13 Women Reveal Their Biggest Turn Ons
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edit: shiiit !!! I am famous 1.man's hands, 2.kissing a woman's forehead, 3. non-sexual intimacy, 4.natural and effortless vibes, 5.prolonged eye contact, 6. the ability to let loose and have fun 7.a sense of humor, 8.well-dressed appearances 9.kindness and uplifting nature 10.confidence, 11.genuine kindness, 12.sociability and charisma, 13. intelligent conversations, 14.integrity in words and actions, 15.a deep and husky voice, 16education and intelligence, 17and the ability to fix things
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You forgot the sixes! 😂
Money.
I am good after seeing the points bc another fact is that they want alot of the opposite stuff as well of this same list, it’s better to stay alone then to get some dogs who gonna bark at me all the time. I want peace, woman wants u to be perfect which we all man aren’t, neither are they. They just want man’s money and not the man, have fun guys cause i ain’t playing a game which is already rigged.
So basically the same stuff she always talks about. Every video is the same 3 or 4 things said in different ways or using different source data to discuss. This is what happens when a person gains a larger following. They feel the need to pump out a video every other day instead of one or two a week and the result is a shit ton of redundancy.
Thanks for bringing up intimacy without being sexual. It’s something that’s badly lacking in today’s dating scene. Word of wisdom: if someone shoots down you opening up emotionally and being honest with yourself because it “isn’t masculine,” *that person is emotionally immature/unavailable and is a red flag.*
Yep. Sex doesn’t mean everything and intimacy can happen in so many other ways. A lot of people think that dating someone automatically means you’re having sex with them. Plus also you can sleep next to someone and it being actual sleeping with someone while it not relating to sex at all.
Clueless. It ISNT masculine to vomit your emotions everywhere. If you were an actual man you’d know that. Talking in a stronf masculine way sure - but the average beta millienial of today is anything but that.
Your comment makes complete sense - for a latent homosexual. Normal men crave physical sex over emotional intimacy.
@@smater332000 As JLP would put it...BEYTA!
@@smater332000 You can have emotional intimacy without being gay and without having sex as a priority.
TURN ONS for me from a women: 1. A genuine, wholehearted smile 2. Being nice (to me and everyone else) 3. Taking interest in me for REAL (not just pretending to do it) 4. Talking positively about me to... well, anyone really 5. Playing or interacting positively/nicely with children 6. Being able to appreciate things in her life (from the smallest to the biggest) 7. Helping others be all that they can be
Basically Feminine traits that most women in the states lack today. Yep gotcha lol
@@Herozonex200 Sorry mate! Dating in your country doesn't sound fun at all.😕
@@JFHeroux it's not but when it comes to doing business and money over here, we're good. We have picky women here that very under appreciated. If you're average to them, you're label as a creep. I'm 29 years old and most women looked over me because I'm considered unwanted because I'm 5"11 and I'm boring lol. Never had a girlfriend, or never been on a date because most women today dont find me attractive.
Being nice is NOT a turn on women
@@gerardoa9179 Can you rephrase that so I can actually understand what you are trying to say about my tastes in women???
I don't think you ever need to be concerned about straying too far beyond PG material. You always have a sweet, tasteful approach with these topics. And you're obviously putting a lot of thought into your words. Very well done!
What made me propose to my gf was when she actually put effort into the relationship. All my other relationships felt like the girl was waiting for me to serve their needs. But this girl made a special dinner for my birthday and showed thoughtfulness and effort.
Shocking there are even women left like this. It’s insane how much work I’ve put into getting to know women and take an interest in their life and how little effort they give back. Modern women are spoiled. It’s dumb.
That’s exactly why l married my wife. She’s put a lot of effort into our relationship prior and of course I made sure I held my own in the bargain.
congrats man, you have all my best wishes 🎉
Unsubscribing, since I don't care what attracts women, I won't be their dancing monkey. Good bye
I guarantee that she won’t keep doing that.
None of these work unless they are already attracted to you. Tons of guys already have or exhibit many of these qualities that would otherwise get overlooked. These are bonuses on top of being attractive already
Truth !! Initial attraction is the key. You must pass those initial tests women have. If not, you won't get a chance to exhibit anything else. Remember tall, handsome, muscular, with the appearance of wealth and status is the key.
@@briar35981 a.k.a. Success Object
Unplug from the manosphere and start serving the community. You'll find the girls worth having will be out there doing the same thing.
@@KevvoLightswift Serve how: attend church events, run for elected office, be a part of charitable issues? I did that. You don't get noticed doing good when you are invisible? I'll never be Mr. Olympia or a billionaire. Women are looking for success objects, not "nice guys" who do "good works". If you are "serving", you are not a leader. Women want a leader, especially those who looks like Chad or Tyrone. Let me know what community service project you attended where you got a date or relationship.
She put the cart before the horse here.
