My Relationship With A Sociopath.
2019 ж. 15 Жел.
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Hi all. This video is an update to my 'Emotionally Abusive Relationship' video I filmed over a year ago. Although I thought I was speaking my truth then, over time I've realised that I sugar coated a lot. This is a very raw and emotional video for me to post but I knew that I had to finally leave my trauma in 2019. I don't want this video to hurt anyone's feelings, I just want to share my truth to ultimately help others in similar situations.
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The reason he picked you is because you are so lovely and sweet natured. They have a type they target. I know because I too was tortured by the person I loved. I hope you realise that you are now a warrior with armour and shield - you have won the war. People like us can help others as only we know the true horror of an experience with a literal demon. A tiny, ridiculous, childish demon is all they are.
Been with a sociopath. The smiling when they hurt you. Sadistic. But remember they are weak and broken. I hear your pain. They are fools. Well done for speaking out.
They are not fools, they are actually very Smart people. It's not my fault women love Dark Triad males
It should be a crime. A man destroyed me in a year. 37 years old. My career and plans were all going great. Now I can’t convince myself to even preserve what I can. I just self sabotage. Until what end? I left him. But he left his greatest minion in charge of destroying me. ME.
I completely resonate with everything you said. Hands down the hardest/worst/most soul crushing experience of my life.
Sociopaths seem to not be hindered by emotion. Their thought process is void of that worry, so they can analyze much better. They're able to portray what they know what you want to see in the right time to get what they want. It all goes back to manipulation, and they will do anything to fool you to get what they want. They are fascinating to me. I've met a sociopath...they have this very interesting aura about them. I don't know if everyone can tell, but I definitely could and I had many conversations with him. I told him something was off about him, and he said I was the first person to ever notice. I told him I noticed when he makes facial gestures he either held them too long or not long enough. And the delivery wasn't accurate. Some of the most prolific conversations I've had was with him, they think on a completely different plane.
It’s funny because I always joke with my boyfriend about the member at his church that says, “I don’t trust you you’re too charismatic” and a lot of the time I don’t trust him either. He also gets annoyed easily and can be super negative. He gets this from his mother.
@@mariahconklin4150 in psychology, it is thought that sociopathic tendencies are somewhat innate, as manipulation was an evolutionary skill that was useful for survival in that being cunning helps individuals with protecting themselves when physically they are not strong enough to do so. It is all interesting.
have met two in my life, one is currently my girlfriend for 6 years now and the other a coworker and they are just fascinating. Probably the most interesting and surprisingly understanding people i have ever known. Sometimes i would feel like walking or shifting between two completely different worlds. I have not been able to put my fingers on what exactly is off about them but it is there, the way they talk or maybe act, i still do not really know.
This is a profile of a psychopath not a sociopath, please differentiate
The person am dealing with us one their thought process is completely different to be honest, it's fascinating, just don't emotionally attach because it will hurt like hell.
My sociopath ex did exactly the same to me - told me he had a suicidal ex and he's helping her through the breakup. Thank you for sharing your experience. I was in so much denial. When we broke up I felt like I was coming off drugs into this awful reality. I thought he might have borderline, then narcissism but those didn't fit quite as well as sociopathy does. I've lost what you have, including my sense of self. 3 months on I'm getting better but still all the lies! I have to trust my own intuition better in future&develop a stronger sense of self-worth. Wishing you all the best ♥️
Mine said the same thing too!
I have ptsd. My relationship started in 2016, ended in 2018. I was extremely vulnerable due to losing my twin sister to suicide. I met him on a video game. We chatted for years. I thought he was an angel. He encouraged me to kill myself, even had me pretend to be suicidal and call his work. He did this every job. He controlled my emotions. When he wanted me suicidal he made me suicidal. It was so damn traumatic not only that but he strangled me. I left because I realized he would kill me. It's 2020 and I have completely changed, one wouldn't recognize me if they knew me back then. I am happy, the most I can be. I encourage everyone to educate themselves on narcissistic abuse, and red flags. My biggest tip? Start an argument and see how they react. It may sound silly to those who don't understand, but in normal healthy relationships it's normal to have small arguments, NOT FIGHT, not get extremely angry or physical. Thanks for sharing your story. Blessed be
You are amazingly strong and inspiring...thx for sharing 💞
Hey girl I went through this exact kind of stuff for 7 years. Just this year I left because I had enough. You don’t realise your in a toxic relationship until your out of it. Know your worth rise above this and NEVER settle! 💕
YES!!
