THIS is How Your Lack Of Self-Awareness is Messing You Up.
2023 ж. 24 Қаз.
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Jocko is the internets dad
He is Everybody’s Dad. (Will sasso)
Lol nice
I'm learning
Hahahaha.
True ...much respect
When dealing with addiction, awareness plays one of the biggest roles towards your path to freedom. Many people want to 'quit' an addiction, but they are not yet aware as to WHY they actually want to quit. People don't quit doing something because they want to. They only quit once their mind is ready.
Yep! I totally agree and being aware of why we get addicted to something.
That's well said! We are often also not aware of WHY we are addicted in the first place.
Honestly being a little unaware is probably better for your mental health than being overly aware. You become inhibited and too inward looking.
Jocko should check his water cause the videos have really changed the past few years lol and tho he doesn't talk politics he often comes across as left leaning in how he goes about using manipulation in his daily life
@@jeremybrimmer1990 dude I've never gotten even a hint of left leaning politics from him... He has outright said a few interviews too that he's definitely on the right.
@@dbearden3232 I said specifically the way he uses manipulation in his daily life. It's one thing to mess with a military team, it's another to do it to shoppers, commuters, and tax payers. I listened to jocko more after his Ted talk and thought he was very forward. There is also "Good" video by Akira the Don which resonates with me. Maybe I'm just getting old, when I see jocko taking advantage of people and grinning about it?
Or just admit you're not a good person, repent and work hard to be an honest and better person.
@@jeremybrimmer1990How exactly is Jocko manipulating people?
I can't even express how true this is...
Type a yootoob cooment about it bud
That's why he did
Jocko needs to lead our country!
As someone diagnosed with autism I had to learn to not be my own type or friend. I can’t use my own sensitivities as a guideline for other people. If I have to constrain myself and my behaviour to my own sensory processing I won’t get anything in life. I’ll just stay too quiet. But that also requires me to “brain” myself trough social situations instead of being intuitive and that’s severely exhausting.
If possible, can you explain what you mean by your “braining” yourself and that’s extremely exaggerating to effectively communicate to others?
Be authentically who you are and you will find people who love you for you. Growing up with racism, I was told that who I was born as is wrong and there is a right way to be. I was taught to be who others wanted, and to disregard who I am. I had to relearn who I was, and, in the process, learned that other people did not know who they were. Therefore, I was told who to be by people who did not even know themselves, because it made them feel better about themselves.
@@carolynenochs9139 “Exaggerating” was a typo. I meant “exhausting” Autocorrect screwed me over without me noticing🤦♂️ it’s fixed… I think people who are neuro-typical and extroverted don’t need to “be in their head” that much because their natural impulses are attuned to people. For us autistic people we have to fight our natural impulses and act in social situations. It also requires me to be louder and more outgoing than I would like to be around myself. That’s what I meant to “not be my own type or friend”.
I get what you mean and it took me a long time to understand but as long as you want to have an equal experiences between people, you'll fail because everybody has different expectations from friendships. You can't copy the intuition of other people, you have to figure out your own social intuition
100% agree. Social situations are exhausting so I try to avoid them.
A lack of self awareness can make others interact with you in the way that you want, but completely unaware that that conditioning is not allowing the truth of them to come forward. Like a father that tells his kids or wife that their feelings are invalid, but then is surprised when he finds they’re depressed and anxious due to suppression and lack of support. His lack of self awareness would tell him it’s their problem for not expressing themselves the way he easily can and is completely unaware that his reaction to their truth makes them not say anything, and is ruining their trust. Narcissists do this a lot.
There's a concept in social psychology called deindividuation. It refers to the loss of self awareness especially when you're part of a group that promotes conforming to their norms, and it can lead to people behaving in ways they never would consider individually, and often increased disregard for how they would be individually evaluated. When people identify themselves as part of a group or even as anonymous, you tend to lose your self-awareness and become more of a social robot than an individual with values.
To add to the conversation as well.. you don’t need to ask for credit from ANYONE EVER!! Just put your head down and to the RIGHT thing and have the RIGHT intent .. people are always looking and always talking .. even if you don’t notice .. THEY notice .. it will come out eventually. And it will be WELL worth the wait
Can confirm
Some people completely throw me off and I almost immediately lose my cool and self-awareness.
