Let's Talk About Sex: The Reality of the Sexual Pleasure Disparity | Grace Wetzel | TEDxStLawrenceU

2018 ж. 1 Сәу.
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The claim that the female orgasm is just as natural and should be just as expected as the male orgasm is a controversial one, because society conditions us to regard the female orgasm as something extra. Grace Wetzel, a junior at St. Lawrence University, explains the phenomenon known as the orgasm gap and explores the straight woman's sexual experience. Grace Wetzel is a junior at St. Lawrence University with a Psychology major, a Biology Minor, and a Gender & Sexuality Studies Minor. She is a member of the ODK Leadership Honor Society and of Psi Chi, the Honor Society in Psychology. She is a member of two dance groups on campus, Dance Ensemble and Graceful Movements, and is a house member of the Women's Resource Center. Grace has a passion for intersectional feminism and social justice. Her long-term dream is to change the stigmas and inequalities surrounding the female sexual experience. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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  • When you're single and still watch this.

    @jessicaascano9381@jessicaascano93813 жыл бұрын
    • Lol 😂

      @yogeshreddy6002@yogeshreddy60023 жыл бұрын
    • Glad to know I'm not alone

      @sintymckeating7015@sintymckeating70153 жыл бұрын
    • I feel attacked 😅🤦‍♂️

      @mubangachisha3041@mubangachisha30413 жыл бұрын
    • So you guys are single?

      @jessicaascano9381@jessicaascano93813 жыл бұрын
    • @@mubangachisha3041 why?

      @jessicaascano9381@jessicaascano93813 жыл бұрын
  • One moment of silence for those who came with their parents to this tedx without knowing topic

    @dsmay6404@dsmay64043 жыл бұрын
    • lol

      @munnabhaiyya9515@munnabhaiyya95153 жыл бұрын
    • See, that's the problem.

      @amrt7755@amrt77553 жыл бұрын
    • @@amrt7755 you are samjhdaar👍

      @arahan_dixit@arahan_dixit3 жыл бұрын
    • 😂😂😂😂 Khatam

      @danial3192@danial31923 жыл бұрын
    • @@danial3192 finish😂 satyaanaas hui gayo

      @arahan_dixit@arahan_dixit3 жыл бұрын
  • Yho, the silence in this room was of another level.

    @Africa96tv@Africa96tv3 жыл бұрын
    • IT IS NOT POSSIBLE TO DO CLAPPING WITH ONE HAND

      @michaelmelamed9103@michaelmelamed91032 жыл бұрын
  • I AM an 89 year old Granny and by golly never in my Life did I ever believe Woman would finally Hear THE TRUTH…OMG SO GRATEFUL…ALL WOMAN SHOULD HEAR THIS…I MEAN ALL …I SO APPRECIATE THIS VALUABLE INFORMATION…❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤.

    @carmenbalko1372@carmenbalko137210 ай бұрын
  • The reason people are quiet is because They are so so focused in taking mental notes

    @asandax6@asandax64 жыл бұрын
    • Exactly, like what's the point of this

      @somiproductions@somiproductions3 жыл бұрын
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      @thethird2334@thethird23343 жыл бұрын
  • I'm going to single handedly fix this problem.

    @aidanrezvani9295@aidanrezvani92953 жыл бұрын
    • Till when ??

      @JaiHind-tl7zt@JaiHind-tl7zt3 жыл бұрын
    • 😂

      @idig7345@idig73453 жыл бұрын
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      @jacksummer4041@jacksummer40413 жыл бұрын
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      @podareofficial@podareofficial3 жыл бұрын
    • Nice one lol

      @mikeoxlong6851@mikeoxlong68513 жыл бұрын
  • Singles give attendance here

    @kimmin275@kimmin2753 жыл бұрын
    • 😁

      @jyotiprakash9774@jyotiprakash97743 жыл бұрын
    • 😛😛

      @fahimislam2414@fahimislam24143 жыл бұрын
  • If this is recommended to you, there is high chance that you are single or long distance relationship 😂😂

    @asithaperera377@asithaperera3773 жыл бұрын
    • No

      @chesslessonswithgaurav7087@chesslessonswithgaurav70873 жыл бұрын
    • How do you know.? 🙄 i am in long distance

      @hopealive3013@hopealive30133 жыл бұрын
    • Hahahhaa

      @adityapurohit246@adityapurohit2463 жыл бұрын
    • How the f you know

      @rajeev4679@rajeev46793 жыл бұрын
    • long distance here

      @herman3376@herman33763 жыл бұрын
  • Ok KZhead, I've watched it. You happy?

    @tylerdurden2832@tylerdurden28325 жыл бұрын
    • you dog,me too

      @tianqihu4756@tianqihu47564 жыл бұрын
    • The first rule of fight club ...............

      @aadityaacharya5902@aadityaacharya59024 жыл бұрын
    • @@aadityaacharya5902 is you don't talk about fight club

      @kartikeyatiwari8661@kartikeyatiwari86614 жыл бұрын
    • @@kartikeyatiwari8661 you just talked about fight club

      @jayantchaudhary177@jayantchaudhary1773 жыл бұрын
    • @@jayantchaudhary177 You just talked about them talking about fight club. Which is technically talking about fight club.

      @notgayatall5454@notgayatall54543 жыл бұрын
  • Dear youtube, i am single,why am i being recommended this? Is universe sending me some type of signal?

