This could be why you're depressed or anxious | Johann Hari | TED
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In a moving talk, journalist Johann Hari shares fresh insights on the causes of depression and anxiety from experts around the world -- as well as some exciting emerging solutions. "If you're depressed or anxious, you're not weak and you're not crazy -- you're a human being with unmet needs," Hari says.
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"if you're depressed, if you're anxious, you're not weak, you're not crazy, you're not a machine with broken parts... you're a human being with unmet needs."
The last line hit home
This part made me cry
i started crying when he said that
And rin, you love mankind and understand it's vulnerability. God Bless 🙏 Goodnight 🌉 BTW... Who or where are you " quoting " from?
@@petemavus2948 this is from the video
"If you are depressed, if you are anxious, you're not weak, you're not crazy... you're a human being with unmet needs." 100%
“Put your hand on the left side of your chest. Feel that beat. That’s purpose. You are here for a reason.”
🤌
Gold
Depression is really underated. Being broke leaves you struggling with depression every time. I just can't help it most times
@@gonzalezxavier1702 even with money its a struggle hope there's some comfort in that . Peace to u
There’s a saying: ‘before you diagnose yourself with anxiety and/or depression, make sure you’re not surrounded by a$$holes’
Gee that's good!
it s also a reason that some people are depressed
Wow. True
@@karlvi4040 i'd like to see it that when you're depressed you surround yourself with assholes. negative thinking leads to attracting negative people. being around negative people keeps you in a negative place
I mean, it’s not wrong.
Amazing. "Your depression is not a malfunction. It's a signal". That brought tears to my eyes. I've been thinking "something is wrong with me. Why do I have to be messed up?" When in reality I'm not messed up. There's something wrong about my situation or circumstances that's bothering me. Thank you for this.
thank you. it took you saying this for me to understand. hope things are better or getting better for u
@@mekaydoge3428 thank you! They have definitely been getting better. Bless you.
@@ChynnaTheIsraelite glad to hear it
I hope you are okay
I live a life of true happiness, fulfilment meaning and purpose. I have no worry, anxiety, depression or fear and I enjoy all the best things in life. I am greatly blessed. I'm a Problacist and I follow the Guidelines of Problacism.
i used to say 'i cant wait to be an adult'. never have i been so wrong. life as a child was bliss.
That is so so true.I 100% relate.
💗
Only when you're not abused or exposed to traumatizing experiences
I don't want to be an adult even when I was a child. And it is still true today >
Life as a child was pretty awful as well. Everything felt so overwhelming, like everyone knew something I didn't and didn't want to tell me. Everything was terrifying
We are lonely because our purpose in life has been reduced to making money. All other human needs have been sidelined.
@warner tesla Aren't we judgy!! It's a general statement about the modern human condition which does affect more than myself. But thanks for making it personal. Says a lot about you.
@@mamarama5174 don't let the narcissism of another get to you
@@thomaskavanagh9780 As long as I can turn it into a clever reply I don't. Thanks for the support.
I agree!
@warner Tesla totally proved the speaker’s point
"I feel like pain is leaking out of me" that is deep
Let it flow. 💞
me too 😝
1. The most cause to be depressed or anxious is the way we live, lifestyle 2. Be us, be we, be part of a group 3. "We live in a machine that is designed to get us to neglect what is important about life"... your depression is a signal to tell you something ! Thanks Mr. Johann Hari !
Yes! The paradigm , the mental construct that stupefies us in order that we do not have a clear view of that machine is seductive and at the same time revolting, and it appears we know it ! It so robs us of any belief in our feelings that even after listening to the wise words of Mr Hari knowing them to be true ; we still misinterpret the signal , the red flag that says 'Boy are WE in trouble !' We see the flag , the crisis that the flag signifies bit still take away t h e message that we are not right , it's us that needs adjusting , medicating to resolve these uneasy feelings. No! There is a problem ! In the matrix , in the force , in the world , not in my fucking synapses
Thank you very much… having battled with depression and anxiety … very lonely … need time with my family and friends.. and I planted my first garden this summer.. it was wonderful - made me happy…. And I met people … I’m alone most of the time…. I’m newly married And this
I make my own group, noit be part of anothers group.
I live a life of true happiness, fulfilment meaning and purpose. I have no worry, anxiety, depression or fear and I enjoy all the best things in life. I am greatly blessed. I'm a Problacist and I follow the Guidelines of Problacism.
@@richardventus1875 Where can these guidelines be found? I searched on Google but found very little
Congrats to anyone trying to improve their life. Never stop trying.
🙏
Stephen, Reduce negative thoughts. Its quite simple. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free during the day or night before sleep sit or lie down still for a few minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Feel the stillness flow within you. Make it a daily habit. Do the above meditation daily to have a good life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
Thank you stranger your comment brightened a rather grey day
This comment made me cry
@@chase3872 Put God first and ask for guidance. He is the only one who could fill that void. I will be praying for you. Have a blessed day 🙏
"You're not a machine with broken parts. You are a human being with unmet needs." That hit me in the feels and made me start to cry.
It's true. God bless you
exactly. me too.
I hope you’re not a guy
Chase Jordan cos it would be gay to cry
Indeed. Just how I felt. Just what I needed to hear today💔😢
I have been depressed for a long time, but after taking shrooms few months ago, l feel much happier and highly motivated and my ADHD gone , lost a ton of anxiousness and had a few epiphanies about how I should live my life. I decided to buy an ounce for backup, but haven’t yet felt the need to take any more since then.
I have autism, I was diagnosed with it when I was 15. I tried shrooms and it made me function so much better.
Eek I’m autistic too and might wanna try mushrooms. How do I go about it?
Yeah doc.brenttt is your guide. Man is exceptional with anything psychedelics.
Hello Can he be reached on IG?
Yes doc.Brenttt
The main reason why I believe I cannot break out from my depression/anxiety is because everytime and I mean absolutely everytime I do open up to someone they always compare my suffering to someone else's. By giving the good old and here's some examples " imagine some people can't walk" or " you could have no job" I don't want comparison to someone else's mindset/life I want you to hear ME out.
Yes!! So many of us struggle with this and you’re absolutely right. You must be talking to men in my guess, because they’re “fixers” by nature and they do this all the time. A lot of women are much better at expressing empathy instead of trying to prove to you that you could have it worse. You need someone better to talk to ❤️
This is why it's also important to go to specialists for help. Yes some people love us and can help but most of us aren't equipped to understand what's happening... help is out there for you. Wishing you the best.
That's it isn't it, people are sick to death of me me me,just as you state, people in this employment of listening to others last 6 months at most,the medical profession is poisoned by giving you poison,and your government has already got past your agenda,since the rivers of blood speech,wake up people,the only people that can help you is you,this is your mortal coil from the same perspective,life is not easy,you depend on your path
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Hearing you!! Get the same too when I know the source of my issues is loneliness & isolation, no connection !!!
"Your depression is not a malfunction, it's a signal." Excellent TED Talk.
Yes, take some “Deep rest” 👍
yes
my key takeaway. the next challenge is to figure out what that unmet need is
akosiRanRan _ Take some deeprest, when calmness comes you will purge your need authentically... when it does, of course meet that need...but I’d say become aware of basic needs and meet those (shelter, food, peace in your own mind)
Turn off cellphones and wifi in home....and garden! Learn about potential adverse health effects of non-native EMF.
