How To Be Attractive - The Ultimate Attraction Strategy
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Video Summary:
Tips and tricks and cheats are not the way to be more attractive to a potential partner. The secret to being attractive is to be completely happy and fulfilled all by yourself, without relying on a romantic relationship. But that's the last thing anyone wants to hear who's lonely for love.
If you're looking for another person to make up for your deficiencies, you'll only attract someone who's also needy and deficient. Being needy drives away anybody of quality. It's also being dishonest with yourself by simply taking the focus off of your inadequacies. That of course is not the road map for success in any relationship.
To find the love of your life, become someone who's happily living an enriched life. Be authentic. Psychological independence is being happy by yourself, and wanting everyone else to be happy too. You cannot be authentic with anyone from whom you need something. That's why relationships based on neediness are doomed to failure.
When you're busy meeting your own needs, you're more likely to meet someone who's equally self-sufficient. The synergy of the two of you together will be better than the sum of your parts.
Master the ability to be alone.
I love being alone. I think it's a weakness being needy & obsessed with finding someone. The power is within you, not in a new boyfriend or girlfriend.
Yes!!
Been alone for 15 years off four month and back alone for ten, and I love it it let's me reflect on my self, it does get lonely , but I still rather be alone than with someone that's not my match
theres also the other end of the pendulum, im alone most of the time. but im sometimes lonely and too focused on the hard work and grind. No authentic and deep relationships, just shallow ones...
H O W ?
Almost everybody needs to see this video!! You're not meant to go into a relationship because you're sad and need someone to make you feel loved, you need to be happy and simply want someone to share your happiness with.
Rose Ramirez EXACTLY
very true, it is extremely valuable advice & information. especially when you've kinda lost yourself in a relationship and not knowing why or what happened
yea lets listen to the guy who has the NAMBLA symbol as his logo. There are way better places to get this type of knowledge
LumpyRex007 I replied to the comment, not the merits of this video. Yeah lots of places to get info. What’s NAMBLA btw? Blessings
@@Jillady The triangle symbol leo uses is the north america man-boy love association Google it. Leo is not someone people should follow.
‘You can not be authentic with someone that you need something from.’ That’s very true
Almost 5 years ago I have watched this video and it set me up on a personal development path which I am still walking today. Now after almost 5 years of development work I can hardly grasp the magnitude of all good things personal development work gave me. My life is now so much better. Thank you, Leo. This one video has set me free..
Same for me
I AM the one i have been looking for!
stfu
😂 awww haha basically
FUCK YES SHARON 🌷
DT M Right on! You should be. I am mine as well.💯😎
but you will never find real happiness by deliberately choosing evil
Remember that in order to love yourself, you must first accept and respect yourself. Some weak points you have are permanent and can't be changed. You have to understand that your weaknesses AND strengths define who you are. It's the combination of both that make you special.
I can't imagine ever loving myself. I'm not sure anyone actually loves themselves.
Everyone needs only 3 hobbies: 1) to make money 2) to keep you healthy 3) to bring you joy
or 1 that does all 3 e.g me as a Pilates teacher i make $, feel fit and am joyous
Marty Cook start a family***
Marty Cook how does that bring joy. Not being sarcastic. I make money I’m healthy well I’m a pro dancer anyway. No joy. Well except when performing
Lyrical Terrorist lyrical i wouldn’t know. I stopped Caring a long time ago. You don’t have a pic. So..doesn’t matter. Rather I live or die I just don’t care
Ugh your page has no content. Confused
Yes! My husband needed my attention all the time. I told him, I cannot make you happy 24/7....you need to be happy with yourself. He ended up leaving for another needy woman. I am enjoying being by myself!
Wow, that's quite something. Peace to you.
Ppl who look for needy ppl are manipulative
Maybe he just wanted you to be engaged in the relationship, genuinely interested in him and bonding instead of being selfish and coasting.
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Did you cheat on him? And why did you do it?
Coming from my experience, Leo is telling the truth! It works. Relationship is like a bird in your hand, if you hold it tight, it will die from suffocation, if you hold it lose, it will fly away, just hold it with the right amount of pressure.
The push, the pull.
I love pushing & pulling Sarah!
lmao thats great Joe Roz
one of my most valued techniques
But the thing is how to do it?
