After each heartbreak I experience I come back to this video to remind myself to appreciate all the emotions I’m feeling, good or bad, and to be grateful for having experienced them at all
@kimlarios36 Жыл бұрын
Me here
@NathanT-Athitsakul Жыл бұрын
Me too!
@caivieira_9 ай бұрын
Same thing. It’s so comforting
@angieriopel41089 ай бұрын
Same
@csillagaspar2009 ай бұрын
there’s beauty in pain too
@alanagonzales9 ай бұрын
The writing was so skillful. They were able to talk about the relationship without actually talking about it. The father just knew and wanted to comfort his son without making it weird and uncomfortable
@xidiamond68512 жыл бұрын
it was ripped straight from the book
@mumblerocks77 Жыл бұрын
@@mumblerocks77 well yes babe, the whole point of movies based off books is that they are yk, from books
@ashkr49039 ай бұрын
@@ashkr4903yeah but this whole monologue is almost verbatim what’s written in the book. it’s probably my favorite scene of this whole movie
@sophieboyd21919 ай бұрын
@@ashkr4903they are often skewed
@drmidge5 ай бұрын
He def made him feel uncomfortable and wants to scream shut the fuk up to his Dad
@tomc8058Ай бұрын
This scene is UNBELIEVABLE. I didnt expect that when i first saw the movie. It brings the whole movie to another level. It is incredibly beautiful.
@kevineve56242 жыл бұрын
"Our hearts and our bodies are given to us only once. And before you know it, your heart is worn out, and, as for your body, there comes a point when no one looks at it, much less wants to come near it. Right now, there's sorrow, pain. Don't kill it, and with it the joy you've felt."
@xidiamond68512 жыл бұрын
The words are true and powerful when one truly thinks about it.
@TheMisserys Жыл бұрын
Indeed!
@mr08tsx9 ай бұрын
Amazing how a father can care for his broken hearted son without mentioning the reason for his pain
@georgesturdy70402 жыл бұрын
The part when Elio sigh and control his tears and said “I think he is better than me” is very real ! Acting on point !
@Grebanche2 жыл бұрын
Has no one mentioned the flinging of paperwork. Such a beautiful subtle but profound way to say hey,kid,you’re way more important than anything else I could possibly be doing right now
@n0dice1Ай бұрын
Wow, I love that.
@sims3edits55726 күн бұрын
"just remember, I'm here." Such simple words, but from a father to his son, the most powerful words that can be said. It makes me weep every time.
@killbot_factory11 ай бұрын
This is the kind of father I hope to become. Nuff said
@RutmansProductie7 ай бұрын
👌🏻
@MANOJVERMA-me3kz6 ай бұрын
Michael Stuhlbarg should have been nominated for an Academy Award for this scene alone.
@paullinxwiler6811 Жыл бұрын
If every child has a father like him this world would be a much better place.
@commercialzone41412 ай бұрын
“Nature has cunning ways of finding our weakest spots.” That line hits
@stormy43589 ай бұрын
If everyone is a father like this guy , this world would be beautiful place ❤
@rezarostami90908 ай бұрын
"We rip out so much of ourselves to be cured of things faster, that we go bankrupt by the age of thirty. And have less to offer each time we start with someone new". That one hit me in particular because it may be the perfect sentence that I needed to hear, years and years ago. Because he was absolutely right in my case. I've had a period in my life where I did everything I could to become emotionally cold and shallow. I didn't want to feel any more. The end result is, of course, you can ignore or block your emotions for so long, untill it comes crashing down like an avalanche and crushes you.
@JefErickson Жыл бұрын
I have it framed, I love these lines and knowing that someone has lived through something like that is just amazing ♥️
@bestscenes9644 Жыл бұрын
I'm in tears immediately as soon as he says this line even though I've watched the movie repeatedly and know it's coming...it hits like you're hearing it for the first time again every time...
@s.rae.m6 ай бұрын
I'm here because someone like Oliver in my life just departed and I know we will never meet again. For the past few days I have been subduing my emotions, attempting to shun any sadness and sorrow I feel or the happy memories that sometimes emerge in my head. But I find my thoughts always going back to him and I can't bear this profound grief. So here I am, listening to Mr Perlman's wise words and seeking some truths or consolations to my wound.
@jacqueline.2308 Жыл бұрын
sending hugss!
