrong with you.
How to deal with depression, and cope with your condition? Recognize that who you are is not a depressed person. You are there, and feelings come and go. Sometimes sadness is here, sometimes joy, sometimes hopelessness. None of those feelings are who you are. They are a feeling in a moment.
How to deal with depression, and cope with your condition? Find what thoughts are creating your feelings of depression. In dealing with depression, any time you have the unwanted feelings of depression, it is because there are thoughts or stories that are being played in your mind. If you want to lose your depression, you first have to identify what specific stories or thoughts are going on that are creating the depression. Write these thoughts or stories down on paper.
How to deal with depression, and cope with your condition? Investigate the validity of the thoughts that are going on in your mind. If a thought says “I am worthless” or “I am a failure” question that assumption. Ask yourself “Can I think of any reasons, evidence, or examples as to why the opposite might be true?” Don’t try to convince yourself that you’re great. Try to ask questions that enable you to discover that your original negative assumptions about yourself and your life might not be true or valid.
I hope that this video about how to deal with depression to be helpful.
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This is unbelieveable how eye opening this is wow i thank you my friend
thanks noha that's made me a bit better.
lol
+haidi mahmoud And then not only this problem comes up but more and more ,Which are all related which makes you blame yourself even more .
haidi mahmoud just remember everybody around is humane like you, theres things about themselves they dont like. When talk about someone negotively its usually self hate
you saved my life. I was going to end my life tonight. I don't want to anymore. God bless you man! you are my hero. :)
Hey I seen you posted this a week ago and I was checking you are okay and still feeling better or getting better
How are you doing?
+Sian Robertson I'm much better.
+Sian Robertson I'm better than I was. :)
+Logan Pohl That's good, glad you are better if you ever need to chat just go for it. It's best to talk to someone who understands the feelings of depression 😊
I wish somebody else understood I can't control what I think sometimes and it drives me crazy.
My thoughts control my actions in my day to day life and I try my hardest to explain why I do things but no one understands and leaves me alone. Which worsens how I'm feeling.
i have the same problem, i do things nobody understands and i cant explain myself because i dont even understand myself and whats even worse is that i dont have anybody to tell my feelings cause they would laugh at me and tell im just weak. i hate this situation and i dont know how to geht out of it. (sry bad english)
xXJRVidzXx YOU are NOT "weak." You are HUMAN. Noah is on to something. Distract yourself from the unpleasant things. DO or THINK something positive/different and keep it up!
nobody can control what they think this is what the video is about, you can only choose your reaction to those thoughts.
Depression is caused by the enemy's forces. 6 Humble yourselves therefore under the mighty hand of God, that he may exalt you in due time: 7 Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you. *1 Peter* 5:6-7 (King James Version) Seek the real *Jesus*, the one in the gospels - not the ones in the images!
To EVERYONE watching this video, I LOVE YOU ALL. You have been through so much shit and you're still here, so you are stronger than you think, trust me. You're a survivor. Life is a cycle of ups and downs, and i promise you the up part is coming. Stay positive my friends
Thank you
Thank you so much I don’t even know who u are but this is the nicest thing anyone has said all year
Thank u I really need this I am holding rat food raeady to commit suicide
Thank you !
Thx 💔😭
To everyone who reads this, I love you.
But I have no friends
@@iwhaantaboatwithbeer2297 that's because you have to find yourself first. I been on this path for way too long and I seen what makes others come around or stay away. One thing I need to say, if there is anyone that needs to be forgiven you must find that peace. Also you need perseverance, without the will to change all that will be left is a void, at that point people tend to just stop caring about living and all the doubts will come. Anger will come, once you open your eyes, but you'll need to overcome it, and more importantly avoid anyone during this phase otherwise they might as well become your foe and then you'll truly have no friends for a long time. This has been my journey and maybe yours won't be anything like this but if it does I hope you can drive your way out of the forest that lays ahead.
MeGaDroiDx u seem to be the only one who does
MeGaDroiDx I love you more
@@alexcomsa296 same I hate myself
pretty much, thoughts are mostly always why I become depressed. I wish sometimes I could just be a little kid again where you wouldn't give a care about anything and no sadness
So true
I wish i had a time machine...
Mr. Solo Dolo so true I wish I had the power to undo anything and a Power to go back in time
TheSharpUHC me too I just screwed up my whole life
xInferno Gamer what happened man?
This helped me out of suicide
Gizzle I'm happy for you
Same
We're all here to support one another, suicide is never a good option, not for anyone. Well done.
Sanjay Raju its only a good option in a zombie Apocalypse and ur surrounded, but even then its not always ur best option
Laughter is best medicine. Good tactic.
I’m either sad, or depressed. I barley have any friends left and the ones that are left never wanna hang out. Ik always stuck inside on Friday nights. In my classes I have no one. My grades are awful, my friends aren’t loyal, and the only thing going good for me, and something I love is basketball. I dread going to school everyday, or even just waking up😔
I have good grades, and really good at baseball but I have only Two actual friends and every day I work my butt off for nothing. I just don’t get-it.
Same I hope you have it better than me though
Same..
I feel the same way except my grades are good
Same but ims not as worse In some ways it is but Man life is a journey and for some its more rough
Don't make permanent decisions based on temporary conditions. "Feelings aren't facts." Thank you for this video.
I hate school. I want to cry everyday because I have no one. I have 2 friends , but I only talk to them because I have nobody else . My best friends are at another school and I'm lonely . I hate waking up in the morning . I'm always miserable , even out of school. I'm so sad and I want to be happy again . I feel so alone
Oh if you can't click the link it's a song called dark enough- Amanda piccolo
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+Someonee Overtherainbow what?
