Bullying & Being Bullied
2019 ж. 28 Қаз.
64 256 Рет қаралды
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This is more personal than a face reveal, wow. Very strong of you to talk about this...
dude he's right don't laugh at his comment or Xisuma
Yea
@@sentientteapot6499 it's not a topic to laugh about I think it's wrong to laugh about it
Just North i agree...
Yes i sort of feel sorry for him 🙁😦😧😟😞😪😓😔😫
nothing says "i have matured" more than confessing mistakes to the internet. we are proud of you Xisuma
He’s a great guy
@@stafey7659 you got that right
Bullying now has gone "underground". It's more emotional manipulation now instead of physical.
A kid in my area was physically bullied so much to the point where the bullies actually killed him. The kid was cornered between some bleachers and the bullies were throwing glass at him. He lost and eye and died of bleeding since the two bullies had left the kid before his screams brought the neighborhood running. The kid was 14, the bullies were both 15 And this just shows how cruel people can be. The two bullies are now sentenced and were reported to have smuggled heroin and needles into the school.
@@sacofrice7581 :C
@@sacofrice7581 wow, just wow
@@sacofrice7581 that's brutal. I thought emotional trauma was bad, but hearing that is absolutely terrifying. It's horrible.
no longer active some people are really disgusting
Probably one of the only KZheadrs that aren’t solid and paint them self to be an angel. Thanks for sharing something that a lot of people can relate to.
That’s not even close to true other you tubers that have had things like this just don’t talk about them they don’t act like they’re perfect
The majority of youtubers don't act like they're perfect. They just don't talk about stuff like this
Noswad8 this is a 6 month old comment why are u mad-
9 more likes and you are an airplane
I can relate to him cose just 3 years ago I was bullied by like 5 kids at my school and until i fight back nothing what's good but after that everything was better iven my grades Also individualy i whas stronger than them but not when it came to group fights. So my advice is fight back there is no other way that i know of I'm now 13 and I'm happyer That wood be my advice + Telling the teacher never works (if you are not going to camp in front of there office).
This channel is starting to turn into Therapy with Xisumavoid.
This is very true But I enjoy it though. Some people can get real help from this
And i like it
@@Silver-yh9hk me as well
SiIverhawk agreed 👍
@@sacofrice7581 :)
I like how its color coded. More serious stuff are red, the more community driven stuff are blue, and the normal stuff are yellow. Will you ever talk about very serious topics that may not be alright for the viewers of your normal channel? What is the kind of audience you’re making these videos for?
Yeah I noticed that too
Terra2ban this is just from his live-streams, you can watch his vid on his future plans for this channel
Also I think some video X just records himself, like this one. The ones from his livestreams seem to have Minecraft in the background.
Also about the audience I think these could be for all ages, but I'm sure kids younger than 12 or so may not be interested. These are more serious topics but X makes them easy to listen to for a larger audience (I don't know how to explain?).
I think he is making videos for those who are interested in the thematics he covers and likes his personality ;)
I just wanted to say, X, you truly are a wonderful human. As someone who is probably around your age, who was also bullied mercilessly (though a lot of it was more emotional/verbal/social, with a bit of physical violence mixed in)... I've also been doing a lot of reflecting on those times lately. I've been subbed to you for awhile now, really enjoy your channel and videos, and you've always struck me as such a positive, genuine person. I really appreciate the fact that you're opening up about traumas in your life, all to relate to and help reach the people who watch you. You may never know who you touch with your story, who you help out of a dark place. You really are an inspiration... thank you for all you do.
Sentient Teapot dude stop. Saying lol at congratulations is literally going against everything Xisuma says in the video
I second that eerie eyrie
Sentient teapot what do you mean by lol?
SaltyStress true
Sentient Teapot Bruh...🗿😐
Have you ever thought of being a motivational speaker, X?
He would make great podcasts
Doesn't this count as motivational speaking?
What do you mean with motivational speaker? Because if it's something like Coaching... Horrible experiences are not the same to everyone because they depend on all variants within the person's life. Broad videos directed to many people talking about his experience is good and helps the audiance and himself to relate to each other. But it's not motivational to everyone because things that would work in your situation could make things worse in someone else's situation because the problems are actually very different in their details. He did an amazing job, but targeted work demands submerging into the target person's world and situation with very professional technics from psychologists, which are terribly pictured due to the not-so-good ones that unfortunately exists, like in every profession.
