What Is Ego - How Your Ego Dictates Your Entire Life
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Hey, this is Leo for Actualized.org. In this video, we're going to talk about what is ego.
Let's talk a little bit about what ego is. I'm sure you've heard about it. I'm sure you've heard people talking about the problems that the ego can cause for you. You've probably heard about ego death. You've probably heard about both positive and negative sides of ego.
Let's talk about ego and, specifically, about who how you can understand this concept and relate it to success and personal development. It's how to get more success in your life by understanding ego.
What is ego? Ego is basically that aspect of yourself that you consider to be "you." When I say your name and you think, "Yeah, that's me," that is ego. Ego is your self-image of who you are.
Ego is a complex construct in your mind. It's sitting both at the conscious and the deep subconscious level.
Ego is that "I" that you think you are. It's the thoughts and emotions that you are identified with. It's the beliefs that you think are rock solid and completely true. It's what you think reality is like.
That whole construct is a big and deep iceberg. It's like gigantic iceberg and only the tip of it, like 10 percent, is sticking out of the water. The other 90 percent is all submerged and you don't know what it is. It's just operating. It's just working.
The ego is you. The ego has a couple of features.
The fundamental thing that the ego does is separates itself from everything else that's out in the world. If you're coming from the ego -- and this applies to 99.999% percent of people, including myself -- you say, "This is me," and you look at everything else as not you.
That desk is not you. That other person is not you. That other country is not you.
You are distinct. You are just your mind and your body. You're the skin that you have and everything beyond your skin is something else. You have that clear separation.
This is something that you get as a biological entity, as an organism who that needs to survive and depends on survival and reproduction.
We, as a species, and every living organism, has a sense of this. It's the sense of "I"-ness. It's the sense of "This is me." This is what's important and the other stuff is not so important.
My ego limited my ability to live in the moment and encouraged me to live in my mind. It made me judge myself and focus on my failures. It made me critical of others, narrow-minded, afraid of what others thought and constantly anxious. My ego pointed the finger at all the problems out there, in an attempt to divert attention away from the problems within myself. This destructive thinking manifested physically as pain, tension, illness and disease in my body. Pealing away just a few layers of the ego has improved my quality of life. I'm more compassionate and understanding of others. I'm more open-minded to new ideas. I'm breaking out of set routines and bad habits. I'm more comfortable with who i am and am slowly starting to love and accept myself for the first time in my life. My mind and body is healing and becoming stronger ever day. I'm more capable and creative. I can be present and enjoy the moment. I see much more beauty and wonder in the world, instead of only pain and suffering. And i sense this is just the tip of the iceberg!
we live in a duality.The ego is our greatest gift and our worst enemy. The quest is to be aware of this and strike a fine balance.
Omg this just answered my question... Thanks John
Very well said man its confusing 👏✌
I fail to see the ego as a gift, I consider it to be more of an imposter created by an environment i did not choose to partake in.
@@findoe8586 feels bro
the quest of life is to find balance in almost everything I would argue
The ego is about survival.... The ego hates change... The ego is your biggest friend and your biggest enemy...
+casa loco So being a Satanist your ego is your best friend as Satanisim is rooted in the self, the material. Driven by the Primal base, animalistic without self contrl right?
+casa loco Unless Ive missunderstood your avatar?
+casa loco Are you aware that someone has asked you a question?
No, I'm not a Satanist I'm a occultist...
A Light or Dark Occultist may I ask?
I think that everybody should be taught how to let go of ego and of anxiety etc. at a young age. Imagine how happier society would be!
That would be fascinating. The ego is being programmed during those early years. How do we program and also program not to identity with the program?
That's one of the problems off childhood. People tend to brush of a child's emotion especially when it comes to "depression, anxiety and etc." . They see it as a "phase" that we'll get over eventually and not give the proper aid we need.
@@JE-lv1bl shadow work.
@@sanctusignis9746 Yesss shadow work brings up the frequency of those lower vibrational emotions and either integrates them or heals them. Not many know about the benefits of shadow work. Nice!
@@LightWays check out Allan Watts,you might like him or not,thought I'd share since the shadow work comment grabbed your attention. Peace my brother
Ego is useful - a tool to be used to contribute and do good. The wise person strives to lose their ego. The enlightened person learns to master it. Bear in mind that when we try to kill our ego, we empower it. It gains control by motivating us to minimize it. When we are in control of it, we use it like a tool in our toolbox as we please. We are the builder, the ego is the tool. Some things live off of the energy that we give them - the ego is one of those things. I would have like to see this vid demonize ego less and teach how to master it more.
Well, I´d suggest you to be really careful right there. If you allow your confidence/faith to be put in my comment, try your best to visualize it: During the moment you were watching the video, while Leo´s words were being manifested in your "sounding" awareness, something "inside" the Mind intelligible understood the content of what was being said as related to the idea of Ego and, after that, there were a manifestation of a conceptual narrative, followed by an ideological position of the I. A perspective of what is being understood, constructed by some limited quantity of memories and it´s products: beliefs. Well... that´s the Ego. Your true nature is unfortanately trapped in it for now. Like when you dream about being someone else, but you only discovers it was only a dream at the moment you "Awake" up in bed. Enlightenment and Awakening it´s almost identical with the dreaming situation. Except the fact you don´t wake up in someone else´s bed. Trust me, I´m not trying to judge you in anyway. I´m just giving you hints and tips, don´t demonize my comment. Also, you´re misunderstanding ego death, don´t delude yourself, you won´t master like a tool, if you think you are it.