It took an incredible amount of self confidence to self publish that thumbnail. Well done.
I really needed this one Jocko. Thanks brother.
Love this vid. Jocko , thanks for being an amazing life coach
this is crucial. Finding out if your intent is good for everyone. Not as easy as it sounds; but possible.
Demanding empathy erodes the essence of empathy itself
I love that you're still putting out good messages and content. To add to the promotion part: doing good work with good intentions usually doesn't get you promoted. In corporate America, it's not a meritocracy, it's nepotism and power moves. Make people look good, and you'll be in their hushed conversations.
I think that has to be taken into account as well.
"Be a good human" - Jocko This is stoic.
Thank you Jocko 🖤⚡️🖤
I really appreciate this advice. Examine yourself and be authentic. Team first👍🏻
I really liked this because I'm constantly questioning my level of self-awareness. It's a thinker for sure
There is a balance to everything. Low self awareness leads to reckless behavior of all manners, but super high levels of self awareness can lead to overanalyzing every situation which is anxiety inducing and can be debilitating.
The first time just listening you guys. It’s so informative and the same time easy to understand even if English is my second language.
Yea, my intentions have not always been good. Like the other guy said, sometimes it feels like I always do, but a part of me does want credit sometimes.
Make the intention clear. Solid.
I think one of the few ways you can get credit, for some thing would be letting someone know about the life experiences and the things you learned from them. May not necessarily sound like bragging, Once they know all the hard work you had to put in to accomplish it. However, it should kind of apply to the situation at hand not just random topics spewed out. Being the person to help someone learn something faster than you had to,is the credit that you should be getting from it from yourself.
Great advise for keeping yourself straight and confident. But being good all the time will get you stepped on, because that is easily seen too
Sounds like sound live advice to me. Thanks uncle Jocko.
Dichotomy: Too much self awareness (introspection) when people act like jerks to us and we ask ourselves "Was I being a jerk to them? Did they misinterpret my actions? Did I offend them somehow? Did I do something wrong?"
Thats self analyzing, not awareness😉
I think it is the doubt regarding what’s right that is the problem. If you objectify your vision of yourself and others by using a standard (for example religion), you don’t automatically get doubt.
Thanks dude
Waves were looking good at San Onofre/Trussels Jocko, south swell is picking up! 🌊 Hope to see you in the water someday. God bless gentlemen.
Such a good topic.
Well done here Sir
Im sure that most people cannot feel or know my intentions. Sometimes I dont know my intentions because I cant be intentional about every little thing in my life. I wish people could read each other's minds - that would be awesome, but it is not possible. If someone thinks he knows someone's intentions , he runs into risk of misunderstanding people
Wow alright I smell your intent real strong. Very nice to cut the video off like that saying if you want to watch the rest then you have to pay $8 ... Thanks for the message
Its my brain, but after battling a deep addiction. Intention is where all of our problems come, especially when people deny their own selves
It goes both ways guys. I have been diagnosed with hyper awareness and its fucking brutal. Extremely depressing living your life without any working copes. You know those little lies you tell yourself to help your self confidence? Yah, i dont do that. My inhibitions are so extraordinarily high that i dont do anything remotely fun or interesting. I weigh the risks and rewards in every single action i take in life. People hate hanging out with me because of this. They say im too logical and have the personality of a cardboard box. I wish i could have a little less self awareness tbh. I think it would help with my depression and anxiety. I wish my IQ was 20 points lower so i didnt have to live my life like this.
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Listen to me Jocky, the BIGGEST PROBLEM IS lack of self esteem.
Pure gold
You know when the podcast is made for you when they call you out and use YOUR NAME specifically. Thankyou it’s the message I needed to hear.
You welcome Fred
My Sgt Major used to ask us 'are you switched on'. Or when we obviously were not the NCO's under him would all say 'switch on!'.
Great clip. Learned a lot. Very wise. Thanks boys
Roger that.
Alot of this woukd have applied in a tine ehen adults were running things and passing the torch. Nowadays i see leaders, management, etc who have no self awareness.
I thought this was a stand up routine for a second (because of the thumbnail) and got excited
I can think of at least one moment where boasting endowed greater credit. Alexander the Great and the little piece he dropped called the greatest speech in history.