Yes abuse is slowly developed. He threatened me many times, I ignored it thinking he was just angry
Psychological warfare is no joke. It will be obvious to everyone that you’re situation is toxic, but no outsider outside of your relationship will understand the various degrees of psychopathy we’re experiencing. It’s incredibly insidious. It’s not just “oh he’s just being crappy bc he lost a job promotion!” The abusers base level is at its core, evil. Every single thing they do is to manipulate, including something as simple as saying “Hello!”
So true. I have unfortunately been coming across so many abusers. It has completely wrecked me. I’m afraid of people and suspicious of everybody. It’s devastating
Very honest and humble from u to share this story.. God bless
Been there, done that, done going back. Emotionally and mentally abused, manipulated, and taken advantage of. Constantly got cheated on and used, never got any love or affection it was a one way street. Been on my own for a few years now and flings have come and gone, but I’m so distant with people because I can’t afford to put myself in that kind of situation again. Would I love to find someone? Sure! But I’m happy being myself, and doing whatever I want whenever with no restrictions. If I want to go to Africa this weekend just out of the blue no plans or anything then I’ll do it, it’s so freeing being on my own
I'm so sorry 🥲😪😪 I've experienced the same thing exactly. Except I haven't go back (yet)🤣 I can't think of going in another rel either.
Tears came to my eyes when you said you couldn't go back to your hometown. I don't like hearing classic rock anymore and I love classic rock. Glad you're safe.
I am trying to recover from a emotionally abusive sociopath myself and I still feel so hurt still and I can't believe how he can say he loved me and now I'm completely nothing to him. He kept flip flopping between emotions on me. It was so confusing and hurtful for me. Very hot and cold and he changes his mind all the time. Completely crazy..
I’m so incredibly sorry you went through this and that he treated you that way. I’m so glad you’re at a place where you acknowledge that he was the problem and that it was never your fault. Like you said it’s so important to protect yourself and know the red flags and I’m so grateful to you for making this video and reminding girls like me of our worth so we never have to put up with this and go through the trauma that you experienced
Agreed, Lara is right Elena. From my perspective, being a guy, a man should never treat a girlfriend, or anyone, that way. Sometimes we can be swept off our feet and not realize the complications/red flags that may appear, and we may enter a relationship that we think is exciting and pure, only to realize too late that it is actually toxic and unhealthy. Agree with everything you said Lara. But this video also reminds us guys that we can strive to be better than people like that and prove what loving and caring boyfriends we can be. Thanks for the video Elena, stay strong :)
When people said don't date crazy I always thought that was a metaphor, I didn't realize that was literally you have to watch out for dating crazy people. There are people out there that will lie and manipulate to get what they want and they don't care how they hurt the other person. I thought dating was suppose to be exciting and fun! Every relationship has it's ups and downs, it's the EXTREME ups and downs that are a red flag. For instance this crazy girl I dated would tell me she wanted to marry me and what colors would be in our wedding, what her wedding dress would look like then in the same breath tell me she was a runaway bride and we couldn't be together and we had to break up. 🤦♂️ At the time I thought that was just part of a relationship as the video said. (It's not). Thanks for sharing this, I hope it helps people recognize a healthy relationship. And to be fair, when you're being manipulated you don't know you're being manipulated. They're really good at it. Lastly, He'd mock your voice?! I like your voice, you're accent is awesome!
Scoop of the Crispy that is not a metaphor it is an adjective
My sociopath discarded me today and I feel empty
Thank you for sharing this ❤️ it describes all the elements I went through in my abusive relationship with a psychopath/sociopath. I was severely traumatized. I understand how triggering this has been for you. I’m glad you got out.
Thank you so much for you video. It's really comforting to see you well after you've worked hard on healing and treating the wounds that this experience caused in you. I am currently seeing a therapist and doing this myself after dating a sociopath... thankfully, I was able to get out early... but once I understood I dated a sociopath, healing has been much easier. Only the ones who have lived something like this understand how it is nothing like a normal break up or relationship and how your mind gets so confused and how wounds get to be so very very deep... Even though I don't know you, what a sense of "hope" to see you recover!
You came so far Elena. Keep being you girl, everyone loves you for who you are, you are perfect. ❤ I wish you all the happiness ❤
Thank you for sharing, this was so relatable and really empowering to see that you’re healing, that healing is possible. Big hugs to you ❤️
Thank you for posting this video, it's honest and brave....you are a survivor and having been in an abusive relationship myself I applaud your strength as many of us get out and away and unfortunately far too many of us don't. God Bless you.