YES!!! The difference between Being Nice,and Kindness. I thought I was the only one who thought that. Good to see someone else GETS IT!🙏🏾
I was an only child raised by a single mom. She taught me a lot about being a gentleman. Part of being a gentleman to me is being nice to others. I do so many things automatically today that my mom taught me 70 years ago when I was just a kid. I don’t think twice about it. I just do it. When I enter our exit doors, I always look behind me to see if there’s someone coming and I could hold the door for them. There are many other actions that I could take that would be considered nice or kind. I once had my regular Doctor Who I’d seen for about 20 years. Tell me that I was too nice. I really didn’t understand why he said that and why it’s bad to be too nice. This video really helped me as I now believe I’m kind. Like I said, it’s automatic to me to be kind, and I don’t think about a way to be kind in advance of a scenario. I’ll say it again, it’s just all automatic to me. Congratulations on your engagement. He is a very lucky man! 🌹💐❤😀
There is no difference. This lie was ginned up by feminists to justify women choosing losers and badboys over good men.
The one about being a good conversationalist is so true. My new girl currently says I’m a good listener and I asked her why. She said it’s because I ask follow up questions about what she is saying and don’t interrupt her or change the subject. When in all reality I’m playing Diablo 4 when she’s on the phone with me but I guess I can multi task well.. 😅😅 The key is to retain this information which I’ve don’t well so far. 😅
I agree wholeheartedly with the part about intimacy. I haven't been with a woman for a very long time, and it's not the sex that I miss. It's the cuddling, the neck nuzzles and the forehead kisses.
Lesbian?
THE theraputic BACK SCRATCHES! ( ... keeps reading or chatting while she scratches ... )
💯💯💯💯💯💯 me too! miss that so much! funny.. i have been talking to a girl for like 6 months.. i tried to ask her out, she claims she doesnt want to ruin the friendship.. ok so be it.. but anyway point is, I have these moments of where Im like, well maybe we can just cuddle haha.. idk how she would react, but not trying to ruin my friendship with her either, its the 3rd of the trio.. emotional connection that I really enjoy regardless of it not going anywhere.. albeit it is likely what is keeping me from going out and finding the right girl, but I have been in love with this one for 20 years so... yeah, its a bit of a struggle for me.. sorry i ranted a bit
I too haven't been with a woman for a very long time and like you I also miss the cuddling, neck nuzzles, and forehead kisses. It's just the cheating and the lying that I can do without.
@@josebro352 Been married over 20 years and never really cared about nuzzles and kisses, unless the kisses down below. Regardless, you don't have to be without a woman to miss all those things. I miss some strange, but strange isn't worth all the logistics.
Surprised that a blue collar job would be held up as an example as most women diss men that don't 10 figures a year and doesn't have a doctorate from MIT and he's not a CEO.
The #1 turn on for me is when a guy acts in a protecting way, especially when it’s unconscious, like guarding you through a crowd or putting himself between you and someone who might be a threat.
I like when a woman shows interest in the things I'm interested in, even if it's not her cup of tea. It shows that she care, is open to liking other things and have a curious mind. I'm not saying she has to partake in the things I like to do, but if she's asking questions and shows genuine interest, it's a big turn on, for me.
Same here. A woman who takes genuine interest in my life is very attractive.
With me it doesn't even have to be genuone interest, but just recognising it's a passion, something that has meaning to me and accepting or indulging that. Equally it's massively attractive to me to have someone share their passion with me, I suppose it implies a depth to their personality, that they want to invest time and energy into something they enjoy or find meaningful, I find their joy infectious.
Courtney,I'm a guy who wears polos and shorts at work (I work for a property management company--I work outside most of the time) while on Sunday for church I wear suits and ties(sometimes with a vest). I like dressing up in suits and I have over the years learned how to put things together. I enjoy being confident about what I know about men's clothing. Thanks for giving men(esp. us older guys) the "secrets" that make the female heart flutter.
You have to put up the dog answer me right now okay
Yes, no dating for me. I am fine living by myself, and I enjoy coming home to my place and having it all to myself. No arguments, no hassles, and no nagging. Singleness was something I once feared, but now I wouldn't have it any other way!
No other people kids running around your house leeching on your recourses
Then I wonder why you are here in the first place. To me seems like you are trying to convience yourself you're fine, by telling us you're fine. I was in that place too, but the truth is I would like to have this deeper connection, intimacy with someone.
@@crazydave9877 The way you've descrived it vs the comment I was refering to - makes perfect sense, and I think I'm fitting your box. Not chasing women, living my life, dating once a while, but not pursuing/pushing that as priority. But I'm still interested in knowing more about woman vs men psychology, dating, etc. To be ready when I'll meet someone that is worth the effort and reciprocates it. That's why I'm here from time to time.
LOL! It's better to be single than to wish you were.
@mmm24ist I'm not "trying to convince myself." I'm genuinely okay living by myself. Yes, in an ideal world, maybe I would feel differently, but that is not happening in this world!
It's very attractive when people also not just expect qualities but show and carry qualities themselves too :D. Also Courtney, the parts where you were getting a bit vulnerable and the parts that you wouldn't normally talk about were fascinating. That helped me sympathize with your content more
a QUALITY GENTLEMAN will display those qualities whether he thinks they're being reciprocated or not (because that's who you REALLY ARE.)
@@geremiller5671 i wholeheartedly agree. my previous comment came from a place of a bit bitterness. The geniune display of quality invites and brings out reciprocation much better ultimately too! As you said, it should be who you are!
its really sad if you cant be and accept who you really are@@imporylem
Yup, 1 and 2 are accurate with my girl. She always comments on my large veins in my forearms and she loves the forehead kiss. A big turn on for me is when a woman is kind and sweet to others, and I also think woman look better in their natural state without makeup.
