MY FIRST GAY RELATIONSHIP WAS TOUGH! In today's video, I share something very few people know about something I went through in my first gay relationship. No one should have to deal with abuse and I hope this video can help everyone out there.
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Being gay is not easy especially when you live in Islamic country like Iran, when I see people like you share their story I feel I’m not alone in this world. Thank you ❤️
Wow that was really beatifully and emotionally written. Stay strong. X
True, Im also a Muslim. Im gay bottom but i cant show off my gayness :(
i live in kuwait so i can understand how you feel. islamic countries generally aren't accepting or open about homosexuality. stay strong ♥
Moha Babaei I m Gay and Muslim I love you and we are not alone 🌈👬✌
Lots of love ❤️ from Tehran
I am writing this an 85 year old man married to his younger husband (69) and we have been together for 46 years. I thought this was a very honest video and I hope it helps many gay guys. Having watched many of your videos I always felt that there was something missing in your life. And now we know. Do I have any advice? You are not the naïve young man that you were. You are a successful young man who has built a business and life that you clearly enjoy. But do not close yourself to another relationship. Be open and relaxed around other gay guys, the right man will recognise you for who you are. And, with your experiences, and greater maturity, you have a much better chance of finding the right man. You have a lot of love to give. I feel like giving you a big, big hug. Wishing you every success.
You are an inspiration
Luis Carrasco Hope you are still going strong, and congratulations to you both
Wow, only three relationships and you've been through all of this! As much as I hate being single, now I appreciate it...
One of the silver linings of a truly awful relationship is that you won’t feel that, “I’m single because nobody loves me” feeling for while because you’ll be too busy thinking, “I’m single because I love myself way to much not to be!”
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I strongly believe gay relationships are alot more toxic because society keep shutting us down and forcing us underground...Lets not forget only until recently being gay was banned pretty much worldwide. The effects of all these pressures have long lasting effects that don't change overnight
You're so comfortable and articulate in front of the camera. Seems very genuine which makes your message that much stronger. Please keep making these sorts of videos. Sorry about your experience in that relationships but it's amazing that you're allowing your past to help demonstrate important lessons to others :)
Thanks Logan, that's a very lovely comment to read.
OMG! Thanks for sharing this. I feel so related with you about it! I lost myself a lot of times, and right now I'm trying to put myself first, it's kind of difficult (since I'm single for about 6yrs, and away from toxic people for 2yrs I think)... Anyway, thanks for open up and we have to be strong 😉 Blessings cutie!! 😘❤️
Thank you for sharing your story. I too dated someone older than me and I did the same things you did. I was young and tolerated things I shouldn't have. And like you, I love quickly and deeply and in some cases, that scares guys off. The hurt is equally deep and long-lasting. So much so, that I've taken a very long time off from dating...too much time, really that I can't even picture myself dating anyone. Almost as though I lost the desire. I'm happy being single but I just don't want to go thru that pain again. Don't wait too long like me. You're young and attractive with so many wonderful qualities. Someone out there deserves your love.
Just happened to get this vlog recommended by KZhead. Thanks for sharing Carl. Agree with your statement of having that person in your life that you can talk things out with, be it a family member or friend, is very beneficial. I started to come out in my late twenties. Always been an extreme introvert and not been able to be in a meaningful gay relationship. I always thought I missed out and a couple years ago when I turned 43 I started to experiment which backfired big time. I'm still a work in process but am in a much better place. I contribute some of my recent happiness to being there for others. Besides being a sounding board it helps me realize why I am what I am.
" You were born into this world on your own, and you can go out into this world on your own-" ~Carl Cunard 2017. Thanks dude love you videos!
so strong man! all these challenges and obstacles only make us stronger! thank you for this vid xx
Hi Carl, I am so sad about what you went through. Of course, YOU DIDN'T DESERVE THAT ! It's a shame that some people allow themselves to abuse (physically and emotionally) those whom they are supposed to love and cherish ! Thank you for sharing your experience ! Keep going in life and, as you truthfully said, although we all need love, we should not think that we won't be able to live without somebody. Before getting to know such a person, we were alive ! And if we start thinking properly, we will realize that it's vital to live without somebody who regularly puts us down ! Too bad for you Carl. Had I been one of your relationships, I wouldn't want to harm you because to me, the purpose in a relationship is to give love, not blows !!!!
