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00:00 Introduction
It should come as no surprise that in today's world, particularly in the US but also internationally, we find ourselves in an increasingly superficial society. The pervasiveness of advertising, the allure of celebrity, and the nature of competition both economic and otherwise, all contribute to narrow definitions of success and indeed narrow definitions of manhood; a good deal of this also has to do with changing social dynamics on the topic of gender and the idea of so-called toxic masculinity. These conversations can be divisive to be sure and we will discuss them today but that's not our only aim, we'd also like to dispel some other societal myths and indeed lies about what it means to be a man and how to move past them when navigating modern society.
01:23 Lie #1: A man must always be independent and solve his problem alone.
03:05 Lie #2: Wealth determines a man's value.
04:34 Lie #3: All men should follow the same life trajectory.
06:00 Lie #4: Men shouldn't be emotional.
08:10 Lie #5: Masculinity is defined by physical strength or athletic ability.
09:36 Lie #6: Masculinity is defined by your fame, fortune, intellect, and power.
09:49 Lie #7: Masculinity is defined by objectifying women.
11:04 What makes a gentleman in our opinion:
1. A gentleman recognizes that he is imperfect but at the same time, he maintains high standards and has a drive for continual lifelong self-improvement.
2. He is well-mannered, respectful, and courteous, and acknowledges everyone's personal dignity.
3. He is well informed but also open-minded, willing to consider the perspectives of others alongside his own learnings.
4. He recognizes the differences between aggressiveness and assertiveness, confidence and arrogance, and commands respect without being a jerk.
5. Of course, a gentleman is well dressed, but again, as a matter of personal improvement rather than as a flashy display of wealth.
12:55 Outfit Rundown
What are your thoughts? Share with us in the comments!
First, I'm absolutely in love with the new slightly sillier style of the recent videos. Keep up the good laughs! Second, as a man who likes stereo-typically masculine things (cigars, whiskey, watches, women, video games) but also stereo-typically feminine things (cats, fashion, interior design), it took me a full decade (all of my 20's) to learn to separate myself from toxic friends who would make disparaging comments about my race, style of dress, and class completely out of the blue based on these things. I wish I had videos like this back then to show me a man can be many things.
Tom McMorrow right there with you, man!
I'm a woman so I probably do not even belong here, but I honestly appreciate it when a man is passionate about very different and somehow "opposite" things (why opposite and declared opposite by whom ? I could not really say, though...). For instance my husband is this manly military officer, who likes his rugby and blended malts, but he also shares my love for beautiful flowers, cute babies, baroque Music or Miyazaki pictures... To me that is the definition of being "sain et équilibré" (having a healthy and balanced mind), and it is a fine quality !
@@elisedasvin170 Hey, everyone is free to say what's on their mind, and your input is appreciated! It helps breakdown the whole stereo-typing of what a man should or shouldn't be. I think more men need input from women like you, to be honest. Of course everyone is different, but it doesn't hurt to hear differing thoughts and opinions.
@@Mr_KhaBoom Thanks ! ^ ^
Because as we all know, cats are girls.
Honestly Raphael, that's what made me stick around the last few years. Unlike other men's style channels you nor Preston nor Kyle came off as overly concerned with your masculinity. The focus was always being a better version of yourself. Or to put it simply, a gentleman.
Agreed. I had to stop watching RMRS and Alpha m. because they were obsessed with their masculinity. It came off to me as being insecure.
@@tiborklein5349 I'm with you there. I still follow them, and I like most of their content, but as of lately, I feel like they focus too much on "what to do to impress women", or "top five things that will get their attention" etc. And honestly, it seems so superficial. While here on the Gentleman's gazette, they remain simple and focus on what's really important: self improvement, not seeking others' attention or validation. After all, in my opinion, being a man is all about living up to your code of honor/conduct, respecting others and standing up for what you believe; and not about striving for praise.
I appreciate the Gentleman's Gazette as well for the same reason. I believe the mark of a true gentleman is personal mastery.
All facts, the best channel for learning to not just be a man but also a human being.
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“If true liberty is means anything at all, it means the freedom to tell others what they do not want to hear.” -George Orwell.
