Why does Pete Davidson make himself the butt of the joke? Jon Bernthal asks on Real Ones
2023 ж. 29 Нау.
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Jon Bernthal and Pete Davidson have a conversation about Pete's Netflix special and his overall approach to comedy -- “It seems like making yourself the butt of the joke is easier but it’s also what causes you so much pain”
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This makes me sad and happy, because this feels like the first interviewer to treat Pete as a person not a character. Jon's ability to listen empathetically produces the most amazing conversations
I agree
Charlemagne did a decent job
“Everyone’s struggle is very big to them” ❤ That is empathy 101. 6:55
I use this channel to watch John Bernthal in an effort to learn how to become a better listener. Here is a great example of a person who's TRULY listening in an effort to hear and understand....as opposed to waiting for his turn to talk. What a great guy!
Funny you say that. This is one of the first thing they teach you in theatre school ; how to truly listen to someone so you don't seem like you're on the scene just waiting for you turn to say your lines. That's acting 101. No doubts, this listening forged him into a great actor.
Completely agree👌 it’s the first thing I noticed about him when I started watching these vids. It’s rare nowadays. Mad respect for him because of the respect he gives others.
Yes, a great interviewer. And I interview people for a living. LOL.
Wow I couldn't agree more, was thinking the same thing.
Great observation…not a professional but love interviews and really appreciate Jon for this reason
I love that Jon lets people speak. I respect both of these guys for their talent and humbleness.
I’m not into celebrities and don’t follow celebrity culture at all but one day a couple of years ago an interview with Pete davidson popped up on you tube and even though I didn’t have a clue who he was I watched it. I was blown away by his honesty and vulnerability and felt very touched by what he shared. I now watch everything he does and search his name in you tube every few months to see if he’s done any more interviews. It takes an incredibly strong person to speak so openly like he does. I find myself really rooting for him in life. I literally want all of his dreams in life to come true. No one else is so deserving. We love you Pete. Keep shining your light. The world needs more people like you. Hold your boundaries with this world, you don’t owe the press or fans anything. Peace and love
Self deprecating humor keeps you humble and it keeps you sane and less depressed. Laughter is indeed the best medicine
Some people will use it as a manipulative tool to draw people in.
I dunno, people that usually use self deprecating humor feel bad about themselves, at least thats what ive noticed.
Could be yea but the way u speak and think of urself reflects in ur reality u could just be reinforcing all those negative feelings u have toward urself
He dated grande he can't feel bad even if he bombs in comedy
@@diego1590 It’s easier to use once you can get past the trauma. You gotta heal yourself first
This made me cry. I'm still crying. I was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder about a year ago and everything made sense. I had the same moments , banging my head against a wall , self harm, intense fear of abandonment and rejection and so much more. I was treated like a crazy person. Hearing Pete talk so openly about this, especially as someone in the spotlight, can help so many.
You are so not alone! ♥️♥️♥️
I'm so sorry about your own problems! Pete IS a comfort to so many of us. God bless him, really.
Get a grip! Jk ❤
Hey, I don’t know you personally…but I totally understand. I’ve dealt with similar issues most my life. It’s quite the journey, I’m proud of you and just know that, me…a random stranger here in Nebraska are always rooting for you and everyone else that fight these same battles. It’s a random comment, but take care & enjoy every day dude!
@@joesalazarmusic Support grace and love right back at you Joe in Nebraska. ♥️🙏👆🏼
Fame itself at a certain level has got to be its own trauma category. So polarising that people will swallow what they read so easily. I'm so grateful for Pete's candour. He makes me feel understood and gives me tools I've never thought about every time. I've never heard people talk about their mental health struggles so honestly in a way that connected with me like this. Thank you Pete
I don’t have a skin thick enough to be a public person. I’d go crazy!
I relate so hard to Pete saying feeling happy is weird. I got so used to feeling bad that feeling good is a weird feeling. It’s not bad but it’s so different that my body points it out.
