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Think Faster, Talk Smarter with Matt Abrahams

Stanford Alumni
2023 ж. 14 Қар.
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Many of us dread having to convey our ideas to others, often feeling ill-equipped, anxious, and awkward. Experts help by focusing on planned communication experiences; yet, most of our professional and personal communication occurs in spontaneous situations that leave us flustered and stumbling for words. Together, we’ll explore science-based strategies for managing anxiety, responding to the mood of the room, and making content concise, relevant, compelling, and memorable. By the end of this class, you’ll know how to navigate the situation like a pro and bring out your very best.
Matt Abrahams, ’91, lecturer in organizational behavior, Graduate School of Business

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  • Key titles #1. Tame the Anxiety Beast. #2. Maximise Mediocrity. (So you can achieve greatness) - Reduce cognitive load. #3. Mind Your Mindset. - i) Not yet ii) Yes, and. iii) Next play iv) Missed take #4. Don't just do something... stand there - Listen; Pace. Space. Grace #5. STRUCTURE Your Spontaneity - What? So What? Now What? #6. The F-word: FOCUS - Have a Goal: Know, Feel, Do. (What do I want the audience to Know, How do I want them to Feel, What do I want them to Do) - Sentence starters, pitch (structure): What if you could... So that... For example... That's not all...

    @zc1122@zc1122Ай бұрын

  • For everyone that is watching this video. Your time for greatness is coming!

    @swaganomiks@swaganomiksАй бұрын

    • 😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊

      @yarugirl@yarugirl16 күн бұрын

    • I appreciate this, thank you. Right back atcha!

      @dianacao4431@dianacao443114 күн бұрын

    • @@dianacao4431 Yes! It is now! See you at the top in no time.

      @seraWoods@seraWoods2 күн бұрын

  • Step 1. Manage Anxiety, Step 2. Get out of our own way, Step 3. See it as an Opportunity Step 4. Listen Well Step 5. Messaging

    @user-lk9pp9il9u@user-lk9pp9il9u2 ай бұрын

  • Excellent video. The best tips for better speech I have ever heard include 1. Be knowledgeable on many topics and be a subject matter expert in your area. 2. Prepare your speech. Think about what you are going to say. There is no shame in writing your speech out. 3. Read out loud every day. Just as a singer will not improve with mouthing the words silently an orator needs to practice saying words. 4. Speak slow. 5. Smile and look very comfortable. 6. Concentrate fully on your speech to get in the zone. Don't get distracted and don't lose focus. 7. Role model a great speaking. Watch videos from Obama, Jay Leno, Josh Hawley and other great speakers. Watch their head, hands and other body movement. 8. Practice giving speeches preferrable out loud or at very least in your mind. 9. If you are given a tough question, answer it in frameworks rather than being potentially wrong with the answer. 10. Ask clarifying questions before you give your answer.

    @davidr4523@davidr45232 ай бұрын

    • Thx sir

      @cocoarecords@cocoarecords2 ай бұрын

    • It's funny because your advices may work but are very rigid and prepared in advance. But the video was about improvisation, being in the present, truly listening to your audience 😅

      @Phileas_40@Phileas_402 ай бұрын

    • @@Phileas_40 except for my #2 all of the guidance I gave prepares you advance for when you have improvise . Other guidance gave like smiling and focusing helps you during your speech.

      @davidr4523@davidr45232 ай бұрын

    • 😅😊

      @muel6294@muel6294Ай бұрын

    • exceptional advice....I appreciate 🎉

      @lesleymhlanga4324@lesleymhlanga432428 күн бұрын

  • This is God sent. I blush and perspire and it has really destroyed my life. I am 38 years old now and still faces this issue. Somehow as a younger person I thought, that it would go away as I grow older, but it never did. I just came home after having dinner at a friends place and while socializing my anxiety kicked in and I blushed and started perspiring again. Went home dejected, fired up my P.C and decided, my time's better spent learning Japanese then wallowing in self pity, but for some reason the app won't open. So opened KZhead and this was in my recommendation. I will use this knowledge and better myself from this day onward. Thank You

    @user-kf8jb6fr4n@user-kf8jb6fr4nАй бұрын

    • Came here to say I blush over my face and neck too. And the sweat from my armpits drenches my shirt lol.

      @mrjohncrumpton@mrjohncrumptonАй бұрын

    • The symptoms you describe are actually an indication of your intelligence. Only frauds and really stupid people are convinced they´re smart.

      @Nic03187@Nic0318727 күн бұрын

  • I always try to remind myself that I’m just trying to help the people I’m presenting to. If you’re just there to help, and focus on that, you can take yourself out of the equation.

