15 Signs Someone Secretly Hates You
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Here are the signs that someone hates you, but isn’t communicating their feelings. When someone dislikes you, these signs and signals may pop up. If you’re not in the right crowd, you deserve to know.
Sources:
Nonverbal Cues That Someone’s Not That Into You
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Understanding Hate
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Ways to Deal With Someone You Can’t Stand Dealing With
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Chief Editor: Tristan Reed
Voice Over: Christian H. Miles
Music credits: Original song produced exclusively for TopThink by Joseph McDade
A jealous friend is a dangerous enemy.
Fck dat. A jealous family member
Some of us aren’t meant to be hated. We didn’t do anything to make them hate us nor do we bother them yet they want to see us down. It’s painful
Agree with you...👍🙂🌺
Totaly agree 👍
Agree..it's racist against us and petty for them to exploit us then get mad if you stand up for yourself.
i have a sister in law who i think hate me because she would ask me questions and when i answer her she would immediately turn n talk with someone else then when i finish explaining she would turn back n said i’m sorry i didn’t hear u can u repeat and she do it every time we have a family meeting. 😢
Don't bother about those kind of people at all. Show the same face to them back and avoid them like the plague. Show them in the same ways that we also hate them. Let them get a taste of their own medicine. 😆🤣🤣
Jealousy is often at the root of so much secret hatred !
Haters are just people who have us live in their head rent free
Haters hate themselves
Facts 💯
It takes a special person to be a really true friend. They are hard to find.
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I was in a relationship with someone who did all 15 things. I finally found the strength to leave
Don't worry about what others think of you, life is too short, spend your time and energy working on yourself and making your dreams come true, I'm a self improvement KZheadr and I wouldn't get anywhere if I got upset anytime someone left a mean comment or someone told me I'll never make it as a successful KZheadr, you gotta learn to turn off the noise and focus on you
I think you are mistaking having an understanding on if someone hates you, as opposed to worrying about rather someone hates you! Having an understanding allows you to not waste anymore of your time on that relationship! Did you sincerely misinterpret the info in this upload? Or did you only pretend to, to promote your channel?
You say that because it's not your brother that lives with you that hates you
I'm a KZheadr as well and I understand what you're saying about the comments. But if you're a KZheadr, you know you can hold your comments for review before they are posted to the public, right??
@@erikwinter6430 calm down sugar clown 🤡
@@truecore2040 weak. What she said totally relates to the video. Did we watch the same video? Did you pay attention? Lol 😂 Eat your words a hole
Basically, someone who hates you doesn't want to spend time with you and wants to ruin your life. Being alone is better than being with someone who hates you.
Yes, also someone, who hates you DOES want to spend time with you to spoil your life better. And some ppl combine being with you and not being with you. This one is the worst, in my opinion. That's bc they feed you crumbs and by doing this put you in a clingy position (even if you don't cling). This alone being bad enough, causes another - acting behind your back and simultaniously, while you're having cognitive dissonance, as a result of crumbling from time to time.
@@margottfon330 That's right. People who hate you do not text you or call you. Or maybe they DO text or call you to ruin something. People who hate you want to see you hurt and fail. They may be friendly with you, but they might stab you in your back. So, if you are meeting someone who hates you, be careful.
@@margottfon330 That's true. Just because someone is nice to you, it doesn't mean they like you. People who hate you may stay away from you and won't spend time with you. Sometimes they may spend time with you to find ways to ruin your life. They are friendly with you, but they will stab you in your back. Stabbing someone in their back means to do something bad to someone who trusted you.
I'd would rather have people hate me then to have them think I am loved by their fake love. 👍🥳
I agree 100 Percent.Verywell said.❤
Some situations are just personality conflicts. Not everyone you meet will like you.
True but normal people aren’t cruel about it.
Some times people don't feel that it is in their best interest to share their personal life and feelings with the world. We know that once you share your desires and feelings with anyone you no longer can control who hears that information. Do not let your discontents be known because people will secretly despise you for them and increase them. The people I share that kind of information with are people that I choose, not just anybody engaging in small talk. I am civil to everyone, social to many, and friend to one. If I don't share my life with someone it certainly doesn't mean that I hate them it just means that I don't see the benefit out weighing the potential problem.
