Why So Many Women Think Men Are Trash | Matthew Hussey
#1 Women’s Dating Coach Matthew Hussey describes how to make an attractive dating profile. What does Matthew Hussey think you should include in your profile? What are the most common errors Matthew Hussey sees in online dating?
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Hello you legends. Full episode with Matthew goes live this Monday. Press Subscribe.
Loved our conversation man! Thanks for having me. 🙏
@@monkey2.092we don't want "nice guys." We want kind men. You should listen to voices outside 5hr manosphere that take a tiny bit of evidence and blow it up to represent the full picture. nice guys ARE the worst "bad boys," because they are also entitled and super mean objextifiers of women. Being nice to get something from someone isn't nice, it is manipulation.
@lnaph lol. Except he's leaving out most single women will only date the top 20 percent of men. The bottom 80 percent are too ugly. So, these top 20 percent men of course won't commit. They don't Havevto
Not very informative guy. Boring too. Waste of time.
Hahahaha, total ßS. Most man on dating Apps want a girlfriend and a stable relationship, thats fakt! But the girls only swipe on the 5% wealthy Shads like you and Mathew who dont give commitment because why buying the cow when you get the Milk for free??
Online dating is like starving men wanting to get a slice of bread and women with free bread for life but want a prime rib steak.
Good analogy.
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Um this comment really was weird
It may look like bread from the outside but inside it is hollow and all you’re left with is crumbs.
Only most of the men are moldy bread with the wrong attitude and we would rather starve... it's no picnic trying to find an honorable and interesting partner online as a woman.
two extremely attractive guys talk about regular dudes' problems is a good premise
Yip clueless.
Add to that they’re famous with big platforms. It’s like rich people asking why are poor not eating healthy food.
Matthew Hussey is not extremely attractive wtf lol. He's Mason Mount with enough privilege to buff out and play the speculative game like a true country gent. A 1000 guys from the mean streets can look better and impress more women than this guy. Have a little confidence
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@@MrSmith-ve6yo Speak up. What up?
Let's be honest, if one is not physically attractive then they will have less options on dating apps.
It’s like everyone wants to skip over the obvious truth, because it’s not pleasant.
It's brutal for even average looking guys.
"What should a guy do who is struggling with dating online?" Be attractive. Don't be unattractive.
Yeah, but this applies in the real world and with women too. The difference is that by their nature dating apps are heavily visually focused, which overemphasizes physical attractiveness. They're basically a kind of visual marketing for people instead of products. This was an inevitable consequence of this kind of design. If you remove most of the other factors that would typically attract a person in a normal human interaction and leave only appearance, then people are going to select for that. Dating apps are inherently broken and need to be discarded. We need to return to meeting people in the real world like all our ancestors did. That was a much more successful model for society than what we're seeing today through dating apps.
@@hawleygriffin1800 Don't do online dating. Work on your game and do looks maxing. Get lean, if you are overweight. Don't get too muscular though. Work on your hair and skin. Don't wear tight clothing. It looks ridiculous. Copy the pretty boys.
My experience with online dating was no one can get anyone’s full attention. Especially in bigger metro areas. Everyone is getting messages from so many people and it’s hard for anyone to decide on who to focus on. Each time you login, there is more new people messaging you or responding to you. But all those people are experiencing that exact same thing, it’s like everyone is constantly distracted by someone new.
The Paradox Of Choice Ted Talk Tinder Myths Debunked - Dr Sam Vaknin podcast
Who is this everyone, the majority of men are not getting messages from anyone other than O.F. girls, every average girl and above are flooded with them.
Anyone who’s been on dating apps knows why exactly why it’s a nightmare.
I'm 43 and have never used one. I'm thankful to have met someone organically in the real world. I often wonder if the internet has been a net negative for humanity.
It's only a nightmare to under competitive men and a lot of women seeking long term commitment. -Signed a dude.
You're exaggerating. Dating apps are only a nightmare for 90% of people who use dating apps.
It’s traumatizing and we’re not ok
@@Jeremy-ql1orexactly. Stick a fork in me bc I'm done, lol.
I've been on dating apps, I have tried being pro-active and getting the first date rolling. Women are so resistant to the idea of meeting up, they want lots of messages making them laugh and telling them how great they are first. I feel like I am being used to validate them, so I moved off apps. I would rather find people in real life, screw investing in someone you only know through some pictures and messages. The worst thing is they don't even turn you down, they just ghost. How are you supposed to improve through a system that rewards you with a non-committal reply, and punishes you through sudden silence?
I met a woman while vacationing last year. Immediate reciprocal interest, and chemistry. "She made it easy for me" I thought to myself. "The exact f-ing opposite of online dating."
I quit using dating apps, and never used them very much, because it really is just guys trying to hook up.
@@ChickFenwick I don't blame you one bit.
Dating apps ruined my self image and I'm not someone that's normally self conscious. When you spend weeks or months messaging endlessly to get maybe a date or 2 a month, it's really discouraging. I gave up. Screw dating apps.
@@brett84c I've been using them since Jan of this year. Finally canceled/deleted today. Holy crumbs! I feel so much better about myself...and everything!
Solution: walk away from online dating. Why participate in a broken system that only perpetuates unhappiness?
Because it does work. I've gotten laid about 30 times on dating apps and had 2 relationships through dating apps. They are way better than meeting people at work or on the street.
@@leigh7507 you're one of the few who's lucky. There was data that came on how the majority of men could be on dating apps for years and never get a date, much less a hookup or relationship.
The only success Ive had with online dating is to find people who have really shitty and poorly put together profiles. It shows that they are not putting their eggs entirely in that basket.
There was a time maybe a decade or so ago when people on OKCupid had much better profiles than people on other dating apps. I dare say the avg. IQ was significantly higher there too. It wasn't "good", but instead of megacancer, it was just mild cancer. I haven't checked the site recently, but I imagine it also became worse?
amazing strategy LOL
@@txdmsk Oh, it's worse. Way worse.
I was criticized for this, way back when, when I tried online dating. The guy said it showed an air of entitlement because I kept my profile description succinct. Maybe he was right? I think it’s more that I’m private and shy, but either way I deleted my profile shortly thereafter. The whole thing just felt like so much work and so many expectations that I inevitably couldn’t meet.
@@riledmouse4677I never even tried online dating because men on the internet only seem to want to interact with a woman to either criticize, lecture or insult her, it's extremely off-putting
So glad I got rid of all the dating apps, life is better now
Just deleted mine today and I feel so much better already.
Unless you are a 10/10 guy and a girl feels she is punching above her weight, someone ‘better’ is always gonna come along. Meeting people in person blows the online garbage out the water
The "blackpill model" is perhaps the way the sexual market place works and the dating/mating space we see.... However what ppl fail to realise is that if u are left to the MARKET ITSELF and the WIDER WORLD.....then you will mostly find yourself competing with just your SMV and no social proof, the results of with can be BTUTAL.....lol But if one has access to a social circle.....then what SOCIAL CIRCLES are.....are mini closed off worlds...... With a set number of individuals inside it. And as it is a tribe like setting with a DISTINCT human/social fabric......it is more "MERCIFUL" to the participants within its Safety net.... The social circle humanises the members and makes ppl mean MORE to each other then just raw SMV... That is perhaps how offy dooffy operates. And as women are naturally emotional thinkers can attach themselves to guys that have the time and platform to prove thier other interpersonal/emotional skills......this is what the social circle provides. It works to HUMANISE its participants. Where as the modern world/dating market works to DEHUMANISE its participants. Ppl will argue AGAINST the social circle maxing... BECAUSE so many ppl don't have a social circle anymore or have never had. Peace
Even a 10/10 looks guy isn’t safe after a few day’s conversation as they are often severely lacking in the brains department. Nature often evens things out
You are talking tinder where girls aren't looking for something serious. People in serious relationships choose someone similar in attractiveness level -hubberman, neuroscientist.