Absolutely
Everything false needs to dissapear
Interesting point.
80% of what you just said are things i discovered on shrooms and LSD.. what I find fascinating.... are thoughts that I begin to have and retain when I go on meditative trips are the same thoughts other people are having..... such a beautiful mystery.. .I remember one of my last lsd trips, very audibly this..... "other me" (people that trip would understand) literally within my mind began to...... coach me.... and that word "tool" was used. the ego is alike.... an OS for a MAC or PC.... its a tool used to navigate, discern, analyze, etc Killing the ego is impossible as thats like killing the operating system... we can only become aware of such a thing.. that the REAL us... is.... each other.... and the personality we use to navigate is just the ego... but people.... sometimes cannot separate the tool from "I".. from "self".. we all at some point experience this.. its a trickery of the mind... a sense of duality to know what you are, but understand you arent what you are..... what a beautiful existence this is... how unfathomable such an experience can even be....
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Why you dont do the videos with subtitles
Just click KZhead captions
My ego made it so hard to even watch this video till the end.
do you notice that you judge less after doing your work on your ego?
Inna 83 yes
I agree
Yes definitely
when your working on your ego you‘ll have more empathy & understanding towards other people (reading this in 2019 haha)
This is very true thanx inna 83
I’m learning so much this time in my life . Feels like I’m just meant to be here learning all of these different things . I know this is my season for growth .
Get it, Cici B!
Same and we are elevate until we die
same! taking shrooms really changed me and my thinking. makes me see the universe different and clearer
Have you felt the bliss been observing my ego to kill it and my social anxiety is totally gone
God bless you along your journey. Just started mine 2022
Leo, when i first watched this video a year ago, i did not quite understand what it was like to be 'one' with the world and etc, and i didnt understand ego much at all. Very recently, some happening has caused me to be very depressed, and then all of a sudden, i felt my ego fade away with my tears. Everything you have spoke of has been 100% the case ever since, and i finally understand what it feels like to have your ego slowly go away and discover the true self. i have calmed my stormy waters, and life feels so fluent. i felt love for myself and others i have not felt before. just had to share. you are a very good spiritual teacher
Your tone in your comment sounds cynical to my post. Well, I'm pleased to tell you that that moment was written down in my diary as detailed as possible so that I can still remember very clearly how it felt to feel something shift inside of me. That moment has changed my life around, a sort of 'spiritual awakening' for me. I did not want to lose that feeling, but it's inevitable that life will bring its ups and downs. If you are interested, I can go into a little bit more detail about how I was before this pivotal moment, but for now I will just tell you that this fading of ego allowed me to reach personal peace, mental tranquility, adopt a calmer and secure self-image, and happiness from within me, rather than leeching off other people. It has in a strange way made me realize that I am an abundance of love and that I am able to make others feel happy and loved in a society of hate. Recently, I've been at odds with life, but thank you for bringing me back to this post. It's made me feel better reading my own post. :) peace
You need to experience deep meditation to go beyond space and time. From that stage you able to see the delusive of EGO. Need to get out from box and able to look back where they came from. I am fully aware of EGO but still trap within it.
Did it last? I remember I once had a similar experience - a kind of awakening - and it felt so liberating, but after a while, it faded, and I haven’t experienced anything like it since.
How long have you meditated? For how much each day etc
I had a BIBLE Study, and we couldn't get past the Third page after a year of study, and NO I'm not kidding. Just asking why was SATAN in the GARDEN Waiting on 'EVE'? a simple Question, hmmm
This topic didn't even exist fro me until two years ago when something very extraordinary happened to me and changed the way I look on life. It's not some spiritual story in which after years of meditation on some mountain peak in one starry night the secrets of the universe unveiled before me. Hell no. I was 18 years old and it was my high school graduation. It was the first time I drank more than a sip of whiskey and the first time I went to a night club. I used to be a shy kid and I had one or two people who talked with but lets leave the cheesy stuff behind, there are millions of kids like this and you know the basic profile of an outsider. So during that night I danced and drank booze all night. I got home at 7 in the morning. Needless to say I felt like a walking corpse the next day. I managed to gather energy to get out of the house after the sunset. I decided to go to the shop and get something sweet to feed my fat ass and get some fresh air. The moment I stepped out of the front door I felt veeery strange but it was a good strange. I felt light. I headed to the shop and it felt like I was levitating. And I didn't even think about where I was going it was like someone knew where I had to go and was pulling me by my forehead in the right direction. I knew I was going to the shop yet I didn't think about it once during the whole trip. I know it's hard to comprehend. On the way there I met a few strangers. And I stared deeply in their eyes until they looked away. And I felt "hey, I am the one who has to be ashamed of eye contact. I am the loser. Why do I feel confident when I know I am unworthy and a piece of shit" But in fact I wasn't even remotely uncomfortable. I went to the shop and stood in front of the cashier who was a very cute girl and looked her in the eye. Just like that. My mind was empty - I didn't think about anything. I was just looking at her. She smiled and I smiled.' It was like we were talking through our eyes. She asked me what I wanted and I jerked it out before I