Loneliness
Everybody feels lonely sometimes. But only few of us are aware how important this feeling was for our ancestors - and that our modern world can turn it into something that really hurts us. Why do we feel this way and what can we do about it?
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Nice!
omg second
Hi!
nice
Good theme
Conversations that I have: 4% with real people 96% in my mind
same here
Relatable. Most of my conversations nowadays are smalltalk, which I don't mind but I personally crave to have much deeper conversations and hang out with like minded people.
@@Lilflip20128 I wish for the same thing
can you stop with memes?
Yep
The worst is..when u spend time with ur "friends" and feel like u don't belong there anymore. Such a contradicting feeling that is.
I have 0 friends
@@abcdefglol3188 +1.
@@abcdefglol3188 +2
@@abcdefglol3188 +3
@@abcdefglol3188 hello?
"If you feel lonely, you are lonely." Love this line!
😂😂😂😂😂
😮 high iq time
No shit Sherlock
I have people around me who keep asking me if I'm okay. But I'm afraid of speaking to them because I'm afraid they'll judge me and then I'll judge myself. So, I have created my own loneliness.
water is wet type beat
Being alone sucks man, I also hate it when I’m in public and I see people my age hanging out with their friends and having a good time, meanwhile I’m just sitting there all by myself just hating my life and my existence.
There's me
Literally me
I hate seeing groups of adult friends. I know I shouldn't but my dumbass is like "don't show off your friendship".
@@Itsant33😂 dw its normal to want something others have, especially something nice as friendship, ik how u feel
thats me i get so jealous when i see my few and only friends with their girlfriends and boyfriends and huge group of friends while i sit alone during all my classes and do the work with only myself while they and everyone is having a good time working and talking
The worst thing is going from feeling extremely lonely, to extremely fulfilled, then lonely again
That hits deep
Happens to me all the time...
Can relate
dudecool79 you think your getting better but then the thoughts come back.
:/
The worst part of loneliness is when you watch a movie and want to share your opinion with someone but you have nobody and you end up talking to yourself
Why are you doing this to me.
I saw it as the good part of loneliness but ok. . . Toby_ Belle has a point.
Záncibar well the OGC did say that it was the worst part for them....
Same with video games I can’t find anyone that play bf1 or bf4 because everyone is playing fortnite and I can’t have so I can’t reach out to anyone
Damn :(
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Germany. Really need
Yes, dr.porass. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Is he on instagram?
Yes, he is dr.porass.
I began tearing up from how well they explained the daily living hell of loneliness I have, and began straight up crying when they explained how I actually can help my self..thank you so much.
I felt the same honestly
Same here
The worst thing is being around people and feeling like you are invisible
ZENO I feel called out
To those with social anxiety, that is the BEST thing.
@@fatcat1250 Feeling invisible?? I guess.
feeling invisible is what i want to be actually
Agreed
“Let’s reach out to someone today” *Left on read*
A very good looking whale bruh I tried to talk to someone new in irl, ten minutes they just got up and walked away I WAS LEFT ON READ IRL
Same...
@@housecat1674 damn. that sucks. I know it dont feel like it... but that was not you. that was them. I had 2 experiences where I tried. one was great. one was not, and I let it ruin me. *1 - in hs in florida we had a nice outdoors campus (art school). during lunch, I saw an obviously (facial/body expression) lonely boy sitting against a pillar looking down at the grass. I said "Hey man what's up? you new? want to go for a walk?" and he did. we had fun that one time. we never hung out with each other after that day, but he had made friends and always smiled and said hello to me in the halls. (I was art, he was music - no shared classes) *2 - another time in hs, after school by the bus loading area, there was a nervous looking, very quiet kid with glasses. I thought the other time was good.. I made someone happy and I felt good. so I stood right in front of him, waved and said "hello!" and he just stared at me. I repeated my word... and he blinked. I felt so sad. like I was bothering him. I said sorry and slunk away. I never fucking did that again. it was stupid of ME. in hindsight, i shouldn't have ever let myself feel shame for reaching out. * years later, I saw the boy from story 1. he was so happy to see me, and told me and the friends he was with, that I'd never know how much I changed his hs experience just from that one day. he made a lot of friends. I wish I could have been his friend, but it didn't happen - we were really different and lived far from each other. what I'm trying to say, is we'll never be able to reach someone who isn't ready or willing to be reached. but this reaching out and trying again is a real thing that can have such an impact... well I lied. I did reach out again. i met my last significant other inside of an abandoned building.. and I saw him a few weeks later walking in the streets where I lived. I pulled over and said "hey. wanna go for a drive?" he did. then i killed him... not. but we did joke about how i could have... we've been together 8 years. o.o
wanderingintime bro thank you so much wtf out of all the people I talked to about it your KZhead comment was the wisest and made me feel the most better, what a great start to my day! Also for a second I believed the killing joke lolll
@@housecat1674 hey that makes me happy to know. keep having a good day!
it hurts so much when nobody reaches out to you in the first place. You are never directly talked to by your “friends” and continually excluded from the plans that they made together. You are just there; you’re not important in anyones life and they don’t seem to care about you at all. Nobody checks up on you to see how you are doing or if you want to hang out. Even when you reach out to them first, there is always an excuse of why they can’t go. Even when you thought you made a new friend-one who treats you like an existing person-they start to ignore you and act like you never existed. You eventually start to resort to books, movies, and music to escape from your reality and into a fantasy. You know you would be such a good friend if people just gave you a chance. You’re always left wondering, “what did I do?”
