The Taiwanese man pairing Singaporean men with Vietnamese women
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Despite the risk of social stigma and disapproval from their families, friends and peers, Vietnamese women and foreign men are turning to one of Singapore's largest international matchmakers to find life partners. Mark Lin, originally from Taiwan, claims to have arranged more than 1,000 marriages between Vietnamese women and Singaporean men. Lin, who said he considers love a transaction like any other, offered a look at how he tries to help those willing to pay to find love in the modern world.
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My friend married a vietnamese wife who later gave birth to two intelligent children. It was financially tough for my friend in the initial years as his wife had to be a stay-home mom. Thankfully, as the children grows up, the hardworking vietnamese wife took up nursing course and became a nurse. Both husband and wife run the marriage as equal partners.
If a woman have to put her child first,the husband must be financially capable,and if she find money more important than a child’s’ life,then she should get a job! Singapore living is too high,either hire a maid or put to daycare also costs money. So I respect that she did full time with her kids when they were young. Kudos! Not every women want to stay at home to look after children. It’s not an easy job!
Nowadays wife need to work 40 hours/ week and also do chores at home, give birth, educate children, etc. While husband just go to work and chillin at home 😢 no wonder many women dont wanna get married and goverment confuse why birthrate decreasing
Save it. Those singapore guys who married viet women are losers!
if you're marrying someone so much younger than you, from another country and you brought her to your country to give you kids, then taking care of her is the least you could do. stay at home moms make equal contributions to the family simply by pouring their labour into giving you a family and running the household. are they "equal partners" only when she starts working ?
@@ladyofhalos facts!!!!!!! I’m not a mother but I’m raised by a full on mother mode type if you know what I mean! She deserve so much more! ❤️❤️❤️
50+ old, not tall, not handsome, not super rich, yet want a super pretty perfect wife 😂😂😂😂. Wonderful. The way that guy walks also feel like he can't move around much.
I was thinking the same thing, he doesn't seem to have much to offer a woman
Dont judge😂
He's not tall enough to look at the bathroom mirror. j/k
Looks like he's looking for a caregiver
He guides others to a treasure he cannot possess
the matchmaker has a point, his client needs to be more realistic...
This industry thrives because there are delusional men like him expect to date way out of their league, and then one day they are 50 years old and alone. See also 90 Day Fiance
Honestly, I think being a matchmaker is a worthy profession. There are pros and cons in any job. I think that people looking for a life partner and need assistance; this job allows pretty shy people to meet each other.
If you have money
The matchmaker seems superficial though. He may be matching people up for a divorce down the line.
The man might be shy, the women just want $$$.
not the U.S coz women's standards are through the roof 😁😁
correct. because the technical difficulties is very high. for example - matchmaker for Indian woman is welcomed here.
The best line was " This beautiful lady in my office if u enjoy her come to my office..... 🤣🤣
😂😂
I've watched 4 mins of the video and I dont find anything wrong with this. Theres a matchmaker s fee and then theres dowry with certified marriage. This is honorable enough. For those who point fingers and create a stigma around this practice, theyre basically brainwashed with foreign ideas regarding relationships, courting and marriage. They buy the whole valentine's day commercial package with movie courtships and romance novels. So when theyre brought into contacts with reality, they fail to accept it. There are numerous hypocrisies in a love marriage which centers around premade compatibility and unrealistic expectations. These types of arranged marriages focus on adapting to each other and actually making it work. It is the persistence and sincerity that determines if a marriage is successful. For those who cry afoul about dowry, well they are descendants of humans who believed in dowry and now they choose to betray their own roots. If a culture is okay with dowry, its noone else's business.
😂 WEAK MEN LIKE YOU OBVIOUSLY APPROVE THIS
Well said!
I really enjoyed this . More of these documentaries please !
Very efficient,simple, straight forward and direct
I think this man is doing a great job introducing women to men even if the failure rate is 25%, which is better than the 50% divorce rate here in the US.