@yaonessa Жыл бұрын
same. I made so many amazing memories with this person that I never want to forget, but sometimes I want to because it consumes my thoughts
@happyrobot6396 Жыл бұрын
Same 😢😢
@andreaoficial20587 ай бұрын
There's always a way to find them in todays day and age. You never know. Stay in contact somehow. I think because of the age gap here in this film its a little different.
@skillsmachine91643 ай бұрын
@@skillsmachine9164 some things are meant to be let go of
@balalaika8523 ай бұрын
This is one of the most beautiful and powerful scenes in cinematic history..
@brcage2 жыл бұрын
He reminds me of robin Williams.
@shannonsmith26422 жыл бұрын
Though the actor was AMAZING here, imagine Robin Williams playing this role. OMG
@drutalero29622 жыл бұрын
Woooow i could def imagine robin playing this role
@betterdevils8005 Жыл бұрын
@@drutalero2962 each and every theater be flooded with tears
@jingren Жыл бұрын
he has exactly the same warmth and vaguely resembles him too
@williamstewart3774 Жыл бұрын
Elio has such great parents. One thing I love about him is they never make him talk. They never tell him to move on or encourage him to not cry. They openly let him cry, something men are usually told not to do. They let him sob and cry and loving comfort him. They tell him they’ll always be there and they’ll always love him without ever making him talk about it. Making it clear he can if he wants and they would still love him, but he doesn’t have to until he wants and is ready. They LOVE their boy.
@allshookup16404 ай бұрын
You’re too smart not to know how _rare_ how _special_ what you two had was
@nicgon1052 жыл бұрын
We rip out so much of ourselves to be cured of things faster that we go bankrupt by the age of thirty and have less to offer each time we start with someone new. But to make yourself feel nothing so as not to feel anything-what a waste
@nhat_uet71512 жыл бұрын
I have it framed in my room ♥️
@bestscenes96442 жыл бұрын
I wish I had Elio's father. My father threw me into the street when he found out. That was almost two decades ago.
@jessebones46058 ай бұрын
I loved this scene between Élio and his dad. It’s so pure and raw that it almost reminds he of the interaction between Matt Damon and Robin Williams. The actor who plays Elio’s dad portrays the same mannerisms and dialogue delivery just like the therapist in Good Will hunting.
@rjmathew1 Жыл бұрын
Yes! I knew there was something familiar about this scene, thank you!
@and59486 ай бұрын
man this movie makes me miss 2017 so much
@darladimple84372 ай бұрын
"You two are so lucky to have found each other." I'm in tears right now watching this movie again. It's so intersting and painful to realize that love has also to do with luck. Maybe there's someone outside wishing to meeting a person just the way you are, but maybe you two will never find each other. This is beautiful and terrified at the same time. I really hope my day will come. After so many lovers, goodbyes, fucks and bad meetings, I just know I never wanna give up on love. And this movie pushes me to keep the flame on. Hope you all find your true love as well.
@deejayrbf Жыл бұрын
Omg i’m so in love with this scene. Wish everyone have such super supportive parents. If you’re hesitant, talk to friends maybe that would be the best people to talk with about any heartbreak.
@aimanpardiwala12345 Жыл бұрын
Healed over it, got over it. Nothing is constant. If you read this and are in pain, it will pass by and you will heal, my friend.
@aimanpardiwala12345 Жыл бұрын
“Hey, no judgment. All God’s children. It’s fine. I was gay once - for a while. No big deal. We all do it. It’s okay.”
@thecubsen Жыл бұрын
LMAOOOOO
@sabrinalocke2846 Жыл бұрын
Easy A reference 😂
@shortfusedkinda8 ай бұрын
I love you for this
@anapaulapaco55143 ай бұрын
K but why does the dad remind me so much of Robin Williams? Miss that man, rip.❤
@Pollyanna4123 Жыл бұрын
i've watched this scene to many times to be called a normal person.
@danijelcerkic2732 жыл бұрын
There's a reason why this scene is my favourite in the whole damn movie 🤧
@badlybangalee7975 Жыл бұрын
The acting was golden here. I love this scene the most.
@imagineaworldlikethat40812 жыл бұрын
Michael Stuhlbarg gives an Oscar caliber performance.
@demh78232 жыл бұрын
Every lines of this movie is so deep that everytime i watch this movie again, i discover something new, which i didn't understood at first. I've watched it 5-6 times and still feel the same thing rewatching.