God that’s how I feel thank you for typing this
I don't know you, but I relate so much. I tried the converse after being left out by my "friends". Making plans and my "friends" just ignored me. I guess they just want to go away and d1e.
You put my feelings into words...
"You have to be the one to make things happen" might be good advice practically, but it never addresses the shitty feeling of not being wanted in the first place. ❤
It is mostly because of our social status is low many people in adulthood just want to increase their status
외로운 서로의 아픔을 비난하지 않고 보듬어 주어 힘이 되어 줍시다
The sad part is most of the people watching this are lonley
I am
Well yeah, it's weird to see this video with a group of people. It's better to see this by yourself because everyone is different and everyone feels lonely at different times
@@toastydoggo2313 I feel lonely most OF THE TIME
I'm not, but i was curious about the subject and how help People
Sad reality
Anyone wanna hold hands
alone. o o
What are you doing here and why havnt you made another vid yet?
Let's hold hands then ~~
No
I'd rather hug, thanks. My hands get sweaty when someone else holds them.
it’s been probably 3-4 years since i found this, i come back to it from time to time ,once or twice a year, and find myself in tears almost every time
i try following this, i do not assume hostility or judge ,i reach out all the time, i’m always ready to open up and i cat escape feeling lonely regularly ,some things trigger it more than others and i don’t know what can i do with it
@@artemsavtsov983 same for me. It's usually the feeling that even if you opening up, no one care about it.
@@joysanni yeah, i feel like wasting time and effort now when meeting new people or reconnecting with old ones, because it may end in that way
@@artemsavtsov983 i just feel being annoying to everyone as i forcing myself to shut up and don't talk with anyone.. Sad thing, when you can't talk with your FRIENDS, because don't want to bother them with your loneliness, and also you can't find new one as they don't seem mutual in conversation or some kind of.
How are you guys doing? ❤
Hey, just wanted to come back here to say that this video seriously improved my life last year. It made me realize during one of the worst times in my life that I was significantly isolating myself, making it worse. It encouraged me to reach out to people, and though I didn't make any life changing friendships, it made my senior year of high school a hell of a lot more bareable. So, yeah. Though you'll probably never see this, thank you.
i don't know you but i proud of you. i hope you feel better ^^
Well done! You're doing better than me, that's for sure
Loneliness: *More deadly than Cancer and Smoking* Me: Guess I'll die.
Don't give up. Stay strong mate 💪🏻💪🏻
@@imperiomaximus9583 And remember: dying is gay
Heyy, let's try not to die together
Exactly what I thought when watching this. I've not had any friends for such a long time, that my life span is probably already been completely fucked up by now .
So say we all
"I think my biggest problem is that I love being alone but I hate being lonely."
Same
Same here
Facts.
Like everybody
play games and communicate :)
The worst thing is being alone in a crowd. I go out to try to make friends and meet people but i end up feeling more isolated than ever.
thats why i dont go out with friends no more.. at this point every word i want to say makes me think that im weird.
For the last 10 yrs I'm a complete social outcast, I'm so lonely I talk to myself for hours very loudly like I'm talking to someone because I got no one to talk to literally no one. 😢☹️
Jesús 😭
@@kendallbr9166 yeah 🥺🥺
Can relate
I'm at the point where I'm so lonely that I spend a majority of my days fantasizing about my ideal friendships and romantic partner.
Go find them! Don't sink into the hole. There's nothing good in the hole. There are lots of people who relate to you and who could potentially be your friends. Just keep trying.
Oh thats me. Lol
Shut up dont remind me of myself
@@snowleaf2834 thassa mood.
Viridian Sky I’m in this picture and I don’t like it.
The best wombo combo is loneliness and low self esteem; everything else flows from it.
+ social anxiety + depression
I have low self esteem and loneliness so I know how it feels
Same
No Religion/spirituality + No friends + no family + low self esteem + procrastinator = Shitty times
@@jayluis189 literally me
Every time I feel so lonely to the point I can't endure it, I watch this video and cry at the thought of someone understands me. although I cry while watching it, I feel like being helped out
No one understand me irl but its nice seeing people that also dont have many friends and are usually lonely
you know? I wanted to comment: did anyone else cryed while watching this? Then i see your comment
But where ru from? *_Emma🦋_*
I’m following you ;)
This was the most helpful video I've ever watched. Felt like it addressed every single thing about me, man I need to put this in action. Good luck to everyone who suffers from this too!