"you don't want to die, you want your way of life to die"
I don't like this sentence but "that's deep" would fit in there actually :O
That can be actually a life-changing thing to say to some people, thank you really
Especially those who are thinking about suicide.
This means the death of America as it was created. Perhaps this is why America is the loneliest and saddest nation in the world.
you want to kill the depresive feelings
Oh my. “You’re a human being with unmet needs.” Beautiful. Thank you for this talk!!
ikr?
If you examine it closely, people got depressed when their expectations are broken. Our individual world, our daily reality are actually made up of continuous uninterruptible flow expectations. When they are broken, people will lost their sense of self continuity, they will lost confidence and self certainty and indulge in fear of what has to come.
YES!! *Doctors want to give you a pill. *Insurance allows you 6-therapy sessions. *Well meaning people make clueless or dismissive remarks. *Others arrogantly judge, criticize. .....and they then wonder WHY you're no longer open with them, withdrawn, isolate.
There are millions of beings that need a reality check and a need and thirst for knowledge, that destroy there own planets,I am pleased you came for the show,no charge
Changing your environment can do wonders. God bless anyone going through this.
We’re moving at the end of the month I hope it helps but I feel like it won’t.
Sorry to hear that. Chin up.
@@glennandric6846 this was actually a really helpful way of putting it. Thank you
@@bellyishungry I'm happy to hear that. You're welcome.
You are right, but sometimes we are compelled to be in the environment.
"you're not weak, you're not crazy, you're not, in the main, a machine with broken parts. You're a human being with unmet needs." That hit me, I needed to hear it.
yes!, same here🥳😼
Same cos it's so true and what I have been telling the closest to me and they say to me no if you had a partner you would still be depressed. I say no, no I wouldn't unless he was the wrong person
@@courtneyjackson7181 I have a wonderful partner and I'm still depressed and anxious. No one thing makes anything better, especially depression.
Marissa Etchison If your current situation is loving, caring, safe, fulfilling, and depression persists then it may be necessary to explore further back (perhaps with a clinical psychologist) into your pre-birth history and early childhood years and into late adolescent years and understand your life script which formed your adult personality. It may provide identification of unresolved pain or trauma encountered during formative years, impacting current mental/emotional state. Or loss of a loved one may be a reason, which bereavement therapy is effective to resolve the depression. Or your life may lack deep-seated spiritual meaning in terms of having purpose and meaning to your earthly life, and engaging with the needy and offering some service to groups within the community may be the answer. For last mentioned consultation with a spiritual director or life couch may be beneficial. Best to you.
if only the World knew what to do and what to say, instead of the crap they DO say to us, ad nauseam.
"We need to talk less about chemical imbalances and more about the imbalance in the way we live."
True... be more in Nature ... bring Harmony to yourself..
Amen! 👏👏
Spot on
I agree.
And in society as a whole.
"Junk values don't meet your psychological needs." Thank you for this talk!
They did NOT say “Hey, buddy, you need to pull yourself together. It’s your job to figure out and fix this problem on your own”. They said “We’re here to pull TOGETHER with you, so together, we can figure out and fix this problem”. Thank you so much for your speech, it was highly needed, thanks a lot
“On your deathbed, you are not going to think about all the shoes and retweets you got, you will think about these moments of love.” Love it
that is quite profound
I am stuck in a marriage with a man who doesn’t get that even after his sister died by Suicide. He and my parents all watch tv constantly.
This makes me even more anxious. Not even in death regretting will end? Not even at the end we can only die like every other animal on earth no, still there we must feel not enough.
but I'll definitely be thinking about that cow
@@einsteindarwin8756 escapism!!!
I was a strung out IV drug user who was anxious and depressed, couldn’t get clean, then I got a puppy, I’ve been clean ever since. I am as many years sober as she is old...10!
Life helps create life
Proud of you!
Congratulations!! That is NOT EASY! I was thinking about dogs when he was talking about the cow. ❤️🐶
Nice!
Jeff - What breed ? Male or female ?
His watery eyes are much enough to understand how much pain he went through and how much he feels for the depressed people.
As someone who has become deeply depressed in the last year, this man still holds so much sadness inside of him. Given it’s an amazing talk, you can see how emotional he is talking about this subject. This brought tears to my eyes
Exactly.
Yeah
Yeah thats true
KZhead really knows I’m having a mental breakdown rn huh (edit: you guys are so kind, thank you, really.)
You are not alone about the breakdown. Life can be very disappointing. So we must somehow find what makes us happy and relaxed. Usually simple and beautiful things make people happy. Funny things make people laugh. Each day is a gift. See what is beautiful in that day; no matter how painful that day has been. Find something you enjoy. Take time to laugh, cry if necessary, and let it all go. Make some comfort food. Do Yoga. Mindfulness. Peaceful Visualization. Whatever works.
My mom sent this to me. Even worse 😂😂😭😭😭
Yeah we have mental health chips built into every smart phone which tells us if this person is having a meltdown.
@@Ron-np9rp harsh
@@plantmama7442 your body is purging and preparing for a better tomorrow have faith
"We were trained to look for happiness in all the wrong places."
This
I read this exactly when he said it
Exactly. People think being famous and having tons of money would make you happier. I swear it doesnt. And you have more chances to be more stressed when you are on the top of the dominance hirerarchy. Ex: Famous actor. Imagine, those people doesnt have intimate life, everyone tracks them, they cant do anything otherwise they are judged by everyone. I would never want to be famous because this is not the path for happiness at all.
“Lookin' for love in too many faces, searchin' their eyes and lookin' for traces of what I'm dreamin' of.”
No, the problem is the simple fact we are trained to look for it.
I think we should go back to the days where we lived with family instead of alone. Everyone contributes to the running of the household in a meaningful way that works for everyone. Elderly would never get left out and have purpose and be cared for and moms and dads wouldn't feel the burden of taking care of children by themselves and providing for the household by themselves. If I was a millionaire I would build a large house for my family with a large living room where everyone could gather but also have separate quarters where everyone could go if they needed peace. Everyone would have their own bathrooms.
This!! Even in literature, modernism shows us how people turn to absurdism and nihilism, become depressed. All because of industrialisation and urbanization. They become more lonely and sad all because people decided to live individually in their own houses
i used to work with a bollywood actor, he was very poor before and later became filthy rich, he used to live in a grand multi million dollar house here in india in mumbai, and then moved to a small house like less than 1500 sq ftt. i asked him why doing so ? cant you afford the luxury ? he told me once that once you get rich, the houses become huge , but people get away from you, and literally his mother had a heart attack and he couldnt hear her scream , he could not even have dinner with his children as they ate in their rooms watching laptop, and after that day, he went to live in quite a smaller house, always family before work
@The Brown Analyst wow, very eye opening. Thanks for sharing. Goes to show money isn't everything and people are what truly matter. We should love like people are dying tomorrow.
You are so spot on. I've said this a long time.