0:13 conversation stoppers 0:56 never-ending fights 1:32 the impassable wall 2:09 disingenuous behavior 3:05 the passive planner 3:47 finding pleasure in failure 4:21 the danger of drifting 5:03 the social polygraph 5:45 time checks 6:39 petty possessions 7:13 physical disrespect 8:03 the clingy friend 8:40 extreme tension 9:10 the ultimate betrayal 9:44 ignorant humiliation
Thanks for the list
Thank you!
So right 😢
my older sister.....i had to cut her off though. = )
I lived thru twenty years of abuse before I saw how little I valued myself...and it's taken another 20 to heal from it...I'll NEVER...EVER understand how someone can find joy in another's pain....I feel completely the opposite..my joy comes from SHARING it with others....and, sadly, I've come to realize that those who can't come up to YOUR level..will ALWAYS try and drag you down to THEIRS...sending LOVE,LIGHT AND ALL GOOD THINGS TO ANYONE GOING THRU THIS NOW..KEEP CHARGING MY FRIEND..JUSTICE PREVAILS...THE LIGHT ALWAYS WINS❤❤❤⚡️⚡️⚡️
I have often kept Conversation short With some people. Not because I hate them. Because I realized I'm dealing with a narcissist. Staying silent and not saying a lot. If ask a question. Keep your answers simple, yes, no. Narcissist will take the things you say. And use them against you to start an argument. But I can only take so much of the🐂💩 And end up distancing myself from them.
Like too .. i cannot trust telling people where i live r my number address because a guy wanted to spend the night over mine and is a drunken 'abuser' or user ..
They deserve silence and to be in your presence
Why does it really matter? Just cut ties and move on! Makes life so much simpler.
I don't care if someone hates me I don't have to be around them. The ones I get concern about are the ones who gossip lie and do things or make. negative comments about me. I am concerned about the ones who say or do evil things. I learned to LET them GO!!. THIS DOESN'T JUST HAPPEN WITH SO CALLED FRIENDS BUT WITH FAMILY AND RELATIVES.
Yep! Sometimes it's envy and jealousy. I'm not going to stay around nobody like this best believe.
Some times its not always hate . There are people who i choose not to engage because we have different values... I'm truly an advocate of like-mindedness... I don't bother with people that exhibit phony and toxic qualities..I don't hate them because that's a strong word..I just do what I can to avoid them
But are you doing all of these things? One or two is fine.
They may be going through some personal issues. That doesn't mean they hate you.
Hate is when you go out of your way to harm someone else. A lot of things you place as hate, is simply people not wanting to share information with you. Not trusting you does not equate to hate. This is dangerous as it creates an epidemic of idiots that believe that someone else hates them for not sharing every thought with them.
If someone secretly hates me - I dont care. But if someone openly hates me - I would ask for a restraining order through the court. Because hate is a treat. The hater might carry on his hate by acting on it.
I am the same i would rather know that people hate me so I can ignore them and not bother with them.
I move on from unhealthy situations and affirm
I fell blessed to have a friend that does all the opposite things
I don't have or need friends for this very reason. I can sense when people hate me and personally I like it.
My (so called) friend admitted that he has tried to kill me more than once. I started the W5 plus How and it all came together. This is a true serious situation I've dought with.There is no words to explain how it feels. Be VERY CAREFUL who you think is a friend. God bless you all.
I need to know more about that point you bring up because I had it where people hated things of myself that are not bad things . Some people hate the other to even kill them likely becuz you are so different than them in moral goodness as an example ..
Excuse me fellow internet stranger I'm going to need a Reddit style story time please... You (24m) and your friend (26m) lol drop that tea for us. Let us know about some of those warning signs that are hard to see until you're out.
@@Knoboddie I live mostly in out there rural desert town in the US and people here will kill and or by dumping you in middle of summer heat miles out in the desolation ( these are like sinister bad minds that insult nature by thrashing humans becuz they are unhappen devils )
W5 plus How? What is that?