"Loneliness" *Recommended for you*
lmao same
youtube know me well
For real lol
Ya
Even youtube notice it
"Decline invitations untill the invitations stop" Bold of you to assume I ever got any.
Nu ești singur, nici nu vei fi vreodată, atâta timp cât nu vrei. 🇷🇴
I used to get a few, to places that caused me anxiety. Now the have stopped coming, I'm fine with that :)
This is what I said too
I was once in class, and i stood behind a curtain to see og anyone would remember i Was there. And yes it was after a break so the teacher knew i was at school that day, and we had the same teacher Before, and after the break. No one, not even my best friend remembered me. So when i came out from hiding, i asked why they didnt say anything. They all didnt know i was at school that day. Yes this is a true story, and they actually didnt know i was at school. If you have any questions, i would gladly reply.
High five! 🖐
The feeling that you have everybody around you, but not with you
I watched this video 4 years ago and it's just been suggested on my algorithm. I wanted to come back here and say that this video set the ball in motion which massive improved my mental health and my life. I live in a new country now and it's scary and would have been too lonely in my mind 4 years ago but now it excites me to be alone and make new friends again. I bought and read 'Loneliness' by John Cacioppo & William Patrick and then bought it for people in my life i want to support. Thank you Kurzgesagt, i hope your videos continue to help people in a rut as I was. Ry
Loneliness is when you’re surrounded by people, but don’t feel connected with them. You have hours of conversation, but still feel empty and unsatisfied. You try to speak up, but they don’t understand.
yeah, and how to overcome this problem? we open up and accepting invitations from friends but now what?
@@hendywijaya3213 this is also my question
Sounds like every family reunion I went to.
A little late but here i go: So i had this problem back in school too. My "friends" were nice and all. I talked a lot with them but it never felt right. Sometimes i didnt say what i meant other times i just couldnt speak up. The thing is (and thats the hard part) theyre not real friends. Trust me if they hurt you (in anyway) or you dont feel comfortable around them -> get fucking rid of them. Real friendship is so different from that i still cant believe it. I dont have to think what im saying. It just clicks and i just feel happy now. Youve to try again and again and thats the hardest part of the problem. Every relationship is like that. Youve to sort out the troublemakers/idiots/etc. and to do that youve to just try (again and again...). Its not going to be easy but hang in there and believe in yourself. Your future self will thank you. Youll think back and it will be crazy how it changed. Hope this somehow helps. Feeling lonely is probably one of the worst things out there but its cureable. Meeting new people makes you vulnerable and consumes a lot of time/energy but in the end its the only way.
@@mertboy94 thanks for the answer :')
I feel lonely if the teacher ask us to pick a group and i get left behind
Marceline Morales okay, so as the video itself recommends, I’m trying to lift somebody’s mood up although it’s not what I would normally do. But I can tell you that feeling left behind the group is a very familiar feeling. In fact, now that I think about it it’s been a long time since I actually cared about it because it happened so many times that it kinda became a normality for me to feel left out. Or maybe I just got used to it or I’m not trying anymore or whatever the video says. Anyways, in my case, I know that people would have accepted me if I tried a bit harder therefore I think you can choose not to be alone and maybe if you give yourself a chance( or multiple chances) you can get yourself out of that isolation bubble. And also you’re probably cool and funny and if you haven’t found the right people around you yet then just keep being yourself. I hope it didn’t make you feel sadder, lol
Dayum
Marceline Morales LoL me always 👅
That’s what happened to me for a field trip. The field trip is tomorrow and I was put in a group full of guys who I barely know. I’m afraid of being humiliated if I go cause of the boys and other girls in a group together. So I can stay home or take my chances of humiliation. What should I do?
@@sanchez5863 If the field trip is something worth going to, then sure! Be yourself, and don't be scared. We all say things at the wrong time when we're nervous and feel out of place, so just take some breaths, and reassess where you are. I was the "lone wolf" in middle school, and a bit through high school as well. I've done TONS of really awkward things, and my heart races when just being spoken to. If people are speaking to you, listen, and I mean REALLY listen. Ask good questions, and be polite! Be calm, and when people talk to you, respond. Boys or girls, in the end, they're only your peers!
This is such serious issue, since we’re indeed built for good connections with others and quality time with friends. Scrolling through social media and texting don’t fulfill one’s social needs, unfortunately. That’s why we feel so lonely; we have unlearned to have qualitative real-life conversations and pay genuine attention to each other. Loneliness has taken a huge toll on my mental health and I hope it will get better in the future
This video was the first thing to make me truly cry in a while. Thanks.
"Loneliness makes you decline invitations till invitations stops" TOTALLY AGREE..
specially when those invitations werent about you but what you have, egoistic invitations, then i prefer to be lonely thanks.
E
you guys were getting invitations in the first place ?
@@goroland6904 I have the same problem. How am I supposed to have a social life when nobody cares about me enough to invite me to anything? My ex-”friends“ were like parasites, taking and never giving. I‘ve cut them off and now I‘m alone, but it‘s still better than pretending that people care about you.