I resonate with your comment so much. Well said! I think that point isn’t talked about. I’m the same way now. So much trauma the last 10-12 years that I don’t trust anything anymore and since Covid lockdowns I have social anxiety and some agoraphobia I’ve never experienced before. I haven’t felt (allowed myself to FEEL?) any real joy or happiness because I’ve lived in pain, stress, grief, guilt, low level anxiety for so long, it’s unfamiliar. Thank you for putting that into words. We’re not alone! ❤
I feel the same way most the time rough childhood and losing many friends has made me a somewhat dull person to be around
Same here. Ive always been switching schools growing up so I always had to say goodbye to friends many times. It just became normal to me and it translates to my adult life that I should get up and leave I got the slightest feeling of not being wanted or sometjing reminded me of the past. Its hard. I like to read books now. It feels like the only thing that makes me feel like I am having a good conversation a friend without the drama or fear of betrayal.
I lost my dad in a car crash when i was 10 .. you never get over it , but you learn to live with it . thank you for making this video .
Sorry man We all must keep going
Came here to say similar. As someone living without a parent since I was 18 - you can’t relate to most people and their family situations. Just an empty void.
That's the truth brother man. Lost mine to a car accident at 6.
Same here actually, car crash when I was 10! it can be real tough
lost both of my parents to a drunk driver when I was 10. I really feel like my life has become searching for something I know I'll never find.
Petes brutal honesty and actual fragility is what makes him so fresh. Its a shame he truly suffers for it......................
It’s called “vulnerability” and it’s anything but fragile.
Thing is that’s what people love about Pete. Heck half the gorgeous women this dudes dated have said that they loved his vulnerability. Being an honest n open human shouldn’t be so rare these days
I agree. I adore him! I love his honestly and his humor definitely comes from trauma and insecurity. Idk I’ve always thought he was cute. I love how genuine he seems.
@@LittleHammer_these days? Being open and vulnerable is more common now than at any point in modern history, bruh.
Loved this interview. I suffer from BPD/PTSD also and it was so refreshing to hear an actor talk about this in their own life.
Have such a deep respect for Pete, he is always open and i relate to a lot of things with him Such a down to earth dude and he’s a great actor, great interview from two people i have a lot of respect for and Bernthal is one of my favorite actors ever
He is a leech
Same even tho he cusses a lot 😂
He's a kickass writer. I bet we see him write something incredible soon.
WTF? Why the hell would you say that? @@Pack_Watch
@@jessicasuzanne___lots of people do, unfortunately. They just grow up like that thinking it is normal.
Holy shit. I felt this on a whole other level. I’ve never heard anyone say they used to bang their head against the wall just to pass out. I’m on my sixth week of coming off my meds of ten years, just came across this… and it’s the first time in years I’ve felt understood.
Kids who are autistic do this
hopefully things are going well for you. there are people out there that will be supportive, unfortunately its not always the ones around us....but when you find it, the world opens up.
@@TXTrojan ❤️❤️❤️
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Can I suggest listening to binaural beats as you sleep? I used them to come off of western meds. Strong ones too, like Alprazolam (xanex). & had no withdrawals!!! Research them first so you see the science behind them. They do work! But don’t take my word for it. You don’t know me, so just take a few minutes & research binaural beats. I have helped myself in so many ways with them. I give tons of credit to binaural beats, meditation & cannabis lol😂 becoming mentally stronger & consciously aware. ❤ Sending you positive vibes. You got this & you’re not alone.
How refreshing to see two men discuss openly about their emotional landscapes with such respect and empathy for one another.
I appreciate Pete’s openness about everything he shared and to hear about the mental health work he’s doing to strive towards healing.
Hearing someone my age struggles with self harm is so comforting in a weird way. Thanks so much for sharing your story
I’ve always liked Pete from what I’ve seen of him but this is so eye opening to the way he thinks and the struggles that brings him. So genuine. Jon such a good interviewer he asks then just really listens
Being a good podcast host is remembering your role. You can tell how intrigued John is, Pete has his full attention
The podcast with Shia Lebouf was the best I've ever heard regardless of who was doing an interview. John is such a natural.
I use to think Shia was so awesome and authentic, but I now think he's just learned how to manipulate folks into thinking he is.