He should go on TED
He would make good podcasts on Spotify
I was so shocked when he said asshole lol. Never thought I'd hear Xisuma swear.
he swore about 5 years ago edit: fvck
6:37
thats not swearing
Definitely not a swear
@@kyrakia5507 yes, I agree
This channel has been helping me with my personal issues a lot and thanks for taking your time to talk to us!
Shut up
Stop saying lol
Sentient Teapot yeah stop
6 months later but whatever, hope you doing great ;)
Sentient Teapot shut up kid
School’s administration’s reactions to bullying is like Bethesda support “We realize this is a problem... We don’t plan on doing anything about it.”
YES!
I have been knocked down by so many bullies in my life. I surrounded myself with the wrong crowd and got hurt. They'd say awful things to me yet i stayed around cuz that was the norm. We were all in some degree mean to one another yet i was the one to be pushed around the most.This constant torture lead me to a lot of dark places. I eventually turned to my teachers who thankfully helped me get away from them. They got me into a new class and suddenly things were much better. That still doesn't repair the damage they did. Today i'm a much happier person and i'm thankful to my current friends who picked me up and gave me a much better life.
I'm so sorry you had to go through that man, I'm glad you're okay now. Seriously good work on the behalf of the teachers to give you help, I wish everyone has access to that kind of help.
I have also gotten bullyid and i did not fell Telling the teachers fif helt
I am glad that the teachers took what I said to heart and did something. Tho it took many months of fighting the leadership at my school to move class but I’m the end it happened. Not many get that chance which saddens me.
So glad you got through that. Here's to a better future. Stay alive fren |-/
I was once put in a bad position and bullyed on the internet. at this point I was put in the most toxic, unfriendly and worst type of community in the almost world.
I can identify with this story hugely, I was bullied a lot for wearing glasses (stupid 80/90s), I also tried bullying back and also never got any satisfaction from doing so, it never made up for the pain I felt and knew it was pointless. Thanks for your bravery in coming forward with this, it's also something I avoid thinking about. I was devastatingly bullied as you were, when I took it to the teachers, heads etc, they just didnt want to know.
The problem is if they will not stop even if you tell them too Btw get some champion sport glasses they work great
It's nice to know people can change. Most people bully/bullied because they had stuff going on in their personal lives. I can relate somewhat because I had gone through a rough time with some stuff, I picked out one of my very own friends and wasn't very nice. I've now regretted what I've done but she has forgaven me since. I think it's very brave of Xisuma to be able to talk about something so serious to so many fans.
@@infernal3218 like mumbo and iskall blasting each other 😄
I was bullied a bit in elementary school but one day they got me on the ground trying to invade my privacy and I think I connected with my legs ... They never messed with me again
@@infernal3218 Yeah. Nowadays I joke around with my friends and jokingly "make fun" of them. Like for example, one of my friends is short so I call them short BUT they think its funny. I now know boundaries aswell and know how to stop. Back then, I was cruel to one of my friends and it will haunt me forever. I didn't "make fun" of her I just more or less excluded her and as I said, it will haunt me forever. I've changed for the better since and won't do it again :)
turquoise im short but my friends call me tall 😁
I hope I can be you, I can't even being mean to other, even to the bully.... Remembering that, 3 years of my life just faking a smile, while inside being empty, and always stuck in one place, and even think to kill myself, while having no support, no friend and even, My family don't support me
Unfortunately for me, my bullies at school weren't from broken homes or had noteworthy issues otherwise, they were just spoiled arseholes with a superiority complex. I think I had the advantage of being far more emotionally stable than most others of the same age, so I could largely shrug off the rubbish.
XeMurder I’m having the exact same experience right now in my life with 2 people
@@ianhamilton9600 It's a tough situation, since these are the people who will try to provoke a reaction then cry to someone in charge. I found either going somewhere supervised, like a library, or gathering a group of friends worked, but I can't say much else.
Some people just doesn't have any excuses and they should not be excused for. You can't just put a rose in your ass and call it a vase.
i’m not supporting your bullies but never assume someone’s home life
@@plsdontdoxme2644 Their home life is still no excuse.