@@lnaph No they freaking don't. Hubberman is also delusional. Women who have great looks get the best men possible (tall+wealthy). VS models and Maxim models under 30 don't go with short poor loser men. Men are dumb because they think that women just select on looks like they do but they don't. They also think that they don't do well on apps because women are evil or some foolish thing like that. No, when they don't do well on apps they expose themselves as being incapable of competing with higher tier men. Even worse, when men say women on dating apps are ugly they are exposing where the algorithm (women selection) placed them. It means the algorithm thinks they MAY have a chance with women they deem as ugly. It's highly competitive but it's clear as day. *And what Hubberman said used to be slightly true but it was because women were restricted to the local pool of men, that's not the case anymore.
Nah. I'm not hot (see my picture) and I date normal looking women.
"Don't be afraid to have a short date" such good advice. Especially for earlier dates. You don't even know how you feel about each other yet so an all-day, many hours long, date can be a bit much. Plus, people need time between things to process how they feel, to be allowed the simple joy of anticipating meeting again, etc. Time is important, but space is also so incredibly important in my opinion.
The whole 'space is needed' thing women have is f'ing stupid especially if you are having unprotected s3x. Like, after that, it shouldnt be such a game when a woman could get pregnant and get the courts involved.
There is so much general information given about men and women these days that seems to pit one against the other and creates bias. I think that along with our bad past experiences, if allowed to, destroys relationships and weakens the ability to have a good, healthy relationship. It’s important to remember that each and every one of us are individuals who deserve a fair chance.
It really is a true nightmare… I choose not to go back to it. There are better ways to meet meet people of quality.
The problem with the "try to meet someone in real life" is, at least in my experience, once a girl has used dating apps, she kind of has dating app psychology where she is still going to be checking the dating apps for someone better. And there is always going to be someone who seems better.
'And there is always going to be someone who seems better." Hence The Husband Store fable!
My recently divorced friend introduced me to them. She found her boyfriend on one and he thought she was off of them, but we howled looking at the profiles together. I was married in the olllldddd school way so I had never been on them.
im dealing with this now. multiple shitty dates from the apps and not connecting with anyone. one had great potential then she ghosted me. its really bringing me down and making me feel shitty about myself
@@kellymulderino7156 Why shitty? Were catfishes or something like that?
Plenty of guys are always looking for someone better as well. And maybe be the person who impresses others.
My problem with online dating is it becomes like a job interview. Your profile is like your résumé; it might as well be LinkedIn. And it becomes more about saying the right things and what you have in common as opposed to vibe and energy. I can convey my intentions in 30 seconds after meeting someone just with a look and maybe saying something suggestively, as opposed to a guy who spends five minutes using cheesy pickup lines and telling a lame story. 😂 or spending a week texting or messaging someone.
I actually met a great guy on LinkedIn!
2 minutes in and I'm having doubts he's going to address how awful the women who use dating apps tend to be as well.
I see men complaining about stupid stuff like you exchanged a few brief messages and then she "ghosted" by not responding, as if this were some type of terrible betrayal. You all are either extremely thirsty or extremely sensitive. Or both.
@@ChickFenwick quarrelsome c-word
@@vklnew9824 Well aren't you charming.
@@ChickFenwick I suppose if you were a man on a dating app and got the level of response that most men get, you too might get sick of the tumbleweed-blown wasteland of non-response that you found yourself within.
The dude makes millions pandering to women. He will never offend his female followers.
Its super difficult to find partner on dating apps especially for men. Women see men nowadays like a product and keep them in their shopping baskets , and they will chat, talk, date multiple men at a time, as soon as they find their match that is whoever is more convenient for her, she will then proceed for a buy . Men are just products on online dating platforms nothing else . Nobody cares about feelings, emotions, being a good human, everything is superficial. Looks , money, career prospects, family background is that matters .
I hate all this beating around the bush. For men, success in online dating boils down solely to looks. There's no point in wasting your time with online dating if you're not good-looking.
📢PSA: women are just as, if not more shallow than men. women want a hot guy and they will choose that hot guy if she has 50 matches in her app.
I don't think so. A "good" profile with your expensive car, photos taken during expensive travels will get you a LOT of attention. I have a friend who has no money, but has a really old BMW that is worth maybe 15% of my Toyota dadmobile, but it's a BMW, and chicks couldn't know less about this stuff. The car is a ussy magnet. I have a friend who has no money, but his mom owns a grocery shop where he helps out. He projects an image that says he has money. Chicks think that the shop is his. He could bang a different hottie every day is he wanted to (and he sometimes does want to). Women are most attracted to height and resources and then the potential to acquire resources. That is also what studies show. Looks generally come only after those things.
@@txdmsk That's interesting. I briefly tried the online thing and was turned off by pics of guys showing off nice motorbikes or cars. So, we're all different I guess.
Most guys in the dating apps are only looking for a ho*ok up. It’s not useful for women who want a serious relationship. I wouldn’t recommend dating apps for women. Unless women want to be bombarded with D pics and what not, dating apps are a joke for women. In general, most women who have kids clearly state that they have kids in their dating profiles. Most men on the other hand hide the fact that they have kids. There are many men on there who hide the fact that they have wives too. Since mothers are the primary caretakers, they don’t hide their kids. That is why women contribute only 30% of the dating apps and a good number of that is said to be bots too.
@@pointblanks so woemn shouldn’t choose a guy who looks good? 🤔
Bumble feels really weird as well like sections for bff, had the esxperience that a lot of dudes there are homosexual and are not at all searching for friendships. It’s such a weird world. For a while I was dating a Woman that wanted to take me out on a date she claimed to be 27…had nice fotos, cool interests seemed very mature, traditional. Then we met a few times went out in a hotel…spent our night together. Till she told me she’s actually 35, has a child and is married to a lawyer. I was instantly pulling back from her. She got really toxic saying I couldn’t get other woman then her etc. these apps are a circus for real. It doesn’t feel natural at all and the people you meet there are rarely material to build a future with.
Yep, Bumble BFF might as well be Bumble DTF or Bumble LGBT No one uses it to make friends.
Ira a wide world full of many types of people. Use discretion and don't trust so quickly. . . Also sounds like you weren't looking looking anything serious. . . Girls of that mindset as well are going good be less stable. What do you expect.
I don't know how you mistook a 35 year old for a 27 year old but... anyway, yeah that's going to happen. Online dating has no filters like real life does. In real life, for example, your job used to filter out men and women with issues.
@@prettyboyjeremy I actually made a few good friends through Bumble BFF late last year, sucks that it’s like that for guys though. I just don’t understand that when Bumble already has the main mode for seeking partners.
@Kenya Nicholas I don't doubt that but it so many are LGBT and actively seeking. Sure I'm a good looking guy but I wanted friends not a hook up.
online dating makes me so fucking sad, I can only handle it for 30 days maybe a couple times a year. The amount of 6s that think they're 10s that can't even hold a conversation is mind numbing.
Exactly.
As a woman, I never had an easy time on dating apps. Most of the guys I ended up matching with were mass swipers who unmatched from me barely a second later. Or I do send messages first and never get a response (And I usually ask questions about whatever they wrote on their profile). And believe me, I have gotten many guys who only started with "Hi" or something dry like that. I'd say Hinge is where I have gotten the most dates (Only three so that's not saying a lot). Never led to a relationship though.
go to the library downtown and find a man
@@mikelisteral7863 You first
Why do men just write Hi..... Like dude use 4 brain cells to say something interesting
Well in real life people say hi first. It's to test if there's any interest and to check if you should put in any effort at all. If something as a simple opener is a big problem then what else is?
