Don't Worry, No One Cares
We're often held back by a crippling fear that we can't possibly do certain things because other people will judge us. But for those of us hemmed in by self-consciousness of this kind, there is very good news on the horizon. Amazingly, partly depressingly and partly redemptively, in reality, no one much cares...
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“We tend to begin our lives with a deeply unrepresentative experience: that of being surrounded by people who care to an extraordinary extent about us. We look up from the dreams and confusions of early infancy and may find a smiling face or two observing us with the utmost tenderness and concern. They watch us as a rivulet of saliva leaks slowly from the corner of our mouth and rush to wipe it away as if dabbing at a precious canvas, then indulgently stroke the fine soft hairs on our delicate scalps. They declare us close to supernatural when, at last, we succeed in pulling our first smile. The applause rings for days when we take our initial steps, giggle, totter, fall, and bravely try to resume our progress. There is astonishment and beatific praise when we arduously manage to form the letters of our own name. Throughout the early years, the big people intelligently coax us into eating broccoli or peas; they make sure we put on our rubber boots when it’s raining; they dance around with us to our favourite songs, they tuck us up and sing to us when we’re feeling sad or unwell. When we’re anxious, they try very sensitively to find out what might be the matter…”
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Prozac.
I used to worry deeply about what is going on in the people’s head about me, but I realized that you cannot achieve your dreams as long as you live in fear of people's opinions and trying to please everyone is stupidity and delusion,but that way of thinking doesn’t mean that you have to hate people and don’t always listen to their opinions.. but you should accept all people despite their differences and their backgrounds because being successful is something and being kind is something else,That was the most important lesson that i learned in 2019
I cope by not caring
I prefer that people care about what I think than vice versa, except for those who earn my respect and trust. To the rest, I really couldn't give a damn.
Not caring what other people think is the ultimate freedom, but you have to at least control what you WANT other people to think of you and keep your businesses on the down low. As you are dependent on other people to get where you want to be in life, simply not caring what other people think, saying whatever is on your mind and acting a fool will get you no where. That's just reality.
"We suffer more often in imagination than in reality" - Seneca
Thank you Nietzsche, very cool.
"There has been much tragedy in my life; at least half of it actually happened."-Mark Twain
@@daithiocinnsealach3173 just came up with a better version (by reading yours wrong): "There has been much tragedy in my life; at least half of it happened today."
@Nikki Pettway having an imagination is bitch
Said the richest man in Rome!
"People aren't against you, they are for themself." Helped me immensely.
If only we could consistently treat our lives as the living out of a miracle. For love is always a mirror, love is always honest. Sometimes, on rare occasion, love comes round and says nothing whilst intwined in this preconceived notion of self, And self is projected onto self completely, thoroughly, And solutions are born like plague. Lol
Not in all cases. You'd have to be a fool to rule out malicious intent.
I've learned this goes for family as well
It nevertheless disturbs me that most people are so indifferent (aka "are for themself").
@@JDWDMC ...a very valid point, sadly.
One of my closest friends proudly announced at a party that his dental braces were finally off. That after spending 10 years embarrassed about his 'terrible teeth' he finally did something about it and spent tens of thousands of dollars on his dental work. In the awkward silence I had to tell him the truth...that *NO ONE HAD EVER NOTICED* hahaha
You are a shitty friend
Yeah, I was walking around after surgery, with a catheter tube coming out of my shorts leg, and carrying the bag in a shopping bag, for about 10 days, and later, I found out no one noticed!
@@tonyprost5575 Well, that just means your shopping bag worked brilliantly and that you're a genius (and that's what goes unnoticed.)
On another note I remember when I was 14 years old and this skater boy at the skate park I was sitting at, he was an older one, he was like 18 or 19. Really cute, freckles with a massive white boy ginger afro. Basically one of the cool kids. He came up like "hey' what's your name", he was talking to me. His name was willie. He wasn't being a creep or anything, he saw i was kind of flirting with a guy who was more my age. When I told him my name, he looked at the guy I was talking to (Jeff, who later on became my boyfriend that year and we had sex to 9 inch nails up above it....lol let's just say he was having a lot of fun with that chorus), and he said right in front of me, horrifyingly "she's cute until she's opens up her mouth! Haaaaah!" Round of applause from all the cute skater boys surrounding including a huge chuckle from my buddy Jeff. To this day I'm still really devastated by that comment. This was before I got braces. I'm still struggling to determine if he meant open up my mouth so he could see my teeth and how crooked my smile is due to my asymmetrical facial features or until I start talking and he could hear my monotonous voice and didn't like it. I don't know. This happened in 1994 and I still stress out about it frequently. the irony is Willie became a hardcore meth junkie and he shoots up and he looks like shit. He is literally missing teeth and he's a shell of a human being. It's really sad. On the other hand, not to toot my own horn, I'm kind of like a swan or whatever. LOL yesterday this guy that I like said I have a butt that's going to keep on getting bigger until I'm an old lady and it made me laugh. my butt is like three times thicker than it was when I was 20 and I'm only 42. 🤣 I just replied well at least working out has been building something outta nothing over all these years!
@@Pugetwitch you sound fun I love you ❤
It really kicks in when you got no one to talk to at work, no one waiting at home and no one available on the weekends.