    @rohitk2390@rohitk23903 жыл бұрын
    • Me too😂😂😂

      @Purple_Neon@Purple_Neon3 жыл бұрын
    • 😂😂

      @raqeebahamedsheikh6634@raqeebahamedsheikh66343 жыл бұрын
    • Yes

      @donj2202@donj22023 жыл бұрын
    • Depend upon your activity

      @enamouredray5818@enamouredray58183 жыл бұрын
    • Elon musk sent you the signal🤣

      @parthlohokare1385@parthlohokare13853 жыл бұрын
  • This was much needed! Thank you for opening up a conversation about it!

    @ishwindersinghwalia6769@ishwindersinghwalia67693 жыл бұрын
  • I don't have interest in the video but now since KZhead has recommended me 10 th time. The universe is wanting me to watch this video.

    @rajibdhungana@rajibdhungana3 жыл бұрын
    • Nepali jasto xau ta

      @GutsXGriffith@GutsXGriffith3 жыл бұрын
    • @@GutsXGriffith Haha without doubt

      @rajibdhungana@rajibdhungana3 жыл бұрын
    • same

      @munnabhaiyya9515@munnabhaiyya95153 жыл бұрын
    • You know you got recommended this cuz you’re watching something similar to it. 😅

      @jonnymcgrath4816@jonnymcgrath48163 жыл бұрын
    • @@jonnymcgrath4816 no i watch ted talks sometimes that's why this got recommended to me

      @munnabhaiyya9515@munnabhaiyya95153 жыл бұрын
  • I wonder if this was all secretly directed at her boyfriend.

    @infidelheretic923@infidelheretic9234 жыл бұрын
    • @ Infidel Heretic I wonder if you watched this whole thing thinking "She's hot, what did she say?"

      @CL-uf9xw@CL-uf9xw4 жыл бұрын
    • @Waterlec lol it probably was detected to her boyfriend lol. Good one.

      @amedina6162@amedina61624 жыл бұрын
    • @Waterlec The front row was empty. He must have got embarassed and fled the scene!

      @GypzyJack@GypzyJack4 жыл бұрын
    • Kkkkkkk

      @marvickfranca@marvickfranca4 жыл бұрын
    • Infidel Heretic I don’t perceive this girl as straight?

      @lelandraymaley3@lelandraymaley34 жыл бұрын
  • Men are not mind readers, generally speaking, women need to speak up, and let men know what they want, different women like different things, I think most men would be happy to oblige!

    @michaelware1649@michaelware16493 жыл бұрын
    • Most. But some would call it a complaint...

      @likad.5156@likad.51566 күн бұрын
  • Was rather insightful! It takes courage to talk about these topics upfront. Props to her for the lecture!

    @SreyRc@SreyRc3 жыл бұрын
  • I think most of women fear to ask what they want while men always ask for it .

    @samuelido4235@samuelido42352 жыл бұрын
  • What she did really well in this talk, unlike many other equality discussions in today's day in age, is she was very open about saying that this wasn't all just because of men or a certain group of people. She did an excellent job in pointing out that as a collective society, men and women, we should change how we look at this issue not to take away the benefits that it already gives but rather add more benefits for the other party involved. Greatly worded and put together talk.

    @Prodiggy23@Prodiggy235 жыл бұрын
    • I didn’t see it like that. It’s not ever been something I’ve thought about. If I’m there to have a good time, so is she and if the job doesn’t get done one way you step it up and do something else. To some how insist that there’s a systemic problem of men being lazy goes a bit far. It’s certainly not been my experience.

      @camerondiprose1722@camerondiprose1722 Жыл бұрын
    • Most of the complaints come from having a bad partner or lack of experience. Don't sleep around with randos that only care about themselves, that's a huge start.

      @glenwaldrop8166@glenwaldrop8166 Жыл бұрын
    • That's how many equality discussions are

      @king.2597@king.2597 Жыл бұрын
    • 1st 2nd

      @vanhau9674@vanhau96747 ай бұрын
  • "Today, I'm gonna be talking to you about sex". I'm genuinely surprised no one in the crowd yelled "YES!" after that bold statment DISCLAIMER: I have no idea why this video was recommended to me. Honest.

    @rayana4250@rayana42506 жыл бұрын
    • Rayan A, they yelled inside their heads.

      @BM-su7kc@BM-su7kc6 жыл бұрын
    • They recommended this to me also, Idk

      @indobekicot5731@indobekicot57315 жыл бұрын
    • Yeah...recommended to me also...lol...wtf!

      @Raj-np1sc@Raj-np1sc5 жыл бұрын
    • 😂😂

      @Cheema_jee@Cheema_jee5 жыл бұрын
    • Lmao, same here 😥😥😥😐😐😐

      @lezysul@lezysul5 жыл бұрын
  • 3:33 me in every presentation

    @commonman8582@commonman85823 жыл бұрын
    • That damn true for me too

      @shubhamsrivastavapngpsbazb5631@shubhamsrivastavapngpsbazb56313 жыл бұрын
    • 😂

      @thatonespecialfanoflana@thatonespecialfanoflana3 жыл бұрын
  • Talking about equality of pleasure is significant. I think the first barrier to get across this inequality is communication. Speak to your partner - your likes, your dislikes and all that make you feel happy and content. The act is for both to enjoy - that is what all of humanity does.

    @rixseixe@rixseixe2 жыл бұрын
    • Hey, man, I'll do my best, but if she can't get there in 2.5 minutes, that's why Jesus invented vibrators.... 🥺

      @since1876@since1876 Жыл бұрын
    • What if my partner says "I haven't heard any complaints from others "?

      @likad.5156@likad.51566 күн бұрын
    • @@likad.5156He should be with others. What is your partner doing with you?

