A Psychologist's Thoughts on Love and Marriage-Sadia Khan
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Thank you so much for having me Mark! Really enjoyed this conversation
Wow...gorgeous, classy & extremely intelligent. Thank you for sharing you're time.
Sadia i LOVE You pls reinstate your ig
All TRUTH! Thank you so MUCH! 17:57
Thank you Sadia!!!!
Agreed! More smart guests would be a good rebalance
"As the attraction decreases, the transaction increases"....I hope nobody missed that line cuz that shit is critical.
for men. for women it’s irrelevant
Any woman who’s honest will tell you she didn’t tell not one lie In that statement.
Sounded like some pimpin jingle
So cynical and vapid
Attraction in what sense? She so surface-y
Now we need a panel discussion with James the divorce lawyer. 🤯
Exactly.. that would be point counter point.
I think they would agree more than disagree
Hmm I think men have more rights in court during divorce than they did 20 years ago
THIS
How about Esther Perel? She actually understands marriage and psychology.
"People don't want to accept people on their level." Nothing but absolute truth.
That was an absolutely riveting and incredible interview. There were many times while your guest was speaking that I cringed or felt deep pain as her words spoke directly to my experience. Very insightful very intelligent and also accessible and kind. I hope that she has one or more books in the world to share her insights.
I watched this interview while processing getting dumped by a girl I thought was the dream. IMMENSE thanks to Sadia for making SO MANY THINGS CLEAR. ESPECIALLY when she Said "Trauma is contagious, you'll end up traumatizing the person who's trying to love you" .. This felt like watching scared straight for relationships and I will never again let beauty blind me from red flags
"If it has a negative effect on children, its not good for society" great saying😊.
She justifies child marriage btw and is NOT a real psychologist ‼️‼️ pls be wary guys
So this is complicated though. Is it harming children or is it just harming how society thinks children should be? Those are not the same. People have an idea of what kids should be exposed to that ranges from what tech is good to what education they should get. But often people have no actual idea what is good they just know what they understand or what they think is good for them. The most obvious example is education where how we educate has improved but because people do not understand the methods they want a return to education systems that didn't produced results for kids in a modern society. So is it actually bad or are we as a society just attached to an outcome or method that is maybe not optimal but is comfortable because we understand it? It is possible that traditional marriage is breaking down because it was never as great a system as we thought. It is possible that the changes we see in some kids behavior is because they are growing up into a world that is nothing like what we grew up in and those changes can be huge in just one generation. Sometimes within the same generation so much changes that how people interact with the world changes also.
@whitelabrat subjecting children, to any sexualization is unacceptable and damaging. Period.
Someone's said her own father has two wives.....hmmm is that "good for society" I wonder?
@@tiffanyapril5458she's an actress. Apparently one who's manipulating Mark if he actually believes she's got psychology credentials! Ha!
I think the internet really skews us. There’s always some well spoken person feeding us information about something and we can easily latch onto it and take it as 100% fact without giving it much thought or testing the hypothesis. This interview definitely gave me food for thought, but it also just makes me want to get off the internet and just live my life and see how it goes for myself, lol.
Some of what she said is BS and some is very true in my opinion she speaks with a lot of conviction so it's hard to remember that's just one person's point of view
sort of like this lady who isn’t actually a psychologist and is just pulling shit out of her ass Highest divorce rates per capita: Maldives 5.52 Kazakhstan 4.6 Russia 3.9 Belarus 3.5 China 3.2 Moldova 3 Ukraine 2.9 Lithuania 2.8 Cyprus 2.6 United States most promiscuous countries: Australia Brazil Greece Chile New Zealand Germany Italy Switzerland Thailand South Africa
@@audreybertelson1972With a ton of experience in many cases
A widely misattributed quote but profound is, it’s the mark of an educated mind to entertain a thought without accepting it.
Bro you literally put into words exactly what I felt about this interview
Such intelligent woman and such health conversation!! I am thankful to have had the opportunity to witnessed this conversation.
After so much struggles I now own a new house and my family is happy once again everything is finally falling into place!!
I'm 37 and have been looking for ways to be successful, please how??
Thanks to my co-worker (Alex) who suggested Ms Claudia Vecchi Nese .
She's a licensed broker in the states 🇺🇸
After I raised up to 325k trading with her I bought a new House and a car here in the states 🇺🇸🇺🇸 also paid for my son's surgery (Oscar). Glory to God.shalom.
Great to see you guys talking about her, she changed the game for me.
I don't envy anyone dating but just fyi there are still plenty of regular people getting married because they love each other and want to build a life together. Its not all gold diggers and superficial porn addicts.
I was thinking the same. The generalisations make me somewhat angry
@@Etriellewhere’s your anger coming from?
@Etrielle I think these issues are very real and are... but I agree. There are huge demographics and communities who don't play into this model. I live in one such demographic and I know so many good men and women, single and married. Though I do see how our culture seeps in and the sexual revolution has totally messed w all our brains.
