Reasons Not to Worry What Others Think
It’s generally a good idea to care about other people’s opinions to some degree, as they could contain some worthwhile insight. But focusing on them too much to the point that we spend hours and hours dwelling on what people might think can leave us in agony. It’s not only potentially harmful but also unnecessary. This video explains why based on several concepts from psychology and philosophy. Hence, 7 reasons not to worry about what others think.
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00:00 - Intro
00:46 - (1) You're giving away your power
01:55 - (2) It's beyond your control
03:22 - (3) It's a reflection of them - not you
04:53 - (4) You're not the center of the universe
06:37 - (5) It destroys authenticity
08:12 - (6) Life is too short
09:59 - (7) You know yourself best
#worrying #motivation #stoicism
"Stop trying to be liked by everyone. You don't even like everyone"
That's absolutely right. I'm straight forward to People yes and no Black and white. Don't care if people like me Or hate me. I was talking to A hippie chick. Homosexaul Was brought up. She was Camp. So I said to her. To Each there own. She raved On about iher sex. So again I REPEAT the same to each There own as long as you Don't shove it down my Neck. Other people were there Too. No one said a thing. And she left. And I thought She had to except it or Didn't. But I wasn't rude To her. To each there own. And go live your life.
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Literally never heard that before genius!😊
Agree
@@caldwelllittleton4903what
*"Care about what other people think, and you will always be their prisoner."* - Lao Tzu
That one is very powerful!!
@Big Limmy knowing things is great, the more you know the better. so keep on learning and do things you want.
Yes. Let's ignore others
Care about your body and you will be always it's prisoner.
I have had that problem all my life, and still do a bit. But this quote is so true! I need to remind myself ones in a while not to worry what people think.
As my Grandma used to say "don't worry about what they think, they ain't feeding you."
Or they ain't paying your rent lol
And in that exact sense, the only ones that are worth thinking about are those who ARE feeding you. As the saying goes, never bite the hand that feeds you.
My granny used to say, "Consider the source and ignore it."
My Gram used to say, go ahead and put your eggs in one basket. Then watch that basket dearly.
she spoke facts. I am on my path to achieve this sense of not caring for what others think of me.
“You alone are enough. You have nothing to prove to anybody.” - Maya Angelou
Prove it to yourself. Show, don't tell.
And no reason not to share it with those who might be enlightened and pleasured.
Does she live by herself on a deserted island?
I misreaded it as "You are alone enough to have nothing to prove to anybody". Considering how I lived the pandemy, that made sense. In the current time, society are too broken and the tecnology and social media had isolated great amounts of people, and many of them are still trying to get aproval for complete strangers. Many people are alone enough they have nothing to prove to anybody, but they still trying to.
You have something to prove because the burden of performance is on you and as a man you have to show results
"What a waste of energy to spend this short and vulnerable existence wondering what other people think" I felt that
Agreed, applied to the global populace. But experience proves that energy is gained FROM people, not from your own existence but from it interacting with others. This statement is like a beautiful oxymoron, valuable when needed, but toxic when overused, like everything else. Some people want to be Nietzsche, yet forget he died a somewhat dark death. Kind of a silly trade honestly, people like this set the foundation for us to do better, not the same. I noticed the past few years people becoming, almost addicted to influence of past minds. I’m sure they wouldn’t want that, they’d want us to combine their “new” views at the time with the new of today and the facts of the past before either. Really rational in my opinion. Most Psych majors I have met in my life are very bland and don’t seem to enjoy reality, according to their own words at times. This baffles me, they say the more intelligent you become the more sad you can be, but at the end of the day it is your choice. None of this applies to anyone that do not wish it to. Peace to all and strength through hard times, be stoic, yet be uncontrollably maniacally joyful in the moment.🙏🏽
@@clr977 wise words, basically, forge your own path but try not to be a dick whilst you’re doing it…
@@khimaros Exactly, inevitably, in a world where most cannot fly, a hawk will look like a vulture. It’s almost impossible to “forge your own path” without seeming like a dick. 😭. I try to separate my personal life from my social life and only include the two in a vesica piscis. That keeps being a dick to a minimal and with least backlash. 🤣
@@clr977 Well, look at it this way. You can't control how others perceive you unless you're actually behaving like a dick to their face. Second, you don't owe anything to anyone just like the world does not owe you anything. So just stay on your own path and forget everybody else. What you choose to do with your life is none of your buisness. The only thing that matters is what YOU want to do, not what everybody else is doing. Because if you get influenced too much by what everybody else is doing, you're going to find yourself in a maze you can't get out of. You'll lose a sense of who you truly are and what truly matters to you. You know this to be true if you look deep within yourself. You don't want to do what everybody else is doing and you don't want to be a steretotypical man. You have something deeper inside you that you want to show the world. And only those with great courage and fearlessness do just that. When you act with love and abudance in life, you always win no matter what. How you want to be remembered in life is your choice, and your choice only. Make your legacy worthwhile because you only get one chance.
