What is it like to be psychopathic? Ask a Psychopath
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We all know someone with psychopathy.
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But few know the truth about it. We’re helping change that… by helping you know the signs. Know about treatment options and resources. And know you’re not alone.
James Fallon is a professor of neuroscience at University of California at Irvine, and the author of the book The Psychopath Inside. He considers himself a "prosocial psychopath."
He joins us today on zoom to discuss what it is like to be psychopathic.
I love how people in the comments are like "he can't be a real psychopath, he is way too charming, too nice, makes me liking him, appears like he would never hurt anybody" when the characteristics of a psychopaths are "very charming, appears nice, makes people liking them, and look like they would never hurt anyone".
Yeah it's scary how much ignorance there is about psychopathy, I feel like this channel is just an attempt to normalize abnormal manipulative neurotypes.
Seriously
Well some psychopaths kill and some don’t It all depends on the person.
Bundy was supposedly a super nice guy
Ted Bundy Vibes
"Everything's fine! I'm hunky-dory!" *Clown peeks menacingly around the corner*
Hoping someone else noticed Pennywise in the background.
I thought you were speaking figuratively when I first read your comment, then I saw the damn thing myself.
When he said "you really don't care in a fundamental way" a chill ran through me. I finally understand my mother.
but they can replace empathy by acting, and very good, to pretend they are good ppl, my mom was, almost overcare me, damn now I know it was quality acting, she done huge work to learn how to impersonate love (looking movies, asking her mother, colleges, books) to make me feel happy and ppl (neighbours, family friends) prise she is very good mom. "Strangeness" begin to show up around I was 5 y.o. but that is another story.
This man is a Girl Scout in comparison to a few persons I have known that "operated" in the realm of Psychopathy.
Psycopaths are Oscar’s worthy performers. I mean look at the pictures of dogs in the background. He appears charming, nice & caring. No one would ever know that he lack empathy & sympathy.
I noticed the dog frames immediately and thought something similar. Smart man…
He knew what he was doing with that one.
He also has a wife and kids iirc. Doesn't mean he put up the pics himself.
Does that mean sheldon from Big Bang is a psychopath
@@jem2886 he probably has aspergers syndrome.
I remember this man, wasn't he featured in a documentary about the link between psychopaths and those jailed for violent crimes? He decided to include himself in the test group and he was surprised by what his family said about him and the study results
Can you provide a link or something that leads to this docu? I'm really interested.
@@TheDarkstar3601 might be this one kzhead.info/sun/nbOycdKcg5Nre40/bejne.html
@@TheDarkstar3601 Think there was an episode of Radiolab about it
Yep that's him
That's wild!
All I can say is , having parents that give you a safe , healthy, stable life can make a big difference between being a difficult bum vs an out of control criminal type person . Trust me - it matters . If you have both the genetics and an unstable upbringing, that is a recipe for disaster.
Exactly this! I did not have the best upbringing possible, but I would rate my parents to be a 7.5/10. If they had been neglectful or abusive, I would have suffered from a substantially higher lack of empathy, as well as a higher propensity to violence. I also do not have the manipulative trait that psychopaths have (at most, it is very mild), which makes me rather content with my current condition. Having a good upbringing doesn't always mean that someone with a severe form of psychopathy can be "mended," but I was fortunate enough to only have a mild-to-moderate level of psychopathy.
Research shows parenting has little effect on your child personality, in fact environment only has a long lasting effect in the very very early stage of development. They can be the shepherd for directing the child on a path of what they already is not what you want them to be
Absolutely! I love both of my parents, but my dad is a MUCH better man than I will ever be. If not for his example, or if he had been absent? I don’t think I would’ve turned out a5 least halfway decent
@@ericguerra4792 My OM was what would today be criminally violent and verbally abusive. I lived in terror, from 2 or 3 until he died when I was near 13. My first and worst enemy was my own father. I was damaged goods by age 5. I would have been better off, had he died ten years earlier, before the damage was done. (Mom's feelings of guilt were because she didn't know how to protect me, having been raised in a loving household).
@@elultimo102 and yes, that can make a world of difference, in spite of your potentially effed up brain chemistry. My parents weren’t perfect people by any means, but I never doubted their love for me. If anything, I’ve not been the best son to them
I watched a psychiatrist the other day, and he said (I'm paraphrasing) , that psychological disorders are born from just natural evolutionary human survival defense mechanisms that might've been useful years ago when we had to survive in the wild, but are considered as maladaptive today. for example, maybe 1000 years ago, a person with generalized anxiety d/o survived better because they're constantly hyper alert for threats.
Interesting. Thank you.
Makes a ton of sense
Not only can psychopathy be advantageous individually, it can also be advantageous in a group setting. Imagine being in a tribe, in the tribe there are people with psychopathic traits. Those people, if ordered and benefit is recieved from carrying out those orders, will kill, steal and raid on your behalf.
Nonsense. Bipolar and depression are just two things they come to mind that have no useful purposes in terms of survival. Anxiety neither. Why? Because if you’re too anxious about anything and everything you’ll be overwhelmed and can’t do anything let alone forage for food. I’d like to know the name of that psych and see some evidence. Sounds like a bunch of opinionated hogwash.