You got that right the more make-up she has the more unattractive she looks to me. I look the same in the morning and they should too. If they paint their face they should go trick or treating.
Ewwww
You’re not a weirdo for the hand explanation. You’re being honest and we need that.
My #1 turn on for other women is having a girlfriend, works every time!
Your turn on #9 is accurate and not in just the spoken word. I was on Match years ago and received an email from someone who had, and probably never would have shown up in what my profile said I was interested in. I'm fairly well educated, but have chosen to follow a blue collar path in life because I felt called to it. I looked at her profile and thought, "No, but she risked enough to contact me so I should at least send her a message to acknowledge her." That led to a seven year relationship. When I asked her why she reached out to me, she said that how I had written my profile really jumped out at her. I kind of laughed and asked her to explain. She laughed and said, "Have you ever read men's profiles!!" Laughing again, I said, "Nope. I'm not really interested in guys. I already know enough about myself to not need to copy someone else's work." She said it was the most readable, coherent and interesting profile she had ever seen. Then she told me that she was a professional writer and editor. Yes it was a very nice acknowledgement that fits with #9.
Courtney, The advice in the article your expounding on is so on point. I do a lot of the things you mention without even thinking about it. I don't think about "Game", I just express interest and s desire to know another human being. I'm well read and intelligent as well as passionate about my work. Your video led me to more realistically evaluate myself and I thank you for that.
That's wild to hear. My hands and forearms have always been naturally very vascular, and I always thought it was perceived as gross (because I always thought it gross, personally). Guess I'll be more secure about it going forward.
I thought similar until one day when I posted a picture of a cut that looked like a smiley face on social media and had several dozen women talking about my veins. Me: Oh, okay.... I guess my weirdly bulgy veins are liked by a large proportion of women....
I worked in a restaurant during my college years. I lifted weights faithfully in those days and even as a young man my veins were popping and forearms built... and I too was self conscious about it. I thought the bulging veins looked ugly. I would even wear long sleeves to hide them. I guess for me it was just being young (19) and not really used to seeing guys my age with that look. There was a manager named Annie and although she was at least 10 years older than me, I had a very strong crush on her. And of course young attractive waitresses worked there also. One night I cut the palm of my left hand. I told Annie I didn't need to go to the E.R. (it wasn't that bad). She insisted on seeing the wound and dressing it. I rolled up my sleeve up and sat at one of the dinning room booths, laying my arm down palm up.... Annie said, "WOW." I said, "That bad, huh?" And she replied, "No, no... It's your forearms... they look really, really strong." Then the hot waitress that was standing there said, "Yeah they do. Hmmm." I stopped wearing long sleeves.
I've heard of women liking forearms, but NEVER the actual hands. Weird, but thanks for the tip.
Naturally muscular? So you just sat around and they got muscular all by themselves?
@@1twistedcpl6575actually yes… I’m blessed with naturally muscular legs and yea it does happen
You do not speak too fast at all. You are super easy to understand. Thank you for all of the advise. I super appreciate your videos and all of the info you've shared. ❤❤❤❤❤❤
Since I've been looking at relationships now for the young. Your chanel is one of the best, I note chivalry is said to be dying but you can't have chivalry without femininity, they exist with each other.
A huge turn on for men is when a girl replies messages in a genuine, fast-ish, commited way. Too many "i dont want him to know I like him so I'll reply in 6+ hours" out there.
Men and women like "weird" things in each other. But guess who shames the other for that ....
Their jealous friends
Great video filled with good to know info. Some of these Traits I can work on, but most are already in place.
Been watching for quite some time now and i think your pace when you talk is perfectly balanced not too fast or slow
Great video Courtney! All great tips and points here. If I may add one based on observation is how a guy is with children or animals. I was at a get together and this guy was being really good with a baby/toddler. I forgot the age of the child. There were two or three girls right behind him absolutely swooning.
Only matters if they were physically attracted to him already. If they're not, it won't matter.
No. 1 is definitely true. I had a couple of women examine my hands before, telling me how big (I'm a tall guy) and rough they are. One of my friends literally rolled up my sleeves while I was driving her home from the bank. I rarely ever roll up my sleeves, and I thought it odd when she did that. No. 5 is true as well. To be honest, I have an issue maintaining eye contact, but with the time I do, the girls I talk to tend to let their gaurd down quite a bit. No. 10 is a bit weird to me since I personally hate my voice, but I had a couple women say otherwise No. 13 I have a passion (to an extent) with politics, and the last date I had was into that as well (which as a bit surprising to me), so we connected real quick, which greatly contributed toward me getting a date from her. These are my personal experiences, so there is a ring of truth to what these women are saying. Great video as always, Courtney!