From my experience, this seems to work. I had friends before 2020 but none of them were very close, and even tho I barely have any friends now, I feel less lonely than before because I’m better at occupying myself. Not having friends but keeping myself happy is probably not a permanent solution but it’s definitely a good first step toward not being lonely, I guess it’s like fully figuring myself out before rejoining society and trying to make friends again
“If you feel lonely you are lonely” Quote of the year
I saw this comment while watching that part
Hmm, yes. The floor here is made out of floor.
@@shinjilovrrr the chhair is made out of chair
@@ima13yroldpplessfortnutboi79 yeah, this is big brain time. Also, your name in chat
Every minute 60 seconds pass in Africa
The worst part of loneliness is when you watch a movie and you want to share your opinion with someone but you have nobody and you end up talking to yourself. The most heartbreaking words💔🔪
real
The hardest part is moving on from the perfect person you met, most of you has already moved on but a part of you can’t let go
bro stop
I've been lonely for so long that it feels normal.
Yeah. And it’s like it would be weird if you *didn’t* feel lonely.
@@jacobgalvez4363 Exactly.
Hang in there!
Same here. I lost all my friends in 2016 and haven’t had any since.
Reki Jorve it starts to feel normal but it’s not good
You know you are extremely lonely when you want to share this video with someone but you can't send it to anyone who would be interested.
...And then there's a situation where there's just nobody to send it to.
you shared this video with everyone who watched it, so in a way, you aren't alone! :)
I think this problem affects a lot of people so u can share it with ur friends Im sure one or two will like it
*-P A I N-*
that’s exactly what i was gonna do-
learning that loneliness is an evolutionary trait of human kind rather than a mental illness makes me feel so much better
You literally just explained the cause of all the anxiety I’ve had for so long.
"The worst loneliness is to not be comfortable with yourself. -Mark Twain
Amen.
And being lonely is what makes you uncomfortable with yourself.
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(plastic plants?), better alert systems (+ internal communication via phones? phones 4 all employees?), animals? pets or birds? allergy? bonsai maple trees? etc. + small jobs 4 residents? a workshop? textile processing? knitting? small kitchen jobs? or board game party? old people = bored 2 ? balcony or terrace sunset evenings? (all weather outdoor furniture? sunshade? plastic palm tree? beach chair? lighting + lamps? adjustable pedestal fans? (hot days?) all disability friendly? less isolation? (growing loneliness!) more community oriented activities? + small group trips? (gardens, theatre, museum, dance ball, coasts or beaches? ports? sometimes? more often?) higher wages 4 staff? ..much higher :) (home care patients? they are lonely 2.. most of them!) time 4 changes. time 4 more happyness. everybody wants 2 be happy! trips? visits? (with pets? no allergy?) donate clothing? support 4 daycare centers? (money 4 new furniture, medic courses, + training, equipment? (+ child and baby CPR simulators? etc) indoor playground or waterpark employees? upskilling? + many more first aid kits (+ better signposts? + fire extinguishers, AEDs, emergency escape, plan, exit, staircase, ladder etc? everywhere? LARGE SIGNS? (+ corridors? on the ceiling? + arrows?) poor eyesight ! + health and safety stickers !? handicap signs or stickers? ), training, equipment, AEDs etc. easy jobs? clean-up operations? bushes, parks, streets, lakes?, harbors?, seas?, coasts?, oceans? clean up some plastic, broken glass or other trash? trash = serious danger 4 animals. (pain in the stomach, injuries, die offs etc ): its time 4 serious cleaning up operations! (you can use hand nets, nitrile gloves. self protection!) or use a boat? recycling bins? (maybe... leave a slice of toast bread? in the shrubs? or on a grass area? for birds. they love it :) (or walnuts? small pieces. on cold days. winter, autumn etc) work at night? (or new school projects? monthly?) volunteers? maybe ask your school teachers? or maybe visit a diving school? become a diver? 4 mother nature ... (the plastic trash that floats in the world's oceans actually decompose and release potentially toxic substances into the water) ,,, lets save marine life :) lets remove some plastic and trash. many turtles are in trouble struggling with plastic :( + better recycling systems all around the world? (+ africa, india, etc?) + sanitation? new wells and fresh water 4 animals ? (there are aid agencies) create new ones? or new jobs? + new farms? (fruits, vegetables) + greenhouses? bakery? drug stores + pharmacies? new schools? diving or swimming schools? boat hire !? + life vests?, hand nets (plastic waste = global problem) + international help, assistance? we need jobs. NO replacement of workers or employees! we dont need robots etc. stop robot technology + developement. all kinds of it
Poker Face-_- Hey i am a new youtuber it would mean so much if you subscribed thank you i am a fan of you
Poker Face-_- Why does it bother me that he forgot to close the quotation?
*"Loneliness is twice as deadly as obesity and as deadly as smoking a pack of cigarettes a day"* I have the complete package then
me too!
Congratulations!
Just add alcohol
That is quite a claim, as well as the obesity one, I thought. I would have liked to see a source for this. Till then I just take it as a filler statement more for effect.