I needed to be called out like that tbh
I don't remember where but I saw quote once that said, "Don't set yourself on fire, trying to keep someone else warm."
Got it. Set everyone on fire.
@dizzy why do we need to be warm? To stay alive??
@dizzy Valuable insights in this thread.
@@clevername8832 just like my dad who went for milk
It's from a book.
I grew up with my mother saying thousands of times to me “ what wil people think?” It was very harmful to me! It contributed to a lot of issues
Me too, and unfortunately, most people are like this for the same reason.
Now you seem to be aware of one root cause and that is more powerful and influencial than anything anyone has/will ever say to you, its up to us what we make out of it, what lessons we are willing to learn and what oppertunuties we are choosing to take
Make a note, get a screenshot of these comments brother. you can now understand it, you have become aware of it, you got the power, now make sure you use it for your own growth.
As a chinese,so do I.
I’m on the list too…
"Be indifferent to what makes no difference." - Marcus Aurelius
Thats a brilliant quote
for real!
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And to that which does make a difference? In this age of ogres rising? What then is the way of a stoic?
it's too deep for me
“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.” - R.W.E. 👊
It's difficult sometimes for sure but I do my best
The Cult of personality is just that a Cult.. Free your mind.
A quote I definitely needed to see. Thank you for posting, and thank you for those that up voted it too. While I've been dealing with stuff like this my whole life (like practically everyone), and I've been successful & being true to myself, I've felt myself faltering in my resolve which has made me a tad depressed the past few days. Feels like everything around you is trying to change you in some way. Sometimes the urge to just fit in is so great because being part of the collective is easier than standing alone. However when you realize that those in the collective will never truly accept you because of who you really are you begin to realize how alone you really are. That's something I'm trying to come to terms with. Sorry for the incoherent rant. Needed to get it out of my system.
@@ZeriocTheTank big mood brother
I agree
"My Greatest worry is I will be misquoted on the Internet"--Lao Tzu
"Information is not Knowledge, but it is the sexual gratification of it" - Mr Libido
"shut that damn door if you want to open it" - Me, just now 😂
"Yeah" - Plato
"No Shit Sherlock"-Dr Watson
:))
“I’m not in this world to live up to your expectations “ - Bruce Lee
Bruce Lee was not only a great martial artist but also a great philosopher.
"Your boos mean nothing; I've seen what makes you cheer." - Rick Sanchez
That's a really good one!
Lmao the wisdom of Mr. Sanchez
Hahahaha 👌
Great one
Ok… now that’s powerful!
I have read many philosophers, but, always, the one that stood out for me was Friedrich Nietzsche. Especially this quote: "And those who were seen dancing were thought to be insane by those who could not hear the music." The deeper you will go in life, the more you will encounter people who won’t understand your way of thinking. Keep doing what you do. Keep dancing and just let others think that you are insane. There is so much truth and beauty in this “insanity” of yours.
I think you're nuts, thus your point is proved.
Brilliantly put, cheers for the quote too.
Nice seeing you here, Adrian, and I understand your use of Nietzsche's quote in this regard.
Or you actually are insane.
Word❤️
The best way to overcome the fear of what others think of you is realizing that you don't even control what you think, how can you possibly control what others think about you when you can't even control your own thoughts and feelings. After I realized that I literally spend zero time worrying about this. Thoughts about others will arise, observe them and move on that's all you can do. You can't stop them from coming because you don't control your thoughts trying to will just create fustration.
Love this
Life changing advice 💯💯 I’m going to apply that mindset
Flawed analogy. You need to spend some time learning about how to be in control of your thoughts. But I agree that we should not care about what others think of us.
