Psychopath Vs Sociopath | How To Spot The Difference And Why You Need to Know This
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After our favorite murder documentary was over, my friends and I sat on the couch, taking in all that had happened, before one friend blurted out, "he was clearly a psychopath". “No, he was a sociopath", another friend offered. The argument between the two went on for some time before they looked at me to bring this to an end. Having been trained in psychiatric conditions in med school, I was the bona fide expert in the group. Of course I had heard people use the two terms interchangeably, but I never really stopped to think about how to differentiate them. Do you find yourself wondering what the difference between a psychopath and a sociopath really is?
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I'm reminded of something said by one of my professors years ago that always stuck with me. "A psychopath will kill you for your wallet, and feel no remorse. A sociopath will steal your wallet, and then help you look for it."
I’m definitely the second 🤣
That true I stole money from my boss cuz people always stole from me but wind up feeling bad and paying him back extra and telling him i stole his money he's a nice guy but I just hate people steal from me and don't even care and do what I did take accountability
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as someone who has been diagnosed with Antisocial Personality Disorder (and meets almost all of the criteria for psychopathy - scored a 34 / 40 on the PCL-R), i'd definitely choose pickpocketing / swiping from a purse (and not saying anything) over violent robbery lol but i would feel absolutely no guilt or remorse, so i still fall into the former.
@@mrskulllockHow do people always steal from you? Have you tried doing something?
You told us how to identify a psychopath and a sociopath, but you didn't tell us how to identify a careerpath.
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I've always seen sociopaths and psycopaths as having the same end game but sociopaths are just more emotional about it
It’s a little scary knowing that psychopaths are drawn to jobs that keep us safe.
ASPD is a spectrum. We all have it in us to be one. But the degree varies
Smart psychos become lawyers and CEO dumb ones become cops lol three jobs that all involve basically doing things no normal human being could justify in their minds
As the video said psychopaths are expert manipulators; lairs too. It's about power to them. The thrill of it in wielding it for their own selfish ambitions. The power and authority to arrest people--who would dare challenge them? The power and honor to save them, specially through means of surgery. And the power and lucrativeness in knowing the law to set people's very fate and freedom in their hands. CEOs are indeed sought after because by their callous indifference they can easily make those corporate cut throat decisions that many, if not most of us, would aguishly to make, specially when it comes to profits/corporate interest vs people's lives & jobs. Still, it IS unnerving. I feel you.
That's in 'How To Spot A Psychopath 101', taught in community colleges, but should have been taught to you by your parents.
Thou shall not kill
I want to remind everyone that, even though it’s been 50 years, punk rock or scene kid dress styles doesn’t make your kid antisocial or a psychopath.
But I’m a sociopath and I’m proud
Yeah but rap music makes young black kids tote guns around and it makes teen girls into wh*res....
@user-jw8rr3zy8y You gotta keep the ego hidden like Light Yagami if you're gonna larp. Don't reveal your power level 48 laws of power type shit
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As a sociopath, I can say that this is a pretty accurate description of this condition. In my personal case, I can say that this does not affect my career in any way, on the contrary, to some extent it contributes to it. It can be very difficult for me to control my impulsiveness, although I have learned how to deal with it, a clear daily routine and discipline help a lot with this.
What do you do for a living?
I myself am on both spectrums, swaying back and forth every now and then with a trigger I have not yet identified. However It usually doesn't get in the way, in fact, I often consider my mind to be an advantage in most cases. Though, I do have a problem connecting to people, they are too unpredictable. Even with the same person, one day they will change it up on you. It's because of this I find it better to help people rather than cause harm
@@Zane12ai I understand what you mean, but the fact is that I (and most with a similar condition) do not feel the emotional difference between helping and harming. I consider both actions to be interactions with other people, but nothing more.
In Benedict Cumberbatch's "Sherlock" TV series he describes himself as a "high-functioning sociopath." It sounds like you're pretty self-aware and in control of yourself.
@@edwardkennedy6443I don't understand. Are interactions not supposed to be transactional? Not being a smartass or anything, I've never really understood people. They've always been an unnecessary burden.
Keep in mind that the DSM 5 (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders) written by the American Psychiatric Association does NOT ever mention the term psychopath or sociopath. Any individual seeking insurance reimbursement for mental health treatment in the US must be diagnosed by a mental health professional with one or more diagnoses from this manual. Another words, psychopath and sociopath are laymen's terms and not official diagnoses of the APA. So dictionaries may define them differently, but the psychiatric community does not use or define such terms.
Interesting. Wonder what they do use.
@@monicadaniels784 Probably the closest would be Antisocial personality disorder. That is the one trump has along with also trump having a narcissistic personality disorder. Just sayin'.
@@billklatte7536 Thanks, yes he is the one I had in mind as I looked at this video. Definitely narcissistic, but he also has qualities of what I was using in the term sociopath. In uninformed society, me included, when one uses 'anti social,' it makes one think of someone who shies' away from people. He doesn't, but he definitely seems incapable of empathy.
@billklatte7536 you dont really understand apd do you
@@sdivine13 Thanks for responding. I'm not sure what you mean. Could you clarify for me. Thanks.
I always keep the difference clear by remembering: * A psychopath will lie to you about anything and pretend they care. * A sociopath will not usually lie and make it very clear that they don't care.
Yes exactly Psychopaths are calculated Think the opening scene from Inglorious bastards Hans landa is a psychopath Everything about him is an act
Not really I've done both and I'm not any of them. All these studies are complete bullshit as they all assume we as humans have to live by some code of conduct which we write in to law so that we can control our natural argues. As a result we all get judged by those standards, which we all just copy of one another. But deep down their ain't no standards.
A Psychopath and A Sociopath is kind of the same they also have the Same type of mental behavior
A psychopath does actually care. A sociopath does not. A sociopath lies and is very vindictive, absolutely no feeling.
Psychopaths target a type of people, Sociopaths target a type of society. So to Psychopaths a lie to people doesn't matter as long as a behavior they want is reached. Sociopaths care only by the type of society so lying is precious. To use it timely and wisely is how their lies impact people more. Yet the key part of this is that to be a Psychopath or Sociopath is consistency. Everyone has psychotic or social episodes. Yet if the entirety of their story is like that example a genre then be forewarned
The best explanation ive heard as to why some (most?) people with psychopathic traits never become 'dangerous' (i.e., serial killers) is that genetics loads the gun but the environment pulls the trigger.
As reported in the Niagara Falls Reporter in 2012 - "Mass Shooters are often on Psychiatric Drugs, but this is rarely reported in the Media." Also in 2012, Psychiatrist Allen Francis stated on T.V.: "Psy Drugs cause mass shootings!" Francis was the top player in putting together DSM-4 - since then he has become more comprehensive!
Where in that metaphore does personal responsibility come in?
@@frankconnor4969 It doesn't. With a condition of psychopathy, personal responsibility is to yourself alone.
Some of the issues not explored include the concept of spectrum or tendancies. We could have a sudden explosion of rage at a family or social event, brought on by total frustration; feeling no one understands things from our perspective, panic that we are not in control, that others can't see what they are doing is driving us totally nuts, that the world is in total denial of what we ourselves perceive to be true. The outburst might even risk becoming violent. This might be perceived as sociopathic behaviour, but might only be exhibited once in a blue moon. Would this person be categorised as sociopathic or someone who occasionally exhibits such behaviour? Would not anyone in the same circumstances feel and react the same way? If we commonly behave the same way under the same circumstances why then distinguish it as a separate mental disease? On a separate point, the presentation devoted over three quarters of the time to psychopathy and only a quarter of the time or thereabouts to sociopathy. Did I just admit to feeling hard done by?!
Like pitbulls, Psychopaths can snap and go ape-shit without warning. Like that lawyer Alex Murdock stole millions from his law firm and then killed his wife and son so they wouldn't know about his crimes. Perfectly normal for a psychopath.
I had a ‘friend’ that exhibited traits of both, he slowly destroyed everyone around him over a few years.
Yes, dealing with them right now! Thank you for the information it was very helpful in understanding the behavior.
I had a psychology class back in my school days taught by a person who had a doctorate in psychology. He said the difference in simplest terms was that a sociopath can't differentiate between right and wrong because they think its all just point of view, and in their minds they can rationalize anything they do as to why it was the right thing. A psycho path just doesn't care about right or wrong.
That's very helpful... 👍
I am certain that you have explained this for those who didn't quite get the video or they haven't had to deal with a close family member when they were the child, thank the stars ✨. I feel like this is actually right on. Even compared to my college courses and the textbook descriptions However this was in 1983 and 1984. many 🌙 moons ago
That's very succinct. And it strikes me that the character of Walter White in Breaking Bad, though he can be very strategic, is most likely an impulsive sociopath. He feels empathy and emotions, and is deeply conflicted, but is also highly antisocial and acts on sudden and overwhelmingly powerful emotions regularly.
