dating a "quirky" girl

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  • thanks for watching everybody. Given current events, it felt weird to just sit here and make jokes about Disney Channel movies or whatever, so I wanted to do something a little more serious (but not too serious, I mean this is ME after all). I don't do video essays too often, so some of you may have never seen one of mine. On KZhead, most video essays are really just like fancy wikipedia articles or college thesis papers. But with mine I like to make them more personal, more about my experiences and opinions, rather than like "look at how many big words I can use". In this video, I use the words "quirky" and "manic pixie dream girl" somewhat interchangeably. This is technically not correct, but I wanted to focus more on my experience with these kinds of people, rather than a dissertation about the trope itself and how it manifests in different kinds of media over time or whatever. Like I mentioned in the video, I was REALLY into the idea of the MPDG back when I was in High School, so it was interesting for me to think back on why that was, and why I can't stand them now. And again, as I touched on in the video, these roles of "sad boy" and "MPDG" can easily be reversed. But, at least in movies and tv shows, the trope is overwhelmingly portrayed in the way I talk about in the video. The MPDG doesn't really exist in real life, but I have met more than a few girls (and guys too) who, either on purpose or by happenstance, are emulating one. I used to think dating these girls would be a dream come true. I was wrong. It was agony.

    @AlexMeyersVids@AlexMeyersVids3 жыл бұрын
    • O shoot I’m first

      @welcomedchip9644@welcomedchip96443 жыл бұрын
    • second-

      @nataliedukowitz5293@nataliedukowitz52933 жыл бұрын
    • fourth

      @shardonic1995@shardonic19953 жыл бұрын
    • fifth

      @b0nnieba3@b0nnieba33 жыл бұрын
    • How was this commented a day ago?!?!

      @andreamacias7618@andreamacias76183 жыл бұрын
  • A girlfriend isn’t a boy’s therapist. A boyfriend isn’t a girl’s patient. A relationship isn’t a case of poor mental health.

    @idcifigotohell5470@idcifigotohell54703 жыл бұрын
    • *A good relationship isn't a case of poor mental health.

      @evanwilliams7739@evanwilliams77393 жыл бұрын
    • Sounds like someone doesn't understand emotional support they partner when they struggling

      @HetLedie@HetLedie3 жыл бұрын
    • RIGHT?? Like get a therapist dude

      @bellesoares8523@bellesoares85233 жыл бұрын
    • @@HetLedie No. A supportive SO is very different from a therapist. I have never seen, nor heard, of a relationship that could possibly be considered happy and healthy when one of them is the other's therapist. The one who plays as the therapist will only ever really feel like a therapist in the long run, and feel overburdened with the other partner constantly laying down ALL of their issues, big and small, on the therapist partner. Which is the antithisis of a healthy relationship. A supportive partner is very different from a partner who acts as the other's therapist.

      @caseyhall2320@caseyhall23203 жыл бұрын
    • @@HetLedie There's a difference between providing needed support and being their therapist or trying to "fix" them.

      @katesuperczynski5620@katesuperczynski56203 жыл бұрын
  • Pixie girl personality: lol i am so random Main guy personality: sad boi

    @ScoundrelChestnut@ScoundrelChestnut3 жыл бұрын
    • pretty much yeah

      @xxxxxxxxx1652@xxxxxxxxx16523 жыл бұрын
    • With the incel movement as the radical ( and dangerous ) spearhead of a pretty common phenomenon of a state of loneliness in young men and with an absence of relationships and a very high suicide rate for men ( kzhead.info/sun/hJeQdNtle3SBf3k/bejne.html ) ( en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gender_differences_in_suicide ) - the male part of this story is a pretty common character. Keep in mind, the examples I used are only the peak of a phenomenon that is pretty familiar in sociology and psychology alike. If I were to put this bluntly, many men are sad bois.

      @Arcaryon@Arcaryon3 жыл бұрын
    • @Arcaryon Incel movement? Are you making this up or?

      @ark2074@ark20743 жыл бұрын
    • Ardian No, Incels are real

      @haroldsen4238@haroldsen42383 жыл бұрын
    • Why am I a mixture of both...?

      @PGOuma@PGOuma3 жыл бұрын
  • why is every main girl character in a book is “not like other girls” and either extremely girly or a huge tom boy, people need to learn to be more creative

    @youtubename2244@youtubename22443 жыл бұрын
    • yea we need super girly girls that look like tomboys and tomboyish barbie looking girls !!

      @analutsenko@analutsenko3 жыл бұрын
    • I wanna see the basic bully (wears pink, wears pearls, makeup, plastic, blonde, blue eyes, bully, probably has 3 other bully friends etc. you know the gist) become a main character

      @panigbrowardcollege@panigbrowardcollege3 жыл бұрын
    • @@panigbrowardcollege yes and the plot shows us that she’s so mean because of tons of mental issues and traumas, and till the end of the movie she starts seeing a therapist who makes her feel better, she gets her shit together and gets rid of her shitty social behavior !

      @analutsenko@analutsenko3 жыл бұрын
    • @@panigbrowardcollege Legally Blonde has the main character that’s a blonde- haired blue-eyed pink-wearing popular sorority girl. 🤷‍♀️

      @leemana352@leemana3523 жыл бұрын
    • A lot of young girls are really into to the idea that they're inexplicably unique.

      @hangukhiphop@hangukhiphop3 жыл бұрын
  • I feel like 500 days of summer is one of the most misinterpreted movies ever. The movie is not about a manic pixie dream girl, but about how Tom is viewing a three-dimensional person in a one-dimensional way. For example in one scene she is sharing very personal and vulnerable feelings with Tom and the narration is something like: “...and Tom knew he was the first person to hear this...” He’s not actually paying attention to anything she’s doing or saying, he’s just thinking something along the lines of: “Wow, I unlocked the backstory. I’m in for sure now!” It’s clear that Summer is a deeper and more complex character, and Tom barely pays attention to her. The problem is not with Summer, but with Tom. He chooses to view her the way he wants to. He’s not in love with her, he’s in love with the idea of her.

    @ninamurphy2374@ninamurphy23743 жыл бұрын
    • I think both are a problem as incompatible people who want to be compatible in some way. Summer being too open for an average relationship and Tom being too closed for a relationship with Summer.

      @gameplayarsenal425@gameplayarsenal4253 жыл бұрын
    • It’s an anti-romcom that calls out the immaturity of the manic panic pixie dream girl trope and how romance movies and tv shows give people an unrealistic expectation of relationships. He thought Summer would make his boring life worth living and make him be a better person and pursue his dreams. His view was selfish and childish because it was one dimensional. He only begins to grow out of it once he decides to better his life for himself and not because of some girl that he’s infatuated witho

      @Indicudi@Indicudi3 жыл бұрын
    • The film is about manic pixie dream girls. Exactly as you described, Tom makes her into a manic pixie dream girl, when really she’s a full human being. It shows the problems with the trope

      @Ohnogoblin@Ohnogoblin3 жыл бұрын
    • well said and very interesting. i might have to watch that movie

      @HeyyyitsBell@HeyyyitsBell3 жыл бұрын
    • This reminds me too much of ruby sparks

      @myaccountgotdeleted9999@myaccountgotdeleted99993 жыл бұрын
  • Edward: Say it Bella: A vampire Edward: What no, I'm just emo

    @zumislikestoplay9458@zumislikestoplay94583 жыл бұрын
    • Underrated comment

      @lizseal6401@lizseal64013 жыл бұрын
    • If Gerard Way got the role

      @m.meghana2365@m.meghana23653 жыл бұрын
    • LMAO

      @myrtila@myrtila3 жыл бұрын
    • Ahahah this.

      @catiatavares7757@catiatavares77573 жыл бұрын
    • @@m.meghana2365 He actually was one of Smeyers top choices for edward (Henry Cavill also made the list) and MCR (vampcore) inspired the series, the production of twilight also asked them to write an original song for the trilogy and they said obviously no I'm convinced that if twilight was less "sexually repressed conservative" and more "angry queer punk" that the band would have said yes

      @ahhh4117@ahhh41173 жыл бұрын
  • As a therapist I see a lot of women who are in a lot of terrible relationships cause they bought into the "fix the guy" fantasy

    @dcrbdh@dcrbdh3 жыл бұрын
    • haha me

      @jaidenw.5013@jaidenw.50133 жыл бұрын
    • thats how you get into an abusive relationship

      @monbub@monbub3 жыл бұрын
    • People are so surprised when they find out what others put up with, it’s so much harder to leave an abusive relationship

      @alexandriaking2410@alexandriaking24103 жыл бұрын
    • just like they wanted to fix their father (to love them unconditionally). And once again everything comes down to childhood and coping mechanisms. :/

      @dauser4@dauser43 жыл бұрын
    • @@dauser4 this! It's true, trust me. Wanting to believe that love is this all powerful thing. That it can fix him, if you fight hard enough and show him you love him despite his flaws, that will be enough to give him the strength to fix them. Its dark.

      @amberproctor3996@amberproctor39963 жыл бұрын
  • The best example I know of a Manic Pixie Dream BOY isn't Edward Cullen, it's Jack from Titanic -- and his bubbly, charismatic self DOES change Rose, and then he disappears forever. Ya know, at the bottom of the ocean. And if you want to imagine an alternative ending, there's Revolutionary Road XD

    @HeidiCavalier@HeidiCavalier3 жыл бұрын
    • This comment is top tier

      @luuuuux_@luuuuux_3 жыл бұрын
    • This is actually a really good point, ive never thought of titanic from this perspective, only from, damn, there was room for both of them on that door, dick move rose, dick move. Lol

      @andy6877@andy68772 жыл бұрын
    • No, but seriously, I definitely believe that you pinned it.

      @karmadollie8063@karmadollie80632 жыл бұрын
    • Thank you. I was thinking "no there are better examples"

      @mallorycarpinski1160@mallorycarpinski1160 Жыл бұрын
    • this is it!

      @OnyxxRose@OnyxxRose8 ай бұрын
  • i hate when a female character‘s only purpose is fulfilling a male fantasy as if they’re not real people with desires and aspirations

    @nyx1472@nyx14723 жыл бұрын
    • I hate when a male character's only purpose is fulfilling a female fantasy as if they're not real people with desires and aspirations.

      @_BirdOfGoodOmen@_BirdOfGoodOmen3 жыл бұрын
    • @@_BirdOfGoodOmen yep

      @nyx1472@nyx14723 жыл бұрын
    • @@_BirdOfGoodOmen Both are bad, but the former is incomparably more common in media throughout history as there are many times fewer stories about multi-faceted women.