I'm so sorry you had such bad relationships in the past. I'm so glad you're now a stronger person! Thanks for sharing. Much love Carl ♥
You are so sweet and brave! You will find someone to love you and care about you :) I think thousands can relate to your story. I have experienced verbal violence in the past, and even if it wasn't physical I think it was cruel and I didn't deserve it. Unfortunately, I was too introverted to open up about it to my family so I just let it hurt me till the end of it.
Awwww Carl love lots of love you to you. Think positive coz no matter what there is always someone out there who will tick all ur boxes, and treat u with all that love and respect that i know u deserve. xx
Thank you for sharing this Carl. In my case the abusive partner was much younger. It never became physical but it was toxic emotionally. It lasted 9 years but it took me 3 years to recover. Now I'm married to a wonderful man who gives me the respect I deserve. It can happen.
I always look forward to seeing your videos on here Carl. I'm 46, gay, happy but single. I'm not into the gay scene and I don't meet people online. Being an older gay man can be very lonely, but watching you gives me hope. Thank you Carl xx
Thanks Paul :) Make sure your living life to the full buddy.
Blue Skies age is but a number.
Carl Cunard Thanks Carl, I will definitely try xx
dont feel down, many guys r into mature men ;)
I know the feeling, Paul, but it's good to read you're not demoralized - I'll take a positive message from that. Carl's videos show that being young and gay often isn't a bed of roses either.
It's the mark of a great man to be transparent, and care so much about a partner that you put them first above yourself. I'm not in any kind of abusive relationship, thankfully, but I'm finding it tough to strike that balance where I don't lose myself in them. It's hard, but it helps to know others have felt the same way. Thank you for sharing.
Hi Carl, I just want to say what an inspirational person you are. Weirdly, I have been through a very similar situation to what you have. Your are so right in the advice and support you are giving to your subscribers. However it’s one thing giving GREAT advice but to take action on your own advice (with feelings/emotions etc) is a different story. One of the thing’s I have learned from previous relationships is that this impossible Mr Right Tick list does grow longer. I like to think that each time I have been physically or mentally abused/manipulated to the point of despair, confusion and worthlessness. The pain is like actually losing a loved one to a much worse fate. Being the sensitive caring emotional soul that I am this has left me scarred. Never to be forgotten and always applied in my next romantic relationship. You see, eventually those Walls we have built to protect ourselves from hurt is not to keep people out but to see who is Strong Enough to BREAK those Walls down. ☺️. Don’t Strike when the iron is Hot.! You must make it Hot by Striking. All the best Carl
I've enjoyed all of your videos thus far. Thank you for sharing, Carl.
I really appreciate that you opened up yourself, it helps me to understand that I am not that only fool living, same as you, I have evolved and still evolving...
This was incredible Carl ❤️ I can completely identify with what went through. The first guy I ever dated/loved I thought would be in my life forever. I supported and loved him with every fiber in my being, yet when it came to me he was always insulting and condescending. I was hooked regardless. He cheated on me and we stopped all forms of contact for 3 years and then on a random Christmas Day he reached out to me and said I was the only thing missing from his life and he hasn’t been the same since. We tried to date again but he treated me the same. It took me 2 go arounds with him to finally let go and value myself enough to know that I deserve much better. Love should never be one sided. Love you ❤️❤️
We live and we learn. It doesn't make us bad people for trying to think things will work the second time around, but hey as I said, Its makes us stronger people :) Thanks for watching.
Great video, actually it helps me to see another view of a situation that I'm living now, thanks a lot!
Your on the right path. My younger times I went from relationship to relationship without rest. I'd done with the coming out thing before a relationship. It happens that you can be groomed if the relationship has been abusive. It's over five years ago (been with my partner since then), but before then I had a two year relationship free. This helps because it's independence and reflection. If you can be true to yourself then it makes happier relationships. That time free from relationships. I asked myself why they ended and it's taking responsibility. Makes you stronger but you also need that space to grieve.
Thx for sharing and sorry for your experiences. Good to know that others have been gone through that, too and managed to get out of it
Thanks Carl for sharing. I went through something similar when I was younger and dated a older man. I was blocked from being myself and having a life where I worked and enjoyed my friends although there never was physical abuse and my family was always within reach. I hope sharing helped you close that part of your life and you don't think all men are like that. It's well known that gay men move too fast in their relationships so everyone just slow down, date for 6 months or more before moving in together and watch for habits or changes that you do not want to share or become involved in. The last part does not just apply to gay men, I know straight and bi people who are not in good places because they "settled". Mostly do not marry just to be part of the "in" thing. Palimony and divorce are serious things as well as trying to get your life back in order.