Given that there's no such thing as a psychopath in psychology, that seems highly unlikely.
I had a similar explanation years ago from a Psychology tutor
Glad to know that psychopaths are drawn to professions like police officers and lawyers. Nice to see such a great chunk of our legal system is in the hands of these people.
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Explains alot.
Goodness leave police alone
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Watching these videos is kind of like googling a stomach ache. In the end you are convinced you have brain cancer even tho for 99.998% its really just a stuck fart.
Thank you for this video. Very useful information since we are surrounded by both kinds out in the world and we need to understand this in order to stay alive and how to help if possible.
This is literally the description of every politician out there today.
Yes, they are attracted to politics like flies to #$*(.
Which one?
You hit the nail on the end. Looking how they treat the populace. Instead of caring for the country and her people, they are finding new ways to fuel and feed their sadism.
Yes they are absolutely a bunch of psychopaths. And if you think about it, it's their job TO BE a psychopath. Not only does it work for them, it's optimal for the job, too!
Was so worried for a moment...thought I was a psychopath but turns out I'm just a sociopath. Thank goodness 😁
Apparently, CEO is a popular occupation for psychopaths, but not politician. You show heavy metal kids depicted as bullies in the pictures. The worst bullies from my high school were kids that didn't even stand out visually. They weren't really outsiders. They were generally part of the "in crowd."
The worst bullies are typically from the “popular” crowd. The silent and friendly till deadly are generally the bullied. Generally.
I noticed that too. Totally unfair. CEOs are the biggest psychopaths.
Exactly
@@bovinityleak2066 what ever is popular changes over time. The "popular" kids at school were awful people and sadly they are having kids. Their parents are most likely also horrendous people.
Yep
Psychopaths will manipulate you, make you feel special, be super charming, charaismatic, seem like a good person but can switch up in an insant and do the most evil things and feel no remorse.
I believe that neither psychopaths nor sociopaths should be allowed to run for office.
We wouldn't have a government
"Your Honor, my client isn't a psychopath. He watched the video by Wellness Lenses, so he CLEARLY would know if he was one."
Thanks Saul
Thank you, Saul
I will advise my attorney to mention this in about 5 hours. I'm getting ready for case to be dismissed
Saul your scamer
When you have to live with one or be close to one, you watch many sources of videos, documentaries and you read books. This remark is callous. So which are you?
I was close with a psychopath. They were a family member. They did not like being a psychopath. They wanted to feel emotions. She knew I loved and cared about her, but she didn’t feel those feelings towards me. She wanted to and hated that she didn’t. So not all psychopaths are evil and enjoy that they can’t connect on an emotional level.
An inability to feel love in general or to feel love for a specific person is not necessarily a symptom of psychopathy. The distinguishing trait is a lack of empathy, pity and guilt.
@pug ASPD is a literal spectrum. You're not capable of just looking at the flat symptoms of any disorder and just go "Oh, this is how they HAVE to behave". Some people with ASPD are entirely aware of their conditions and actively try to improve themselves, as it's an extremely hollow existence.
@pug Yeah that's true. ASPD in general can be mistaken as a lot of things, and a lot of things can be mistaken as ASPD. Certain types of PTSD manifest close to ASPD, same with certain types of autism. That's why going by a textbook definition never works, because a book shows no nuance.
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@@pug7896 No she is my sister I am well aware of her diagnosis. She has an understanding of what an emotion should feel like. She just doesn’t feel them and it bothers her. Like she knows I’m her brother and I do nice things that make her life better. She doesn’t feel gratitude or appreciation, she wants to and even fakes it. She is a wonderful person that got her wiring all screwed up.
My mom is a psychopath. I've never seen her regret anything she did and put herself in the wrong. She is destroying her life and blaming everyone else and there is no way to convince her of this truth. Even the smallest arguments turn her into a blaring rage with her eyes BULGING out in anger against anyone who defies her. Simply checking one of my emails when I was arguing with her made her want to destroy my computer. She will always be a victim in her life, feeling the pain from a narrative that is never true.
Awesome video! Yes I’m dealing with people in my life who exude personality disorders, and having watched this I feel more confident in what I’m dealing with is in closer to narcissists. However this video helped me ha e more clarity on it because APA and NPD can have very similar traits and overlaps especially because of the lack of empathy and compulsive lying or telling the truth because that’s normal behavior, etc.
One of my sisters and her 2 grown daughters are psychopaths. The are very skilled manipulates and they are adapted to lying, even in a court of law. But the overwhelming information this video left out is the narcissism within these individuals and the trail of narcissistic abuse and destruction they leave in their wake. Fortunately for me, I finally made the hard choice and walked away from the three of them. I finally feel free.
one of my sisters is also a psychopath and it is really hard for us in the family. she just doesn't care about the decisions she makes which are all very terrible....
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Psychopathy is completely unrelated to narcissism. You're emotions are showing though, do you have bpd? It would make sense based on your seeming victim complex lol.
Thank you for the clarification. My brother, now deceased, was a sociopath. Born a sensitive child, raised by abusive narcissistic parents, he developed sociopathic characteristics. He learned that might made right and charm protected him from accountability. Only 3 years older, I wasn’t equipped to protect him…
Sounds like me. Any insight. He must have been productive in some way.
@@tggchatfuck dude same here those two principles have cradled me
He seems to have been very good with sincerity - which can be dissimulating!
Lucifer also pretended to be doing good things!@@tggchat
@@tggchat not sure what you mean by productive… he divorced his first wife after she found out he was cheating on her. He proceeded to have one relationship after another with lots of overlap and even stole the wife of his best friend. He was very proud of his ‘accomplishments’ and would manage to lie and charm his way into a new woman’s life without guilt or remorse. He could sell honey to a bee then brag about it. He completely lacked a conscience and seemed to get worse as he aged.
A good video which is right on having worked with both for years. From my experience in the field, sociopaths are much more scattered in their thinking, behavior, and often neglectful of their appearance. And one of the most interesting characteristics I found is that psychopaths have a magnet that seems to draws them together, making them many times far more dangerous.
Thank you, I’ve been listening to this and now can make the educated guess that I am likely one or both of these things. I may look further into this.
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A lack of emotion can also be a symptom of depersonalization, the lingering effect of a trauma, and does not make one a manipulative psychopath.
yep I had depersonalization / derealization for a year and had little to no emotion during that time
it's the lack of empathy, remorse and love towards others, as well complete disrespect for other people, that define a psychopath. not just "lack of emotion" :).
@@mortenovergaard7397 what about a case of someone who loves and cares about his family but doesn't care about what happens to other people?
@WW most people seem to care what happens to others, there are many campaigns about slavery in Africa or using children for hard work in China. I don't care about any of those things as long as it doesn't affect me. Car crash accident that killed few people on radio? It happens, nothing I can do about that
@@PolishGod1234 i would say such a person is cold, and slightly insane.. why wouldn't you care about what happens to other people? people are good. they need to be helped..
I would like to point out that people in the rock/metal community are not bullies. The people I met in that environment have been the most supportive people ever, whereas the bullies I met have been the ones who were desperate to be popular and better than everyone else, putting others down to elevate themselves. I found peace and a sense of comradery in the metal "underground." We were together with our differences and welcomed despite them. I admit I was surprised by the overwhelmingly wholesome people I have met and still call friends today from that environment.
As someone into rock (alt rock and "heavier" rock though cause soft rock and "gentle/slow" rock are not my style at all), I agree!!
@Lulu? I was very pleasantly surprised after my first mosh pit, everyone were so friendly, and we had beers together during the break between bands. Very wholesome crowd, 11/10 would recommend.
agreed
As a lifelong metalhead I fully agree.
Outcasts or people with niche or fringe interests are always welcoming. It can be something good like the music community you mentioned or bad like drug addicts. People that are popular or elite in anyway try to keep their status special by rarely letting anyone in.
This was Great! Thank you!!!
I've definitely worked with a few people that were on the psychopath/sociopath "spectrum". A piece of advice, if you're ever going to have surgery and you think there's a reason for them to "talk" about you while you're under anesthetic, they absolutely will. Ethical OR nurses are in VERY short supply. I urge everyone to NOT put up with healthcare personnel and their increasing lack of professionalism and bedside manner. You have rights as a patient and as a human being.
Wow wish we could talk
Which is more important to you, your FEELINGS or getting the best crew to get you out ALIVE? I don't care about the personal traits of the people who save my life. I CARE greatly about their ability to do so.