Wow.
One thing I like about psychopathy is that they don’t feel general anxiety. So they can literally do anything they want and not cringe or feel embarrassed or shy etc. that’s a huge plus. I. Like Challenging myself by doing things out the “norm” but I then I always feel that pressure of nervousness building up lol.
l think some of them feel anxt , saw interview and or read it
It's like having a superpower the world needs psychopaths and sociopaths . Neurotypical people just don't have what it takes to make the hard decisions and take the actions that get results in difficult situations . Empathy is a disability something to be overcome .,
@@sirclarkmarz Lol empathy is a disability? Then why do the majority of humans have empathy? That doesn't make any sense.
@@tomorrowentertainment2936 you could argue that it is becoming less relevant as the environment evolves
@@sirclarkmarz lol many empaths make decisions for the masses
One thing I notice about psychopaths is that they usually don't have any close friends. About the time that a friendship would normally start forming, most people notice that the psychopath isn't good friendship material. Fortunately for the psychopath, they don't care or they don't notice that they don't have friends.
The reasons is simple. We have an extreme sense of freedom. Which mean having people around us is draining. Not having any kind of responsibility is better than putting it on yourself on purpose. Friends is a liability in that respect. So its not neccesailly because people take a stand and leave. We just dont engage that far. A life alone is much better... no attachment :).
you noticed it wrong pall psychopaths do have friends its just that their friend will probably get emotionally hurt, sometimes
@@Naitar he’s saying they have friends but not close. A psychopath can have many acquaintances but not true bonds
@@ss-lz4me Psychopaths don’t have friends because they lack the ability to maintain long term interpersonal relationships. They don’t experience pro social emotions. You can say that this translates into “an extreme sense of freedom” if you have to, but it’s quite merely pathological. It’s not a rational or conscious decision, as many believe, but a fact of psychology. Generally speaking, the idea that one is choosing to be without these relationships by logical process is ironically an example of rationalization.
This 100%
Why are the comments turned off on every video? I would love to discuss and talk more about the topic
So these psychopats wont be able to track you down
I kinda figured one of them had a lot of nasty comments about the lady that confessed to basically torturing an animal one time and all her videos have them turned off currently.
They shut them off because you will get someone with an ignorant or rude comment. When someone doesn't know something they will say something like they do and it ruins it for the rest these are topics I enjoy learning about these types of people we should have been able to talk more about it.
@@MrDubious She wasn't torturing an animal she was trying to kill it and it didn't work so she left it alone. She doesn't like pests and she saw that this animal is a pest and tried to get rid of it but failed. It's almost like calling an exterminator they do something but the get rid of the pest. People lack depth with these topics and don't have a grasp of what is going on in the video and what she suffers from. What we see as her being disconnected and strange to her shes trying to figure out the world in a different way. She even said in the video that she doesn't kill animals and she is aware that other psychopaths have for different reasons so she is conscious of her surroundings and what could happen if she went down that path.
How about the video where she was like “ dont offend psychopaths by calling them that call them a person with psychopath traits” 😂
What is the opposite of a psychopath? Because whatever that is, I have that. I care about absolutely everything and everyone all the time. If I drove over a hedgehog or so, I would probably not be able to sleep for 4 weeks. While I am happy with who I am, I would prefer if I could just "care a little less" sometimes and not have everything feel so heavy on me.
Guilt, Shame,regret,I've spent my entire life wishing I could just stop caring, even just a little bit. I was diagnosed at 11, by a team of doctors with OCD, I'm now 45. It's common in people with OCD. As much as it's driven me to the brink, I also could not imagine being completely void, unaware of people, things around me, it sounds painfully boring and shallow.
Same sometimes I pray that could Just less. I can’t have friends because I become too emotionally involved to everthing they do and care about and its draining. So I stick to my husband. Im always everyones therapist and I am not good at establishing boudaries.
@@nightingale1207 I just wondered if I had started with extreme empathy and that after heavy trauma I turned into a psychopath? Is that possible? I´ll have to ask a psychologist...
@@nightingale1207 I am trying to be as empathetic as I can as an autistic person.
That's a strength. I'm like that truly. No such thing as psychopathy for the record.
The "don't care thing" really resonates. I have a co-worker who I legit like & respect who thinks I'm a borderline psychopath. She picked up on it on VERY quickly too. She actually printed out an online checklist of psychopathic traits & highlighted the ones she felt applied to me & they were pretty much spot on. It didn't trouble me. I wonder if it would bother most people?
He's a fake. Real Psychopaths do care, but only about themselves. A real one wouldn't give interviews or even subject themselves to therapy. The only way to really understand how they are is to experience them first hand. Even if you could interview one, they're not going to be honest. Deception is what they do.
Yeah that would freak me out
That's because you lack empathy as it goes without saying
i had a friend witch did a similiar thing and he even tried telling peaple that im a psychopath but nobody paid attention to him and said he was just jealous because i was more intelligent than he was and now were no longer friends and he keeps sending me bad words in whatsapp so i blocked him
What an inappropriate and unprofessional thing for your coworker to do.
