How Pornography Distorts Intimate Relationships - Bret Weinstein
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In this video we examine the impact of pornography on romance, intimacy and social development. There has been a sharp decline in relationship satisfaction and partnerships in general. Many young people are opting out all together. This is due to many factors, but a primary cause is the exposure to graphic, hyper-stimulating, taboo material found on the internet.
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I enjoyed this format very much. However , all of your stuff is very good. 👍🏼 Thanks!!!
If you want to see where the problem lies look no further than the dudes attacking me bc I have an opinion on your video. 😘
What is the painting at 2:42 ?
I enjoyed the blend of your animation and the podcast recording. The animations seemed faster. Keep it up!
I think it was a good mix between animations and the real podcast! Awesome work and keep it up 🙏
The problem is “it” is basically a drug and that when you start viewing it’s so hard to quit even when you know it’s bad. 2024 is the year I’m going to try and stop, and abstain from it. We can do this boys
It's even harder when you've been doing it since you were 12. Luckily I have a decent amount of time "sober" from porn that I've lost count of the days.
Just demeaning women.
I agree its like a drug but its NOT a matter of "just say no". Just look how well that "worked" regarding drugs. Sure, you can always personally do that but, there is no avoiding its consequences entirely for most ppl most of the time. We'll do anything but just admit to our own damn selves that despite ANY & ALL laws, the "illegal" drug trade IS a significant proportion of the global economy & therefore isn't going anywhere, EVER. The same is true here. The ONLY optimal solution in ALL such cases is acceptance that it exists, & maximizing EDU about it & help resources & such. Like Bret, I am surprised that this conversation hasn't already begun, far & wide that is. The old "Us Vs. Them" distraction is still working like a champ.
@@realcygnus it Can go away. Who is it Good for? No one.
@@slasheztech5390 sad
The most dangerous part of what's going on is that we're not talking about it. Discussions like this one are helpful. Thank you for covering this issue.
The other issue is if you do try to talk about it, you’re a prude, sexist, a member of the patriarchy, etc.. People have been pushing for sexual liberation and acceptance and look where it’s getting us… a large spike in children consuming porn. It’s really eroding the concept of healthy relationships and has also facilitated the rise of hookup culture. Few people even seem to know what a healthy relationship looks like anymore.
Most critiques of porn are the Christian "SEX IS OF THE DEVIL" pseudo-moralistic posturing. We need to understand that what's at fault here isn't the sexy part; it's that it's commodified. Blames social alienation, capitalist hyperindividualism, or the continued collapse of the inadequate "traditional" social order, it's a problem we don't have a solution to.
No the most dangerous part is men will be 100% of the blame placed on them
Porn is popular, I've heard it is estimated 20%-70% of the internet bandwidth worldwide is porn consumption. So regardless of the atheticism-based opinions in this thread, a large percentage of the population worldwide consumes porn material regularly.
@@DanCook75044 that's huge variance. But yea ppl are hungry they will eat McDonalds if it's all they can afford.
I’m currently with a man who actually doesn’t watch porn and the difference between him and all my exes is STAGGERING. No guy I’ve ever been with compares to him as a romantic and sexual partner. I forgot what it felt like to be deeply desired until I met him. I also forgot that sex is meant to bond couples or for procreation… not a mechanistic way to just get off. I wish my younger self knew that men like him exist, so I wouldn’t have wasted time on men who claimed that porn was “normal”
Thank you so much for sharing this! It compares to my own experience as a male person very well. When I used to watch porn (I would call myself addicted back then) sex with a woman would just feel like I was jerking off with another person. It felt like a means to an end - the purpose was the finish, the high. Since I stopped watching porn and since I am with my girlfriend I really experience 'divine' sex. It feels so healthy, so mindful, so full of love & compassion. I never want to go back to how it was before! ☺️
Nice and god bless 😊
Men that don’t watch porn are a GODSEND
I wish... I reject every man who watch porn and I'm single (I'm 22). I'm afraid I'm gonna be forever alone 😢. You gave me hope ❤.
@@xdlol59 you will be alone. Porn is normal. It’s about moderation. Y’all are just weirdos who need something to be upset about.
I work in a high school with students who are at risk of dropping out, and I’ve definitely noticed a lot of these cultural shifts that have happened in how people are relating to one another, and even themselves. A couple of weeks ago a student was preparing for finals. She became frustrated and was like “whatever, I’m just going to become a stripper.” I mean no disrespect to people in that profession, but I’m worried that young women feel that is where all of their worth lies. I’m nearly 10 years older than most of the students I work with, and I was definitely taught to be well rounded and apply myself in school, sports, and other activities. But a lot of the teenagers I work with are getting the message that those things don’t matter. With so much emphasis being on social media and one of the top careers young people aspire towards being an influencer, a lot of them are getting the message that what matters most is how they look and what their online presence reflects. I see all of the students as multifaceted individuals who are capable of more than selling products- or themselves- online. More messages like the ones reflected in this video need to be online to reinforce that. So, thank you for this content! And to all of the gen z people who might see this post, I want you to know that you are so much more than your appearance , and you deserve love and genuine human connection.
I heard a story recently about a woman, who had been in an 7 year relationship, and got out with a deep fear of men. Why? Because she admitted she felt "used like a wh0re". I take this to be an extreme case for a general principle in the modern world; use each other people for your own benefit. We need to take a new direction.
I mean if you see how much money women do with things like onlyfans or similar plattforms, i really can understand why young people think that way. You just need to be good looking or beeing good at doing make up to earn tons of money. And the best thing: you dont need any qualification. You can be as unintelligent as something, but it will still be easy money without much effort.
@@alexanderjanke1538 Exactly - FAR more money than a man working hard after years of gaining qualifications could get. So why wouldn't she.
@@hunchanchoc8418 Because you sells her "worth"? Women fight for equality and against getting sexualized and then there are these women that just give a sh!t about that and objectify themselfs better then any men could do. All those thirst traps and more. I think you get me wrong. I dont support onlyfans women. I dont know which one i "hate" more. The women doing onlyfans, or the hard working men spending their money on them for some worthless photos
I see your point but that was a thing when I was in highschool, 10 years ago. Life is too easy and people lost the point. Shame would fix it, but people over here tend to go overboard with that stuff. Like sex has nothing to do with sex. Who knew? Lots of people! They just don't talk about it, and for good reason. Sex is the kind of thing you can teach yourself. But you need to take a detached view on it. Like get away from it. People really suck. I don't blame them. There's something different about the world, and it has to do with our gut.
Let's talk about how fantasy in general distorts intimate relationships. Sit coms, soap operas, rom coms. People model their relationships subconsciously as if they are in a TV show or movie.
