How I Break out of Negative Cycles (4 Simple Suggestions)
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Disrupting negative cycles is not easy. When I am caught in a negative cycle it really affects all aspects of my life and I become in many ways a different person. The rules seem to change. And it feels as if there is a heavy weight pressing down on me. It makes normal everyday things an effort, even thinking clearly is a challenge.
I think that many of us don’t want to admit it but I believe that Going through a negative cycle is part of the human experience..it is quote unquote normal… and I’m far more interested in the the personal struggles that we all go through than in being presented with perfect people all the time.
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00:00 - Why this is important
02:43 - Movement
04:48 - Environment
06:30 - Sleep
07:20 - Skills
#negativecycles #gettingoverit #recovery
Good morning all! I know this is a bit of a departure from my usual content but I felt the need to make it as I see quite a few people in my private life struggling (me included) and hope to reach others going through a similar phase. Thank you for your patience.
@@thewitness9401 no I’ve never heard of him
Hello! This is really interesting and helpful. Thanks for sharing :)
I feel you. Studied in Edinburgh. Miss it like hell.
I write the following to you as a psychiatrist. From watching your presentations, you present as an intellectual and deep thinker, and seem attuned with your thoughts and feelings, and are well connected with your environment. The manner in which you’ve shared your normative experiences demonstrates deep insight and and is likely to be helpful to many other people in similar situations. Openly talking about our own mental health issues helps remove the self stigmatisation that many are prone to experiencing. Making sense of your experiences helps you process them. Lastly, try remembering that it’s “ok not being ok” and that it’s “ok” to be kind to yourself.
Thank you so much for taking the time to comment. Im very glad to have reached a psychiatrist here. It was important for me to state that im not an expert. But I have found hearing other people’s experiences to be really helpful which is why I plucked up the courage for this video
although youtube is rather unregulated and at times contradictory amongst different peoples own experiences andthoughts, how equally the world of psychiatry is hugely over-rated in my lengthy experience - you are always the 'prey' not the 'partner' and medication can damage our bodies and the level at which we can contribute or understand how to join insociety can be utterly changed. And as I am- you are sometimes left in an existentially catch22 situation for which there seems no escape. For example the only was to have onelast chance to save your own life from suicide or homelessness is to completely start out in a less toxic neighbourhood but you would be leaving the family that you are desperately sad have already somewhat left you - but you love them still. Ayn thoughts? But this is from a 53 year old now with learning disability brought about by the pysch medications and 10years of extreme insomnia - i.e. pretty much unemployable except maybe in a sheltered setting (although that would be very depressing considering the highlytechnical white collar knowledge (chartered insurance institute / underwriter & software developer) career I had until about 6 years ago). Any thoughts? @@britingermany
@@hightt2449 I hesitate to comment as it sounds like you are in a dire situation and without context it’s difficult for me to understand…all I can say is it’s important to try different things. If you’ve tried medication and feel that it’s not working maybe it’s time to try something else? I do believe the body and the mind are connected and maybe you could turn your attention to your body? there’s lots of alternative therapies out there like cold exposure (Wim Hof)…but like I said I am just another guy on the Internet. I do wish you the courage to keep going and start afresh however difficult it may be.
thanks for the reply - and your thoughts, which I will reflect on, and try to move forward from this@@britingermany
I wish you all the best and I just wanted to say that you are not alone even if it may feel this way.@@hightt2449
Moving and thoughtful video. As usual. To your observations, I remember when I first met my wife, we were chatting about our various trajectories in life and the stories and experiences that underpinned and informed who we were. She was sobbing when listening to me tell mine. I genuinely thought she was crying because we had made a connection and realised we were falling in love. Years later she told me she was crying because she felt so sorry for me and what I had gone through and witnessed. Her nickname for me is "The Donkey" for no other reason than the most important way that I have coped with everything you describe is by doing my job, no matter what. Being the best soldier I could be, the best son, the best brother, the best father, the best husband - almost as importantly, surrounding yourself with people who share such unfashionable virtues as stoicism, self sacrifice, duty, obligation, courage, a quiet, firm, almost stubborn commitment to morality at all costs, fidelity and an absence of self pity. On another note - when you need respite or inspiration I agree with you about exercise. I was walking in the Saudi Arabian desert yesterday and 4 hours in, in complete solitude, something resembling clarity and calm confidence came back. Keep up the good work.
