4 Types of Narcissism
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Leading psychologist and author of "Should I Stay or Should I Go: Surviving a Relationship With a Narcissist" Dr. Ramani Durvasula walks us through the 4 types of narcissism that you need to know.
She answers:
What percentage of the population/how many people are narcissistic?
What is a grandiose narcissist?
What is a covert narcissist?
What is a malignant narcissist?
What is a communal narcissist?
How do you spot the signs of each type of narcissist?
Which type of narcissist makes a good criminal?
Which types of narcissists have empathy?
Which type of narcissism is often misdiagnosed with depression?
Which type of narcissist loves to post on social media?
Are there more narcissistic men or women?
Does narcissism help people become successful in their career?
Does success make people narcissistic?
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handicap friendly ... she has no legs.
Just curious if 2 people A and B respectively who know each other meet and greet and A begins to want to engage in gossip but then B interjects by explaining that he/she is not interested and then goes on to say that he/she would rather help and not hurt as well as explains how he/she helps the homeless and or people in need rather than put people down and harbor ill will towards someone ( unless they feel really hurt ) Does that make B a communal narcissist?
Many of these psychopaths, other mental disorders r devil possesions
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MedCircle damn shes good. can you diagnose someone I know.
I was with a narcissist for 12 years. 19 to 33. I'm 54 now and it's been 21 years. One thing I can say for sure. If their absence brings you peace you did not lose them you have won yourself again
This is narcissistic lmao!
You've evidently not experienced life with a narc.
I understand where you are coming from 🥺💔
Thank YOU so much. I'm gonna get out!!!
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She really needs her own channel. Dr Ramani is so articulate.
Lynd XOXO right! I learn so much so effortlessly.
I feel like she would much rather spend time with her family and writing enoying life than to plan, film, edit, upload, respond....etc.
🤔 probably right.
I'm articulate....do I need my own gottdamn channel??!? Just kidding bro
rumpleforeskin73 Oh my, here we have another wannabe smartass with a big mouth but a small brain... is it that season of the year already?
Being or living with a narcissist is like having to fight your way to more freedom minute by minute. You often feel like you are fighting for the last little piece of turf, or for more air. You feel like you are suffocating in their presence. You feel like you are in a prison.
Yes, i'm in it. Like every minutes like a stepping on an egg shell. Observing his mood is much more important than anything to keep living peace and quiet. And I still couldnt escape from it, he always has something to threaten me so i couldnt easily go
@arizqiardhina6182 Please be careful and try not to react. The way I got out was to shut off communication. I filed a police report just in case something happened to me. I begged him to get counseling but he never would. If you are planning on leaving, make sure you have everything ready for you to leave. Make sure that you are safe above all.
YES
Yes. I left as soon as I had somewhere safe to go. He was my father. No-one is sorry he's dead.
My Dad was malignant narcissist. I was scapegoated as a child and still am by 4 siblings, but am becoming able to transition to truth teller at age 64! Thanks be to God.
He probably grew up during a time when human connection was 24/7 and had to be mean and when the new generation came he found out how to lash out without being mean
I could listen to this woman talk all day. Her signal-to-noise ratio is delightfully high. No weasel words, no null syllables, just confident information.
Gamina Wulfsdottir lol
Well said. Totally agree!
Gamina Wulfsdottir you should listen to Jordan Peterson. Lol. He's like 90% falsetto and 10% helium
Very well said!
But he's also 100% full of BS.
I have an aggressive bipolar narcissistic mother with no empathy and my father is a covert narcissist. Me being alive and okay is indeed a miracle.
i will pray for you 😅
God bless
It's not even funny. 💗💗💗
Great !! you are aware of it. For now on, It cannot be an excuse.
it's always about YOU isn't it !!!
I would say the first sign will come from your own gut feeling which will send signal to your body telling you that this person doesn't make you feel comfortable being around him/her. The fact that you are already asking this question should alert you to be careful. Something will feel off and you won't know what it is exactly. Covert narcissists can act very charming in the beginning but there will be often also present underlying sense of superiority about them. That sense is actually deriving from them feeling insecure about themselves, so they tend to quietly degrade others in order to feel better about themselves. On the other hand if covert narcissist feels that you are above his league, he will act like your servant, trying to please you - almost annoying in a way. But make no mistake. If you decide to stay in a relationship with him, he will downgrade you and abuse you like all the others. Because in his mind, if you love him, he thinks you are unworthy of him. Covert narcissists hate themselves so if someone loves them, than they think this person is worth less than them and that they can do better. Other sign to look for is any kind of judgment towards others. If he criticises other frequently, he will more likely criticise you as well once he gets more comfortable around you. Pay attention to how he treats people that are dependent on him as well. Narcissists hate those especially if they can't get anything of of that for themselves. Moreover, Cheating in marriages is not restricted to only men. Women cheat as much as men do. If you're suspecting your wife of infidelity, you'll have to keep an eye on her of her without her knowledge of her. One of the best ways to know if your spouse cheats on social platforms is by paying close attention to how your spouse behaves while online. The signs are pretty the same. Is your spouse more time on the app without explanation and gets unnecessarily defensive when you ask about it? If your spouse behavior has changed lately, and continues to spend more time on social apps, it's time for you to take action, with the help of a private investigator (suggested; METASPYHUB@GMAIL. COM , you can find out what is taking all their time on social apps, who they are talking to and other things happening,,
narcs target empaths- people who do not perceive those red flags. Most empaths are codependents and many of them were abused by narcs as children- so the chaos seems normal to them. Everyone else is safe as they will see the red flags and run.
Hey, do you have any more materials I can further read about this? What you said is spot on, coming from a narcissistic guy. I want to learn to manage and better myself
I am a self aware narcissist, and everything she says about narcissism; is true!!
As someone diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder, yep I actually see myself in her examples!
Think I'm the covert narcissist minus the low key negging. I love praising people for their accomplishments where I faltered. You can do it!
i really hope you guys can heal and live a happy life. much love
Thank you for acknowledging it… god bless you.. I hope that you find healing and happiness in your new self awareness
How do you know if you are a narcissist?
Getting my Psychology degree via KZhead today. Can't stop watching these videos.
With this bad information you won't make a great psychologist. Check her facts. It is bollocks.
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Me too💪
@@Mzansi74 R u a serious Narcissist??? You seem so. I smell it.
What's crazy is that the doctor in the redshirt is a narcissist. And what's even crazier is no one else here seems to notice that
<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="120">2:00</a> Grandiose <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="148">2:28</a> Malignant <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="223">3:43</a> Covert <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="410">6:50</a> Communal
janeukraine thank you so much for this !
How annoying :/
janeukraine Thanks!
Communal sounds like politicians lol
I know two coverts and two over ya
The _communal narcissist_ never does those “charitable”things when no one is there to witness it.
Lonely tears are true tears. They will never feel good about themselves if there is no one to witness it.
I initially thought I was a narcissist, maybe a mix of covert and communal, my ex used to keep telling me I was a narcissist so I blamed myself but this video changed my views, no I am not a narcissist, I am a human, an empathetic giving human who takes accountability for their actions, who knows when I did something wrong and I need to make it right, I feel immensely guilty for hurting others and I give and give and give and only expect a little respect and love from the other person and isn't expecting love in return is what a normal human expects... No way I am a narcissist.... First my father then my bf of two years kept making me feel how I was not good enough.... I am tired of narcissists making me feel I am insufficient... Thank you dr. Ramani.... Knowledge does make one powerful!
