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I don’t remember how long ago it was but at the end of one of your videos you said you were working on a project and were asking viewers if they had a secret they wanted to share anonymously to submit it to a website link you gave us. Was that ever completed? I am really interested! Please let me know, thanks Thorayaa! ❤
Hello Thoraya So your a real angel art you. Your beautiful inside and out. What a breath of fresh air.
hiii Could you make the same video comments version???
I love the answer at 1:06. "Everything I do, I do scared." But she puts herself out there. She steers into the fear - rather than shy away from it. That's real courage. That's inspiring.
I said the same thing!, i said Hell, that's pretty dope!. i heard a quote something similar, about doing everything with fear
Being brave is not the absence of fear, it’s being afraid and doing the thing that you are afraid of anyway ❤
Never! Be afraid of who you are! ❤
There's no courage without fear.
I understand the first girl so much. I also struggle to do things because of my anxiety. I sometimes can't even go to the toilet because I'm too scared to leave my room which is horrible as as adult to deal with. I hope one day we can all be strong enough to live without fear
🖤🫂 same.
❤
Anxiety has been the most difficult thing I've ever had to deal with. It's truly debilitating. Wishing everyone who struggles the strength to continue
Same ❤
Same. It, as well as most of my other struggles, made so much sense once I got diagnosed as autistic.
The girl who defeated cancer has such beautiful energy oh my goodness,may her frienships grow❤
“Can I dance straight?” I loved that 🙌
Totally fabulous woman.
Her laughs caught me off guard and made me snortlaugh with her 😂
The guy who apologized for having messy hair surprised me when he turned around and looked way better than I thought with this perfectly fitting hairstyle. Hope he can one day free himself from the preassure of society and find his own path becouse there is a way to do that.
I thought so too
I did too if you read this: you and your hair are so so so handsome❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I thought so too I really hope you find what you are destined to do with your life and find true happiness ❤
@@jannetchepkoech3442 *I thought he looked like a yOUng and hAndsome Yves St Laurent*
That's what I thought too!!
That man who is perceived as the "strongest" by their family... If people only realized how that is such a common occurrence for many men and how desperately lonely and alone it makes you feel... I'm so sorry for him and I really hope he doesn't contemplate ending things.
It makes me so so sad that he’s dealing with those feelings alone. I hope he’s able to open up to someone.
He just told the whole world. Maybe he will watch this video and learn he is not alone! :) @@Thatonegirl989
Yeah.. that hits hard
To the girl who doesn’t think her in-laws will ever like her. I feel you and I’m sorry. After 24 years, I don’t care anymore. You’re worth so much! Don’t let them dictate anything about who you are.
You are enough for your husband who has accepted you the way you are and children if you have them. Who cares what your in-laws think or do. You seem to be a genuine nice individual. God Bless!
Thank you for giving people a voice. It may seem like just an interview but you allowed to voice out loud their life with dignity.
❤❤ strength, and courage. ❤
I’m not sure who benefits more from your videos…the people telling their secrets, or those of us hearing them, and realizing we’re not the only ones.
“Afraid to be seen” This small sentence rang in my soul. To the girl who got her cancer removed, you are such a strong person. I wish you the best in life.
Praying 🙏🏽 for the 21 year old cancer survivor. “…take care of yourself and your soul…” Excellent advice ❤
The older sister, doing her brothers homework in secret, that is a level of LOVE that is hard to even comprehend
The girl that survived her cancer really hit me. I had a rare form of thyroid cancer at 21 and had no support whatsoever. My dad watched my two young boys, went in for my surgery and the next day straight after surgery he walks in with my boys and said “come on, I’ll take you home you need to look after the boys.” I was groggy and weak af from surgery. It’s like cheers, man. You can’t even let me rest for a little bit after a cancer tumour removal. It did make me realise what a bunch of selfish a holes my family are. I don’t speak to any of them anymore and I’m fine with that. ❤
Don't ever really leave comments but i wanted to say congrats on beating your cancer and i wish your damily the best!
Yesterday I tentatively introduced your videos to my brother. We had a free day. Because of his love of tea (we're in the UK guys), 7+ mugs a day, I started with your tea videos but moved onto my favourites, strangers back to back. After a selection. I was embarrassed because showing my taste made me feel vulnerable. We talked about each video and when his wife came home he told her about your deep, wonderful content. As I left he actually thanked me for introducing him to thoughtful and thought inspiring content.
My heart breaks for the first person. As a person who has suffered with depression for many years, I truly know how she feels. Please hang in there Mam.❤
I'm just a few days short of 80. I know something about where you all are. For most of my life I felt like it was walking around on eggshells. Afraid of failure. Afraid of not being enough. Whatever the situation, afraid of not being enough.