I love your post. Many do live as a family, but I smiled that you draw the line at shared bathrooms 😺
I know I am not alone when I say this but I feel like I am having a heart attack every time I step out of the door or in social situations. We will all get through this. We can all do it! Anybody wants a chat I am here, and, I hope you're their for me to! Much love to everyone going through mental health
psychedelic treatment has proven to be effective in treating depression, it has helped me and thanks to the handle 👆above they’re reliable.
I have called the ambulance twice now because my heart rate goes up at the most random times and my chest starts feeling tight. I feel claustrophobic and my hands start sweating. Both times, my vitals have been fine, chest x ray is fine and my EKG is fine. I am FINE and it’s crazy how my head can affect my entire body
Thank you for sharing Beamz and Arabella 😭 Physical symptoms can be really worrying. I'm glad you did an EKG and that it's fine, Arabella! Cheering you on in your respective journeys 🌟🙇🏻♀️💪🏼
Thanks for your kind words. I’m here for you as well in case you need to vent ❤
I've been trying to explain this for years. Depression & anxiety is a normal part of living in a society that no longer has close communities, we work long hours in jobs that often don't feel meaningful, we are not close to nature all day because our jobs are generally indoors, jobs these days are also not stable which contributes to anxiety, most people have very few close friends, people seem to value being "busy" over spending time with friends, and then there's this whole materialistic culture, that makes people feel like losers if they don't have a fancy car/job/house etc. Yet every doctor has just always tried to give me pills, which have bad side effects and actually made me feel worse.
Goodness me ... this is so very true and real ... ☆
its the capitalism
"Yet every doctor has just always tried to give me pills" - You've gone to a doctor for help, what else would you like them to do? Take you out into nature? Force you to work on maintaining old connections and making new ones? Get you a more fulfilling job? Make sure you get to bed on time? Doctors give pills as it's the only real measurable they can help in their professional capacity, not because they're lazy. They can (and should) advise on these other aspects, but they're not therapists or life coaches.
Have you found something that does help?
@@daveydaveable - Unfortunately docs don't advise on these other aspects.
This was like a warm blanket
Neja H. Someone finally understands 💗
most definitely
Really??
A cold pillow on a summer night
Neja H. Gurl you can be my blanket.
This is the talk that helped me get out of depression. After a few months I got my autism and ADHD diagnosis and it changed my life. It was like having a second chance to life my life.
I’m 25 years old watching this and will cherish these values you’ve taught me today and keep them close to me when I find myself feeling depressed or struggling with anxiety. Thank you.
Glad u empathise
Just dont allow it
Hmm, seems you lack critical thinking
Great talk. When my dad got depressed, in addition to talking therapy and drugs, my mum bought him a black lab puppy. It got him outdoors, talking to other dog walkers and built a bond of unconditional love. For this reason he really dislikes the "big black dog" campaign as a symbol of depression because, for him, the black dog represented his healing.
thanks for sharing a beautiful story!
This is so sweet it really brightened my day
I know, I so agree. We have a lovely black labrador who is nothing like that dog in the campaign ...shame..
Corona killed him. sunlide nature, Even a depressed person want be depressed standing by a beach with rocks
Black labs MATTER !! This is proof.
"you need to feel you belong, to feel your life has meaning and purpose, to feel that people see you and value you, that you have a future that makes sense"
I just moved into another country, alone, no friends and family, and loneliness, anxiety and depression is starting to creep in. I just need to see videos like these and some self-help articles from Marc and Angel's website and I know I can beat this and I'm going to be fine.
@@higherpurpose1212 You'll find you're connection :3
0 /4. Eh…
Amen
@@higherpurpose1212 where are you?
I don't care for money, success for myself....But my parents are in their 60s with no retirement, no house, no plans. I feel sad making decision that would provide financial stability for my family over my passion.
Being a part of a community/group and forming valuable connections with everyone in that 'tribe' is the best antidote to depression and anxiety. I learnt a lot from this video. I see this comment section as a community as well. So I love each and every one of you. Having communities in person is what we all need.
This, we need human connection through friends and family who love and value us……. ONE can’t do it in this world alone………
Lazy, spot on. The community which accepts us for who we are, and smiles at us daily is where I belong. Oh and a simple clean cottage in the woods would help.
You are right. Depressed people are everywhere, forming valuable connections would really help.
A problem for me is that, as an older woman, I have no family, no career, and my friends (with family) are so busy with their careers or with babysitting (the older friends) that they don't have the time for the deep friendship that I crave.
“We need to talk less about chemical imbalances and more about the imbalances in the way we live.”
Yeah man that's what's its really about. Alot of it anyway.
That's good
But it's all about the chemical imbalance lmao
Emanuele, The permanent cure to anxiety and stress is the free Vipaasna meditation practiced all around the world. Meditation reprogrames the mind. Sit on a comfortable chair, hands on your laps, close your eyes, be still and focus on the breath entering and leaving your nostrils for 10 minutes early morning and evening. Slowly increase the practice to 20 minutes. Plenty of thoughts will come but they will reduce after doing the above meditation daily. Don't give up. Watch "Vipaasna meditation videos" on you tube.
@@shyaaammeneen63 i suggest you to take a 10 days vipasaana program rather than following youtube video
Finaly i hear these words out loud. My friend wanted to kill him self and i invited him to live with me just to feel a part of the tribe . It was the best thing i could do for him. Now he is living his life almost have a wife and is absolutely happy. a little kindnes goes a long way. Be good to each other please people. Love you all.
God bless you, man! What an inspiring story
You are a good friend 💙
*Almost Did he finally got married?
🙏💙🙏
That was so very cool of you. That was the best thing you could have done for him.
If you're watching this video and feeling like you're at the end of your rope, please know that you're not alone. It's okay to reach out for help, whether that's through therapy, medication, or just talking to a friend. It can be a long and difficult journey, but there is hope and healing on the other side. Thank you to the creator for sharing their story and shedding light on this important topic.
This is such an important video highlighting the importance of discussing mental health and overcoming the stigma associated with depression and anxiety. For those who may be struggling, it's essential to know that there are resources and support available. You may want to check out @Dr.healingstrain, a mycologist who uses mushrooms to help people overcome depression and anxiety. They provide valuable information and support for those dealing with mental health challenges, and their work is worth exploring.
I've been following Dr.healingstrain for a while now, and their work with psilocybin-containing mushrooms is really impressive. They're doing groundbreaking research into the potential benefits of these mushrooms for mental health.
I've never heard of Dr.healingstrain before, but their approach to treating anxiety and depression with mushrooms is intriguing. I'm definitely going to check out their products and see if they can help me.
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"we live in a machine that is designed to make us neglect what is important about life " this is sadly one of the most truthful statements to describe modern life
Matrix
“You're Not a machine with broken parts You're a human being with unmet needs” 🤯🤯🤯
Slippery slope of a metaphor. What if one’s unmet needs is to cheat because they have a sexual fantasy of cheating or unmet needs of a pedophile. I get what he means but in today’s age wants are needs and needs are pseudo desires
@@iEMMANU3L Those aren't needs, those are desires, needs are necessities, food, water, home, purpose, security and love. You won't die if you don't cheat, you will die if you are overworked, not eating enough and left entirely alone.
why can't we have both?