I was in a thai hospital admitted with tachycardia. I'm 51 and I was worried about my children at home, I was thinking about not seeing them again. What would life have in store for them. A young nurse said in Thai to the attending doctor "Why are we working on HIM... they were here first ...?" referring to a Thai patient still waiting. I'm lying there thinking "Because .....I'm HAVING A HEART ATTACK , bitch!" Staff need to be so careful with the words they use in front of patients. ESPECIALLY when they don't think they can be understood by the patient.
What would they say about you while you're under anesthetic, anyway? "I don't like the patient's haircut. Loser."
It's scary how many similarities both psychopathy and sociopathy have with any number of neurodiverse conditions.
Yes. Psychopath nearly equals adhd excpt guilt. I thnk they process it later
I was thinking the same thing.. I have AuDHD
@@StainedBrain haha.. God knws. Psychopath way bettr than adhd lol.
@@StainedBrain cause i have it myslf.. Haha
I've got high end Autism. I could hurt someone if i want, i could kill them if i wan or steal from them if i want, i could manipulate people to do whatever i want to. But i just don't want to.
Psychopath: The smartest nerd in the whole school. Sociopath: The quiet kid with anger problems.
Psychopath's are like School Bullie's they look for their victim who is Quiet and different worst still they will manipulate other's to humiliate. They love Drama . The fact a Psychopath Child can manipulate non Psychopath kid's into monster's, meaning there is no innocent people . All and all i'm glad my school days i would never want go back in Class of Horror.
@@DovahBat Human beings are meant to be evil. Just look at our history... evil & wickedness is our nature
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i feel like it's the opposite.
what if i happen to be both of them
thank you for the information, I came because I was wanting to see rather if I was a psychopath or a sociopath and to my conclusion I am a mix of both favoring the psychopath side. thank you very much and if you could have yourself a nice day sir. 😁
My father is a psychopath, it destroyed my life and nearly killed me very young. To this day he has never had to answer for his actions as his planning and discipline when indulging his sadism was thorough. As a child, his child, I had no chance to escape him or defend myself.
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I can relate. My father was a teacher. A shop teacher. He was and still is a liar, cheater, deceiver, and manipulator. He has put his hard earned/stolen money above everything and everyone else and at 80 years old an a wealth of 3 million he is still obsessed with every penny. He lives in filth and watches his children and grandchildren suffer. Any dime he gives us is met with fury and he will relish in feeling victimized. He is responsible for my mother's death She was a rural postal carrier and died in a car accident in duty trying to do her job sitting on passenger side and operating the vehicle. My dad didn't want to spend the money to put the controls on the passenger side. She just started the job after he essentially made her feel she had to. My brother died alone and homeless at 50. Dads money too important!
@@stans144Ditto, same dynamic and destruction. Being the scapegoat I'm glad I got away and can't be found by any of the family flying monkeys since 2 yrs. I'm fighting for my life, sick and alone but at least they have no stronghold on my soul.
Give your life to Jesus and pray that you can forgive. It's for your own health. Don't hold on to bitterness. It will harm you.
Yah sure, cause you said so, so must be True.
My friend is a psychopath, they fit ALL theses categories PERFECTLY, in fact this vid just described my friends whole personality. How do I deal with this? 😭
Find new friends?
Be boring... theres nothing more needed
make sure never to turn your back.
RUN!
Talk to them about it? Might be an interesting topic if they're on the less ill side of the spectrum
This has always been a fascinating topic to me. In hindsight, I understood that a former boss of mine was an undiagnosed psychopath, but by then the circumstances had already driven me into a chronic depression.
I a guy I went to highschool with and was briefly fooled by was a psychopath. He was so good at masking. One day we were at his grand parent's house. He had me head up the stairs to his bedroom first. In the doorway I stopped and turned to look at him and the temperature of the room dropped by like ten degrees and his eyes were absolutely empty. I was terrified. Nothing happened to me thank God but is mask fell hard a few months later. He got a group together like Manson and they lured a dear friend to a secluded park by the river and beat him to death. That takes time and is very personal because every scream and every plea is an OPP to register your failing humanity. After his arrest there were still foolish infatuated girls who tried to say he was innocent and would never. I told them they were delusional and it is absolutely terrifying to be alone with a psychopath when they chose to let the mask slip. I get chills to this day and it so painful to think of how scared and alone Scott felt crying out for help that never came. He was his mother's only baby. He was so kind. He used to wait by choir just to give me a hug and ask about my day. He was like a big brother to me and those monsters will never be forgiven.
What you saw/felt was the true psychopath. The same thing happened to me, minus the friend part. (Sorry for your loss btw). I call them "the kunlungeta". But yeah, that is what they truly are at their core. I don't trust psychopaths or sociopaths anymore. And ever since I "saw" I now have a gift where I can see them everywhere. At least I can avoid them. (Shivers)
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Saw a true crime show like that, except the psycho was killed by his friends
@Buster Crabbe how it was psychopathic and not narcissistic is he was never seeking or needing of the adoration. He simply exploited value placed in his looks and the charming nature he used as his facade. It wasn't until he willfully dropped it for that instance that I knew to run. He without regard or remorse "nudged" a group of malleable "people" into murdering someone one girl had dated, and the others had called a friend at one point. Have you ever looked into Charles Manson's eyes? They are empty voids. James was the name of the guy who did this. He had so many charmed with his easy smile and friendly nature. That is how the real monsters slip by. The point is he didn't need anyone to feed his ego he simply needed tools because that is what everyone was to him.
@@Kageoni187 Don't get me wrong dude what this person did isn't right but you name-calling and most likely expecting people to research these names and the murder scenario make you no better. Kid's life was probably messed up. You have no idea how many people wear masks not just to hide things like psychopathy but also their real feelings about you or your friends or even their relationship between certain people, everyone hides something from someone. Anyway, I hope the mother is alright after what she had to go through.
Shocking that, on average, one in every 100 individuals is a psychopath. Also interesting that just because an individual is a psychopath doesn't by necessity mean that they want to harm others. They may not be able to experience empathy or sympathy, but that doesn't mean that every one of them wants to kill you.
I'm a diagnosed Psychopath and I'm not going to kill anyone, it won't be in my advantage to be in prison. I'm better off working everyday and achieving my goals. And yeah, he is right at least for me I often fake emotions just to get someone to understand me or just be happy to do what I've asked him/her. As for lying I didn't know that other people feel guilty after that I thought it was normal for everyone to just lie and get over with it
Not all psychopaths are criminals. However, psychopathic criminals are especially dangerous, because psychopaths act out their impulses free from inhibition, conscience, or remorse. If a psychopath thinks torturing kittens is funny, they will spend their time doing that, because they only care about fulfilling their "needs" (Lack of inhibition), they don't see why they shouldn't be hurting others (Lack of conscience), and they don't feel sorry even if they're caught in the act and punished (Lack of remorse).
@Tuppoo94 yes, still irrelevant to my claim here. But yes, they are potentially more dangerous
@@coffeetalk924 It's not irrelevant, because it explains why psychopaths need to be identified early in their lives, and brought up carefully. They can be convinced that a life of crime is not in their best interest.
@Tuppoo94 still irrelevant, because my argument wasn't "Hey not all of them want to kill you, THEREFORE WE DON'T NEED TO IDENTIFY THEM." I never even remotely implied such a thing. I simply stated a fact. "Not all of them want to kill you" full stop. That is a fact. So please don't strawman my argument. 😉
These videos are often wrong. But they get some stuff right. Generally they avoid people who might out them but I have experienced quite a few of both. I realized that psychopaths emulate and I appreciate that. They often emulate me and people like me because of the way life perceives us. The way that I can say whatever I no matter how insane I will probably go unnoticed.
Thank you, this helped a lot. I was successfully able to differentiate the personality disorders, thank you.
Dealing with my sociopathic ex again recently has made me appreciate people with empathy like never before. To all of you out there who have and use genuine empathy, I appreciate you.
i hear you on that sentiment. when all you want out of someone is to "square up and be honest with people, show some level of awareness and remorse for what you're CLEARLY DELIBERATELY doing"...... and they physically cannot. it literally causes them pain to do so.
I feel your pain m8. Been there before myself 🙄
Sociopaths if they have empathy, it is genuine because it is very hard for a sociopath but is possible and many will do anything to feel emotions, if they don’t they are probably worse than psychopaths because they don’t give a shit about yelling at the top of their lungs in your face
Amen - bless the heartfelt helpers! 🙏
Hang in there, you'll get through this.