Agreed.
I agree with you there. I've found so many people expect real sex and real relationships to be just like they see in movies or "other media". That's not how it is at all in real life.
very good point that has been on my mind a lot lately. Everything from Hallmark shows to all the series that are now on Netflix like Yellowstone or whatever. These are definitely life sucking fantasy lands that people don't seem to be be aware of at all.
This is deflection.
Disney has so much to answer for. On top of relationship dismorphia but also anthropomorphism.
i’m a woman and i discovered porn by accident when i was 8 years old. it ruined a lot of my childhood for me. completely changed who i am and my sense of self. i attribute a lot of my mental health issues to my early porn addiction.
Girl same 😭
I understand, I became addicted & it ruined my life. Porn is a terrible thing.
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You aren’t alone thank you for speaking up
It’s been studied that being exposed to porn at a very early age has the same effect on your brain as being molested
As a 20 year old guy, I grew up as the guinea pig for social media apps. The last few years I have constantly wished that I never joined these apps and think about what life would be like without them. Crazy thing also is that I’m certain 90% of people between the ages of 25-18 wish the same thing as well. This video is the turning point for me, and just motivated to delete every social media page from my phone. Thank you guys for spreading positivity and hope for the world.
Way to go dude! I did the same thing a few weeks ago and I haven't missed them a bit! I highly recommend telling friends about it and trying to get other people on board. It's been very helpful to me at least. Great choice! I hope you enjoy all your new free time
Very clever! All the best to you 😊
good on you bro. Im about to turn 24 and feel the same way--grown a healthy distain for media and tech companies that use people as products.
Delete it all. I did it years ago man. Only have Facebook to connect to jobs and make money. Nothing else
I deleted my instagram and just completely got off of it for about 3-4 months now. It's been pretty great. The ppl who care about me and know me have my info, and they will reach out, and they do. And I reach out to them as well. never did the porn things, tho, felt weird watching two ppl get it on like a peeping tom, and watching someone else get railed does nothing for me
It's not just that your artwork is so cleverly thought out and executed, what makes you stand out is that you are able to draw so quickly!
I doubt they’re drawn on the video, he doesn’t change pens despite the many colors. It’s probably predrawn and then edited to slowly appear, or some sort of white layer is wiped off. You seem them wipe off the board to let the drawing appear sometimes :) It’d be incredibly impressive to draw with no guidelines or structure as a sketch too, all while never erasing ^_^
And on my screen too!
I used to think watching porn was harmless. It's not, it's self destructive, and destructive to humanity.
Whats made to be thought of as porn continues human slavery. Should humans be making more humans to enslave (when theyre not forced to as is required)? Do you/others act…like they want to continue [current society]?
Me too
for most of my life (im 32) i also thought it was harmless. until 2 years ago when i tried to have a romantic relationship with someone who was secretly addicted to it. although im still not sure if he realizes how addicted to it he was. finding podcasts and interviews with psychologists who study sex addiction has helped me to understand the addiction better and not be so angry at my ex . i found hundreds of forums from men and women whos partners were also addicted to sex and porn which helped me not feel so alone. the destruction of watching porn is real and scary af. i wish more people *openly* talked about it and would advocate against it
@@aminabdullah350 thats pretty insensitive to call it a 'duh' moment. It's so normalized in western society that it can be difficult to truly see the destructiveness of it
That’s why it’s one of the 10 sins from ze bible and one of the devils who’s responsible for lust
Been saying it for years. Needs to be a movement to do away with social media period. We clearly can’t handle it and it is destroying us. We don’t connect anymore or strive for deep relationships. There’s no romance. It’s all on the surface. I was born in the 80’s and was a teenager in the 90’s. I remember when people connected. I remember finding love and the excitement of that connection. Now it’s such a foreign thing. I don’t feel or see it anywhere. One of the main driving factors is social media and yes the easily ready porn everywhere. Everything is hyper sexualized. And I mean everything. There needs to be a movement of disconnection from our phones. Do your part. Spread the word. Limit your time online and for Peet’s sake delete the social media apps. You don’t need any of them. You never did. Let’s get back to being human.
cos western women are 304s
And how are we going to spread the word, if we are offline while everyone else is stuck on their phones? I mean if there is already a movement, most of us won't know about it and it will not be covered by mainstream media.
Agreed
@@ChrissieL The original way. Word of mouth. Don't neglect your immediate 100. That's the people you interact with day to day. Family, coworkers, people at the grocery store. I never said do away with the internet either. Gaming buddies. Etc etc. Set the example. Be the small pebble dropped in the calm placid water and watch the ripple.
@@joshuatheargonaut4412100%!
As a child who found porn young and got addicted pretty much my whole life 39 years old now I now see the damage its done. I have always been disconnected in my relationships. I have been off porn for 8 months and have seen some positive changes but neural plasticity does degrade as you get older. I really hope you younger guys an girls listen to this video and take heed. Dont make the same mistakes we made. Learn from the past to change your future.
Keep fighting the good fight. All the best to you.
You're on a offenders lists are u 😅
Go see a psychiatrist, it started with your parents
For enensis
Holy crap your illustrations are so good! They are so consistent in quality I was fooled into thinking they were generated by some kind of template somehow. Kudos!
We have normalized the profane, aggrandized the physical form, made narcissism the norm. What was once taboo is now mundane. What was once unthinkably violent and shocking is now readily consumable and accepted. The proverbial genie is out of the bottle; good luck getting it back in.
@@aminabdullah350 From my experiences growing up in a Roman Catholic practicing household it has been quite the opposite. The shame and guilt that was forced into my head regarding sex,, the shame that I still feel till this day anytime I even become aroused has made me develop a "fuck-it" mentality as to where now when I feel ashamed I act in the opposite direction,, attempting to bury those feelings deep enough that no one, not even myself will see. I have exploited myself on the internet and then regretting it all later after having a flash back to sexual assault from childhood. This is a much more complex issue as a world at large and especially for Gen z. This can't be solved within one year, 10 years, maybe even 100 but it all needs to start now or we will manifest a living hell onto earth.
@eb-pe8xg. "We have normalized the profane." Well said. I will have to borrow this one from you.
It is sincerely a profound way of putting it, nevertheless abundance on anything should not make you accept the deception and lies of your own self, it is and will be always in your conscious choice to pick the right act.
Excellent use of vocabulary, your comment read like poetry.
I agree, but the key is in whether you choose to acknowledge the genie or not.
Your illustrations in this video are incredibly powerful. What scares me most is that people often choose to not believe what’s readily apparent. That people subconsciously know these things to be true but regardless continue to live hedonistic lives. It feels as if they were fated to be slaves never knowing how easily they’re influenced by corrupt societal values.
