Jocko Willink: "Become A Dangerous Man Others Respect" - Master Power, Influence & Discipline
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Retired Navy Seal, globally recognized leadership expert and author of one of the most empowering books ever, “Extreme Ownership”, Jocko Willink knows all about making an impact. And now he is finally on Impact Theory with Tom Bilyeu! In this episode, Jocko Willink details his leadership principles and explains how to apply them. He also talks about building relationships and trust, understanding human nature, and learning to control your ego and emotions. And he even takes some time to share his newest undertaking, writing children’s books.
SHOW NOTES:
People asked how to apply leadership principles, so Jocko wrote his new book on tactics [2:07]
Jocko tells the war story of how he learned to take a step back and detach [4:38]
Jocko explains how he learned to avoid arrogance and to listen to people [8:48]
Jocko then explains how he learned that he doesn’t always need to be the leader [11:33]
Jocko advocates the importance of relationships and building trust [14:25]
Jocko asks questions instead of making statements when disagreements arise [19:43]
Jocko compares manipulation and leadership [23:14]
If you want to be a good leader, you need to understand human nature [29:01]
Jocko talks about why it’s so important to control your emotions [30:45]
Jocko advocates learning jiu jitsu to help you control your ego and emotions [32:29]
Jocko explains how to gain influence and respect [35:07]
Jocko and Tom talk about Jocko’s children’s books [36:21]
But seriously, if you’ve never checked out Jocko’s children’s books you really should [40:00]
Jocko and Tom discuss how to focus on improvement instead of talent [43:44]
Jocko talks about standing up to bullies [45:32]
Jocko shares the impact he wants to have on the world [49:01]
QUOTES:
“If I’m manipulating you, I’m trying to get you to do something that’s gonna benefit me. If I’m leading, I’m trying to get you to do something that’s gonna benefit you, that’s gonna benefit the team, and it’s gonna benefit the mission.” [24:47]
“It’s OK to be inexperienced as a leader. You can get through that as long as you’re humble, and you listen, and you take advice from other people. You should be able to do fine. No one expects you to know everything as a leader.” [9:07]
“When I look back at my career in the navy, in the seal team, just about every single thing that I ever did was through relationships.” [15:58]
FOLLOW JOCKO:
WEBSITE: jockopodcast.com
INSTAGRAM: bit.ly/2sFPXIt
FACEBOOK: bit.ly/2Q0Eqvu
TWITTER: bit.ly/2Q2bL9d
BOOKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
“Extreme Ownership”, “The Dichotomy of Leadership”, “Leadership Strategy and Tactics” amzn.to/2ExQQpj [1:58]
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Alarm beeps at 04:30AM. Jocko: "DISCPLINE is FREEDOM!!"
equals*
Go to sleep with the chickens, wake up like a farmer.
I been getting up at 430am ever since i beeen training to become a Jocko.
Noe that is 100 % true discipline does bring freedom!
Been getting up at 4:30 for 5 months now and getting after it. Accomplishing more in my days now than I've ever gotten done prior, by leaps. Discipline is freedom and power of the self.
“If I’m manipulating you, I am trying to get you to do something that’s gonna benefit me. If I am leading you, I am trying to get you to do something that’s gonna benefit you, that’s gonna benefit the team, that’s gonna benefit the mission”
what a load of trash. he leads soldiers to their death, last i checked leading ppl into a gunfight or a battle is not benefiting them it's benefiting the military and powers that be. this guy is such a blow hard it makes me physically ill. he spent his entire life in a don't ask questions do as your told paradigm even if it means sacrificing your life yet he says he leads ppl by doing what is best for them? haha yea okay jarhead
@@MrBraffZachlin You're such an arrogantly ignorant blowhard. You have no idea about anything, yet you think you know everything.
@@MrBraffZachlin You are an absolute ignorant fool. Please don't vote in 2020!
Scooters Videos what branch are you in?