Sadly this is something I've experienced a lot as well. We all make poor choices in life and I found recently no matter how much I try to address them and move on with the lessons learned its never quite enough. There is always a mistake or poor choice to talk about and never anything beyond that to focus on.
nah you're probably an empath, aka a codependent. We feel very deeply and are the suckers that fall for the narc game
Ur a Narc not ur Husband
1. Classical narcissism <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="122">2:02</a> 2. Covert narcissism <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="230">3:50</a> 3. Communal narcissism <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="420">7:00</a> 4. Acquired narcissism <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="694">11:34</a>
You skipped over the Malignant type
A majority of narcissists need to live on their own. And not have a great social circle,fed up of some people I know of demanding attention, grandiose persona and lacking of empathy. Very weak and needy self absorbed people and dead behind the eyes 🙄
How does one differentiate elements of narcissism from eg borderline pd?
@@paulallen954 are you talking about sociopaths and psychopaths? Which is extremely different from narcissists
@@jennyaldridge3499 She mentioned it in 1.
My parents are both narcissists. My father is a malignant narcissist and my mom is a covert narcissist. What a couple. It’s a nightmare to live with them. I had to be my own parent because they would only care about themselves. I had to be a dad and a mom to my siblings. When we all finished college by working part time, we moved out and got jobs. Lo and behold, they both demanded half of our salaries because they endured raising us. Wow. We cut ties with them and helped our grandparents instead. We’re all worried that we might become narcissist like them but we’re thankful we’re not. It’s so hard but we’re so glad we survived.
This is my number one worry as well. That I might have become narcissistic.
If you're worried about becoming a narcissist, you certainly won't. That thought and self awareness would NEVER cross your mind
I’m so glad you all got out!!! Wishing you the best
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Omgggggggg this is literally me mate. I’m glad I’m the only one who’s exactly going through what you were mate
I just left a relationship with a narcissist and am beginning to heal and learn from this, these videos have opened my eyes and are making me understand why this happened with me.
Sorry you had to go through this. No one deserves it. Hope you're doing better now!
Hey, I just broke up with my girlfriend yesterday and I really think she was a covert narcissist. Can you help me, like does it get better with time? I really can't stop crying because I wanted us to be together forever and tried teaching her how to communicate and everything and we broke up at the end after being together for almost a year and I know I should not be feeling guilty but she's blaming me for everything and it's always been this way. Would you please give me an advice?
What a beautiful and intelligent woman she is. You can tell how excited she is to talk about something she's super knowledgeable about.
i was w a covert narcissist for only two years and let me tell you, DONT SECOND GUESS THE RED FLAGS. its not worth it man
Desiree 'Fields same...me too,I left about a month ago! Never will I go back...I’m tired,so tired now to run through those circle...I don’t have the energy anymore tho I miss him a lot sometimes.His final shrikes was unforgivable...mine was sex addict too.
Maximus Malcolm if I would have known him in the early stage than I won’t ever like him...Seek help!
@@christinabeita5671 me right now! Loves sex but seems to be driven by how I react and he lied to me. I cant stop crying
Honey Heroine I had 20 years married to one .hes very cunning .i always new something wasn’t right .he was cheating I left finall y .hes pure evil .i now live on my own .
@@michelleg5371 it sounds like yours was the term I have heard which is demons in human flesh. And that is not an exaggeration on a human being. And it is not a figure of speech. From dealing with two at my work and from Googling that term I have come to realize that there are people, human beings, on this Earth that do not have a human soul from God but instead have an unclean spirit or a demon inside. They do not just say "Wooooooo, look at me, I am a demon now watch me kill everyone." Instead they live their life as a regular person but wreak havoc throughout and ruin people's lives. Once again it is not a figure of speech, demons in human bodies. It is real, there are two races of beings on this planet that both appear the same on the outside.
I’m a licensed psychologist. This woman is Spot On. I’d love to see more of her.
she has a youtube channel, check doctor Ramani on youtube and she has plenty of other contexts on other youtube platforms
@hulksmash05 🤔
yep
She has KZhead channel
@hulksmash05 HAHAHAHAHAHA I spit water
My spouse accused me of being a covert narcissist. I took her accusation seriously and started reading about it. I also suggested to my spouse that we go a marriage therapist to discuss my narcissism openly and get feedback from a professional. She refused. So I started seeing a therapist on my own. We have now been meeting for several months. I sincerely want to understand if indeed I am a narcissist, and if so, where it came from and what I can do about it. The therapy session included a test for covert narcissism. While these types of tests are less than perfect, the test indicated that I was above average for covert narcissism but within the normal range. According to my therapist, nearly everyone carries some some elements of covert narcissism but it can range from nearly nonexistent to extreme. So far, based on the testing and my therapists input, my narcissistic tendencies appear to not be abnormal and not dysfunctional. But I will continue to work with my therapist to try to become more aware of any narcissistic tendencies and to develop ways to eliminate or minimize them. This isn't easy but I am trying my best. I just wish my spouse would be willing to discuss her perceptions with me, and maybe the therapist as well, so I could better understand her experiences and how I may be triggering them. But anytime I ask to discuss it, she just becomes angry and refuses to engage.
Unless you are being really deceptive with your post, then I am pretty damned sure you are NOT a narcissist. As you already stated, everyone has traits of covert narcissism to some degree and being above average in that area doesn't by any means make someone an actual narcissist. I also wonder if your spouse is projecting. If she brought up covert narcissism, but refuses to go to therapy while you are doing everything you can to honestly seek out what may be wrong with you, then maybe she is a covert narcissist who is projecting it on to you. I am not saying that she is, but merely that it's something to think about.
@ Don if you had NPD you would NEVER go to a therapist. Everybody has a little of something in them, it's when it's at an EXTREME is where the problem is. Ppl with NPD, are UNABLE to feel empathy or sympathy. They can PRETEND very well. They copy and watch YOU and PEOPLE around them on how to be HUMAN. SADLY there is no cure. These ppl are literally emotional vampires. They DRAIN you of your life force.
A true narcissist would never consider if they themselves they a narcissist. We all have narc traits.
Well, thats your side of the story. Sorry for being that honest, but I don't know you and I don't believe you will find a good answer here. Anyway I wish the best for your marriage. PD: Sorry for my english
The mere fact that you are willing to dive into it is an indication that you are NOT a narcissist.... they don't do the introspection thing..... 🙋
I'm a coach and had an athlete who was a narcissist. He got in my head, drove me absolutely nuts, but also intrigued me. He would say the most odd things, and i couldn't figure out where he was coming from until I came across Dr. Ramani.
You can not resonate with them. They always have to be in control.
when you realize family members are matching perfectly to the descriptions
lol. while learning about covert narcissist, i thought every person would think about their spouse/partner 😄 i definitely thought about my spouse. he barely spends time at home but he thinks he's a victim 😕 and that he's sacrificing his life for this family and has been less acknowledged for it ☹🙁 edit: he's very mean to me too 😢. I'm pregnant and need bedrest. his reaction, "you are a faulty woman! it's your defect that you need bedrest. why should i suffer?" me: 😲😲😲
Mrs Pal stop complaining.Its pathetic.