could even think about what I wanted to buy. Unlike all the other times I couldn't decide what I want to get even though that was the only thing I was thinking about during the whole trip to the shop. And what I said was exactly what I wanted to get. Like someone was speaking instead of me and he knew me better than I knew myself. We looked each other in the eye a few more times and always she turned away first. I just didn't care. In fact I then realized I had stopped caring about anyone or anything. It was pure not-caring, not like the usual (telling yourself you don't care about someone but in fact you care). The moment I stepped out I had forgotten her. If it was the previous day and I had such experience with that girl I wouldn't have been able to sleep thinking about her. The world was mine. I could control everything and everyone. I liked everything and everyone and everyone liked me. I got home. I played some music in the living room as I usually do. My parents were also there again as usual. I sat on the sofa. And while the music was playing I suddenly realized I was humming and dancing to the beat. First time in my life. I never ever danced before that night in the club (if you can call throwing your hands around and shaking your body a dance). My parents were confused and looked at me laughing. I laughed too. I didn't feel one bit ashamed. I started chatting with them. And we talked like we were friends. There weren't any walls standing between us. That evening was the first time in my life that I felt alive. In fact, later while looking back I realisd it was the first time I ever felt anything. Before that I was just mimicking feelings but didn't actually feel anything. I went to bed and felt asleep on the spot. Just like that. I didn't stare in the ceiling for 3 hours thinking about the past and the future as I did before. On the next morning I woke up and went out with enthusiasm. But I had lost it. Went to the shop avoiding other people's glances. Stuttered when I bought the candy and everything went back to usual. The girl was very excited when I walked in and that's how I knew everything was real and not a dream. But after a minute she lost all interest because I was the same loser that I was before. I had the same experience but not that intense and clear a few more times after that. Only one time it didn't come after me drinking alcohol and it was the most real of them all. I realize that this is a very good foundation of becoming an alcoholic so I drink as rare as possible. Maybe once or twice a month. Not that you care about my personal boundaries or anything but to warn people that even though alcohol might make you feel uplifted it's temporary and in the long term will make you even more miserable. P.S. If you don't love yourself no one else will. And I know this not because I read it on some blog but because I have felt it. All the truth in the world lies in you and you just have to look inside yourself and you will see the universe. TL;DR Everyone has a great person in himself who he suppresses. Even the loneliest and the ugliest kid has a leader and a lover hidden deep inside it. It's up to you to bring this person out. Everything you need lies in you and not outside of you.
+Georgi Georgiev Oh I was so excited writing this I forgot to connect it to the topic of the video :D. I believe that what happened there with me was just my ego completely disappearing. I didn't think of what others think of me. I didn't expect anything from anyone. I felt like I don't owe anything to anyone nomore. I just stopped hanging out with some people I knew for years just like that and it felt right. But all of this is valid for the period I feel the strange feeling. After I lose it I go back to these people and I agains tart to feel like I owe somebody and somebody owes me. Thinking about this I feel like God is just giving me a free trail of the life I can have if I start working on myself. Because when you get something without any work it is taken away from you just as effortlessly. And when you think that life is unfair to you think it the other way around. Are you being fair with life. With you being your ego and life being your soul.
+Georgi Georgiev when you say you lost it, what in fact happened was you covered it. You covered it by asking a question or grasping at a reference point in an attempt to find a way to hold on to it. The thing that asks what now or how to I own this or how can I remember this so that I can be here whenever I choose is the thing that's in the way if being it. It's called the mind made self and it's everything you said it was, insecure, full of doubt, afraid and that's because it's an illusion and no illusion can ever know something real.
Ive experience that feeling but I know it will pass away, because Ive been throught that feeling of yeah I got this, Im connected to people, I can start conversation with anyone, Im not affraid of anything, and eventually when im not doing anything it fades, so in order to stay alive, Just be active.
Georgi Georgiev oh man! You just lived in the moment! So called "enlightenment" I recommend you heavily to read the book "The power of Now". It will teach and explain everything and why you acted the day after drinking and the day after that day! You will be amazed what you self can accomplish if the mind doesn't control you my friend! Would love an update actually, Keep loving
I feel that! Thanks for sharing!
I cried the whole video. I just have a bad situation with my friends because of my ego and it breaks my heart just thinking about losing them because i'm too scared to admit that i was wrong.
I'm in the same situation and pretending everything's okay just hurts even morr
So ego is like a close friend but bad friend.
yeeh i toxic one oof
Bring racist is a CHOICE. The second you get rid of your EGO is the time you invite LOVE. So only way to make space for Love is when YOU get rid of negative thoughts= energies because these stop us from gaining more knowlege. The SECRET to experience the next level of consciousness is to get rid of your EGO- example : backbiting, spreading rumours, vulguar language, deliberately putting labels on people - fat/ ugly / mental Thinking that you are better than others by looks Also CHEATING on spouse very unwise because it takes one away from our true self so one is actually ROBBING ONESELF of TRUE JOY.