+Aspen Moore lucky you got friends. lost my last friend some 3 years ago. and now am losing even family. even online friends are lost. all cuz of the sickness of one of my family. I have to be isolated with him for 24/7 all month all year. and he thinks its better if I have no friends so I can stay with him. so be great full you got someone to talk to you. only thing I can talk to is the note on the phone.
مجاهد جان I'm so sorry to hear that . Don't worry good people will show up in your life . When you least expect it
yeah, you know you got a problem when you start crying 20 seconds into it when he started saying "I'm going to help you not feel depressed, or I'm going to try" thanks for the vid
same thing happened 😢 tonight I slapped myself in the mirror and I was biting myself. every time I think of things I want to cage immediately, I start crying and looking at myself in the mirror
+Sucaïna Marcellus change *
Robyn W I have only seen the first minute, but I don't really feel anything when people want to help, when I am alone all I want to do is cry and hope someone can save me
I think its that realization that desperation makes us search these videos. asking for help is so strange in my mind. I've tried a few times and no one helps they just kind of brush it off. its horrible
I feel like a burden to those around me because of my extreme issues with depression sometimes. I feel like people are just tired of me and dealing with me
Do you understand depression? We don’t think about things and get depressed - we just wake up EMPTY for no reason
Even when you don't think that you thinking about thing you actually are I should know like many of you I was suicidal but I over came it I still have my moments but don't we all you just have to challenge your brain and no matter how bad it may seem you will overcome it and live to see a beautiful new day cause ever day Is beautiful in its own way we all learn from our mistakes.
As someone who’s depressed, but coping with it and have come a long way, rarely does a thought start my depression, it just comes like lightning from a blue sky, even if you’re in a happy environment with friends or family, it just strikes... same as waking up, after having a good period and you’re just depressed, for no reason... I’m not saying that what he’s saying is wrong, but it doesn’t apply to everyone or every situation...
Yes thats true but there has to be something to trigger your mind to think about cutting being sad ok it can come out of no where but the thought of cutting and killing yourself there has to be something to trigger it thats what I meant
evan gathers I get what you’re saying, but from personal experience, I didn’t originally, get depressed because of something, I was living a happy life, until suddenly, without any reason, doom and gloom hung over me. Now, later the thoughts started coming, and then there where thoughts that made me want to end my life, so I accept that, no problem with that. I’ve mostly overcome my depression, but as most people who’s dealt with it for (in my case well over a decade) a long time, it still lurks around and strikes, often without warning... now, sometimes that’s because of thoughts piling up and becoming too much, other times there’s nothing to hang my hat on and I think that’s were brain chemistry comes into play. So I don’t think you’re necessarily wrong, just that it doesn’t always has to be a reason for it... I’m glad to say that I’m mostly ok now and can reflect back on this debilitating illnesses, but I know that the darkness lurks in the shadows and sometimes hit you with your guard down. Luckily I’ve worked on this so much that I have my way of making sure it doesn’t stick around for too long, I wish everyone could do the same, it would open up a lot of potential and happiness in people’s, at times, horrible realities (their subjective realities). So, much love to everyone who struggles just to get out of bed and get some food for example, there is (cliché alert) a light at the end of the tunnel, and it’s not a train...:)
Very true
I can't believe this guy just saved my life! I'm in deep debt, with a wife and two kids, my daughter was scheduled to join school but I haven't been able to. Add extended family expectations to that, the pressure at my workplace...I swear I was having nasty wild thoughts of a possible easy way out. God bless this guy...I know better now, I may be down but not out
That's right. Things can always get better if you stick it out. And all things are possible with God!
God bless u
You'll get out of there ✨
I am so depressed that I cant even concentrate on listening to this video....
Nilay Kulkarni sorry Nilay
Nilay Kulkarni keep going mate and we will all beat it if we try.
Nilay Kulkarni This may be somewhat offensive to you i dont know, but thats not my intent. I dont know you but chances are you are just focusing on it to much! Be stubborn. Its like an annoying little brother or sister. It will go away if you stop giving it the time of day bro! Listen to the video! Be stubborn about it. say ''Fuck you im not letting you control me im doing me'' enjoy the video.
Nilay Kulkarni That is exactly my predicament
Nilay Kulkarni I am only now learning I have been depressed for 9 years. When things hit rock bottom, even opening my eyes was an effort… If you have the ability to just lay down and relax, play the vid in the background and just listen to the words… hopefully you may hear something you can relate with. Wishing you all the best on your journey Nilay…
I'm depressed because I hate people I'm always nice to people and I want to make friends but I'm always taken for granted when at work I help other staff members with there jobs but no one helps me and best off all everyone at work talks shit about me I can't drive yet but when I've learnt how to drive I'm going to work with the RSPCA because I get more gratitude from animals than I do people animals don't irrationally hate people there's always reason behind there behaviors unlike people animals are always true to themselves
Galena Faye I feel the same.
Galena Faye same here
Galena Faye same here bro
Max Robert most people are bad. You don't how it is where I'm from.
Same :'( 100% legit
I just get depressEd. I don't have any thoughts. This pain, empty feeling suddenly appears out of nowhere.
Same the pain is real
Don't worry you're not alone. It's awful I know
i used to get depressed when someone criticized me
You’re gonna get through this. Well all are together. Just stay strong, whatever caused this isn’t worth spending you’re life in misery. I struggle with depression, anxiety, anorexia Nervosa, and insomnia. I can’t keep hurting the people I love. I’m watching this to get better. We will get better, just think about you’re loved ones who are rooting for you. Get some inspiration, something to keep you going. Don’t give up yet. Suicide isn’t worth it either, trust me. I survived a suicide attempt, right when I took those pills, regret washed over me. Don’t do it. You’re given a life to live, whatever comes your way is for a reason. You’re strong, fight it. Stay strong🖤
cotexes i hope you are well
Thank you so much 4 that !!!! I needed that ...sitting in my bathroom on the floor in the dark crying my eyes out
Are you feeling better? It's nice to know you're not alone in this! Thoughts and prayers to you
Thank you i really really needed that, Im 13 and I very very very sad rn. Its good to know that im not the only one going through this even tho this comment was 2 years ago. I keep telling myself i wanna die so badly but i may hurt ppl around me. But i hope i can understand these situation is just preparing me for something worst thats gonna bad gonna happen to me cuz i know this is not gonna be the last time i would i say i wanna kill myself. I would really appreciate if someone could talk to me cuz i still wanna know im not alone in this.