The annoying thing is, is that your parent often say 'Just ignore them' but it's kind of difficult when they use you as a punching bag. Personally I am not being bullied or have been bullied, per se, however people have been pretty nasty to me for no known reason. Luckily, my school deals with bullying very seriously.
Mental to physical is not what should happen
@@davidrolstad7432 I agree
Just ignore them Pfff that don’t work
well, I hope they say that, My parents doesn't even support me, they literally say, I'm just a pain in a neck, and you're the one that's wrong
@@idk3284 :((
“I’m no expert in what to tell anyone else how to feel with bullies.” That is false. You have a very, very strong way of words, and I’m sure you have helped many people from this video.
As someone who has High Functioning Autism I can relate to this. I was also bullied horrendously at school. But due to my autism I didn't go to teachers, because by my logic I didn't want to get people in trouble or for those people to hunt me down. I hate talking about it but after this video I had to write this. My advice don't be like me and don't suffer in silence.
My brother is High Functioning too and I am thankful I know how to read his body language so I knew when people were picking on him in school (he was 2 grades below me). I was okay with people bullying me as long as they left my siblings alone, so I made myself the punching bag for my family (I still kinda am unfortunately) when I graduated I stayed in town to take care of my siblings and still had friends in school that would watch out for my siblings too.. I was soooo thankful that one of the football players decided to be Matthew's friend because he ended up having the full varsity team looking put for him by his junior and senior year
Just remember that, unless you stoop down to the bullies level by bullying other people, you aren’t always better than those bullies
Y-you mean type 3? Sorry lol idc what u call it, high functioning isn’t legal (in Australia, I thing not sure if it’s world wide e) I can also kinda relate to this, exempt it was just emotional/verbal. BLAME IT ON 2016
@@mothshenanigans what do you mean by not legal?
When I got diagnosed I was told it was not a legal diagnosis. There is a spectrum, and I’m in the middle (autism spectrum disorder type 2). Idk, hope this helped ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
I appreciate that you chose to talk about this, X, despite you reluctant to feel that pain again. It takes a lot of willpower to not only stand up, not only endure, but to share advice on the topic. I've been there before... I'd say I'm very, very sorry about what happened to you as a schoolboy, for I really and truly am, but what I'll say instead is thank you. Thank you for giving us light in the darkness. For giving us a map, a guide for this tricky crossroads. For always being your best. And for being as you are. Thank you, X.
This is probably very annoying now but how is your Internet connection?
Fanimations [old acc.] god your everywear
ngl, when he said "asshole" that caught me off-guard because i have never heard him swear
6:37
Just heared the 44 first secs. I have been bullied and I totally understand why you did that, but it's completely amazing what you did next day. If I was the kid you bullied that day and you came back and apologised I would totally forgive you and I would even ask you to be friends. I know how hard this is and that we can sometimes be impulsive and irrational. I just hope my bullies just came back the next day and apologise.
@Depressive Rat, Chucky Cheese’s Unwanted Cousin I think they're just another bully, really, who can't deal with what's going on inside their head So they've lashed out at the first person they see admitting "they're weak."
Ur a idiot
@@Minirounds ur ass there standing up for somthing important unlike you
Depressive Rat, Chucky Cheese’s Unwanted Cousin imma report him for spam again
Sentient Teapot it’s you again what
I can relate to seeing the “weakness” is boys. The difference is I usually befriend them. I don’t know, I’m weird that way. All the male friends I had in around grade 7 were all “weak” or “weird”. I was one of the only ones that could “deal” with them and find them funny. They were some of my best friends. My trick for bullying is if they say something weird, say something weird back. Not rude or mean, just weird. They usually think you’re an idiot so they walk away.
