No.1 Childhood Trauma Doctor: 10 Lies They Told You About Your Childhood Trauma! - Paul Conti
Dr. Paul Conti is a general psychiatrist and expert on treating trauma, he is also the founder and CEO of Pacific Premier Group, PC. Some of his clients include Lady Gaga, Kim Kardashian & Tommy Hilfiger
00:00 Intro
02:41 The Invisible Epidemic
04:48 What Percentage of the Population Has Traumas?
07:15 Your Brother's Suicide
10:19 Trauma Is Causing All Sorts of Illnesses in Our Bodies
13:11 How Trauma Speeds Up Your Ageing
15:07 How Trauma Affects Us at a Cellular Level
16:25 Trauma Leads to Early Death
18:37 Is There Anything Killing More Than Trauma?
19:51 The Different Types of Trauma
24:22 What Doesn't Kill You Makes You Weaker
27:06 Why Some People Experience Trauma Stronger Than Others
30:43 The Impact of Being Different
33:30 Developing Trauma Later in Life
36:57 How Do We Know If Trauma Is Being Passed On?
40:31 Do We Need to Understand Our Parents' Trauma to Understand Ours?
44:58 Post-Trauma Syndrome
45:47 How to Know If We Are Traumatised?
48:54 Trauma Shows Up as Addiction
51:54 What Tests Can Be Done to See If We Have Trauma?
52:48 Self-Destructive Shooting Methods
56:09 People Are Dying from Prescribed Meds
58:14 How Does Trauma Change Our Brains?
59:53 Trauma Creates Cognitive Blind Spots in Our Brain
01:03:50 We Tend to Seek What Harms Us in Order to Fix It
01:06:25 Becoming Addicted to Our Victimhood
01:08:03 What's the Role of the Limbic System in Our Traumas?
01:11:37 Shame Keeps Us Alive
01:13:33 You Can Build a Different Story Around Your Shame
01:17:44 How You Are Treated Determines Whether a Situation Becomes Traumatic or Not
01:19:22 How to Alleviate Our Shame
01:21:07 How Bringing Up the Trauma Helps
01:24:23 The Link Between Sleep and Trauma
01:26:04 The Importance of Sitting Alone with Your Thoughts
01:28:43 Sleep Problems Need to Be Urgently Addressed
01:30:09 Why You're Not Sleeping
01:31:26 Link Between Weight and Trauma
01:33:21 Advice for People That Think They Can't Change
01:36:16 Training Your Brain
01:38:40 Can You Completely Get Rid of a Trauma?
01:39:39 How to Stop Being Triggered by Trauma
01:40:54 Saving Lady Gaga's Life
01:44:29 Last Guest Question
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He is correct on so many levels that I really hope this gets out to everyone in time. His insights from the wisdom he has gained from his understanding of his innerworld and outer world is breathtaking. Being able to listen to him and understand what he has to say is very very critically important right now more then ever.
I’m a childhood abuse survivor and I often wonder how different I may have been if I was raised in a healthy family. It’s sad.
Same -- because of my childhood trauma-- I didn’t want kids. This helped me really understand BECAUSE- of my trauma- and family dysfunction. The family lineage stops with me.
Same here too very sad😢
I’m hoping this episode helped you
@@clintonparker4141 very much helped 😌I talk very openly about the trauma from my childhood now after burying it when it was happening.. it helps me process it and accept.
Yes it is its ruined me
And this is why I think more people should think harder about having children. I see so much unresolved trauma in parents around me. You are ABSOLUTELY messing your kids up. Deal with your shit before having kids so that the kid doesn't have to spend a lifetime undoing all the damage you caused.
Then, their children will go to school and bullied other normal children. Next, they will complain those be bullied children must do something wrong to trigger their children.
@MengHuaHung This is why we need to have compassion for the bully... because it is a sign that something is not okay in his/her household.
@@refreshingtwist I have to say. They should go to doctor. I was bullied by those people in a long period of time
@MengHuaHung Of course. But a child that is a bully does not know he/ she needs to see a therapist. That is the parents' responsibility. And, furthermore, it is our responsibility as adults to heal our traumas. But you cannot expect a child to know/ do that.
Both myself and my husband were abused as young children. We are not having kids, for me the realisation I had been abused put me into a deep depression, after being depressed from age 6. I couldn’t willingly bring a child into my darkness and now I am hitting 40 and feel like I am finally moving out of the darkness I am thankful we didnt have children.
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes, dr.sporessss I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Is he on instagram?
Yes he is. dr.sporessss
This is profoundly insightful. I'm a surgeon, but I see a lot of patients with chronic pain issues, body image issues, etc and often if you dig a little bit with simple questions, you'll find trauma. It's a wrecking ball that destroys people slowly and silently.
I am a CSA survivor. I was coming out of anesthesia & they were removing my Foley. I started swinging. Anesthesiologists never conceptualize their patients. 1 in 4 women have been s-xually assaulted.
Laziness, procrastination and depression are often the spirit’s rebellion against a life that sucks.
It’s all BS, the problem is simply a society getting SOFTER each year!!! That’s the reason for all these problems. Al Mentally tough culture and society is the only answer.