Honestly this interview was showed vulnerability and empathy I cried for him. When he opened up about his dad, I wanted to sob. The look that Jon gives to Pete is just amazing, he wants to cry but wholeheartedly listens to him. I respect Pete for opening up about his issues on 9/11 and the fact that it scarred him. I feel for him, I was 5 and I couldn’t comprehend death. I didn’t understand it but I knew things were going to be different. Listening to Pete and Jon this one made me cry
I really appreciate the deeper conversations and authenticity. The conversation with your brother was amazing to watch.
Which one was that?
@@JustinCampbellP It was a while ago. His brother (Nick) is an accomplished Orthopedic Surgeon/Oncology Doc.
I can relate to a lot of things Pete is saying in this video, i appreciate that he is open about things like this. To shed a light on past trauma & how he is actively working on getting better & also how to deal with it.
so grateful a guy like pete made it big and is talking about 9/11 & childhood ptsd. i've never been able to articulate how traumatizing that time was for kids from nyc.
Dude.. I cant even explain to you how impactful this conversation is in my life. Im almost in tears hearing Pete talk about the DBT kills training work book.. I recently finished DBT therapy after being diagnosed with BPD and just hearing Pete talk about using the exact same book Im working through to learn these skills is mind blowing and powerful.
Seriously having a person with that high of a status, has honestly made me feel good about always sharing my struggles with mental illness. It’s a lifelong disability that has its ups and downs, other people are our downfall with specifically BPD. The piece on how he’s explaining on how everybody’s struggle is huge for them. And the part when he speaks in breaking down on just wanting to watch Family Guy, and is scream crying about everything else and that.. It’s insane on how little stuff like that can seem so little, and pathetic. But to those who are pent up, and struggle daily with mental issues, it’s our life… Keep your head up, the good times come in waves, but don’t let the bad times wash away how far you’ve came.. There’s a Process to the Progress. Much love.
Chapter 6 atm.
Love you man do well for yourself ❤
Good for you man! That is amazing that you’re working thru something that tough and seeing progress. You should be proud of that. Best wishes to you on your journey ❤
@@Shutinbanshee mental illness does not exist. This is why they locked up andrew tate because he was creating positive change in the world...now that he is locked up men are starting to regress, become weak, and blame everything on new age diseases.....FREE TATE!
I always say death as a kid feels like abandonment especially at a young age because you don’t understand. My grandma was my caretaker and passed everyone said she went to this beautiful place and I couldn’t understand why she’d leave me at such a shitty place to go somewhere so great I couldn’t understand it. Death talk is very important for kids, lying only does the most damage.
Putting himself out there like this, on such a large platform, under the microscope scrutiny, that comes with social media, is so damn admirable. I don’t think the every day person can comprehend/relate ( I certainly can’t ), so how vulnerable public figures are, having their lives out there like they do. No one forced them to, but I still empathize deeply, because it was the price they were willing to pay, in order to pursue their passion. I think conversations like this, are vital, to men, and just people in general. Thanks guys 🙏
Pete, I can't tell you how MUCH it means to hear you discuss your PTSD & BPD, and using your DBT skills. I love that you're sharing it through your interviews. Keep up the fight!! ❤
This was awesome, thank you for having Pete on the pod Jon, and thank you to Pete for coming on here to share this stuff, it’s some really tough stuff to deal with. I hope hes doing.
I relate to Pete so much in this.. the struggle with abandonment is something I’ve dealt with since I was a kid and I’m so happy I saw a clip on Instagram and came over to watch this. I genuinely feel like this helped me more understand myself and my struggles with basic relationships a bit more than I did before. Ive had probably 20/30 different therapists since the age of 10 and I feel like this helped me more than the years of therapy under my belt. So for that thank you for making this channel and sticking with it. It helped me and I’m sure it helps many many more. God bless.
John’s best attribute is he doesn’t ever seem like he needs to relate to everyone’s experiences. So often people try to relate what your going through or feeling with their own.
My favorite part is when he said the cold shower , that is what has saved me . I don't get out of the cold shower until my mind is better and I start laughing . It feels great . Love Ya Pete, and Jon
Cold water is awesome too for the burst of endorphins
Awesome as always! Real conversation is a dying art in it's self and I'm glad your a real one!