The more you build the family strong, the more tempting for her to take it. Never a "We" with a wife, only a "me"
Frfr I was thinking the same thing I understand what there saying far as an overall aspect but it all just depends on how you was raised in my opinion.
Such a great interview! Love learning psychology and why people do what they do ❤️
Ms. Khan, you are a truly amazing person. I am a 54 year old canadian male who has been working hard for three years to sort out my basket-case of emotions and thoughts. This video has helped me a lot, I actually feel better about myself for having watched it. It has encouraged me to keep up the work, I have wanted to quit many times and even regretted starting this journey. Thank You!
Been doing it for 6years I know what you mean bro it sucks
“It’s not nice guys that finish last, it’s naive guys.” -💯
this is soooo true, happened to me because I was sooooooo naive.
You mean simps not all naive guys finish last
And just because a guy is a nice guy that doesn’t make him a good guy.
so true, i was one of the nice guys who lost his partner to ''badboy'' granted she was overseas n not in my frame but nevertheless niceguys give off needyness vibe which is unpleasant for anyone.
there are also naive women… and personally I’d take a “nice” or “naive” guy any day over an arrogant self-absorbed *sshole.
It's cool how her outfit blends with the background.
She came prepared
He does that specifically for each interview!
Dudes a photographer, he knows how to put up a good looking set 👌
Lol
I was literally just thinking that 😂
I love almost every interview he does, but this spoke to me in so many levels it’s amazing!!
I couldn't agree with you more.
Mark ... you are a blessing to many ..you give and give ...I'm glad you are getting an opportunity to give to YOU !!😊
She’s absolutely right about how women must be attracted to the man. Absolutely right. And “attracted” is not necessarily just physical attraction.
And yet she’s not holding women accountable for their behavior.. for whatever reason. It’s natural for women to destroy/take everything they can from men they don’t respect?
No, but predominantly in general
I agree, and it's really interesting when it's laid out like that because it's not something that you consciously think about. We tend to think that attraction is so important for men that we don't really think that it's equally as important for women. A high level of attraction for a woman makes you much more cautious of reigning in your less attractive qualities; as you respect the man and don't want to lose him. It's interesting how women need that to keep them on their toes.
She is wrong it is not attraction it is interest If two people of the opposite sex are interested in the same thing or share a similar situation at the time they began to like one another. Attraction doesn’t come immediately. Song’s are written about this phenomenon all the time “firsts we were friends then became lovers
@@sheldonwilliams4952 that’s a very weird leap in logic. Many songs are also written about love at first sight. Songs are essentially poetry and have nothing to do with reality. I can confirm as a woman that attraction is essential. It’s pretty much always instant. In the case where it’s not, often it feels like compromise or settling. Real connection happens very quickly. Yes you need time to validate whether the relationship will go the distance; but the attraction itself is instant.
that last point is so valuable - seek partners with similar upbringings and/or values to yours ⭐️
Agreed. Sadly now more and more people are degens
Yeah but prospective partners could just be bullshitting and agreeing
yeah, birds of a feather flock together.
Interesting. The opposite could be true. Diverse backgrounds are far more interesting, IMHO. I knew I would not end up with someone from my same culture or religion. I didn’t seek that out but I knew it to be true. It was. Christian and Muslim. Just celebrated our 20th anniversary. Love each other more every day. Still Christian and Muslim. With extreme respect and love for each other.
Muslim and Christian actually have mostly in common compared to Muslim/Christian with an atheist (which is most people today). Having put God/faith first in life automatically aligns you both in most of the important ways. Congratulations on your 20th!! @@70schick36
I just wanted to thank Sadia Khan for her advice and insight on relationships, it was a real eye opener. Also, Mark your interviews are amazing , your work opens peoples eyes and minds
Great interview. Very insightful. More like this please!
I had a couple serious relationships with absolute gorgeous women, but every time things went south for that very reason! I am not good looking but brought good money to the table. Eventually I gave someone who was really always attracted to me and boy I found what I was missing. She accepts my flaws and I hers. Being honest to each other as partners has made our lives an absolute perfection!
Would you cheat on her with a more attractive woman?
Happy for you.
Well. I don't think all girls/ women are like that.
She is so self absorbed its really remarkable, she has been spoon fed arrogant honey from birth, she has become a speaker with the sould purpose to hear her own voice, I feel bad for her patients...
Once more, in English please
I come from a broken home … never seen a man treat my mother right but guess what, I have never loss hope that I would make an amazing wife. Not for his money, for his companionship… for his partnership. For his love. I agree with a lot of things you’re saying, but that one, naaaa. Women that come from broken homes deserve love too
You're definitely an outlier. Women from broken homes deserve love too, but they definitely need to do some self-work if they haven't fully healed from their traumas. I think that's what Sadia means. All of us deserve love, but the outcomes of our relationships are usually a result of our unconscious habits that are unfortunately programmed from childhood (unless we become aware of them and take action to make changes).
I was with a woman who came from a broken home. Does she deserve love? Absolutely. But she needs A LOT of work before she should commit to someone else.. not making that mistake again.