@@pieter9058 yes in person a man has the balls to walk up & say hello. But saying hello on a dating app is minimal effort. Women Want to know a man put at least a Tiny bit of effort. Hi in message is nothing, give a girl something to respond to
woah this camera set up and set look amazing. like a really legit lighting setup too
Cheers! We went all out for this one in LA.
This just does not relate to the average guy looking to genuinely meet and find a relationship, which I firmly believe is a high percentage of guys, women’s over inflated ego and ever increasing unrealistic standards have pushed a man’s perspective to online dating as a soul destroying and demotivating experience!
Couldn't agree more with you
Most guys in the dating apps are only looking for a ho*ok up. It’s not useful for women who want a serious relationship. I wouldn’t recommend dating apps for women. Unless women want to be bombarded with D pics and what not, dating apps are a joke for women. In general, most women who have kids clearly state that they have kids in their dating profiles. Most men on the other hand hide the fact that they have kids. There are many men on there who hide the fact that they have wives too. Since mothers are the primary caretakers, they don’t hide their kids. That is why women contribute only 30% of the dating apps and a good number of that is said to be bots too.
My husband and I met on a dating app, chatted for a month, and our first date was in the afternoon at an art museum and then coffee afterwards. It was a great first date, I love that we were not stuck at a table and were able to have natural conversation around the art. He did well❤
I met my wife on an ap as well. One that uses an algorithm to give a % match. We were 94%. Married now with 2 children and she's the most wonderful person I've ever met. Sometimes it works. 😀
What was ur body count
@NkOppa mine? Not sure to be honest.
@@nkoppa5332 random question lol
@@camskea how do you forget?
95% of men getting rejected on dating apps, but sure "women most affected"
Because Hussey profits off of pandering to delusional lonely women. And profits a great deal
Online dating is a light version of mail order brides.
Interesting. I met my wife online twelve years ago. We have two kids.
@@BGFitnessNY You are fortunate. Good luck to you.
@@fearthehoneybadger thank you.
@Sheldon Scott I tried using one about 2 years ago for the first time. I don't know from experience, but I've heard guys say before it used to be much different. The latest Tinder data I saw, which was recently, shows that, on average, women only swipe right on like 4.5% of profiles.
@@jaythenihilist4689 it likely is far worse than when I used them in the 2000s.
I love how lately many of my favorite KZheadrs have started collaborating and putting out content featuring one another.
Yeah, I was so excited when I saw Matthew Hussey on Modern Wisdom as well as the Critical Drinker.
The main problem is most of the women are chasing very few men. This gives these men very little reason to care how they treat the women. There’s always another and the women keep chasing that small percentage and complaining. Our culture has cultivated a delusion in women regarding what they “deserve”. If women would interact with a wider variety of men online, creating more competition, things would change. That’s the first step.
But women lowering standards will let unworthy males into the gene pool. That goes against nature.
@@manifest2203 That's not who genetics work.
40-60% of relationships today begin online is a crazy stat to me. that's a lot more than i anticipated. curious if that includes instagram
Yes that stat includes all forms of social media and dating apps. The actual dating app part is the minority compared to social media.
Also note that it says "starts", but does not include data on if it lasts
Brilliant content, thanks! I like that idea of setting an end point for a date, and low stakes of something such as a coffee, to see what that can build up to. As well as the importance of standing next to each other on a first date, such as walking or sitting at the bar, rather than sitting across from each other.
This is why i have faced my fears and now ask woman for their number in public. The odds for success are far greater than online dating and every woman so far has been flattered by the fact i have had the confidence to ask them for their number (even if they are not interested or have a partner). This is the way to beat the horrific odds with online dating. If you are personable when approaching, the odds of a 'yes' are far higher.
You need to stop let them be alone for awhile its good for their empathy
How you do it if you are 32 and where
@@markbennett5812 anywhere in public really but I usually do it if I catch their eye when walking past or if I'm sitting down eating somewhere or at a bar. Always in the afternoon or evening (as morning seems too early to be hit on for most girls). Could say "excuse me, I thought you looked really nice, I was wondering if you're not opposed to a stranger asking, I could get your number?" They say yes, then introduce yourself. They say no then wish them a good day. You'll gain competence each time you do it and the process will become more natural. That's really the main aim, is being natural, comfortable or 'yourself' when chatting with someone new. Set a goal of trying to do it once a week if you can. Try to not give complements out of the gate, save that for the 3rd date. People don't like flattery and you've just met. It takes time to appreciate people's true gifts. Good luck my man 🙏💪
@@Nattherat64 that has never happened where I catch someone’s eyes
@@Nattherat64 I probably get nothin but no or numbers out of fear best to not try that approach
Im a 7 at best and I have never been on a Tinder date. The problem with these social dating sites is that women are being over-stimulated with messages, pick-up lines, sexting etc. And women want more, something new, something interesting. Simple people like me have no chance there because they are not playing these games. Personally, I quit Tinder because it's frustrating to use it. One day, you talk, have good conversations, and the next day, you are unmatched.
See Better Bachelor's Joker YT videos. Or, Wheat Waffles. Or, Gerbert Johnson. Dating apps are nothing but a mammoth time $uck, and endless frustration..
Oh believe me that is both ways, I am a woman and deal with a lot of men starting and then letting conversations die on silence, is annoying
@@MaiaDreams it isn't both ways, except if you're only going after the extremely attractive men.
😂 Lol, you are just being bitter because you barely had any matches. You wish you could have played along these "games" but nobody wanted to play with you. If you had never been on a Tinder date, you certainly aren't a 7, maybe a 3 😂 Maybe you even are a 4 or a 5, but never bothered to put effort into your photos, profile and messages, which makes you a 3 anyway. And taking being unmatched so personally that you quit using Tinder shows your lack of confidence, which is a turn-off even in real life. So maybe your problem wasn't Tinder, maybe it was your attitude...
@MaiaDreams women dont have the problem. They just want 10/10 guy.
As a woman the problem isn’t men being overtly sleezy. I’ve tried online dating and rarely had someone approach me disrespectfully. The problem is that nobody makes an effort, it’s full of men who swipe right on everyone, one word replies, boring small talk and texting in circles with no intention of meeting in real life until we eventually give up and delete our profile.
You have just described what all women do on online dating.
As a man, i have exactly the same experience. No efford what so ever
This is what happens when you swing at every pitch and NEVER connect. After a while you start to half-ass it.
@@bearosophyas a 5’8 woman, it would make no sense for me to be interested in anyone that isn’t 6 ft and above, since I like to wear heals. Also it’s sexually proportional when having sex standing up. There’s science behind it, not just ego.
This!!!!
He explained things beautifully especially in the second half of the video. Helpful clip.
They only go for the top 5% and those guys wont commit
Polyamory, addicts, dismissive avoidants and hookup culture is what I have to constantly avoid. As a woman I want a family but I cannot meet someone who is mature enough
It's a safe bet that most of the men you are looking for are either off of the apps or were swiped left on. A good portion of decent men who would love to find a relationship have walked away from the dating process to focus on themselves (I am not referring to the bitter men who need a therapist not a girlfriend. Different subject which also needs to be addressed in society).
Read books by Stephen Baskerville and F Roger Devlin.....
Every time a woman makes this exact statement, it's just laughable. Most certainly, you haven't even put in any effort at all but still complain that there is no prince charming pursuing you when you do not offer any man any reason at all to approach you. Note, you also could start approaching men! And in the rare case that your statement were anyhow reasonable, you should know why you have not succeeded yet: annoying personality, fat, very ugly, extremely picky when selectingmen, slutty behaviour, misandrist feminism or the like. It is not hard at all to find a good man. Have a look at the beta orbiters in your friendzone. Stop the cap!🧢
*gets her holes gaped by baboons on tinder then have the audacity to blame other for not being "mature" enough
Hook up culture sucks!!!