    @singlepointdc7749@singlepointdc77492 ай бұрын

    • Yes that is his step 3.

      @SCharlesS@SCharlesS2 ай бұрын

    • Absolutely, agreed!

      @StoryMakerZ86@StoryMakerZ86Ай бұрын

  • I found you in KZhead by amazing accident, and I have been watching three videos on a road, I'm going to give a class for medical interpreters in Montana, and all your videos that I watched help me to feel more confident and get more ideas for my next class in March 2024. God bless your knowledge 🙏

    @claudiajimenez380@claudiajimenez3804 ай бұрын

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      @salimjamal7985@salimjamal79852 ай бұрын

    • Yah! You are the One of greatest speakers I have ever heard.

      @user-ps6wr9fi8s@user-ps6wr9fi8s2 ай бұрын

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      @PriyankaRay-ng8bu@PriyankaRay-ng8bu2 ай бұрын

    • ​@@user-ps6wr9fi8smind if I ask to share the link please 🙏

      @bhineshwartidke4249@bhineshwartidke42492 ай бұрын

    • Cool Thanks...

      @juanalonsocobarrubiasverdu5087@juanalonsocobarrubiasverdu50872 ай бұрын

  • It always surprises me how many people have a hard time with small talk. This info is necessary!

    @Deanforbes@Deanforbes2 ай бұрын

  • To this day, i didn't know what small talk means. I am glad i have searched it on here and came across this treasure of communication skills.

    @noorazimi1299@noorazimi12992 ай бұрын

  • I believe I’ve seen him do this lecture before and still amazing.

    @OoggzUgi@OoggzUgi2 ай бұрын

  • One of the rare time I open my note book to study a talk. Thanks for the content. It’s so valuable

    @johndymen4580@johndymen4580Ай бұрын

  • Amazing presentation again from Matt!! I've been trying to follow him since the presentation 9 years ago and it really helps me

    @user-fv7qz5so1b@user-fv7qz5so1b4 ай бұрын

  • I’m brand new to sales and struggle with social anxiety. I really appreciate your videos. They are very helpful!

    @user-xz5vf7ct3j@user-xz5vf7ct3j2 ай бұрын

  • I really love the way he narrated I'm like when I have to talk I go freeze so it's really good for me to exercise this to reduce my condition

    @pratimamishra2391@pratimamishra23912 ай бұрын

  • 🎉 Thank you KZhead and Stanford Alumni for this free lecture and class... I've learned what was much-needed for my success in the future ❤. #thinktillyousweat

    @AlimFlood-jh5gc@AlimFlood-jh5gcАй бұрын

  • Outstanding lecture! I wish Matt had been my professor in college. Very engaging to the very end and extremely useful. There are clear applications across my life communicating with my family, in my roles in business development and in podcasting. Thanks, Matt!

    @JayhawkGuitar@JayhawkGuitar2 ай бұрын

  • These are really good advices. "Structure is a tool", I love this.

    @ninadgandhi3733@ninadgandhi37332 ай бұрын

  • I am not a native English speaker, yet your ideas was clear and concise. It has helped me in my endeavor to get over anxiety in speaking and in maximizing mediocrity to achieve greatness. i wish you the best in your book and lectures. Your lectures and methodology will help millions of folks.

    @LoveeDooUniverse@LoveeDooUniverseАй бұрын

  • I really appreciate for sharing this great lecture.

    @yuanson1989@yuanson19893 ай бұрын

  • This is the first time I have watched the video that I engaged from the beginning to the end and also want to comment immediately in the box here although I have listened to a large amount of video in the past. I felt it so fascinating because it is such a informative source that I can apply in reality. All of these things come up from my mind and I am so grateful for KZhead as it recommended me hearing your sharing. Thank you 🎉🎉

    @phuonghoale5449@phuonghoale54493 күн бұрын

  • Purchased the audio book. Thank you.

    @philrincon@philrincon2 ай бұрын

  • Thank you Matt. I hope to one day come back and repeat, reflect and seek feedback, from others and myself. Anyone else what like to share there feedback?

    @rabiulhussain1083@rabiulhussain10832 ай бұрын

  • Matt thanks a lot for this conference and video resource. It's super useful, loved the pitching framework... I'll practice practice practice!

    @MrDiegoDaza80@MrDiegoDaza803 ай бұрын

  • Love this guy! He's like a serious Steve Martin, very engaging speaker!

    @nickpetrock2710@nickpetrock27102 ай бұрын

    • Well said! 100% agree.