      @rixseixe@rixseixe5 күн бұрын
  • Not me,I never fake anymore! The longer you live the more brave and stay true to yourself always! Just tell him! Lol.

    @seangpinyoung2719@seangpinyoung27195 жыл бұрын
    • IKR lol

      @dbsk06@dbsk064 жыл бұрын
    • You go girl! Be a part of the solution and not the problem.

      @notgayatall5454@notgayatall54543 жыл бұрын
  • Is my girlfriend working at KZhead secretly? This was recommended to me!

    @TheUltrazone23@TheUltrazone233 жыл бұрын
    • Lmaoo the best comment ahahah

      @richymt20@richymt203 жыл бұрын
    • You just confessed something 😅😂😂😂

      @desicryptoguy6090@desicryptoguy60903 жыл бұрын
    • Gahaha

      @visibleconfusion9513@visibleconfusion95133 жыл бұрын
    • Oh, may be fit on this.

      @motivatevideo@motivatevideo3 жыл бұрын
  • Thank you for this very educational talk Grace!

    @psurrett1@psurrett1 Жыл бұрын
  • Its a matter of educating and listening each other.

    @aaronmolinafletcher3756@aaronmolinafletcher37563 жыл бұрын
  • Is there anyone single listening to this?

    @retlaw4003@retlaw40033 жыл бұрын
    • 🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️Here

      @mubangachisha3041@mubangachisha30413 жыл бұрын
    • let's make a group of singles 😂

      @jessicaascano9381@jessicaascano93813 жыл бұрын
    • 😁

      @moinuddinrehman5539@moinuddinrehman55393 жыл бұрын
    • @@jessicaascano9381 true😂😂

      @soumil_11@soumil_113 жыл бұрын
    • Me I'm 16

      @user-go9kw6wf4m@user-go9kw6wf4m3 жыл бұрын
  • Why I am seeing this ? I don't even have a gf .

    @hensuwis2160@hensuwis21604 жыл бұрын
    • It will be helpful in the future.

      @notgayatall5454@notgayatall54543 жыл бұрын
    • @@notgayatall5454 Might Be. 😂

      @HindiFeynman@HindiFeynman3 жыл бұрын
    • Just in case

      @RoYal-xz5ch@RoYal-xz5ch3 жыл бұрын
    • to stay at safer side ; )

      @PAVN.@PAVN.3 жыл бұрын
    • go get one

      @jessicaascano9381@jessicaascano93813 жыл бұрын
  • I hope it's ok to share, because more people need to hear this.

    @SullenDaiz@SullenDaiz9 ай бұрын
  • I have never been with a woman that didn't have at least one. Most have had many. My wife has no less that 5 on average. I know that I'm alittle different than most guys but it's just that I like to please and the thanks I get. She loves me I love her. It's a way to show her instead of telling her that I love her. And beleave me she shows me too. Good to see someone talk about this. Maybe things will get better for all. Peace to all .

    @joeboisselle6856@joeboisselle68562 жыл бұрын
  • Very well said and very well put . Extremely well delivered on a subject least talked about ,and least demanded by wemen. Hats off to her for making the awareness of equality of this commodity for both sexes. Hurrah to her.

    @0669able@0669able3 жыл бұрын
  • Nice session of SEDx...😅

    @Pikachu-cv4ju@Pikachu-cv4ju4 жыл бұрын
    • 😂😂😂👍

      @sauravsuman9384@sauravsuman93843 жыл бұрын
    • Creativity level 💯🤣

      @BIKASHKUMAR-gh7cz@BIKASHKUMAR-gh7cz3 жыл бұрын
    • @ABHISHEK AWASTHI Simp 😂🤣

      @ahmedfathi1488@ahmedfathi14883 жыл бұрын
    • She has put out all her anger to her husband in this presentation 😂

      @saidamin4510@saidamin45103 жыл бұрын
    • GODD

      @JackJack-sc2od@JackJack-sc2od3 жыл бұрын
  • this topic is not discussed much but it is very very important. thanks for speaking up on this. i really learned a lot today.

    @PsychPerusal@PsychPerusal6 ай бұрын
  • I don't know about anyone else, but for me, the woman's pleasure was always the main goal. They deserve all the pleasure we can give them.

    @catkeys6911@catkeys69113 жыл бұрын
    • Simp

      @red_Sun24@red_Sun243 жыл бұрын
    • Of course shes wrong

      @coogarathanase4219@coogarathanase42193 жыл бұрын
    • Simp

      @johnjohnson5814@johnjohnson58143 жыл бұрын
    • Simp

      @kushal6065@kushal60653 жыл бұрын
    • Simp

      @generalginger7804@generalginger78043 жыл бұрын
  • Bottom line ladies take control and tell your partner what you want. If he listens he is a wise guy.

    @frankmeintjes5012@frankmeintjes50123 жыл бұрын
    • Haha if the women take control of her man she will never have orgasm from him

      @hamzamoussaid4347@hamzamoussaid43473 жыл бұрын
    • @@hamzamoussaid4347 what?

      @seradin8029@seradin80293 жыл бұрын
    • They often don't so that's that.

      @Mia199603@Mia1996033 жыл бұрын
    • It's not very easy to say what you want when everything in your life told you that you are not allowed to ask those things.

      @Nimrodel84@Nimrodel843 жыл бұрын
    • @@Nimrodel84 You must realize that it's your life your needs your body. You have the right to speak your mind. It is not sinful or wrong but it's your right.

      @frankmeintjes5012@frankmeintjes50123 жыл бұрын
  • People don’t quite understand when someone says “It’s hard to satisfy a woman”. I only ask them to watch this video - just once.

