The extended cut of this episode is on / thoraya
Say hi to me on:
Instagram: / thor.aya
TikTok: / thor.aya
Twitter: / thorayaaa
/ thorayaaa
Business inquiries: thorayaproject@gmail.com
P.O. Box 151285
San Diego, CA 92175
“Island Mornings” licensed via Music Vine: HHCQCJYWYRWEAPBD
Hi everyone
Hi Thoraya, thank you for your wonderful videos ❤
Hi and thank you from Scotland 🏴
Hello I love this how do I leave a secret?❤️
hi!
Hello and much love from down under! 🇦🇺🦘
My parents never told me they loved me and were never there for me emotionally. Now as a mom, I tell my kids I love them multiple times a day, and we talk openly about everything.
Can’t wait to be a mom to heal my inner child more! 💛 you’re amazing
I would hear that some children would grow up and become what their toxic parent(s) were. Having the same toxic behavior because thats what they grew up with. But there are those special people who had a traumatic childhood, then become something more for their children. Like you and your story. You probably never felt direct love from your parents. Now that you are older and have a family of your own, you are showing them what you never had. You are giving them love and care. I bet its very therapeutic knowing that you will never become like your parents and that you are being a great parent by just showing the love you have for them! Thank you for commenting!
So many people seek love and validation from external sources. We need to be taught in school that love comes within us. One million people could have told me that I was amazing, but I didn't believe that within myself. Now I do!! I have been working on my inner self-worth. Seeking validation from others, from doing external things like hobbies, getting a haircut, shopping, etc. isn't what will make that change. It is truly knowing that you are worthy just the way you are, no improvements needed!!❤ Stay strong 💪🏻 ✨️ and continue in your growth path!!
@@trying2survive602 The thing about how one million people could’ve told you you were amazing and yet you wouldn’t believe it hits too hard. No matter how many people may say “You look great!” or “You’re skinny!” or “Wow, do you workout?”, I’ll still feel guilty for sitting down for too long, I’ll still feel tense when I see footage of myself dancing to a song I like, I’ll still feel gross when I’m eating in front of people, and I’ll still have those periods of time where I can no longer keep the self hate and frustration in the background and it chaotically blossoms into self-directed outbursts of frustration and impatience because it feels like nothing about myself or my body is getting better. I don’t know whether I’d say I’m getting better or worse, I’m just… there. Some days I regress, some days I progress. I want to get better at congratulating myself on days I make the leap forward and telling myself “It’s ok, try again tomorrow” on days I fall and get sent back several steps. It’s hard to do that now, it’s only a blur in the distance I can barely make out, but I *know* that someday, It’ll become clear and tangible. Someday, maybe I can truly learn how to find happiness in the things both within me and outside me
Thats awesome :) Jesus loves you and died for you
They picked a secret that tugged their hearts because they can relate, hence they gave a genuine advice.. It’s not just coincidence.. What a strange world we live in..❤❤❤ Thank you for this.
That's what one calls Divine Providence
RIP Tofu...😢
That lab was so well behaved and so excited when time to go.
He’s always excited. His names is Pruner and he’s actually a golden retriever. Glad you like him!
@@kardneasada4734 How old is he?
I don’t know if it’s just me, but these confessions hit hard….. and it makes me emotional to hear people being so real…it’s been awhile. I miss the days when strangers would confide in me…everything is so much clearer from the outside, and those conversations can have major impacts
Hard as a rocket
The “anonymous therapy session” dude is a real one. 🔥
It's crazy how calming the sight of a dog is. They are just love and hair.
Ahhh! Me and Pruner made the thumbnail! Haha, great video thoraya, it was awesome meeting you!
Sorry but i couldnt stop noticing how beautiful you are....and your dog too hahaha
I think it's fantastic that in these "pick up secrets" videos you can see that there is nothing random and that people pick up on secrets that are somehow connected to some painful part of them. people are energy and we connect with the same radio station every time...no mistakes are made. Love you videos and service Thoraya
❤👏🏻👏🏻
100%
I wish I could have some talks or conversations with all these wonderful people. I feel like lately, it‘s been too long since I‘ve had meaningful or nourishing conversations or deeper connections with people. I sometimes wish I could just sit in the park on a bench and talk kindly with random strangers…
Ich möchte das auch 😢
Same
The person longing for parents to love them IS SO SEEN. Even just if by me! I was adopted at a young age after CPS took me away from my birth mom for abuse just for my adopted family to not even love me either. it’s so hard to feel out of place but making my own family and feeling loved from those around me 💛
I was also taken away by CPS and put in fostercare. But my grandma fought with the system for a year to get custody of me while my mom didn't even care that I was gone and my dad was in prison.
