20 Things Most People Learn Too Late In Life
2020 ж. 12 Жел.
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What nobody ever tells you when you are a wide-eyed child, are all the little things that come along with “growing up.”
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The last tip number 20 resembles some quotes in a book called the law of one ... All is one and one is all... Love and light from Lebanon to the world...💚💙❤🤗😍🕉🏳️🌈🇱🇧♾♾♾♾♾♾♾♾ and infinite blessings ...
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@@cquelhas Link in the FAQs on the About page
@@TheArtofImprovement After going through a relatively rough patch this year, I really needed this video to re-boot my mindset. Thanks a ton for all that you do :)
@@TheArtofImprovement Thanks!!!
2. Nobody really cares about your dreams. That is why you do it for yourself.
This👆⬆️
Until they see you succeed!
I think it depends on what kind of "dreams" you have. For example, if you dream about eradicating world poverty, the poor will actually care, but if its some personal dream, very few would.
@@omaralkammash9225 I doubt it. Most poor people would not be able to participate in that long-term process. They are mostly overwhelmed by short-term problems and thus would rather get some money now to spend now. Anyway, you are the one who wants it and you are doing to it to feel good for yourself.
@@luther7541 Maybe, but what I mean is that you might have some dreams that would matter to others, if the same dream is shared. Martin luther King would make a perfect example, I don't think that the black community would neglect his dream, and I belive many Afro American activists would consider him as a role model.
I would add 2 things: 1. Not everybody is going to like you, and that’s fine. Even the most likable, honest person will have at least one person who dislikes them. Nobody has 100% approval rating, so don’t get upset by that. 2. You will meet some people that you don’t like, for whatever reason. And that’s fine. Disliking them doesn’t mean you can’t get along with them, or at least act cordially. If their behavior is truly out of line, let them know, privately if possible, don’t be afraid to set boundaries. 3. It’s harder to make close friends as an adult. When young, you have plenty of time and opportunity to hang out, so it generally happens naturally. As adults, you have less free time and so many things competing for your attention: family, work, exercise, hobbies, etc. You have to make an effort to maintain friendships or cultivate new ones, or else you’ll drift apart. And 4: while you are ultimately responsible for your self and your happiness, it always helps to have people in your corner.
#2. Learn to set boundaries, even with family.
You have my %100 apoval
@@q.ananlaulleeray2024 are you the same person putting dollar signs at the end of a number lol
Edit: actually I apologize that was really rude from me.
I dont think you know what 2 is
Don't ever stop making these videos. We appreciate them
Indeed. We all should say this more often to the OPs.
100 percent
Thats a lot of pressure.
True
When your inner child dies, your life becomes extremely dull
Yup. Thus, always be curious about people, things, and seek out new knowledge and wisdom. Never let life become a boring routine. Seek out new adventures, challenges, and thrills. Keep your mind flowing as fast as you can and do as much as you can.
Thats why people smoke weed.
or even psychedelics
And sad.
I don't think it ever truly dies. If you attempt to kill it, rather than respect and nurture it, ressurects as your inner tyrant.
1. Most people are scared of using their imagination 2. Your dream doesn't really matter to anyone else 3. Friends are relative to where you are in your life 4. Your potential increases with age 5. Spontaneity is the sister of creativity 6. You forget the value of "touch" later on 7. Most people don't do what they love 8. Many stop reading after college 9. People talk more than they listen 10. Creativity takes practice 11. Success is a relative term 12. You can't change your parents 13. The only person you have to face every morning is you 14. Nothing feels as good as something you do from the heart 15. Your potential is directly correlated to how well you know yourself 16. Everyone who doubts you will always come back around 17. You are the reflection of the 5 people you spend the most time with 18. Beliefs are relative to what you pursue 19. Anything can be a vice 20. Your purpose is to be YOU
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Thx bro!
Thankyou
Thanking you
... thx for your help work
“When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.” 🙃 ― Viktor E. Frankl
And when changing yourself doesn't work, then you have two options: an escape(suicide) or a cry for help(God). One embraces life, the other seeks death. One clings to pride, the other lets it go.
That's the beauty: changing ourselves from the inside out.
Was the emoji part of his quote too?
@@lifegoesonandonandonandona7192 You can ALWAYS change yourself. The one who isn't brave enough fails on changing himself.
This is waht I needed! 🤛
“No man has the right to be an amateur in the matter of physical training. It is a shame for a man to grow old without seeing the beauty and strength of which his body is capable.” - Socrates
"It is a shame for a man to grow old without seeing the beauty and strength of which a female body is capable." - I.
