Two Easily Remembered Questions That Silence Negative Thoughts | Anthony Metivier | TEDxDocklands
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Anthony Metivier, memory expert and creator of the Magnetic Memory Method used a simple process of "self-inquiry" to help him overcome years of mental distress that imprisoned him in a “manic-depressive” identity, and almost took his life. bring peace of mind and focus, and free ourselves from negative thinking. Using the secular translations of ancient Sanskrit by Dr. Gary Weber, Anthony shares the two most powerful and immediate tools self-transformation. They are easy to remember and anyone can use them to create focus on the present moment and experience instant freedom from negative thinking.
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/ @anthonymetiviermmm Anthony Metivier is the founder of the Magnetic Memory Method, a systematic, 21st Century approach to memorizing foreign language vocabulary, dreams, names, music, poetry and much more in ways that are easy, elegant, effective and fun. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
For those impatient like me, here’s the 2 questions: Are these thoughts useful? How do they behave?
Thank you. There’s no way I could have made it all the way through this.
@@doreenpoehling1167 I actually didn’t either- just lots of scrolling for content 😂
I appreciate you. This actually helps me pay attention enough to hear his delivery through. Thanks.
Third time listening, because I keep forgetting the two damn questions. THANK YOU!
@@micheleconley1581 😂🤣😂
To all those watching this video for their mental health, in case no one tells you today, just know you’re not alone (a lot of us are here for the same reasons) and you’re doing an amazing job getting on top of your mental health. And you should be proud of yourself for doing so. I hope you have an amazing day, and know we’re all here with you :)
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Ditto
Thanks Michael
Made me start tearing up, thank you Michael.
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For those of you who come to the comment section for support, just know we’re all rooting for you. You can’t see us but we’re all here cheering you and your mental health on. You got this, don’t give up
Aw such a cute comment. God bless you!
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@@DarkFay rooting for you too @Dark
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The more attention you give something, the more power it gets. Same thing goes for fear and negative thoughts.
save you 13 min the 2 questions 13:04 "Are my thoughts useful? How do they behave?" Confront your thoughts and think for yourself
and never stop confronting your thoughts :-)
You’ve done us all a great service sir. 🙏🏻
Thanks
Lol The Power of Now
Thanks!
I suffer with depression, anxiety and OCD. The biggest tool ive tried to develop is mindfulness. Asking yourself if your thoughts are useful is a simple and clever technique, I will add this to my tool belt
Hi finlay, i have gone through thrugh ocd, anxiety and depression for years and have found that practicing Gratitude has helped me overcome them a lot recently like magic, wish u all d best and with these remember, to be happy in the now see how u can practice gratitude truthfully for whatever u feel and then ask these questions, a happy mind is more capable of responding positively
@@ishanfepl thank you for your message. I wish you all the happiness.
Mindfulness is one of the most powerful tools we as people can cultivate. Best of luck on your journey
@@mal9369 thank you. I wish you all the happiness
Finlay, all the best with your healing journey. My thoughts are with you today.
The closer to the Devine, the purer the mantra. This mantra is pure and simple. Bless you. Sweet Mercy, indeed. Peace and deep calm joy love follow. A new wave flows like turning into the ether and becoming part of the universal flow.
This talk really changed my life. Strangely enough, esspecially the second question "how do they behave?" has worked for me. Images started to appear in my mind of how my thoughts did behave each time I asked myself that question: like raging gremlins, frustrated soldiers, prisoners, anxious bees or nagging neighbours. These pictures were very powerful, as they put me right in the viewer seat, and immediately distanced those thoughts from me. I could then decide whether to "watch on" oder turn my attention to something else. Thank you so much!
Very well said here
i like your visualization of your thoughts, im going to try that :)
Marion, WOW. What a GREAT comparison!! Thanks for your help. God Bless You.
Wow I'm trying this out right now thank you
Very helpful! Thank you!
"We can extract value from the things we don't like." I like that!
There would not be spiritual growth without challenge.
@Janice Brown I don't know much about art but l know what I like.😁
@keecefly Chocolates can be risky, but we've learned to accept the risk.
I don't. :p
Totally!
To all who read this: You are *more* than enough. 💖
No. I'm not
The ancient Stoics really pound on this topic. Marcus Aurelius especially would write to himself as a reminder that he takes the shape of the quality of his thoughts. So, it's important to examine your thoughts constantly to see which ones are dragging you down and discard them. It's not easy and takes time but the point is that you're worth the effort and work and time. Demand better for yourself. Your mind takes the shape of what you frequently hold in thought, wouldn't you want those thoughts to be of good things? Positive things? Happy things? You are worthy of such things.
This was so perfectly written that i went back, looking for quotation marks. If u originated this, u have a way with words and a profound understanding of this process. You def got the message across.
There a million ways. His worked for him. Big deal.
@@edyrayfield1797 wow, negative thoughts much?
Meditations is one of the greatest books ever written.