@@talea9593 never forget you’re not alone!
I loved the first person. The way manages the loss of a friendship and how lets grieve to be seen. Friendships are as important as couples. Losing a friend and getting over it is a very hard process. I love this person gives the importance it has.
rip Tofu 😢
Lolololol! So funny!
Love the read a secret, Leave a secret series. Thank you Thoraya❤
Thank you for watching!!! ❤
There's something liberating about sharing secrets with a stranger, as someone who has no preconceived notions. It can create a unique connection and provide a sense of release. Also the advice you can get from them is less biased since they dont know you.
I really love how the guy at 7:33 read that secret. He made it sound like his own and did the writer justice - heartbreaking secret though 💔
Me too. Perfectly read. Like from a movie.
It does help to hear a secret to let go of one. My family told one, so I told them the reason I can’t remember anything from childhood was because I faked a smile because I was fighting the thought of death I had since I was 4. I still remember the first time I thought it. It was weird and out of body.
I feel you, more than I’d like to.. my brother can’t remember anything too, but I do.. in very painful details. I am faking my smiles up till this day, but don’t want to die as often as I did when I was a little one. I hug your inner child, I know exactly how it feels, and it is not alone (a little unfortunately it isn’t) 💜
00:22 🤝 Genuine friendships are precious; finding them can be challenging but worthwhile. 01:23 🍸 Coping with sadness through alcohol can become a harmful habit; staying busy and finding hobbies can help. 02:32 🐹 Accidentally disposing of a roommate's pet hamster led to adopting one as a way to make amends. 03:30 🧩 Self-identity might be shaped by fear but acknowledging influences allows for personal growth. 04:12 💔 Saying "I love you" out of obligation isn't uncommon, but sharing love is never wrong. 04:43 🎢 Battling depression doesn't negate the love for life's simple joys and being human. 06:21 🤗 Longing for parental love and a family connection remains a deeply felt and painful desire. 07:01 🍻 Feeling the need to drink to relate to others can lead to forgetting self-enjoyment. 07:43 👤 Learning to be comfortable alone is a challenge, yet finding solace in independence is valuable. 08:13 👙 Enjoying wearing women's underwear provides comfort and a sense of individuality for this person.
wow, you're great at summarizing, i'm being totally honest!
Accidentaly disposing a roommate’s pet hamster is Wild 🗣️🔥🔥
Welcome back!
“I feel like family should be everything, but not for me i guess” That hit hard lowkey….
That was beautiful. Sometimes just writing something or saying something out loud for the world to know will make you feel a little bit lighter. Even if just a smidge. Thank you, Thoraya, because after watching that, I was able to admit something about myself that I didn’t like
That was sad and inspiring at the same level. I wish all humans, they overcome their trauma & trauma response. They feel loved and supported where ever they at their own way on getting mentally healthly again. Dear, you can do this.
Regarding the 1st one, I am almost 40 yrs old and also have never had a friend. Only my folks and they are long gone. My dogs fill that void. And people are just plain awful, especially nowadays. I have always been a loner. And I am completely at peace with that. At work, I have so many regular groups of older men and women who have had a set day and time for 30, 40, even 50 yrs, and they all show up, To eat and chat for an hr or so. I love watching them giggle and gossip, (in a good way), that brings me joy and makes me want that sometimes.
Thank you Thoraya and the participants.
I love your videos Thoraya, so unique and it shows a deeper side to human emotion. We need more of this in the world considering there's so much sadness and misery. It's very uplifting to hear people's advice from their perspectives and offer an insight to other opinions.
I'm so glad your video popped up all on its own. This is such an awesome idea. Can't wait to look at all your content.
Thoraya , what can I say.. your videos never fail to bring a tear to my eye.. I think I have become more emotional the older I get.. you are so insightful about ways to help others connect and communicate some of their inner most feelings.. I love you for all that you do for others.. you are so beautiful..❤
Girl you're the best! Made my day
I am so glad to have discovered your channel!
We appreciate your dedication and hard work. Keep it up as always.
i needed this video so bad. you always upload at the most perfect times, your videos are a blessing, truly
Brilliant concept, Most people are compassionate ,this made me smile. Thanks for sharing.
That was awesome! Thoraya, you are and incredibly beautiful soul!!❤❤❤
I relate so much to the person who said they experience chronic loneliness from not being loved by their parents and that every time they see loving families they wish they had that. that's my exact situation. my parents are conservative christians and as they got older they got more conservative, especially my father. he recently had a baby with another woman and my mom (oddly enough) and him show that baby so much more love and support than they've ever shown me bc I'm queer. it used to not bother me until i say how they were with that baby and now it's like ... oh. I know there's chosen family but it can't replace parents. I didn't just need a mother and father. i needed a mom and dad. maybe in my next life
I am so sorry that happened to you😢 Wish you know that you are so lovable!