So where's your husband Ma'am?
@@kimthoa8533❤👍🏽❤
I partially agree with these comments only because even though I also come from a broken home, I have aunts and cousins who have been married for decades since early adulthood. No infidelity that I know of, however, seems miserable. Almost as if they’re waiting for their partners to die. Staying married to someone doesn’t equal a successful marriage. Whether you come from a broken home or not. I don’t have the answers, but it’s not a one-size-fits-all-all. Keep in mind there are people in relationships who are afraid to leave. The kids sees this and more than likely the cycle repeats.
Great inteview, lots of insight! Thank you! Sadia has a beautiful voice;)
Thank you! You are the real deal. You speak wisdom. Those that judge your exterior and do not listen to your words, clearly live a shallow existence. They are the ones who need to hear it the most!
I like how poised she was. And she was very direct, only answering questions when asked directly. She left him alot of time to share his opinion (the interviewer).
She justifies child marriage btw and is NOT a real psychologist ‼️‼️ pls be wary guys
She was really sharing game. There were so many real takeaways. This was an amazing interview.
It seems like that to an outsider that does not have psychology knowledge. Most of the stuff she says is BS tho.
You can pick that up in any seduction book
Not really actually. She is a pseudopsychologist.
She justifies child marriage btw and is NOT a real psychologist ‼️‼️ pls be wary guys
Mark, I really enjoy the diverse backgrounds and lives of individuals you have on.
What a great interview! Thank you Sadia and Mark
My life began when I met my wife at 35. The married life suits me fine and I enjoy the daily grind when I have my best friend by my side. Guys.. The grass is NOT greener on the other side.
it means cheating is not always as good as it seems. But you can say that about anything.
@@user-up2pe1fw1l Meaning you are going to have days in the tedium of marriage where a woman at work or a lady at the mall might give a moment of pause.. But don't entertain it.. The destruction it would cause will far outweigh the fleeting moments of pleasure. Embrace the tedium and then fulfillment will come in tending to your own lawn. When you are old you will have that companion that carries you.
The grass is greenest where you water it.
I'm 38 years old, single, and keep a steady rotation of new women. All my married male friends and family members tell me they're jealous. The grass is greenest wherever you want it to be 👍
@@HelpMeFindTheseSongs when you need to rely on one of those women, see what happens, theres no loyalty in a rotation, your married friends are much better off than you.
As a guy even when I was in my 20's I never subscribed to the mindset of trying to find the most attractive woman. I saw so many examples of guys getting dragged through the mud and accept being treated like trash just because she was attractive. I have always been attracted to authenticity and connection. What makes a woman really attractive to me is her sense of humor, and a high level of empathy and compassion. Looks for me only go so far, Character and accountability and the ability to reciprocate energy in the relationship. Honestly that is all I want........her actions and words have to match, unfortunately it's been extremely hard to find. great interview, Sadia's perspective is spot on.
1000% true, dude! And as I grow old, women who are considered very pretty are even a turn off to me tbh, I mean that kind of artificial/vain beauty, natural beauty is always desirable on the other hand, and most average looking women are pretty in their own way, what stands out is the personality and the character as you said. To fall strictly for looks is a huge, huge trap and I've known many broken men because of this.
I left my sons mom because of this exact reason. I am a 6 figure earner so I’ve had my licks..
Love and learn. We all know what we need but as a man, it’s natural to desire a pretty woman. However, good that you found this ideology at a younger age.
I hope you find that one day. You just described what I love about my wife. Please don't become discouraged, there are quality women out there. My wife has genuinely made me a better human being. She has more integrity, honesty, and depth than most men I've known.
Keep looking for that sense of humor!! That alone adds SO MUCH to our marriage. We’re both empathetic and sympathetic as well, but that sense of humor really saves us. Good for you for being young and knowing what’s truly important. 😊 Also… I met my husband when he was 37 and I was 25. He had a lot of doozies, but our relationship now is just the freaking best and we grow to live each other more every day, even at 10 years in. ❤
Been loving these relationship psych interviews. Really enlightening and fascinating
Absolutely Legendary! Gratitude from the core of my heart to everyone who made this possible.
I'll add my own testimonial. When I was a bachelor and was dating my present wife, my grandmother once said to me: "The fact that your girfriend is so much in love with you makes you more likely to be happy in your relationship. If a women doesn't love you firmly, you're preparing for yourself nothing but misery down the road. Therefore you should do whatever is possible to make your present reletionship develop in to something stable and institutionalized (i.e. marriage)".
Most men don't grasp this concept anymore. I was head over heels , completely in love with my last boyfriend, would have done anything for that man kind of love. He left me, called me "sick" in the end and didn't answer me anymore. Most men nowdays just want a really hot chick by their side. I'm glad you worked on your relationship and it has gone well.
Sounds like she was pushing you towards marrying her granddaughter. I'm glad you're still married tho.
I don’t agree with the manipulating part.. it’s not the fundamental sha..