This made me emotional and thanks for sharing because I’ve been there! I’m happy you’re out! Blessings to you! ❤️🙏🏾
Thank you for sharing our beautiful Elena! My hugs go out to you and am happy to hear how strong willed you are. Emotional intelligence is number one for a relationship I reckon ❤🤗
Im so sorry to hear about your trauma. I had a similar situation with a girl who had BPD, and I have contemplated leaving my city, as she has moved from being 30 minutes away to within a few blocks from me recently:( What I experienced is a little different, but I did experience similar love bombing, future faking, and manipulation. I'm so encouraged to hear that you're in a better place today:)
i’ve seen so many men (and people in general) be abused at the hands of women and girls with unmanaged bpd. i feel like it definitely doesn’t get talked about enough. i know your comment is older but i’m hoping things are going well for you
@@lasantuzza777 it’s gotten much better, and thank you for asking. It’s affected some of my recent relationships, though. It’s been much harder to trust. But it doesn’t consume my mind like it used to.
thnx for sharing this, it's a big deal to find someone on KZhead telling exactly what you've been through and dealt with, it's an awful experience and even though everyone is telling me that it's only an experience and I'll learn from it I wouldn 't wish it for my worst enemy. so emotionally and mentally draining and the worst thing is that my life stopped entirely while I live in some fucked up city in the middle east and literally can't afford this! still can't believe the price I paid for falling in love with the wrong person who was in my case a psychopath.
I'm sorry you had to experience this. He ruined an innocent heart. You definitely learned the hard way that people out there arn't all good and have don't have good intentions. Honestly you were an easy target to him because of your empathic nature. I still remember what the long haired piece of shit looks like.
He didn’t ruin her innocence but helped her to see how BRAVE she is despite her empathy!!! She is more beautiful now then before because she learned to hear her voice and speak!!!
@@SunShine-op1xi what a good and empowering thought to have...
Thank you so much for sharing. You are inspiring and very well spoken and connected to your heart and feelings (authentic). Thank you ! :)
Hey girl, thank you for sharing your story. I feel gratefull for you share this agrivating experience for us to learn from and for you as part of your healing. The same with my experience is that i too have this traumatic connection with places, towns or objects wich were connected to the abuser. It goes much deeper, with fysical memories (if i undress for example) but also the whole surroundings of the area where we lived is contaminated with it. I hope some day you can be in the town where you lived without reliving it all. If you have these kind of 'memorie capacity', it shows you really indulge in experience, so much that a feeling-surrounding connection establishes. With good and nice phases in your life, the surrounding makes you feel extra good, but the downside of this, can also occur. Therefore it is extra important to protect yourself against bad people and experience. Take care and thanks again for this video. ❤
Elena this is my first time watching your video, I just want to say your a very beautiful and strong lady to go through all that and come out so well. Thank you for having the courage to share your story with us. I’m sure you will help a lot of ladies going through the same thing to get out. God bless you, wish you all the best 😘
Thank you for your story. It takes a lot of bravery to do this.
Thank you for sharing. I have been in an abusive relationship with someone that had the diagnosis of antisocial personality disorder, and I also saw narcissistic and borderline traits in him. Relationships like this are breaking your spirit. I have seen the lowest of the low. So I recognise your pain. I am happy you got out as well and have been working on your trauma. I’m a year out now, had therapy and I still am affected by it. I’m glad you have been able to recognise it for what it was: abuse. It starts with seeing and then admitting that. For me it helped me to read a lot about abusive relationships and about cluster b disorders, to understand what I’ve been going through. I wish you the best.
I have had mental depression recently but f it, if the day has your video notification and i will definitely watch it, i won't wait for the next week's video. love you from Pakistan. sympathize with the killing part. kudos to you for being brave and strong through all of this.
This is exactly what happened to me. I am having extreme ptsd since it was over. It's the first time I hear someone with similar experience
Thank you for sharing. You are so pretty and intelligent, you have lots going for you, keep pressing on and be blessed xx
I just found out I was dating a narcissist sociopath I thought it was normal. I was with him for 14 years and was recently crippled from a work acident and he said some awful things about my disability and broke up with me. I just started counciling to help me mentally, I told my therapist everything and she told me about these personalities. I always thought it was me and something was wrong with me so I tried to kill myself. I had no ideas others where going through this. I'm still dealing with him, now he wount leave me alone and I dont understand because he left me. I'm struggling real hard right now and I didnt think anyone would understand what I'm going through. So thank you so much for sharing your story. I am going to stay strong and try to keep him out of my life.
Thanks for sharing your story. I have just broken relationship with sociopath as well. Sharing your experience help me to understand that they all have a pattern and it's not girls to blame. You should be so proud of yourself. You are very brave.