      @joratto2833@joratto28333 жыл бұрын
    • @@joratto2833 Well put.

      @bauminsonx9662@bauminsonx96623 жыл бұрын
    • @@joratto2833 "Both are bad, but the former is incomparably more common in media throughout history" lol, did you ever hear... well... almost the whole romcom / romance / teen drama genre? And did you ever wonder why young females are the target audience? Both character tropes exist equally for their target audiences. Stop trying to make another gender war out of it for the love of god.

      @LegioXXI@LegioXXI3 жыл бұрын
  • *Wattpad novels have left the chat*

    @drfreudsmom@drfreudsmom3 жыл бұрын
    • Niharika Newaskar I can so relate. I’m on watt pad and like- fr 😂👌🏻

      @RenVCWorship@RenVCWorship3 жыл бұрын
    • there are Wattpad NOVELS too? shit

      @ary2766@ary27663 жыл бұрын
    • ary that’s the whole point of Wattpad....

      @drfreudsmom@drfreudsmom3 жыл бұрын
    • ary After was a One Direction fanfic on Wattpad which was later published as an original novel after changing the character’s names and got turned into a movie. The Kissing Booth was also a Wattpad story that got published as a novel and got a Netflix adaption. And there’s plenty of other Wattpad stories which have been published as novels due to their insane popularity. Hardly any of them are actually well written though.

      @catcactus1234@catcactus12343 жыл бұрын
    • @@ary2766 Yes and he Hulu series Ligt As A Feather is also a wattpad book

      @drfreudsmom@drfreudsmom3 жыл бұрын
  • The word 'quirky' has gotten so lame. It's like 'quirky'is a cheap excuse for annoying

    @tahirarahman4491@tahirarahman44913 жыл бұрын
    • MHA: *Cries in the corner*

      @jeckjeck3119@jeckjeck31193 жыл бұрын
    • Sheldon from Big Bang Theory

      @rachaeliyunade8947@rachaeliyunade89473 жыл бұрын
    • AGREED

      @Glitterpop785@Glitterpop7853 жыл бұрын
    • Quirky seems to mean an attractive girl who is weird and unconventional. You see the same traits in characters who are not supposed to be attractive but they're presented as a weirdo outcast.

      @mnbvcx66@mnbvcx663 жыл бұрын
    • That's because you're jaded.

      @rickydrizzle9150@rickydrizzle91503 жыл бұрын
  • at this point, the ‘other girls’ are the rarest types of people.

    @pogchamp2675@pogchamp26753 жыл бұрын
    • Yup lamo

      @justanomorifan3059@justanomorifan30592 жыл бұрын
    • This comment is underrated

      @Cloud-so2fd@Cloud-so2fd2 жыл бұрын
    • other girls be like i am not like other girls i am rare

      @iammad7184@iammad71842 жыл бұрын
    • So what do you actually want to convey?

      @achalaaa11@achalaaa112 жыл бұрын
    • 😂😂

      @deezing@deezing2 жыл бұрын
  • Literally EVERY.SINGLE.John Green novel.

    @bombshalley@bombshalley3 жыл бұрын
    • Lol I was just thinking Margo Roth Spiegelman. Although I wouldn’t exactly consider Hazel Grace a mpdg. She’s like, depressed. Aza also clearly wasn’t perfect but Paper towns and looking for Alaska both seem like they fit into the category

      @selmaluvbees@selmaluvbees3 жыл бұрын
    • I think he is using this trope but is subverting it. In paper towns when the protagonist finds margo she bashes him for fantasizing about how he finally found her and they could be together. If he had been looking at the situation without the rose-colored goggles he would have seen that see didn't want to be his pixie girl, she just wanted her enemies to die in a fire and he was a simp willing to help her.

      @ethanhunsaker9363@ethanhunsaker93633 жыл бұрын
    • @@ethanhunsaker9363 Yeah, I agree. From my understanding, Alaska is manic pixie, and Paper Towns interestingly seeks out to subvert that

      @Imallwrite212@Imallwrite2123 жыл бұрын
    • @@selmaluvbees yeah as he showed in the video i think augustus was the ‘manic pixie dream boy’ (i use this term because i forgot what it’s actually called lol I hope you understand).

      @blkbarbie2671@blkbarbie26713 жыл бұрын
    • Lindsey Lee Wells is also not a mpdg.

      @groom_of_the_stool@groom_of_the_stool3 жыл бұрын
  • quirky girls literally show their "quirkiness" by doing things *every other human being does*

    @sugarypages7549@sugarypages75493 жыл бұрын
    • Bruh I’m so quirky I eat and sleep

      @kotux0910@kotux09103 жыл бұрын
    • I trip on my over sized clothes 🙊

      @michellev86@michellev863 жыл бұрын
    • I’m so quirky I breathe

      @jenandjuice_@jenandjuice_3 жыл бұрын
    • They cant theyre not like other girls

      @briahna7478@briahna74783 жыл бұрын
    • I’m so quirky, I have hands!

      @ninjaartist1235@ninjaartist12353 жыл бұрын
  • The only manic pixie dream girl i will ever enjoy is Ellie from up.

    @peachygirl2374@peachygirl23743 жыл бұрын
    • Good catch I never thought of that.

      @starsatnightsparkle1318@starsatnightsparkle13183 жыл бұрын
    • Yep.

      @cruella4341@cruella43413 жыл бұрын
    • Omg is she one?! I never thought of that! Well UP is so good she doesn't count hahaha.

      @princessthyemis@princessthyemis3 жыл бұрын
    • I forgot about her :0

      @nikkk00000@nikkk000003 жыл бұрын
    • She never was made to fix him so that’s why

      @yaoifan456@yaoifan4563 жыл бұрын
  • In real life: Sad boy meets quirky girl, who likes adventure and likes living life. The sad boy becomes a bit happier but in the process sucks al the life out of the girl, leaving her sitting in his room staring at the ceiling thinking of the person she once was.

    @chandrepanda@chandrepanda3 жыл бұрын
    • It goes both ways, trust me.

      @xxMpEGxx@xxMpEGxx3 жыл бұрын
    • White girls love adventure amirite

      @s.v.o.579@s.v.o.5793 жыл бұрын
    • Yep

      @phoebexxlouise@phoebexxlouise3 жыл бұрын
    • Happened to me but I’m better now

      @sakareeh@sakareeh3 жыл бұрын
    • if someone else takes your identity from you, its up to you to get it back. dont be weak, u got this.

      @peegonzales1169@peegonzales11693 жыл бұрын
  • I want a manic pixie girl movie where she is the main character

    @genieispunk@genieispunk3 жыл бұрын
    • Birds of prey?

      @tundra1992@tundra19923 жыл бұрын
    • Amelie? That movie with emily browning

      @HarekaTysiri@HarekaTysiri3 жыл бұрын
    • Me before you

      @fatimajnj9234@fatimajnj92343 жыл бұрын
    • The series "The End of The F**king World" Isn't about the girl but she's the main focus of the story line and everyone refers to her as the main attraction. Over-all really great to watch

      @richardwinterphotography2199@richardwinterphotography21993 жыл бұрын
    • Juno ?

      @bigman25plus25@bigman25plus253 жыл бұрын
  • this is literally every Wattpad book ever -- the girl is always super happy and quirky and ends up changing the " bad or sad boy "

    @ishu_3102@ishu_31023 жыл бұрын
    • Honestly the whole time I was watching this video I was thinking about that

      @Ndulwa_@Ndulwa_3 жыл бұрын
    • But you can’t forget the lonely shy girl that needs to be saved

      @summerhold943@summerhold9433 жыл бұрын
    • those are the straight wattpad stories

      @ashteal3499@ashteal34993 жыл бұрын
    • ash Teal heh

      @averybrooks8537@averybrooks85373 жыл бұрын
    • Summer Hold Or she gets a makeover and suddenly every man is fawning over her

      @Laura-Yu@Laura-Yu3 жыл бұрын
  • Imagine ever dating.

    @mr.blobby3484@mr.blobby34843 жыл бұрын
    • To unrealistic

      @Shizzy5321@Shizzy53213 жыл бұрын
    • What's dating? Somebody knows? . . . Hello?

      @danielisozaki8522@danielisozaki85223 жыл бұрын
    • Daniel Isozaki SIN

      @Unknown-uk9he@Unknown-uk9he3 жыл бұрын
    • Yesterday my mom told me I can't date until I'm 21 😭

      @carolinemm9478@carolinemm94783 жыл бұрын
    • @@carolinemm9478 how old are you now?

      @Shizzy5321@Shizzy53213 жыл бұрын
  • I just realized, Your Lie In April is essentially the manic pixie dream girl trope, but taken to the next level, expanded upon, and actually done well

    @kenimerlewis@kenimerlewis3 жыл бұрын
    • Maybe because Kaori isn't Kousei's sole source of happiness but piano or something

      @sikishkaba@sikishkaba3 жыл бұрын
    • KstandsForPottassium Ooh, you have a valid point there

      @kenimerlewis@kenimerlewis3 жыл бұрын
    • I think is because they really developed the character of Kaori and she is not only a random girl that wants to fix Kouseis life. She knew him and admire him since she was a little girl so it makes sense that she wanted to help him getting back to music. Also, they do show shes not perfect.

      @juliethi5992@juliethi59923 жыл бұрын
    • I cried so much watching that

      @sliceofkyla@sliceofkyla3 жыл бұрын
    • Yeah I was thinking Your Lie In April was that way with Kaori. But I actually liked it.

      @frog3630@frog36303 жыл бұрын
  • "she was not like other girls" who tf is like each other, everyone is different in some way or other

    @Aka-wy7iw@Aka-wy7iw3 жыл бұрын
    • I know right. "Not like other girls" is pretty misogynistic.

      @youraveragestalker8438@youraveragestalker84383 жыл бұрын
    • @@youraveragestalker8438 how so? It doesn't insult all women, it just happens to trash on a group that believes they're special for doing/going through things every girl goes through. It's not misandrist to joke about incels right?

      @notisttt1240@notisttt12403 жыл бұрын
    • @@notisttt1240, I think in the "not like the other girls", it's thought that there are "normal girls", which are "unlikeable" (e.g. conforms to feminine standards!), unlike the "other girls". You do not need to directly insult women to be misogynistic.

      @californium-2526@californium-25263 жыл бұрын
    • @@californium-2526 Noone said normal women are unlikeable. What we joke about is the hypocrisy behind "I'm not like other girls" when, yes, she is like other girls. It's like those people that put in their tinder bio "I like travel, food and dogs". It doesn't undermine average women, it undermines women that think they're better than others(which is not mysoginistic, as we mock those that think they're special all the time, from both genders)

      @notisttt1240@notisttt12403 жыл бұрын
    • @@notisttt1240 You clearly just don't get it imao.