GRIZZ GOD the hell do you mean stop complaining “it’s pathetic”? You just watched a video about narcissism and the way it affects other people, of course she’s going to complain, it’s horrible! I’ve seen family members suffer through this, that think they aren’t good enough and get called so much shit but don’t do anything about it cause they care more for their families than themselves. This personality trait affects so many people negatively and you have the audacity to tell her to stop fucking complaining? Go comment somewhere else that it’s needed, not under a persons comment who is sharing their experience.
alfredo.sauce 0_0 if that ain’t true
beep boop no one cares about her experience. Instead of complaining,she should do something about it
My wife is part of that 20%. I'm going through this now, no contact! I'm done feeling at fault for everything. Verbal abuse is REAL!
Good for you to get out of that situation!
Right there with you. My husband is one as well. I have two kids with him. And am starting the process of divorce. It’s awful and unreal! I didn’t realize until my mom helped me realize what it was. Then I started researching. I didn’t want to believe such people existed and my marriage was a sham...
@@jessbmee9892 the only thing I want to say is, I'm sorry this is happening to you and you're kids!. Stay positive, and Thank you!
Stay strong brother....focus on only bettering yourself now and everything will fall into place, mgtow
RUN
5 years with a covert narcissist!! It's torture but thanks to guys I am learning SO MUCH 😭🙏❤️
My personality attracts narcissists all too well... I think they assume I am stupid and I won't see what they are? I don't know how it works but somehow I feel like these people such the life out of me. Convert are the hardest type to get rid off. Because you don't see that at the first glance. And everybody want to help them. I'm also kind of a person that prefers to remove myself quietly from a situation than make a bid fuss. So we get into this weird dynamic when everybody start to ask me to help X because X is "in a bad place". Now I can say that I just don't vibe with them but back in a day it was very weird for me and I had no idea what to do...
Step one is don't blame yourself. You sound like a very sweet person. If you just slow down and think of yourself too, maybe you can say, I might have a minute or so next Tuesday. Seriously, hon, maybe you should gather a list from the local library and then just say, wait! I happen to have a list of food banks, crisis shelters, community dinners, missions, etc. Honestly, people are creatures of habit and falling back into open, helping arms, to take care of them soon becomes a habit too. Those people really need professionals who are trained to teach them to help their selves. It sounds like you really have a big heart. Why don't you try to work for the literacy program with kids or adults. You meet at like a school or a church, and when an hour is over, it's over! No one has any need to know your phone number or where you live. But it sure is rewarding to see a big bright smile from an adult who has never before been able to read!!! And that makes me tear up every time. What a gift to the students, we have helped them to enter a whole new world!!! There are so many things we can do as volunteers through soup kitchens, food banks, after school programs, etc. Good luck sweet lady! You can still help others, without babysitting them and buying all of their needs! "I'm sorry, I just can't help. Or No"! Works too. Peace and Love
you are probably a empath and a blessed person. i know because i also tend toattract them
Same I think I'm dealing with one a'd she happened to my not roommate but roommate frnd
Me: "Doc, ya gotta tell me. Am I a psychopath, sociopath, or narcissist?" Doc: "You're none of those. You're just standard, pedestrian asshole." Me: "Oh thank God!... I thought there was something wrong with me."
😂🤣
"Standard pedestrian asshole." 😂😂😂
😂 👍 Touché
I love this one !!
LMFAOOOOOOOOO
1) <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="118">1:58</a> classical Narc 2) <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="148">2:28</a> Malignant Narcissist 3) <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="225">3:45</a> Covert Narcissist 4) <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="410">6:50</a> Communal Narcissist
Thank you!!
Proverbs Belle Much appreciated! 🙏
Thanks a lot !!!
My last ex is number is secretly number 2 but he is publicly number 4 to make up for his evil deeds.
Watch the body language when she says ''it's true'' on 10:57
Hi I'm Trish. Thankyou for being so informative on narcissism. Unfortunately I was married to a narcissist 11 years. I went in as a confident person, probably became a bit narcissist myself trying to defend myself. When I was no longer myself I had to leave with my 2 children. He then charmed his way into my brother and sisters lives and used them as flying monkies. My only fallback has been of what my dear old Grandfather told me, always be truthful, it's too hard in life to remember all the different lies you tell. Your mind becomes your own maze to navigate. I have now learnt to be disassociated from all the stories my narcissist husband told my family. I never married again, and ran from marriage proposals and live very happily on my own.
Hi Trish! I hope you're still doing well, you're so strong for walking away from that. I always admire people who have that strength!
@@lemonywater2979 thankyou for inquiry. Yes life is more peaceful, I still have my problems, life is always up and down, I have been praying for an end to the war in Ukraine as we all are. But I'm fortunate to have a lovely daughter and garden to look after.
The way she speaks is so clear and concise and she gives information in a way that really makes you grasp what she's talking about.
"Do good quietly," Well said.
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Yeah not his bitch ass
she is reaaally good, i can't stop watching her!
but she does not know what she is talking about, she clearly is faking knowledge; just word salade, Her smug irresponsible behavior misinforming people like that is rather apalling to be frank. IN all likelyhood, she herself suffers from NPD, a real one, not this fairytale version she dreamt up.
so you are saying that what she is talking about is not true, her theories and those types?
yes. What she says is not true. Full of contradictions and psychobabble.
Really? Her utter hyocrisy does not bother you? Let's play a game: you pick a time gap of two minute and I'll comment on that. This video is full of contradictions, literarly full.
but where is she showing her utter hyocrisy in this video?
I was with a Covert narcissist for 4yrs. The worst relationship experience of my life! So draining and emotional torture! I am finally completely moving on with my life, healing with the help of God, my therapist, family and friend support. Please be aware of the signs early and do not stay thinking these ppl will change. They DO NOT. Run and keep running. Do not do like I did and stay being blind by love. They do not know what love is. They are selfish, cold blooded people that only aim to tear you down, to make themselves feel good or superior to you.
plus they lie flawlessly because they believe their own lies and excuses
My daughter's father is a malignant narcissis who also beat me for 4 year. Covid actually made actually get away and stay gone. Music has always been a refuge and this is no exception!!
I was married to a malignant narcissist and he was everything she said, he was a liar, cheater and abusive in every way possible but he also have a little bit of the other 3 traits as well. Now he’s remarried and playing the role of an angel doing everything I begged him to do/be while we were married to try to make me jealous 😂😂 I hope he knows that I’m so much happier in my life without him so there’s nothing in this world he could do to make me ever care for him ever again 🙌🏼🎉👏🏼
Narcissism is one of the major causes of misery, the best way to find your self-respect is by sincerely helping others and spreading kindness and love to this world.
No. It's chocolate.
Then other narcissists exploit your kindness, and the cycle continues...
And getting away from Narcissists!!!!
Psychopathy is way worse. They are robots in a human body...Alltogether however, it's the Dark triad (or tetrade): narcissism, Machiavellianism, psychopathy (and sadism).
@@Avus86 Robots aren't narcissists nor psychopaths. You point is wrong.
Covert narcissist are sneaky and mean!!! But act very innocent when you snap at them for what they may have done...making you look like the evil one when others are around...🧐
Graycee Calloway they will bait you...
The term often used is ‘reactive abuse’. They focus on the reaction but pay no attention to what caused it
Sooooo true!
When she said the world is set up so that narcissists win. So true.
Seems everyone as in people may have a bit of a narcissist disposition some just handle themselves differently or may have had a better life than most maybe they were raised different meaning maybe had no trauma or abuse in their life or had better values is there any positive you can elaborate about the narcissist
I had no idea that there were different levels of narcissism, and I appreciate that this video clarified that for me. It's important to remember that having a healthy level of self-esteem is different from being narcissistic.