Sometimes that’s how people were raised, and these abusive traits are honestly how they learned to handle stress.
takes a strong person to realize and accept those things be proud of your self for seeing the world for what it was and is now (hugs
Omg... He called my mom his mommy. We were engaged, started as fairytale and ended as nightmare. He then physically abused me
I always admire this level of bravery.
My heart is with you. I have been through two of these relationships, and I understand what one must endure, both while in the relationship, and after as we seek support and people just do not understand, Please take care of yourself, you are magnificent. My love to you --
Thank you for sharing your story. I went through something very similar.
omg my ex lover was that same exact way towards me and it's been 2 months without him because he took everything from me emotionally, physically, materialistically and financially I have nothing I was with him for 6 years and he left me for my next door neighbor that is a woman and he is there right now! i tried to file criminal charges but i pulled out because i was scared of the repercussions of that choice as he has said to me before that if I did do anything like that " the cards will fall as they fall" he said and I know him and what he has done to me so I wasn't gonna even go through with it because he is the type to erase me off the planet! I am so vulnerable and untrusting of everyone even myself i dont know whats to come but i felt a light in your message through your video that made me feel comforted that staying away from him and on the path im on is the right thing to do! so I thank you for making me feel such a radiant happy feeling and feeling the light again! I miss the light so much i been in doom and gloom for 6 years i cant do this anymore I want to live in the Light! thank you!
My experience with a sociopath, he manipulated me into thinking he would provide for me and help me with my rent, knowing that I was struggling and then he came over and stole money from me and then blocked me because that’s what they do they manipulate until they get what they want and then you’re disregarded and yes, I had to file a police report and before all of this happened I remember him telling me that he was not drama she only wanted to help just everything that he’s actually the opposite of. He WAS drama he liked seeing me struggle and he took advantage of me because that’s what they do. Life is a game to them they do not feel bad for you at all, and they cause TRAUMA they do not come in your life to love you they only come into your life for LESSONS
Totally relate to this. Wow. But we have came so far.. 💕✨ we are healing
Yes they make you feel insecure. He told me I am 30 year old, I will not find any man
30 is nothing, run from a sociopath whenever you can.
Yes they do stuff like this
You are not offended anyone, when you are just speaking the truth. That is not slender at all. If people can't handle the truth, that's their problem. I have dated a sociopath and it was awful. I hate him for everything he has ever done to me. Sociopath's are devil in the flesh. Mine did a lot of what you're talking about in your video here. Thank you so much for this video!
Thank you so much for this video. It does really help to hear these things. I am not sure my ex is a full on sociopath but he does tick a lot of the boxes. However, he also has issues with drugs, alcoholism, and other untherapised mental health issues like bpd. But apparently a therapist once even told him he might be a sociopath. Anyways, we were together for three month this summer. I was glad I got out of it so soon. we had the most fairytale, movie-esque story ever. Everything was so special and he made me feel like no one ever did before. The hopeless romantic in me wanted to try it although I knew he had a lot of issues that would make it difficult. But he made me believe it could work. That he wanted to be better. That he truly loved me. Looking back, it was certainly a lot of lovebombing going on in the early stage. He told me he loved me quite early in. First, I hesitated but then I went all in, for the story, for the deep love I felt, and the most incredible sex I ever had. But then it started to shift. His emotions got uncontrollable and I suffered from his inability to regulate them. He turned against me after a while, and shifted his emotions from being deep love to questioning the very foundation of our relationship. Leaving me insecure and hurt. This happened more and more frequently and I got lost in it. He made me question my sanity, made me feel I was the one doing things wrong. But luckily I wasn't alone and my friends supported me. Helped me stay sane and get out of it. When we broke up a while ago I watched your video for the first time. Now I made the mistake to let him back into my life, just for one night but all the pain came back up and he manipulated me into thinking I was in the wrong when I tried to communicate my feelings. It was insane how easy he can get into my head and make me feel unstable and crazy. But I ended it now. Once and forever (hopefully). It has to be over as much as I'd love to love him, I know he won't be giving me what I need and just destroy my sense of self. Your video really proofs why