Agreed. If loneliness were a disease, I'd been dead a long time ago.
This channel is outstanding. Can´t thank you enough for the help you are giving me in times of loneliness.
Wow, I wanted to say "thank you." This is one of the most insightful, practical, and intuitive documentaries I've watched. I've sent this to my family members and friends.
"decline invitations, until the invitations stop" hit me like a truck
That's me pretty much..... I suck.
Been there, done that 😢
Eden Nishan ur yoongi pfp🥺
Going through this like right now. Been ignoring friends' "lets catch up..its been long" thing coz my mind says they aren't good for you😶
Right with you there
The most connected era in the history and yet the most lonely one too.
It's because everyone feels like they have to put on an act to fit in but that means no one is genuine and we feel that in our gut so we eventually just don't bother with people more than necessary
Will we ever rewire?
@@saldownik probably not
@@saldownik it's hard to tell. But here are my two cents. It really depends on our further evolution. If the humanity will see that doing fine without much interaction and staying individualistic, then we will become more individualistic. If we'll see that it is an irrelevant way, we won't. Right now I think we'll stay the way we are now, social creatures. Even now there are a lot of cultures and societies which encourage collectivism. The western society is a different beast, we're pretty individualistic, but then again, we really we the rising loneliness problem
@@litphaniusmcmelloy4275 If we will rewire, it will be now much more likely by our design, than by an evolutionary crawl.
I avoided watching this video for 4 years, because I was so lonely. Glad I've watched it now, done so sensitively. I agree with another commenter saying this is maybe one of the best videos I've ever seen
This is one of my favorite videos. I’ve shared it as a teaching tool, reviewed it before discussions, read the books and one of the articles (skimmed the others), and, over time, I can see the changes it’s made in me. 🦆
Let's just appreciate that KZhead gathered us all lonely ppl here in this video's comment section so we don't feel lonely.
Yessd
Thanks ❤️
KZhead is the only one who thinks us
I don't see how this should make anyone feel less lonely. They're in the exact same spot as before, equally lonely and pathetic. But perhaps I'm just too pessimist.
Yeah
When you realize that you prefer daydreaming and making fantasies inside your head instead of talking to real people and facing real life...
escapism, eh? it's like a drug
Basically me in a nutshell
Yep I always do that all the time its now a habit
Mood
Thats why I love the internet, I’ve met so many cool ppl but there is no need to worry about them thinking my voice is trash and my face is ugly, cuz they don’t know either of them
Really helped me figure out why I was lonely most of the time thank you so much man.
I realize the importance of reconnecting with old colleagues and buddies without knowing the complete disconnection for many years until now. A very insightful video from Kurzgesagt - thank you! I am going to share this with my last few connections I still have on Facebook.
"The average number of friends is two" Me, with 0 friends: great
but in usa, where are you from
Well I haven't had a single friend in like 30 years...
Ill be your friend☺️
Me with my only friend when parents think I'm 4 years old and keep trying to make me make new friends
same. hi everyone.
You never realise how lonely you are until it’s the end of the day and you have a bunch of stuff to talk about but no one to tell it to :(
Yes, that's horrible
A personal journal, then you can go back and relive those experiences as you're reading along :)
This comment is like getting stabbed in the ribcage. Hits right where it hurts
😔❤️🩹
Now that you know you feel lonely you can start trying to fix it. Try a teamsport or call someone else to ask how've they been. Will be a painfull journey due to the fear of rejection as described in the vid. But remember that by showing interest in someone else is a good deed worth doing even if you don't get anything back.
This video helped me a lot. I really wanted to understand myself and your videos were always the best way. Thank you.
"If you are lonely when you're alone, you are in bad company" - Jean-Paul Sartre This quote helped me A LOT, because it's you that makes you think you're alone, it's all in your head. Stay strong and keep going, there's so much to see in this world, so much to do in life, there's no time to waste on such fruitless thoughts!
Schools: *I don't see the problem here.*
The true
They teach us about stuff like this all the time with those crappy posters Also, our teachers are not our therapists Edit: maybe I am wrong
*Hoodie*
@@xi3382 Schools: *HOLY SHIT WE HAVE A POTENTIAL SCHOOL SHOOTER SOMEONE CALL THE FBI*
@@vibing6530 He said SCHOOLS, not teachers. The school can provide some kind of therapist...
I'm the type of person who likes to cheer everybody up, but when I'm not feeling good nobody seems to care about me and that's what makes me lonely
it’s called codependency, it’s a boundary issue, i suffer from it too
ya boi same :/
I'm the one who connects everyone while im just a broken connection line. It's pretty painful when you see everyone around you care for each other and not you while you're the main connector, as if you're the power cable that connects cities but no one cares for your maintenance. Being a loyal person, this is a bullet to the gut.
Dumble King I’m the same way, now I spend most of my free periods thinking about what could have been if I didn’t make so many mistakes while everyone else is having fun and joking around
same
Çok faydalı bir kanalsınız. Sayenizde hayal gücümde çektiğim acılarla ve fantezilerle yüzleşiyorum.