0:55 😂😂😂 Talk about being absolutely clueless. 5% of men are getting the majority of the matches. The rest can't even get a text let alone just "looking for sex". Privilege is invisible to Chads that have it😊. Dating coach my @$$
As soon as I heard that, and how it's all men's fault.. I knew this guy was totally clueless, like every talking head they interview on this subject.
@aaronwallerj I don't get how they can be so brain-dead. They are probably pandering to the women.
So become a better man then you'll get better women, instead of bitching on YT.
Here's the thing. I get matches EVERY DAY on my dating App and I basically never message a woman ever. It's like I take the whole website to be a piece of corporate fiction
Just a study of tinder men use to justify their lack of success.
I gave up with those apps years ago. I'm just out here living my best living and talking to girls when I can...
I was just creating my dating profile when I got the notifications for this lol glad to hear i am doing everything right, but i feel like the problem right now starts before you even get to talk to a girl, something is broken about online dating in such a deep way
@@joane24 this. If you look like you want to beat your woman like Andrew taint that's Hard pass. If you have sleezy eyes hard pass. Also as joane said I shocked at the terrible pictures with bad lighting and angles and clothing some guys put on their profiles... and 3xpext to get a response. Look wholesome and friendly. Those are thr only guys I swipe for. Presentation is KEY. Also, be honorable. We are as Matthew said looking for something meaningful. If your profile sends the wrong message we will move on.
"@@joane24 the criteria for a good connection/relationship are very different than the criteria of the dating apps (photos, bio, etc.)" You are correct. MHD did a video on this a couple of months ago, with an African American comedienne. She gives the audience a list of *physical* traits she wants in a partner. And, then also a list of *personality* traits she wants. She then jokingly tells the crowed, "The problem is .. the man on *this* list (physical) and the man on the personality list, aren't the same man!"
My best advice to you would be to find a female friend or family member who cares about you that's willing to be honest with you about your dating profile. Let her take a look and see if she thinks that your pictures and profile are accurate and give you the best possible chance of the match. I see a lot of guys on the apps who never smile and have the worst quality pics on their profile. They use the get to know me section to complain about previous relationships and women in general which is a huge turn off. I want you to succeed so please do yourself a favor and have somebody you trust take a look at your profile before you put it out there. I hope this helps you. Have a great day!
@@Locke350 You tell no lies but most men aren't handsome enough to pull off a mean mug. It just comes off as creepy and unapproachable, especially when the picture is already poor quality in terms of posing, lighting, etc. When dealing with a stranger online, it's best to be considered friendly and approachable otherwise there's no chance of a message let alone a face-to-face meeting. Furthermore, I would write the same thing about women who don't use the about me section correctly. The OP is a man though so I tailored my comment towards my experience dealing with men online. I get his plight and I'm offering suggestions in the genuine hopes he finds the woman he's looking for.
Deleted all my dating apps about 10 days ago. I also deleted the photos I kept re-using to remake the profile. I'm done with it. Been on and off dating apps for about 8 years and nothing good ever came out of it. Plus it's like soft core porn nowadays and I dont want to see that.
It's not that I disagree with most of what Hussey describes but the way he talks about the online dating scene are bordering on misleading. Having a kid is an imense baggage period. Doesn't mean you're worth less as a human being but in the dating market you're not even close to "single". A single mom undeniably results in a new partner being second, in you & your kid's life. He will only ever be the father to that child as you allow & having grown up with this dynamic myself it's a damn mess. Both step-mothers & -fathers have severe limitations & pitfalls. It's not nothing & we all know that on some level.
It didn't seem to me like he didn't think it was baggage. What he was talking about was how you treat/talk about your own baggage. Treating your baggage lightly reveals something about your personality. The example he gives where a girl has been hurt by guys only wanting hookups saying "No hookups" on her profile is a good one I think. It makes her look like a negative person. If you already have the baggage, you have to work with it the best you can, reveal it in a way that makes it seem you aren't dragged down by it, and people for whom its a deal breaker will leave.
@@gracemaple1060 It seems like a streightforward & healthy mindset. I just don't like how overly soft & roundabout this specific converstation was. It's extremely easy to "hot potato" one's issues & when you're not being clear that this is a mindset of seeing a appropriate furtue. I would not be surprised if what people took from this wasn't transferring blame onto men... Clearly stated is that you should have healthy but different expectations when you're single from when you have a kid in your life. Look more at guys who have a steady life, a dog and/or have kids themselves. Don't come with the expectation that regular guys would happily enter that unequal commitment. It's not vaguely appropriate.
@@VertexCarver He does have quite a feminine way of talking doesn't he? It appeals to people who prefer indirect communication styles where a lot of things are implied. I suppose it serves him well with his female audience. Some people understand better with a very direct communication style, clearly stated, like you said. To me, having different expectations seems obvious from how he talked about it. He never said having a kid doesn't matter, rather praised the woman who brought it up immediately in a natural way. When something should be brought up as early as possible, it seems like that implies different expectations. Sometimes its nice and refreshing to hear things like what you said directly stated, but it can sound harsh, provoking defensiveness. And really, its common sense that you need to have different expectations when you are a single mother. The vast majority of women know this; both the women in his examples knew this. Only when someone acts entitled as though it changes nothing do you need to bring it up. There are those who use this sort of soft style of conversation to justify their own delusion, "hot potato" their own issues like you said. However, I feel like this is the minority based on my experience, although I may be wrong.
@@gracemaple1060 Idk what to say. yeah, I agree to 95%. He omits quite a lot of the male context but you can't caveat every other sentence I guess.
In general, most women clearly state that they have kids in their dating profiles. Most men on the other hand hide the fact that they have kids. There are many men on there who hide the fact that they have wives too. Since mothers are the primary caretakers, they don’t hide their kids. That is why women contribute only 30% of the dating apps and a good number of that is said to be bots too.
Thanks for this quick video. Matthew Hussey work is gold and silver in this day.
He's a grifter like most dating coaches. The only difference is he targets women.
@@OccidentalAryan He has info that is still relevant. You may not have to play these dating games because you may have a tighter community to fall back on. Those of us who don't have a close knit community are forced to use other alternative methods for dating/marriage.
"MEN BAD" 🙄🙄 Meanwhile every other woman on dating apps is shilling her OF ,insta , or snap.
Chris Williamson is such a reasonable guy. Why do so many weirdos like you gravitate toward him?
@@sarahrobertson634 Reasonable? Hes a total simp. Women deserve less.
Online dating has made it impossible to meet someone in the real world.
Everyone said I would never meet anyone staying at home, so I took people's suggestions to start a couple dating profiles. I wish I could say there are only a few bad apples, but sadly, its majority bad apples. Men with major entitlement issues, anger issues. Meeting a nice man was such a rarity you didn't even have to be interested. it was just amazing he was at all respectful. There is rampant, rampant sexual harassment, verbal abuse, unsolicited photos, raunchy suggestions, threats, put downs. Its really made me start re evaluating if I want men in my life at all. If men think women are just sex objects, count me out. I have enough of my own problems.
Women dont understand that they created this hookup culture where men have to build sexual attraction in a woman over a profile, messaging, etc. So those raunchy suggestions are them trying to flirt and make things sexual to stay out of the friendzone because I guarantee you have friendzone'd or ignored guys who were boring to you, please be honest..