And the freedom to say 2+2=4
aah orwell, the man who wound up renouncing more or less every belief he ever had by the time he died, but still couldnt bring himself to acknowledge that burnhams view of things was in fact right.
l don’t think that’s what freedom is. lf you’re gonna teII someone a truth that hurts, make sure to say it *in the most positive way* possibIe. Freedom does not mean having the freedom to harm others. Freedom is not a two-way-street. At Ieast in my opinion
Nonsense... "The truth is subjective" -- why would people burden others with their opinion on.... everything
@@voiceofreason2691 i disagree
I agree with many talking points. However, seeking validation from others has the potential to lead you down a negative path. Seek internal validation before you go looking for external. Cheers.
The one who lives for people's validation will die from people's disapproval
This is especially true in modern social media culture. Some people become reliant on it for their own self view.
"The need for acceptance will make you invisible" - Jim Carrey.
be deaf to their cheering AND booing but remain the capacity for constructive critique.
Who gives a f what people think as long as you love yourself that all that matter because you will never have everyone liking you that life
I like Preston. He seems like a good lifelong friend.
Incredible how people could watch this channel and then post some of the things about him they do, as alluded to by him in this video.
Preston seems like if he were a tv show character he’d be that one guy who’s the voice of reason amongst a bunch of wacky misfits
preston keeps moving his eyebrows up and down. forever. wayy too distracting to be a video presenter.
REDPILLED2 That wasn’t a very gentlemanly criticism of you to offer...
He is the kind of young man that i would be proud to call my son. But who is probably. Different from mr E in so many ways but identical in all the important ones
I really like your holistic approach to being a gentleman. It's not only about dressing the part, but also about staying physically and mentally healthy, treating others with respect, and being open-minded. Keep up the great work. Greetings from Germany!
Hear, hear! Wise words and worthy goals also for us aspiring gentlewomen and gentlefolk. :) Well done.
This is why GG is my favorite menswear channel. Mentoring young men everywhere in all aspects of being a polished adult
Marvelous to hear a men's channel that will actually talk about these kind of things, thank y'all very much.
Exactly this is why I subscribed
I agree and also like your profile picture
@@chromosomepolice4870 Thanks!
The most important component to being a man, in my view, is honoring your word: If you say that you will do something, you had better do it. Trust is the single most valuable currency you can possess: The dollar may become worthless tomorrow and even gold can lose value over time, but trust is _always_ worth something.
This is just as important for women.
Yes... "A man's word is all he has". If you promise to do something, you have to do it. Unless it's impossible, because no one is perfect and things happen. But at least 95% of the time.
This should apply to everyone, not just men.
Preston, you’ve turned into quite the presenter. Excellent job.
Preston is the man
half a man.
@@louiscyfer6944 😁😁
louis cyfer I don’t get it
@@louiscyfer6944 not funny mate
@@harrymackay2050 he is so thin, he is like a half.
As an aromantic person, it made me really happy that you mentioned that not everyone wants a romantic relationship and that other types of relationships are just as important. Keep up the good work! :)
It was so refreshing! Non-romantic people are rarely acknowledged, outside of old literature!
@The Lonewolf I did too at first!😂
I think the essence of being a gentleman is making other people feel happy and comfortable in your presence. Hospitality, in a broad sense. Not always easy. There's good advice in this video that can help us do that.
Gotta say... I was a bit worried that this was going to be a video that would get me to unsubscribe from a channel I've enjoyed for years. This is a really great video, to notch and respectful talk about an unfortunately difficult issue. Only makes me love this channel more!
I would like just thank Gentleman's Gazette and its three most elegant, smart and well-spoken authentic gentlemen who actually explain people what does it mean to be the one. Additionally I thank you for all the job you do for showing the timelessness of classic men's style, for all tips, guides and in-depth articles. Frankly, you really taught me these necessary lessons and wisdom that my dad couldn't, and I appreciate it. I must admit that your slight informality in last videos is the very moment when you can make your dedicated audience excited just with a little bit of silliness (in positive meaning), and you have earned it with no doubt. I wish you luck and further success with making videos and writing articles, also I sincerely wish more people around the world (especially in Russia where I'm from) would join the followers of Gentleman's Gazette 🍀
I always feel classy watching these videos
I feel you!
Dracula: What is a man? A miserable little pile of secrets! Sven and Preston: *We're about to end this man's whole career*
Ah, the mandatory castlevania reference... Good to see it's been made already
Preston is the gentleman icon for the youth, Raphael and Kyle are for the middle aged men! But the three of them are magnificent!