When I was younger and started dating I tended to be possessive and the jealous type always wondering where they were and who they were with. This obviously was my own insecurities and was a recipe for disaster for any relationship. As I got older I realzed that showing little interest in that type of thing (controlling) was the way to go, at first I had to fake disinterest because it went against my nature but later it became a habit that worked like a charm.
thanks again, Courtney. I love it when you're insightful and authentic at the same time and it was cute to see you chuckle at yourself! Mirrors back some of the advice you just gave us, eh? I see women light up when I ask them followup questions about something they've just explained in detail. Reflective listening, even occasioanlly using the "what I'm hearing is... is that about right?". They like when they can tell that I'm paying attention and I actually give a damn. Which really comes down to intimacy. Sober intimacy and sharing of thoughts and feelings is sexy, at least it is for me! 🙂
Yo Courtney, just found you. I trust that you’re all good. So far I like your vibe. What I would say from my experience, definitely don’t be impressed by a girl’s beauty (she was born like this and didn’t earn it. There’s a million outwardly beautiful girls out there). Definitely don’t be possessive, jealous, try too hard or over extend yourself towards her, especially at the beginning. Definitely be patient. Talking of beginnings…in the early stages always choose your moment to depart from an interaction on a high note, when her emotions are high frequency. “Better to leave when you wanna stay”…but obviously depends on the situation. You can’t really be taught this kinda shit from anyone…although pointers that you provide are useful for sure. it’s simply just down to being a masculine man…
Important things: 1:58 First thing - Man's Hands; 4:23 Second thing - Kissing Girl's Forehead; 5:59 Third thing - Man Not Trying Too Hard; 8:05 Fourth thing - Eye Contact; 9:01 Fifth thing - Make a joke about yourself, but don't overdo it (to be told that a bit appropriate); 11:04 Sixth thing - Dressing To Impress; 12:51 Seventh thing - Cardigans; 14:15 Eight thing - Just Be Nice To People; 15:32 So true about that difference between being kind, and being nice (it's also authentic who are really you, not just in the heart, it also means that you're authentic in your head as well); 16:03 agree with that - you can learn a lot from a man when watching his interaction with people; 16:48 Ninth thing - Man Saying All The Right Things (having a good ability of conversation); 18:26 Tenth thing - A Barry White Baritone (man's confidence when he talks like an educated person); Eleventh thing - Playing Handyman; 21:03 Twelfth thing - Taking It Down A Notch (be an introvert); 21:47 Thirteenth thing - Showing Some Passion (have a hobbies such as playing music instrument; doing model kits); and 22:31 To summarize all the told here. That video is so awesome there Courtney. Big thank you and big respect for this topic there. If you're going to be a great man, the best way is to behave like three persons as well. And those are: 1. Nicolas Tesla (the famous scientist; you find a lot of details on internet about him); 2. Harrison Ford (he was a carpenter before he stared a career in Hollywood); 3. Novak Djokovic (a famous tennis player). 😉😁😁😁😁😊🙃🙂 Of course I'm joking. But what I meant to say (joke on the side) is from all the told here, they (for men I mean) should be boil down to a few things. And those are: 1. Taking care of himself (taking care of his health, his priorities, watching what is he eating, having an excellent organization, doing some education, etc.); 2. Showing that he is a sociable person (being a kind person); 3. Having some interests (showing hobbies such as playing music instruments, doing model kits, etc.); and 4. Go with the flow (have a balance when being serious, and being in relaxing, and joking mode). I play music instrument such as guitar (acoustic, and electric as well). I do the model kits (and I have mentioned it a couple of times). From all the told, I had a chance that even some girls asked me to gave them a massage of the back, shoulders, neck, arms, and some upper parts of the head (believe it or not).
I just find it hilarious that hands came up first. I think it's also less accurate calling most of these things turn ons, English is such a terrible language, there's like two different things that turn on can mean, either a feature of attraction and noticing someone, or an actual turn on. I just think this list is kinda two separate categories mixed together.
Best comment in the comment section. Well done buddy!
@@camo4635Thanks a lot pal.
From a man's perspective, I will agree with the forehead kiss. The same could be said for a kiss on the cheek. I really like it when a woman puts her hand on the opposite cheek, pulls me close to her, and plants a wet kiss on my cheek. Plus, it leaves lipstick stains sometimes.
Yeah there's just something so classic about the lipstick thing, see this is one thing a lot of guys and girls don't seem to readily acknowledge but we actually *like* that territoriality. It reminds me of the story about this one doofus Roman emperor whose wife was so neglected she started openly having sex with half of Rome just to spite him and he didn't seem to care. I think people get way too bitchy about jealousy and being labelled "that crazy ex girlfriend" or "that controlling asshole" when the reality is a woman's specifically marking you with lipstick and doing things to pretty much confer maybe not "ownership" but literally marking you as her territory. Which is itself hot. Also confident and aggressive. I had my older sister tell me she thought this was trashy but I once had a woman give me a huge hug and realized she sprayed enough perfume that she made me smell like her, and I realized the way she hugged me was deliberately trying to make me smell like her and remember her, and I enjoyed that. I'm not sure if she meant to sort of mark me "I was here" but use of perfume and lipstick is really nice. No, I don't care about that stain or having that injury or burst blood vessels as a guy either. Well unless I am going to a funeral or something, I'd prefer not having to wear a turtleneck, but other than that it's a turn on.
Always bring the manual to cross reference,
About women liking men interacting with people. When you mentioned family, well, my now ex hated that I interacted with my parents. She said, they’re not my family anymore. That they don’t love me. Thankfully she left me for another dude. 😵💫
Voice definitely can be worked on. My voice was weak and very nasally about 12 years ago when I first read that your voice can be very attractive to women. It took me a long time of conscious work and practicing talking from my chest instead of my throat but I get compliments all the time on the attractiveness of my voice now. It can take effort but you can actually take lessons for this specifically. It is an instant turn on my life now for women.