Stop crying because the top 5% most attractive guys on those apps can treat you like disposable objects lnly because all you women are chasing the same small share of men! Stop claming that most men are lije the small subgroup you keep on chosing! Be realistic and go for someone on you level. Those bottom 95 % of men who almost never get any matches will be happy to date you - if you are a reasonably decent human...
40-60% of relationships start online. But that doesn't mean they're starting through dating apps. I'd wager that the majority of relationships that start from the online sphere do so from closed social groups such as group or gaming chats or via social media. From what I understand, only 9% of single people have used a dating app this year and over the whole history of dating apps, only 30% of singles. Surprised me too.
Dating apps are just another form of social media. Or vice versa. There is no moral superiority in my book. All cancer is bad.
I was also surprised by that 9% figure. A lot of people just aren't on the apps, or aren't actively using them.
Sources, please.
@@okaySam Vogels and McClain, Key findings about online dating in the U.S., Pew Research Centre, February 2. 2023. I believe the 9% figure was worked out from their data and possibly other data sets I don't have to hand but came out before Valentine's Day this year. ETA: One of the other data sets used was Singles in America, Match & Kinsley Institution, 2022.
@@tgheretford Thanks for those Studies, but I'm still not sure how you arrived at 9%. In any case it says 53% of people under 30 used dating apps at some point. If you subtract people in relationships and factor in that those numbers are self-reported I would assume we have at least two thirds of singles using dating apps at some point. I would also assume that the number of users rises towards the end of the year. And also the number of users in total keeps rising.
I Divorced at 58 a half-dozen years ago. I found Match, POF, and Tinder to be a bust, but Bumble and Hinge made it really easy to date decent women- in the 40-50 age-range, at least. (In a good-size city). A 30 min layover in SanFrancisco, Vegas, Nashville, etc., would garner 10-50 girls in my box, with about 2 or 3 worth swiping back on. Smaller cities like Spokanne might have 5 interesting women in total. Driving from Spokanne to LA with Bumble broadcasting scored me 60 swipes spread over 4 states. I didn’t swipe back due to the distance. Compared to hitting the Black Angus every Saturday night in the 80’s and getting one or two dates a month, Bumble and Hinge are a godsend. I never swiped-right or returned a swipe without reading her whole profile and ruling out tobacco, tattoos, kids, bi-sexual, sugar babies, over 20 miles, etc. On Hinge I’d open with a legit question rather than a clever pickup line, and for the most part I only responded to women that opened me or responded with a real question. In 4 months I got 98 phone numbers and went on about 60 first dates. 90% were for sushi and I realize now (after watching PU videos) that a shorter first date is smarter. About 1 in 5 was heavier or older than her pics but I never ran for the exit or got stood up. Only one, a nurse, was a nutcase. I dated 2 women seriously, and stuck with the last one for 4 years as of next week. Not sure if this will work for a struggling 20-something, but for old guys with free-time it’s way easier than 40 years ago! The disadvantage is that in the olden-days you’d sense a spark, introduce yourself, and breakup when the spark faded. With the apps your showing up for a business meeting. The spark is rare or might take 2-3 dates.
I am sick of men blaming women and women blaming men in order to establish that one gender is inferior or superior. I’m of the view that people are becoming stupider, profoundly more ignorant and capable of disregarding the truth with the objective of substantiating their subjective feelings. I’m not in a relationship because I’m not ready . I try to work on myself so that I’m not tempted to project my issues onto someone else. I try my best not to lie to myself and face the totality of myself, the beautiful and the ugly. We are in the midst of an epidemic of narcissism. Both sides have valid points.
Most guys in the dating apps are only looking for a ho*ok up. It’s not useful for women who want a serious relationship. I wouldn’t recommend dating apps for women. Unless women want to be bombarded with D pics and what not, dating apps are a joke for women. In general, most women who have kids clearly state that they have kids in their dating profiles. Most men on the other hand hide the fact that they have kids. There are many men on there who hide the fact that they have wives too. Since mothers are the primary caretakers, they don’t hide their kids. That is why women contribute only 30% of the dating apps and a good number of that is said to be bots too.
Online dating apps. Where 90% of men get completely ignored. And where women just get used for sex by the other 10% of men. I'm fortunate in that I've always been pretty successful with women. Except for that 3 month time period where I tried Tinder for the first time. I've honestly never felt more undesirable and self-conscious in my entire life. The second I deleted it, I instantly felt better. It left such a bitter taste in my mouth that I wouldn't consider dating a woman that I met in person if she told me that she uses dating apps.
This is one reason muslim women wear hijab. Muslim ppl believe it is protection for society/woman. As they cover their beauty it makes it more important for them to develop their personality, morals and intellect, to be defined by. This makes them pleasant to talk to and hold real conversations around shared values, beliefs and long-term life goals that are also deep and transcend in nature. It prevents ppl getting arrogant and getting a superiority complex based on superficial trates. Keeps ppl down to earth, modesty. Trys to prevent self entitlement and Princess complex. It trys to prevent the commercialisation/weaponising of "beauty", by it not being a publicly displayed and traded commodity/currency. Trys to give women a break from having to compete with each other on just beauty, in open public. That can cause feelings of jealousy. Helps to try to prevent an army of simps and street pestering. As her beauty is for HER and the special people SHE chooses in her life. Helps to try to prevent insecurities trying to maintain unrealistic and unsustainable beauty standards, that are forever changing and expensive to uphold. This can cause mental issues in people and the sense of constant judgement and body shaming from people that don't know you or care about your long-term good. Peace
Most women use dating apps. But if I find one who at least pretends she doesn't , I can work with that... lol
@@okaySam yeah 80-90% of single girls are on dating apps, doesn’t mean that they consistently use them though
@@okaySam do most women use dating apps 🤔. I remember reading stats that said most women do NOT use dating apps.
@@Brothaman Those stats are self reported (unreliable) and cover only women who currently use them. In my experience most women have at some point used dating apps. Depends on location, of course. I live in a large European city.
Also, about our safety, I never want a guy to pick me up or drop me anywhere untill I know him. I hate when they insist, I don't want to explain myself.
I’m excited for this episode
If women are only “swiping” on 5-10% of men on these apps, how is this gentleman’s outlook attributable to the overwhelming majority of men out there?!? Those top tier men in the eyes of these women are definitely running through tinder dates .. duh 🤷🏽♂️
Exactly
It’s not. But he doesn’t care about the men. Problem is that women are actually hurt when you don’t care about men and drive loads away. As a female dating coach his interest should actually be in improving the supply for his clients. But it doesn’t seem to be. Because it’s too hard and would require hard truths for his clients. Which I have seen videos of him deliver. But always in the softest of compliment sandwiches. A tiny slither of hard truths cushioned in oh so much pandering and smoke blowing
Because women are 30% to 20% on the dating apps and not all are swiping. Majority of women might not even reach to your profile and already got few matches and starting talking with these ones. Remember the app is going to show the woman the most popular profiles first. So she likes swiped on 10 profiles and liked 5 then she's gonna talk with these 5 first. Remember that men like all profiles so pretty much Majority of her likes are going to be a match
@@redleeks6253 I’m not sure which study you’re referencing, or if you’re hypothesizing on some numbers. I looked at maybe 3 studies, and it didn’t evidence what you’re saying. It was clear that women weren’t swiping right on 90% + of the profiles. I hear you saying that these women swipe right about the same, get matches and then invest in those immediate matches and thus don’t swipe on profiles they don’t see. Not sure if I have your position right, but that’s not my understanding of the Tinder statistics, which seem cut and dry, but I’m open to looking at a different stat if you have them.
The men that stay on the app looking for just hookups are the ones that WOMEN selected for. Women swipe right for the same 5% of guys.