Psychopaths don't all become serial killers...a lot of corporate ceos, criminal defense lawyers, prominent businessmen, etc. Are psychopaths...anything where having 0 ability to feel bad for people or show any empathy is a desired characteristic...
Yep big time...all super smart and manipulative too...an incredible ability to feel no empathy, be likeable, ability to get their goal at any cost, and a really strong understanding of being to change their presentation to match what other people desire...
Surgeons, I imagine it’d be a beneficial trait there lol
but many do become serial killers legally by becoming cops. I've heard that it's the most common profession for psychopaths
I have never met a CEO or any form of leader who hasn't shown normal empathy and cooperation around other people - in fact, it is extremely important for leaders to care about their employees, because that is what builds pleasant and stable social dynamics, and it makes the employees feel comfortable.
The paintings of dogs in the background are ironically hillarious.
I think the psychopath is very often NOT a bad or evil person... because they have learned, albeit later in life, to INTELLECTUALIZE, to suppose or postulate, what others must be feeling. And make behavioral choices accordingly. That is emphatically not the same thing as actual empathy, actually feeling what others are feeling. But it can be a viable modus vivendi.
Yes they are, they can do the unthinkable without any drop of guilty
Honestly, this is how I experience empathy. I am always bothered then people assume that not feeling empathy means I am an a**hole, or otherwise, people thinnk, feeling empathy makes you act empathic. No acting empathy, morals and ethics are choices not feelings.
@@VenusFeuerFalle for most people they are feelings too.
@@Leon_HAS_A_BIG_COCK Normal people can do the unthinkable while feeling guilty. Potential doesn't really matter actions do.
Being a “psychopath” is a personality disorder, they can’t help the way they are and so it doesn’t make them evil, they just lack certain emotions that others feel. It’s actions that make you evil, not how your brain works, and you don’t have to be a psychopath to be evil.
If a normal person was a psychopath for day: imagine you have the uncaring, relaxed blunted fear response and higher pain threshold you get when moderately drunk, although instead of being sloppy and disoriented, you have slightly heightened senses. Imagine a time when you were very tired and hungry, mix in the lower empathy and lower tolerance from that for other people to the experience. All of this, plus just a steady mood, not many highs and very rarely lows. One point which I find funny, is the lack of cognitive understanding of when to care or fear, yet my body sometimes knows better and shakes a little. Like not being cognitively afraid of heights, yet sometimes my body will shake if it’s risky. This is fairly accurate if you ever wanted to know how it would feel.
Are you a psychopath yourself? Me personally, I have psychopathic tendencies but I’m not a full on psychopath. Which is great for me you know, because I just take the good and leave the bad. How about you though are you a psychopath through and through?
the problem is, if you true psycho, you couldn't be aware of such things and describe it, you only can repeat other words to petend you can. Like humans cannot describe how it is not have cat tail or chameleon color change itself. You just live you life as is, from beginning, only other ppl actions may be amuse you like some ppl like clowns making strange face expressions, drop everything and burst to crying baby, you just walk with slightly increased speed in that case.
I'm not a psychopath like you but you explained me lol. I have no friends. Don't want any
He put it so perfectly. You really don’t care, in a very fundamental way.
Literally. I try to make my mom understand im like soulless Sam i understand i should care but i just dont feel it and also like Why? And So? 😅the lie they claim we have no emotions is annoying to make people understand you like ours are wired differently and our reasoning is impeccably different
It‘s not that I don’t care, but I’m fine with what I have. My father knows I‘m set apart from most people he’s ever met. To this day my mother has denied herself that a small child that abuses animals is mentally disturbed, even though I was that child. If she complains about something it’s me being unemotional.
@@CallMeNevermore i wasnt like that with animals but with insects now i hate myself for doing that to the poor ants😥 though my mom acknowledged i wasnt right lol gave me the title Morbid at 4 years old 😅absolutely obsessed with bloody gory horror movies🥰comedies to me
Both he and the female psychopath on this channel have said that they don't care, and that's the number 1 problem with psychopaths. No amount of therapy can change an uncaring mind.
Learn something people: "Although both biological and environmental factors play a role in the development of psychopathy and sociopathy, it is generally agreed that psychopathy is chiefly a genetic or inherited condition, notably related to the underdevelopment of parts of the brain responsible for emotional regulation and impulse control. The most-important causes of sociopathy, in contrast, lie in physical or emotional abuse or severe trauma experienced during childhood. To put the matter simplistically, psychopaths are born, and sociopaths are made." Psycopaths are not "bad", some could do bad things because they don't experience the full range of human emotions that fuel our behaviour and some don´t because they know better. Just like any "normal person"
Psychopats are inhumane and i really think its an evil thing. Its a facade. They fascinate me, its like i want to be one and not at the same time. Just cant imagine not giving a shit if my family dies or not understandinf empathy. Reminds me of voldemort, they will never feel love or sympathy. Cold af and scary
Don't compare Psychopath to neurotypicals, It's not because we know better. We simply have social awareness and cognitive empathy to understand social norms or laws put in place. You clearly don't know the setbacks betwen a Low-Functioning and a High-Functioning type, there is no such thing as experiencing the full range of "Human emotions", for once we don't have emotional empathy. The comments in this section are certainly strange, full of vindicative neurotypicals describing the Psychology of a Psychopathic mind when clearly It's all sham and fraud, how second-fiddling of such humans. It requires deep root and complex understanding of the way it works.