Nope it wont
if you are reading this, please smile, say something nice about yourself.. just know this will pass, tomorrow is a new day.. i too have severe depression right now. we can all make it through ❤
Emz bee Thanks kiddo, really made my day.
GOD bless you😂
Indeed
my eyes locked on this statement and I want to thank you for these few words of encouragement. Thank You!, and I love you
I hope it does ♥️
I've had depressive thoughts for a long time, and just when I thought it couldn't get any worse, my girlfriend of 5 years broke up with me a couple weeks ago. I've felt so horrible for these past few weeks, and i lost interest in my normal hobbies and have had suicidal thoughts....they have been terrifying, especially when i wake up every morning feeling like i would rather be dead. I must say that i find these videos to be a great therapy. Thank you so much Noah. You're a life saver.
Hang in there, the world needs you
I hope you get better soon bro
I'm in your exact situation.
I'm in a very similar situation as well... you're not alone, brother. And reading your post reminded me that neither am I. One moment at a time.
same situation brother, contemplating the decision right now
It's so easy to focus on what hes saying and to understand. The way he speaks is incredibly soothing, i came here crying and now I feel way different, I am calmer. This is so reasonable and it helped me so much. Thank you 💖
You're here for a reason. Even if you don't know it or see it yet.. . Keep going and don't give up
Almost 3 years after this video and I still strongly stand by the feeling that my life would've been ended by my own hands if it wasn't for this man.
I'm very happy to read your comment
That’s amazing. I’m so so happy for you friend. God bless you with love and peace in your heat and mind 🙏❤️🙏
Wow amazing
Yep! Same here!
😙😘😚lots of love
My depression isn't brought on by thoughts. I can be in a really good place and happy when all of a sudden I feel this dark cloud moving in and enveloping me. After, I may have positive thoughts or negative thoughts, but regardless, that cloud is holding me down. It is physiological. After the cloud takes over, negative thoughts become more prevalent. But the arrival and overtaking of the cloud is independent of my thoughts. Can you speak to this? Thank you.
+Kimberly Dutil Hi Kimberly, yes, I have a book coming out about this around March and I will be putting up many videos about this in February. Sorry I don't yet have content on this.
Thank you for your response. I look forward to your upcoming information. I do know that many people have situational depression and it seems that you have helped so many of them. Thank you for this!
+Kimberly Dutil Kimberly, you and I are both in the same boat. I wish my depression were situational. you are not alone in this. You probably try to explain it to people, even to the closest people to you, and they don't understand. All you probably get is " but you are healthy, pretty, smart...What is it that is bothering you?" for me, the answer seems to be Life. The dark cloud, he Storm in your head :-( Sometimes people think you are making stuff up just to get their attention. Hang in there!
+Leslie M Hi Leslie. Thank you for your kind reply. I will pray for you if I may and wish for you a happy, healthy new year!
hi! Thank you! . Sending good vibes your way as well. Hopefully we will find a way out of feeling like this. I wish you a happy and healthy New Year as well. :-)
Noah, i think you are saving my life... I just found you on youtube, searching out of depression, and now after seeing only two of your videos, i feel relief, the knots, the unbearable sadness, the choking, it actually disappeared, ok, not forever, but enough to let me breathe and march on, thanks a million, i will keep watching... ♥️
I love you dude. Thank you for your knowledge and calm demeanor. You are spot on. Literally helping me solve ten year old issues in my own mind/ life
Stephen Fry put it in a very useful way. Depression is like the weather. If it's raining, it's no use pretending that it's sunny. You can't dance the rain away and make it dry. But by the same token, it isn't going to rain forever. It's raining now, it may have been raining for a while and will continue to rain for some time; but Life is not rain, you're not doomed to be in the rain forever.
+Falcy Chead Great way of putting it. made me smile at least.
if you read this you're a beautiful person have a nice day :)
Dream Travel you too pal
Dream Travel Thank you.
Dream Travel you too. and happy new year
Dream Travel 6 months later... thank you. Hope you have a great day tomorrow and every day.
Thanks but the day isn't great....😢
I have been going through a very difficult time in my life personally where i was almost at the point of giving up. That is until i came across your content, which has given me the boost and confidence i needed. Thank you so much.
A day after watching this video, I felt peace for the first time in years. Thank you so much.
This made me feel like someone understood for once
Helps a bit when you know there are others that are experiencing the same thing.
+Kayla Mars I'm glad to hear it Kayla
Noah Elkrief I am now at this moment getting some help for my depression
My mom passed away and my father isn't there for me, I'm 14 and feel very sad. I try to think positive, but it's very hard. This video did help me a step forward, thanks!
I'm here, Samira! Stay strong!
Jimmy 16 Thank you very much!
I'm extremely sorry for your loss, but stay strong! People do care about you!
Esteban Orantes I appreciate it! Thank you very much!
+Samira I'm here for you also samira. Please try to be positive. U can do this!
I literally cried during the whole video. This was such an great experience. Especially the end: Having depression might be the greatest gift you ever got. This part made me open my eyes even more. It was like you were really talking to me the whole time. Thank you very very much!
This was the best talk about depression that I've ever heard & spoken at a pace, that I was able to comprehend & take in. Thanks so much.
