I messed up and didn't keep my promise to my son and gave away my sports car to my stepson
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Rest of story: I then did the most regrettable thing I've ever done, I told my son in a fit of rage that "he didn't deserve the car" and that he could call me back if he changed his attitude. After I hung up the phone, I got into a fight with my wife, who stood up for my son. I tried to contact my son a few days afterwards, but I wouldn't get any response. Three weeks later my ex-wife called, furious as hell. My son had apparently graduated from University and I was (in hindsight) not invited by my son. My ex-wife already found it strange that I wasn't there, my son told her there and then what happened and that he wanted to invite me on the day he would come to visit for his graduation. The worst thing is, he was graduating as an automotive service technician and was apparently one of the best in his class. I then realized that I was indeed, a bad father. In those 4 years of not seeing him and all the stress around me I didn't even bother to ask what he was studying. My ex-wife told me that he was heartbroken and felt like he was unwanted unlike my stepson. She started crying on the phone, saying he just wanted to be a mechanic just like you. He apparently wanted to move back and work with me in my shop and take over when I was going to retire. My entire world crumbled up in front of me, I felt and still feel so incredibly stupid for saying those things to him. My ex-wife wouldn't give me his new number and address, seeing he wanted no contact with me ever again. She also told me to never reach out to her ever again. It's been more then a year now, I've had a few fights about it with my wife. My stepson gave the car back and settled for something else if it meant that my son would come back. I've tried getting into contact with him for the last 11 months. Until a few months ago the last thing I found out that he was probably working for some big car manufacturer, but they didn't want give out any information about the people working there. Yesterday I got a package from him, unexpectedly. It didn't come with a letter or return address on it, but I knew it was from him. It was a box with his old Chevrolet toy car, an old picture ripped up of him and me on the hood of the car and a videotape. I watched the videotape, he was probably seven years old at the time, in the video I was fixing a car. I cried halfway through this, because I then knew why he mailed me the tape. I said to him while he was filming it, if he wanted and kept up his grades that the shop could be his one day including my Chevie.
I feel that story to well
Ooh yeah he fucked up big time . I hope the bio son lives the best life without that poor excuse of a dad
Thats beyond mending. Fucked up big time already might as well commit to the new family.
Damn he even had the receipts! Harsh!
Owww yea..u f**kd up..biiiig time!!!!!!
A huge shout out for the Wife for defending the son and the Stepson for rejecting the car
I feel sad for the step son as well, he must have felt really guilty as somehow it would feel like he was also at fault (if I was in his situation I would have) but in reality it was never his fault. All was the dads
The wife is probably rethinking her marriage
@@Cosmic_Radiation68y
@@Cosmic_Radiation68 the wife like the husband probably never knew the kid wanted it
@@lastraven8575the dad knew BECAUSE he was the one who suggested it to his kid. If you have bad memory don’t tell your kids you’ll do something and then don’t.
The worst part is that it’s probably not even about the car. The feeling of abandonment and wanting to make your father proud. His world crumbled around him when he realized his hero is just a man that can’t keep a promise.
I agree and also about how he feels he's been replaced as a son because the stepson has been getting everything he wanted from attention to the car and that feeling is crushing
Wouldn’t the father feel more abandoned since the son is the one who didn’t want to talk to him as much
@@Dabbasverteens are really busy I can understand not talking as much
@@Dabbasverhe had work to do like sch work
well lets not be too unfair here, his son literally told his dad he wanted to stop calling him and focus on school… obviously dad was rubbing it in and made whole situation much worse, but the sone had at least some part in convincing him that he no longer gave a fuck
Giving a Chevelle to a 16 year old was a major mistake.
The fact that he forgot this massive promise he made AND views his step son as not his "real" son tells me this guy probably isn't a great dad to EITHER kid.
Massive promise? Many parents often make these promises as just one off things to get their kids to do well in school, and even if it wasn’t one of those things,The kid cut contact, and then expects him to remember a promise from over 2 decades ago?