@@AtinzMizukivery well said.
He conveniantly glosses over what others say about him
Omg the comments aren’t turned off!!
I would like to be a psychopath because it seems easier but I would hate to lose my love for my family, for my cat... for a potential partner, if you're so dead inside feels like it takes away from being a human...
Love isn't real
@@mrstealyogirl1366 Its the most powerful emotion in the world. You just haven’t felt it.
Im a psychopath its not like that we do have love and empathy the trip to it is different though to care we have to know them atleast for me🤷🏻♀️ but i dont think iv ever heard of a psychopath not loving all animals like i will always prefer animals over any human 🤷🏻♀️
But you won't. You will love your cat just fine, the feeling will just be weaker. Also, sociopaths do have strong attachments to some really specific people in their lives.
@@mrstealyogirl1366cringe pfp 😅
always obtain so much ibtuse pleasure watching & learning from you as well as HG Tudor because .UNLIKE many in that Grey range of normalcy you both actually provide insight , understanding & honesty while too many do not look into their true selves . Suppose you are deliberately beguiling us into that masquerade of warm personality but even so still feel safer & more hopeful knowing ." your kind ' as HG g says are there for me to gain from rather than those self deceptive & self righteous individuals because you do not try to make me guilty as you are honest enough , unlike them , not to pretend
If i understand this correctly, obviously psychopaths do have emotions but only primitive emotions and no ''feelings'' (seperate from emotions, complicated feeling-thinking mixed tasks such as personal hurt or compassion), and so, unless it affects their ability to reach an internalized goal, do not emotionally respond to punishment.
O.O that seems pretty correct 😅
You can feel it.. he seems charming but something is off. You can always see things like this if you are intuitive. Many times ive seen people on the internet and immediately knew they were off, and often years later it would come out they did some shit
You wouldn't know if he was giving a lecture on geology, I guarantee it.
He appears charming but he's squirming like a kid who is winning a board game
don’t let that charisma fool you. I was raised by a psychopath and a sociopath, my older brother is also a sociopath. they play with your emotions because they do not have them, they are cruel without realizing it. I grew up thinking there was something wrong with me instead of them. yea, I also used to get beat up very badly until I grew stronger and beat them back to a pulp, then they never touched me again. there is not such a thing as a good psychopath.
They definitely realize it
Yep I get it. I was diagnosed last year at age 49, with that came the discovery that I was a factor two psychopath. But not a factor one psychopath like this guy. Great video. Thanks for your honesty dude.
This is the first time, a video which doesn't depict the former lawyer who is also a psychopath, is recommended to me.
great music
True psychopaths will constant have this sense that the world is a emotional mess. Like people can't think straight. It really makes you indifferent
Its so obnoxiously annoying really the whole world is a emotional train wreck
@@chelseachyannejessyyork Yeah. Some people will tell you how direct and rational they are and that they prefer you to behave this way. Only for them to bother you with questions like. Am i bothering you? Do you think im aggressive? Do you like me? You feel me? First you try to adapt. They get uncomfortable. They tell you to just be yourself. Then that happens.
@@chelseachyannejessyyork freaks
He is the definition of glib
“I never meant to hurt anyone, but any bad thing I’ve ever done I just considered play” these people are insane… reminds me of something a lion would say after murdering a zebra.
You have no idea what he's referring to though.
I remember the TV documentary featuring Dr. James Fallon talking about how he came to be diagnosed. He was disarmingly frank about his diagnosis affects him, his family and colleagues and he credited his loving family and great upbringing in enabling him to become a productive and high functioning member of his family and the community. But the thing I remember most clearly was when describing how he feels and thinks about things that would elicit sympathy and empathy in most people, he said that ‘he really doesn’t give a shit’, which I thought was very blunt, but was true. He is a very interesting person being someone living with psychopathy but who functions within the confines of the Law and who is a professional, productive member of society.
As long as they’re honest and grounded in reality, i can work with that. It’s the people with narcissistic disorders i can’t deal with. Finally had to drop a friend who is a raging narcissist, which was a big deal because i have a high tolerance for peoples’ bullshit
Amen!!!
Honest and grounded are hard to coexist with psychopathy…………………………..
Thank you for distinguishing.
Narcissism is a part of psychopathy. You just like psychopaths more because they put more work into playing you.
When you realize that narcissism is a part of psychopathy and if this "nice guy" wanted to humiliate you he would've done it in less than a sec .........
Just a friendly reminder that not all psychopaths are bad or wants to hurt people.
Yes from watching these interviews I can see that they are people just trying to do the best they can with the mental health issues they have been dealt. And I see my own sterotypes and biases being challenged by what they are saying. Not every psychopath is Ted Bundy. As with any mental illness symptoms are on a continuum.
Crap.
@@robertgreenland386 Tell me, do you think the god described in the bible is a psychopath? seems to tick all the boxes!
@@gknight4719 He ticks all the boxes for something that's imaginary too. Well, except that he is not pictured on any cereal boxes. At least the cereal I've eaten.
I didn't realize that there was professional help for this that made any kind of a difference.