@@iEMMANU3L if you get what he means, then why are you picking it apart like a pedantic arsepedal?
Hugs Eleanor
It's better to be alone than be surrounded by those that make you feel alone Robin Williams
Are you for or against this Ted talk? It's a good quote but I'm curious if you mean that it is better to be alone, rather than finding new people or working with the ones you got?
@@AdrianAnetsen The actor Robin Williams suffered from depression. He found solitude in cycling with a group and never overcame his demons. I am sure that he meant that avoiding those that you do not see eye to eye with are better left out of your life
@@utistudent099 Robin had Lewy Body Dementia which is a SOMATO explanation for what has been falsely labeled as PsychoSOMATIC conditions. There are NO clinical tests for any condition listed in the DSM.
vaccinefraud Marylin Monroe was locked up in the psycho ward by her shrink and part time lover and that accelerated her spiral toward death. Her ex husband that divorced her six years earlier whom went by the name of Joe DiMaggio threatened to destroy that hospital brick by brick if they did not release her and they did under his pressure. Psychology itself as a practice had much to do with her death. Psychology is a witch-hunt.
@@utistudent099 I'll see your Witch Hunt and raise you Sorcery, which is (witches?) what Psychiatry is because they use unknown substances to poison people with. The PDR often says: The Mechanism of Action of this drug is unknown, but.... As to isolation, the problem that I and I've noticed some other commenters is that the legend of Bodhi Dharma was that he sat staring at the wall of a cave for 9 years. Isolation can be a liberating experience. It all depends on how you entered into it. My favorite quote was when they asked him what he did during that nine years, he replied, "Listened to the ants scream."
That was excellent! I’m in tears and finally feel validated. I don’t need a bunch of antidepressants I need what I have been asking for all my life and that’s to BELONG TO SOMEONE! Belong somewhere, be a part of something. And to be LOVED UNCONDITIONALLY. And not be abused. The first time I was involved in something I created with a group of people is the ONLY time in my life I felt I belonged somewhere and a part of someone. This was so good and validating I am going to share with my therapist and ask if we can watch it in group. I’d love to hear the feed back from everyone. I’m that group I’m just opening up and wonder if others are feeling what he just talked about. My daughter who has a BA I’m psychology and an MA in Social work just sent me a long list of why and how I need to change my thinking bc I’m acting like a victim. When all I did was express my feelings about things that happened to me and my other children in the past. Then I got scripture thrown at me which was taken out of context. I am a Christian so I know scripture well and I’ll go read and study whatever someone gives me. What she sent me doesn’t pertain to depression and anxiety. But she’s still young and will figure it out. This was really my life saver tonight bc I felt so defective and now I’m leaving here with a direction to go. I have social anxiety and panic attacks that’s what keeps me isolated. It’s so hard for me to initiate a conversation or friendship but I can give my time to someone in service like I did last time and I come back out of my shell. Thank you for the talk.
I mean you are loved unconditionally.
I hope your daughter did figure it out because that sort of stuff is why so many people in rural areas hesitate to go to a mental health professional. I went to a counseling center and one of the questions the counselor asked me was, "Are you a Christian?" I told her no and she stared at me for 10 seconds and then said, "You have a little anxiety, but I think it's medical not psychological. So you need to go back to your doctor and have them test you for everything." Basically, it was her way of saying she didn't want to help me because I wasn't Christian. I had gone to multiple medical doctors before that meeting and since. They've all said the same thing: anxiety. The other mental health practitioners here messed up my mom, so I definitely don't want to see them. Basically, I need to earn enough money to move to a larger city in order to get the chance at getting decent mental health care.
i'm in tears watching this. i always have this voice in my head saying that other people are stronger than me. more able to understand how they can ease their depression or anxiety. its a really lonely feeling. it helps when you can relate to the person talking about this. and that we are together in this world, even in this wierd individualized society
"If you're depressed or anxious, you're not weak and you're not crazy -- you're a human being with unmet needs," Hari says.
If you're depressed or anxious, you're not weak and you're not crazy - you're a human being with high expectations.
@@denisdenak The unmet needs that the speaker is talking about are the inborn basic social needs that a person requires for survival. For example, orphan infants that are not held and hugged will just die, even if they are well fed, clothed and housed. We all have basic needs for loving human interaction that are consciously destroyed by the school system, corporate employment, and suburban isolation. THIS social isolation that is absolutely unprecedented in the history of mankind, is what the author is talking about. Perhaps you are lucky to be born into a loving family, caring community, and wealthy inheritance. THAT is NOT the life that most Americans live, and it is doubtful that your own character had much to do with your own good luck in America.
@@denisdenak did you not hear ANYTHING this man said? i can't even begin to explain how ignorant your statement is. you're doing exactly what shouldn't be done, shaming a person into believing it's their 'fault' for being depressed and anxious by having 'high expectations', which btw i would like it if you elaborated. how exactly are, basic unmet human needs, considered high expectations?
@@atwaterpub I understand the quote and I don't necessarily disagree with it. I'm just saying that those needs can be met in almost any society regardless of where you are coming from. The alienated society is absolutely detrimental to a person's mental health, but not the main reason behind depression in my opinion. Risk factor - absolutely, cause - uh, I'd doubt it. IMHO, the main issue is the high standard of living in the West. Living in those conditions puts child's "basic needs" too high and when that child does meet with reality - his expectations are not just unmet, they are utterly destroyed by the cruel reality. About me - if you have not guessed by now, English is not my first language and thank God I wasn't born in the US or Europe, nor was I raised in a wealthy family.
@@Kookie-zv4bu how is stating my opinion considered to be ignorant or shaming? You could just ask me to elaborate on my statement and I hope I did so replying to atwaterpub.
I can’t imagine how Covid19 lockdown has affected people, in terms of anxiety and loneliness.
Covid was an awakening. People were forced to accept that which they can not change. When you accept what IS, you do not suffer. When you fight what IS, you suffer. People were forced into their inner worlds and face them. Perspective of the external world is merely a reflection of the internal world. We apply our thoughts and emotions to events to label them but events are facts and that's why two people can go through the exact same event and come out with completely different perspectives. Covid was not good or bad, it was an event and either you grew or suffered.
I can tell you how it has affected kids. I am a camp guide in a summer camp, and we make activities and games for them, each series of kids staying for a week. What we observed this summer is that they are extremely starved for attention and touch. I mean, we take care of these through talking, playing and high fives. The real issues are with the inter-person relationships. Some are extremely introverted and stuck into their phones or playing with their toys, especially the younger ones. Overall, we have noticed that they are extremely aggressive and unkind, becoming outright feral. Us, the adults, have already adapted to the situation, but to kids it seems to have been catastrophic. They fight much more than in the previous years, they bully each other more, and they are harder to work with. I do hope lockdowns do not get enforced anymore. These poor kids deserve more.
Agree
@@nicheatic9189 I agree with, I here some people say lockdown is not good or bad or that it helps self discover and figure out our values but I have to disagree. You have to figure out stuff on your own and not be forced to do so. The kids nowadays have it bad because they are the ones who are going to be repaying all this Covid crap because all the adults are deluded and scared and prefer to destroy the economy.