      @JayhawkGuitar@JayhawkGuitar2 ай бұрын

  • This was also a wonderful video to learn from. I get real tense when attempting to "say the right things"; so thank you for uploading this content for others to evolve from

    @traviswebster4622@traviswebster46222 ай бұрын

  • Thank you for sharing!

    @OptimisticMedia23@OptimisticMedia234 ай бұрын

  • “I’m still a Work in Progress” love your openness here. 😂

    @angie_weinberger@angie_weinberger19 күн бұрын

  • Wow!!! So glad I found you again!!!! Thank you

    @gabriellethe.greatt@gabriellethe.greatt11 күн бұрын

  • I have been listening to your podcast on spotify for 2 years...now i get to see you :) thank you for the show...and love your voice and pace!

    @Vuistic@Vuistic2 ай бұрын

  • It’s dificult to gasp the fact that we as a society need a “ how to have a conversation” course. It’s like teaching droids how to behave. Makes me sad. I appreciate the content nonetheles

    @kandutho@kandutho2 ай бұрын

    • I was thing this??? Why is it a class to talk. Everyone is different and every situation is subtly different… I feeel like he’s teaching how to be deceptive!!!

      @jamalperry4281@jamalperry42812 ай бұрын

    • @kadutho because being able to communicate under high stress situation is a important skill set that should have been taught when we were kids but unfortunately was not. It’s not about “how to have a conversation “ but how to effectively bring across what’s in my mind to someone different from me and be able to connect with him through words

      @JoelTanSG@JoelTanSG2 ай бұрын

  • thank you Steve Martin!

    @aN0nyMas@aN0nyMas4 ай бұрын

    • 😂 lol he does look like him

      @amirahaidary4187@amirahaidary41873 ай бұрын

    • This is Matt Abrahams

      @jycegaming8530@jycegaming85302 ай бұрын

    • @@jycegaming8530 Hi Matt Abrahams! This is dad!

      @aN0nyMas@aN0nyMas2 ай бұрын

    • Steve martin without jokes

      @sickofya@sickofyaАй бұрын

    • 😂😂😂

      @LiveForeverFitness@LiveForeverFitnessАй бұрын

  • This was useful-thank you.

    @dihett@dihett3 ай бұрын

  • Thank you so much sir 🙏

    @shrikantpawar8269@shrikantpawar82694 ай бұрын

  • I found you in KZhead by amazing accident, and I have been watching three videos on a road, I'm going to give a class for medical interpreters in Montana, and all your videos that I watched help me to feel more confident and get more ideas for my next class in March 2024. God bless your knowledge

    @user-ts9nk9bi3u@user-ts9nk9bi3u2 ай бұрын

  • I have heard many talks on this talk and this is the best so far, it makes the sense straight away. I have already watched it multiple times and will listen to it again and again. Thanks a lot for such a life changing coaching on communication skills

    @MOHDREHAN-pq3ny@MOHDREHAN-pq3ny2 ай бұрын

    • 27:55

      @BrainMartian@BrainMartian2 ай бұрын

    • 30:52

      @BrainMartian@BrainMartian2 ай бұрын

    • p 43:53

      @BrainMartian@BrainMartian2 ай бұрын

  • Structure mindset and messaging..thanks

    @nmdusama@nmdusama3 ай бұрын

  • Very helpful! Thank you!

    @yuzhou8316@yuzhou83163 ай бұрын

  • Thank you! Appreciated.

    @ahsanmohammed1@ahsanmohammed1Ай бұрын

  • When i was teaching HS Drama 1, i was not teaching acting... i was teaching "how to speak publicly" and "make friends". Sure, we did it through games and scene work, but i think it helped.

    @kenken6550@kenken65502 ай бұрын

  • Love is a gift that comes to my mind 🤔

    @user-nt3nh7ur2s@user-nt3nh7ur2s2 ай бұрын

  • Wish I had this lecture fifty years ago.

    @guidovanbelle8516@guidovanbelle85162 ай бұрын

    • Hopefully u may have 50 years after this.. So 🥂

      @uuyy5993@uuyy59932 ай бұрын

  • Seriously, pretty fantastic! 🎉

    @julietableichmarholman518@julietableichmarholman5182 ай бұрын

  • Knowledge is power

    @ejikeasogwa9699@ejikeasogwa96993 ай бұрын

  • 🎉 thanks for the advice, as we speak I have a problem my mind just shut especially presenting sermon