It’s great to see you folks talking about these things; being a gentleman is so much more than a wardrobe.
I’ve believed most of these lies my whole life. Time to live a different life!
I had an old fashion father. No hugs or "i love you's" I knew he loved me because he provided for his family and once in a while bought us a gift. I never saw him kiss my mother in front of us. Am sure they kissed in private. He was also quiet, had pride, and serious. It's rubbed off on me. I feel like I live in the wrong time period.
My grandfather was like that a little bit. He was less emotionally conservative by the time he had grandchildren but my father would tell me how much of a closed book he was when he was growing up. In his old age, he really was very generous with his time, his wisdom, and his love and I'll always remember him in that way.
I am on the fence on this one: you learn about relationships by oberserving you parents first. They set the example. If you shield your children completely from this part of your life, how will they learn?
You can be more expressive to your loved ones and still keep the stoicism and good things he taught you. Often people who are very closed off are dealing with secret childhood trauma, even if it was just emotional neglect. And if PDA makes you uncomfortable that’s okay, you can express yourself with your spouse any way you choose.
@@cecilyerker This makes me feel targetted 😂😂😅. There's probably some truth to it though
sad part is, men watching this dont have to because they know this already, and men who need to watch this will never click on this video
This is a brilliant statement!
Sadly true...
My dad used to say, you can't tell an idiot that they are an idiot, they won't understand.
Read the title again those of us you think need to watch this hoped a mens channel would be going against the lies they chose to propagate.
I love this channel I don't love this video
The last time I was this early I didnt have to wear a mask everywhere I go
"A man should foremost be a human."
It is self evident, because a human can't be anything else. For better, or worse...but suggests that men can uniquely be inhuman, or un-human. What!! 27 women liked this.
@@e.macdonaldoutdoors7825 yes you are right a man is a human but in a society where we expect men to suppress their emotions (because beeing emotional is considered weak and feminine) we often forget that we are humans and no machines
Proof Preston isn't a robot. Hi from Australia.
Not sure this proof. I know about synths.
Maybe the world's most advanced AI? A Jazz singing gentleman AI, he could take over the world and we would never see it coming 😅
Preston, who needs to giant muscles when you have those supermodel cheekbones?
Nobody needs giant muscles, but strong muscle do help you prevent injuries.
And that is a hilarious comment, thank you!
I don’t see any females in these comments
@@PainxSorrow maybe cuz its called "the Gentleman's Gazzete"?
@@PainxSorrow on some vids you will. but overall the channel is aimed at men. does it bother you not to see feedback from women?
Feelings aren's always good. The advice should be not to let the emotions errupt freely, but to rethink the emotional standard you are willing to express and dampen the feelings you feel are negative ( which requires time and awareness to process, and in this time it is the most important to stay calm and stoic; after you have figured out what you want to say - then you can start sharing it). Even if you are not violent, you can sometimes let slit some nasty things without even meaning them. And once they come out, there will be no way back. And it is a lot harder to repair your standing afterwards, than to keep your emotions in check.
Hear hear brother!
Amen, emotions can help. But I believe that you should control your emotions and let them out when needed, but don't let your emotions control you.
Feelings are not good or bad, they are natural.
Honestly I have people like you guys to thank for reaching me a few years ago when I was 18-20 and shaping the image of the man I strive to become
"to become" this shows that you got it right Joe. You will become a fine man! I wish only the best of things for your future!
Ok, can we please have the bloopers of those argument scenes? Thank you.
I only discovered this channel a few weeks ago while searching for a tutorial how to open a bottle of champagne appropriately and I am so happy I found it. I enjoy your content a lot, learned many new things and it helps to reflect and adapt my own habits and behaviour. Keep up the amazing work!
I strive to keep fit and look healthy (& be able to look after myself)... But some can take it way too far by pretty much living in the gym.
Haters gonna hate, Preston. Keep crushin it! The new videos are great and you all seem to be nailing the content and delivery. Plus they're a lot of fun.
I have to say, this is quickly becoming one of my favorite channels. Always great content that men of any age can benefit from. I gave always been a student of dressing well and often feel the need to explain myself but the older and more mature I become, I’m less concerned with having to explain myself and especially appreciative of those who notice the attention to detail. Thanks Gents!