Home doesn’t feel like home anymore. It feels like a prison. That’s not me trying to be edgy I’m really serious when I say that schools have forgotten that children and teens can’t just sit in front of a screen for 6 or 7 hours, and then do possibly another few hours of homework, and I’d just like to say that if you need to assign students an overview of the lesson for them to do at home, did you really teach the lesson well?
The depression is even worse when you never really feel like you "fit in" anywhere and always feel out of place. If one our main reasons for being is to be connected to others and you constantly struggle to do so it can be pretty soul crushing, making you feel like you dont belong here at all
For real 😢
You belong here!❤
Why he emphasized FINDING A GROUP OF FOLKS LIKE YOURSELF
He has got this SO RIGHT, we need each other, the postman say hallo, anyone who speaks to me kindly makes me feel connected, I don’t need a big house one big car or anything material. I just think the way we add value to CRAP is making us depressed.
People need people you may laugh but it’s true, I had a shocking upbringing, but I love KIND people.
From my perspective there is another important component to depression that is never talked about. This component is buried under a blanket of depression that hides the real cause of the problem. It is Repressed Anger. It comes from feeling powerless and unable to compete successfully in this world. Revealing this anger to yourself is the only way to lessen and release it to the universe. That is your responsibility to take action and control over the blanket.
Great insight mate. I totally agree!
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My repressed anger comes from a lifetime of having relationships with narcissists constantly putting me down one way or another, twisting the narrative to make me feel I've got my thoughts & feelings wrong, being unable to express my true feelings because what's the point, just gets knocked back or twisted any way. The only way I've been able to express my anger is in my sleep time thru dreams, nightmares & sleep talking yelling at ppl. My depression got so bad that I barely have had one decent night sleep in years. I suffer from insomnia & wake up constantly & get terrible anxiety just trying to go to sleep. So this year, I've been removing the toxic ppl, dropping off 1 of 3 depression meds slowly for a few months, then dropping off another, until now, no more! I had a 3 shocking weeks of withdrawals but now I'm free & feel clearer than ever. Next problem to tackle, no family or friends. So I've got to force my self to get out & talk to ppl & make a start to socialise but by bit. This TED talk was brilliant. I am not a problem. I just need good positive company in my life. Sounds easy doesn't it? We'll see.
@@dutyforce233 The best advice I can think of goes like this. The first thing you do is find a way to raise your level of self esteem and self worth. Recognize that you are a creative problem solver and have been throughout your life. You just never gave yourself credit, which is a must. You have overcome many barriers in your life but never gave yourself the credit. The only person in this world that you need approval from is YOU. No one else. When you raise your level of self esteem you will then associate with people on that higher level. These are the people who are loving and supportive and not threatened by you. It all starts with loving and respecting yourself. I know this because I have been through the emotional wars myself. Many of us come from dysfunctional families and it is our duty to break free from their grip. We have the right to enhance the quality of our life. Go for it.
@@glennandric6846 thank you. Self love is a tricky one. Today that usually means being totally selfish, making sure your needs are all met at what ever expense to others. It's a fine line. I watched a very good friend of mine, who's had a lifetime of mental abuse, finally wake up to not taking the BS but in the process she's turned into a selfish person & now won't helpor even interact with any one unless there's an advantage to herself. To me, that warm hearted person has become cold & it's certainly showing in our friendship.
I just told my dad this morning that travelling helps me with my depression. He said it’s was BS, that I should keep on taking my pills and that everybody’s a little happier when going on vacations. I feel like the worst thing about having depression is being surrounded by people who don’t WANT to understand thinking everything you say is just your depression talking.
Show him this video, might change his mind. Anyway, I hope you find your way to deal with your depression.
Exactly being around people who don’t understand you / “get” you can be super frustrating and kinda depressing.
I’ve dealt with this for years when talking with my dad. I’ve finally stopped sharing my feelings. Some people can’t understand.
Not only they don't want to understand but they are actually the ones putting you there in the first place and pushing you deeper into it with their constant negative comments about what makes you happy.
Traveling stresses me out. Glad you find it comforting
We're human beings with unmet needs - I need a moment with that.
Seriously!!! I look at certain things in my life that consistently make me feel absolutely awful. I will take a variety of Otc anti depressants to try and force myself to be ok to be ok with what I'm not ok rather than actually fixing the situation itself
Melissa Goldstein you're not alone. Think of the people who are feeling same but they can't even afford the meds. It's really nasty. I'm writing and facing quite a bit on this subject myself.
Please look into Nonviolent Communication developed by Marshall B. Rosenberg. It's all about developing the language and skills to understand our needs and employing strategies for having those needs met. It has been life-changing for me and I hope it helps you, too!
Will Foley you mean the book written by him with same title? I added it to my list.
The book is great but that workshop is what really made it click for me. I highly recommend both!
Excellent talk. In addition to all the things he said, when we are depressed, we have to work through it as well and that takes time. For the past couple of years, I was depressed from a devastating heartbreak. I had to work through it, meaning doing the crying, thinking, pondering, resting, praying, and finding the value in my own life. I tried to get involved in volunteer work. I've done some sewing, reading, writing, and crocheting. I've talked to close friends and spent time with family. And, now, finally, after working through it all, I've emerged on the other side. I feel happy and purposeful again. And that feels wonderful!
"You are not alone" is my favorite response to someone telling me that they're struggling.
Taking drugs to treat depression is like putting on a coat when it rains, it doesn't mean you stopped the rain it just means that you temporarily don't get soaked.
Yeah, and if you keep the same coat on long enough (even if it’s the best GoreTex)... ...you will eventually get thoroughly soaked nevertheless.
Or you're now getting soaked from the inside out as well
Some of the drugs make you feel worse and when you tell them they don't listen. They play lab rat with you.
Good statement or analogy ryadh456! 👍☺👏
It's not a coat. Some drugs have significant side effects, like weight gain, and tardive dyskinesia.
"your depression is not a malfunction, it's a signal" perfectly worded. Thank you sir
I agree! 💯
Do you feel tired? Depressed? Perhaps suicidal. If so you are not alone(Hundreds of Millions suffer worldwide) ; God is standing right next to you waiting for you to ask for help. Give Jesus a chance and watch your life flip for the better and you will be set free. Matthew 11: . 28Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. 29Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am [f]gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.”
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@Jack Fantom Every building is evidence of a builder. Even if he has been dead for 100 years and there is no docu¬mentation, you know there was a builder because it's impossible for a building to have built itself. Creation (nature) is evidence of the Creator. It is impossible for nature to have made itself or be eternal. Those who don't believe in God default to believing that nothing created everything, which is scientifically ludicrous.
yes 🙏🙏
I don't know what happened but when he said that your depression is not just a malfunction it's a signal Something triggered in me and I feel okay now,somehow I think I needed to hear that and that sentence gave me hope to actually get out of my bed in the morning and find what my body has been searching for all this time. And I'll always be grateful for this video.
A standing ovation, very much deserved! What a brilliant man!
What I heard from this talk is that the most important thing anyone can give to another person is their time. Quality time with other people heals us. I feel most anxious and depressed when I feel I am not interesting enough to be worth someone else’s time.