@akashchaudhary8170 Жыл бұрын
🤗🤗
@bestscenes9644 Жыл бұрын
Just before Elio's question "Does mother know?" (5:16), in James Ivory's screenplay (page 77) there is a final paragraph in Mr Perlman's monologue that is omitted in the film: cf. “We may never speak about this again. But I hope you’ll never hold it against me that we did. I will have been a terrible father if, one day, you’d want to speak to me and felt that the door was shut or not sufficiently open.” In my opinion, the omission of this paragraph contributes to leaving ambiguous the reference/content of the direct object of "know" in "Does mother know?". I was wondering if such an omission is on purpose, i.e. for the sake of provoking a deliberate ambiguity. As a consequence of this elimination, some people have interpreted that Elio turns to raise this question just after Mr Perlman "spills the beans" on what appears to be his secret. NB: in the novel (page 225) there is no ambiguous interpretation at all since Elio's question is contextualized in such a way that there's no room for ambiguity.
@mitomino2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this information! I haven't seen the film, yet. I knew about the father-son conversation and that's where my curiosity lies. And with that line "Does mother know?" I immediately spotted the ambiguity. 1. Does mother know of my affair? 2. Does mother know my father would prefer to be with a man? It's a distasteful idea to leave that ambiguity in the air. To me, it ruins the entire moment.
@aletseaniram2 жыл бұрын
@@aletseaniram Or, does mother know of my father's past affairs in his youth? That's what I got from my first viewing of this beautiful scene.
@senseimilli Жыл бұрын
@Belle R. I interpreted the same
@caralvarezhayes6657 Жыл бұрын
I guess a lot of ppl interpreted that way... so I am glad tô have searched for it first.
@TheAnaceciliadmmm4 ай бұрын
Each part of this movie is a golden nugget ! And yeah that scene is just incredibly beautiful !
@Lasourisbelge2 жыл бұрын
So much dialogue is straight from the book and it makes it hurt so much more
@masonwinchester83782 жыл бұрын
The movie touched me deeply and the father's speech was incredibly genuine. It's heartbreaking that we can't engage in these heartwarming conversations without being judged. The movie beautifully illuminates the fact that the sentiments expressed in his speech remain undeniably true even in present times.
@joeoconnor57633 ай бұрын
This is such a touching and beautiful scene. Everyone should have a Dad such as this.
@roberthurley6860 Жыл бұрын
Elio's father is a loving and wise man. ❤
@Mac-sb5lj5 ай бұрын
I like how he tosses What he was reading .
@mepaula3022 Жыл бұрын
If you have good and understanding parents, you are the luckiest person in the world and you will never get depressed
@damienb998 ай бұрын
This has easily become my favorite movie of all time. So beautifully acted. Such a gorgeous story of pure, raw, real first-time love. It transports me to another place emotionally every time I watch it. I feel the joy and the pain exactly as its meant to be portrayed. I will never, ever get sick of this film. Not to mention Timothée's performance in this role particularly, is the reason i fell completely in love with him as an actor.
@s.rae.m6 ай бұрын
Flawless. Great script, great actors, great direction. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
@FabinhoFlapp Жыл бұрын
This film will stay with me forever. Now I MUST read the novel. Bravo!
@liamsmith3290 Жыл бұрын
Please read the novel
@bestscenes9644 Жыл бұрын
The dad in this movie looks like a mix of Robin Williams and Tom Segura.
@yeomanbasket8 ай бұрын
Thats what Im thinking. Especially Robin Williams.
@mack99920047 ай бұрын
Beautiful movie. I rewound and watched that scene a few times. If you go through a heartbreak, its a reminder to cherish what you have while you have it and enjoy the journey of life
@sharonm1 Жыл бұрын
Every time I feel sad about my ex I come back to this video and it feels like a warm hug
@isabelleoringer42169 ай бұрын
This was wonderfully written.
@angrytater2456 Жыл бұрын
this scene is what i love most about the movie. such an incredibly beautiful, inbeliavable monologue! i'll carry it forever in my heart.
@johannabergel3350 Жыл бұрын
Best scene ever, wish all the parents be like that.
@karyaoktem4649 Жыл бұрын
My dad helped me through my 1st love heartbreak. I will always be grateful for that ❤
@lovebird085 күн бұрын
This film is wonderful and Timothee is so beautiful. ❤️
@thevaccinator6667 ай бұрын
Michael Stuhlbarg was amazing as Elios Father.