Truth is too scary for people nowadays
Ostrich mentality
Because the experts keep telling them "sex and porn are healthy". Which, sex is. The other, not so much, but ppl really conflate the two as one and the same. Especially people who started consuming porn way before they ever had sex.
i'm over in europe, and heard from time to time signs about it in the news.. also a movement that wants to make an alternative offer of 'womanfriendly porn' but i don't like that term that much.. should it be : non-extreme, more realistisch , somewhat romantic with a bit a of crediable storyline porn? :) mmm, that's a bit to long i gues :D , and soft-porn would probably be considered to 'soft' as a term? But there is extra focus on sexual education in high school now, to give some small counter weigth to weird things teens often have seen of hard weird fetish porn on the internet! none of that counter effort in the states? it's all a bit small, mostly test case, but at least some counter movement does exist :).
This is gold. The part from 11:55 to 12:25, where Bret Weinstein talks about sex having been lost as the driving force behind humanity and men accomplishing great things as it did in the past, is a very underrated point.
I thought it was an idealized view of lust that didn't do objective justice to the discussion. There is a reason lust has been deemed a deadly sin for thousands of years.
People are definitely waking up! Finding a community can be hard since most of society will label those who’ve made such decisions as “prudes”, so a lot of people likely keep their decision to abstain to themselves.
I've been following you for years now. You've been part of my healing journey and I will always be grateful for that.
Glad to be of service 🙏💚
@@AfterSkoolbro really love ur video it really changed my life pls do keep it up Btw what is the song at intro where c I find such tunes
healing journey loool wtf
We are seeing some of this in Japan, especially in young men, who spend their days in fantasy, never connecting with the young Japanese ladies who can't compete with their busty Anime/Manga/Henti rivals. This subject seems similar to a story you told some time back about a young warrior distracted by an evil spirit that could show him anything he desired. Eventually, he was weakened to the point where he could not fulfill his destiny and save his people. I think the same thing is happening, and has happened to our young, seduced by the show, and sucked dry for profit, and forgetting how to actually connect.
Oh shit! 👍🏻🤘🏻
Loved that video of the warrior! Thank you for the reminder of that great one!
Most of the men I've spoken to in Japan say that they simply can't make enough to impress women, and those that do have no time. Pornography isn't a cause, it's a symptom.
@@VultureXV that might be a cause as well, it's hard to tell. That said, I think in general Japanese society is in trouble, declining birth rate, ironbound traditions in the corporate environment, it just spells doom.
There was actually an anime that touched upon this subject and critiqued this.
Bret is such an incredible communicator and teacher. He is able to bring perspective to things which most people would never even consider. Thank you for sharing this--I'd love to see similar animations in this digestible format.
Phenomenal! Ive been an animator myself professionally for 24 years and i keep thinking about making content like this that might impact peoples lives in a positive way but i just work too much lol. Keep up the good work!
If anyone is trying to quit pornography the best advice I ever received was to KEEP TRYING! You will try and fail but keep trying and eventually you will succeed! Never give up! It will change your life!
Saying you will fail just sounds like you are setting yourself up to fail. Have higher standards for yourself.
@@anti-consumerism6178 saying you will fail is just being real. You can live in your fantasy land of being successful on the first try with whatever you do, when you're ready come back down to the real world where trying and failing is part of life.
No it won't. You'll quit when you change your life. It's not the porn causing your life to suck. It's your life sucking that causes you to love porn
At some point it simply gets too late.
My husband's pornography addiction has ruined our family and I don't think it's going to be something that can be salvaged. My daughter is afraid of intimate relationships because of it. Thank you for your video. I hope it helps somebody.
I hope YOU tried to help him, and shared this video with him
Gonna go out on a limb & guess the guy had the joy of living in a sexless marriage. The plan was to withhold sex and break his will. He took matters into his own hands.
@@Mr._Anderpsonthat's ridiculous. Nobody "plans" that. There are other legitimate reasons why someone might experience a lower sex drive at times, and that does not make the partner's p0rn addiction their fault. People can be held responsible for their own actions.
to assume that is vicious. I could imagine that SOME people do that unconscious though. @@Mr._Anderpson
@@Mr._Anderpson this is the most incel shit to say lmao
I wish more people were having this conversation. It's so important and overdue.
congrats and well well deserved. You illustrations are incredible and I have learnt a huge amount of information from your channel so thank you
Not only porn but the endless consumption and availability of entertainment. Which I’ve noticed with my kids and especially my friends kids. I don’t allow my kids to watch KZhead at all or consume tv as much as possible. But I’ve been paying attention to my friends kids all ages 1-7 or so years old. But I hung out with my son and his best friend, both 5, and the friend has his own iPhone, iPad, switch etc and allowed to watch KZhead and all that pretty much whenever. That kid is so demanding and has a horrible attention span. I think it’s that instant gratification mindset
True. Also onlyfans is only the tip of the iceberg, Instagram is already extremely bad in many cases.
Your observations are real and wise. Follow your instincts in Life and you will have a good chance of a more peaceful and meaningful life than others who don’t.
Yes. That abundance of entertainment is also cause for declining birth rates. Kids are no longer needed - be glad to have them!
@@Hawkeyefoxspirit I agree with you. Too often people try to convince us to ignore our instincts, but this is usually to benefit them, not us. When my radar indicates an issue, I pay more attention and sometimes can identify why the "ick" alarm went off, but even if I can't identify why, I am more on my guard.
yes, please continue to restrict their access to content. it's the true mind killer
100% I agree with the fact about pornography. Once you seen it, you can't unseen it. Now we have 3 whole generations who have grown up with pornography and the damage it has done to male - female relationships, dating, marriage are catastrophic. AI & sex robots will completely destroy the very fabric of human relationships all together.
We had the same arguement about watching violent movies and video games. Makes people more violent.. Maybe it does for some weak minded easily influemceced people. But for the majority I'm not so convinced. Reminds me the old movie footloose. Listening to Rock Music will make the young become sex maniacs.
@@johnnyjones5385Yea people are more violent dude. Every movie show and ad is sexualized. We saw it as kids and teens and that heavily lead to porn. Don't sit on your high horse because porn has a grasp on you. If you can't go without it for months and not think about it you have a problem. It's a coping mechanism that turns people into goddamn robots.
@johnnyjones5385 porn and video games aren't comparable. Modern porn is extremely destructive this isnt a boy finding a dirty picture magazine. it's videos that introduce you to things that are extremely taboo. Video games just waste time.
Society is more than romantic couples.
There’s nothing wrong with porn and there’s nothing wrong with sex. People gotta chill Tf out and learn how to put down the phones in public and talk to each other. Guys you gotta learn how to talk to women.