I'm dying from depression. I have ZERO motivation, I have voices in my head telling me Ive wasted my life away, I can never be the person I imagine I could be. Ive destroyed myself and all my relationships due to depression and insecurity. I go to bed at night with the hopes I dont wake up in the morning and am angry when I do. I hope your videos can help me
Instead of looking at everything that could happen or everything you wish you had, why don't you look at everything you do have and be thankful for that. I'm sure you will begin to love life again
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I am sorry you are going through that, for I too am going through the same. I do have voices and normally I tend to listen for what they tell me, and I sometimes have no motivation at all when it comes to artwork, I love to draw, almost everyday I do it. But with the voices telling me otherwise and the amount of hatred I have gotten from others have lowered my self esteem. But I am still trying, for trying will help.
bornbrit777 Try my stop feeling worthless video
I got depression when I was 13 and I denied it until I was older. Now I accepted the fact i had it. I found out when I couldn't talk to people and I consistently felt tired. I couldn't maintain friends and my heart felt empty of emotion, so not having friends didn't hurt me until I was out of school. Depression is a mix of low energy levels like anemia and punching yourself down or not feeling satisfied with the life that you set up. Maybe other things that I don't know about.
+Angel Kakani the tiredness is the hardest part for me; the house is a total mess because other than going to work I don't have the energy left to do anything. But I will never ever give up and let the depression win. Hope you won't either. The right answer has to be there, we just haven't found it yet. But maybe tomorrow... good luck.
+Julian 3 thanks. You're right..usually I get frustrated of it too and that alone pushes me to try my best :)
+pranav malavya I know depression has types, but i learned there are triggers in us. Usually its dictated by an outside force like life stability or in my case, hope. Sometimes its just tough times or our ability to comprehend life to quickly. My only advice is to manipulate life to bring hope(ask God for help.) or to give yourself reasonable goals and expectations to build self esteem(like publishing a book, buying a nice car.) Well at least that worked for me, Still feel tired but excitement of hope overpowers my personal depression.
Thanks so much, you explained everything perfectly what's happening in my life. You have saved my life, this depression almost literally has killed me.
I've been listening to Noah Elkfrief for a while, and always come back to his videos whenever I need it. They always help and resonate well. Thanks, Noah. You've helped so many people.
I moved to a new state and school over a month ago. I was eager to make new friends and everything, but after going to my new school for a month, I haven't made any friends. I am really shy around new people, and I feel like I've already missed my chance to meet people. Everyone has just written me off as a shy person who doesn't talk much or anything. My family is disappointed in me for not making friends yet, and I feel like I am letting them down by being this shy. I don't have anyone to talk to. I'm lonely, but I won't admit it to anyone but myself. I don't want to harm myself or anything, but it's just gotten to the point where I feel like nothing affects me anymore. I haven't felt happy or looked forward to anything since I moved, and I can tell that from the outside it shows. I think my depression, if I can even call it that is making me worse at making friends. Because I am unhappy, I have lost the ability to have fun, make jokes or do any of the things I used to do with my old friends. I feel like I've let everyone I know down, and I don't have any way to deal with it.
Hey! I understand your situation. First of all, I think you are under pressure from yourself and your family. Let it happen naturally and dont try to hard. It comes off as fake and desperate. Be yourself and people you "click with" will come closer to you naturally. And those are the right persons. If you try to hard, you will often meet the wrong people for you and you change in order to fit in the group. That will not be right and you will be a natural outsider. Dont feel bad. When you look back at this periode in a few years you will most likely just smile. Good luck :-)
Norwegian733 thank you! This helps a lot
Chloe Morales no it is not lol
CJ I can relate. I switched high schools when I moved sophomore year and I went from being a city kid in the bronx, new york my entire life to moving upstate to the suburbs. People had different problems and interests then me so I never found anyone to relate to. I sat in solitude during lunch pretty much for the 3 years that I was there. It sucked, to watch everyone else look foward to lunch and have a group of friends to talk to and I sat awkwardly by myself trying not to make it seem like I was praying for someone to come along and talk to me. My problem however was that I had been battling clinical depression since I was 13. My mother was diagnosed with it, so I got it from her. All this did was just reinforce the depression and It got to the point where I did try to kill myself, only to fail but.. now that I'm alive still, you end up feeling much better when high school ends. I became friends with a group of girls at my job, and being a guy didn't hinder that because friendship shouldn't be dictated by gender, sexual orientation or race. It felt natural and even though I only have one friend that's a guy, they make me happy so I appreciate it for what it is although it isn't ideal, it makes me happy to be with them and that's all that matters. What i'm getting at is stick it out through high school. After high school everything gets better. I still struggle with clinical depression but they make it easier to keep going and I'm sure you'll find people who can do the same for you.