50% ? That’s not mich compared to the Netherlands, 2/3 end up in divorce. And a portion of it is miserably together from my small observation
@@RifetOkic lol the dude who is taiwanese himself has his country's population decreasing ever since and most married woman there save their babies inside cryogenic boxes to save for later use
Japan is in need of more babies. He should pair them up with them…heck it would be easier with Thai women
One of my biggest fears is getting married. Not the 50% divorced rate but I hear that 50% of all marriages.. .last forever. Upvote 10 Downvote 1 comments
That's because Vietnam has a low divorce rate. But you can't say it's 25% over a short period, it may and up being even worse than the Singapore average.
It's easy to poke fun at Mark and his clients. And it's also easy to think that we are somehow different; less transactional when it comes to our search for a partner in the marriage market. Perhaps the difference is not as great as how we imagine it to be.
I mean this client in particular is a 50+ yo man looking for young women in their 20s. I dont think he would be fine with someone around his own age. His values seem pretty shallow.
Said by someone id is literally pervertt 😅
@@hz9995 well women are even more shallow
It's a fact of life. Women from poor countries are willing to marry foreign men for the opportunity to have a better life. I don't judge them. I don't know what they've been through. ❤😂🎉😢😮😅😊
Well, it’s like well-educated, nice young U-grad willing to sell lousy financial products to retirees for high commissions.
What this video doesn’t mention is Singapore does not give out permanent residency to Vietnamese brides. If their hopes are that they can migrate to a richer country, or their kid have a better opportunities, they’re wrong. Children born to foreign brides from 3rd world countries, even when born in Singapore, do not get citizenship automatically and in many cases are often stateless for decades. The country discriminates against transactional marriages like these. Even if the couple is in fact in love with one another.
Source?
@@quittancethe people around us.
Yup this is true. Unless the man has a reasonably high income. What Singapore government wants is foreigners who have high education level and income. Not wrong because it benefits the economy as a whole.
@@quittanceI’m Singaporean. Our immigration policy is highly discriminatory
@@joeyjoey22 I'm Singaporean and I find it hard to believe that PR is not given out to spouse of a citizen.
The "Whiskey" guy is too demanding - you can clearly see he has health issues (walking with a cane and he has a hunchback) yet he wants a woman who's perfect...I'm glad the woman he liked married someone else. But the other woman from Vietnam who married Alvin the bus driver doesn't look happy and she hardly smiled...feel sorry for her. Very sad that people would even need this matchmaking service 😞
Whiskey probably has scoliosis
the one with the cane is mark lin
That was the matchmaker.
She is nervous, if she is not happy why she agree?
Kieu the Vietnamese bride doesn’t look happy at all . She may have agree to marry Alvin for other reasons. Don’t think it’s going to be an easy marriage.
The match-making companies and the Vietnamese representatives have the responsibility to inform the Vietnamese girls that Singapore government does NOT simply issue permanent residency to foreigners married to a Singaporean man. It is naive and ignorant to think Singapore government is easy and has no standards. There are real life cases in the neighourhood that some foreign brides failed to get a permanent residency after many years and they have to return to their countries to give birth and the baby is NOT issued a Singapore citizenship, just because the father is a citizen.
You mean even if the father is a citizen?
Because there are many cases of foreigners (not saying which country) and cheating older men of their retirement funds. And when these men got cheated, the women vanish without a trace, and this becomes a problem for the government. In order for Sg to issue PR, it will be like going for a job interview, background checks etc to see whether you are lower risk, and what's your value to Singapore. Nonetheless, with an aging population, I believe Sg govt is becoming more flexible in issuing since they want to increase the birth rate.
@@jocelyncao9233 No, as long as born in singapore and father is citizen, citizenship is a given "In Singapore, however, citizenship is granted primarily based on the principle of Jus Sanguinis. If one’s father (or mother, after the 2004 Constitution Amendment Act) is a Singapore citizen by birth, registration, or descent, then one may also attain Singapore citizenship. But the principle of Jus Soli is also used, albeit on qualified terms. To elaborate, if one is born on Singaporean soil, one could be granted Singaporean citizenship, unless: One’s father is not a Singapore citizen, or One’s father was an “enemy alien and the birth occurred in a place then under the occupation of the enemy”,"
read up ICA web before commenting pls
That's correct
This should be turned into a Netflix show, like Indian matchmaking
Er... the Indian one is battle of the best.. while this is for survival
that show is corny af
I don't know how to feel about this... But if you are trying to marry a foreigner, you could at least learn her language. A language barrier is one of the biggest road blocks.