Wow! I was not expecting you to mention the Saudi Arabian desert. Is that where you are living?
1 year in Germany, Australia 8, U.S 2, UK 4, Korea 1, China 8, UK 4 and KSA 1. Retire soon (hopefully).@@britingermany
@@alexanderjaques wow. You’ve certainly been around 😀
A major part of your success in a video like this is your voice. You have a soft and gentle tone that is unusual on KZhead. It adds weight and sincerity to what you say in a manner that my soul accepts like a dry garden accepts a gentle rain shower. I feel like I have a friend, even though I have not met you in person. Wishing you continued success.
Thank you very much. Very poetically (?) put 🙏
Thank you again for another beautiful episode. Your channel's sincerity in sharing personal life perspectives is a weekly delight. No, very little humans actually ever "arrive" in their 30s. We're forever on a journey of discovery through our lives. Having lived in Germany, the protection of life there makes me shudder with shock at the daily loss of life in the country where I now reside and the seemingly low moral regard for existence of all living things. Seeing through the lens of daily beauty is indeed a bonus to the few... ❤
Thank you very much. Where are you living at the moment and how old are you if you don’t mind me asking? 😀
@britingermany Thank you. May I answer your questions in an email?
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Sleep is also a priority for me. If I lose it I spiral very quickly into negative cycle. I realised I can’t work late into the night, I’d rather go to bed early but wake up early to start the work. I hope we all learn about ourselves more and start to draw boundaries that protect our mental health.
This video is a gift for me in a perfect moment. Thank You for that.
So glad to hear it. That made my day! Thanks for commenting 😀
You made my day 🙏
Lovethis channel - really reaches my philosophical interests and flaws.
Glad to hear it and thank you for commenting. That's very motivating 😀
So do I! I'm suprised by "flaws" though - can't be *that* bad with interest in philosophy, as long as you don't fall for Nietzshe and Schopenhauer! 😀 But what do you say of Viktor Frankl?
Thank you for this. I really like these more introspective stories. Even if I don't share the same feelings, they help me to gain understanding for other people's experience.
Glad to hear it and thank you for your comment
So much food for thought and so much eye-candy to relax with! Such great Sunday morning content. Thanks a lot!
That’s a great idea. Like bullet journaling but you go into more detail. I think it does help to just get stuff out onto the page…even if it doesn’t bring any clarity or decisions it helps to clear the mind a little. Happy Sunday 😀
@@britingermany Happy Sunday to you, too! Autumn is a great time to start anew, isn't it. (I myself start a new life every Monday, after my weekend-reflections, and resolutions. 😀)
@@DNA350ppm yes I love autumn. It’s my favourite season 😀
@@britingermany Mine, too!
Thank you for sharing your tips on how to break out of a negative spiral. Very good tips and reminders. For me, as an immigrant in Germany for 12 years, I have learnt two other ways of coping - one is to learn to deeply feel gratitude everyday and second is to just take one step at a time, living one day at a time. The last 5 mins before I sleep and the first 5 mins of waking up are for me the most essential moments to "recaliberate" my inner self, purposely filling myself with thoughts of gratitude and positive self affirmations.
Interesting points. What does that gratitude practice actually look like? Is it self talk (in you head) or are you speaking/writing it out? I have tried that on and off but it didn’t really work for me.
@@britingermany I am not an expert but I can share what works for me - simply giving thanks, giving thanks for the food and water, for the air that I breathe in, for all the advantages that I currently enjoy and take for granted eg being alive, having my limbs intact, having a shelter over my head. I dont expect that it would be help overnight but by making giving thanks a ritual over a period of time helps to shape my brain differently and positively. In the winter months, I take Vit D + K2 regularly. And recently, the most impt lesson I have learnt is to learn to say No. No to what is not healthy for me, No to what transpasses my boundaries.