There isn't.
Its good to finally get a 'concept' for my 'percept'---I've perceived these kinds of people all my life. Now I have a conception of what I was seeing. Dude does give me the creeps.
I remember this guy. He's pretty funny.
Someone trying to humanise a trait that is dehumanising is pretty chilling at core level.
Am I the first comment 😏 but he would have definitely fooled me I think and this is a real life proof that just bc your diagnosed as a psychopath you can still live life and not be a serial killer !
No one thinks psychopaths are the Joker from Batman comics. They can still be entirely functional in their own life. They just tend to be aggressively manipulative and devoid of the ability to care for another person. The reason why people have an almost ingrained fear or distrust of them, is because they can very easily do things that cause unbelievable damage, and not care whatsoever.
@@Novarcharesk you’d be surprised……. I know of a few.
I love the Pennywise portrait. LOL.
Guys remember that psychopaths want attention and can mimic emotions very well even by lying, don't be fooled by the charming atmosphere, maybe they are doing this to make him feel fine and play down the atmosphere
People don't get that there is such a thing as cognitive empathy. Psychopaths can develop that. A lot of them don't even bother talking about it because they don't feel insecure about it. If their upbringing was great, they probably came up with a way to habitually associate immorality with something that could be linked to more simple emotions like anxiety or something physically uncomfortable. A lot of them can be extremely loyal because of that, even so much so that they'll go overboard sometimes just to be protective. This isn't anymore selfish than when we more empathetic people try to connect with people emotionally just to scratch that itch and mitigate loneliness or seek forgiveness just for the sake of not feeling guilt anymore.
Cute dogs pictures... and then Pennywise lurking in the corner. That sums it up.
I think we all have some psychopathical traits sometimes but it's all about if you act upon them or not
we don't all have psychopathic traits.
Background music is distracting
Yeah get rid of that. Ugly and unnecessary addition.
It's like they are trying to repackage psychopaths as a breezy misunderstanding.
Professor James H. Fallon! - Through him I started understanding psychopathy for the first time. If you don't know about him yet, you'll find some information about him, his work and his life and his family on the internet. He died last year in November.
May he rest in peace.
Remember everyone is different it’s your environment is the biggest factor with child development and adult development
SPOOKY this jolly guy fits 😲
It makes sense why they are found in leadership position. They have a similar style to an actual leader but there lack of empathy is problematic.
They actually could be AWFUL leaders , absolutely catastrophic, a leader without feelings is gonna fuck up everyone
It's crazy that we reward these people with CEO positions in many of the biggest companies on Earth.
It probably comes down to the fact that they can lie while seeming honest to others and more importantly to themselves. We are not consciously rewarding these people but by accident/misguidance or even out of ignorance.
This guy's self awarness is amazing. Respect. All psychopats- learn !
Its sad how he gets by. He doesn't care but doesn't realise what he's missing out on.
Does anyone notice the background music? It really adds to his charm
Saw your talk about the study you did including yourself, only to learn you indeed, blindly, made the cut/fit the bill, etc . I am curious as to what you scored, because as explained there are sociopaths - and- there are SOCIOPATHS .
Why do so many people try to reaffirm the beliefs they have about psychopaths when they are confronted with someone who doesn’t meet those expectations? Maybe someone with psychopathic traits isn’t as malignant as popular media have made us believe.
Why would we assume these people are telling the truth in these interviews? Isnt lying part of their MO
yes it is and to also confuse the issue is the goal. They can be interviewed in a more controlled way and this isn't it.
No it is not, a psychopath isn't a pathological liar by default. Infact they're mire commonly bluntly honest.
@TooLame2Blame source?
I don’t know ehy they would be open about their psychopathy in that case, since it’s not exactly regarded as a positive trait by most people.
@@celine9322 They don't care what other people think about them, they just want to make a better life for themselves, after they experienced problems in their lives because of this thing. They can lie, or they can be honest (never fully, though), they don't care about lying or honesty, they do things to achieve goal. If talking truth will achieve their goal, they will talk truth, they don't care at all what others think about that.
So as he is fully aware of his condition I wonder if it incentivises him when communicating with people to ramp up or even emulate a degree of 'care factor' and/or empathy? if to compensate for his emotional/empathetic deficits... I'd expect not... but maybe with some?
Not it’s physiological, they can’t feel them but they have cognitive empathy which understand of people’s emotions but can’t feel them on their own
Thank God I'm not. And no loved one's are either. Now all I got to do is protect them from these people. But let's not forget there are tons of psychopathic lawyer's, doctors, business execs etc.
The background music is hilarious. Btw.
I have almost zero empathy towards other humans in regards to there own choices, be it good or bad. With that said, I want to live and let live. I’m a stable lunatic.
@motivational vibes Oddly I have just received your comment, thanks to KZhead. Anyway, my life is altered by others everyday. I can make decisions that lessen or increase the impact they have on my life as - I choose
Just like a whole lot of other people. Nothing strange going on with you.
You may have no emotions but may know your boundaries.
Is it boring ???
