BEING GAY IS NOT EASY, Its certainly not a choice. Its something that took me along time to accept myself and still to this day I find hard to date and find Mr right.
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Thanks buddy.
Enjoy your single life Carl...Also hope you find a long term partner if that is what you are looking for?
Carl Cunard you should move California
@Carl Canard ....Just stop with this propaganda you are selling... People with enough brains knows that homosexuality is a choice! Their is no gene no nothing. So quit running with the devil because you are on dangerous ground right now buddy!
It's hard for those who are monogamous and romantic, not for those who only want to get laid and selfish.
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I had my first boyfriend at 24. I met my true love at 27. I married at 37. We're a happy gay couple.
Are you still marry?
You are vry lucky
You sinner
@@chandanakumarasiri7615your god is more absent than my fart.
You literally said everything that I feel when it comes to dating, i'm 21 years old and still never had a BF... being gay has made my life feel very lonely at times, but I always have to appreciate what I do have. Keep your head up ! your gorgeous
🖤🖤thanx boy. I found out I'm bi 2 days ago and I'm still processing
I'm 34....I had partner, living together, also been cheated on, and here I am, 34 and single and you would think that guys are less focused on sex and looks as they get older. But it seems like the gay community wants to stay young and have the life is a party with glitter, glamour, drama, sex n alcohol. It's sad to see
You're 25 now or to be. How's it going ?
Awwwwww I hope things get better for you, I’m gay I’m a bit younger than you. I feel alone at times. I have big anxiety and my parents aren’t the biggest supporters of the LGBTQ community. But I hope things get better for you and me too I guess!!)
You don't need someone to complete you, you need someone to be complete with! And always be yourself no matter what.
I'm (48 years old) now out for nearly 2 years, but it's still not easy. The past 20 years of living a secret life in the closet and acting straight in public is extremely difficult to overcome. Sure, everybody else is accepting it well, so there's nobody else to blame. What you're explaining is so close to my experience and it feels so great and relieving to hear somebody else speaking it out loud. So thank you very much. It helps probably a lot of other people, too.
I'm in the same position as you. Some people think that gays when they go out, their lives will be wonderful. Incorrect! Finding true love is difficult, especially if we are a minority in the world, so we have to be patient. Thanks for telling us your situation, I send you a hug and kiss from Panama :)
Dosen't dating apps helps more?
I’m 30 and have never had a faithful partner. A gay friend. Or a healthy relationship. I’ve been out since 2006 and I honestly I’m tired of living like this. I wonder what my life would have been like if I was born straight.
@@brandon556 Aw thank you Sha
im sorry, you are enough and valid and there’s nothing wrong with you. it’s hard for us but we can do it
probably would still had problems but in a straight way.
It feels good to see someone like you understand what it's like to be different but after all you're all human, it's so good to be transparent confident and honest, while others do not The effort to understand. I encourage people who push me forward and neglect the people who pull me back. 🙂
I connect so much to this video, Carl. I too have not had much going on in the love part of my life. I've downloaded and deleted dating apps so many times, I couldn't tell you how many to be exact. I put all my hopes into those apps and I'll end up spending over half of my day on them, not even talking to anyone! Just simply swiping through people. But it is hard at times because I feel that all those apps are used for is hooking up. It's never been what I'm into and I still don't have any interest to settle for hooking up. It can really get me down sometimes, with the thought in my head that maybe I'll never meet someone. I too don't put myself in situations that often that allow me to meet other people in person and not online, which is a primary reason I always re-download those apps. Just know you aren't the only one, Carl. It's not easy and can be very frustrating. Much love!!
Thanks for sharing this Blake, I think apps can work for some people, however I think a face to face connection is what I am looking for. I guess as people we are all just different who and what we want in life.