Wow, I really needed this today. Thank you. ☺️🤗🥰
1. Have Daily Negative Thought Time 2. Replace the Negative Thoughts 3. Be Your Own Best Friend 4. Write Instead Of Think 5. Make A Conscious Effort To Find Things To Love, Like And Appreciate 6. Establish New Habits 7. Use Affirmations 8. Develop Your Success Routine 9. Channel Those Thoughts Into Something Constructive
How can you be your own best friend or love yourself? It’s easy to say these things but not so easy to do.
@@bensquires2819 the only being capable of knowing you and loving you deeply, is your own self. You have to be gentle and compassionate to the source where your negativity comes from. Just wants to be heard, and loved with the love only you hold.
@@bensquires2819 // WAYS TO BE YOUR OWN BEST FRIEND: * BECOME IN TUNE WITH YOURSELF. Know yourself & needs. * FOLLOW YOUR HEALTHY PREFERENCES (so don't eat a 7 pound steak). The Golden Mean: All Things in Moderation. * What activities, personalities, environments, home decore, etc. agitate you; or, calm & please you ?? * VOTE with Selection, & your feet (change location). In general, do not impart your opinion on others. If so, do so diplomatically. * Drink when you thirst. * Eat a reasonable portion of healthy food when hungry. Cheat on your diet occasionally. * Rest when you are tired. Sleep or take a break as needed. * Develop interests that appeal to you. Learn to share some of them for mutual enjoyment; &, not to better someone. * Live within your means. * Accept the situation OF YOURSELF. (What U r is God's gift to U. What U become is ur gift to God.) * Try to accept & come to terms with the fact U (any of us) r not the most amazing person that ever lived. * Seek the positive without strife or striving.
@@scoutmiller7734Thank you for sharing this.
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I used something similar to this to quit drinking alcohol. What I would do is try to find the motivation behind my thoughts, what were they trying to get me to do. I realized most of the chatter in my head was wrapped around planning to drink. Once I was able to separate the chatter that dealt with my alcoholism, I was able to dismiss those thoughts as my addiction and then think about something else. This was not easy and only one part of dealing with addiction. I hope this can help someone else, and forgive yourself and others you blame.
I have these same feelings, but about food. The psychiatrist I used to see for my antidepressants always asked if I used any illegal drugs. And I would always say, “Food is my drug, obviously,” and wave my hand over my body, and laugh. And he never laughed. And I have thought about that a lot. I’m always thinking about what good food I can have next, and it’s what motivates me to get out of bed in the morning, or leave the house to run errands, etc. And I think that’s actually a problem.
@@stephanieleon5970 I was in the men's room at a gym and had a similar conversation with a big guy about how his food addiction. He said it made it easier for him to understand alcoholism. When he talked about food similar to the way you do and the way I talked about alcohol, I understood him. I believe you too. Maybe make a conscious effort to start thinking and then doing things that don't involve food. I also believe sugar is a drug it is addictive. So if you can cut one thing out, cut out added sugars. I had to keep my days full when I was quiting alcohol, it helped keep me from thinking about getting a drink.
@@anothermike4825 - Thank you. Currently having to work two jobs to make ends meet and one of them is grocery shopping for other people, which keeps me too busy to think about eating anything, myself. When I am done and headed home, I always try to remind myself I have food at home, just like these people making these healthy decisions for grocery items, lol. I am also finding a lot of cool healthier items at stores I have never shopped at, like Sprouts. So I think it’s helping.
@@stephanieleon5970 good luck and be kind to yourself.
Trying that now to stop my negative thoughts but they tend to stuck in my head.
When almost all of self help and motivation experts are all about telling us how flawed we are and we have to be sucked in their network to get better, this is one of the most self empowering talk I have ever heard. Thank you.
The first time i watch this i didn't understand it. I watch again and has changed my life.
“Sow a thought and you reap an action; sow an act and you reap a habit; sow a habit and you reap a character; sow a character and you reap a destiny.” ― Ralph Waldo Emerson
I loved him as the Karate Kid!
If you plant ice your gonna harvest wind
Yea this guy talked about nothing. What works is listening to your intuition, having the courage to make a change, the confidence to see it through to the end and faith in yourself that you will make the best effort.
I wish it was that easy ...
Sow what?
Busted out laughing at "of course I still have thoughts, I got myself here today" I am so happy you've had this experience, beautiful story. Great speech!
I love how he stands straight in front of the letter that totally can change the towns name.
The town full of ducks Or Ducklands. Well spotted
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I was thinking the same thing! Ha
😂👍.
i donr know who is right..i fugured it said deckhands..but the L got jealous and murdered the h and slipped into his place. His neighbors K and M were shocked to hesr of the crime. He seemed like a nice guy. Maybe he lost his mind. I believe letters can and do make up lies as well as truth. To murder a letter..you conclude that perhaps L just had no consenence. Didnt bother him one bit. Excuse me please i used too much prepositon h and i think its causing a vowell bstructn
Thoughts: Are they useful? How do they behave? Great lesson, thank you!