I had a student who was clearly psychopathic, but he may also, on top of that, been psychotic. An extremely disturbing individual. When it finally became clear to me that his weird behavior, his adrenaline addiction (always keeping himself angry in order to maintain an adrenaline high), his heartlessness, his posturing, and his lying weren't going to come to an end, I disattached myself from him as quickly as I could. He tried to separate me from my friends (I have no family), "tried to cut me out of the herd." And his ability to comprehend why others did what they did was badly flawed. I also had another "frie3nd" who was always reading plays, watching movies, and reading books to absorb how others behaved in various situations. She *memorized* GAMES PEOPLE PLAY, and continuously interpreted others' behavior in terms of "games." She seemed pleasant enough until you got to know her, and then her cruelty and her nasty behavior became obvious. As with the first individual, I finally realized I had to get away from her, because she was draining me of all my energy and hope. My adoptive father may have been a psychopath, nonviolent but heartless. My adoptive mother was extremely narcissistic, only praising me or showing affection toward me when she could take credit for my behavior, my talents and other abilities, and so on. Maybe growing up with the two of them is why I was such a magnet for bad people and bullies. So I tend to avoid people now whenever I can. People like that poison everything and everyone they interact with.
Glad you were adopted into a family. So sorry it was with horrible people. Thankfully you dont have a genetic connection to their icky madness and you seem to have risen above. Hugs and kudos.
I am sorry you had to experience a family like that. My family was abusive and yes it gives you complex PTSD and cluster B people can see the neon sign.
⭐⭐⭐Fear for psychopath is a High...
⭐⭐⭐Violence for a psychopath is comfortable for them...
⭐⭐⭐You can be a Serial killer and not be a psychopath...
Thank you so much for the differentiation between the two and the thorough juxtaposition of how the two overlap and are difficult to distinguish.😢
I'm a clinically diagnosed sociopath. I've shown this video to several people, and they have all said that the description you gave was spot on for me as well.
Dont ever own or use a firearm, plz.
@@PolishBehemoth That's silly, because a psychopath doesn't need a firearm to be cruel. Besides, they're easy to build.
@@stevelangstroth5833 true, to be cruel. False, for killing groups of children and other people.
@@PolishBehemoth Then, again.... they sell gasoline on practically every street corner with no questions asked (no background check, sold to everyone 16 or older and no registration and...)
I've been close to quite a few sociopaths, which shouldn't be surprising since some estimate as many as 1 in 5 are sociopaths. It's a tendency you're born with - but not something you can't overcome. My ex fiance was a delightful person to be with, when she was exercising her empathy intentionally, but when she wasn't - well there's a reason she's my ex. I wonder if you could overcome your natural tendency, and by exercising your empathy you could change your default to become 'normal'? Due to neuroplasticity I'm sure that it's possible. Prayer, mindfulness and meditation come to mind.
thank you, I thought as much. but this is good to understand, that my family and church helped me to be a functional psychopath. when I was growing up at six I asked my mom if I was crazy, (I noticed people would do things that did not make sense to me.) my mom said "if you think you are crazy you are not crazy, because you are smart enough to know that it would be crazy to do the thing. If you know you would not like someone to do a thing to you, then you doing it to someone is unfair, and would deserve having it done to you too." I dont know if my mom knew what she was doing, but my core understanding of what to do or what I do, is based in these two things she said to me. would I want that for me? and that person lost something if I had lost something I would want help too. none of these are reflexive, I need to stop and think about how I would be in their shoes, if that thing they want was something that was an important thing to me, even if I dont understand why its important to them
Im both and i feel great! No problems here.
Hello! As an actual, diagnosed Psychopath, I must say it is always nice to see things like this that actually talk about us in a non "They're all evil murderers" light. Sure, I don't really care about anyone I meet, and may seem as though I'm from a different species at times with how I look at the world; but that doesn't mean I (and others like me) can't train or practice forms of mental and social conditioning to help offset our differences.
Couldn't agree more.
If this is psychopathy then your kind is not rare. So many people are like what you described nowadays. They only care about themselves and their loved ones. I'm one of them too
@@sepehradonis6959 you definetly don't know what it is.
@@sepehradonis6959 people want to belong to a group. You’re not a psychopath if you care about only your loved ones. Everyone would be one.
If you really are a psychopath you wouldnt share it with yt😊
How you described sociopaths and psychopaths, I always thought it was the other around. I always thought sociopaths were the calculated, amoral ones who became CEOs, lawyers, and politicians, while psychopaths were the violent ones who are more likely to become criminals
I always heard it as psychopaths are born, sociopaths are made. Robert Hare has written some good books about it.
This was also completely my understanding
@@peachguystone7086 Same, I need another "expert" opinion now...
Given they're not serious clinical terms and are effectively used interchangeably because the only actual difference (that can't be meaningfully verified) has nothing to do with outward behavior and everything to do with etiology of either "condition," you think whatever you want.
@@brianbagnall3029 That's the general belief, but whenever you get around to performing an ethical experiment that's able to totally parse environmental influences from genetic variables, you go ahead and let psychology know so you can collect the first Nobel Prize in history awarded in the field. The ancient "nature vs nurture" debate is as dead as "you only use 10% of your brain."
Your summation required that I know what a "tommy from power" is. Wow. Great explanation. one problem, I have no intention to watch the show.
I used to live in Los Angeles CA area almost my entire life and I have seen psychpaths, sociopaths, schizophrenia, and also dark empaths. And I am very extremely glad that I moved away from Los Angeles CA area and moved to another state.
Thankfully, I got into therapy early (relatively speaking) at 20, diagnosed with sociopathic tendencies that was quickly manifesting to full sociopath from years of being bullied and stepped. I'm now 24, been in therapy since to at least slow it and have better control over it. Still have my moments, but I would not like to know what I would be like without it.
This comment has convinced me I might try raising this concern to a psychologist or psychiatrist because for the longest time I've also been worried about psychopathic tendencies slowly creeping into sociopathy.
I am almost positive id be classified as a sociopath or dark empath but frankly I see things around me that other people don’t and I’m not a bad person to hood people I just am bored most of the time and get angry easily also sadistic tendencies are there I have to fight that urge but I do and it fades eventually 👍
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My psychiatrist a couple yrs back told me a sociopath is just TV talk for psychopath and that it's not actually a diagnosis or medical term. He said any liscensed psychiatrist worth their salt would never use this term bc it simply made up for TV drama.
I'm a sociopath and i somehow managed to teach myself to control my anger without any outside help before even knowing about my condition. I might even have been too successful, because now i find myself letting others step all over me way too often
Having been diagnosed with ASPD and psychopathy, I can attest that it’s a daily struggle. As I’ve grown older, I’ve realized that my manipulative and compulsive lying tendencies don’t foster genuine friendships. In an effort to change, I decided to engage with people more empathetically. Over the years, I’ve made a conscious effort to ask others how they feel, especially when I’m unsure about social cues. It’s challenging-I often wonder if I’m inadvertently saying something abhorrent or being overbearing. However, it’s been about eight years since I last wove a web of lies and manipulation. Now, I have real friends without needing elaborate escape plans. It’s a liberating feeling, even if it means I once deceived someone into bending to my will.
My favourite film psychopath is Wes Chatham as "Amos Burton" in "The Expanse". He knows that he is a psychopath, so he choose a friend he trusted as his moral compass. and if the times need it, he uses his traits for the benefit of the group/humanity. by decision. a strong character, and a completely different framing of psychopathy, that i never had seen before.
One of my favorite characters hehe. No muss no fuss.. just do what needs to be done s the situation calls for it. Am only on season 4 tho.. not sure how far they have gotten yet.. but yeah.. the actor nails it.
see the movie "nightcrawler" for a creepy but prob very real depiction of a corporate psychopath.
Psychopaths make the best friends if you can get them to trust you to show themselves to you. When they do, you have earned a loyal protector for life. Kinda like cats. Maybe that's why we like them so much.
Probably at the end it matters more what actions one takes, then how ones brain is bundled. Amos Burton opened my eyes, that there could be more into psychopathy, than the clishees. As an autist myself (way more into logic, then into emotions, but my empathy exists) i think i probably could communicate with a psychopath on a meta way. but to be a friend one would have to be open with his intentions and clear with his actions. Because most of the "tricks" to manipulate people barely work on people like me, because they mostly attack over the emotional route. Anyway, if i ever meet a psychopath, that is open about that in real life, i wouldnt judge him anymore because of that. We are born how we are born, no faults and guilts with that.
The example you give sounds a lot like the series "Dexter". In the series the main character is a psychopath who works as a forensic blood spatter technician for a homicide unit. His father who was a cop saw he was a psychopath from an early age. While raising him, he mentors and focuses his sons lack of empathy and interest in killing things towards the benefit of humanity by bringing bad criminals (molesters, murderers etc.) to justice who the legal system failed. The ones who got off on technicalities.