I Gained so much respect for Pete this episode. The level of vulnerability he expressed should be commended
Jon is an amazing listener ! Knowing someone wants to vent and let things out even when you want to ask more. He’s patient and good at this
I cannot put into words how this conversation makes me feel. Relieved and validated is a good start. I also suffer from PTSD and while my diagnosis is fairly new, I’ve been experiencing it most of my life. The head banging is so relatable. This was so relatable and I’m so glad to hear that with proper care, it does get better. There’s light at the end of the tunnel after all.
Never really cared for Pete but he’s been growing on me since he’s relatable now that he’s opened up about his struggles. Love you Jon! Favorite Punisher!
Pete is dope. No, I mean Pete IS dope like the drug. He's made of Cannabis. That's why all those banger chicks fucked him. "It's just something about him, makes me high." Out of all of them, Beckinsale is the one I'm going for. The original recipe.
You really go above n beyond to try and top the previous episode … kudos man !! Glad I’m subscribed to this ✔️
6:43 what a wonderful empathetic comment
Great interview, honestly the outside vibe was great too. Authenticity and gives me my own self-reflection
Respect to Pete for unpacking any of this in front of someone other than his therapist. I can relate to this as I am also a fearful avoidant attachment style due to childhood trauma and some of the hardest conversations for me to participate in have been about the trauma that possibly created this within me. Thankfully I have a very understanding and resilient wife who works with me moment to moment throughout my still very real trauma as much as I hate to admit it. I love ya Pete! Keep pushing forward brother!
As someone who struggles with cPTSD, I really appreciate how well Pete explained that trauma and mental illness can affect your brain and make you believe negative things about yourself, and that you need to stop and fact check yourself. I’ll be looking into DBT because it sounds like something I would benefit from. Great listen! Want to hear it all.
Pete! You Are A Real One For this! Thank you Brother. Much Respect Jon!
Bro. This is the pairing I needed. This is so good.
Love the show Jon. Real as can be. Keep up the great work..
This was an incredible episode. A beautiful illustration of being vulnerable, being a man in vulnerability. This is important work, showing that no matter where you are, if your mental is muddled, you will be there muddled. The daunting reality that we are the jailers the imprisonment of ourselves. No one is coming to save you and what’s worse is you are the only one, in the whole goddamn universe, with the key that will free you from this self imposed imprisonment.
First time seeing Jon Bernthal interview someone. So nice to see someone really listen and relate to someone during an interview. Also a cool way to give Pete a place to dispel common misconceptions of who he is and is capable of
Love Pete so much! He just has a good soul ❤️
That was a great interview !
Love your podcasts brother! You’ll always be one of my favorite actors! I would love to get a spot on your show one day!
This is a beautiful interview. I always love learning something different about you. Each time you do an interview. I love that you're maturing into a young adult. Keep on being amazing, and I'm praying for you.
I love how real this is, not many people can speak on this level with such integrity and honesty.i hope this helps people. Love 2 u both ❤❤❤❤
I'm so happy Pete is getting therapy. His movie The King of Staten Island was amazing! He made it as a love letter to his mom because his dad died a hero.
Its great to see men just talk, no BS, no judgement, lots of guys dont have that guy to just open up and just let it out. I appreciate these conversations, they help a lot of people more than you think. We are told to keep it in, suck it up and dont show emotion. Thats the worst thing to do and it bottles up and then we becomes the aggressors because we dont know how to control our emotions. This isn't easy.
He is so brilliant...so lovable, too...incredible the comedy and life he has created for himself in the midst of this level of suffering. AMAZING.
It doesn't need to be said, but Bernthal Is an amazing interviewer, the way he gets all of his interviewees to open up so much just by listening and using his personal experience to ask the right questions at the right time. I'd say he's missed his calling, but it's fair to say he's a fucking brilliant actor as well. 🤣
Jo just grows his branches and blooms more beautiful every springtime 🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸
I have complex ptsd it's very similar.... its a mental injury. I resonate with Pete so much. Hugs to him and anyone struggling❤❤❤
John-Best Punisher of all time!!! Thank you for sharing your many gifts. Soo much love being sent to you and your family🖤
This got deep and helped me view my current situation in a different perspective I appreciate that thank you.
An important interview. Thank you Pete, your voice can show others how to get there. It's work and you are doing it! Love, love, love it.