My relationship was ruined because of porn. I hate when other people talk about porn like its harmless when it has ruined so many relationships and lives.
yup, porn is satanic
@@tata570 Porn corrupts the soul.
@@obscurum6 i'm happy you stopped dating that guy, saved yourself a lot of tears
@@simoly7893 I didn't comment about dating. 🙄 I think you've replied to the wrong person.
Nice to see the artist’s face. Never thought he’d be a rooster too. Very talented man. Thank you for all of your work brother!
The thing I hate the most is that sex is considered dirty now. It should be a beautiful act of love between individuals.
Haha. You must be believing in pink ponyes too.
But it is dirty! I'm always in need of a shower afterwards.
Messy and dirty aren't the same thing.
@@scroletyper8286 No mather how you phrase it, the fact doesn't change.
I mean that all depends unless we're talking marriage or in that relationship that person has? 👀🤔🤔 Or Are we talking about sex as an making love to another person or porn the stuff that is very dirty for your mind & soul corrupting it from the inside out and vise versa.
This is a great conversation, I stopped watching porn 5 months ago and have never thought about going back. Stay Safe y’all.
Keep it up! I quit a year ago and never looked back.
Do you feel better? Do you feel changes in your aspects of your life?
Just passed 3 months. Congratulations on your 5 months ; wish you well on your journey brother
Don't make your addiction other people's crime
Yes, especially after you resist the moments where you're tempted to think it doesn't impact your life much.@@gergoszabo9252
Halfway through the video and i subscribed instantly... congratulations for the quality you are puting out in your videos...
wow 3 million, congrats! I've really enjoyed this channel
There definitely is a movement to get away from porn and other bad habits in gen z, it’s just not considered “normal” by any stretch. I think most gen z people can see and feel themselves how damaging this stuff is. Just look up no fap and there’s countless stories of how it’s changed a lot of guys lives for the better.
yeah im gen z and we know these things tbh
Your generation is responsible for much better conditions in the workforce as well, the work-life balance imperative and putting family first. You are even trying to reduce the time spent in the digital world. Us millennials started healthy living fad and may have started opting out of bad working conditions, but Zoomers are the ones who really took it to heart and made it better for all of us. I believe your generation will do a lot of good, don't listen to old people telling you you are worthless. You are not.
@@TheLordSheogorath What a kind & loving comment - thank you so much! ☺️
This makes me hopeful for the future…
@@TheLordSheogorathdon't forget though that millenials could not afford to be picky and cocky like gen z can nowadays due to worker shortage. A lot of us millennials entered the labour market after the 2008 financial crisis and even with advanced degrees it was extremely hard to find a half decent job, so whatever we got we had to take and hold onto it whatever unreasonable demands employers forced on us, otherwise we would have starved. Currently, workforce is so scarce that everyone with a pulse gets accepted. I see things happen on a regular at my job for which me and my older colleagues would have been fired for the tenth of that offense on the spot. Employers are desperate now to hold onto bodies, so employees can get away with demanding fair wage, work-life balance and boundaries etc. That would have been (mostly) unthinkable even 5 yrs ago. Millennials just did not have the luxury to demand those things. But this is just my experience and observation.
Bro I was literally about to grab myself gorilla style when this popped up. Perfect timing
Please explain what's gorilla style.
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
@@jason4275 I don't think we want to know
There's always later bro 😊
@@jason4275 He was getting ready to go a couple rounds with the bald headed champ. Understand now?
Mark I just want to say your animations are freakin bad ass. Love the channel and the speakers you bring. I recommend this channel all the time. Good work bro 👏
The artwork in this particular episode disturbed me quite a lot. Well done!
Mission accomplished lol
The animations are incredible, Mark. excellent drawing, and fits the narrative perfectly. Keep up the great work
As a no porn gen Z, i can tell you there are people like me who don't watch porn. We usually supplement it with erotic writing or art, the space online for that kind of thing is actually massive
Are you male or female?
Yep. I only use toys, but I refuse to watch any porn
there are dozens of us!
Ok but y’all are still weirdos who don’t have any real life experience. Y’all basically tina from bobs burgers.
Stopped watching after realizing it’s my downfall in life.
I think porn is only a piece of this problem. There are those, like myself, who see porn as a mechanical ritual. We acknowledge that porn is completely unrealistic, but we consume it anyway, because we're single, so might as well -- as long as it doesn't deteriorate to the point where we cannot function daily. I personally don't consume extreme content and keep my taste as grounded as possible. Something happened to me not very long ago that changed my perspective on this. I met a girl I was actually infatuated with. They come across quite rarely for me. The moment that happened, I lost all motivation to consume pornography. About a week after she told me she was not interested in dating, I returned to my old habits. So I can't empathize with anyone who is so addicted to porn that they find no interest in real sex. My problem, and I imagine there are more like me out there, is that romantic relationships seem like an unintelligent risk. Most of our modern history leading up to now has taught us this lesson. Divorce rates are extremely high, and divorce is extremely punishing for the male, which I happen to be. There is the obvious risk of becoming involved with a mentally unstable person that tries to ruin your life. However, there is an even worse, more insidious risk; a relationship of complete mediocrity and dissatisfaction. The idea that I'd waste 2+ years of time with someone only to find out I'm not really interested in them any more, or perhaps because they stopped putting effort in once they felt comfortable, is quite soul-crushing. That idea has kept me trapped for my entire life. Perhaps my romantic drive just isn't high enough. Perhaps I'm just picky. And no, most of my criteria do not involve appearance -- my friends always told me that I find women attractive that they wouldn't. But this is how my mindset approaches this problem.
Fantastic upload. Excellent artwork to further emphasise the point of the talk. Great work.
"by participating, by consuming that content (porn) you are destroying your sexual mind and harming your future partner." Very on point! And might i add to that: youre also minimising your chances of having a future partner at all!
Once You realize how You won't grow taller than 5"6 as a man, Your chances for a reasonable future (hetero) partner are nil anyway, no matter how buff, how well-read or how humorous You might ever be. 😆
@@manfredschmalbach9023you keep telling yourself that
@@manfredschmalbach9023what are you on about? do you even know real women? many don't care about height. stop watching stuff that perpetuates false narratives. some women are like that ofc, but many aren't. there is hope.
@@manfredschmalbach9023 that's how a bitter and resentful person sounds like...don't be that, be better
@@Gabytzu95Pitestiexactly. Thank you.