I have had to deal with psychopaths, they have no remorse, no empathy, no conscience at all, always right, takes no blame or responsibility for action, always someone's fault. Appreciate you highlighting the difference between the two personality disorder
Sound like biden .denmark
@@hannesrensen9319 No, it sounds like Trump.
Did biden take respobolity sbout the 6 kids he bombede in afgainstan . No he called it a succes . Like he did with the 80 billion he gave afganistan in war material . Only a maniac give atom deal to your enemy Iran . Open border who only benefit mexican cartels . Human trafikkers and drug dealer . How many americsn have died now from fentanol . Vice presidents cannot declass7fy dokuments like presidents can . And bring it home . Biden did And had it in a garage he rentet out to hunter . And now they got a lot of money ? From china and ukraine . For what ? He did not know about hunters business deal in china . But have office with hunter and the brother in china . Liar . You should have followed the burisma case in ukraine court . Then you would se how corupt the biden gang is . He said dont wote for trump he is a warmonger . But never startet a war . How many have biden startet 4 or 5 and now ww 3 . We all know something is wrong in the head of biden . He cannot hold a speach where people 7nderstands what he is saying . He do not know where he is and who his wife is . Why avoid a cognitive test. Only people who had something to hide need censur . Greating grandma denmark
Absolutely a definition on the biden gang
Only US president in 30 years to NOT go to war with another nation is the psychopath ... I'm guessing you're from that wing that's "always right, takes no blame or responsibility for action"@@novelist99
Wow... Very insightful and finally know the difference... Thanks
I would disagree about psychopaths planning everything carefully. Some are ever ready to improvise, completely confident they can talk their way out of anything they didn’t plan for. And it works surprisingly often, because most of us do give people the benefit of the doubt quite a few times before we balk at it.
Sometimes it doesn’t work out at all for them either. Impulsive psychopaths are the quickest to get caught when they commit crimes.
Thank you for giving examples. Knowing parental emotional neglect fosters sociopathic traits explains so much.
Except that’s not true. Sociopaths are all cluster b and there is a huge debate about nurture vs nature. This video is misleading
@Laurel Much evidence supports nurture as largely causal in personality development in general, including sociopathy. Parental emotional neglect is extremely impactful on personality development, the earlier neglect and or abuse, the greater psychological harm.
I'm going to guess that this guy messed around with an INTJ personality and live to regret it. because he's describing an INTJ as a psychopath. There's a major difference between a psychopath and an INTJ personality But you cross a INTJ personality you will not like the outcome.
@@marlak4253 Blaming everything on the parents is so Gen Z. It’s the thing to do and say now. At some point humans need to take responsibility for their own emotions and mental disorders.
@@laurel1865 that isn't going to happen bozo
Thanks a lot. Now i know i am a psychpath, but hurting people is against my moral-codex.
Thank you so much r sharing your information very helpful .👍
Im 29 and a diagnosed sociopath with psychotic tendencies, I was originally diagnosed as borderline, yes when I was younger I was a very violent individual, I’ve done unspeakable things to people that haven’t deserved it, but I would say that deception is a significant part of the disorder, I am unemployable lol but I’m self employed I run a medium size successful business nowadays with 3 employees, it’s sad how people generalise ASP disorders with Hollywood, the truth of it is, it’s a very lonely existence, filled with frustration and determination, it’s like a thirst that can’t be quenched, and I can fully understand how some people can become totally consumed by it and end up becoming serial killers, but.. I would say a substantial amount of people probably have ASPD’s just undiagnosed and they can be functional members of society
I'm glad you can recognize the problem. Sounds like you're healing. Congratulations 🎉
@@wandabanks6756 parenthood changed me, i have me something I’m to worried to lose, I found a good woman that has kinda always been at my side, but it doesn’t go away, it’s actually really hard to describe it from my point of view, I think as I’ve gotten older I’ve become more reclusive limiting the effects I have on others and others have on me, I went through dialectical behavioural therapy a good few years ago that was another thing that helped, but exactly as the guy says on the video, you really can’t help someone that doesn’t wanna be helped, I had a very traumatic childhood, loads of trauma, and when my wife was pregnant with our first child I realised it’s paramount that I get the help I needed so I could be a better role model to my child, as I say parenthood is a significant thing that levelled me out, not to say I still don’t have bad days
I'm proud of you for all the hard work you're doing every day to be the best person you can be. Congratulations on fatherhood!
@@thatroverguy1937 curious - did you believe the mis-diagnosis of borderline, or think it was bullshit? Did the insight you now show come afterwards, or did you know something was different prior to contact with the mental health system and being assessed etc? Cheers.
@@KarmasAbutch when I was diagnosed with BPD, basically when I was 18 I tried to kill someone, as I say it’s no fairytale, consequently I was arrested and had an evaluation and was diagnosed, I was fortunate as I didn’t end up in jail during this period, instead I had a suspended sentence, therapy, a restraining order a fine and a few other bits of punishments provided I stool to the therapy that lasted 2 years, I did acknowledge it either way really at the time, I saw it as a handy excuse if I’m being honest, it was when I got to 20 (about 4 months after my therapy finished) I had a guy try and mug me and I beat him into a comma, consequently I was arrested again I did go to jail for this, but only on remand, as I actually got found guilty of excessive use of self defence, the guy stabbed me 7 times but I beat him so bad that he received brain injuries, it was while I was rotting in a cell and I was again reevaluated, they diagnosed me as sociopathic with psychotic tendencies, and it was then I started to reflect more on who I am and what I was, I was again back out on the streets after a couple of months, I had to pay a victim fine amongst other things, but upon my release I had an almighty party, loads of drugs drink etc, the morning after I took a look at my life and realised how close I came to losing it all, my gf at the time became pregnant and eventually my wife (we have 3 kids now) she stood by me ever since, she wasn’t the drug using type in fact she’s a very well put together person
If only I’d been told 50 years ago that psychopaths are attracted to the Law, I’d have been able to save myself a lot of pain! This explains a lot of what l experienced at the hands of many of my ‘colleagues’.
My goodness - really ?
You never figured out on your own that poorly educated people with self-esteem issues who are given firearms and unqualified immunity are psychopaths? You never ever heard anybody use the term 'pig' when talking about cops???
Police officer? What kind of things have you experienced?
@@totalbliss1Police officers are the number one group of psychopaths. The really bad ones are just Bullies with Uniforms. You will probably be okay if you don't argue or contend with police officers because psychos are always right. You also must remember to ask them for permission to disagree with them. "Don't you think that you are being just a little bit unreasonable?" Tell them that they are doing a fantastic job and you're good to go, possibly even without a ticket.
Lawyers are trained liars. I imagine they're attracted to it because they're good at it.
Having worked in mental health for 25 years and in a multitude of roles, I have worked with people with psychopathy and sociopathy, both. While the sociopaths were more immediately dangerous, the psychopaths were more unnerving.
Thank you for this guide, good to know I’m the latter not the former
I won't lie. I wondered over my childhood years, and to some extent, presently, pondering over why I couldn't physically empathize with others. The only times I ever learned to feel for others was through stories. I only realized something was wrong with me when something dangerous happened in my life and the first thing I wanted to do was to think 'well, at least I got something interesting to tell people now' rather than feel scarred by it. Or when I pushed someone off once as a kid thinking 'well, they didn't get hurt in the cartoon, so they'll be fine if I push them right?" I always wondered if I was either of the two after I first discovered the definitions of either of them. Rationally, I think it would explain a lot of things. Personally, I'm terrified at the thought of being a terrible person. Like, I'm part-ways image/reputation-driven, partly wanting to be able to just be normal, even though the back of my head demands that I should be more reputable. If it were not for the humbler beginnings of growing up, being under a strict household, I would have been twice the monster I think myself to be. Moments after the act, I'd realize I'm dominating the narrative; sometimes, I'd yearn to make people see things my way. I had to learn how to physically empathize rather than to feel for others, and that to me isn't normal. I don't even know what this is innate of me, but I question my sanity every time I can't feel for others physically, to the point where it doesn't feel real until I felt emotions. Sometimes I force myself to feel, knowing if I don't, I'd be seen as uncaring, making me more and more feeling disingenuous. I questioned what is genuine every time I can't feel the emotions. I wondered each time, if I'm faking it to make me look better. Is that a sociopathic trait? I really cannot tell. The worst part is the loneliness that come with this unfeelingness. Because I have no way of knowing if I'm ever going to be able to tell if my attachment to people are genuinely out of love or for my own selfish manipulation.