Thank you so much for this video. It felt needed for me as I'm going throught the end of a pretty rought depressive episode. The section about movement resonates with me even though I couldn't articulated it properly, so truly, thank you
Well if you going through the end of it the light is in sight😃☀️. I think movement can do almost anyone good
Thank you for your insight. My recent negative cycles have been fuelled by frustration, in the context of learning the language of the country (Germany) that I now live in. I've since realised, the mind plays tricks on you and warps your perspective. I turn to Professor Jordan Peterson, a Canadian Clinical Psychologist (on U-tube) often, for insight. He gives similar insight to you. Peterson comments that : Introspection and acute self consciousness leads to misery. Being organised (tidy your environment, create routines and structure to your day (sleep) and being industrious (like starting or restarting a project) reduces negative emotions. Switching one's thinking/focus from the self to others reduces negative emotions. I find getting out for walks (movement) locally or in the countryside very beneficial, sometimes bump into neighbours and chat. In addition Peterson recommends to switch thinking to how you can help or be of service to others. What can you do for your partner, family, friends, neighbours or community.
Yes I would agree with that. Period of introspection usually come when I have more time alone (which I enjoy up to a point). I think it’s all about balance and moderation but I agree with you. Something as simple as going for a walk can work wonders. And believe learning German will get easier. It’s a steep hill to climb but once you reach the summit you quickly forget how painful that climb was
Thank you very much for your open words. You moved me
Thank you for commenting 🙏
Another interesting topic and thanks for sharing your view on breaking negative cycles. I am very familiar with that thinking you pointed out. As an 48 yo man I still have to deal with my ups and downs. I struggle with my depressive phases since childhood but during last years I tried some of these things you mentioned. I can confirm from my experience that physical activity can be a crucial aspect (especially in dark autumn/winter times when sunny weather is rare), walking/running through the woods helps finding inner peace. Another point which I currently try is your suggestion of learning a new skill (playing piano) and I like my small successes there. My focus on these stuff keeps my negative spiral at bay. Sometimes it is challenging to overcome my weaker self but in general it helps.
Thanks so much for your comment I wonder if it’s just coincidence or if the universe is trying to tell me something…I used to play the piano as a child and have been thinking about starting again recently. Well done for that I think it’s a great hobby!
This is so poignant, Ben. Great video and I can relate to it a lot. My brain never switches off and I over think everything so I struggle with highs and lows. I find the tips you suggetsed work for me and getting more sleep is a priority. I love writing and doing something creative to change up the routine. I ask myself every few years "am in happy? If not, why not? What can I change?" and this has kept me moving forwards and looking for solutions and learning more about myself and how I tick. It's good if you have self awareness and can see links to situations and feelings. Lovely video! Very informative and useful and hopefully will help many people. I think being isolated in a foreign country whose language isn't your own teaches you to survive and depend on yourself more. I learned through tough times being alone that only I could change my situation and mindset and I could do it at any time. I was in control of how I feel not the situation and no one else was Going to change it for me. It was just my response and feeling overwhelmed that paralyzed me temporarily but if you research and look at your options and think outside the box at how to change your situation, you will learn things aren't really as bad as our brains make us think.
Nice episode, really useful, all lessons that I've learned over the course of my life, but sometimes forget to put into use. It's nice knowing that other people have figured these things out as well. They're all pretty basic, actually, but essential. Keep moving, get out of the house, treat yourself right, though chocolate is sometimes the right response, at least in the short term.
Haha. Oh yes! A nice bar of dark chocolate 😉
@@britingermany My guilty pleasure is Aero bars. Yeah, I know, I know...
Thank you for your channel. I find your presentations very uplifting and reassuring.