@@My_Secret_ArtSketchbook people cheat because they think they want to be the bad boy/girl and also to destroy whatever is genuine so it can't hurt them anymore.
my ego is not my amigo!
+Danny Alvarez like it (lol) funny and true for most.
I'm gonna remember that! True and funny
Haha very funny.. Although the ego is not inherently bad.. It just wants to find home, even though it is not aware that home is where it is right now.
Haha
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Let me just say, I couldn't have found most of these videos you have made in a more relivant time in my life. I feel as my life has needed everything from Optimism to "Purpose?" and Ego, and I have been avoiding it. Until I have felt an intense amount of pain recently. With this, I came to a cross road where I realized that I have to make choices in my life, whether or not these situations are in fact "negative" or better have had it happen to me now than later. The way you structure your words speak to me so much to the point where I can't even get upset about the pain and that I'm actually HAPPY! I've learned to learn.
Meditation and mindfulness really helped me to understand a good portion of the take home message. Accepting the good and bad as "one" is difficult, but so worth it!
I love this! Great lesson! I ask god to “deliver me from ego!” In my prayers! Being aware when the ego reacts in a situation is the beginning of freedom and happiness! Thanks Leo!
Ive done mdma and lsd and both times ive experience what you’re speaking about, a state of enlightenment, oneness with the universe(mdma) and just a part of the system(lsd). I love your video they always flip my world upside down and open my eyes for just a moment
Things Ive observed about the ego °Is always trying to come up with ways to please itself but never is satisfied °Always concerned about peoples opinions °Wants to be validated even the act of me writing this comment it wants to be validated for the intellectual image it has for itself °Basically to sum up the ego in one word it would be selfish because its always thinking of ways to please it self but the scariest thing about it is it never will and we will have to live with it for our whole lives unless we meditate
+Noah Brown I've seen your comments on this video and i feel like you've really got it and i want to get there, i'm almost there but i need help and a bit more understanding! I would love to talk some time
true
Thank you for explaining this. Now I understand. Thx!
Or smoke dmt , take shrooms , lsd
Our words are the programming language of our ego (our operating system). Our thoughts are the metadata. To kill the ego is to stop speaking and to recognize the metadata as being what it truly is... "meta"....but we just cant shut the hell up.
I went into recovery going on seven years May 2016. I am changing, growing, learning, and I cannot seem to overcome being so judgmental of people and of myself. This is a great video. I will check out more. I actually am learning so much from your videos. I am learning new and positive behavior and my ego is always getting me off course. lol. Thanks.
A year and half ago I was told I had the biggest ego one had ever seen... (How rude!?) 😂 What an amazing journey it has been so far, and I am only now understanding these words. It's beautiful, frightening, and I work on myself a little more each day. Thank you for videos!!
I bumped into this video because I think my ego is being the barrier of my self improvement. And watching this has given me a better idea of what I've been thinking, I'll need to re-watch it since there are many ideas in the video, but it seems that letting go is one of the keys. Thank you~
I ASKED GOD this morning to show me why I have this situational depression. I, then, found this video. Thank you God for this gift. This was so helpful. I have been in recovery for 31 years and I am just learning about EGO and how it must be smashed. I am neurotic and anxious so much of the time.
I just saw photos from the met gala. And it made me feel sick and think about the word ego. Then down the rabbit whole I went because I wanted to understand the word better and found you’re page. You are a breath of fresh air. It’s always nice to hear someone so relatable.
I believe I have felt "Nirvana" or a sense of oneness with the world, but this was a temporary effect of LSD. To be able to accept everything as it is without desire or emotions is a fine goal and thus today I have reestablished my lives purpose.
people here used the words idiot and phoney to referred to this man giving the talk. what they have done is to show, in their harsh words, what the ego does.
Beautiful thats right
How bout I give you the ole one-two to your face, you martian terd looking elephant - yours truly, My Ego
They have judge him.
Lee Tao Dana, you are right. But are you aware that you judged them, just like they judged him? (You didn't use harsh words though) And just like I am judging you right now 😃
was thinking the same thing
Amazing to see how much Leo has grown from this time to where he is now. Dissolve that ego!
The ego that so built around myself for safety and protection when there was none is the subject I’m broaching on my upcoming blog posts. This video has been helpful to see the difference in perspective
i am so grateful the Universe placed this channel in my path.
I came here due to Guardians of the Galaxy Part 2... it is all about EGO. I LOVE THE UNIVERSE.
Bring racist is a CHOICE. The second you get rid of your EGO is the time you invite LOVE. So only way to make space for Love is when YOU get rid of negative thoughts= energies because these stop us from gaining more knowlege. The SECRET to experience the next level of consciousness is to get rid of your EGO- example : backbiting, spreading rumours, vulguar language, deliberately putting labels on people - fat/ ugly / mental Thinking that you are better than others by looks Also CHEATING on spouse very unwise because it takes one away from our true self so one is actually ROBBING ONESELF of TRUE JOY.
I have been studying L.O.A. and stumbled onto your videos.. I love when you said: There is no good or bad.. there just IS... I wrote that down and put it up above my desk.. that's a good one!! Thanks for sharing! I look forward to watching more of your videos! Cleveland, Ohio
BRAVO!!! I am loving your videos and am so thankful for you sharing them! I've struggled for years with my self esteem and its really nice to know there are people like you in the world helping with your gift. Many thanks and much praise to you. Keep up the great work, you are an awesome coach!