Thanks for opening up Carl! You're such a beautiful person
Really nice perspective of your story and some valuable insights, thank you for sharing. :) I think that when you've found your center in life, and you've shown yourself that you have in a lot of different ways, so you're sure you're sure of yourself, there won't likely be any one thing that can throw you off by that much. When you're centered by determination, of your own volition - because you were off centered for a while and you didn't like it.. you really learn to value your centeredness more than anything outside you. And you get hella good at it. Like you are. Then.. who shows up will have you saying... "Mmhmmm, I know exactly who you are." No question or hesitation about it. It's like a special power that comes with being centered. And since that's all you, it doesn't matter what he does. xo
Thank you for sharing your story. I am at the moment married to a girl and are experiencing something similar. She is dictating how everything is to be done and her way is the only way! I am gay but not yet out of the closet but I´m working on that and hope to be in a relationship with a guy in the future, but I need to break free first. You seem to be a very honest and good guy, and very goodlooling :-)
Thank you for sharing this with everyone. It helps us all I guess realise that we are not alone with our similar experiences. It helps us understand that there is nothing wrong with us, but there is a lot of wrong things going on around us. For example for me such bad experiences makes me build strong defences, thick wall around me, that hardly anyone can break in. It gives me comfort that no one can mess around within my space, the problem is - that safe space that I have created for myself is very deserted. Im absolutely terrified to date anyone these days. In this World where people forget about love and care about sex, forget about giving and care about taking - is it possible to find that perfect second half for ourselves? I have heard about it somewhere: perfect relationship is a one when you fall in love with someone who is far from perfection. When you love all that person flaws, scars, imperfections and thru your love you shape it all to perfection. That is a perfect relationship. That is something that I wish for you and everyone who desires it. Greetings!
I needed to see this. Thank you so freaking much. Like seriously, you helped a lot :)
Many thanks for being so brave as to share this publicly, Carl - 'can't have been an easy decision to make but really useful to others.
Thank you for sharing this.
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Kudos to you! I was newly sober and had someone take advantage of that. He repeatedly insulted, beat (two trips to hospital) stole, and raped me. He departed and my sober friends picked me up and helped me rebuild my life. Since them I've discovered that abusers are in reality predators, they look for vulnerable people to manipulate and use.They use isolation and terror to control. I worked on myself and a couple of years later I met a sweet man and we fell in love. We were together for 7 great years until he passed away. You have come though remarkably well (I'm still in counseling for PTSD) and I know you will find your forever love. You are doing a great service by spreading the message that abuse does happen.
The hardest kind of beauty to find it's the "inner beauty" ( but also the best); each scar from previous relationships has shaped who you are and indeed imperfections are wonderful in this material world...
Carl think you for sharing your story it will help so so many people gay and straight ... love it not someone hitting you ...love is not someone making you feel last than ... love is not someone that make you feel unsafe .. Once more think you for sharing your story ..I'm so so happy that I subscribe to your channel
hey, i think is a great idea to share experiences, im going tru a similar situation i ended up a relationship with an older guy a few months ago, we got similar issues, and i agree that u learn from that for certain, thx! for sharing!
The first video I have watched, its a breath of fresh air to hear you talk. I can relate.
Thank you for sharing this story I'm an author writing a debut novel about an abusive relationship this really helped with research your such a brave , inspiring person xx ♥
Powerful story and past. You learned and you grew. I just hate all that you went through. You learned what you need to avoid and you learned what you need to do to protect yourself. I do hope you find happiness and fulfillment.
Thnaks so much for share your stories with us. Keep going
Love these videos and I have a request please please make a video bout how did u found your self and build your self again after all that happened I am at that situation in the moment and I'm lost thank you
This subject boils my blood since I've been in this situation.
Great,though,Anthony Foster, that you Recognize what was going on and Stopped it[Neither Blaming yourself,nor Passively Continuing it] !!
William Hooper yeah I'm going to be honest I was Beaten black and blue so I had to fight to protect myself I'm not a violent person but I know how to look after myself.
GREAT to Hear,Anthony Foster !! I've Observed(Not,of curse,Participated in )several situations involving both Gay Men and Straight Women & Men,where the Abused Stayed in their Abusive Relationship,either from feeling Helpless or from a[to me] Sick Enjoyment of the Abuse. Good for YOU,Anthony !!