I love this quote
@@dragonmartijn beauty definitely.. strength from woman🙄🙄 😂😂😂😂?
They do if they are disabled.
@@ZhuGeLiang6969A woman has the power to endure much more pain than a man, a woman is the strongest biologically and genetically (which are also the most important). The man has physical strength and that's about it, it's wrong to think that the power is only physical, and the truth is that the woman possesses many more types of power.
If you lose your wealth, you have lost nothing; if you lose your health, you have lost something; but if you lose your character, you have lost everything.
oh yeah i have :,) sobs
Sounds like a Marcus Aurelius quote, love it.
Don't lose ur soul
@@Blake-pn6xm Billy Graham!
"Never mistakes, always lessons". I take this. 👍
Yeah, but sometimes one fails in something they wanted to achieve. Not to close your eyes from that very fact is important whilst moving, just look at what you learned during that time, and you will benefit the most from it, even though i seemed to be a failure. Another good thing is when something happens that dissatisfies you to look at it as a blessing in disguise. Then you eyes change. Always lessons.
Wrong you need mistakes too
Okay let's put a pin in this one right now. Everyone who doubts you will NOT always come back around. That bully might stay a bully for his (their) entire life, regardless of what you do with yourself. That girl (or boy?)who didn't want to date you will NOT always come back around, and they shouldn't. People choose you for their own reasons. You do not earn them like tokens for your progress in life. Your accomplishments don't entitle you to be chosen by someone. That choice belongs to the person for their own reasons. I'm commenting on this because I see this opinion as the seed to having a really bad attitude when you do accomplish things in life and people DO NOT CHANGE like you hope they would. You can spend a lifetime trying to make things work with certain people. It's not supposed to be that hard. Find new people.
@M M no, thank you👍
Agreed. Some folk wisdom should be taken with a grain of salt.
I just never see the same people again. I think it would be more realistic and helpful to say: When you’ve had a bad experience, keep improving yourself because, in the future, it will feel like a big accomplishment to interact with the same type of person, but this time be the one they respect.
Some of this channels advice sounds nice but is pretty vacuous. Its exactly the same stuff you see posted on Instagram by every self obsessed influencer.
I think there is some nuance (reading between lines if you will) going on. The truth might be for someone in the middle of what was stated in video and your opinion. The person doesn’t have to come back (to appreciate you) to you but it’s a nice ‘bonus’.
The hardest one to bite is 17:you are a reflection of the 5 people you spend the most time with...it kinda makes you doubt your marriage, family, friends...
The 5 people you spend most of your time with doesnt mean the 5 you are forced to live with. You may not love the company of your family. Ask yourself whom would you rather be with?? It's the 5 people that you would rather be with.
Uh... what if you only spent time with three people? I'm sure this has been more common during the last year though...
It is only true if you let it be. Growing up in a toxic house i had to learn to not let other people affect me and focus on myself no matter what
it hurts the worst because the perosn i hear the most is my mom voice chatting with her online firned orphan 24/7 and emotionally manipulate her while she's saying awful things about other people makes my heart ache (esepically when i realise i sometimes look similar to her in the way i talk, and also walk similarly)
That’s not true though. Because nobody in my surrounding has the same interests or hobby as me
1. most people are scared of using their imagination 2. your dreams doesn’t really matter to anyone else 3. friends are relative to where you are in life 4. your potential increases with age 5. spontaneity is the sister of creativity 6. you forget the value of “touch” later on 7. most people don’t do what they love 8. many stop reading after college 9. people talk more than they listen 10. creativity takes practice 11. “success” is a relative term 12. you can’t change your parents 13. the only person you have to face in the morning is yourself 14. nothing feels as good as something you do from the heart 15. your potential is directly correlated to how well you know yourself 16. everyone who doubts you will always come back around 17. you are a reflection of the 5 people you spend the most time with 18. beliefs are relative to what you pursue 19. anything can be a vice 20. your propose is to be YOU
You have my gratitude ❤️
thanks a lot!
17 - you are a reflection of the 5 people you spend the most time with: That person can also be the collective "person" on a social media platform. If you spend all your time on reddit or facebook for example, that will shape your world view, personality, sense of humour... Be mindful of it and don't forget to step back and think critically.
“Being great at something is a daily habit. You aren’t just born that way.” Brilliant!
“Many people stop reading after college” Me: “Many people stop reading after high school”
Me: "Most people never actually start reading"
@@sampomikkonen339 On everything! Myself started reading after school. Wasn’t a reader while in School
Grade school now probably.
What fools, noone knows everything. A life of constant entertainment is a noxious thought.
People watch these videos because they stopped reading.