Blew me away.
@@lookupyourredemptiondrawsn7285 😂😂 foh
You don't feel lonely your just manipulating for sympathy
@@humblewonder3260 But that's the thing. I really don't know nor could I tell the difference if I am manipulative or not. Am I mirroring emotions to make myself feel more human? Or is this what manipulation looks like? I don't know. I have no one to confirm this for me. I never had anyone to tell me otherwise. None to the point, I wonder if that was because I made it look like I was normal. There's more fear in me at the thought of being a terrible person that pushed me to learn how to empathize. Is that sociopathic? Or psychopathic? I put this out there because I don't have people to confirm this with me. I didn't write this post to have others cry for me. I put this out because i wanted to confirm if I am either a psycho or not.
Thank you for putting this feeling into words.
Psychopaths are born. Sociopaths are made.
It should also be noted that just because you exhibit some of the signs of a psychopath or sociopath, does not mean you are one. There are plenty of everyday situations that involve having being "void of emotion" or "not socially active." Or even being career-driven.
We are here dealing with a common group of people with emotional damage resulting in a personality disorder of some kind. It is a spectrum of psychological treats and behavior issues, varying from person to person and from mild to very severe. We call them psychopaths, sociopaths, narcissists, borderline and whatever. It sometimes seems like we are missing to see the forest for the trees, categorizing by differences to groups but missing the point these people are all products of and reacting to mistreatment (including negligence) of some kind - predisposed or not. It sure is beneficial to know the special traits of every separate person to tailor a well suitable curing process. But it still would be much more efficient to prevent these mental damages to occur in the first place. This is achieved by educating every prospective parent to foster their children surrounded by true love - that is attention, approval, affection, nurture and constructive challenges. If a kid grows up surrounded by security and true love, there will hardly be any personality disorders or other mental issues at all.
I had a real sociopathic manager in my first office job. She went out of her way to gather information on people for blackmail or bad mouth them, she put people down and stepped on anyone to get promoted. She took on roles that weremt hers - like punishing people or ordering people around that weren't even in her work group. She was hated. She used fake charm to get you to open up pretending to be interested as your friend, then would subtely slip in a question so she could spread that information around. For example - what did you do at the weekend.. did you smoke weed or do any other drugs? (In a more subtle way than that) then tell everyone you're a junkie. The worst thing she ever did to me was tell me that I wouldn't lose any paid hours if I came in late (I had an important appointment I couldnt move) I was less than 90 mimutes late and nobody even noticed when I did come in, but she decoded to deduct the entire day from me anyway.
I had a sociopathic general manager once. I was running late to work and so the outfit I picked out wasn't the best. The gm who was visiting for the day zeroed in on my ugly shirt because I was new. The look she gave me was one of disgust, like "you're not dressed well enough to work here". To make up for it, I decided to just stay quiet/invisible and work hard all day. She didn't like that and throughout the day, would give me more and more work than anybody else, and reprimanded me that I wasn't working hard enough. (I got pulled into her office, my manager's office, and yelled at in front of my manager and the assistant manager, that I was being lazy all day) When really I worked 6 hrs straight without a break. And only went to the bathroom once. I later found out the sociopath gm told my manager I had been in the bathroom a half an hour playing on my phone (lie). I ended up 3 weeks later quitting because my manager said I could either quit or get fired. (my manager was bff's with the gm) I chose to quit because I wasn't there long enough for employment government assistance, and walked away.
@@specialtwice4975 Wow.. awful managers must be 75% the reason people quit good jobs. Its awful waking up and dreading going to work because of the people. not the work.
sociopath or psyco? sounds like 2nd
Funny how narcissistic socio-psychopathy in authority are so eager & quick to snap the bull-whip of company policies & use it against you, to teach you a lesson!!
Managers think they’re gods.
I actually always thought that my ADHD was comorbid with psychopathy, since I feel little remorse when leaving my relationships in the cold, as I am distant even with closest friends, but then that is also a symptom of ADHD, where those who are not present simply "do not exist" to my brain. With this thorough explanation I have a much better understanding of the two, and also the fact that many of my "unemotional" situations are due to the extremely logic brain the ADHD gives me.
Sounds like a blessing in disguise!! I wish I were a psychopath with no emotions at all, only logic and intelligence.
Being cold to ending relationships is not pyschopathy. Thats a defense mechanism. Now if you found actual joy in ending those relationships knowing you are causing pain, very different.
Thank you for this
Yea it is hard when you are disassociating with ADHD to not feel like a psychopath because everyone else's emotional responses feels so distant from all the thoughts you are focusing on
Is it terrible that I'm a hospital nurse and most days I wonder if I'm actually dead inside edit: hospice nurse not hispital
I feel like they are on a spectrum of self and ego. As the person looses touch with empathy, learned or otherwise, they move down the spectrum from sociopathy to psychopathy into the backdoor of the spectrum to learned empathy. I also feel that the sociopath is the dumbed down version of the psychopath; looking to lash out at everyone. Either way they come from the misunderstanding of trust when it comes to experiencing true evil, greater than themselves. The definition I adopted was, a psychopath is focused on a target; while a sociopath is focused on the disgruntled feeling for an aspect of society.
Act accordingly
The thing that frightens me most is the fact that these things are not being taught, and murderers like Ted Bundy are idolised by people who don’t understand the truth…our society places more favour on looks and charisma than good behaviour. We need to get beyond the media cliches and stereotypes and learn about these conditions, and how to react in tricky situations with people we meet who show these traits, then we will live in a much safer world. I have a family member who is a highly functioning sociopath. They’re doing well, because it was diagnosed, and we learned how to understand them, and understanding is the key. Thank you for this!
pretty much all the people in positions of power would fall into one of these categories so that influences society deeply, including in regard to the teaching of these archetypes
@@MrWhitePerson absolutely. Which is even more concerning, and very much a reason for education. And self education is something I really encourage in my kids. We’re living alongside so many people who fall into these categories. We need to know how to be safe.
I’ve been diagnosed with BPD for 10 years now, and i’ve had 8 severe head injuries in my life, a couple with inter-cranial bleeding and swelling. the last one was in mid 2019 and really fucked me up. i had to relearn a lot of things, and one of the biggest problems was it threw my emotional control completely out of the windows and i was in psychosis for over a year after. i got my mind back piece by piece and at the end of it, i feel like my personality and emotional spectrum are much flatter. i used to have a destructively strong sense of empathy that i couldn’t turn off, now i have a switch i can’t always turn on. same with other emotions. i don’t hurt nearly as bad as i used to emotionally, but i’m never as happy and i feel more detached from others than ever. and while therapy definitely helped me get a lot of the impulsive behaviors and fear under control, now i’m left with over-control problems and rage. as much as i struggle with the things that have changed, honestly everything’s still better now. i’m accepting the journey more now than ever.
wear a fucken helmet even when you go to bed
Bill Hicks will always give me a good laugh if i'm really pissed, remember this is just a ride
You're not alone, man. BPD can be an absolute bitch. It's like being the driver and backseat passenger at the same time. I'm a very caring person normally, but I was prone to psychotic/sociopathic episodes before I was diagnosed and treated. I still disconnect from reality occasionally, but it's nothing like it was.
Psychopath or sociopath behavior ? - I purposely get caught doing bad things that have little consequences, when asked about it I lie, but I smile when I lie, this makes the person believe that whenever I lie I smile, so whenever I do something really bad and say that I didn't do it, I have a straight face, so they believe I'm telling the truth, because if I was lying then I would be smiling.
i came here to learn how to spot a psychopath/sociopath, now im not sure if im not one :3
prolly not
*_Some of us do not have Netflix nor have even heard of Tommy. A very long time was spent describing psychopaths and about a fifth of the time describing sociopaths. Why? While we are supposed to be learning the difference between the two, they are not actually compared. A huge big long list of the traits of psychopaths is followed by a list describing sociopaths and we are expected to remember what was said about psychopaths instead of comparing and contrasting traits between the two one at a time. In other words, I did not learn the distinction._*
A psychopath doesn't care and a sociopath can't differentiate. A psychopath has no remorse and a sociopath does.
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I’ve dealt with both. Avoid psyhopaths at all cost. Feeling sympathy is something they know you’re doing and will take advantage of you. It’s hard but the only way to deal with either of these is to cut your emotions off from them completely which means some what becoming one. It’s better to do this than have them change you into one of them from too many interactions.
Not all psychopaths are malicious, don't generalize a mental disorder just because they wouldn't feel bad about ending your life doesn't mean they necessarily want to cause you harm they don't have the same type of emotions as you
@@dommysprite3771 you are very naive...
