The psychology of narcissism - W. Keith Campbell
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Narcissism isn’t just a personality type that shows up in advice columns; it’s actually a set of traits classified and studied by psychologists. But what causes it? And can narcissists improve on their negative traits? W. Keith Campbell describes the psychology behind the elevated and sometimes detrimental self-involvement of narcissists.
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My therapist said that my narcissism causes me to misread social situations. I’m pretty sure she was hitting on me.
Very underrated comment
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i love this comment
Hey as a ex narcissist i can understand what you said
lmfao 🤣 🤣🤣🤣 dude
Fun fact: the flower was named for Narcissus because of how it arcs towards the water; as if it’s looking at its reflection.
True
Cool fact 😎
Wild narcissuses also smell like rot
Yep
That's a cool fact
A lack of empathy is a big indicator of narcissism. This indicates that the narcissist is unable or unwilling to understand the desires, needs, or emotions of other people. They find it challenging to accept accountability for their actions as a result. From my own experience, narcissistic people are extremely resistant to changing their behavior, even when it's causing them problems.
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Tbf you don't need to understand or share other's feelings to feel bad for and/or have desire to help them. I'm not too empathetic but I don't think I'm a narcissist (though I do get worried sometimes, I don't relate to the symptoms)
Indeed, changing one's behaviour starts with admitting you have a problem, or at least admitting you aren't perfect. But a narcissist would rather die than admit to that.
Nah, you are wrong. They absolutely understand others emotions, they have a lot of empathy, BUT they only use it to their own advantage, manipulation. They are not psychopats. Worse.
You're wrong, it's more pathological. They are actually delusional, they believe in their reality so much it becomes they reality. They do have empathy for people, because those people are a part of the narcissists life. @@Szokynyovics
Narcissism isn't generally about thinking they're better than someone or not.. It's more about thinking of one self as the main character in a movie and everybody else exists only in relation to their self-image (supporting casts). Narcissists feel shame, no guilt. They are vaguely dissatisfied with their life. They often feel rage, sadness, anxiety with high intensity and frequently. They don't feel joy or happiness outside of themself.
The main character in a film they are directing. I like how you said they are 'vaguely dissatisfied' with life. That is an important distinction. They aren't fully aware that they are dissatisfied, but they know something isn't quite 'right', and it's this feeling that probably keeps moving them forward, in the search for the next 'hit', 'conquest' etc. Their lives are on infinite loop.
so basically they live in gta, but they dont do crimes
I feel like i have this... It's weird and I am aware of it but sometimes they just happen even though they are very unreal... Edit: grammar
Anybody who refers to another real life human being as an "NPC" is definitely a red flag for a narcissist.
Who tf doesn’t think they are somewhat the main character in some ways? Everyone is the main character in their own life, don’t just throw around a serious clinical diagnosis
Narcissus died because he heard about my birth. He was afraid of competition
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"For a narcissist, self-reflection is hard from an unflattering angle."
Midnight Midnight sounds like my mom. its scares me now
Love that. Perfect way to put it
Hard? I'd say usually impossible for a full blown narcissists.
@@kaliautencio6520 you should check out r/raisedbynarcissists
@@brianwalsh1401 I know this from personal experience, they can’t handle any criticism even when it’s gently delivered, and begin projecting onto you instead and changing the subject to talk about how you’re not perfect either and everything that’s wrong with you. Talking to them is a waste of time.
When dealing with narcissism, you should know that it’s not personal. “It isn’t personal” is one of those cliches used to cushion all kinds of bad actions taken by people who need an out for being immoral, but in this case it actually gets near the truth. Narcissists don’t know how to love or be a friend; they can’t afford to spare the energy to learn, because they’re always in a state of high emergency, cataloging potential threats and redoubling their defenses. When they claim to love you, it means nothing. They may even think they mean it, but they don’t understand the concept - they can’t feel it. They never attach to you or anyone else. Other people are paper cut-outs to the narcissist, like those cardboard figures of celebrities you pose next to for a selfie. Narcissist value their own children only as mirrors of themselves. When they destabilize you or attack you, it means nothing. They are stuck in an endless conversation with themselves, in which you are an inanimate object, to be assigned their own faults and used as a surrogate punching bag for their hatred of themselves. When they toss you out, it’s no more meaningful than a junkie tossing away a needle; when they try to reel you back in, it only means that they tired of the new drug and need a hit of the old. None of this is personal. They’re too terrified to have personal relationships, opting instead for extraction of admiration from a subservient partner whose range of action they strictly constrain. This is not personal. None of it. The narcissist does not know who you are - it doesn’t know how to know other people. Like the vampire or the chainsaw-wielding creature in the horror film, it’s from another world, bereft of the concept of human connection. Moreover, People wonder why they end up hurt, seriously hurt, and even killed for their own actions. Cheating is a choice and there’s simply a lot of ignorance in the process.... Thank you so much for helping me out Metaspyhub@gmail. com. Your advice and services helped me so much. You are a lifesaver !!! The information you gave me about my cheating partner when you gave me access to his phone was everything I needed to get,.. thank you very much..
Reading this was... a journey to say the least💀
I hate it when I read these and relate to it a lot
When dealing with narcissism, you should run lol
woww lemme use this comment for some references in my midterm essay ty
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I'll never forget my father telling me "Why do you care more about making your mom upset than you care about making me upset?" when I told him I was having nightmares because of stress about wanting my mom to be happy and healthy when she was going through a rough time.
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I’m definitely not a narcissist, I’m probably the most humble person ever despite the fact that I’m one of the smartest, best looking, most competent, and overall best people I know
you are one of the smartest, best looking, most competent, and overall best people ever. I can assure you of this. because I am the #1 in all of these things.