Howabout now
@herbhouston5378 I hope you're doing okay these days. And I'd like to wish you an early Happy Birthday! May you're 80th birthday be pleasant and happy, Herb. 💖
A happy early birthday
Happy Birthday
@@kclarke2971 Thank you :)
Having severe depression and anxiety is so much worse when you’re an adult. I couldn’t stay in a job for more than a week. I would get the job go and feel like I could not keep up and would get panic attacks. It sucks so much because getting a job is part of being an adult and not having one when everyone else does makes me feel so embarrassed and ashamed. I recently got a new job and have been there for about a month now which is the longest I’ve ever stayed in a job so I feel very accomplished with myself and hopefully I’m able to last a little longer now.
do you think you could stay for, say 6 months? what is your anxiety telling you in terms of leaving?
They are truly awful disorders to deal with. Words can't even describe what it's like. It's a huge accomplishment, even being there for a month. I'm rooting for you!
Here's to a few more months 🥂
God I feel this on such a personal level. You probably grew up like I did with parents that never taught you how to truly handle the world, along with the severe depression and anxiety. It is sooo hard knowing I should be out there working but I cannot in every way, not right now. Im hoping to get on some medication very soon, hoping maybe just maybe it makes a difference. Hoping the best for you as well!
I felt the young lady about the in-laws. Praying that she finds peace. My in-laws have never accepted me and I’m the same race & religion as them.
Thank you Thoraya and everyone who shared. 💔💖
I'm starting a depression support group in Arizona and I'm so nervous, I have severe social anxiety and I suffer with depression myself - but hearing people are struggling with it, especially people who have family/friends who are unaware, is keeping me motivated to move forward with it. I really don't want anyone to feel isolated in this journey. It's a taboo subject and it's really hard to talk about so I understand why people keep it a secret that's why I'm trying to keep what is shared in the meeting as anonymous if possible. I hope one day to bring the group to other states. To the first girl, please keep fighting & don't give up!
Hey there. I'm in a very similar boat to you, and what you're doing is so commendable and amazing - so much so that you have planted an idea in my head to maybe start something similar in my home town (Perth, Australia). Do you mind if I send you a DM?
@@rajalot7 Yes of course! That’s amazing
I am very proud of what you're doing. Depression and anxiety can make things so difficult, yet here you are supporting others in their battles, and that's amazing. I hope things go well, :)
My favorite was the man that said he needed a haircut, he has such a giving and sincere smile. I am so sad that everyone was lonely. You are all so very special, please take care of yourselves.
I loved him! He looks like such a sweet and kind gent. I wish he finds what he needs. There is someone. God Bless.❤
It seems so many of us are scared and depressed but pretend to be strong to the outside world, myself included. Thanks for this, it's made me feel less defective.
7:40 I totally felt this as I also studied environmental science & also estranged from my family. 35, female, no kids & no partner... sometimes I wonder where it's all going to end. Real fear.. I'm so glad she's beating cancer ❤ PS. Narcissistic abuse by a parent leaves a lifetime of damage. Please try to leave as soon as you recognize it, for your own well being.
We all have more courage than we give ourselves credit for.
So True. Thank you! ❤
Everyone needs to try to give the “strong” person in their family or group the space & grace to be weak.
Oooh and not assume that just because they seem strong they need less care.
@@Tania-fx4uz Exactly ❤️
@@dyoung2739Omg....my brother is the strong one in my family and I've always wanted to give him a shoulder to lean on but I don't know how to do it,,how to approach him or something. I feel so weird because i am struggling emotionally so me reaching out to "help" will just be so awkward...uugh
"FEAR OF BEING SEEN".. you made it more clear to me why i feel the same way... THANK YOU it makes more sense to me now. ❤.. i wish u the best in life and know u are not alone...WE GOT THIS. 💯
Oof, I relate to that first girl so much. I remember how shocked my parents were when I brought up wanting to go back to therapy because they thought I was doing well, meanwhile I was at my lowest. It's hard to be alive, but I'm still here and so she is and I for one am proud of her for even acknowledging how she feels.
Why do I cry every time I watch your videos Thoyara, What you are doing is incredibly powerful.
Because it pure therapy. It's good for the soul...
@@tita8202 Ya, what she is doing is absolutely incredible.
Thank you, Thoraya. This episode is truly heartwrenching. I am 75 years old and feel so sad that life, for these wonderful young people, is such a traumatic time. I hope they will discover how wonderful being loved unconditionally even by one other person sets you free to be comfortable in your own skin. I really appreciate the insight and ability you have to ask the right questions. May God richly bless you. Sharon G. Canada 🇨🇦 ❤
I love the hope you put in this message 🩷
The last girl made me cry because I have loathed myself for so many years, and that included my body. I know I should love myself but it's hard to change that way of thinking after doing it for so many years. Thankfully, I've been getting therapy and have been doing better about it, but again, it's really hard to rewire my brain from negativity to positivity.