      @makennaharris2965@makennaharris29653 жыл бұрын
  • Every time I see that trope of "I'm not like other girls", I automatically think of Syndrome from the Incredibles when he says "if everyone's special, no one is"

    @joellezima3506@joellezima35063 жыл бұрын
    • 69 likes :)

      @lovelyhumanbeing261@lovelyhumanbeing2613 жыл бұрын
    • Girls who say that are the basic ones

      @vidushikumar682@vidushikumar6823 жыл бұрын
    • Or the twilight zone: if everyone is beautiful, no one is

      @ellynsoup4724@ellynsoup47243 жыл бұрын
    • Literally. There are so many 'quirky, im not like the others' girls that the basic girls are now special 🥶

      @skinnytea6243@skinnytea62433 жыл бұрын
    • That’s the “everything is nothing” logic, not necessarily true

      @zara7660@zara76603 жыл бұрын
  • How manic pixie dream girls should be portrayed: Luna Lovegood

    @LindEco_99@LindEco_993 жыл бұрын
    • And Eve from Wall-E (but less quirky)

      @capricreation870@capricreation8703 жыл бұрын
    • I like how Luna wasn’t created for the sole purpose of fixing someone tho hahaha

      @ducksarecute9662@ducksarecute96623 жыл бұрын
    • Yes ! Also I was your 469th like

      @chadpowell1832@chadpowell18323 жыл бұрын
    • YES

      @gaesimp__@gaesimp__3 жыл бұрын
    • Waifu no cap

      @papiaundreay9313@papiaundreay93133 жыл бұрын
  • Random girl: I’m not like other girls! I’m so quirky xoxoxoxox Other girls: Same

    @adenferguson2647@adenferguson26473 жыл бұрын
    • And then the sad thing is if you TRULY aren’t like everyone else that comes with the price of being ignored or left out because no one likes you. Then everyone says stuff like that when they don’t know what it’s actually like

      @Peculiarpossum@Peculiarpossum3 жыл бұрын
    • That just summed up the whole quirky girl culture

      @beckaronibean@beckaronibean3 жыл бұрын
    • @@Peculiarpossum Same, it's not a gift. When you're not like other girls, you're not happy-go-lucky like this manic pixie dream girl (at least I'm not) you're not being seen as quirky, you're just weird. I do have a strong desire to help people (and animals too) though because I have a lot of empathy. Not just guys, women too. Fixing seems like the wrong word to use. You fix an object, not a person. I stay true to myself or I try to anyway. It's not easy in the world we live in. But unlike those girls in those movies I don't do whatever I want. I always consider how another person would feel. I try to mentally take a step back to look at my thoughts objectively. It doesn't always work, but I don't mind anyone else setting me straight. I actually welcome that and apologize whenever I'm wrong. I see that as a learning experience. My sense of logic often tends to be different than other people's logic too, so that makes for some awkward situations sometimes.

      @shanamoens822@shanamoens8223 жыл бұрын
    • @@shanamoens822 that sounds so similar to me! Nice to know we aren’t the only “weirdos”💜

      @Peculiarpossum@Peculiarpossum3 жыл бұрын
    • @@Peculiarpossum :) glad to know not all 'not like other girls' girls are toxic

      @bluebear4961@bluebear49613 жыл бұрын
  • Anime take this shit to a whole new level

    @franky3557@franky35573 жыл бұрын
    • A good exaple is your lie in april

      @Paula-os7gq@Paula-os7gq3 жыл бұрын
    • its a manga but does oyasumi pun pun count? no..

      @PreciousArianneRRecto@PreciousArianneRRecto3 жыл бұрын
    • I do love your lie in April but it’s a perfect example

      @dahyun1036@dahyun10363 жыл бұрын
    • @@Paula-os7gq Love tht show But it is a veryy good example

      @rain_drops2723@rain_drops27233 жыл бұрын
    • That anime movie I Want To Eat Your Pancreas has a pixie dream girl card too

      @nightowleia@nightowleia3 жыл бұрын
  • I think a better example would have been “Jack” from Titanic. Rose doesn’t change Jack, but Jack is there only to fix Rose. On top of that he disappears...I mean. He dies.

    @victoriahannah368@victoriahannah3683 жыл бұрын
    • Well he does mention a Fault In Our Stars which pretty much does the same thing.

      @plainezaine5065@plainezaine50653 жыл бұрын
    • they didn't let black people on the titanic

      @nerdycoolioh303@nerdycoolioh3033 жыл бұрын
    • @@nerdycoolioh303 I have an idea. Let's go back in time and make them.

      @zizzi3043@zizzi30433 жыл бұрын
    • He said there are a few exceptions...but generally this is the shit movies cook

      @m-wan2547@m-wan25473 жыл бұрын
    • I hv to disagree. Rose has always been the type of girl who was unhappy being told wat to do/how to live. She had her life basically planned out for her. Jack just helped her gain the courage to break free/be herself

      @mono8476@mono84763 жыл бұрын
  • The idea that a girl HAS to fix a boy is the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard. No person NEEDS fixing by someone else and no one should have to fix someone else.

    @throughrainestorms@throughrainestorms3 жыл бұрын
    • Plenty of people need fixing, and a lot can't do it on their own. The problem is movies apparently can't be made without a romance plotline, so the guide/helper role is merged into the romantic interest role.

      @Xune2000@Xune20003 жыл бұрын
    • My own hypothesis is that it's a couple of different layers Layer 1 is that often, by being the fixer-upper in a person's life, you're automatically on a different pedestal; you're more special than the rest of the people in that person's life, and feeling special and feeling needed often feel interchangeable to many who haven't yet felt a difference Layer 2 is that often, guys get to act out their more negative behaviours with less of an impact to their own value; as such, every guy around you seems like a not-so-great SO; the fantasy then becomes that hey, maybe he's an a-hole to everyone else, but amazing to me! Or that, even if he has these red flags, I know that his heart is good, and he must be behaving negatively for a reason. If I can just fix those reasons, we'll have a decent guy on our hands! Which is like, what never happens and why it's such a staple in fiction, but combine the fantasy of being special and having a decent partner if you just make enough effort, if you just dig deep enough, and it's one hell of a potent combination, and even better, is whole-heartedly backed by mainstream society

      @EvlNabiki@EvlNabiki3 жыл бұрын
    • Don't therapist help to fix people?

      @doctorcorgi3134@doctorcorgi31343 жыл бұрын
    • Doctor Corgi yh but that’s different, being a therapist is a career path. Now I’m not saying people shouldn’t help out their friends or significant others, like yh talking it out and comforting each other is a good thing from time to time. However, it should not lead to co-dependency because in a healthy relationship, both people will compromise with each other and then go off and take care of their own responsibilities while having support for one another. It’s really important to have faith in yourself in order to have faith in the relationship. And that goes to any type of relationship

      @its_just_me6183@its_just_me61833 жыл бұрын
    • @@its_just_me6183 I agree, and couldn'thave said it better. What I was trying to imply(but I'm terrible when it comes to talking) is that people exist to help you. You shouldn't rely on you significant other(or whoever) to do so, and you shouldn't have to fix people. However you should listen to them, and try to persuade them to get help by talking to a therapist.

      @doctorcorgi3134@doctorcorgi31343 жыл бұрын
  • Leo in the movie: Absolutely nobody can know I exist Leo in the book: *runs a show with his friend where they publicly humiliate people*

    @mewow3556@mewow35563 жыл бұрын
    • Omg Yes!

      @architagandra9292@architagandra92922 жыл бұрын
  • I used to be a manic pixie dream girl, unironically too. It's just who I was. But so many people broke that part of me, and I'm still picking up the pieces. I wasn't trying to fix people, I was just living and being happy. Don't find people like manic pixie dream girls to fix you or break them because you're angry, its cruel.

    @voidtectonic@voidtectonic3 жыл бұрын
    • have you looked into neurodiversity? Because i thought i was just quirky but now im in the diagnosis prosess for adhd...

      @suides4810@suides48102 жыл бұрын
    • @@suides4810 yeah, I either have bipolar or adhd with other sprinkles.

      @voidtectonic@voidtectonic2 жыл бұрын
    • Same here we got this slowly but surely remember what made you feel alive outside of them🩷

      @OnyxxRose@OnyxxRose8 ай бұрын
  • and this is how the "i'm not like other girls" phenomenon began...

    @msc2608@msc26083 жыл бұрын
    • Nah. In manic pixie dream girl trope, the most focus is on phisical attractiveness of a girl judged by the sad boi. Not like the other girls is probably "creepy silent kid" or "insane woman". You know, a character that is mostly hated for being different.

      @xxmessymindxx1303@xxmessymindxx13033 жыл бұрын
    • No.. that's the "Cool girl" kind a thing.

      @canvizia@canvizia3 жыл бұрын
    • xxmessymindxx I thought the I’m NoT lIkE tHe OtHeR gIrLs and I’m So CrAzY aNd QuIrKy when there the most average person just annoying

      @arthurvickers4163@arthurvickers41633 жыл бұрын
    • @@arthurvickers4163 I have to agree with that. xD

      @xxmessymindxx1303@xxmessymindxx13033 жыл бұрын
    • I never understood and probably never will understand this whole " Im not like other girls" thing. Lmao Just very weird overall

      @oldmanlogan9616@oldmanlogan96163 жыл бұрын
  • The thing about 500 Days of Summer is that Summer herself is NOT a manic pixie dream girl, but the idealization of her figure by Tom turns her into one.

    @cinawomo@cinawomo3 жыл бұрын
    • i was looking for a comment like this, thank you! I kept thinking the same thing to myself. The point of the movie is that he sees her as he wants to see her, which is a manic pixie dream girl. That's not who she is tho, she's a person with thoughts and feelings, but he doesn't care about that as long as she just makes him feel "good". She's not there to make him a better person, if anything he becomes worse by showing his true colors. She's there for her own selfish reasons and doesn't actually want to be with him. His little sister even calls him out in the movie! When she rightfully leaves and married another man he finally pulls himself together and *fixes himself*. That's the whole point! You can't be with someone you build up in your imagination and expect them to be exactly how you imagine and also make you a better person. That's not how it works.

      @neighborhoodnimrod3124@neighborhoodnimrod31243 жыл бұрын
    • Ana Beatriz F. Thank you for this comment, I was looking for it! I think if anyone thinks Summer is a manic pixie dream girl then they don’t understand the movie.