Right there with yaa....
Same here
its lit
how are you this fine day sir?
im here if u want to talk about it😊
"It never ceases to amaze me: We all love ourselves more than other people, but care more about their opinion than our own." Marcus Aurelius
Exactly i have been wondering this this year alot how many things i wanted to in public or may be career wise i always think of society or people around me. We become so much anxious in the time of social media. We are so much influenced by fake social media influencers. And we only see the good part of them and our miseries then become more serious cause we think we are not good enough.. But actually nobody really cares. Do whatever you want to do. As long as you are not hurting anybody!
-hello-
@@woodsarecreepy3491 hi
ohhh!!!!
It's ego.
“The trick is to care about everyone, While not caring what they think”.
҉ A. Jen ҉ all truths are but half truths, all paradoxes may be reconciled.
Well said
Sam. PDI “a mind is like a parachute, it does not work if it is not open”. -Frank Zappa
How??
Rhea Shree patience.
I realised this in 7th grade when my friend got her hair done and was very excited about it when she said "everyone's looking at me" I looked around and not ONE PERSON WAS LOOKING. Life lesson in small things.
😜😂😂😂😂😂 what 😜😜
I know exactly what you are talking about, got a friend who sincerely believe that everyone is looking at her, because she is so beautiful, but nobody even look at her, and then she feels irritated because why do they look? I see it for what it is, but didn't have the heart to tell her that nobody cares. That is also an overblow of an ego and a narcissist behaviour. Sadly.
We spend our 20's and 30's worrying that people are talking about us, our 40's and 50's wondering why no one is talking about us, and the rest of our lives realizing that no one was talking about us in the first place.
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"Don't Worry, No one Cares" *Me:* _* worries *_
What strangers think of you has no affect on your value, potential or capabilities. This video is partially true but entirely misguided. The nihilistic undertone encourages people like the asshole before me to respond as such. Psychological warfare to disconnect us from one another. Stay strong brother the world is run by psychopaths but people are still good natured. 🙏🏼 Be strong and u will attract the light
PSESSIONS people like you are rare✨ Wish you all the best in life.💕
don't worry. worries about not being able to do it
"Stop worrying. No one cares." Me: why do you care?
me: *worries*
So true. It took me 50 years to learn this, and it was very freeing. After reaching 73, I just don't care what others think, because they aren't thinking about me anyway.
Are you really 73? What other advice you have for people in their 20's?
@@funkXCIV That's a good question. I think the most important thing is to accept yourself just the way you are, and never try to change to please other people.
@@Cocobird5 Thanks for the answer, I think that's really good advice. All the best to you from Romania!
Sue Anderson Very true. I think I've learned that finally at age 50. One friend's saying that I finally understood this past year is, "Your opinion of me is none of my business."
Wayne Green From someone who is 50 and learned things the hard way, I'd say: Don't get into debt; start saving early; if you find someone isn't respectful to you, realize they are not your friend, and it's ok to move away from them, don't waste your time and energy trying to change them; you can't change others, only yourself; say yes to new opportunities, don't be afraid, you can always walk away if it is not for you; take care of your health when you are young, exercise daily and eat as best as you can. Accept yourself for who you are, forgive yourself for any "bad" decisions you may have made and move on. Be honest and direct with people or some will take advantage. That's all I can think of for now. Hopefully you can avoid making unnecessary mistakes and spend more of your time living and enjoying your life. You'll still have your own lessons to learn - that can't and shouldn't be avoided.
A beautifully written video
Damn you taking notes
Nice to see you here Psych
Waat...psych2go commented😮
This helped me get over my anxiety. I couldn't leave the house without getting a anxiety attack. Someone told me "you'll never be pretty enough, fit enough for everyone. So just live your life, we're all going to die anyway"
"Don't tell your problems to people. Eighty percent don't care, and twenty percent are glad you have them." -Lou Holtz
I mean our problems are ultimately 'Our' problems not there. I realise how little I think about others. And most of the time I am engaged in Me, myself and I theory only. It sounds selfish, but after all self interest is all that matters.
However, if you continue to bottle everything up, over time it can really affect you and others around you. So being open with friends and family would be the best thing to do, not struggle on your own. You can tell them your worries and etc, and they can tell you theirs. It can make people feel better they got something off their chest, and allow them to move on.
Yep. I've learned that the hard way
You’re wrong, you just have to find the right person to tell your problems
this^^
There’s two type of people: No one cares :( No one cares :D
and I’m both
@@NoahDaSlasher ha :) same :(
this is so deep
Millennials vs Gen Z
There's actually a third type :o)
I learned through years of experience that when you care about others you end up becoming their doormat. Most are not even worth it.
I'm a highly sympathetic person and as such I care a lot about other people, more so than about myself. So, using myself as an example, as the video advises, is not a good idea in my case. I've been struggling with loneliness, anxiety and depressive episodes ever since high school. I am now 30 and I'm slowly beginning to realize that most people are just so self-centered and so caught up in their own lives that it doesn't even cross their mind to think about me, including those I consider my friends. It's always me who writes first to check on people, always me who tries to organize meet-ups. I once decided to stop trying and see what would happen. For over two weeks the only living person who contacted me was my mother. The conclusion I reached: most humans are selfish and petty, and I shouldn't bother myself looking for their attention. Cynical and ironic, I know.