@@Powernabcalm down, trauma is a real issue. It should not be seen as a crutch to do nothing in life, some people use their trauma as aspiration 'not to end up like that' or 'to do something better for their community' but trauma definitely needs to be addressed instead of stigmatized.
I hear you... I have not even been aware that these can be associated with childhood trauma and once I learned it, I sought help and am on a healing path. I am even doing better professionally! I still need some help, not going to pretend that a few sessions will magically heal , it takes time and effort. But it is definitely doable, even if not from the start.
@@Powernabbuilding strong mental health is the key to resilience. We are in the mess we are in today because this has been ignored. But I’m going to watch the whole podcast to learn more.
No, you are talking BS. Just imagine, if all people were identical to Andrew Tate, the real Andrew Tate would be miserable. Narcissists and psychopaths need people to exploit, abuse, control and hurt sadistic as they are. It's been like that since the beginning of time, because they even wrote an ancient book on the issue, called The Bible. It's been an arms race between the sadists and the rest of empathic, sociable people. Today, the means of control are so subversive that we feel traumatised without even knowing where it's coming from. So, on the contrary, society is becoming worse, not softer.
My mother suffered for over a decade from Parkinsons disease, and then to make things worse got dementia too. She had an incredibly difficult and stressful childhood, coupled with a traumatic adult life at the hads of a volitile and dangerous husband. I have ALWAYS believed the sustained trauma she suffered on and off over her life changed her brain, and ultimately contributed to her parkinsons disease. Her neurologist downplayed the impact but i know it in my gut to be true. You cant live through what my mother did and not come out forever damaged.
😢poor thing. So sorry to hear that.
Do you have the same issue as your mother?
My mum developed Parkinsons when she was pregnant with me. She also developed dementia near the end of her life. This whole concept of trauma possibly being a cause of Parkinsons has rocked my world...
Sorry for the loss of your mother. Autistic catatonia is frequently misdiagnosed as dementia. The vast majority of autism in the world is undiagnosed unaware and intellectually compensating. Telling you this to validate your intuition, not provoke anger or regret. Alzheimer's is an egodecompensatory end stage regression, but if she didn't have Alzheimer's the Parkinson's makes me think it might've been misdiagnosed autistic catatonia.
Agree with you 💯% 👍 😩😥
Trauma puts us in survival mode. Because we've experienced bad things, harm, etc. our nervous system gets stuck in hypervigilance / hyper alertness, etc. to keep us from further harm. It's just our body doing its job, trying to protect us and ensure our survival. However, we weren't designed to be in some kind of a life or death situation avoidance mode 24/7. When we don't get out of these survival modes, other important processes in the body get neglected; digestion, growth, fighting against disease, healing, learning, etc. That's why trauma and the resulting chronic survival mode can eventually cause all kinds of health problems or chronic illnesses. A combination of psychotherapy and somatic therapy works wonders for breaking these patterns and getting our health back.
Very well said. I'm finally addressing this in my own life and have realized I'm strong as hell, but need to set these psychological burdens down. Lifting weights, walking often, a healthy plant-strong diet, somatic massage, sleep, and learning through guests like this have helped so much and I'm digging out of this 45-year rut. So happy to feel like I've found a path, but it's hard daily work and small daily habits.
@@lauramonahan9343Well done 👍 keep at it. May you have calm mind and a happy heart.
You're exactly right and that is what happened to me. I've been in a brain retraining program for a year and it's healing my chronic illnesses from childhood and adult trauma and helping my depression and anxiety from the trauma.
Thats crazy 😢
Absolutely, agree 100%! We end up with panic attacks and adrenal fatigue. Very hard on the body from years of this extreme stress.
Steven, I love that you ask "what does that mean?"! It's a super power to be vulnerable and say "I don't understand this, please help me understand." ... helps me a ton!
That's just the sign of a good interviewer; it's not a big deal, but I'm pleased you're helped by it.
I know :) I am just complimenting him
😂 .... vulnerable!! Steven Bartlett really doesn't understand very much. When he asks he isn’t vulnerable, he's just mostly in the dark.
@@Eudaimonia88 That's not true. He's not only talking to his interviewer; he's asking questions that his viewers want answered. I imagine he already knows the answers to a lot of the questions he asks just because of the research he (or his assistants) do on their interviewees.
I always say "better to look stupid for asking, than be stupid for not knowing" haha
Trauma is the source of many illnesses and medical conditions 😢
This is on point! I was diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder about 14 years ago. And have been on meds since. I found out a year and a half ago that I actually have complex PTSD from chronic and ongoing trauma I experienced from my childhood, teen years, and young adult life. Grief, abuse, neglect, sexual trauma, etc. I knew my childhood was F’d, but I didn’t realize I had PTSD. Didn’t even know someone not in the military could have PTSD. I was in treatment 6 months out of 2023 due to a lifelong battle of addiction/substance abuse disorder. I am doing better now and my awareness of triggers has increased to the point that I am able to apply newly learned coping skills to get through really big feelings that I’ve always stuffed my entire life. I was living in survival mode for nearly my entire 39 years of life. Nobody should have to live this way. I’m on a mission as well to help continue this conversation and make it more common knowledge!