@@helenaville5939 don’t think of an elephant. Boom you thought of an elephant. Her analogy is accurate.
@@helenaville5939 good luck with that buddy
"Don't cry for the idiot, you'll be crying all day". Alexander Anderson, Hellsing Ultimate Abridged.
thanks
At 65 years of age I have met many people who think they were put onto this earth to tell me what I’m doing wrong.
My relatives are like that, they always find something wrong in everything I do. It's really hard to ignore those idiots at family gatherings and other occasions.
@@lavanya_s_art Jealous of what you know
Some people just like to preach
That’s how I feel and I’m only 21 😂
I honestly just ignore them now, we all have a different perception of the world
Most people aren’t concerned with you at all. Realize that to let go of other peoples thoughts
so true..something i need to remind myself daily..btw u are super cute!
I have unfortunately had some rather unpleasant experiences that are contrary to this. Alot of projection of insecurity was at the heart of this I believe, as well as a herd mentality. That being said I do believe these to be rarities and I am glad it happened.
@@brownpunk1794 - 🤣🤣🤣🤣 You say you need to remind yourself that others aren't concerned with you at all, then you proceed to make a direct personal comment about a complete stranger's appearance - something they cannot change. Take more time to let that "not being concerned with you at all" statement to sink in. She doesn't care what you think about her appearance.
If they have thoughts of you of any kind then they are concerned with you.. personally I always thank them.. it's not being concerned with them that matters.. simply as it states.. having 0 dependency on what they think never allowing their thoughts to influence yours.. if people talk about you good or bad it's because they're a fan 💪
@@kdphotos4691 you're embarrassing yourself
I think I've worried too much about how people view me the first half of my life. The remaining half of my life, I've decided to live my life to the fullest, just for myself.
Same here.
"Half of life is lost in charming others. The other half is lost in going through anxieties caused by others. Leave this play, you have played enough" -Rumi-
A life alone is empty. Solitude is a double edge blade one has finally stepped back from the fray long enough. Where is destiny? does not just fade away.
yes.i like this.
“Be yourself: everybody else is already taken”(Oscar Wilde)
“Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma - which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of other's opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.” - Steve Jobs
Great quote!
Guilty I am of that. Guilty I want to be no more.
@@4Mikes4Mindset4 Use past tense and it'll have a psychological effect already
@@jsihavealotofplaylists thank you for saying that
You die if you worry, you die if you dont
“How people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours.” -Dr. Wayne Dyer
Brilliant.
My mother treats me like shit and I don't want anything to do with her and she's super hurt about it and blames me. Karma's a bitch when you're a narcissist, ma.
@@AA-wc3tw Ouch. Have you tried talking with her about it?
Great quote! 💜🙏✌️
@@AA-wc3tw I’m in the EXACT same situation, and vibe with this deeply. Haven’t talked to my mother in years because of her actions, but she blames me and says I’m the problem. Yet, she’s such a narcissist that she doesn’t even realize that she’s the problem.
I worried about what others think...until I realized that I will be dead much longer than I was EVER alive.
Omfg.... That is so true!
woah! That’s deep and kind of alleviated my worries. Thanks! Have a blessed day.
@@mistastealyogirlll Thanks! You too.
The comment I needed THANK YOU
Great thought… when u soak this comment into your head u instantly become free
"One must be a sea, to receive a polluted stream without becoming impure" - Nietzche
Powerful
I don’t get it. How does one be like an ocean?
Like 'be water' as Bruce Lee said
@hentai addict GTFO dumb
@@sabrisaad8858 Lol so much for receiving a polluted stream without getting impure.
I wasted my teenage years and my 20s always worrying about what other people think of me. Due to this, I've lost several opportunities in life that could have been transformational for me. I'm 33 now and I am not going to make those same mistakes again.
You got this, how’s it going
It’s easy to say “don’t care what other people think” but it’s a difficult balance, because on some level it benefits us to care, being as our world is formed by those around us and they directly impact our life. I think it’s more beneficial to care less about the majority and more about the opinion of those you deem worthy.