      @milesedwards3287@milesedwards32873 жыл бұрын
    • They were never really a couple to begin with. The first half of the movie was Tom fantisizing about her and asking her out on a date

      @Stormy_Cloud@Stormy_Cloud3 жыл бұрын
    • @@Stormy_Cloud and Summer even said in the beginning that she doesn't even want to be in a relationship. I mean, what she did was still wrong but Tom knew from the get go that what he wanted wasn't what SHE wanted but he still pushed for it

      @saixenophase@saixenophase3 жыл бұрын
    • You might like "My Girlfriends Boyfriend" with Alyssa Milano. It's an interesting take on the manic pixie dream girl.

      @sleepinggorilla@sleepinggorilla3 жыл бұрын
  • In Stargirl's defense, She was willing to compromise when she thought that acting normal would make her and Leo happier in the end. It was after acting normal and seeing that it changed nothing and just made her unhappy, she leaves Leo for her own good. Even when she acts like herself, many of the quirky things she does is for other people's sakes. That's why I think Stargirl is different than most Manic Pixie Girls because she doesn't act out of selfishness but actual love for other people.

    @alisonwallace5619@alisonwallace56193 жыл бұрын
    • I don't remember much, but when I read the book when I was younger it definitely made me cry.

      @riamel1214@riamel12142 жыл бұрын
  • “Boys have to change, girls get to be themselves” interesting you should say that when in a lot of romcoms the often conventionally unattractive or awkward guy gets the pretty girl without having to change himself, meanwhile an “imperfect” girl, like prim and proper Sandy from Grease for example, has to change and become “hot” in order to win Danny over. Because he’s so perfect of course 😒

    @Cherrycreamsoda1@Cherrycreamsoda12 жыл бұрын
    • so then how do you feel about the trope where a gorgeous and good-hearted man sees the ugliest girl in the room and falls in love with her because he pities her, errr I mean, he sees her true self underneath and she teaches him that beauty isn't skin deep...

      @ohifonlyx33@ohifonlyx332 жыл бұрын
    • To be fair, a running theme in Grease is that Danny was shallow. Remember "Summer Loving"?

      @trianglemoebius@trianglemoebius2 жыл бұрын
    • Danny changes in Grease as well, he tries to clean up his act and joins the school track team

      @alexanderthegreat1270@alexanderthegreat12702 жыл бұрын
    • @@ohifonlyx33 what? can you give some examples of this trope? feels like you just made it up

      @jeanivanjohnson@jeanivanjohnson Жыл бұрын
    • @@jeanivanjohnson Michael loved Mia in prince diaries before her makeover...

      @ohifonlyx33@ohifonlyx33 Жыл бұрын
  • This trope needs to die out. It’s setting unrealistic life expectations for both boys and girls. No, finding “the one” won’t fix all your problems. No, your relationship won’t just succeed on being “the one.” Uncertainty and impulsiveness won’t work in a good relationship.

    @bodaciousdoggo8971@bodaciousdoggo89713 жыл бұрын
    • Periodt😊

      @Definitelynotabot4@Definitelynotabot43 жыл бұрын
    • Who hurted you

      @Nezumi99@Nezumi993 жыл бұрын
    • It depends on how it's done. At the end of 500 Days of Summer, there isn't anything definite about the girl he met. Maybe she's the girl Tom marries;maybe she's just another step in Tom's journey. However, Tom is now testing dating out again and chasing jobs he actually wants rather than the crap at the greeting card company. Summer wasn't the "one" but still helped him in his life. It actually says that breaking up with people is not always the end of the world.

      @fruitbythefoote@fruitbythefoote3 жыл бұрын
    • i think instead people need stop expecting movies to 100% portray real life all of the time and thinking that all ideas in movies translate into real life no matter what.

      @iheartblicky@iheartblicky3 жыл бұрын
    • IMO That's the same thing as saying superhero movies should die out, you can't just put on a cape, train really hard and become a superhero. These movies are suppose to be a fantasy, a thing that while you watch it, pulls you away from reality so you don't have to think about your own life and you can just live in this fantasy for a while.

      @TheZasu123@TheZasu1233 жыл бұрын
  • This trope: Makes it seem the only way you can change is if you have a woman in your life Women are only there to help men It some how ends up being sexist to both sexes.

    @whitefalcon3876@whitefalcon38763 жыл бұрын
    • ugh thank you.

      @akuroatomostointernet3577@akuroatomostointernet35773 жыл бұрын
    • Because a relationship with a girl and to care for her/help her with her daily struggle is understood as a way to compensate for a lack of responsibility (=meaning) in your life. But that's not how it works.

      @ChrisCrosswow@ChrisCrosswow3 жыл бұрын
    • Maybe even homophobic if we think about it

      @Lola-yh2su@Lola-yh2su3 жыл бұрын
    • @@Lola-yh2su in what way is it homophobic?

      @tinyxgremlin@tinyxgremlin3 жыл бұрын
    • @@tinyxgremlin well, it's maybe not 'homophobic' as we think of it, but it is heteronormative in a way. If life for men was really solved entirely by the women if their lives, gay men in that case would never change for the better. On the other hand, if women only exist to help men, lesbians existence itself is questionable as being 'fulfilled.' Anyway, the whole idea of manic pixie dream girls is bullshit so pay it no mind.

      @hollypatrick4851@hollypatrick48513 жыл бұрын
  • In Breakfast at Tiffany's she was trashing her room in grief upon learning her brother died. It was misrepresented here 🤔

    @ennuiblue4295@ennuiblue42953 жыл бұрын
    • Breakfast at Tiffany's is so far from manic pixie. Not a good example at all.

      @symphonyhioco5093@symphonyhioco50933 жыл бұрын
    • Exactly. as ennui blue said, it wasn't her throwing some quirky tantrum. She was having a break down because she'd just found out that her brother, the only person she really cared for and the one she was prostituting herself out to someday make a home with, was dead. Holly is even more obviously broken in the novel, where she doesn't count "anything that happened before she was 13" among her list of lovers. She and her brother were running from an abusive home, and they found a...slightly better one, where they could stay, but then the doctor proposed and Holly (Lulamae) became a child bride. Likely thinking this was the only way to keep a roof over their heads. She's not so "random" because she's being true to herself. It's explicitly stated that she's a phony. She's re-inventing herself. Hiding from that abused child behind a thin veneer of sophistication and using men for what they seem to want from her. It's just that she'll never be able to run far enough to get away from herself.

      @5th_cellar@5th_cellar3 жыл бұрын
    • @@symphonyhioco5093 Seriously. She's a manically broken girl, not a manic pixie dream girl trope, haha. Despite the romcom ending of the film in Breakfast at Tiffany's, the main character, Paul, actually does the opposite for Holly and helps her realize she's the one who is running away from herself and trying to find superficial happiness, instead of confronting her own problems.

      @cara8302@cara83023 жыл бұрын
    • I think the book is far better than a movie and really shows the manic pixie dream girl side of the story. I mean it starts by a rumor about a statue showing up in Africa or Australia that resembles Holly and the author going to the bar that they used to go to often to try to find out what happened to Holly. Capote was the kong of the manic pixie character trope

      @karissanelson1311@karissanelson13113 жыл бұрын
    • Thank you! And doesn't she sneak out of her apartment and crawl up to Paul's fire escape because there's a man literally beating down her door and she's trying to get away from him? Not to mention that Holly was supposed to represent the new "single girl in the city" of the 60's that was breaking tradition and living that single life to the fullest.

      @dianabeloved@dianabeloved2 жыл бұрын
  • "Say it" "Vampire" "Wtf, no I just play a lot of World of Warcraft!"

    @jmckenzie962@jmckenzie9623 жыл бұрын
  • Ok but why is no one talking about the beautiful watercolor transitions

    @tigerloverme6383@tigerloverme63833 жыл бұрын
    • Yesssss, they look so good

      @imhumaniswear6736@imhumaniswear67363 жыл бұрын
    • Yess I really love when it happens >< whoever makes the watercolor transitions are really amazing!👏🏼👏🏼

      @tsukijams1127@tsukijams11273 жыл бұрын
    • He's done them before with his Spider-man and 13 reasons why videos. Nonetheless i do really like this style and kind of wish he'd do more videos like this more often.

      @IndecisiveJR@IndecisiveJR3 жыл бұрын
    • Just made a comment about it😂😂

      @ethancole6742@ethancole67423 жыл бұрын
    • Yeah they were really pretty!

      @fcm3d@fcm3d3 жыл бұрын
  • Audrey once said that her character of Holly Golightly was the hardest to play because it was nothing like her personal self

    @TheresaKatharina@TheresaKatharina3 жыл бұрын
    • She played her well, though. And Holly had her redemption at the end

      @Line...@Line...3 жыл бұрын
    • That movie was awful tho..

      @chimchan8248@chimchan82483 жыл бұрын
    • ChimChan nah, it wasn’t. Except Mickey Rooneys japanese character

      @Line...@Line...3 жыл бұрын
    • that's a relief. i tried watching that movie and she just irritated me.

      @chicostephenson@chicostephenson3 жыл бұрын
    • They should remake Breakfast At Tiffany’s based on the original novella. It was much darker.

      @archer1949@archer19493 жыл бұрын
  • Edward: say it Bella: vampire Edward: what do we eat? **Taco bell ad comes in**

    @haroldlou7686@haroldlou76863 жыл бұрын
  • i remember reading stargirl as a kid, the fact that they're remained faithful to the book which was published 20 years ago has kind of resulted in stargirl's 'quirkiness' being even less effective. so many teens have ukuleles and wear colourful clothes now lmao

    @cprk594@cprk5943 жыл бұрын
    • Yeah pretty much- I own a Kalimba and I only use it at hone because I have a feeling that “Kalimba girl” will become the new “ukulele girl”

      @Scribbles-hz9ec@Scribbles-hz9ec3 жыл бұрын
    • "Stargirl" was always a shit book, it was an obvious attempt by the author to show how deep and meaningful their writing was. Case-in-point: He didn't even write the actual name of the book on the cover, because he was too "unique "for that.

      @trianglemoebius@trianglemoebius2 жыл бұрын
    • @@trianglemoebius I disagree, I like the book. I like that stargirl is a real person, and that Leo is a real person. They changed each other in the book.