I don't have self esteem
Narcissists can put you down to the point of loosing your self esteem.
Oh my ! I just ended a relationship with a covert narcissist and I can see it clearer now. I still feel I come out of a nightmare ..
I need help going through the same
@@daxachampaneri9390 with time will get better, just accept it and let it go! 🙌
Social media culture I think did a lot of contribution to communal narcissism.
To me that’s a machista as well in a man
It's definitely a celebration of narcissism. It also gets people to long for and become addicted to positive affirmation.
Social media is not to blame !! Selfish self-centered people who only care about their own feelings are the ones to blame !! 🥴 This convoluted, disturbed therapist needs a therapist of her own !! 🤪
@@SweetChicagoGator you must not be under the age of 35. Suicide rates in teens have skyrocketed in the span of a few years due to the effects of social media and you still don't see that it correlates to mental health? PEOPLE ARE ONLY CARING ABOUT THEIR OWN FEELINGS BECAUSE THEY ARE SOCIALLY AND EMOTIONALLY INCOMPETENT. They aren't connecting in REAL LIFE.
@@RearviewWisdom Dont do social media and news, feks with head
I actually never rlly believed that celebrities are narcissistic, but since she said that narcissism is rather a trait than a disorder, I’m actually starting to believe that LA is a hotspot for narcissists
It is apparently a disorder, that information seems to be wrong. And you can detect it as well. No clue why she put all that stuff this way. Wiki: "Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) or megalomania is a personality disorder characterized by a long-term pattern of exaggerated feelings of self-importance, an excessive craving for admiration, and struggles with empathy.", "The narcissistic personality was first described by the psychoanalyst Robert Waelder, in 1925. The term narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) was coined by Heinz Kohut in 1968." and "A diagnosis of NPD is made by a healthcare professional interviewing the person in question.". Being a narcissist myself and having a Machiavellian and a narcissist as best friends, believe me, it's mostly malignant and definitely a disorder. Dr. Durvasula put it quite well in another video what such people are capable of. And it can be worse, esp. when they are psychopaths - just what you see in movies and series (like Tommy Volker in The Mentalist e.g.)...As being one of those, u can only hope to be lucky to have a humane part left in you that actually let's you know urself and do positive things, living a modest and quiet life - and like in my case never have children :) Unfortunately, in my point of view due to the lack of first hand- insight, the image of us is that they pretty much always harm and rarely do nice things. While it's certainly true for a lot, it's definitely not all.
@@Avus86 I was wondering how relationships go for you? Are you in therapy? It seems like you have an empathetic side.
@@TaymaShine Well, I don't know anybody like me, because I'm no full-blown narcissist, but essential character traits found in the DSM-5 and ICD-10 "are me". So I suppose that's the reason why I got a good relationship with my family and relatives as well as true friends. I was always perceived well behaved by my surroundings, polite and friendly and well mannered. And it's not even fake for the biggest part. Just with a love relationship I got my difficulties, that's an entirely different thing where it gets complicated (of course). Therapy I never did, for I am almost 100% probable intellectually superior to the therapist. Unfortunately, it's also part of my disorder, but that doesn't make it less true - or let's say that doesn't logically exclude the truth of my statement (I actually skipped a school year in elementary school and am tested gifted - plus my understanding and insight of human behavior leave little to desire; I figured out a few yrs ago that I got "Sensory processing sensitivity", which likely makes me "fake gifted" and emotionally very sensitive) - as soon as the therapist would touch this "grandeur" with any sign of denial, I'd be out...If therapy was free of charge, I'd have tried a few at least, but even here they are expensive and the chances of success are low. So no therapy till now. What's your background?
@@Avus86 Do you feel empty at your core? I would like to know what that feels like for narcissists? Have you looked into psychedelics?
@@deedee7780 No. But sometimes "lost" maybe. Though I'd say it's not due to being narcissistic but rather of the circumstances finding sb on the same intellectual level... As it says in literature, usually Narcissists have had a trauma in their early youth. In my opinion and experience it's people in the close surrounding who crushed the self esteem over a prolongued period, probably with no parental support to back that up. Partly because of incapability and/or neglection, but I don't think it's the sole main reason. However, therefore you (always?) have an insecure child at the basis of the personality that's afraid nobody loves/respects it. So you "overcompensate". Depending on the damage done, the amount of the so-called narcissistic supply needs to be delivered. What I don't know but wouldn't be surprised of: For myself I tell others that something died inside me at that time when I was a child, irreparably. Like when you lose a leg - it's gone for good. A prosthesis makes you walk again but doesn't bring the leg back. That's the main purpose of a psychotherapy. So the "empty at the core" - thing is for most affected a "missing"-feeling I suppose, if it's strong it's rather like you lost a parent at young age: sth that can always make you sad but still leaves the opportunity for a regular, fulfilled life. Because it's always a part left so that u CAN even have a "missing"-feeling and idea of a "whole". Yet a lot Narcissists won't have the mental capabilities for this amount of self reflection. But when you can tease and anger them, or even worse, embarass them and they react, then you feel there's still a real personality inside...If the damage was too great however, and/or genetic precursors support it too much, u'd become a psychopath in my opinion. Then just everything is dead inside and there is no humane part left, and those people can't understand this issue anymore nor tell you from their own experience what's wrong with em in that regard....And yes, I have. They can help :) This song fits pretty perfectly how it feels inside: "Hans Zimmer - Time (Pen Perry Remix)"
Thank you for sharing this information. I am going to survive, I will thrive and I will laugh from my belly and feel the sunshine on my face again!
Dr. Ramani I was to express my deepest appreciation for your work on this topic. I’m 45 years old and until a year ago I certainly have heard of the word narcissist but didn’t really have a working understanding about it. I may have known people with narcissistic personalities but was never in an intimate relationship with one. Unfortunately I now can say I’ve been in a relationship with one for about 18 months and it was simply awful. Your videos are eerily accurate. It’s almost like you were on my shoulder throughout this relationship. Maybe someday I will share more but for now I just want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for the work you do and I hope your work grows and grows to reach as many people in the world as possible. Nobody deserves this sort of abuse but at least if everyone is equipped with a better understanding of narcissism they can at least protect themselves if they decide to stay or until they are able to leave. Keep up the great work! -Tres
There's a lot of "how to spot a narcissist" but not enough, "how do I get help if I think I may be one?”
@Amy Shakalis I have a lot of these traits though. I am trying to be better, but you know what they say about old habits.
Stop making everything in your important relationships about you. It's not all about you. If your significant other is unhappy about the day's outing you've both just been on, find out why and LISTEN. Stop arguing in your head with everything she says. Stop lining up your rebuttals. Just listen. Actually pay attention. Even if she starts off poorly with blaming because "you chose the restaurant/holiday destination/outing venue". Just listen. Instead of making proclamations and pronouncements and passing edicts about future outings, ask her/him what would suit them better? How could things improve? Actually listen. A weird thing might happen. You'll realize you actually won't perish on the spot if you were wrong about something. You won't die if you apologize. You won't cease to exist if you "let them win". Narcissism is ego that is out of control. It's not all about you. You are the centre of your own experience, but so is everyone else the centre of their experience. You won't die if you change, even just a little. Cultivate genuine interest in what's going on for others. So many ways you can let that harmful ego down gently, and expand your inner horizons.