I thinking bullying and stress was the prequel to my diagnosis of ME and fibromyalgia.
Thank you for your reply to this
I have a similar level of trauma as yours and suppressed my feelings for many years by constantly working to the point of exhaustion to avoid my feelings then i had a major mental breakdown that spiraled me into 8 years of on and off again hell of some type of off the rails partying and different drug use I finally ended up homeless and loss of family relationships that got me to snap out it and really work on my health but could have died many times over a miracle I made it threw and now I constantly watch podcast to learn more and more how to deal without pills or street drugs, also side note my thyroid affected my hormones on my eighth year of failed rehab attempts and mental drug prescriptions and they finally prescribed me levothyroxine and that’s the only thing I take daily to help with the chemical imbalance I have it’s helped me tremendously to get an accurate diagnosis and proper treatment ❤
Thank you for sharing your comment it made me feel not so alone in my ongoing recovery journey and I’m very sorry for your trauma and wish you every day of healing and growth 😊
My brother and I are working on a project to promote more awareness through music or short film 🎥
I've listened to this podcast atleast 6 times. His gentleness and humility is amazing. I sleep to this podcast. Thank you steve
He doesn't talk about the nervous system (part of the brain) and how trauma/high stress sets the nervous system to the sympathetic nervous system path, which in turn activates the adrenal glands. The adrenal glands produce cortisol raising blood sugar levels and then insulin. This causes inflammation in the body/immune system, which will cause auto-immune diseases. He did not even mention that a person with stored trauma not only needs talk therapy but needs to be taught how to reset their nervous system through breathing exercises/meditation.
If he does not talk about this then this podcast is not good. That is such a big part in finding the path lol. But still didn’t listen yet starting now
Hpa axis is one aspect and explanation . He talks so well about so many aspects of trauma . Dont dismiss truths he talks about . Not everybody needs to talk on everyting in one podcast
I think he is doing his best to share important information to the general public, but it is such a large subject that he can't possibly cover it all in a single 2 hour podcast. My impression of this interview is that he is trying to educate people at the first and basic level of what trauma is, which will start having more people ask themselves important questions. I appreciate that maybe it didn't feel like it went far enough for someone like yourself who has learned more than what was presented here, but I think it's great that this information is becoming more visible for those who have no idea.
Breathing and meditation isn’t going to do a damn thing without social support and a truly safe environment.
He's talking at a higher level of abstraction. Just because he didn't talk at your preferred layer of abstraction - physiological - does not minimize the value of his understanding.
I took a childhood trauma therapy class online. The therapist told us about a conversation he had with a former client. I can’t remember the exact words he used. He told the man if you hit your kids you are teaching them to hit their kids. The man said, but my kids are children right now. I don’t have any grandchildren. The therapist said yes I know but you’re teaching them that this is the right way to discipline and facilitating them disciplining their kids the way you discipline them. The therapist was also talking about sexual abuse. He said that all children who are sexually abused do not grow up to sexually abuse children. However, all pedophiles were sexually abused as children. I thought that was a profound statement. What I learned overall was that any trauma a child experiences is likely to be repeated in future generations, unless that person when they become an adult is able to work through their trauma in a healthy way. I have also heard Dr. John Delony mention that trauma affects how children perceive the world and how their body responds to the world. I believe that wholeheartedly.
that man without the foresight of the ripple effect to later generations - that's low IQ first level thinking and sadly they probably just shouldn't procreate. I had no idea that people could be so dense, wow
I have noticed that a lot of men who say they were sexually abused end up becoming gay also. I think this must be linked.
Pedophiles are born not made. There brains are wired different from birth. Same with gay people. Your facts are good. That therapist was low quality.
@@Ikr2025 It is said that about half of abusers were abused as children. Your theory about gays is false as well. People are usually born on a spectrum of sexuality. Gays are not usually a result of any bad life experience.
Your therapist is wrong. It is thought only about half of abusers were abused themselves.
I almost died last year from appendicitis and I know it was because I was stuck in a really toxic relationship with a narcissistic, then I realized my mother was the same way. so sad
This was me in 2009! Appendicitis...then they found Stage 4 endometriosis. It was my awakening to the relationship I was in and my mother. Happy you are still here!
I’m glad that you got out 😮. All of the best to you ❤❤❤
Oh wow I wish someone told me to sit down while I listen to this. I was severely beaten by my father as a child. Since I was an infant. At the age of 35 I suffered a stroke that almost killed me. I have always been active (even did fitness competitions and won in them). Never been hypertensive and never had any co-morbidities. I am the first one in my family - on both sides to have suffered a stroke. I had searched for years and years, did so many tests to figure out how someone so healthy could have a stroke (seriously my family doctor would always say that my bloodwork is exemplary). No doctor EVER asked me about trauma. This is HUGE for me. Thank you Dr Conti for speaking about this and for all the information you provided and thank you Steven for having him on your show. I finally have an answer! 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻v
Sorry to hear .. sending ❤
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Did it happen before or after covid because covid causes strokes.
Find an experienced trauma therapist!
I’m a doctor and I ask about trauma all the time. This is part of the history.