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Yeah you're absolutely right..... Lots of people are still making massive profits from the stock and crypto market, all you really need is some relevant information and some professional advice. It is totally inappropriate for investors to stand by as they take dips during significant market diclinism
@@holmesstanley899 A good investment requires experience and knowledge to carry out a successful operation. Professionally, it is recommended to trade with experienced brokers, who can help you increase your profits while helping you learn the trade
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Dude this is so spot on
Why would anyone want to go on a first date and stare at someone chewing down on a bunch of food? Lol
Here's an idea; you have such a keen interest in young, single, sexless males that aren't employed, in training, or in education, so why not bring one onto your show? It's not difficult to find them, and interviewing one of them is going to give you greater insight into their life, their mindset, reasonings and so on better than any of these academics or influencers that discuss the subject without actually being one of them.
that would be boring and depressing... that's why
Matt out here dodging the reality of online dating for 95% of men like Neo in the matrix
Because he caters (and panders) to women exclusively. And has got very rich doing it
GET OFF THE APPS. They are destructive to BOTH men & women.
I agree 100% that dinner and/or drinks on a first date (especially) should be at the bar where you are not facing each other. In the actual restaurant it is usually quiet, there are no distractions and there is a much higher chance of having awkward silence. Go to the bar where there can be sports on the TV's, music playing to fill the silence and you can look around the room/people watch while you're coming up with interesting conversation starters. In addition, I always try to do something FUN before the dinner/drinks. Let's get to know each other by doing an activity like mini-golf or going to a place like Dave & Buster's. Then, when you're eating dinner you already have that flirty fun vibe going (if things went well) and it can continue to evolve into something bigger and better.
I got hurt/traumatized so bad by trusting a man from Tinder. Told me his intentions were to date me and have a “mature relationship” but ended up putting me into a position where I felt pressured to send him s*xual photos. This was after three months of almost daily talking. I just can’t do this anymore
Any guy on a dating app that says he wants a "mature relationship" is only after one thing...
I think Tinder was the worse of the dating apps. I had guys asking for nudes or something sexual. I was new to the app and I had no idea how awful these kind of guys can be. It's like a way to get seggs out of people from not putting in much effort.
Hussey sure knows how to empty the pockets of lonely women!!
Right, I never understood it. He can't maintain a romantic relationship but it's constantly giving advice🤦🏽♀️
@@tanL22 Wasn't aware of this. He comes across as the most decent guy in the world, but charges $10,000/hr for one-on-one coaching...
He's obviously benefiting from his good looks in that dept.
@@tanL22 he’s engaged to be married! What are you on about?
@@Nah-ah So? He's been engaged before and never been married. People who can't keep a relationship have no business giving advice.
Part the issue is women’s standards have gone up since dating apps have come out, that’s one the main issues
You mean for the bare minimum? Like actually being considerate and not making her perform for you, being consistent, initiating and planning dates, and not asking for 50/50 split?
I'm a guy and I noticed my standards rising too, even as my matches are sparse. But however you slice it fewer men are meeting women's standards than vice versa. More women are even deciding they don't need or want men at all. We are in an unstable time with no equilibrium in sight.
@@masonm600 I treat men very nicely and grateful when they’re gentlemen and exhibit good behavior. I match energy. If I can see toxicity or red pill or beta behavior, it will be reflected to them, and I’ll never see them again.
This is one reason muslim women wear hijab. Muslim ppl believe it is protection for society/woman. As they cover their beauty it makes it more important for them to develop their personality, morals and intellect, to be defined by. This makes them pleasant to talk to and hold real conversations around shared values, beliefs and long-term life goals that are also deep and transcend in nature. It prevents ppl getting arrogant and getting a superiority complex based on superficial trates. Keeps ppl down to earth, modesty. Trys to prevent self entitlement and Princess complex. It trys to prevent the commercialisation/weaponising of "beauty", by it not being a publicly displayed and traded commodity/currency. Trys to give women a break from having to compete with each other on just beauty, in open public. That can cause feelings of jealousy. Helps to try to prevent an army of simps and street pestering. As her beauty is for HER and the special people SHE chooses in her life. Helps to try to prevent insecurities trying to maintain unrealistic and unsustainable beauty standards, that are forever changing and expensive to uphold. This can cause mental issues in people and the sense of constant judgement and body shaming from people that don't know you or care about your long-term good. Peace
Women expect men to play the game, but don't know how to play the game themselves. Aka they expect gentlemen (or mindreaders) but don't want to be ladies...
I've tried implementing a short date for the first meet, but the idea never goes over well. "You don't like me? You don't trust me?" It's better to plan for a short date rather than to cut it short if the person does/says something dumb/offensive. Knowing me, I wouldn't cut it short no matter how much it deserves it because confrontation is scary. And I refuse to spin falsehoods to get out of a date.
totally agree. a good tactic could be agreeing with the person that you only have 2 hours and then you need to go to X for X time...then if its going well you can always say you can push it back but if not it gives you a polite way to leave
@@JadesFitnessBucketList I've done that, too. They don't hide their disappointment. They assume correctly that I want a short date.
The woman shouldn't be setting the pace/taking the lead in the first place. If **you** are proposing the idea of a short date, he should be skeptical. What you should be doing as the selector (i.e. the one with way more options available to you) is turning down men who want more up front time commitment than you're comfortable with. Don't get yourself into a situation that you don't like in the first place (i.e. one where you're uncomfortable and afraid to confront him about it). If you want short dates, only talk to men who will offer that to you. Learn to say no to pushy men.
@@TrenchcoatJesus Good point, thanks.
Most men can't even get the date to begin with.
He is so spot on! I have stoped using dating-apps many years ago. The men i have met through the internet/datingapps are men who give an appearens of beeing something/someone they are not. No more online dating for me.
Women have so many options on online dating. It distorts their reality.
let´s be honest at your age you get what you get lady
Hey Chris, where are you getting the 40-60% of relationships start online? I've always heard it was a lower number, more like 1 in 3.
I remember him quoting some reputable poll a few weeks ago.
dating apps are like a tool you don’t have to use it but just understand your limiting your reach of potential’s mates if you don’t but if your okay with that and wanna meet people the old fashion way have at it
I'm 39, and I've never used a dating app. Growing up, the idea of one was seen as something losers did out of desparation; the only difference now is that we have a lot more losers nowadays. The more I learn about them from others, the more I wonder why so many men are willing to dehumanise themselves. If you can't get laid in real life, how is lying on an app going to help?
Thank you!
He seems to completely ignore that many of these men are only out for sex as they do not see the woman they find as relationship material. As usual, women are portrayed as victims although they themselves are a large part of the cause of the problem.
Most guys in the dating apps are only looking for a ho*ok up. It’s not useful for women who want a serious relationship. I wouldn’t recommend dating apps for women. Unless women want to be bombarded with D pics and what not, dating apps are a joke for women. In general, most women who have kids clearly state that they have kids in their dating profiles. Most men on the other hand hide the fact that they have kids. There are many men on there who hide the fact that they have wives too. Since mothers are the primary caretakers, they don’t hide their kids. That is why women contribute only 30% of the dating apps and a good number of that is said to be bots too.
And you are wrong about saying that men come looking for relationships. Looks like you are delusional about male nature. Being a Chad is the ultimate male fantasy of most guys. They want to sleep with as many women as possible.
He has some good points but taking dating advice from a good looking guy is like taking finance advice from a rich guy, could be good if you are in that position but most people are not so it's pretty worthless. I've done the funny/cool profile on tinder with good pics and nice presentation, but guess what, since i'm not in the 6 feet category or 6pack, i still didn't get anything beyond a lot of matches with no follow through. Some girls would match me just to say they love my profile but are not interested 😄 . Also i got game, most then most people, so i got enough dates under my belt to know his advice of staying across from someone is utter bullshit. I've sit across from girls and either after the drink we went for a walk so it was easier to touch, or i just straight up moved next to her in the restaurant/pub. Online dating is shit unless you are in the top 20% , best dating is either in warm approach scenario ( in a shared activity like dancing, volunteering etc ) or passport bro type of thing where if you are a foreigner in some countries you usually immediately go to the top 20-10% of guys.