      @Measuresderepo@Measuresderepo7 ай бұрын
  • It's funny how I rely more on Alex for my movie reviews rather than Rotten tomatoes or anything else

    @frozendaffodil3272@frozendaffodil32723 жыл бұрын
    • Same

      @calliaash5720@calliaash57203 жыл бұрын
    • wow same here

      @savanah3419@savanah34193 жыл бұрын
    • Same

      @mikesuarez9615@mikesuarez96153 жыл бұрын
    • Alex and LME are the only movie reviewers i trust 😔👌🏽👌🏽

      @leaderoftaehyungnation9766@leaderoftaehyungnation97663 жыл бұрын
    • I don’t trust the other review platforms because they are so biased and pass judgement on something based off of if it fits the agenda they want it to fit.

      @blakericketts4662@blakericketts46623 жыл бұрын
  • There’s always movies that have this exact plot: Shy girl moves to a new school. On her first day, she makes two new friends (one boy who clearly likes her, one girl) and they become besties. The new girl ends up developing a crush on the popular girl’s bf and the bf is kinda into her (which pisses the popular girl off.) The popular girl’s bf gets mad that she’s jealous and breaks up with her. The shy girl and popular guy end up dating and the shy girl gets popular by default. She gets caught up in the popularity and ditches her friends. She later realizes she made a mistake, breaks up with her bf and goes back to her friends. They take her back and her boy best friend confesses his feelings and they become a thing. The friend group continues to thrive and they lived happily ever after

    @lamp6798@lamp67983 жыл бұрын
    • so, Mean Girls? [without the boy best friend( Damien) crushing on her]

      @hyunsamor@hyunsamor3 жыл бұрын
    • Isn't that the plot of radio rebel?

      @zoicarr4511@zoicarr45113 жыл бұрын
    • Or where the popular boy(the mean girls crush) and the punk/outsider boy fight for the new girls love

      @21god@21god3 жыл бұрын
    • I've definitely recognize _that_ story lmao. Classic.

      @aur9035@aur90353 жыл бұрын
    • Tall girl

      @vrastimallya6621@vrastimallya66213 жыл бұрын
  • I've realized that a lot of my boyfriends first liked me because i fit the trope of "manic pixie dream girl" but I never liked that they didn't think of me too far past me being unpredictable or doing what I want. It's dehumanizing to do so because every relationship always ends with them claiming I'm not who I said I was or some bullshit like that, and it got to the point where I refuse to watch movies with that trope

    @anniyyahhhood8162@anniyyahhhood81623 жыл бұрын
  • you either stop chasing manic pixie dream girls or you live long enough to become one.

    @ndx2k@ndx2k3 жыл бұрын
    • I love your comment

      @analutsenko@analutsenko3 жыл бұрын
    • I always was one maybe because I'm autistic I always thought I can fix that sad girl...

      @benjaminvleugels5609@benjaminvleugels5609 Жыл бұрын
  • When I was dating a guy I wanted to “help” and “fix” because he was broody, sad, and mean my mom told me it was most often that people would never change. She asked me if I could live with all the things I didn’t like if he didn’t change. The answer was no so I moved on. Best advice I’ve every received

    @tabithawelch2847@tabithawelch28473 жыл бұрын
    • your mom is right, we shouldn't expect to be able to change anyone

      @msc2608@msc26083 жыл бұрын
    • Sis same, never been happier

      @sugarypages7549@sugarypages75493 жыл бұрын
    • We as men don't like when women try to change us he has to be motivated if he isn't leave it alone

      @kylelindsay6390@kylelindsay63903 жыл бұрын
    • @@kylelindsay6390 I'd phrase it that we don't want to "be changed" we want to be "Inspired to change"

      @Wessssss21@Wessssss213 жыл бұрын
    • Wow u r selfish 😂

      @parsadolatabadi3965@parsadolatabadi39653 жыл бұрын
  • "Lets take a look at Twilight" nothing good has ever started with that sentence

    @enchantedbreez2891@enchantedbreez28913 жыл бұрын
    • True.

      @jeckjeck3119@jeckjeck31193 жыл бұрын
    • So TRUUEE

      @rachaeliyunade8947@rachaeliyunade89473 жыл бұрын
    • True lol

      @pine-solismylemonade5542@pine-solismylemonade55423 жыл бұрын
    • Edward: Are you afraid? Bella: No. Me: She's too stupid to be afraid of a vampire.

      @vikaziza1506@vikaziza15063 жыл бұрын
    • So many twilight fans would be so offended but, it's so true hahah

      @mariasteinst2706@mariasteinst27063 жыл бұрын
  • I still love 500 Days of Summer to death

    @BillyCobbOfficial@BillyCobbOfficial3 жыл бұрын
    • Didn't expect to see you here

      @Mixedbag456@Mixedbag4563 жыл бұрын
    • I would argue 500 days of summer is a deconstruction of the tropes

      @mojorecords172@mojorecords1723 жыл бұрын
    • @@mojorecords172 it is

      @BillyCobbOfficial@BillyCobbOfficial3 жыл бұрын
    • It's too good...i cried at the end 😅

      @Aiibh@Aiibh2 жыл бұрын
  • I dated a M.P.D.G. for 5 months when I was 21. It was a whirlwind that definitely changed me for the better. She broke my heart when she moved on to the next guy. It's been 10 years now she's an exotic dancer and married to a man with numerous face tattoos.

    @JamesAcrossAmerica@JamesAcrossAmerica3 жыл бұрын
    • Moved on to next guy? Jajaj

      @soloparaplaystation6624@soloparaplaystation6624 Жыл бұрын
  • Side note: If she makes “other girls vs me” drawings, run for the hills

    @autisticsapphic8991@autisticsapphic89913 жыл бұрын
    • Unless it's fanart of Other Girl and Me Girl in a happy loving committed relationship, those are great 😁

      @Novur@Novur3 жыл бұрын
    • Novur yes I love when they do those!

      @autisticsapphic8991@autisticsapphic89913 жыл бұрын
    • @@Novur ouuu yesss

      @littlelife101@littlelife1013 жыл бұрын
    • 😂😂

      @defencebangladesh4068@defencebangladesh40683 жыл бұрын
    • Why is everyone so against "I'm not like the other girls" thing? That's stupid. Most girls who think like that are victims of peer abuse or are just lonely and don't fit in. Stuff like that, liking my difference from others, is what gave me strength to survive when I was a teen. I can only imagine how hard it is for girls like that now when apparently everyone hates them. Victim blaming at it's purest.

      @xxmessymindxx1303@xxmessymindxx13033 жыл бұрын
  • Boys' method of escapism: manic pixie dream girl Girls' method of escapism: brooding bad boy with a heart of gold My uncle's method of escapism: 24 pack Coors Light and verbally abusive Facebook posts

    @wheresmyjuul1619@wheresmyjuul16193 жыл бұрын
    • WHERE'S MY JUUL? 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂...I am at loss of words

      @nandanapalchowdhury4588@nandanapalchowdhury45883 жыл бұрын
    • lol, i'm a MPDG dating a BBBWAHAG. power couple

      @Anonymous-54545@Anonymous-545453 жыл бұрын
    • my method of escapism is weed and whisky

      @Mr.Fury1@Mr.Fury13 жыл бұрын
    • @@Anonymous-54545 for how long

      @mushipoo@mushipoo3 жыл бұрын
    • @@mushipoo important question

      @vineetha6942@vineetha69423 жыл бұрын
  • I appreciated you looking at an example of a fantasy boy and pointing out how in those stories it's still that the girl fixes the boy.

    @Miguel-qe8xv@Miguel-qe8xv3 жыл бұрын
  • I think romantic relationships should be like platonic relationships. Just two people who love each other and validate and support each other. A healthy relationship should go both ways as far as support and understanding goes. It’s not fixing each other, it’s just helping each other when the other person asks for help.

    @oliviaglover8220@oliviaglover82203 жыл бұрын
  • I'm a girl and honestly, I wouldn't want to base my whole relationship on having to "fix" the other person either.

    @kaiserschmarrn6978@kaiserschmarrn69783 жыл бұрын
    • Same tho but me as a person I will probably fall for that type of a relationship because I love helping people and if I can’t fix those closest to me I feel useless and not needed anymore.

      @bhavanabharath5192@bhavanabharath51923 жыл бұрын
    • I'm a guy and think the same way.

      @icecreamhero2375@icecreamhero23753 жыл бұрын
    • @@bhavanabharath5192 Just fyi, and this is some proven-to-work personal advice - the best way to help a guy out a lot of times is to yell at him about his shitty behaviour. If you have an actual reason to do so, it gets fun after a while. Lol great way to let off steam.

      @ValD98@ValD983 жыл бұрын
    • @@bhavanabharath5192 And that's a bad mindset. I deal with it aswell. I feel like I have a responsibility to help people out, but you *don't* . They can only change if they show a desire to change. You'll only hurt yourself if you go for people who don't.

      @kxngkxng@kxngkxng3 жыл бұрын
    • Seriously! I fell in love with my husband as he was. I knew him before we got together and I won’t change him. He’s a good guy, not a perfect one.

      @helpyourselfimbusy5747@helpyourselfimbusy57473 жыл бұрын
  • I swear to god Zoey Deschanel is that "quirky" girl in every single thing shes in lol

    @MaisieIsAwesome@MaisieIsAwesome3 жыл бұрын
    • Yea kinda like nicholas cage in everything he does lol

      @gideoniskemp@gideoniskemp3 жыл бұрын
    • Kinda like Edward Norton in everything he's in lol

      @jungoo3486@jungoo34863 жыл бұрын
    • New girl is a perfect example

      @LS-du9gi@LS-du9gi3 жыл бұрын
    • Not in Elf

      @grungyasscinema@grungyasscinema3 жыл бұрын
    • GrungyAssCinema That’s probably the only one

      @bethanyoneal5789@bethanyoneal57893 жыл бұрын
  • “Manic pixie dream girl” Shows neurological girl who’s just quirky...

    @clairerogerson2153@clairerogerson21533 жыл бұрын
  • hey alex, do make more video essays. they're so insightful and informative, i absolutely love it.

    @aimansayed6271@aimansayed62712 жыл бұрын
  • When you’re both the sad boy and the manic pixie dream girl

    @worrywirt@worrywirt3 жыл бұрын
    • Mood

      @patriciaphillips4808@patriciaphillips48083 жыл бұрын
    • Bipolar vibes 😍🥰✨

      @confused3523@confused35233 жыл бұрын
    • Mood

      @szafirowyyt8655@szafirowyyt86553 жыл бұрын
    • when you're bipolar and no one ever wants you

      @tree6814@tree68143 жыл бұрын
    • @@tree6814 for good reason

      @TheGameneo@TheGameneo3 жыл бұрын
  • I like the idea of a bubbly, happy girl as a CHARACTER. I think it's ruined when it gets tied to the story of a man.