I love these videos because sometimes people need to talk about things that bother them, but it’d be too much to tell someone they know irl. So this is a good solution, or at least a helpful thing:)
People are so beautiful! Thank you dear Thoraya!
I loved this. Thank you ❤
I love these videos! They are the best thing the internet has to offer. Fills my heart!
Oh my gosh this is great way to understand people and learn about each other keep doing it.
That was incredibly beautiful and emotional and funny! Lots of feels.
Always love your content! Social experiments done with the right intentions! ❤
That was beautiful. I'd LOVE to see more of that all over the world.
I love this idear, thank u so much!
Thank you thoraya❤
This is soooo coool! I loved this idea ❤
what an episode!
Man ... these always make me cry
Du bist großartig @thorayaa ❤ danke für diese tollen Videos. Danke für diesen außergewöhnlichen Kanal 🙏🤍
This was really awesome and unique.. glad I found it!
Just came across your channel. Your videos are amazing and so beautiful
To the 30 yr old that never had parents that loved them, and longs for that. I feel that so deeply. I’m so sorry for us and what we had to endure with that feeling. It’s horrible. This is what helped me, although the pain never really goes away, it helped. I became the kind of parent for my kids that I needed. I became what I wanted for them, and for myself. I started to love myself like a parent would, and I make sure my kids know how loved they are every single day. I hope you can drop dead Fred it (movie reference), and hug your inner child someday. It really does work wonders.
I just love your channel and everything your about 😊
Thank you Thoraya for bringing love and healing to the world ❤
As a person who scared some loved ones and has been scared for my loved ones, they absolutely want to hear you dream again. They want to hear that poetry in your heart, the peace you feel when you eat fruit, the wonder you feel as experience life. We want to hear it all ❤
Wow, this kinda blows my mind. I know Everyone is going through something, but it’s differ when you see it. Everyone I pass has a story and a struggle. It makes me sad to see how many people feel alone. I want to give everyone a hug
FINALLY ❤ Been waiting for your post & You never disappoint! Thank you Thoraya 😊
Too bad you had to remove the last video. Thanks for uploading again. You are great.
I have genuinely learned a lot from strangers. These people I meet and never see again at bus stops and restaurants and everywhere in between destinations. Its always brief, and I often never learn their names. And yet, part of that is why it's so easy to talk to them, to confide in them, and to know them as a human. They're at a distance, and yet that distance is what is comforting. We can share secrets and make them sound normal, because we don't know the "norm" between each other. I've learned how to stop feeling alone from strangers, I've learned how to be grateful from strangers, and I've learned how to be honest from strangers. I've learned, too, how to take steps to become more than strangers from strangers. All from sharing "secrets" in an open space with people I don't know and yet sometimes know more about than those most intimate to me.
I like your videos. It's so wholesome.
I'm sobbing 😭😭😭 soul, like a big hug 🤗
Another Excellent Thoraya episode.
Being or feeling alone is one of the worst feelings. People suck so bad and sometimes you just need a friend.
Happy New Year Thoraya,, Thank you for such a heartfelt year on youtube.
Another beautiful video. And damn, I want to visit CA so badly.
Me too, I wish I could've told mine but I'd probably be too embarrassed
Love these videos
1:27 this is something im always preaching, i got into bad habits in a dark place and im happier now but its still so hard to quit those habits
I love these kinds of videos ❤❤
this is nice, need more
the most wholesome channel on the interent. much love to you Thoraya. I hope to see you set up at our waterfront park some day.
I LOVE WATCHING YOU. GOD BLESS EVERYONE WHO HAS SECRETS THEY ARE NEVER GOING TO TELL. LOVE ALWAYS WINS!!
I like how all of these are mostly sad but then there's that poor hamster 😭
You do not have to die from alcohol. I’ll have six years of sobriety next month, and I know far too many people recovered from the most impossible situations to believe anyone has to die. Help is available, and I don’t know anyone who did it alone. You’re not alone.
I was 1 of 3 siblings in a household where love and trust were on display through my loving parents, grandparents and extended family. I felt it. Then my little brother began exhibiting mental health problems. He brought to our household trauma, fear, aggression, violence, injury and mistrust. I thank my parents for the love, comfort and happiness they were able to provide despite the daily trauma and damage. I often wonder how different our family would be without my brother's mental illness and find myself at times wishing that he hadn't been born. On her death bed my grandma told me that she had always regretted having to give so much attention to him that she could have given me because I was her favorite. I have never known how to feel about that. My other sibling was so traumatized by our childhood that he wants nothing to do with me because I remind him of the horror. I have made a family of my own now and understand that my parents were heroes for how they handled a very difficult love/hate situation in a place and during a time when they had almost NO mental health resources. Meh! Family.