One of early videos of Leo, a relatively simple topic, kind of like introduction to ego, yet I come back and watch over and over again. I am advanced in my personal development journey, but I still love coming back and listening to this. Please keep this content on youtube!
I heard about the ego, but never research until now... this video helped me a lot, thanks for this amazing job
The other way to let go of ego is intense psychological turmoil. It starts this process with its own energy which starts breaking down ego. Very painful but amazing.
Thank you Leo. I got a lot of clarity and value from this. "The ego separates itself from everything else that EXISTS"
Your understanding of this issue is very good. When the fire is high enough one jumps out of a balcony at the 10th floor to avoid to be burnt alive. And then one sees something unexpected. That's how i found it and i take it you too.
Thank you for giving me what I would like to consider a solid starting point. Now I have a definition and can start to debate with my inner self in order to achieve a closer definition and understanding of what happiness is to me, and how much of it is depended on the image of myself which I have created in my mind.
Thank you for this amazing information. I never usually comment on KZhead post because my ego always told me that I was too “cool” and I knew all the information unlike everyone else. But that is far from the truth!
Awesome! I have never really had the pleasure of having the ego described in such a comprehensive way. I also love the notion of letting go of the idea of bad AND good, letting go of the need to label and conclude everything and everyone's value. It's not good or bad, it just is. You may now chill and enjoy it all
Ego doesn't let you believe that someone dumped/rejected you. If you think without letting ego have a say, you'll accept and move on and feel the pain and mourn along the way.
ego is important! it sounds like depression to me. self-worth "ego" is very important, keeping some judgments is important. being grounded is important, having the ability to notice the evils in the world is important. keeping good morals is important if you are so out of wack that you think nothing is wrong with anything and everything is just "is" then you are blind not enlightened
blueridgeocean u see the importance of this but it can be seen as good or bad. Duality
Amen
I couldn't have put it any better.👌 If you stand for nothing you fall for anything.
there is no such thing as no good there is some good in everything that is what he means
I really relate so much to this! What I think is that we shouldn't kill or dissolve our ego but (as one person mentioned above in the comments) learn to master it. And understand when it's needed and when not. Because it definitely is needed to some degree, in some situations.
I believe some people have a relatively 'healthy' ego. Usually as a result of adequate parenting.
Yes, that can be very true, The healthy personality. Still different when there is a spiritual awakening though, when consciousness begins to seek beyond its immediate identification with body/prior experience/ego... many different phases and angles! Thanks for sharing.
The Mediator Mystic We’ll put. There’s no such thing as a healthy ego. He’s using a different definition of ego.
I believe that almost no one does (for now)
I agree
Ego is the line drawn between being confident plus having self respect and being arrogant or cocky or falling into vanity.
as I was watching this video I began to reflect on something I address in all of my journal entries. I don't start it with "dear diary" I start my entry with "higher being within," what I noticed while watching your video is my ego was not becoming gradually more numb with my awareness and improvement on it, but rather my ego was evolving to where it is now calling upon my "higher being within" for answers and (due to subconscious writing exercises) my higher being within answers all the questions I have. I love your videos and I think you speak the closest thing to my truth. respect and keep up the good work:)
Hi Leo, I’m a big fan of your work and what your trying to achieve in these videos. I really appreciate your experience and wisdom. I’m beginning to master my ego and becoming more conscious about trying to practice non judgment. Being present in every moment and having acceptance for what is is such a gift to me. Life is not easy but is made so when one stops resisting and just surrenders and trusts completely. Your passion is awesome. Keep up the great work. Blessings and sincere thanks.
Found this excellent explanation, of a very complex and contentious concept, refreshing, accurate and illuminating. A man well along the path to mastery of his own ego. Thanks for sharing this 🙏🏽❤
I have been struggling in school, I have been struggling with making the decisions that would make me happy... I knew about ego but I haven't realized how much it was holding me back until recently. Now that I'm preparing for my exams, it's not even about achieving anything, it's about practicing humbling myself. Sitting with the empty heart that comes with a shattered ego of not knowing something (yet). I realize this is something I might benefit from doing with my dysfunctional relationships too, using them for practice. I'm not sure I'm ready for that yet though. Maybe I will just practice not reacting first. Ego isn't inherently bad, but being mindful and noticing when it's holding you back in the here and know is worth doing. It gets better. It gets less painful. I hope one day I will be strong enough to do this with people too.
You are an amazing human being with a lot of common sense and well inspired. You gave us an extraordinary understanding of what ego IS. Thank you and God bless you xx
Hi Leo, Thank you very much for providing such amazing tools to help us with life. I am so grateful that you have given me this gift. I don't quite know where my ego lies right now, but I can tell you one thing. I used to have a big ego and it brought me down and crumbled me into pieces. I pretty much lost everything. I went from a superiority complex to an inferiority complex, to now just trying to live and observe without judgement. I am trying to go down the spiritual path now and practicing a lot of your techniques. It's helping tremendously. Thanks, Baljit
Thank you for sharing this with us. I found instantly that I'm scannning things and putting a value for things in my mind. I think that when you got the keys for you to observe your ego your(higher self/consciousness?) will now how to heal and to reset those beliefsystems. Now, I'm thirsty for more...next video... peace and love :)
Great video. Ego makes one afraid of failure and pain and hurt and a sense of obligation to become better which in turn obstructs self improvement. But I would say that ego is a part of nature too and keeping it under control rather than killing it completely is a better thing. Just sharing my thought on this matter. There's lots for me to learn in this and thanks again for this beautiful video bro.