Isn’t it amazing how he explains complex psychological concepts in the most simplified ways possible.
Eight minutes into this episode, and I thought of something, and in the scope of vegetable gardening... If you are reaching the end of your growing season and you want your tomatoes to finish ripening, you stress the plant - either by under-watering or taking a shovel to the roots.. The plant becomes stressed and will put energy into ripening fruit in order to have seeds that will survive. Omg humans are just like this. As children, we adapt much like the traumatized plant in order to survive and have even the smallest bits of us left to keep going. Fascinating.
I fully believe this. I know my mom died of stress and trauma in her life, and she had a million diagnosed illnesses…but I have always said it’s trauma and her stress in her whole life, happy to see this being studied and talked about.
Exactly the same thing happened to my mother, this all makes sense😔
Or perhaps she came to the natural end of her life.
@@GymSlayer_J🙏🙏
I'm so sorry that happened to both of your moms. The world definitely needs to understand what we're learning here, so we can have less of these instances.
Happened to my father. He was only 40 when he died.
Appreciate how Dr. Conti speaks so calmly and kindly about this topic. His tone makes this easier to listen to than it would be otherwise. A difficult subject delivered with care.
The thing he said in the beginning about reflexive guilt and shame compelling us to keep it in or hide it is so real. I find it really difficult to be understood when I try to explain the impact things had on me to my therapist, because I end up minimizing the severity of it with my delivery, I think. It's hard. He focuses so much on my actions and not enough about processing my emotions. So I know I need to switch to a trauma-informed therapist. But it also doesn't help that a lot of people think having been bullied isn't a trauma. They don't think it's that serious. It's refreshing to hear from someone who gets it.
It doesn't have to be serious your making it more, are you still being bullied? Stop carrying that past and make a future. Your therapist is focused on your actions because you may think your processing something one way but you can lie to yourself your actions are the truth.
You are your actions, they are the trauma one brings to the world. If the mental you isn't expressed it's just a dream. What you do is what effects others and defines you to the world the rest exists ONLY in your head.
You're spot on. Bullying is/can be traumatizing for sure. I agree, processing the emotions for someone like yourself is likely exactly what you need. Emotions vs actions? Better to say emotions + actions. Similar to a road trip in a car. The actions = clear destination and driving forward. The emotions = lighten your load. Both are important for your road trip.
@@MindsetBliss That makes a lot of sense
I resign my campaign and endorse@@MindsetBliss both is the ♎ balance ⚖️
Thank you Steven for having the guest on and highlighting this issue, that society does not want to talk about. I was sexually abused from age 3 and have suffered both mentally and physically. Thankfully I now have a wonderful husband and children, and a good life but it's not been an easy road.
I'm so sorry that happened. Wishing you all the best in blessings and miracles in your journey of life❤
Bless you, I'm so happy you now have the life you deserve. I cannot imagine the inner fortitude it took to get there ❤
I'm in a brain retraining program fixing my chronic illnesses from trauma. A big part of the program is Internal Family Systems. I was sick for 21 years. In a year of doing the Gupta retraining program I am 80% to 90% better. Everything he is saying is dead on.
I really do believe 'Spirituality' is the answer and more importantly is the truth ❤
Spirituality…not religion
Define spiritually. If you say, "I'm spiritual", how does that look?
Very useful episode. As a teacher for 25 years, I've saw the impact trauma can have on a young persons ability to learn.
This interview has moved me to tears... The level of compassionate energy Dr Conti radiates out is mind blowing to me. His understanding and insights into traumas helped me heal too.
Absolutely Dr. Conti is a gift to humanity.
Very moving yes 😢
I’ve suffered terrible social anxiety and panic. I’m sure this hasn’t been helped by having a borderline mother and a schizophrenic father , and 7 foster homes .. my brain feels like it’s hard wired to see threat or danger even if there isn’t any danger . It’s an emotional toll on my nervous system . Hoping one day i can try plant medicine .
That is the brain by design. Lol
How do you "ground" yourself? Where do you find safety?
@sofiamagdalena2629 in your mind and body. Grounding is connecting to the present moment. Not grounding outside walking barefoot, although, both w benefits. Work w a trauma specialist who can teach
@@sofiamagdalena2629 mindfulness helps … but sometimes in certain situations the inner critic takes hold regardless
From 4 to 16 years old I was in a total of 22 foster homes now I'm 33 2 children don't think I've had much trauma but I look back and think myself lucky to be fostered by healthy tight nit families even though some where only temporary homes 🤔 maybe I'm just different on how to deal with things to others it depends on the individual I was lucky to go abroad had good birthdays and Christmas saw my biological mum once a fortnight I was closer to my nana other than my mum we don't have that mother daughter relationship probably never will either
So true… when my Mom passed .. I aged. Grieving triggered my fast forward aging. I see it and I feel it!
Me too
This episode should be shared widely to raise awareness of people about how traumas can affect them emotionally and physically. Thank you Dr. Conti for your devotion.