    @hopoffmydick9574@hopoffmydick95743 жыл бұрын
    • Luna Lovegood is like that in Harry Potter. Def. one of my favourite characters in thee series!

      @Ash-ii4hg@Ash-ii4hg3 жыл бұрын
    • Even when she's the main character, it always seems like the girl is just a side character to the guy's story and is just constantly getting dragged around.

      @melharis4451@melharis44513 жыл бұрын
    • @@melharis4451 when did you see manic pixie dream girl as main character tho? or manic pixie dream person for that matter

      @x340x@x340x3 жыл бұрын
    • Actually, part of this specific trope is being a man's dream, as the name says. The character wouldn't be a manic pixie dream girl if she wasn't attached to a man. She would be something different. Luna Lovegood is something different.

      @lauratude5132@lauratude51323 жыл бұрын
    • You can find female protagonists who are quirky. And as the story is about them, we can see the flaws beneath the quirkiness, or how they use this kind of personality to mask their insecurities. Juno from "Juno" might be one of those. Or Molly from "Uptown Girls."

      @lauratude5132@lauratude51323 жыл бұрын
  • I've watched a ton of videos about this topic, but I think this is my favorite. Well done!

    @moon_mint@moon_mint3 жыл бұрын
  • But Holly Golightly is not like that at all. She's actually quite sad and anxious, if not depressed. She acts and does what she wants because she tries to run away from her sadness and not live a dull life . She knows she is sad and doesn't always try to hide it. She tells Paul Varjak about her mean reds the first time she meets him, but she hides it from everyone else in her life and mostly tries to hide it from herself as well. She has a backstory that gives reasons to why she might be so sad, anxious and lost. She has pretty extreme mood swings, much like someone who is bipolar. She tries to be this free spirited girl and doesn't let herself appear vulnerable, but once someone looks a little closer they can see that it's mostly a front. She only chases a glamorous life because she believes it will make her sadness go away, but she could also be happy with a simple life if she only let herself (we saw that in the scenes of her and Paul around nyc ). She actually has a lot of depth to her that may not be visible to some viewers on the first watch.

    @ania1563@ania15633 жыл бұрын
    • Very well said, I feel including that film was a misstep

      @anniedangerface@anniedangerface3 жыл бұрын
    • i came here to say that! well put thanks

      @juliettemck1841@juliettemck18413 жыл бұрын
    • Holly Golightly is a way more complex character than any of these movies for teenagers can portray.

      @lordclansman4205@lordclansman42053 жыл бұрын
  • Wearing hoodies isn't a personality trait 😜

    @linglingwannabe1441@linglingwannabe14413 жыл бұрын
    • 🐝🎻🤟🤟

      @lingling40hours46@lingling40hours463 жыл бұрын
    • I feel personally attacked by this comment. I am one with the hoodie

      @alyssabrown-carleton6173@alyssabrown-carleton61733 жыл бұрын
    • It is if you're a teenager

      @Ichsukatanuka@Ichsukatanuka3 жыл бұрын
    • neither is eating pizza and chicken nuggets- that's just like a non-lying human...

      @linglingwannabe1024@linglingwannabe10243 жыл бұрын
    • But it sure is comfortable 😜

      @month2464@month24643 жыл бұрын
  • The manic pixie dream girl and her counterpart, the depressive goblin nightmare boy

    @fuffle7@fuffle73 жыл бұрын
    • 😂

      @nonamefound9296@nonamefound92963 жыл бұрын
    • Laughed so hard 😂

      @beelzebuI@beelzebuI3 жыл бұрын
    • G O B L I N B O Y

      @rahmodin9209@rahmodin92093 жыл бұрын
    • i’m using this

      @luniette@luniette3 жыл бұрын
    • Mpdg and dgnm

      @echsemia@echsemia3 жыл бұрын
  • this video was so well done, like I can imagine the hard work he put into it!

    @sahethi7190@sahethi71903 жыл бұрын
  • This is actually the best video I've watched that talks about this kind of topic. Really well done.

    @filipstavrov2566@filipstavrov25662 жыл бұрын
  • I wanna meet Alex in real life😂😂. Imagine discussing or having a movie Night with him. It would be amusing

    @Thali5932@Thali59323 жыл бұрын
    • While looking into his blue eyes

      @ksway8471@ksway84713 жыл бұрын
    • @@ksway8471 woah. Stop right there

      @kirai1128@kirai11283 жыл бұрын
    • Honestly sometimes i forget that alex isn't a white animated cartoon character who has a dog.

      @chowzah287@chowzah2873 жыл бұрын
    • @@ksway8471 Okay... Getting darker

      @rosecharm3252@rosecharm32523 жыл бұрын
    • @@rosecharm3252 blue eyes are often not that dark, it's usually just the shading

      @aviolaplayer7043@aviolaplayer70433 жыл бұрын
  • If you want to see a real manic pixie dream boy, hallmark movies are your best bet.

    @LibertyLocalizer@LibertyLocalizer3 жыл бұрын
    • Everything on that channel is as cookie cutter as they come

      @elmackattack1992@elmackattack19923 жыл бұрын
    • @@elmackattack1992 like when calls the heart

      @cauapereira1019@cauapereira10193 жыл бұрын
    • The perfect single father whose wife is out of the picture and he has a perfect big house in a quaint small town. That's pretty much every Hallmark perfect guy.

      @Nightman221k@Nightman221k3 жыл бұрын
    • So true

      @introvertvibes6801@introvertvibes68013 жыл бұрын
    • I can guess the ending of every movie on that channel from the introduction

      @randompeep2330@randompeep23303 жыл бұрын
  • Love this style of video! Never watched your content before but deffo subscribing! Well written, beautifully illustrated. Well done :D

    @olamakesvideos3193@olamakesvideos31933 жыл бұрын
  • This was honestly really good analysis of the MPDG trope. I've seen a handful of videos talking about it, but you really put it in perspective with the role reversal segment. And it was cool seeing you dissect the main characteristics and show they aren't realistic ways of operating.

    @meganalfajora3991@meganalfajora39913 жыл бұрын
  • She disappears because a long relationship would mean he sees more sides to her. And women apparently aren’t allowed to be flawed

    @sydfeta12@sydfeta123 жыл бұрын
    • Yesssss that's so true

      @Jenny-vv4ji@Jenny-vv4ji3 жыл бұрын
    • I wad kind of thinking something similar

      @AJForShort@AJForShort3 жыл бұрын
    • If she was flawed she wouldn't be a dream girl 💁 edit/ I still would call her a flawed mpdg. I was commenting on why women characters tend to be written like that. Media industry is a big boys club after all

      @CannotBeVerified@CannotBeVerified3 жыл бұрын
    • exactly

      @ssnakebbite.@ssnakebbite.3 жыл бұрын
    • Exactly

      @PinksInMyArea@PinksInMyArea3 жыл бұрын
  • "Boys Need to be fixed" "Girls need a project" I loved how you touched on this. I hate how women are expected to change a man or vice versa. A relationship is wonderful but it won't bring full on confidence. That's your job. This is a tiring trope in romance movies tbh.

    @michellegrobbelaar7379@michellegrobbelaar73793 жыл бұрын
    • And we all know that you cannot change somebody, unless they want you to.

      @saschamayer4050@saschamayer40503 жыл бұрын
    • Totally agree with this!! And the other side of the coin: Men are not something inherently broken that needs to be fixed. Men.Are.Not.Broken. Women.Are.Not.Saviours.

      @ayeshaw2486@ayeshaw24863 жыл бұрын
    • Yes! They also love to do that in disney princess movies if you really think about it.

      @rippingoutbookpages7224@rippingoutbookpages72243 жыл бұрын
    • I kind of touched on this in a separate comment, but it's not so much an expectation as it is a power fantasy. They don't actually put any effort into the relationship, it's like their presence fixes everything on its own. That's why women are attracted to it. Putting any actual effort into changing a person, whether they're worth it or not, is a massive headache if actually attempted.

      @ValD98@ValD983 жыл бұрын
    • I don't think you should make this about yourself...

      @hashaborgonja@hashaborgonja3 жыл бұрын
  • This was really well put together, thank you!

    @KelseyLBradley@KelseyLBradley3 жыл бұрын
  • This trope is unfortunately permeated and lowkey ruined my life in high school. I have bipolar disorder and when I'm manic I actually do dress and act more like a manic pixie dream girl, and so the kinds of people who asked me out were normally entitled repressed nerds who ignored any of my "unpalatable" human person traits (while I was expected to welcome theirs). All while I desperately wished for an SO who was emotionally stable and had a nice personality and respected my boundaries and communicated with me and had like interests and stuff and oh my god the bar is on the ground

    @ahhh4117@ahhh41173 жыл бұрын
    • BPD is never easy. Finding the right medication level is the key. Not expecting to be completely "normal" is a must. Wanting to always please people and seeking affirmation is a curse. Hang in there.

      @LanternOfLiberty@LanternOfLiberty3 жыл бұрын
    • You should have gone through therapy instead of being a whiny selfish person putting other people through your mess.

      @gooftroop6303@gooftroop63033 жыл бұрын
    • @@gooftroop6303 I've never been in a relationship bc of that actually Here's the thing u don't know anything about me, and u made all these gross assumptions about my character bc I shared the way bad people tried to take advantage of me thru my psychological condition when I was child

      @ahhh4117@ahhh41173 жыл бұрын
    • @@ahhh4117 ♥️

      @LanternOfLiberty@LanternOfLiberty3 жыл бұрын
    • @@ahhh4117 Wow respect for being so calm and reasonable in reply to THAT! And I hear you on the "'never been in a relationship" bit. I don't have a personality disorder, but my mother has Borderline and through her genes I got a vulnerability to fear and psychological problems. I also came out of an abusive home. I did years of therapy and voluntarily stayed at a psychiatric hospital for 2 years in order to work on all my problems. I don't want anyone else to have to deal with my issues either.

      @shanamoens822@shanamoens8223 жыл бұрын
  • imagine if quirky bad written male characters where as hated as female quirky characters, like the abomination that is jughead from riverdale

    @sugarqcoat@sugarqcoat3 жыл бұрын
    • iF yOu HaVen'T nOTiCeD, iM wEird, Im A WEiRDO, i dOnT FiT iN, I DoNT wANNa FiT iN

      @imtired7196@imtired71963 жыл бұрын
    • There aren't quirky men, they're just self proclaimed assholes who'd say stuff like "That's who I am, I'm an asshole, I've warned you"

      @pujavidyarthi9160@pujavidyarthi91603 жыл бұрын
    • They ARE as hated though?? Why else do we not have as much quirky male characters as quirky female characters? Because they are less popular than the quirky female characters.