    @TNTsundar@TNTsundar5 жыл бұрын
    • She actually quotet, that by themselves women and men need approx. equal time amount to reach orgasm. So what are you saying ?

      @fluttersheesh8884@fluttersheesh88843 жыл бұрын
    • @@fluttersheesh8884 I think he's agreeing and saying that he shows people this video to set them straight :')

      @puppypi9668@puppypi96683 жыл бұрын
  • Wow, she's so eloquent. Loved the entire Ted talk. Very insightful 👏👏

    @nellynguma@nellynguma2 жыл бұрын
  • An artist must not imitate but get inspired to inspire others.

    @moodymusic7717@moodymusic77173 жыл бұрын
  • In my opinion, my girlfriend's pleasure is more important than mine. without her, I don't get the pleasure.

    @markterrazzino7300@markterrazzino73003 жыл бұрын
    • Beautiful, brave and benevolent. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 Good

      @Shadow-bx8ri@Shadow-bx8ri3 жыл бұрын
    • 👍

      @abinothayyilsanoj4182@abinothayyilsanoj41823 жыл бұрын
    • On ya

      @stphnmaunsell89@stphnmaunsell893 жыл бұрын
    • That's what a hero do

      @ravikiran-os4ik@ravikiran-os4ik3 жыл бұрын
    • Simp

      @stallionshark1726@stallionshark17263 жыл бұрын
  • I'm so tired of hearing about how we're victims of ideas that exist. Take responsibility for your own life and fulfillment. It's not a competition, it's a collaboration. Collaborate with someone who's good to you and it's probably going to be good.

    @th3b0yg@th3b0yg6 жыл бұрын
    • Couldn't say it any better

      @pladselsker8340@pladselsker83406 жыл бұрын
    • All she is saying is for people to be more aware of others, if you really care for a person this should be instinctive. Yes we should take responsibility for our own happiness, and like she said, a woman should feel empowered enough to ask, but the reality is, a lot of women feel awkward. We don't live in a perfect world, and it takes communication and a little bit of empathy to move in that direction

      @MrRedwingsfan16@MrRedwingsfan166 жыл бұрын
    • MrRedwingsfan16 or to hit the same idea from the other direction, buck up and stop thinking of yourself as a victim. It's incumbent upon you to pursue the happiness you desire. It's not incumbent upon others to provide it. But they might provide it if you ask.

      @th3b0yg@th3b0yg6 жыл бұрын
    • Robert Johnson women dont get it.. Somehow they believe that men are mindreaders..

      @emmanuelp.8730@emmanuelp.87306 жыл бұрын
    • Robert Johnson that's a very good realization, but unfortunately not everyone's brain works the same way. That's why people like you that have realized that, can only do the best they can to help others realize that. Hence my point of empathy and awareness go a long way.

      @MrRedwingsfan16@MrRedwingsfan166 жыл бұрын
  • Loved it. So true. So on point. And the confidence on stage is amazing to watch.

    @20MinutesCZ@20MinutesCZ3 жыл бұрын
    • Hi

      @kmijanakter154@kmijanakter154 Жыл бұрын
  • Your explanation is so good and open minded. Love it👍👍👍

    @bhaveshkhandelwal575@bhaveshkhandelwal575 Жыл бұрын
  • this video's especially recommanded to singles -youtube

    @johnnyandrew4515@johnnyandrew45153 жыл бұрын
    • 😂😂😂

      @danial3192@danial31923 жыл бұрын
    • Nice one Johnny ..nice one 👌👌 😂😂

      @macklin15yearsago73@macklin15yearsago733 жыл бұрын
  • First 3 minutes sounded like a lawyer's disclaimer

    @ShortfaceBear@ShortfaceBear3 жыл бұрын
    • yes

      @ellismartiskainen7729@ellismartiskainen77293 жыл бұрын
    • True

      @Purple_Neon@Purple_Neon3 жыл бұрын
    • Sadly you pretty much have to do this before you speak about pretty much anything nowadays..

      @dzfattnutz@dzfattnutz3 жыл бұрын
    • @@dzfattnutz woke, cancelled, social justice, yadda yadda...

      @just83542@just835422 жыл бұрын
    • She didn't want to be attacked by the lgbt community

      @faisalshahx@faisalshahx2 жыл бұрын
  • I'm waiting for my game to be updated whilst watching this , Wohooo

    @aussiekelamate4609@aussiekelamate46093 жыл бұрын
    • CHAD😂

      @huntergaming4264@huntergaming42642 жыл бұрын
  • How many teenager are there like me😁.

    @kundanmishra1792@kundanmishra17923 жыл бұрын
    • Chup reh

      @DIGGY161@DIGGY1613 жыл бұрын
    • Ni oru kundan thenne

      @athuld357@athuld3573 жыл бұрын
  • 3:36 That was weird. Did she sneeze or something? It appeared to me as if she was laughing for a second

    @caischcer@caischcer3 жыл бұрын
    • Because No One is Laughing or Cheering. She feels awkward bcoz no one is giving any sign of emotion.

      @youareconnectingshivamkumar@youareconnectingshivamkumar3 жыл бұрын
    • she had an orgasm

      @ivanbreak@ivanbreak3 жыл бұрын
    • @@ivanbreak Thank you kind sir. For making me laugh.

      @notgayatall5454@notgayatall54543 жыл бұрын
    • She forgot what she was about to say

      @hondedtij6761@hondedtij67613 жыл бұрын
    • @@hondedtij6761 Agreed. She panicked on stage for a split second before recovering gracefully.