Anyone who secretly hates me do not deserve my time or energy. I leave these people where I find them. ❤
Think we've all experienced someone like this ,it's took me 59 years to spot a fake friend or work colleague, love yourself enough to walk away from anything that you know doesn't feel right your gut feeling will tell you .❤
Yes. Trust your Gut. It’s probably 98 % accurate. I used to be told you think to deep or they didn’t mean it that way. Trust me it’s not always what a person says but their tone(snarky or sarcastic). And also the obvious. (Their actions speak Volumes). Trust that Gut. Especially women
I have the best time with people who have the same interests and have everybody his own money and never ( need to) talk about it, good laugh together and never talk about other people and always right on time.
I dont trust anyone that lies or gaslights me. Especially once that ive confronted them and they lie again. I dont hate them. But im angry and resentful because I cant believe anything else that they say. And i do distance myself because of that. I forgive them from a distance love them but i do not want to stay friends with dishonest people anymore been betrayed one too many times. Id rather live the rest of my life alone than be intentionally lied to about anything.
This is a very sad and insightful answer Jason. Thankyou for sharing
Someone secretly hates me and I don’t care.
Me too😏💁
Same
I’d bet everyone alive has a person who secretly hates him or her. If your people love you, or the hate person say at work can be dealt with by the gray rock method who really cares? Unless the person is a boss, etc. you can simply remove yourself. If you love yourself, your self concept is healthy, you’ll be a happy person. 💔
Ikr.
Then you are aware
My brother once invited me out to lunch. All he cared about was his cell phone or what was on it thanks for pointing this out. Sometimes even a close relative may secretly hate you. Someone Once told me " if someone disrespects you they probably do not like you". Move on.
People never cease to amaze me! I try to walk in love but they don't fool me with their jealous ways! People need to be forgiven! I need to look to the Lord for strength to live in this world! Blessings everyone!🙏💐🌹
Just been confirmed, every friend I have ever had hates me. Every single thing is what my "friends" have always done to me. No one has ever asked me to hang out. And they've only ever been around when I have something. They "borrow" and never give back, and they block my number, and social media accounts, and at least 75% of the time, when they see me afterwards they hit me.
A lot of this could also be that the person distrusts other people.
If you told someone who hates you that you saw this video and figured out they secretly hate you, they might hate you even more for figuring it out and taking away the fun of making you wonder if they do.
Sometimes that little bit mystery can add just the right amount of spice to otherwise ordinary day. And I believe that I am sufficiently qualified to make that statement.
BE CAREFUL WHO YOU TRUST/ YOU BETTER OBSERVE YOUR CIRCLE GROUP OF FRIENDS/ COLLEAGUE/
I have noticed that those who ask questions want fotter to gossip and don't give out their own information because they think you are like them and will gossip about them if you know anything. In other words, they project. Another thing I have noticed is that all contact with these people is more like an obligation to call you more than a delight to hear from you. When I call them I am made to feel I have bothered their busy day.
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These are things I never learned. I may have thought that when people did not interact with me it was because something was wrong or off-putting about me making me not deserving of a good interaction. Thank you VERY MUCH.
Half the people are Narcissists !!!! So you probably know someone who hates you !!!! Dump them !!!!
While this can be true, I do this to everyone, even my friends, as I don't like people knowing my business. I don't let anyone not even my family know about my vulnerability, I build a wall for everyone.
Trust is truly earned. Telling people you don’t know very well any vulnerability can turn into switch and bait and be used against you. I’d keep it super light, identify high conflict pattern people and gray rock. Intimacy is a two way street. The worst enemy is one you thought as a friend and is now smearing your name and throwing in a tiny bit of truth with lies. I’d know someone for years before trusting.
That is truly sad 😪
I do believe that someone hates me. It’s sad. I get nasty texts. Also I had someone lie behind my back. People just don’t understand me and lack compassion.
They are Narcissists !!! Keep away from them !!!!