My top 3 assumptions when the doorbell rings: 1. Murderer 2. Police telling me everyone is dead 3. That book I ordered about positive thinking
XD
why soserious 😆😁
I'll replace 3 with "my packages from ebay" :v
Nice one 😂
😂😂😂
No one cares *anxiety has left the chat* *depression has entered*
Lol its like anxiety taps out so depression can tap in.
Depression Is hell
Bluephoria Anxiety was originally a defense mechanism along with stress, to combat life dangers.
Depression is anxiety because anxiety makes it hard to socialize making you sad...so I’d rather just be depressed all the time.
LOL
The minute you stop caring about what's going on around you, that is when you become just like everyone else.
This is very true. This became evident when I left all social media. I realized that no one really cares, except maybe your mother. But broadly speaking, people you pass by on the street or you work with couldn't care less. It's wise to reciprocate that indifference as its pointed out here on this video.
"We grow up and we are inducted into a horrific reality" sounds about right haha
prettyyyyyymuch
I thought I was the only one who felt this way!
This video is bullshit and i don't take it personally.
@@thebalticpower2301 You do that 👍
This is why it’s so important to live a life YOU find fulfilling because no one cares or notices.
I seem to have this problem where people DO notice when I do what I want, and tell me I shouldn't.
Amber DreamWeaver that’s when you learn the power of “MEH” and do what you want anyways!
It’s called “survival.” You don’t do what you want because you’re afraid you might die.
Wisdom right here!
@fynes leigh It's a fairly descriptive word, not really sure what'd be so pretentious about making use of it.
A friend of mine said she felt embarrassed remembering some things she said and did in junior high or something. I told her, sweetheart, no one other than yourself remembers those things. Your ex-peers are much more likely to remember something embarrassing they said or did. My friend is going through some stuff mentally at the moment and honestly I think she is making matters way worse for herself by thinking that other people care that much. One of the most liberating realizations in life is when you realize that, actually, nobody cares. We're all way too self-involved to care.
I appreciate this channel most of all for validating the nuance of experience: naming it, underlining it, & therefore bringing some balance back into my tendency to think in extremes.
It wasn't strangers who taught me that no one cares about me. It was my closest friends and family who taught me that. That's the freaky part!
Sorry to read that. Look for better friends... Yet, you often get back what you give... Do you care about others?
Based
Yes that's why I searched this
People don’t care and that’s just the harsh reality we have to accept. I’ll be honest there has been times where idgaf about anyone but myself. If I get a gigantic amount of money, do u share that with other people? No, bc u only care about urself. It’s ok to be a little selfish, not everyone has time to look out for everyone. This is why u gotta be ur own person.
same bud
"We might die and no one will even notice.." Confidence boost 101🙂
I've been through this: if I died right now, would anyone care? Would it even register? Not a fun thing to ponder working the graveyard shift.
Then again, that's actually most unlikely! Somebody will have to dispose of your dead body, and even if you happen to just rot in a ditch, some dog will eventually dig out a bone, the police will have to check out what happened, and first who/wtf that was. Hence, make sure you always have a neat FB-account. :D
But so true. Believe me, even if you died on Times Square, NO ONE would notice that. The Bystander Effect is really strong;) ..unless you seem to be rich - that changes your perception by others and creates more urgency to intervene.
Hey, wasn't there a guy that used to....... ahhh never mind
@ghost mall they gonna mourn for you for at least a month and the world goes on. So yeah, no one care
That's correct. Nothing we do will be remembered 3 years from now just as no one remembers things that other people did 3 years ago. Everything fades away into oblivion.
I believe this, to some degree is our fear of being misunderstood and gossiped about. If it’s not love, it’s always fear
Me: Did something embarrassing My notification: Don't worry, no one cares.
Yes absolutely
Me: thinking about talking with my crush about how she hurt my feelings Notification: Don’t worry, no one cares Me: Ok I get it
KIM DAHYUN I just remember that everyone does something embarrassing. Learn to laugh at yourself. Make a joke of it and move on. This worked for me.
Did something stupid today. This channel is monitoring my brain.
@@RyanT_1524 don't we do stupid things almost everyday?
Care about the welfare of others, but don't worry about what they think of you. It can help you feel a genuine sense of happiness.
Precisely. Be a living example of positivity and love, it's contagious.
Now how not to worry?
maybe thats how politicians do it, but if a care about someone i care about what they think. as my welfare is often determined by what/how i think
Veronika A. Worry is a choice as is happiness. We decide where we allow our thoughts to travel. Mental stop signs worked for me. Along with a mental 'switch', reminding me to change/reverse the idea plaguing my brain.
Mane on a new plane nigga Because your welfare can depend on your thought processes it is extremely important to not concern yourself with what others are thinking. Since you generally cant guess what they think or change it anyway, it is a waste of your energy.
How did you know I needed this today?! Was having one of those days where it feels like everyone hates me and is judging me!!
I'm having those thoughts right now.
That getting concious of your voice when you buy something in crowd is so on point! This vid is relatable on so many levels.
School of life: No one cares Me: Cool Anxiety: *_Or do they?_* 🤔
Same
Lol
enter VSauce
I feel this so deeply.....