Play it safe and avoid women altogether. That’s my plan.
I mean if you are happy being alone forever then hell yeah bruv
Cringe and cope af
@@massasteria6479 As long as I maintain a social circle throughout my life, that’s enough for me.
@@Robnas621 if you need a woman to make you happy, then you do that. Personally I have no interest in bullshit 😂
Increases my pathetic odds. I appreciate it brother sit this one out it’s best for you.
For the Most Part, what I'm Hearing is that Men need to be PERFECT.
Everytime I start these videos I'm upset and prepared to hear bullsh*it, and everytime I'm 90% in line with what is shared. I hope it can continue this exact same way for me.
Courtney, here's my contribution to your next topic: True confidence isn't just sexy in men, men love it in women. Confidence in a woman makes her dress beautifully, yet modestly, because she wants the right man's attention rather than needing almost everyone's attention. She's able to be quiet in a conversation when socially appropriate, yet will open up when she has something that can contribute, and will ask questions because she doesn't need to just talk about herself. Above all, she doesn't need to play the domineering game. Men learn to instinctively understand that the guy that feels the most need to be in control is doing it because he feels powerless, and a woman that gets in your face triggers this instinct. A "Strong and Independent Woman" doesn't need to tell anyone what she is.
So, a topic for women on a channel dedicated to men?
@@jericoba ....she asked the question at the end of the vid. Did you not watch the video?
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Veritas!
You're not talking too fast - I usually watch you at 2x speed. Keep up the good work!
She is, though. Talking too fast is a sign of insecurity and/or nervousness (she's in front of a camera, so I get it). Watch Godfather, the dude speaks almost too slow, he's so confident in himself (well, a bit full of himself, tbh). He just knows that people around him will hang on his every word. In her case, it doesn't really matter because she is very articulate. Talking too fast AND constantly hmm-ing and ahhh-ing is incredibly annoying because it feels like the person doesn't even know what they're talking about AND are worried someone more knowledgeable will interrupt them.
Awesome video. The intimate kisses I've noticed are also the best... eyelids, cheek bones, forehead, just to name a few. For me, some turn-ons a lady does for me is teasing (verbal for PG's sake) me about something she notices I do, making me laugh when she see's I'm stressed but need to relax, and gives good hugs, also to name a few!
My wife robin and I are happily married for over 3yrs and we are watching your video and you give wonderful advice
I don't know if it's a generational thing. But I have never dated riche men (i'm 47 yo) On dates we alternates the invitations. On one date, my friend pay and the second date is on me. I think it's sad that women are so attracted to money. It has never been my case. There's so much more! (sorry for my english, i speak french!)
Bea coupe De benedictions
It's most definetely a generational thing imo. Women of today want men to be traditional, but aren't traditional themselves.
Women who constantly use the word "creepy" are just not mentally mature.
And, they wonder why there are passport bros.
Independent minded, provocatively reserved, confident in behaviour, and healthily suspicious of everything worldly; highly attractive woman. I have met several women who are well matured with being themselves. One recently that is a wonderful dancer. Several good dancers but when she is instantly speaking authentically from a well developed self relation, my favorite. Great work on your content, thank you for creating it
Good points, Courtney that you bring here. Although I have to say that sometimes one might do many of these things, if you are not what the ladies envisioned or dreamed of being with, nothing you do will'attract her, even though they may like it. So just do these things. It will make you feel good.
A subtle turn on for me is when a women communicates with loving facial expressions. It gives me the confidence to attempt to get closer without being creepy.
Being single all of my life and not even looking to find a girl anymore makes this video hilarious to me😂😂
@@T-eI.egram_RealCourtneyRyan what do you want to know?
Wow, I’ve learn sooo much in this video. I needed this woman’s perspective. . .thanks!
Public comment. Ms Courtney you are amazing person who care about humanity. I am happy and proud of you for sharing your knowledge. It goes both ways. Sharing each other values and excitement.
I totally get the hand thing. I remember watching a movie where there was a split second close up shot of one of the actors holding something, & Immediately I was like 'that's a hand double'. People were like how do you know, & the reason was because the character was played by my celebrity crush, & I'd spent more time looking at his hands than I'd care to admit😂
lol that's the most creep thing ever, but thank you for sharing how important hands are
What are your feelings when watching the facehugger in Alien?
This may be a tad cringe, but I'm a man, 62, and I've always thought I have nice hands. I"m a cellist, artist, woodworker, and most of my social life (before covid) was dancing, so the communication of touch has been important. So it has really turned me on when a woman has appreciated my strong, sensitive hands.
So there wasn't any nudity huh 😂
@@TeamshmoNope not a creep thing at all - It's normal. Now waiting in front of someone's house at four in the morning is
Hygiene is important. As a guy, I do not like if a woman is dressed like a hooker. You get the picture boobs flashing out... Guys categorize women: 1) boss babes (ignored), 2) hookup girls (ignored), and 3) feminine women with a good personality and values, totally different. Potential girlfriend material and guys will invest their time.
Listening When I genuinely listen so many great things happen
BTW, I think you have done really well at slowing the tempo of your voice. About 6 months ago I thought you were really informed but your delivery was rushed. I thought video was great. Keep up the good work!