I believe you and we haven't even met.
HeadCanon same but thats me talking about me and also by the way youre lying im the greatest thing
@@seli3631 excuse me, did someone call (greatest thing) ??
You think so?
I’m way too great to be a narcissist.
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+Robert Gavrila its a jokeeee
bow to the master everyone
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I've heard about you
I've realized that over the years of rise of social media, we've gotten a front-row seat to how narcissistic some people can be.
Many People will still blame saying there is mothing like narcissism and sensitiveness, these are gen z's melodrama and people should continue emotional abuse as daily normal part of teaching 'way of life' Mostly parents do this as an excuse to emotionally manipulate youngers
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It’s a strange disorder at first. It takes a while to understand the behavior could be that petty, superficial, and juvenile. What amazes people is that they seem so charming, bold, and magical. Both men and women can fall in love with the same person. It is a paradox that such talent in one aspect of life could exist next to such idiocy in the next moment. But, the most difficult lesson is earned later when he or she becomes the very last person you should ever trust on anything. Essentially this desperate, frightened and unlovable individual wants to be hugged and protected by anyone stronger or wiser than he/she. All their selfish, bombastic, and reckless behaviors are designed to create more space and exceptions for the actor. The boundaries that are shattered may be sacred to you, but meaningless to them. This is how they stun onlookers and seize the moment hypnotizing their prey. Imagine what a deer does when headlights catch them halfway across the road. That’s what they try to achieve with bigger and bigger audiences. Furthermore, they are always testing true believers for the extent of their situational loyalty. This repeating fraudulent cycle explodes opportunities to gain leverage and do crimes upon the unwitting fools that he intended to set up all along. So, his game always creates and follows the same cycles. Once you get used to the way he/she speaks, thinks, and connives, you can see if its you about to be set up, or whom among the key players that show loyalty. The narcissist giant blindspot is two fold: 1) they make a bunch of repeated mistakes, and 2) never expect the person that is setting him up to be caught. The narcissist rarely does anything he’s never done many times before. And, in most of the mistaken actions he doesn’t learn, improve, or vary in the end result. Lastly, the narcissist never works alone, he always recruits willing volunteers to abuse. Often these people are from the hypnotized or the smitten that become abusable volunteers that will always let him come back in. The cycles are always a version of what he did before. That’s why the narcissist is so predictable. If you need to find out about a cheating narcissist; send a request to: Metaspyhub@gmail. com
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You forgot to mention how they can be so toxic, manipulative and abusive, and how a narcissistic parent would think we owe them for everything they’ve done for us especially when taking care of us when we were infants. I’ll never forget my dad saying “I CHANGED YOUR DIAPERS”. They think there is just no point in a raising a child if there is nothing in it for them. That is not unconditional love and kindness
Facts
Could not have said it better...
Raising children is waste of time
Sorry that you feel like that , hope they get better 💓
I can relate to you in so many ways. My father is a narcissist and that made our whole family suffer all throughout. And the last things that u said.. You just spoke my mind
My heart aches for you in your time of loss. I will keep you in prayer, asking Spirit to protect and fortify you and your son too during this time of transition. Sending you love and light 💕
i always thought i was a narcissist, and i kinda am. I realised that i am not only a bit egoistic but i'm also a bit of a vulnerable narcissist. I get irritated or annoyed when someone is actually being better than me in something i'm good at, or when someone tries to say that they're smarter than me. I never told this to anyone for obvious reasons
Each of us registers somewhere on the Narcissist scale, but the import factor is that you are self-aware enough to acknowledge these happening. It's on each of us, individually, to make ourselves better. In this case, instead of focusing on the negative feelings of not being first (those are natural BTW), focus in the positive things. "I did my best" "they have come so far" "wow, working together makes things go faster is is more fun"... It's all in how we view things. As someone who has spent my whole life with a Narc that ranges from a 7.6 to an 8.2 on the Narc scale, I'd place you between a 2.8 and a 3.3. You have some learning and healing to do, but the first big step is acknowledging that something is wrong. Now that that hurdal is out of the way, move forward with hope and confidence that things can change for the better. You've got this!
It's actually low self esteem covered with bravado. Every moment is spent trying to convince themselves and others that they are better. Lived with one for 13 years. The psychological abuse they put you through is stunning.
Spot on. They're caricatures of what they think is perfect. My stepfather was one and so was my last partner, who never misses an opportunity to tell me dumping her was the biggest mistake of my life, although we get along fine, apart from that one jibe. I've healed sufficiently that I can now laugh in her face. Why, against all reason and our own personal experience, did we think our love would change them for the better? If push came to shove I'd rather spend the rest of my life on my own than get back with her. I take solace in the fact she hasn't found a suitable victim in the four years we've been broke up. 😂😂😂
Currently living with one for 20 years and I agree with every word.
@@lucyheartfilia2015 why haven’t you LEFT them?
@@TheLace She's my sister. And I don't give two shits about her but she's harming my parents mentally so I am staying for my parents and when I get married, I'll take my parents with me
@@lucyheartfilia2015 hang in there babes
A narcissistic ex lover after I broke up with him once told me- "I think we should get back together because rn we're both unhappy but if we get back ik I'll be happy and that's better than the both of us being unhappy" That was the most manipulative,scary, infuriating and outrageous thing I'd ever heard, please don't put up with it, don't try to change them, just LEAVE.
that literally doesn't sound like any of those things, it just sounds like you are scared to truly recognize how unhappy you are without him
Yeet Smith It shows that the other person only cares for themself
@@nabsterific so a person refusing to stay in a relationship that makes them miserable sounds less technically correct than them staying in it for the other's happiness? What are y'all on?😂 Oh no wait. Let's just play devil's advocate to be cool rather than have the emotional maturity to understand how relationships work.