It's hard to find that genuine, romantic partner -- after years of online dating, and having friends that date online, we finally ditched the apps (we tried many) and have yet to meet anyone in person. Online, I'd be ghosted, or absolutely no guy I dated wanted to commit to anything that's more than casual. Even the profiles I saw and didn't swipe on -- "just want to see where this goes" or "just casual" were the majority. Just from my POV/opinion, commitment is seen as "taboo" "crazy" or "needy" in dating culture. I assume it's it's similar for men swiping on women. I also hope for what was stated earlier in the video -- that the next generation can change how we date.
Can't even imagine looking on line for a partner.
Actually, for what it seems most men don't even get enough matches to "swipe" on. Men make 2 thirds of the people who use these apps, and its very hard for an average guy to compete with the hot dudes on the app, as the appearance is the first thing women see and no personality is able to be shown through the couple text messages you get with someone, so everyone sticks with the former.
@@flydrop8822dating isn't natural. I think as humans were supposed to be life partners with our mates.
@@crispycream6882 how on earth would you approach someone at the church?
Most men cant find swipes since there's barely any women in the app anyway, there's only 10% of women in app and from that 10%, 70% are bots and onlyfans account. For women who want relationship and not just a quick fck, it also won't work because men only swipe on pretty girls who want a quick fck, which are the bots and only fans account.
It brought so much problems in my relationship, including my trust. Thank you for this video
The problem is the addiction. Addiction is an extremely difficult thing to get out of without the right motivations and that still that isn’t enough. It’s a journey into the depths of our being.
This. Well said. I started my porn addiction at 8 years old. My whole life I subconsciously made my priorities around this addiction. "In order to get that hot sexy man with muscles, I need to look just as good." So the only thing I care about is looking hot. 🤦🏻♂️
@@foreveryoung1215 wanting to look good (hot) is fine, why not? Wishing to appear desirable is a good thing IMHO, as long as it doesn’t get to be an obsession ! Like all things…indeed.
Mate, you should show your face more often. KZhead should see what kind of men (women are a different topic) produce the loveable, compassionate and absolutely appropriate and fitting content they adore and look up to. You are a (demi) god in animation and need to be called out as such. Thank you so very very much for all your outstanding work and please keep it up! 💚
Wow. Thank you!
@@AfterSkool so, do you draw the pictures and then erase it, and play it in reverse to get the animation effect?
@@AfterSkool You shame me by thanking me. I have a BSc. in Digital Media (Bremen, Germany) as well as a MSc. neuroscience & psychology (Goldsmiths, London) and really know my way around design and audio-visual media as well as how to use it in communication with people. Sorry for bragging, but you seriously rock and frigging hard for a retro-appreciative REAL designer/artist. You are entitled to this praise. So for f*cks sake: Live large and go on - the world needs you...bad! 😉
Oh gourd
Nice eyes too
My sister is an "influencer" a "tiktok baddie" and one of those "street interviewers" for RapTV. She had a video go absolutely viral for interviewing a man on the beach, while wearing a bikini, borderline harassing the guy into complimenting her appearance, while he stated multiple times he had a girlfriend. She wouldnt back off and got fucking roasted in the comments. Honestly, i feel pretty bad for her. Her generation is nothing without validation from strangers on the internet, and it mustve been soul crushing. Im glad i never felt the pressure she must feel to show her body and use her sexuality for money and "leveling up" in life. Shes only 21
Sadly something like 25% of youth say they want to be influencers when they grow up
@mamandapanda185 it's really scary. I've never understood why society puts certain people, especially people who have done nothing exceptional, on a pedestal. I'm studying Buddhism at the moment, and the more I learn, and the more I see of society, especially in the US, the more I want to retreat into monastic life. I'm scared for the future.
@@mlev1111have a look at Plum Village for a retreat! I went when I was 25 and it was a lovely experience to get out of the states and just be in the presence of gentle people and nature. 🙏🏼
@mlev1111 I used to feel the same way, was a practicing Buddhist. Found Gnosticism (essentially truth seeking) and Yeshua, then my views changed. I now feel that hiding from it all may not be the answer. Perhaps we are supposed to do our best to live like the monk, but amidst society. We can be the example by which others can gauge their progress.
Thanks for sharing this story! I was in a very unhealthy relationship a few years ago. She would start lying to me about basically everything, started an onlyfans without ever talking to me about it and was soooo hungry for male validation. I'm glad the relationship is over but it's very sad how she continued her life. She's still doing this & it gets more absurd - she's trying to be as childlike as possible and to adress pedophile older men to get money & attention out of it. It is so sad & so damaging for society. I love buddhism aswell. Glad you're here! :)
My roommate watches soft porn daily and doesn’t understand why he’s not motivated. I was like ….how do you expect a drug Addict to be motivated on anything other than drugs
Or it's actually the other way round and your non-motivated roommate watches porn daily. The lack of motivation is the issue not the porn. Help your roommate find purpose in life, then they can be motivated and, if they choose, still watch as much porn as they want.
@@snooglehound1285 kind of make sense. Wonder what could interest him more than porn. He’s so hooked on it
thats a cheap skapegoat. you need to help him build hobbies instead of shaming him for enjoying a passtime thats perfectly healthy. there is nothing wrong with porn.
You should start fooling around with him. Yall could explore some shyt
Hey Bret Weinstein. The movement you're missing has totally arisen already. It's just not so visible because we're people who don't take as much presence in the wide web as the commerce. I'd agree though that it looks like we're still a very small percentage compared to the masses who're just going along with all of the entertainment/distraction industry. Which is understandable as well. We're all addicted. And it takes a lot of awareness to notice one's own addiction and hell of a lot of strength to "opt out" as you called it. Thank you guys so much for your talk and wisdom and the beautiful art
i ruined mine because of this reason. I couldn’t communicate properly, didn’t show her how much i did love her, and how desensitized i was from common troubles. Even looking elsewhere for pleasure while making my partner feel like she wasn’t enough. I regret what i let it do to me for so many years. I’m working everyday to try to get her back and rebuild, but it seems like it’ll be time that i’ll have to wait, so she can see that i’m totally different.
I love that you are trying! When my ex told me how much he watched p0rn daily and satisfied himself, I was shocked. I asked him to give it up and focus on creating a living breathing adventurous relationship with me, he did for awhile but then told me he resented me. Like all choices and addictions, you have to choose this for yourself and want it not because someone wants you to want it. Congrats on you making this choice, I hope it works out for you both 😊
Great job @character2179 for taking this decision! You did the first step and that is the hardest, just have a clear idea in mind of what type of man you want to be and try to have that in mind every time you take a decision: is it taking you closer to it or further away. Also, I donno your situation and commitments, but, whenever you have such a big change/ paradigm change, if your partner is not ready to join you in the path of healing and washing off the past, it will be very hard. So, if you are not engaged/married with kids or smth like this, you might consider breaking up as the most heart-breaking thing you could get while struggling to change is to have your partners still keeping you connected to your past mistakes.