Kyle Matthews no I and they don’t care
So I heard this saying: "In your twenties and thirties, you worry what other people think of you; in your forties and fifties, you stop caring about that; and in your sixties and seventies, you discover that they never thought about you in the first place". Guess this video can help speed that up a bit :-)
Honestly I stopped thinking and caring about this stuff when I was in my early 20's. I'm almost 30 now.
I’m in my teens and I don’t care what people think and just do what makes me happy :)
i definitely stopped caring as i have gotten older, but to be fair, i have pretty bad depression. I just realized that in the end i'm on my own, and no one will truly be there for me in the end.
@@queencooljewel2433 Im exactly the same. So all I do everyday now is give stray dogs dead legs with my fist and shout obscenities at OAP's crossing the road such as, 'Hurry up grandpa', or 'Old lady you should hurry up'. I know some people might think I'm completely out of my mind loco, but it makes me happy, so I just do it anyway. Screw the haters nah mean.
@@sebando 😂
I suffer from main character syndrome and literally think everyone is always thinking about me/judging me/laughing at me/talking about me etc. 100% of my actions and words and thoughts are to please other people so I get compliments and validation. It's holding me back in life because I'm constantly scared of looking stupid or disappointing others or being talked about 😩😩😩
@@nhgdd4961 any tips??? 😩
Good to be reminded when visiting family. They’re always critical of my hair, clothes, style/life choices-but their critiques are just are an exaggerated (and unwelcome) sign of care…’Cuz in reality, no one else does.
"The more you know who you are and what you want, the less you let things upset you"
That is a good one! 😊
@ It's a quote from the movie "Lost In Translation" edit: This quote also appears in the last part of the song "rock & roll" by EDEN, you should check it out, it's a beautiful song.
So true
In my story, I'm the protagonist and everybody else are side characters, but in yours I'm just a side character and the world doesn't revolve about me. This is proof that life is about all, not just me or you.
I love this one
hello
Hey at the end of the day, life is just the perspective of one's mind. So enjoy what we have, share the joy of life with others.
"Life is about all, not just me or you." I like that.
I taught this for myself now im seeing this and its cool how we thought the same thought
The beginning of the video reminded me of a poem I wrote about 2 years ago, thought I’d share :) ~Only when we are born~ Only when we are born are we praised for failure Attempting to stand is a noble feat Speech is an adorable acquisition Shapes are mountains to be conquered bravely In these moments laughter is more than a past time To pass time is merely a question to be answered for later Only when we are born can we fully bathe in the light of the world Only when we are born, are we truly happy
Very beautiful
Lovely poem 💖
This one hit me differently. Hits deep. Beautiful!
This poem touch my heart
That sucks
“I am not who you think I am; I am not who I think I am; I am who I think you think I am.” ~Cooley
Yeah it takes too long to wrap my mind around how simple I am.
I had severe anxiety for most of my life but once I realized people mostly just care about themselves and aren’t really concerned with what others are doing my anxiety got infinitely better.
That’s very true:) it’s hard to remember sometimes but go through the things you’ve thought about something and see how relevant it stays in your mind when times past and you’ve got your own issues like bills, family, etc. The last thing you or anyone is thinking is about what someone did at say a party 6 or 12 months earlier. Yet the one who did said things are probably busy dwelling over this idea that everyone still has it fresh in their minds or something.
@@hivaladeen4892 i have a memory where i had to give a speech on a big stage infront of my whole school and as soon as i got on stage i got stage freight and started crying infront of the school that was 5 years ago but i still remeber it like yesterday
@@ahha5252 That happens and you’re not alone:) it’s embarrassing to you there and then but so what? Everyone’s got their embarrassing moment equivalent to what you described, and the problem is, people often worry about if the people they see/talk to will think of that as soon as you are brought up, but they’re just like you. Everyone’s too fixated on their own problems. No one will remember that moment now unless brought up, and even if they do, it doesn’t hold anywhere near the same value/embarrassment as you may have thought back 5 years ago. Thank you for sharing
Sadly, there are many other kinds of anxiety besides social anxiety - but at least in your case this was helpful for you.
I realized my Anxiety came from my mom not taking accountability and would make me feel self doubt in my perception and ability to make judgements and invalidated my feelings and would do things that were hurtful and disrespectful and disregard my feelings and this generated anxiety. How you can tell if you have anxiety of this type is are you afraid of things you can’t see like a noise in the bushes but then fearless to a scary situation so long as you can see and identify something worthy of being feared by a typical person.
This truth actually changed my life. I was highly anxious and introverted all the way through to high school "about 17 years old" always worried about what others think. This lead me to never approach anyone for anything. I never joined in on conversations had any girlfriends or even friends. But after realising that no one cared about anything. That I would be just a footnote in a memorie they were bound to forget. That nothing I do in casual day to day life would be remembered or written down. I realised that my issues talking, always thinking I would make a fool of myself, just disappeared and now I can talk freely to anyone anytime with a senserity I don't see often. I've flipped from a hopeless stressed introvert into an extroverted outgoing carefree guy. Honestly I'm happier than I have been my whole life thanks to this change. But I like to pair this with another philosophy. That is, don't attribute to malice what can be explained through ignorance and indifference. Always believe that everyone isn't actively trying to spite you. Give them the benefit of the doubt and because nothing matters just let it go. When you believe that no one cares about you you can realise that no one is targeting you and just accept that when someone does something bad or gets upset with you its not because of you its them dealing with there own issues and you should just let it go
Sir Dante the Dank hmm
Sir Dante the Dank I’m actually happy for you 💙, and I wish u be a successful person Can I ask u something ; how old are you now? I don’t know this question just came to me !