@vbplayer50 Жыл бұрын
Here I sit at 30, bankrupt… with so much less to offer to someone new.
@TC-xe2gx4 ай бұрын
This scene changed me
@Loriloyy2 жыл бұрын
i love this movie with my whole heart the feelings and emotions i experienced during it was out of my control
@juniper41949 ай бұрын
Dad did give some gay-vibes throughout the movie, didn't he? That's why I wasn't surprised at all when he said all this to his son. I also feel sad for dad, that he never managed to actualize his dreams/chances. And also, do we really believe that mom didn't know? I'm sure she knows both about dad and Elio, but is clever enough to act like she doesn't know.
@MarijaCZadar Жыл бұрын
Elio is bisexual, this implies his father is of similar orientation meaning he is not gay but is attracted to men.
@bryanalejandro7323 Жыл бұрын
This is one of the most beautiful monologues in cinema
@Kokoloco6663 ай бұрын
There are so many times throughout the movie that the mom notices Elio and Oliver but the dad doesn’t. I was surprised when it was revealed he knew
@wiredant6497 Жыл бұрын
Are you kidding me. Both parents listened to them having sex.
@susanmorano405Ай бұрын
This has to be one of, if not thé most beautiful monologue ever!!
@mrsmonroe4370 Жыл бұрын
Right now there's sorrow, pain, don't kill it, and with it, the joy you felt.
@annewilson2195 Жыл бұрын
I always cry while watching this
@s1lv4n482 жыл бұрын
One of my favorite monologues of all time.
@danielbaileyfilms Жыл бұрын
probably my favorite scene from any piece of visual media ever.
@leerobin89273 ай бұрын
This movie is a true masterpiece.
@bas182341 Жыл бұрын
I just watched this movie yesterday and I have to say it is now one of my favorites.
@kkyst Жыл бұрын
This was such a brilliant and well-acted film! Such truth and such heartache! You can't let it destroy you. You've got to allow yourself to learn from your experiences. I love these actors! ❤
@johnlargan60455 ай бұрын
And the rain in the background sound just makes it more ahhmm i don't have words...💛
@neon_moon Жыл бұрын
That scene ist just so beautiful ❤️
@pequenaAlina2 жыл бұрын
This is such an emotional scene
@mikeparez2 жыл бұрын
First, I watched the movie and I liked it. Then, I read the book, and I read the sequel "Find me" ... I loved it. ♥ I love Andre Aciman writing, so beautiful.
@anagrami19839 ай бұрын
Incredible writing, acting, directing, set design, music, everything. What a beautiful portrayal of life.
@mcflylovemeАй бұрын
Hands down Father of the Year right there ……true story
@mesa459216 күн бұрын
No words, just ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
@markb71638 күн бұрын
Welcome home… the way he said is so much emotion
@redpill3511 Жыл бұрын
And I have finally watched this movie. Masterpiece.
@MarijaCZadar Жыл бұрын
Bravo. Bravo. This scene is everything.
@joef77478 ай бұрын
i wish my dad was understanding like him
@jilliango154 ай бұрын
4:52 "Right now, there is sorrow, pain. Don't kill it." My question is, how to not kill the sorrow and pain. How do you make a sorrow to something constructive?
@shankhadipsett1674 Жыл бұрын
It’s just about acceptance, firstly. Those feelings of hurt, you must let them flow and they will pass on their own terms rather than with resistance. The healing process starts with accepting the pain.
@AngryNacho9000 Жыл бұрын
Remember the Queen: 'Grief is the price we pay for love'.
@philia127 ай бұрын
loved this scene
@heyronchuz8214 Жыл бұрын
Best dad..... ever
@katerosk50447 ай бұрын
this film was so beautiful, but the ending hurt so much
@lucyf84362 жыл бұрын
What an incredible scene!
@ialexcampbell2 ай бұрын
This was so perfect
@stephanyvalencia879724 күн бұрын
If the world had more parents (fathers) like him!.......
If you have read the sequel Find Me, you get excited when the dad says he's never had what they did because he gets it!
@chuckster53 Жыл бұрын
Stunning
@Paiceiano9 ай бұрын
This why we gotta finish a movie till the end. The ending maybe an entire film in itself
@HayfaZlitni Жыл бұрын
I met the love of my life at 20 fucked it all up. It's been 5yrs. Still wondering when the grief and dreams go away. I'm not depressed my any means but the more I think about it I have to be on the same spectrum. Why do we hold onto such short moments in your life?