@@MrBraffZachlin His position is never about "dont ask questions do as your told", you're going off of his appearance rather than his message. Many men in the military are extremely hardheaded and want to be on their own path in life, not sheep led to a slaughter. Don't assume the military is full of morons willing to die because big jocko told them to. It's not. It's full of people. And people want to be in control of their life. You know what people also want to be in control? The kids that are raped, tortured, and murdered in front of their families by organizations in the middle east. The women that are amputated and blinded, barely kept alive for the worst scum on the planet to fuck repeatedly whenever they want. Sometimes for a message to the others to prevent cooperation with other forces and sometimes just for the hell of it. Plenty of men understand this. And plenty of men are willing to die to stop it. There is corruption in every system including the military. It's not perfect. I'm sure some company influences the powers that be at some level to attack city A rather than city B even if, to an unbiased eye, city B is the better choice. But we don't live in some fully corrupted system that is sending hordes to die for absolutely nothing. No group of men with any value for themselves in a country like ours would constantly volunteer their lives to die for an unknown or superficial cause. If you heard the personal stories from the men sent to do the work you'd have a better perspective on this than one fueled entirely by anger and skepticism.
The bottom line is the world needs more good leaders like Jocko.
the world doesn't need anything..you like him, that is all you said
"Subordinate your ego" is a really great way to look at your relationship with your own ego. So it's a part of your 'team' (i.e. personality), but you have to keep it in check as a member of the team, not overriding the rest of the team
This is great, I've always heard "keep your ego on a leash. Don't let your ego keep YOU on a leash"
Amazing insight, Joshua
Bruv! Thank you! I needed to hear that. You are very insightful. Sincerely, I need all the advice I can get from the right source. And you and Jocko and Leif are right on the money, no pun intended!
"I am not special ,I am just driven" David goggins
The best
Jocko...now that's a hero...not Football players,Basketball players nor your Hollyweird actors...Jocko the real deal!...God Bless him!
Anyone that consciously is out there helping the world is a hero. From every day volunteers to people who save other's lives, to people who stick there neck out to fight curruption. Small heroes and big heroes.
Thomas McNab well fucking put, man. 👏🏼
I agree as well..... and he's got a haircut you can set your watch to. But seriously, he is everything a hero should be, down to earth, articulate, motivating, and willing to share his wisdom, unlike most of those self obsorbed ego maniacs people fawn over and try to emulate that offer nothing of substance. Good call sir.
I grew up dirt poor in the projects , went to Lebron James free academy in Ohio, and today I’m at MIT getting my Masters degree in Engineering and I’m happily married. None of that would have been possible without Lebron James philanthropy Jocko is a hero and so are some of our athletes
100% bro.
Oh shit, I bet a lot of people have been waiting on this one!
Real talk man
Yes
Yes
Matt Damon + Thanos = Jocko
Tom Bilyeu is amazing, across the interview I perceived him as a kid, the same look of a kid when he's trying to learn something, and amazed by the wisdom of master like Jocko Willink
Love that analogy! Tom Bilyeu, the excited kid who is a self made Billionaire
Finally, this happened
There’s a golden nugget right at the beginning from Tom - “in no uncertain terms my success is in direct correlation to the number of books I’ve read”
What does he means by this?
@@unknowninfinium4353 he means buy more self help books for the rest of your life and not actually get successful
@@eddard9442 Thanks man. So it's not just reading but doing also right? Self help books are turning out to be the scam these days.
akshay kumar yes i think they are a scam, the authors are just trying to make an income, i do not believe they are actually trying to help others, there is not enough room for everyone to be successful, you have to do things for yourself, take advice from people you meet in person but dont pay for it.
@@eddard9442 Thanks for explaining it earlier. Although there are good advice but scans are getting crazy these days even in the fitness industry.
I adore the homage Tom gives Jocko with his wardrobe selection. Appreciate how Tom's interview style has evolved...his guest is showcased like a jewel in the crown of his hospitality.
Tom your videos are helping me control my depression right now because I failed the first semester of nursing school but I can still go back and redo it. Watching your videos about failures and getting back up is motivating me to keep going forward. I'm going to be 53 in March and my clock is ticking. Soon I'll be too old and it's time for me to retire but I'm not letting that stop my goal of becoming a registered nurse. Thank you sir.
Keep pushing brother!
Tesla Thanks. The passing grade was 80 and I got 78. I know I can pass the second time. I just have to do more work and believe.
How are you doing now? Rooting for you!
@@gracieidavis hey thanks for asking. I forgot about this comment 2 years ago.I am 55 now. Probably the oldest graduate in my batch :D I graduated nursing school last May. I'm now studying for the nursing board exam. Yea I listen to Tom Bilyeu's videos to keep me motivated.
@@jpattisoncreations I graduated last May bro. I am 55 yrs old now. Studying for the board exam for Aug 31 and I already got hired at the ER in a level II trauma hospital and I start in September
In 100 years “-Oh, books on strategy and discipline? -Sun Tzu, Marcus Aurelius, D. Hackworth, Jocko Willink...” Actually even today we already say that.