Weird ! My reply disappeared ! ANYWAY: GREAT Hearing this,Anthony Foster !! Personally I've witnessd several Abusive Gay and Straight Relationships in which the Abused Stayed_Either out of a sense of Helplessness or from a [to my mind] Sick Enjoyment of the Abuse. Glad you're Not that way,Anthony !! Good Luck to you !! Forgive my Duplicate Reply,please_My machinewas Misbehaving and had to be shut down/restarted.
William Hooper thank you now I'm start a new chapter of my life since I'll be moving back to London
I can relate to your situation(s)...especially when young and immature...I would go in a bubble too..until not long ago..my bubble was popped...great video...👍👍
Finally, that subject that even the gay community doesn't speak of..... thanks for sharing your story. Australian men not all. are like this as well just some advice from someone who has been there over a 9 year period if you feel like your in any sort of danger then reach out to friends family and then just walk away. I know its hard took me 9 years, in the end, was the best thing that needed to happen 40 odd years later I am a far stronger person for it ... if I can do it then you can do it as well and thrive
Carl, you are so right in what you have said and brought back memories from my past relationship where I suffered at his hands for many years!! You do blame yourself, you are broken down by this person so much that u do feel you are worth nothing. When you are hit it's you that ends up apologising and you blame yourself for him loosing his temper. Also because of the control issue it's hard with friends and family as they know something is going on. However as all is said and done you fall back into the battered husband syndrome and it doesn't matter what anyone says to you - you are young, naive, u think that you are in love with this person and it's always ur fault!! The best news and best bit is when u finally spk with Family & friends they are they're to help and will get u out of that relationship but you have to decide that!! Nobody whether your gay, lesbian, No, straight - nobody shud ever have to endure domestic violence and abuse whether it's physical, mental, financially, sexually- any form of abuse is unacceptable and unforgivable. Please speak with Family and get out as quick as you can!! Thanks Carl Simon
BEST NEWS,Simon Todd,is that you Stopped Believing your Deserved Abuse,AND that you Avoiding Convincing Yourself that you Enjoyed it !!
I don’t care if you’re gay, you’re the sexiest guy I’ve laid my eyes on 😳😳💗😂🤞🏻.
This is a terrible life experience and proud of you for sharing. I just hope that people under strand this type of relationship also happens when the younger man takes controlled(abuser) and you become the abused. I am 71 and as Carl commented, IT really effects your life from then on. I am now in consoling trying to deal with this and get some of the original person back. Please do not let yourself fall into a depression of, it is my fault, because IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT! Go to counseling they will help you walk a better path to health.
You are a good man, Carl. Thank you for sharing this story.
I'm so sorry you had to go through abuse like that. It happens to the best of us... it's so hard to find decent people in this world.
I think the concept of "intelligence" is often seen as how many facts do you know or how versed are you in a particular topic. Self awareness seems to be underestimated, but it's really the key to emotional intelligence along with empathy. This guy sounds like he has it in spades. In my opinion it is the ability to recognise, identify, abstract, solve and learn from problems.