it's good I let him go and close that door. He'll always just takes what he needs from me and there will never be space or care for my own emotions with him. As much as I wished for a happy ending or even just to keep the good sex, people that suffer from these personality disorders who doesn't seek help, will destroy you. I was doing really well before I met him and before I met him again. Now I feel so much pain and heartbreak again. To anyone watching this because they are in an emotionally abusive relationship or out of one and they try to get back in contact - get out of there if you can and always rely on your friends for a reality check. No matter how charming someone is, how good with words, or even in bed - it's not worth losing your mind and feeling the pain of loving someone who can't seem to love you back the same way. Take care ❤ (sorry for the long comment, but it feels so good to share this story! Thanks again for the video and all the comments and making it possible for people to feel understood and seeing they are not the only ones) ❤
I still have nightmares ... thank you for sharing this
I was friends with a sociopath and I would see all these things happen to his girlfriend at the time. I felt so sorry for her and I could tell she was trapped and in pain. Even when they were in the breakup process he would still go to her place and constantly text her. Trying to get back in but if she said no he was abusive right away. She was a lovely woman and deserved much better. She got out thank god and looks to be much happier. I’m sure he still try’s to contact her though. I ended my friendship with him after he was making some questionable suggestions about my life. Once again, massive massive abuse and I just cut him off. Blocked. It’s funny when you say you start thinking if you were the one in the wrong, they play games on your mind. This particular guy was a gas lighter for sure. Always said I said something or he said something when I know for a fact that never happened. The red flags built up. But even when the red flags build up you don’t know how to get out. Luckily he did that for me. I pushed back on these questionable things he was saying and he pretty much said “I don’t need you” so I said “good” and walked away. In an attempt to make me feel bad it was my way out. I hope you are still healing from this experience. I know the feeling about returning to the same city. Just being in the same suburb as this guy when I need to be makes me see and feel things (even to the point of seeing him with people with a similar haircut)
I'm sorry this happened to you, I was dealing with someone like this an it can drive you to low self esteem or to want to hurt them.
i just finished dating a sociopath that love bombed me too, we planned our future together and everything. it took me 8 months to fall in love with her but it wasnt untill then that any red flags appeared in relation to her treatment towards me. she became distant and always used the excuses that she had no time. Although, when we were together (which had become so rare) she would tell me we will move out together soon and all this stuff to give me hope that things will improve between us. after a year of this i noticed a few new red flags, she started exercising and posting kind of revealing photos on instagram which she hadnt done since the beginning of our relationship. she had excuses for these which i questioned her on them but could not argue with her as she would tell me so convincingly that shes never cheat, shes never been about that life and i continued to believe her lies. a month later she broke up with me and said she just didnt have time for a relationship. i fought for her and she kept pretending that she still loved me and that she was hurting etc. we then planned to work everything out when she got back from a trip out of town. this was the first time i ever took notice of her lies because on that trip out of town she wasnt replying to my texts. once she finally replied her excuse was that she had no reception, although i noticed she was online on instagram on and off all day. i confronted her about this and she turned completely cold and the person i knew her to be became the nothing like id ever seen. she wouldnt reply, she wouldnt see me, she even threatened me for accusing her of cheating when all i wanted was for her to explain what had been going on and to convince me otherwise. 3 weeks later she started a relation ship with another guy and id never realised this before but she did exactly this to her ex boyfriend who she claimed was abusive towards her. I did not realise until this that i was the guy who she cheated on another guy with. my mind was blown and this was exactly two weeks ago today. This can really destroy a person emotionally and mentally, fortunately for me i have been through something similar with my ex girlfriend who also had borderline personality. Im also a psychology student and i feel that if you know what youve been dealing, it makes all the difference. the confusion of being with a sociopath is what really destroys you after a relationship like this.
Wow spot on for me. Luckily only 5 months but still so much pain
Wow, thank you for sharing
Yesss, I feel you. It is so painful.
Thank you sooo much for sharing!!!!!!!!!