If she doesn't want to join you on your journey, understand her. She has every right to. You can change for someone else who is waiting to be found and still keep her in high regard as the one who made you change. And when she is in trouble help her with no strings attached, it will help you as well to ease the guilt you are feeling.
@TheLordSheogorath this might be the smartest comment I've seen anywhere in this discussion so far. I'd really like to see this stand alone as a pinned comment 🫶
Thank you for acknowledging your problems. The partners of people with this addiction take on so much trauma as well. It ruins a person. Imo there is no healthy way to consume porn. It’s all part of a sickness and more people need to realize it and speak out
Not a lot of people know this, but Mark was actually speed drawing while doing the podcast with Bret. He had another camera above him pointing down. THAT is how good he is. Nice to finally see the face of this great chanel.
That sounds so unbelievable, but is really incredible if true.
Love you so much and all you do started watching in 2020 and have been able to share your videos with so many people along with changing my life and perspectives thank you so much!
So glad for this video I have had a huge struggle with pron it's affected how I've felt in my everyday life I will join the movement to opt out of this destructive habit whenever it forms thank u for bringing more light on this situation
@@aminabdullah350 also keep in mind nothing worth attaining is gonna be easy I have to keep fighting to overcome this awful habit
The movement has formed, it's called No Fap or Semen Retention.
@@aminabdullah350as if they are unaware...OP, you got this!! I can't remember the last time I watched porn and now have entered a stage of feeling intensely free and aware. It no longer holds any appeal! I look forward to that for you♡
Just do it and find a good woman.
Mark ! Thanks for sharing your talents. I was a photo and illustraion major in art school in the 70s who became a chef... You inspired me to start drawing again after decades of inactivity with it. Your control of those dry erase markers is amazing ! ...and so many of the videos have great content and messages. Have a great day.
Wow! This comment warms my heart. Keep sharing your light 🙏
Just remember to never stop practicing. Good luck!
Hi i have really enjoyed this. Thank you so much. I am in my 60s and have only had real relationships. now i am learning that people in their 40s even are into polyamorous lifestyles where one or two "couples" may be attached to up to 30 or more different partners/co partners. thinking of the energetic connection between hyper dimensional influences that Indian gurus and spiritual gurus advise are energetic connections between each person and every single one of each partners that they have ever had sexual intimacy and taking on some of their darkness, karma etc etc. goodness so glad that i have been celibate for decades and on a spiritual journey of evolution. God help the younger generation exploited by rapacious content creators, businesses and their own self gratification. goodness. so glad i am older and wiser and not adversely affected by this dynamic. better to have nothing than the sorry state of what is on offer and its potential "contamination"
I’ve struggled with this for years and it really got in the way of me getting a real partner. The easiest way to understand why it should be avoided is it will never make you happy. I got back on the horse, recently met a nice girl (by pure dumb luck btw, I’m no Prince Charming) and abstaining from it has been a lot easier. I realized my personal issue causing the addiction was because deep down I was lonely and believed nobody would want me. Now that I’ve found somebody who so far, likes me for me, it’s like that issue’s being resolved piece by piece. This was a great video.
the problem is also that nearly all western women consider 80% of men as "below average" and compete for the top 20% of guys. how else are those bottom 80% of guys supposed to cope?
@@AustinKoleCarlisleBro for real. Porn is bad when it becomes an addiction. But for the average joe who is not getting any, it's a good alternative to help relieve some stress.
@@KingEgyptian thank you. this channel usually hits it out of the park, but it was a swing and a miss with this particular topic. totally didn't see the big picture at all. symptoms aren't the cause, they're the effect. the widespread porn addiction is the symptom.
@@AustinKoleCarlisle Exactly. Most men use it because its that or nothing at all. Same with AI girlfriends, and in the future, sexbots.
I’m 25 so is my husband, I’m happy to see a video up like this because this is something we talk about all the time. People in this gen really need to wake up before it is to late.
ah of course so you put limitations on your guy and force him to choke down your ideology lmao. being 25 and a girl means you know absolutely nothing.
Mark, i am an artist too and i really admire your art. I really think your work is not only amazing,but inspiring as well. Thank You Mark! P.S. plus you are saying some powerful stuff here!
Thank you!!
Its crazy how his art is always on point with the topics being discussed! 🤯🤯
Same!
@@gabrielWachong There's an app for that. ;-)
I usually like his episodes but this one disappointed me. There were a lot of ideas in here that were misogynist, outdated, and sexist against women. Especially, where it's mentioned that women who show some skin somehow makes them less appealing to men for a relationship. That's his opinion. And then the talk about possible human extinction due to the absence of breeding. Is this a joke? We are totally overpopulated and destroying the planet. Pausing the button and not breeding for a while would not be a bad thing at all. So, it sounds he wants to get married to a woman that covers up her body and then wants to breed with her. That's cool. But he shouldn't put down people who don't want these things.
Thanks Mark - keep making the videos, we love them!
I am 41 years old and for 25 years i have been related to pornography through the consume of drugs creating havoc in my life and my family. I am now sober from all drugs amd from the need of short gratification through pornography. Learning how to transmute this sexual energy has changed my life in all senses and using it as a extension of myself to be creative for example starting my own channel and trying to help others. Great job guys.
We use it as a way to fill a void. For most of us that void is a lack of romantic intimacy. Willpower isn’t enough for most us to give it up. We need love, but since love is so damn hard, we keep going back
I agree. Love is a need, not just sexual love either. I don’t really think of it as an addiction but rather a reaction to an adverse emotional environment. If a better option for living was available I know many more would choose it.
Chicken and the egg; what came first? The lack of romantic intimacy, or the pornography addiction? I’d argue the pornography addiction hinders the ability to find romantic love, to expect a woman to give that to you while still indulging in pornography to fill that hole is unrealistic. It’s like expecting someone to fill your cup while you’re actively poking holes in the glass. Nobody will ever be able to fill that hole, so long as you keep poking holes. Figure out why you poke holes, patch them up, then maybe someone will actually be able to fill that cup and would want to, because it would be worth filling.
@@bugsquashed5509 The egg. The lack of intimacy is why most men TURN to porn in the first place. When I was in a relationship, I hardly, if ever, watched porn. I was satisfied. My needs were met. When my needs stopped being met, I went back.
@@jordanmatthews1466 people tend to start watching porn at a young age (before any real intimacy would have occurred). So, no, lack of intimacy is not a reason for porn addiction. Everyone goes through periods of time with lack of intimacy, but turning to pornography will only hinder any future relationship or form on REAL LIFE intimacy for you. Blaming not being in a relationship to make yourself feel better about watching porn is just an excuse. If you want a fruitful relationship in the future, you need to drop the porn NOW.
you'll never fill the void with porn. You need real, deep connections. Porn will only make things worse in the long run.