@mehkifontanez9029 Жыл бұрын
Hugs 🫂
@bestscenes9644 Жыл бұрын
I am sorry to say it never goes away.
@gingerm78003 ай бұрын
this is a parental guide fr fr
@mishamerabishvili8126 Жыл бұрын
I didn't have a father like him, all the contrary... he was judgemental and a homophobe. That didn't stop me from being the best version of me I ever could, and a better man he could ever be.
@luiscontreras4147 Жыл бұрын
Hugs 🤗
@bestscenes9644 Жыл бұрын
@@bestscenes9644 🥰🥰🥰
@luiscontreras4147 Жыл бұрын
I just wanna drop this comment I have never read this book but after watching the movie I felt something is it beacuse I am single or Is it because I have never found a Love Or is it because I am scared od not Founding the love in future This movie gave me unusual different vibe I think this is how movies should be made Emotions are portrayed perfectly and audience are touched by the words or scripts I really glad and happy I got to watch this movie "Perfect
@monablues58162 жыл бұрын
The ambiguity is purposeful , so that people can interpret , as they Will , from their perspective. One may find solace in thinking Mr. Pearlman "missed his boat " Others , by thinking that Father and Son know a Truth Mom doesn't . The scene fills The Need as written , for whoever should need at the moment . That it doesn't follow the book to the letter , is superfluous . It Is what it is .
@fredmichaels4182 жыл бұрын
Love this scene 🥹❤️
@ongeziwevuyiswa7856Ай бұрын
Stuhlbarg's expressions remind me of Robin Williams here
@Jargon Жыл бұрын
I adoooore this scene ❤️❤️ all of it the movie, came when I was going through the same shit 😝😝😝 something hold me back 😎
@ayoubzahraoui97192 жыл бұрын
Not gonna lie the dad reminds me of Robin Williams. And if he was still alive and did this scene I would’ve been more of a wreck than I already am with this scene.
@davidreyeswho14 күн бұрын
I wish I could frame this and put it on my wall.
@JamesWilliams-tj4ee Жыл бұрын
Couldn't be my dad. He's homophobic and violent. Growing up in a homophobic and violent household without affection lol I can't relate. My dad was not smart enough to be like that
@hillvalleykid2 жыл бұрын
**hugs**
@bestscenes96442 жыл бұрын
If only every father could be like Elios dad. Understanding, kind and thoughtful.
@shannonsmith26422 жыл бұрын
@@shannonsmith2642 i guess it's only in books/movies
@hillvalleykid2 жыл бұрын
@@hillvalleykid make it real life when you have children. Be the parent that you needed. That’s what I do with my kids.
@shannonsmith26422 жыл бұрын
@@shannonsmith2642 ❤❤
@bestscenes96442 жыл бұрын
Es demasiado buena esta escena. Para verla durante toda la vida
@marinam87564 ай бұрын
I can feel what he felt it's painful I wish I would have died so I wouldn't need to feel it
After each heartbreak I experience I come back to this video to remind myself to appreciate all the emotions I’m feeling, good or bad, and to be grateful for having experienced them at all
Me here
Me too!
Same thing. It’s so comforting
Same
there’s beauty in pain too
The writing was so skillful. They were able to talk about the relationship without actually talking about it. The father just knew and wanted to comfort his son without making it weird and uncomfortable
it was ripped straight from the book
@@mumblerocks77 well yes babe, the whole point of movies based off books is that they are yk, from books
@@ashkr4903yeah but this whole monologue is almost verbatim what’s written in the book. it’s probably my favorite scene of this whole movie
@@ashkr4903they are often skewed
He def made him feel uncomfortable and wants to scream shut the fuk up to his Dad
This scene is UNBELIEVABLE. I didnt expect that when i first saw the movie. It brings the whole movie to another level. It is incredibly beautiful.
"Our hearts and our bodies are given to us only once. And before you know it, your heart is worn out, and, as for your body, there comes a point when no one looks at it, much less wants to come near it. Right now, there's sorrow, pain. Don't kill it, and with it the joy you've felt."
The words are true and powerful when one truly thinks about it.
Indeed!
Amazing how a father can care for his broken hearted son without mentioning the reason for his pain
The part when Elio sigh and control his tears and said “I think he is better than me” is very real ! Acting on point !