Thanks for telling your story i can relate but thank god i figured him out before we moved together
I was with a sociopath for 1 year. I tried to leave him since about 2 months into the relationship. I didn’t know he was a sociopath till recently (almost 4 years after I finally left him). I met someone who said that they know him and said that he had tied a girl up and put her in the closet and broke her arm and that he’s a sociopath and in the relationship I intuitively knew that he was like that. I had this gut feeling like I could see what he’s capable of but I had this sense like not me, never me. Almost like this weird bond and I didn’t know what to believe. He would lock me in a room if I wanted to leave him or throw all my clothes around the apartment if I was trying to pack to leave. I was so physically tired that I had no strength and had no where to go. I ended up getting pregnant and ran away for good and had to give my baby up for adoption to keep him far away from my son. He would hide in the bushes at my dads and wait till I left the house to run up on me and he at one point tried to push his way into my house and I had to fight him off when I was pregnant. During the relationship there was a lot of crying saying he’d change, saying he loves me and fear that I would leave him. If I made him food he would act like it was an insult that I made him food and he would comment on my clothing style as well. He never wanted me gone, he would repetitively text me if I went to spend time with my family. He was extremely sexual, like sudden urges. He would gamble all of my money, he would say something and then say that I said it but I was smarter than to believe I had said it. I would say no u said that, ur the one who just said that. I would then say ur f ing crazy, leave me alone, I’m leaving because it would come on so suddenly and I was going insane with the highs and lows, I was in constant fight or flight. My family thought he was great and didn’t understand what the problem was. No one understood what was really going on. The trauma haunts me but it’s been almost 4 years and life’s looking brighter again but the depression has been constant ever since. Anyone else who has gone through this type of situation just know ur not alone and that there are ppl out here who understand how traumatizing that was for u 💔 if this sounds like a situation you’re in then u need to run and never communicate to that person again
That’s why you have to have boundaries. My boyfriend used to be a sociopath at times I’m convinced he still is and so he gets hurt by this but I tell him that until I see that you’re 100 % telling the truth I’ll never believe you. He seems to do things for attention to. He used to turn his friends against each other because he’d get jealous when the attention wasn’t on him. He also corrects me and used to mirror me. I have BPD and have no problem directing my anger toward him if he crosses a boundary of mine. Trying to tone down that anger when he pisses me off but then I realize that in his past he was abused and a bully when he was younger. So yes boundaries are important in every relationship.
Why are you knowingly dating a sociopath??? They are not capable of maintaining a healthy relationship. They also cannot be “cured”
Thank you for sharing ❤️
I'm at the ass end of this relationship. Hes literally got me hooked on drugs, I've lost damn near everything including my kids, my self esteem, my life. My will to live. I've never been this low in my entire life. He with holds love & affection. He talks shit about me to anyone who will listen. I'm a laughing stalk. I feel so bad & down right sad
Run away from him and never look back!. Everything he has told you is untrue!. You will find someone who will love you treats extremely better!!!
Please go to the hospital and tell them. They will send you to treatment program that is state funded.
The way abusive relationships happen is if someone whos insecure meets another person that's more insecure while that someone's insecurities cloud there judgment and saying its ok when it's not on both sides. Theres levels in which both engage in bad behavior before someone starts dominating the field of chaotic wordage and foal meaning hurting the other then saying I love u afterwards its manipulative but u have to give a part of urself up to be manipulated. I now know that from my experience and will always walk around with the discomfort of doubt and disappointment in myself and others around me. I now believe that I am the same way the person who hurt me is and its scary i dont want to walk outside and hurt someone yet feel nothing doing so these kind of relationships drive u to insanity and the brink of extinction by distinguishing the real from fake and the pain seems realer then anything so u focus on it intill ur at the face of a cliff and ready to jump but even if u change ur mind someone will push u. And the truth is by the time ur out of the realationship uv already drowned. It's only a matter of time before ur brain catches up with the u that has drowned no matter how much u try to fight it after the fact u cant fix a puzzle with the pieces because it's not broken there missing. So if ur reading this u have to fight right now if ur in this situation ur not drowned ur drowning do this message is to teach u how to swim hold on through the ride pls I made the mistake of letting go. I wish u all the happiest life possible. After all ignorance isnt bliss, bliss is ignorance.....
Exactly! It’s weird because my boyfriend says God has healed his his sociopath diagnosis but I can tell he has it still. Some days I can see right through him. He tells me he needs to be safe in a relationship. I tell him I don’t believe what he says I believe in his actions. We are taking the day off from talking to each other. We set boundaries all the time. I’m already gonna have to tell him to stop doing certain things that hurt me. He also has a charismatic way of talking to people. I’m just wondering if anyone at his church knows if he’s bullshitting at all and if they do I’m hoping that God speaks through one of them. He does like to be rude when it comes to the things I like but I don’t know if that’s just my BPD and me being sensitive. We both kind of hurt each other so we are learning. I do feel like he still plays emotional mind games with me to get attention.
@@mariahconklin4150 well first of all I also struggle from BPD, so I get that feeling. But no I also dont think ur over reacting. Theres no way for someone to truly know if god cured a sociopath of such a physical / chemical imbalance he has as soon as he says it's gone yeno. If he ever hurts u verbally dont try to hurt him verbally back, it doesn't do anything better for u. But no matter wat aswell always speak ur mind. If he continues to verbally abuse u with insults , threats or remarks, just leave the relationship. It's like going cold Turkey but u need it. A break from madness. And usually once that dark cloud fades day by day getting lighter outside on ur view of wat was truly going on between u two dynamically and the way he treats you. Safety comes first. If u ever think he'd hurt u or will hurt/has hurt u, tell someone immediately, u deserve to feel safe.
