DREW BARRYMORE ON: If You STRUGGLE To Find & Keep Real Love, WATCH THIS! | Jay Shetty
You can order my new book 8 RULES OF LOVE at 8rulesoflove.com or at a retail store near you. You can also get the chance to see me live on my first ever world tour. This is a 90 minute interactive show where I will take you on a journey of finding, keeping and even letting go of love. Head to jayshettytour.com and find out if I'll be in a city near you. Thank you so much for all your support - I hope to see you soon.
Today, I am talking to Drew Barrymore. Drew is a talented actress, producer, and director, known for her roles in films such as "E.T. the Extra-Terrestrial", "Charlie's Angels", and "50 First Dates." She made her acting debut at the age of six in the film "Altered States" and rose to fame as a child star in the 1982 film "E.T." She has since established herself as a leading lady in Hollywood and has also produced and directed several films. In addition to her successful career in the entertainment industry, she is also an author and a businesswoman, with her own production company and a cosmetics line. Currently, she hosts the The Drew Barrymore Show, which debuted in 2020 and has been renewed for a fourth season this year.
Drew shares her thoughts on being more empathetic, which means putting ourselves in others' shoes and treating them with kindness and compassion, why learning self-forgiveness is crucial for personal growth and healing, liberating or freeing yourself from mental, physical, or emotional constraints and can be achieved through self-awareness, self-care, and self-love. Prioritizing ourselves means taking care of our physical and mental well-being, setting boundaries, and making time for our own needs and wants.
It is important to remember that we cannot pour from an empty cup, and taking care of ourselves allows us to show up fully for others.
What We Discuss:
00:00:00 Intro
00:00:22 It was a new show and nobody wanted to talk
00:03:55 Starting out as a child
00:09:28 Being more kind and empathetic
00:16:55 Forgiveness and the ultimate form of liberation
00:23:50 Letting go of shame and guilt
00:27:14 Don’t stay stuck, get on with it
00:33:08 Having a sense of safety in your workplace
00:37:59 How do you receive genuine love?
00:49:13 Invest in yourself
00:53:46 Today, who do you want to be?
00:57:43 Your gut is your body’s compass
I have 15 years in and out of service industry between NYC and LA... EVERYONE in the industry knows Drew is by far the best celebrity to wait on. She NOTORIOUSLY tips 100% on her checks (yes, 100..) and is so kind to everyone in service. I've met, worked with and served many famous people and Drew's kindness is unrivaled.
Thanks for sharing that. It says a lot about her.
that's really lovely
I’m in the service industry too and people like that are special
I have had friends that have met her and same the same. She's a sweetheart to everyone....
All this that u are describing of her is ABOUT HER,NOW. But i met her in her early 20s (I was that age too) and she was THE worst ever when it comes to attitude. Everything that she describes she hates now, SHE was before when she was younger. I know people can change for the better, but wether i like it or not, that bad image of her stuck with me and its hard to now see anything else, although i appreciate she changed, that bad feeling stays forever.
I would rather be single and at peace than be in a toxic relationship. I fell in love with myself being single 🤣 and realised that loving myself needs to come first before I can care for others
Learning that now at 49 years old. 😊
49 next month here
Says every hoe alive
Absolutely 💯 same here darling. I fall more and more in love with myself after my spiritual awakening from my Twin flame journey. Healed high vibration and so much at peace now 🧿🙏☯️
I needed this. Thank you!
I'm almost 60, been extremely happily single since my divorce 20 years ago. I haven't even dated, just focused on my two beautiful daughters, and my extended family. Much less stress, less drama
Thank you for sharing - Peace , in your day and night and headspace is worth a lot isnt it 🌻
@sharongibson1161 I can relate 100%. Content and peaceful too at 62.
Well done! ❤👍 Same. I'm into my 21st year (8th year celebate), tried dating but realised as I learned more, that as an INFJ with cPTSD due to 17yrs married to a covert narc, that I am much more content, happy and peaceful on my own with a furbaby or two. Never looked back! ❤
I am 68 and divorced 35 years ago after a ten-year abusive marriage.
I definitely appreciate the peace of mind and less drama that staying single provides..but how do you get passed not having someone to cuddle, kiss, hold hands with, fall asleep next to, wake up next to, come home to, etc. You don't get lonely or miss physically intimacy?
I love how she says "don't blame others, get on with it, keep going." So true. Ultimately, no one determines your path in life except yourself.
Yeah sure
Metaphorically speaking- It’s okay to put the blame where it belongs but that doesn’t excuse me from having to clean up someone else’s trash that is now left in my yard.
Perfectly said!!
I found out in my 70's that it is easier to forgive when I was happy in my own life. Point being: Getting your own life in order and having peace and happiness is forgiving yourself first, before you can forgive others.🌹❤️ 🙏🌺👍💕🌴
Well said 🙏🏻❤️
True story
OMG Tory, you said this perfectly.