"Reflect upon the Past. Embrace your Present. Orchestrate our Futures." --Artemis 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ "Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind’s journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul’s fate revealed. In time, all points converge, hope’s strength re-steeled. But to earn final peace at the universe’s endless refrain, We must see all in nothingness... before we start again." 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ --Diamond Dragons (series)
Good thought … that are some truth to you statement 🙌🏾
“When you are content to be simply yourself and don’t compare or compete, everyone will respect you.” - L.T. 👊
Perhaps but I love competing and destroying my opponents. It's one of the few pleasures in life. And people respect and admire those at the top and they despise those at the bottom. This is the problem with being an outsider, you need at least to find a group where you fit in.
Thanks for the opponents who push us to compete with our limit. The goal is within, so that it is all in your control
“I” am my biggest competitor. 🤷🏻♀️
The quote is from Hannibal Lector
@@True38 - you have no opponents. You only have your perception of others.
I was raised to be concerned about what others thought and found it to be so damaging in my own life that I choose to not pass that belief on to my children
I feel betrayed by the things I was made to believe as well
😂😂😂
Boy! Same here! It was drilled into my psyche when growing up!!
For some reason my life has always been a constant struggle between wanting to be alone and becoming popular and social, it is a real struggle for me, I really do love the quiet life at the same time I love the thrill of observation and venturing into the unknown
u can do both if u want
Alex I’m 66 years old, I’ve seen the popular kids at school become total failures and some total successes. Instead of trying to be popular try to be witty, funny. That will exceed on the Social aspect. You speak well that’s why I respond.
Once you finish school everyone that was popular will lose almost all of that popularity
@@p52893 what if I'm not funny
LMAO SAME BRO
I stopped caring about what people think of me years ago. People always going to think good and bad about you no matter what you do. I care more about what God think of me more than man.
Those who matter don't mind. Those who mind don't matter. Food for thought 💭
Dr Seuss 👌
deep
Good response…
Pearls of wisdom
Not really. Some of the most mindful people have been very important. You just spew quotes that sound cool.
The trouble of mankind is worry because Worry is a misuse of imagination.
loved this , so true💯
Really like this one
“ The problem is we spend more time outside our mind than inside it ” - myself
Lol great username
No the problem is we spend more time inside it than outside
@@zoorrken yes but what are you thinking about when you’re inside your head? You’re think about what’s on the outside(other people minds and opinions)
@@miketython5824 Yes, partly. But im still inside my mind, I rather be completely outside of it not engaging in thoughts and just flowing, experiencing.
I spend too much time in mine and others heads. It's a problem. So you're quote is plain wrong.
This is very helpful for those who are an overthinker. Thank you for sharing.
Are you A therapist?
@@bennyrivera7857 yes I am! ❣
I'm glad that I mastered this a few years ago . I can say that I can now Express myself how I want without putting a mask and without pretending to be something else.
proud of you
ok but still wear a mask tho COVID is not done yet
@@cielmichaelis8426 whahahah XDDDDD
@@cielmichaelis8426 This made me laugh!!!!
How
I really needed this today after being treated like crap on a dating app. Thanks!!
I am sorry that happened to you :(
Yeah Im sorry but I’m also glad you don’t have to waste your time on people like that any longer!
At 21 I got "be unapologetically you" tattooed across my chest so I would wake up every day and not fall victim to becoming anyone else's puppet once again. I haven't ever regretted that decision. ♡
Love this idea
You’re a tool
I like the creed that you live by.
*Reasons Not to Worry What Others think* 00:46 - (1) You're giving away your power 01:55 - (2) It's beyond your control 03:22 - (3) It's a reflection of them - not you 04:53 - (4) You're not the center of the universe 06:37 - (5) It destroys authenticity 08:12 - (6) Life is too short 09:59 - (7) You know yourself best
thanks!
thanks! ♥️
ok
Thanks for doing this mate
I enjoy this type of dialogue. It also sheds light on why I do not have any other platforms such as Facebook Instagram tiktok and so forth. I do not need other people's approval of what I'm doing in life. My feeling to this is whenever you seek out approval from others /strangers on these types of platforms it weakens you as a person and your beliefs in not believing in yourself and feeling the fulfillment that you need from only self. You are adequate in how you feel and not needing others to be on board with you to feel complete or correct.
Agreed
I could be happy with just a stamp collection.
But how your boss feel about you, will affect your career
@@junc2191 my boss says I'm one of the best employees there and I have a very good record there.