My friend's husband asked, "Why do my children hate me? The neighbors have family fights too, they scream at each other too. I don't gamble, drink, or womanize" LOL He doesn't work, his family has many medical problems that are paid for by his wife and daughter. He uses his family for self-actualization and rages or shuts off when his mistakes are laid bare to him. His son is mentally unsound because of the years of verbal abuse and manipulation. His wife and daughter have anxiety that manifests in physical ailments and sometimes panic attacks. They have no choice but to move out. May be homeless once they bleed out of all savings. And yet, he refuses to divorce his wife so that she can take her fair share and buy another smaller property to live in. But at least, she had finally left him so that she and her family can heal.
@@csy897 I hope she and the kids are doing better man. These situations often make the person feel guilty for not helping or supporting their partner when in reality that's just a manipulation. All they really want is a person to baby them instead of taking responsibility. That may be because of their own personal trauma or experiences but it is still quite toxic for people around them
Loving yourself & being obsessed with yourself is absolutely fine , just make sure you don't bring other people down
I think the label "narcissist" is thrown around a lot to label someone who is confident and that we don't like. We have become a society that reacts too much and understands too little. I think an even worse epidemic in society is not the narcissistic tendencies people exhibit, but rather our sudden urge to label someone we don't understand or even appreciate as someone who "obviously" has a mental problem. As someone who has a diagnosed mental health "label", I think a better way to explain someone who is acting in a different manner then we might like or even expect, would be to go and talk to that person, and let THEM explain to you what it is that might be causing them to be perceived in a certain way. Most people have other attributing factors that are leading to their less then ideal behavior, and we should judge less and understand more, before throwing around labels like "narcissist".
Thank you for your input, it helps others like meself to see the whole picture! I still draw the line at abuse/violence, but compassion & understanding for our fellow humans goes a long way, maybe even make a new friend!☺️
Spoken like a true narcissist 🤣🤣
@@qxqp Yep that's what I also observed from people who least know what NDS is. They will label anyone that's against them as narcissist. And it's popularized more by those who have been to bad relationships.
You literally missed the point. Not everyone is a narcissist who’s confident, there’s obviously a difference/line between both
I had a """"""friend"""""". he literally talked behind everyones back and when we confronted him, he said we were a waste of time and our friend, who was his crush, was told she was a waste of time liking. is that narcissism?
When Narcissus died, the entire creations around wept for him. The trees, the river, the animals and the birds, everyone mourned his death, as they no longer could enjoy his beauty. After sometimes, they all gradually forgot about Narcissus, except the river. The river kept on crying and the water become salty, making it non drinkable for the animals and birds. To solve the problem an angel arrived and asked the river why she was still crying for Narcissus. The river remained quite and kept on crying. The angel asked whether it was because she no longer could enjoy the beauty of Narcissus staring at her. At last the river replied. "I am not crying because Narcissus is no more there to stare at me. It's because I will miss seeing my own reflection in his eyes when he stared at me" -The Alchemist.
What does that even mean?
@@leandre8896 The river is a narcissist.
@@Yiching-qs3dh Aaah ok
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I thought I was a narcissist because I spend a lot of time realising myself and my person. I spend a lot of time analysing how I think and act. I thought this was excessive and became so worried I asked my friends and family if they thought I was narcissistic. One of my friends told me that if you worry about being a narcissist and deem it a negative feature you most probably aren’t one.
Thank you. I do the same thing and was kinda getting worried.
Narcissists lack self analysing and realising ability, but still are selfish to their fullest Means they really don't have any idea about their own thoughts and actions and how it affects others because they are always right in their own pov.
Everybody is, it’s measured on a spectrum and it’s obviously human nature. (All things in moderation)
Thanks You cleared by doubt
Maybe you are a kind of empath
Thanks for posting. I draw on my clinical and corporate background to teach classes on identifying and handling narcissism. Two more types: malignant (which borders on sociopathy) and communal (doing things for others in order to get praised). Important to remember too that narcissism isn't just a characteristic of those people over there: we all have some, especially when raised in cultures or subcultures that frame narcissistic entitlement, selfishness, ambitiousness, and grandiosity as positive.
I believe that ACCEPTING OUR OWN FLAWS and trying to improve is a trait that makes us 'non narcissistic' (if that's a word)
narciisism is deeper than just taking lots of selfies. I had narc parents and ex, it's exhausting, confusing, draining, painful being with them. They will drive you crazy.. Save yourselves.
Yeah I can understand how narcissist parent can drain ur soul , they will accuse you for everything , they will abuse (physically, verbally, socially) you for things u haven't even done. My mom and I are facing this everyday, from my dad, he like I am ur dad u can't even buy cloths against my wish and permission, if not then I will abuse you.
@@t.s.p1864 same...your dad and mine would be great friends
Fax, my ex was toxic af
I was raised under a matriarchal narc - she is a blackhole and my family convened around her to save themselves and scapegoated me for decades. Took me 30 years to understand what was going on. Given that it stated in my childhood it completely stunted my development - I spend so much time feeling anxious and either hiding or diminishing my personality to appease her to ensure my "survival". I couldn't really think of the future or who I wanted to be cos I was always preoccupied with the present. Spent years and years feeling atomized and random - only in the last five years has my life started to make sense since learning what narcissism is. Yes, deeper than bloody selfies! :-)
definitely a lot more to it. they never admit that they were wrong, they act the victim, they're really impatient, they'll gaslight you, they always think you owe them something if they've done one act of compassion for you and they'll throw you under the bus for their own needs, in other words, they put themselves first over everyone else's needs.