I believe my being ill as a child and in and out of hospital in the first year is probably responsible for the mental disregulation I’ve experienced in my life. Coupled with a mother who was then hyper anxious so over-mothered me and taught me that anxiety was how you deal. Depression, agoraphobia, panic attacks, self-harm for many years. At 40 I’ve finally reached relative peace by staying single and childfree and I treasure it in comparison to how I used to be. I often get told how much younger I look than my age and I think it’s down to the work I’ve done and tools I’ve found in order to cope and crucially letting go of any shame and guilt for not being ‘normal’ or successful by modern standards. I have a lot of love in my life and I give a lot of love. That’s the best we can hope for in this Savage Garden I think 😊
Outstanding, OUTSTANDING interview! This was truly an amazing gift to humanity!
Kids can feel that energy. 💯
This was a great episode as well as a wonderful guest. Dr. Conti truly is a "shining light" among others in his field and shows a great deal of compassion for those who struggle with mental disorders. As a 63 yr old woman who has experienced numerous traumas beginning in childhood throughout adulthood, I understand first hand the impact it has on your entire life.
Hear ya❤
Trauma during my childhood led me down some dark paths, even to this day it haunts me. At 15 I started having seizures and we don’t know why.
my brother was hospitalised and got well. he was let back home and got ill again. wonder why..?
So glad this perspective is out in the world for people to understand. Shame and guilt internalised is so damaging to the human being, physically and emotionally. Such an important conversation 🧡
Thank you for the tribute you gave Dr Conti at the end of the show. The way that he speaks not of a stage name but to a person who is his patient and his own background reaches farther than many experts in the childhood trauma field. It matters so much.
The body holds the score. As a person who was abused under age 6, I cannot remember my abuse in a physical sense but I do remember the feelings and how the person made me feel. I 100% believe that I will die early from a disease brought on from behaviours I have used from age 6 to cope with depression and feelings that I did not know the reason for until I started having flashbacks about my abuse. If you have not suffered CSA it will be hard to take in this realisation.
The fact that you have awareness I believe is half the battle to recovery and a choice you used to make healthier life decisions that will impact your health. Studies show how lifestyle changes can reverse nearly everything including aging.
Your shows are compelling, fascinating & extremely useful. I appreciate your content. For the past month, all of the outstanding guests you've interviewed have been at the forefront of information pertaining to a recent traumatic event perpetrated upon me by a sibling. It is so difficult to get & find information on trauma & how it changes the brain & biology of a person & reading people and events that substantially change people in profound ways. Thank you. I then subscribe & follow the people you interview. After all, how would any person out in your audience ever be able to be aware of these amazing people & their unique insights & immense help. You've changed the knowledge I been seeking to acquire 💯
Sat here with tears in my eyes. My parents abused me in childhood... I'm absolutely convinced they had unresolved trauma of their own. I've had therapy on and off since I was 18, and I'm now 44. During that time, I was also s*x@lly assaulted twice by two different men, been in an emotionally abusive relationship, struggled briefly with alcohol (my father was an alcoholic).... I'm utterly EXHAUSTED... I struggle with self-care, I have very little executive function, live with depression and anxiety, my mother passed away from a stroke in 2019 which pummelled me with unexpected grief. I've never children despite desperately wanting them, because I would NEVER forgive myself if I did anything (yes, I'm scared of myself turning into my parents, despite never harming anyone else), I also wouldn't risk passing on generational trauma to my children so the cycle ends with me permanently.
Yes, I had trauma in childhood. I have Crohn’s disease, I do self harm, I’ve had a cancer scare, I had a heart attack at 40. I have arthritis. I could go on.
As someone who was born to an alcoholic mother. As someone who was emotionally and physically neglected by that mother, and 6 months later given away to an orphanage because that mother didn't want to care for me anymore, only to be again neglected emotionally and physically for another 4 more years. It changed how I view the world today. As a 1-4 year old. You need a mother figure. Someone who can show you love and kindness. You need a father as well, to show you courage and bravery. I was born into a world that never cared for me since day 1. Iv have since been diagnosed with Anti-Social Personality Disorder, Avoident Attachment Disorder, and Reactive Attachment Disorder. I was forced to survive, and adapt in a world that didn't care for me, so I unfortunately have learned to not care for it. I wish greatly to feel anything but emptiness. I see love all around me, but to never have it myself causes me to be self sabotaged a lot in my life.
My big brother, my sister, and I have meant people who have trauma who have been SA or dysfunctional family. I truly do believe that 1/2 of population does have trauma that people will forever live with. Coming from a gen z. 😢
My husband for 17 years completed suicide and I found him hanging from the rafters in our basement in 2016. I absolutely know my brain has changed, perception of the world, patterns. and myself. It’s been horrible. People who complete suicide leave the pain they were feeling behind and their loved ones take it on and suffer. 💔💔💔
that's horrific, sorry that happened to you. Hope you can get some great professional help to heal and have kind friends and family around.
@@ginniepaardenkooper5216 Thank you so much. It’s been seven years. What I’ve noticed is nearly all my close friends and family have changed. This tragedy weeded out the people who were not healthy for me. However, that’s only left me with a few friends and family members as a support network. It’s taken me a lot of time to accept that fact. I’ve had loads of heavy and necessary therapy-diagnosed with Complicated Grief and PTSD; the flashbacks were intense where I couldn’t drive for almost six months-with support groups and meds along the way. I’m still finding my balance and what works best for me with my new brain.