OMG ...Leo! You are right now at eons distance from that point in time. Congratulations! I'm really proud of you. Many blessings!
This is the very first video I've watched about egos and it's very inspiring! Thank you, I will remember this video when I realize I'm being judgmental and negative.
I'm currently working with my ego. This way very helpful. Thank you
I remember Alan Watts once said something like: " The biggest ego-trip there is, is to try to get rid of your own ego :) Love your vids, Can find the same info many places, but i like the way you present the content. Very good thanks.
Wow this video really blew me away! I know you’re on a journey towards enlightenment so don’t need praise haha but this video summed up the last about 7 books I’ve read about how to live a better life/ be happy and did it so perfectly and in a way I can share with my friends who don’t like reading lol. Thank you for this it is a beautiful resource for my journey. ♥️
Leo's first metaphysical video. Wild looking back at these old videos compared to where you are now. I'm happy to have been along for the ride.
Love this video, it describes me very well! Thank you for the advice.
Many, many, many, many thanks for this! I have identified my 25 years of defence, and I have identified my ex-girlfriend’s exit; that she ‘knows who she is’ and that ‘I didn’t ‘understand’ her. I think that I have finally found the answer. I just am and so I am now FREE.
There is never a complete stage of enlightenment. The fact that you even strive for it will steer you away from things. No one is ever truly enlightened. To be enlightened is to understand and accept that.
This video is so helpful. Big egos can destroy people lives. Keep up the great work, Leo.
Thank you for sharing your wisdom and good luck on your journey, friend.
Love this video! Ego really is a fascinating thing to discuss. And the thing avout the ego I feel is that it's so sneaky and adaptable. When you think you're making progress and you're not judging, not identifying with thought patterns etc, that's your ego feeling thretened and telling you not to keep working on yourself. It really is like a really hard to kill parasite living inside your brain. But like you're saying - even that is ok! Everything just is.
Ego is always at work. Always. That is just the way it is. But, living more in the present or being aware of just one point on your body, for example a belly, how it has a life of its own and you are awaee of it, suddenly you will see that ego always works. But, at this moment you dont live in your head anymore. You are aware of tgoughts, not the thoughts. Its like thoughts are volumed down.
It’s easy for me to judge myself for slipping, but that in and of itself is an opportunity to practice observing instead. I see myself making mistakes, taking a step back, I see it for the process that it is and accept it etc. Instead of judging myself. Maybe not judging ourselves, especially in a negative light, is the hardest part.
wow this whole time i never realized how much i have been embracing this Buddhist mentality, this really opened my eyes to my past, my future and deepened my love for life, psychology and your Work!! i love your video's Leo !! i love that i finally found something i can actually agree on that's relative to my lifestyle, yea sure my childhood was shit but ever since last year when i started studying psychology it's been nothing but positive, i remember how i used to be so negative and judgmental, not to mention all that time i wasted with those stupid video games i used to play omg XD
i felt this relief today, the fact that i am typing this brings back my ego because i am seeking validation with this comment and even though i know it i am still going to post it
yo, this on LSD experience is something else...
You're not alone bruv.............. STAY AWAKE
"experience" hmmmm...
Or shrooms
anything on LSD is something else lol
This is fantastic. All this material is extremely good and enlightening. I do not usually post comments, because of my ego. And only realized it now! Thanks for this
Wilson Santos That´s amazing!!! You seem to have a very effective way of learning.
Wilson Santos nice👍
Wilson Santos - Awesomeness happens when you share your world. 5 second rule share how you feel and let it out! We are all meant to be the best version of ourselves don’t hide it.
Hm, I just realized that I never post comments either, because I feel like I'll just be another 1 in millions. But you're right
This seems true
Indeed, THE problem is the ego. It took me decades of seeking to clearly see this, and what a shock it was - I'm still reeling two years later. But that's as far as 'I've gotten so far. Good luck all.
100% on track with what you saying ego can break you down without u even knowing it !
awesome bro so glad i found this!! I love ya explanations make it so clear and easy to understand increase my understanding 10 fold Thank you!! much love!!
Dude, your videos are freaking amazing :D Thank you for everything, you're really helping me make a change in my life :)
I completely agree! Staying on this ego melting path is the most wonderful discovery/ theory. I also enjoy this song that speaks of ego melting, it keeps me smiling. open.spotify.com/track/7pQTPzv6uRH0OGivMOXNnR
I regret that I can't leave triple like for this great video. Pretty cool explanation of what ego is. Love watching it.
I agree to most of it. But I also believe that ego overtakes over all other repressions which gives you a mental boost . I back my self every day even if I'm not feeling it.