Same
I can relate to that
I agree
I can’t tell if its a good thing or a bad thing that there are other people who feel this way, like me
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I once told a trusted friend I was depressed. His response was, "What do you have to be depressed about?" in a very dismissive tone. He may as well just have smashed me in the face.
This is due to language. Are you feeling down that it's raining on your birthday, or do you feel the absolute need to flee, while simultaneously feeling glued to the bed, and recognize the hopelessness of both options? The English language uses the same word for both of these things.
Kat Mack what? Can you rephrase that because it made no sense. Lost me at the “they use the same word for both”
@soslothful - a trusted friend, perhaps, but not a very bright one
@@eleven9286 "It's raining on my birthday and I'm depressed now" "I cannot leave my bed because I'm depressed"
Dear @soslothful, i very much feel that and have experienced it in a similar way as well! If you want to talk with someone about your depression, please feel free to contact me and we can start an online chat. In any way, i wish you all the best and send you love from europe!
Anyone who need someone to talk without knowing each other ..i am here for you...I swear i am here for you. 💜
I was part of a group counselling session today where one of the participants shared this TED Talk after what I had to share. I have to say that this is the best TED Talk I've ever watched. Thank you for your research, voice and sharing. This hit me right in the mind and heart tonight. Thank you.
when he said 'we need to talk less about chemical imbalances and more about the imbalances in the way we live' i felt that
Mary Iskakova for sure! That’s such a truth bomb!
Mary Iskakova Yes!!!
Can someone explain what that means? Isnt this littearly the same things??
@@chillaxer8273 It's shifting the fault from implying an innate problem had started within the individual to the type of environment that individual lives in.
Mary Iskakova 💯
"You are not crazy if you are depressed... you are just a human with unmet needs."
That is the best sentence! I picked it up too :)
People are trained to repress their needs because they've bought the whole marriage, family, mortgage, retirement paradigm, and they're just not built for it.
Thank you for this 💙💙💙
I'd partially agree, but disagree on the basis that pursuit of the wrong needs is often that which maintains one's depression. A misunderstanding of what truly are one's needs compared to what are not.
If your depressed........ Just get yourself a cow problem solved
Very well said.. coming from a depression/anxiety/PTSD survivor.. thank you! 🙏🏼☺️
I live a life of true happiness, fulfilment meaning and purpose. I have no worry, anxiety, depression or fear and I enjoy all the best things in life. I am greatly blessed. I'm a Problacist and I follow the Guidelines of Problacism.
I am crying my eyes out watching this. I needed to hear every word of this talk
🫶🏻🙏🏻 praying for you 💜
@@firstlast2094 Thank you. God bless you 🙏
"We live in a machine that is designed to get us to neglect what is important about life." Holy crap. That's it. That's what it is...
Eric Hodge Holy crap indeed. Mind absolutely blown 🤯🤯🤯
What's terrible is that humanity has been on this path for the better part of two centuries. Many 19th century European philosophers saw the massive upheaval caused by industrialization, urbanization, mass production, and mass consumption.
Imagine if we live in a simulation like Niel Degrasse Tyson talks about. This statement would then have a double meaning!!!
its called neoliberalism or neoliberal capitalism
@@Schooney60606 "consumption" used to be another name for sickness
Hello beautiful person scrolling through the comments Sending you positive and healing vibes and a huge virtual hug ❤
elblondie69 falconer Thank you. And here’s one back for you.
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OMG!!! Perfect comment. Thank you. I love you.
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Significantly the best Ted Talk I’ve seen in a while. I guess it’s because it all hit home! Thank you very much for taking the time to do it for us!
This is honestly one of the best videos on anxiety and depression I’ve seen! 👌
this made me cry. it's no wonder i feel so depressed, i feel so alone. i need a tribe EDIT: thank you all so much for the positive comments
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A tribe is okay so long as it doesn't make an enemy of any other tribe !!
I wanna give you a hug
Hang in there friend, you'll find where you belong, I'm sure of it. I'm 35 and I can tell you there is no magic bullet, being happy has become easier with age but if you just be yourself, there is bound to be people you'll meet who like you and whom you like :)
Your such a nice person! C: I'm pretty sure, that you'll be able to make your own tribe one day~
I started having extreme anxiety this year. And I can’t shake it. It’s so scary. I been through a lot this year My ex girlfriend passed. My dog of 16 years passed. Then covid 19. All in one year. Then my Gma got covid. I got covid. My whole family. Things have been shifting so fast. I used to be the Person people can come to. Now I’m in this mind state where everything gets me so petrified. & My heart palpitates like crazy. I hate it. But hopefully I can get through this man. It’s a horrible feeling. Anyone going through this I wish you the best.
Hey, I just wanted to tell you, no matter how hopeless it may feel, hang in there. It gets better.
@@Snottle1 thank you man. I needed to hear that
I'm in the same boat. You will be ok.
Hope you're doing okay, it's extremely distressing to go from being the rock everyone can lean on to needing someone to lean on yourself. I hope you have people in your life you can lean on and there is no shame or weakness in doing so, just perseverance, strength, and honesty.
U should get a cold water tank put it outside and go in it everyday . That what I did the win Hoff method change ma life
That is one of the most profound talks I have ever heard and it makes so much sense...
This is the most powerful message I’ve heard as a 54 yo Australian woman who has suffered depression for most of my life thank you 🙏 thank you 🙏 thank you 🙏 from my heart & soul I bless you so much for allowing me to see my depression & anxiety differently ❤ you are the best TED talk I’ve ever heard 🤗👏🙏💗
I lost my six week old daughter to SIDS. Every day after getting my four children out the door I would fall to my knees and cry where I would stay all day long. Four months later I ordered myself 100 baby chickens which I knew would make me get off of my knees because I would have to take care of them. I still grieved my daughter but I was able to get my life back
I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't even imagine. The fact that you took steps on your own to get your life back speaks volumes about your strength. Never forget how strong you are capable of being.
God bless you. Sending hugs your way🙏
So very sorry for your loss.
I am so sorry… what a great plan
I am really sorry for your loss ma'am🙏🏽 I pray that you will have the strength to endure during this difficult time🙏🏽 you are an amazing person❤️
"Pride is not the opposite of shame, but its source. True humility is the only antidote to shame." -Uncle Iroh
-Uncle Iroh is such a complex character.
Uncle Iroh has wisdom for a whole mankind
@@jeanjacquesrousseau1955 I gotta rewatch Avatar the last Airbender... What a spectacular show.
Says Vegeta XD
Great comment... However there is one thing a saiyan always keeps. HIS PRIIIIIDEE!!!!
I have been battling depression and anxiety which has only been getting worse by days. Listening to this was refreshing. Best of all the lines were like junk food has taken over our physical health junk values have taken over life.
you are not alone in feeling like that, sending you hugs from Norway
I spent the bulk of my life in darkness however when I turned 40, I decided to make a change in my life and the darkness turned into light. This TED talk is AMAZING.
Jesus is the light my friend!
@@AldousHuxley7 24/7 🙌
My mom made a list of things for me to do Everyday to feel better. I have always had anxiety and depression. They are: Do something nice for yourself. Do something nice for someone else. Smile. Do something you love doing. Get some kind of exercise that you enjoy doing. Eat healthy foods. Be kind to yourself and others. And... Think happy thoughts. My mom was very loving and very wise.