People talk about Hackworth that way?
hey guys, jocko mentioned a book about leadership, i just forgot the name .. maybe you can held me out? thanks
Leadership is more about the right attitude than it is an assignment.
Watching a 3 hr podcast with jocko and rogan , this 53 minutes just doesn’t do him justice ...such a bright and insightful man
Wow! This was like a mastery crash course on leadership and life in general. What an episode! So much value.
Agree
I will always stop what i'm doing to listen to Jocko.
V-BRO Jocko wouldn’t approve. stay on the path.
Jocko is a true leader. Appreciate that you had him on the show Tom.
His explenation on the difference between manipulation and leadership - PROFOUND!!! Definitely something most people need to be aware of 👌🏾💯
Many leaders can be manipulative but truly great leaders dont need to be manipulative. Interesting comment 2020 Stoic.
"If you want to be a good leader. You have to understand human nature." AMEN
This is one of my favorite interviews of the ones I’ve seen. It’s straight forward, based on experience and easy to understand
Tom, you have no idea how much I appreciate you. Always asking the important questions, like "how can the average guy apply this." You never let me down! Every time I think "ok how do I apply this", you ask it. Impact Theory is truly life changing. Such a blessing to have access to this gem of a series. Thank you so much.
If you want to be a good leader you have to understand human nature 👌🏼
Yes. Leadership is about your behaviour as a human and equally about understanding human nature.
Big yourself up Anmar
Wait, jocko isn’t really black and white?
BMF 97 lol this is the exact comment I was looking for
😂👊🏼 Good Lord, honestly
Good one!
lol they should have kept the light off to mimic his ig
😂😂😂😂
Wow this was an amazing interview. Jocko is the man and his intelligence on leadership and influence blows my mind. 👏👏
This interview was long overdue...I love Jocko Willink..he is so inspiring to listen to, very strong-willed and quite the role model. What a way to start off the year Tom!! 🙌🙌 Can't wait to hear what he has to say🤗
It's amazing! Jocko leads by the socratic method, asking questions to get things done.
„ Practice and have control on your emotions“ Love it!
"Extreme Ownership" is a hell of a good book for entrepreneurs and for everyone. One of these books that you don't want it to end. Extremely entertaining and educational. This interview is fantastic, thanks!
I never can get enough of Jocko and Tom. These dudes are such legit human beings. Dream tag team. I’ll likely watch this 15-20 times
Jocko has been revolutionary for me, the deep changes on my mindset and the way I operate have been incredible. Go consume his content and put it to the test, you won’t be disappointed. Get after it !
26:21 my favorite segment lmao jocko going "Oh REALLY?!?" was hilarious to me 😂😂😂😂😂
If you want to influence you gotta let someone influence you - totally agree with this. Thanks for interviewing Jocko
This interview in pure gold. Thank you for having Jocko on your show!!
His smile when the coloring book is mentioned. Worth every second I've lived so far!
The more you know,the less you fight 🙏🏽
He talks about me favorite topics. thank you for inviting dear Tom!
I love this guy. His confidence is insanely contagious. His kids are so blessed to have him as their dad. So his magic is how much he cares and how much confidence he has plus he is open and listens. I am so impressed. His clarity is cool. Who would be stupid enough to start a fight with Jocko Willink?
Always a pleasure to make some time out to listen to Jocko. Great narrator, incredible storyteller, always a source of knowledge and so much more insightful on time old life lessons he's always willing and anxious to share with others. Thanks Tom for having him in this very one episode!!!.
"The reasonable man adapts himself to the world; the unreasonable one persists in trying to adapt the world to himself. Therefore all progress depends on the unreasonable man." _ George Bernard Shaw
Rich Hadfield can you explain this in detail? Is this saying the benefit of having an ego?
@@555reaper It was the quote Tom mentioned in the video, but misquoted the author. But basically it says if we all would have taken the world for what it is...we'd still be in the stone age.
I agree, but also disagree with this mindset at a extent.. cause what if tyrants rule the nation and they're trying to get us to do what they want? Do we just adapt to what they say and want? Or do we fight back and work for the future that we want?
@@pizzahighfive2612 then the quote still works.
@@pizzahighfive2612 That's exactly it, you got it right there. If you don't want to change things, someone will change things for you, whether you like it or not. That's why we ought to be active, and employ ACTIONS, wishing for things to stay the same is pointless, they will NEVER.