If you liked this video, be sure to check out my related videos: 1) How To Make A Girl Fall In Love With You - What Girls Really Want 2) How To Make A Guy Fall In Love With You - What Guys Really Want 3) How To Be A Man - The Deep Core Of Being Masculine 4) How To Be More Confident - A Step-by-Step Process for Becoming Truly Confident 5) Healthy Relationships - What You MUST Know To Sustain A Great Relationship 6) How To Overcome Shyness - Transform Yourself Into An Extrovert
Thank you! I needed this! My wife of 14 years with two young boys is going through limerence. She’s divorcing me to be with another person. I’ve been so depressed and suicidal because of her. Thanks for making me realize my own happiness.
I feel exactly like you… my girlfriend just broke up with me… she said she wanted to take a break from dating and now I just heard that she’s already got a new crush, and it really hurt me that she would just lie to me and I trusted her.
I’m sorry to hear that and I hope you’re doing better now
I am sorry to hear that , hope you are feeling better now
Keep pushing man. Work on getting you back, not her.
Im alone and totally happy. Have no interest in a relationship. Life is great!
Why are you here?
How's it going now, I would be so glad for an update.
@@BeckleJM really good. its good to realize that you can be alone, learn to love yourself and be at peace with it. if I ever have another relationship, it will be much less codependent and much more heart centered.
VERY TRUE LEO. Gotta love yourself first and be happy with JUST yourself.
Linda Carter! As in former Wonder Woman?!
Man this is totally awesome.....you sir are truly inspiring.....you've got no idea how desolate I felt before I watched this....I've realised that you are right !....I dnt really need anyone to complete myself...I already am complete...I got my music, my car, friends..AND a purpose in life....thanks a ton bro..!
Enjoy life... with and without others :) Good work!
Actualized.org Absolutely......I mean Ive been such a dumbass thinking why me ?....why do I have to be the one getting dumped even when I was so damn honest to people ?....why did she do that ?.....why did I have to suffer ?......I realised that I was just too attached and prioritised relationships too much.....I really should not have!.....there are so many other stuff to do in the world! Getting too attached was my greatest mistake........dont you think so ?
Bharat Jeevan Yes
Actualized.org i love this other girl so much the problem is she has a boyfriend help me out
david mokotedi You're too needy. Why are you in love with a girl who hasn't had sex with you? Only because you have too little sexual options.
"You cannot be authentic with someone that you need something from." Amen.
Amen 😭
We're all sad people searching for this shit
LMAO
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mannnn
Some things can only be found by not searching for them.
You're right
Leo, you're wrong, I need you and your videos.
Ondrej Hrdy if he doesn't help, there'll be another
Shared videos I think he can't be replaced
lol
tttttttyger hahah hey
Kudos for the Video! Excuse me for the intrusion, I am interested in your initial thoughts. Have you heard the talk about - Saankramer Attractive Life System (should be on google have a look)? It is a great one of a kind product for learning how to master the power of attraction minus the headache. Ive heard some decent things about it and my buddy finally got cool success with it.
I grew up the opposite way. I grew up preferring to be alone and had no interest in a relationship or family. I loved being alone and still rather spend alone time, although now I'm open to a relationship . I never knew that I was being psychologically self-sufficient- I thought I was weird! I am weird though..
Around 8:17 you said "you cannot be authentic with someone that you need something from" and that hit me a little because I can be a little needy of my girlfriend and even friends and that means I'm more nice than I would normally be if I was 100% self sufficient since I'm doing/saying things to find favor from them. Thanks for the videos Leo!
"You cannot be authentic with someone you need something from "..... That struck a chord
@Kill Slug Need and want is different. You have to work on your self, instead of seeking destractions from your loneliness and insurites. Learn to be controvertible being with your self.
@Kill Slug U don't need but want them- I've often looked to get in contact with women, cuz am lonely and feeling sad. But they can sense that and are turned off. Its easier to look for a quick fix. Then to fix your self. Some use video games. Youutbe- for ecapeism, but it will only distract u for so long. Until your sad again. I know i abuse weed but i keep doing it cuz its easy to do. Am on anti depressent. Makes me less stressed. But my brain feels empty, very little thoughts. so i have bery little to offer.
Kill Slug in my head, it still goes back to want vs need. The want for female attention vs the need and the actions you take to get it are different.
if we can't love ourselves...who can we love?
that's deep
I farted.