There’s nothing wrong with being positive about your image. Just don’t tear others down.
Yeah thats what i think......theres absolutely nothing wrong with you guys being not as great as me !!!
Underrated comment
I agree except for the part about “tearing others down”. It’s a shame they’re so weak like that & I’m strong & handsome & amazing &-
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True growth of character and self actualization can only happen when you admit to your flaws and take steps to address them
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I grew up with a narcissistic father. He once said, "I am right even when I'm wrong". I developed a habit to always reflect myself just to make sure I don't turn out like him. My growth to seek love, success, or even such as happiness, has been severely stunted. For those who suffered as I did, don't give up. You can't save them but you can save yourself.
Thank you for your comment, I'm currently still suffering from his narcissistic behavior and honestly it gets tiring and as you said I tend to always think twice before I think or say anything, I make sure I'm not selfish as much as possible.
@Kraker Heya Currently, he is by himself in his home. I still keep in touch. I would visit occasionally but couldn't since lockdown.
I once said to my Dad, the only thing you taught me is how NOT to raise my children now I'm not proud to have said that to him but I did.
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I like what you said.
It’s hard to be humble when your perfect in every way. Yo Yo! Sup? Word up. Come on my peeps, that other guys way to far ahead,, make with the likes already!
Perfect except that you wrote "your" instead of "you're".
@@gewgulkansuhckitt9086Lmao, what a slap for Bill Bright
Bill Bright I hope this is a joke lol
Humility is a strange subject...if you think you're humble your probably not , if you don't think you're humble, you just might be humble. It's like blurting out " I am the greatest" ...its best to let someone else bestow that title on you. It might also be a good idea not to believe your own press. The Lord's Prayer might teach humility if you heed it.
I don't think I'm perfect. I don't know I'm perfect. I AM PERFECT.
As infants, we all begin as narcissists. We need to be taught to care about others.
I agree 1000%
I've been struggling with narcissism since my parents spoiled me a lot. My parents give me what i want and give me little responsibility to carry, since my older siblings carry more. It affects my relationship with others and now i have no friends. Being self-centred brat pushes people away from me.
Bruh same. Glad to see someone I relate to on here.
I remember telling a guy, whom I thought to be narcissistic, that he acted like Narcissus. He asked me who it was and I retold him the myth. Do you know what he said, "Isn't it a good thing?"
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It is a good thing but not if its too much so yeah for him it probs aint a good thing
It is a good thing actually from a narcissistic point of view it is like overconfidence it is good until someone destroys it
he was just a psycho
Its a good thing tho, People should have a limit to care about everyone else, I used to care about everyone else till I realized how much it damaged me, I care for myself but don’t brag about how good I am
The most succinct description I like is: A narcissist isn't trying to convince _you_ they're amazing; they're trying to convince _themselves_ they are.
wrong. The shortest explanation is: Donald J Trump.
@@scottdoesntmatter4409 TDS
You nailed it KesselRunner606 😍
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@@scottdoesntmatter4409 LMAO
Thanks for the information, helps me understand other way way much better now. Makes a great shield for protection.
I feel like this video glosses over the fact that narcissism impacts the person's life just as it does everyone around them. When you have unrealistic expectations for everything, you will always be disappointed, frustrated, and miserable, no matter how much you paint your image. It also makes it hard to connect emotionally with others, a vital part of being a human being. While you hurt others around you, you hurt yourself too. I think the best way to help them is to develop more ways to help them. More treatments, more help. You don't have to be in a relationship with a narcissist to help them.
Legend has it, we all have one person in mind while watching this....
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My crush
Tonald drump
@@meowpoosaymeow Yikes
Agree!
me watching this: “am i a narcissist?”
Ayesha Julia By wondering that you prove you probably are not. A true narcissistic type would either get mad at this video, or it would never cross their mind to apply it to themselves
self awareness is the first step to self improvement
Same.
Might be borderline but who isn’t?
The problem with this is: by wondering this, not just to yourself, but broadcasting it to other people might be your attempt at trying to get positive affirmation by other people, thus proving, to yourself at least, that you aren’t what you might’ve thought you are. Self acknowledgement is the first step on the right path, yes, but the worst kind of narcissists are the kind that subtly manipulate themselves along with the people around them. Thank you, this was my ted talk. And no, a standing ovation is not required, though my speech *was* quite impeccable, if me and my colleagues are to be believed, and trust me, they are both outstanding judges. No hate, I was just stating my own thoughts.
It's very helpful!! It help me trying to figure out the the lyrics, "Narcissistic, my god I love it" ment now I get it!!
Best Ted video I've seen this far
Only 1-2% of the population? That sounds awfully low.
people are less selfish than you think
That was back then, but narcissism is increasing in this new generation because they grow up with social media, Special Snowflake Syndrome and weak parents
Jboy J I agree. I can easily think of at least 5 narcissistic people that I know.
Well, its still around 70 - 140 million people, so yeah.
1-2% is a lot, it's like the population of France
Self reflection is hard from an unflattering angle.
That's usually true for narcissists.
Necro Fell hun...he’s quoting the video
This 😖
this taught me so much about my father
This is the right channel for the curious mind people
*Me:* I can’t be a narcissist. I’m too insecure and nervous around people. *Ted-Ed:* Well, yes, but actually- *Me:* [hyperventilates]
Oh my god exactly me🤣
Same but with new people that don't speak my language
I'm just as scared as you are.