This is an amazing point of view!
That last sentence.. I did the wrong thing and kinda changed myself because of the other person feeling annoyed about me... Entered into a relationship.. My originality, I cudnt express because I suppressed it, thinking that I was doing the right thing for the person and changing my views becoming emotional and caring about small things... When problems came up, I was very weak that I person started losing respect on me and that hurt a lot. Now we broke up and I'm recovering from all my shifts in my belief and opinion.. I think I'm very weak..
@@khadija6755 I'm turning 23 in 2 months
This is so good. I was very much bothered that not too many people was paying attention to me as I was trying to make more connections with others and felt no really getting responses, this might comprise of many different factors and one being people are indifferent in daily life. But this video revealed that this indifference could also be a reassuring point that people are just that care if you screwed up or not getting along with them. We are all busy following the flow of life, it is just life.
I kind of had this same realization a few years back. It really blew my mind and it helps with anxiety. I have a few people arround me that care (husband, children, best friend) other then that - no one cares enogh to be bothered with you, for real, they don’t. It’s amazing once you embrace that.
i'm a firm believer that if you worry about what other people think, it's actually because YOU yourself think that way about other people, one way or another. if you let your judgement of other people go, and just care less, and focus on yourself, it'll reveal reality in a different perspective.
Well said.
Truest comment.
I hate it when someone says that "no one cares" or that "other people don't think about you anyway". They do. What's wrong with admitting that we are being judged daily for all kinds of things? It's not about "realising" something about reality, it is, like you said, about changing ourselves and our own perspective.
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@@itsme0acryingcookie cause that's how your brain works
“You will become way less concerned with what other people think of you when you realize how seldom they do.” ― David Foster Wallace, Infinite Jest
in a way - those who mind dont matter, those who matter dont mind
I'm glad and kinda proud that this enlightenment suddenly came to my mind when I was 14.
I have social anxiety, and I really needed to hear this
Well, I always wanted invisibility as a super power anyway.
Exactly what I was thinking.
I'd prefer the ability to merge with any matter
Best comment EVER on KZhead
Lol
Me too.
"Don't worry; no one cares." Walks out in underwear.. Police: "Hey you!"
😂
Walks out with an RPG Police: "This ain't GTA you moron"
“No one cares” is a half truth .
Me muttering while you're close, "Dude has lost control over his life. Nice facial mask though. :)"
Why are bikini bottoms legal and underwear isn't?
I randomly hit this video...this is exactly what I've been going thru....exactly.....thank you so much for this content...wow
we're all absorbed in our own little make-believe lands and worrying about what others think of us.. but that's the point, everyone's worried. they fear the same things as you and are too burdened with their self-awareness to care about anything of you aside from your opinion of them
I am reminded of a little thing that happened in high school. When I was in elementary school, I used to cry and throw a fit at least every week (I had undiagnosed and unmedicated anxiety disorder at the time.) Throughout middle school and high school, I was shy, suffered from low self-esteem, and believed everyone hated me because of these embarrassing tantrums. It was either in junior or senior year of high school that I asked a girl with whom I went to elementary school if she remembered me crying all the time. She said no. Huh.
Let’s go that’s good
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Samee. I realized this when I was 16. In school I would constantly worry what others might think of me to the point that everything was centered around to please others and it took alot of energy As in I wanted to feel superior. I had a fake persona. Then at 16 i realized that whatever you do ppl might barely think of you for 1 second which is not worth the effort.
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Thank you
The School of Life: Don't Worry, No one Cares No one: I got you fam
I don't care
@@davebuelvas898 you didn't get the joke
Polyphemus : *happines noises*
no one, here. I got you.
Took me about a second lmao
Once you truly realize that nobody really cares and accept the loneliness that comes with it, life hits differently. There's this calm element that comes with it where you don't really care about other stuff either rather you just want to focus on yourself, do well and then go home and relax. But then again when you relax a bit too much, the thoughts of how lonely you are starts hitting you again. The thought of how nobody is really waiting for you at night nor is there anybody to hangout with during weekends and stuff. Life truly is strange. 90 percent of the time I don't think about it but when I do it hurts I guess.
Such a simple concept but so difficult to harness. Needs to be realised and comprehended in real time, when we’re feeling self conscious
Me: *sees the title* Depression: that's what i've been saying
Yer this
Learn to care about and for yourself and your life.
This is not true even if you don't think people care about you they do people do care even if it's just a stranger you pass every day they may notice you and think doesn't he/she have lovely hair a lovely smile and if you suddenly disappear they think where's that person with the lovely hair, smile and they wonder where you are we all touch each others lives even if we don't realize it! We are all important to others!