      @freefallwefall@freefallwefall3 жыл бұрын
  • Asking for what you want is a great way to get it. :)

    @unstoppablezone4980@unstoppablezone49804 жыл бұрын
  • A lot of women are bad at saying what they like. For me, I always focus on the women having a good time too, because I don’t have a good time unless they do too.

    @Ouhlyh@Ouhlyh Жыл бұрын
    • Sir join MGTOW it's for the greater good for true sanity in this dysfunctional world.

      @Andre-hm5vo@Andre-hm5vo Жыл бұрын
    • I agree 👍 bro, best of luck 🤠🤞 to everyone, for better Fun

      @umeshvaid8801@umeshvaid8801 Жыл бұрын
  • This lady is absolutely first class. She really is.

    @akiragrant8243@akiragrant8243 Жыл бұрын
    • Hi Akira how are you

      @sajjadahmad9792@sajjadahmad9792 Жыл бұрын
    • @@sajjadahmad9792Ola hu Uber

      @xavierson795@xavierson79510 ай бұрын
  • It's a simple case of lack of communication & understanding of the the men & women involved.

    @ramona.vargas7298@ramona.vargas72986 жыл бұрын
    • Ramon Vargas pretty much

      @christianschwalbach7561@christianschwalbach75616 жыл бұрын
    • Or lack of concern by the male party

      @amberkosterewa7029@amberkosterewa70296 жыл бұрын
    • Sounds terrible, maybe you need to treat them better.

      @oscarl.3563@oscarl.35636 жыл бұрын
    • You said it! I don't see this as a Big social problem as she puts it, like if you and your partner communicate properly then this doesn't exist. I still find the talk interesting and very useful.

      @SanVB@SanVB6 жыл бұрын
    • Jac Debaires I agree as long as everyone communicates and properly then things should be fine.

      @sirgrotto8714@sirgrotto87146 жыл бұрын
  • Thanks for the clear explanation . From this I got to what it is? and why it is?

    @WorldofFusion360@WorldofFusion3605 жыл бұрын
  • I am amazed at the way how she presents on this topic! Just amazing

    @debjitghosh7622@debjitghosh76222 жыл бұрын
  • We need more discussions like this 🔥

    @snehabhat4876@snehabhat48763 жыл бұрын
    • yes!

      @viper4793@viper47932 жыл бұрын
    • Absolutely yes.. Where from u

      @peerzadaraies4028@peerzadaraies40282 жыл бұрын
    • And, possinly, practice and laboratory works? )

      @volodymyrzakolodyazhny7740@volodymyrzakolodyazhny77402 жыл бұрын
    • Wah re wahhh!!! 🤪😜 Yeah absolutely we're educating ourselves and driven by passion for learning new ideas and deep diving into it ...🤝

      @SaiKiran-en2zm@SaiKiran-en2zm Жыл бұрын
    • @@peerzadaraies4028 india from she .

      @alostacet@alostacet Жыл бұрын
  • She makes a few good points, but there is one glaring issue with her assumptions. Biology and evolution don't give a single, cross eyed, red headed damn about 'social constructs' and 'gender roles'. Men orgasm easier than women becuase if men don't orgasm, they don't reproduce. Women can reproduce without orgasm, so the selective pressure of orgasm is not a factor. So yes, it's absolutely possible, and even probable, that women have a harder time reaching orgasm due to biology. But it's not that women are hard to bring to orgasm, but that it's so comparatively easy to bring a man to orgasm. Want to get off more often? Tell your partner what you like and need. Help out, even. You're adults. Take responsibility for yourself.

    @Chad_Thundercock@Chad_Thundercock6 жыл бұрын
    • Well said!

      @Newstatejournal1@Newstatejournal16 жыл бұрын
    • Rick Cutshall Agree...

      @robertgabuna355@robertgabuna3556 жыл бұрын
    • Cannot Agree more!

      @sanjayvasnani4612@sanjayvasnani46126 жыл бұрын
    • Rick Cutshall .. Disagree. The assumption that a guy's orgasm is easier than a girl's is a complete myth. It's exactly the same time. Please listen to the video again.

      @praneetjoshi8541@praneetjoshi85416 жыл бұрын
    • Praneet Joshi TRUST me lady, it does NOT take a man 4 minutes. THAT is not science lmfao

      @raymukhtar6806@raymukhtar68066 жыл бұрын
  • I’d be curious to see how Grace’s presentation evolves over the 40+ years. Hopefully she keeps her notes.

    @thinkingape7655@thinkingape76556 жыл бұрын
  • ur such a wise lady... saving pples relationships.enlighting pples future... I really appreciate you.. may u be rewarded with thenks ,love and peace

    @favourw285@favourw2852 жыл бұрын
  • Can't wait to try some of the tips this gal had to share!!!!

    @oldsalt8011@oldsalt80112 жыл бұрын
  • I like how everyone is so silent.

    @masterofgaming7401@masterofgaming74013 жыл бұрын
    • Yaaa i love that

      @Muba7680@Muba76803 жыл бұрын
  • I'm just here because I'm looking for my pet garry, anyone see him?

    @Mr.Coldfire421@Mr.Coldfire4215 жыл бұрын
    • Yeah, I found him in this video suprisingly at 9:11

      @tubbyszabo6586@tubbyszabo65864 жыл бұрын
    • Spongebob, It has been one year you wrote this comment, I'm worried, have you found your Garry? Lemme know, Thanks.