@@capitcha Let us be glad you are in no position to pass judgment on others. Nor a position in which your opinion online holds any worth.
I believe the statistic is about 1 in 10 men with women being understudied per usual but most people with ASPD are functional in society and barely noticeable to the untrained/inexperienced. This just to back up the claim of @dommysprite3771
@@simplyresharkable why do u talk like that
Oh so everybody in Boston
Is there a psychopath who isn't prideful? As you said, they lie to make themselves look better and chase rewards. Could there be one out there that doesn't bother because they're full of nihilism?
I was diagnosed with aspd as a kid, made to go to counseling and anger management for a year but my counselor told me flat out I was a psychopath, not even conduct misbehavior, though this was the early 90s. But I know they were wrong. The entire reason I was in that place was because I was tired of being bullied for years and finally stood up for myself. Prior I didn't care because my home life was worse but I only realized it got worse and worse with time, they got too used to talking to me and treating me like shit and when it went to physical bullying I didn't snap per se, I just knew i needed to deal with it. I wasn't angry at all. I didn't resent them for it. It was purely practical. I got expelled from school and one of the kids mom's tried to sue me and my family. But in court when the truth came out I was reinstated into school and even though the judge told the kids mom she was lucky my family wasn't suing them instead he still forced me into counseling and anger management. Since I was a kid though the diagnosis didn't go on my record. In truth I nearly killed one kid. Fractured his skull and gave him several deep lacerations from banging his head into the concrete floor. In reality I'm a mix between autism, psychopathy, and sociopathy. I have traits from them all. I was born like this but my environment influenced me to prioritize myself. I dislike lying even if it's for good, because lies are easily uncovered down the road. It has nothing to do with guilt, because lying in the first place is ego oriented. Empathy and apathy. I have emotions and feel them like the next person does, I just don't let them influence my decisions. I try to think about things logically and rationally. I was also raised by my grandparents without a mother or father figure with all my cousins around because my grandparents was basically an orphanage for their grandkids. I was physically and sexually abused from a young age and mentally as well. Spoken about like the apple of someone's eye while in public but treated like a burden or a tool in private. Either way the difference between them is just the argument one was born and the other made. I wasn't born violent or hateful, but I did realize from an early age the contradictions and hypocrisy of human nature. I still don't consider myself violent or hateful either, truth is I don't care enough about anyone to hate them. Pure and simple. Emotions make you weak and easy to control. Slaves to our whims. Most consider me sneaky, creepy, too judgemental or an asshole because "you have too high of standards!" In reality I don't, you just have no standards at all. People are tedious and liars, lying to themselves the most out of anyone. All we care about is ourselves. How we appear in others eyes. Believing our own narratives regardless of what reality is showing. We have higher expectations on others than we do for ourselves. We fault others for not being knowledgeable enough, for not having foresight, awareness, dedication, and even in some cases fault them for not being psychic. But where's that same level of self expectations? Why are we so quick to judge and to try and label others but immediately get pissed when it happens to us? It's unfair, isnt it? The lengths we will go to to lie to ourselves are the real mental illness. We are just a product, both in the sense that we are made by our surroundings and societal expectations but also because we market ourselves to make a living. At least, we are supposed to. Humanity is a resource and has always been. So we delude ourselves into convincing ourselves we are different or unique. Have the superior genetics or traits, are the originals while everyone else is just fake. And we distract ourselves in anyway we can to avoid acknowledging that life is cruel and unfair, because we all eventually realize it's better off happening to someone else instead of me personally. Another lie, the copium isn't based on sense. It was always emotions that have shackled us, and always another person like us holding the leash and using that as a tool for their own gain. It's easier to believe our own narratives instead of stopping and taking in the truth of our reality. Escapism is the only way life becomes pleasurable.
Damn there's a lot there man, best of luck to you and I hope you find fulfillment and happiness someday. While you didn't ask, you do sound more sociopathic than psychopathic to me from your various takes on life.
@@lukenawrocki5042 I romanticize violence as much as the next person, think it's admirable if it's done for a just cause. The issue is I know anything can seem just with the right circumstances. But really no matter how you justify it violence is still violence. In an ideal world there would be no need for it, but ideals are just as romanticized and further a product of society. Ignoring all the death, murder, violence in nature only leaves one blinded. I think what I did that day was a moment of weakness, but a necessary one, because despite years of bullying, it stopped once I responded in kind with more force. Same with the abuse I was suffering at home. The only way you get people to stop abusing you and to leave you alone is you scare them with threat of death, and make sure they know it isn't some idle threat. They might laugh about it at first but I've learned if you can't even respect yourself, no one else will. Though I think I'm a bit of both, a psychopath and sociopath.. I truly was born feeling detached from my emotions. It's allowed me a certain level of clarity from a young age that I don't think most experience at first. I could go into more detail but I think this is already dark enough subject wise... No need to scar people online. I do think I was born with a critical eye, I just never made efforts to communicate with others because I felt like it was pointless. I didn't have the love of parents growing up and I know it had a large part in me shutting down emotionally, plus with little to no self esteem or self value, I never felt like i could make a difference in anyone else's life because I already realized the little contradictions within us all was just hypocrisy and ignorance, but even trying to tell someone this does nothing but make them angry with you. No one likes a person who points out their flaws, apparently, because they feel like they are being judged and labelled and take it like you are pretending to be better than them. In reality it's because I can relate and empathize with them that I'm able to see it.. still, my life just further desensitized me and made me cynical, distraught even, depressed with the grim outlook that is our shared existence. A nihilist and pessimist through and through. But not without reason. Honestly, happiness is impossible for me. I'm better off alone and immersing myself in work or something else that keeps my mind distracted from the trauma that is my memories. I don't resent it, though I, like everyone else probably would, would like to go back and change things if given the chance, but the reality is I've been suicidal since I was 12 years old and in the 21 years since then nothing has changed. I got older, uglier, a little more seasoned with greys and experience, but I've come to terms with the gaping wound within me. Nothing can fulfill it. I'm okay with that, because unlike most I don't need others to make me feel validated. I want love and acceptance as much as the next person, I just can't sell my dignity to get it. And unfortunately that's always the price I've been asked to pay. I thought one day I might love myself and then find true love and be happy, but it's a pipe dream. Nothing I do will ever be good enough. They say a person is shaped by nature and nurture, but what happens when nature always oppresses them and nurture was never an option? Cringey, I know, pathetic even. I bet I sound like a spoiled brat who's ungrateful for my squandered opportunities in life. A good foot in the ass and a push in the right direction and I would've turned out fine, no? 😂 Sadly no one has ever cared about me enough to see me as anything other than an object or a tool for their own ends. No platform to launch from, just the punching bag for layers of toxic relationships that don't even give the typical benefits. Don't sweat it though, I long for the release of the void because I know then I will be free and happy. From my experiences, life after death will be a nightmare. My happiness lies in my misanthropy. I just find it a little weird how I check 90% of all these boxes but never fully fit into one of them? Aside from psychopathy and sociopathy, nihilism is the belief nothing matters and is all pointless, with an general distaste for life and its rules itself. I do think it's pointless but insofar as I know we have to be the ones to assign its value. Same with misanthropy, an loner who secludes him or herself because they hate the world and people around them. Except, I don't hate anyone. Not even myself anymore. I just don't have that energy inside of me. The rest fits but I truly don't hate people unless you give me a reason to, and even then I dislike it because hating someone insinuates you care somewhat about them. Or did at one point. I don't have that in me either. I'm just broken, really. And I know it. I don't even want to fix it, wouldn't know where to start even if I wanted to try. Because what my issue is is a lot more deep-seated than ego or resentment. I appreciate the sentiment though, but I suppose I'm as happy as I'm ever going to be. I've been waiting for my life to start in a sense but I've only wasted it. I've needed a reason, something to motivate me to want to be better but no matter what happens or comes my way, I just want to shut down and forget it. Because I fully realize now that all the shit people in my life weren't just coincidence. I'm as much at fault as the next person is for my inability to show my emotions. The thing is everytime I've done so in the past, let my emotions take over and dictate my actions, i see myself becoming the thing I always told myself I would never be. Vindictive, jealous, egotistical, vain, cynical, and judgemental. I see my humanity and I'm disgusted by it. I wish I could be different, unique, or special, but I'm not different than anyone else. Aside from maybe being a little more self aware than typical. I'm genuinely scared of who I might be if I allow myself to be happy and motivated. If I had money and respect I would just abuse it and corrupt it. I know me all too well, my character and inner demons. I would be no different than those already in power and control, because unlike most, I know the monsters and evil exists within us all, aren't some separate and alien entities. Either way I'm done rambling and ranting. I appreciate your thoughts and wishes but you're better off saving them for someone who can actually make use of them. I'm beyond redemption, I've already made my bed. Now I just want to lay in it.