My friend's husband hang ed himself from the ceiling of their basement. She found him and the trauma for her and her daughter is immense. My niece unalived herself the same way, but in her bedroom. They were both on the same antidepressant. His dose had just been doubled...he was on it for ten years. Within a week after the dose change... gone forever.
Severe bullying in adolescence IS DEFINITELY trauma 😢 it massively effects the adult … but you become strong eventually from experiencing it💪🏼 this guy is interesting…
It’s a form of abuse, if you was in a relationship it be abuse…you can get complex PTSD from it…I was servilely bullied at a very young age till my mid 20’s…it’s definitely contributed to my PTSD as I also have an eating disorder due to the abuse…men are a big contribution to my PTSD also…I wouldn’t say it makes you ‘stronger’ it makes you traumatised…
@@Bekka_boo13 I’m 53 now .. and it has taken a long long time to get strong now and put my trauma behind me ( not just the bullying .. also being the child of a parent who has had severe bipolar disorder all my life ) so yes I understand your trauma I really do but people are different and whatever it takes I was determined to get strong which I have done . I still hate my bullies though. Good luck with your trauma hope you get there.
@@janinekay girl…you are stunning…I’ve had trauma CBT for my trauma so I’m good x
@@Bekka_boo13 awww thanks my luv .. so pleased to hear you’re good 😊 yes I bet cbt is effective.. I’ve had counselling over the years .. some of it helped some of it didn’t.. but I’m a big believer in just talking and being open as you can with stuff you have suffered.. nothing should be taboo and we should never feel ashamed .. as it was never our fault 🥺😘
You don't become strong from it
The problem with psychiatry and the conventional mental health system is that the role of trauma behind so many of the so-called "mental illnesses" is almost always overlooked or downplayed. Bandaids (pills) don't fix bullet holes (trauma).
Dr Gabor Mate’ talks about this all the time.
I am Australian and have complex PTSD/childhood trauma. My life has been hell and still is and I'm 64. I have two grown up sons, and for various reasons won't be having children of their own. While this is heartbreaking not only for my sons, but also me, unable to be a grandmother. My psychologist (trauma specialist) and I were discussing this, and my upside to this situation is that the buck will stop. I'm not being flippant when I say this, but it's true. There will be no more epigenetic trauma being transferred on through our family. I wish people would realise ''that children are NOT RESILENT''. Wonderful human being Dr. Paul Conti is, such an interesting interview. Thank you
The intro got me hooked. You just got your self a new subscriber all the way from Tanzania - East Africa!
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@@oliviabanda3914 lovely! I have been seeing clips from this account but never really spent time watching. Today, am binge watching things 😂
I'm just back from a PSTD clinic. This is the best description of trauma and its consequences I've heard so far. From trauma as a virus to depression agression and addiction, shame and medication, he just depicted my life to the point... Lost my job a lot of opportunities in life and trying ro move forward through sports and reconfigure my brain but it's hard and slow
I’ve noticed, lately, that Stanford has been churning out several of the most brilliant people in the world. From Andrew Huberman, to Paul Conti, and many more.
So has Harvard! Reasons seem to be same
I learned in a biology class that we carry many genes that can give us a disease in life..like they are dormant. Later in life depending on your environment or life choices.. these diseases can surface.
Dr. Conti is a doctor who is saving thousands of lives. He is more than amazing.
I have been following Dr Conti's work for awhile now he demonstrates such empathy compassion and insight. Great interview thanks Stephen amazing guest as always .
He is so right I have been saying this for years.What family you born in to is like a lottery.
0:00: ⚠ Trauma's intergenerational impact on genes, aging, and mental health; questioning pill-based solutions. 8:42: 💔 Unaddressed childhood trauma led to mental health struggles and reluctance to seek help. 16:41: 🧠 Trauma in childhood can lead to increased risk of autoimmune disorders and early death due to gene transcription changes. 25:22: ⚖ The impact of childhood trauma on siblings can vary due to different factors like nature, nurture, and emotional attunement. 33:16: 🧠 Impact of trauma on brain development and vulnerability towards mental health issues in young adulthood. 41:51: ⚕ Abscesses in the body can cause non-specific symptoms, leading to a need for surgical intervention. 49:52: 🧠 Impact of trauma on brain responses and life narratives. 58:25: 🧠 Impact of trauma on mood regulation areas in the brain leading to cognitive blind spots and altered perception. 1:06:54: 💡 The limbic system in the brain, driven by emotions, overrides logic when facing trauma, impacting decision-making. 1:14:52: ⚔ Surviving a lion attack leads to self-reflection and behavior change for future prevention. 1:23:24: 💤 Impact of trauma on sleep and its link to post-trauma syndrome. 1:30:56: 💔 Childhood trauma leads to poor self-care, inflammation, and weight retention affecting overall health. 1:39:06: 💡 Recognizing the lasting impact of childhood trauma and reframing triggering memories to understand their power. Recapped using Tammy AI
Dr. Paul Conti's insights on trauma's impact are truly eye-opening. Studies have shown that unresolved trauma can cloud judgment and hinder growth, so it's crucial to seek healing not just for personal well-being but also for professional success.