      @user-pm6uq3nc4s@user-pm6uq3nc4s4 жыл бұрын
    • Hes in the third row and he said this was his problem for a long time coz you were negecting his needs. 🤣

      @christislord7003@christislord70034 жыл бұрын
    • He’s under a rock

      @ramiro94g@ramiro94g4 жыл бұрын
    • Did you find it mate?

      @Ozen-eu8wb@Ozen-eu8wb4 жыл бұрын
  • I thought this was incredibly well presented. I was impressed by the arguments made for aiming for equity in pleasure shared, but also by her grammar. These days, it's ever more difficult to listen to anyone speak who doesn't say "like" 500 times, but this woman did the English language proud. Very eloquent, very articulate, and indeed I would agree that irrespective of the observable truth that it is easier in general for a man to reach orgasm than a woman, the intention to please each other should be equal to intention of taking pleasure. The tryst should not be wholly satisfying to a man who only cares about his own orgasm, and vice-versa.

    @NoJeansBob@NoJeansBob2 жыл бұрын
    • Agree about the “like”

      @carolgeorge6409@carolgeorge6409 Жыл бұрын
    • I thought this 10 day enjoy funny tests no tests u yes pleasure Inquiry

      @kumarsuresh1972@kumarsuresh1972 Жыл бұрын
  • Really apprecitable step , we must accept the reality and support to the upcoming generation 👍👍

    @scaptcha9522@scaptcha95223 жыл бұрын
  • it's so sad that the majority of the comment section is literaly from guys that should've learned something from the talk but didn't give a f

    @leticialopes769@leticialopes7693 жыл бұрын
    • Im trying to understand it because i think shes making good points.

      @conscious_competence3703@conscious_competence37033 жыл бұрын
    • Maybe you're wrong

      @nordlyssrlys6945@nordlyssrlys69453 жыл бұрын
    • Their takeaway: women better let us know Real takeaway: men should be making orgasm an equal priority and some women won't ask because they don't feel comfortable.

      @echastee@echastee3 жыл бұрын
  • Teach your partner & offer positive yet constructive criticism so that you can help each other. Be vocal & if something isn't happening in real time be respectful to one another & let them know what's happening.

    @h.fenrus2405@h.fenrus24053 жыл бұрын
  • Good to listen about being open minded and everyone need to be real n practical . Knowledgable speech.😊

    @vishwamylapur5194@vishwamylapur5194 Жыл бұрын
  • i would rather say it was a superb topic that was covered the important thing is Woman need to demand what makes her happy as men we do what makes us happy and ask her to do , if she will demand in relationship the realtionship will be more stronger

    @7minutesofhappiness@7minutesofhappiness Жыл бұрын
  • She reminded me of the young girl in “ The Incredibles” movie. 🤗🤗

    @tambell6270@tambell62705 жыл бұрын
    • Violet. Oddly enough, her parents first super suits were red and blue... which makes violet.

      @thomaswhite4231@thomaswhite42314 жыл бұрын
    • Haha 😂

      @Userykp@Userykp4 жыл бұрын
    • @@thomaswhite4231 hey Googleqqaqa~~₩

      @josephyoung1803@josephyoung18033 жыл бұрын
    • Damn bro! That's right

      @radityomuhamad2526@radityomuhamad25263 жыл бұрын
    • Hahahaha

      @cutiejoy12@cutiejoy123 жыл бұрын
  • three words, stamina excitement and the "magic touch" finding the fulfillment satisfaction point.

    @mihills4168@mihills41684 жыл бұрын
  • That's a voice that needs to be heard on repeat. Thank you.

    @keylas3525@keylas35252 жыл бұрын
    • Hi keyla

      @AryanGaming-ox7xn@AryanGaming-ox7xn2 жыл бұрын
  • The pressure on the husbands who went home with their wives after this seminar. 😂

    @godsparticle7657@godsparticle76573 жыл бұрын
    • 🤣🤣🤣🤣

      @kushalsaiyam9254@kushalsaiyam92543 жыл бұрын
    • 👅👅👅👅👅👅👅👅

      @MrMikey808@MrMikey8083 жыл бұрын
  • *LGBTQ HAS LEFT THE CHAT*

    @gohorarsen5938@gohorarsen59384 жыл бұрын
    • You forgot 50 extra letters.

      @transfornation3187@transfornation31874 жыл бұрын
    • You forgot to add the I and A. 😂

      @kayceeprag@kayceeprag4 жыл бұрын
    • It's LGBTQABCDEFHIJKMNOPRSUVWXYZ

      @tuxmode@tuxmode4 жыл бұрын
    • James Jucutan Keyboard smash doesn't get you anywhere. Just say LGBT+, done. LGBTQIA+ for long. Tadaaaa, magic.

      @lelexoxo303@lelexoxo3034 жыл бұрын
    • @@lelexoxo303 it's not keyboard smash..it's alphabetical

      @jaylolo3716@jaylolo37163 жыл бұрын
  • Nothing to do with content random rant warning - this college is in the middle of NOWHERE! I used to do their audit when I worked with PWC in the 00s. I spent my entire month of August in this empty college town for four years - needless to say myself and my team spent a great deal of time all alone in the bar at the Best Western. I do not miss you St. Lawerence University. I really needed to get this out I’m sorry everyone.

    @marysullivan2884@marysullivan28843 жыл бұрын
    • M...

      @dockysalva7846@dockysalva78462 жыл бұрын
    • Eomrning

      @dockysalva7846@dockysalva78462 жыл бұрын
  • Summary:: She was just again talking about equality.....

    @rishabhroy7740@rishabhroy77403 жыл бұрын
  • Awesome job Grace!