Hi Karl i just wanted to say that you are a true inspiration to me
Things happen. Hope you will be able to open up again and give love another chance. Remember there is always someone that can n love you the way you are.. Always threat others the way you want to be treated. The experiences we all have happens for a reason always to make us better stronger and to know that we deserve better and we have the power to change the situation for the better
Hello Carl, I hope you are doing well. It has been almost 3.5 years since you made this video. I hope that you have found someone to share your life with, who treats you like the person you deserved to be treated like. When I was young I had always here that love was a 50/50 deal. Well as I grew older was married and divorced twice, had one LTR, a couple of SHT, and lots of dating, I discovered that it was not a 50/50 deal. Both sides need to give 100% of themselves to the relationship. The problem I found was that I was the only one giving the 100 % and each of these relationships had varying degrees of how much they gave. The one-person even after we were divorced, we remained friends. She was the very best "best friend" that I ever had. Our divorce was related to being together literally 24/7/365, because we worked together, the same place, the unit, the same shift. We basically smothered each other. I would occasionally take my sons (who lived with us) and go places, but I could not convince her to find an activity to do that didn't involve me, but she never did. Now I am not going to pretend that everything I did was right, because I am human, and I make mistakes as well, so the divorce was a two-way street, although we parted amicably and even use just one lawyer because we had worked out the details ourselves. Anyway, I will be 63 y/o in two months. I came out as gay all the way for my 42nd birthday. So on my birthday I will out for 21 years. So my track record with women was not the greatest in the world, and after the second divorce, I decided that instead of being bisexual, I had lost interest in women and decided to go all the way gay. My track record has not been much better with men than it was with women. The one and only LTR that I was in, I ended when I found out, that while I was at work, he had been cheating on me for 12 of the 18 months we were together with his best friend. All I can say that LOVE TRULY IS BLIND sometimes. You miss clues you should have picked up on because you want the love. Then I had 2 STR (short term relationships) that failed. I had known both of them through Facebook. The first one we chatted on Facebook and talked on the phone, and we seemed to get along quite well that way. He was a low-income type employee, so I paid for an airline ticket for him to fly from FL into the Las Vegas Airport and I would pick him up and take him back to AZ where I lived. Right off of the plane, he acted kind of like a TURD. I initially attributed this to being nervous about moving cross-country to a stranger's home and that it would pass sooner or later. Three months later and a hospitalization of myself for severe pneumonia for which I had just recently been discharged, he decided to leave me at home alone and go visit his sister for Christmas and told me he would be back by New Years. Well, new years came and went and he did not show up, another week passed. I called him to come to my house give me my house key pack his things and he could go live with his sister, that he was not going to use me like this. The other one had a Ph.D. in nutrition as well as being an RN that had gone on to get his master's and was a Family Nurse Practitioner. He had been having a rough time in his life and was at the point of suicide. I made him promise me that he would not try to commit suicide again, as he had already attempted to drowned himself, and that I would drive the 10 hours one way to pick him up. So I made the 20-hour round trip to pick him up and over the next 3 months I found out he was cheating on me while I was at work, he was using drugs IV in my home, was drinking 1/5 of Vodka a day, and had not attempted to get a job with all of his education. He left one day on an "emergency where his son got into a severe accident" and thankfully he never came back. I have dated some guys, but found out that they were not the right person for me because they were looking for a free ride, a Daddy, were bar butterflies, or any number of other things. I had come to the point that I was settling into a life of being single and celibate and was enjoying my solitude. Well along comes someone on Facebook who hit on me and became very interested in me. To make a long story short, after a month of talking every day, there was an abrupt stop to the conversation and I could not get a hold of him. Mind you this is supposedly a soldier in the Army, who had told me that one of his comrades had been killed by a villager earlier that week or the week before. So when I could not reach him, go no answers, had emailed his supposed Commander, and got no response I was frantic thinking he was seriously hurt, shot, or killed. One of my other FB friends thought this was suspicious behavior and did some deep research on the web and came up with enough information to show me, with very little doubt, that this guy was a catfisher and possible scam artist. So I am still single and waiting for the ever-elusive love to come my way.
thanks for sharing your story! love your videos
Love "sit down " video's
Thanks for sharing your personal story. ❤️
I can so relate to this video. I never had good experiences with finding love. I am gay and have gotten judged by lots of guys. I also have anxiety and depression, This video helped me a lot, I subscribed to your channel.
Patrick Diehl that's awful to hear that you were treated like thst, hope you find the person that brings you every happiness and that things get better for you
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Great video, keep up the good work :) . Not to be pedantic though but there's no apostrophe in "gets".
Stay strong remember what you have learned. Love you and your story.
Codependency can happen to anyone, particularly when you’re young. You do lose yourself and finding yourself can be a journey in itself. Recognise when you’re being used, manipulated or emotionally or physically abused. Getting away, finding strength can take time. If there’s a meantime, keep safe plan your escape!
Well done for posting this vid i go through this not a love relationship a family relationship, my older brother has bullied me since little physically, mentally and emotionally. Still does to this day not physically, I cant get away from him as we both still live our parents. I take all the abuse but use it to help me drive forward with my own business set up that i am trying to do. I always tell myself this saying "there is a light around every corner no matter how dark it gets" and it has worked for me so fare. Keep your vids coming love them
Stay strong, you will find the person you deserve 💗, you don’t need to allow toxic people in you’re life.
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Thanks for sharing Carl! ☺
been there and thank you for sharing...Carl....