This is why I must marry right. So my kids will understand what love is
@@chidinmaokobah602 U can TRY to marry right. Only time will tell.
Perfect compliment to the James Sexton video. Nice work. I like your usual guests, but I hope you explore this angle more also.
I have to disagree. I don't like this path of interviewing mainstream professionals who are using this as a marketing opportunity - such professionals can be seen on traditional media easily by anyone. James Sexton was fine...but interviewing others may not be a great idea. I thought the whole idea of SWU was to give voice to the UNHEARD.
Things evolve @@MM-ow2md
@@MM-ow2md While I see where you're coming from, I'd hope they can find a balance between hearing the stories from the unnoticed and allowing professionals in fields linked to interpersonal relationships to shed light on these modern social dynamics. The two segments have the potential to compliment each other in a meaningful, eye-opening way, providing different perspectives that help us further understand the correlation between our behaviors and what's led us to them.
@@MM-ow2md Good points also, but I think offering a proffessional viewpoint as to what causes the breakdown of these relationships that leads to the unheard ending up like the do is good to fill on the whole picture. Each to their own
She justifies child marriage btw and is NOT a real psychologist ‼️‼️ pls be wary guys
So much wisdom!!! This helped me a ton!
This interview is fantastic and eye opening. I grew up in a fatherless home and it wasn't until many years of counseling and self-improvement that I realized why I was attracting the same type of low quality women who were toxic. I had to change my thinking, set boundaries, figure out who I was and what matters most in order to change the type of women I was attracting. Sadia is spot on when she says men who idolize sex can be manipulated and it kills attraction. Women don't respect men they can manipulate. This is why men who desire a lasting, healthy relationship should never be intimate with a women until AFTER they are sure she the person they want to be with for the rest of their life.
Well put sir 👏💯
man less not forget the most important thing of all It's not your 😼, it's only your turn,
I grew up in a single parent home, met my husband when I was seventeen, we had three children bought a home then married. I didn't know that it was an option to marry without inviting all of our friends and family, 28 year later we are still together. I prioritized having a big wedding and that's why we waited. Looking back now I would have married him within the first few months together at city hall! Im not sure I can pin point exactly why our marriage and love has lasted other then I truly couldn't even imagine my life without him. I have so much respect for my husband as the father of our incredible sons, I love this man. My husband is wonderful, I feel blessed that my boys have him as a father! I am grateful he is my husband my forever love!
the key factor is that you grew up on the remnants of patriarhy. So even one parent childhood couldnt ruin that set of longing for a man, a husband
@@itchynaillol what remnants of patriarchy… 30 years ago it was as strong as it is now. maybe in another50 years it will be gone but it’s far from gone and far from sing a remnant… Some people are just lucky like this OP to find a partner that works and keeps working in the long term…
You are so lucky!
You are a diamond 💎 and hard to find
@@prinnycupcakes4992The "patriarchy" will never be gone, because it's just a nonsensical feminist redefining of what life is. Go to an abandoned island and try to survive with a small group of 25 or so people. "The patriarchy," aka reality, will be revived within the year, if the group survives that long. Not everything is about some imaginary oppressor/oppressed relationship. The reason it works for OP is because it's a relationship based off two people coming together to complement each other's natural abilities and not trying to redefine reality with Frankfurt school textbook nonsense that doesn't work in real life.
Sadia you were classy throughout the interview. It was nice listening to you. Mark, we need more such videos.
Definitely among the top 5 of the interactions you've posted Mark!! Keep it going 👏👏👏👏
This one and the one with James the divorce attorney
Great interview/conversation. Very informative.
Mark, I loved Soft White Underbelly's content 3 years ago, but I'm even happier the channel is pivoting in this direction. Great stuff!
what direction... he's still mainly interviewing hookers and addicts or not (I'd prefer him to actually interview seemingly 'everyday' people as well and not just go for either famous people or as addicts and prostitutes...)
@@liukang85 Luikang, this woman he is interviewing is neither a hooker or an addict, you can say she is a seemingly "everyday person".
@@liukang85he probably thinks that SWU is taking the red pill
@@victor75208 you’re inept.
@@victor75208 you’re inept.
Sadia is intelligent and well-suited for this channel, making a lot of wonderful points. There are also lots of broad generalizations and oversimplifications masked as hard truths that do not accurately reflect all segments of society and all cultural interpretations of monogamous relationships. Overall, I find it hard to recommend this as a psychologist's interview, but it's an interesting discussion on relationships that I hope people interpret critically.
Well said.
Intelligence is not the same as education. She is lacking proper education in psychology. But yes, she is intelligent.
@@christinasanders5625yes. She has a degree in education and is a relationship coach who masquerades as a psychologist. As a coach myself, I don’t mind people speaking their mind on topics, but I draw the line at deceiving people about your credentials.
Usually they are talking about themselves, and have entered this profession to heal themselves. 20:20 she does say the stuff she is saying represents a particular extreme although most of what she is saying is present to a lesser or greater extent in all relationships. People in ‘normal’ relationships wouldn’t have need of her services, so she is talking about the more extreme end.