I can relate as that 'weird' kid
I gathered the outcasts (5-6 people) and we formed a group One of them was very strong but not very smart or social (very strong he’s a big martial arts guy) he protects the group I’m the brains etc. unfortunately after multiple disagreements and wars of sorts the groups mainly apart and I was betrayed by even my best friend
Hi 7 I accidentally read that as 56 people lol
I wasn't bullied myself, but I know some people who were and I observed that as well. - *Firstly, don't take it as if the entire world is against you. It's usually just 2-3 idiots.* Eventually they'll go away from your life. - Secondly, try to remove those idiots from your life. Moving to another school or even learning at home may be an option. The latter isn't recommended until high school, because a person has to learn how to communicate. - Thirdly, if you choose to fight back, think how far those bullies are willing to go. You probably don't want to end up getting permanent damage from a bunch of bully's older and bigger friends in a response. - And if one is willing to report about bullies, those reports should be written, sent to the police (or another authorized entity), and you should get a written proof that these report were taken. Verbal reports or complaints basically "don't exist" for a system.
"Verbal reports or complaints basically "don't exist" for a system" can be a good life advice in general.
SurpriseTea if you are sure they aren’t willing to go too far intimidate them go far almost immediately and your off the list they will back off most of the time
I hope the first one is true, Literally only 1/2 people that can accept me, other is just, don't want to bother and my parents don't even support me
I got into a fight with a bully then the next day he apologized to me and i told him to "fuck off" the next couple weeks he became more sorry and i saw that and he is now a good friend of mine
4:03 - surprising that the teachers at least didn't punish you for trying to get away from being bullied
I was never up against physical bullying but my "friends" essentially hated me and I don't really want to talk about it either. But my advice is: change and just be an overall outwardly energetic, happy person. Nobody wants to be friends with a depressed sack of potatoes who never leaves their house or talks in class. I don't have a solution to bullying, I just changed schools to run away from my problems. But from the second I stepped into my new school, I acted as a brighter, happier person. Someone who people want to be friends with. Don't listen to the "be yourself" crap, become who you want to be. And once you have friends at school, school becomes fun. If you become especially good friends with them (I'll say my tips if anyone wants them) then you have a friend for life and someone who will stick up for you. I've become a much more confident person since my change and it's done my mental health so much good. And I have friends that I'm going to hang out with tomorrow and on Halloween, I'm going to be at 3 different people's houses in the next two days, besides having fun during school. I know all the gossip, even from people I don't really know. Trust me, having friends is the most amazing thing (this is my first time with proper friends, as they often left after a year or so and I was a v introverted bookworm) I want to finish this by complimenting X, I look up to your maturity. You're one of the few who I aim to be like. Thank you
That's really great advice. Difficult form some to execute but there is so much truth in doing what needs to be done to become who you want to be.
My Story has been kind of the same. I was very unhappy and had no real friends in class until grade 10, my classmates often blocked me out of things, e.g. I was the only one class not in the class WhatsApp chat and I only found out when the exchange student who was in our class got into that chat. He was more integrated into the community of the class than I ever was! Furthermore, it hurt a lot when the one person whom I actually considered a good friend in class joined the others in bullying me. Then I went abroad for a year and when I came back to school and was around new people, my overall confidence boosted by my experiences, I became a much more outgoing and happier person - I wasn't bullied in the same way anymore. I still was more of an outsider than maybe others and that never changed but especially after I started going to the climbing gym, I felt so much happier overall. I was actually a valued part of the community and not a victim anymore.
Thank you Xisuma for making this video and thus creating this platform for people to share their stories. One of the worst things truly is having no one to talk to, keeping it all inside.
@@code051 that's exactly what I mean. I was even excluded from plans that were made in front of my face. The worst part was that I had been at that school my entire life long, although very few remained throughout the whole time. Then new people would come and instantly be better integrated than I was, not that I cared because I'd be off reading in a corner. But it is so much more fun to be part of a community, you're right. Hobbies are a great way to meet new people also, so have fun climbing :)
"depressed sack of potatoes" don't call me out like this
Honestly, the education system is failing me. I am getting bullied, report it, and they don’t even do anything. I only fight back as a last resort. I have one friend which helps me mentally. I always feel depressed and anxious in school and around where I live as they live on the same street as me. I opened up to him and I still feel depressed and anxious, but also happy that I have someone to help me. I always told him when stuff happened. I recently opened up about my mental state and felt a bit better about myself. Glad to have a friend to help. I also found out that my friends were talking about me behind my back, and guess who told me, my friend who I opened up to. I would have still be friends with them and bullied even worse had he not heard what they said. I made a quick video on my channel explaining my situation and why I am taking a break from my channel.