@@anugget3592he expected the dad to remember and then he cut contact he didn’t cut contact and then expect his dad to remember
Yep
@@anugget3592My Dad always tells me not to make promises you can't keep or fulfill. My dad fulfilled a promise he made more than 15 years ago that I did not even remember he made. Promises are sacred. You don't just joke with it. If I was the one that made a promise I would never forget till I fulfill it. If I know I'll forget then I'll write it down or tell the person that I need to be reminded
I just can't believe OP texted him a picture. That felt very much like rubbing it in "this is what you could've had if you'd stayed with me". I feel horrible for both sons, frankly. Dad REALLY screwed this all up.
That's what I was thinking. Why text him a pic of the car, like "look at what I'm giving your stepbrother". That seems very pointed.
He forgot though? How is that the dad fault, wasn't the kid seven when the promise was made?@@Mimi-hn6iv
@@LegitWolkethey're talking about the text message, not the mail.
@@themimic7831 what mail??
@@thepanglossian9111 there is update, where son sent hsi dather a box, i which wede some old stuff, pictures of them when he was young on his fathers car and a video tape
Sounds like that promise was one of the things that guided his childhood, something that guided his decisions through his life, and you broke it. I'm sorry to hear about this situation with your son.
Why is this also copied and pasted-
@@theangrypizza you mean thought out?
@@Emilysjohnson no I mean it’s a copy on the original comment of the reddit post
This is not the dude, he just takes stories Not being rude to him though it’s very good content
I'm not sorry. The dude doesn't deserve to be the guys father anymore and get zero sympathy from me. As soon as the kid said that he was promised the car, the guy should have apologised profusely and fixed that mistake. He's a POS.
Can we also note how he said he pretty much only saw his bio son when he made the effort to come to his shop cause thats what it sounded lile
Literally
He didn't even try from his side to meet up or talk with his bio son...
For the son, it was a promise that changed his life. For OP, it was just another Wednesday...
That’s what I’m saying the kid did not convey his intentions at all
@@user-ly8yn4uo6mImagine only getting your own Father's attention when you make the effort to go out and see him, barely hearing from him if you don't reach out then having to move with your mum because she is your primary caregiver, losing the opportunity to make the journey to see your dad in his shop like you used to. Only getting calls from the same father once a while and eventually they stop because you did not "convey your feelings" even after trying to show interest when you had a chance. Clearly the Father isn't some stranger and literally contributed to making him. I would expect my dad to see that I made an effort. The man barely paid attention even when the son made an effort to visit him at the shop. I would pull away too
Why do parents think it’s the responsibility of the child to reach out? Why do they think “I can’t reach him on the phone, guess I can say I tried 🤷🏻”? Show up for your damn kids!!!
Uhh.. idk it’s both?
No it’s not I was 6 and my dad told me that sh*t it’s not the child’s responsibility to call the parents it’s theirs
The son specificky askef him to stop reaching out because he had to focuse on school..
@@mayonakaexpress9382So he did it? He's literally going to school to take over his dad's business and his father just forgot that he loved his son and he should try to have a relationship with him? I text my extra extended family more than he saw his firstborn. He has the time and money to see him he was actually going to visit around the time his first son graduated. I knew he was going to be a shithead from the real son stepson shit.
@@JohnDoe-vw4zfno the son abonded his dad and wanted a free buisnies
he dedicated everything in his life to taking over the garage after you retires and you never even asked what he was studying. how is that even possible.
Actually this is simple. After you haven't seen someone for a long time and the calls stop coming or being answered, you eventually stop trying, as it seems like they don't want to talk to you or see you. Eventually, life takes you away from the situation almost entirely. Sometimes you merge back to it just fine but sometimes it ends like this.