    @lesleymhlanga4324@lesleymhlanga432428 күн бұрын

  • Thanks more for this tips ,thanks again you faced me to the right way

    @ahedyemen@ahedyemen2 ай бұрын

  • Great Teacher ❤

    @choodeshb7723@choodeshb7723Ай бұрын

  • I watched his video 9 years ago, and still good till this day

    @riskyhn2145@riskyhn2145Ай бұрын

    • Sick ass time traveler lol

      @rocketcal6326@rocketcal6326Ай бұрын

  • This was so good thank you

    @user-rm9bo9yf4m@user-rm9bo9yf4m23 күн бұрын

  • His pitch was awesome 👌

    @youngskunk@youngskunkАй бұрын

  • 1)What? So what? Now what?. 2)Tell me the time, don’t make me a clock. 3) Structure/focus. pitching: what if you could, so that, for example, and that’s not all

    @dukeyin1111@dukeyin1111Ай бұрын

  • Remember to do the following six things each time someone puts you in the spot. Brilliant. Edit: Okay most of this stuff is actually pretty good.

    @Vulture402@Vulture40215 күн бұрын

  • Absolutely need to slow things down!

    @Kkviolet1822@Kkviolet18222 ай бұрын

  • It,s First english vedio i ever completed

    @mohajaamus247@mohajaamus247Ай бұрын

  • - manage anxiety - get out of Our Own Way - see it as an opportunity - listen well - structure your responses

    @navinagrawal1963@navinagrawal19632 ай бұрын

  • Speaking in the moment - is something that I struggle the most. I’m frozen all the time 😢 And I am in my 30s

    @Nicole-cf3kj@Nicole-cf3kjАй бұрын

  • I love Steve Martin

    @levinsonl@levinsonl3 ай бұрын

  • Amazing❤

    @olakapkowicz4743@olakapkowicz474321 күн бұрын

  • Next play ❤️

    @Qrealtorpa@Qrealtorpa2 ай бұрын

  • That was my problem in my last job interview, I felt so embarrassed 😢

    @giselle_avila@giselle_avila2 ай бұрын

  • This is really great. But i fell asleep really fast also xD.

    @joaqin96@joaqin962 ай бұрын

  • I love Steve Martin.

    @joshj3662@joshj36622 ай бұрын

  • That's good conversation

    @user-ps7ds8cb8i@user-ps7ds8cb8iАй бұрын

  • be present oriented

    @jaems01@jaems012 ай бұрын

  • Our internal thought processes may not always align perfectly with external communication. We might have a clear understanding of our thoughts internally, but conveying them to others requires translating them into a format that may not capture all the nuances of our internal experience.

    @DailyBettermentandmore@DailyBettermentandmore2 ай бұрын

  • exhale, cold bottle, be present with walking, song, counting backwards, and tongue twister (i slip a sheet), be mediocre, what, so what, now what

    @MiamiHeat872@MiamiHeat8723 ай бұрын

  • Me in the toilet cubicle: “I slit a sheet…” My colleague in the next one: 👀👀👀

    @JoelTanSG@JoelTanSG2 ай бұрын

  • 6:00 manage anxiety 8:00 find sources of anxiety

    @prayaanshmehta3200@prayaanshmehta3200Ай бұрын

  • 00:00:01:How to speak better in the moment if you have recently had to 00:01:34:6 Steps to Be Better at Talking in the Moment 00:04:10:How do you feel when you watch a nervous speaker present now I 00:06:29:Thermo Regulators for Your Body 00:07:28:How to manage anxiety if I didn't talk about a 00:09:44:How to maximize mediocrity in the moment we get in our own 00:11:32:When I am evaluating and judging everything I'm saying as 00:12:57:How to play a simple improvisation game with me 00:15:10:Step How we want to do well and we want to make sure we 00:17:01:How to see things opportunities the first comes from this notion of growth mindset 00:19:57:How to move to the next play if you're an athlete 00:22:56:Listening most of us are not good listeners we listen just enough 00:24:51:Three Things Pace Space Grace to listen well you have to give yourself 00:26:19:How to listen better if you don't respond right away 00:28:43:Why I was teased mercilessly because Matt rhymes with everything okay 00:31:17:This is a yes thumbs up yes thumbs down no no 00:34:04:Where are we going do I have the right shoes on should I go 00:35:14:3 simple questions what so what now what the what is your idea your 00:37:19:Structure is incredibly helpful in spontaneous communication in the new book 00:38:40:It is much better to be Compact and concise in what you're 00:40:48:How to speak more effectively in the moment what if you could feel 00:42:24:Do you see how easy that was do you see how the structure helped

    @sandeepreddy7831@sandeepreddy7831Ай бұрын

  • Buddy made me feel like an idiot right off the bat with that Fs question

    @andrewringo6794@andrewringo67942 ай бұрын

  • 3:45 Tame the anxiety beast

    @r1knd.e@r1knd.e2 ай бұрын

  • are those his...?😂 btw it's a really nice lecture..ill apply this in my work😊

    @marlonhans7122@marlonhans71223 ай бұрын

    • “Of” los of OF

      @Chrisjavier2604@Chrisjavier26042 ай бұрын

  • Ss matter of Fact: The Best Tool...