Many if not most operate from a place of ego. When ego is in charge self awareness is impossible.
Isn't that the truth. Either offensive a man or woman , take Accountability for your actions.
Great dialogue
13:41 “I’m just talking about the non-murdering psychopaths.” -Jocko
Here's what I *LOVE/RESPECT* most about this Distinction: When Uncle Jock mentioned what *other* people are thinking, imo/e, he already (ipso~Facto) covered Echo's (salient &, 'ah~huh... cough cough... *intent* rich point). Sometimes (or even, more often than not), intent doesn't matter; someone else's mood/state does. We recall a/the quote, from/allegedly attributed to-thank God, for Google, the Eloquent; Maya Angelou: "I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will *never* forget, how you made them *feel."* So, if I understand this correctly, it is my lack of Authentic Self Awareness (of Intent... i.e. *"My* Achievement" or *"Their/Everyone's* improved mood/state?" 🤔), which is the root of all the Chaos in my present life. 🤔 And my intent, is to be sure I *fully* understand this. Cuz right now? We lo key hela *FUBARD* out here. Thanks (in advance 🙏🏼💪🏼😎).
Just letting you know this was hard to read
@Jeremy That, can happen. I'm proud of you for pushing through!
I know what intent I bring, I overtly present this image that I can’t be hurt and that most things don’t affect me. Ppl that see me sometimes speak as if “oh this guy doesn’t know pain or wtv” but in my personal life (my head) most days I do think about su, most days I don’t want to be here. But I’ll never show that, I’ll never allow myself to speak about that in real life. Been through crazy shit and I do my best to not speak about it because there’s no point, no one can fix it but me so why bother allowing someone in.
Couldn't agree more. I've kept everything to myself until 2022, when I met my girlfriend and had read online that 'talking about your problems makes them easier'. My girlfriend is the absolute best person I have met in my entire life, yet expressing my struggles has done nothing but make them worse. Keeping my issues to myself is key for me.
Before you develop self awareness you need to develop courage patience and acceptance people choose to be self aware and to be not self aware it’s not necessarily you are not self aware but you are purposely ignoring signals for whatever reason
Poor Echo needs to become a better person😂 So do all of us buddy!!!
I realized I clicked on this video simply because the title was self awareness and I wanted to make sure I wasn’t missing any blind spots in being self aware which means that I’m self aware
Bro that thumbnail be making you look like jabba the hutt lmao. 😂
Went to the ole HEB’s to buy some molk, however the shelf was “cleared”. GET SOME.
That thumbnail is the GOAT!
Positive reinforcement is also a driver, especially from a loved one, so I’m not on board with the example of cleaning the house for loved ones. Especially when a couple is raising kids, it’s a show of respect and gratitude and when dissed for effort to contribute towards the cleanliness of a household, that’s not cool…
I subscribe to the Underground Podcast. It is the only way I can actually demonstrate my support you both... For now. I can honestly say that I know where your heart is. I understand and support you.
Couldn't agree more. This comes from my heart.
We have name dropper guy! 😂 Also only present in meetings when someone “higher up the food chain” is around. We see you name dropper guy!
Very good video
My Intent is I don't want to let people control or say what I cant an can do if I know in Gods eyes I've been trying my hardest to work towards these opportunities.. Someone can come along and say you haven't don't anything your self discipline your pain your wants don't mean a thing.. Be scared stay scared listen to me or else.. I don't want that to control my life especially if I feel I'm not harming anyone or starting problems just trying to better myself and get to a place where I feel I've achieved true success and happiness through my efforts and simply having faith..
Good.
Check.
They treat people as their so much better. And people like me have too care and bow down WTF? If a person can't get away from their view. Unless you don't like what your looking at . Then it's a win win.
Sometimes you just come to terms with…. You can’t wash this shit off! Lol
what to do when others put you down and try to usurp your job over you...or look down you and are dismissive of your work....and helping the team....today this woman yelled out to a young guy who seems overly eager to compete with me, said to him dont mess this up! I am sensing animosity and competivieness...he is younger and handsome and seems to be using that as leverage for people to like him .....he is competing with me! His name is Wesley Gooddale and he seems really really intent on being the star of his own show.....and they look down on me as white trash, yet I have a college education....So it seems that there are caddy people who i work with and they are also from wealthy homes and act entitled ...I am looked down as white trash...I need prayer . I like my job and my intent is always to be supportive yet i am suspect ....