I'm not narcissistic right? *nervous laugh intensifies*
I am so scared that people are not gonna like me becuz of reasons like this
My parents put me on a pedestal. They never said no to me, had the money to spoil me greatly and never criticized or disciplined me. My whole childhood I was told I was the best, the smartest, the prettiest and so on. As a result I catch narcissistic tendencies in my thinking all the time, like subconsciously thinking I "need" a car and couldn't handle taking the bus from school and back everyday. Luckily I am pretty good person and can think critically about my character, so I don't have narcissistic personalty disorder and recognize that getting an education is much more important than the means of getting to the school. But don't spoil your kids like that, they might turn out to be narcissistic assholes.
I can relate
Yellow W a common defense mechanism is to reject every compliment as to not be misconstrued as a narcissist.
If you don't teach kids the value of hard work they won't learn.
Same honestly, my parents never exactly put me on a pedestal but other influences sort of let this happen.
I can relate too even tho I've just opened my eyes to the fact that i do have some of those traits... The only problem i have is just that I'm self concious way after I do the things and mostly when I'm high so I'm very confused right now haha but I'll figure it out
For the first time, i read story about narcissism in The Alchemist book and now i know more about that concept narcissism
it’s so interesting to find out more about my brother
Got it? He *fell in* love.
ROFL
Love killed him...
Fell in 😂😂 got it
Gives a new meaning to falling in love
no
I work with a colleague who is not only narcissistic but alcoholic as well. Loads of fun!
I feel so bad for you! Good luck!
Stay strong my friend. You are the hero of your story :)
SunshineHurricaneMix lol
Tsnore lol
Tsnore Mine smoked pot 24/7
I deal with this so many times at work.
I was skeptical about my dad being a narcissist but now im sure of it, i love him but its the truth
I was in a long, toxic relationship with a narcissist. It drove me insane, brought me nothing but depression and suicidal thoughts, and all that time I thought that I was the one that wasn't ok or good enough, that I was the problem. If you notice that someone around you makes you feel like you're not good enough for them but still keeps exploiting you, leave them and never look back, doesn't matter if it's a friend, relative or significant other. You're better off alone or with people that can empathize with you and don't see you as a second grade person ❤️
Same experience here. It’s so subtle too. If you see red flags, pay attention. I’m an empath. I saw red flags. Looked passed them. I’m no longer an empath. It can change you.
YES! Wow that's exactly what happened to me too! I feel ya.
Seems like you were in a relationship with a psychopath. We'll they're all under the same spectrum
@@josephobetta2732 now that almost two years have passed I kinda see that too. It's a long and painful story but this year I got my sweet little revenge hehe
Cant exactly walk away from my dad though... :(
I classify myself as a “narcissist” although im not so proud of my condition. The part where he said “narcissists feel good but the people around them suffer” is absolutely true, i destroyed the best person i ever had in my life and i didnt even know why and how i did it. Seek for help? Impossible i feel too much guilt. Not all narcissists feel good about themselves believe me.
too much guilt to go to therapy..?
@@Jaylade Yes. "Therapy"=i need to go to a psychologist or psychiatrist= i need to tell him/her exactly why i belive im a narcissist/ open up about it. Cant really do that rn to be honest
Well hey! At least you took the first step to betterment - self awareness
@@ririchi6062 Thanks, i guess...
@@5hu5hu85 well why not? Everybody should go to therapy tbh, we all have problems, the sooner you deal with coping with your guilt the better. Though, npd can’t be cured but you can learn to treat it and others around you better. And ofc not all narcissists feel good about themselves, it’s a part of narcissism
The problem with narcissism is that for for someone to engage with treatment, they have to first acknowledge that there's actually something wrong with them, which most narcissists are unwilling to do
Yep, that's definitely the biggest issue for sure.
yeah, the problem is that "unwillingness to admit ones own mistakes" is one of the symptoms, making treatment difficult.
when I was in middle school, I was the most narcissist person I know but at that time I didn't realize I was. from this point ,me used to be narcissist really changed my life. Now I don't have BFF or no one to talk to. most of the time I feel so regretful that I used my friends to make myself be the main character and spotlight.
I’m not a narcissist, it’s just that everybody else sucks and I’m awesome and should be venerated as a living god.
Becareful using those words, god can see E V E R Y T H I N G. also all of us is not always the best, including you sir.
@@suzannahardjono9951 Lighten up Suzanna, it’s a joke, you know because narcissists think like that, get it?
@@suzannahardjono9951 he’s being sarcastic ya dingus
@@suzannahardjono9951 god doesn't exist. Please shut up and stop shoving your religion down everyone's throats we're sick of it. Plus it's a joke, when are you people getting those sticks out your asses?
@@suzannahardjono9951 shut up
The hardest truth to accept is the truth about oneself.
James Bradley amen
James Bradley although we all know who we really are!! Each person knows him or herself !
alice p They don't.
So true
how can you accept yourself if you are a narcisist?
As a person who has dealt with a narcisstic "matured" person before Yeah uhm.. It was hard. She was a trusted friend of mine but then she was became narcisstic and left a huge impact on my mental health.
Love the animations for this. Especially the American graph
I'm slowly realising that I've been a narcissist all my life. I strongly believe reflection is the best kind of therapy. Different perspectives certainly help.
I thought so until I realised narcissism as an aspect of our personality is a spectrum. We all fall on it to some degree,. It is possible that you are overestimating the narcissism in you. A full blown narcissist is unlikely to recognize that they are a narcissist apparently.
@@shubhadas4072 some of them are more likely to even admit that they're more narcissistic than others
First, it's a good thing that you're willing to admit that. Second, like it was said before, narcissism is a spectrum, so yes, you might be somewhere in it, but if you've realised that on your own and you understand the need for you to address it, then let me tell you you're not a pathological narcissist. That's because they live in the shell, never allowing themselves to look inside themselves. That's actually why they destroy everything around them; since they need constant attention, they get bored easily, and for them being bored is a major issue because they don't want to be left alone with their thoughts and feelings. That's why they're always plotting their next move, be it a career move or just something they can use to cause trouble between two or more people.