If you ever cried because you are sad, then you are not a psychopath. People don't understand how deeply twisted psychopathy is. My sister never cried, even as a child. She even doesn't understand what crying is for. She thought that it is for manipulating others, and she was training at home how to start to cry (because she saw other girls do that). Then our mother told her that it is not good thing to do that, and this is everything that she knew about crying, that it is not the good thing to do. When she saw me crying, she hurried up to our mom to sue me, to accuse me that I am crying, because she didn't know that people can cry because of emotions. Psychopaths don't have emotions, this is why they are so flat.
I think empaths can be even more cruel than psycopaths because they know exactly where it hurts
You mean a dark empath then literally the most dangerous personality type
@@deajaysteier9532 These are made up terms for gen z edge lords. "Empath" and "daRk emPatH" have no clinical reverence and no it isn't more dangerous than Ted Bundy.
"Empath" isn't a thing and is typically a vulnerable narcissist believing to have a special ability or significance that isn't there.
Nope, no where even close.
Literally im a empath, witch, psychopath 😅 i tell others if your going to try & hurt me use something thats true and not a lie and use something you know thatll hurt otherwise i dont care nor do i feel it😅 "when your mom is a narcissist and is a honest bitch"
RIP Mr. Fallon..
This all looks very friendly but...you don't need to be a serial killer to kill people. If you for example cause an economic bust as part of the financial elite due to overly risky behaviour thousands can suicide. Chronic stress is an even worse killer. But what is striking is that they are not really aware of how much damage they do. Falun here said that he mistook critqiue to him for some kind of joking or game. I guess that for psychopaths everything feels like a permanent game and that this is why they get bored so easy too - if everything is a game (or in other words less real than to us) it does not get you emotionaly hooked enough. Maybe this is the real Peter Pan Syndrom. I however have to addmitt that psychopathy stretchess our idea of moral guilt: because if you don't have this warning feeling that the "shit is real" how shall you make good moral decision? Furthermore if they don't feel true fear how shall they understand how evil it is to cause fear in others? Maybe better understanding about the differences of the mind can help to reduce the suffering on both sides.
Psychopathy is not a manifestation of diversity, it is a handicap, it is malfunction of something that people have. Psychopaths don't have emotions, they are logical. The problem is, people don't understand what "being logical" means. If I kill you, then I will get what you have, this is logical. Evilness is logical, if I harm others, I will be the only one unharmed, and this will be beneficial for me. Now, if everybody would behave like that, we would kill each other. This is why nature embedded emotions about others into us. And this system works well, we didn't kill each other. It does have one fault, though, it depends on emotions. If the link with emotions in your brain doesn't work, then all hell breaks lose.
Omg. I wanna quote your comment. So profound
What this comment is digging into is the milgrim experiment. Anyone interested should look into it. It was done to understand how seemingly normal people could commit such heinous acts under the Nazi regime. Its a very interesting and famous experiment that proves neurotypical people are quite capable of very awful things.
Well that’s the point they lack self awareness and empathy and don’t feel remorse or guilt and a lot of them enjoy hurting people. Like he said in the video when he does things to people it’s for “play” and who knows what all those things consist of but he was lacking accountability and minimizing his actions by saying that. Psychopaths are evil
They understand what evil is they simply don’t care and many enjoy being evil and causing people pain because it gives them a sense of power and control also some really are sadists and get off on it. But they don’t care about hurting others at all they don’t care to be evil.
That's psychopathy is a nutshell: psychopaths just don't care. FULL STOP
Sounds like a good thing
@@IAmAwesomeSoAreYou mix It with internal laws and you have a killer monster
It's not that they don't care it's that they CANT care. Their born with a neurological condition where their amygdala that's highly under developed. Meaning they are unable to form any emotional bonds therefore the brain is unable to label anything as importance or significant to them. Imagine your someone throws a way one of your childhood stuffed animals that you intend to give to your son or daughter. You'd be very upset, even over an inanimate object because you have a strong emotional bond to it. Know what if someone threw away a toy you bought yesterday for your kid, you may be somewhat pissed off a little but hardly any emotion beyond being annoyed for like 10 mins. That's what basically psychopaths go through.
Not true. Ive experienced one first hand. They care about money and status, so they will have good careers and work ethic. If they didn't care, they wouldn't seek power and find people to control and abuse etc..., Because those things serve their ego. They see themselves as superior to others. When you first meet them, they appear normal, but you soon notice a lack of emotions, like they're aliens or something. They rarely smile or laugh but if you piss them off they express rage. They present a normal, person, even accomplished, but are actually very dark psychologically and enjoy manipulating others.
They DO care, but only about getting what they want.
Married to one 15 yrs he's ruined me there's no hope for me I'm long gone mentally and emotionally 💔 😔 😪 doesn't care about anyone's feelings including mine . He uses me for absolutely everything, tried setting boundaries it's pointless . He keeps my bank card and if I take it back he just takes it put of my wallet then withdrawals my earnings and goes to gamble it away. He uses my prescriptions everything. Cuts me off when I'm talking with no regard. It's best ladies to stay single
Try to escape and run far far away
Stop complaining and leave that situation. No one’s going to save you. No one cares enough
2 months late but hope you’re doing better
Love this series, but the clown in the back is freaking me out. 😅🤡
LOL.