Honestly bro Train to fight some way some how just do it especially now in this pandemic then when we all come back and they mess with you you just fuck them up
9:56 And you're definitely one of them. I would have loved to talk with you when I was going through bad times. 11:35 Thank you. Thank you a lot. It might not seem like much, but trust me, thanks. You need to know that you're a wonderful person. Never stop being a wonderful person, please.
I got bullied in elementary school and reversed the effect on the bully in middle school. But I highly regret it when I found out that someone close in his family died and that's why he came after me specifically because I immigrated from the country where his someone was killed so we eventually talked it out and we ended up as somewhat friends.😅P.S.sorry for my incorrect English.
About fighting back physically: Once, after school, I was waiting for my dad to pick me up. I was playing on the school playground and there was one other kid from my class. I don't remember exactly how it happened but he pulled me to the ground on my hair which was really painful. To free myself I bit his leg. I couldn't think clear in that moment, I just wanted him to stop. He then told everyone I just bit his leg but he did nothing and if it were not for my dad watching everything from the distance while arriving I would have been punished (Since he was obviously hurt and I didn't have any physical signs of him doing anything to me).
Dave you had to do what you had to do
What you did was good self defense is necessary
Never thought i'd ever hear him swear
I'm... shaking. I never would have thought X went through all this.
Wow... Weird to imagine this voice bullying someone
Where I live, Bullying is not really like because of insecurities but because they want to establish their dominion to establish their "Masculinity". Most of them just like to bully as a hobby. Making someone a butt of a joke, which are mostly physical, is bad. Also they never want to be questioned about their behaviour. Mostly it is just mental indimidation to target students who are actually different and unique and are more better than them. Basically its just dragging someone into the same pond as you are, so they can remain the king of the pond.
If teachers fail you, goto your parents, if your parents fail you, goto the police, if the police fails you, goto the internet, or go out into the street and scream
Hey X, will you consider putting the audio from these videos on spotify as a podcast? That way I can download them and listen to them when I'm travelling. I think a lot of other people would also like this.
"I was gonna take out my own ff" video was still loading Thought he curse
I never thought a person who does gaming videos targeted at a younger audience, as well as an older audience, could have been through so much and have the courage, honesty, and selflessness to use his platform and speak to his viewers on these matters. Especially after making personal videos like these, it makes sense that X doesn't want to do a "face reveal" or share what he looks like, so people should stop asking and wait until X feels comfortable to do so. These videos really help me and make me realize that some things that I go through, I am not the only one. :) Thank you
People have tried bullying me what I do is just start laughing and they quit usually
20,000 people are watching you medal of bravory has been aworded to xisumavoid
I feel like I have witnessed you growing as a person over the last several years though your Hermitcraft videos. The way you strive and work toward being the best person you can is inspiring and you are a very important and special kind of a role model for those of us who listen and enjoy your stories and overall perspective on life. Thank you so much for sharing this stuff, X.
The thing I hate is when it comes to getting bullied, schools just don’t give a shit. I’ve heard from my dad who heard from someone at his work, there kid has been bullied at my school and they tried to do something about it and told the school but they don’t do anything about it and it only made the kids situation worse and the guy that was bullying him, kept on bullying him, so the guy getting picked on had no choice but to change schools
Currently, I don’t have any friends and everyone excludes me from everything :( the thing is that my school doesn’t do anything about it because it’s not ‘serious enough’
i just cryed!! this video really relates to me and that was really helping to get your advice, so thank you X!!!,
Same
Sentient Teapot your so annoying u brat ever read the comment they just said and ur laughing u a jerk
@@RickNemo ??? U good?
@@the_sky_is_blue_and_so_am_I he deleted the comment I’m assuming
@@the_sky_is_blue_and_so_am_I yeah it was I remember
Something I do if someone says something mean, I will just say either thank you(to confuse them) or just something random (also, to confuse them). They may give you a weird look, but they usually won’t bother you again
Xisuma you are literally the greatest human being on planet earth for opening up and talking about these things.
Yea honestly, Xisuma is probably the most mature and chill guy I've ever watched and I recommend him to everyone
For all the people in the comments who are saying “Oh, I can really relate to this. I was bullied a lot as a kid” etc, etc. I just want to say I’m sorry. I never went through this, and I just wouldn’t know what it’s like. All the idiots who did that to wonderful people like you will never know how it hurt you, and I hope I can help you guys feel as good as I can about this topic. May you never encounter people like that again.
sgas And I’m glad.