Has no one mentioned the flinging of paperwork. Such a beautiful subtle but profound way to say hey,kid,you’re way more important than anything else I could possibly be doing right now
Wow, I love that.
"just remember, I'm here." Such simple words, but from a father to his son, the most powerful words that can be said. It makes me weep every time.
This is the kind of father I hope to become. Nuff said
👌🏻
Michael Stuhlbarg should have been nominated for an Academy Award for this scene alone.
If every child has a father like him this world would be a much better place.
“Nature has cunning ways of finding our weakest spots.” That line hits
If everyone is a father like this guy , this world would be beautiful place ❤
"We rip out so much of ourselves to be cured of things faster, that we go bankrupt by the age of thirty. And have less to offer each time we start with someone new". That one hit me in particular because it may be the perfect sentence that I needed to hear, years and years ago. Because he was absolutely right in my case. I've had a period in my life where I did everything I could to become emotionally cold and shallow. I didn't want to feel any more. The end result is, of course, you can ignore or block your emotions for so long, untill it comes crashing down like an avalanche and crushes you.
I have it framed, I love these lines and knowing that someone has lived through something like that is just amazing ♥️
I'm in tears immediately as soon as he says this line even though I've watched the movie repeatedly and know it's coming...it hits like you're hearing it for the first time again every time...
I'm here because someone like Oliver in my life just departed and I know we will never meet again. For the past few days I have been subduing my emotions, attempting to shun any sadness and sorrow I feel or the happy memories that sometimes emerge in my head. But I find my thoughts always going back to him and I can't bear this profound grief. So here I am, listening to Mr Perlman's wise words and seeking some truths or consolations to my wound.
sending hugss!
same. I made so many amazing memories with this person that I never want to forget, but sometimes I want to because it consumes my thoughts
Same 😢😢
There's always a way to find them in todays day and age. You never know. Stay in contact somehow. I think because of the age gap here in this film its a little different.
@@skillsmachine9164 some things are meant to be let go of
This is one of the most beautiful and powerful scenes in cinematic history..
He reminds me of robin Williams.
Though the actor was AMAZING here, imagine Robin Williams playing this role. OMG
Woooow i could def imagine robin playing this role
@@drutalero2962 each and every theater be flooded with tears
he has exactly the same warmth and vaguely resembles him too
Elio has such great parents. One thing I love about him is they never make him talk. They never tell him to move on or encourage him to not cry. They openly let him cry, something men are usually told not to do. They let him sob and cry and loving comfort him. They tell him they’ll always be there and they’ll always love him without ever making him talk about it. Making it clear he can if he wants and they would still love him, but he doesn’t have to until he wants and is ready. They LOVE their boy.
You’re too smart not to know how _rare_ how _special_ what you two had was
We rip out so much of ourselves to be cured of things faster that we go bankrupt by the age of thirty and have less to offer each time we start with someone new. But to make yourself feel nothing so as not to feel anything-what a waste
I have it framed in my room ♥️
I wish I had Elio's father. My father threw me into the street when he found out. That was almost two decades ago.
I loved this scene between Élio and his dad. It’s so pure and raw that it almost reminds he of the interaction between Matt Damon and Robin Williams. The actor who plays Elio’s dad portrays the same mannerisms and dialogue delivery just like the therapist in Good Will hunting.
Yes! I knew there was something familiar about this scene, thank you!
man this movie makes me miss 2017 so much
"You two are so lucky to have found each other." I'm in tears right now watching this movie again. It's so intersting and painful to realize that love has also to do with luck. Maybe there's someone outside wishing to meeting a person just the way you are, but maybe you two will never find each other. This is beautiful and terrified at the same time. I really hope my day will come. After so many lovers, goodbyes, fucks and bad meetings, I just know I never wanna give up on love. And this movie pushes me to keep the flame on. Hope you all find your true love as well.
Omg i’m so in love with this scene. Wish everyone have such super supportive parents. If you’re hesitant, talk to friends maybe that would be the best people to talk with about any heartbreak.
Healed over it, got over it. Nothing is constant. If you read this and are in pain, it will pass by and you will heal, my friend.
“Hey, no judgment. All God’s children. It’s fine. I was gay once - for a while. No big deal. We all do it. It’s okay.”