23:37 - I am so glad you asked that question. Very helpful. Thanks guys!
Haha, When Jacko raised his voice must've been the single scariest moment in Tom's life.
This is an amazing interview. Thank you for having Jocko in the show
I finally understood how did I pull out from Extreme Depression. Drowning, swimming, floating, walking with acceptance. Eyes wide open. Seeing it how it is... not what I think it is. Own it and fracking fix it!
The guy who always pushes me to do 1 more minute on the treadmill 🙌🏾... Tjooooo that "Take ownership clip" does something to my body that I cannot explain 🥺❤️... Thanks man
I was so excited for this episode! It did not disappoint. Thank you Tom for the epic value you provide us!
Jocko is truly one of my biggest heroes in multiple ways , Discipline Equals Freedom and Extreme Ownership changed my Life , he truly is an Earth Angel . I hope to attend one of his musters someday . Thank you for all you do Jocko , and Thank you for your Service! God Bless. 🇺🇸🇺🇸🙏🏼🙏🏼
I know Im not the only one who is grateful for Impact Theory and has been pulled out of the matrix! I finally put myself out there with a youtube channel to help others! Thank you Tom and team!!
JOCKO IS AN AMAZING SAVAGE. A MAN WITH A HERO'S CALM AND THE SKILLS TO SHRED YOU TO PEACES.
My first time ever listening to Jocko speak and I am blown away by his mindstate, it was a true pleasure. I am definitely going to start listening to his podcast asap, Thanks for your service Jocko and keep thriving.
Wow, I was waiting anxious for this one and I must say: IT LIVED UP TO THE HYPE! Awesome interview Tom!
You’re a good man jocko and I’m greatly appreciative for the work that you do. The portion about the children’s books really struck me. Be safe and god bless.
I'm crying this is so good! Hits me in the heart! Thank you Jocko!
That moment when the others took his direction and repeated his command as a newbie, “hold left, clear right”, I very well may have been the catalyst to Jocko truly seeing himself as capable of being a leader. Those little moments matter. Great show!
I haven't begin to watch this interview yet, I only watch the opener... Somehow it just open up a whole lot of windows in my life just by watching that opener. Thank you again Tom
Very cool to hear! Thanks for sharing Jocko! Thanks for the interview Tom and for everything you do to help us raise our level of ownership here!
Doesn’t Jocko look like those military toys we had as 90s kids growing up? It’s kinda weird. Such an inspiring guy!
G.I. JOCKO!
Chris Z exactly! 😂
I really appreciate men like you two in this world. Thank you.
Wow. Wow. Wow. About half way through this am about to start my work out and really reflect on what I’ve heard and learned so far. Thank you Tom! Amazing interview!
Just an amazing episode. Couldnt find the words to say something more elaborate but he is just extremely inspiring.
One of the best interviews I have seen so far! Ready for the books. Thank you!
Two favorite podcasts finally coming together. Round 2 in the Conversations with Tom platform
Patience has rewarded me so greatly I knew this day would come I was happy and when I saw this notification this am
Dang. If Tom recommends his book that highly I might need to get a copy I was reluctant to listen to “Mindset” audiobook but it ended up being so worth it
It’s a good book. I bought the audiobook a while back. I think Jocko commentates it too.
Hey ✌ where can i find the list of his books? I need it😭
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This was so real. It's a perfect level of tough love.
You are awesome, Tom. Thanks for bringing this interview to us. Gonna share with people I know really need to hear this.
Halfway through this video I bought his book! Everything he said makes so much sense. I need to learn what he has to teach! 💪
This is so good ! I didnt know Jocko, now I do. 😊 Thanks guys for the precious stories, lessons, principles that you so generously share. 💙💚💜
Jocko's always great....and Tom is so good at interviewing...I knew this would be epic.
So inspiring! Thank you Tom for sharing. 1st time I know about Jocko Willink, just love his phylosophy about leadership.😀❤️👍🙏🏻
Every interview Jocko does is gold
One of the best interviews ever.
I listen to the Jocko podcasts as a reference when it comes to learning how to 'effectively' perform as a team.
I’ve been listening to Jocko since he started. A lot of what he says seems like common sense to me, maybe because I’ve worked for people who had this type of leadership style (I.e. owning problems, empowering people to solve problems, check your ego at the door, etc) but I love that he’s bringing these messages to the masses. The world needs it right now. When I’ve worked for someone that has a top down leadership style I always ended up losing motivation and interest.