@@roninfletcher1363what are you even yapping about the only reason he stopped calling his dad what's because he had to focus on school and he only started ignoring his dad's phone calls after he f'd up and from how the story is being told it sounds like he never even made an effort to call his son
Because he honestly didn't care about his sons interest
@@roninfletcher1363that would be valid if that wasn't HIS CHILD
@@roninfletcher1363Daddy doesn't know how to dial a phone number now? Daddy can't visit for the important things. Son has to visit him for attention. Sad part is and it's been proven. Once men start another family they begin to put in less effort with the old one. You can try to forgive deadbeats but the rest of us won't. No matter how you look at it. Him sending the picture was an insult.
This makes me sad. Typical cliché of parent forgetting original family due to break up. You're the parent, its your job to keep communication up. Always keep your promises to your children.
Yeah that guy is definitely a lousy father . As a man who lives in New York and my son lives in South Korea with his mother how do I find time every few months to travel to the other side of the world to spend time with my child. That's because I'm not a lousy father this guy definitely is.
And I am sure tou talk on the phone weekly
It’s like he views the boys according to who their mom is. Wife’s son vs ex Wife’s son. After the divorce, how is his biological son not the most important person to him?
Does an adopted child receive less love than a biological child / sibling? So if I have a biological son, then adopt a son, shouldn't they both have my equal love?
@@eric9095 at the time of the divorce, the current wife and her son would not have been in the picture...unless he was dating her while married or during the divorce...and yes blood would "receive more love". I'm with you, treat them the same as best as possible, but at the end of the day, the adopted person has 2 whole parents out there in the world who may return some day to provide love/support. My blood, however, has only me and his mother.
@@houtexflex I completely understand the difference in love when you partner with someone who has an adult child or even halfway grown like 10+ years old. You missed that kid being a baby, and infant a toddler and the whole various stages of fatherhood. That makes total sense to me, I have a step daughter myself, I met her for the first time when she was 17, and while our relationship is strong, it’s not the same as my son who is 6 months old. (Huge age gap I know). So I get that when the step kid is older it’s not the same experience. But if you have a step child that was a toddler or baby, the love should be dang near close to equal.
@@eric9095 this is different that one son has a real dad. His ex's son was HIS real biological son.
@@eric9095yes, of course they do. Blood always trumps proximity.
u literally had the boomers dream for a son. a son who wanted to grow up be just like you and take over your business when u retired. U had the perfect son and you drove him away faster than your chevelle ever could.
Not only that, but he gave that BEAUTIFUL car to a sixteen year old who appeared to not even know how cool it was.. kid gave it back when he found out how much his brother wanted it. That 16 year old was mature as fuck though! I'd say the dad should be proud, but... I don't think he even notices his kids at this point.
Except who says he wanted his son to work for/with him? Was the plan to just turn up one day and say "dad I'm here to work give me your car?"
@@lastraven8575umm . The dad did in the video to his son when he was 7 ?
@@lastraven8575to have your son have the same passion as you for something and wanting to be able be like you is any fathers dream
@@lastraven8575Did you not read the full story? The dad told him if he works hard he can take over the shop and have the car. When the bio son was 7, that's why the son studied his ass off to become top of his graduating class. Just so he can keep his promise to his dad. But the dad didn't even pay attention to his son.
It shouldn’t be just your son’s responsibility to keep in contact with you, it goes both ways
Betrayal from family is one of the strongest emotions a human can feel.
After reading the full story the dad is more then just a fuck up. He's a prime example of why some people dont deserve children
You are just dilusional, school can't take away 100% of your time
Well i wouldnt go that far. Bro fucked up but hes not morally a bad person.
@@gummybearvitamins1211yeah
Relax, he isn't undeserving of kids. He probably didn't even remember or think it through when giving away his car to his 16 year old son like it was an honest mistake.