She justifies child marriage btw and is NOT a real psychologist ‼️‼️ pls be wary guys
Thank you, thank-you. So much great info. So, so solid. Best ever.
This was a helluva video. So helpful thank you so much.
In California, one cannot be called a Psychologist without a license and a doctorate in psychology. She is more aptly called a psychotherapist. Although (some) other places allow one to be called a psychologist without a doctorate, it can be confusing to a larger audience.
Agreed. Some of her comments are flawed and based on her opinion rather than factual. This would explain it.
In Germany you need a Bachelor, than a Master degree followed by another qualification of 5 years to be allowed to use professionally the title "psychological psychotherapist". ( I know the title is weird 😁)The differences between the nations when to use which title are interesting.
True , u can cook but if u don’t go to school for become a professional chef or koki, ur not qualify to work in 5 star hotels
I would say about 98% of what she saying is pretty much factual. I’ve been studying this subject for a couple of years now. The data is pretty clear. You don’t need a degree to be right, lol.
Thank you ! I feel uncomfortable to see her as a reference taken by many youtubers called psychologist when she clearly don't seem to talk more than her clichés.
This has been the most therapeutic video I’ve ever watched in my life. I’m 55 yrs old. She echoes thoughts I’ve had, fears and realities I didn’t want to face.
They’re opinions, not reality. Perspectives, perhaps.
@JPizz2008 the reality is humanity is going to hell in a hand basket. Decline of the western civilization.
Yup. Absolutely blown away by this interview
@@JPizz2008unfortunately her opinions which are based in reality and the science of the mind, are very true. Be smart to listen at the very least
@@JPizz2008 Given by her profession, and that she most likely have gathered those “opinions” from speaking with a lot of people. To me that carries a lot of credibility.
Fantastic interview. Very insightful.
Very interesting broadcast, thank you!
The mindset of a rapist is to have sex with a woman who doesn't want to have sex with him?????? Since when? Sex has nothing to do with rape, its about power, control and anger.
yah not sure why she thinks that. victim of r4pe cannot consent, even if they want to. She has no idea.
She's not backing up anything she says because she's a grifter
That's what she said. It's aboit power, control and controlling someone who doesn't want you or consent to it. You repeated what she said.
so someone in therapy wants to have sex with their therapist.. and the therapist goes with it. that's not rape? it is rape, even though the victim wanted to do it. doesnt mean its not rape @@9395gb
??? It is about sex though or else they wouldn't have sex with them. But it's the power/violence fetish that drives it.
the woman who is truly in love with you is the one who would appreciate when you write her a poem or a love letter.
I received 3 poems, Haiku’s actually, in 20 years. It means everything, and always correlates to when We are doing great. He is a man of few words so all words matter.
Finally after about fifteen comments, a reasonable one. How are people listening to this hack is beyond me 😂 maybe they need someone to pander to their insecurities about women. It’s a cudgel that actually cripples them even further. Sad but true.
I literally scrolled through the comments checking if anyone said this and you did, Thank you
@simomarbouh6619 I think you misunderstood her. She distinctly mentioned _in the courting phase,_ women are turned off by this. Once you're well into the relationship, I wouldn't have a problem with receiving a poem. But when we are first getting to know each other? Eww, just ewwww..
@@lisahinton9682 not everyone thinks like you. Sometimes we are a minority in our thoughts. Try being more open minded. It only benefits society.
such an amazing and insightful interview
Great interview thank you guys!
As a biologist, anybody who makes claims about psychology based on evolutionary conjecture is not a responsible and professional psychologist in my opinion. You could hypothesize an evolutionary reason for a phenomenon (and make sure you know it's only cojecture and not claim it to be the truth, as these things are mostly unprovable), but you first have to establish that the phenomenon exists. You can't do it the other way around. That's not science.
I don't think anyone has ever told her she sounds like Depok Chopra.
You realise psychology is essentially a pseudoscience?
She justifies child marriage btw and is NOT a real psychologist ‼️‼️ pls be wary guys
thank you! entire interview sounded like a rant of an uninformed teenager! just because someone is saying something with confidence does not mean they are not simultaneously pulling it out of their ass.
She is Muslim
I disagree with her comments about girl code being fake. Idk maybe it's a generational thing but I find my female friendships incredibly rewarding. And generally when I interact with girls I don't know they are always friendly. Maybe she's not a girls girl idk.
people vary. Mark is also wrong that "guys will just complement each other". Guys obviously get competitive all the time, talking smack about who is better at blah blah blah. Same as women. It's almost like people's individual personality matters more to explain what they'll do than their sex. Wow, groundbreaking... if you've been transported here from the 1800s. It was a ridiculous exchange of no critical thinking and vague meaningless statements. The commenters impressed by this probably get excited when they eat a balony sandwich.
I think she herself lives in a very superficial world - and she extrapolates that and talks as if the whole world is as superficial as hers.