I was sold on the preview at the beginning 👌👌
Tom this is such an insightful interview love it .... really gets you thinking !
I’ve been waiting on this one! Thanks Tom for delivering! Awesome show.
Great content Tom! Thank you for featuring one of my favourite leadership mentors.
I love how he is able to clearly express a path towards developing confidence without ego. Many of the really fired up take charge leader type people i know have a tendency to elevate themselves above everyone else and mistake their ego for being the thing that enables them to lead, rather than understanding their ego is the root of many problems they keep having to deal with over and over again. Often issues with insubordination or projects constantly not running smooth and production goals not being easily met. Many of the extremely humble supportive understanding people i know aren't very assertive, if at all. They often seem to view taking control of a situation and dictating the groups direction as arrogance or being a control freak. When these people are in charge, the same thing happens where they often have to deal with the same issues over and over again....usually a subordinate making a huge mistake or a frustrating job with lots of unexpected complications becoming chaotic.
Yes! Was waiting for these two legends to shake hands. Thank you God for blessing us with these two fantastic role models!
This is great! Tom is a humble leader that is seeking to be better, and I admire that. And Jocko has taught me so much.
I’m in a leadership position, and I’m always looking for better solutions, and ideas to benefit my team. And jocko always has excellent points when it comes to leadership and relationship building
Excellent video, I am truly impressed with Jocko's leadership skills.
Very inciting video.I love the leadership part which was lacking on every place I worked.I also love the part about “ time tables” I grew up without emotional support from my parents they’re so caught up with their own issues I did it on my own and grew up on my own.I was bullied when I was growing up I stood up on my own my parents didn’t know about it and until now that I’m a grown woman as a Nurse,there are still grown bullies in the healthcare field I am in ….I got to a point if I still want to be a Nurse anymore.
I LOVE jockos podcast! He is fierce for sure,
This guy is a great leader, thanks for the upload,!
Love you Jocko. We read the three books series “ The Way of the Warrior Kid” . My son is really impacted that he started doing workouts by himself and he wants to do jiu jitsu. On my side, it taught me to control my ego. BUST ‘ EM
This is better than university education and the subscribers should get online credits for listening and learning from it. Great job Tom and Jocko!
This guy is real! Thank you for this interview!
Ok, so I looove this interview! But omg, I just cant wait for Toms book!!
THIS IS SUCH A GOOD TALK! THANK YOU, GUYS! 🙌🏽💕
i wish someday you would get Jordan Peterson on your show
I am speechless I was waiting for a guy saying things have to be done your way or no way at all, I was expecting for a pushing guy that tell you bleed until you succed you know or show strenght or whatever, but damn this guy is the thoughest more sensible and understanding guy I have ever seen, that he can make you brake into tears for his insights and also can brake every single bone on your body if he wanted to. Damn so happy that I found this interview.
Their calm demeanor and disciplined nature is awe inspiring for lack of a better term
God bless you Jocko! Real inspiration and a role model for every young man!
I agree with Jocko about standing your ground as a kid against bullies. When exuding confidence to engage in confrontation, you can stare down the bully, and have him recognize the situation, and walk away. That's how I got through my younger years.
In the first minute this man explained the problems plaguing my entire workplace. Smh
Tray Tray " I'm no man " Lord Of The Ring
His techniques are fine when doing your own project or even in the field where lives are dependent on each other. But when your in a work environment that neglects those with a different vision,, has an already established direction, the leadership that has no real impetus for accountability, you can take all those techniques and chuck them out of the window. Such is much of the ass kissing corporate environments.
@@MenOfFreedom People have a responsibility and some have as individuals to establish a different culture. And or as some have been fortunate enough to do, establish their own work environment with his techniques. We can not allow the typical corporate environment to change who we are and go against what we know is right for the sake of a "job".
Of you wanna be "positive and a good person" in a work environment with majority being "pea brained narcissistic assholes" you're in for a BAD TIME.
just caught this today. I admire your honest insight about what you are and are not. I also admire J for his insight as well. I have a crew of 4 men that are scaffold builders. They are all young men from rough backgrounds. I want then to know they can rise above their past and all the things that hold us back and realizing their own potential. I am going to use this segment in a leadership training segment. Good Stuff Guys...Thanks.
Amazing video, super engaging, and flat out genuine / to the point. Thank you guys!
I love this guy, a true American Hero. Someone for the kids to look up too, and adults! Hes so genuine.