Beautiful
That’s very sweet of her
Thank you very much. I will share this list
@@irisclarke3414 me too
Your Mom sure was wise, thank you so much for sharing her wisdom, she lives on in the better part of you🤗 song 'Scars In Heaven' by Casting Crowns
3:45 “every human being has natural psychological needs. You need to feel you belong. You need to feel your life has meaning and purpose. You need to feel that people see you and value you.”
I'm completely invisible until someone wants something from me. Does that count?
When you realise you haven't got any of that...
I don't feel I belong anywhere
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Exactly why politics should be avoided
"It doesn't have to be this way" That line gives hope...
Amazing speech, thank you.
Thank you for this. I've been dealing with Anxiety attacks since 6th grade. I was bullied. They broke my nose, ripped apart my clothes. After my first few panic attacks, I started to stay home more and more. Which later turned into agoraphobia. Going to a simple shopping made me sooo nervous, I thought my blood pressure was 200 and I'm going to have a stroke. Seeing all my friends travelling made me even more sad. Beause yes, I was happy being alone home, it felt like my safe spot, later this came back as feeling depressed even at home. Especially more recently. Now, I'm turning 23 and started feeling REALLY lonely. I've started crying for no reason. I felt I'm alone on this world. No one undestrands me. No matter how introvert I am, now I started feeling the desire to go places, meet people. Forget about my problems. And yes, they also prescribed me SEROXAT when I went into middle school, but that changed NOTHING. My father was the main person I did things with. We went to random places. Worked together. And he really started curing my Anxiety. After his passing in 2018, I relapsed and went back to have agoraphobia. I rarely left my room. But just a few days ago this overwhelming feeling of lonelyness started to hit me. Crying for no reason. So now I booked a visit to a clinic. But what you've said here is sooooo true. Now I undestand (hopefully) what my body wants, and I'll look more at this "feeling depressed" thing more as a sign, rather than me thinking I'm just going crazy. I'll try going out more and more. Maybe making the big leap to travel again to other countries. Sorry for the long comment, but had to let this off of my chest. Thank you. I'll update my comment when I feel more and more better. I pray to God I will.
Best of luck to you. Really sorry about your father. I hope things end up turning around. I would recommend a public gym as a first step in reintroducing yourself to public settings. Physical movement kills anxiety like nothing else and there are often staff that will help guide you. Joining a class can also help, although I would recommend something that has less risk of being self conscience. You would be surprised how happy and welcoming people can get when they see someone new at their facility.
Hug ❤from a person who's also lonely.
So, as I've promised; an update after visiting my doc: The first problem was that I suddenly stopped taking Seroxat, which as a side effect made me feel like crap 90% more. So as I started taking it I feel better, but I do feel that weird feeling in my chest. The second thing he now prescribed me are long walks. Walking and exercise makes these feeling pass by a bit faster. Not only that, but I started being around my family a bit more than usual, which also helps to forget a bit more. I hope my next comment update will be when I feel completely me again.
Bro, I'm sorry about everything that has happened to you. If you are physically able, and you want to feel better, do a few things for yourself: 1. believe the past doesn't determine your future 2. start hitting the weights and start building the strongest, healthiest physique you can. the BODY will fuel your MIND. 3. eat well and get your rest. so you can LIFT more weights. i don't care what any doctors says or anyone says: if you are able to lift weights, get to work building your body up. it will do more for you than any therapy, prescription, book, etc. good luck. the more you lift, the better you will feel
@@Lazlow007 Yes long walks are the one thing that kept me going at my lowest point. Sometimes I'd put on a hopeful song and play out scenes in my head of what life could be if I could be social--It helped motivate me. Best of luck and hugs to you
I'm in tears. I'm so lonely. It permeates my existence. I try finding friends and the flakey, ghosting, competative backstabbing bla bla.. and back to loneliness. I just want people to genuinely care about me and find my tribe.
The loneliness, is your body's way of telling you, that you need to reach out to a friend.
But you're loneliness doesn't make you weak. It's what makes us human. Our vulnerabilities, and what make us fragile are because we as humans are not perfect. Maybe, we were never meant to be.but it's the most important thing is to be loved. And you can always draw near to God, because in my brokenness, I was able to find God. My sin separated me from Him.
Maybe we need to stop believing the lies, by surrounding ourselves with people that love us for who we are, not what we're not. Wss hy is it that as babies, all our needs were met. Now, that you're older, they love you a little less.
I know this will sound cliché but...Want to be friends?
Can we be friends?
Helping others is a great way to not only feel better about yourself, but also gives you a break from yourself, and that's another lesson. Criticizing yourself on whatever so you will do it better next time is one thing, but too many of us ride ourselves in a way that hinders us more than it helps. I stopped constantly critiquing myself about a year ago, and doing that lifted a weight and now I have a mind that's more clear to handle everyday tasks much better.
Good for you!! I think from reading your post it's clear you made an important breakthrough in dealing with your mental health issues.
Yes, yes and utter yes. This is probably one of the single most important talks in modern day history. Every part rings with deep clarity and understanding. This right here should be essential information in every school and corner of the world.
This is the first “self improvement” talk that I’ve ever heard that makes good sense and doesn’t blame the victim. It was powerful and compassionate and very encouraging.
His delivery is perfect not condescending or unrealistic
@Sqrley L. Heal yourself from negative thoughts. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free in the day or night sit still for 2 to 5 minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Make it a habit. Do the above meditation daily to have a better life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
@@lauradelta8060 Heal yourself from negative thoughts. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free in the day or night sit still for 2 to 5 minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Make it a habit. Do the above meditation daily to have a better life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
Yep
@Sqrley L. , this is quite good, but listen also to Dr Gabor Maté, who shows even better, how we can use Compassionate Inquiry into understanding ourselves in a positive and compassionate way! He is an incredible doctor with a lifetime of experience, including palliative care, serious disease, suicide, addiction, etc. Through this experience and his weaving together of growing research, he shows us a path forward. He blames no one, and goes even more deeply in his work, to show how unconscious childhood stress has influenced development of not only our depression, ADHD, OCD, etc, but also serious disease such as cancer, MS, ALS, etc., which can also develop as a consequence of our stress. His many talks have changed my lifelong depression, as I now understand that my problems are no one’s fault, and that I can finally come out of this hole. Best wishes to you!
"Why would we know something so profound, but not live by it" - "Because we live in a machine that is designed to get us to neglect what is important about life" - Amen to that.
I have been waiting all my life for some kind of concise talk like this. Excellent. goes into my best of
You opened my eyes. Have been through it and all the stigma around it. At hindsight, I can vouch for everything you said to be absolutely true.
going to college can be so isolating and I feel like generates huge amounts of depression in a lot of students. Depression is so common in college!
I feel it too, but I go to community college.
Why do you feel like going to college can be isolating? I mean I agree and I have my own reasons, but I’m just curious about yours 😅😅
@@Alice-km1hv im in a single dorm room and im not involved in any extracurriculars. I just go here for my classes right now. The only time i ever talk to a human being is either in 1 of my classes or for when i go to get food
Erik A lot of people born around Generation Z tends to be more depressed or stressed. Especially for those born around 1998 or before are adults now in 2019.