I am glad she is doing this ❤
🤯🤯🤯♥️♥️♥️
when i found out that i wouldn't have another child naturally, i decided to be a mother to the wildlife around me, planting flowers for the birds and bees, refilling the hummingbird feeders, and nursing lizards and whatever i find back to health. i haven't met the right person for me yet. i asked for a soulmate, a highest vibrational match, and i got a dog who is amazing 😍, he is my soulmate. sometimes i wonder if i will ever find that person who can enjoy life with me, and be happy and loving. but maybe that person is me.
That is so beautifully put. I’m going to take that perspective on board. 🙏🏼
Omg can we be friends 😭
@@vegancatlady1017 💛💛
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I haven't even watched this yet, just skimming the posts. Your reply is my life!! I am married, but we are night and day. Opposites do attract, but they do not make a happy marriage. Animals are my children, domestic and wild. I feel you! I really do!
she is a wealth of curiosity and hard work aimed at reaching her higher self. I couldn't stop watching because you can feel the energy of her self-actualization. she gonna be levitating soon for real
Yesss! She’s so close! The interview she did with Jenette McCurdy - Wow! I look at her in awe - what she has been through and overcome. Whoever thought she needed to become a talk show host is a genius. She’s healing herself and I believe she is almost ready to tell her truth. I’m here for it. ❤️
Very self aware - the man she is now divorced from is a spoiled rich narcissist from NYC. She was too good for him.
"We can't be mad at people because they're not what we want them to be."
Just came here to post this. Great quote
I, too, have been single for 7 years. At 56 years old, I sometimes feel like damaged goods from the society viewpoint. I, however, feel so complete with my children and grandchildren. I feel so at peace now and never have the desire to find a man to "complete" me.
I don't think there's a more genuine, pure, and beautiful soul in the public eye than Drew Barrymore. What a light in the darkness she is. ❤ This is great.
I was married for 20 years, have two children and been divorced for 16 years. I have often thought that love is expressed through many relationships and I have no interest in ever marrying again. I love my peace. Thank you for this conversation about love. There needs to be more conversations like this. WOW!
I have never been married and I don't have children. I turned 43 3 days ago. I realized I do not want a romantic relationship or children. I want my peace.
Yes, exactly. Me too!! I was married for 21yrs, I am 60 no children and a happy widow. I will not marry again, once was enough. I love myself and this wonderful journey I am living.
Males have a history of heroísm, not abuse. Most females made money in the past through fashion decoration and beauty industries. Something that males did not participate in allot. The gov did not have social or financial safety nets, the family was both back in the day. Raising responsible and capable people was very important. People didnt have the luxury to raise a brat.
Me too, just length of time differences. I protect my heart and have remained single for many years. I do sometimes long for a life partner but have such gratitude for the wonderful other types of love in my life. I also have a strong faith which sustains me in the difficult moments. I do worry about perhaps becoming selfish and guarding...putting up walls so to speak.
I too was married for 21 years, with 3 children all independent and I love my peace, and my ability to do whatever I want, whenever I want. Sounds cheezy but it's so wonderful! There's a good man in my life, but we don't live together. It's the best!
I once read: MARRIAGE IS LOSING ONESELF IN A CROWD OF TWO. At 77, I've learned that romantic love is the LEAST true and pure love we can experience, because of the way men are conditioned in our culture, which is to be dishonest, not only with others but with themselves. Until that changes, and they learn to honor the feminine within themselves, and remember that they came from their mother, relationships will continue to fail.
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soo trueee!!
You did her dirty with that thumbnail, thanks for feeding into the narrative of the sad old single woman
She's really led an interesting life and turned out such a wonderful person.
Ever since we were children, we've read books and watched movies about people falling in love and living happily ever after. It brainwashes you and sometimes, it doesn't happen. I've had my share of freedom for a while now and I like it. I'm happy with my independence. Sure it would be nice to find the non-problematic love of my life now but I'm not actively pursuing it. Also, please don't envy couples who seem perfect. I know of one couple right now who look picture perfect and they're always fighting.