+Topinka Hat uh
+Topinka Hat yyyyea i think im gonna go now.. have a great life m8
+Bruna K bae 😍
You just blew my mind. This entire time I have been in love with a girl and I realised why. She don't need me or anyone. She is her own women. Thank you. I will try applying this principal.
My own parents were married for over 45 years and it was a total sham. They were emotionally divorced. These types of marriages actually last because their pathologies MATCH. These sham marriages because neither person ever grows. And this works for some ppl. I recognized this from a super young age and decided I would never live that way. And I never have or will. It is sick. That's why I never congratulate ppl who have been married for a long time. It means nothing. I am very happy I found this out very early on. Thx for sharing this type of info. It is MUCH NEEDED. And that's an understatement.
Take it from me at almost 70 years old and after 42 years of marriage, three kids and two grandkids...THIS IS SO TRUE!!! I speak from experience! Great message!!
I love how you don't have multiple takes on this and it's just one straight video because it really shows that you're passionate about spreading this knowledge to us and this is truly inspiring and gives me so much hope. Thank you!
These are amazing, from coming with such low self esteem I'm actually feeling happy with myself. You're amazing!
my needy ego is having trouble handling all this realness you're dropping. thank you for selflessly posting all this brilliant material for free. it's truly awesome
I don't feel he is focusing on detachment but truly on self love and self worth.
Your videos helped me 3 years ago to pass in my exams, now it’s helping me to save my relationship. thank you from my all heart for your honesty and the help.
This is the best relationship advice video ever made! Btw. I can confirm the truthfulness of all this by my own experience. When I feel good, the amount of people I'm attracting is ridiculously high. A person who's feeling good in his own skin and doesn't need anything from others is like a precious magnet that everyone is drawn to ;)
Have watched and took a few days to process your video on overcoming addictions. Thank you. You really can help people if only people are willing to just get it. On the contrary, no poetry, songs or art would even been made if the artist hadn’t been vulnerable in love. Just love deeply, hurt, love again, make mistakes, hurt again, but always stay. Never leave. Especially if you truly want someone because you know that they need you as much as you need them. Get educated together, get mad at each other, feel the world collapsing, be patient, allow space, love again’ never stop believing, love always, over and over again. The same person.
Leo man you are one of my most respected youtubers and people in general. You are so articulate and intelligent. I have watched over 6 hours of your content and i can honestly say I have never disagreed or got an off feeling with anything you have said. You are my virtual mentor, you are changing my life for the best. Thank you and hope to cross paths some sunny day
You're a really good philosophy. Psychologist, and coach. Thank you, it's super valuable !
So much wisdom in so little time! Thank you so much!
I love this channel because there's no ads and help other people's situations 🙂
Hey Leo, just wanted to thank you. Because of your videos my mind opened up about 3years ago. Because of you i learned to meditate and changed many ways. Thanks bro!!! Thanks for help the ones in need.
I love your videos so much Leo, thank you for making them.
When I was younger I was that needy person and men couldn't run away from me fast enough. As I got older and secure within myself there were times where I would tell someone to please leave me alone and I would have a difficult time getting rid of them. This was surprising for me to learn but what you speak of is a very valuable lesson. Thank you for your wonderful posts.
So glad I've found your channel. Can't wait to put these different ways of thinking into practice for the long term.
Interesting and elating that I’ve been of this sentiment & practice since I was a mere child and now a childish version of adulthood. Life’s too short to wait! You should have higher viewing than you already do. Thank you Leo
This is the most helpful video I’ve seen in a long time, probably ever! Thank you so much, I’m in the middle of getting over someone right now and I think you really helped me figure out what to work on. But in general this is a concept not only on attractiveness but on living a happy and fulfilling life. I love that!
Leo is giving a lot of wrong informations here. More than 4 hours of talk on several videos to don’t say the truth about attraction ... He shares a lot of informations without evidence. In the video is even denying the scientific studies but he can’t provide any evidence himself... He neglects the importance of look ( height , face and ethnicity ) in attracting women ... Statistics prove that being short make men struggle a lot and that taller men are the most chosen by women. You can actually see this in real life everyday you don’t even need statistics especially in western countries. He doesn’t mean that short men can’t get laid of course. But they will get laid less and it’s proven by numbers. Leo mentions that look is not an important factor but it’s not true. He literally said « IT´S ACTUALLY GREAT NEWS FOR YOU MEN BECAUSE ITS A LOT EASIER to develop leadership qualities and CONFIDENCE, ASSERTIVENESS AND STRENGTH than it is to change your PHYSICAL APPEARANCE ! This is the opposite actually. Look is the first factor and the behavior comes after especially nowadays. Most of the men don’t like to feel powerless and prefer to say to themselves that money and leadership is the most important factor to attract women. Because if men accept that can’t change they can’t change theirs look to attract a woman they may feel powerless... By the way some women do pick up and he said that women don’t do that ...