Hello
Thx for sharing 😊
This is brilliantly made and amazing to watch. Thank you. Turns out, people all over the world are the same :P
As a Vietnamese woman, reading the title itself makes me feel triggered…
Those Vietnamese woman volunteered. Also, many scam....
What exactly is triggering you about matchmaking?
This is very common nowadays. Half of the Singapore men married to a foreign wife. The expectations of Singapore ladies are too high: must meet one of the following criteria: must be super rich / minimum 180cm tall/ must be a white expat
I read stats of 1 in 5 being interracial.
JBW
@@cwhonkhonkwhat does that mean please ?
@@gardensofthegods Just Be White
Thanks SCMP for awesome news
interesting story, I guess some part of every generation is having this problem. this would be a job that always exist.
Money for love or vice versa in a legal way - that is all I see. These relationships as we all know, are rather fragile for most part.
0:40 very Taiwanese statements, love it
I could watch a whole series of this matchmaker, great video!
I couldn't get into it because of the small print and I'm watching it on my phone and when I do try to make the screen larger than I couldn't really see what was going on and so I would have to keep going back and forth . What if just been easier if they did voiceover in English of the people talking .
Different languages and hard to communicate and understand each other's culture would lead to problems in the marriage
Vietnam is a monolingual country. Majority of Vietnamese couldn't speak other languages besides Vietnamese. The education system emphasize that students are taught English in school. But reality is, most students are unable to speak or understand simple English. In a relationship, if communication is a problem. What love are we talking about?
why not do SEAGATE and Western Digital (merging with Kioxia) / Samsung Electronics / Micron and Sk Hynix?
Most Singaporeans, like Taiwanese and ethnic Chinese from SE Asia, speak one of the Min dialects. Both the Min and Kinh languages are coastal languages, scattered in southern Chinese coast and Vietnames coast. They intercept each other in southern Guangxi.
Min is Chinese language family, Kinh Vietnamese is Mon-Khmer language native to Vietnam. both are different origin. Southern Guangxi are ethnic Tai, speak Tai language.
@@wuhuhu1390Kinh is classified as Mon-Khmer language , however the language itself has 60 to 70 percent of Han Chinese, only 30 to 40 percent was come from Mon-Khmer. Because of that , a Vietnamese can learn either Cantonese or Mandarin easy and fast. When I travelled to China over 10 years ago. The first few days, I couldn’t understand . However, I started picking up the language at the 5th days I think, and started understanding the conversations between my brother and his Chinese partner. I am not say I can understand the whole story but I believe I was able to understand what they were talking about. I believe if a Vietnamese notices the similarity between Chinese and Vietnamese language, it won’t be hard for them to pick up either Cantonese or Mandarin.
@@khiemlam835 Language is classified based on its origin. So it cannot be 60% this origin or 30% that. Kinh Vietnamese is Mon-Khmer origin, but diverge from Khmer language, like English diverged from German language, but both are same Germanic origin. The only influence from Chinese is borrowing of words, but words can change over time, Kinh now uses many English loanwords too. However, grammar do not change. Kinh is grammatically Mon-Khmer, totally different from Chinese. Pronunciation is different too. To say you can pick Chinese in few days is false. Many Chinese language school in VN would be out of business 😂
All Southern Chinese languages like Min and Cantonese have multiple layers of Sino-Tobetan and non-Sino-Tibetan substrates. Vocabularies of both Vietnamese and Korean are 60% to 70% Chinsse-based, including the names of the countries and all family surnames..
@@wuhuhu1390 when you say Kinh Vietnames is Mon-Khmer origin shows that you don’t know about this ethnic. According to 2 of the genetic tests on Kinh Vietnamese shows that Kinh in Hanoi have gen close to southern Chinese, and the other result shows they are close to Thai people. So far non of the genetic test shows that they have gens close to Mon-Khmer people. Even Muong ethnic ỉn VN speaks Mon-Khmer language but their genetic test shows that they are belong to Tai-Kra-Dai group. You don’t believe that i can start to pick up Mandarin in few days is up to you. Well, it is understandble because you don’t know me. I had asked one of my university classmate from Taiwan that i could understand Mandarin if it was not complicated. We startes a conversation in which he spoke Mandarin and I answered in English. He was a bit of suprised that i could understand the langauge.