I know I have a LOT of haters and they can keep on hating. I'm still living my life doing what makes me happy. I don't need anyone's approval. I spend most of my time alone because 99.99% of all people are phony, superficial, passive aggressive, two faced, vindictive. Better to be alone than in the wrong company.
Could you explain how to deal with jealous people.
@@Daisy-oi2jy I cute those kinds out of my life. Depending on how bad they are, yeah.
Whoever is reading this, I pray that whatever you’re going through gets better and whatever you’re battling with makes your situation better as you’re continuing to be a better person each day. I have faith that you’ll turn out great as your circumstances will change. Have a fantastic day! You got this! 🤗💪🏼❤
Thanks. We'll said.
Thank u very much
Thank you
I’m battling a deadly debilitating disease that I CANT stop…If I could have stopped it I would be able to handle anything and I would be living a successful life no matter what obstacles I was faced with.
People who wants you to lose your friends and not have anyone to care about you that makes them happy. Understood!
I have a friend. A very good friend. I'd be very ungrateful if I say she doesn't care about me because she has proved me so many times that she cares. But why do I feel so distant with her. She never asks about my day and never makes a plan to hang out. If i didn't talk to her all the time we would probably become a stranger by now. Some part of me resent her but some part of me are very grateful to have her in my life. Its very complicated but i dont want it to be complicated
Ask her why she never asks any questions about you? I ended a friendship because I felt something was off in a similar way. I felt like a lab rat and not even a human with this person. She always gave me these confused looks and didn’t care about my dark sense of humor or that I even had one. I just felt so objectified and meaningless to her. She even said my boyfriend at that time was someone she wouldn’t think I would be worth being with him because he was essentially better educated and an intellectual- in a different way but basically she said she just didn’t think he would be with someone like me. Weird. I told her everything and she said it was too much and it ended. Oh well.
@@lorgnetteifyWorth considering that s/he might have wanted Your Man for herself .. or himself, as the case may be. Just a thought. Your "friend" have been a poacher.
Welcome to my World!!!
@@tdesq.2463 yes they seemed attracted to each other when they first saw one another. I sensed it but then she later learned he was my boyfriend and backed off.
That's why sometimes, I believe in hate at first sight...
Well there goes that. Meanwhile every time I try to leave they ask me not to. Yet they do every single one of these things.
A friend is someone that puts in effort to encourage you to not become worried over bad results in serious topics but they arent the focus of critical self deprivation. Hatred is really malicious ideas that dont get mentioned and gets into pleasure from sadistic methods.
I feel like some of this comes from anxiety too. Not all of them, obviously.
Yes, always walking on eggshells ..should have my back no matter what, talking about me behind my back, that's fake.. resentful... forgets my anxiety and constant flashbacks of PTSD...that's not love.. sneaky types are liers..
Huh. I guess everyone hates me then. People have always treated me just like this. My father died yesterday and not one person called me to check if I am okay.😪
Well, they can all f*ck off !!!! Sorry about your father, most friends are fake !!! Im 69 yrs old and my best friends are my 2 Dogs, and they are always loyal to me !!!!
Hey, I hope you're hanging in there....I'm sorry for your loss...Be good to yourself..Take time to grieve and fuck all those cockroach assholes..You are on this planet for a reason..Stay Strong because You are.
G'day mate I feel your loss. I hope in time you can mend. XOXO
😢😢 I love you🤗 and I don’t know you, but you deserve to be loved💕
Thank you all for your kind words!🥰💖
This video helped me a lot. I have a lot of secrete haters. I will distance myself from them from now on.
yep ive experienced a lot of these. thus why i have zero friends and zero social skills i decided to shut away from people. some guys in gym i would say hello and all i get in response is a nod or a grunt but then i see them have full chats or go out their way to go speak to someone else so now i just look down and ignore their presents. was seeing a woman few months ago i liked her but as time went on i see i was being used. so yeh alone i shall be.
I used to make excuses for people last time I learned it the hard way if something deep inside of you tells you something isnt right about a person or a situation trust it 100%. I tell myself i wont repeat the same mistake like last time
Some friends disappear cuz the might feel depress or doesn't want to make you feel bad about them
Yeah. End of year, so gonna cut attachments with people who just use me.