    @juanalonsocobarrubiasverdu5087@juanalonsocobarrubiasverdu50872 ай бұрын

  • Anyone can explain to me about the 6F?

    @eduvidio@eduvidio2 ай бұрын

    • Nvm I got it in my fifth replay 😂😂

      @eduvidio@eduvidio2 ай бұрын

    • Here you go - Finished Files are the result oF years oF scientiFic study combined with the experience oF many years

      @munmundey3768@munmundey37682 ай бұрын

  • Guys I can’t find the fffs even when I pause

    @D_Stray@D_Stray11 күн бұрын

    • The other three are from 3 'of ' present in the sentence

      @ankitaprajapati8268@ankitaprajapati82682 күн бұрын

  • Executive summary: be present, be present, mistakes are the main way to learn, be more present.

    @human-condition@human-condition20 күн бұрын

  • Think faster , talk smarter

    @maroroarocha@maroroarocha2 ай бұрын

  • 👍

    @TiyibAbdat@TiyibAbdat24 күн бұрын

  • I am that person Dr Siamak Baghai Arassi

    @siamakarassi@siamakarassi2 ай бұрын

  • Good morning sir

    @shrikantpawar8269@shrikantpawar82694 ай бұрын

  • How did he find 6 Fs in that "quote"?

    @Sainthosh_@Sainthosh_2 ай бұрын

    • Search again it's 6F Count "of" also contacted F

      @asararulhaque8391@asararulhaque8391Ай бұрын

  • I am seeing this and I think they are actually 5 Fs in there

    @luismata3328@luismata33282 ай бұрын

  • Despite the title talk faster I feel like this video is 2hrs long , may because I'm a slow listner 🙂

    @thatsnotme5574@thatsnotme5574Ай бұрын

  • still findinf only 5 "f"s

    @audacious8866@audacious88662 ай бұрын

  • MQU❤

    @nikkii7203@nikkii72032 ай бұрын

  • Abhi 2024 meh aa video dak raha hoo

    @jamilmahammad3203@jamilmahammad3203Ай бұрын

  • Instructions unclear, I failed the interrogation for the triple homicide

    @moemenace5345@moemenace53452 ай бұрын

  • More then 44 minutes without using mmm, hmm, aaand , incredible🎉

    @jo8188@jo81882 ай бұрын

  • I freeze 🥶 ?????

    @Limbuuriya@LimbuuriyaАй бұрын

  • Am I the only one? But I can only find 3 Fs not 6😢

    @michaelnyenty@michaelnyentyАй бұрын

    • you probably skipped over the word “of” it was in the sentence 3 times

      @fene241@fene241Ай бұрын

  • Takeaway tongue twister : I slit a sheet , a sheet I slit , and on that slitted sheet I sit 😅

    @drishtim2848@drishtim28482 ай бұрын

  • 9/10 Indian telephone scammers agree

    @philopolymath@philopolymath2 ай бұрын

  • 👍🐝🦷🌹🍻

    @DeborahFESQF-jf4gw@DeborahFESQF-jf4gwАй бұрын

  • there are 5 f’s tho

    @blakethom@blakethom2 ай бұрын

  • Speak* smarter.

    @NagyMedia@NagyMediaАй бұрын

  • Don’t think about it…

    @thegreatestmantoevrwlkthep9986@thegreatestmantoevrwlkthep99862 ай бұрын

  • How many fs?

    @bhima_durga@bhima_durga2 ай бұрын

    • Just 1, Me. I did not pass the intro quiz.

      @noeltellsall@noeltellsall2 ай бұрын

  • You can find Ariana grande's music here - yes, and? 😂

    @mysticery@mysticery2 ай бұрын

  • Pretty good stuff, I just realized that Mario updated his favorite way to tackle ED and it's crazy! Although what he previously talked about was pretty decent, it was difficult to follow, I just go'ogled the latest in Mario's Thunderous Erections, it's so much simpler and potent now!

    @HoffM-mc7qj@HoffM-mc7qj2 ай бұрын

  • maybe a tip on keeping nips from getting piercing hard... 🤣

    @OfficialTypeOne@OfficialTypeOne2 ай бұрын

  • nnnl

    @user-qv5tm3fo3p@user-qv5tm3fo3p2 ай бұрын
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