"We live in a society" 8:49 great, I spent too much time on the internet where that made me laugh like an idiot 😂😅
Same lol
Man! I am the exact counter-example you are talking about. Thanks for this amazing lecture! I get much less confused about my unsuccessful relationship and my unpleasant life after watching it! You are my mentor.
Thanks Leo for always being there, I am going to buy your course today cuz I am grateful and also I am exhausted by my stupidity. I hope your video reaches billions , I really dont understand how you know so much so young but I appreciate you
this video has changed my life. thank you!
How? Like, in which kind of ways?
+Olivia Pi well, i have finished a long time relationship a couple of months ago. she and i started perfectly but in our last months we were having lots of problems. and when we finished that relationship i couldn't give any explanation to what has happened to us, what has been changed and why we changed. what made that beautiful days into an unrespectful escaping days. i learned from this man that what i and her lived are being lived in other relations too. and the reason of it. the reason that my r.ship didn't had strong roots was at first we wanted wrong things from each other. this video kind of gave me another look to things i lived.
These videos are literally saving my life. I am so grateful for your posts!!!
Hi are you from the UK?
IKR , this shit is great
I have been watching your videos about relationships to get over someone and to understand myself. I have had this cruch or obsession kind a thing with someone for over a 7 years or so and i wasn't able to figure it out or to understand it and i didn't know what to do..... and now I am here. Your videos have been helping me a lot and I am so happy that i end up here. Here you have like complete package of thing that i need to improve about myself. And about this topic or actually topic about dealing with rejection and getting over of someone. I kind a become to realise that first I was watching videos about how to get over someone - these kind a helped me to understand the situation but actually they didn't help to get over and move on. I was still in that trap and looping, thinking over and over about all the things that has happened and so on. But what actually helps to get over and get myselfself back together and move on, are videos like these "How To Be Attractive" (confidence and being happy withyouself ) Most of the times I just stay to long into these situations, like thinking and analysing and feeling ( stucked ) What i need is to drop it and move on right away, like at same moment. Cheers mate ! Appreciate your time and dedication.
Thanks Leo on these inputs. It's true happiness is your choice. You have to work on yourself and let people see the authentic you.
You a mind reading genius. I like your study of psychology, Dude, you got a gift.
This guy gets it. Love is still very real tho brotha. Once ur comfortable loving yourself, You can individually as an individual love someone else. And not rely on them needing anything, but merely fall in love w who and what they are, who and what you are, and what the two of you are and mean together.
Yeah but loving yourself too much means your don't give fuck about anything one else, let alone fall in love with anyone but yourself. What he failed to mention that there has to be a balance. Otherwise, what's the point of a relationship when it's all focused on you? I've seen this happen, some guys love themselves so much, they in the end realized that they wasted their older life doing so and forgot that there's more to life than themselves, but others around them can also account for their happiness (at that point, it's too late and they told me that kind of regret it cause so many girls and guys was attracted/interested to them, but the self loving person did not recognised that feeling and didn't give a shit, cause it was about themselves more). Imagine this, try to imagine you are the only one on this Earth. What will you do? What is your goal in life? It would be a really lonely place. You will find that the majority of people who have a goal in life accounts for achieving that goal for others, not just themselves. Hence, because it is not here in this world, we are all connected, and in much the same say. If you love all around you and emanate your energy to others, they too will reciprocate the same. It's like a balance, and to some people, that is very attractive! And not the always the ("love yourself first", which can be selfish and therefore unattractive).
Leo, thank you for this intelligent insight! It is never out of date!
Leo! thank you so much. This was a lot deeper than I thought but the title caught my eye and knowing you post about deep things I wanted to know more. This video is gold and has so much truth to it, I feel as if I am working on this right now. These are also great ways to love yourself and just be happy all around. Thank you so much for sharing this!
The most attractive people to me are the humble, simple, kind ones who radiate with sweetness and love from the inside out. A person like that is a gem and deserves to be considered attractive over super models
"You cannot be authentic with someone that you need something from"
You are a legend bro. One of the things that I love about your content is that you keep it real.
