The REAL Reason 90% Of Men Are Lost In Life | Scott Galloway
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Scott Galloway delves into society's role in the crisis faced by men today, why men lack positive role models and the pressing importance of men's mental health.
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So smart...yet so stupid...
He is right about being paternal. I work in the trades and started noticing the young guys following me around the shop or the grounds. It took a few years to realize this 18 19 20 year old dudes were desperate for some guidance, for an older man to take interest in them. Now when I hire these young guys I realize I am not just a boss, I am a big brother.
I had this in my reserve unit. I chastised this young 18 year old about his finances and personal decisions, which to my surprised caused him to reach out to me for guidance. We eventfully got him to understand how to budget his money, refinance his car, and move out on his own. But his personal life -- relationship decisions really annoyed me -- as he thought the Plan B pills are an acceptable for of birth control. I tried and tried to get this line of thinking out of his head to no avail. I shunned him and left the reserves and never reached out. I wish I hadn't done that. He has no men in his life, no adult man to get him to think, and understand the difference between reacting and responding and how decisions he makes even if not directly related to him in this very moment, will come back to haunt him. I wish I hadn't done that. So, my advice to you, and keep big brothering them, even if they act like knuckle heads because eventually you'll breakthrough and the lessons will stick.
Bless you for influencing young men in positive ways.
❤❤
This I was so lost and in mid 20s just wanted some guidance. Mainly in my career but also like you said mentors become family more than anything.
Thank you so much for understanding the task, sir.
What he says about boys not having male role models is 100% true. It’s like the entire school system made a pact to uplift and encourage the girls, while ignoring the boys. I’ve never had a mentor, teacher, counselor, no one who ever took me under their wing and gave me some good advice. For most guys, the heroes we saw in sports and movies were who we strived to be like. I’m now in my 40s, doing okay for myself, but definitely under-achieving. I was a decently smart kid back in my school days, but, where were the real-life role models that could’ve helped steer me in the right direction?? It’s a travesty, smh.
@@derek4412wow super interesting! .
I agree with everything you say about the boys not having that in the schools are not having role models. But you say that as if the girls had that. We didn’t. We had to work very hard to find our place in the school system. Education was not given to women. Women had to take education in their own hands and fight against a system that didn’t want to educate them. This is a problem for both males and females and as long as we keep talking about it as if the males don’t have it then we are going to keep them divided.
@@danzwithizabel1175 I disagree. I’ve had this discussion with my sisters as well as female friends, and they actually agree with me. They can rattle off this mentor, or this professor who helped them along the way, and for them to hear that so many guys like myself were ignored throughout school blew their minds, they had no idea! So, now that so many women today are successful and wondering why so many men have fallen behind, look no farther than the school system. I’m not sure how old you are, but, it sounds like you may be speaking of previous generations of students. Presently, there is an obvious difference in the time and investment given to girls versus boys in the school system, so much so, that college enrollment for boys are at an all-time low. To deny that there is a gender bias within the school system is just (with all due respect) plain ridiculous.
They have idiots like Rogan, Tate and Peterson unfortunately
Boomer here. No role models Made my own way. I'm fine thanks 😊
I left teaching because of the "creep" factor. You hardly make enough to live on, so women don't want to date you. You're constantly being watched because no one can believe you'd devote your time altruistically. If you spend too much time with a particular student ( because they're the only one who is listening to you) you get accused of favortism. Ulimately, there are too many downsides, so when I stopped teaching and went into IT, it all turned around. I spend most of my time alone, but the peace is irresistible.
And the paycheck must be better, too. It's almost like the educational system is designed to break you. smh
Modern education is a scam and it's total trash Made to serve a by gone era of the old industrial world order
Women don’t date you because you are a teacher and make no money! lol that’s not true guys who are broke are always dating you need to look at yourself and find out why you can’t date a woman. Dating is easy but you need to master being comfortable talking to women. If you don’t you will be lonely most of the time
@@BeYourself-jk5xoppl who are not well adjusted always blame it on the others. I have my bad days and want to isolate from ppl. Its me not them. Some ppl just accept how the world is and survive it and I cant always do that.
Yes according to society, the sole value of men is the value of their bank account. I just stopped caring about what others think of me, made life much more fulfilling.
There is no shame to be a man. Stand tall for yourself.
The problem is, some men have NO shame.
"We've decided, when it comes to men, that compassion is a zero sum game. And that if you feel bad for men, it immediately out you as someone that could be anti-women." DUDE, PREACH !!!
What if there were groups for guys that might revolve around sports or fitness, but included a lot of mentoring? And perhaps getting this type of thing monetized?
@@reginasemenenko148 That would be nice. But the monetization part tends to corrupt things in my experience.