Bro even 6ft isn't shit, it's just one of those fake hurdles broads put up to justify not being interested if it's the one flaw on her shopping list. Coming from a 6"3 even having a slightly crooked nose is a major offense and unfortunately I'm getting a nose job because now I'm super insecure about my face structure
@@midragga Yeah, the "requirements" are getting higher and higher, i actually think it's some sort of brain damage from the shitty food and toxins you got in America, like glyphosate and shit. Anyway, i would just try and hit Thailand or the Philippines if i was you instead of getting major surgery, but you do you.
@@midragga what city u in?
@CoolKid Dwight PS3-Hoops etc rapture
I like the insight, but it's worth noting that men 20+ years ago didn't have to figure out how to present every single aspect of themselves in a specific way to get women. They asked women out and went from there. It was them following their natural instincts and it wasn't distracted by warped egos from dating apps and social media
When I was dating and lived in Colorado, hiking was always a great first date. The hiking trails around Boulder were always easy. And it could always escalate to drinks or food if the hike went well.
Who the hell wants to hike with someone they hardly know? That's why people find bodies out there.
This guy would do horribly in online dating
He would get blackpilled beyond our comprehension 😂
No he would not, he’s a Chad lol
@@kenyanicholas6809 his 'subtle' advice is about as subtle as a brick through a window
cannot wait for this one! im part of a generation where the 3 serious relationships ive had in my life have been from meeting from online dating and although i see the major cons of it, i do feel (at least for me), i would never meet anyone in real life because i dont go out in the evenings or to many social events much. it also means you can cast your 'net' wider and meeting people you wouldnt come across in real life necessarily. But there are many cons such as the paradox of choice and feeling theres always someone better etc, general dating app fatigue of repeating the same small talk convos on first dates and phone calls, as well as many spoken about in this clip. Like a lot of things in life there are pros and cons
I don't go out too much and the things that I do go out to do are extremely male dominated. Dating apps are the only reason I have a gf right now. Until women start doing traditionally masculine activities and men start doing traditionally feminine activities, dating apps will be a necessary evil/good. Even then, I'm not sure it'll work because now people are starting to think that dating people in your hobbies/interests is bad because it could possibly ruin that hobby/interest if the relationship doesn't work out.
Its so much easier in person. I hate online dating. You get a vibe immediately when you meet someone out in the real world. Chemistry is number one and its so slim to have that from online dating. Just my opinion
Y’all sexualized yourself. Women are obsessed with sex because it’s all they have. posting pics online of yourself sexualizing yourself then asking men to see more in you when that’s all you got
Why would you not want to look at the person you are dating? When I was dating, I wanted to sit across the table, so I could see his face, and look into his eyes.
Online dating is so easy for Women it's actually crazy
100% agree about sitting at the bar. Plus sitting beside the woman makes it easier for you guys to start touching each other as attraction builds.
I'd say sitting at an angle works best at first and next to each other on future dates but the general idea is very valid.
dating apps are an ego booster for girls and a time waster for guys. real connections are gonna be found in real life. those platforms always seem to attract the most awful types of people, over the years that ive used them ive never met a girl that ive even been attracted to and im not picky at all, maybe it depends on location, but where i am, i have never met a girl who has been remotely appealing at all, nor having any type of good and pleasant personality
Gotta love a video that starts with "I really don't know what's going on." Okay, we'll remember that.
Once again proves they’re judging all men based on the top 10% of men.
Saying women hate sex, while they are a lot more likely to be promiscuous when using dating apps is at least weird. Both women and men need sex, don’t blame neither.
Wrong. Men need sex. Women use sex to extract resources.
I haven't gotten as far in the video but... no, women do not hate sex. They hate sex with men they find sex a chore with which basically means under-performers in the marketplace.
Men have a significantly higher sex drive. It is not even comparable. Especially men with high testosterone. Men who are not watching porn all day. Women approach sex in a completely different way.
Women do enjoy s3x and have a high s3x drive. But most guys in the dating apps are only looking for a ho*ok up. It’s not useful for women who want a serious relationship. I wouldn’t recommend dating apps for women. Unless women want to be bombarded with D pics and what not, dating apps are a joke for women. In general, most women who have kids clearly state that they have kids in their dating profiles. Most men on the other hand hide the fact that they have kids. There are many men on there who hide the fact that they have wives too. Since mothers are the primary caretakers, they don’t hide their kids. That is why women contribute only 30% of the dating apps and a good number of that is said to be bots too.
Perhaps I can only speak of my own experience, but most of the men I've known in my life look for long term relationships first, and only go for hookups if the girl disappoints them.
You 3ould be surprised on these apps what senseless creeps guys can be even when you have expressed what you are looking for.
@@lnaph the women are just as crap on them. just get off of them if you want a better chance, or find the ones that are explicitly geared toward long term relationships (very hard to do).
Most guys in the dating apps are only looking for a ho*ok up. It’s not useful for women who want a serious relationship. I wouldn’t recommend dating apps for women. Unless women want to be bombarded with D pics and what not, dating apps are a joke for women. In general, most women who have kids clearly state that they have kids in their dating profiles. Most men on the other hand hide the fact that they have kids. There are many men on there who hide the fact that they have wives too. Since mothers are the primary caretakers, they don’t hide their kids. That is why women contribute only 30% of the dating apps and a good number of that is said to be bots too.
I had actually seen videos of Matthew a few years back and thought his insights were pretty solid. I’d love to see the rest of the episode.
He's an apologist for women and men are always at fault It's always men's reasons why things don't work we've heard it all before This why a lot of men are giving up Life is easier when you don't have anything to do with women. I still go and get laid and do short-term relationship cuz I'll lie to women I don't care I'm here to get my dick wet sometimes and then have nothing to do with them. Life is a lot better when you don't rely on a woman.
I could write a book about how guys should present themselves on online dating and what not to do. I would recommend bumble because you cans send voice messages and call there without a girl having to worry about giving her number... and build connection. Choose good pictures.... not terrible lighting or angles. It's amazing how many guys think they are looking "alpha" in pictures and just look like wife b8ers...or sleezy looking men...don't be one of them.. be an honorable guy... show intention when you have a connection.
@@lnaph please don't. Unless you find yourself a wonderful husband, you have no business writing a book for men when you haven't successfully identified and captured a great man. Too many people think they're experts without showing receipts.
@@pointblanks lol I'm not going to actually write one but I will tell you very few of these men dont know what rhey are doing our there on these sites... they don't understand the psychology of it at all... and its not as hard as their defeatist mindset wants wants make it.
@@pointblanks I know how to increase chances of getting a date and even a number for guys because I know how we filter you all out...and that stupid tinder study th4 manosphere cries about does not represent thr real dating market. It is fear prn.
It’s a nightmare because dating apps are conditioning you to act like a serial dater (which isn’t most people! Yet everyone now acts like one!!) Serial daters only care about the amount of dates, always has options, superficial info and appearance, instantly turned off by a red flag, so sensitive and will cut you off at the smallest thing! Wanting a relationship requires a whole different set of skills that dating apps do not provide. The profile, the list of likes, paying subscriptions, chucking men who have been on the dating app for a while at you- it’s teaching you how to be a serial dater. This whole avoidant and anxious thing is from serial daters dating people who want a relationship. Anxious attachments want a real connection that avoidants don’t know how to have because they’ve been so conditioned to not commit and keep looking for the next person. My friends who have always dated, are crazy and weird now, because they’ve succumbed to this, it even filters into their relationships IRL.