Leo im really glad that I found your channel on KZhead. Your videos helped me a lot in spiritual way. Thanks
Is something wrong with me? I love being by myself more than being with ppl. I take 3 sometimes 4 hours daily to b by myself
Nothing wrong with that. I am the same. That's how introverts are.
+Debra Downes It's better than being a person that depends on outer stimulus to maintain their sanity. Most people are not capable of being alone because they just can't figure out what to do with themselves for hours at a time. It's a hallmark of intelligence that a person doesn't need others to relieve their boredom.
+Martin Hoch Introverts have a different brain-chemistry that allows them to be one with themselves, while chatterboxes need other people to form coherent thoughts. Oz never did give nothing to the Tinman.
>literally a Debbie downer
+Tom Evans I'm an introvert AND a chatterbox.
It's like Russian poet Pushkin told: "The less we love a woman the more she likes us". But you explained it even more)
Саша Ільїн yes, it’s a paradox,...but true 👌
Do you know the continuation? "That’s what exactly thought Onegin. In adolescence’s first days He was seduced by unchecked craving, Fell victim of the passions plays."
this guy is awesome! be true to yourself love yourself and rely on no one but yourself and if you love yourself so much it will overflow so you can give that love to someone else
I really love your work leo thank you for helping me out with this problem. This world needs more people like you Thank you so much 🙏💗
I think some of these negative comments are missing the point. True happiness comes from within. In order to find true happiness from within you must detach yourself from the rest of the bullshit out there and find who you truly are, what makes you truly happy. That way when people enter your life and just so happen to leave your life, you're not a broken mess over it. Because you're already happy, your happiness isn't embedded within someone else. Children are the only ones that adults should be attach to (aka unconditional love), at least until they've reached adulthood and they go off into the world and find what makes them happy, then you get to be attached to them when you're wrinkly and old. Other than that you shouldn't be attached to any significant other like they're the air you breathe, you'll suffocate them. Plus I'm sure he's only referring to attracting a love interest and not being needy and not infant-to-parent attachment/neediness which is kind of necessary.
I do exactly the things that u suggest in this video , now i m happy n exploring myself . Thx too much 🙏🙏💐💐💐
Sunita Saha God bless you
This made me cry. Thank you for such an amazing video. You’re helping people to change their life for the better
Love this Leo - so powerful & didn't expect it to be so deep & I actually need this in my life now so bad
Your videos are very helpful and inspiring, especially for people like me who are looking to change their thought process and can't find any guidance. I'm glad I was able to come across your page. Many blessings to you!
Thanks!
Hi Anna, I thought this was a good video too, so funny I scrolled through the comments and saw you here *does hip bump *
He's very insightful and inspiring
Leo is giving a lot of wrong informations here. More than 4 hours of talk on several videos to don’t say the truth about attraction ... He shares a lot of informations without evidence. In the video is even denying the scientific studies but he can’t provide any evidence himself... He neglects the importance of look ( height , face and ethnicity ) in attracting women ... Statistics prove that being short make men struggle a lot and that taller men are the most chosen by women. You can actually see this in real life everyday you don’t even need statistics especially in western countries. He doesn’t mean that short men can’t get laid of course. But they will get laid less and it’s proven by numbers. Leo mentions that look is not an important factor but it’s not true. He literally said « IT´S ACTUALLY GREAT NEWS FOR YOU MEN BECAUSE ITS A LOT EASIER to develop leadership qualities and CONFIDENCE, ASSERTIVENESS AND STRENGTH than it is to change your PHYSICAL APPEARANCE ! This is the opposite actually. Look is the first factor and the behavior comes after especially nowadays. Most of the men don’t like to feel powerless and prefer to say to themselves that money and leadership is the most important factor to attract women. Because if men accept that can’t change they can’t change theirs look to attract a woman they may feel powerless... By the way some women do pick up and he said that women don’t do that ...
Me before watching this: I’m ugly Me after watching this: I’m still ugly
This is so true I’m happy I’ve found someone who’s able to put this in words for understanding
I’m so happy he addressed both partners has to be on this same wave in order for this mindset to truly manifest because I’d been on both sides of the fence. And, can’t express how important it is the two people understand their individual happiness derive from themselves-never from the relationship itself or from the other person. I never noticed in my own life since coming into realization the guys who are needed, desperate etc., in most cases are unattractive to me. I can have one or two conversations and quickly see we are on opposites energy than it makes sense why they we never click to begin with. I have been by myself for a min and I’m loving it!