@@FizzyFriesmistake with the car, sure. But what he said after was the final straw it seems
How do you spend four years supposedly having a relationship with your son never even knowing what he was majoring in? Sounds like you haven't had a relationship in a while, you just didn't care enough to notice
The same way the son failed to mentioned why he was going to school? or how he never mentioned to his dad outside of 10 yrs old that he always wanted his car? Or how he never told his dad why he wasn't reaching out more when he sad "he was working on his studies"?
@@eliteayanokoji8637 Most surely because he wanted to "suprise" with him when he asks... and since he never did he probably forgot it cause stress on exams and learning in general
@@funfungerman8401 that's not how the father saw it. He saw it as his son moving on without him The same way the son felt betrayed despite never really telling him outside of 10. Their both equally at fault
@@eliteayanokoji8637 the dad should still at least ask
@@howamisupposedtoknow you could make the same point for the son talking to him about it
The wife and stepson have better sense than this guy. What a jerk!
he wanted to focus on school bc of what YOU said.
Tell me what you said to someone 8 years ago in a single sentence they haven't brought up since
The son actually graduated college, top of his class as an auto tech and had wanted to move to op and work for him in hopes of eventually taking over his shop when op retires. OP wasn't invited and the son sent him a box with a bunch of his old toy cars and a home movie of op and his son when he was 8 where he promised to give him the car.
My mom moved a few states away with me and my dad made the 8 hour drive every month to come see me. This dad didn’t try hard enough, and the son felt it.
Texting him a picture is an absurd misstep. "Look at this awesome thing i did for someone who isn't my real son!" That's what any son would feel like.
It's like that Cat's in the Cradle song. First the dad never has time for the son, and then the son never has any time for the dad. The screwup wasn't giving away the car to the wrong person (though giving such a nice old car to a 16yr old is it's own kind of screwup), it was in not seeing more of your son over the years. He graduated school, and you never had asked what his major was? How low was he on your priorities list? The car isn't the problem, the car is the straw that broke the camel's back.
You just copied and pasted this 😭
@@theangrypizza from where?!?!
@@potatoperson1860it’s a straight rip from the comment section of the original post
That's what I feel is not getting enough attention in this situation. OP says "lots of things were said", what else was he saying? In what other ways has he (over the years) disappointed his son and communicated that he just wasn't as important. Not asking about his major for 4 years does not stand by itself. What all else was OP not interested in? And the son did not cut off contact this completely only for one broken promise. No matter how big a promise it was. This was clearly the (quite heavy) straw that broke the camel's back. I'm not sure I want OP to find his son. I can imagine that his son is much happier being free of trying to impress someone who doesn't care enough to notice.
But the son and the mother never bothered to tell him any of this themselves they assumed he remembered a random conversation that was NEVER brought up again. And yeah the dad never asked but if I was studying something to work with my dad I'd sure as hell tell him even if only to ask for help for concepts
Im close to tears. If i was his son i wouldn't want the car or any contact with my dad at all.
Seems like his son with his ex wife was never with his dad, if he was never with his dad why does he deserve his dads stuff
@@SpicyCheeseAltHistory depends on who didn't want to make contact
@@Druiwe the sons mum it sounds to me since she moved her and his son further away
@@SpicyCheeseAltHistory reading the full story they moved away to study to be a mechanic... Just like his dad and to make him proud
no bc this made me tear up it’s such a horrible story
even without the rest of the story he says he only saw his son when the child would make an effort to see him at his job. the man was working so probably didn’t talk to his son much during that time. he then wonders why phone calls stopped coming in wow.
Kids will remember every promise youve ever made to them. As an adult we're so used to broken promises we forget
Part of me feels like this was intentional because he sent a picture of the car with his step-son. Like who have you ever heard of sending pictures of gifts they gave one child to another.
Never... Never ever ever. And I've even got an autistic little brother who gets what he wants all the time! Mom is good enough to feel bad every Christmas "Ur not getting as much as ur brother this year, but-" and all that. She cares enough to feel bad... That's all I need to see to be thankful to have her.❤️ Me n my lil sister are grown now, but STILL every year we get small stuff. If my dad did this, I wouldn't believe it was real. This is almost cartoonishly cruel....