Thank you for watching 🙏
Hi again, I subbed after your video about working in a toxic environment as you nailed every single aspect of it perfectly. As for the topic of this video, you also nailed it and this is something a lot of us grapple with, of course to different degrees, but it's hard to express when you feel like you have to constantly put on a tough "front". Going back to my comment in your other video, when I walked out of that job I hid in my flat for the best part of three weeks and very rarely went outside (only at night to go to the supermarket) and didn't talk to anyone. This is a bit of a pattern with me and I know how to break it... sort of, butthe anxiety of anyone seeing me in such a bad place gave me more anxiety. Long story short, I broke this behaviour and started going on long walks again, visiting new places, interacting with people again even though this isn't so important as I'ma bit of an intorvert. The time has come for drastic change and this is not running away from my problems, it's realising that my environment really is the problem. With negative cycles I think tha the more you have, the easier it is to. spot the signs of depressive episode so you learn to build and equip yourself with tools to deal with it. They're still going to happen from time to time but they're not going to be as terrifying as that first episode you ever had, particularly if you're alone in a foreign environment. Thank you again for your videos, you have a real gift for expressing these difficult issues and thanks again for the advice.
Thank you for your comment. It sounds like you have already identified the cause of your episodes which is great and I totally agree that they will probably reoccur…but they don’t have to be debilitating!
Definitely and still fully empathise with anyone who experiences this the first time. For me personally, once in a while it is good to take a few days "time out" as the insomnia can get too much but it's all a long, and very confusing at times, learning curve. For anyone reading this and is experiencing it for the first time, it can be managed so don't give up.@@britingermany
Saw ur video on toxic work places and agree with remedies re. mental health. But here's the thing about the toxicity ...DO NOT underestimate the effects. Having lived it, I have had to "unpack" my experience and truly understand it for what it was.... and I conclude it's related to "humiliation" and hopelessness... and the disbelief that one CAN be broken by it. Humiliation is a deep subject which I've not heard many people discuss; as society does not easily accept this human vulnerability... note I do not say failure, as it's not. Humiliation happens when we're exposed to "attacks" such as those in toxic places. Humiliation is what is DONE to you... it's not an insult or just an opinion. The perpetrator dishes out humiliation to control the target. It's predatory. Anyway... bottom line, there's a ton of crap to unpack after exiting. The best movie I ever saw on this point is " This Must Be The Place" with actor Sean Penn. The main theme being that " humiliation's effect " can last long and change how we relate to others. Herein, is the harm done.... as one becomes tainted from the toxicity. That's why part of the remedy is to re-connect with one's own mind and world " that was " prior to the event; BUT with a new understanding of predatory behavior. It's about re-balancing perspective afterwards. Not fun stuff to learn but necessary for survival. And thanks again for sharing your experience.
Thanks a lot for your words of warning. You're right it is easy to brush things off and move on thinking everything is ok. The important thing is to notice the warning signs earlier and to deal with the situation in a more timely manner
Hello Ben, thanks for that video! It's a good example of reflecting the experience of feeling down, frustrated and depressed. Also in my experience your recommendations can actually help. Particularly physical activity, even if it's just going for a walk. That has been very effective for me when I've combined it with a small trip eg. to another place or to somewhere with beautiful nature (in my case the Alps, Lake Constance, Lindau, Ulm). I have a kind of list of things in my head of which I want to take pictures with a camera. Doing that can push away all troubling thoughts because it urges me to focus on something completely different. There's even a characteristic German phrase about that: Wenn dir die Decke auf den Kopf fällt, wird's Zeit draussen frische Luft zu schnappen. If the ceiling is dropping on your head it's time to catch some fresh air outside. Good and sufficient sleep is easily overlooked, yet really essential. Finally I would like to add another "trick": stop comparing yourself or your situation with others, stop judging yourself and your mood. As you've said, it impossible to stay positive, euphoric, active, creative and all the other nice adjectives constantly all the time. If nothing else feeling down can be just a sign that your body and/or your soul needs a break. Sometimes that feeling down appears sooner that I can realize that I've neglected taking breaks in time or often enough.
Thanks so much for your thoughts Michael. That’s. Good point. Sometimes our bodies are just telling us to take a break or make a change.