What this video didn't tell you is, most Vietnamese women married Sg men for citizenship. Once they get citizenship, they will divorce the men. Those who still have a viet boyfriend will bring in their boyfriends in context of being a "worker" and get for them work permits. True story. Happened in front of my eyes many times. So if you are single and want to get married, look elsewhere.
Stop lying pal 👎🏼
😢😢😢
Serves these men right, stop buying women, karma
Depends on luck also la.
Filipinas are way better than them especially when it comes to education. Even if some of them are gold-diggers too.
I read about Vietnamese brides being imported to China, but didn't know it also happens outside of China.
happens in japan, korea, taiwan, malaysia, usa. australia.
They are not imported, they themself want to come also.
There is a very famous Singaporean Man called Kurt Tay that married a Vietnamese Wife, Kim Ngan . She is suffering a lot 😭
That guy has a lot of problems ..
Did he die ?
You mean older Singaporean guys No younger one would go this place
Kieu and Alvin look beautiful together ❤
She looks Miserable! Look at her body language and her expressionless face
Yes so you are looking beautiful?
9:55 i really understand what he talking. Yeah i have that feeling when i first meet my first love.😌 But now i don't have that feeling when i meet other girls.
I also like matchmaker my friend, I almost made this a profession by made a web but too bad I had personal stuff so I cancel it till now, i still like doing it howEver finding woman bride is the most difficult😅
我爸爸媽媽不了解我就愛我了嘛 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
我也在觉得这句话很有道理
I can't help but feel that the matchmaker is trying to match "Whiskey" with the wrong women. I'm not sure that those two women he met in Vietnam would be considered "curvy" or "fleshy" to him. He did mention that he prefers his woman to have a bit more flesh. So slim women are out already. The one he met in Singapore and is considering? Easily is more fleshy than those two in Vietnam. But then she married a different guy.....just one month later. Love? Forget about love if you're marrying through a matchmaker. At least in the beginning. For the guys, it's about whether he likes how she looks. For the women, it's about securing a better life, being provided for and taken care of, at whatever standard of living each particular woman is seeking. Love may very well blossom much later as they live together as husband and wife, but there's no guarantee. 25% failure rate is only those that you know of that ended in a legal divorce. There may be a lot more that don't get divorced, but each person is leading a separate life.....maybe husband has a mistress or wife got a lover, or both even.
Their version of 'curvy' is different from a westerner's view of curvy. I was told by a korean that Beyonce is considered fat in Asia 😳. Their beauty standards are different.
@@caps900 not in whole Asia but only in Korea. They are too judgmental right there
@@caps900I think sometimes her thighs look too big ... as a woman I'm glad my thighs aren't big like that .
Do they understand that he been hardworking and she stay relax at home . But I did went to Vietnam , the odd question they asking if I have car license and got car , they feel into money things. Be extra careful , think future and see how it can last .
I think I may open one in Indonesia.
He needs a nice silk suit, fur coat, crocodile leather shoes, a hat with a feather and a golden cane...change his name to Mark "Love Machine" Lin.
The music makes it even funnier…
I was wondering if those Viet women will be given a singapore citizenship after they marry? To my knowledge, it's not easy to obtain one. I came from Switzerland and my dad is half S'porean Chinese-half Dutch white ( my mom's Austrian-German white ). My dad got his S'porean citizenship after living in Singapore for more than a decade, however, I was only granted a PR ( Permanent Resident ) instead of. I'm curious to know.
Vietnamese lady married to Singaporean man can get PR after delivered a baby. Hence there are many vietnamese ladies trying to get PR status in Singapore will first married any Singaporean man, after gave birth and gotten their PR, they divorced the Singaporean men. That’s why the matchmaker was sued so many times
i doubt so. you're right, singapore citizenship is tough to get. i'm sorry you only managed to become a PR.
You probably only got a PR as your dad didn't hold a Singapore citizenship and/or not living in Singapore when you were born.
The main reason i think they want they main population to be still chinese. Not white.
@@AznPride101 in my case, my grandfather is a Singaporean Chinese who married a Dutch caucasian woman , resulting in my father who is half Chinese-half Caucasian.