Thank you for making this! I'm so sick of the normalizing of low morals and the push to get rid of families. P is a huge problem in relationships and prevents healthy love.
feminism
@shinzagu sure that's part of the problem, but so are the consumers
Feminism killed the family unit, women would rather be useless wh-res than serve their own families @@katrinaisalwayscorrect
@@shinzaguthats liberal feminism
as a boy i agreed, it's so confusing that it's naturally or society play role with our subconscious. So we believe and thought that way as an adolescent.
Videos like these help the movement happen! Thank you all for the hard work illuminating some of the worst problems of the pornography industry. A succinct example of what it does to the models and consumers.
Congrats on your fiance! I didn’t know until this video! I think you’re a super cool human, and your art is awesome! I love it! It has helped me in more ways I can say! Also it’s so good to finally have seen your face! So nice to meet you!
I was introduced to porn by other kids at age 12. Took me decades and years to fully get over watching it. Porn is more addictive than any drugs out there.
You obviously haven't tried good drugs then lol
@@Huey_Freeman357 There are no 'good drugs'. Stop propagating the quick fix.
The most dangerous things about it are the nearly limitless novelty, that it is completely normalized by society and that you always carry a free & limitless supply in your pocket. Imagine if that was true for drugs like heroine. People would go from 1st time consumer to dead by overdose in a week.
Amen 🙏
Power is more addictive than porn
Your animations, Mark, are brilliant, every one of them. It is really what caught my attention way back when. Combined with well selected music the effect is very powerful. I cannot say I agree with everything said, but I watch and listen anyway to gain those other perspectives we need to better understand each other and see the world through new eyes each time.
This is important. Thank you for being brave and sharing this message. ❤
I started viewing very young and thought it hadn’t really affected me. I started my first real relationship at 20 and we’re still together 4.5 years later. But every passing year of the relationship, specially after the first period of head over heels falling, I’ve become more and more aware of how messed up I am because of this. I’m slowly trying to “reprogram” my mind in a certain way, but its been tough…
Hi! Can you explain in what way it ''messed'' you up? Thanks!
@@FearlessUntamed guess we’ll just have to imagine that response
I opened up email to make extra money at home, all of a sudden porn is all over my emails. Some of them are really gross, I’ve been trying to get rid of them for two months but more keeps popping up. I don’t want to see this, never did. Believe it or not I never liked porn, it ruins people’s lives. Thank you for this, I believe you put this up just in time
I was a porn addict for 20 years or more. I discovered porn very young unfortunately and the reason I watched it was to have some kind of connection with the opposite sex. As I got older starting dating. Every single girl I met was so damaged, had daddy issues, didn't need or want a man that porn became my way to make that special connection. When I met my wife everything changed. I realized I didn't need porn to feel loved anymore. I had someone that wanted to love me for all of me. So now I'm done with all the horrible porn and happily married. I do feel finally that connection with someone I've always wanted to feel. Just to be feel and be loved is all I was looking for. Don't give up guys. She's out there. Whether she's in the Philippines or Thailand she's out there. Don't give up.
Funny how you don’t mention about Western Women. …hmmmm? 🤔
Some men don’t have the funds to find a wife in Asia and are stuck in the U.S.
Bro he just used that as an example to help expand your mind to the entire world and not settle. We should be proud of this man for kicking a destructive habit
Part of the allure and fantasy for us men is not just the seks act itself, but seeing vvomen treating men nicely and quite welcoming, as opposed to the aloof and even rude and hostile attitudes on the street and everyday life. Like you mention, for some guys it's the only outlet or sense of connection possible.
basically we have to outsource
I'm almost 2 months clean and in a healthy relationship. I started tracking my porn use on my calendar (just writing "xp" for "no porn" in the bottom corner each day) and it's motivating to write it on there every day for my significant other to see. It becomes routine to write it and the thought of breaking it and having to explain starts to feel like a non-option.
Mark your illustrations are fabulous thank you ❣️🙏🏼
When I was a child it was so much more difficult to access pornography. Now I have been shocked by videos shown to me by children of my wider family, videos they think are funny, but absolutely shock me. I like how one expert said, it is like we are all part of a very dangerous experiment. I had a very strict upbringing and I am very grateful to my mum for that.
Indeed these content farms are awful.
Seriously. On one site I found, I do not know of anyone that can download the files so easily like those sadly and with the kpbs and so on that I like, it is infested by spam images and I wrote to them (Might have been unread and fake adress who knows) but imagine when it is as horrible to adults then how horrid is it for kids if they also Just want to download some nice music videos, cartoons, mp3 files?
What did those kids, children, show? Also what did you say? Anything? Can not learn if you do not teach them it is wrong sometimes, if they have a stupid brain, sane people instantly know something is stupid. Like for example those videos that is from people falling, I detect the sick ones being the ones who laugh and the sane ones would be like '''ouuuchh, ooh noo, aweee'' as in a more concerned way and wondering if they are alright. I do not want those kinda brainless friends around. I never understood why some thinks certain videos are ''funny'' to them. Something wrong in their head.
thats a lie. i am older than the internet, born in the 80s, and porn has always been two clicks away. there were no walls. people should be 18 before they look, but once you're an adult, look all you want! its perfectly fine. cumming is healthy.
I love After Skool - your illustrations add so much to the topics of the videos - they are incredible. Thank you!
The issue does change three times in this video. He seems very pessimistic about the consequences of porn. But I believe that it is more of a blessing to people who want it than a curse to humanity. I think it is a blessing to humanity because the human population must be kept to a humane level (if human dignity is important).
Great discussion, gentlemen, and not a moment too soon in time, either... Perfect! Now we have to continue inspiring our people like this and continue talking about resolving this constant influx of immoral behaviours that lead to death. "For the wages of sin is death."
This is beautiful, Man. I've watched you since the beginning and this, to me, is a breakthrough video. Btw. Congratulations on the subscribers. You so deserve it. Also, I loved seeing you as you were executing your art. What you do is amazing. A good British term would be "brilliant". Thanks for all you do. I'm looking forward to your next production. Peace and blessings.
Mark, you are so talented! I love your art work, it is so inspiring and educational...I always wondered who was behind this amazing channel. Thank you for all you do! 💗
This is a very good channel. Keep up the good work.
women consider 80% of guys "below average" and compete for the top 20%. honestly, what are the bottom 80% of guys supposed to do?
top 20% of what? best looking? highest income? funniest? fittest? you're so vague bro you sound like those red pill podcast yappers. just yapping bla bla bla. just strive to be the best version of yourself and love yourself and you will radiate positivity and women will be attracted to that.