I've been through a horrific amount in my life (not a comparative statement, rather a personal feeling / expression) and am living just near the border to Germany in Switzerland and spend a lot of time in Baden Württemberg. It's been difficult for me to feel a sense of calm or sincerity with also considered thought and care that you have, in most of the people I meet in person here. It's the second video of yours that I've watched now and this fits into the theme of my life perfectly so look forward to (for want of a better way of saying that, more 'I'm sure I'll appreciate') you doing more videos on it. I'm well into and understand the themes, and for me, the greatest benefit is you're in the 'normal world' (it appears, working etc.) and I've been transitioning from largely solely the healing / mental health support world back into the 'normal world' and it's incredibly difficult to do so without feeling disenchanted or a feeling of 'I just won't fit here'. So, thank you. I'm also like you in many ways, and think the overthinking quality is beautiful, even though it has drawbacks - I know you've thought about it and haven't just blurted something out reflexively. One of the most healing things for me to have done is to let myself naturally think as much as I've wanted about something. In my case, this led to a firmer sense of my values, who I am, what I stand for, a sense of confidence in my views on topics and for the times we're living in, a sense of 'ok, yes, I do have an opinion that's deeply considered, on this topic even though it's a challenging one'. (sharing as an offering of what I've done and my experience and views, rather than 'sharing to recommend to anyone').
Hello Heidi. Thank you for sharing. It’s really interesting to hear that you see overthinking as beautiful. It’s something that I have always found very annoying (about myself) but you’re right maybe there are some upsides to it as well. Have a great Sunday
Thank you. As a note of additional context, I've been spending time in a few artist communities the last 10 months or so and there it's embraced and expressed through writing, poetry and getting it out (streams of consciousness I've heard people refer to them), so that's also why I default to beauty as I see now how others embrace it (mentioning this too in case you ever wish to, or already have, ventured into the new skills in artistic expression space as you mention new skills in the video)@@britingermany
@@mynameisheidi that sounds like a quite personal journey. Thank you
Truly profound content! 💎 May we also acknowledge the amazing filmmaking here! 😀 When is your movie coming out? What town is it at the very end of this video, please? It looks lovely.
Thanks a lot 😀. The town at the end is Weinheim in the state of Hessen. Well worth a visit
@@britingermany Thank you! 😊
I went through the same miserables like you decribed it and I still do. Doing similar migation actions. Makes me weak sonetimes. ...the Friday-Taunus-Harley-Rider
Hello there Harley-Taunus rider 😉thank you for sharing.
Thank You very much for this deep personal insight in your thoughts and emotions. They can help a lot of people. I have been struggling with my emotions about life that has not worked out as I expected it to be. Working and trying to make sense in really toxic working environment, but your video showed me that sometimes it is just better to leave. Now I only have to figure out how to do it. But I know what you mean by negative spiral😀 It´s so important to find your ways out of it, to get your own support system working and take control of your life again. I am in my late 30s now and I haven´t figured it all out jet, maybe I never will.
It sounds soo cheesy but there is some truth in "it's all about their journey"...that's what I'm telling myself anyway 😉. I'm trying to enjoy it and make sense of it as much as possible
Good morning, Benikon; thanks for sharing some inspiring notions with us again.👍 Leaving one's toxic environment - I do agree with you after taking the first chance to retire. It has been extremely beneficial so far; hardly ever in my relatively long life did I feel as free and released as nowadays!✌️☺️ Everybody here; enjoy the rest of this Sunday, with or without a Thanksgiving service at church and Babylon Berlin 4 on TV!!! 🌈🌞🍁🦉🍎🛋️
Thanks a lot. Happy Sunday 😀☕️
Danke, für einen schönen Sonntag ist hier gesorgt ... Bei Dir hoffentlich auch! 😊👍
Just remember : this too shall pass!
Very good. was that not Buddha?
No. It is an old Persian saying . Very frequently used among us.
great content again....... also lucky your have all of europe at your doorstep!
Thank you and yes indeed. I am very grateful for that.🙏
@@britingermany well yes i am british too but in melbourne australia, nice place but miles from the homeland and europes cultural riches haha
@@notrocketscience1950 true. I was in Australia for a year a long time ago. It definitely feels …far away in that respect. I do love Europe and all the cultures in it
Honestly, we have to make talking about these topics stigma-free. Thank you for having a video on this!