Uh oh😂 cool kid here. You are a joke 😂
@@darkerdaemon7794 bro wtf is wrong with u
@@Abc123tyuas I do believe I already mentioned all that, the fundamentals of it at least.
There are some things everyone should know, this is not the way to tell. 1.) You can not state that all of those positions are the only ones that hold these two types of diagnosis. 2.) This is labeling "all" people who hold these occupations are potentially diagnosed as such. 3.) One must understand human behavior before going and stereotyping people. 4.) It's impossible to give an honest and truthful opinion on any person from just a couple questions and while in a uncomfortable and purposefully peer pressured environment. 5.) Those were the wrong questions. 6.) There's plenty more.... But PLEASE REMEMBER..... that "Don't judge a book by its cover" You never know what a person is going through, so if we all go by the "✨Golden Rule✨" Speak and treat every person the way you want them to speak or treat you.... So... BEFORE YOU SAY OR DO ANYTHING•••Think••• would I want them to speak or treat me like that?? If your answer is no, DONT DO IT!! It's quite simple.
Very interesting, maybe you can tackle the distinctions among anti social personality, introverted and lone wolf types
At 70, I've met quite a few people during my lifetime and hearing these traits, I'm almost certain I've encountered more than one of these people. Even without knowing these symtoms, I've almost always instinctively made a point of steering clear of these people. It's interesting to note that many have been successful in their careers (doctors and lawyers!), unfortunately, many times at the expense of others, who they find expendable.
@Hello there, how are you doing this blessed day?
because they are created social media, education, entertainment and the news make them. the older generation was right all along.
Exactly lawyer's have a tendency.
@@edithbannerman4 fine and you, how you doin'?
@@paulafulner2559 Great how’s your day going and what’re you up to?
One of my professors describe two types of psychopaths those that get things done and those that do things. The group that gets things done includes your CEOs, entrepreneurs, etc. They have channel their psychological traits to a mostly positive direction. The group that do things are the ones who have channeled their psychological traits into a negative direction manipulating others in a devastating way. CEOs can also do this, but it is usually tempered within the realm of their aspirations at job advancement. The others manipulate you for a cup of water.
It is just like companies that have a standard "hire, use, fire" policy!! Forget it you will never get seniority & build yourself up because the highest ups are the only ones that will long-term benefit & they only want the 'most experienced workers'' to be hired!! Also they get high & a kick out of being ruthless & cruel to the common little-folk!! Also they can get angry in a jiffy like gasoline burning!!
I remember a saying, " Not all psychopaths are serial killers, but all serial killers are psychopaths " Don't remember where from, but it struck me as a good rule of thumb for the definition.
Thanks for the video. I’m a retired Mental Health Therapist. I absolutely LOVED my chosen career. I did have to retire early on a medical after going blind. Though I haven’t worked since 08, I still try to keep up on my skills. Yes I still study from the DSM. I have a few friends who still practice as Counselors. I recently met a young man who has completed his intern and no longer has to be supervised by a PhD. He still asks me questions when he is unsure of how to counsel any one of his particular clients. I enjoy him “picking my brain”, as I too learn from him in his technique’s. I’ve subscribed to this podcast as I still want to keep my mind sharp. From time to time I still counsel others, but only as a non paid Counselor / Mentor.
@Hello there, how are you doing this blessed day?
Thank you for continuing to help others in their healing journeys. 🙏
How do you write comments while blind?
@@lilvro7016 The computer has a program in which you speak to the computer and it types whatever you say
I have been suffering with a psychopath for decades now. Once they have you, they really have you and they are not going to let you go or leave you alone. They are hauntingly possessed beings and that is their attitude toward their prey, one becomes their possession, their property they can do as they wish. They are figuratively and literally what nightmares are made of, only differences is one can awaken from a nightmare one can not awaken from these monsters. Beware, be educated because no human being could wish to become enmeshed with these vicious predators.
Sadly, my son’s father. Thankfully, he’s not a part.
I can relate. Please pray for me
You're talking about them as if they were monsters. They're sick people, who deserve as much help as they can get.
@@yasininn76 Easy to say when you're not suffering life long trauma from their monstrous acts, knowing they truly, profoundly, don't give a F.
@@yasininn76 They still have evil intentions and they are manipulative as hell
My father is a narcissistic sociopath (clinicly diagnosed). Its a very difficult thing to deal with as a kid. At home a monster, to the rest of the world a saint. They find it easy to justify the abuse they cause, and refuse to take responsibility for the things they do to the people i lm their lives no matter what. EVERYTHING they do, even for other people, is for themselves. When it does come to them admitting their wrongs the do it in a way that they dont fully admit any wrong. The most frustrating thing is that in their work life they will fool everyone into believing they are good hearted people, while those in his family see a totally different person and feel disdain when people compliment them as a "good person". Luckily m father was able to make aome changes, but i can still see the lingerring affect of his sociopathy. If t was ever told to me that my father was a serial killer, I would not be the least bit surprised. At times, I expected it.
Dr.les Carter is my life line to cope with a narcissist. I recommend him because he is the best. Sorry to read your situation, I understand it and know how difficult it is to have a narcissist in the family.
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"Sociopathy" isn't a real thing. He'd be diagnosed with ASPD(Anti-social Personality Disorder).
I understand your pain, my father was diagnosed as a sadistic psychopath and my mother as a narcisistic borderline... Especially those who aren't aware that there is something wrong with them will hurt beyond believe... But still a person isn't a disorder there is a free will... Sorry you experienced so much pain 🌺
The last video I watched was about social effects of capitalism and I mentioned that it relies on apology gifts. This is that too. The normal some fools want to get back to makes people that way. I really am the person with ten years of college, living in a van down by the river. Y'all are nucking futz.
As I think of it a lil deeper Psychopathy/Sociopathy is very similar in behavior to Autism and ADHD combined for people who don't know what ASPD is, for example some Autistic/ADHD/Both people may be confused with Psychopaths and vice versa by others, especially when you have Alexithymia and low self-esteem that causes you to be an overachiever and everyone's favorite person, basically "a perfect child" As someone who studied psychology I can tell the difference because they're not that similar but to those who live by stereotypes it's basically the same thing
Idk if this is just another variation of that thing where people look up symptoms of a sickness online and get convinced that they're dying, but now I'm just convinced that I'm a sociopath or some shit.
Thank you for clearing that up for me though!
Perfect. As I have always suspected. Social media is creating Sociopaths in our communities.
Social, feminism, capitalism, fascism, nazism, religions, courts and police... all the same sh!t.
Psychopath? ^^^ Or sociopath?
FACT!!! Being a proper Psycho requires logic and planning instead of compulsive reaction.........
@@theangryquad3127 I actually think most of these movements are spearheaded by vile psychopaths who have recruited a wide variety of personality disordered people to their cause. Mostly narcissists and borderlines who are either personally invested or are caught up believing they are doing something meaningful with their pain.
Perhaps: Jacobin activists via the schools and media!
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes, dr.sporessss. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Is he on instagram?
Yes he is. dr.sporessss
Good thing I have none of that expected general medical problems
my experience in reading mental health journals has been that every two years or so they swap definitions between the two. then every three years or so they throw in a new term, like disassociative personality disorder. as a former law officer i have found the best way to "differentiate" between them is to note their degree of antisocial activity and act accordingly. to put it crudely, some of them are just plain nuts and some of them are just plain a--holes.
Very informative and helpful Thank you The seemingly benign details about psychopathy like the ADHD type attention span and dopamine drive along with the very detailed planning to get away with bad behavior makes a lot of sense and shows a good contrast to more impulsive sociopathy. I would also add that these conditions alone do not necessarily mean a person will do harm to others but we shouldn’t minimize the risk when someone exhibits dangerous behaviors.
I grew up in a "transitional" inner-city neighborhood. Many enriching experiences, but also developed a good sense of danger. There have been a few instances over the many years when I picked up .... vibes?... from a stranger. Being an inner-city kid I dealt with all sorts of people. I recognized the "dead" eyes and odd facial and body movements as dangerous. Cross the street, retrace my steps... and run... to a safe place, never ever ignore my gut instincts. I have had those experiences only a few times, (thank god) but quickly assessing the situation and acting on it is part of my DNA. That's why it is important to teach children how to judge others, especially adults, and the signs of danger. I used to tell my son if ... god forbid... we got separated in a store or mall, go to a mother with children or a store clerk for help. Fortunately that never happened, but children need to know what to do in challenging situations.
There's that word again, feelings.