Now this is a meaningful comment
I was bullied through middle school and that turned me from being a cheerful kid to an introvert I never chose the way to fight back but I guess that led me through alot of physical harm in highschool but the hole in my heart was filled by others around me in university and you can probably seek out for someone as it is never bad to ask for help from someone
needed to here that, I was bullied throughout school too and grew up not having friends. It didnt help that my parents had high expectations of me, they expected me to be super social and have lots of friends and get good grades (obviously didnt happen). Even though im not in school anymore, and have some friends and get high distinctions at uni, school still haunts me a bit and I constantly feel alone even when I'm with friends. Worst thing was being beaten up in front of my younger sibilings, they ignored me and considered me a loser. life sucks, so take the russian/aussie approach, dont give a crap about anything except what you enjoy.
Honestly, I'd say I kinda relate to ya. My family expected me to get the best grades and all of that stuff(which just like you, wasn't the case), and it also didn't help that my eyesight, my learning and thinking speed (I hope ya get what I mean) and, well, my whole body was pretty much better than my whole family, even my cousins, uncles and all of that. When my family saw that I like different things and think a lot more differently than they do, then that was pretty much the start of all of the terrible things that happened to me. My dad thought of me as something so dumb and stupid and all of those things, and called me nasty things, and would usually tell my other relatives the worst things that I have done, and also thinks that a pig is more valuable than I am. My older sister would try to abuse me and my younger sister, and just used us as a way to get out of trouble. I remember one day she broke something and pinned it on me and I got scolded and beaten by something that was dense and hard. My aunts would do the same things as my older sister, and also try to ruin my health and make me worse than before. They would give me stuff that won't harm me on the first couple of weeks, but later on it would start to get harmful. My cousins were jealous of my appearance, abilities and skills. I was glad that my younger sister also thought differently and likes different things, cuz in my opinion the stuff my family liked were bad and awful. Like they thought gay people are horrible people, and black people were weak and inferior etc. I was also glad my uncles weren't so cruel to me. I wasn't bothered by my older sister and my cousins abusing, but then my aunts and my dad as well as my grandma joined the party and it felt like as if they didn't like me, but instead felt like they wished death upon me and wanted to just sell me. They would get confused as to why some people liked me and tried to change their opinion so that I suffer more and it just wasn't nice. Honestly, it feels harder to breathe when I talk about this stuff,and it makes me feel better when other people and not just my younger sister and my mom know how I feel. My grandma hates me because I'm not like her and I don't think that people should force their son to marry some 16 year old girl and tell them to give birth to like 10 children.
Thank you for sharing your story Xisuma. Being bullied is one of the worst things one can experience. I too was bullied between the ages of like 4-11. I was never physically bullied but emotionally. As a kid I was very shy and never dared to stand up to myself. I was lucky to have a best friend through this time and she was always by my side. I don't know how I would have survived without her during those years. And the "telling teachers" thing almost never worked. Many teachers would see the bullying happening but never do something. There was only one instance I remember that a teacher intervened and I was really greatful for that. The class photo that had been taken was published and pinned on our classroom door for us to see. It was a completely normal photo but in the corner where I was standing it was a weird angle and it looked like I was "leaning" on the shoulder of the boy next to me but in fact I wasn't. Almost the entire class came after me and started pointing and laughing and teasing. I remember running off and crying but one of my friends convinced me to come back and tell the teacher. So we did and the day after the biggest "culprits" came to me like looking like a dog with its tail between its legs and apologized. I figured the teacher must have yelled at everyone who had bullied me and I was really greatful for that teacher. When I was 11 years old I switched schools with my best friend and I saw this as a great opportunity to get a fresh start. I vowed to myself to never let anyone bully me ever again. When I came to the new school a boy in my new class soon started to pick on me but I did not stand down. I confronted him in an early stage and told him off. He got really shocked about that and never dared to open his mouth to say nasty things to me ever again. Since that day I have never let anyone bully me, make fun of me or anything like that. When I started secondary school and college I put up an impression of myself to seem kind of cold and tough so people wouldn't dare to do pick on me. But I softened afterwards and I have made many friends since then and get along easily with people. And nowadays I find it funny when my friends say "I thought you were a bitch when we first met". At this point in my life I don't look back and hate that part of my life because my whole life up to this point has shaped me into the person I am today and all the hardships has made me into a stronger person. If I could give any advice on fighting bullying it would be to dare to stand up for yourself, but to also remember you can't change the people who are mean to you and therefore you sometimes have to be the bigger person.