I hope Drew keeps talking about her sobriety. There are so many women who need to hear this conversation. She prob has no idea how many women want, and need, to stop drinking. I have a lot of friends who hate themselves right now, bc they are being invited on dates "for drinks" with men, and are unable to say No, and doing things they didn't plan on or want. They don't know how to socialize, esp. on a first meet, without drinking. A lot of bad men on dating sites are counting on these women to overdrink, too. It's a problem.🤷🏼♀
Good comment
People don't realize that once you use alcohol to self medicate your problems, it is not easy to stop. People who are doing this in their life understand this. One, you don't have another way of dealing with your problems that you find works for you, yet other people judge you on your choice of using it for any reason. Next, your body gets dependent on it, in spite of the fact it is destroying your body. Tendencies toward dependency are passed down from genetics, so it is not all that simple to see why people get caught into this trap. I have to admit that the only thing that stopped me from using alcohol is the fact that if I didn't I would not stop high blood pressure and other health risks, it was clear if I didn't stop, it would be the end of me. Otherwise I believe I would still be doing it. I still don't have anything to solve my problems, yet my mind is clearer to think about things and stop making excuses. I do other things like self reflection, vaping, CBD, time with animals, time with nature. I still have a void in dealing with problems sometimes, I am working on that. I thought I was a functional alcoholic because I didn't drink and drive, I didn't use it during times I knew I had things to do in the day like work, time to meet with people, errands and things I absolutely had to do. After living it, I know that even if you think you are doing the correct things to prevent some issues, you are still not functional. This vice creates problems, it does not solve them. It is simply a temporary source of escapism. Yet, the issues you want to escape from still are there and you still have them at the end of the day. I still want to find ways to escape the ills of this world and my own issues, but if I am honest, I am still here with the things that are not ideal, and I am an idealist at heart. I cannot change the external world that sucks, I can only change how I think and what I choose to do in the moment. I can also find things to balance my life so it is not all about looking at the darkness, but appreciating the good things too. There are still beautiful things if you venture enough to look.
I just started dating again. Instead of a bar suggest a coffee place. Be honest if you are uncomfortable in certain types of places. If he's a good one, he will be amenable. I have friends that invited me to a dinner, some of them are clean and sober now, so instead of bringing wine or beer, I brought juice and tea. If someone is supportive they will not put you in a bad spot. I prefer for a few first dates to be sober. It helps me evaluate how things are going.
They can say no if abd when they want to be saying no thru them bad enough even!
She’s not sober. She said she still drinks.
Drew walks her talk...a kind and authentic person. A friend of mine used to live and work in L.A. (not a famous person). He said he met Drew in passing, and she was so sweet and down-to-earth.
I don’t think anyone can love Drew anymore she’s so adorable and genuine
Best advice, don't go into any romantic relationship with preconceived expectations. If you don't expect anything to come of it, you can't be disappointed when nothing does. Also, always stay absolutely true to your own personal values and boundaries. That right there, is what makes you "safe". Listen to your GUT, it's rarely wrong.
It's true, there's so much pressure to find 'the one' your soul mate, movies, song.... it's endless.. I liked Jay's response that ALL LOVE MATTERS as much as 'the one' Wisdom on another level! Thank you ❤
Yes SO true, I loved when he said that too. All love matters!! And for myself now after being married for 21 yrs and a widow, Love means Freedom.🙏🎶
such a smart and profound woman . I love you both
I agree with you. She is such a smart and profound woman.
The hard part for me, is waking up realizing I'm 43 with 3 children & 2 failed relationships never having met a true love. I wanted a partner to grow and build with. I fear of losing time. Life is precious and how wonderful it would be to share that with someone❤
At 30 I feel the same. I never got married or have kids.
But you already are! ❤ You are the best company you will ever have.. that sounds cheesy but when you love yourself enough, its amazzinnnggg & ppl are more of a bother than a necessity. Lol
Universal truths
@@SA-lz1vxI turned 50 this year, never married and no children. My life is the complete opposite of what I imagined it would be. And I'm still single now. I have been madly in love before (in my 20's), and I'm not sure if I'm ever supposed to feel that way again. I feel like there are so many great parts of life that I've missed out on, or am missing out on. I'm afraid of spending the rest of my life alone, but I don't know how to remedy that. Meeting someone is very difficult.
Tell yourself you deserve to meet that special one. Often times we do not meet them because we are sure we will never meet them.
Drew’s appearance here is life saving for many, to be sure. Well done. There will never be, another Drew Barrymore.
There will never be another everybody
There will never. 🤍
She’s so beautifully compassionate, beautiful and aware xx
Drew is the only celebrity that I find speaks with raw honesty and all heart. She is so beautiful, please tell her that she inspires so many. I really enjoyed this podcast this week
she made me tear up a couple of times during this interview
Jay’s answer on love is fantastic, where he says to look at all the other people that love you. I just realized that I don’t have to buy into something I don’t believe in. Romantic love is great if it’s real, still too narrow if it controls me or dominates over me being who I want to be.
Drew made me cry with her question. I got emotional because I felt where she was coming from, and I've been asking myself the same question. Thank you for this! There are so many of us out there experiencing the same issues. ❤
Same here! I’ve been trying to get to the reality of that I honestly might not get married and how to be okay with that.
I believe societal pressure doesn’t help. Society makes you feel like a loser if you’re single . Most married people I know are miserable. 🤷🏽♀️
Me too!! 🥺
I agree
Look at how people reacted to Chelsea Handler’s comedy clips about how she loves and celebrates her single, child free life. So many grumpy men and women berating her for celebrating this and accusing her of actually being really miserable when all of these so called gleefully happily married with kids people are waving their pitchforks at her, frothing at the mouth. 😂
It's so wild that dating has gone downhill so badly that what was once the worse possible way to break up with someone, is now how we hope to get broken up with, as opposed to the ubiquitous ghosting.