      @samantaraafat8526@samantaraafat85263 жыл бұрын
    • Angelina Liguori I think they are more hated or disliked! Quirky girls seem fun, the guy is usually cute and sad, but humble.

      @princessjudah9707@princessjudah97073 жыл бұрын
    • I think they are not AS hated because most of them are accompanied by the most disgustingly stupid "would not ever exist as a sane human being" girls and they get all the hate for putting up with those guys.

      @diegogutierrez1997@diegogutierrez19973 жыл бұрын
  • I'm not going to lie, I'm really happy to see him doing this type of content again

    @Shiro-yh6pv@Shiro-yh6pv3 жыл бұрын
    • same! He's so good at it and I love the editing style he uses

      @berry.styles@berry.styles3 жыл бұрын
    • Again?

      @NeedANewName@NeedANewName3 жыл бұрын
    • Elisa van den Berg somebody’s new here

      @DuncanUdaho67@DuncanUdaho673 жыл бұрын
    • Indeed!

      @the69Randomness@the69Randomness3 жыл бұрын
    • Yeah the constant reviews can get a little exhausting since this is what I subscribed for. That being said tho I always prefer a creator making what THEY want.

      @victoriaandrews4547@victoriaandrews45473 жыл бұрын
  • Alex, I am about 8 minutes into the video right now, and I just wanted to say that I am so appreciative of the amount of thought (and most likely time) that you put into this video. Although it's sort of on a different path than most of your videos, and doesn't feature your great great animation skills, it really already is one of my favourite videos of yours.

    @ScizGraffiti@ScizGraffiti2 жыл бұрын
  • I really liked the editing and transitions you did on this video.

    @alakazellae-commerce9627@alakazellae-commerce96272 жыл бұрын
  • Another really great example of this is John Green’s “Paper Towns”.

    @leilamoh878@leilamoh8783 жыл бұрын
    • Q projected that onto her. He loved the idea of her, not for who she really was.

      @pyroshayniac1090@pyroshayniac10903 жыл бұрын
    • Alaska

      @chiguru99@chiguru993 жыл бұрын
    • John Green books tend to be more deconstructions of the MPDG tropes. Some are more successful at this than others.

      @bishielurfer@bishielurfer3 жыл бұрын
    • Omg i always thought it was “Paper Town” i feel dumber-

      @michellebautista6625@michellebautista66253 жыл бұрын
    • I feel like I never even understood Margo. Always saw her through Quintins eyes and his assumptions about her.

      @bruhh137@bruhh1373 жыл бұрын
  • except that in 500 Days of Summer, it was Tom's fault, and Summer was not a mpdg. He just treated her like one, completely disregarding her, not listening to her and just fantasizing and projecting his wishes onto her. 500 Days of Summer is a movie that tries to break the mpdg trope...

    @Shay0008@Shay00083 жыл бұрын
    • she did lead him on a bit, didn't look for a relationship, yet did things you do in one... uh huh... I don't blame him

      @ryderwilson7955@ryderwilson79553 жыл бұрын
    • @@ryderwilson7955 Women don't owe men anything. Tom was in the wrong in the movie

      @pepinocorino6981@pepinocorino69813 жыл бұрын
    • Yeah it's like a deconstruction of manic pixie dream girl trope

      @Robiness@Robiness3 жыл бұрын
    • Pepino Corino both of them was at fault. Because she did lead him on like persisting him to sleep with her e.g shower sex. This is while her being full aware that he likes her. But at the same time, she made it clear to him that she doesn't want commitments. He set himself on a trap, he didn't think this through😃

      @ellieyoung8389@ellieyoung83893 жыл бұрын
    • I think his video was centering around as he said that no one should aspire to be a mpdg or the guy because either position is dangerous

      @unfabulouslyfabulous@unfabulouslyfabulous3 жыл бұрын
  • Buddy if you think that star girl is a film, you NEED to see “ bridge to tarabithia “ yes it’s a sad film but for a manic pixie dram girl movie it’s actually incredible and has a better “ girl is gone “ plot point than most of those films

    @amarakelley6477@amarakelley64773 жыл бұрын
    • And it's based on a real incident too. The plot twist was not contrived

      @Paul_Wetor@Paul_Wetor Жыл бұрын
    • @@Paul_Wetoroh wow I didn’t know that

      @amarakelley6477@amarakelley64774 ай бұрын
  • I completely agree with you! I appreciate that you talked about it from the guys prospective, cause a lot of people just don't. You did a great job handling both sides. And I loved the watercolor transitions.

    @auburnsongbird2044@auburnsongbird20443 жыл бұрын
  • The thing about "500 Days of Summer" I will say is that they do subvert your expectations and reveal that Joseph Gordon Levitts character was putting her on a pedestal and falling for his fantasy of her rather than for her. Still the same concept but the way they did it was better than how most go.

    @W1ll88@W1ll883 жыл бұрын
    • Exaclty.

      @weaselarmy5033@weaselarmy50333 жыл бұрын
    • Yeah she wasn't a manic Pixie

      @overdosedmiawallace@overdosedmiawallace3 жыл бұрын
    • Nathan Rabin the guy who came up with the trope wrote an article where he was pissed of that people said Annie hall or summer are manic pixie dream girls

      @jannikolaiisfort9432@jannikolaiisfort94323 жыл бұрын
    • He put her on pedestal and she wanted the pedestal and played him like a flute, cause doesn't want to be alone at the moment. He saw only what he wanted and she didn't care beyond it was nice for now. He should have listened more and she should have told him to go away.

      @prospero4183@prospero41833 жыл бұрын
    • This was the first one where they really told you the guy was wrong and this girl is not at all what she seems.

      @Aster_Risk@Aster_Risk3 жыл бұрын
  • I mean, to be fair... that's the whole point with 500 days of Summer though. To show how the manic pixie dream girl is unrealistic. Tom is projecting his own feelings on her, without listening to her.

    @disco.rebecca@disco.rebecca3 жыл бұрын
    • Alex has another vid in this style that goes into this argument. I recommend

      @user-uu2cj9ct3j@user-uu2cj9ct3j3 жыл бұрын
    • @Tatiana Escalante Just search "500 days of Summer Alex Meyers" and it'll show up.

      @declaracionespolemicas@declaracionespolemicas3 жыл бұрын
    • This!!!! Summer is NOT really a manic pixie girl

      @almepm2345@almepm23453 жыл бұрын
    • I dont think its his "fault" alone. I agree with you but dont forget Summer intentionally did this. She knew what she was doing and she was smart enough to know that he would see her as said "dream" girl.

      @MichaSennin@MichaSennin3 жыл бұрын
    • THANK YOU. Using Summer, who is supposed to be the anti-MPDG, in a video about the MPDG trope seems pretty ironic.

      @altheaosborn2648@altheaosborn26483 жыл бұрын
  • You should really do more of these, very interesting!

    @CuanMRaw@CuanMRaw2 жыл бұрын
  • This gives me another reason why, I love Breakfast at Tiffany's so much. The speech Paul gave her at the end gave me chills.

    @riverbanzachamploo9725@riverbanzachamploo97253 жыл бұрын
  • I genuinely like this format, the more serious and analytical tone is actually pretty refreshing. The editing is really interesting as well.

    @grillboss6767@grillboss67673 жыл бұрын
    • Was about to comment the same

      @ClaraCurado@ClaraCurado3 жыл бұрын
    • I totally agree! His comedy and analytical tone is spot on- it’s so refreshing

      @fiore4379@fiore43793 жыл бұрын
    • agreed!!

      @camila-oq6sp@camila-oq6sp3 жыл бұрын
    • Check out his earlier post. He originally started with this format. Recommended 👍

      @FairuzaMNasir@FairuzaMNasir3 жыл бұрын
    • I agree!! 😁

      @moonlilyfairy3669@moonlilyfairy36693 жыл бұрын
  • “I lOvE hEr KnEeS”

    @miakelly2877@miakelly28773 жыл бұрын
    • haha. i never understood that. especially in drawings nowadays they make the girl's nose, knees and elbows pink like ..oookaay

      @nicole-wf4pe@nicole-wf4pe3 жыл бұрын
    • *L E T S C U T IT O F F*

      @Blue-so6ci@Blue-so6ci3 жыл бұрын
    • So weird

      @ClicStudio@ClicStudio3 жыл бұрын
    • AIRIDER skateboarding *Y E S*

      @lifelessdreams60@lifelessdreams603 жыл бұрын
    • @@nicole-wf4pe That's usually a stylistic choice because knees can be reddish or slightly tanned.

      @starsforthesun@starsforthesun3 жыл бұрын
  • This is a great video! I love how you put it togeather. Things I never thought about those characters.

    @scottnance5956@scottnance5956 Жыл бұрын
  • brought up some really interesting ideas, really enjoyed it 👍

    @Laner7@Laner73 жыл бұрын
  • the girl being like "i wanna do what i want you just deal with it" is not narcissistic, it's being a one-dimensional character who is only there to show you how to be spontanious and then she has nothing left to offer because she was written that way and fantasized about in that way - one dimension. Yeah, her freckles are nice, her heart-shaped thing is cute but.... what about her ideas man lol didn't you fall in love with something else besides ankles and elbows, like, aspirations and opinions on shared dreams... im glad a guy understand that though, i was really scared this would go downhill lol thank you, i like you even more now

    @itsmj3103@itsmj31033 жыл бұрын
    • this is exactly it, in every version of the MPDG story the male character never actually loves her as a person but as the thing he wants to see. he never cares about her family, her dreams, her attitude about the future. Just she’s so pretty and different, not like all the girls i’m not interested in or turn me down!

      @Sweethearts4969@Sweethearts49693 жыл бұрын
    • Yep, its because the guy objectifies her and sees her as that one thing, and then gets possesive. They always blame the MPDG for leaving, but what woman would want to stay with a guy that treats her like that? And what happens when the guy finally notices that she isn't just that image but a more complex person who is as flawed as everyone else? Will he resent her for it?

      @Shawnasart76597@Shawnasart765973 жыл бұрын
    • Yeah that's why the "quriky" girl trope is unrealistic and harmful to young girls and women. We are more than a fantasy.