I really like exactly what you said. I tend to have trouble connecting with others because I’m more of an introvert, and I hate dating apps, and clubs etc... so it makes it really hard to meet someone if you don’t really enjoy the whole dating process but you want to get to the comfort zone of one. I had a relationship for 8 years and it was everything I wanted for the most part. Unfortunately they passed away suddenly at a young age. I often find someone who is amazing but they are also in another country and that makes it so hard to have a relationship unless you both go the distance. I’m trying to accept that being single is the best thing for me if it’s not meant to be. But you are exactly right... because it’s so hard to find someone who is true and good hearted (in my opinion) to each his own... I don’t mind how others live their lives. But it’s not always compatible with me. Always been the monogamous type with little drama as possible. I have been watching your videos and I think it’s a great thing you are doing and it kinda helps us feel less alone in the same situation. I found myself self hating the fact of being gay because it’s so hard to find. But then I think of what I did have and what I could have again. And it IS possible. Plus it is worth it. No one wants to be alone. Age plays a big factor if you don’t still have the person you met when you were younger it’s harder to find someone closer to your age, similar to yourself with your personality and beliefs, or just to find that person who will “complete you” ... and then you remember you’re made the way you are for a reason. As long as you have purity in your heart then you are showing nothing but love. I believe in it... cause I’ve seen it. And it is out there. It doesn’t always go with our timing. I think it would be so much easier (if we were straight) because we would have so many more opportunities of finding that perfect one. But don’t give up hope. Because I hear you. There has to be plenty of us going through the same thing. Or similar situations. Timing will all work out. Thank you for the positivity and honesty. It was very refreshing to hear today. In ways we’re all learning how to have pride for ourselves. We do have to love ourselves before we can love anyone else. We tend to ignore the “rejection” we give ourselves at times... which is something we can work on. Life will be beautiful. We will get there.
Thank you for sharing your life experiences. Quite a lovely, thoughtful comment 🙂💖✌🏻
That's nice and all but I've been loving myself since I was 20 and now I'm 37 and still alone . Some people are just destined to die alone. Sounds sad but pain from a cheating experience could be way worse than solitude for some people.
Iv got to say this is a very inspiring video and I really enjoyed watching it. Thank you for sharing your experiences as it’s something very brave to do. All I can say is that you need to let yourself go and think that it doesn’t matter what other people think and it doesn’t matter about the person you want to date or that “Prince Charming” you have in mind. It matters wether you love them or not and wether they love you back.
Fantastic video: really what I was needing to hear. You have a lot of self awareness and that intimidates people, because their lack thereof. Keep being you and it'll work out.
I agree with so many things that you say Carl. It's crazy how being good looking person can affect your life!
It's hard being gay because people make it hard other wise it wouldn't be a problem. I am transgender and I find it extremely difficult in society but I've been with my boyfriend for 15 years so what people say never affects me anymore. You will find your love one day. when your attractive and a nice person it makes it's even harder but you will get there . Nice video Hun
I don't think being attractive makes it harder honey. Perhaps, quite the opposite
Gabriele Garita you can be attractive on the outside and be a douche bag on the inside. euw
You have to understand not all gays and trans are strong as you some they due care what society thinks
@@granmisticoful I'm considered attractive... I'm a feminine androgynous guy.. no one talks to me or hits on me.
@granmisticoful You think good looking guys have it easy? 😂 LMAO I'm 37 and never had a boyfriend. Good looking guys have it harder because we aren't taken seriously because we are seen as someone who goes around breaking hearts. They think we are disposable adult toys and we owe them attention.. or maybe they project their own promiscuity onto us.... I don't even like or do hookups I'm just a loving, sensitive , faithful little furball. 😐
Only watched 3 mins so far, and I Already subscribed lol. But it's so nice to get another person's perspective on what things I've found hard as well. Thank you for making this video
I noticed that you kept talking about how you have a certain type and how you're very particular about that.. I can tell you right now: having a type doesn't mean shit. I certainly have a type, but I've had the best relationships with guys who weren't my type at all. As you said: it's all about connection. You're never going to find that connection on a dating app, because it's nearly impossible to get a good read on someones personality through chatting online. Go out, meet people, that's the only way to really get to know people. One smile in real life tells you more than a 1000 words shared online.
Kevin De Vreede this is so true. Most people that complain about not finding love are those with "types". The more open you are, the better your chances of finding something worthy.