Went looking for it... saw it... now it's doing the same to me. Thanks for that. :)
It's the clown in the front that should freak you out :)
Psychopathic people are the most charismatic people you will ever meet. It's all and Act, They have no sympathy, no empathy, No remorse, No regrets they can do evil stuff and sleep like a baby. I knew one , he could cry then 2 mins later laugh.
That frowning/crying clown portrait in the bottom left corner probably ain't helping.
he's a nice guy
Bundy was a nuce guy too..
What provokes you?how to you like to be treated?do you respect others,and for what......
I was diagnosed quite recently with Anti Social Personality Disorder (Dissocial) and some psychopathic traits with psychopathy being higher. Think I scored 33 out of 40? (I didn't know it was possible to have both but apparently I got 97% for psychopathy.) 🤷♂️ I always thought I could be autistic or something similar because I definitely knew emotionally something was different but couldn't pinpoint what. I just knew I found most people around me insufferably emotional and pathetic and had low tolerance for their problems unless I felt like gaining something by feigning care. I do have some anxiety though so that's interesting. I also technically meet the criteria for Narcissistic Personality Disorder and have some borderline features so I've basically got the full house when it comes to cluster B personality disorders. 🤣 Again; didn't know you could have all of those concurrently. I wonder if it's more common than realised. Edit: I'm also most likely bipolar so fun fun fun hahaha. Emotions don't seem to have any connection to my mood I was told which is a big red flag they noticed for that.
It's not that you have all of them it'd that they usually overlap that's why it's hard to diagnose lol
So I guess it’s self explanatory why you think it’s funny
ye same i thought i was autistic for a long time
Yeah that's an interesting combination haha
40, not 38. And if this is some online testing then it can't be counted in.
There is something so missing whenever you listen to them ramble on. Some hollow part...and it's like all the talking they're doing they're constantly having to make up what they think they're supposed to say, it doesn't come naturally like it does for other people.
here for the music
😭😂 I find him very relatable. The day I realized that I didn’t have empathy I was like “whoop we’ll then that’s interesting” 🤷♀️ we need more cluster B representation like this. Genuinely we are not all bad people.
Whether you are good will be defined by what you do and the efforts you make to recognize and avoid causes of harm.
The fact that he lines the picture frames up with the corner instead of with an offset tells me everything I need to know. Seriously. Divergent behavior.
I noticed he starts off attempting to manipulate people’s perception of him. Notice he says “I never tried to hurt anyone REALLY” he knew he hurt them he was attempting to minimize it in order to manipulate the viewer.
Can you be more specific?
We are the same 👋.
I mean, I'm having a pretty good time
I don't know why people make it seem like lacking empathy is a crime, its not like empathetic people are incapable of committing immoral acts. How a person adjusts and behaves himself/herself in society is dependent on a lot more factors than just an emotion. I do agree that psychopathic people can have violent tendencies but you don't have to be emotionally driven in order to fit in and understand the rules of society. It's not about what you feel, but what you choose. At the end of the day not all psychopathic people are sadistic murderers, and the so called empathetic and morally superior people cheat, lie, manipulate and engage in immoral acts all the time.
Yes but they are more susceptible to be criminals because they do not care about society
Too much people forget that psychopathy is a severe disease and not a just a particular character
It's not a disease. It doesn't make you weak or die prematurely. It's a way evolution shaped some humans cos they transmit their genes pretty well.
@@nocosa It's an illness because it makes life dysfunctional
I have some traits of sociopathy. I have no guilt and I dont feel empathy especially for people who make stupid decisions and mistakes. I don't have a problem of resulting to violence if necessary
Having no empathy for people that make bad decisions and suffer the consequences is not sociopathy or psychopathy. Having no empathy for anyone at all, regardless of what it is, is sociopathy/psychopathy. It's not abnormal to have lapses of lack of empathy throughout your life. What's abnormal is that if you never felt this empathy for absolutely anyone.
Most psychopaths are not even violent (physically). Many think that psychos are like Patrick Bateman or smth, but that's not true. Emotional harm instead is...
Bateman wasn’t even a psychopath. The fact he had such meltdown shows he was suffering from delusion of grandeur and paranoid narcissism
What lead this person to seek a diagnosis for this disorder?
Curiosity I guess. Psychopaths are easily bored, maybe unmasking themselves at least to a therapeut is something new and interesting. The advantage is that the therapeut has to keep it as a medical secret.
he diagnosed himself. He is a brain researcher.
He’s a scientist and was conducting a study on psychopathy and mental illness and decided to scan his own brain, discovered he shared the brain characteristics of a psychopath
He didn't. He studies this stuff and found out from his own brain scan.
@@robbinschinkel8480 He didn't diagnose himself as a mental health professional we don't do that we might have an idea that there is a problem going on but we won't diagnose ourselves we have others to do that. unbiased opinions matter when it comes to diagnosing and having a family history etc.
How well do you really know someone
The pictures of the dogs are the first things you see. But if you look closely, you can see the painting of IT hiding in the corner...
I am perfectly fine . Touches nose 0:08.