@@laStar972chuck I know. I just don't know how you could attract all the help that would be needed. I think you are on to something that could be really helpful.
Worse, I think it's a negative-sum game. People actively care less about issues that effect both men and women once they're aware that men are suffering in some way. Most people simply deny it or blame men, even when they are the disproportionate sufferers for many issues.
"WE" didn't decide this. the left-wing did.
My view of masculinity is : thoughtfull, wise, rational, objective, expressive
Oh yeah 😍
View of Females: Privileged beyond belief, and still claiming to be Victims,
Yes wish guys where like that.
That's basically the description of a nerd. Rational and objective in particular. No one likes nerds, except the fake ones.
@@QoraxAudioyou can still like and enjoy “nerd” like activities, just be man about it i guess, stoic? Idk where i was going with this, anyway, im high, have a good-day/night who ever is reading! ❤️🙏
I got my ideas about masculinity from my dad, who rarely tells me how he feels but is always showing me and others by going out of his way to help them.
The moment that we accepted the outlandish idea that fathers are irrelevant, we placed that last nail on our collective coffin as a society.
Exactly 💯
When a father decides to abandoned his kids, he is doing this, my friend.
@@missfaztudo9312 A father who willingly abandons his kids is no longer a father.
sure
Seeing Fathers as irrelevant is grounded in the Post WW period, where fathers just werent there and after that lost the connection to their families. Just being the financial supporter was an image, that grew out of necessity.
The issue I see amongst some men and voices online respond to that question of be a protector is…”well what’s in it for me? Why do I need to sacrifice my life for a society that hasn’t done anything for me in return “. I don’t know how big of an issue this is but if things continue the way they.
exactly, what reason do men have to serve a society that openly hates them?
Literal this. Men are waking up and people like Galloway want to put them to sleep
This guy is so weak I am amazed he thinks he’s an expert on it. I’m so bored of social intellectual people who alll they do is read books and study - that is NOT masculine . The guys getting action are the OPPOSITE of that lol
What’s in it for them? Idk, ummm, maybe a stable society?
@@ree4214 , then go ahead and be the one to put your life on the line for a stable society that couldn't be there for you prior.
Scott The number three item "look after yourself" I believe should be number one. You cannot look after others until you can look after yourself first.
Very true. 🫡
That's been my motto throughout my adult life. I've got to take care of myself first so I can take care of others: family, friends, colleagues, community, etc. My ex wife kept accusing me of being selfish...that's one of the reason we're ex !
I'd say that technology, trends and ease of access is the main reason behind, but also the trends of influencers and celebrities. In 70's for example you would got all the music, sports and activism to meet people, get together and find a proper roll models because celebrities were vocal about social injustice. Today kids have everything within a reach of their phones where they get influenced by people who are constantly looking for sponsors. Today we live in a society where most celebrities and influencers would sell anything for money, including themselves. That leaves so many young people attached to narcistic people who only care about their image in media, without doing much to protect, provide and serve those who need attention and help the most.
Scott is 💯 on point. Get out of the damn house, breath air, live life, be with friends. FIND A PASSION
I fear that if this trend of men being ignored in this time of crisis goes on for another 10 years or more, I only see the majority of average men in the future eventually becoming so violent and filled with rage that they will lash out on the few top 1% of men seeing no other option then to eliminate the competition to be able to even have a chance at a normal life. It is an extremely dark road we are headed for.
Nah
Its not that serious. Most of these guys would rather off themselves than off someone else. You have to put into perspective. Even if those 1% guys are gone, the women still wont want them. This is less of a threat on them, but more a threat on society. Because society needs them to be productive in order to function.
true damn…
I think a scenario according to Chris Williamson's "male sedation hypothesis" is much more realistic than an actual revolt of "angry young men". It will constitute a huge cost problem for society as a whole, but probably not an existential threat.
@@yurigansmith the problem with this theory is you and everyone who is saying it’s not possible are not “angry young men” so how can you say for certain that 10 years of not getting laid and treated like a slave to society won’t cause mass shootings, riots, and all out war. Lol 😂
I think this is one of the most balanced opinions I’ve heard around masculinity and being a young man, this is seriously an antidote to the current environment and I welcome it’s approach as a 25 year old trying to navigate my place in the world . I’ll be buying this mans book as soon as it’s available as I think / hope it will make me a better person and a better man
Itll make you a better worker drone. Thats what Scott wants you to be, he wants you to make money, not be happy
are your fk ing series man you just cant be men dont you any self worth or pride in you how can any men take this advice its just a slave to left thinking and just promote them
Unfortunately, balance doesn’t move the needle.