Drew was born the same year as I did. ET would not be the same without her magical cute ways and those blonde pig tails. As I've gotten older it's nice to watch her as I too went through my teenage years, 20s, 30s and now late 40s from little girl to woman. Everytime I come across her interviews over the years it feels like that old childhood friend from kindergarten you meet sporadically at diffrent stages of your life. She is natural and herself, which makes her so relatable in many ways and as girl myself I would love to have someone as genuine, loyal, chatty and introspective as Drew Barrymore as one of my best mates.
I almost forgot she was in ET! One of my fav movies ever! We're the same age, too :)
Drew is an amazing soul ❤ This interview was really inspiring for a female who is single in their 30s and being pressured by the society to settle down 🙏
32 years old and still single. Female too. You’re not alone.
Same here, now we have a different point of view and it's so liberating, greetings from Perú ;)
@@rainbow9987 33 years-old. Single, female. I look at it as it’s time for myself, peaceful time to focus on my goals and healing. :) I feel complete, it all starts from within. Others’ opinions are just noise, don’t let it cloud your mind. :)
Being single in my 30s was the best time of my life
Currently going through it. I so wish for peace.
Drew is the most honest celebrity I've seen. I admire that of her
On point.. The moment I figured out that romantic love is over priced.. I became more appreciative of my life
Single is quite nice..❤😂
I do think romantic love is the most special love there is..IF..it is done right...at the same time....People need to tap in to what makes them happy...and this is coming from someone who is happily single
It's not overpriced. It's just not done right anymore.
Super special conversation. I hope that Drew knows how profoundly kind and special she is ❤
I second that she is beautiful and loved even by me and I don’t know her up close but am in love with her just as I am in love with me and being single again.
Drew had a lot she needed to get out. Jays listening skills speak volumes about him and why he understands humanity in a deep way. Shhh
Even the intro has wisdom packed in it. "Do the dishes and you'll feel better" - that's because (a) you're DOING something (using your body) and (b) you're HELPING someone (either those you live with or your future self! Do the dishes people, it's a great first step to a great day, week and life!
Fantastic point!!!
I did the dishes after reading this haha
@@mohamm3d312 I'll 'wash it forward'
well spoken words sir!
I need to do the dishes right now, I will give that a go
Unbelievable interview. So apocalyptic. Drew really reveals her heart. So much is put out there about mental health, relationships and inner self work. Thank you Jay.
My partner and I separated some time ago and they were my first romantic love and actual partner. There are moments in my life since then that I’ve found so much joy in not being in a relationship. But there are also those moments where it feels so scary and lonely to not have a partner. Hearing Jay and Drew talk about how romantic love is not as important as we make it out to be gives me so much anxiety. I need to accept that I may never have another romantic partner who makes me feel loved and welcomed? This just shows me that I need to continue watering my garden. I loved the conversation ❤️
I don't think it's so much that you "need" to accept not having romantic love - it's that we overvalue romantic love and undervalue other kinds of love. The people I've loved the most have not been in the category of romantic love. Other people will have a romantic love relationship that will happen to be the person they love the most. Great love comes in different forms.
@@lorrilewis2178 thank you so much for your response Lorri, you’ve given me something to think about 😇
@@lorrilewis2178 I think that’s a really good way to put it.
@@bianca4829 Thank you. Another thing to consider is that you aren't wrong about feeling scared if you live alone. But even when you get into a romantic relationship, there's no telling when one of you will die. Then what? If you don't want another romantic relationship, you can live with a best friend or a group of best friends and you can be cared for that way. It's a good solution to old age I think.
I am also stuck for the same reason - from the past relationship failures and having been single for 7 or 8 years I am afraid of letting someone in for fear of what they would do to my peace. But I still crave it. and get lonely. But I do also think it is societal pressure dictates that I feel bad about not having a romantic relationship- when really I feel better about myself then I ever did when I was younger. Its sort of confusing. I get the frustration and I know why the tears came so easily for Drew - I totally get it.
Please don't lose this for anyone. I was you and got into a relationship for company. But, it just broke me & I have lost my strong self. I feel lost today. I think why did get into the relationship at all. I was so strong and headstrong and happy. Now I am healing myself. No point of letting anyone in to spoil my peace
This is such a parallel to my situation. Thank you for putting it into words. We do need to protect our peace and sanity 😊
@@iCKREATE wow! I can so relate to that brokenness. We do need to protect our wellbeing as it’s really hard to build ourselves back up when this happens. I wish you all the best as you heal ✨
This was so deep!! I’m in a 26 yr old marriage and because I can’t hurt others and I want everyone else to be happy I feel stuck and I know I’m not happy. I live with tension and overthinking.