Actually yeah because people show off parties and gifts all the time
My ex husband went to DisneyWorld with his then gf(now wife) and sent our daughters pictures of them there. When I confronted him he said they had already been to DisneyWorld prior with myself and my parents like they wouldn't have wanted to go again with him. Not only that his gf said they can do things without the kids as if the girls don't live with me full time and may only see them once or twice a month. To be clear, I couldn't care less that they went but why would you send pictures of yourself in a place you know your kids want to be to your kids. He did not have to make it known he'd gone. I had to console my very confused daughters. He also got married in Hawaii and did not invite my daughters to the wedding or even put them in the ceremony. He does these types of things a lot but they are not babies anymore, they see him as he is and want very little to do with him these days.
Fr. It's not even like the bio son just so happened to see it on Instagram or something. But to have your father personally text you the picture is another level of fked up.
Eeeexactly.
It was an asshole move to text his son the photo to begin with. Like why? They clearly have no sibling relationship. ‘Hey son! Here’s a photo of my new son’s sweet sixteen!’ The father clearly didn’t ever gift his blood son any car at all, or the Chevy would have been brought up then. Basically rubbed it in his face, then got mad his son was upset. Even if he didn’t remember that specific promise, it was a dick move. But the kid had a favorite toy of it too! And the dad didn’t remember either of those things. Appalling treatment.
My heart is breaking for his son all he wanted was to be like his dad and made him proud and his dad couldn’t even bother to ask what he was studying
the son would never forget this ever in his life
As sad as this is and as much of OPs fault.. at least he understands what he did and where he started screwing up. A lot of people would have called the son an entitled brat and never acknowledged their own faults.
He still did it though, an admission of fault does not absolve the fault nor make any less worse in fact it's the very least a person can do
I mean, yes but that doesn't really fix anything.
No, we would understand that the mother turned the child against the father. She even moved away knowing that the father/son bond would become even weaker. Both parents are the issue, when you have children, you no longer get to do what you want, you do what's best for the children.
@@user-hz7ti2dz3k or she moved away because of opportunity and nothing else and so what is he a pussy he cant walk over woman trying to take away his own flesh and blood? would he let a predator take away his child to?
@pricefieldx he's saying at least the man recognized his fault. Not that it fixes it. Don't add context that didn't exist then argue it. 😊
Had a grandfather who did car photography all throughout his life lots of incredible stuff. He knew alot of these big name people well so he had a pretty sweet car collection. Similar situation but the grandfather passed and my grandmother sold everything besides the 69 Shelby fastback. When she passed it was given to my 65 year old child molester uncle who sold it for pennies on the dollar. Last similar condition car sold for 720k i just wanted a peice of my cool grandpa to hold on to.
Blood ain’t shi1, and that’s the truth
I'm so sorry to hear that, it's truly awful. I'm sure he would be proud of you and your life.
That sounds genuinely infuriating
That’s horrible. Putting someone who isn’t yours before your real child
This is the penny drop that most dads don't feel. Props to him for realising, shame on him for doing it in the first place, I hope it's a good learning experience for the dad, maybe he'll grow some balls and keep to his word while opening his eyes to what happens around him. If the son ever reads this message, you'll be fine brother, just stop looking up to other people, they always disappoint when it really matters
Horrible person does something awful and regrets it. Good. I hope you respect your sons wishes and stop trying to contact him anyway. Never understood why people hear "never contact me again" and immediately become stalkers trying to get in contact. Leave the boy alone you've done enough damage
Real af
The ex-wife told him to vever contact her again. The son is just ghosting him. He's not even worth being told to not contact his son.