@@painunending4610 I think you missed his point. After a certain point, money doesn't bring you happiness, however, a lack of it can make you very unhappy.
@@gauravthadanii Agreed. For most of society you HAVE to be a worker. Find your happiness AFTER you have a steady income.
There are Very Few RealMen that can Teach and Lead young Men Today.
My 14 year old son is going through a truly rough time right now. We're going through a rough time. I see so much of the struggles Scott describes, in my son... it breaks my heart every minute of everyday. I wish the men in his life were brave enough. I wish they cared enough to be better men.
Going through the same with my 15 yr old x
Same…
@@addyolo9968 Sorry to hear 😔
@@jhwilson00 I hope and pray we all find a way forward.
Try and enroll your son in a sport or other activity outside the house.
It just gets exhausting reading and watching over and over again the negativity that is used to describe masculinity in the West today. I can't help but find it harder and harder to find examples of positive masculinity to hold as a goal and to aspire to, in education, media etc
Agreed. Personally I find Bedros Keiulian is a massive help in this way. A great man
Me too. I really struggle as a young man to find a-role model i like and wanna be
Or become the role model you wish you had? For yourself and for others.
@@CMS_10 it's hard to know exactly what that role model should be when I find constant critiquing of masculinity causes a lot of self doubt within myself
@@johnnygilling3997part of being masculine is saying fck u to society’s bs - good starting point if you ask me
I was a high school English teacher in a low income area of NC. I had a group of young boys who were in my classroom before/after school and in between classes. They were like glue - being around me whenever they could. Part of that may have been that I was young and fun - but I know for sure that all of those guys lacked male role models. It's a problem that has serious real-world consequences. Boys need good male role models.
My last partner started to listen to these “dating advisors” on KZhead from men who had the most terrible advice. He started to treat me badly, he began to cheat on me bc these “advisors” taught him that he should get as many women as possible, he used very demeaning phrases that they would use and he completely fell into his rock bottom. Fast forward, he now lives hating himself for it. He tells me that he lives every single day regretting it all and is completely ashamed of who he has become. I walked away but he’s in pure pain bc of it. I wish he had a good father to guide him, but it’s not my job to worry about him anymore. It’s usually these boys without guidance that look for these “advisors” online and they truly ruin their lives because of it. I feel for them and wish them the best. And the people to whom they hurt, I wish them the strength to leave and find healthy people to surround themselves with ❤
Yes, these people with Podcasts, KZheadrs, TikTok "influencers", etc. are very bad for both men and women. They pry and monetize on the weak and end up ruining their lives.
Life is a risk every day you wake up
tldr
I think the issue when going through that stuff typically isn’t that it’s all wrong, but that it’s a bit black and white and not connected to as much other things of value. And it’s hard to not see the behaviors and reactions in women once you understand how they think and reason and communicate, on top of how people do. Like it def wakes guys up to the reality that women are not sugar spice and everything nice. The issue is the actual reality of all of it, there is no other institution that would ever have coached men through that minefield of learning. In fact society hides all things related to reproduction and attraction and just acts like “if you work hard you will get it” So what happens is you get this rough group of guys who look at various studies and compare notes in Internet forums across the years and the history of the whole discussion, as the type of discussion isn’t new it’s just evolved.
your love and patience for him is very inspiring! i wish more people had empathy like you
i think an important thing to consider is that in the past, the great inventors, sports figures, astronauts, businessmen, artists, but also ofc actors were THE role models, and in many films certain actors would embody this healthy masculinity, or at least with positive attributes. Nowadays, the biggest role models are influencers, many also young or without much education tbh, but more importantly they are not the great entrepreneurs or innovators of the past, they're not groundbreaking artists, no longer are the role models for young men people who achieve great things. I mean what you have one or two famous rich ppl like Elon Musk or Jeff Bezos, but u look at any alpha male influencer video and its these sort of unachieving youtubers or twitch streamers who are presented as role models of excellence. However problematic past role models could be, they were better than this.
Even if a boy has a positive role model (aka as a Dad of boys I can vouch for) they can still struggle. I have noticed if boys are not athletic or academic, they can easily be left behind in school.
Some of the greatest men I know, didn't have good male role models growing up... some did. It's a compound problem. Sadly, a perfect storm.
@@CMS_10 we all know why! They cut out physical subjects in schools like woodwork, electricity
Men need to build things to feel validated and do good work that no one will question
school today is largely day care and a poor waste of youths time
Really? So boys can have great fathers, uncles, grandfathers, male teachers, male coaches, and male role models on TV, yet still struggles. Huh. Makes no sense what so ever.
We grow up to find out our role models are very flawed.
Finally someone who doesn't see things as black or white.