Thank you so much!
People think being alone means you're lonely. Not so, you're free.
I find a woman who is constantly testing me a big turn off.What turns me on is someone is kind and genuine I don't have time for fakes,game players or liars .Enough said.
Thank you for putting things in perspective a little better for people. So far I’m still single. Mostly my own doing since I don’t really search for it much anymore. Maybe you can help me understand something. I’ve dated 16 women in the last 5 years. I’ve tried hard with them. I know you have a try hard section in this video that explains a little bit about that. I’m a very practical type of person who does a large amount of time management to get many things done. I’ve had one complaint about me from all these women more or less anyway. I work a full time job. Take care of two grandparents in my family. And I take care of a brother. They basically say I don’t give them enough time. To summarize they blow up at me because my time is spread thin. I thought what I was doing was all good features. But now I’m thinking am I even qualified for a relationship? Now I do give them time. I sleep with them almost every night. Not sex I mean sleep. I even support them financially, physically and even drive them places they want to go. But just answer this for me. Do I have to stop taking care of so many people to have a relationship?
These things mostly apply when she is already attracted and even more if she is in a relationship. Otherwise, not so much.
Hey courtney im 15 and fs been going through a glow up you give me great insight on whats its like to be a women and what to do as a man to be a better person or a better partener just wanna thank you!
Aww I’m so glad! Thank you for being kind 😊
@@iamme25yago Where can you not get a job at 15?
@@iamme25yago I'm not focusing on romance rn actually I have been hitting the gym and focusing on sports but I want to get a little experience within the next year just do I'm not clueless kind of
You definitely want to get a girl in bed at by 16. Way to many 30 Year old Virgins these days. It’s actually scary. When I grew up If you were a male virgin at 16 you were a nerd or even worse. Get some experience and don’t fall in love with the first one that puts out:
@@bananabandit2bro just leave that shit alone, first you will find yourself watching pornography, next will be depression just don’t bother about women at this age Learn skills, read books etc
Hi Courtney, I just watched this video talking about a man's hands, I'm a 64 year old man and I feel the same way about a womans hands, it's the first thing I look at in a woman and I've been that way since I was a teenager, love your videos keep up the great work.
Great observations, Courtney. Useful too. I’ll definitely look for more.🙏🏻
When I was in the hospital for gangrenous appendicitis, multiple nurses remarked on my veins in my arms and hands. One even called them "juicy". They say it's something they always look for. So, I'd rank female nurses as S-Tier for hand&arm vascularity fetishes.
easier to shove the needle in.
it's not a fetish, it's just easier to do their job. time to clean that dirty mind of yours. also, as a patient to be stabbed by needles, you don't want them to start "digging" because you don't have easy-to-access veins.
Can confirm
Here are some turn ons that the article did not mention: 1) Actively listening to her 2) Complimenting her (be genuine) 3) Whispering in her ear 4) Various forms of touch. E.g. playing with her hair, touching her knee, holding her hand, giving her a massage. Of course, just make sure that she is comfortable with you doing these sort of things; always ask for her permission!
5)Screaming “If I have to tell you to make dinner one more time!!!”
6) Being man enough to not ask permission cuz women like it raw
Just ignore her, that will turn her on
7) ordering food for her
8) Reciting the Greek alphabet.
You won me over with your comments on #10 Courtney. Balanced perspective and you know what you're talking about. ty 4 vid. Merry xmas.
I’m 68 and I must tell you how refreshing it is to listen to these ‘old school style’ comments. Especially coming from a young lady who is surely surrounded by wokeness!
#8 is me. I always try to be kind to people. I never liked being mean.
I always love how you can invest us into these videos. This was a very informative video. Truly made me think about each topic, definitely gonna be a master soon. Thank you 😋
Emotional intimacy needs to be intrinsic within his personality. Showing and feeling empathy for your partner, is security and warmth for her to feel your depth of a relationship, is engaging on many levels. A high value man is a natural stylish mature individual, that gives depth of his personality, to explore. I agree it’s so important to be a positive friendly person, and is helpful for others.
Short messages delivered fast are perfect. Long messages that seemingly take them a week to type are the worst.
I texted a woman, and I didn't want to keep texting her, so I sent her a letter in the site's mailbox. The next day I received the most sincere thank you note from her, saying how much she appreciated my articulating what I wanted from a relationship, and she in turn was very open and expansive writing to me. We will meet soon !! BTW...Thanks for the JOYMODE suggestion. I will check it out, maybe when She is here !!!
"I love sunsets, long walks, holding hands and dogging in the local park"
Mailbox?
How'd it go
The girl I'm dating recently said she found it very attractive when I told her I was good at my job.
She loves the dexterity I use flipping the patties and dumping the fries😆🤣@@2busywinning
I think something you can people can work on to improve yourself too: Having your own opinion on things. I find too often people get caught up with tribalism, with wanting to fit in, or dont want to be challenged or avoid conflict; and they don't come across as genuine when a conversation comes up. Have the confidence to have your own opinion and then defend that opinion. Maybe you only partially agree with something. Take a stand for your own thoughts.
Absotively.
Love your hand enthusiasm for hands courtney! Keep it coming! LOVE your channel!!!😂😂😂
I remember dating in college. I was very nervous to touch. Maybe it was a respect thing. After a few dates she told me, "It's ok if you hold my hand. I'm not breakable." She was encouraging me not degrading.
