Narcissist: From "Love" to Torture (with Conor Ryan, Eyes Wide Open, EXCERPT)
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Narcissists experience the shared fantasy as "love". Then they start to torture you.
Conor Ryan Eyes Wide Open / @conor-ryan
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Hello Prof Sam, Thank you so much for your videos. I was in a relationship with a man ( NPD i am pretty sure now) for 8 years. I was in a hell. Because of we living in a different cities , i was always in doubts about everything happening.. I am out of contact with him for 1.5 yrs now. He is keeping trying to contact from different fake virtual ids. when i was with him , i felt extremely helpless. we started relationship as teenagers. I didn’t know and he wasn’t as abnormal as mid 20s. He became full blown after 25 yrs old. Your videos make total senses that everything i experienced. We both are engineers and i was restless to understand what is wrong with that man who is such brilliant. This is just my gratitude note to you. You have explained everything so perfectly. Normal people who never experienced NPDs always found that i was making things up or i went crazy. Thank you for all of your videos.
Thank you. This explains much. Gifts are threatened to be sold if not used ‘enough’. Small things like jewelry and large things that,legally, can’t be removed like houses and land. But the level of virtually everything being on a cost added or detracted basis is mind numbing. Transactions that the narcissist must always win. Boom.
I wonder how much time of the day does a narcisist spend in any of the shared fantasy stages? After listening what everybody says about narcisisists all I think is they just take a break when they sleep
Mine didn’t sleep 🤣
All their lives living in their fantasy land
Thank you!!! I was thinking about this about my relationship with my mom. She told me today " what for being talking about your hurts of the past, my psychologist told that me I don't have to do nothing" until that is reasonable (I'm 38), but then she added: "what do I win or loose with that?" Oh man!!!! That made me feel really sad, in my mind I was like: "maybe a healthy relationship with your son?" But I had been trying this for some time, and it's always or someone else fault, but never her fault about her behavior with me and my grandma (she passed away 20 years ago). Now I'm realizing how this normalization made me to have some narcissistic symptoms and how I use them as a "defensive mode", but when I'm with healthy people, man I'm so kind and connected with my emotions and empathy. By the way, because this normalization and low self-esteem, I attracted a lot of people like her (friends, partners...). I feel peace of knowing what's happening, but it makes me sad. Fortunately, psychologists and psychiatrists exist. Greetings
9th minute. Really great insight there. I know a woman who is usually fairly empathic but becomes noticeably less so whenever her husband visits her. It was very confusing for me. So good to finally comprehend this.
Thank you very much 😊
The doctor is in
Dear mr. Vaknin, I am searching for therapists in Vienna that can meaningfully help with BPD for a 36 old female. English or Russian language. Unfortunately no significant German knowledge is present. I value your opinion very much, so I would like to ask you if you know someone who specialises/is competent regarding BPD management. Thanks in advance!
Hi Sam Eventually do victims become schizoid and just withdraw after the narcissistic defenses feom them
Search the Narcissistic Abuse Healing playlist and search the channel for “CPTSD”.
Like a virus
I call it a mind parasite that can jump from one person to another and eats away their normal humanness. It happened to my lifelong friend when she got involved with my narcissist family members (the ones i got away from). Her mind is equal to a 3 yrs old now. "Virus" is also a good analogy.