I watched this video almost a year ago today and when I saw it pop up in my suggested today I got very happy! I have a post it note on my wall that says. " Keep thoughts positive. Are they Useful? How do they behave? Negative thoughts are someone else NOT ME" Since about a year ago my wife and I have been all over the mental health and growth journey but I find myself happier than ever and the negative thoughts don't control me anymore. You may not ever fully get rid of them but you learn to live with them and eventually they don't hold so much weight. Keep going. You're on the right track.
Negative thoughts eventually disappear, paint over them with happy thoughts :-)
Negative thoughts eventually disappear, paint over them with happy thoughts :-)
Negative thoughts eventually disappear, paint over them with happy thoughts :-)
Negative thoughts eventually disappear, paint over them with happy thoughts :-)
Those who keep saying, skip the video and get to the point by watching the end of it. Well, I'm afraid I have to disagree. The point is not about hearing two words or two phrases or any random quote. We, humans, tend to understand things a lot better when we relate them to the context where events take place. It helps us click with their stories, know what they have been through and the lessons they have learned, which in turn invite us to embody these valuable insights instead of just keeping them stored in our heads.
Yep. We respond to stories. We are story oriented.
Exactly.
I'm having trouble understanding you after- "when we relate them to the context..." . If you broke that second part into three or four sentences, it may become clearer. I agree that there's no need to skip the beginning of this Ted talk. It's valuable to know who is giving the talk and how they made their way there. Thanks.
@@uwlimesub6945 thanks for pointing that out, I had the same impression but I just didn't take time to rephrase that part, but now I did, hopefully you get the message.
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This sounds similar to Byron Katie’s method of inquiry that she calls, “The Work” to invalidate negative thinking. You isolate the particular thought by repeating the original negative through and then asking, “Is it true?”, “Can I absolutely know its true”, “How do I react or what happens when I believe the thought?,” and “Who would you be without that thought?”. Then you turn around the thought to possibly understand if your thought is a projection of something else. This stuff is not second nature to me, so this type of advice is always a good refresher when I’m on a downward spiral.
I came to an awareness a few months ago that I very likely have adhd & rsd (rejection sensitive dysphoria). It's been worse lately, I think because of getting older, but I'm not able to get help yet, so I've been looking for any kind of advice that could help until I can actually see someone. This video & your comment (and lots of others too) are immensely helpful! Thank you 🌞👍💖
I also thought of Byron Katie. But I never liked the woman. And these questions here are a lot more viable and immediate for me.
@@editelh Yeah, I haven't checked out BK yet, but I love the simplicity of Metivier's method.
It would be nice if Byron Katie would acknowledge that she stole the whole idea from Albert Ellies. Her behaviour shows so much powermongering fraud.
Byron Katie's work is transformative. The turn around is so powerful! And Byron is wonderful. Her method is simple so anyone can benefit from it. She meets people where they are. But if anyone wants hardcore stuff, listen to her audiobook "A Thousand Words For Joy". Have a great day!
If he is talking about internet trolls, they are not keyboard warriors. Warriors have courage. It doesn’t take courage to spew negativity at people with no accountability. “Energy doesn’t die, it just changes form”, was a great reminder. 👍
Another tip I learned when dealing with automatic negative thoughts (ANT's), not only question whether it is helpful, but question whether you would say the things you say to yourself to a loved one.
The honesty and transparency are endearing. Memorizing the Spiritual ultimate truths in God’s Word is the most transforming ❤️🙏🐛✝️🦋🕊🎶
This is what I'm getting from reading and mediating on the bible. Stillness from the rattling of unnecessary brain clatter. Knowing more peace and calm then I believed possible
Bible doesn't teach you how to mediate. Study Hindusim or Buddhism.
Thank you Anthony, for pointing to the inner beauty of Sanskrit. It is an often overlooked truth that Sanskrit has a rather unique structure. Hard to find the words to describe it, but let me give it a try. Having followed Anthony for a while I'll try a paradigm from cinema arts, which is one of his areas of expertise. The waking state of consciousness is like watching a movie. Very engrossing, and our inner silence is overshadowed as the images on the screen become our "reality". If on the other hand we are cognizant of the mechanics of how the film is scripted, shot, edited and projected then we automatically become aware of a much deeper "bigger picture" experience as we watch the films story unfold. We become aware of the simple, pure, white screen. Sanskrit is a language that illumines our waking consciousness because it is awake to all of those levels of experience. By that I mean every expression contains coherent meanings on all levels of the mind simultaneously. It can describe the very specific localized realities of the physical material world. However in the same expression the words hold alternative, more subtle meanings and the grammar allows the same flow of words to illuminate the underlying reality that the experience can be seen as pure consciousness moving within itself. This magical exposure of the underlying reality is accomplished because Sanskrit belongs originally to a culture where deep inner silence was wide awake inside the population. In our modern chaotic societies Sanskrit, when properly employed can provide a roadmap back to that experience. So our thoughts are understood to be changing displays of lights on a pure white screen or perhaps like the many waves dancing on the vast unchanging wholeness of the ocean. Once the wave can see itself as the unbounded ocean in a temporarily localized bounded state, its behavior is seem for what it is, a show, a story teller trying to capture our attention with endless, comedies and tragedies.