I have big list 🤣
@@Yellamiamiauto 😂 same 🫠
Maybe the person has done something and can't be trusted. Hence the reason for not telling the person about what they are doing.
haters make you stronger and they push you forward, so don't worry and enjoy your life
Wrong thry r dangerous as hell !!!!
that’s exhausting that’s not a friend
If someone secretly hates you, that makes them a selfish chickenshit coward, who knows they are inadaquate, and fear being found out.
I can' t say there is anyone I truly hate, there are ppl I don' t care for and one I distaned myself from because of his toxicity.
Some of these signs may just signal that someone feels no affinity for, or mildly dislikes you, or whose time and energy and so availability for a relationship are limited and/or elsewhere committed. If so, "hate" may be "polarized" thinking.
My dad all the way. Because it's him I feel like I am like this to every one els. My dad acts cool and collective and talks with a friendly tone but his words are not friendly and he is always quick to show aggressive attitude. I don't spend time with him because he hurts my feelings. Now this relationship between me and my dad seems to pass to me and my son. It's a paradox how I hate my relationship with my dad and I miss my son all the time.
Omg..my father and my son is the aggressive type personality now..just like my x and my father..
This video is in a way a negative message. It's only a couple of points at the latter part of the video that I agree with. You cannot judge people like that. Some people are just closed. Reserved. Find it difficult to trust people with their feelings. Some people come from traumatic experiences and find it difficult to open up. Many other reasons. Humans are very complex. Nothing to do with hate. Let people that hate you be. Let it be their issue. You concluding what people feel about you by their exterior actions, breeds anxiety which makes you become negative yourself. You attract more negativity that way. Shine your light and stay positive. No judgements. Nothing negative can touch you!!
you're right , but that's why they're only "signs" and I'd bet if someone ticked the box on all these behaviors they truly hate you
It seems like you messed your own point and is in denial with hatred here... Reserved people are that way because they hate betrayal, and when guards are always up, there is that bit of projection of hate towards the other person, thinking that someday, there will be a betrayal scenario. That in itself is hate, but if it's given chance to be brought to the table (a mature conversation) and sift through assumptions and the other provides genuine reassurance, then that is still fair friendship. How the other person reacts toward the hate would reveal more of concerns that could be perceived as hatred.
@@Neopolitan_Illusion thanks for your opinion
Keeping your guard up is not the same as hatred.
I think you have a lot to learn. Something Good always attracts Evil. eg Jesus Christ !!!! And they killed him for it !!!!
I *was* clingy, which helped me stop my clingy behavior along with the pandemic. Now those I’m no longer clinging to see me as difficult. I no longer talk with many of those people. I wasn’t healthy for them & Now they’re No longer healthy for me. I say, I wish them the Best. though.
I think my brother in law hates me secretly. My niece told that he's laughing because I lost my job as a contractual. I can't understand him because he's already a regular employee. He has a car, a stable job... 😒
This is the same as with my sister. She has her own business and loyal clients, meanwhile the last thing she knew about me was a menial job and she had said nasty things about me. I feel like she thinks I’m even disgusting lol
You never know peoples secrets. Mass Murderers turn out to be ordinary people, with ordinary jobs.
I love the channel since valuable information being presented in short and comfortable ways! Thank you very much! ❤
But some of these may be a defense mechanism yo a narcissist, you cannot tell a narcissist your business, you gotta be short with a narcissist , and narcissist are very passive aggressive they say subtle rude remarks that you gotta confront on correct
I never knew it was so intense I've been to sheltered
Life is full of @ssholes that will hate on you if they can. Don't waste any time on the ones that are like that.