I absolutely love and appreciate this channel. This video just lifted my spirits, thank you!
The real wealth is the health and being surrounded by people who love you is more important than luxuries.
...and more important than virtue signalling "Classy."
And I would think more motivating.
You’ll be surrounded by “people who love you” as long as you aren’t doing better than them. Most people can’t read when their “friends” secretly despise them or worse, only look at you as someone who keeps them company..mainly because they can’t stand to be alone with their own thoughts. Don’t believe me? Start a business. Still don’t believe me? Grow that business. Many get pleasure out of seeing you do bad..that’s why TMZ is who they are. Take the gray pill 💪🏼: kzhead.info/sun/i8ucgZGSnmKPlHA/bejne.html
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“You are your own evolving masterpiece, you are the sculpture and the sculptor”
No.
Yes
@@healwithmarianna No. Its your turn.
It's Batnan's turn. yes
Those illustrations are just beautiful -- I love the shading!
Love ur content bro! Keep up the good work✨
I admire the spirit of the person making these videos. Much love.
Thank you for these videos - they're a great reminder that it's never too late, or too difficult to make those small changes that will make a big difference for your life
This video let's me start thinking. About work situation in particular and how I can make it better for myself. Instead of constantly looking at others on how to please them. Thanks for this video. I keep wachting your content. As it helps me.
Love these videos man! Very motivational!
I needed this, thank you.
Thank you for this. Great video! We really paint ourselves.
When you are present , you are open to the infinite spaciousness within you and without you . You are open to wider scope of perception to learn , remember and relearn ... This is why it is said that having pure awareness and an open mind detached from preconceived and biased ideas allows us to see more clearly and impartially things and reality as they really are ...
Thank you for all the content
Thank you, I watched it two times. I did not want to miss anything. Its an excellent reminder when going through a rough patch in life.
Thank you for the clarity this helps me.
Every year we pass the anniversary of our birth, unknown to many, we also passed the anniversary of our death, the anniversary of the last time someone speaks of you, and the moment that we are forgotten.
That’s deep.
You cannot have an anniversary of an event that has yet to happen. It’s like celebrating the day mankind landed on Mars....today.
@@zeroceiling You do always, every date is an anniversary of some event. We don't need to give it importance till it becomes so on a personal level. July 4th is a holiday fir americans or is it the worst day of a woman's life that bares an unknown future of a few who were effected by it and a most undesirable life for one person due to that person is the constant reminder of that night. There were 137, 685 babies born on sept 11, 2001, but due to relegion and politics we took away their birthday and gave it some other meaning other than just being another birthday, its now more not of any act of the ones born but when they were. 264, 400 + people died in the time it took me to write this. It will be forgotten and dismissed.
Not really considering it hasn't happened and we aren't guaranteed to die either
@@bestexperience7534 Ever wonder if all the people that we witnessed being born and dieing, within our lives, do we appear to be immortal to them ? We are not really destined to die but we are destined to live . The simplest thing that we never wanted, but when we aquire it, it is almost immpossible to imagine not having it, or what was it like before we aquired it . We ourself nay never die but everyone around us, though be ye an average Joe, or an outrageous hoe, quiet and quaint, sinner or saint, there is a date that states you were here, but now ya ain't ! Dying really can screw up my plans by showing up before my dream date or that test I was not ready for, a bit late.
It took me 50 years to understand this video! many thanks!
Great Video, thanks for the inspiration 🤗
This actually brought some insights!
This is so spot on. This is surprising good.
This is a gem💎 Thank you
Content-dense and quite useful video, thanks so much.
Thank you for this video. I can relate to 16 of these. The nonsense I've been subjected to makes sense since I can see it is preventing me from fully enjoying life. Thanks, I'm good.
you've made me dig deep and face eye-to-eye some horrible truths about myself. thank you.
These are so impressive, thank you for these!
I’ve realized that my actions and the things I do, and did are a reflection of my pain. The more I age and learn, I learn to take accountability for everything I do and just because I’ve been hurt doesn’t mean I have to hurt other people but hurt is all I know, I was taught to hurt. Moral of the story “Hurt people, hurt people”.
Talking about my feelings and expressing myself is what makes things better. When you keep everything in all you’re doing is hurting yourself by letting everything build up. That is also why I recommend talking to someone. I promise you will feel way better it will still hurt you won’t be automatically healed but it will help. - much love ❤️
Thank you for making this
Thank you❤ so much!!
*your potential increases with age* - what a life changing perspective!!
I think you start to realise this more often when you start your professional career. My older colleagues are much more skilled and knowledgeable, experience is so valuable in all walks of life.