Just being real, I've never listened to this podcast before, and mostly clicked on it because I'm a huge fan of Pete.. But it's so fucking refreshing to hear not only Pete be so open and fearless about his personal struggles, but Jon being completely understanding, relating to him in a sense, and actually treating him like an actual human being, not diving in deep about shit that only the press and the media give a fuck about, for example, his past relationships with Kim or Ariana Grande. I felt like this is one of the few podcasts out right now to where nothing feels forced, scripted, and just feels like a genuine conversation, Subscribed right after this video ended. Great work to both of them.
awesome interview
GREAT conversation. thank you gentlemen. be safe.
I can only imagine how hard it would be for a comedian to express both deep respect and grief for his father and yet try to be humorous as well. But you walk that fine line, Pete, and I've loved your humor from the start! You're able to reach across generations, too. I'm 72 (lord, how did that happen?) and my daughter, almost thirty now, loves your humor too. That says a lot, I think. I just heard you say that your mom is "awesome" -- damn straight! She IS awesome, she must be! I loved the skit you two did together on SNL (that's been long ago now)l. I think your sister was in it too, mayb? Stay well. What you and your family have suffered breaks my heart, truly. Banging you head against the wall. Oh honey! (Brings out the comforting mom in me!) You'r a deeply talented man, you've given us all a lot of laughter, dear Pete,.
I truly appreciate how incredibly receptive Jon is as a person. It's beyond being a host of a podcast to be a listener. I have an intuition that he's also a great listener outside of this show. It speaks volumes as a person to be as genuine and empathetic to another human.
Jon Seems like the Best Friend I Never Had.. keep up the positive Content man.. It means Alot
I love that Jon seems to be hanging on every word that his guests say and taking it all in....he is not just thinking about his next question, or what he is going to say next himself. He has these guests on; asks intelligent, thoughtful questions and then lets them speak and say what they have to say. He makes each episode about the guest and not himself.....it's pretty rare these days...
Two of my favorite people.. This is about the only thing I watch on KZhead. Real ones. Even when it's people I'm not particularly fond off, when they speak to Jon, I listen and it may change my perspective on them.
Great interview, great artist, and Jon is a wonderful listener.
Wow Jon Bernthal is such an engaged listener. Just dialed in the whole time. Everyone should aspire to be like that.
I have PTSD and BPD and man he is spot on!! I am going to order that book because I can't find mental health help here in Eastern Kentucky. But I get it, when things are good, I'm like whelp, the sky will be falling any second now. I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy!!! My heart goes out to Pete!! ♥♥♥
The book is all you really need. DBT Therapy is a plus for those who can afford it. All the best on your journey towards healing ❤️🩹
@@Frussian40 thank you!
This was a great interview
I think the more people can see this side of Pete, the more we will understand him and judge him less. He has a lot that he keeps to himself, but I bet we relate more to him than we think.
I've been defending him for years that he's not a terrible comic, nor a terrible person. Now maybe more sensible adults will listen with reason
My girlfriend hates him so much and thinks he's a terrible person; I've always been someone who knows everyone isn't perfect.
Man hearing Pete talk about this stuff, I'm 40 and I just got done with Therapy, you really dont know how much trauma you have gone through and it is a struggle to let people back in. But it takes time and help. I still deal with these thoughts, eventhough you want to trust people and be a good and reliable friend.
THANK YOU Pete for raising awareness about BPD because there is such stigma surrounding it. And thank you John for your great podcasts ❤. You are also one of my favorite actors.
I relate heavy to that feeling of waiting for the other shoe to drop whenever things are going good so hard. Love hearing these guys talk.
This.
Pete has always been an open book to make people who struggle with mental health feel less alone and I’ve always found that honorable
I've loved Pete for a long time. Him being on Charlamange's podcast was eye opening. He is authentic. I think he has a good heart. I get the feeling that the women are "using" him. Hope he meets the love of his life soon.❤
He's a grown man who uses the women he's with then acts like a victim to gain sympathy publicity. Can't trust anyone who builds a career off pity.
@@decere_b3652 What is the proof that he uses them? It was Ariana who initiated the relationship with him. She had her manager give him her phone number. She dumped him after her ex passed. Later she basically admitted to using Pete as a distraction in an article.