Kevin De Vreede - SO TRUE. My " type" was NOT blonde and blue. I ended up marrying a guy that's blonde and Blue and now we've been married 10 years! I tried to shake him off when I met him. I was horrible and he saw through it. He knew I actually liked him and just didn't want to like him . But I listened to my heart ❤️. I'm glad I didn't loose him .
Daymon wow. That's great. I always say this to people, you never know what's out there if you don't open up. Some people are always stuck in the "type" and "I like what I like" rut, yet they're single and searching for years. The more open you're with your preferences, the more your chances of finding THE one.
Blonde and blue is pretty much everybody's type!...
Oh my god.. this is so true... I used to have a certain type.. but now i ended up dating a different person that wasn’t the type i used to want and he is the best... we had a very good connection
I love carl so much!!!💕💕 It's so sad to hear this but it is what it is...😢 I love how strong you are!!! Keep up the good work! Love you so much!!!❤️❤️❤️ remember about us and how we are here for you!!!😌☺️❤️💕☀️
Hello Carl, things are the same to me and I understand you very well, but do not despair, I believe that what happens to us will happen when we are really ready for it. I wish you much success in everything. :)
Its comforting to know that someone else feels literally the same way I myself does...
Thank you for sharing. I could actually relate to what you expressed in the video.
I can so relate to your story and appreciate you sharing it on you tube. I don’t feel so alone now.
Hey there, it’s interesting I feel the same way. It is a struggle, and something we have to do all the time. But, we are a strong lot, and we struggle through. Wishing you the best! Alex from Los Angeles.
There so much hate online for gay guys, making it even harder. Thank you for the video ❤️ It does help
I'm in the same boat...It always helps me to take things that happen in my dating life with a sense of humor.
Amazing job. I'm going through the process now. Some people know some don't but thankfully I have had no bad experiences so far.
This spoke to me so much. Thanks for making this video :)
Just keep being you Carl and one day when you least expect it Mr. Right will come along, At least we hope!!!
Thanks men! Means a lot to me! 🤘🏻
Hi Carl, thanks for posting this video. I think I am going through some similar things so watching your video helped me.
I totally agree with you. To be gay it's not so "funny" as many people can think so. To find your "right man" isn't easy. But it's really beautiful to find one with whom you can share your life, moments etc. But I believe that one day all single hearts as like us will find beloved hands!
Appreciate your honesty friend... all the best in your journey ahead
Thanks Carl, I really like this video. I'm probably in the same situation too being on and off apps. Please do a video on dating etiquette? I think it will be cool to hear your perspective :-D
Totally agree with you you've nailed it spot on here.
Incredible vlog Carl :)... once again. I definitely connect with you on this subject. I have been single for years as well and the connection is something real and I see others connect with each other so I get it. It's a wonderful feeling. My issue is I connect with guys that I end up being such good friends with.... it's like they become extremely attached to me in a way, which then brings feelings on my behalf lol. Long story short.... I'm just a super nice guy haha. Love is hard to find to receive back for sure. I own a company that's requires a lot of my time and travel. I'm in and out of London, Australia and etc so I tend to be really attracted to you brits and aussies haha. (So I get it) ;). I hate dating apps because I tend to be so social when I meet people out for business and etc, but I wonder why is it hard to meet someone to date in person. It's quite different obviously,but you would think it would be the same in a social perspective. You are a great guy Carl and being selective is crucial for a beautiful man and like yourself. You work hard to live the life that you want, such as myself.... so why settle for just anyone when you most certainly can have your Prince Charming :). Well enough said for now. Have an amazing day. Your "chicken pox" twin. Garry (goldenageprince)
I really enjoyed your video, it was my first time catching your videos. I feel very bad about your date. If you ever come to NC, it would be cool to meet up, I love your energy and honesty, it's pretty cool. I couldn't agree more with the title of your video, you are so right
Try to remember it is better to be lonely because your alone then to be lonely in a relationship.
I really agree with everything you said.