Anxiety:NO ITS THE OPPOSITE OF WHAT I WAS SAYING
@@thatlampsouce6136 shit i just realized that :o
as a naturally anxious man, this the best video title ever.
ahmed safi We all feel anxious at times. Our society today is now based on fear and material worship, you are not crazy. Stay strong love yourself and others 🙏🏼 U will attract the light. God bless
PSESSIONS your a good person
thanks a lot for the kind words, God bless you.
ahmed safi Have you thought about why you are anxious? I only started experiencing anxiety in the last couple years, and I really think it has to do with feeling a lack of control over our own lives. There are also herbal and nutritional supplements that can help reduce anxious feelings, and promote better sleep which helps your whole self, mind and body. I found ashwaghanda and magnesium helped me quite a bit. Plus also getting regular exercise and eating better. Take care of yourself.
I didn't even need to watch, the title helps a lot
I'm 20, still discovering and practicing this everyday to get used to it. I still have a long way to go.
Depends completely - on your morality and your compassion and your understanding that we are all connected Smile at the person on the street you don’t know or compliment someone on their lovely dress - keep connected to others - and you WILL care
“They gon’ judge me anyway, so, whatever.” - Kid Cudi
Its better to die being called weird crazy than to be completely ignored unknown and forgotten
@@aloneinthisbigcruelworld5197 facts
I smoke dope like kid cudi
People care enough when they're trying to bring you down or destroy you.. They pay attention to every single thing about you. Just ask all the people tormented by bullies-
Cut them off, be brutal. Move away if you can. Just run, run far away from them as you can because they won't stop, I know it sounds dramatic but it's the truth. These people get enjoyment on bringing others down. You just have to get them out of your life. Do it as soon as you can before they destroy you. Much love to you. ❤️
That’s make sense, some friends pay attention to what I do and later they talk in a indirect way with bullie actitude, always trying put me down, his texts in groups chats, say what they really think, just pay attention, all it’s just for his ego, I don’t want theses friends.
Satin Perfume In my chat group, a few weeks ago, I started to put in my photos the finger of ok, my emoticons and gifts too, so a friend went on vacation, she put her photos having fun, a friend text in the group “its must put down her finger ”, “she thinks she is up”, our friend never came out in her photos with her finger on ok. So where that thought come from? I confirm what I was thinking, the guy thinks of me and his instincts are to put me down, he made a mistake, what a person writes are his thought, it is difficult to falsify.
It's because it gives them a sense of power for a moment. They Feel surperiour. But that feeling don't last for long. And then they have to repeat the bullying. All you who bully people Out there- you are rotten inside - and you know it.
Please watch “constantly criticizing - giving advice narcissist” on youtube. This sounds like narcissistic tendencies. They criticize and give unsolicited ADVICE all the time (because they are superior). And when you tell them anything they will say “I am saying this for your own good”. HERE IS THE LINK kzhead.info/sun/jNmBnt17epSsaIU/bejne.html
I suffer from Avoidant Personality Disorder and this video helped me immensely. Thank you.
Thank you for being and existing. I would be far worse off if it weren’t for you M Alain De Botton, I don’t think I would still be here in this life. Thank you the work you do and for everyone at SOL. You are my lifesavers. ❤️
10 years ago, I use to worry every second when someone stared at me but eventually I let it go and realized no one cares because everyone is worried about their own problems.
Children should be taught to value themselves more. Not all this do this, do that, do as I say. Children should be taught to love themselves not spend their time thinking that they have to keep on pleasing others. That is how you get mixed up children and adults. Love yourself first the rest comes later.
Our culture promotes concentrating on weeding out weaknesses rather than promoting strengths. Easy to fix on personal levels.
@Zorba Apollo I certainly lead by example. My child is slapped at every opportunity.
So there is nothing only emptiness and loneliness
Obsessive Self love is the root of narcissism.
You will quickly realize that there is actually pretty always someone to please sometimes you want to do that : for example - your partner other times you have clients And your boss who might also operate the same scheme And pleases his boss. So welcome to the reality
Good video. To be honest, I've always known that most people don't really care for me or other people and to be blunt, I don't really care about them. Especially in this day and age where so many people seem so indifferent. They won't even look you in the face and are far too busy walking down the streets constantly looking at they're phones and bring oblivious to they're surroundings.
yes so true. i do so much for people and most of the time no one cares. do what you want and what makes you happy will make you happier and not care what someone thinks.
That is all so true .. I'm 74 years old now and learned it the hard way .. (almost) no one cares.
That is d real learning. Thank u for sharing wid age
Agree 100%. I’ll be 40 this year and I’d say over the last 10 years I’ve also realized that for the most part you’re on your own in life and very few , if any people truly care about you. Sad but true
Bless you sir
Good point with age comes wisdom
I do notice things about people and sometimes judge them and I feel like a lot of other people do too. I think a more accurate approach is to stop worrying exactly because someone is still gonna judge you anyway, no matter what you do. There will always be people who just don't like you and it's kind of okay.
exactly
No one cares about your opinion on this video
Yeah I think it's like, of course people are going to dislike and disagree with me, we have such different upbringings and perspectives. So 80% of people don't judge me, and the rest that do, they haven't walked in my shoes.