With practice, one can simply cease thinking, or move attention to something else. I've used this countless times when awake in the middle of the night to get back to sleep, even when having an anxiety episode. It's your brain- you control what you think.
Much easier said than done. I trained myself to do this by accident; probably as survival mechanism growing up, but i've given this advice to others and most of them are extremely skeptical about their own ability to just "not think", or "stop thinking", or even to have much control over their own thinking at all. Smart, wise, good friends have responded to my "it is possible to just not think" by which i basically meant to say that they could "control their stressful over-thinking to such an extent that it would be helpful to them".
I love that he says “I don’t know, but I don’t think so”. Such an honest answer
It’s so interesting to me that I watched this video, found it very useful and was looking forward to putting this strategy into practice…and then not 5 minutes later, a person in my life appeared and viciously insulted and belittled me out of the blue, as he has done many times before. I was devastated, but after finally calming down, I realized it was the universe telling me I will never truly know peace until I am out of this situation in which I am constantly subjected to verbal abuse. No amount of self-help and positive self-talk will ever make up for being in an ongoing abusive situation.
Great talk. I learned about analyzing my negative thoughts through my Buddhist practice. These two questions allow the sane part of your psyche to gently challenge the out of control parts and bring order to your mind. I'd like to add that antidepressant and antianxiety medications do not muddle your thoughts if taken correctly (i.e. as prescribed and NEVER with alcohol). Many people find them very helpful because they can reduce symptoms enough to allow them to start using psychological tools such as the one in this video.
Don't take anti depressants and anti anxiety medication unless you are suicidal. These are very destructive and addictive. There are so many natural methods to control this imbalance in brain chemicals and in the mental behaviour that creates that state. I was on everything under the sun and cured myself through Ayurvedic and Chinese medicine, diet, exercise and meditation. The doctors will prescribe you opioids for pain, (destructive and addictive) plenty of natural anti inflammatory and pain relieving plants out there. The doctors tried to make me take ten days worth of antibiotics for an infectious cyst. Antibiotics should only be taken in the most dire circumstances, they destroy your natural microbiome and mitochondria, this can take over four years to redevelop in which time you can get degenerative problems. I cured this in no less than a week using natural antibiotics and oils to draw out. Sorry for the rant I'm just very against SSRI's, benzodiazapines, opioids and other over prescribed medications from a very outdated practice that GPS use. I have lost alot of friend due to the fact doctors don't ask the correct questions about how you live, eat and think. People who are on anti depressants are more likely to take their own lives and I've seen this too much. Wean yourself off and substitute with adapagenic herbs and plants, exercise and meditate. I wish you good health and success.
I want to read a good introductory book about Buddhism with my 16 year old daughter. Do you have any recommendations? I have raised my kids with no spirituality and realize now that it was a mistake. Self empowerment in the absence of “woo woo” seems impossible.
@@patientzero5685 Try different (controlled) breathing techniques like: 4seconds inhale 7sec hold 8sec exhale, Another one but careful about this one it can knock you out if forced too much start for : 3sec inhale 2sec hold 3sec exhale rigorous breathing for 2 minutes and then hold breathe 20 sec NOTE: if you are uncomfortable in the mid stop it but slowly ,not to forget sit in a comfortable position so that even if you fall ,you don't get hurt i mastered 2nd technique over a period of week, you can take more but DON'T FORCE YOURSELF , WIM HOFF breathing technique is similar Read some indian meditation techniques Like staring at a far object for prolonged time with normal blinking but in a comfortable position Best one try meditation before going to bed either you'll sleep or get a great mindfull session Simplest Meditation: We have taste ,touch,smell, vision,hearing sense Close most of them except one like if you see ,block ear with monotonous repeating music , don't eat ,for touch stay away from living beings while meditating stuff like that Self hypnosis,if mastered you can have great focus : the thing we experience sometimes while driving on a boring journey sometimes we forget how quick we reached destination and may not remember details of scenery along the way after completing drive To try this lie down on a flat floor facing upwards everything relaxed, roll your eyes upwards such that you can't or barely see anything close eyes in that state Google REM CIRCADIAN SLEEP CYCLE for more info, REM has lot to do with self hypnosis Ask any specific questions would love to answer if i know something about that Lastly google all of this stuff get a concrete knowledge about it and don't hurt yourself by forcing yourself too much, take it slow You might not observe results in first attempts but atleast you'll be safe You don't need no guru ,yoga teacher just google all stuff if you have doubts/ curious about English is my second language pardon for mistakes😊
@@hyun5269 thank you very much. It was incredibly kind of you to write this all out for a stranger. I will try your techniques. It is funny that you mention looking at a far off object and focusing on it. As a young child when trying to fall asleep I would close my eyes and imagine some thing very far off in the horizon and I would focus just on the object until patterns of colors would appear in the darkness and soon those patterns would turn to objects that were familiar and random. I found out in college that this was called Hypnagogia. Using this method has helped me fall asleep my entire life. Again, thank you for your information.