I’m so deeply sorry this happened to you X. I’m so glad that your better today and are happier! You are such a big inspiration to many people including myself. You’ve helped me in my dark times by making me laugh and inspiring me to do the things I love. This video was helpful and amazing. Thanks for being such a great and amazing guy!
When I was in preschool, I had a bully trip me over a gravel pit, had his friend pin me down, and then he ground and beast my face into the gravel and he got out Scott-Free. After I left there I was mentally and verbally abused continuously until my third grade. In three U.S. things haven’t changed since I just graduated high school. I honestly wish it would though, better support and therapy systems are needed to help remedy this...
Bullying only stopped for me after successfully fighting said bully. I feel schools teach children to be damsels in distress clinging to the hope that someone else will save them from torment. Instead of trying to make the world bullying free why not prepare your child to defend and assert themselves?
School system failed me too. For at least a year I’ve had to deal with bullying. Everyday I have to deal with being called fat, wimp (harsher than that but this is a family friendly channel), also making jokes about my dog being dead (they know he hasn’t been doing well for the last year), also calling me schizophrenic (I’m not just vivid imagination). I’m not fat but far from being shredded, but all it has done is make me extremely body continence, causing anxiety. After about six months I went to the school with the issue. Showed Instagram messages and plenty of proof. My mates were dealing with similar stuff from them and one of my mates in the heat of the moment made a poor joke about one of the bullies disabled sister. He put this in his initial statement before the bully’s knew we went to the teacher, he was expecting the ramaforcations of this but that one comment cancelled out six months of bullying. I understood to a certain extent and we parted ways. They kept harassing me every day. I share a class with all of them. I went to the teacher on my own. Long chat, nothing happened. Happened again, nothing happened. Happened again, nothing happened. Start of December was the last straw. One of them was annoying me in class so I went to meet the teacher who has been “dealing” with this. It’s been a couple months since I went because I’d given up. I said we had had to deal with physical and mental abuse. She said they couldn’t do much because I hadn’t reported it sooner and I should have kept going (blamed me for it). I basically went to a government website and began listing their definitions of bullying and the schools responsibility’s. After one year p, out of about six bullies, one got one detention. About a month later, the teacher came up to my group of friends and asked for a favour, she immediately stated we owed her for her help. I’m still dealing with it now even though corona virus just ended high school for me. And I aspect college will be the same.
Sorry for second comment, you really did touch me with this deeply X. I'm a little older but I don't know where to start with the similarity in experience. I can remember reporting a gang of kids from the year above in secondary school who were mercilessly bullying me every break they could find me. I spent my life hiding from Now im 40ids. When I finally bottled it up to report it, I told the deputy head. He pulled them in and told them off. He then told me to 'man up'. They kicked the shit out of me the next day. I went to an all boys comprehensive, apparently, it was fine for that top happen because the school never responded to that. I then spent the next three years hiding from them, then also my classmates, cos they thought that was funny to see if they could 'set me off' or drag me into a corner where they were waiting. Eventually, I also walked out of lessons, went home at lunchtime and didnt come back for the afternoon. Eventually didnt come in at all an got expelled in year 11 for non attendance, though they let me take my exams. I 'passed' every one, even scoring an A for Maths. Didnt do so well on coursework related ones, as I wasnt even there to know about the coursework as Id been chased out by the bullies. Scraped a C or better in everything, when I had been in top classes consistently. They wouldnt even let me take the top maths paper (did 4 and 5, not 5 and 6). Got the highest score in the school for both papers 4 and 5 but could only get an A. People who did worse got A stars. The whole school system was messed up when we we were in it X, I really wish I had been born ten to fifteen ears later, where now there seems to be a serious attitude towards bullying at school. My life was literally destroyed. A high achieving student, ruined by the lack of support from the school supposed to protect and advance me. Now im facing 40, suffer from PTSD and depression due to my experiences. You inspire me that you have been able to turn that into something as amazing as you have created. I would be jealous but maybe you show a path forwards. Sorry for long double post, this vid tapped into a 25+ yr old, unresolved pain
Love you X!