The men are looking for love and companionship whilst the women are looking for a better life. It’s not the same thing.
Most women want someone doing better than herself anyway.
Yes. In the end it's more about how much the two people end up trying to build a life together. Sometimes the connection is disappointing even after decades.
Wouldn't love and companionship make a better life?
16:25 kiss ah kiss ah Lady: No Them : 😆🥹🎉
I marry a Vietnamese guy . He's the best ❤
Making a living connecting people, starting families n creating baby is better than selling weaponry or starting wars!
This is messed up!
Can somebody explain to me why this short documentary did not explain the match maker explanation of the language difference as the Singaporean man speaks Mandarin Chinese and some English and the Viet women speaks Vietnamese and little English??? There has to be a common language to communicate to each other.
I do have friends whom married Vietnamese ladies. Singaporeans usually speak English plus their mother tongue. I guess for the match making ones, both the lady and the guy, would be very much inclined to learn to communicate in a common language together. The environment would be useful for the ladies to develop proficiency in a new language too. The Vietnamese ladies whom I knew married to Singaporean guys, tend to learn both Mandarin and English, but the grasp of Mandarin somehow is much better than English… even thought English is the popular working language
African wives are the best they learnt to speak mandarin so fast after marrying their Chinese husbands.
There are several different Chinese dialects/languages. In Singapore, Malaysia, Philippines, Thailand, the Chinese living there are usually Hokkien from Fujian Province but can also be Cantonese, Teochow, etc. Mandarin is usually not a first language for older Singaporean men. It would be very hard for the Viet girls to learn Mandarin only to find out the Singaporean man can't speak Mandarin very well. So the better option would be English. But, unfortunately the English that the Singaporean man would know is very Singlish. 😅 Unfortunately, for each match... To fix the language barrier, the solution has be to very specific to the couple. The matchmaker, can't just tell the Viet Girls to learn English.
The VT female learns and sings Mandarin $$$$ before she's an adult $$$$
@@vennsim71 that's because they worked in KTV, wonder how your friends met these 'ladies' End of the day, should we all pray the kids get her looks & his mind. Otherwise....
Felt bad for these guys they're desperate. But still ASEAN indigenous girls on top, no counter 🔥
Nah, indigenous ASEAN is Negrito😅
@@malakatan3235 Ok so, AUSTRONESIA & AUSTROASIATIC GIRLS ON TOP, NO COUNTER 🔥
At least learn how to spell Asian.
Imagine how many r doing the same in highly developed Japan, ofc, in many diff manner too.
1 year later usually vietnamese wife will run away or with kids back to vietnam
Whiskey is out of touch. Alvin is realistic. Alvin looks normal and married a normal lady. He didn't go for Miss Vietnam. Whiskey is a somewhat disable. He needs to lower his standard.
As long as both of you are about the money money money, you can pretend to be "happy". I am a living testimony to my own parents, grandparents & all the relatives who are about money. My uncles had mistresses & even brought them to their aunt's house, but hey, everybody's "happy" as they always say. I've never seen a more miserable people in my life. So much money, no soul.
Deep, thank you for sharing.
Seems like your all family member are to materialistic…some stars with money eventually ends with love… bond develops over time in most cases and some dies totally depends on people… ig you were unlucky that people around you were to materialistic
99% of people are miserable poor and rich but yes rich are the most miserable as they have an image to uphold and the poor doesn't.
That Singapore man aka client have unrealistic expectation. He should just give up and end the match making service .It's better for everyone including himself. He's like choosing cabbages. Aiyoh. Headache ah.
Plays International Love by Pitbull
We all know what one is looking for from the other. Win-win all around. Add win Mark's too for the match maker's business and Singaporean population efforts.
How to contact this match maker ? Any contact number available ?
Just go orchard tower
Interesting video, but why was the man named whiskey?
lol dude was quick to take her passport as she stood up, i hope it is his passport
GOING NOW!
This is confusing situation. Is there a shortage of women in Singapore? I didn't get that impression from the "Crazy Rich Asians" movie!
I want to become your agent for Melbourne
Whisky is crazy😂😂😂😂
More like delusional
singapore man dont have money to feed singapore girl that why need vietnam
No. Singapore girl want 5C
singapore girl dont deserve it
She married someone else 1 month later. HAHAHAHA
bro.. you so evil... you shoul-ffftttttttttt HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
Will you have to know that these women doesn't comes with warranty.