@Levithos they both at separate points in the story say they want non-contact the ex says never talk to me again (which he obviously does anyway since "we still fight years later" and the son "wants nothing to do with" him I don't know about you but that's a pretty clear don't contact me (which he again doesn't respect) he even gets a "destroyed hopes and dreams" box with specifically no return adresss. *thats DEFINITELY a "don't contact me" moment* but he doesn't respect those wishes. He's a terrible person and a boundary crossing jerk. When someone doesn't want you to contact them. *DON'T*
@@thunderstruck206it’s said he was fighting with his current wife about it because she sided with the son, not fighting with the ex wife. i agree with everything else tho
When I was 3 my dad bought a 62 chevy pick up from my uncle. I remember the day we brought it home. When he would come home from work I'd meet him at the end of the block and ride home on the step of the bed. He taught me how to drive a standard transmission in that truck. I spent countless hours in my teens working on that truck. Everyone that knew me knew I loved that truck. He sold it after 30 years. I will never forgive him. There was no reason to sell it. Im convinced he did it just to hurt me and I still hate him for it.
Sound like you think it belonged to you spoiled much
Respect for the stepson to return the car and his mother for standing up to OP.
It sounds like he doesn't feel like he's being cared for as much as the other son. That promise obviously meant a lot to him. This is the time for the dad to sit and listen to how his son is feeling and then respond.
Except that that train already left the son wont talk he will probably never wanna get close or even listen to that fool of a father he had his chance but decided to care for a child that wasnt even his and literally pissed in the blood of his own.
@demonsluger Yeah, I think the father is too ignorant to want to make that connection they probably just will give up on the situation, which may be for the best in the end.
@@EthicalMythsThe father wanted to reconnect, but he hurt the son by calling him undeserving after he spent his whole life studying and working hard to be his successor and work with him. The dad spit on the son’s hard work and gave away his dream car to his stepson on a whim. The son blocked him out for a year at the time of posting and it’ll probably stay that way forever. The son should now work hard to open up his own business and start a family without the dad in the picture.
Lousy father indeed Good on the son for going no contact and building his own life
Its the current wife sticking up for the son i knew how badly he screwed up
Yeah, kids remember those promises; make them only seriously.
"A man is his word a you're only as strong as your mentality and you're only as honest as your actions"- my grandfather
True words
Son was right. Dad was lousy and didnt care about his real son
The kid diden’t care abt the dad only the car hes a greedy little shit and chose his mom and moved across the country then he expects the car when he is not even deserving of it
‼️My opinion only‼️ That’s so fucked up on the father’s part he should’ve stayed in contact with his son should’ve tried to be there more and should’ve talked to him enough to know what he was studying! And then to top it all off the promise that me gave to his son that his son literally lived off of was broken. I would be so ashamed if I was that boys dad because I would have failed him completely
I mean... The son is right 😂 don't make a promise if you aint gonna keep it
Bro you know how long again that was
@@user-ly8yn4uo6m idc if the son can remember it so can he, also that's HIS son vs a step child. Even if I loved my step child Imma ask MY child first if they want something. Even if I forget the promise I made.
As a car guy, I get it, j agree with the kid
The dad fucked up, it’s not ENTIRELY his fault but it’s mostly his fault
Yes, it absolutely is entirely his fault, how is it not?
@@halfandhalfbastard8033 both were busy and op didn't realize how big he fed up it wasn't done intentionally that's why op fucked up
100% that POS father's fault
Wrong! Completely his fault! He's an adult!
“Both were busy” they’re not dating or random adults my guy. That’s a father, he literally didn’t even bother asking what his son majored in, FOR 4 YEARS. If he would have known that maybe his memory could have been jogged a bit. I know he didn’t do it on purpose but most bad fathers don’t either.
I couldn't imagine being in OP's shoes, the son has every right to be mad at OP
That happened to me my dad had this really nice 1992 Honda Accord and me and him worked on it all the time when I was growing up and I was 14 my dad committed suicide and my aunt basically took the car and paid me off for it two days after his rosary, it’s been four years and I don’t talk to his side of the family anymore because they just screwed me over
Pretty sure it was not even about the car or the shop but the promise that you made and broke...