I love you Carl so much ❤️
See carl... it's been quite sometime .. I'm following you ...!! Even I was kinda in a similar situation as yours ... I feel you should love yourself .... love what you do .... don't force yourself to be in a relationship....just because others are in one .... the grass is always greener on the other side , It'll happen when it's supposed to happen ...! 1 out of 1000 gay relationships work out ! Stay strong , be positive 💙
I wish you good luck :) You will find a right person, as I did 21 years ago, when you won't looking for someone. You really live in a good country, with a great tolerance and acceptance, so just enjoy your life and wait, I believe you won't for a long time and you will be happy
Carl your a young handsome popular guy give it time, love will find you. Perhaps when you least expect it. Take care and go with the flow!
Being gay has been difficult for me, I've been physically attacked for being gay, called names, you name it. I came out back in 2001 age 16 but my mom found it hard to accept, and went to the library to see if she could find a book about gay people as she couldn't understand how someone could be gay but she is old school, born in the early 1940s, I was born in 1985 so she had me quite late, I was her 5th child. She probably went 50 years before she knew anyone who was openly gay. She never said to me she disagreed with my orientation but she didn't have to as you can just tell she disagreed despite us always being very close. I just wish she wouldv'e said I don't care who you are or something like that. I had my first boyfriend when I was age 22 that lasted a year. But I'm 37 now and went back into the closet, ended up depressed and taking antidepressants. I have times where I accept who I am and other times go into a depression about it and don't. I don't think I'll ever be fully accepting about it.
Thanks for sharing im kinda in same boat thought it was just me not knowing how to function in the gay com if someone as cute & with such a sweet personality as yours is dealing with the same issues as me makes you not feel so alone thanks so much for sharing ! I've discoverd that what I'm looking for is not out there its in me loving yourself is one of the bigest things you can do ! When you can do that you can realize that nobody can complete you but they can be a complement to your life & that iner love will draw them to you i think british guys are hot lol funny how the grass is always greener but you are no exception to the rule you are gorgeous much love thanks for sharing hang in there someday your prince will come ;-)
this was good man! yes come more to LOS ANGELES! would even be cool to make some sort of collab video! but yes sometimes i go through the same about connecting.
Carl, don't feel guilty to be who you are. To find the good partner is not so easy, gay or not. Perhaps it's not the good time for you now but be patient, one day will be the day. Please continue to share your feelings with us through your videos : it's a real pleasure to watch 👍
Omg the date you described really sounded so awful I would have walked out probably. The right one will come out of the blue when you least expect, but please don't despair. And please open your mind toward other nationalities you might be pleasantly surprised Hugs and kisses 💋 😘
Finally someone speaks it out, thank you man#
hi Carl I just stumbled on your Channel going through KZhead video and I can totally relate to what you're going through let's just say I've been in your shoes but things definitely get better I am also an American from Las Vegas Nevada you seem like such a nice guy so yes I subscribe to your Channel turned on notifications and gave you a big dumb up looking forward for more great videos from you if you're ever in the Las Vegas area look me up and I can give you a personal tour of the city
Hey Carl I am perfectly understand you and your feelings are the same as mine. I was once in a relationship. Today I can not explain myself how I got into this. I just can´t. Not even how the guy could attract me. Not even that. It is so hard for me looking back to that period of time. So for the next following years I got enough of relationship. Carl I got to lean on you ! Thanks for the Vid :-)
Totally agree with you. Better be alone than with a wrong person.
This feels exactly correct for what I’m going through
I like his clear spoken english
I find it hard being gay as well.... I want someone who can be confident where I am not, someone who is willing to be that nice, protective and re-assuring person for me in the crazy life that I live. I pride myself in being charming and chill and very kind all of the time, but I want someone who sees past that and is there for me in the deepest parts of my soul. It's hard to find a person like that just on a dating app or at a bar. I live a pretty lonely life as well. I work, go out to eat with my family sometimes, but no one ever really shows interest in having me around in other places, so I don't go out of the house often. Anyways, I think you're quite charming too! I was recently looking at some men's makeup to buy and I watched that video as well as your hair video. Very nice content :) Thank you for being on KZhead for countless men who struggle with being a member of the LGBT community and also for men who think they will be hated on if they wear makeup. You hold a special place in my heart for that :)
I totally understand you. The thing is I'm a trans man and it's really hard to accept myself, I haven't told my family, I don't know how, I'm scared I will hurt them but at the same time not telling them is hurting myself. I'm also afraid to be in a relationship, mostly because I feel like if I was with someone it would be like "cheating" because my body isn't what i want it to be (I don't know if it makes sense). Thanks for making this video. Avan.