Every time Galloway opens his mouth he says something challenging and thoughtful and pretty brilliant. This guy really has a handle on where relationships are at and where men are at right now.
And sadly nothing is gonna change it to make it better in the major
Marriage and love require and demand strength and it takes work and courage to grow up. It’s the power to endure emotional pain, to sacrifice for a loved one to openly communicate. Mature relationships only come from those qualities and a desire to support each other long past the stage of physical looks and expectations of perfection.
Women are the perfect “yes men” and it lends to an easier entry into the middle management work force
Yes 👏🏽 it’s women’s fault.
@@twainalex996 placing blame and noticing patterns are different but I understand why you think that
@@user-hs9sp5ih6x Your "patterns" are anecdotal and without ground. You aren't as intelligent as you see yourself.
At my last 3 companies, women were chosen to be the leaders (from supervisors to CEOs) simply because they are women. Had one rank tenth out of ten on the totem pole, get the job over the 9 men who put in for it.
This guy just speaks truth. A treasure…these days.
Mental health counseling is very important as is a reading the great philosophers of all ages. I never had a male role model who offered me a complete picture of the best facets of behavior but with the above help I was able to Integrate into my own life the best of what I saw from the men within my life. No one is perfect but it’s vital to strive to be a better person. That’s how civilization gets better.
Thank you so much for shining a light on this and opening up the conversation. Healing this is vital for healthy society and a future living Earth.
This guy is so well spoken
Worked for Morgan Stanley & BA in Economics & MBA! Started a Marketing Consultancy firm in 1997! Elected in 1999 to the WEF gobal leaders of tomorrow! Tells me all i need to know about him.
Yes, he's made his money in the system and is now in a comfortable enough position to criticise it without hurting his own chances. He's admitted on tv interviews that our society is rigged in favour of people like him. I wish all our elites were this honest.
@@joepeake8972 The UN/World Enslavement Forum are pretty "honest" about their intentions. They don't try to hide the fact that they want to micro rule the world nor do they hide the fact that they absolutely bitterly hate us and will use any means to achieve their vile agendas, including the use of bioweapons and the use of "directed evolution" to fulfil their fascist trans humanist agendas. Most of what this guy says is common knowledge and I doubt his sincerity. He hasn't given us any Achilles' heel that will allow us to bring the beast down ... just the same ol' same ol' that most of us have been aware of for many years now .. but were called derogatory names and censored. He is however certainly correct about the massive siphoning of monies from the public purse into the hands of the already uber wealthy .. but then he should know about that as he's a member of their vile club. It's a big club but most of us aren't nor ever will be in it.
As a man ages in America, he realizes that starting a relationship with a woman isn’t worth it.
Well, I met my partner when he was 62 and I was 64. We are very happy.
Brother, did you not watch the whole video?
@@createone100 How’s the sex?
This guy says a lot of truth. The thing I don't agree is the role of the protecter as a men. I have done my share of protecting ppl beeing assulted on the streets, got beaten up while doing so. Since they attack in groups of 4+ ppl. Even got stabbed once, trying to help. But if society rejects male in general and you get yelled at, when you hold a door open for a women, why should I risk my life for a stranger? Im at the point where I protect my famelly and frends, thats it.
I was just about to say this. You got me fucked up sideways if you think im getting stabbed by someone by sticking up for a stranger. Fuck that shit. Run.
Not to mention if you do end up saving someone from an attack, you will very likely end up being vilified by the exact people you saved.
YES! Men are waking up!
Here is a good idea, DONT ever ever ever listen to an intellectual about dating they have no clue. Stop trying to work stuff out and just talk to plenty of women and use your instincts combined with some big balls - to any men out there STOP thinking over and over again what SHE wants. You will notice if you ever stop your constant overthinking that dumb asses who have 10 iq get WAY more women then the smart geeks out there
@@painunending4610 ??? waking up from what, dont be decent to other ppl? thats not male specific, plenty ppl dont trust others or wont stand up for strangers. not that its good,
This is the type of direct and to the point discussion that needs to hit the road! SO much of this resonates with the reality of my 13 year old son's life and what I run into in the business world while I visit the US. Men will no longer get on an elevator alone with a younger woman, I get comments and looked at from women some times because I am not only masculine I revel in it. Why do they look at me...? Society has taught them that men are predators and they should be more like women. I will pause here but Scott thank you again for being out there and for being so direct with your message!