*The worst loneliness isn't being alone, it's being alone surrounded by the people who don't care.*
Damn, sounds like what I got going for me.
@@duffy6542 I got a worse kind of loneliness. It's the one where you're the one who don't care about anyone. It can be even worse than not having anyone in the first place. I have to pretend in order to keep my social bonds but, really, if 90% of people I know disappeared, I wouldn't miss them. And it's not because they're bad, in fact most are very awesome people. I just can't bring myself to care, idk why.
@@GabrielFerCav Maybe you just dont feel like you actually relate to any of them on a deeper level or you dont really care about the things that you do with them. your friends arent catering to your emotional needs in the way you desire or doing the kind of activities that bring you joy, fullfillment, or actually have real value to you. im kind of having a bit of that issue too. It's not that my friends arent great people and I do genuiney care about their well being, but if im honest with myself for alot of them if our friendship was to end or we stopped talking it wouldnt really bother me.
ouch
It shall pass
Who else imagines (Im)possible conversations with strangers, teachers, hypothetical girlfriend. But then you realize that they are not gonna happen. They stay in your mind, get forgotten. You deceive yourself, end that is the loneliest feeling in the world
Хамазаев Руслан yes, All the time, I am my only company.
You aren't deceiving when you experience you are experiencing experience itself
I remember trying to strike up a conversation with strangers a couple times and every time I get a dirty look. I just be like damn. Only trying to say where'd you get that ice cream cone.
And we wonder how inordinary people can exist
Hey! I get what u mean...
This video has really opened my eyes, I always want to talk to people in public but I'm always too scared of what they'll think of me. This is just a reminder for my future self, talk to more people when you get the chance. For all I know, people might want to talk to me too and they're afraid as well. I have to take the first step, I'll try my best to hold myself accountable. I hope anyone who reads this goes out of their way to talk to people as well, it'll be worth it in the long run even if we get rejected. Life is all about learning
Hello , how are you ? I want to be your friend, if you don't mind ?
@@JuliaFinance-bz1swme to
Thank you kurzgesagt this was very wholesome and made me feel very happy and better about myself without me even realizing and changed how I think. Thank you.
Man, You know that feeling when someone you consider a friend ignores you and makes you feel like you've been dumped
gloriousholy I know, This happens to me a lot but gosh it's a sore when it happens
@@boneshrimp6486 I've been forced to dump some friends because they drain my happiness and I have been trying to find a new crowd that makes me happy rather than miserable. Maybe it's time for you to look for better friends that bring you up.
feel this so much, but it's not just one friend for me, it's my whole friend group :,o
It's me who ignore my friends. Now none of them talk about me anymore
@@kirimaruisao4094 I feel you, I regret it so much. I wish I didn't ignore my only friend that I atleast feel comfortable to talk to. It all start when my old friend finally came to my class, shes always absence and I thought it was because I wasn't a good enough friend for her, but I want to spent more time with her(I was an idiot), so I left my other friend behind, I got carried away and didn't talk to my other friend for 2 days, now she think I hate her. I apologize to her and she won't even talk to me anymore, and my old friend keeps skipping class. I have no friends at all right now. I don't know what have my life turn into. I keep abandon my online friends (which I also feel very guilty about) to the point where I abandon my friends that I can talk always to. I just thought I wasn't good enough so I push people away, but I regret it for hurting their feelings. Although they may have forgotten about me now. I don't want friends or lover. I just want comfort. I'm so stupid, I miss everyone and I wish I'm not in this stupid phase.
I feel like KZhead is making fun of me at this point.
If you feel this way then I would think it’s trying to help. Gotta shift that perspective man. 😊
@@rib_rob_personal Only an idiot would think a non-thinking algorithm is trying to help them.
With videos like, how not to talk to yourself so often, and this one, starting to wonder that myself.
there's nothing to be shame
@@JKAZ_M No need to be mean. The algorithm starts collecting information about the user and if it detects searchs related to loneliness, it's gonna recommend you videos with that type of content. It may not "think" but stills help you
Damn. This was one of the most surreal experiences of my life, the man just narrated everything I've been going through and everything that I've thought and felt in the past 3 years. In the past 3 years to cope with loneliness I developed a lot of bad habits and addictions including pornography and vaping. I never mental health was a big deal and made no effort to try and find out why I was feeling the way I did. Every single question he presented towards the end of the video my answer is yes to all of those. Ignoring friends, family and every single human being, deleting my social media accounts and trying to embrace some "lone wolf" mentality completely destroyed my metal health. I don't usually go on social media and talk about myself but I guess it's about time to change that and so this is me taking my first step towards curing loneliness and I hope that whoever is reading this finds the courage to open up and find a way outta the vicious cycle of loneliness. Stay strong brothers!!
It's been 2 weeks since you wrote this and i wanna know how much your life has changed?
How are you? You are alright?