@@sheldonk5747 thank you for your reply. How did you manage to get such high ratings from your boss? My boss hates me
KZhead: "You shouldn't worry about what other's think". Also KZhead: "Hope you all liked it!'".
All truths are but half truths. Life is a paradox.
As an introvert I don't have much trouble with other people.
😂
Lol I’m an introvert, too. But my problem isn’t that I need to be liked; it’s that I fear being hated. I struggle with doing simple/repetitive tasks too slowly, being disorganized, being late, etc. It usually results in a lot of negative or venomous feedback. And the bitterness persists regardless of how apologetic I am or how much I try to improve, so caring less about others’ opinions would be really helpful 🫠
@@memyaccount8213 Don't worry about having enemies, they are everywhere, even under the rocks And as you said it, what matters is being liked, having people on your defense But... Your context is that they critisize you for doing your job your way, not much you can do here, you could be more puntual, that is at least a thing
@@memyaccount8213 Just tell them to shut up
We all have our own path, and that includes ways of getting there. If someone discourages you or doesn't show you support and it brings you down, their opinion should be like a brainstorm idea you throw in the trash.
I recently got banned from a discord server for asking a question, everyone turned on me so fast and I really didnt use the server to be upset about being banned but what you said about herd mentality stuck out. I said something that the boss didnt agree with and then the herd singled me out and tried to use their power over me. But they have none, I was never in the server for approval from my peers, just to play videogames with like-minded people and I never even reached out to do that because it was a bother to begin with. They would only play 2K and CoD and chat was nothing but complaining about them whenever they weren't playing. I was sulking about being kicked out for something as simple as defending a game, but it really doesnt matter. I didnt know those people and couldnt really care about their opinion one way or another. Thanks Einz!
You hope one of them sees this which is why you posted with ur username so u do care
@@fu3997 lol naw, I dont have the same username on discord and that shit was typos that I didnt feel like correcting
What did you ask? 👀 Just curious. Seems dramatic without a history of this group being against you to begin with. "Us VS. Them" psychology is one hell of a drug. Starts young too. Our brains are hardwired for it from birth.
@@e_i_e_i_bro The admin said that Dragon Ball Kakarot was a trash game, and having played 100 hours of it, I was curious as to why he thought this way. but they moved on and as i persisted with my question the chat started lashing out at me, it seemed that they all agreed that the game was trash instantly without discussion. I dont play bad games, I despise them entirely, so much so that I've deemed good games bad too soon and never picked them up again because I dont wanna waste my time. but DBZK is not a trash game. is it amazing? no. but its a great introduction to the anime and adds clarity to a very long and messy story. As a fan, I can appreciate the finer details and small nods to the manga, and i can see where the game gets repetitive but so does every game. it was nonsensical but it happened and ive moved on, they were just followers.
Hope you're alright. There are a lot of judgmental people in this world that don't care to listen you or believe in you. And then they come to you when they need help. You decide which way you go.
Hope everyone has a blessed day and have the courage to be who they truly want to be despite of others opinions. Believe in your vision
Cheers bud 🙏🏻
If anger is a punishment you give yourself for something someone else did, then worrying about what others think must be a punishment you give yourself for something that doesn't really matter.
Never let other people's opinions of you become your opinion of yourself...
I learned that one the hard way.
Indeed! People's thoughts about us based on what they perceive often doesn't align with reality, and so someone's opinions of you does not have to become your reality, unless those opinions are relevant to you!
Thank you, I was chilling getting shade from the rain yesterday and some people walked by and called me weird...
Then maybe you are...maybe they are...maybe everyone is.... A human mind thinks someone else is weird when they see something foreign to what they knew before.
You would’ve been weird if you were playing in the rain too.
When someone calls me weird, there's only one response. Thank you!
@@asktheetruscans9857 agreed
We are all weird. Humans are weird. Those people will realize that one way or another and get over it. It’s not your problem.
If you knew how little others really think about you, you'd be so much less worried or concerned about their opinions. Also, why give others' opinions more credence than your own.. Do YOU.
Ain't that the truth
If you want to get better in life and climb the ladder, there's no other way around caring what other people think. You don't get better by just listening to your own opinion. You need feedback, at least when it comes to working. Personality is something else, and although we can all improve ourselves personally, nobody is perfect so just tell people to fuck off with their self-righteousness.
You win the prize for the laconic response with only two sentences. Impressive. You nailed it.