The fact that you're admitting that you are means you're likely not one. Also. Humans are naturally narcissistic, it is when it goes beyond the lines of normal that you are labelled as one
help i think im slowly turning into a narcissistic. I want attention but at the same time i dont really want it. There are a bunch of other things but its weird.
"Its like a disease where the sufferers feel pretty good, but the people around them suffer." Sounds like my family😅
Leisa Faimalie same
It runs in your blood. 😁
Lol same
That's a :( not a :D I recommend that your family goes to family therapy to deal with the narcissism.
Leisa Faimalie I've seen this play out more than once!
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I thought I was a narcissist because I care a lot about myself but thanks for the video you made me clear that I'm not narcissist but just treating myself better than before thank you so much 💝
The worst part of it is that as a narcissist, you legit feel that everything you do is fine or in some way, superior. Even mistakes. And so accepting that is a problem and you have to change its almost imposible because you feel super proud of it
Yes.... and it is explained in the video... So....
I'm sorry but I feel narcisst need to go get their head examined they are truly sick mentality I've had too much of that toxicity in my life I can't think of anything good a narcissist does except trying to ruin people's lives because their lives are ruined internally
As a matter of fact I think this new administration the pretend ministration there's a bunch of narcisst in our government oh my God they're all over the kind of reminds me of cockroaches
Being an Asian child with very controlling parents , I am so sure that I am a vulnerable narcissist and it is very hard to go on with life with this condition. I check myself in the mirror like 100 times in the mirror everyday thinking I am very handsome but when I meet someone whom I think is more attractive than me , I feel depressed to the point I won’t eat and sleep . I think it has something to do with my parents comparing me to everyone who is better than me. Narcissistic people are confident they say but I think they are equipped with a lot of insecurities as well. I am not sure but that is my case . I wish to go to therapy but mental illness isn’t a thing here yet.
you should do research before self diagnosing.
Damm stole the words from my mouth
the whole world literally make fun of me for not being smart and pretty,but idc i just accept myself for who i’am,even tho my whole family is handsome/pretty and smart,my parents and siblings tell me that they are very embarrassed to be with me bc of my school level i live in the netherlands and my level of school is literally SO low,everyone ask me what level i’am when i’m telling them truth they making fun of me even strangers do that,so i studied hard and school starts getting better and people until now still making fun of my old school level,that’s the time when i realised there is no respect in this world no matter who you are.
the whole world literally make fun of me for not being smart and pretty,but idc i just accept myself for who i’am,even tho my whole family is handsome/pretty and smart,my parents and siblings tell me that they are very embarrassed to be with me bc of my school level i live in the netherlands and my level of school is literally SO low,everyone ask me what level i’am when i’m telling them truth they making fun of me even strangers do that,so i studied hard and school starts getting better and people until now still making fun of my old school level,that’s the time when i realised there is no respect in this world no matter who you are.
SAME HERE , BEING AN ASIAN AUTOMATICALLY PUTS YOU INTO THE CATEGORY OF NARCISSIST, I HOPE WE BOTH FEEL GREAT ABOUT OURSELVES AND FEEL LESS VULNERABLE SEEING OTHERS HAPPY.
in my case, not only was i prejudiced against any suggestion that i was anything short of perfect, but i also was inconsiderate of the effects my actions had on the world around me. so basically i relied on those same people to make the perfect image of me that i want and was unable to communicate what that looked like.
This was a short yet comprehensive talk on the matter! 👍
It's a pathology where everyone involved suffers but the centre victim does not realise their suffering. (Allow me rational/instinct/brainstorm liberty here ✌) One might compare it to a painless cancer that is failed to be recognised by the patient.
The used metaphor was Not intented to insult cancer(of any kind)-patients nor diminish their suffering!! 💚 #OneLove
I would like one about why women stay in abusive relationships
One of the reasons could be Stockholm syndrome
Trixi trxi the propaganda meant to help them plays a role in that, like when domestic abuse is portrayed as full on knocking your spouse out cold or something as bad as that then they won't think it's abusive, when statistics show that blah blah only 2 percent of blah get blahed then they'll lose trust in the legal system which makes them not bother to try, and also their spouse can threaten to kill them and their family and other horrible things like that notice i used gender neutral pronouns, men can get abused too (someone's gonna spark a flame war and i'm gonna regret this extra little bit but right now that doesn't matter)
da Wolfy Yes men can also be abused, although there are mostly women. But yes I totally agree with what you say.
Cognitive Dissonance/Trauma Bonding results in C-PTSD its a head fuck!
Dependence. Financial dependence when the victim has not learned a job. Social dependence when the spouse has isolated the victim from its friends and family. Emotional dependence when the victim can not imagine a life without the spouse or when the victim already has children it does not want to leave behind.
My "dad" 100% but one thing is wrong here, the narcissistic doesn't change. They don't have the slightest clue on how to be a normal person.
Courtney G *P R E A C H*
They know what they're doing, they don't changejust because they don't want to change. They enjoy their lifestyle and how they are, and think there's nothing actually wrong.
My mother too. Our whole family suffers because of her.
@@sneha3777 Sounds like a perfect Indian or south asian mother
@@zongxina1817 lmao
I’m a very humble person and that’s one of my many great traits
Really broken down for easy understanding. Thank you for sharing
I think my father has this.. 😑 He always thinks he's right and he becomes aggressive when someone disagree with him even though he's the one who's wrong 😒
Steffie Swift The day Trump reversed his unpopular policy of taking children away from their illegal immigrants, Ivanka merely congratulated and thanked him. There was a bit of an uproar around that because she didn't call him out on it. Notice she would never disparage or criticize him in public. I assume she does that in private with him as well... Because you can never confront or argue with a Narcissist. It's a fool's errand. They will never change and will never admit fault or take responsibly for anything they've done
Thats called stubborness.