It dawned on me that I never worry about others, because I’m always worrying about myself. And that goes for everyone, including every single one of those around you :)
Taking on board that very few people really care, has brought me so much freedom. The liberty to wear the clothes I really love wear makeup the way I like it, deciding what my career should be... I'm happy they don't care! :)
This channel is the only thing left that understand us
@mic mccoy dude wtf? The person said that this channel is the only thing that understands us and here you go crying about politics and trying to separate people.. Just watch the video and go Jezus.
This video is partially true but entirely misguided. Divisive and nihilistic propaganda used to stoke the pilot flames of America’s hopelessness and despair, while disconnecting us further from one another. And it ain’t by accident folks. 🧐
@@Foreallionaire What is wrong with you? Nobody give a shit about the USA.
Always speak for yourself Sam. Also your comment is so intensely dramatic it could become a new high school musical. These vids are super basic and generic in my view.
I recommend the channel Exurb1a
I find comfort in realizing how little my life matters. I can do as I damn well please as long as I don't hurt others. No one cares if I die...that is comforting to me. Like being blessed at birth with the superpower of invisibility. Invisible people can do amazing things. I like it.
Amen.
@Ralvin me too so your not alone anymore
i feel that too, but it makes me immensely sad. I think my reaction is more common.
I feel the same way. I’m pretty anonymous where i’m from, I don’t even have anything to lose. Even though I’m only minding my own business people usually avoid me like the plague, but I don’t care. It’s peaceful.
Well I cried when John Denver died because I wasn’t able to attend any of his concerts . Is I listen to his music more then ever. So we do care and remember those that die . YOU ARE WRONG
Helped me immensely. I always used to panic at what my father would do if he found out my childhood secrets. That I smoked pot, I slept with girls, I cut school etc. I wasn't a great kid, but I wasn't all that bad either. However holding that in with extreme embarrassment eventually turned to shame and it gave me nervous disorder really bad at a young age. I never let him see the real me up until he died. I still do that with certain people and it triggers a lingering thing with me. This is a nice reminder that they don't really care all that much and most of the horrific details that worry me don't really matter.
scary but relieving at the same time. Discomforting yet comforting
Reminds me of one of my favourite quotes...... “You wouldn’t worry about what other people think of you, if you knew how Little they do....
@BWM Well, I don't know anything about your own experience, but isn't it conceivable they think a lot less about you than you may suspect?
I like, "It's none of your business what other people think."
Not everyone has had the childhood experience of devoted and loving parents. Some of us start off being disliked, criticised and unacknowledged. It takes a lifetime to heal, if it ever does.
This is such a good video! Thank you I needed reminding of this.
Thankyou. I have been abused by a narcissistic family for yrs. I am unwell from it and disabled so have to live w/ one. So, I always have someone telling me what a piece of shit I am and how useless I am. This is very heartening. I'm going to copy and paste this link. You have really helped me bc I always think people dislike me.
Keep the faith Queen of the Butterflies
"Don't worry, no one cares." The title is so savage🤣
It's just the truth🤷
@@onlyhuman5669 they care if youre theyre friends if youre just a stranger then they wont care cuz they dont have to deal with any of the stupidity espicially weebs i wouldnt want to have a friend that carries a pillow with a 2d animation girl on it id be called crazy
It felt like a relief to see tbh
So “straight to the point”
Old saying: “You wouldn’t worry about what people thought about you if you knew how little they did.”
That was my lesson in 2021. You really are the main character and no one actually cares as much as you think.
An elegant summary of words but overall it is all about coexisting amongst others we may not know or be accustomed to or even notice. It doesn’t mean we don’t care about one another but that we each have our own roles to play in the lives we live and that our purpose is what should drive us, not what someone else is doing with their life
Have a good day everyone ☀️
Same to you.
You too😊😊
You too!
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Thanks you too!
The only thing people care about is themselves. And that gives us the possibility to live however we want, since others will be too preoccupied about themselves to give a damn about you.
Somebody from TSoL pin this!
And that's a good thing.
If only that was true. While not caring on a deeper level, many people do care about what you do, because it clashes with how they view the world, basically making how you live your life their problem. They dont care about your well being but they care about what you project.
louis Lauzet. Yeah, it depends on worldview to an extent, and how 'loose' or 'tight' your society is.
I rely on that. I have a great life being ever so slightly outrageous, in a kindly fashion.
So true! The world doesn't care if we succeed or fail. Nobody is going to show us the way through life not even the closest people to us.
Strangely I am always studying and consciously dissecting others. I feel like I might be alone in this now that I watch this video. Atleast I hear that overall nobody cares. Now I really feel like I care too much about others and all I can think about is how sad it is that none of them do.
Turned 37 today But just wanted to say this reality gets easier to deal with psychologically as you get older. But you have to accept your reality as is and learn to come to peace with your inner demons that will probably never leave. We are all in this reality together. Let's make the best of it. And strong 💪 fellow viewers.
Nicely said hon
“I don't know what's worse: to not know what you are and be happy, or to become what you've always wanted to be, and feel alone.”
Sameoldfitup how can you be happy if you don’t know “what you are”?
@@AleMaia If you don't know who you are, contentment is an ongoing illusion; check Zen.
Richard Stuefer yeah, that’s what I’m saying. You can’t be happy (and happiness is a very wide concept anyway) if you don’t know who you are.