I am with you… I am so so sooo with you.
To the guy that doesn't know what he wants to do in his life, keep searching ✨ I hope you find your passion ❤
The last girl really is a warrior! God bless her and her healing journey from cancer, so happy she made it through, I loved her a little dance at the end!🥰🥰🥰🥰
I’m feeling the first girls words. I’m currently on my journey to appreciate those tiny little steps i make daily. A therapist is hard to get but after more than a decade I’m finally honest with myself, tell family and doctors that I need help. But life is hard, I’m hugging you and hope everything will work out for us silently and openly depressed people
I feel so bad for the cancer girl 💔💔 i pray she fully recovers
The guy speaking about trying to blend in with the crowd is such a relatable experience for me. A major reason for this is me being autistic, and so I have tried to mask throughout my entire life by observing very carefully at how people behave, what they wear, how they say things so that I can imitate it. I like to believe I am getting better at not doing this so much, but any time I travel to a place out of my element, I immediately fall into the same habits.
I am autistic too and used to try and blend in. It never worked for me though so I gave up after highschool.
this is totally me
Thank you so much for this video. I often feel like I am the only person struggeling this much with anxiety. Today I was a total mess, did not sleep, got up multiple times to throw up simply because I went on my first solo trip today. Just arrived at the Hotel and I could not be more proud and happy. I am glad I did it. Don't let fear keep you from living your life.
You got this! 💪🏻
I’ve been there and I feel this. You should be proud. You’re going to benefit so much from expanding your horizons in spite of everything anxiety throws your way.
The feeling when i see notifications from Thoraya is unmatched....big up from kenya
Yeaaa!fellow Kenyan 😊
We're many
Glad you turned, what an infectuous and beautiful smile! Trust, we are all at least a LITTLE scared! Keep blossoming and dont be afraid to be confidant in yoursenf ♥️
To the secretly lonely guy, I don't think he thinks he's allowed to not be strong, and that's making him lonelier than he needs to be. I know that place, and it's why I ended up having a huge breakdown in my teens, ending up with CPTSD, and have people still taking care of me periodically at 48. Don't be too strong, kids. That's my secret.
Such a beautiful reminder of how vulnerable we all are on the inside. I feel less alone having heard these people’s secrets
The girl that finished her brother homework that is so nice to do and the 21 yo cancer survivor you are brave❤
this is a certified hood classic
I love that you do this. It's like chicken soup for the soul to know we aren't alone, and others feel this way. I appreciate their bravery ~ even those who didn't turn around ❤❤❤
These videos always brings tears in my eyes. Love the attitude of the last person
My favorite series on this channel!
The young person at the end that almost got unalived by cancer--you're a rockstar! Everyone else in the video had something I could relate to, and even though I hate hugs, I kind of wish I could give all of them one (with consent of course). :3
Gob bless this young woman who's dealing with oral cancer rid her of this disease!
6:45 I see you, and I feel you
Her laugh is so cute 🥰 (girl dancing away in the end)
"excuse me for my haircut" 7:30 you are gorgeous, man 😊
I connect with the first person. She is not alone ❤
The variety of secrets! Some are so innocent and others so brave💕
Over time I realized we all have fears and lows and we have all so much more in common than differences, it changes everything
To the first guy, That's what makes you the strongest person in the world. e.g. not being scared doesn't make you brave
I relate withr the first girl. Except the crying part, "weakness can imitate strength if bound properly, just as cowardice can mimic bravery if given no way out with no where to run and hide"
The last girl without cancer, my respect for her; she is a huge fighter, warrior!
So many people, so many stories, so many secrets…I simply love this!
thank you for everything that you do - this is beautiful
More people are like me than I thought. I want to hug so many of them individually and be there when they feel down, discouraged, bored and lost
Thank you for your videos Thoraya! I am sending all my love to you and those who shared their secret. 💞
to the man who loves siinging and dancing, screw what other folks think about it. If it makes ya happy, youre already ahead of their game.
I have been a huge fan of this format for some time now. This is beyond inspiring Thoraya, pleeease keep on sharing theese people’s experiences with us 🙏🏻
I love this video so much, ALL your videos as a matter of fact.❤ I see myself in almost every single one of these beautiful people's secrets...