I had a job when I was in College. My Boss must have been reading a book to boost his vocabulary. He also had a Speech impediment🤓One particular day he went up to his office after giving everyone a Pep Talk in the Shop😁We all learned how to use the word Impewative in many different sentences at the Bosses expense✌😎☯️
It's Impewative that you relax✌️🤠🌵👉🍕🍺Have some Chill time🔥🏜🌵
That's not funny. I have a sp-sp-sp-sp-speech thing🧐🚽
@@hausf.kartreit1111 👍🏾😁🤳
@@BillyDog707official 《☆》Some famously successful people deal with speach impediments every day🙏🏻You can do it to✌😎☯️
Older wise Hispanic woman at church sat me down for a long talk. She let me know there's little hope for me finding a woman, because I am very nice, good, etc. Women don't want that, she was emphatic. They want mean cruel abusive men who beat them and call the slut, bitch and whore. She let me know this is especially the case with Hispanic women. And they all discuss it among themselves, how crazy they all are for loving cruel abusive men, and wanting nothing to do with good guys. It was an "ahah!" moment...when someone tells you something that is both bizarre AND totally true. That was 15 years ago. I get no attention from women, never have...I'm 54. I've always sensed its because I'm "nice" and "nice guy" is THE worst thing a woman can call a man...its worse than being called "asshole" or "perv" or "mean" or "liar" or any other thing you'd think women would hate in a man. You can cheat on a woman, get drunk, beat her, call her terrible names, be a total A hole, a punk, etc. they love that just just dont ever be "nice" they won't even notice you and in fact try to avoid you.
Thank you Courtney for telling me what my fiance told me about my hands , I did not know what she meant but now when you explained it, I know why she said what she said .Michael
Personally keeping things simple with a hint of wildness goes a long way. Per my dating career have met a lot of women and opened my eyes to different scenarios and upbringing. Being from another country with diverse cultural practices its not hard for me to weed things out, keep it simple and exciting, all will be Happy ;)
They say staring into someones eyes for just five minutes can make you fall in love....so yeah prolonged eye contact for sure!
Video starts at 1:58 Thank you all for the support!
I am so happy to have seen making a fool of yourself, because I really rock that lol😂 I am usually quite stoic and somewhat serious, but not all the time so I really like to be goofy and see my girl react to that when I do it. Her reaction is always priceless.
The digit to digit ratio is also a giveaway for certain internal physical traits. Most important with these ratio’s is the 2d:4d ratio. In bar lingo: find the male ring vinger. Either side if he’s symmetrical. If your ring vinger is taller/longer than your pointing/index finger it shows that man was built with a lot of testosterone. It elongates the ringvinger beyond the length of the pointing/index vinger. The conclusions vary but there enough research to draw a few conclusions.
I remember kissing my dates forehead on the third date and she became much more affectionate after that.
Three dates to make it to a forehead kiss? Are you 70?
@@Swearengen1980judging by your photo. I’m apparently much younger and better looking.
I give alot of really close intimate hugs, and I get alot of compliments from women about it. I was hit on and later became a couple with my ex and she mentioned my hugs as a big reason. It can be quite intimate in a caring kind of way, but ofc not all women like it. Take your time with the hug, really stretch your arms around her as far as they go and give her a reaøly close hug, but back of if she doesn’t seem that into it 😅
Start with a light kiss on the hand. Something she will not have had lately. Maybe never.
Hi Courtney l thought you did an amazing job of explaining and presenting this fascinating topic. You come across as very intelligent and very aware of what you want and what you need to do to get it. l think the most important and sexy thing a woman can do to look attractive and desirable is to be able to tell people ( Men ) what they want and what they expect with the confidence to know you deserve it. Amazing on so many levels and truly beautiful !! ❤ Your, Banyan . P.s . l would love to talk with you and find out more about what you enjoy and what passions we share . PPS l will be looking at more of your shows after l weight this and will let you know what I think 🤔😊🎉
Fantastic information. Now I know exactly how to make sure I can stay single henceforth, heretofore, therein.
You know most of these can be ignored by being "confident and attractive". Especially the ones referring to clothes. As a side note about confidence, a lot of people seem to be confused and think being aggressively disagreeable and arrogant is confidence. But people who act in those ways are projecting a false sense of confidence. Often confidence is as easy as being sure of yourself and showing that naturally. And the most attractive way to show this is often without saying a single word.
Just be clean and don't look like a slob.
Clothes are also extremely subjective, as are many "turn ons". Courtney only speaks from a very specific demographic and outside of her bubble, she's clueless.
Right, the difference between confidence and arrogance is humility.
Something that often isn’t mentioned on this channel, is having a girlfriend. It is an undisputed fact that when I have a girlfriend, the way other women respond to me is like night and day. I’m sure many other men would agree with me. Women hate single men
Fear, not hate…
It's a known phenomenon. Hoe_math has a video on it: Mate Choice Copying
@@D3xterJettster “hoe_math” ? Seriously?? Lmao yeah that sounds like a real reliable source. 😂😂😂
Grow up big guy
@@sethtenrec Bullshit.
You're not weird. Appreciate your openness.
I never seen and listened philosopher like you, seriously !