Pretty sure I can care less about what they think if they are hating on me trying to better myself.. Cause those are the ppl that are out trying to threaten my well being.. I don't want to hang out with those ppl anyway..
Vasana is actually the term in yogic culture for quality which directly translates to smell in Sanskrit
Jocko is going to make me an army captain or something in west point like General Sherman.
My intent is to have no intent so I can win with no intent needed 😆
I love the videos tho.. Although I do think I have friend and we haven't talked for a while so I think I have to stop acting like were still as good as friends..
Every hour my phone dings to remind me to breathe deeply and become conscious. Breaking autonomy 12 times a day. Try it.
Jocko for President
Yup messed me up with this one had to take a lot of accountability love you jocko much needed 🙏🏾
Exactly what I think when cops write tickets for tinted windows then go home in their limo tinted personal vehicles. #abolishqualifiedimmunity Abolish qualified immunity.
I'm struggling to find this specific episode in full. When I search episode 80, that episode number is the Mussolini one
I farted right before Jocko said "intent has a smell," and then he started wincing. Damn, he's calling me out!
"YOU WANNA DEBATE WITH ME?"
Good timing Jacko. We are talking promotions today 😏
Resentful leads to anger, anger leads to hate. Hate, leads to suffering...
I just found out I talk in reverse. I start a conversation at my final thought. No context. No lead up. Just the end. Then when I realize folks are confused, I explain, which makes things awkward.
2:10 😂 died
My daughter's dad has no self awareness whatsoever. Makes him a liar and a hypocrite 🙄🤦🏿♂️
Did you mean to say "makes me a liar and a hypocrite"?
Why, because they’re experiencing it that means they’re doing it? That’s strange.
Innocent situation: People in my neighborhood teaching their children to shoot at peoples pets, leaving beheaded kittens on the front porch of grandparents house, and another long list of 30 other things I won't name, but then I am the bad guy for thinking someone poisoned my unattended beer at the neighborhood bar with no cameras after I get home and have 3 teeth and my stomach hurting all at the same time. After what point am I allowed to be suspicious of certain people? Lmao. Some people just don't give a damn no matter what happens to you, as long as it isn't happening to them. (To help you believe me, I live in a gated community filled with stuck up passive aggressive manipulative cowards) Like can you imagine, people disrespect you but you are the bad guy when you barely even respond with a RIGHTFUL "No."
The words Ignorant, cognitive dissonance, and ignorance come to mind.
Self awareness v Self absorbed v Self obsessed would be good to compare
Sadly the people this applies to most lie to themselves about their own intent.
You wanna debate with me_ jacko Oh no no no no _ echo Had me laughing so hard
Wife with intent on your head. Way to get slapped 😂😂😂Lol
Don't ever write anything down you don't want people to read.
Now I have to shower. Thanks a lot.😂😂😂
Did you see I cleaned the living rooms that called borderline personality!
i dont believe its so much violation its like more related caution , caring still for others
Love hearing jocko talk about GOD. 🙏🙏. TRUTH comes from somewhere .. that somewhere is the BIBLE. GET SOME 🫡🙏
That thumbnail lol
Who can caption the expression on Jocko's face?
Self awareness? I’m as under duress as duress gets.
"If"
What episode is this
People are obviously going to cringe at this, But All this teaching on intent is really just The foundation of Christian principles that Christ came to display to the world. Grace-free and unmerited favor, doing something freely without the expectation of payback. -quid pro quo is the economy of the world. No person is capable of unconditional love without something worldly attached to it whether it be pride, greed, acceptance, meaning, or purpose.. Christ came to show grace And no one is able to give grace or show grace outside of a relationship with Christ himself. Because He ultimately frees us from oursleves by giving himself to us. So HE becomes our INTENT. That is what is meant by (Christ shall set us free) When he is your acceptance, Your meaning, and your hope You're now free to give GRACE. To love unconditionally because you no longer have to compete with the world because Christ gives himself too us freely If we repent and trust in Christ. So we all have some self-awareness problems....
Not cringy to me at all. It’s true. It’s very difficult to avoid quid pro quo in friendships and in life. It can be done at times but life demands both.