In my whole life i was having enough of the "fell in move with you" peeps , it was only based on my outlook and for a moment about this psychology... I became physically very ill and homeless too , now i have bad teeth and gaps , weigh very little and even while the self love , independent stuff isvyet still present along with all smilyfaced me , you can NOT claim with that certainty any succes will be (if i got a home again etc) because they all still look at someone having the looks.. You can not just ignore this factor.apart from that : Thumbs up for the actual defenition regarding self love ..
I love how in this video you stressed the importance of being single, and how you don't need to constantly be in a relationship. I don't see many people talk about that.
You are an attractive beautiful human being. Your videos are very insightful! Thank you for the positivity you are spreading in the world.
wow, i just find the info so very helpful thank you Leo!
I appreciate the video and I thank you for it. Had a little trouble feeling excluded by the mention of being attractive to the "opposite sex". Such a great and useful piece of advice but it almost sounded like it wasn't intended to apply to the 10 percent (or so) of us who don't identify as straight.
Think I remember him mentioning these concepts apply to same sex relationships
I descovered this video over 5 years ago and it changed my life. I am now confident as fuck and am married to my dream girl. Thank you wise man!
Congrats!
@@moeserhan160 thanks mate! Hope you are well yourself.
Amazing!! You caught me off guard. I was expect ing to gear something completely different.
This is a great video. I'm using it as a gauge to find out who I really am, where I'm at with my existence, where I want to go with my life and, what it takes for me to get there. It is amazing what a break up has lead me to. Now I'm thankful to her, the amazing woman who had the guts to dump me. At 46 years of age and 6'4" tall, I am a grown man but... I have some more growing up to do. There is always room for improvement someone once said :-) Most of this, I've always known, I was simply distracted by the things that made up my comfort zone. I'm now dusting my self off, make sure I can walk again and, here I go !
The problem with being really emotionally self sufficient is that the idea of a relationship becomes a bit pointless. That’s kind of how i’m feeling at the moment. My priority is to be good natured in every situation with no agenda. I feel that i’ve Destroyed all the fantasies of what a relationship is about. I now find it very difficult to imagine myself being in a relationship. I have no drive to find one. For a time this felt painful and empty. Now it just feels empty with a slight sense of relief.. I now have no idea how to begin a new path to love. It is like a void, but my breath feels soft and clear about it. I thought it might be a cold feeling, hard and brittle, but i feel a deeper warm glow
What you’re describing is a healthy human being having his own life and self sufficient The moment when you stumble with another likeminded HB, not needing anything from each other but just enjoying your companies is where the magic happen. Can you please update on your situation?
@@youalwaysgetwhatyouwant thanks for your response, it’s interesting reflecting on what I wrote four years ago. I haven’t met anyone over the last 4 years, either by stumbling or making a conscious effort. However, although I can still feel at times a futility of my future alone, I am generally happier than I was when I was younger trapped in a cycle/journey of trying to find a special love connection. At the moment I meditate on filling myself with divine love - maybe that will open up a path to stumble upon someone, but I have a feeling it won’t..I hope you are finding fulfilment in your life
when I search a video of how to be attractive, I don't mean it in a romantic... dating kind of way. I mean attractive in social situations, to be the light that lights up a dark room, the life of the conversation. Basically, I want my personality to be attractive. Does anyone have tips or videos to suggest? I swear you'd be a life saver, and I 'd love you forever XD
trust me jasmine monsoon with your looks youll do just fine.
bogdan zoric aww thats so sweet
+Jasmine monsoon I think what makes people interesting, in the sense that they have an attractive personality like you say, is when they 1) Have lots of stuff going on in their life like hobbies, things you did with friends, travelling, etc. because they have lots of stories to tell and 2) Being truly passionate about something. Doesn't really matter what it is just that you care about it. Because if you do you will radiate that passion when you are talking about it. 3) A sense of humor. Just my opinion though.