    @rossiejefferson8281@rossiejefferson82812 жыл бұрын
  • So I am basically collecting theoretical knowledge before practical... 💘💘💘

    @krishnabasnet7352@krishnabasnet73523 жыл бұрын
    • lol

      @sabinbasnet587@sabinbasnet5873 жыл бұрын
    • lol

      @lucase.crusader1196@lucase.crusader11962 жыл бұрын
    • 😂😂😂😂

      @thavoice6374@thavoice63742 жыл бұрын
    • Nothing wrong with that

      @leandrog2785@leandrog27852 жыл бұрын
  • You r so brave, thank you sharing information🙌

    @shyambalehosur5903@shyambalehosur59033 жыл бұрын
  • Wow. Eye opening and mind blowing talk.

    @vadimakehara@vadimakehara Жыл бұрын
  • Spot on! This should be required training in high school.

    @mandyjacotin8321@mandyjacotin83212 жыл бұрын
  • She's been dating the wrong men.

    @sh0gun98@sh0gun986 жыл бұрын
    • Jason G no doubt about it! 😉

      @FranCambeyro@FranCambeyro6 жыл бұрын
    • Jason G she is not talking about herself. Have you missed all the statistics she mentioned?

      @melindabota1201@melindabota12016 жыл бұрын
    • She wasn’t talking about herself

      @rilist23@rilist235 жыл бұрын
    • then why do so much research and spend the time talking like this,, some how someway her wrong men affected her...

      @RAG718@RAG7185 жыл бұрын
    • Frustrations u know

      @MegaARYARAJ@MegaARYARAJ5 жыл бұрын
  • 0:24 How did she not laugh at that pun in front of all those people?

    @N8_R@N8_R4 жыл бұрын
    • I’m wondering why the audience didn’t laugh? 😂

      @rafaelmagana6964@rafaelmagana69643 жыл бұрын
  • It’s sad that so many men don’t know that the greatest pleasure is giving pleasure.

    @davidchristian2368@davidchristian23683 жыл бұрын
    • Ja na I couldn't agree with more on that!

      @vk92007@vk920072 жыл бұрын
    • Lmao spoken by a man I'd bet a million dollars is circumcised

      @ChristThroughTheLens@ChristThroughTheLens2 жыл бұрын
  • Thank you for putting this out there and looking for something like this for a few years because I have a disability and I have difficulty reading thank you

    @rebeccasandlillysadorablebaby@rebeccasandlillysadorablebaby2 жыл бұрын
  • Everything aside, Quite a thoughtful and wonderful theory put up by her! Excellent!

    @ekanshmaithil2087@ekanshmaithil20876 жыл бұрын
  • the audience is so dead..I could literally imagine the audience just staring at me with no interactions ,no laughs and nothing .If it would have been me ..I'd literally die out of those glares from people

    @kirtipurohit1237@kirtipurohit12373 жыл бұрын
    • That's what you call emotional attention, cause it's all about equality!

      @myearsgotyouthsystem8802@myearsgotyouthsystem88023 жыл бұрын
    • See, because of the subject matter the presenter was talking about, Kirti expected, very incorrectly, to see the audience breathing faster (as not “so dead”) with lots of moaning😧

      @alexv259@alexv2593 жыл бұрын
    • yeah how are you?

      @alvinzady764@alvinzady7643 жыл бұрын
    • They are relating the talk to themselves 😁

      @Akashnow@Akashnow3 жыл бұрын
    • Yeah

      @anmolpandey9173@anmolpandey91733 жыл бұрын
  • Her voice is so soothing

    @jayinderkaushik@jayinderkaushik2 жыл бұрын
  • This was so well thought and spoken, not everyone likes to talk on these subjects but she did and she did it quite well, hats off to her and I hope she or other speakers will come up with more videos like this 🙌🏼🙌🏼

    @janhvinarayan1633@janhvinarayan16339 ай бұрын
  • I believe the disparity lies in communication. As she stated women don't tend to be as vocal about what they want/need to achieve orgasm. While she only provided the side that made the woman out to be the victim (saying they believe it to be an inconvenience, so they don't say anything), she failed to mention a lack of willingness to aid. It's a scenario where either the man is expected to KNOW how to please a woman or just doesn't at all. There are men who don't know and are willing to learn, and there are women who are NOT willing to teach. Obviously, from one side it's hard to view things from the other side. If your partner isn't satisfying you (whether it be long term partner or hookup) HELP THEM satisfy you. TELL THEM what you like. If your desires aren't being met, find someone who will try to meet them.

    @kolothepanda@kolothepanda6 жыл бұрын
    • J.D. Brown that’s literally what she said lol that men and women BOTH need to communicate more. Did you even watch this video?

      @vanessaellsworth644@vanessaellsworth6446 жыл бұрын
    • J.D. Brown I completely agree!!

      @KrisWolf4@KrisWolf46 жыл бұрын
    • Women don’t communicate out of fear.. when a woman communicates the man will typically take it as an ego blowing criticism and then his “performance” will suffer. We’ve been taught not only to please men to the point of faking orgasms but to the point where we fear repercussions for expressing our needs.

      @20to1devotchka@20to1devotchka Жыл бұрын
    • Are men vocal enough as to express their needs?

      @user-vw7qe1cf9x@user-vw7qe1cf9x Жыл бұрын
    • @@20to1devotchka absolutely correct. Men NEED and crave respect, not love, as women do. So, criticism does nothing to enhance the relationship. I know this to be true, but, I don't know how to fix the problem.