LMAOOOOO
Easy A reference 😂
I love you for this
K but why does the dad remind me so much of Robin Williams? Miss that man, rip.❤
i've watched this scene to many times to be called a normal person.
There's a reason why this scene is my favourite in the whole damn movie 🤧
The acting was golden here. I love this scene the most.
Michael Stuhlbarg gives an Oscar caliber performance.
Every lines of this movie is so deep that everytime i watch this movie again, i discover something new, which i didn't understood at first. I've watched it 5-6 times and still feel the same thing rewatching.
🤗🤗
Just before Elio's question "Does mother know?" (5:16), in James Ivory's screenplay (page 77) there is a final paragraph in Mr Perlman's monologue that is omitted in the film: cf. “We may never speak about this again. But I hope you’ll never hold it against me that we did. I will have been a terrible father if, one day, you’d want to speak to me and felt that the door was shut or not sufficiently open.” In my opinion, the omission of this paragraph contributes to leaving ambiguous the reference/content of the direct object of "know" in "Does mother know?". I was wondering if such an omission is on purpose, i.e. for the sake of provoking a deliberate ambiguity. As a consequence of this elimination, some people have interpreted that Elio turns to raise this question just after Mr Perlman "spills the beans" on what appears to be his secret. NB: in the novel (page 225) there is no ambiguous interpretation at all since Elio's question is contextualized in such a way that there's no room for ambiguity.
Thank you for this information! I haven't seen the film, yet. I knew about the father-son conversation and that's where my curiosity lies. And with that line "Does mother know?" I immediately spotted the ambiguity. 1. Does mother know of my affair? 2. Does mother know my father would prefer to be with a man? It's a distasteful idea to leave that ambiguity in the air. To me, it ruins the entire moment.
@@aletseaniram Or, does mother know of my father's past affairs in his youth? That's what I got from my first viewing of this beautiful scene.
@Belle R. I interpreted the same
I guess a lot of ppl interpreted that way... so I am glad tô have searched for it first.
Each part of this movie is a golden nugget ! And yeah that scene is just incredibly beautiful !
So much dialogue is straight from the book and it makes it hurt so much more
The movie touched me deeply and the father's speech was incredibly genuine. It's heartbreaking that we can't engage in these heartwarming conversations without being judged. The movie beautifully illuminates the fact that the sentiments expressed in his speech remain undeniably true even in present times.
This is such a touching and beautiful scene. Everyone should have a Dad such as this.
Elio's father is a loving and wise man. ❤
I like how he tosses What he was reading .
If you have good and understanding parents, you are the luckiest person in the world and you will never get depressed
This has easily become my favorite movie of all time. So beautifully acted. Such a gorgeous story of pure, raw, real first-time love. It transports me to another place emotionally every time I watch it. I feel the joy and the pain exactly as its meant to be portrayed. I will never, ever get sick of this film. Not to mention Timothée's performance in this role particularly, is the reason i fell completely in love with him as an actor.
Flawless. Great script, great actors, great direction. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
This film will stay with me forever. Now I MUST read the novel. Bravo!
Please read the novel
The dad in this movie looks like a mix of Robin Williams and Tom Segura.
Thats what Im thinking. Especially Robin Williams.
Beautiful movie. I rewound and watched that scene a few times. If you go through a heartbreak, its a reminder to cherish what you have while you have it and enjoy the journey of life
Every time I feel sad about my ex I come back to this video and it feels like a warm hug
This was wonderfully written.
this scene is what i love most about the movie. such an incredibly beautiful, inbeliavable monologue! i'll carry it forever in my heart.
Best scene ever, wish all the parents be like that.
My dad helped me through my 1st love heartbreak. I will always be grateful for that ❤
This film is wonderful and Timothee is so beautiful. ❤️
Michael Stuhlbarg was amazing as Elios Father.
Here I sit at 30, bankrupt… with so much less to offer to someone new.
This scene changed me
i love this movie with my whole heart the feelings and emotions i experienced during it was out of my control
Dad did give some gay-vibes throughout the movie, didn't he? That's why I wasn't surprised at all when he said all this to his son. I also feel sad for dad, that he never managed to actualize his dreams/chances. And also, do we really believe that mom didn't know? I'm sure she knows both about dad and Elio, but is clever enough to act like she doesn't know.
Elio is bisexual, this implies his father is of similar orientation meaning he is not gay but is attracted to men.