Yeah I agree she spoke in a lot of generalizations and something just seems off in general. It also seems as if she exclusively interacts w rich af ppl so there’s that lmao.
😂😂😂@@craigslist6988
I agree. my female friendships have poured so much life into me
refreshing point of view,, thank you Sadia!
This woman is brilliant.. I'm greatful for the perspective.
For someone who claims to be an academic she over generalizes a lot. And when she talked about how bold romantic gestures like writing a woman poetry are feminine and women are not attracted to it, it would have been better if she said SHE is not attracted to that. That it is maybe the women she hangs with who might be attracted to men they have to remind of their anniversary instead of applying this to all women. Many women love old school romance and saying that the masculine way to show love is to be negligent romantically is extremely inaccurate.
She does tend to over generalize. Alot of women have said they like it when their man is romantic and deep with them but not with the general public. They want the romance, kindness & warmth & from their partner. They want their partner to exclusively share that with them only. I’m pretty sure that’s how it’s always been rough exterior soft interior. What even makes a romantic relationship if there aren’t sweet exchanges.
It sounded like a woman bashing interview.
I understand this comment but u seem to have "over generalized" her point yourself. That example was meant to explain why "nice guys finish last". Her main point was that masculinity is the attracting force for the woman, in the long run. An effeminate partner isn't generally attractive except that particular woman wants that type of man.
I mean this woman from what i've seen from her she clearly is brainwashed. She lives in Dubai for a reason. She is hunting for money. She thinks poetry it's a waste of time. I don't think she obtained her diplomas legitimately. She is way to superficial.
@@gcogco305nah
The bit about perceived attractive women not having many friends, regrettably is so very true. Add being a successful entrepreneur and it’s even higher. I have 3 older sisters, and I have always treated them with love and care, and yet they have tried to sabotage me in both my personal life and business. Sad, and very lonely.
Maybe we should get together..I'm lonely too
I hope that's the truth in why I never seemed to find loyal female friends in the past. Now that I've gained tons of weight from taking antidepressants (which saved my life) I find it much easier to get along with other women and don't seem to be the target for passive aggression much anymore. Maybe it's just age, though, or the fact that I am a happier person, so who knows.
Can we be besties?? Lol
My two older sisters leave me out a lot. I tell them and they call me dramatic. There is nothing more painful than being ostracized by loved ones. I’m not sure why they do it but I think there’s a sick pleasure they get knowing I’ll be hurting while they’re happy. My chosen family is my cats. I have no friends either because I own my own condo and many of my friends are still struggling. I’ve helped them all and helped pay their rent but it seems that made them only resent me more. It’s not in my nature to be cruel to others ever and I am so broken our society doesn’t address the family unit more and how important community is to all of our lives.
@@mariecait sounds like you and I have a lot in common..let's become lovers so we will never be alone again!
Intellectual, intelligent, insightful, well spoken, direct approach and leg twined posture for the entire duration of the interview, just perfect!
As a producer, I suggest a stronger compression and audio EQ, specially if it’s an interview for someone with a particular accent. In this interview, highlighting a little bit of mid highs in the audio might have changed dramatically the audio quality. Great work here by the way! Very interesting and informative interview. Your questions are really helpful for this conversation.
he should hire a smart yungstar out of grad school that does this take less stress offf him would b able to travel more do more lnterestng storys
Thank you for your comment. I agree that the audio quality could have been better. Found myself getting distracted by it. Amazing interview, nonetheless. Thank you.
My partner is a producer as well lmao. I was playing this out loud and he said “wtf is that why’s the audio so shit” lmaooo I also agree as a content creator. He needs to invest in a better mic. 🎤
For some people marriage is a romantic ideal. Maybe some people that have come from broken homes believe they can restructure their life and have children , the house and financial and emotional security, something that they've never had. It's an Ideal
And let’s just be 💯… Men are the some people.
She justifies child marriage btw and is NOT a real psychologist ‼️‼️ pls be wary guys
I would argue against the last point to some degree. I think if one party comes from a broken home and the other from a stable home, but the former has done the work to heal and perhaps has a "chosen" family, it can be a beautiful relationship for both parties. Trauma can harm you, but if healed, it can also provide perspective for those who struggle to understand difficult people. Likewise, a healthy family dynamic can tremendously heal someone who lacked it. This, of course, requires self-reflection and empathy from both parties. I think a lot of these blanket statements should be seen as generalizations and not rules.
Absolutely! With awareness, healing and intention people can certainly heal and create healthy homes for themselves and their children.
Like that assumption of women not liking men to give them poetry. As far as my experience goes, many women friends or partners of male friends seem somewhat happy with their mild, thoughtful, romantic male partners. And then, you have women who love horror movies and watching real crime documentaries after a hard day, that become a perfect match for people like me, and we don’t complain as much and often as regular people do. Among all these generalizations, I go with the ones of men wanting submissive behavior from women while knowing that also some other men are more attracted to strong, independent women.