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I understand exactly what you mean when you say that it is extremely difficult to break out of a negative cycle. When one is talking about a negative cycle, one is often talking about experiencing a depression, though not always. By the way, when I use the word ‘depression’, I am not using it in the clinical sense; rather, I am using it in the general sense of the word. Perhaps one could say that one is extremely down. One sees no light at the end of the tunnel. In my opinion, this is far more common than many people realise. Most people go through such periods in their lives, I believe. I certainly have. In fact, I have been through an extremely “negative cycle” in recent times, and for a very protracted period, too. Years, in fact. It was caused by bereavement. If this weren’t an open forum, I would be willing to talk about it. After a death of someone very close to you, it is normal to grieve. In this case, it was my long-term partner, who died. Worse still, he died before my very eyes. I was traumatised by the experience. The story is much longer and far more complicated than this, but for obvious reasons, I am unwilling to write in detail about it on this open forum. But please believe me when I tell you that I know exactly what you are talking about when you say how difficult it is to start to feel normal again after such negative events. Such experiences can cause paralysis in so many ways. I have always got over negative events and experiences alone. For me, seeking out professional help would be the very last resort. In today’s world, they frequently talk about mental health issues. That, to me, is wrong. Yes, of course many people have mental health issues; but falling into depression after a bereavement of a loved one, for example, is not, in my opinion, anything but normal. In fact, not feeling depressed after losing one’s partner would be abnormal in my eyes, and a cause for concern. By nature, I have always been rather sensitive. I believe that you are too. Sensitive people are usually hit harder by negative experiences. They are more easily hurt and can fall into depression or negative cycles more quickly and more easily than tougher people. My advice to you would be to identify the cause of the negative cycle and try an do something about it. Loneliness can be one cause, for example. When that is the cause, going for a walk can help. As can other physical activities. But such activities are not going to address the root cause of the problem. Such activities are, at best, palliatives. They are not solutions. Whenever possible, one should find the solution; and when found, try and put the solution into practice. I wish you all the best. And remember this: A problem shared is a problem halved. _Toi, toi, toi !_
Thank you for being so open and honest. By the way I’m not sure I even know your name. Loosing someone is tragic, something who have I have yet to experience. A very good friend of mine also went though this and it is a daily struggle. I wish you all the best 👍🏻
@@britingermany "Thank you for being so open and honest." I am open and honest by nature. But I was particularly open and honest with you here because you have been open and honest with us, your followers. "By the way I’m not sure I even know your name." I post on KZhead using this pseudonym, but I am surprised that you can't figure it out from your admin on KZhead. I thought you would have been able to do that. But, as I don't post videos on KZhead, I don't really know how these things work. I have a trilingual blog. I get many visitors from Germany, many of them from Frankfurt am Main. I assumed that you were one of those visitors. Clearly, I seem to be mistaken. "Loosing someone is tragic,..." I can assure you that iy is a very sobering experience. Life-changing, actually. More especially because I had cared for him in his dreadful illness and then died before my very eyes. Healing has been a long, arduous process. One never ever truly gets over it, I believe. One just learns to live with it and eventually, one moves on. of course, the older one is when that happens, the harder it is to move on. But, thanks for your concern, I am okay now. But it has taken forever! "A very good friend of mine also went though this and it is a daily struggle." I can well imagine that it is a struggle for him. I know from my own experience how difficult it was for me. I wish your friend the very best. Please tell him from me that even though he probably doesn't think so now, eventually things do get better. "I wish you all the best" Thank you. As I do you. 👍🏻
I did not know you have a blog. Can you tell me the address please I couldn't find any info on you channel page@@xelakram
When I'm having a real hard time to do a decision, and cannot get a clear mind to do A or B .. for days; I have a second rule, that is "Anything is better than nothing". So it ends up drawing lots. You still don't know A is better than B or not, but you know, doing A or B is better than doing nothing. It's the engeneerical logical thinking of people that causes depressions, people want to have kind of a guarantee to be right, and this guarantee cannot always be given. This makes some people desperate. They have to admit themselves to be not perfect. I'm having this hard time, just when buying a T-Shirt. There is no logical rule to pick one. I need to "like" one.