I'm in the same position.... I came out 3 years ago, Been gay can very difficult when it comes to gay dating. I have only been in one serious relationship with a guy, with geting cheated on knocked my confidence massively. Had a few dates , but seems when I date lads just want to waste my time and efforts. I'm at the point off my life now I'm better been on my own untill my prince charming comes along. Gay dating can be ridiculous. I've only started to watch your channel Carl respect you massively man👍. I've started to wear make up to help my confidence so love your make up videos. 💙x
Better not to bother or care much about people's opinions about your sexual orientation ' By nature, people do not like everything and this is sometimes comforting for them but it is only your account
I really relate so much to this video! Those thoughts and struggle on finding the right person happens to me constantly, also I like how you're opening up on personal matters :)
well said man, I know what you mean. Its pretty much like you described.
For me the acceptance of myself was quite easy, although I live in Russia. I didn't come out to my parents yet, but all my friends accepted me. And neither in the university nor in the dorm I didn't have any problems because of my homosexuality. Maybe I just had a good luck
Hi Carl, just wanted to let you know that you are young you have time but please don't wait to long, as you mentioned being gay is hard I agree and my advise of telling you not to wait to long is don't end up like me 48 years old and all alone.
I'm afraid Prince Charming doesn't exist, Carl 😂. I mean I'm kind of in a similar situation, busy with work and no time for love life and tbh Id rather be like that than opt out for just anything... friends and family are most important and love will come at the right time... I hope 😂
He does exist haha. I already found out Santa was not real, I can't deal with finding out Prince Charming is not real as well haha
😂 we are in the same place 🤣 I m very busy with work and don’t have anyone now . Life is tough espcvly for a gay men 😢
Great video. You're right being gay is hard. I find it hard to meet people too. I'm actually engaged now but it was rough finding him. I'm kinda picky too. Anyway just wanted to let you know the right guy will come into your life when you least expect it. (So make sure you're always dressed to kill! Haha)
I couldn't relate with you more, I find it so hard to connect with someone romantically. Especially when you're not really into the gay scene. I keep going through stages where I am like 'I love being single, I don't need someone to complete me' and other moments I'm like 'why is everyone settling down, and I'm still single?' . This video was amazing, it's something people don't talk about a lot.
RaySnaps Fantastically relatable. There are a lot of guys and girls that feel out of place not wanting to use apps or attend gay clubs. Self awareness is the key and eventually you'll all attract someone similar!!
Hi there i came across your video 😄, and my advice is yes you had a negative experience on a date but you cant base it on everything know there are great people out there just cant lose hope, and there are many ways to meet outher guys just not blind dates or gay clubs, try joining a class, volunteer, maybe get into school, church and what i learned is that you need to be open to every type cause u never know when u limit yourself to a certain type and expect negative results or expect prince charming your giving off a energy and it will cause bad results my advice is be open to all types of other guys and be open to all kinds of ways to meet people and dont expect anything but always go in with a postive mind set n be ok with any results n love being alone n single n it will happen 😁😁😁🌹 all the best my friend btw i would like to be friends if that was possible i always liked London England.
@Carl_Cunard , have you seen all the comments on your video? You ate not alone and we are all supporting you 😉
I needed to hear this message thanks
I love the white theme in your bedroom
Hey I feel it's me talking about my life & relationship! But I am quite astonished about you being single! You look young & handsome with a good brain! You have got everything to be attractive! Well I feel you are beautiful! ( I am a designer). Hope you will succeed to get your ideal partner! Nice video of yours! I really connect about what you said! Will keep watching you!
this video came on my suggestions are at moment in which I'm through the same exact thing and I'm not even subscribed to this gorgeous guy. I just started using these dating apps, thinking that if I put myself out there somehow I'd find my type of guy and it has just made even more hopeless. Currently, I've fallen for an escort (blonde and gorgeous blue eyes) I've been seeing and he's actually the reason I've gotten on these apps, to find someone who actually wants to be with me without paying them. My love life is pretty sad tbh. I'm like begging for love at this point and I don't want this to push me off the deep end. I hope to some day just be at the right place, the right time and the right guy just happens to cross my path.