@@p52893: ) But it wasn't always that way. We just need to learn MUCH much sooner than we do...
@@nomorediets. I went to catholic school, Boston, sang in the choir in Latin. Moved to Los Angeles at 24 years old and was astonished because of the fact that I could comprende a Mexican news paper.
"Squat deep. Get money" -Sun Tzu probably
'Cooked in the squat...' Zig Ziglar on Goals
I felt that
nah it was plato dude
Man I really needed this, I hope this helps other people on their journey too
"The world will ask you who you are, and if you don't know, the world will tell you." - Carl Jung I wish you would do a video going into all the aspect of his shadow work. You delved into persona here. Love you videos.
The world will tell me what???
@@sabinabasnet7963who you are.
@@Justineyedia i dont thinks so yr the world is only judge me
@@sabinabasnet7963 Hmmmm, he literally said exactly that...
“I’m quoting myself because I don’t feel the need to find a quote that aligns with this video’s point to illustrate I understand it.” -Me
Nailed it
- Michael Scott
That's great. Stealing it!
Thank you for this, it is not new to me, but it is a perfectly timed reminder. I have been causing myself pain, concerning myself with the opinion and views of others, that I have no control over. 🙏
"Focus on your own frame"
"We buy things we don't need with money we don't have to impress people we don't like."
The majority yes, I just do whatever makes me happy and keep focusing on that :)
Yeah yeah we have all seen the movie, shane, douche
Bless you man. 1000%
@Block Chain you are a very disturbed person.
@@nihilist6008 What movie? It is a cool quote that I have also heard but I do not know about a movie.
This is my favourite upload so far. Provides such an amazing shift in perspective for me personally. Thank you Einzelgänger for another insightful video.
"Don't care what people think but care what you think." By my mother...
How you think about yourself and carry yourself is what other people think of you as well. Thus, why not just create and be the very best version of yourself and surround yourself with people with good and winning character? Makes sense right?
Umm hmmm
Sartre said “Hell is other people”
@@mikelisteral7863 Hell is actually dark souls
Idk why, but this gave me a chuckle. Perhaps because I work in customer service.
But Cap... For them I am other people
Agree. However in most instances when dealing with deceitful individuals lies and excuses are created in order to diminish another individual's character and credibility to present a false reason to keep them suppressed.
So what?? Even if that is true, its functions more as a a long way of rationalizing your lack of effort to change how you view others. When you should gove yourself the keys to free yourself, which is what this video is trying to do. you just gave a false reason to keep yourself suppressed, in most instances.
@@seppyteppy "keys to free yourself" Yes!
Sounds like you just got out of family and divorce court
For me its hard to just "simply stop" overthinking what others may think of me. Yes it does drive me up a wall and give me awful anxiety. Yet thats where my mind goes. Im trying to work on it but for me it is not just a snap of the fingers and done. A friend sent me this video, a friend who always tells me to quit wondering if iv annoyed them. Lol
This is so authentic, to say the least. It is no-brainer, yet authentic.
Facts. I have been saying this for years, which is why I always tell my subscribers, I am not here for clicks and like. Never seek validation outside of self.
"We are a sad generation with happy faces on social media". We tend to please people we don't even know or like with money we don't have
When you finally realize that what others think means absolutely nothing in terms of you and how you choose to live your life, it is what can truly liberate you. In fact, when the screw turns and you finally refuse to allow it to matter, you will say "How could I have ever lived like that." Other people can only affect you as much as you allow them to.
Wondering how the character of Mads Mikkelsen in the movie ‘The Hunt’ (2012) would have responded to this
Giving away power is tantamount to hobbling your own sense of agency for yourself, essentially imprisoning yourself in your own worry and thoughts over that which you have NO CONTROL. Good video!
This is something I really needed to hear and to remind myself. It makes more sense that when people online say their opinions about you they often may be projecting their insecurities onto you. But when they see you don't live up to their expectations it's a crime. Like why would you want to be a copy and paste of something you are not. I'd rather do what I like than be a mindless sheep following the crowd. It really makes you think that all these persona's on social media is not the final result of that person. We have many faces we wear as humans. The Japanese have a saying you have three faces. The first , you show to the world. The second , you show to your close friends, and your family. The third you show to no one
I wish you have podcast versions of these vids, I usually listen in before I sleep. Thank you for your content. Helped me a lot.