One has to have the freedom to experiment! A guess is always better than apathy! All the possible up-beat cheering from me!
@@DNA350ppm Freedom is the problem here ! The alternative is, somebody else makes the decision for you, so it's no longer your responsibility. A life like a kid is maximum happiness. A kid does not has to do decisions.
@@holger_p An amusing thought, Holger! We all have an inner child, and we do need to take care of it, as an adult parent to ourselves. We make the decisions, whether or not we follow a tip, a direction, demand, an order, from another person. We make the decision to take or not take responsibility for our actions. That said, it is thanks to the inner child we still as adult can have charm, playfulness, fun, phantasy, imagination, adventure, challenges - we should have great appreciation for our inner child, but an adult need to take care of it. Sometimes we make a bad decision - shit happens - and then we forgive us eventually as we make repairs and start anew. That makes the inner child less scared. We keep learning our whole life through. No depression and unendurable remorse needed to learn the lesson, when we have practiced this new habit for some time... (I'm not the expert yet, but I'm never depressed anymore, just low for some hours in the middle of the night, to alert my attention to the issues...) All the best wishes!
@@DNA350ppm Thanks. I would say there is a permanent fight, between the inner child and the adult inside you. Only the adult side is learning or learning is kind of getting distance from the inner child. I think the common thing is curiosity. You can satisfy it by scientific experimenting, or by sticking your finger in the mud.
@@holger_p True, the curosity, fun-loving, and energy of the child is invaluable - there's a life-long learning process to become a good parent, isn't it!
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It is always lovely to listen to you.... Do you also have an instagram account?
Thank you. I do have Instagram but have stopped using it for the time being
Hi i am also a brit in Germany , I married to my german 🇩🇪 frau . Your videos are great help and interesting. Can you give me any tips for learning the language i am soon going to the Volkshochschule to learn to a B1 level . I need to improve alot with speaking 🇩🇪 I can read and write german to a2+1I have thought of also making videos for my life in germany .
Hi there. For me It’s all about practice….you have to be a little relentless in not allowing people to speak English to you. It’s much harder to keep switching in and out of two languages. At the beginning It means taking the hard path and willingly making your life more difficult…in the long term it pays off 😉
you definitely have a Genglish accent, your mannerisms and the timbre of your sentences is pretty German.
One feedback ... question. Do you know that you always incline your head to your right side?
Out of interest, what is mental health care like in Deutschland?
It’s pretty good…although most therapists are booked out so it can be a challenge finding one. There seems to be much less stigma surrounding the topic here (than in the U.K.). And this is just me…I don’t think this is a widely held view but many People i know see therapy much like to going to the gym…you don’t have have a crisis to get to grips with yourself…it’s just generally good for well being.
@@britingermany Interesting. I vaguely remember the state run 'health Spas' (the name escapes me) that were very popular. Its pretty grim in the UK. In almost all aspects.
Yes. There is something called Kur here. The translation would be something like rehab but it's not for drug addicts. It's for anyone who wants to basically have a wellness holiday...but if you are burnout or having issues you can even get this as a prescripted treatment from your doctor.@@ls253
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You are just such a beautiful soul ✨️ Wishing you all the best dear ❤
Thank you! You too!
This is so poignant, Ben. Great video and I can relate to it a lot. My brain never switches off and I over think everything so I struggle with highs and lows. I find the tips you suggetsed work for me and getting more sleep is a priority. I love writing and doing something creative to change up the routine. I ask myself every few years "am in happy? If not, why not? What can I change?" and this has kept me moving forwards and looking for solutions and learning more about myself and how I tick. It's good if you have self awareness and can see links to situations and feelings. Lovely video! Very informative and useful and hopefully will help many people. I think being isolated in a foreign country whose language isn't your own teaches you to survive and depend on yourself more. I learned through tough times being alone that only I could change my situation and mindset and I could do it at any time. I was in control of how I feel not the situation and no one else was Going to change it for me. It was just my response and feeling overwhelmed that paralyzed me temporarily but if you research and look at your options and think outside the box at how to change your situation, you will learn things aren't really as bad as our brains make us think.