In all this over left tiktok porn society that seems the world to be becoming nowadays I think is relieving to hear Scott Galloway speaking so honestly about masculinity, even better knowing he is not a far right abdicate
women need positive male role models as well. my childhood and life has been faaar from ideal but I thank god I've always had a good father in my life even though my mother abused him and he ultimately ended up leaving, and I'm glad he did. he stayed for SUCH a long time though really trying with my mentally ill mother and I knew it was for me, his only child daughter. my mother treated me well but turned into a monster with him and I still don't understand why (she passed when I was 23 so I never got to have that conversation as a mature woman with her). I wish things had ended up differently but my father has always been a good man. he isn't the physically strongest and has severe asthma but as far as the "three pillars" this guy just spoke about he is superb as far as I'm concerned. I also think I ended up having a healthy standard of what to expect from a man in relationships of my own because of him. I promise you I will not end up like my mother did and how she treated him. it breaks my heart because it's sort of an unspoken secret between me and my father, it angers me so much how little resources I see for men who were or are in that type of situation. people just think domestic abuse is a drunk man beating his wife still even to this day it seems... also... I'm a millennial woman and I HATE this blatant misandry I see all over society for what it's worth haha.
Be accountable where you can, not for anyone else's mistakes but your own. But young men (boys) need guidance (to be raised) too.
Great presentation. Nailed it on the head on every point IMHO. I'm 68 yrs old. Had a successful career and 3 boys who are now successful men. I must admit that growing up today is much more challenging than back in the 60s, 70s, even 80s. Just too much distraction and rapid changes. I'll try to help bring my very young grandson along the proper masculine path...as I did with his dad.
So glad to have had totally different raw models as male protagonists . Grandpa, father, uncles, husband etc. were all galaxies above such a chaotic negativ data collector.
Philosophical true to a point, 72 years old, grew up in the 50s and 60s with grandma, never finished high school, but! Went to college, Tulane university didn't graduate, went to work and out lived most, living a health holistic lifestyle simplicity and with in my own means. I agree with you on what you are talking about, people should live within themselves, now you know, max world x 👍🌎
Trouble is that these days, doing exactly what you did won't guarantee a simple but happy life, instead a poor and lonely one. Inflation has outpaced wage growth and property is too expensive for most young men to afford. Doesn't mean they should give up, but we need to be realistic
@@joepeake8972 It depends, though. I have two graduate degrees, but I know guys with little education who are exceptionally financially successful running their own construction or landscaping businesses. Some of these guys were millionaires before they were 30. But I agree, in general, that there is a societal problem with finance/economics. It's just not true that the traditional education path is the only way. There is still money to be made for those who are willing to work and do less prestigious jobs. For example, some paint houses for a living, making more money than lawyers.
I honestly don’t think this guy realizes how much male-female dynamics have deteriorated since he went to university and started working. I know people and have personally witnessed false claims in the work place. There was this one girl who got known to be a sexual predator where she’d sleep with guys, then when they had a fight she’d say that they sexually assaulted or raped her. She drove this one dude home who had a girlfriend, and she randomly pulled over and told him to eat her out. He was like “what?” And she said “you didn’t think I’d drive you home for nothing”?. And that is not the only story I have. Women have overwhelming power in the work place, it is not about the men knowing the difference between knowing how to ask someone out. You just don’t do it.
One thing about accountability, is to stop looking at it as punitive and start looking at it as a responsibility. Through accountability one grows, learns and understands to be an adult or a Man. "Save our boys 👍😎👍"
Well said Scott, clearly a significant problem - accountability in the context of having an internal structure in which the guy is accountable to himself, but he has no training on *How* to handle himself.
Thats what ppl need to learn from a young age. I didnt experience any favoritism from being a girl/ woman. Wish I did. It was quite the opposite. Even nice guys have a hard time telling me when they are not mentally well though I initiate the conversation because I notice when something is wrong.
Being a provider can mean providing full support for women making more money, making it possible for her to reach her full potential. My female doctor has a "house husband" who manages the entire family, kids, finances, housework, errands, cooking (a great chef), shopping, social arrangements, etc. so she can meet the overwhelming demands of taking care of other people and still have work/life balance.
You're a clown
As you go through your research there is one big category you didn't mention that I believe you need to address-on-line betting and gambling. The companies and apps that support that industry are targeting young men...I believe it has the potential to be more dangerous than porn
Let them, we make a lot of money on that sh*t. Young college aged males have always been the demographic to historically take risks and come out better on the other side.
Lead with strength, governed by empathy.
I was in sports in school, army then fraternity and there is nothing like being around your boys and comrades when you're young. We mostly give that up for family which is goof but we should still have those places to be.