@@Kayenne54 wonderful thought
Fast and pray... The two remedies highest on the chart are fasting and praying
Kayenne54 wow you just cured every single narcissist
The worst part is how narcissists can sometimes be so charming and lovable until you're onto them. Then you have to fall out of love.
They´re like kids, who got new toy. Which is gonna be their favorite for upcoming few weeks, until they get bored of it and throw it away.
Omg u ain't fkn lien. I'm going thru this crap right now. 10 yrs just recently accepted the fact he's a narsasist. I let him blame it on everything being a marine mommy issues bad exs nope narsasist
Jill Peters,Hope you are not with one ?
These types souls is blessing in life religious said they are for reason in your life so always kind to them they give you good shape in life. Which people tolerate their behaviour God said they are real warriors in this world they get famous one day . Keep Faith in God then souls connect with love and coprate in life. Moody and stubborn behaviour brings lots fear in life. Stress and guilt stop blessing. Cut down desire only grateful. Do little things for others builds up happiness in heart. They belong to our past life karma.
@@Morpheus-pt3wq they are blessing soul religious said always kind to them they give you good shape if you tolerate them and forgive them they make you a great person in life.
I must get an official CNPD diagnosis and seek treatment. It's time to learn, understand and grow. Theres more to life than what you see in the mirror and how people treat you. Time to learn me. If you're gonna be stuck in a prison for life, might as well learn how to live in it and live among others. I listened to this lady explain my 30 years of existence/experience in 3 minutes. I've been labeled this by people who barely even knew me. I didn't and still don't even know what a narcissist is. I just know that the explanation hits home 100%, regardless of video, article etc. it's all there. I care and at the same time, don't give a damn. Some days, I feel, others, numb. The issue is, I like that, and I've noticed that others do as well. However, as of late, this instability hasn't gone unnoticed. It's time for a change. All along, the problem was and is me. #textbook 😢
Good Morning Dr. RAMANI, I am writing to thank you sincerely for your channel and all of the effort, research and work you place into your content. I have learned so much from you in the short time since I’ve discovered you. Truly lifelong valuable information that has made so many of my experiences with others make sense and has given me both intellectual and emotional resolution when previously I continued to feel hurt and confusion. This learning really has had so much value for me. Thanks again! And have a lovely day and weekend! Take care, Dee:)
I love Dr Ramani, she's so intelligent, insightful and confident
You glowing
Why is nikki the covert narcissist? Kim should be?
I fear she may be a narcissist.
My sentiments exactly, Nicolas Martin. Something is wrong with her.
Believe me you do not need to go through stress trying to hack into our narcissist partner's phone ourselves. It is advisable to hire a professional trackers When I needed to hack my partner's phone, I contacted Genuistracker team, all i did was to share my husband's phone number and they did a good fast job for me, without touching his phone, in less than 2hrs. They made it possible for me to see my partner's chat Histories, Present/Deleted chats, Text messages, Incoming and Outgoing calls, Location FB and Whatsapp conversations etc.. You can text/call +1 (415) 323-6758 or reach them on WhatsApp +1 (724) 330-3252 and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701) and don't forget to thank me later
My husband was diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder after he went into a VA Home. They haven't told him because they're afraid of how he'll act. He was very verbally abusive to me but outside the home everyone thought he was wonderful.
Finally, the only commentor that I've seen that actually has a professional diagnosis versus someone listening to a podcast and thinking they can now diagnose anyone and everyone. Insane!
So is it bad to tell a verbally abusive spouse that they have NPD??
@@sunshine.9999 not all verbally abusive people are NPD but all NPDs are abusive
Let's just say, kill em with kindness he'll respect your game
@@BenjaminMerkley that's an unfair statement. Most narcissists will not subject themselves to being diagnosed, so being able to cite an official diagnosis is highly improbable for survivors. Many people truly touched by narcissism spend years independently researching the cause of their loved one's toxic behavior, and often go to therapy as well.
I have children with a covert narcissist who used to be my high school best friend. Didn’t start seeing the cracks in his facade until I was pregnant with our toddler. I’m autistic & have a hard time reading people- I believe he played on this fact. I didn’t really know much about narcissism. Now that we have an infant, I was told to run for the hills & protect the children because it won’t get any better.
❤I hope you have.
“Since narcissists deep down feel themselves to be faultless, it is inevitable that when they are in conflict with the world they will invariably perceive the conflict as the world’s fault.” ― M. Scott Peck
"We live in a materialistic and consumirist society and as long as that's the case narcissism is going to win". That is a bad news
It's why narcissists are often so successful. The world was built by them, for them. Narcissists often have qualities that make them superb go-getters on top of being generally shitty to others.
Yup
@@lexiproudfoot6263 Sounds like someone who is supposed to be our "leader."
I remember I discovered my mom is a malignant narcissist about two months ago here. I'm so grateful I did, I'm fourteen years old and no one knows what she does to me and I was so scared I was going crazy. I mean, something had to be wrong with me if I felt so much pain in the company of my own mother. I understand things better now. Thank you so much.
Sorry you had to experience that. I can relate.
Same here. My mom was HORRIBLE to me but no one ever believed me because she was nice to them. I thought I was crazy for a long time up until January of this year when I found out what a narcissist is
I'm sorry you have to deal with this. Remember that you're not the only. I'm going through the same thing with my dad.. No matter how bad you might feel right now, all this living hell will end someday so try your best to stay well! Wish you the best 🙏❤
Slytherin Elphaba Suppo Sending you blessings so you can finally live the beautiful life you dream of & deserve! 🌈🦄
ME TOO THANK YOU SO MUCH💗💪🙏🌷💯
Thanks for posting. I draw on my clinical and corporate background to teach classes on identifying and handling narcissism. Covert narcissists tend not to throw tantrums outwardly; instead, they retaliate via passive aggression coupled with the victim pose. Important to remember too that narcissism isn't just a characteristic of those people over there: we all have some, especially when raised in cultures or subcultures that frame narcissistic entitlement, selfishness, ambitiousness, and grandiosity as positive.
My sister is one of the most toxic people I know. I tried for over 40 years to keep her in my life but I finally had to cut her out like a tumor. Now I don't have to feel my blood pressure go sky high every time I see her face on my caller ID. Life is good now.
Congrats. I got an older sister who caused the same for me. No more anxiety from her presence
this woman is so incredibly eloquent. SO informative!
she *IS a prime example of NARCISSISM*_. She is blatantly $o...
Surprised that she is a woman or surprised that she is so eloquent? I just see a brilliant human being, since we are talking about their mind I don't see why their sex has anything to do with it. The older you get, if your lucky, you just see people for who they are, what they thing and feel, which involves so many personal variables which are WAY more influential than sex. (Hence the rise in female narcissism caused by socio-cultural-commercial influences)
@@AmanitaVersicula555if you don't give reflections or reasons for why you feel so about this person.. then it comes across as irresponsible criticism, lacking solidarity if its not constructive.
Believe me you do not need to go through stress trying to hack into our narcissist partner's phone ourselves. It is advisable to hire a professional trackers When I needed to hack my partner's phone, I contacted Genuistracker team, all i did was to share my husband's phone number and they did a good fast job for me, without touching his phone, in less than 2hrs. They made it possible for me to see my partner's chat Histories, Present/Deleted chats, Text messages, Incoming and Outgoing calls, Location FB and Whatsapp conversations etc.. You can text/call +1 (415) 323-6758 or reach them on WhatsApp +1 (724) 330-3252 and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701) and don't forget to thank me later
"Do good, quietly." - Dr. Ramani Love this.