I know what you were dealing with . Sending love 💕
Still healing from my experience with this as well. It’s so hard to understand how a being can operate that way. I even told him that he was a sociopath and he said he would change. We weren’t living together for a bit so he could work on himself. He made promises, future faking, about how he was going to change and be the man I deserve and said he was really working on himself this time. Turns out he’s actually in another relationship, the girl he got caught messaging when he was still living with me. They are users at their core. The karma is there already, whether they see it or not.
Omg... He will call my mom whenever we faught. He sent pictures of him crying to my mom
You got a shinny Apple which was rotten inside but remember most apples are very good all over. You will find a that good one and life will be wonderful.
You are so sweet..Thank you for this video
You have a lovely personality and sense of humour just remember your 100 times the person he is I know what it's like my father was a narcistist hope you find the right person
I’m dating a sociopath. I didn’t know but this is it.
Omg I cant drive though my home town either! I am crying my eyes out right now I'm one month out of this 2 year relationship and your story is mine but a little more bad things happened. He drove me crazy Everyone thinks right now I'm crazy
I am shocked, my sociopathic ex too made me speak with his mother on the phone. He was the first one to want a relationship with me quickly. He then beggin joking and started criticising me slowly. He even joked about breaking up with me. After a while he beggin to leave and come back in my life. Each time he used fake promises and gifts to get back in my life. It took me 2 years to realise that he was a sociopath.
Thank you for sharing
Stunning, Soul. Stunning. You're unbelievable. Incredible. Human. Being. Wow. 💖🌟Stay strong. You're a star. Star. 🌟.🌟.
Youre so strong thank you
It sounds like he had Borderline Personality from different things you said. It seems like people tend to automatically assume a lot that sociopaths are the only ones who can be abusive. It can be fairly common in different personality disorders. The extreme ups and downs screamed BPD to me. Also, you described the way he told you things that made you feel amazing (idealization) and then how he would flip later and make you sound worthless (devaluation). Plus, the fact of this happening from a day to day basis seemed like it also pointed towards BPD. Of course, I'm not a psychologist, but I've had a lot of experience with this stuff in my own personal life. People can often get them confused. Also, if he had BPD, it's very likely that he wasn't trying to manipulate you and was just an unstable person with deep rooted issues. I know that doesn't excuse what he did, but maybe if you can think of it as he was just deeply mentally and emotionally sick, maybe that can somehow bring you more peace with the situation. If he actually does have BPD, it often comes with extreme guilt over things. Narcissists and Sociopaths tend to act in a different manner for a completely different set of reasons. They usually tend to lack empathy and remorse. People with BPD may lack remorse at times (usually during an intense rage) but then other times they feel extreme guilt over things they did / said during previous episodes.
Excellent post.
I would say NPD. NPD can ressemble aspects of BPD but they are very different. A borderline wouldn't bully people in front of their friends, they have empathy, they aren't manipulators or gaslighters, it's really NPD which does that. Narcissists can be bullies, they cheat, they lie, they devalue, they are full of themselves. Borderlines aren't full of themselves, they feel inadequate.
Omg I just prayed for you. Heartbreaking.
I attracted one and when I finally got free because he found me to be useless and someone else useful... I then met another and being still vunerable as I was not healed... he has been exactly as you described towards me. Today, ONLY today did I realise that I am the one who has feelings and he is void of them hence why the coldness and avoidance he shows me. While I am hurting emotionally I am better today for this realization. Ive doubted myself every day prior that maybe he had issues and I needed to prove myself to him, develop his trust but I see how he made me feel that way bit he never showed me love, he made sure I felt love for him however. He will return, thats usually the way it goes, 6 weeks go by and he tests me, I have healed over 6 weeks and can handle seeing him again BUT I wont do it this time. Thank you for sharing, it really helps us all to identify and see whats really happening
Thank you xoxox I just ended it with a sociopath after months of abuse. Thanks
This is exactly what I’m going through and emotionally and mentally exhausted from This realtionship.
It’s time to get out. The biggest thing is disconnecting all emotions from that person. To them screwing with you is a game so you need to take the fun out of it. They know they got you on the emotional game. It’s like you just need to say screw it and know that once it’s all said and done it’s for the better, it will make moving away from that person easier. They won’t up without a fight though, it could be months or years of them trying to make contact. Stay safe Lizeth
Yes it's very traumatized. The city we got engaged and the city we lived, I can't even hear the name. When he physically abused me, he said I made him do it
Hey, Ritu.. I was in the exact same situation.. looks like you are Indian.. I am from Kerala.. I really would like to talk about it with someone who would really understand.. please respond if you would like that..