You’re not alone. I have been in a 10 yr relationship and I feel I am not treated the way I should but I also have a hard time when I think of not ever seeing the person again. I also don’t have the savings to live alone. Advise: It’s difficult but do what will make you truly happy and make your life better 😊
Jay interviewed Michelle Obama recently where she spoke about marriage and communicating. Also really worth listening to.
I am single 5 yrs, I’m so scared of being hurt again, to the point where I don’t give mine unconditionally anymore, except to my son who is my whole life, the trauma of love changes us, and unfortunately not always for the best. I used to love being in love, now it just seems like to much effort #drewbarrymore
Sounds like me.. my son is the only one right now and it’s been 5 years and I’m scared to live again
I’m going through the same where I’ve convinced myself that I will be single for the rest of my life because I don’t want to feel that again. I’m opening up but also working on things within and sometimes it just takes awhile and that’s ok. 10 years for me and still learning. You’ll know when it’s right.
U said it. U used too. Now you don't. That's you prob thru it. No one else's.
I thought it was just me
Gary, you should have a life of your own, separate from your son. I am also a single mother of one, and for the longest time, I only focused on him and forgot about myself. It's not healthy.
I have SO much respect for Drew as a human being....she is just so REAL, and I love that!
Wow, I so needed to hear this today about not having that romantic relationship. I'm 59, divorced for 7 years I've been struggling with that being single stress so much my whole life. But I know I'm surrounded by love and have a large large capacity to love... how beautiful! Thank you
Gosh me too. I am 62 and divorced and had several long term relationships. I refuse to let society pressure me into thinking a single person is incomplete. I have made a decision to remain single. I am complete..independent, whole, self sufficient and happy. I have learned to love myself and know myself more since being single. I even listen to a podcast about single living. It’s great.
I’ve been single awhile, when anyone asks me I say I’m “happily divorced” I’ve had boyfriends after, but not in a long while now. I spend a lot of time in the hospital, I have 3 kids, work etc and I said I need to spend my energy getting healthier and stronger and be with my kids before I think of dating.. I’m thinking of it now, my kids are 20 18 & 17 now and I’m in my 30’s, I’m open to love & relationships now
@@jgator6694 Perfect, I 100% agree. What's the podcast you mentioned here?
@@officiall.d1010 It is called: “Solo The single person’s guide to a remarkable life” 🙂
I love being singe and am super happy that way.
Drew is so inspiring. She always brings such warmth and compassion. 💗
And humor.
Two things we can all agree on... 1. Drew is an extraordinary talent and beautifully spoken 2. She's extremely long-winded. 😂
The minute I let go of trying to find a romantic partner and just be…I felt like a freakin albatross flew off of my shoulders….5 years going strong, single, not dealing with toxic 💩 backing up my daily life, f*cking with my mental health and well-being. And Drew and Shetty are awesome souls in the world.
Such a beautiful conversation. Drew is one of the BESTTTTT people in Hollywood; SO inspiring, down to earth, and loving as a human being. Great episode, would love to see her on the podcast again sometime
I 100% agree!
Truth! I mean it's hilarious/tragic because I think that fact speaks volumes about the quality of the dating pool...
I couldn’t have said it better myself!❤
One of the best people to ever exist. Shes such a genuinely good person.
Adore Drew. She's an earnest, loving soul.
I love this podcast! The fact that with all the abundance of love, it isn't perceived as being enough unless you have a partner or person to share it with. No wonder there's a narrative of being single and responses include: 'Oh why?!' Or 'That's okay, you'll find someone' as if that's the only goal in life?! I've been single for a long time and only now have I truly valued it for what freedom, adventure and love I can bring to all areas and all people in my life. If you took time to read this understand you are deserving of unconditional love. You are unconditionally loved ❤️ the truest source of love is within you ❤️
No one I know has spoken to this issue so clearly as Drew. There are many advantages to being single, like volunteering and relating to more people lovingly.
I have always absolutely love Drew and this interview confirms why. She is such a kind and genuine person.
I love how relatable how she makes letting go of shame and guilt
I love Drew. I relate to Drew. I also struggle receiving love. Drew embodies such love and I attain for that. What a gorgeous conversation.
I love what Drew said about being single and loving it. I am single now and love it and feel guilty that I feel that way. So crazy that I feel this way.
No reason to feel guilty. You are fine; your life belongs to you; enjoy:-)!
Thank you for this interview with Drew, it was wonderful. I love how honest and open she is, how transparent about her own struggles and insecurities. It’s real and raw and beautiful. We are definitely conditioned by society and the media to fine “The One,” to the point that it leads to many of us thinking that if we spend much of our lives single and unattached that there is something “wrong” with us.
Yes, we shouldn't think there's something wrong with us. The truth is most people struggle with the relationship - romantic side of life one way or another. But me personally, I really have a need to share my life with someone, to feel loved and to care about someone, and this weighs heavy on me.
There may not be something wrong with you. But there's definitely something not right with you.