I believe this is what you would call...Integrity, which should be your Authenticity
My mom always said this to me growing up. Great to hear it!!
Married life is warriors life they always fight to win even they lose every day single living is dirty living like still water gets dirty day by day. Husband’s house wife’s real house she is real queen in that house. Keep Faith in God then souls connect with love and coprate in life. Moody and stubborn behaviour brings lots fear in life. Stress and guilt stop blessing. Discrimination brings lots fear in life.
@@gurgurgur how’s #cultlife?
One thing Jesus also taught
I've been married to a narcissist for 30 years. At one point in time, my standards were low at the time. I would say, "If they don't put their hands on me, abuse our children and help pay bills on time. I'm okay with his yelling, cheating, and trying to belittle me. I'm okay with that." I'm here to tell you, if it doesn't fit, don't force it! Don't mistake positivity and confidence with Narcissistic personalities. I have learned and starting all over 😊
Came here to find help for my adult children with their father. Quickly recognized how much this was helping me understand the leadership in my company. I would say 8/12 fall into these categories!
My dad and brother are narcissists. They are family members and I love them, but I extremely limit my time around them.
Do what you have to do to keep your sanity. I have to do the same with my family members. Thank God you've been able to recognize it. 💗
Susan I used to put my narcissistic father on time out LOL I would go long periods of time without communicating with him because it was just so destructive to me, but finally I decided to love him for who he is & stop trying to change him. This is not advice to you, just sharing my experience, I'd love to hear more about your experiences.
My ex husband is a narcissist. Although i want to talk to him about our child, i try to limit my contact with him...he always piss me off and he is always so calm. Like he didn't do anything.
Felt. My grandmother is a sociopath(but she also reminds me of a narcassist too), and my dad is an egoist just like my sister, they r really cold. And then theres me and my mom being emotional empaths😂 no balance if u ask me
@@bebebe1354 that don't necessarily mean he a narcissist u can just be a stressful as baby momma lhh your probably the narcissist if hes calm and your upset lbs
I love how passionate she is when she’s talking
1st was grandiose. 2nd was covert. With the covert one, I got so frustrated with his feigned powerlessness. He always had an excuse and someone else to blame. I told him a number of times that he was not as powerless as he acted. Thst he could make different choices. He of course never believed me. 45 years old, not working, chronically late but always so so busy....or sleeping bc the busyness was a lie and the exhaustion was a cover. The world is out to get me. All my exes are crazy. My family was jealous of me and not grateful. My ex partner was dumb. My brother sabatoged me because he was jealous. Nothing was his fault. Ever.
I've learned a lot about narcissism and the abuse that can come from it. I actually just got out of a divorce with someone who was a narcissist and it felt like I was going to war with the person throughout the entire divorce. They basically would sabotage my reputation, which caused people who were a part of my life and just turned a blind eye towards me all because of the lies and false allegations towards me during the divorce with my ex-husband. My current relationship, I've realized that I've been going through a similar situation that I had dealt with in my previous marriage. My current significant other would brag about having a "god-complex" and would try to impress others with events that were violent or considered as negative or lie about events that have never happened in their life just to create this image of themselves towards others which would create confusion with myself. I've watched the videos of the types and signs of narcissism, but I didn't see anything about having a god-complex or stonewalling. I'm currently studying psychology and watching the medcircle videos helps with learning and understanding first-hand information from professionals who are trained in this field of work. I'm diagnosed with CPTSD, MDD, GAD and probably a few others since I've last seen a therapist since I haven't gone to see one in over a year now and the amount of stress I went through and continue to go through even after the divorce was over, I would feel drained both physically and emotionally, I feel trapped because I would be told that I can't seek help from a professional or it will cause problems to my relationship because of the patient confidentiality privacy laws and the fact that my current significant other is aware of what I'm diagnosed with, what I went through in my past and what I currently just went through but expects me to not react a certain way or just feel a certain emotion, which would make me feel like I'm not entitled to feel because I was told not to. I apologize for typing up so much, but I hope to continue learning from the videos and that everyone else does as well.
"Do good quietly". Ancient wisdom. " But when you do merciful deeds, don't let your left hand know what your right hand does," Matthew 6.3 (The Sermon on the Mount).
there are other places in the New Testament that teaches to fast, pray and do good deeds in secret, because our father in heaven still knows about it :)
But then you get the same level of gratification because you feel good about yourself for being a silent “do-gooder”. You’re just less annoying about it, I suppose.
@@realmofthemisunderstood166 self satisfaction drives a lot of human behavior lol. I mean how else are you supposed to feel about doing a good deed in silence? Anger? Hatred?
Unfortunately most so called socially helping people do it for public stunts. It's communal narssisim
Not sure if I'm a narcissist or sociopath but sincerely wish I could know what it was like to be happy for other people unrelated to if it will benefit me as well. That feeling is completely absent 😕
Insecurity is the root of all these
it is that and maturity levels
@@humanmale4610 Hard to be mature if you're insecure
I recommend "Industrial Society and It's Future" by Doctor Theodore John Kaczynski.
@@troythegreat777 ...improbable but not impossible....so yes it is a hard task i'm sure...
Yeeeeeeeessss
<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="120">2:00</a> Grandiose (Classical) - egotistical, arrogant, attention-seeking, validation-seeking, lacking empathy (not completely though), entitled, grandiose, pompous <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="148">2:28</a> Malignant - like the grandiose one, but also mean, doing bad things (cheating, stealing, lying, etc.), somewhat psychopathic, but still feel a little bad about it, “good” criminals <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="223">3:43</a> Covert - “misunderstood” by the world, but still grandiose, possibly passive aggressive, blaming the world, want recognition from the world, “victim-y”, doesn’t take ownership for not having success <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="410">6:50</a> Communal - “out there trying to save the world”, but to gain recognition; always looking good while doing it; lack of empathy for people they are trying to help
I lived with a Narcissist for 19yrs😢, I looked pale & older than my age but now I realized that nothing can be compared to ones peace of mind. I am glowing and Jesus is taking care of me. Looking back, am like how the hell did I survive those years? God, my kids & my keyboard...music were my Solace, the reason I was sane throughout the Abuse. I will "never" go back to what broke me👌. Proudly a survivor 🙌
I was married with a covert narcissist for 16 years....if you meet one, RUN!!!
When you get AHA! moment?
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Lo go can yu explain how bad the covert was to yu I would appreciate it
Lo go thanks for explaining and I hope that yu life and emotional well being gets better I asked that because I left what I think is a narcissist but I want to go back and I'm depressed
Lo Go I’ve been stuck living with one for 13 and half years and it’s my own mother
She really nailed it with the idea of our society and “success” being tied into narcissism
And since narcissists are made, we can predict a healthier future would mean the end of narcissism.
Yes! We applaud SELFishness. (All the way to POTUS). Many giving, "olive- branch" types are overlooked , while leaned on when others needed support, then forgotten again. Yes, they may be seen as "depressed" because they're not self aggrandizing.
Yes, Obama certainly had more than his share of narcissism.
Saying that high positions are for narcisisc is what the 3rd tipe of narcisist would say
Just spend some time working in big corporate America -- it's Narcissist City. Especially among the women.