hey there ..i am facing the same problem.. you are just like me feeling lonely and bad about ourself..unfortunatly i also moved to other college and feeling depressed now i thought all this is happening only to me...dont worry you r not alone talk to me every day ...i am with u buddy....share your problems with me...waiting for ur reply
Major depression and moderate depression have completely different things going on. This is a great video for someone with moderate depression. It's always helpful to be mindful of our reaction to our thoughts. But if you suffer from major or moderate depression, these are two separate diseases, and in anyone with Major Depressive Disorder, it's a very physiological disease, more so than it is mental. The depressed feelings and thoughts are secondary effects from the actual primary cause. If you look at a person with major depressive disorder and a person with moderate to little depression, there are distinct difference. Both will experience an event that triggers a depressive episode such as a loss of a loved one or job, eventually both get past their feelings of sadness or emptiness or grief associated to the loss, but the person with MDD (Major Depressive Disorder) does not bounce back to daily living. The person with moderate depression does eventually pull out of it. Instead the person with MDD might become apathetic, they can't muster energy or motivation, simple tasks feel overwhelming. Scientist found that the initial event or loss signaled the brain of trauma, so the brain kicked the body's physiological stress response in by releasing stress hormones which then signaled the adrenals to release more stress hormones, and all these stress hormones impact the brain's ability to see the beauty in butterflies, therefore, it impacts the neurotransmitter balance and makes it imbalanced, and the brain is not capable of talking itself out of its depression but rather becomes even less resilient to struggle because this stress response is occurring and it's heightened our senses and awareness so when you find your dog chewed up your brand new pair of work shoes, guess what happens? It signals the brain of more trauma or stress, and that stress response keeps going and it becomes a viscous cycle that doesn't get shut off by the parasympathetic nervous system in the person's body with MDD. They don't even what's going on often times. Those stress hormones have shown in studies to kill brain cells in the hippocampus. The severely depressed person with MDD suffers psychomotor retardation (agitation, low resiliency, sequencing and memory issues, difficulty in simple tasks like walking to the bathroom suddenly feels like a marathon) while the stress response occurring is trying to protect the person from the very outside trauma or stressors that is kesping their fight or flight in overdrive, and it does this by activating certain areas and shutting down other areas. However, chronic stress can eventually lead to premature aging of the brain, and ppl with lifelong or years of suffering with MDD are at high risk, so if you suffer with persistent depression, please see a doctor. Anyway, the depressed person might look chill like nothing major is happening or shit ain't going on, perhaps they even seem slowed down or stoned due to the lack of response in the hippocampus, but internally their body is so stressed it's as if it's been running from an entire army. Studies show this stress response is even occurring during sleep (ha! which means that our negative thoughts are not at cause in the MDD patient because we are not conscious or thinking negative thoughts in our sleep). Why this stress response does not get shut off in the person with MDD, is the mystery. Approx 1/4th have a thyroid hormonal imbalance at play. Perhaps some sort of deficiency as well. There's also a gene factor, as well as our environment. Now someone with moderate depression differs from the person with major depression. Watch Robert Sapolsky's lecture on Depression. He's a neuroscientist professor at Stanford. Brilliant. He is changing how we view depression in the medical field, and I hope others who do NOT suffer can understand that their friend or loved one who does is very much suffering from a physiological disease just like asthma or diabetes.
Good info
Thank you so much, for your understanding and comment 😚😚😚 I am close to tears, from reading it 😢 I have major depressive disorder. Have had it my whole life. Plus, general anxiety disorder. And, Complex - PTSD. Melinda 😚
This is one of the best comments that I have read regarding MDD, more knowledgable than most dr n psychiatrist that I have seen.
@@melindaharrington7588hi Melinda…I’m 62 and I totally relate to your comment. The struggle is real. ❤
I wish I could see you to thank you personally for what you just did in my life. Since morning I just found what I have been looking for. Thanks so much
Everyday I feel more and more depressed I get voices in my head telling me life is meaningless,I lay in bed at night and cry myself to sleep.Knowing that nobody likes me at school I try to be funny to lighten up.My aunt who I loved very much died.i just want to say thank you for this video it helped me thanks.
It's okay, you're not alone😔
Green Thunderl8. Can you talk to a school counsellor? If you're getting voices in your head saying that stuff, it's not good. I'm so sorry that you are going through this. I would talk to someone asap.
You are not alone friend, Same feeling I am going through. But let's promise to fight with it. we can.
Green Thunderl8 it is life is a time limit if you really think about it
Hey bud you are not alone . Ask for help. Also if you need someone to talk to .i can be your friend ... add me on Facebook and let’s chat !
I feel unwanted and just want to go back to when I was little and had friends and no problems. Now I can't trust anyone and feel empty all the time. There's so much stress on my mind I just want to die so I don't have to deal with all of this
Basicallyidk take that emptiness and fill it with your family. I may be a random comment, but I love you! No one should feel unwanted. Keep a smile on your face and keep your head up!
wow me to
+HogyBun my family hates me
A while ago, during my intermediate school year I was going through tough times. My parents were fighting and I thought there was no meaning in life. I sat alone at lunch, I talked to no one, I ignored everything. My grades dropped, despite the teachers noticing my introvert bookworm nature. I didn't really know what friends were. Now, 4 years later, I have tons of friends who share the same interests as me, I'm in the advanced classes and even smile. The ideas of a fatherly figure still reside in my head, but I have a goal, and I will not die or become overwhelmed by emotions. That goal is to become a computer engineer and earn lots of money to make sure my family has a good life, and to have a great wife so they don't have to feel what I felt. I'm currently 14 for those wondering.
+Madara Uchiha good for you dude
Same, my grades dropped and I stopped talking to my friends and that was because one particular thing, I can't say.
Maia Kentner 😢
+Maia Kentner wow, your own mother working against you.... I hope things work out for you.
You just described me nice
I fought back my tears this entire video. This was really helpful, Thank you so much.
Thank you. It was immensely comforting to hear that I'm not lacking, and that I could just be me.
You're videos are very valuable. I've just weaned off Lexapro and feel much better. I recently quit a job that was a toxic environment. I find that meditation helps so much. If I get anxious about anything, I just tell myself " All you have to do right now is breathe".
anyone else wacthing this while crying for a reason you don't understand?😂
its probably because this man ive never met seems to care more about my situation than anyone around me
I smiled when I saw your comment and I felt a little better knowing at least I'm not the only one
Liz Lyrics yeah I’m crying right now my life sucks
Yup!!!
Liz Lyrics me
I absolutely love you brother. Thank you so much for everything you do for people. There is so much suffering in this world that goes ignored or unnoticed. I'm so grateful for people like you.
You posted this video so long ago and yet it is extremly relevant today. Thank you so much for posting this as it is helping me through a rough time.