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Never stop fighting my dad does, fake, I’m always the first one to text never see each other, failure I deal , drifting away too much,time checking they do , they used to share and make me special , my dad is like that disrespectful ,I dealt with someone clingy ,my dad 13,I feel betrayed, and someone told I will never betray me but they stay away from me and I used to be their #1 to everything now I’m afraid they betrayed that’s my fear
Someone at work checked 11 of these boxes so I stopped talking to them
Dang.
everyone has someone that hates them, it just a part of life, i would still speak to them and smile but not put your self out for them, if your walking about work conciously making sure not to speak to them, your the one whos getting worked up about it.
@@sugargliderdude stopped talking to them outside of work
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I had some people in my life that really loved me. They wanted to be my friends and they would always spend time with me. They would force me to be their friend and force me to spend time with them. I was nice towards these kids because I was too afraid to stand up to them. They saw me as a friend, but I never felt the same. Even though I was always nice back to them, I always secretly hated them. I am happy these people are out of my lives. I will not say their names to avoid hurt feelings
I needed this
Very enlightening thankyou ❤️😊👍🏻
Forcing friendship with someone is toxic and will make them dislike you even more. Leave them alone.
I hate people some times
well done! All of them are true...
You just explained my mums relationship with me. Thanks.
I would like to say #11 is a tricky one if someone has social anxiety, as it very common for them to not be able to make eye contact even though they wish they could.
Thanks . It is not Matter I hope enjoying for what they feel and successful in all way..
You will know it when somebody hates you Cmon it's life
I agree, and I had some people from school who disliked me, but I didn't let it bring me down and still pushed through it .
Then why are you here?
@@ericseiz2014 Because I Hate Trolls
Actually done some of this, I just don't trust said friend who treats me callously.
Yeah mistrust causes some of those
Trust is necessary for even a friendship. Nobody wants your confidences twisted or weaponized against you.
Love them anyway. ❤️
My late mother-in-law could be sweet as pie ( depending on her audience) or so vicious her own mom was scared of her! You never knew when the slightest thing would put her into a rage!
What about a person who was raised to mind their own business. Or someone with a brain injury or a person deeply shy?
Take it as a compliment.
Thank you
They blocked you on social media and are all ways saying they have no privacy
Thank you bless
This reminds me of Cassandra. Now I always knew Cassandra always secretly hated Rapunzel. She refuses to open up about her feelings to Rapunzel and she also sees Rapunzel like a rival. Cassandra is jealous of Rapunzel and she loves watching Rapunzel fail. She sees Rapunzel as an opponent rather then a friend
I prefer to be alone. Hate about what? Not my problem. Others have difficulty.
I don’t care if anyone hates me
Remember, you won't be everyone's cup of tea... I'm sure everyone isn't your cup of tea either, are they??...
all of this was true. i was once hated by my closest prend whom i gave all my shares and possesion even my family trusted her inever feel betray since that board exam i feel like shes jealous beacuase of my high score and now shes pulling me down .. she has a lot of money debt in me but i just ignore it cause i consider her as my fam and lend all my alowances even in jeepney fair smallest snacks but it is true that friends can be ur biggest enemy. my aunt suggest that i will cut all my ties on her cause shes toxic and just give anf never take her debt and other things that she borrow to avoid greatest chaos.. im still hurt but its ok maybe im not great at friendship
so basically my wife hates me?
Probably
Do you throw subjects shared in confidence back at her? Are you treating her like an object or empathizing with her position or at least trying to? Do you carry through with your end of the marriage? Are you trustworthy? Do you still have fun together, say weekend football playoff with friends, date nights, weekend vacations. Listening to one another? If no then possibly a marriage therapist can help?
god damn... that video made me realize i secretly hate everyone and i thought i was hated by others guess im wrong
I can’t say I really learned anything here. It’s all pretty intuitive.
Say you hate someone, how can you feign all this so they can't detect that you hate them?
You forgot to add how such people belittle others' success.
Wow all my friends have most of these traits.😐😑💀
I am a very private person. I don't tell everyone every detail of my life but it does not mean I hate them, I am just not that close to them.
I have to pull some of these on someeone i know. She is a bully. She is a resentful shrew. So i purposely avoid talking to her or being around her at all. I grey rock her every time. She has been deeply rude to me, my husband and many other people i know on many occasions.