My dad never helped me with shit. However my step siblings got all the help they ever wanted
That’s messed up, makes sense tho cause the step son was there more but bro did his actual son dirty
What a sad story , I feel bad for the son, I can’t imagine being crushed like that. I hope one day you can fix it. That boy loved and looked up to you despite your absence .
Wow I'm sure he was dreaming about that car since he was 10 I hate parents that forget the promise they made for their children
Oh, look, a dead beat father who can't keep his promises.
The real son is right. The dad is a lazy pos. He put little to no effort in his relationship with his flesh and blood son, and the one thing they could connect on he gave away to his new wife’s kid like it meant nothing because it did mean nothing to him. Self, thoughtless, absentee father doesn’t deserve either kid, but especially doesn’t deserve his biological son.
i would never forgive my dad if he did this. horrible father no matter if it was a mistake or not. the "dad" deserves no contact from his son. hope he never talks to him again
That one promise was his all and the dad just crushed it
Broke that kids heart g😕
And that's when we should all say for the dad:"Womp womp".
Nah the kid
Should have never sent that picture LOL
The Chevelle isn't a sports car. It's a muscle car
Lousy father that didn’t care to think about his actual son is exactly what he is
Because he didn’t remember a promise to a 10 year old boy?😂😂😂. Also are you a female?
@@user-ly8yn4uo6mwhat is bro plotting
This is one time where the op is in the wrong
Nah a promise between father and son is more than just a promise its a bond
YOU KNOW WHATS EVEN MORE EFDED UP??? YOU DIDN'T KNOW WHAT TOUR SON WAS STUDYING?? SO WHO PAID FOR HOS SCHOOL? YOU SHOULDN'T BE THE ONE DOING IT BUT YOU CLEARLY DONT CAUSE YOU DIDN'T EVEN KNOW WHAT HE DID IN SCHOOL .WEIRD ASL DAD
Disgraceful, he was kinda right to call you a lousy father
He is correct, as a son with a father that left my mother when I was a child. He has another family. I am older now and have my own family but when I was a teen He would call me to tell me he bought 4-wheelers foe his other kids and modified them for the kids, while I was working to buy my own and fix it up and he knew I wanted one so bad so I can enter competitions. It felt like he threw it in my face and I told him how I felt about it. He seemed like it didn't bother him. Now his oldest son is in prison amd the younger one is 26 years old and still lives with him amd wife still going out and partying and me. Well me I have 2 kids and one on the way and I make 6 figures and have a big beautiful home and a great career. I am not bosting about my life but God did bless me for all the pain I had gone through as a childless father. I couldn't be anymore happier for my boys and raising them the right way and being there every step.
The kid giving up the car for the bio son was a real W. God bless him. I’m glad the dad recognizes his mistake. The bio son must feel heartbroken.
Dads are dumb. They’re always doing this. They treat their step kids better than their own all the time just because they want to be liked by their step kids. Weak!
fucked up that someone would do this. My grandparents have been making life long promises since day one and haven't kept one of them
That’s practically my family,
It’s true what they say. When there’s a stepmother, there will be a stepfather. The kids from the exwife get pushed to the side. 😔
My dad passed down his Evo 7 to me as my first car which was pretty insane having an Evo 7 as your first car lol. Me and him worked on it together and had it running around 520 whp after many mistakes along the way lol. Unfortunately it was t boned and totaled 4 months before my dad passed away. Currently working towards buying another Evo 7 and continuing our goal of 800 whp. Love you dad 🙏
YES,its not about the car but the abandonment you just basically said "I like my step son more so i gave him the thing you wanted when your 10 years old"
If this guy is saying these comments you broke your son's heart. I don't know how you come back from that. You need to figure something out. You need to take back the gift from your step. Son and have a conversation with him. Because you just broke the trust with your biological child. I know it sucks that you're going to have to do that. But there's no other way for you to fix the relationship between your biological son. You're gonna ruin too good relationships. Because now you're in that situation, you are a c*****, dad.