A very honourable job. So many single women couldn't find the right person even only go for a date
Why not
I'm sure some may find true love, but no gold diggers for me.
Save it. Are you gold? 😂😂😂
True they also gt their expectation lah wont anyhw marriage sg man
5C
@@ongweeyan4407ultimately nt true love
Electric shock 😅
the real 月老
I'll drink more whiskey so that I can meet Vietnamese women.
What Vietnam men think?how to be Singaporean. Mean willing to living as one?
they think they are better than cambodian whilst KcCKucking themselves
I want one like Pham Hanni of New Jeans ahahaha 😅
Interesting
The matchmaker isn't the problem, its some of the customers who are questionable imo.
Be very careful
Kinda sad for this fools
The Phillipines have tons of golddiggers, easier
No money No honey
This video is so biased and hypocritical towards this matchmaker. If he wasn’t honest during his 30 year career, he would not be sought after now.
Comments here are Hilarious. 😂 It's no problem finding a woman with Money.
这男的也太挑了吧，有一个很好看啊，又白又瘦，身材也好，声音也好听，是不是身体方面不好啊。
12:17 what a dumb statement, your mom & dad didnt need to know who you are to love u lol
True what HAHAHA
Well your parents are nicer than mine then. My mother is so sick, she wants me herself 😂.
Why don’t they married Vietnamese men ? Should be proud of their identity like my country Malaysia malays are very proud on their race
Different, Malay women are bond by religion.
If this match maker in Yunnan, china. he probably is rich. 1 match in Yunnan, china. Red Envelope are RMB 50k, = SGD $10k.
So sad
u sound jealous
Is it just me or does anyone else feel that some parts of this video seem wrong, disturbing and illegal? 😬
whiskey XDD
Old short pigs sniffing young cabbages 😂😂☠️ The girl at 8:19, I love her energy but she needs to cool it with the surgeries
All women are quite inflexible in accepting shorter men. They probably understand anatomy incorrectly.
I think you go maid agency got a better chance of finding a wife than a marriage agency.
Alright, I watched the whole video. I now understand why there is opposition against this Taiwanese matchmaker. He is match-making. That is completely fine. Also, both parties are consensual. Completely fine again. The problem is the fact that he is match-making internationally. Males from Singapore and females from Vietnam. This might be seen as an attempt to bring-in foreign individuals into the country, i.e, Singapore, to get citizenship. However, if he is not breaking any laws and all parties are consensual, then I don't see anything wrong with this. 25% failure rate is to expected and quite low considering this is culture-shock, communication-gap involvement. Regarding him being sued by prior clients, well that is again born out of unrealistic expectations. The guy is just a matchmaker. He does not raise those women up from childhood nor groom them to be eligible partners. The final decision is obviously with the male. He holds the money, he holds the ticket to Singapore. Amusing video. :D
I want a Vietnamese wife ☺️
The girls are young enough to be his granddaughters. There is no love--it's just a transaction. the men need to be more realistic and find someone more age appropriate. once the young girls settle overseas, they will eventually divorce the old men and find their true loves, more in their age bracket. 50 year age gap..what do you expect. he's basically wanting to find a caregiver. The girls come all made up and in their best clothes and the guy goes there in flip flops and spends no effort to looking presentable. He may have more luck just living there for a few months and getting to know the community. The 2nd man, guy in his 40s, his bride doesn't even smile on her wedding day. So sad.
Money can buy happiness.
Meh, on the other end of spectrum, even Western males are increasingly flying overseas in hopes for Vietnamese/Filipino mate. More surprised the business is not booming
Matchmaking is illegal in the Philippines. They have an "anti mail-order bride" law.
I'm 155cm, and choose single coz no hope alr
This Taiwanese man serving as a matchmaker charges way too much money. He is in the business to earn money for himself. Your luck with women depends on yourself. I am annoyed of seeing people going to matchmakers when they already have children and they want more? What? This is insane.
who the bikini girl at the beginning? asking for a friend =)
As long as it’s not exploitive or not illegal or not immoral and consensual. 👍🏼