I lost a very important person in May.. she was young , full of life , with kids.. cancer took her away. I am still so depressed about it.. I don t have the money to go to psychologist , and I pretty much can t handle it , and can t handle life. I don t have a job , or close friends.. I am spending almost all of my time alone in my room. Life is hard. She was the one and only person I was 100% open with , the only one so close to me that I talked about any problems etc with ... and now she is gone.
You need yourself girl. The only person who is always with you is yourself. People die all over the world. People lose loved ones It doesn't mean you should feel death too. If you listened carefully to this video you had answer for that. You just made a thought and by paying all your attention to that you make it real. The reality of your life. THAT IS NOT TRUE. You said you loved her right? She was the only one for you to trust right? She was the only one that you were able tell her everything about yourself right? I have a question; Do you think her soul will be happy if she saw you like this? Wouldn't be she sad if she was able to see your life now? SHE DIED OK. YOUR LOVED HER A LOT. HONOR HER AND HER MEMORY AND GET BACK TO LIFE. You can have a wonderful life ahead of yourself. Losing her was a lesson for you and that is that you have to rely on yourself and make a new start. Control your emotions and get over it. Don't feel death and do something about it. Anything. JUST DO IT. YOUR NOT DEAD YET SO LIVE. Get a job, go to a gym, go travel if you can. By doing something you'll be able to distract your mind and your negative thoughts and by doing this you can overcome to your depression. I hope this help and wish you happiness
if your pic is for real you need nothing but to go outside.. for fuck sake
enjoytheride09 I'm sorry about that but I have been in the same situation last year where I have been shocked because my bf lied about loving me, and I trusted him :'( I HAVE BEEN CRYING ALOT Literately whenever I think about that day I started to cry. But guess what ? Who cares ? Ok, after a long time of crying .... will it help OF COURSE NOT I found out that the more I cry the more I get headache. So why I create problems in my life and I already have a problem that needs to be solved. What I did is that I sat in my room by myself and I started thinking the first thing that came into my mind is my mother advice Don't GIVE YOUR HEART TO Anyone EXCEPT YOUR HUSBAND, and I didn't obey her advice, so here I am sitting with dark hole inside my heart no one in my family will help me now it's over I did what I did . So What's the solution right now I kill MYSELF of course not what I did is that I took my phone and deleted EVERY MOMENT LITERALLY everything happened between us. I changed my number. I pray everyday to god to help me and to erase every single thing that happened between me my bf, and I swear to never give my heart to anyone. My life is more expensive than everything, and so do you life. Eventually, after 3 months of suffering from this depression I feel more cured and I'm sure you will be fine don't worry ^^ I'm so sorry about what happened to your close friend that she died Remember Stay strong if you have any memory left about her you can hang it into your room so you can always remember her ❤
enjoytheride09 l’ve been there . Isolation is the worst
33:48 at this moment I concluded a very important thing in my life... I still cant process it well and clear, but it opened me to another conclusion of knowing myself. if somebody is reading the comments to know if this video worth 30 minutes, I encourage you to watch it, it will help everyone, depressed or not. thank you Noah!
Thanks
This video really helped me. Since i watched this video i would saw around two weeks ago i haven't felt depression and i am so thankful to this guys who make this video I'm not sure how many people are apart of this video but i want to say thank u to everyone who contributed in making this video this saved my mind and life. Thank you 🙏❤🙏
3 years ago I was in a deep depression triggered by loss of job. I watched this video and didn't help in the moment but it stayed with me and helped me live with the depression. As time moved on and I got on some meds and life got better I kept watching this video and when I was just coming out of the depression this video really helped me believe that I am a human that is worth being alive
I don't know if this guy talks mambo jumbo or not, but he made me feel shockingly better about myself after a totally unexpected relapse. Instant subscribe. And many thanks for this. I go to bed with a positive attitude. My life is awesome.
I wish I never had to time to think because that is when I feel the worst, my sleep disorder dosent help as I lay there for hours every night trying to sleep.
Jennings same
Me too but I don't get tired til 3:00 AM
***** That sounds like a great idea. Ill give it a try tonight
Jennings you are not alone i go thru the same thing every night with thoughts processing through my mind
Take a melatonin pill
You're such a good person Noah. May you always find peace and happiness in life just the way you help others find theirs.
Thank you for existing! Every time when my depression came back I just go to your channel and listen to your voice and words, it helps every time :) You have such a great energy that is impossible to stay depressed when I hear and see you...
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my depression mainly comes from loss, when I was in senior in high school I had everything I could ever want, I had a great relationship, good friends my dream career was in line after I graduated, but after I graduated everything fell apart. I lost my job I had to move to a new state with my parents, shortly after me and my girlfriend broke up. I struggled with the thought of going to back to school like my parents wanted me too but I did it because I was to sad and trapped in my own bubble to do anything I wanted to do. until a few months ago when I started talking to some old friends and they reminded me of all the great things I did, and they convinced me to do what I wanted to do even though it was terrifying because I already experienced my fall from grace. I'm still struggling every day but even on my worst day I have enough confidence in my self that I can be what I want to be and do what I want to do as long as I work on it little by little every single day.
I know how you feel I'm only in 9tj grade but I've been teased my whole life becuase bad speech and I a. just bad at learning things I try to learn and get good grades but I never can and teachers think I am not trying it's horrible
+halloween season 2nd channel I'm sorry about how you got teased. People shouldn't tease you because you can't speak so well.
Thank You for creating this video Noah, I've never had the strength to really get help or spoken with anyone about the feelings I feel, the one's I label depression, still now at 20. You creating this video allowed people like me to make that first step without having to actually speak to anyone physically but instead to just listen. Thank you sincerely. Emily
If you're reading this. I just want to tell you, I love you and you're born for a reason. You can make the change just make the right choices and pull yourself out of the shit you're going through. I search for others approval but I never got it. But I don't want that to happen with you. I love you and you matter to me. I don't know how long I can survive this, I'm a looser but you're not. You can be a brave fighter. Fight it, don't quit
thank you.