1This video should be required viewing in the beginning of the 9th, 10th, 11th and 12 grades. Excellent job Preston! You are the MAN!
I love listening to you guys all 3 of you ( Sven, Preston and Kyle) are so eloquent and almost hypnotizing to listen to! Keep it up!
We're mourning the sudden loss of a perfect gentleman who literally dropped dead on the dance floor. I'm so glad that I had that last Viennese waltz with him that night. I was holding his hand and keeping track of his pulse as the doctor and other medical professionals tried to revive him while we were waiting for the paramedics. He embodied all the qualities that you stress and we are diminished by his passing. If you want to be remembered fondly during your life and after your death, you could do much worse than to embrace these values.
Came to this channel many years ago for basic menswear style advice, and have gotten so much more ever since. Thanks for doing what you do!
I love this channel. I love these videos. Telling it like it is; telling you how to be comfortable “in your own style”; telling you that newer & bigger is certainly not always better. All of The Gentleman’s Gazette videos get thumbs up from me, proving it’s always quality over quantity. When they do a video, they do it RIGHT.
I always believed that respect has to be earned.
My philosophy is that respect from others should be ignored. Respect yourself that is all that matters.
In my opinion, everyone deserves to receive kindness unless proven of beign unworthy of receiving it
I agree, earned by your behaviour
8:58 You are perfect as you are mate!
I really really loved the language, the message and the overall format of this video. I think you did an excellent job at communicating things that are both very simple and very hard to learn or unlearn for some people without ever sounding judgemental.
Probably my all-time favorite video from The GG. Thank you Preston.
Thank you! You're indeed encouraging men to be gentlemen and live in happy life by sharing your knowledge and past experiences.
Solid content as always! Sadly it is very difficult making new friends nowadays even keeping in touch with certain old friends at times but I also make sure I also focus on myself and doing the solo activities I enjoy doing. Either way at least stay in touch with a few people to keep your spirits up excellent points! I haven't been able to see my therapist in awhile but I stay strong and optimistic.
Great video as always. Thumbs up Preston for keeping it precise and well informative.
Preston, I truly enjoy listening to you in these videos! I appreciate your articulate and educational way of speaking. This video and many of the videos on this channel are near to GOLD.
I just love how you guys illustrate your points with those short and fun acted scenes
Preston making it Rain 😂🤣😂🤣😂
One of Preston's finest deliveries!
Thanks so much for this video. A very thoughtful and mature look at many of the issues I've experienced in my life.
Only just discovered this video and I'm so pleasantly surprised. All 7 are spot on and if even one man, young or old, takes it in then you've changed things for the better. Great work guys.
The way you handle more sensitive or controversial topics is well done!
Thank you for making this video. I wish you all much love.
Preston, i loved this video it says a lot about your character and those of the gentleman's gazette. Well done.
I'll always enjoy Preston throwing away money
I needed this video!!!! Very reassuring!!! Thank you gentleman’s gazette!!!!
Hi! I just wanted to say that this was a really thoughtful and sweet video, I hope the men who watch this channel enjoyed it also (I am a girl and I just came across this), I think we should definitely be teaching more things like this to our young men and boys as they grow up :) great job guys!
Love the background acting - hilarious!! And Preston, when I first saw you, I sensed there was something different about you. You definitely have a long neck and your head seems a little smaller (barely), and the glasses sometimes make your eyes bulge - however, I honestly didn't think there was anything wrong with you and I found your voice soothing, your jaw line is perhaps the best jaw line I've ever seen, and I was impressed by how well put together you are and how articulate you can be. In fact, I actually (purely bro level compliment) found you kind of handsome in your own way. Good work with the self improvement and keep going!!!
Well said. I plan share this video with several people. Even with a therapist I know that deals primarily with men. This video is more concise and clear than they tend to be. 😁
when Preston get's angry he goes full CAP-LOCK
Fantastic video! It gave me the confidence I needed, and all of your other videos have helped me express who I am in a classic, elegant manner. I was wondering, like how you did with James Bond and the kingsman, could you break down the way John Reese and Harold Finch dress from Person of Interest? It always fascinated me, and your videos are always awesome. Keep styling and singing your beautiful jazz!
Fantastic, broad ranging video...one of your finest and most informative. All the best from Scotland.
The best video on KZhead I’ve seen in a long time. Just what I needed.