Psychopathy isn’t necessarily a disorder because in terms of evolution our ancestors with lack of emotions could prey on the weak, hence survival. Psychopaths with high IQ can literally do anything and get the results everyone wants but can’t do them on their own. Look at CEOs and surgeons, in fact those positions require high level psychopathy is enough to tell you they’re necessary in society but in low frequency.
Love house Pennywise is just creeping into the corner of his frame/mind.
Probably a very succesdful governmnt or corporation employee
Feels like I’m a god . Controlling things ,feelings, others . The power , it’s fun , it’s a mission, it’s whatever, it’s an advantage also a gift, …. You’ll always underestimate us
Can a psychopath have a stutter disorder? I’ve always thought they speak more fluently because of their train of thought. I guess they’re not so robotic after all
No they don't speak very fluently because they often indroduce filling words like ...uhm... and ...ähm.
I consider myself a "psychopath/sociopath" and sometimes struggle with stuttering, but is because the words and thoughts go faster in my mind that it comes out ot my mouth.
@@MyCarliux jeez man, i wonder does humor exist in psychopaths/sociopaths?
When they're younger they can have speech issues for sure, but when they get older they typically can speak better than most people.
@@cutecats1368 lol How do you know that? You speak to a lot of people like me, huh? Most people use filler words at times. It doesn't prove anything. 😂
I feel like I'd rather be around a psychopath than a narcissist.
you only have to worry about psychopaths/sociopaths if you have something they want. otherwise theyll treat you like any normal person would. a narcissist however would sap you of all your energy and make you feed them supply
most psychopaths have narcissistic traits
Lol. All psychopaths are narcissists, but not all narcissists are psychopaths
Not gonna argue
Trust me, you don't want to be near a narracist. A psychopath could be able to screw you up outta nowhere, a Narracist is just a contant crap stream of emotional naging, manipulation, bah bah bah. Quite frankly, I would take a psychopath over narracist cus even through former is in theory more dangerous and creepy . A narracist is literal social vampire, eating away at you like a cancer.
You also have to think: there must be Darwinian survival value in having some members of the human population be psychopaths. At some level, it must be a useful trait for navigating life, however much it might be frowned upon by some. In other words, it's probably wrong to view the psychopath as being wholly aberrant.
I read a book called The Wisdom of Psychopaths and they addressed that very topic. He talked about the detachment of heart surgeons, brave fearless military pilots, and the soldiers who charge into battle against all odds and do the same thing the next day and the next. Most soldiers are glad when the war ends and can go home, a few find another war and become mercenaries. The author even wrote about one of the astronauts who landed on the moon with only 10 seconds of allotted fuel left and no clear place to land and no home trip if he failed. He asked his copilot for a countdown and found a way given the time and circumstances. Ground control noted that his heart rate barely budged from his normal rate. The "bravery", clear focus and emotional detachment and the mental "rush" absent from the normal bodily physical response can offer benefits to society. Society can also benefit from the emotional, intuitive, empathetic person. They may also put their life at risk but from a very different mental perspective and emotional motivation. They are "brave" because they were afraid to act, but did the right thing because of compassion or they snapped from stress and had to do anything rather than nothing. No matter what the motivation, if the person survives the "selfless act" (or dies) and turns the tide against the opposition, against all odds, they are called heroes. The audiobook was a very good listen and I would recommend it.
@@Paul-ou1rx my family is full of the criminal-type psychopaths. Some sexual predators and a few killers. But I have read enough on this topic to not make ignorant generalisations. I would point out that psychopathy often positively correlates (co-exist) with three other nasty traits: machievilianism, narcism and sadism, grouped together with psychopathy as the Dark Tetrad. Check a book called The Dark Triad: Psychopathy, Narcism, Machievilianism in Everyday Life. Each trait can be described using the big 6: 1. openness 2. conscientiousness 3. extraversion 4. agreeableness 5. neuroticism 6. honesty and humility The dark triad/tetrad socially aversive actions and manipulative inter/intrapersonal behavioural strategies can be explained from an evolutionary biology perspective, but overall, they are maladaptive and they end up causing more bad than good. Sure, they make good soldiers. They may even make terrific CEOs like Carlos Ghosn. But eventually, their inter/intrapersonal behavioural strategies gets them in trouble. So they seek help that's if they weren't forced to do so in the first place.
Something did strike me though in the other ladies interview where she spoke of 'grey rage' combined with not caring, she said she didnt realise the person she was interacting with was getting angry and he threatened to beat her up but she didnt care, beat me up then. That lack of care also means they are a liability to themselves, it reminded me of people who cant feel pain, sounds great in theory but most have lost their own fingers through chewing them off
crazy contructs all projection.
@@Paul-ou1rx very interesting!
That painting of the clown creeping in the background behind the shelf was proof enough for me that he is indeed a psychopath!
You've got to be kidding.
he'd fit in the entertainment industry
Anyone noticed the clown frame?
Until I listened to Jim Fallon I never "labeled" my behavior. Ya , crazy , but... And now that EVERYONE knows... I don't care.
Hmmm. I'm waiting for the psychopathic traits to show up.... I don't see it yet ...
You're looking at the psychopathic traits the whole time. Mimicing emotions while on his eyes there's nothing but emptiness. "I never tried to hurt anybody, Really!" "I'm perfectly fine!" While laughing with a Diagnosis.