I agree. I think if both parties work on their crap and most people DO have them, it can create a beautiful bond that is authentic.
@@joelmolinapalau6811Romance is for men
You can not heal someone else’s trauma. That is your personal responsibility to heal yourself before you get in another relationship. You especially can’t heal someone from childhood trauma so that’s a definite no go. Personal responsibility and accountability is an XXs kryptonite! 💪
So refreshing! The truth being told without any filters!.. it’s been a long time…
One of the best SWU episodes, hands down. She delivers that stuff so well. Next time mic her so you can't hear her shirt!! Love you... you bring a lot of joy to my life
This is one of the most powerful interviews you've done Mark. Great job!
Ain't nothing like another morning watching another episode of Soft White Underbelly.
Here Here...💙🌎
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Love this Interview! Thank you 🙏
“We can turn off empathy and replace it with desire and pleasure” needs to be in a textbook
I think itis probably not very accurate, though. Think about it. Or I'm missing something.
Saying you don’t believe in feminism because women can be jealous sometimes is crazy
Women are jealous all the time.
Reasonable people always look crazy in a shattered society.
It's actually quite undestandable as us women we can be manipulative. So I get where she is coming from, take the side chick and married woman kinda trend. Where married women would rather blame side chicks for their failed marriages, than to blame the underlying problems. And to see how some women would also go their way to shame other women. So, feminism can be one sided at times🙌🏼
She justifies child marriage btw and is NOT a real psychologist ‼️‼️ pls be wary guys
She doesn’t see her own bias and cultural influence very clearly, seemingly. I definitely agree. It’s quite a sweeping statement. Pakistan is one of the worst places for women’s rights. I think of the murder of Noor Makadam and the male staff in Pakistan just watching her be abused by her husband without doing a thing. (Her husband ultimately decapitated her.) She is also only speaking about heterosexual relationships. Narrow scope in this talk with some interesting points and thoughts.
Mark, that was a seamless transition into the better help commercial. Awesome work.
I mean, having a psychologist on the panel didn’t hurt the segueway one bit
Great Ad for mental health!
Too bad better help shares your personal info to companies to send you targeted ads based on diagnosis.
Thank you so much sadia ! keep doing what you doing ! i am practicing all your advices and my mariage is becoming better day by day
She’s phenomenal, fantastic interview mark.
I love your content and the direction you are moving in to truly help others which is so much more than simply broadcasting train wrecks and tragedies.
Beware of any person who speaks with an air of authority in such broad generalizations. Love, attraction, and relationships between men and women come in a thousand different combinations for an infinite number of reasons.
Thank you! Your comment is like a breath of fresh air
Great point
There is 8 billion of us on this floating rock, while there is many reasons why men and women may fall in love- most of the patterns start to become a trend you can monitor and see if the reasons that follow also become a trend. This is called study and science, hence where the generalizations come from
I mean.. considering that she has a PHD in psychology.. I would say that she can speak with an air of authority. Lol.
Yeah, the amount of generalizations was very disappointing. Especially her views on feminism and her and Mark's "men at the gym" analogy which was hilariously wrong. Men hate on other men constantly and think being emotionally supportive is a "weakness."
Very good interview lots of intelligent thoughts shared here for those that are willing to listen.
This has become my favorite interview of all time.
Thanks Mark! Thanks Sadia! This is a very interesting conversation. I’m old school, married 43 years. We been through ups and downs but we loved enough each other to work together to move forward!
Amen teamwork makes the dream works. Blessings.
Good evening, Mark. Thank you so much for jumping across the pond to provide us all with such an awesome interview!...There is so much insightful information to unpack here!
I just went through a rough break up and I absolutely needed to find this video
Much more useful information and advice here than that which was offered by Mr. Orion. Much more on point. Much more reality. Orion is inside an odd bubble. Sadia recognizes all the nuances of all relationships. She reads deep and humans need more awareness of the depths. Thank you for this.
If she actually calls herself a "practitioner psychologist", which includes clinical psychologist or counselling psychologist, in London she would be registered in the UK with the HCPC. I checked and she's not listed anywhere on the HCPC (UK) website. But if she just calls herself "psychologist", at least in the UK, you could have a grade 3 education and walk around saying herpy derpy durr without any registration necessary.
She does not live in UK anymore, she is based in Dubai. Check her there lol
That’s because she is not a real psychologist. Sharpe and F&F already exposed her. Back to the Figueroa streets she goes!
ooouhh where did sharpe say that at? podcast?@@mr.tellithowitis106
It happens often in the US. Everyone is a dang doctor without the experience and degree. Big time red flag 🚩
@@mr.tellithowitis106who is sharp f&f ?
If anyone is familiar with the late Patrice O’Neal, he literally spoke on this same topic of being a man your woman can respect damn near a decade ago and here we are having the same conversation. This interview literally proves the brilliance of Patrice and his quest to wake men up and try to even the battlefield. Great interview and hope to continue seeing this type of work.
The Game stays the same, the only thing that changes is the faces and the places.