Thank you X!
This was super refreshing :)
this is why he doesnt need a face reveal thank you X for talking about this I don't know what to comment But I was bullied in school too, and the thing is they would pretend not to be bullying me and they said this is how they treated their 'friends'. I told the teacher, but they lied their way out of it. The only way I got out of it was watching Xisuma. I screamed at their face and like 'I don't care what you treat your friends, but you are going to treat me like a human. Unless they're also not human like you." I then completely avoided her. I think I was kinda harsh but I didn't know what to say (and I wanted to throw some shade)
Thank you for sharing X
thanks Xisuma, i needed this
Let me go back in time and protect xisumavoid
you know sometimes after liking the video you feel like you really want to give the video another one
Thank you X.
Really sorry to hear :/ Thanks for sharing your story! You will help a lot of people!
I feel the pain ... Deeply sorry to hear all this ... Thank you for sharing this story!
This kind of videos help me so much, thanks❤️
Keep this up X, you are truly inspirational.
Thank you so much for posting these videos. It helps a lot
I can relate to most of this video,X.This has been an eye opener.
thank you for sharing this with us
Good you talk about this stuff
Good for you doing this video
i have been where you have been, this took an amazing amount of strength x.
This feels like a podcast and I like it
that was a really good video
How dare I relate to you so much…
You’re so brave to talk about this 💖
Iv only just gotten out of secondary school, i really didn't learn these lessons and things were worse for me, its good you are giving this advice to anyone still stuck like that
Xisuma is bullying my sadness. Thanks!
I watched this a while ago and rewatching it made me realize you indirectly helped me thank you x
This is insanely good podcast, not a video.
I have so much respect for you, X. I know how hard these things are to talk about, but what you’re doing can change people’s lives. Thank you for talking about the hard stuff.
Very good advise. It's stuff I've heard and seen work before.
X, you have done it again! You have created an amazing community in wich everyone helps one other
I really like this videos they really highlight some stuff going on in my life.
Thank you, you are a good man.
jeez thanks, xsiuma that is amazing advice thanks for talking about this, it is a relatable situation for me.
i cant even describe how relatable this video is ...
I love the way you share those things and try to give us advice. You're the best X!
This is amazing that you talked about this period in your life
Huge respect to you X, despite me having grown out of your letsplays, you're still a big inspiration to me
Im so glad that you are so much happier than you were in school, Xisuma. Thank you for your streams and videos and everything you do
Thank you for this video. I was bullied too at school. I am 37 now and still think about theese times but gladly I´m almost over all of this. I still have some problems in making new friends and trust new people and still am a very quiet person. But I´m not as unhappy with my life as I was back then. The only sad thing is, that the bullies probably never really knew what they caused and most probably don´t think about their actions now, many years later.
When I thought I knew you for the past years. I was wrong. This touched me deeply. Virtual hugs are being send. Proud you are able to share it. This must have been something that has been on your chest for a while. I am glad you did. Personally I was bullied. But I forced myself to forget those moments or at least make them seem less bad, which helps me now. But the bullying was not as bad as you had it. Teachers tried to offer advise, help and safety.
Thank you soo much Xisuma Really aperisiatte this video
Thank you for sharing this. It was nice to hear a similar story to mine. I am sorry it happened to you too but I appreciate you sharing it.
This hits so close to home, but here I am. I do not have a lot of friends, but the ones I do have are closer to me than any friendship I have seen. X, I'm so happy for you to have come out of that dark time in your life and be better person because of it. We are merely a product of our past and a lot of us manage to change, but some do not. And the ones who get consumed by it and therefore do stupid things to them or to others, those are the ones who need our help the most. Thank you
It takes a strong person to overcome flaws, but an even stronger person to admit them.
Is amazing that you found the courage to talk about this. I’m so sorry to hear that this happened to you but I applaud you for being able to talk about this. 👏 👏👏👏👏
You are so wise