@@TheWilDOn31This podcast really celebrated independence and finding love places other than with a significant other, but some of us really feel a strong desire for that one-on-one love partnered relationship, and there's is nothing wrong with that either! We are each made differently and if that's your heart's desire, nothing good can come from denying it. ❤
she would be a wonderful friend to have, I love how genuine she is.
Gotta tell you that Drew is our generation's Betty White. We will love this national treasure forever.
What a great comparison! Thanks for this.
Drew is so wise and so eloquent!
Great questions and answers! I appreciate the focus on other types of love than just romantic love. Also, for women like myself who have been told “you don’t know true love until you give birth” it is important not to buy into those narratives. Not having had kids feels like it holds a huge stigmatism as well. The greatest unconditional love cannot be limited or defined to one kind of relationship, but is possible in every relationship and to yourself ❤️
So true! A mother’s love is not always profound and unconditional. I have children and for sure it’s the most powerful, unique and significant love I have and probably will ever experience. However, I don’t have a relationship with my own mother because she has issues, is a very hateful and spiteful person, and I was her scapegoat. She essentially told me to my face that she hates me. So....there’s that. Everyone deserves unconditional parental love but it’s not a given and it’s not always the best or only place to experience deep love/connection.
Thank you ☺️
Appreciate your answer so much, have needed to screenshot so I can re-read 🙌💗
@@kristinecrowley8321 Thank you
Wisely said - wisely said….from another woman who has not had children. It the way my life happened.
Jay with his calmness and authenticity, has a special ability to bring out the best in people. That is what I have noticed about his conversations. They are honest and raw, exactly what we need the most in today's society. Drew has always been one of my favourite known people. She is real.
Completely agree about how much Jay brings to interviews. He not only listens, he receives. Then he is able to respond more fully than almost any interviewer I've seen. What a gift.
She’s so genuine and real. I absolutely adore, Drew. I hope she finds that one special someone ❤ she deserves it ❤
There’s a reason we put romantic love on a pedestal. Our soul craves it.
I agree ❤️. It’s about a mental, emotional, physical connection and of course that intimacy is so much more involved and so much more impactful and shattering and everything than friendships. I think the passion is higher, the risk is higher x
I don’t agree. Pedestals are Disney fantasies we raise our children with. Love is what our great grand parents had.
I politely disagree, lol. 1. Romantic love has tons to do with biology and our physical needs. 2. Romantic love is the only one that enables society to reproduce itself; therefore it is pedestaled. 3. Our "soul's/s' craving" can be (minimally partly) attributed to our young self's insecurities, immaturity, inexperience, etc. IMHO, love is a life essence and a much broader concept than the narrow one called romantic love.
Drew, you are so beautiful, kind, and amazing. I’m a single 42 year old mom of two girls. I have been divorced since 2015. I am stuck too. It might be the very best place to be right now.
Due to societal thinking on the subject, I've often wondered if there is something wrong with me. For the past 8 years, I've not only had no desire for, but have actively repelled romantic love. I love being single and in complete control over everything I say yes and no to. My deep concern is that if I allow romantic love in I would have to give up an unacceptable level of autonomy.
I have the same fear. I think it comes down to meeting someone so fantastic that the gains outweigh the losses. And I’m not likely to meet anyone that fantastic 😂. Which is fine I’m 48, have 2 sons, I’m just trying to enjoy my autonomy while I have it. Good luck to you!
The reason could also be that you have an avoidant attachment style?
@@karenherbert1410 a lot of people dating with an avoidant attachment style. Its not because you are dating, that you are connected to yourself and to the other person. People actually have relationships so many times because they need to distract themselves from their own struggles and wounds. When you are single you have to deal with your stuff, and a lot of growing happens. I know more people unhappy in relationships than unhappy single people. Relationships can be amazing, but only if you have a good relationship to yourself first and find a person who is aligned to you values and is also working in themselves.
Thank you for sharing this angle. I have spent 8 years working on myself and recently I have been gripped with little pangs of fear intermittently that now I need to accept that I will never have a close companion, relationship or special someone. My life has packed in colourful events that would need thousands of peoples experiences added together to even come close in velocity and volume and so I’m wondering now I’ve turned 50 should I be minimising so as not to leave my children with a lot of stuff to sort when I drift off. I mean, the universe has run out of extremities by now for sure? 😂 I know it’s almost doom and gloom lol😂. Not a self prophesy just occasional fleeting thoughts. I’m wondering , is ask to receive true? I’m anxious attachment style , I thought I was avoidant however corrected recently by a therapist. Technically I’m ready for a special person should I do some ritual? Will it just happen? Does ask to receive work? I would love to be with someone and especially that person who is destined to be my peace and vice versa xx TIA anyone who takes the time to share thoughts on my questions. I am so grateful. 🙏 I absolutely love you Drew I identify with so much you share of how you feel! Jay -amazing . Both of you are SO helpful to my development and the soothing of my soul. Bless you both. And Howes where ever he is atm. Bless you all ! OX pps. I wrote the definition of “ carpet sweeper” in the urban dictionary. I am jealous of them. Imagine being able to not care 🤣 . I want to receive love. My heart breaks for myself . ❤️🩹❤️🤍💕🙏
@@stephanienewton6618 Welcome to the club, Steph:-)! Believe me, you are sane and normal, and I wouldn't be surprised if you, by chance:-), have in your surroundings people who may publicly criticize you for your lifestyle, but envy you secretly (without you even knowing that, lol). Being single is not easy, but it has many advantages. Being ourselves without permanently asking for permission if we can be so, or permanently checking if we are not harming somebody by that is such a relief...!