+Jasmine monsoon Find out what you love and what you dream of, think about yourself and reflect on things. Be aware of your surroundings and most of all of yourself and your feelings. How do you actually feel the world you live in? All of this can be a start of a better you. What might also help further is reading good literature or watching documentaries to broaden your mind. Trust me - no ones personality is dull. Most people just never thought about themselves enough to actually see how great they are. Oh and also - don't just think about things but try to experience them as well.
try kindness, empathy and look forward to cinstantly learning about different topics to have subjects to talk about. on my view point, further than her looks, a bright woman stands out by the way she makes feel men, and I am sure works otherwise too.
I agree so much with what you say in this video too, Leo. It doesnt mean I have achieved it, but I know for sure, from my own research and ruminations, that you are right and I believe you have the right goals, that we would all benefit from reaching.
What a blessing you are in sharing your talents and wisdom with us. So much growth has happened in stepping and checking ourselves first
Good mental food....I will work on this and understand it takes time...
learn how to love and accept yourself, this is the key and you'll see how happy your life is even without a partner. Try it guys, it's worth it!
Oh my god Leo your are very wise with your advice. I need them right now, I am married and I don’t know if it is menopause or what but I’m feeling jealous and that feeling is hell! I’m very paranoid but listening to your videos had helped a lot! I found them yesterday and I will continue listening to them. Thank you so much por your kind words, the truth on them and helping me to have inner peace. God Bless you 😌😌😌
Thank you for this.. This has been helping me (sort of) to belive and love my self again... Thank you
I can't believe so many people disagree with this. it screams of truth at me. So many of you are missing the point that people are turned off by neediness and desperation. if you love your self and know your self and learn to value your life without someone else "having" to be in it to be fulfilled then people will want to be a part of it because they sense your an emotionally healthy strong and confident person. it's obvious
“ Indifference is all the difference “ Corey Wayne
Guys be thankful so much for what he offered he is amazing and we have no right to say bad or to criticized him....He is helping us and it's a great things
Many thanks Leo, such an inspiration. Really needed this!
This is true. Thanks for the knowledge . Don't mind the negative comments
do you HONESTLY think people as smart and confident as leo give a fuck what people think? LOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
@@userMikeforsure1997 Well obviously he does, because he keeps replying to them. "LOL!!!!!"
Absolutely loooooooooooove this, agree on everything! New sub :)
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Thank you. I learned this lesson not too long ago, but it can be easy to forget. I appreciate the reminder.
Your videos have been so enlightening. Thank you. I'm learning so much about myself.
Leo, I dig your video's and they help tremendously. Keep em coming man! :)
And it can be frustrating if your new to this. If you have thought a certain way for years, it may take some time to start thinking another way. Trying Law of Attraction on little things that dont mean much to you is the best and easiest way to start.Because those are the things that you most likely dont have any contradicting feelings about. I will shut up after this LoL I learned from 3 different teachers something that made me feel so good about all of this and learned for myself that its true: Its as easy to create and have a penny as it is to create and have a billion dollars. Alot of us need to stop paying so much attention to "What is" unless you like it, and start paying attention to how you want it to be.
Brilliant... This concept is painful to internalize, but like anything else, Practice makes Perfect... And this is the most liberating state to live in once truly internalized... Detachment can be painful though. I guess, however, that with any growth comes discomfort.
I want to say you are doing a fantastic job. I think you are so real. Your videos are very helpful. I do love what you do.
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Actualized.org This is so true Léo! Mind-blowing, we Must Kill our Ego... I love all your videos! Keep on ;)
Most of the ideas presented here can be found in Albert Ellis- REBT. (maybe you inspired from his theory). In this case it's about MUSTurbation: I must find the loved person, otherwise i am not a good man. + need for love ( people must treat me well). Both ways of thinking can lead to failure+generate anxiety.
you explained why is the cause for not being attractive, but did you offer the solution? after introspection? How to deal with your irrational way of thinking? The solution is -dispute. Asking rational questions about your own fears. I think "stop thinking, clear your mind" is not a permanent and durable solution. It's just a running from the problem. Once again-REBT-Albert Ellis. Or A. Beck.
+Muna Ali You are exactly right..I feel that it is best for a woman to get her house in order while waiting for her prince charming....Have a life and don't look for him...HE WILL FIND YOU ....You are right !
+Anna S Good point!
Thank You. I'm working hard to get back to this. I used to be unattached. I lost it somehow. ❤✌
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This really opened my eyes right now. Glad i listened to this.
After my divorce I really began a journey to find myself. It was a bitter sweet journey but I am so much happier now that I like myself better