If you have a kid, wifey, or GF, you need to write down every commitment or promise you make in a notebook and keep it. Always keep your promises.
That's why as a parent you have to memorize your promises and be sure not to dash your children's hopes to pieces
You’re a horrible father. it seems like you abandoned your son years ago and did nothing for your relationship with him at all
That’s going to far because he didn’t remember a promise he made to a 10 year old boy?
@@user-ly8yn4uo6mhe didn’t ask his son what he wanted to do with his life or what he was in school for, ever. That’s some real deadbeat shit. His employees definitely asked him too. No way they wouldn’t ask “your son in college? What he studying?” And OP for at least 4 years says “idfk I got a new son now”
@@Coolbeans554 I don’t really remember this but I’m pretty sure the son told the dad to stop contacting him so lack of communication on both sides
I think it was an accident on the fathers part the son has a right to be upset but devaluing whatever his father did for him up till then because of this is too far
What exactly did he do for his son?
except he didnt do shit he cared for another child
He didnt do shit lmao
Growing up, my father rarely ever kept any of his promises.
If anyone tries to blame the son because he didn't stayed in contact with the dad during his schooling, then they're insane.
You messed up big time bud but he is also overreacting
It seems like not much is diffrent, only that the 'father' now notices that his son is missing
The stories where people seem to show genuine remorse for there actions always hit different.
It's the father's job to maintain contact with his child, not the child's job.
U gotta give it to ur real son man
The son is not owed the car. Lack of gratitude.
Communication is a two way street. Can’t expect someone to always reach out if you don’t either
He may be a mechanic, but there are some things you can’t just fix.
Yeah terrible father and what the son said is spot on. Don't expect forgiveness the bitterness will never go away even if he partially does.
Yes, the dad screwed up here. How do you just “call” your own son, when it’s so easy to make a visit. Not keeping up with communication was the dad’s choice. Also, you never make promises you can’t keep.
Bro broke a big ass promise and expected everything to be sunshine and rainbows
My old man did this to me and my sister, he played us off eachother promising an old suped up 350 we worked on, then he secretly promised it to my sister, who told me laughing because we know his games. He even tried to convince my best friend that he would if we worked harder or some bullshit. Neither of us took the bait knowing full well it would never be either of ours because... We have both been working since we were 14. We are hard workers hes just a fuckin ahole for a father who knows next to nothing about either of us. Haven't spoken in almost 5 years now and I feel nothing for the man. I nearly went into mechanics solely because of him knowing totally that because of him I Hate working on cars.
That’s so heartbreaking for the son. All he wanted to do was make his father proud and continue his legacy, the best thing a son can do to honor his father and he just betrayed him at the end. It really be your own
For those that dont understand, its not just a car, its the memories with the car
As a father, as a human being, as a young man with hopes and dreams of my own, I CANNOT comprehend how you could continuously fuck up so badly. I mean good lord. Talk about dense. I hope they can reconcile in time. That young man’s passion is fueled by anger and feelings of betrayal, but that burns out and eventually all you’re left with is wasted time and a lot of missed conversations. I had an amazing relationship with my father and he passed recently. I’d give damn near anything to be able to talk to him again. Hope they don’t let too much time go to waste between them. Personally I’d rather have reconciliation than resentment.
As someone who has a father like this…it hits but I don’t care anymore I could take his ass to court any day and win bigger than divorce settlement
He had a perfect life . A great ex-wife , a son who looked up to him , a step -son who he way more sincere than him , and a wife who is so wise , but the only problem is him . He probably did'nt deserve any of them
Brooo you completely and utterly destroyed your sons heart.
I can imagine the heartbreak. I'm a enthusiast too...cars can be a legacy, a tangible memory of someone. Of the good times. That poor boy...