I cried so much throughout the vid.That was absolutely beautiful. Thank you so much.
thank you. What you said has really helped me
You're welcome Ros, I'm glad it helped
the thing that really bothers me is that there are so many people who have to struggle everyday with this kind of shit. it makes me even more depressed.
Like you can feel their pain and kind of force it apon yourself
It’s weird for me because knowing others feel the same way actually feel better, but not in a good way? Like my depression just got comfortable because ik everyone agrees life sucks. It’s hard to explain .
if you feel other people's pain or grief you're most likely an empath and that's a good thing
Well, you should be feeling the exact opposite, actually, knowing that you’re not the only one going through challenging times - You’re not alone! If anything, that should improve your mood, even if it’s slightly
Noah Elkrief, Thank you. What you have shared is profound, true, and immediately healing.
I love you, Noah, thank you for this. You have a cool gift of a special, comforting voice and compassion to send helpful messages. Thanks for giving.
I have an odd form of depression, my sadness comes not from my own pain and suffering, I came to the realization a long time ago I am not going to attain much in life (I am 16 years old), I don't think of myself as ignorant or moronic, but I just feel as though I see others sad, and that makes me sad (especially minority groups - LGBT, black ect..). I feel as though my life is meaningless, I know this, but I feel so weak when I sob to myself about how stupid, ugly (I look, well, normal,, but I tell myself this over and over for some reason), and how annoying I am, why? Because so many people are in a much worse situation than me, and that makes me feel worse, because I know I shouldn't have the option to be sad, I have a good family, I have financial support, but seeing others sad makes me feel so sad and I can't overcome this. One of my main issues is with people who gay, I feel so saddened knowing so many people who are gay won't be able to enjoy the same things as me. One last thing, sometimes I actually feel at my most happy when I am condescending myself (I know how weird that sounds), I am not a religious person, but I truly hope there is something in the after-life, not for me, but so people can have the justice and fairness and for their love and kindness to be rewarded. When I see people truly happy, gay, straight, white, black (and so forth), I will be truly at peace, knowing all these people can enjoy each others company. And then I can fade away, to be forgotten. I hope that everyone in life feels happy, be true to yourself, because you all deserve so much better. Also, when I was younger I remember bullying some classmates, and some of them bullied me back but it was mainly me. (all has been forgiven, but I still feel like crap because of things I did years ago). If you have read this far, I thank you. Your happiness is my happiness, because without any of you, I am nothing. So please, for me, enjoy life to the fullest.
Thank you for making me smile
You're welcome OperaWitch
Spoken perfectly....spoken with meaning, spoken slow enough for information to absorb, spoke eloquently enough to understand what is being said and received to believe what is being said. Well done from the content, to the delivery, to the tempo, well done. I've never before heard it said this way. Out of the thousands of times that I've read on the topic or listened to discussions on the topic, this has been the most understandable and eloquently put in decades of my reading on the topic. I can't imagine the amount of relief and peace you are giving to so many people. How heavy that would weigh, if the relief from people pains that you have helped from this one video could be weighed. It's staggering.
You with one video have changed so many thoughts in my head which two therapists couldn't, thank u ❤️
Thanks a lot! i was going through the phase of depression and wanted to get rid put of this, i knew i was luckier than other but this feeling didn't help me. when i saw your video, it has given my mind a clear path to control my thoughts by letting it go. you saved me.
I'm even more depressed that I'm watching this
Max Robert I was being sarcastic and besides this is meant to help which it mostly did
Alexander Riggs your profile pic dont look depressed
hi
Max Robert, watching happy videos only distract you from you thoughts whereas Noah speaks about tackling them ;D
How did it help?
after listening to you for 10 minutes I was bawling like a baby, thank you for helping.
I knew all this... I just needed reminding. You sir are appreciated. Thank you.
I'm lonely. Sometimes when I'm alone, I think it's because of me. I always think I'm lame, ugly, annoying, stupid.. Even when people say the opposite, I can't let those thoughts out. When I just don't know I'm really sad. Even when I believe my life would get better, the other day I just say something different. I'm not comfortable with my house getting dirty everyday, my brothers pressure me, my parents keep yelling at me that I need only A's, even when I could argue, they don't understand my explanation, and I can't feel good when they don't acknowledge my problems. Girlfriend, I don't beg for a girlfriend. Being loved from someone from not your blood is a new feeling for me. I believe it's good, a different person that tells you "I love you" tells a lot for me.. Now that I've let all that out, I don't know anymore what I'm doing..
I'm here Ur not alone
same..
My video "how to overcome social anxiety" or "how to never feel lonely" would be helpful for you. Good luck Ticha
I feel like i go through the same thing everyday in an loop that will never end. Thank you for sharing your struggle
Sounds like you might have some dysfunctional family dynamics if your family doesn't listen or acknowledge your problems. Perhaps the role of the lost child. Do some research on dysfunctional family roles if you feel you have no voice. It may bring you some understanding, and know you are not alone. I promise.
If I'm walking on a street, and someone throws a stone at my back... I very much will blame myself for that and, definitely, I will think it signifies who I am. This is the essence of depression for me. Thinking that I must be that repulsive, that inferior - that I'm being openly despised by others
wannagetawaygirl so if I punch you is it your fault and I'm totally inocent? Wait now say what I would say.
Thank you for your kind words. Your videos always calm me down when I'm wrestling with tough emotions.
I found this video about 4 years ago when I was about to end my life youtube still recommend's this video I just get happy whenever I see this because it helped me a lot. I'm safe and happy now!!
Noah you make perfect sense because I alway thought not having everything together meant I'm not successful because it's how I was raised when I was younger and it's just stuck . Thank you for the video .