I thought this one was obvious? How can you be good at anything without experience?
Indeed!
@@gmchessplay9043 Yes but it is part of how we influence our own subconscious and what then ultimately comes to pass. Like someone expecting to get a belly after turning 30 and someone telling him or herself over and over that after 35 you start deteriorating and that will exactly be what you experience. Our beliefs and convictions are stronger than we think.
@@im3phirebird81 Yeah, that’s unfortunate. I guess I’m one of the few who actually relishes the idea of getting older, I imagine my body will react to the way I maintain it and I’ll have much more experience to draw from in everyday life.
Thank you for this video !
Powerful and true af! Thank u 🧡🔥
Really nice and helpful content. I like the way how it is presented. Thank you very much!
The ending made me want to cry fr bro. Good stuff
Thank you for this!
I really like this and just checked out your channel for the first. One thing I wish u did was to not list so many points in each video bc I will forget them in an hr and instead make a story with a few points. That will resonate more with the viewer and leave a longer lasting impact
Thank you!
Great wisdom! Thanks.
Excellent video -great insights!
Thank you, this is good and helpful!!
Great compilation....👍
Don't think I've ever heard #20 before... That is a succinctly profound statement.
Im more than happy i cant change my parents i love them ❤
Lovely. Truly good advice. Thank you, sir. I’m reminded of a time one of my nieces lamented that life might be meaningless. That it might have no purpose under the sun. I told her, if that’s true then lucky for us! That means this indifferent universe of ours has inadvertently given us each a blank canvas and a lifetime supply of paint. We get to GIVE meaning to life! We’re not assigned a purpose; We create our own from scratch. And while we could certainly scrutinize this analogy with discussion over canvas conditions and available paint colors, etc., it can’t be disputed that you’ll be happier if you do (at least the majority of) your own painting, you stand behind everything you paint (your convictions are yours, made from scratch using pensive consideration, and not merely inherited, borrowed, or adopted and then rehearsed from time to time), and most importantly, if you always remember that you’re allowed to change your mind. Always. Right up to the moment you die, after which you’ll either be a spirit in some sort of new realm (a scenario that’s simply pointless to worry about here in this life) or you’ll have cashed in on the second inadvertent gift from our bleak and meaningless universe: accidental mercy via non-existence. Instead of judgment day, a peaceful, painless, worry-free, dreamless sleep. Just like the awesome nap you had before you were born. And that -following a lifetime of giving meaning to the otherwise potentially meaningless- that’s still worth living for, don’t you think? Plus, if this is all just a pop quiz in God’s great classroom, then I have a strong hunch it’s not fill-in-the-blank, nor is it multiple-choice. They’re not collecting bingo cards or balance sheets at the pearly gates. It’s a single essay question and your entire lifetime is your answer. And having given meaning to that life and others, whenever and wherever it seemed meaning was missing, will earn you an A+ for sure. Now let’s just hope he doesn’t grade on the curve. Thanks again. Cheers! -Phill, Las Vegas
Great info thanks!
Thank You So Much ❤️
Some facts some obvious errors like those who doubt you always come back to you
Excellent artistry !
KZhead knows me too well. I enjoyed tremendous success in my 20s and early 30s. Then I faltered big time. And I can say from brutal experience that these tips are true.
I really like the tip about knowing yourself. If you know how you learn, and what your strengths and weaknesses are, you can manipulate them to your benefit.
In theory, i been doing this for three years and all i can say is you will have a tendency to show observer bias. You might have a good idea of who you are but then weigh that to real life. How often again will you use your strength into the future unless you develop another strength, or how well do you know your environment that it will exploit that same weakness. Over time the best thing each one of us can develop is patience, trust, hard work and endurance. I don't know everything nor claim to do so, but i can understand that wherever we are in this life or around the world even, whatever we face each day if we humble ourselves and face our fears or boredem it can reflect our true character content.
I watched Soul a couple days ago. It asked and answered most of these
thx the video is just helpfull so think about it in your own live and what you do all day for starters peace out
Great video. Straight to the point, without random bullshit
I love love this video thank you very helpful and honest
Thank You!
No problem
@@TheArtofImprovement when would it be a problem? Just curious.