@@patientzero5685 There are three prominent teachers of Buddhism in the West today, the Dalai Lama, Thich Nhat Hanh, and Pema Chödrön. There are many other great teachers out there, but these are the most popular and ones I can personally vouch for. A great book to start with is Thich Nhat Hanh's Peace is Every Step. It is a collection of short essays about informal Buddhist practices like daily meditation, mindfulness and dealing with feelings. Reading is great, but for Buddhism to really change your life you have to practice it and make it a part of your day to day, minute to minute life. When practices like meditation and mindfulness become a daily habit, they can help you heal emotionally and become more grounded in the present. Another great help is to become part of a Buddhist group. I have been a member of several over the years, and the only one I would advise against is Nichren Shōshū (its lay organization is called the Soka Gakkai). I don't wish to be too negative about them -- I met some nice people while I was attending their meetings and never felt pressured to do anything I didn't want to. However,they don't teach meditation or mindfulness which I feel are the heart of the Buddha's teachings. They also put the teachings of their founder, the thirteenth century Japanese monk Nichren Daishonin, above the teachings of the historical Buddha and even claim he is the Buddha of the present age. This belief has let them to consider their school of Buddhism to be "True Buddhism" and all other schools to be outdated. One of the things I really like about Buddhism is that the different schools don't compete and in fact are happy to learn from one another. Check with your local Unitarian Universalist Fellowship -- they may well have a Buddhist group or at least know of one -- and they are pretty trustworthy. You and your daughter are starting on a great adventure. Good luck!
Another good one I heard from Eckhart Tolle that I use that helps pull me out of a thought spiral and into the role of observer: "I wonder what my next thought will be."
My short story: whenever I feel bad thoughts are coming, I think "this won't make me happy nor make me any favor", and after a lot of training, I change to better thoughts, namely holidays, arts and crafts, or I watch videos of pets. And when I start thinking about work on my free time, I think "I'm not being paid, so I better stop now"😂 this works too.
Observing one's thoughts is a useful thing to do. Allows one to throw out useless and outdated thoughts.
Far out! I’m using that to inspire my team during a timeout in a closely contested basketball game. Thank-you.
I just awoke to a new day after hitting a new low last night and this is exactly what I needed to hear so thank you!
I'm going through a terrifying time in my life right now. I had the worst panic attack I've ever had and my thoughts are the loudest and cruelest they've ever been. I've dealt with anxiety and depression for years. It feels like those negative thoughts think they're the "big man" and in control. But I don't want to give up and I'm trying to fight and take back control. But it's so scary being at odds with your own mind. I am so grateful to have found this video. Reading all these comments proves to me that I'm not alone in this fight and I CAN overpower it. I send out love and hope that we can all overcome this 💗💗💗💗🙏
a few days to come you'll look back at this psot and you will be proud of yourself for overcomming. you gat this.
I hope it’s working out for you!
You can! I believe in you!
@@aweniajohn6571 I did just that today and I am better 😊
@@copper815 thank you, that means a lot ☺️
I think maybe this is what all animals have above us. No language to distract from their sense of being.
I have a variation of the exercise that can help smoothen the process. Include an opening question and a closing question: 1) What will my next thought be? [This switches you to looking inwards] 2) Is it useful? 3) How does it behave? 4) Should I pause thinking? [This directly silences your thoughts]
Nice One
And perhaps one more in the middle, "Did "I" cause this to be thought, or did it just appear.
@@friarjeff1602 That sounds to me like a thought generator not a thought silencer
Thanks Tony for the tip 🤗
You should be doing the Ted Talk lol
underrated. I had to find this again to send to a friend - I've employed this little mantra since the day I watched this, and oh how incisive it is. Works every time to foster insight and quietude. I wish everyone could know this beautiful little gateway to a more mindful life.
Man I just cry when I feel my heart. The beauty of understanding someone's perception of the world from times as long ago as sanskrit must have been interesting 🤔
This is a smart person. You can tell he has a lot of things to say about the world but doesn’t engage in the conversation. As you can see he asks questions instead. Thank you for the powerful video.
Question that could be addressed by anyone listening
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I'm not sure what you mean by "doesn't engage in the conversation". He's lecturing a bunch of people, but I'm not sure that is such a good thing.
A beautiful Ted Talk. Have listened to it every morning for the past few days and will continue to ... so much to learn from it. Anthony Metivier's voice is so easy to listen to. Thanks.
I like these questions too "Who is the one that knows?" "Who is the one thinking?"
Normally I am happy that someone saved me time by posting the content aimed by the clickbait. But this man is soulful and his thoughts and expressions and intensions earnest. It is a joy to watch the full talk. The people who came up with the clickbait title that sort of ruined the whole talk for a lot of people should be ashamed. I hope more people can watch the whole talk and be present while doing so. FWIW many have posted the questions here. If you just know the questions without knowing how he came upon them, it is probably only 1% as useful.
While I agree that the "Clickbait" is a shortcut, and misses the soul of his talk, I would urge you to reconsider the statement "should be ashamed". I appreciated the summary, but still listened to the whole talk, and recall the speaker saying that we can't change people. If we can't change others, (but only ourselves) then trying to shame others is pointless. You may choose to see those comments as "unhelpful", but if you really want the writer to be ashamed, perhaps you need to reconsider the overall message of the video. I point this out, because in managing anxiety it is so important that we .