Great vid 👍. Direct explanation of a manhood 💪
The biggest attractive characteristics of masculinity that would group in it all is courage, something missing completely in our society
I'm so glad I'm through being a young man and am now in my 40s with daughters. I believe it's easier to be a young woman than a young man these days. Women militantly support other women as a group. They really don't care about men. Men care about them, though, because sex. Society and our service oriented economy are far more accepting of young women into employment than young men. The worst thing women have to look forward to is being ignored when they turn 40. Nope, I wouldn't go back to be 25 again. Being male with greying hair equals money, respect, and acceptance.
Scott Galloway is so right.
I'm glad Scott is sharing his nuanced and caring perspective in this conversation that often gets polarized. And I'm glad that he's out there trying to help young people, regardless of what's going on between their legs. The vacuum of positive, healthy mentors and role models for young people under the influence of testosterone can lead to some pretty awful sh*t. So, trying to outline healthy, societally beneficial masculinity seems worthwhile and challenging. Although "protecting, providing and procreating" all seem to be pretty universal human inclinations regardless of whatever reproductive organs a person has, but I get what he's saying. For me what also might be helpful is to study what are (in general) the irrefutable hormonal and biological byproducts of having whatever sex organs you might be born with, (especially for young people) and try to identify how to positively channel those behaviors in our culture. Until we collectively get better at that, if I had to pick my poison, I think I'd rather have young testosterone-influenced people like my kids err on the side of watching a little too much porn and being a bit more passive in romantic pursuit than buy into misogynist, narcissistic, objectifying rape culture. Of course, it isn't an "either/or" path, which is part of his point, but I think it's something worth bringing up.
We need this man.
For what😐
To do what ? He is saying that men have problems and women need to solve them yet the world 🌎 was made by men for men .
Umm… he’s right there…
Great video! Love the refresher of all the different types of capital you outline in your book. One thing I’d add - there is something you can do about cultural capital: you can move.
Woman: "Men need to open up and be emotionally vulnerable." Man: "Well, sometimes I feel like... Woman: "Awww...did you whittle man-child fee-wings get a boo-boo? MAN UP, LOSER!!" Man: "Well, I guess I will see what Andrew Tate has to say."
Yep, as funny as it is, that sums it up.
Unfortunately, that’s how things tend to play out.
Little boys are raised as defective girls in the school system but once adult, they still have the burden of performance cuz hypergamy does not care.
In a patriarchal society, if women used your rationale, women would be the most suicidal demographic... not men.
Women today have created men like Andrew Tate.
Some things are spot on. Others, fly in the face of logic and reason. As a 30 yo male, I completely understand the trans position. I just think they should wait until their prefrontal cortex has finished developing. You don’t want to make permanent, life-altering decisions while your brain and emotions are in flux. His emotion is getting the best of him here.
Exactly and considering the suicide rates are already high as is w/ the trans community it’s probably best not to complicate things for a child, especially as he stated earlier in his talk, biological males tend to mentally mature slower than biological females.
It’s not a man’s job to protect trans people.
Yes. He refers to the protective instinct. My protective instinct kicks in when someone is abusing a teenager by feeding them drugs and hormones and exposing them to disfiguring surgery. NO
@@dalewetzel3029 That was my first thought as well: I oppose the Trans issue (particularly for minors) BECAUSE I have a sense of protection. I think what they are doing is child abuse of the worst kind. Probably on par with sexual abuse of minors, maybe worse. Another point is: I also value TRUTH as a pillar that men should strive for. And I just don´t think it is true. To pretend that gender is only socially constructed, completely divorced from biological sex. Or that you can easily change you sex by chopping of some body parts and taking hormones. You are not changing your sex, you are just mutilating your body to look a certain way. Also, his argument of protecting despite you don´t understand is so awful. If you support something and take actions with potentially serious outcomes you should better be sure you know what you are doing.
He is a progressive and a feminist. What he says about andrew tate applies to him as well - he is coming from a good place and he gives alot of good advice but he goes off the rails when it comes to his politics. There is no accountability for his side and he fails to realize that they are dismantling institutions that took thousands of years to build.
Galloway makes excellent points
I can relate to around 80% of what Hitler said, it's the 20% that is the issue, and there lies the issue with Andrew Tate, young men are focusing on the 80%, understandably so, and then accept the 20% as ok, without challenging it.
Yup, oldest trick in the book. Cult leaders often lure their members in with noble truths... And then it gets weird.
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Other 20% didnt happen
Real reason 90% of men are lost in life: low wages, high cost of living. Nowadays, you can work your ass off for years and never get closer to owning your own roof over your head, which is the most fundamental thing in life. If you can't be owner of the most fundamental part of your life, then what's the point of living?
If you vote for Trump, you will pay lower taxes and less on electricity and have more money to afford a house. If you vote for Biden , your tax money goes to illegal immigrants
All of the things Scott talks about in this video go back way farther than the recent high cost of living. Men have far more challenges than that. Did you even watch the video?