I feel so guilty that i allowed my children to consume so much sugar from sweets, breakfast cereals and highly processed food in their youth. Those days the internet either did not exist or was in its infancy. The mental problems that arose from them are evident today. They never sufferered from 'trauma', as far as I know, nor did I. Trauma was much greater in the past (remember WW1 and WW2) but mental problems (autism, ADHD, anxiety, depression, Alzheimers, etc) have steadily increased since our diets changed and we stopped eating as much natural fat food and ate more high carbs and more highly processed food (many with hidden sugars).
Me too. We didnt know better.
Regarding WW1 & WW2 related trauma, what is said here @01:16:38 may shed some light.
I agree diet is often not discussed regarding ADHD and yet the 'H' is for hyperactivity and the 'E' numbers in food trigger hyper episodes. A lot of the big triggers can be avoided by avoiding the trigger E numbers.
This was discussed in his interview with Dr Chris Palmer; how food impacts the brain, he raised how mitochondria and brain metabolism are impacted by our diet and how this can lead to an array of mental health conditions. He talks about adhd in the podcast.
My children were raised on a very healthy diet without a lot of sugar or refined carbs, but both have ADHD. I'm not denying diet connection at all, but it seems multifactorial. Likely genetic.
A great episode! Paul has articulated trauma with compassion and acceptance. May we all take a leaf from his book. ❤
Steven, you did a brilliant job with this interview. Dr. Conti, your work is an invaluable service to mankind. I hope this information is spread far and wide so people can truly understand trauma and its impacts and better support each other. I'm sorry that you had to experience it yourself in such a profoundly painful and difficult way. It's extremely commendable that you were not only curious, but determined to get to the bottom of it and even help others break free from it. We can see your compassion and we value your expertise. I can't wait to get your book.
How this episode is the most important one on the podcast and the one with some of the lowest views, honestly concerns me. What this man is saying is so so priceless ♥️
I think a large proportion of trauma derives from 50 years of progressively more and more economic suppression during which time Americans are working more and more while earning less and less. I call this pattern, which was created by American economic elites, 'economic violence.' Deaths of despair, for example, occur much more frequently in those regions of the US that have been utterly economically destabilized. This is not to imply that those in the upper middle class and beyond do not suffer from other kinds of trauma, but we're really missing the mark, here, by not engaging with the possibility that the degradation of millions of people's personal economies is central to this entire theme.
@briananderson8428-- The "giant sucking sound" is that of jobs leaving the U.S. and leaving it's people in many cases unable to provide for themselves at all or at a lower level than before the great shift away from American production. And now the climate change hoax is just furthering that shift of jobs.
Our children are our biggest mirrors , our greatest teachers... our path to healing. I embraced parenting with all my CPTSD baggage and my children hold me accountable to do the work DAILY. They are my saving grace. I needed a love bigger than myself to face the work and stop fighting, flighting, freezing & fawning. They give me that in abundance ❤ Also DOAC has helped me join a lot of dots & give me courage to seek help. I now journal, alongside CBT & the work is both equally painful & enlightening. The results is im more resilent & resourceful. My kids reflect back the same qualities. This is true success for me. Imagine a world with resilient and resourceful people or even just a few who can support others... Thank you Steven for making me understand im not alone & there's support out there, sometimes it's a book, sometimes its writing, and sometimes it's simply listening to another xx
"Trauma is like a virus and it gets passed along to your children even if their children are not born until years later because trauma can change the expression of our genes so we need to understand whether trauma is afflicting us how it's afflicting us and how we can treat it if it's there."
I have been living my life under a 'curse' of rejection for as long as I can remember. Both of my parents were abused as children by their parents who were abused, and the trauma goes back multiple generations on both sides of my family. My parents were kids when they had us (early 20s) and absolutely did not understand anything about themselves and their own trauma behaviors and triggers. Naturally, having young children was hugely triggering for them and they took out all their rage and control issues on us. My older sister and I are both severely messed up, and I have huge physical issues all related to rejection. I suffer from hypersensitivity/autoimmune reactions to many things--- food, mold, EMFs, medications, skincare products, etc etc etc--- as my body is actively rejecting things from the outside, even if they are perfectly safe for everyone else. I have also realized that I actively reject making connections with other people because I am afraid that I will spend the time opening up to people and then they will reject me. Because of this, I'm not usually liked anywhere I go, and then I get triggered because I sense the rejection, even though I'm technically rejecting them first by refusing to make meaningful connections in the first place. Even though I logically know this, the social fear is just too great to make any changes cognitively. My subconscious needs some serious regulation and healing.
Your ending 30 secs summary was heartfelt and beautiful I'm sure it must have meant a lot to hear it.🙏
Tim Fletcher could be an influential voice to be heard on the show
An absolute treasure is his work is. Thank you ❤
Just hearing you acknowledge this helps me to feel a little better about myself. Being seen gives clarity and relief.