Me leaving their presence tends to get women excited.😢
For me.....looking into a women's eye's and her looking into mine is the biggest turn on. Never a word spoken but it feels like you can read each others minds.
Thanks for bringing up kissing your lady on her forehead! I have done this to the women in my serious relationships in the past, but was a bit hesitant about it, fearing it may seem a bit too parental. I enjoy showing my lady tenderness, but have never felt secure in how they may perceive this particular form of affection. Most of the other things that were mentioned I was aware of, but it’s reassuring to here it from a woman’s perspective! One thing I will probably try to improve, is my wardrobe. It has never seemed important to me, as I am an active guy who likes to build and repair things, and so I tend to be in casual work clothes a lot, or something geared toward comfort. But if it’s important to the woman I’m with, then it’s important to me, thanks for the tip! 😊🥰😉
I was married to a narcissist, and on our honeymoon I kissed her on the forehead one night as I was turning out the lights to go to sleep. She stopped me and said, “did you just kiss me on the forehead?!” I said yes, I thought it would be sweet. She said “I’m your wife now, you always kiss me on the lips” she was seriously pissed. Then told me the next morning (again, on our honeymoon) that she’s divorcing me. I should have let her leave. We were married for 2 years after that, our marriage ended a 1.5 yrs ago, been free ever since. Thank you, Lord🙏🏼
She was Psycho, you are free now !!!!
For me, my turn ons in women: 1. Contact Intimacy Before a relationship, a great way to start intimacy is by asking for a hug. It makes me feel calm, happy, and more attracted. Once the relationship starts, long hugs, behind hugs, kisses, and cuddling is a level higher than hugging. One thing is that consent is a must and refusing sufficient intimacy or being turned off by me asking turns me off. 2. Being fun and light hearted (or the old meaning of being gay) Doing fun activities and having light hearted and harmless fun together (like a water gun fight) turns me on. It shows that the woman likes being happy and making me happy. 3. Open to going places together Being open to go to the beach together for an evening walk or a restaurant turns me on. Excitement amplifies the effects. If the woman is busy at the offered time, offering a different date maintains it. 4. Twirling in dresses/skirts I think it looks so cute when women have fun with adorable clothes. 5. Social media quiet Women who don't worry about their Instagram followers or otherwise on a personal social media account or spend a lot of time posting stuff to their personal profiles, and especially women who do not plug their social media, are more attractive. One conditional exception is KZhead, which content can be made for anything, like tutorials and stuff. 6. They asking out/approaching Seriously, to me it is an actual turn on when a woman does the asking out. This is how my relationship got started. It shows that they are interested in me rather than waiting for me to ask then out and do all the work, and run the risk of me labeled as a creep. 7. Refusing/not asking the man to pay for everything To traditionalists this may be a shocker but to me, this shows that I can trust her and that she is kind and responsible. This also shows that I can trust her. I would not date a woman who expects me to pay unfairly or the entire bill, as they could just walk away at my expense. 8. Supportive A woman who is supportive of me and wants me to be free and succeed is a turn on to me. 9. Accepts compliments happily A woman who accepts compliments with positivity is a turn on because it shows she is more open to me. 10. Gives compliments A woman who gives compliments shows that she appreciates me.
Women are so lazy on points 6 and 7, it's insane. 😅
@@StillAwesome21women are cowards that just want to be taken cared off. Thats why they don't ask out or pay.
Touching my pee pee does it for me
Good luck with even finding 1 woman who’ll meet your checklist. Delusional.
Wrong video lol
Love the attire! 👗
I think this is my favourite of your videos Courtney. I am a bit of a sigma who loves his own company. I can play the piano but very few get to hear me play.
Wow! Interesting, and finally I understand the meaning of the word «handsome” and maybe it’s true sense.
Happy Wednesday Courtney lookin lovely as always 🌹🌹
It is Wednesday my dude.
I worked as a car mechanic for a while and have to say that keeping my nails clean was the hardest part. It was a time before people used gloves for work, and with all the dirt, grease, oil, fuel and what not, my skin would get penetrated real deep and it would actually take a whole weekend of scrubbing to get them look nice on Monday...
Wash the dishes then clean them they will come cleaner easier lol. Also woman like it when we do the dishes. Two birds one stone.
@andershilmo1866 I know! That dirt was particularly clingy, though. I remember the first thing anyone did was to clean the hands in diesel, then squirt some dish washing liquid/soap on them, stick them in play sand then rub together. The soap was supposed to do the chemical cleaning, the sand - the abrasive/scrubbing part. It worked in a way, but mostly damaged the skin on my hands. The best way in terms of cleaning was to handwash a week's worth of clothes at home in a detergent. It messed with the skin in the long run but the grime was usually gone.
@@tomaszstramel3594 Yea I use some paint thinner at times to not he best for the hands when I ham working on my 1968 F100.
Hi heres is my tip. in the workshop i worked at we used washing up liquid straght and let it soak and rub before washing off. Some men would use paper towls and wipe off before using water. It would melt the oil and grim then wash off well. Used for years with little problem. I live in UK any kitchen soap that can handle food oils would work well. Good Luck
Nah, hard working stained hands are nice, it's like women like the opposite of feminine so dirty masculine hands are attractive to women. My boyfriend has a manual job and he looks sexiest when he's just finished work 😍😍😍😍