I fee you, and I think the problem is that you're particular about the type you want. I used to be that way, until you open your mind to the possibility that the Prince Charming can exist outside your type, you may continue to look. Like they say "love lives in strange places". I have dated my type and it all went to shit, until I decided to be more open minded. And today, 4 years going and still strong together with someone who wasn't my type, and I couldn't be happier. The truth is, the more open you are about your type, the ore your chances, and the less open you are about your type, the less your chances. I am speaking from experience. You never know what you will find on the other side.
Thank you...you are an awesome guy 🥰
so proud of you carl
The very moment I clicked on this video and heard your voice I can easily tell you are someone who has potentially always been the way you are and didn’t fit the archetypal “Manly Man” stereotype. I myself was designed by nature in the same way. It’s truly hard for us to just be happy with ourselves and who we are due to so much internalized shame over time
Carl, I can really appreciate your openness, it's awesome to hear. Wish you lived in the US
I relate to this EXTREMELY
You're a very good and wonderful person! :*
Don’t give up! Eventually, if you have a kind heart, you’ll find someone!
It is weird and challenging but lovely too.
Damm it! We feel in the same way. Why are you so far away? Maybe we're twin souls. Or maybe not... I love wearing trainers xd. Actually I'm questioning my homosexuality because of that. I don't find these "sparks" with anyone. I felt that wonderful feeling once but never more again. I wish you luck. We feel different from the most of gay people, we seek true love, and that's not easy at all, but we'll get it.
Dude- I've been there. You'll grow out of feeling like you can't connect . You just have to let your guard down a bit and look deeper within yourself . You'll then run into that guy. Sometime one can get so caught up with other things you can miss what or who you've always wanted. You'll look past it. Just slow down a bit on the inside. Pretty soon the take aways and bottles of wine will be there for you and that special guy. Just stay in the gym! 😜
I'm 24 years old and I can totally relate to not being in a relationship long aneve to make anything last even though the friendship but I can honestly emit that I have had a sexual moment with a classmate who was a guy on a school trip even though it was wrong but I really loved it and even that guy.
If this any help to you, i met my current boyfriend through Grindr.. bear in mind i'm not the gay scene type of person that enjoys hooking up etc. I've been out for 3 years and never had Grindr, so if this is giving you any hope - it is possible to find people that are similar to you on dating apps/websites! I've been with him for 8 months, and honestly it's been the best thing that's ever happened to me. Just know your self value, stick to your morals and the right person will come :) never settle for less.
Carl, you answered your own question: go out and put yourself in situations where there's a chance you'll meet someone. Go to gym and talk to people; say hi, you'll be surprised who says hello back. Join a volunteer group, if you have spare time. Take your laptop to a cafe and edit there; better to be around people than on your own. Borrow from the Americans you say you have a thing for and don't wait for someone to speak to you first. And always, if asked to go out, say yes. Mr Right may not be the guy who you date, it may turn out to be the waiter who serves you.
You're amazing xx
Wow i nead 😉😍
Omg your so gorgeous 😫😍😍
YES, being gay is hard. =/ Hard to find someone good and I DEFINITELY don't want to settle for just anyone.
Love From San Diego
i haven't watched the whole video but i relate as a lesbian... I don't know what it is. Maybe you too are a rarer personality type that requires a certain amount of emotional depth in your partner. I'm very intuitive and very feeler-y and have learned i only truly latch or see through a person's eyes who is also intuitive and a feeler.. it's all about personality. There are personalities that compliment you, and some that will wear against you, and that's all it is to me, and being gay and also having a specific personality preference, it narrows it down SO significantly. EDIT: add on to that somebody who is introverted or secluded. because you and i both seem somewhat introverted.. i just relate so much.