Nailed it, I've been saying that lately. It forces to you become someone desperate, when you weren't like that.
I find this debate interesting cause I’ve totally just been used as a hookup and nothing else with girls so this idea that it’s just guys doing it is a bit unfair. I also feel to just come out and say you’re looking for a relationship scares people away as if it’s too serious?
I wouldn't take what this guy says very seriously. Just look up a few videos of his and he's all about catering to women. I saw a couple of comments praising him already in this video.
You're not alone. I'd say I'm over it now, and have a GF I mesh way better with. But my first sexual experience was with this girl I loved, and when I told her that, she broke up with me. Destroyed me for years and I'll never forget how it made me feel. People saying that only dudes did that made me really mad for a very long time too
I got the impression based on Chris' question that Matthew was being specifically asked about the women's online dating experience, not the experience for both sexes. I can also tell you as a woman with mostly female friends and working on female-dominated industries for the last 15 years, that a lot of women would appreciate serious questions earlier. You don't have to ask on the first date, but it does feel like a waste of time to not give clear intentions upfront. Those women who are not looking for anything serious will fall off quickly since those questions will be a turn-off for them. Win-win for you sir!
Heres the thing, the attractive guys want sax from women. The unattractive men are asking women on dates but women dont want them
@@MBulldog1979 seen it too, but i always thought he was pretty level headed but does indeed seem he's a bit too skewed in one direction.
He keeps criticizing the behaivior if men in online dating as if we are playing around in the Garden of Eden yet the average guy barely even gets a match per week, what a morron totaly missed the problem. Ofc the guys EVERY women wants will play around and make them feel awful but only women can shut that down, what does he expect the 80% that get nothing to band together an unionize against the 20%?! Redicilously missguided.
Lol I like how you phased that: "unionizing against the 20% for women's benefits" Ladies, of course men aren't. It's not our problem. Women need to use their brain and learn how to select men correctly rather than lie to yourselves.
This one time, I cross-dressed at a music festival for fun with my friends. I passed as pretty attractive girl, especially with the low light of evening hiding my stubble. It was really eye opening how men treated me. Guys tried to dance with me, a few went out of their way to just say "hey" to me, and I was like wow. This must be what all the women go through. Very eye opening experience. It had me thinking most young men needed to experience it.
Dating apps are great! But they also encourage increased shallowness. Heard you talk about this in Diary of a CEO Chris. As a guy, your dating value is determined by so many factors other than your looks: your charm, your confidence, your vibe, your smell. In an app, all these factors are instantly negated. Creating a fairly poor representation of the dating world. That's why I encourage and teach guys to take back control of their dating life by learning how to meet women in real life. That's the great equaliser it feels like, in an increasingly digital world, to be able to meet people face to face.
Ive had some successful hinge dates. I'm a chick btw. My preferred method is to meet in person right off the bat, because I don't have time to keep up five different texting conversations with five different people, and meeting in person will help you decide if someone's worth the time. Do a drink or a coffee somewhere public. I like to pick the place and the time, ideally somewhere I know well, then I show up five or so minutes early to pick the seat, ideally where I can see the door. When they show up, I keep it to one drink, unless its a really good conversation. At the end of that time, if I like them enough, I give them my number.
Good woman. 👍
The man should be taking lead and the plans, but it's cool you take the initiative. I imagine it's out necessity since so many dudes just fumble the football
You are the rare woman. You're not wasting your time or the guy's. More women should do this if they're actually serious about dating instead of racking up self-validation from random men.
This is great. Now tell all your sisters to do the same. Best of luck to you, approaching dating with a plan and logic rather than a list of things you want. Stay blessed
U pickin the place is sus and shows u want a beta to follow what u want
Can't online date. No friends = no pictures = no dates. Can't meet women through friends, obviously. No women of interest at work. Hate nightclubs which leaves me with bars. Finding a quality woman at a bar = almost impossible. There are no second acts in American life. You're either a winner or a loser.
Purple Pillers Uniting. The money must be flowing like juice. Most men are done wanting relationships because women haven't entertained it for so long that the scarcity destroyed the market. Women are horrible online too. Tons of fake profiles you name it. This is an odd discussion indeed. Thank you so much for fueling the Red Pill. We luv it.
The disparity and inequality in these daiting apps is the issue. It creates an eco chamber for really good looking/rich guys to treat women as their playthings whilst most of us "good" men struggle to get any likes. This is what needs to be adressed, not this bs he is trying to push.
6:35 - There's a whole thing now among women - "NO COFFEE DATES" - they have a point about men being low-effort and "cheap" but really, doesn't it still make more sense in terms of cost and time? Do women really want to be stuck for the beginning, middle and end of a dinner if their date turns out not to be compatible, no matter how good that meal is?
Those women want foodie calls, that's why. They don't care about a man's time and money. They want to use his resources on themselves. Those women out themselves as low-quality users if they say no coffee dates. They clearly want to be wined and dined for free like a celebrity. A genuine woman understands a date is about getting to know each other with the activity as a medium, not the focal point of a date. Oh you require the guy to get you a fancy meal and cocktails for the privilege of meeting a stranger who he isn't sure about yet? Hard pass!
Yes. Free food is free food.
I made a PoF account back around 2012, briefly had a back and forth with one girl and then deleted my account. It wasn't for me. It's interesting hearing the different perspectives surrounding dating apps. If I ever happened to be back on the market I still don't think I'd ever use them.
500 single women at the local mall
'Show don't tell' is exactly why online/app dating sucks. How can you 'show' in an online environment? It's an environment where fakers & cheats prosper, hiding behind a carefully constructed online image. At best, It's a way to meet more people, but there is no substitute for IRL interaction. Online, people have to invest significant time and effort, before they even meet, so they are meeting with expectations, but at the same time they have the illusion of unlimited choice, so no one takes it very seriously. It's a perfect recipe for disappointment.
I've had a girl sit next to me and talk for 1h+ while forgetting about everything else We were swinging our feet and looking at each other 90% of the time It wasn't a date and she was taken anyway But it still felt amazing and it's one of the best memories i have She could have stood up and talked to anyone else at the party but she chose to spend the end of it with me and it made me feel special (if you've seen that moon scene shot in Cyberpunks Edgerunners that's pretty much what it looked like)
god looks at you every second that way
This guy is trying hard not to lose his female fan base. Talking around the truth. Men DO try to get women on dates but it's hard because women are picky as hell.
Why are they so picky now compared to years ago?
@@leescuderi8331 more variety online
Truth...I guess same with men too. Men and women are picky as hell these days.
@@leescuderi8331 men aren't particularly picky. Even the most unattractive women are shopping way out of their price range due to getting lots of attention on apps.
@@DavidW-ng5zv It's over for a lot of men.
Why is it still normalized that men must prove to women who they are or that they're worthy? It is long past time we dispense with these antiquated vestiges of chivalric notions.
Getting blocked 😧 for no reason = a bullet 🔫 dodged 🙏
I’ve had 2-3 women lie about not having kids only to discover they lied on a Skype date. Smh
Some women don’t want to attract predators- BECAUSE they have children. So it is on a need to know basis.
@@danimack38a liar is a LIAR!! If you can’t be honest, you are a disingenuous, deceitful, and deceptive person!! Bad character traits like lying are a HUGE red flag!! Any woman that lies to me is immediately discarded. If you can’t be honest, you aren’t worthy of a quality man/relationship. PERIOD! Don’t try to manipulate us all with your justification of fear. That’s so weak. Be better, ffs!!! Victim mentality and fear is the WEAKEST mentality!