Thank you for making these
I’m so sad to hear that the young girl that had cancer will soon have to endure radiation treatments.. I personally had 34 radiation treatments for throat cancer, and unfortunately the damage to my tongue is unrepairable.. I have lost my ability to taste food as I had all my life before this terrible treatment!! I can no longer eat solid foods because I can’t swallow anything but liquids now and forever.. I now take my nourishment through a valve mounted in my stomach, which is attached to an IV type gravity feed bag.. it’s pretty much ruined a major portion of my life as I loved to cook, so now eating is just a joyless task to be performed 3 times a day..😢 god bless her, and I hope she does well in the future ❤❤❤
I have lived thru my biggest fears and I came out alive. Wonder what will come now 😊 i look forward to it with gratitude and humbleness....
Thank you for doing these types of videos. I, myself, am struggling alot with what my path is in life leading me to have deep spirales of depression. These videos help me to feel like I'm not alone in my struggles and helps me to cry when I realy need to, so thank you :)
I love this channel so much 😭💗
What an affirming group of people w/their heartfelt statements & questions.
Thoraya, I love you back, you’re understanding of the human condition is extraordinary and very touching..seeing and hearing what others have been experiencing has actually helped me to cope with this new chapter in my life, post cancer..my psychologist has been explaining to me that being vulnerable is ok for men, and that I have to learn that I shouldn’t be embarrassed to cry, it’s human.. I have had to let nurses take care of me, bathe me, clothe me and feed me. I couldn’t walk or talk . It has been a humbling experience to say the least.. but brought me to a new and different understanding of myself and the world around me.. and I have been enlightened by your videos to see that I am not alone.. thank you for your kindness to others you are an amazing woman!! ❤
I liked this even though I had t watched yet….because: everything you do is amazing, Thoraya! Thank you for all you do ❤❤❤
I've watched for less than a minute, but already relate so much to the first girl. Thanks for sharing and making me feel less alone about it❤
Thank you for the beautiful work you do to show us our exquisite humanity! I especially love the last person in the video. So wise!
This is so exciting!! The world is going through a powerful transformation!!!🎉🎉
It’s crazy how empowering voicing your troubles can be. I feel like we could all benefit from lending our ears to one another every once in a while. Not for the sake of giving insight or advice, but strictly to listen to each other and let out a little bit of whatever we’ve got bottled up inside. Thanks for giving these people an opportunity to vent Thoraya, its impact is beyond measure.
It’s a very nice thing that you do, for everyone who takes part and the people who watch. Just wanted to say this ❤
Honestly always waiting for these videos
I’m glad you’re still singing and dancing, keep going for it and don’t listen to the people who want others to join their own misery.
Doing it afraid is the opposite of being fearful. Thats courageous!
Ahhh I love that we can be vulnerable in a safe space ❤❤❤
I hear people needing connection
I love these I wish I could tell mine there but id probably be too embarrassed
I feel like I’d like to hug every one of these paticipants. Thanks!
Great episode 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
To the second guy. That's what makes you the strongest person they know whether they realise that or not. Strength is forged in the fire of strife and misery. Bravery is moving forward through the fog of fear. Sure there are those of us, like myself, whom have a natural resilience however, it's still something built. You're no less than someone who has it naturally. Believe in yourself.
These videos are so nice for my mind.
Who else has best wishes for the cancer suffering girl?.
🙋♀️
She's sweet. Great advice.
Dance like no one is watching. Sing like no one is listening. Do what makes you happy! Your not hurting anyone.
I Hope Anyone who is feeling scared or anxious knows that I wish you the best and that I believe in you ❤️
I love to watch these thanks
So heartbreaking to see so many people struggling to be accepted and loved for who they are.
I feel like you honestly perform a service to so many by simply offering them the podium to speak. Thank you.
I come back to her channel not only because of the videos but also the comments section. I don't know it just gives me hope. Take care everyone❤
Wow Thoraya thank you , you always save the best for last, girl with the tongue cancer, bless her heart!!!
So many stories to appreciate. Thank you, Thoraya!
6:43 I relate to this guy so much. I also love his vibe and I would love to be friends with him.
YES! Pap smears ladies!!!! Super important. I’m having a hysterectomy next week for pre cervical cancer due to HPV. If I hadn’t been getting Pap smears I wouldn’t have caught it early.
As a physician yes please I see it everyday much more often than I’d like. Always follow through with your follow ups!
I hope your surgery goes well.
3:05 that’s so sweet😢
Such beautiful human beings!!! Love from Trinidad!!!
A lot of these ppl seem pretty young. Without wanting to sound patronising, it's my experience as a 50-something that many of the things stressing them out now won't be stressing them out in 20 or 30 years' time. Getting older gives you a different perspective on a lot of things. Go easy on yourselves, guys. One way or another, things usually work themselves out ❤
another reason to be kind to the people around you. We don't know what they are going through in life. Just be kind. i love you all