@@sergiu1 I'm better now
@@kausarahsan4732 not much but I have a different perspective on life now and that has made things better. I'm alone but I no longer feel lonely
@@shreevatsak343 I'm happy for you. This video changed my perspective too.
man your the best youtuber i know, never have i shed tears from videos as consistantly as watching you
Oh god comment section is so depressing and the worst part is I can relate
S ame
Same
Same
So true
We can relate
therapist: expensive kurzgesagt: free and entertaining
Also kurzgesagt: here's your daily existential crisis video
Therapist: social interaction Kurzgesagt: on your smartphone.
Don't use kurzgesagt as a therapist lol. it is interesting sure, but see a doctor.
Kurzgesagt knows me better than my parents it seems
@@Azakadune I would love too, but I cant stand the look of "I dont care" on their faces anymore
“The outside world can become the way you feel about it” - that’s the key right there. Hermetic principles subtly included throughout the video. Excellent
What is hermetic?
Thank you Kurzgesagt! You helped me to realize how much I've been suffering past two years. Now I fully understand the reason for it and I can start the healing process.
*This video was far more than informative... this was beyond relatable.*
HELLO!!!!
I agree sincerely.
same here
Yeet
Ikr
You know the world is dying when a video called "Loneliness" is #1 on trending
Just the ones who spend their time on the internet.
It's not dying. It's just going through some spiritual growing pains.
Right now it's number 9 trending
Good, this place sucks
or you could say people are taking responsibility for a wide spread problem? seeking help is after all courageous
This was the start of my recovery from loneliness, thank you
I truly love these videos they explain things as simple as they can be explained
The Friendship Paradox: I have friends yet I feel I don't have friends at the same time.
Divine Jacob Mathew You might not have propper friends. Not the greatest thing to say here... But I only redescovered the people I truly cared about ( and vice versa) at the age of 22.
Fuck that is relatable
Exactly
It feels like you're their strange neighbor
Exactly how I’m feeling
You can have loneliness even with friends and family, because loneliness is having nobody you feel safe with, comfortable with to tell them anything you want.
True
Very true. I work in the construction industry. God help you if you admit loneliness or any psychological or emotional problems. You'd become the target of merciless ridicule. I work in an office. A homeless person took cigarette butts from the Smoker's Station ashtray . Our company offers counselling by a professional company for those who need it. My coworker pinned a copy of the offer of counselling to the ashtray. "Why did you do that?" I asked. "Because it's for losers" he replied.
but when you have bts . you not feel lonely🎶🎶🎶
@@craftyshallz7658 literally wtf
@@craftyshallz7658 didn't really understand what u just said but i'm sorry if i offended u 😅
This is a real gem of a video. Allows me to view certain aspects of my past from a different perspective. 🙏💎
Lately at night I have been feeling lonely and unable to sleep. This video gave me some hope for tomorrow. Thank you and good night.
I feel a little less lonely knowing that everyone else is also lonely.
frrr
@@malxumx9727 :')
well yes, but actually no
@@axule4373 XD
Everyone is feeling lonely, but everyone doesn’t know. People are living facades and that is a worrying thing in this modern world. Social media?
the worst combination is beinh lonely and having social anxiety.. i cry a lot
Hi
Lol same
Nitroh Your not alone
I got hit with a lethal triple combo: loneliness, social anxiety, and crippling depression. So I’m watching this video and I’m like fuck, I should hit up my old friend and try to get back in it. Then depression is right behind me like that meme from icarly where Gibby beats Spencer with a stop sign. God, I guess I’ll just have to commit myself to one more day, and keep doing that.
@@bariumselenided5152 I got it triple combo that you said because I have existential crisis. Hell, this feeling is kill me mentally.
Loneliness has helped me a lot personally. It has taught me how to entertain myself better, which has lead to more interests in things such as learning or meditation. I think it is okay to like being alone. I personally do enjoy my alone time. I get overwhelmed being around people often times and feel drained by social interaction. I am not antisocial by any means though, just more reclusive and introverted. I prefer quality over quantity in all things, especially company. And I try to be grateful for every day, whether it has been a challenging day full of suffering, or an easy day full of pleasure. I like contrast in experience because I feel it necessary to better understand ourselves as individuals, and to better understand our own truths, whatever they may be. I like your videos. They are good entertainment and are very thought provoking, whether I agree or not with everything they say. Thank you :)
After finishing school and moving to another country, I realized how lonely I was and is. I only interacted with people within my class. This can be called "forced cooperation" and because of this, I didn't feel lonely, because, despite the fact that sometimes I had a conflict with some classmates, we still got along, laughed and helped each other during the tests. I also had a friend with whom I spoke. In class, we felt comfortable with each other, but outside of school, we felt awkward. Then I moved to another country. I thought that this was a new page in my life and I should become more confident, but I became more withdrawn. I went to work and the work team was close. I felt that I didn't fit in there and I felt lonely, although the chefs tried to make friends with me, but I lost such a skill. One of the chefs told me that I was somehow cold in communication. I can't communicate with people. When I open my mouth, I forget the words, the sentences are broken and uncertain, I speak quietly and indistinctly. Confidence only arises when I become emotional. My sister and mother know me well my character and how loud and talkative I become with loved ones. Thanks to my sister, I do not feel completely alone, but only when she is not next to me. Sorry for the long comment. You know that lonely people have no one to tell about their anxieties and experiences. Maybe I really need to see a psychologist, because I have noticed more than once when with a person whom I have known for only 1 hour, I begin to talk about my life. It's very strange and I understand it.