Agreed! I was the same age (18) & just came out! I was insecure which didn't help & my boyfriend was quite abit older than me! but I was into that I didn't care, I look back and realise I was acting so childish with him like acting abit too silly around him like over the top silly & ruined the relationship! sucks so much he was so genuine & caring & super hot! UGH! I hate 18 year old me! but I guess you learn from our mistakes really & thank goodness we can all change. Thanks for the vid! X
I love your video they give me hope in thing that I would like to have in a relationship hopefully one day we can be friends
That thumbnail was hella serious lmao but good for u man 💯💯💯
Thanks for the video. It was very inspiring.
You're Beautiful Inside & Out
Wow sounds like my life! 48 and single because of the same stuff you went thru! Also you have really nice hands! Lol
Thanks for the video. I'd like to ask you one thing: do you think it is OK to come out at work before your colleagues, especially if you work at a large company, and the company's code of conduct states that everyone should tolerate all groups of people including gay people?
I was in a very, very violent relationship with my bf, who I later got married to. we were both very damaged, immature souls who tried our best to grow up together. I wasn't going to leave him and would wait for him to 'catch up', as I was approx 12 years older than he. But Phillip was a iv drug user and I did no drugs at all, so his drug behaviors were a major cause of problems for us. I was our sole financial support, which was ok with me, but i would get angry with his not coming home for weeks at a time, and his going out doing whstever people do when drugging. it broke my heart. literally. after being gone for weeks he would finally come home, dirty, smelling badly, having lost 15 pounds in weight, exhausted. he would sleep for days on end. and so I would try to control him so he wouldn't do that stuff. and sometimes that control was via violence. I was so desperate to try to save him. once I watched him shoot up in front of me, which was about the saddest thing I've ever done. But eventually, I knew I loved him so much I just could not ever treat him badly, no matter what he did. I somehow came to realize it was the drugs, not Phillip doing all that horrible stuff. so no more violence, no more screaming and yelling. no more insults. and since he was hiv+ I was never going to leave him, as he didn't have so long to live. we both knew that, somehow. so I just stopped trying to control him and gave him unconditional love, no matter what he was doing. and I am so very glad I did. months later he died with me and his family at his bedside. he knew I loved him. he apologised for all he had put us through. and I did likewise to him. after he died I washed his body, shaved him and put a bit of cologne on him, along with fresh cloths to go to the crematory. I have never cried as hard as when I got home, and really, finally, realized he was 'gone' from my life. forever. it literally broke me. it took many years before I even considered meeting new guys or having a date. But eventually I did. and i have now found a guy I am very well in tune with. because of that tortuous relationship with Phillip it makes me appreciate what I have with Eric. in many ways the relationship with Eric is the one I wanted with Phillip. oh, well. with Eric there is no violence, no yelling, no emotional battering/degrading. no drug fueled abandonments while fucking with anyone offering drugs. so a 100% different situation! perhaps I am a different person now but i feel like i am exactly the same man as before. maybe it is just that Phillip and Eric are totally different men. I don't know. But i still love Phillip. and I hope to be with him again one day. But it might have to be a 3-way, as I hope Eric is with me then, too! and hopefully we can all get along!! peacefully!
WoW. I'm not sure what to say. This was such an important and powerful video. I thank you for sharing. It means a lot. Also, god damn dude you are hot and you look so much like me. I have never been through anything like this, fortunately, but it has opened my eyes. I see you have the power to move up from this and I totally respect that.
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I can't believe anyone would mistreat that sweet lovely man. ! He's a catch !!!
This is certainly a subject matter not seen before. No doubt a disparity in age can be a contributing factor particularly for a younger person more vulnerable. Perhaps the UK where everything is so intense has something to do with it.
Please yes talk more about gay dating older/younger!!!
Hey love it that is So true what you talking about thanks for shearing it
Im going through my first gay relationship and I can relate. I feel like I am giving it my all but all I am getting back is the cold shoulder. I am 21 and he is 29 but hopefully it goes well if not I'll learn from this experience.
He giving you the cold shoulder and you still there 🤨... Chile
I don't understand people. Your lover should have just loved you and seen the world open up into a beautiful place. I hope find that one who loves you like you should be loved. Love you sweetie.
Thank you.Ive seen lots of relationships like this and makes me sad hah so I still in the closet and kinda scared to date
UNDERSTANDABLE,Simon Ackles_I too have seen a few relationships like that,the Worst thing about them,I feel that the Abused Stays,convincing her/him-self that He/She Likes it,and/or Deserves the Abuse_O.K.,I guess if the person is Truly a Masochist. As For Coming Out : Fears & Hesitations are Understandable,BUT:from one who knows }The Longer You Wait,the Harder/more Damaging it Gets !! Take the Risk NOW !!!