Steffie Swift this is so true
Then that would mean 80% of the father's in the world have NPD. Lol
My dad is this
Honestly just don’t give a narcissist any attention it’ll kill them 😂
Harry Sabbat nah mate they’ll just pester you until you finally give in
@@chrisding1976 yeah basically, had a guy in class who did this
LOL WUT OMG THATS TRUE 😩 uhhh this person does that to me
they develop attention seeking tactics to feed their ego. imagine them having an ego demon in their head, that demon feeds on attention, and will go to extreme levels when it's starving.
Ahh been in a relationship with a narcissist psychopath.. he made me a joke in whole university.. worst 3 years of my life
There is a person in my life that, even though is not diagnosed by a profissional (I believe not) has every symptom of narcissist personality disorder. Everything I read about that disorder can be found in that same person, out of more than 20 symptoms. It takes away the energy, good vibes, positivity of everyone, including theirs. It's like everything is about them. Some days are worse than others, just like a smoker would act if was not smoking enough. Another thing is using 1 or more insecurities (or things they believe you are insecure of) you have to humiliate you at any opportunity (even better if in public with other people). If anyone here has to deal with people like this too I just want to say: stay strong!
So, Just give yourself an honest reflection and truly caring for others.
my mother is a narcissist and a horrible human being honestly I've tried many ways to help her cause she has affected me so badly but the problem she thinks she's normal and doesn't need any help that it's the other way around and I should be the one getting help at this point I don't even know what to do with my life she's always there to make me feel like shit no matter how good I do in life and I've even moved thousands of miles away and she's still harassing me and sending me horrible messages I can't live my life normally anymore I am so afraid I'll end up like her help
plus she's religious af and eveytime I tell her to go see a therapist she says that God is the only one she'll talk to that why I fucking hate religions
Sarahhh You can't help her, you can only help yourself. You've got to remove yourself from her sphere of influence. Also try some counseling and/or group therapy.
I feel sorry for you
I experience this too with my sister. My dad, my brother and me think the same (my mother have dementia, always forget thing) we planned to bring her to see psychiatrist but she immediately got angry and offended. She say we take her to psychiatrist because want her personality be changed.
i think my brother is too?? He has LITERALLY (not an exaggeration but as in that he actually said this) that we are inferior to him. That he deserves everything because he is doing good in medicine school (which kind of scares me tbh), he HAS said he has the right to eat all the food in the house or play electric guitar at 2 in the morning because of his good grades and because he's the best musician/most inteligent person he knows. He claims knowing more than his teachers and is obsessed with correcting people even if he contradicts himself. He even once said he had perfectioned Nietzsche's existencialist theories and HE should be a philosopher, instead of everyone that actually studies philosophy. he's only 19. He thinks he is a genius. He is racist. He is an atheist that claims WE fucked up his life for being christian (even thought im agnostic but he says I'm a liar and thinks he knows better??) He even says everyone HATES him (which is not true) because he's better that everyone.
Dude I'll be honest I thought this was TED talk and clicked bait but then realized it wasn't and your videos are better. Best clickbait of my life.
Your own good ol' algorithms lead you down this rabbit hole. Big brother is learning about what you gets your attention. But will your ads change?
Clickbaited herself/himself
Both these channels are part of same organisation
R. C. Or themself.
Cainfoe well it’s made by the same people who make TED, i know what you mean but still
Wow that was an amazing explanation
Honestly, I think instead of trying to identify a narcissist in ourselves or others - I just focus on catching it as a sickness of being a part of this society, and just make sure I don't embody these traits and reflect on it if I ever do. As well as identify whether someone around me does and keep my distance if they don't reflect and work to evolve from it. I wish the video would have delved more into vulnerable narcissism.
So basically everyone is a narcissist lmao except me cause I'm better than anyone.
i love your profile pic (◍•ᴗ•◍)✧*。
hhhhhhh that's what a sight sounds like
actually you are completely wrong. i am literally a god and you are my slaves, im probably the best person i know. and the most humble. i am ont a narccasist
@@kairon5249 i created God, take that. I'm better then everyone😌✨👑
@@bruh......2005 what am I a potato? I am great namjesus, creator of everything
"Fabulous party, you know, I haven't seen this much love in a room since Narcissus discovered himself."
Eve S. Haha Hercules for the win!
Hercules 1997 lol
Herculeeees
Tough crowd.
Hercules is the best
So nice studying about my friend’s disease
Situation went to this far, pushed to reach this point I can't say i blame myself I was forcefully removed. I realized I only had me
This sounds like a lot of people on the internet
Sounds like a lot of people in real life.
Alot of people on the internet are actual people
An example is this: kzhead.info/sun/fd6teLSHqWWwrY0/bejne.html
Internet provides anonymity. It removes all social constructs and personas we all have to follow, and when it all goes, the true, human nature reveals itself. Some good, some bad. After all, internet is all about words and clicks, not actions with definitive consequences.
Blank Eyed for most people. It’s a whole other story when you have a big enough following.
Only 1-2 % of the population? I swear I can meet one 3 steps walking out of my door
WW Alex it’s hundreds of millions of people, so yeah a lot of people. It just sounds low, but in reality it’s a lot. Just like if a plane had a 1-2% chance of crashing then there would be a crash or two a day. No one would ride airplanes because they were too dangerous.
WW Alex Only 1-2% of the human population have “narcissistic personality disorder” which is like the worst, most intense, and most dangerous type of it. But narcissism is really on a spectrum and there are many variations and extents of it. In general, the figures for people with narcissistic traits go up to 25%, which is 1 in every 4 people.