I'm a proud student of Anthony and this one opened another door into my deeper inland empire
We don’t want to shut thoughts off but to learn authentic mindfulness that allows us to recognize our thoughts with awareness.
@Dalton Speaks there is no such thing as emptiness. We can not empty our mind. We can not experience nothingness for one requires a presence to experience it. The commenter above is correct and so is the speaker. Just different word use, same definition. Much love
I thought it was to go beyond the mind.
This information has changed my life, with practice the negative thoughts will just come and go and my mind clutter is clearing everyday, i owe my gratitude to this man and Ted x thank you!
Negative thoughts like a storm in my head criticizing me. But when I say my mantra "when I don't care anymore I am free" and I imagine this rain of mud pouring down from my head to toes and I just let it be.. Then I start to feel better afterwards.. I don't know if it work for everyone but it works for me...
I've worked with Anthony for years and all the things I learned from him are life changing! Very good talk!!! Real tedxtalk!
Who is this chap?..can he be contacted?
Inspiring talk! Amongst the simple but powerful points, "you can change you" resonates with me. With the right tools, we have a lot more power than we realise.
It's the opposite of most approaches, in particular positivity, where it's changing others to change your life. The reality is that only you can change. To change others to suit you is narcissistic and highly destructive but very prevalent in our social media addicted youth. When everyone returns to the best of being themselves without undue comparisons to others his simple self questions should be productive. It's quite a leap.
I have listened twice now and the simplicity of the message is what I loved about the speech. Absolutely brilliant, thankyou.
For who ever wants to truly experience the peace and no thought realm, Read the power of now, it literally has the power to plug you off that noisy world
It's a nice reminder of how to occupy your busy mind with something mechanical and have a useful filter in your life. Thank you - this reminder came with excellent timing.
Thanks to the Algorithm 😂
Great lesson from Anthony Metivier , love all of his content, he's been teaching me a lot lately.
This was so incredibly helpful. Cleaning and refreshing. THANK YOU!!! Love and light xx
I refer to that part of my thought process as “the storyteller “. It’s a part of me and I’ve learned to “communicate” with it in order to have a quieter mind with positive thoughts.
I appreciate this
How did you learn this?
@@MusicGirl114 60,000m thoughts a day. Practicals are needed to reduce negative thoughts. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free during the day or night sit still for a few minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Make it a habit. Do the above meditation regularly to have a better life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor. Read about the positive effects of breathing on the brain on google search.
DG, 60,000m thoughts a day. Practicals are needed to reduce negative thoughts. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free during the day or night sit still for a few minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Make it a habit. Do the above meditation regularly to have a better life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor. Read about the positive effects of breathing on the brain on google search.
what do you call the part of you which communicates with "the storyteller"?
This is absolutely the most helpful way that you have demonstrated how we can all tame our mind. It really works with these two neutralizing questions!!! This is the answer to how we can live peacefully in this world. Thank you for this most practical and user friendly sharing. Bless you for all your years of effort to give us this most precious gift!!!!!! So excellent the way you presented this as well!!!!!
This is the key to success. This is the key to a psychic revolution in humanity. This would heal the world... if everyone could adopt this way of thinking.
Amazing. It's so hard to escape the algorithm and that's not me being negative of social media because it has soo many positives. It's just refreshing to feel human again.
The two questions make us pause to question our thoughts. This, in fact is, the First Habit "Be Proactive" that Steven Covey talks about in The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. First we pause, give ourselves time, take responsibility for what we do next (Habit 1) question the thoughts in our mind for usefulness, put the more important ahead of the less important (Habit 2: Put First Things First) and choose the thoughts that are useful (Habit 3: Begin with the end in mind)
I am so grateful I came across this. I went in for what was supposed to be a quick doctor's appointment (and which was completely covered by my insurance) two weeks ago and was told I was going to possibly need very invasive surgery but first would need a series of invasive, very uncomfortable, and sometimes painful tests all of which are going to cost me thousands of dollars. I'm 34 and very healthy so this has been very overwhelming and upsetting (to put it lightly). I'm excited to try this out 🙏
All the best ❤
I’m so sorry! I went through a very painful surgery in my early 30’s. It was very traumatic. I know how you feel! Praying for you to get through this. 🙏🏼
Hoping that all is going well for you, Nicole.
Hope you can find some peace and good luck with the surgery.
My god I was going through a anxiety attack right now and thinking about the quotes calmed me down ☺️
You may like Ryan Holiday at Daily Stoic, Samira. ❤️🤘
Marty McKerry thanks a bunch for your kind recommendation.
Samira Haider No problem at all. 🤘
Mind blown... I will be forever grateful.
Joy is not taught in a way that truly explains how valuable it is Joy the least studied and talked about feeling. A very important difference needs to be reintroduced to many While day to day happiness is subject to interference from outside sources, joy belongs to you 24/7 - 365 366 on leap years Count blessings often. Reading this is a blessing in and of itself! No?