I find this video very insightful. I'm 22 and have had anxiety for the last four years. Through some Therapy and a family loss, I have realised my anxiety stems from my core beliefs of trying to be and look perfect. This is something I am trying to change as It makes me unhappy and I feel my ego is very much dictating the way I live my life and stopping my true potential. This video was brilliant :)
Everything is going to be okay. Universe has your back.
You are fully capable of being your true self and you are destined for further growth, development, empowerment, love, understanding and care.
thank you actualized you got the power to completely change people's lives, thanks to you I'm starting to be aware since you got me into meditation, and it is the most amazing thing I ever experienced in my entire life. Anyway, what about a video on 'being conscious of death' I guess most people would find it interessing or have you already made one like that? Have a nice day from Italy, thank you man!
Bring racist is a CHOICE. The second you get rid of your EGO is the time you invite LOVE. So only way to make space for Love is when YOU get rid of negative thoughts= energies because these stop us from gaining more knowlege. The SECRET to experience the next level of consciousness is to get rid of your EGO- example : backbiting, spreading rumours, vulguar language, deliberately putting labels on people - fat/ ugly / mental Thinking that you are better than others by looks Also CHEATING on spouse very unwise because it takes one away from our true self so one is actually ROBBING ONESELF of TRUE JOY.
really enjoyed this , thank you for posting. starting my journey away from my ego. thank you again.
after months of therapy, i'm finally able to take a peek at my own ego, manifesting himslef in certain situations. Your believes are molded by your perception, after years and years of trusting them without even hesitate, to challenge the idea that the world as you know it isn't real, or at least look at it from another perspective, i'ts hard and it's scary. This change wouldn't have happened if i didn't touch bottom in the first place, so if anybody is feeling bad about himself, i would suggest exploring your ego. A good start would be trying to identify all your preconcepts about people, and trying to notice your reactions or thoughts about people around you in your daily routine. Chat with someone about it, that hint it's really important. it doesn't have to be a psychologist, if you don't have friends, defy your preconcepts about you and ask youself why. Give it time, being conscious of your ego isn't a easy task.
This just blew my mind. I realized you are not your body. Your body is changing constantly u are just the thing undergoing the change. Also you are not your thoughts. You are just the thing experiencing the thoughts. So if we are not our thoughts and we are not our body what are we?
Keep looking deeper. You are not even a thing experiencing thoughts.
Noah Brown That is beautiful. Understanding at last.
U are the soul
We are all one consciousness splitting itself apart and reconnecting in a complex simulation that not many understand
Noah Brown You are the experiencing of your body and your thoughts. You are not a thing, nothing solid, bit rather a function.
I'm so happy watching this video. Thank you very much Leo you've changed my life. I'm trying to develop myself as much as possible and your videos has helped a lot. Truly appreciable Leo :))
My pleasure :)
Vivek Yadav I agree. The first time I watched one of his videos I just felt so comfortable, care free and in a positive state of mind. Leo you're amazing dude!
"let him who is without sin cast the first stone". This too is a profound statement of self-analysis and understanding of ego from a teacher who is now sadly underrated.
this is the best way ive heard anyone describe ego. usually im stuck between "how do i kill my ego" and "self love" its very paradoxical considering ego is self. powerful stuff man im activly keeping a journal and recording my emotions and responses to them every three hours from waking up til i go to sleep and its given me alot of insight. keep it up man i dont view you as a guru but as someone sharing openly their journey and i think its very powerful to differentiate between these things because i personally have always had an issue with people who claim they possess the truth and infinite wisdom. yes this is a judgment, and yes its possible that they do possess it, whatever it is... but you share differently and definable keep up what your doing
after re reading i noticed my ego wanted to be accepted by writing this comment, interesting
most underrated youtuber . You need more views !
Help spread the word and we'll get more views! :)
Ego death is not something to aim for in this modern world, its a massive misconception everyone has that its a positive thing. The mere awareness of how your ego develops is enough to be more aware in throughout its development. Over the years you realise how certain events affect how you relate to life, knowinthis, and stepping outside this peocess to be aware of what is happeningis the real aim. Develop strong positive morals your ego identifies with and you will do far more good in this world than someone who aims for death or diminishment of the ego.
+Rob well said Rob the end of the ego is irrational and is a philosophy that the east has always tied themselves with but have never achieved. Not being needy, greedy, selfish and afraid is what I believe the end of modern ego. but you cant end the ego because it is what we came for to live in this experience.
+Joshua Vallejos . the truth is that ego death is as real as the illusion that dies when it's seen thorough. if you were to try to kill ego it would only be ego trying to end itself while under the impression that it's not the ego. the secret it to drop all attachment to thought and ego Will no longer be the obsession it's made into.
stephen finch This. you don't have to 'kill' your ego in order to not be controlled by it. Somehow everyone thinks that ego's are demonic things that lead us away from our true self. It's a load of hogwash.
Can you kill a thought? Can you ignore a thought? Ego is created by believing one thought linked to another linked to another. It is referred to as ego death because the realization that it is only that is also the realization that what you took yourself to be is actually not real and you are left with emptiness and in that sense it is death and can be quite confusing. it's best to not be concerned with killing it off. rather find out how much of your life is based on belief and what you know is true (and truth is self verifying) and that alone should put things into perspective.