1.5% psychopaths are narcissist, 10% sociopath are narcissist, and there are other types of narcissists some of them are not that harmful, internet psychological quizzes show me that I have what is called (positive narcissism) which is not even an issue, like I love myself, my looks, and stuff like that, but I don't think people owe me anything, just don't harm me and I'll ignore you, be nice to me and I'll be nice to you, I am cuter than you tho :P
Is there a mirror there?
Population is growing exponentially
Love this channel.
Wow clearly explained! Thank you.
I was raised by a vulnerable narcissist who brought me up to be obsessed with him-as a teenager I talked to my friends about him and his opinions about different subjects instead of my own. He was also a heavy gaslighter and made me think I was crazy and that everything that made me unhappy or went wrong was my fault; and I believed it until I finally was able to question things at the age of thirty. It took three years after that and a lot of help from friends before I was brave and mentally healthy enough to to leave him and move out.
damn, thats rough. i dated a vulnerable narcissist for around 7 years and what most ppl dont seem to realize about that type of naricssist, is that they almost seem "normal" but are really good at putting other ppl down (through gaslighting and genral manipulation) to make themselves feel better. gratz on being able to see what was going on and moving out. its often the hardest step, but the best one too
That’s not fair at all. I wish life had been kinder to you. I’m glad you are free now but I’m guessing it’s still really hard. Keep a strong support system and you’ll be ok.
Congratulations on getting out
"If Narcissus had a brother named Social Anxietus, he would get nervous whenever people look at him, internally die at the sight of his reflection, and then blame himself for dying." -JaidenAnimations, "Anxiety" (I think)
Ah
I am probably a reincarnation of social anxietus.
@@casanova7635 Except... you didn't die! Great job! 😃
Nice video to help me understand my mother
this epic, reminds me of the video we made on Marcus Aurelius' greatest quotes part 1.
there is a lot missing in here regarding narcissistic personality disorder: 1. if you deny a narcissist his/her wishes, they can hurt tremendously - and this will lead to them wanting to strike back - a mere "no, i dont wanna go an a walk with you now" can lead them into a downward spiral of negative thoughts which they will try to counter with even more grandiose ideas about themselves. 2. the are often very depressed either coz they notice that others dont get their awesomeness, or because they themselves can not ever reach the level of perfection they feel they would need to reach to be as worthy as they want (need) to be. 3. as they despise ppl who are not outstanding, they can hate themselves big time when they make mistakes, and again counteract with more grandiose ideas. 4. they really have very little to no emotional empathy (just like a psychopath), but do possess rational empathy (also like a psychopath) - which is nothing but being good at understanding what motivates ppl and they use it only to maliciously manipulate ppl. 5. they have a a deformed or no personality core at all. as in, they dont really exist as individuals.
good comments what do you mean when you say that they don't really exist as individuals, can you expand on that?
Chad Thundercock no sense of self, as in they are shallow people with little to no personality whatsoever/ prone to being unpredictable
lizvlx thanks bro...that would be me
İ have it then :(
"they have a a deformed or no personality core at all. as in, they dont really exist as individuals." I found that statement very interesting. Would love to hear more of your thoughts on that!
Is that supposed to be a picture of Trump at 1:31?
+Physics Videos by Eugene Khutoryansky This Channel is run by libtards.
+Physics Videos by Eugene Khutoryansky I noticed the shade.
+Deadalus DX So, you're unable to respect people's political beliefs like an adult?
+Deadalus DX the fact that donald trump has so much support, shows how pathetic the republican party has become
+Physics Videos by Eugene Khutoryansky Obvious propaganda is obvious.
Damn this video explains the world deeply
Before I watch the video, I'm going to call that there are going to be comments about Donald Trump.
Called it
Patricia, did you think Trump was a saint; and we needed to talk about saints? Trump is a Narcissist. Period !
+Conchita Reyes wtf are you on about
Before I read this comment, I am going to call that there is going to be someone acting as if they predicted the contents of the video.
Mahmoud Elsharawy I wasn't predicting the contents of the video lmao 😂😂 I mean, the title is pretty self explanatory: What is Narcissism? I simply predicted the contents outside the video; the comments. And I did predict, I didn't read the comments and then made a bullshit statement about predictions. Lmao, don't try to be a smartass not to be mean or anything...
Q: What is NARCISSISM? A: All "Instagram Models"
True lulW
Lou Cof , too much self love ..
Lou Cof it’s actually much more nuanced and dangerous than someone who takes selfies too often.
@@monicalinette8191 nah that's a pretty good sign
Some ended up on drug charges .
There is so many narcissistic people out there whether life be a movie or not... It's not good to be a narcissist and you know who you are.
Narcissim can be a real mind trip if you actually get to know one. Somewhat like sociopaths they can act in ways coinciding with empathy or compassion because they recognize the social currency element in such acts, a means of "appearing good" in order to further stroke their inflated self-image. My ex would do things like mentor kids and contribute to charities, but his actual mental investment in those activities was almost non-existent. He did good works because he wanted to be able to say he did good works - which amounted to more gaslighting ammunition when you tried to call him out for bad behavior.
“Social currency” so true.
@@serenabaney997exatamente
The two top comments "I'm way too amazing to be a narcissist" and "I’m definitely not a narcissist, I’m probably the most humble person ever despite the fact that I’m one of the smartest, best looking, most competent, and overall best people I know" sound like Trump quotes
Well, when you have to compulsively plaster your name on all your products and buildings..... you're probably not a very humble guy to begin with
They did show him around 1:30
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Yeah, that is incredibly true