I know this is late but I hope you feel better!
good luck bro with your life!
That's why I love the comment section, I feel like I'm watching this accompanied
True
And ur not lonely anymore
Feels like everyone is just bots and I'm the only human here 😨
Awwwww, this comment made me a lil bit happier Good for you Buddy
This made me so much more conscious of how much I read and respond to comments
"It's not a sign of weakness, but of courage" - best phrase ever
Can confirm it by personal experience. For me, therapy was no easy path, but it saved my life and made me grow immensely. Glad I found the courage to start and keep at it despite the difficult moments. There's light and life waiting for those who venture. The most difficult and most important part is doing the first step! It just means making a phone call or sending an e-mail, but we'll be glad we took that small, first step.
Love the Enrique iglesias pfp :)
Yeah
It's is also a sign of you denying your desire for connection lol.
yes
Absolutely cool sound, visualization.. And most of all the vibe. Such a rare joy to see something kind and not overloaded with marketing. Making me feel better
i wrote to friends and it made me feel instantly better, thank you
Free virtual hugs for my lonely people.
Thank u love
Thanks, "hugs back"
I thank you....
*hugs emotionally
Thank You
"Do you find yourself avoiding plans" No, because i dont get invited
Haha I get invited but I make every possible excuse to not go
@@AGoogleUser-im2xw :v me too, but since I kept on declining people are avoiding to invite me now XDD
Invite them then. Eventually if they enjoyed with you company, they will invite you in the future
@@pixellee6955 I wasn't expecting actual advice, but thanks I'll do that!
Ah, that just happened to me this Thanksgiving day. I moved into a small city surrounded by relatives, so I thought I might get invited....wrong!
Thank you for making video like this, Have a good day you guys!!!
This video really helped me during a bad period of my life, thank you ❤️
I forgot how to interact with people, my universe is made of my bed, youtube and books. I have so much to share but nobody to share it with, probably like all of you here.
Try to have a look around: in almost every big city there are "centers" talking about some topics in particular, Facebook and other networks have pages / channels focused on some topic, Telegram too has channels like that (for example, there's a Telegram's channel called Link4Universe, same name of a KZhead channel, talking about Cosmo and Astrophysics). Nowadays, "Internet" turned tons of people into zombies who throw there their mind as trash (for a huge amount of reasons like culture, mental habit, force of will, laziness, etc), but it's not like there everywhere! This KZhead channel is an example, where contents are high-quality ones :D
Let's chat!
you could recommend a book to us :D
Yep you are so right
But right now you're sharing what you are experiencing thus we are relating to what you are saying
"Being depressed and lonely is like living your days with a knife stuck in your heart. The worst part about it, is that no one notices, no one cares to notice... making you slowly bleed to death."
And sometimes that knife is invisible so you don’t notice, but then loneliness hits hard again.
You just said It's invisible. How would anybody notice.
@@sochimauche4747 Shoot didn't realize that 🤔🤔 thanks
100th like
this one hit different
I feel lonely, have no friends, have social anxiety and an eating disorder. I've felt this way for years and im only 16 😢😭
I hope things get better for you eventually!
Travel abroad
When I was your age I feel the same as you,, Im 23 now
@@edberaga Did things change?
@@_Infocars hm, I do have one close friend. And one is enough🥰
Thank you everyone for commenting And thank you content creator for creating all these videos so that i am able to connect with people like me . Thank you 🙏
Number 1 trending. Shows how many people get lonely.
Preach brother preach! Is what i would say if i used reddit like you. But because i'm a human being with an iq above room temperature i cringed at this.
@@TheAngryCoffee the dude just said shows how many people are lonely. How does that show he uses reddit?
Mehdi Cane I cringed at this comment
Really the KZhead trending tab just nominates videos that the algorithm thinks is good rather then what people watch, but I do agree that in this day and more people are feeling more lonely than ever
Not really. It just shows this channel has many viewers and/or people find the topic interesting.
You know you are lonely when something good happens in your life but you have no one to tell.
💔
Yup we can't share our emotions
My last friend is moving to Spain for soccer.
@@David-yq4rz I like soccer NOT FOUTBALL
i glady have the opportunity to tell my friends about it. but unfortunately i often keep it to myself because i believe that nobody cares about it...
I think this video is inspirational. It brings light and attention to such an extensive problem that everyone faces. Well done Kurzgesagt
Doesnt do shit in reality tho.. Its not easy at all. But great video though.
I’m so grateful to have one really close friend, it feels like a privilege . Even though I still feel lonely at times, I remind myself that I always will have her.