Thank you Dr. Romani I found your channel about a week ago and the reason I listened was my girlfriend has been calling me a narcissist for years I didn't really think I was but I knew little about it and when I started listening to you with a couple of minutes I could have sworn you had cameras hidden in my house everything you was saying I'm saying she does that and everything you was saying about the victim was me exactly I've watched every video of yours I can find in the past week and just knowing makes me feel so much better I was questioning my sanity and my self esteem is gone its been a long 5 years and I've done everything for her kept thinking she was going to change now because of you I know that will never happen so I've started getting everything in order and I'm breaking up with her tomorrow and I will take whatever she's got I've been taking her abuse for years and I have no doubt she will have a new boyfriend by the weekend she has cheated on me more than once and I'm sure more than I know I will keep you up to date on how it goes and I would never be doing this if it wasn't for you so thank you thank you thank you
I can't stress enough how this woman saved my life. 💜
I love Dr. Ramani's explanations. The 1.9K people that downvoted this video are probably narcissists that got offended.
lol agreed
The truth hurts so maybe that's why they gave a thumbs down😂
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You're Pinay for sure
She is an excellent speaker. Does she have her own TED talk yet? If not, why not???
Why TED? You dont have any creds until you do TED? TED's speakers are usually left wing drones. This woman does fine without TED.
TED is ironically the narcissistic circle jerk.
Duane Karn Left wing doesn’t mean what they have to say is any less relevant. They talk about important issues.
...left wing drones... seems more then just a bit dismissive.
TED have all the people she is describing
I had to share this with some friends. We all had a short friendship with a common person who played each of us against each other, until finally we all broke off our association with her. We are all licking our wounds from her. Sadly, she wants and needs friends but if everything doesn’t go her way, she would flip on a dime and rip into whoever happens to be nearby.
My father is definitely a covert narcissist it all make sense now..
You have the manual in your hand. Don't be your father.
In my experience they DONT have friends or real friends just acquaintances and whoevever is able to stick around for long is probably because they are getting some sort of reward back. Say night outs in the best clubs with payed table services, maybe even drugs, connections to meet other people etc. Its impossible to be around these people for long if you dont have to.
Yeah they cycle through friends pretty quickly lol
My ex just wanted to adventure across the world and in doing so had no strong relationships. We were overseas and i said "if you died I'd go home to Australia to be with my friends and family but i cant think of where you would go if something happened to me" he said "i don't need anybody so I'd just keep travelling". After he discarded me i was talking to a mutual friend and said it so hard as everyone sees him as this funny great guy but what he did was so cruel and our mutual friend said. "He is one of those pied piper types, he attracts people because of xyz but fails to actually form real human connections" He was a narcissist and it still hurts to know that he suffered none of the pain i did after the relationship ended. I'm glad i blocked him but it still hurts.
Saphirita BHndz YES. my current situation!!!!!!
@Saphirita or...and they are just tolerated!
Saphirita BHndz wow soooooo true ! They must be super Super lonely people..constant validation exhausts humans.. paid friends or freebie hang on friends are the only ones they have !
My mother is a malignant narcissist, straight up. I think the determining characteristic might be profound vindictiveness. When my 60 year-old mother is 'offended' she becomes extremely vicious and vindictive. At that time, I had been a nurse for 17 years and in one evening she destroyed my career by calling the police and making up a story that I hit her. I was subsequently arrested for domestic violence and lost my nursing administrative position. Went NO contact 10 years ago and haven't looked back. RUN, do not walk from these people.
Sounds like my mother. But my Mom is a slight bit less extreme than this.
MIFNP Good for you! As hard as it is to turn away from family, especially a mother, sometimes that’s the only choice you have to stay sane.
Funny what you said rings so true for me too. Unfortunately, my mother continues to be in our lives and we have to constantly deal with her offence taking.
Sounds like the Obamas as well AND the Clintons. Hell Hillary is STILL out there blaming everyone else for her not being president. Sounds like the liberals as well. They show zero remorse for constantly name calling and blaming conservatives/Trump for all the faults of the prior president. Most people see Trumps faults, don't agree with everything, however we stand by him as he has done more in one yr vs the last 8. He cares about american people as where the last one didn't.
Trump's a psychopath.
I knew one narcissist woman - now I realized I know two such women. The first one is your typical grandiose narcissist, but she had an episode of helping homeless animals. I was so confused by that but now I know it's just a variety of her narcissism. The other woman is a covert narcissist and I always believed she was depressed. Dr Ramani clarified that for me. Great informative interview
Very educational. I see narcissism in every turn. I dealt with a narcissistic girlfriend for the last three years. I would categorized her as a covert narcissist. A lot of self pity, low self confidence, zero empathy, instability. This is so her. Does not take constructive criticism very well. No accountability. Thank you for your insight and expertise in the matter. Definitely subscribing. Thanks again.
She's someone you can listen to for hours. So interesting and articulated.
Just escaped a 9 month relationship with a narcissist. These videos are really helping me process what just happened . Thank you so much!
Have you been able to identify your own traits that you found that perhaps made you more vulnerable to his (assuming that is was a 'he') con job?
Your lucky , i was with my ex for 7 years , SHE seems to fit the malignant narsacist catagory. It wasnt plesant at all.
@@Conn30Mtenor i think ive identified some which didnt help in my 7 year relationship with my ex girlfriend. Most if not ALL my good traits seem to be a vulnerbility , im not blowing my own horn here but im , kind and generous and will help anyone in need without expecting anything in return. My ex had a previous illness which over time healed but made working hard , tbh she never really worked at all in our relationship but given her past health plus sterotypes of the MAN being the provider , i gladly was the bread winner , which NOW i see is also a trait she took advantage of. There is so many , but to sum them up , think of any good trait , my ex used to her adavantage.
I also escaped, finally, luckily, after nearly 6 years
7 yrs in.
Me too. I close my eyes and listen to her and I feel she is right here with me , advising me and teaching about those SickMINDED PEOPLE !!
I think your wonderful not a broken record. I never thought of it as a brain injury narc abuse. Years ago you didn't know how to deal with it. Gaslighting years ago was never heard of. I have forgiven myself years ago just working with what I had. Al-Anon helped me a lot. I had a grief period few months back listening to these talks as it stirred up a lot of flash backs but it was healing as I could see what had happened to me all these years ago. I am patient with myself and I like myself as one time I didn't like the person I had become. Now I have been getting educated and I'm so grateful to you. Life is just fabulous. Years ago I hate Sydney Harbour because I never had a good experience there. Now I love it. God has looked after me all these years, but ended up banging me on the head saying Helen wake up.
If you are suffering because of a narcissist, remember you are loved, beautiful and worthy. Never give up on yourself! 💗
I had a parent im very ceartain ahs some NARC traits. It got really bad some years ago, until things returned to normal, but its a still a bit there.
The worst way to deal with pain is to pretend that it does not hurt. If you deny the pain, you delay the process of healing. Healing begins whenever you confess to God that it hurts. Forgive. Be vulnerable in his presence. God will pour oil into your wounds, then He will make you new and even better than you were before. Be healed in Jesus name. ~Rev. Victor M. JACKSON
<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="806">13:26</a> "We do live in a very materialistic society and as long as that's the case. Narcissism is going to win" -- Dr. Ramani.
My 73 yr old mother is a covert communal narcissist. Thank you for the info. Knowledge is power ❤❤😊
I just learned that my mom is a covert narcissist... makes a lot of sense now when thinking back on growing up
@Sanctamite Dane Tr3B Adventures Thank you! I appreciate your kindness. Yeah I'm an electronic music producer my picture was one of my singles lol
I love the way she said " I couldn't sell water in the desert" i can relate to her
Shabu Raj yes.) love her energy and empathy
Shabu Raj what does she mean by that?
that comment made me realize I'm so her too!