Good advice, and yet our mind is so destructive that we forget them. We forget to remember. We wallow in the negative more than the positive.
I'm astounded to realise how many of my thoughts are so far from useful!! I mostly laugh or shudder at the first question and rarely even feel the need to question their behaviour 🤣🙏💜
They pretty much go hand in hand. Try backwards then forwards
Landing on this video at this very moment just sent a chill up my spine.
My parents are both doctors and have always told me the beauty of the human body from a scientific standpoint was the reason they were religious.
Love it, it's like putting a filter on your thoughts before they can go any further.
This is an excellent talk, Ive listened more than once, and the 2 questions work.
Thoughts are a life forms trying to create themselves in our dimension -joe rogan and Duncan trussel
Negative thoughts always come from love , to protect you from getting hurt . Just tell yourself no need to worry everything will be okay and you’ll be safe . The answer is always Love .
Jumped onto this Ted Talk so hard I almost fell over. Very useful information indeed. I give Anthony and A++++for an excellent lecture.
I live in bliss everyday I have gone through childhood trauma and still felt blissed because I felt I am protected. I know people around me are amazed how empty my mind is. For me this has allowed me to be useful. This dude gets it ❤️
Excellent talk! MUCH needed right now to calm our thoughts with everything in the media! My mind was BLOWN AWAY when he mentioned about defeating a pattern (negative thoughts) with another pattern😲. I deal with depression and anxiety (and tried MANY medications) and for me the pattern that would still my thoughts was drumming...I would play a simple meditative pattern and this ALWAYS calmed my mind...like a smooth lake at dawn. Anthony helped me realize..I wasn't just doing a hobby and felt good after it...it was a pattern replacing a negative thought pattern...healing my mind!🎇😲🎇
I wonder if this is the premise behind EFT tapping as well?
Check out cbt too! There are cbt workbooks on amazon available to buy
Kate EDid it’s not the premise behind tapping, though I guess it could become a replacement pattern if you don’t have other knowledge. I teach an advanced form of tapping. Tapping is more, from my perspective, about allowing and acceptance which dissolves the confusion, emotional pain, shock, judgement, limiting belief which interrupts the flow. It clears the mind body system back into flow at the same time as supporting the meridians, energy and body. For me tapping is a temporary technique. We are not meant to be tapping away all the time. There are many useful ways of stress and trauma being easy to shift and transform. My emPOWER online program is starting soon if you’re interested to know more. 😊
@@anitabentata Do you have a link? Best wishes, Natalie
Love this. Thank you Anthony!
I've watched this a few times now and I have shared it. I will continue to do both. This is powerful. Thanks
I too have been through this. Changing the my negative narrator has been hugely beneficial for me. I sometimes fall backwards but not nearly as much as I used to. 💕 i used to turn to negative things such as booze (10 years), my medications (now 12 years free of all meds), street drugs (almost 7) and self harm (almost 4). It can be done. We can get lifted from the fogg and haze of it. Yes its natural to feel very deep and also really good and I want to feel the all inbetweens. I didn't for years and sometimes struggle with it as I have some "dis"abilities but I wear my heart right on my sleeve and proud of it. We can be there and present. Not saying no medication is for everyone but for me it wasn't beneficial. 💕
This was such a wonderful talk. Training where our thoughts wander or where we can lead them is a continuous journey. This talk was so helpful on where to begin & continue when negative thoughts arise. I’m looking forward to blowing those thoughts out like a candle 🙃🙂
I have been in such a deep depression thinking about the past mistakes I have made. Are these thoughts useful? Not on your life! How do they behave? They make me feel horrible. I needed this so badly. Thinking of jumping off a bridge just keeps on ping pinging in my brain because I was told I was a f*ck up. I have cried for days over those two words. I need a hug!
Love this so much! Thank you for presenting this. It’s just what I needed!
THANK YOU Nothing ever worked so well soo quick I appreciate you , your effort . thank you . basically all thats nessesary to start a great life blessings
“Blind and insane.” So true... Neutrality is at the crossroads of reality. Come from that space and all of our wonderful possibilities open up.
so true . Unhappiness comes from the gap between reality and your expectations, period . When you expect reality from a place of neutrality ! your back home, a happy part of the universe !!! love you all , specially the f'ed up ones ! start with me , I love you, if you love you thats 2 ... if your on this page you have the recipe for your calling in your life. his technique plus reality casually leads right to it . blessings sent all who read this
I have listened to Anthony’s talk twice now and have been very moved by his journey. He has arrived at a very liberated space. I am very grateful that he shared how he did so and am already finding a lot of value in the use of these two questions in response to my own thinking these last few days since I listened to him the first time. I highly recommend listening to Anthony’s story if you are at all attached to programmed thoughts that have kept you prisoner in unhelpful or negative reactions to life events and to people who don’t behave according to your programmed ideas about how they should behave. That space is a horrible prison of our own making. I have been stuck in such a prison for too long.