Well yeah!But i know i live in Russia so first i'll move to bigger city so nobody knows me there then i'll start date guys but honestly i consider moving to Australia. I've been to USA loved it like i was in Chicago and was fascinated by the fact that 2 guys can live happily and free!Thank you!
Of Course you're Welcome,Simon Ackles !! Had no idea you're in Russia,since unless the poster mentions her/his location that remains unknown. Yeah,with Putin's Horrible Anti-Gay Policies(And with all the news of Thugs using that as Permission to Commit Unspeakable Acts against Gays!!),leaving sounds Wonderful(at least you're Not in Chechnya_I Hope!!] Despite Trump,and his tacit Permissions for his Chumps to Commit Outrages,the U.S is Mostly Good,and the Resistance to our Orange Turd president is strong on ALL Fronts ! Very Happy,Simon Ackles that you're RESOLVED to Act !! As I said,speaking from Long,Struggle & Bitter Experience,I know that Waiting is a Losing game_No One Lives forever. BEST LUCK to You,Simon !!!
love this ❤️
Cole Steven ❤❤❤
Heard this story on your snap before ! See how loyal am i :)
your amazing Mr x
Thank you for making this video so much as i just started dating & is in a relationship just a few days ago lol , & i just started coming out as a Gay Guy lol . What the hell how could he say such things wow im speechless oh goodness me he hit you woah you shouldn't let it continued like that . I understand where you come from cause my late dad abused me hit me slap me & hurt my mom too lol , hey dude could i please add you on instagram & be friends with you thank you . Don't worry dude you will find someone esle who love you truely and won't abuse you anymore & anylonger lol all the best in finding your M.R . Right soon .
thank you
My ex was like my living nightmare because he used me and manipulated me . And cheated on me with a girl .he never told me he was straight. And I am still in love with him .but I changed myself into better version of me . My break up really helped me to come out as trans
Hmm I’m thinking him leaving you for a woman and you still loving and seeking his validation is what pushed you into the trans zone.. not saying that’s the case but you might want to get some therapy first to make sure
You seem like a lovely person! I'd have loved to meet you in real life! I'm sorry you had to go through all that crap!
Wondering which site are you on right now so that I could go and check it out, and there might be a story between us lol :)
I once really wanted to be in a relationship. But when you find the wrong person, you really regret it. It's only when you find the right person, is when you're truly happy
Before watching this video, I was watching episodes of Jack Whitehall: Travels With My Father on Netflix. I totally ship Carl Cunard with Jack Whitehall.
Don't take people "sneaking up on you" and chasing you for granted. When you are 54 you will look back and realize how transient youth and young adulthood is. When you get middle aged you will realize that what goes around comes around and you will be the object of distrust and ridicule.
you´re so gorgeous !
Very inspiring video, thank you
I have been abused in relationships too. If I would say something he doesn't like and we we're holding hands he would grab me even tider by my hand to the point it hurts. And that's how it starts. So if you're partner does it, just leave them.
thanks! wish to watch more vlogs like this :)
Very honest video, thanks for sharing
Hopefully I meet my dream stud. Hope I’m lucky. Hopefully your relationship is strong....
Omg Carl how could anyone hit you? I actually am getting emotional and pissed at the same time hearing what happened to you. That guy is an idiot he had a chance with you (I would die just to meet you) let alone date you....I hope this never happens to you again or anyone for that matter. I hope this helps a person in a relationship that abuse is happening that they get the courage to leave it! I love your videos Carl keep Doing what your doing👍👍Your a sweetheart....
God bless you always...Be strong...you can do it... i'm single...😎😎😎
I have a question. Why do gay people mostly are very attractive and handsome? Most of them really take a very good care especially for their apperance especially face and body
IT'S BOTH VERY GOOD and VERY Bad,Solihin Abu_GOOD: Makes Many Gays Devastingly Attractive ! BAD: Too Many f Us are Destructively Obsessed with Our and Other Peoples' Appearance,wth Youth,and with Fear of Losing Looks/Youth.
believe me most actually arent
Because I think men, on average, are very visual in terms of what turns them on, so people looking for partners who are men are more interested in looking attractive rather than expressing your inner self. Men are probably less likely on average to stick around with you if you lose your visual appeal.