Thank you for the lesson!!!
*_"You'll worry less about what people think of you when you realise how seldom they do."_* - David Foster Wallace
School of Life: "Don't Worry, Nobody cares" Me: Worries that nobody cares
The beauty in nobody caring, is you don't care about nobody caring. Imagine how many ppl you took for granted in your life, not bc you are bad or wtv but because that is life, my friend, we cannot care about every single person on the planet :)
It's because everyone have their own shits and worries going on in their lives. Your close ones care.
@@SleazyRoseWalker I thrive on reminding myself that.
"In my life, why do I find valuable time from people who don't care if I live or die?"
The Smiths! xD
Oh heaven knows
*give valuable time to people.... ;)
@@chelseapoet3664 doumo
@@jalexseva4190 I'm miserable now...
I was always the caretaker for everyone else (esp my family..core and extended.) At age 55, I became chronically ill and, not only does no one care or offer me help, the still expect ME TO HELP THEM! (I was on a ventilator and the ICU doctors told my family I likely would not suvive.My heart and kidneys were severely damaged, and it has been one health problem after another ever since I mistakenly trusted a doctor I was unfamiliar with. )
It feels liberating that no one cares about you. It means you can do your own thing without being judged as long as it does not affect another person.
Thanks a lot. I've been bullied a lot in my youth and I never thought it really caused anything in my later years but I have started to recognize that it has actually led to a 'below the radar' low self esteem, insecurity and fear of what others might think of me when I do something. It has indeed sparked an incredibly high sense of self-awareness because I had to be careful of every step I took when I was young. Everyone was constantly focusing on me in my childhood, especially the bullies in my class. This has led to me growing up with the feeling that I'm always being watched and it's making my life difficult at times. To add to that, my mother always makes remarks about me, boosting my self-awareness even more. Example: I have a great day, I'm feeling good, totally living in the moment and being a connective human being without too much self-awareness about how I look or come across. The people I run into smile at me, we make good conversations and it all feels supernatural. But then, I drop in at my parents and my mom starts talking about my hair: 'Hmm, your hair looks very greasy from the backside, shouldn't you wash it? You look like a fool.' Now, first of all, my hair doesn't look greasy at all, it's only her not seeing my hair is still a bit damp from the shower I had earlier. But the worst thing is that even though I know it's not true, she has now focused on me and is causing me to fall into some pit where I can only sink lower and lower and when I walk into town I feel increasingly self aware afraid that other people will think my hair looks greasy and I am unable to continue my way through town because it sucks up my energy. I have told her how this makes me feel and what kind of effect it has on me. I cannot completely let it go, it's been a part of me for so long, but I'm working on it. I have ditched friends who made me self aware and I actively throw people out of my life that focus on me specifically when it comes down to small details. But this again is being taken to the extremes for now I am even breaking up friendships with a whole group because a few people commented on my behaviour a few times at moments when I felt super free. For example when I was dancing at a party in a way I want to feel and not caring about how it looks (it looked good though, I'm a good dancer). If people comment on me feeling free and happy, then I do not need them, but I also don't need the people that they hang out with. So it kind of spreads like a cancer and now I'm at the point where I just spend Newyears alone because I'd rather be with myself than be with people who I feel don't care for me feeling good and free. I'm almost 36 now and I hope that this year I learn to connect with others in a healthier way, this video is again a wake up call for me, thanks for all these insights and confirming my thoughts and feelings.
I can relate definitely. I know it might be hard, it's just a suggestion but you could minimise contact with your Mother. Try it for a month and see how you get on. You need to stop putting others before yourself especially if they bring you down, family is no different, in fact I find family to be the worse culprits. You can still love someone from a distance while respecting yourself and your emotional needs. Much love and hugs to you. ❤️🤗
Snork Froken This video is partially true but entirely misguided. Divisive and nihilistic propaganda used to stoke the pilot flames of America’s hopelessness and despair, while disconnecting us further from one another. Unfortunately for us with real empathy and love in our hearts, today’s society is now designed this way. What strangers think of you has no affect on your value or capabilities as a person. 🙏🏼 Be strong and u will attract the light. God bless
I can relate completely. Thank you for sharing.
Marinus I relate, sorry to hear about your struggles. I come from an emotionally, verbally and physically abusive household and was also bullied during my school years and now that I look back I realize it all started at home because they wanted me to be the compliant child for life while catering to their selfish selves, yet out of the house they tried to appear nice and boasting about how much of a ‘great parent’ they were when it couldn’t be far from the truth. This year I’m challenging myself to step out of the shadow and regain my confidence little by little, and am slowly realizing that people don’t care much. Yet, my perfectionism and trauma make me rebound at times... it’s rough but we will little by little make little triumphs that we should be proud of.
Hi. Sorry. Check out the cluster B personality disorders. Those that u described looks like narcissistic people, including parents. My mom is one. I cut off all the toxic ones as much as I can.
Learned to not care when I was 15, and that gives me the peace I needed now
That’s cool you learned that so young! I was about 28 by the time I started to figure it out.
I'm just figuring it out at 18
Actually most people do both notice u and silently judge u, but in 5 min they forgot you ever existed, while you continue to worry for the rest of the day, then u forget too, and u move on to the next irrational worry