Rest in Peace Patrice
Love Patrice what can I search to find what he said?
The Black Philip Show
After being treated like trash by most women I have met, I do not give a Sh@@ what women want.
I thought her ideas were absolutely spot on with every topic Mark tossed out. One of the most informative interviews I've ever heard on the topics. Thank you Mark and Sadia for this jewel.
This is a goldmine of information
I repented from porn, alcohol, pot, cigarettes, Facebook, Instagram and toxic relationships over the past year. Its been very difficult, but its been worth it. Turning to, believing in and trusting a higher power has been the key. Finding and fostering relationships with those who've done the same is essential. Exercising and eating natural foods are crucial too. Again its difficult but worth it.
“Indeed, those who believe and have done good deeds, their Lord guides them with their belief, flowing beneath them rivers in gardens of bliss” Quran 10:9
Wish I had the courage to do the same. Keep moving in the right direction towards love and light 🧡♥️
grow In faith,Love and Hope.Repentance is a lifelong process. Yahuah bless you
Shit I smoke fent & rock cocaine. Still have a full time job been there for as long as i been getting high. I guess it’s a mindset thing 😊😊😊😊
@bellafontejohnson-bm8ep that’s not quite the flex you think it is ma’am…or sir..whichever you prefer…
Although I don’t agree with everything she said, all of her interview was fascinating and compelling. Thank you!
Felt the same way through out .. !
Same~ she had some zingers in her pearls of wisdom but she also had some über cringe misogynistic & retro -conservative stuff
I disagree with a ton of things she said, which makes me worried for the people that believe her blindly.
@@Multi-Colorthis!
@@tideioHow about you disagreeing with her blindly? It is so fcking funny that you ate saying people are agreeing with her blindly because you do not agree with her.
Awesome interview!
Very informative!thank you
"Psychologist" while Sadia touches upon psychological concepts (briefly) she does not speak like an academic as she posits anecdotal examples to make her points with little evidence. Please take caution when listening to such 'content creators' and use your critical faculties.
Yup. She’s a fake 304. Anyone who actually reads real psychology such as psychologist Jordan Peterson can see right through her. I’d listen to any other scholar before this hypothesized “psychologist”. Her persona doesn’t shout “intellectual “ at all.
Agree. Saying one's a psychologist doesn't make it true. She is just a content creator, posing as one.
She is NOT a real psychologist. Should be reported if she is claiming to be one. They don’t speak in extremes like her. Pls be wary of this woman she justifies child marriage ‼️
I don’t think girl code is fake, because I belong to a tight sisterhood of friends- girls I have known for 15+ yrs. That said, I was beyond shocked when a former work friend tried to hook up with our other work friend’s husband! He is a decent man, so he shut it down and reported it to his wife. That was the end of our collective relationship
How about the ones you don't see hot shot how about that
So many gems 💎! Thank you
This was by far the best interview ever she was great would love to have a conversation with her
This video is packed to the brim with an unprofessional amount of projection.
Facts that was corn dog city how she described relationship dynamics between men and women is how a high school boy sees the world
The projection that is resonating with people's direct life experiences, and matching the cultural understanding? Has the definition or use changed recently?
Thank you Sadia so much for your perspective. It has so much relevance to my own life and experiences
Yes i agree
I agree there's a lot of unconscious bias spilling out
This interview was so on point. In just 1hour of interviewing, the talk has unveiled so many relationship insights that would have taken years of learning through trial and error, to acquire. Understanding the dynamic of polarity and attraction between men and women, Understanding our Patterns (ie): of selection , or of relating to others, such as the ways in which the inflated Ego blindsides us, etc. In addition, there was a brief discussion about the unconscious agendas that operate within relationship (ie): how people enter relationships with an element of agenda in mind, whether positive or unhealthy agenda's and how it is important to be mindful of this. There are so many nuggets of wisdom in this interview for the discerning viewer. It is definitely worth the investment of time.
Amazing conversation
I've learnt so much from this interview.
I am quite impressed by the honesty that comes out of this interview, but even more so by how you were able to capture the picture that goes under the superficial skin. I don't always take the time to watch your videos, and I regret it, but they really deserve attention. I really admire your work and have great respect for the people who kindly agree to open up their intimacy through an interview with you. Well done, I hope you will have the energy to continue for the rest of us.
This speaker has made some huge leaps in confounding correlation/causation and also in making sweeping generalizations.
Because she"s a fake. I can't understand why more people aren't seeing this. Mark got played or he's playing his audience.
I stopped 5 mins in because she has a very clear traditional, conservative perspective. She actually said that if women are attracted to men they will be submissive to them (and I’m assuming she did not mean in a fun way!). I don’t know where she was trained, but I am relatively fresh out of a masters in psychotherapy program, with additional training in sex and couples counseling in the US. I disagree with almost everything she said.
@@katerinahikesalot1644 you’re the one who’s been indoctrinated with liberal bs
This.
I agree. & I'm a psychologist
fantastic conversation
Excellent interview!