The sociopath said I attacked him, that’s why he strangled me . Man it’s so tough with these people
God bless..emotional abuse i went through it's damaging mental physical health
i feel you 💔 i used to scroll on my instagram seeing people relationship, i feel jealous, cause i never get treaten right to be his woman, im only exist when he needs intimate things
How are you doing now? I just dumped my fiance last Friday who is a Sociopath. Funny thing is that his whole family is too. We were due to get married on Wednesday just past. He was cheating on me, they all knew, and would gaslight me. He has children, he was being deceptive about a lot. When I found out about the affairs etc I left him. He started spreading rumours about me, made himself appear as the victim and still has his family follow me around. I blocked and deleted them all. I'm very traumatised over what's happened over the last two years and can see all the red flags I chose to ignore.
I am convinced to think that im in a situation with a sociopath especially when this person has stated in more than one occasion that they was a sociopath. When you care for someone you dont just belittle someone you care for always judging everything I do and how Im not doing it right. When i get dressed up to see her asking why did I get all dressed up and everyone has the choice to say what they want to there partners but always getting irritated with this or that to have an attutude and making things that person not willing to communicate when that is all I have been doing... 😔
YOU are worthy!
Men must show it with action‼️‼️‼️Mens words mean “Nothing” without “Action”‼️
I've been through something like this and I believe you ❤️
"You cannot give the love you dont have." we are all responsible for our own behaviors so the fact that they use ppl for emotional/physical/mental dumping trashcan says it all - they will manipulate u till u have none left for yourself that makes anyone whos been w a relationship w them bcomes completely empty and left out or depressed.
Omg! I got that suicidal argument too
The Sociopath I met said the EXACT same thing about the “suicidal” ex 😤😞
What they forget to mention is the part where they make the ex suicidal 🙄
I’m probably a sociopath myself, so I kinda feel attacked. Either way, glad you’re out of the relationship.
My ex father mentally and emotionally abused me for ten years I cut contact two years ago with my abuser and he got a hold of me and he is just constantly texting me 247
Your story is alot like mine! My sociopath actually cheated w my sister for the last year of our relationship. I actually hit bottom by trying to commit suicide. I'm so happy to find this video no one around me can relate to what I am going though right now. I would love to talk w u
Tammy i know rigth now everyone around you might think your dramatic, crazy, bitter but you are neither! You are not crazy you are not dramatic you are completely right about who this person is. Evil. And most importantly you are NOT alone! I understand you. The confusion, the manipulation. This people are so good at manipulating, even after break ups, that they'll turn everyone againts you while keeping their false prestine personality to those areound him who don't know him enough to see who he really is!
Holy crap the same exact thing happened with me and my ex about the ex girlfriend incident you mentioned in the beginning
I hope you don't feel lonely we all love you we all support you just read your comments below I'm sure you have more friends here then we do you're not alone
Mark hi, although it is now 10 months later. But know, you'r my friend from a far! 😃
i've been living this life for the past decade. We are in the love bombing phase again, as he knows i have one foot out the door. He has threatened to kill me if i left so many times, the first i left i ran across the country to my mother... and then i came back... and I'm stuck in the trauma bonded phase. I am scared to leave, he has one sobriety... but the emotional abuse is still there, the mockery, the manipulation and attempt to control everything. We have children, who I am seeing are also greatly emotionally abused and neglected by him. He has changed alot over the past year... but i can see the sociopath in him. The narcissistic traits. I havent even had a chance to process the abuse he has dealt me over the last decade, but he has a year sober, and is trying not to yell so much... so i should just move on from the past.... right...
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The moment I saw your face… I think we all know this… Your energy! Definitely an Empath… at least!
2 years ago I had also a relationship with a sociopath. She told me that she finally fond a good boyfriend and she wantend to spend the rest of her life with me. I bought a house for her. I still live in that house. After a couple of months. Her personality changed allot. She lied to me too much. Even her pregnancy. she told me that, she always lied to me and she had a right to lie. She also abused me mentally, emotionally, physically and financially. At the end of our (relationship), she told me that everything was fake and that she only was with me for my money. To this day I'm still recovering from her abuse and manipulation. During our (relationship), I knew she was looking for outer guys. When I throw her out of the house. Within a week she had a new victim. Less than a year with her new victim. She was pregnant for real this time. Now she have a child from him. She picked someone that I know from school. I'm still single, even I don't want to be single. I still want to have children. But I have now partner. My biggest dream is to have a good stable familie. I hope it will come true one day.
I'm there exactly wow what you said I lived too only out 6 months have a long time to go