Drew...Half your battle might be won the minute you stop comparing your beautiful being to others. You are good enough. No comparisons.
"The Ultimate form of liberation is Change" Wow this is a really powerful take away - keeper - thank you Drew 🌻💛 respect 🙏
So insightful! I have been prioritizing romantic love my whole life above all others. This mindset has been unfulfilling. I feel less alone in these thoughts/actions now. Thank you for the insightful introspection Jay and Drew! You guys are the greatest!!
Think I just caught deep feels from your picture. Lol... true. ❤
How wonderful Ellie. It is great to have breakthroughs and insights like that. You know what is interesting. I have been the opposite, and that is an issue too. It has never been important or a priority. And I have avoided it. And to be honest, and I know this is not popular thought, being more open to romance now has healed parts of me that I never imagined would ever change in me.
sometime we over prioritize or over avoid love due to our childhood pain.
@@lita4458BALANCE in all aspects of life is the KEY to peaceful happiness💯
I think Drew shines even brighter on the inside!
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so so proud of you Drew, our inner world/meditation is truly the only way to really be able to experience our true divine nature!
It is a different kind of love. You can't compare intimacy, companionship and passion with a partner with any other type of love. Is not the same. When your heart becomes knitted to another person's...you know the level of intensity when you breakup and detach from each other. It is different...it s a spiritual union.
It's true.... we HAVE placed Romantic Love on a pedestal and that makes it incredibly difficult to maintain. However, there IS something to be said for romantic relationships that then morph into/BECOME that person you just LOVE, who is your best friend... and whom you cannot visualize life WITHOUT.
We had similar “lifetime movie-like” upbringings. That comment on life becoming about the mastery of reaction is so on point. Her and Selena Gomez have some great insight on this balancing act we all have to do (mind/body/self/others) in the face of trauma and chronic ptsd from childhood. Our brains change and everything becomes about making space between the moment and your reaction to process, while also being able to hold yourself accountable (with compassion). This kind of stuff really needs to make it to American school curriculums in a health class. Kids need a roadmap to understand their emotions and the relationship between emotion, thought and action.
That comment about mastering reactions really resonated with me too! It's a works in progress and it's that #jugglehood of all the different versions of ourself where reflection and awareness starts to really grow.
Amen, well said.
So true, beautiful insight
It's amazing how quickly pesky issues can disappear when focus is placed on the well being of others, rather than obsessively striving to work on our "inner selves." It is selfishness that's the root cause of all of the world's troubles.
I have found that the more energy you put on something/someone the more dependent we become on them and the more we push them away. Stop idolizing human love and put your biggest love on God instead, have a relationship with him and you will never become dependant or obsessed with anyone out there. He will teach you to have a purpose and stop being so self-focused and self-absorbed and by default less complacent. Get over yourself and know that everybody deals with issues and faces their battles which you know nothing about, so judging someone for being negative is as bad as being negative. Make it a habit to ask yourself what is this person facing to be so stressed or negative and give them the space they need. Help someone, have a purpose for your life and everything will fall in place including your relationships. And yes forgiving someone does not mean hanging around negative people, but rather understanding that there is a reason for everything. Nobody is perfect, we are not perfect. But God can teach all of us patience with others but most importantly with ourselves. Shame and guilt is at the very essence unforgiveness whether it is for others or ourselves. God loves us as much as He loves others. Drew one advice if you ever read this: Love yourself genuinely to accept that you are magnificent and yet flawed just like everybody else. It's ok to make mistakes but it is also ok to be with yourself and God for a while. Have no fear what the future will bring, because when you pray about it, you speak to the One who holds the future. "Do not fear" is mentioned 365 times in the Bible. One time for each day. I guess what I am trying to say is: relax in the knowing that God has got you. Have faith in HIm!
This is what exactly I needed to hear right at this moment. Thank you.
Thank you for this reminder, god bless!
@@Jamiin13 I hope you’re having an amazing day!
Wow. Beautifully said. Thank you!