@Blue Traveller thank you, for your observation. I do appreciate your comment. I have been going through the motions of seeking help and clearly not getting far. I can see I need to look at the process afresh and start heading in a new direction.
@Blue Traveller better late than never!
@Blue Traveller Indeed indeed. Thank you.
John Hudert - Best 13mins invested in listening to the context behind the benefit of why these 2 Qs are worth remembering/utilising. Very worthwhile listening - no waste of time. Even you had to listen to the 13mins before you decided that it was a waste of your time... and then to requote what the 13mins had taught you.
Amazing to witness your journey from afar Anthony. Wishing you all the best :-)
When you use those 2 questions your are taking importance and value to the thought itself. So the effect of this causes it to gradually disappear or they can became silent when you have an instant realization. That is what meditation does also to you. Thank you for sharing those questions!
I would have liked to hear more about how he decide if thoughts were useful and some further guidance on analyzing how they behave.
This video is keeping me from not ending my life, in my mind I wanted to change someone I want to believe someone is like I imagine. Perhaps was my heart as well. I must keep my mind clear and battle with my depression. I understand is part of life. I should accept it and make it through the day by simple. Asking are my thoughts useful how do they behave…… silence
The fact that you have these inward thoughts show that you’re a strong person who does the hard work. It’s not an easy thing dealing with the darker, heavier parts of ourselves. I hope you don’t feel that you have to do it alone, though. Reach out to someone close to you that you can trust. Good luck
@@HighMonkeyMonk. thank you, not often I get empathy words
Similar techniques can be found in cognitive therapy (socratic questioning) and in third wave psychotherapies that integrate mindfulness (realizing the difference between your self and your thoughts). These approaches might come from similar roots as the approach of the authors he introduces. Inspiring, especially when personal stories were shared.
Your mind is a tool for you to use not the other way around. I need to get out and walk in nature for thought to turn off🌳🌱🌿🍃🌾🍀🦚🦜🐿🦡🌞🦌
Are my thoughts useful and how do they behave... I love this!
Awesome information and very well-presented!!! Thank you for this nugget of gold🙏🌈
I learned from the book, ' Battlefield of the Mind' to think about what you are thinking about. It took practice but it works. Patterns to neutralize patterns. For me, bible scriptures neutralized the negative thoughts. Thank God I no longer have the constant negative tape playing over and over in my mind all day. Ty for this revealing Ted Talk 😃
There's horrendous scripture in the bible. You must be cherry picking the few good ones.
@@dawn8542 He is reading it in sanskrit.
The Bible actually holds nothing but good promisses for believers, that's why it comforts many. Now since it also contains history and things that happened also include terrible mistakes, not everything makes a happy story. But actually selecting the parts with the promises instead of punishment/mistakes is not picking, but rather knowing your way around a work of 66 books over more than a 1000 years. Starting with the New Testament and especially Jesus' words offers lots of hope.
“The message of the cross is foolishness to those who are perishing, but to us who are being saved it is the power of God.” 1 Cor. 1:18
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Have been practicing "no thoughts" since I was a teenager. Appreciated Eckhart Tollle's advice to be the one listening to my thoughts rather than thinking I am my thoughts. I have found a level of contentment by reducing inner monologues, especially recurring negative memories. Sadly I had no mentors to teach logical thinking to plan my actions effectively. While focused on spiritual pursuits I should have balanced it with the benefits of managing money. Positive thinking I learned is a delusion that doesn't manifest in our material world, but a lot of people made fortunes selling the false idea that is actually synchronicity. Dropping the voice in my head does reduce stress, but it's not enlightenment. Using meditation to have a set time for going deeper into our conciousness is appropriate and the rest of our day use thoughts as the tool they are. Ha! Wish I was good at this idea...
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Sounds like common sense.A little of this, a little of that plus a little luck and you( we) MIGHT just get some measure of peace...But if there was a cast iron method for everyone then surely,the world would have found it by now
I love this dude and his wisdom , he is the best
I don’t care how long ago this was posted I really needed one. Too much head traffic happening here! Ugggg….
' ... we've got to be able to get past this... we can't afford to NOT SEE and NOT EXTRACT THE VALUE from the things we DON'T LIKE, because we are so STUCK on the Things WE DO LIKE..." Brilliant advise Sir. Thank you !
Thank you Anthony, I will practice this. You have helped me today.
'Are they helpful? Are they kind? Are they necessary?'' - loose paraphrase of Sri Sathya Sai Kindness requires a bit of judgment and that can be tricky terrain since most of us consistently know the difference betwween judgment and discernment. That said, this is what his message reminds me of and I appreciate his sharing his journey to the destination. Fun 'miss'take in hearing that someone else may appreciate. I have hearing and audio processing challenges so I backed up several times trying to hear what his second qustion was. Ulimately, I found and put on CC and enjoyed discovering that the translator picked up that instance of BEHAVIOR as PAY. I love that as a metaphysical near-equivalent. Being one easily mistaken for a WOO-person, I don't believe in coincidence. I hope you experienced a lovely pay-off from this video like I did.
Life has no meaning without the ability to share. Thank you.
Nice one!