@@tevans6808 She wrote a song with his full name in the title at the time about how much she loved him, and she was also engaged to him. I don’t think she was consciously using him. But when her ex passed, which was while they were dating, it did become a distraction and they couldn’t work anymore.
I feel like I always defend Pete in my friend circle whenever news comes out about him and I don't even know the guy lol. Everybody wants to talk, but he's so relatable. He's not some celebrity puppet, we're all just trying to do our best. This was a quality interview, thanks 👍
I haven't heard someone explain what I go through with the surges of intense self-harm before. Having coping tools has been helpful, but every now and again, I still fail. I'm really proud of Pete and how far he's come.
I enjoyed this interview. Pete is so humble an open.
Real Ones gotta to be one of the best celeb/content creator podcast out there. It's always, well, so...real.
love this keep the work up and stay grinding
stay coasting you mean. Jon Bernthal comes from a billion dollar family. Dude has never faced any real adversity in his entire life.
@@copperypuddle3858 you don’t even know him Internet clown 😂
This is the good stuff guys and will definitely help a lot of people. Big hug from Ireland 🇮🇪
Thank you for showing what you did show of this interview! But I do think this particular interview could be really helpful to a lot of people! I think you should make this one video free to everybody! Pete has some really relateable things that he's gone/going through and helpful, practical advice that will really help myself. I always knew i liked him as a comedian and i knew that we have some of the same issues, but this made me realise just how similar the things we've gone through are! I live in the UK and my dad didnt die in 9.11. but my father did die when i was 10 and I had a similar experience to Pete surrounding that. Please, could you show the full version of just this one video? Thanks. Go Pete! Love you dude!
I lost my Dad in my mid twenties and my Mom in my early thirties. Every now and then when people are joking around (close friends) I'll make a dead parent joke. I get it can make some people uncomfortable, but it usually gets a laugh and I get to remember them both in that moment. It was never a 'feel sorry for me' moment.
Real Ones is so good for humanity. Thanks for being awesome
as always, jon is a fantastic listener and safe space :)
This is why I love Pete he is just as genuine as they come ❤❤❤
💯 I have always felt the same way-I respect his “realness”
One of the best KZhead channels out there! Keep the amazing content coming brotha! Baltimore, MD in the house!!
Man i feel him on the every time everything is going good you know something bad is gonna happen but i have learned if you worry about what could happen will happen almost every time
This is a really good segment! Seen a side to Pete that shows you he’s just a normal guy with normal problems.
Went to school with Pete happy he's a different person now then what he was I can tell you his childhood wasn't easy happy for this guy
What was he like back then?
@@mariwashereeee he was very quiet honestly alot of kids gave him a hard time I had to stick up for him quite a few times it's very heart warming to see him become what he has today
I am the same way. If everything is calm, I'm like, wait a minute. And then boom, a few months later, life was attempting to fall apart at my feet. Eye surgery, financial issues, relationship issues, parenting struggles. Still here pushing !
I had a not so great childhood and started to SH when I was 10. It was like an itch that I needed to satisfy. I remember feeling sad which I now know was actually depression at 8. All these things combined with what I was going thru made the perfect storm of horrible coping methods and I relate to Pete a lot. I’m now about to turn 23 and SH will always be a temptation for me but I have chosen to heal myself no matter my past. To everyone going through this everything will work out I promise. My 8 year old self dealing with so much trauma would not believe me but I promise it does get better🩷
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This moved and resonated with me so much 🙏🏻 wow
Watching spoke to me/inspired me to sign up for counseling/therapy. 👍🏻
I met Jon waitressing at a diner, he sat at my table and I had the pleasure of not only meeting/interacting with him but also serving him breakfast! He is a gentleman, and from what I can tell a truly great dude. I'm always interested in anything he puts out because he is a REAL ONE from on screen to real life and that is hard to find in Hollywood. Pete Davidson gives me the same impression. I relate to him a lot and appreciate them both putting themselves out there real raw vulnerable especially as men I think they're awesome keep it up guys!
I saw part of this from someone else's clip and was like, Bernthal be doing interviews!?! Late to the party but glad I could find the whole thing.
I love these dudes. This is honesty guys. Leave your ego at the door. Help other people out and love your neighbor as yourself