I truly wish to meet with Thoraya in person one day! She is such a pure soul 💓 I am from Toronto 🇨🇦
How the hell can you not tell the difference between a rat and a hamster? Jeez…
Its interesting how each person reading the anonymous secret seems like they have just the right response. Beautiful idea for sure.
Beginning to understand the world of Introverts and their psychology helps immensely in changing one's mind about their own weirdness. Introversion is just another genetically-produced personality type...like any other. We Introverts have many advantageous traits, likes and dislikes, but we do insist upon much-needed alone time. Such traits relegate us to few friendships.
it's really nice to see these secrets touch so many in different ways. Where was it filmed? beautiful background!
I've had depression for 4 years and going on, but family is everything and I would never leave a burden on them. Yet I am never EVER happy and always surrounded by addiction.
I wanna give all the people who gave those secrets hugs, I kept just saying aww. People are amazing!
I lost my friendship too... I still ain't sure if I'll ever find one again
That first dude talking about the alcoholism is facts i live day to day and there are days I want to die and days I wanna live but probably will happen soon regardless
Thoraya🎉🎉 I missed you and the videos so much seeing this video just made me soooo Happy❤love u please don't be leaving us for too long😅
thank you!
Yoour channal is so amazing and i feelnits doing something good! Thantk you alot
I swear if I seen Thoraya in person outside of California, I would freaking be sooooo happy!!!!! I might hug her and or cry too 😢 Hopefully she can come to the east coast for a meet and greet project.
The one from a person that doesn'r hate life hit home so hard. I was depressed for a ridiculous amount of time without realizing it - at least not completely. And when it became actually unbearable and I started therapy, it only took a year for me to get cured. I... Was shocked... At how much my life has changed. How much I myself have changed. It turned out that I was never psychologically weak or powerless as a person and that I have a surprisingly huge amount of mental power and force. Sometimes when rough stuff happens, I'm still afraid I will feel like my whole life is crumbling again, but then I get over the rough stuff and live on. Happily. I never knew before I could be like that. I never knew that I'm not a feeble mess who's up to no good, but a strong and wilful someone who has a lot of potential. If you read this and you have mental health issues - I beg you. Let this be your sign to reach out for help. You have the chances to beat it.
6:05 OOF. That hit me WAY too close to home. I don't know what exactly their parents did to them and their siblings, but I do know how they feel. I feel like almost every struggle I've had to face wouldn't have happened if I just had ONE parent that actually loved me unconditionally. I was thrown out like nothing, went from couch to couch for nearly a decade and was barely able to survive due to my disabilities and a good chunk of my roommates actually being abusive too. I'm 27 years old, and while I know I will never have the mother I need in my life... I hate the tiny part of me that still has hope that maybe she'll finally change and apologize for all the unforgivable things she did to me. That maybe I can still have my mother back. This may sound harsh, because none of you know the massive iceberg of things that she's done to me, but I don't even think I'd cry if she passed away now. Isn't that fucked? I had to mourn her while she still breathed, to grieve over her silently while she was *in the room with me* for so many years that I'm fresh out of tears to shed for her. I think even if I *do* wind up crying, it will only be to mourn that tiny, secret shred of hope I have left. I hate having it at all. It's like she still has a small bit of control over me. I'm never having kids either; the cycle of abuse ends with me, but it's also just not something I've ever wanted to do. Doesn't hurt that she REALLY wanted grandkids too, so it's also a tiny little revenge. I don't know how I even survived until now, I didn't even think I'd live past 18. But I'm here, she's not, and honestly? That's just gonna have to be okay.
+the guy on the blue hoodie, sounded like he was rapping or giving a word piece...sounded good
6 in the morning 😊 Thank you Thoraya. Thank you everyone. ❤
Love these... more please! ;)
You make my heart feel
Would need a Thoraya in my city You're amazing
wooowww! GREAT channel! great video! great idea! please do more. i wish i could write my down and let a stranger read it out loud for me. and matbe even give some advice.
I feel intense feelings every time I watch one of your videos
Me too I wish I could tell my secret there but I'd probably be too embarrassed
I really admire your channel, I’ve been subscribed to it for years now 🤍 Keep up the great content!!
I like how everyone's first instinct is to give advice
aw the alcohol one is so sad
3:40 people hugging each other in the background is a very suitable background ambience to Thoraya's videos 😁❤️