      @libertychandler8442@libertychandler84423 жыл бұрын
    • Liberty Chandler damn right

      @Sweethearts4969@Sweethearts49693 жыл бұрын
    • Came here to say something similar. First: I totally agree with you. Second: I think this video kind of misses the point. The mpdg is a fantasy of men. This woman solely exists to make him a better/more desirable/happy man. Once he's "better" in whatever way he was lacking, her work is done and she is no longer needed. Men like to complain that they don't want women to fix them, but this fantast of the mpdg contradicts that as she is only there to fix. ALSO and super important: Summer is not a mpdg!!!!!! The main guy in that movie thinks she is and he keeps treating her like she is but she's not. That's why he's not any better off at the end of the movie for knowing her. And also why the movie ends on something about Autumn (sorry, its been a long time since I've seen it).

      @jillkeller8956@jillkeller89563 жыл бұрын
  • I just realised that "The Bridge to Terabithia" is exactly this.

    @Mattatiah95@Mattatiah953 жыл бұрын
    • Oh no. Why did you do that

      @mathsisdeadtomenow@mathsisdeadtomenow3 жыл бұрын
    • But instead the girl dies-

      @SooyeonIdle@SooyeonIdle3 жыл бұрын
    • Ash - that fits the theme of "disappearing suddenly", though.

      @Lynn-Davis@Lynn-Davis3 жыл бұрын
    • True.

      @Nathadegold@Nathadegold3 жыл бұрын
    • @@SooyeonIdle I cried for sooooo long after this

      @rachaeliyunade8947@rachaeliyunade89473 жыл бұрын
  • For some reason I have the very specific and somewhat similar type of “Cute, pale, funny, young women with natural but uncommon hair colors, and names starting with the letter A” which fits the profile of every girl I’ve ever liked/dated.

    @Pontificate@Pontificate3 жыл бұрын
    • I mean there's nothing wrong with having a type, only if it inhibits you from dating someone out that box that you developed feelings for.

      @CatwomanCelia@CatwomanCelia3 жыл бұрын
  • this video is great! please do more of these videos!

    @jeremienoname4648@jeremienoname46483 жыл бұрын
  • I’ve actually been in “relationships” where the guy projects me to be a manic pixie girl. It gets to a point where you feel less like a person and more like this idealized object that belongs to someone because they say they “need” you or that you’re different and spontaneous. And you don’t wanna breakup with them because you start to think that it wouldn’t be fair to THEM. I think that’s why the manic pixie girl shouldn’t be something people romanticize because most of the time both people in the relationship are just looking for some type of validation in their on way and they both end up unhappy.

    @abomal4693@abomal46933 жыл бұрын
    • I couldn’t agree more !!! I happened to live the same thing and yes it becomes unbearable to even think of breaking up with them, because it would be too mean to them.

      @lifeexpression5036@lifeexpression50363 жыл бұрын
    • Same!

      @donniedarko7383@donniedarko73833 жыл бұрын
    • I wish I had a coin for every time a guy has told me "you're not like other girls". Glad some of them didn't idealize me and actually wanted to know my personality too!

      @corina.grindeanu@corina.grindeanu3 жыл бұрын
    • Dude me too!! I had a good friend of mine who had a huge crush on me. He would say things along the lines of “oh you’re not like other girls cause you don’t wear makeup” and “I’m so glad I have you in my life, you make me so happy” like I’m honored but I want him to see me as a friend. I think my relationship with him helped him become more confident and happier in life but I don’t want him to see me as a manic pixie dream girl, maybe a “manic pixie dream friend” lmao because I feel like I’m an object. Now that I’ve made it clear, I don’t want to be with him, he dropped me like a hot potato.

      @sarahl.5748@sarahl.57483 жыл бұрын
    • I went through something similar with a guy I dated for 3 months...it’s a lil sad but he’s still open to a relationship with me and it’s been 2 years 😩 he’s a nice guy though, just didn’t actually understand ME.

      @jaidasimone_@jaidasimone_3 жыл бұрын
  • I have a friend that is very close to being a MPDG, at least on the surface. She's bold, she says and does what she wants, she's beautiful, and she's a little bit weird. I'll tell you what happened when a MPDG stayed with the man she inspired. Everything was great, he fell for her instantly, she was super excited because it felt like they just clicked. But after a bit, things started getting bad. She has an aura about her that attracts people to her, and shes beautiful, so whenever they went out other guys would look at her or hit on her. The guy, who started off insecure, became more and more jealous, despite her never engaging with the other men. Over time, he stopped taking her out because he would get too jealous. He would go out to drink while he made her stay at home. He became possessive and controlling. Slowly he started to tear her down. The clothes that he liked before, the ones that made her 'different,' instead made her look like a boy, he said. The random noises and gestures that were just a part of who she was, suddenly made her 'immature.' While he used to lovingly stare at her at dinner, now he said that the way she eats is ugly. She would sing when she was happy, but now it was annoying. Every little thing she did was something to critique, and slowly she began to wilt like a neglected bird in a cage. What you don't see in a MPDG is that while they seem confident on the outside, some times the inside can be pretty sad. After two years of systematic abuse, we were finally able to pull her away from him, but she was with him for so long that by the time we got her out she was a shell of who she had been. It took months to get her to genuinely laugh again. Months for her to recover her sense of individuality and self worth. Months before she would stop apologizing to me just for eating. Now she is back, back to being her normally abnormal self, and she is wiser now. But that's just a hint of what could happen if a MPDG stays with the guy she fixes or inspires.

    @Shawnasart76597@Shawnasart765973 жыл бұрын
    • This was me... I experienced all of this, for only two years. But it has shaped my whole adult life. I've decided that it was hard, but a growing experience. Still hurts sometimes to think about. The age from 17 to 19 changed everything. Now I'm 30, and I'm basically who I always wanted to be, but it took so much work to get here. From quirky, to childish, to mature, to broken, to selfless, to self involved, and now, I have balance. It was incredibly hard, and sometimes it still hurts, but now, I'm not a MPDG, I'm just... Me. And I love me. 😊

      @HeidiAga@HeidiAga3 жыл бұрын
    • Now thats a plot for a movie if i've ever seen one!

      @sandrafuch9400@sandrafuch94003 жыл бұрын
    • You talking about a real person as a movie trope though... Calling her a MPDG or drawing a parallel between her and a movie trope limits her as a person and dismisses her genuine character that's weird, fun and free-spirited. Real people are not tropes. We are more complex than a few hundred pages describing a simplified version of a real human by script writers. Zoey Deschanel herself was dubbed a MPDG even though she's a real person and all we see about her comes down to 10 minutes of edited talk show interviews. That's a no from me.

      @miss_conduct.@miss_conduct.3 жыл бұрын
    • Same freaking thing, except looking the MPDG part. One day you inspire them, the next they hate everything you are. Sorry that your friend experienced that

      @911nmg@911nmg3 жыл бұрын
    • this is exactly what i thought would happen in that scenario, i’m so sorry that happened to her and the fellow comments stories ❤️ glad your safe

      @Sweethearts4969@Sweethearts49693 жыл бұрын
  • The editing on this video is phenomenal.

    @Irtaza7@Irtaza73 жыл бұрын
  • I loved this video . Great analysis

    @ondreatorrence4322@ondreatorrence43223 жыл бұрын
  • I saw a video essay saying that Summer from 500 days of summer isn’t actually a manic pixie dream girl because it was all in his head and he’s an unreliable narrator.

    @TheBriBoat@TheBriBoat3 жыл бұрын
    • Yeah this is absolutely true

      @directiontonarnia@directiontonarnia3 жыл бұрын
    • It is a deconstruction of the manic pixie dream girl because it is actually about how these girls do not really exist but it is put upon them from others - and I guess that is true for all media in which they are featured in any real sense, then it's just not a male character projecting the trope onto the girls then it is the writers, directors and producers.

      @n.a7993@n.a79933 жыл бұрын
    • It's why I love the movie because of that reason.

      @JackalopeBunny@JackalopeBunny3 жыл бұрын
    • She's evil. Inviting Tom to her engagement party, without telling him, It's a b##ch move.

      @cocoquito4ever@cocoquito4ever3 жыл бұрын
    • @@cocoquito4ever "Evil" is too big of a word to describe that. It's on par of saying "jaywalking" or "swearing" is evil, only if you have an insane Black and White morality could that be classified as "evil" to anyone. The reality is, by that time in the movie, she had no real obligation to Tom. They had separated and weren't on speaking terms, so why would it make her bad? Sure, she could have been more thoughtful, but the movie gives no reason to believe that she had any malicious intent over it, she invited him on the heat of the moment because she wanted to, because as Tom realizes in the scene where they're sitting on the bench, she just does what she wants to (without thinking of how her actions could affect others), that's a flaw Tom always ignored about her because he was too hang up in seeing her as his ideal "perfect girl" (his fatal flaw). None of the characters are "evil", they're just in a gray area of morality because they're flawed human beings with some growing up to do like everyone else.

      @declaracionespolemicas@declaracionespolemicas3 жыл бұрын
  • So it’s kind of like a boy gets a sun and a girl gets some clay. The sun gives warmth and light to the boy just by existing. The boy gets an opportunity to grow as the sun provides life to them. The clay gives the girl an opportunity to mold something into what’s perfect for them, fixing the original shape’s mistakes. That’s kind of the analogy I was thinking of lol. Also if you look at the sun too long you’ll get burned, as the sun is not mindful of the pain it can cause. The clay would be completely dependent on its creator, as it’s entire identity is defined by a fantasy. Edit: Had another thought so I wanted to share lol. Another thing is that this shoves unbridled expectations onto both parties: that one is expected to be a constant source of comfort over being a human being, and another is expected to change their personality and identity based on someone else’s preferences. The boy is consistently unsatisfied as their partner can’t hold up to the expectation that they should only exist to make the boy happy, and the girl is left with nothing as their partner becomes just a shell of a human being.

    @Gabriela-jg1bd@Gabriela-jg1bd3 жыл бұрын
    • Now that is some deep stuff man.

      @returnedtomonkey8886@returnedtomonkey88863 жыл бұрын
    • Sounds similar to Icarus

      @w0rldTraveler337@w0rldTraveler3373 жыл бұрын
    • Vlad 117 I love a good metaphor lol

      @dionysusfilms165@dionysusfilms1653 жыл бұрын
    • Mistakes are subjective to ones beliefs. Maybe the guy is fine and in our society girls go with the bad boys often cause they think they’re different and that they can fix him.

      @tammas1728@tammas17283 жыл бұрын
    • What a beautiful analogy

      @rbegum1952@rbegum19523 жыл бұрын
  • i had to constantly check if this was really alex cuz the editing style is so... different and i'm kinda loving it

    @gaby-wc1yy@gaby-wc1yy3 жыл бұрын
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