@@ChatGPT1111 Go away chatbot.
@@QoraxAudio Make me slimeball
I would caution against intervening on a fight, especially on a subway, unless you know you can win, or you will inspire support from other passengers.
Agreed. Read "How to live safely in a dangerous world" by Geoff Thompson to know why this is terrible advice and why he cautions against it. The likelihood is that both were turn on you. Some people have that type of relationship.
I was lucky, my male role model was my father. Not a perfect person, but the best man I ever knew. I think many boys today don't have a father in their life. They don't how to be a man because there is no man in the household.
13:00 Approaching strangers is not the problem, the problem is the timing. People don`t want to be bothered at the grocery, and it is not a casual interaction with a stranger that matter, it is the interaction that become something else.
The problem is it's never a right time to approach someone
More men should show compassion and empathy instead of a hard and aggressive exterior. Being able to show emotions would be a good start.
He's a treasure.
Thank you!
As a woman who does not have a children, I am observing families, mothers, fathers, parenting,... The thing that makes me sick is that exaggerated role of a obsessive & devoted mother, that is formed in recent decades as a kind of cultural role model ... She and her kids ... As the highest possible love union, to the point like there was never ever a father, or any of his importance ... As much as there are beauty and strength and devotion and sacrifice in being a mother, & in expressing natural tendency to care for little human beings, this trend towards new matriarchy is a way to new imbalance in our society on many levels ... And for sure, in creating insecure young men ...
0:33: 🔑 The video discusses the lack of compassion for men and the consequences of this attitude. 4:01: 📚 The education system and economic policies are biased against men, leading to shame and rage. 8:05: 🔥 The video discusses the importance of firefighters as protectors and the role of masculinity in society. 11:55: 💬 The speaker believes that part of masculinity is being the initiator in a romantic relationship, but emphasizes the difference between pursuit and being a predator. 15:47: 📺 The speaker discusses the impact of pornography and excessive online usage on young men's motivation and engagement in real-life activities. Recap by Tammy AI
2 questions: 1st, what does it mean to "act like a woman"? 2nd, what exactly is wrong with a man acting like a woman?
There is nothing wrong with a man acting like a women. Genderroles are a social construct and they change over time
It absolutely astounds me that statistically MOST people meet their partners online! What happened to meeting in person, at parties, in the supermarket, on a walk, anywhere! But online? Really?
This is such a great video. Lots of wisdom
This needs half a million views.
His quote about the average age of a 1st time home buyer 1980 to 2024..... that's Supply-side economics at work.
....driven by deficit spending and money printing (aka M1/M2 Money Supply, aka buying votes).
The guy starts well, addressing the issues with some man models that you can find online. The derails with the confuse discussion of the "protector" and the trans community... we once treated mental illness as something serious, the downside was that most of the time the one with the problem felt ashamed and was treated as he/she should feel like that. going back to his argument, you can't say the moment before that frontal cortex of our brain develop until 21 (women) and 25 (men) and the moment after saying that a doctor can decide to transitioning a 15 yo boy/girl... Be a protector, support them, talk to them and help them to work out their issues, once grown and become more wise they will make up their mind as they see fit.
Interesting, now imagine this conversation had money not exist . The real problem is capitalism is eating itself.
That may be true but with communism, there is nothing to eat unless you stand in a bread line for 4 hours.
Amongst the firefighters, a woman was one of them and they all simply "bounded up to the 11th floor" to save people from the fire. So, the notion of a 'man' acting like a 'woman' is problematic, why?
The men at the top of the heap are not exactly thriving either. That kind of sexual power is very erosive to the soul and encourages greater and greater aggression and contempt for their partners. In the past, rakes or womanizers, whatever you want to call them, were not necessarily shunned, but were identified and siloed into roles or situations where those talents and characteristics would do the least harm to the general community while maybe leveraging some of their unique skills. In many ways they are in as much trouble as the incels, essentially victims of their own success.
Even when there is a father in the home working full time and a mother working full time (which there basically is no choice) workers have barely any vacation time to spend with their kids. Hard to be a good model when your burnt out all the time! Europeans get 5 weeks off when they start a job. We are lucky to get one. Time to advocate for our workers.
it kinda happened for the youtuber Shoeonhead , when she showed compassion for men in one of her videos
Shoe’s good people.
Andrew is 100% correct !!
Once costs go down and people are actually able to live comfortably, things will equal out again but the people in charge kinda like us in our pens
"every digital version of your life is a shittier vision of the analogue version" 🔥🔥🔥🔥
The distruction of the nuclear family
Even if a boy and young man has a man at home or brothers doesn't mean those are role models I even moved to an all male school and all male teachers...I still didn't have any male role models (or positive role models)
When blue and red sides square off at the 'split', the red side will have no difficulty recruiting for militias. It will be a growth industry. Pray the split is peaceful.