I've tried many times and I've honestly came to the conclusion that you are who you are. You can't change your personality, there's much worse things than caring what people think anyway.
Every video prepared and presented by this Team takes huge effort, extensive study, compilation of subject matter, interconnection of topics and vast knowledge. I feel that they are a genuine TEAM that are themselves at self-actualization level. ❤
Thank you for this. I won’t cheat myself out of fully living by worrying about what others think anymore. Love yourself.. speak your truth.. and the rest will fall into place.
I have dealt with different forms of judgements and prejudices throughout my life up to this day. I am now in the latter half of my life and single. I pursue what enriches my soul regardless of what others think. I completely agree with Nietche's philosophy of the master and servant dichotomy. I have transcended that dynamic since childhood. There is a small part of me that is uncomfortable, sad, and lonely about that, but there is a much greater part of me that is strong, happy, and free because of that.
Never apologize, you know what you’re doing! Don’t stop
@@p52893 Thanks so much!
Thank you for sharing this as it resonates to a degree. Being yourself without making others uncomfortable is possible, albeit within the space that modern society allows.
it’s insane how i looked up a video that was posted a day earlier. this information has given me peace. ~thank you~
I was waiting for this video. Thank you.
This was brilliant and on point. Thank you! Much love from 🇨🇭
Thank you. This content makes me feel very fulfilled. Keep up the good work!!
Thank you for the break down of this idea. Perfect timing for me, very pleased I found this. Thank you!
Im glad this video was suggested to me, I needed this … I would teach my daughter to worry about other’s opinions because I was taught that, but seeing this opened my mind
Thank you so much for making such content! Really value your time and effort! i don't think any channel ever does what you are doing! please continue this and i believe it has become very valuable during lockdowns as people are going through tough times. If you also have a reading list that would be awesome! Thank you again!
What you have explained so beautifully is actually the crux of Stoicism and the essential teachings of Epictetus. Thank you for making this incredible video. Keep up the good work. From - A Stoic. 😇
Those who stay sharing precious knowledge out there and thank you for watching ...is the reason why I feel grateful
Beautiful facts stated.......absolutely agree,life's too short to be concerned about what others think Just remember to be true to yourself and noone knows you better than yourself
Needed this
I appreciate your video. it helped me regain my confidence as someone who is occasionally insecure. I am a non native speaker of English and trying to do an English degree with foundation year in the UK is embarrassing (or should I say planning to do one, currently in hs). But if you love something you should strive for it regardless of what others think.
I totally agree to the message of this good video. We should keep away from social media and should not care about other peoples’ opinions.
This video was suggested to me via the algorithm and I'm really happy about it because it came around right at the perfect time. Thank you for making this! ❤
Be yourself. People will always have something to say
What I like to think about is that everyone has an individual mind that only sees a fraction of you. It's not a single hivemind that combines all the judgements it might have.
Just pure content right here in its most natural form! Thank you!
This is a gold video. You deserve a medal bro!
I’m addictive to this channel raw and pure knowledge of the self thank you sir
It's so empowering to hear that we can't control what's not in our limits we can only control our emotions and decide how we perceive and react on things.. The only place where you should give your attention is not outside you but inside you that only can serve you to the heights...
Great video! Keep it up, strong message more people needs to hear.
The video I needed to watch, especially what I'm mentally going through at my job.
As I will graduate in a few days from highschool, I decided to do maths afterwards. I felt so stressed about my math exam bc I thought 'I need to do very well or they will all think I'm a failure' But at the same time I knew it was screwed up to think like that bc what I thinnk about myself is more important. This video proved it to me once again and I am less stressed about my grades atm ^^ Thank you!
Other people's opinions about you, are none of your business! Focus on your purpose 💪🏼
Dear Einzelgänger, you present us Wisdom in such a clear way! Again. Thank you so much! 🙏😘
My goodness all the videos that this channel has are so use full and informative !
I love this channel 🥺
The only things I care about what other people think of me is I’m not dirty or smell bad and I’m polite. That’s about the end of how much I give a shit.
And you're doing a terrible job.. pee yew!
Whatever stinky
I totally agree with you
I needed this the most omg I really appreciate it
Hey, I was feeling very bad today .... just listening to you heals me. Thank you, very very very much :)