I feel no one deserves to be in a relationship with a narcissist they are terrible people that feel entitled thank God for my friend who referred me to an hacker and i was able to hack my narcissist partner's phone, all i did was to share his phone number with (geniustracker) without touching his phone and see all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned contact John to help he is a genius. You can text/call +1 (415) 323-6758 or reach him on WhatsApp +1 (724) 330-3252 and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701) and don't forget to thank me later
Uzoma Obasi It means that she is a good person, who does not want to take advantage of other living beings misery, but rather wants to offer an helping hand, when someone is in trouble.
Four types of narcissists: ME, ME ME ME!
what about I?
@@AqierDesigns There's no "I" in narcissist. Wait. Yeah . . . I guess there's one, maybe more.
Lmao
@ Robot Hunter - Hahaha:)
This is gold 🤣
She definitely has the correct mixture of high intelligence and sociable relatability
I love the point made at <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="695">11:35</a> onwards. Some people may exhibit narcissistic behavior but not necessarily be a narcissist. It's so important to be honest with people you care about and to not be a "Yes" man to avoid conflict. Their response to your honesty will reveal who they really are.
thank you i was manipulated so bad. i lost myself with a narcissist. i've been healing thanks to Jesus. very informative video.
My biggest experience was with Covert. Huge victim complex, woe is me, I'm so talented but the world doesn't give me enough opportunities, no one's feelings matter except mine, people should love and support me no matter what I do.
That last part especially! My ex narc boyfriend learned the definition of what he thought was "unconditional love" And expected people who were in relationships with him to love and appraise him 'unconditionally' no matter how inconsiderate, wrong or cold he was. The victim complex and sense of entitlement was a nightmare. He manipulated me for so long into thinking I was the bad guy for not constantly showing him endless love and admiration all the while he's being careless and rude to me.
And often threatens suicide
My mom
I see you've met my mother!
My 20 y.o. stepdaughter 💯!
I always enjoy watching and listening to Dr. Ramani...Dr. Ramani, your expertise is invaluable. Thank you for all you do..xoxo
I'm fighting with a severe alcoholic abusive ex, who influenced his first two kids to not see their biological mother. My two little kids will not go through the same trauma. We will battle in court. 15 years of trauma, broken ribs, and skull fracture, terrified kids in the household keeping silent to the abuse due to fear. I have so much video evidence. I am ready. I AM happy to break a evil curse.
Thank you for making this video! My ex is a covert narcissist. This video helps me so much in understanding why he behaved the way he did and never cared about my feelings. Everything centers about him and all he ever wanted to speak about was him and his life and his struggles in PhD and his this and that and it's always him him him him him. I was caring and kind and did everything I could to be there fo him. He gave me nothing back, literally nothing. Beware of these people cause all they do in a relationship is to take. They take and take and take and take until they drain you and use you up and they discard you and go off to find new supply.
This is all TRUTH!!! VERY DRAINNING INDEED. LEFT ME VERY BROKEN, HEART AND SOUL. IT'S TAKEN ME 7 MONTHS TO TRY AND PUT MYSELF BACK TOGETHER. AND LIKE YOU, I POURED EVERYTHING THING I HAD INTO HIM, AND IN RETURN I RECEIVED NOTHING BUT HEARTACHE AND WAS DISCARDED LIKE A PIECE OF TRASH. EVEN COMING TO MY JOB TO EAT EVERY WEEKEND AND MEETING SOMEONE ELSE THERE TO HAVE IT RIGHT IN MY FACE. VERY SELF-CENTERED AND MEAN ABOUT IT.
If I'm honest to myself, then I'm a bit of a covert narcissist and usually show it during times of anger. Strangely, I find it rather easy to admit, but now I want to know how to get rid of that quickly because that isn't making me proud of myself in the least!
Even healthy people have sometimes narcissistic traits. As long as it not permanent I wouldn’t consider you an narcissist Sometimes people just can’t see eye to eye or don’t understand things.
A narcissist doesn't think anything is wrong with them. Since you "think" you are "a bit of a covert narcissist" I doubt you are. So don't worry.
I believe most, if-not-all people have narcissistic and psychopathic tendencies. I think it's only a problem if it's an overly prominent trait. To put it simply, are you capable of understanding why it's not nice to do things to other people that you - yourself find offensive and see why they'd react negatively? If you can do that much, you're probably not THAT bad. Like when you meet that dickhead that only ever brags about themselves and they can't understand why it's obnoxious but then they don't like it when someone else brags constantly... fucking hell it's a walking facepalm personified.
So your admission makes you not one
Yea we all are. But if you can acknowledge and catch yourself in the act, apologize when necessary and stop the act. It’s not a enjoyable tactic. Narcissistic people love the energy of gaslighting and putting people down. It’s how they inflate their egos. So I think you are fine. ♥️🙏🏽♥️
Amazing! Dr. Ramani brought light into my life. My mother is a narcissistic person. She has done it with me for years , she has done it with my father until he become an alchoholic and died from drinkink last year ( he told me repeateadly she s mean). Now she lives with me and husband (she played the victim and we felt sorry and a guilt if we don t ask her to live with us) and she made my life a hell in 1 year of living together. She wants to control everything, if she cannot she plays the victim, always unsatisfied, always in bad mood, always giving approval on what we are supposed to do or not, ironic, disrespectful, extremely curios, hiding food etc. My husband is manipulated and falls for her, i was in a mental breakdown and thought I had problems until I watched dr Ramani. That triggered what my father had told me for so many years. 😔 and what i am living now.
She's ahead of her time. Blessing to this pioneer doctor.
Coverts are villians who plays the victim so well
They are Energy sucker vampire all the time
Yes, and I found out in time but it hurt to realized she was nothing playing the victim as usual when she had family who lived with her but wanted only to suck money out of me again? I said, "adios!" Then she started to bother me by phone and I told her plainly she is not a friend and I would appreciate if she stops calling me. She did finally.
My mother.... sigh.. so much energy wasted trying to help her.
M Wittman Yes I have mother as well who’s also shown signs in the past of being a covert narcissist. She was often passive aggressive, victimized, cold, mean, and manipulative.
You're awful, Murrey.
I have only watched 2 videos of her speaking intelligently and she never failed to get my mind blown.
I've seen more than that, and she still blows my mind. I only just heard about her last week btw. I've been hooked since. Watch her with will Smith on red table talk. Amazing conversation!
This is so enlightening. The only question I have is regarding the communal narcissist. I know many in the animal rescue community who post about helping animals and about giving to charities because they want to promote the charity. They are not dressed up and going to balls. They are humble people inspiring others to give by giving themselves, or who are showing rescues they've been involved with, which is always making me want to do more. I'd rather that they did share! It seems there is a difference outside of Los Angeles, where this interviewer obviously lives since that keeps coming up. I guess that is where people are giving but actually just interested in getting praise for it? I would hate for people to start to feel like they can't share their charitable work, since most of the stuff I see is promoting help for the animals and kids and getting people to remember they exist and need help. I've been quite motivated by the work of others, and it also is good for fund-raising efforts. I often see Farm Sanctuary, for example, showing volunteers and rescues of abused farm animals. If they "did their work quietly" and never told anyone, as suggested in the part on "communal narcissists," I wouldn't know about them or have changed my ways for the better!