#7 "The masses are not the ones who live the lives they dreamed of living. And the reason is because they didn't fight hard enough" lol that is incredibly stupid. I myself live a good life, I have meaningful relationships, I have a job I enjoy that pays well, I'm reasonably healthy. But I don't have all that because I fought hard, it's mostly because I got extremely lucky. I was fortunate enough to inherit some traits from my parents that allowed me to "make it" in the profession I wanted, I was fortunate enough to have my parents around to nurture my natural talents and shape me in a positive way, I was fortunate enough to be born in a country with public healthcare and good public schools, so even though I'm from a poor family (grew up in a rented studio in a shitty neighborhood), I could still have the stability and opportunities that aren't as broadly available in most parts of the world. To judge the effort solely based on the outcome, not accounting for other essential factors, is just very ignorant and logically flawed.
You tell em Chad😷😂😷
Everyone is able to conjure up the life they desire. He said a life “they love” not a life society says is good for them.
congrats, you're a rare exception. Next.
Yeah, I found it quite a classist statement
Nicely explained
Sometimes we need to learn by living before we can live through learning.
When you are present , you are open to the infinite spaciousness within you and without you . You are open to wider scope of perception to learn , remember and relearn ... This is why it is said that having pure awareness and an open mind detached from preconceived and biased ideas allows us to see more clearly and impartially things and reality as they really are ...
You can also learn by observing.
Yep
Never too late . Now is always the perfect moment !!
Not a happy life, but a meaningful, or purposeful life.
Contentment is the core of happiness. Unhappiness has rejection at its core, rejecting the past forms depression, rejecting the present causes boredom, while rejecting the future instills fear It's all about rejection. It's that simple, forget the past, don't ponder on what could have happened or why things happened the way it did, be spontaneous, let go off daily routines, try new things, and fear not, for everything will happen the way they are.
great content!
Great lesson and hope you make such great videos
Loved It 💪🏾💯💯💯
This was both an inspiring and motivation video to see! Thank you!
I absolutely love this video.
wow such quality videos!
Good advice, but I have to disagree with 16. People who don’t like you *do not* come back just because your life changes for the better, and they shouldn’t have to because they have their own lives to live. The world and other people’s lives don’t revolve around you whether you stay the same or change. There are literally billions of people on this planet, just forget the ones that aren’t for you and move on.
Do what you love, create your reality
Very good advice really enjoyed this wish I had a plaque to hang on my wall to read every day
Thankful for this
Seems like it's better to focus on skills other people find useful rather than a pure pursuit of your interests. You get the satisfaction of helping others and most often the financial rewards that come along. It's ok to have hobbies too but a big mistake people make is trying to turn a hobby into a job that no one wants to pay them for.
Great video!
16 definitely should redone as it’s only half true, like status has an impact on your desirability, but circumstances on both persons could easily lead you out of that direction, “ie- conflicts, convenience, association and a change social personality”
Very very important info... I leave this message for my son to find it in future📚🌍
This was a great listen/watch
The last tip number 20 resembles some quotes in a book called the law of one ... All is one and one is all... Love and light from Lebanon to the world...💚💙❤🤗😍🕉🏳️🌈🇱🇧♾♾♾♾♾♾♾♾ and infinite blessings ...
Thank You ❤
"The only person you have to face in the morning is you" thats a good one
"anything can be a vice" i like that one too
Good stuff. Very good stuff. Truth. Principals built into creation that never change. Much better than facts, due to facts possibly changing.
“Your purpose is to be you. What is the meaning of life? You are your own creator. You are your own evolving masterpiece. Growing up is the realization that you are both the sculpture and the sculptor. The painter and the painting. So paint yourself however you wish.” ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you 🙏
I'm a devout Christian and the last point at first sounded blasphemous without context, but the way you put it relayed that you meant it in said context and I was impressed, well said.
Inspiring stuff!!
Great advice.🥰
“Many people stop reading after college" About this, I think reading itself isn't the virtue implied by this statement; I think the deep introspection and critical thinking required to develop an understanding of a written medium's dialogue without being shown it explicitly, is the value that is implied with it. I say this, because I don't read a lot, but I feel this way in mediums that are more "accessible" to me like movies, video games, and youtube videos (some more than others). What do you think, is this a wise statement, or do I need to pick up a book?
You're right nowadays it doesn't have to be a book I mean, you can learn now from the movies you watch,video games, videos and some informative sites. The habit of reading and learning is what makes sense to it. But others read or watch something just for entertainment not really learning anything
It sounds to me like you've ticked all the ones about knowing yourself! I think it should more be inferred as keep learning, or pick up something new or mentally challenging. After all, re-reading the Harry Potters for the millionth time isn't going to improve you as a person, no matter how much you enjoy them. Perhaps a middle ground would be wondering around a bookshop or doing a reading quiz online and see what sorts of topics catch your eye or are completely alien to you and then watch videos on them?
Reading is different than watching and listening lol so yes read a little here and there your brain loves it