Beautiful
“It’s all about the gut”. Incredibly true!
as Drew Barrymore stated on her choice to be with herself for 7 years partially due to her daughters. I understood and did the same, not because of the divorce, but because my Daddy died (2005)- he was my protector. My last male engagement was end of 2008, I didn't trust my judgment and needed to protect my 2 daughters. During this time I worked on myself. I'm now ready to go out and share myself with a few others. The giddiness I feel within and how I seek the things/joys I desire is imaginable to me. I am grateful.
I really relate to this but I'm in the beginning of it
Drew Barrymore is truly a relatable and beautiful human being. Great podcast!!
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Agree beautiful ❤️ inside and out good human being a down to earth humble person
I have been single for well over 20 yrs and I love my life!!. I came to know who I am and know that I don't need anyone else. That is it there is nothing better than knowing who you are and what you want. It is really liberating.. ;-)
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Jay your take on love, beautiful. I didn't think I would be able to live without romantic love after my divorce. Now, after having had some time to heal, I don't think that at all. I have a lot of love around me from family and very good friends, I don't feel like my life is missing anything. Romantic love is a bonus, but I really don't need it and I am honestly shocked that I have found myself feeling this way because that was so unexpected.
How fantastic for you! You must be enjoying your own company, appreciating your own value & self love. How great is that! 🎉💝
@@SarahBatsanis thank you! It is great!!
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Omg! Drew Barrymore! I love her!
This woman is amazing!! When she mentioned the "B" side... I felt that incredibly deep in my soul.
Loved this. It’s so true. You need to love yourself FIRST. Then everything will fall into place. When we work to understand ourselves and learn to appreciate and respect ourselves, it’s easier to be able to learn to understand & respect others. To be able to treat others as we would want to treat ourselves. So many females were raised that marriage was the goal or dream. Truth is marrying just anyone won’t work. Once you know yourself it’s easier to pick someone that resonates with you. In the mean time, strive to love your life and be happy. Helping others creates more harmony but do not sacrifice yourself. Everything needs to be reciprocal. Balanced.
I feel like I can relate to Drew more than any I can with any other celebrity. She's such a beautiful soul!
Drew always beyond impresses me with her thoughts, and the energy she expresses. She is what I want to be when I grow up. Lol.
Best podcast I've watched in YEARSSS. The wisdom and real vulnerability you both have is incredible, but the fact that you're also both willing to share it with us all. I could cry
Drew is so genuine, Drew is a mood, Drew say it out loud! Thank you for that oh so inspiring and emotional podcast
Wow I never knew how incredibly down to earth and relatable Drew is! Such a GREAT listen ❤ Thank You SO MUCH🙏
Her style is so unique and adorable! Love Drew!
i love her so much; the way she speaks openly about her life and emotions has been so pivotal in my healing for a lot of things i have gone through these past few years. she truly does just have a healing energy that emanates even through the screen.
What a golden soulful conversation. So much food for thought. Thanks to Drew & Jay for the honesty.
I love Drew she's no afraid to talk about her struggles given her background work. She made me cry too when the moment she went to "romantic partner" conversation.... great podcast😍
She has always been really sweet, knew her a long time ago when she was young. Glad she's doing so great!! Great interview!!
Drew, you are a phenomenal human being, you touched me to the core with this conversation and Jay, you are an amazing human being and interviewer.
Wow! Jay is the universal cherry of anyone's ice-cream. The comment about how we categorize love is an inner truth of mine. It's so pleasing to see someone thinks and shares your thoughts and mindset.
Drew... thankyou for being so relatable and real. You are an inspiration. Much love to you xxxxx
I like the way she expresses herself and her transparency!
This conversation brought tears to my eyes. I can relate to everything you guys talked about. Thank you!❤
I love you Drew! Thank you for sharing such a deep vulnerability and thank you for asking how to receive love. I am the same as you, I give lots of love but it’s hard for me to receive. Even compliments are hard for me to take in. ❤
I loved this chat on so many levels, emotional mastery, how to give and receive love, working on the "inner" which is something I am really focused on at the moment and taking a pause to react. Wonderful chat! Thank you both.
Yes! Drew makes us all feel like that, Jay. She's a bestie, super inspiring always. Also I crave that scratchy voice of hers 😍♥
Drew has always inspired me, she is a authentic speaking girl I love to listen too! Thanks Jay for having her!
Such a beautiful interview. It brought me to tears. Thank you Drew for asking those questions that many of us want to ask but are afraid to ask. And thank you Jay for your beautiful answer. I have struggled with feeling ‘unlovable’ so many times and needed this! We are all in this world together! Thank you for just putting these talks out there! ❤
In tears! I've recently transitioned into the "I don't drink" phase a little more than a year ago, shortly after a very toxic violent relationship/prison/bad roommate situation I wish I had the courage or strength or security to write that post-it two years prior. When Jay said finding "the one" isn't necessarily the ultimate highest pedestal type of love, it is hard to explain, but it's like I knew this the entire time but it didn't feel right till that moment when he said it and Drew agreed. Thank you both for putting these words out for anyone to hear, it has truly helped me!