Spent more time speaking about frustrating dates than gay acceptance.
I have some thoughts that may help you in the future of seeking a partner. You say all the right things but your actions arent matching. You mentioned over and over about having a connection. How are you going to get that connection by swiping right on a guys appearance? You havent gave yourself or him the chance for that connection. Dating apps are shit, dont ever do them. They are based on a superficial factor of looks only. Guys, including you, want that connection. Looks are a part of them, But the heart is blind. I know you are a traveler, opinionated, take charge, and no BS kind of guy. You are motivated to succeed and everyone better watch out. That may scare many, but not all. ( I quite frankly find it hot. Keeps me on my toes in a relationship.) Settle down on expectations of first dates, appearance, and allow someone to get to know you and you to get to know them. You are a lovely intelligent person, and there any many of the same like you, Stop judging too quick and enjoy the chase. I know that doesnt fit with your personality, but try. Go on dates. talk. And if there isnt a connection - MOVE ON Its not a failure, its not wasting your time. But the same amount of time you do in picking your clothes or a car to drive into dating. test drive it. try it on with others things, enjoy the process. AND i f you are ever in the states, I would enjoy your company for dinner and conversation anytime.
10000000% true. By the way, as per what I've seen, it's mostly those guys who are 'intelligent. high achievers and well educated' who mostly turn out to be shallow and superficial when it comes to dating. They are hard to please, judge quickly and then claim 'it's hard to find prince charming' So lame and laughable indeed!
Just to be clear, I am not calling out Carl. This is a community wide issue. I am suggesting Carl be aware to not fall into that trap, as all of us should. Lets all be more open to getting to know each other. Decide if and how we want that relationship to move forward afterward.
Chris Spohr thank you Chris, cant agree more! I mean Body Hygiene and everything is important but thats self-explenatory!! Another thing is your immanent appearance. At end we are all the same and want Love! Thats a real problem nowadays, especially amongst some gays, i mean some want to be promicious and just want to fuck, its like that! But also others, how do you even learn each other if you Close your heart Like this in disgust?
I wasn't referring to him either. Just trying to make a point that it would be nice if people tried to be less superficial and really make the effort to befriend others and appreciate and learn from each other, instead of focusing and drooling on what's external. And if not, that's okay too. It's a free world after all and it's not my job to tell others how they should live
well you had said the intelligent, high achievers and well educated. Al that describe Carl. BTW I am not against guys that just want sex. I have been on Grinder. But please dont go on Grinder and tell me you are looking for friends. Go for looks, go for the sex and be honest about it. If you want love, listen to other guys and get to know them and their heart.
The trouble with being gay is perhaps that we all bring a lot of past baggage which we often don,t deal with into all our incounters it is not easy, being freeded from past disapointments. Good luck and love in the future
I am 18 years old and you are my idol. Love from Turkey
Hei.. Pls msg me ur no. I jus need a person to talk to me.. I feel really alone
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Really isn't and its even harder accepting yourself as one. This lifestyle is no joke at all.
Dating is the worst no matter your orientation! Lol! I love that you called this dude out for being so dull. 😂
Yeah, lets hope he doesn't watch haha !
Agree, it's hard for all orientations but being gay can make it a bit harder sometimes too
It is challenging to find love as a gay man. I don't put myself out there and thus, I haven't met anyone. They say don't push it and it will come to you, but that hasn't happened for me. I'm 41 now and still single. Not really depressed about it, but I don't even know what I'm looking for in a relationship?
You deserve love and happiness someday..
I'm super introverted so I value alone time a lot more than others. The two boyfriends I had were super clingy and it was not only annoying but a huge turn off. I don't really feel the need to be in a relationship these days. Dating apps make it even more difficult to find someone in my experience. Especially those that use the tinder model.
I have the same thing here but at least you've accepted yourself unlike me it's really hard to be okay with myself in an unacceptable society I'll also have that type of obsession to just want to be with that man that I fancy but at least I don't feel Quilty about
I really can relate it is very hard 😪