Erik ohhh I see. Sorry to hear that. I’ve been experiencing the same issues so I know how you feel. 😞😞😞😞
Absolutely spot on. I've changed diet, working on my thinking/attitude, exercising again, writing more and playing my guitar, meditating, praying etc. for the past two months and feeling better already! Very very important stuff! In the early 70's my father said,"The problem is people don't need each other anymore." Exactly.
Do you feel tired? Depressed? Perhaps suicidal. If so you are not alone(Hundreds of Millions suffer worldwide) ; God is standing right next to you waiting for you to ask for help. Give Jesus a chance and watch your life flip for the better and you will be set free. Matthew 11: . 28Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. 29Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am [f]gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.”
@@thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363 he said he was praying already dude. At least read his comment man..
Your father's quote really touched me so thanks you for sharing it
People have been lost. Not on their own, but carefully turned into consumers living in endless competition to eachother for this flawed idea that individual happiness will lead to all people being haply. We know that is a complete lie that corporations and elite have gotten us all to believe. Quality time with those we love is the real way to get happy.
@@thereisnonegoodbutgodjohn363 I’ve tried. Just by asking god or Jesus for help doesn’t mean he just magically shows up and heals you. In fact I reach out to him a lot and nothing changes. It’s like my purpose on this earth is to suffer.
I try everyday to remind myself that there are people who are going through much worse than I am. We are all just human and like to dwell in our misfortune...but I am grateful I have a roof over my head, a job (even if it doesn't pay well), food, clothing and my excellent health...and some other things, but these are the basics. Lots of people wish they can have these "basics" that most of us take for granted.
I think when dealing with anxiety and depression it is helpful to stay as positive as possible. I see that you're doing that. Good for you, that will be very helpful I think.
singed up today just to be able to comment on what an amazing talk this is! so simple, nothing new, so well put and summerised! what a legend!
I earnestly wish I wasn’t so deeply depressed so that this ted talk could have made a difference for me. I’m at least happy I decided to watch. Maybe that means I’m trying to survive.
Keep trying. If this EXACT MOMENT isn't the one where you die then you might as well KEEP SWIMMING until you feel differently. Take care of anything that's been gnawing at you while you're at it. As simple as washing the dishes or as hard as that phone call. Not the angry one. The other one. The one where everyone is a flawed human in need of love and understanding. As awkward as that might be. Either way, you might feel better after. Anyways...I've got a few unreported scars in vital places and a 5150 under my belt. I ask the question of if I'll make it to tomorrow almost every day...but I'm still here a long time after I thought I wouldn't be. Hopefully you will be too.
It’s ok, we all love you so much
Hi JRS, I know what you mean, I've been there. In my case it was not a TED video I watched, but a book I decided to start reading (Feeling Good, by doctor Burns). That was the beginning, then went thru a number of therapies, activities, help of other people, work on myself, meditation etc... it can be beaten!
Respect.
If you watch it again and write down main points, you could distill those down into two or three phrases to affirm to yourself daily. You could tape them to your mirror or above the toilet so you see it every day. And say them to yourself. It has made a difference for me to use such a strategy. Keep going..I struggle immensely with depression too and I know that feeling of dreading doing anything. Good luck!
When people have suffered depression long enough, they just don't care anymore. That's the cruel reality we face in. People not caring anymore.
Nope, they see that others don't or want to care along with them and they don't want to bother
cold hearts lead to nobody's😪
This is so true. I live alone and am older. My son is a drug addict. My 23yr old grand daughter does not speak to me in the last 5 yrs. My boyfriend has prostate cancer. I have no friends and am all alone. My bf does not live with me and i only see him once day a wk. So i am really alone. I don't care anymore. It's true. I often wonder who will bury me when i die? There is no one around me. I am 70.
@@marieb.1810 Mary whenever I feel alone I always say no I have me and my voice inside, whoever thst is it's been with me all this time and then I see my dog and I wonder... How in the world do I get along and love another living thing that has never communicated with me in vocal words? Then I say sometimes it's better to be alone than in bad company and too much isn't enough and words mean nothing if they are said by mean egos. I can't feel your pain we all live differently and I just wanted to try and help and I can't say I'm here for you but I was just now and always think when you feel down that there's someone out there that has it even worse and see what you do with that, take care of yourself, we born alone and die alone just need to find good company that's all.
@@PEACEFULWARRIOR999 Thanks. I like what you wrote. I do have a dog i love very much. I have no real friends. I think i lost myself somewhere along the way. My son is a drug addict and stresses on me. I raised my grand daughter since she was a baby and at 17 she left and won't talk to me anymore. I guess i am better being alone than being near my druggie son. We live far apart. He texts me for money all the time. I am old at 70 and getting so tired of life. I know there are people who have it worse than me. I got a roof over my head and enough food. I think i just need to be around more people. Winter in the country is too isolating. I'm thinking of helping out at a Soup Kitchen in the spring. I can meet people then and help the poor.
This talk really met a need I have been struggling with for over 7 years. God bless you.
Pain is a communication from the body to the conscious mind that we are on the brink of injury, dis-ease, dysfunction etc… learning to listen to our bodies is the first step. Excellent talk!
Depression is a normal emotional reaction to our broken valueless disconnected society.
It's broken because the values of the powerful are fucked up and allow them to ignore the suffering of most people.
Preach
Indeed
James Brannick yep
yes
My girlfriend got out of her depression and anxiety disorder by stopping antidepressants and making life changes so her life would align morewith her desires than her fears :)
that's brilliant, man
good for her! :D
Ademir, The permanent cure to anxiety is the free Vipaasna meditation practiced all around the world. Meditation reprogrames the mind. Sit on a comfortable chair, hands on your laps, close your eyes, be still and focus on the breath entering and leaving your nostrils for 10 minutes early morning and evening. Slowly increase the practice to 20 minutes. Plenty of thoughts will come but they will reduce after doing the above meditation daily. Don't give up. Watch "Vipaasna meditation videos" on you tube.
Shyaaam Meneen that sounds like a lot of words for relaxing on a chair
Seems like she’s very privileged to be so fortunate. Good for her.
Absolutely valuable insights in to root causes of depression. Thank you so much for this talk. It’s told so passionately that it struck a chord deeply for a depressed and anxious person like me. I am grateful to know so many new things surrounding depression and it’s of a great help. I came to this video in search of reasons for my suffering. I have been suffering bouts of depression all my life and it’s quite hard to not quit and keep up with overwhelming demands of daily life. For people with depression it surely is a Herculean task just to exist. That explains why most of my life I preferred to lock myself indoors and hoping not to get hurt by external entities or people. I pray for everyone going through mental disorders and hope they soon will find the light at the end of tunnel and start lo live fulfilling lives.
Love this talk. Me and my family are always discussing these issues of chasing after things, cars, houses, luxury lifestyle which includes alot of debt. It doesn't make you happy. And talking about it does give a better perspective on life and what's most important. I also give with 3 people who suffer with depression. One has to take meds because of her diagnosis. The sad part is the other two need help but isolate themselves so much from others.