There's an American militia... then there's Sun Tzu. The brains aren't on your side 🤷🏽♀️
Scott, all the best mate, you're content is phenomonal.
Enjoyed up until 9:20. No, children cannot consent to being put on chemical castration drugs.
I think Galloway means well but he is really scared of the left and feminists. Any time he starts agreeing with men's issues too much, he will randomly throw out some progressive talking points about abortion rights or transgender issues.
A non-American comment here, he says men should be protective over trans people. But parents and doctors are subverting minors to gender-change operations. So, a logical conclusion is that men should protect them against parents and doctors, which translates they should protect them from their own ideology. That's tricky...
You're right. It takes approval from their teachers, principals and the school nurse.
@@ChatGPT1111 You missed my point ChatGPT. No child should be allowed to do this until they reach adult hood. The brain doesn’t finish developing until 25.
@@martyevans1 if that is the point you were making, I agree with you.
Every person, irrespective of gender, at some point, will question their purpose and meaning of life. Nobody knows what we are. Nobody knows what's going on. Nobody is really in charge. Society, including those in our immediate environment may attempt to define our identity or purpose or not. The byproduct of which is this pressure to be this person / role/model. OR the pressure just to be, with no person/ role/model.
The term used to describe this is "organic". People just use that as an excuse for all that is going on, rather than saying we need an actual carefully planned mid-course correction because we are heading in the wrong direction......off of a cliff.
I’m not lost. I’m right here!
Youre trying to be too pure and justified in every field and aspect. It doesn't seem achievable, but I like it.
"You don't need to understand stuff to protect people"... wow this Galloway is crazy!
No he is an idiot
I did not have role models growing up g up. No matter, I looked at fictional characters and one real-life person whose behaviors represented the kind of person I wanted to be: Pa Engle from Little House on the Prairie (family, husband, father), Jean Luc Picard from Star Trek TNG (leadership), and Steve Jobs (innovation and commitment to excellence).
the 3 legs - work / love / home .. purpose / passion / place ...
Being transactional leads to being emotionally unhinged.
Tell that to women.
I was surprised when he said boys were more likely to get suspended in school for the same offense. 😲 I worked in a K-8 school for 11 years. I personally never witnessed that and certainly did not play favorites to anyone. (Although I secretly told them all, they were favorite. LOL It made them feel special. A lot of the time, they don't get that at home.) But the fact is that it does happen in other schools, I guess, is a possibility.🤔 That's sad 😔
Oh man hearing the part about porn feels so bad as an American young male. I went to University in the 2010s (and thus had access to porn the whole time), and it never even crossed my mind from age 18 - 22 that the ability to meet girls is a reason to go to class.
I like a lot of this guys analysis..being a man closer to his age, may be why also.. I haven't heard one of the major factors in all this also. Clothing, hygiene and mental health checks and balances. They all align! Have some decent shirts with nice colors. Shirts are everything! Have a nice colonge or after shave to splash on. Nice sunglasses. Dont wear fruity hats unless youre already dating and she likes it. Everyone has hat days. Get some sun! Eat at different places, change up your coffee shops.
There is some truth to this. I recently wore a brand new button down shirt (had a nautical lobster pattern) to a high end tiki bar style restaurant on the water and got a lot of looks, even some complements. When I wore tee shirts, that never happens.
@@ChatGPT1111 I've taught my son in his 20s this. When you are young, you are young, but you still want to look mature. For the longest time, I kept wearing too many tshirts on my off time. I worked a lot so wore business casual, ties and suits/blazers, but on my off time, I had that beach bum look and never paid much attention. Now in my 50s, id advise the younger men always wear collared shirts of possible, don't have to be expensive, but good colors, sometimes fun Hawaiian style....but keep tshirts for working in the yard, plumbing, getting dirty.
If the men before me chopped all the trees that I was meant to find shade under down then why in the ever loving fucking hell would i plant more trees with my goddamned labor? Not only was I born valueless, the world has devalued me and my immediate livelihood the older I get. These topics also always exhist around thw idea that these young men are already outside of thw poverty belt
Whats talked to little about is @6:30: There are factors, which should exclude you from being a male role model. Im not saying this to cancel, but this are the rules that derived from honor, chivalry etc. You cannot balance out factors like being a murderer, rapist/sex trafficer, father who abandoned his children. You are just disqualified as a role model (not a person, but people should no longer look up to you).
Some excellent insights---just needs to go deeper into the spiritual aspects of being human. .