This is one of the most beautiful monologues in cinema
There are so many times throughout the movie that the mom notices Elio and Oliver but the dad doesn’t. I was surprised when it was revealed he knew
Are you kidding me. Both parents listened to them having sex.
This has to be one of, if not thé most beautiful monologue ever!!
Right now there's sorrow, pain, don't kill it, and with it, the joy you felt.
I always cry while watching this
One of my favorite monologues of all time.
probably my favorite scene from any piece of visual media ever.
This movie is a true masterpiece.
I just watched this movie yesterday and I have to say it is now one of my favorites.
This was such a brilliant and well-acted film! Such truth and such heartache! You can't let it destroy you. You've got to allow yourself to learn from your experiences. I love these actors! ❤
And the rain in the background sound just makes it more ahhmm i don't have words...💛
That scene ist just so beautiful ❤️
This is such an emotional scene
First, I watched the movie and I liked it. Then, I read the book, and I read the sequel "Find me" ... I loved it. ♥ I love Andre Aciman writing, so beautiful.
Incredible writing, acting, directing, set design, music, everything. What a beautiful portrayal of life.
Hands down Father of the Year right there ……true story
No words, just ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Welcome home… the way he said is so much emotion
And I have finally watched this movie. Masterpiece.
Bravo. Bravo. This scene is everything.
i wish my dad was understanding like him
4:52 "Right now, there is sorrow, pain. Don't kill it." My question is, how to not kill the sorrow and pain. How do you make a sorrow to something constructive?
It’s just about acceptance, firstly. Those feelings of hurt, you must let them flow and they will pass on their own terms rather than with resistance. The healing process starts with accepting the pain.
Remember the Queen: 'Grief is the price we pay for love'.
loved this scene
Best dad..... ever
this film was so beautiful, but the ending hurt so much
What an incredible scene!
This was so perfect
If the world had more parents (fathers) like him!.......
Oliver...... oliver...Oliver...... oliver..Oliver...... oliver..Oliver...... oliver.. 😔
If you have read the sequel Find Me, you get excited when the dad says he's never had what they did because he gets it!
Stunning
This why we gotta finish a movie till the end. The ending maybe an entire film in itself
I met the love of my life at 20 fucked it all up. It's been 5yrs. Still wondering when the grief and dreams go away. I'm not depressed my any means but the more I think about it I have to be on the same spectrum. Why do we hold onto such short moments in your life?
Hugs 🫂
I am sorry to say it never goes away.
this is a parental guide fr fr
I didn't have a father like him, all the contrary... he was judgemental and a homophobe. That didn't stop me from being the best version of me I ever could, and a better man he could ever be.
Hugs 🤗
@@bestscenes9644 🥰🥰🥰
I just wanna drop this comment I have never read this book but after watching the movie I felt something is it beacuse I am single or Is it because I have never found a Love Or is it because I am scared od not Founding the love in future This movie gave me unusual different vibe I think this is how movies should be made Emotions are portrayed perfectly and audience are touched by the words or scripts I really glad and happy I got to watch this movie "Perfect
The ambiguity is purposeful , so that people can interpret , as they Will , from their perspective. One may find solace in thinking Mr. Pearlman "missed his boat " Others , by thinking that Father and Son know a Truth Mom doesn't . The scene fills The Need as written , for whoever should need at the moment . That it doesn't follow the book to the letter , is superfluous . It Is what it is .
Love this scene 🥹❤️
Stuhlbarg's expressions remind me of Robin Williams here
I adoooore this scene ❤️❤️ all of it the movie, came when I was going through the same shit 😝😝😝 something hold me back 😎
Not gonna lie the dad reminds me of Robin Williams. And if he was still alive and did this scene I would’ve been more of a wreck than I already am with this scene.
I wish I could frame this and put it on my wall.
Couldn't be my dad. He's homophobic and violent. Growing up in a homophobic and violent household without affection lol I can't relate. My dad was not smart enough to be like that
**hugs**
If only every father could be like Elios dad. Understanding, kind and thoughtful.
@@shannonsmith2642 i guess it's only in books/movies
@@hillvalleykid make it real life when you have children. Be the parent that you needed. That’s what I do with my kids.
@@shannonsmith2642 ❤❤
Es demasiado buena esta escena. Para verla durante toda la vida
I can feel what he felt it's painful I wish I would have died so I wouldn't need to feel it
Hey, don't say that. Sending you hugs 🤗