I loved the guide/standards about what it means to be a gentlemen! All based on integrity, humility and respect. These are universal values not limited to one type of person.
Just a short note to thank you gents for your excellent videos. You've done an excellent job of covering a wide array of topics that are really important to men. Yours is a channel I can recommend to younger men without hesitation so that they can get solid information. Thank you.
So very impressed with this video. Superb example of eloquent gentlemanliness. Keep up the good work fellas!
Preston, this is a brilliant video. Thankyou.
Bravo. Thanks for your thoughtful and compassionate contribution to the discussion.
This is a great and very important video. Nice presentation Preston, and thanks to you all for talking about these topics.
This is a great video and you guys are crushing it. Good on you for being proactive and trying to make the world a better place.through knowledge. Respect.
ok, when i saw the title and thumbnail, i really thought this was about to go in a different direction. like an.... incelly direction. but, i mean this slapped me in the face for even suggesting it. many of these channels and pages about men and mens things usually go in that direction. so im glad to see this went a complete 180 on those ideals
Excellent job Preston! Keep up the impeccable job!
Thank you so much GG for taking this topic on. It’s long overdue.
Did not expect this to be so based! Usually people into more vintage tend to be somewhat hung up on prior societal expectations. The message in this video is much appreciated!
I get that masculinity is not defined by physical strength but it certainly helps how others look at you. And it's such a great feeling to move a certain amount of weight you dreamed to do weeks/months/years ago.
Physical training is a very effective way to increase self confidence and to practice self trust and integrity. Also, it's an essential part of staying healthy on the long run. And health is one of the most important possession one can have.
I agree with this comment so much. People don't necessarily depend on others who are buldged and have huge muscles but they certainly treat people with huge muscles different than one who doesn't work out at all.
As long a you can open that jar or get rid of the odd spider, many women will consider you manly 😉
You guys hit the nail in the head with this points.
Preston is pretty spot on in this video..great job
Those were some very valid points, i am fairly new to your channel and have really enjoyed it so far and being in and from Kansas City i really love seeing that fantastic Tom's Town Kansas city whiskey. You guys keep coming with the great content i really appreciate the information,i am an older guy who has always been very stylish but between you guys and Jeff The Style O.G i have been able to up my game a bit.
LOL! Looks like you guys had fun! Casual Preston needs to do more cameos!
I'm so glad I've found this channel, is full of charm and valuable information, they're doing an incredible great job ✨
Thank you Natalie
First. You all always look immaculate. Your sense of style is always great fun to see, as well as inspirational. Second, you bring up issues that we as men need to be willing to take up with each other and with our sons regularly. Please keep doing what you do.
Thank you for this very wholesome and important discussion.
Very refreshing to see this perspective from a source like this. A modern sort of gentleman.
the way they got Preston to look Like he was checking out that girl oh god I'm dying of laughter
Live this channel❤️
You give a sensible and kind perspective, thank you.
Very good vlog😊! Keep up the good work, gentlemen!
The new style of videos is just great
Wow. I already loved your guy's videos. But after watching this one, massive respect. You have earned a life long subscriber. Will definitely be buying For Belvedere items to support you!
Hi Preston As always sharp and fresh! Keep the good work!
Thank you for the video. Very pertinent.
Wonderful video gentlemen. Can't beleive this one slipped past me.
My respect for this site grows, thank you sir
Preach it Preston! You two make an excellent team. I applaud the stand you're taking and I try to model that for my sons. Haven't checked out the videos for a while. Good to see a "Gentleman of Color" included as a model, and (I hope) soon as a commentator. It would be a shame for people get the idea that the role of Gentleman is only available to middle-class white guys. Bravo!
Self-mastery and helping others = Masculinity. Very good video!
This video was excellent. Nicely done!
Really respect both of you
As a girl I’m a slightly odd viewer of this channel. But honestly I find a suit on a guy gorgeous, esp if it fits well. If you can support yourself that’s all that’s needed financially for the most part. And when it comes to asking for help if you want a partner then odds are a partner wants a true partnership which means we support you and you support us. I personally like being able to make my friend or partner feel better just as much as I like having someone else make me feel better. I like to think we can all work out who takes on what role as a team with a partner.
Preston is definitely cool and very insightful.
Excellent content as usual! Thank you!
Great presentation Preston