@@fraai what you said doesn't change anything. you may as well have told me to bury my head in the sand.
@@AustinKoleCarlisle What she should've told you is to remove yourself from the genepool.
I don’t think I’ve ever got to put a face to the art! Thank you for that, it’s fun to support your content and channel 👏🏼👏🏼
Porn ain’t the problem. Porn addiction is the byproduct of not having a sense of purpose. Cause without purpose driving a person, he sets his aim on pleasure. And Porn just happens to be the most readily available sense of pleasure.
it's quite normal to not have a purpose. some people get it in early stages of life some later. what do you think happens when somebody retires early after they achieved their 'purpose' of becoming filthy rich. right they lose their purpose and are lost. i do agree mindfulness/meditation would solve most of these problems but if you suffer enough you will probably end up there some way or another :)
Congratulations on all the subscribers! I truly believe you are doing all of us a great service! Please keep it up! God Bless!
It was nice to finally meet you and thank you. I think your channel has plenty of room to grow.
Thank you After Skool. You are appreciated
Pornography is not the root cause of the issue; rather, it is the result.
Porn is a symptom not the disease. while there were many in the past that had families what about those men that didn't managed to bagged a woman?
So thankful for your channel! And glad to see the person behind it!
Thank you for this incredible discussion and your always fantastic art work!
Brett doesn’t disappoint What a great intellect on a very important issue We are not better because of 📱 We are built to connect with each other in person In proximity engaged with each other Well done 👏
Ideal ideas of perfection always existed, you do not need porn for that. Pornography is simply the result created as a representation of sexuality in a different way. Pornography is simply put just media, this can be a video, a picture it can be even a fantasy. We cannot deny to have fantasies like this, because then we would deny ourselves, or the things we do not like on us, therefore the existence of porn is simply a manifestation of those fantasies, while as it progressed people started to moneytize it etc, it became a medium to view in mass consumption. So it is our responsibility how we deal with this medium and it is understandable that people who do not have a partner consume this medium as a replacement. While again the reason why they are single must not be porn itself but the expectations you have to a partner or what your partner should look like. Now offcourse this idealof a partner can be affected by porn consumption, but that is still up to the person. If they get now immersed or not is up to their responsibility, because blaming porn for that is just like blaming ourselves for having fantasies. Those fantasies just took form to catch our awareness, to make us see, that this is somewhat part of us and through this we can encounter this partof us. In terms of addiction i have to say, really everything can make addicted, but again addiction comes from the lack of something. To understand the root of why this happens we have to look further to find a existential question. Is there a meaning to life and what fullfills me? So our problem is not porn, porn is just a facette of the problem, our problem is that we have to learn to control lust and balance it to our life. Now you can argue if a couple has sex 3 times a day, is a lack of control over lust or not, to give an example or if it is normal because a natural act, but so our fantasies natural, while they can lead to overconsumption if we do not pay attention. In ancient times even, there was such a classifcation of beautiful or less beautiful, acceptable as sexual partner or not acceptable and back there, there was no pornhub existing or porn studios, yet people developed the same twisted idea about beauty and sex. We should rather question why this is part of us and how to learn to live with it. Besides that, even without porn, things like :bdsm, rape and other taboo sexual themes have been there since always, porn just gave a form to what was already inside our being. It does present somewhat a dangerous spiral into this things, but those things prexisted before it. Sex is dirty and sex is romantic. By the way, not every insta model does photoshop their pics and the decision to do so, comes from the ideal of beauty that humans have. How long is makeup existing now, i could aswell say makeup should be avoided because we distort natural beauty ? Why was it invented ? To fullfill this ideal. I could bring this even further, sculptures of gods have been made in countless cultures, and they in most cases was made according to what humans percieve as perfect. Angels are described as perfectly beautiful, aphrodite is described as the idol of beauty, what those ancient gods are that we attributed with our idea of perfection and beauty is today models in magazines, instagram and A.I. pictures. Which means the way we view beauty and sex did not change, it just took on a different form, but is basically the same wishful thinking of sex or beauty, the same expectations. Makes sense, because how else could it reoccur over and over through generations, or how else would it been possible to create porn if not through fantasies we already have. We are just facing ourselves, till we overcame and learned to live with things. Just as wars have always been, only when we overcame them they will stop appearing, only when we understood the root cause their manifestations tries to show you. We cannot just pretend we are all pure, cause the world is a product of u, but we can learn to live with our darker side without it hurting others. We invented Dall. E, Dall E. did not tell us we should use it to make Ai. Porn, we decided that, it just gives us the possibility , and we decided to visualize it. Every invention starts with an idea and so also does porn. If i build a sexbot to fullfill all your sexual desires, you do not have to use it or you can decide how to use it , how often etc. But the bot was created based on what people sexually desire, it did not create the desire, it just fullfills it.
Excellent comment! Very well thought-out and intelligent. 👏👏👏
Well said, I agree with this POV
I have always sought a connection through porn that I have never found. Last year I met a girl I love so much I think I would be doing her a disservice if I were to watch porn videos again. And we are not together. But I can see how much harm I have done to the people I have met by behaving in a totally unusual and inhumane way. Here I understand the cruelty of this industry that chooses to use human biology to its detriment having only one goal in mind, which is money and power (and forgetting who we are).
Love this comment
What a good perspective on what is going on right now with our civilization. In some sense an eye-opening discussion. Thank you very much for this type of content!
Nice very well made. Perfect symphony!
Your animation is beautiful! Thank you!
i was exposed to corn at a very young age, 7, and it has had me in its grasp ever since. Thanks for posting this video. It has helped put things into perspective. Also, one of the quotes reminds me of Robin Williams when he asks what is the purpose of poetry.
Wonderful video. Thank you for everything you have done, you are a huge inspiration. I stopped watching pornography last year and I am certain that it was the right decision for me, and I am proud of the decision I made. After about a month or two I felt comfortable knowing that I would achieve my goal and I told my partner. She was and is elated by the decision I made. It has only made our bond stronger. Our intimate relationship has never been better.
This is an important subject. I am glad people start talking about it. 🎉
that picture in the preview is so heartbreaking. Seeing the souls unable to meet one another because of the cartoon cell wall. Life feels exactly like taht. The theme is no big deal, but the picture is what brought me to say this. IT's like there was a huge wall between people and their capability to meet.
Excellent content! Really appreciate what you're doing here, it gives hope in a world that's seems to have gone completely mad, and Brett is a damn national treasure, extremely wise and compassionate. Didn't know about your other channel, subscribed!
3 million! You deserve it. One of the most valuable channels