You're welcome Es Ma
You are amazing, your way of explaining this made me realize so many destructive thoughts that I have. And I am not even depressed, just a bit stuck. Thank you so much!
OMG - thank you!! I so needed to hear this today. I 100% agree with you and I love your examples. I've been telling people for years that we live in a world of perception and if you want something different, change your focus and what you perceive will change accordingly. However, I was in a bit of a funk this evening and I know exactly why....my focus. Even though I've told people 1,000 times I sometimes have to be reminded and the way you went about it was outstanding. Thanks again!
I am so grateful; that I found your video since I had been feeling depressed and getting quite desperate. You have such a peaceful, loving countenance. Thank you so much and please keep up the great work!
I really appreciate how much you helped me tonight, Thanks man.
Chase Gallagher You're welcome Chase
I'm very thankfull to you, I've never seen depression the way you showed it in this video. You sir have participated in changing my life. Thank you
omar rais You're welcome Omar
You are such a blessing, i am so thankful i found your channel. You have no idea how many lives you have saved.
I love how he calmly talks with detail how to not being okay is okay🥺❤️
Found you by chance and I see it as a good positive signal for 2017 when I most needed it. Beautiful ,caring and helpful talk. Many thanks
I suddenly lost interest in everything. I don't feel like doing anything. My appetite is gone too. BUt the most frustrating ting is that I don't know the reason. I don't even know if there is a reason or not. Can anybody help me or suggest me anything?! Thanks is advance!
Try my other video about depression - why I get no pleasure
This is exactly how I feel rn did you ever find out out why or how to help the feeling go away
Could be that you are tired of the monotony. It might be a good time to just wander around and try stuff you've never tried before. You may discover new people or things that interest you
Amrit feeling the same for a while , don't know what to do :(
Amrit / hey, i know this was a year ago but, im going through the same thing right now & wanted to know if anything worked for you? have you gotten better?
Thank you so much for this. Years later and I just found this, but I can’t even begin to explain the relief it has brought me. I found this on a night where I was feeling incredibly depressed and numb and at a loss. Somehow this all just made sense. Like a moment of clarity/revelation. My goal is to watch/listen to this either at the start or end of each day and remind myself of this.
Thank you for making this video. I’m so glad you reiterated that there’s nothing wrong with us, because nobody had told me that before. Thank you.
Thank you!!!... you helped me to snap out of it. I like your voice; being so soothing helps me a lot.
my depression is set off by loneliness I'm all alone.
Sugarcoating shit won't help, hun.
ᅚᅚᅚᅚᅚᅚᅚᅚᅚᅚᅚᅚᅚᅚᅚᅚᅚᅚᅚᅚᅚᅚᅚᅚᅚᅚᅚᅚᅚᅚᅚᅚᅚᅚᅚᅚᅚᅚᅚᅚᅚᅚᅚᅚᅚᅚᅚᅚᅚᅚᅚᅚᅚᅚᅚ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°) same here. I have friends that don't seem to notice shit. I want friends that understand. I can't talk to my mom, she doesn't think I have a reason to be sad. I could never talk to my dad. He wouldn't care. I just don't seem to matter anymore.
you do matter!!!!!! I know, depression sucks and hurts, ive been there girl, I know it gets better... Try joining discussion groups and relate with others who have depression also...NAMI.ORG is a great website to join...kati Morton here on youtube she's great also. :)
Me too loneliness i don't like who I'm becoming I lost my parents when I was young have been alone I'm trying so hard to change things and not think it I get into music most time but to no avail i do exacly what you do katty youtube all sorts once i'm on youtube depression sets in... i'm lonely again
Join me lets be alone together
This is the best explanation of depression I've ever heard. There's so much in this video that I found helpful. Thank you for making this.
thank you, I have been struggling and i thought it was my fault. and i know having depression isn’t me. its not that i’m weak or bad. i can’t control my thoughts. we are so used to saying negative stuff to ourselves. it’s in our culture. drama is popular. boring isn’t popular.
Brother .... ! You have just saved me .... ! i really want to donate for you ... ! You are True Person with Real Feeilngs ... ! You Are My Best 1 :) Sincerely Thanks & Love From PAKISTAN ... !
I hate being the one to mask who they really are. At school I'm this funny guy who will cheer you up when your down but away from my friends someone who you won't recognise. Sometime I tell myself I need to stop being everybody's life guard because I'm drowning myself. 😖
MysticalMillion I'm sorry. I know how you feel, I'm always there to help my friends trough their issues but when I need them... it's like they see right through me or they've disapeared. You should talk to someone, if you can. Unless your like me and no one will listen.
bebe_ari_mel nobody will listen to me either 😥
i am very similar, no one knows who i really am, what i feel like, what i do when im not with them, how many times i have thought about suicide
bebe_ari_mel Know how you feel, when I took my stand, I lost my kids, my grandson, my sister. All because of the man married. His parents even BLAME me. I took on the whole family. Remember me! and yes I have been depressed, can't shake it no matter what I do.
That's exactly how i feel, they dont realize that the moment where im the most outgoing, fun, charming, even singing and dancing, is when i feel the depression slowly coming back and I'm just running away from it, even tho I'm just posponing it for when im alone
Your explanation makes so much sense and I love the tone of your voice, it’s so soothing
Thank you for your time. I found this video helpful and I enjoyed how you reframed a way of thinking that can lead us from feeling helpless to hopeful. Much appreciated!
You are really a very great person there is no person in the world like u
My pug just died and I wanted to join him because he was the only one who loved me but. I watched this video and realized I’ll join him someday we all will
Because you are believing that,change your beliefs man
One of the best videos I’ve come across on this subject. I felt depressed now I don’t. Thank you for making this video and saving lives. God bless