This level of humanity, and understanding, and listening... THAT is what we need. Thank you for making this episode and introducing Paul Conti to us. The more we're listening to that kind of thinking, the more we'll be able to heal.
Finally someone acknowledges all of this. Thank you beyond words.
Thank you Steve for raising these (for centuries unspoken) discussions. There are solutions to trauma epidemic in alternative healing: breathing, meditation, hypnotherapy but the hardest, starting point is awareness and you are doing a fantastic job in that 🙏🏻
I recently started a no scroll challenge. During the pandemic and even more so after I got divorced, I would spend 10-20 hours a week scrolling through TikTok, IG, YT shorts, etc. Definitely a self soothing habit, can’t be hurt if I’m not actually interacting with the world. It’s been a great week not scrolling, surprisingly day 5 was the hardest.
This episode deserves way more views, it's truly changed my life to have a better understanding of how the systems in my brain work.
I used to think mental health, psychological therapy and trauma wasn't real. Then I lost 70% of all my money and assets in my UK divorce despite my wife earning more and us only having 1 child. Trauma and all its side effects is a real thing and will drag you down unless you do something about it and come to terms with losing everything. Great podcast topic.
You were privileged
@@russkiy6othow so?
Your trauma is deeper and way before your divorce. Your divorce is a product of your trauma. Money has nothing to do with anything.
@@lahicks9773 You are partially correct. I would agree that my divorce is a product of (childhood experiences) having an avoidant attachment style. But your last sentence is completely incorrect. Losing my money and house to someone who is richer than me and being stuck in an injustice loop has definitely made my trauma and psychology a lot worse. You just simply don't understand what I have been through in a messy 2 year long divorce.
@@lahicks9773you have no idea at all what he did, or did not do... stop.
Fascinating interview, shat a gentle, kind human being. No wonder people can open up to him. Long may his invaluable work continue
Fantastic topics highlighted for discussion, contemplation and understanding. I love this guy seen him before. He's so on point about trauma, addiction and generational trauma. He really helps you see the importance of processing things unspoken. Hope this interview helps many people who watch it take a step in their own lives towards learning the tools for processing their own traumas.
Thank you Steven for giving this wonderful person a platform. You're part of their their great work of healing lives, families, friendships and communities. You've opened a window for so many today. Those who are recovering from trauma & those supporting people in their lives who have been traumatised. May that window open wide enough to blow the cobwebs away 💞 🌬
This was an amazing interview. This doctor is one of the smartest doctors I have ever heard explain all these issues from Trauma. He is spot on!!! and yes will save thousands of lives!!!!
Thank you Dr Conti and Steven for bringing to light the root cause of mental health issues, and the dangers of opiates and not addressing the issues causing the mental distress. I wish this information was more mainstream in the early 2000’s when I lost my father to suicide at 22 years old. I was forever changed and will be forever. You don’t know how many people you’re potentially helping and their families. Thank you a million times 🙏🏼
I wanna give this guy a BIG HUG!! Instead I'll send this to my parents and my partner! A million thanks for all your work!
This is a life changing conversation. Thank you 🙏
so many gold nuggets in here - so grateful to have this kind of content offered to us...who are not part of the mental wellness industry.
Trauma is debilitating! The long term effects of a lifetime of traumatic events, based on what this dr is talking about has nearly killed me through my bad life choices I am now trying to unravel all the trauma buried deep inside and get well again. It’s a tough road but I am goons get there
I feel like we all needed to hear that.
This is a great conversation, ready for it
I love how calm this ep is wow
My molecular upgrade came once I'd figured i was in a relationship with a narcissist and that I was ultimately raised by a single mother also with NPD. It was close but I'm now awake spiritually at 45 🙏 🌎 👻 ❤
This guy is saying similar things as Gabor Mate about the connection between physical disease and trauma. Good talk.
“Whatever doesn’t kill you simply makes you stranger…” -Joker
Am sorry for the trauma you both went through. I too went through trauma and I wish no one ever has to go through any sort of trauma but it is what it is😢
This is the one I’ve been waiting for!
I needed this ❤thank you!
Wow, great episode as usual!! I'm really enjoying the guests recently (I say recently, for several months now), I don't know if you'll see this Stephen but really well done! You should be incredibly proud of what you're doing and honestly, please just keep it up in a similar vain, you've hit on a formula that works, this is one of the few podcasts where I actually find it easy to sit through an hour or two and not lose interest. Your guests are not just entertainment figures or people who I'm already familiar with; you seem to have a knack for finding great people who are doing great work or who have really beneficial & important messages. Truly I can say that I've become a big fan - and that's coming from someone usually quite emotionally reticent and hard to inspire!! Thank you for doing this, all the best.
Steven is such a gifted interviewer. Love watching those conversations.
Incredible conversation. Thank you
I absolutely love and respect Paul Conti, thanks for all your illicidating information and from the heart.
Groundbreaking interview!
Steven thank you for what you’re doing
I really appreciated that explanation of empathic connection. I heard him say that it is where all goodness comes from and then a contributing factor in vicarious trauma. That seems important to me.
Okay, I haven’t even passed the intro but as a video editor I have to say that the editing is TOP NOTCHHHH!!!!