      @user-vw7qe1cf9x@user-vw7qe1cf9x Жыл бұрын
  • Haha. . .my girlfriend stood up really tall and TOLD me. There’s something more you’re going to have to do down there. . .

    @magicsinglez@magicsinglez4 жыл бұрын
    • Hahahah she is just awsome

      @hajyrose5930@hajyrose59304 жыл бұрын
    • Hahahah she is just awsome

      @hajyrose5930@hajyrose59304 жыл бұрын
    • Hahahah she is just awesome

      @Nom1fan@Nom1fan3 жыл бұрын
    • Hahahah she is just awesome

      @spyroskanellopoulos1672@spyroskanellopoulos16723 жыл бұрын
    • Hahahah she is just awsome

      @takemeasahydrationreminder662@takemeasahydrationreminder6623 жыл бұрын
  • I think there is a big difference between "taboo" subjects and private subjects. Just because something is not likely to be discussed in plain public, it doesn't automatically mean, that it's a taboo per se.

    @andreasjunga5642@andreasjunga5642 Жыл бұрын
  • FANTASTIC VIDEO … I did understand everything but here I am still SINGLE 😂

    @nakulkathare3556@nakulkathare3556 Жыл бұрын
  • I learnt something today

    @Vclef92@Vclef924 жыл бұрын
  • This can be summed up by the movie "Chasing Amy."

    @wickedeternity2002@wickedeternity20023 жыл бұрын
  • Wonderful speech. Highly illuminating

    @atmaram1038@atmaram1038 Жыл бұрын
  • Bravo! Love this topic and the wonderful approach to tackling it. For me, my life partner's pleasure and her feeling safe is always the highest priority. The only small thing that didn't get addressed is men that feel embarrassed or ashamed when their female partner does not have an orgasm.. As she talked about, to me this may highlight the need for open and vulnerable communication as a key piece of orgasms for all - i.e. being able to openly tell your partner your needs and carefully listen to theirs.

    @mzmudy@mzmudy2 жыл бұрын
    • Mark, truly enjoyed your commentary re this Ted Talk. Agree as well that there should be open and honest communication between partners without judgment, disdain or disrespect. I was fortunate enough to have a boyfriend many, many years ago a truly great listener when it came to all things in our relationship. My only regret was it only lasted 2 years. He was offered a teaching position in the UK he could not pass up. He had many great ideas, thoughts etc. that we discussed on this very subject before we were intimately involved with one another. I can remember the conversation as though it happened yesterday. The 1st thing he asked was," What did I like in a man?" I was at first surprised by this, confused by this, because no one had ever asked me before. My 1st answer to him was a man that goes out of his was to make me feel safe. 2nd was a man that goes out of his way to make me feel special. 3rd was a man that was attentive. 4th was a man that was very thoughtful. 5th a man that was filled with chivalry. I got all of the above and so very much more with this amazing man. And my now partner (of 15 +) years does the same.

      @martinamitchell7612@martinamitchell7612 Жыл бұрын
    • @@martinamitchell7612 Sorry to bother you I just want to ask, about your past boyfriend, it seems you loved him very much, you said your regret is that it didn't last more than two years, so, would you have liked to stay with him till now if you had the chance?

      @MA-gu2up@MA-gu2up9 ай бұрын
    • @@MA-gu2up Yes

      @martinamitchell7612@martinamitchell76129 ай бұрын
    • @@martinamitchell7612 Okay, so will you leave your current boyfriend for him? And if you love him this much, why didn't you try to pursue the continuation of the relationship with him?

      @MA-gu2up@MA-gu2up9 ай бұрын
    • @@MA-gu2up No, he has found a different life, a different love. I have done the same. We have each moved on, no regrets for either of us.

      @martinamitchell7612@martinamitchell76129 ай бұрын
  • This is so true. The focus and expectation is that men feel good, and many men are unwilling to put enough effort into learning what gives women true pleasure. Because oftentimes when women feel good, this isn’t as physically stimulating to men. And since women are mostly willing to accept this pleasure disparity, this just renforces the norm.

    @aliciawei4809@aliciawei48095 жыл бұрын
    • Your are right dear

      @ebrimasanyang5277@ebrimasanyang52773 ай бұрын
  • watching this at different speeds was fun!

    @ismailimran1357@ismailimran13574 жыл бұрын
    • I did the same what a hoot!

      @allenquartermane6134@allenquartermane61344 жыл бұрын
  • i like her confidence ..and way of her talking..i hope things change ☺☺☺☺

    @amitmina5479@amitmina54793 жыл бұрын
  • I need these types of students(Audience) when i teach about reporoductive system

    @alanbhattarai@alanbhattarai3 жыл бұрын
  • Awful silence in room whole time😅😂

    @naman8769@naman87695 жыл бұрын
    • I was about to comment on that then I saw this.

      @jomene1125@jomene11254 жыл бұрын
    • That's it hahaha

      @user-zd4iq7jz8d@user-zd4iq7jz8d4 жыл бұрын
    • imagining the scenes perhaps

      @yugsth2236@yugsth22364 жыл бұрын
    • I think they sometimes turn down the audience in the videos

      @juali222@juali2223 жыл бұрын
    • 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

      @niveditajoshi2590@niveditajoshi25903 жыл бұрын
  • I love this woman!!!

    @deealfaro-baeza8314@deealfaro-baeza83144 жыл бұрын
  • Salute for those who came to attend show with parents without knowing topic 😂😂

    @grajmerite4889@grajmerite48893 жыл бұрын
  • This young woman is very brave! God Bless her.

    @gym_bob@gym_bob2 жыл бұрын
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