I disagree the ego is just a game we have it for a reason, it is not our true self, when the light of consciousness shines throughout it the ego becomes insecure and exposed and it cannot survive. Ultimately we are not our ego, our ego is a tiny spec of the vast awareness and consciousness that is out there. Read Power of Now by Eckart Tolle. - The evolution of consciousness is the next step for mankind,
I appreciate you exponentially for this content. I've been going through a mental breakdown and have been trying to understand reality from my perspective, but I realized I could not do it alone. Thank you for being a vessel of this information / data.
I always underestimate how consistently strong ego is , thank You for Your information it brought me back to understanding what went wrong today it was ego tricked me again lol thanks
My ego felt uncomfortable watching this. I was nodding my head when you were talking about the scan and judge. I feel that my ego is being conciousness of why I type and what I type.
right it made me scared to think the ego knows what happening and continues the repetitive patterns that are no good while it can be a good judge for morality it still is negative if uncontrolled it feels weird not to imagine my thoughts, not as my own but something that was hindering my growth but also makes me self aware
It is popular to believe in these theories. All of evolution and the struggle of life forms has been to separate the organism and make it a separate individual that is now called the ego. While a car may be a collection of molecules which are a collection of atoms which are a collection of sub atomic particles which are waveforms of energy, in the end... it's still a frikin car. It is all of the things that make it up and it is also more than the sum of its parts. The cars essence is in the pattern of the collective and not the collective itself. To lose your "ego" is to lose yourself. We are what we desire to be as long as we take those desires and turn them into reality. I see myself as a good man. In that image I hold as the good man I desire to be, I have ideals. If I fail to live up to those ideals I have 3 choices. 1- I can realize my failure and strive to do better at living up to my ideals 2- I can alter my ideals to make my perception of what being a "good man" is. 3- I can alter my goals of being a good man and settle for less than my true hearts desire. 2 and 3 are cop outs and people will go to elaborate lengths to justify choosing options 2 and 3... like this concept of the ego being a bad thing that needs to eliminated in one way or another.
The1stDukeDroklar I think I get what you’re saying. Makes sense, but the only question I have about that is this: if I’m not mistaking, you say that changing your ideals about what you think you are is a cop out, but what if a person actually objectively has bad ideals that they need to re-evaluate? Do bad ideals even exist in your opinion?
"Come with me if you want enlightenment" - Leo the Mental Terminator. Great video.
Best video on KZhead. Congrats Leo!
Lack of ego is basically: I cannot think I do not exist.
Have you seen a movie called "Revolver"? It's great, it's about this ego subject, I recommend it.
I love this movie! Great recommendation. I also recommend this song I have discovered that talks about ego melting as well. open.spotify.com/track/7pQTPzv6uRH0OGivMOXNnR
Of course, it's one of my favourite movies of all time. Watch my video, the meaning of this video is similar to my video that I recently posted.
I was struggling with why my intuition was telling me to not cut my hair,its because my ego wants me too,wants the old me back,thanks to your awareness,I am still working on deflating my ego,its hard,but your on my side,thanks again.JT.
I was looking at your videos & my immediate thoughts were that I didn't want to watch certain ones. After a little thought, I realized it was just my ego trying to keep me from watching more videos because it does not want me to continue to grow. It is scared of change, but I already feel myself relieved from my personal hell. Learning to let go of the ego in myself is the best thing to happen to me.
I have been battling with 2 question lately and it's nice to see people here that are so interested in the subject. 1. How can you pursue or even wish something if you have no (zero) ego? 2. How can you romantically love a significant other if you are one with everything and basically love and feel at peace with everything that's going on? Please :)
Dorel Butaciu Dorel Butaciu Dorel Butaciu what does wanting material things in life or having goals have to do with how you see yourself as a person?? This is your ego asking these questions. If I'm really at peace and one with the world how am I not one with my significant other? Stop evaluating self and start being yourself
Because of ego, i lost everythings.. I lost my love... My life and everything
There is hope, reverse it! Kill your ego and you will gain everything. Read the story of Job. Its metaphorical for losing everything to regain ever more. Read about Jesus Christ in NT, he is talking about losing yourself. He is a Saviour, he will help.
@@cscs9192 don't delete your ego, keep it in check, don't dissolve it, but don't let it destroy your life.
I love your video!! Thank you so much for your wonderful explanation. It is so helpful for me to share with others about the ego now that I can send them your video.
@Leo, Thank you for such a good explanation. Your message was right-on-time for me, today. Again, Thank you.
The Ego needs to shut up. Cognitive Dissidence?
"...unless we´re Buddhist monks..." It´s not about being Buddhist nor monk. It´s about seeing who you are? Who meditates? Who wants to go "through that process"? Just asking:)
Literally the best description I have ever heard.
thank you for sharing with us your words of wisdom, you know your video today reminded me of what I've read earlier this year in the book of forty rules of love by Elif Shafak. numbing Ego is really the ultimate silent battle with innards, I've experienced it at least once and it was amazing how much I discovered that our ego exist in almost every word we say or even think, it's really hard to try to numb it but it's a worthy experience. thank you once again